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And despite my husband not being there, it was an incredible experience that taught me so much. In this episode I share my top three epiphanies, the reason why the father not being there was the best choice for our family and what this all means for this podcast going forward. Follow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodyCall in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) [email protected] See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In todays Episode Jared takes over the podcast because Shan is full term and needs a break. Jared opens up about the struggles of living with a pregnant woman. It gets raw, real and unfiltered. If you have been pregnant before or lived with a pregnant women before can you relate! Note from Shan: This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August! Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyCall in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) [email protected] the guests on this episode Jared: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/ Mike: https://www.instagram.com/mikegdnss/Byron: https://www.instagram.com/lordbyronb/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I'm 38 weeks pregnant and terrified that I still feel so negatively about my current life and the idea of life with two babies under two...so in this episode I unpack these very ugly feelings with some beautiful souls: actor Shanola Hampton (mother of two) and performance coach Lauren Morrison (mother of two). With them I ask the million dollar questions: what happens when the way you know you're supposed to feel, has little resemblance to your reality? And more frighteningly... What if that never changes? This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August! Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyCall in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) [email protected] the guests on this episode Shanola Hamptonhttp://instagram.com/shanolahampton Lauren Morrisonhttp://maketheshiftcoach.comhttp://instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabethSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Tee aka HiMyNamesTee Tee is in a 12-year on and off relationship with her first love and first sexual partner that she feels equal parts hope and despair towards. Should she stay in feeling as though she's with her soul mate and twin flame OR run in knowing that she's tried so hard for so long and still...Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodyCall in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) [email protected] the guests on this episode TeePodcast: https://www.youtube.com/himynamesteeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/himynamesteee/Music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5cdrxr9s52oZCf78xOLa4R Here is the exercise Tee and I did together: Section One Framing - tell the story of why you should stay and why you should goSection Two - tell me the things that make you love you. Things that make you a positive, motivating force within your own life:1) Can you currently approach growth and your outlook on the future from a place of worthiness?2) Who are you, at your current best? 3) What parts of yourself do you want to protect at all cost? 4) What is your vision for your future?5) What do you need to be happy in order to give yourself the best shot at making this vision a reality? Section Three - answering the hard questions1) If you had to sum up your relationship in one word, it would be?2) Is this a familiar pattern?3) When I think about the future of my relationship, I typically feel? 4) Are you your optimal self when you’re with your partner? 5) Do you feel appreciated by your partner?6) In a dream world scenario, what’s the ideal relationship that you’d like to have with your partner?7) In the real world, given what you know so far, what kind of relationship is possible, today8) Have you tried hard enough in this relationship?9) Should it be this much work?10) If you had a son or daughter you deeply loved, would you want them to be in a relationship with someone like the person you are with right now?11) How will my life change without this person?12) How could my life change for the better with this person in it?13) What haven’t I learned from this relationship?14) If I could get an email from myself ten years from now, what advice might it have?15) If this is all there is, will it be enough? 16) How often do you fight with your partner?18) Do you ever wish that you were in a relationship with someone else? Section FourI pulled those prompts from this research article https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550617722834You can also find a table of the prompts here in this article https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201708/how-do-we-decide-whether-or-not-break See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can genuine friends truly transition into longterm romantic and sexual partners? Is it more ideal to gradually walk into love WITH someone who’s already your best friend OR fall in love and then become best friends? According to a 2021 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science finds that two thirds of romantic couples started out in a platonic relationship. Yes, 68% reported that their current romantic relationship began as a friendship! And the rate of friends to lovers was even higher among 20 somethings and within the LGBTQ+ communities with 85% reported that their relationship began as a friendship. And more interestingly I think, only 30% said they were sexually attracted to the partner from the very beginning. You might be like, why is this so shocking to you and it’s because in essence our generation might be rewriting the traditionally understood blueprint for forming romantic bonds. This is what we discuss with guests Ezee and Natalie, two comedic-content creators turned collaborators turned best friends turned lovers, who have shared every part of their journey online and thus have sparked a lot of conversations about whether plutonic friends really shift to romantic lovers in a way that is both equal and sustainable? And with Hotline Bling producer plus half of DVSN's Nineteen85 aka Paul Jefferies. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyCall in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) [email protected] Follow the guests on this episode Ezee https://www.instagram.com/ezee https://www.youtube.com/c/youngezee https://www.youtube.com/c/ezeexnatalie Nataliehttps://www.instagram.com/natalie.odell/ https://www.youtube.com/c/NatalieOdellXo https://www.youtube.com/c/ezeexnatalie Nineteen85 https://www.instagram.com/nineteen85_ https://www.instagram.com/dvsn https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9xq-hVeC-OJHvWOxGydo9g See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Let’s get right into this week’s episode: do many straight men utilize sex education, outside of watching mainstream porn, in order to ensure they’re really putting it down?In my opinion…no… as both a sex educator and as someone who’s had sex with straight men, I gotta say The ego that I’ve been met with from straight men has been toxic at times and really sad at others. And to me ego is both the biggest turnoff and biggest, for lack of a better term, cock blocker to actual great sex. In this episode I get a group of straight men, a male sex coach and Tim Chantarangsu to shed light on why men are often too proud to engage in sex education. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyCall in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) [email protected] Follow the guests on this episode Starring GuestTim Chantarangsu: http://instagram.com/timchantarangsuPodcast: No Chasers https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/no-chaser-with-timothy-chantarangsu/id1454272724 Male Sex CoachAlex Grendi is a male sex coach that specializes in helping men with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. He also helps men integrate what they've learned about becoming superior sexual lovers into all areas of their life.http://Superiorlovers.comhttps://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSL Jared Bradyhttp://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyhttps://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248Follow enjoy the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

To submit to someone else is defined as accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the authority or will of another. So, how does that play out in romantic partnerships? Actor, comedian and bestie in your head Jasmin Brown shares why she joyfully submits to her man unconditionally. Jasmin also sheds light on the power split, sexual dynamic, as well as the roles and responsibilities that often come with identifying as a submissive woman to an alpha partner. Has the art of submission in love and dating been lost? At the end of the episode I discuss this with a panel of my lovers and friends: Jared Brady, Lauren Morrison and Chris Morrison Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyStay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/joinFollow the guests on this episodeStarring GuestJasmin Brown: http://instagram.com/watchjazzyhttp://twitter.com/watchjazzyPanelLauren MorrisonMaketheshiftcoach.comhttp://instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabethJared Bradyhttp://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyhttps://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248 Follow enjoy the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts What I am committed to doing in a post Roe vs Wade Americahttps://www.instagram.com/p/CfVAG1WJdo0/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you give head, blow jobs, top, and/or oral sex on a penis…why not be the best of it? I brought together research from top experts, a medical penis expert, a self-proclaimed grade A head giver and a group of men to weigh in on the do's, don’ts and maybes that will make you a master at sucking dick. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyStay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyStay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow the guests on this episodeRayna Greenberg: https://www.instagram.com/Rayna.GreenbergRayna’s hit podcast: girlsgottaeatpodcast.comSupport Rayna’s sex toy line Vibes Only: https://vibesonly.com/ Dr Rena Malik (urologist) https://instagram.com/renamalikmdhttps://youtube.com/c/RenaMalikMD Follow Dr Kojo Acqhttps://instagram.com/jakademik_md Follow enjoy the podcastJared Brady, Los and Kray BradyWherever you listen to podcasts AND on YouTube https://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248 Resources for better oral sex on penis’ mentioned in this episode https://beducated.com/f/couples/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=influencer&utm_campaign=bg2206-boody&coupon_code=boody https://www.popsugar.com/love/how-to-give-an-amazing-blow-job-47239810See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What's the relationship between toxic self-love and a toxic life? This is the question that Nina Parker was forced to answer when she turned 40. Her journey to discovering and then correcting what she found when she looked at her life honestly led her to the happiest time in her life! In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Emmy nominated Television host and Fashion Designer Nina Parker shares how she got through her darkest time during the pandemic. Now, she’s gotten her life together in ways she never expected. As Nina put it, it's a rom-com … WITHOUT a partner. ENJOY! THE NINA PARKER COLLECTION IS AVAILABLE NOW @macys.https://www.macys.com/shop/featured/nina-parker You can also follow Nina on http://instagram.com/theninaparker Follow Shan on Instagram: http://instagram.com/shanboodyStay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://shanboodram.com/joinSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Astrology … what has your experience been with it (especially) when it comes to dating? What if someone has a different perspective on it than you? Oftentimes, it can be a judgmental, mean, hot-ass mess when one person believes in the stars and astrological signs and the other does not. Personally, I think we can all collectively do better with it. In this episode, we dive into how believers and non-believers of astrology can come together and focus on what really matters. This episode addresses and then attempts to bridge the divide. I am joined by famed astrologer Aliza Kelly as well as my astrology-loving friends Amber's Closet and Toni Romiti. Follow Shan on Instagram: http://instagram.com/shanboodyStay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://shanboodram.com/join ALIZA KELLY is a celebrity astrologer, columnist, bestselling author, and host. Aliza has been featured in The New York Times, The New Yorker, Vogue, InStyle, The Cut, and numerous other publications. She's the author of three books: Most recent being This Is Your Destiny: Using Astrology to Manifest Your Best Life Get Aliza's book here: https://www.amazon.com/This-Your-Destiny-Astrology-Manifest/dp/1250763142/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=You can also listen to Aliza's podcast "Stars Like Us" wherever you listen to podcasts Amber Whittington is one of the leading voices fighting for equality for the LGBTQ+ community. A content creator, activist, host and actress, Amber is changing the world by using her platform to educate global audiences on the black and queer experiences. Amber is an avid astrology enthusiast.Follow Amber: http://instagram.com/amberscloset Toni Romiti is an athlete-turned-singer who parlayed viral fame into pop stardom. She has created music Alongside rapper Ty Dolla $ign, guested on DJ Carisma’s 2020 single “That’s Facts.” And is an avid astrology enthusiast.Follow Toni: http://instagram.com/toniromitiSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How would you feel if your lover said to you, “thank you for the opportunities to improve and grow in this relationship, but sadly, I think in order to continue to evolve, I have to break up with you…” You’ve probably heard this statement before, “some people are in our life for just a reason and a season.” If the reason and season length are mutual -- INCREDIBLE! But, what happens when it’s not? Let’s examine all sides of what happens when "can I spend my life with you" turns into "thank you, next!" This episode is all about the harsh and beautiful realities of “relationship cocooning” (a phrase I think I may have invented). It stars Sorelle Amore who shocked the internet when she broke off her engagement, Makeba Lindsay whose marriage ended when they had different ideas of growth, and Eman who wants to put an end to men who “cocoon” through her.Follow Shan on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/shanboodyStay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://www.shanboodram.com/join Learn more about Sorelle Amore: https://www.instagram.com/sorelleamore/Learn about obtaining financial freedom with Sorelle: https://www.abundantia.co Follow Eman: http://instagram.com/emanFollow Makeba: http://instagram.com/ynotkeebSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A lot of us learn how to love, but we don’t necessarily learn how to cope with not loving everything about the person we love. This episode is all about the difference between disliking some things about your partner and/or disliking your partner. How do you know if something small and annoying can turn into something big and unbearable down the road? What should you do when you get to the place where the two of you just can't seem to get along? Jazzmyne Jay is back in this episode to share why she moved in with her partner and then moved out once she found that they just couldn’t get along. And guess what -- they are still together to this day despite that storm. I am also joined by my husband Jared Brady and we discuss why we've never liked each other less than we do right now. Plus, we go through an exercise to try and understand this phase we’re currently in. I also answer some of your questions! Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Jazzmyne Jay: http://instagram.com/jazzmynejayOR http://instagram.com/plussizefriendly/ Follow Jared on his podcast Enjoy the PodcastOR on Instagram http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kevin Samuels, an image consultant and a well-known relationship commentator (especially within the black community), died on May 5, 2022. I wish peace to his family and friends who are grieving the loss on a personal level. As for those who have been impacted by Kevin’s work and words within the last couple of years as he rose to notoriety, I hope we can find peace by addressing the harm and help that his work caused. As a community, I hope we can discuss where we want to go next. This is why the only guests on this episode are you all. Together, we assess who benefited from Kevin Samuels’s work and who was deeply harmed by it. Furthermore, we evaluate what his death means for the future of relationship and dating advice.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyStay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/joinSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When you search non-binary on YouTube, videos like “There Are Only Two Genders - Prove Me Wrong!” show up. In this episode, we bring the heated debate surrounding breaking the binary from a boil to something digestible and actionable. Here to help us unpack this topic is non-binary sexuality expert Ev'Yan Whitney and non-binary multi-dimensional artist Jordianna AKA Jordi. In this episode we’re discussing: the difference between sex and gender, the goal of the non-binary movement, the dangers of ignorance, and why non-binary people want you to identify however the fuck you want to identify. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyStay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/joinFollow Ev'Yan Whitney: https://www.instagram.com/evyan.whitneySupport Ev'Yan's book and podcast: https://www.evyanwhitney.com/Support Jordianna's work: https://earthtojordi.com/Learn more about Sorelle Amore: https://www.instagram.com/sorelleamore/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Does God really care about your sex life? And if so, does that also mean that God can help you have the best sex of your life? After more than a decade of Catholic school and Christain churches I was unclear about the Bible, God's actual will, sex, and the relationship between pleasure and sin. In an effort to gain clarity, I brought in some people to talk about it! This week's staring guest is Shameless Maya – A Christian YouTube star who was conflicted and confused while practicing celibacy. You'll also be hearing from theology expert Tara Teng, Christian influencer Brenda Marie Davies aka God is Grey, Jared Brady and his father Derrex Brady. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyStay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Shameless Maya Instagram: www.instagram.com/mayasworldFollow Maya's Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/shamelessmayaFollow Maya and Max's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MaxMayaLiving Follow Derrex Bradyhttps://www.instagram.com/derrexbradyWatch JOHNSON on Bounce TV Follow Tara Tenghttps://www.instagram.com/misstarateng/Preorder Brenda's books "Your Body is a Revolution: Healing Our Relationships with Our Bodies, Each Other and the Earth". Available everywhere Spring 2023. Follow Brenda "God is Grey"YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/GodisGrey Follow Jared:http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Does finding the kind of relationship you want mean conforming to an ideal of what a romantic partner is “supposed to be”? What if you don’t want to conform? Does this mean you’re not cut out for love? To explore further, Shan sits down with both Mandii, from the “See, The Thing Is” and “WHOREible Decisions” Podcasts and Khleo Thomas from Disney’s “Holes”; two successful and fascinating individuals who have come to believe that they are undateable. Not because of any toxic traits, but because their version of life-long happiness is not in line with what society feeds us. Listen in on this conversation as Shan helps these guests figure out what’s broken. Follow Shan Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyBuy Shan’s Book “The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance and Getting What You Want” wherever you buy your books or audiobooks Follow Mandii B on Instagram: www.instagram.com/fullcourtpumpsListen to Mandii’s podcasts “Whoreible Decisions” and “So The Thing Is” wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Khleo on Instagram: www.instagram.com/khleothomasCheck out Khleo on Twitch: www.twitch.tv/khleothomasSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you familiar with the term “gaslighting?” Shan’s guest, Melissa Rivers, was a victim of it in her previous relationship - and she didn’t hesitate to share her experiences. In this episode, we learn about Melissa and Shan’s gaslighting experiences and the toxic impact it has had on them. Shan also brings in Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist, therapist, and consultant to reality-based production shows such as “Make Up or Break Up.” Dr. Barry provides clinical knowledge about gaslighting and tools to not only identify it; but challenge it as well. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyStay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Melissa Rivers on Instagram: www.instagram.com/melissariversofficialBuy Melissa’s Latest Book: “Lies My Mother Told Me: Tall Tales from a Short Woman”Listen to the #GroupText Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcastVisit Dr. Barry Goldstein’s Website to learn more about his services: www.realityshrink.netSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Let’s talk about dating and why so many people are lost in the gap between what they’re getting and what they want out of love. To get up close and personal about it, Shan welcomes Harry Jowsey to the podcast, who you might recognize as the Australian heartthrob from the 2020 season of Netflix's "Too Hot to Handle". So how is it that a 6'5", successful, wealthy, gorgeous, and emotionally available man is having trouble finding "the one"? The answer surprised him, and may even surprise you too. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Get your copy of Shan's Book "The Game of Desire" on Amazon Follow Harry Jowsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/harryjowsey Listen to "Tap in with Harry Jowsey" wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos Listen to Los and his 2 co-hosts every week on "Enjoy the Podcast" wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Chelsea on Instagram: www.instagram.com/chealseaprobablySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How important is humor in love and dating? In that same vein how harmful can humor in the wrong way at the wrong time be in a romantic connection? To explore this question, Shan sits with the hilarious Hannah Berner of Giggly Squad and Berning in Hell podcasts and Bravo’s Summer House, and Hannah reveals all the fun parts of being in love with a comedian…and what happens when the joke goes too far. Shan also gets some expert insight from Dr. Helen Fisher, PhD, and finally, find out why Shan’s husband Jared never laughs at her jokes.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyKeep up to date with Shan and casting calls for Lovers and Friends: www.shanboodram.com/joinFollow Hannah Berner on Instagram: www.instagram.com/beingbernzListen to the “Giggly Squad” and “Berning in Hell” podcasts wherever you are listening to this podcastFollow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyListen to Jared and his co-hosts week on “Enjoy the Podcast” wherever you are listening to this podcastFollow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabethSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this very intimate and vulnerable episode, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared, to discuss the real fears they have about the future of their marriage and intimacy now that baby #2 is on the way. Being in new territory, Shan tries to learn as much as she can about how others have navigated similar challenges including her audience, her mother, her sister, and Erica Dickerson and Milah Mapp from the podcast Good Moms, Bad Choices. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyKeep up to date with Shan and upcoming Lovers and Friends casting calls: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow “Good Moms, Bad Choices” on Instagram: www.instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoicesListen to their podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabethFollow Olivia Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholiviaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Let’s talk about sex! Specifically why are so many straight men so closed-minded and unadventurous when it comes to sex? And why aren’t we talking about this more? To cover this, Shan collects a wide variety of male perspectives from legendary sex educator, Dan Savage, the hosts of the Hard or Soft Podcast, and as a special treat, Shan’s husband, Jared, gets together with the closest men in his life to get their honest reflections on why straight men are more concerned with dominance and masculinity than pleasure and self expression in the bedroom. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyStay up to date with casting and more from Shan: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow the Hard or Soft Podcast on Instagram: www.instagram.com/hardorsoftpodListen to Hard or Soft Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Dan Savage on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dansavageListen to the Savage Love Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyFollow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelosListen to Enjoy the Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcastFollow Kray Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/datboikraySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When you've gone through a break-up, it's time for a pity party, right? But what if we celebrated the newly single instead? And maybe even aspired to be more like them? In this episode, Shan breaks down the highs and the lows of breakups with Kamie Crawford, host of the podcast Relationsh*t and MTV's Catfish. Kamie reveals what went on behind the scenes of her public break-up, and how she’s moving forward. Then, YouTuber and social activist Amber Lee Whittington reflects on how her heartbreaks have resulted in…well, you have to listen to find out.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan’s mailing list to stay up to date with casting calls and Shan Boody updates: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Kami Crawford on Instagram: www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford Listen to Kami’s podcast Relationsh*t on the very same platform you are listening to this podcast Follow Amber on Instagram: www.instagram.com/amberscloset Subscribe to Amber’s YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/ambersclosetSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Does dating in your twenties have to be trash? Or are people in their twenties just trash? In this episode, Shan brings on Andrea Desiree Lewis, her ex-business partner from the early “Those Girls Are Wild” YouTube days. Shan and Andrea dish on their worst moments from dating in their 20s and how it actually made them better partners today. Then, find out why Shan finds talking to her 23-year-old brother-in-law therapeutic for her 20-year-old self.Don't forget to leave a rating and review for this podcast! Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's mailing list: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Andrea Lewis on Instagram: www.instagram.com/andrealewis Watch "Black Actress" and "Beyond Complicated" on YouTube: www.youtube.com/andrealewischannelSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is letting others love you naked a prerequisite to loving your body? In this episode, Shan talks with Sarah Landry — who is notoriously naked online despite getting horrendous comments on her body — about how to choose and love your nakedness in your own everyday, all day. Shan then brings on Jazzmyne Jay to explore how body positivity shows up in same-sex relationships and how fat-phobia has it’s roots in racism? Don’t forget to leave your rating on this podcast!Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyKeep up with Shan by joining her mailing list: www.shanboodram.com/joinFollow Sarah Landry: www.instagram.com/thebirdspapayaListen to Sarah’s podcast “The Papaya Podcast” on the same platform you're listening to this podcast!Follow Jazzmyne Jay: www.instagram.com/jazzmynejaySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do if you’re in a place where you’re madly in love with your partner, your career, your life...BUT you've also decided to put your sex life on the backburner…or maybe more accurately, in the fridge? Rachel Lindsey, the first African-American Bachelorette, sits down with Shan to unapologetically talk about her loving marriage and how it's far removed from the Fantasy Suite. Then, Shan gets Jared’s take on their current sex life...or lack thereof.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyJoin Shan’s mailing list: www.shanboodram.joinFollow Rachel Lindsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/therachlindsayBuy Rachel’s new book “Miss Me With That” wherever you buy your books or audio booksFollow Jared Brady: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyListen to Enjoy the Podcast on the same platform you are listening to this podcastSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

So let’s talk about dating with mental illness. In this episode, Shan sits down with Eileen Kelly from the "Going Mental" podcast about her recent experience with being diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, and how it impacted her dating/romantic life. Shan continues the conversation with author and therapist, Nedra Glover Tawwab, who has advice for how to talk about mental illness when you're in a relationship and how you can be a supportive partner. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyJoin Shan's Mailing List: www.shanboodram.com/joinFollow Eileen Kelly on Instagram: www.instagram.com/eileenListen to the "Going Mental" podcasts wherever you listen to podcastsFollow Nedra Glover Tawwab on Instagram: www.instagram.com/nedratawwabSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do if you realize that monogamy isn’t for you, and that realization leads to another even more terrifying thought… Who? How? What the fuck, now? In this episode, Shan sits down with her personal friend Rome Green Jr. from Dormtainment who explains why he knows monogamy isn’t for him and why he also knows that he may not have the rest figured out just yet. Then Ken Melvoin-Berg & Sunny Megatron aka Sex Ed Superheroes join Shan and her husband, Jared, to break down how they've navigated openness in their marriage and what do's and don'ts they've all learned.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Rome Green Jr. on Instagram: www.instagram.com/iromealot Follow Sunny Megatron on TikTok: www.tiktok.com/sunnymegatron Visit Sunny's website: www.sunnymegatron.com Tune into Ken's weekly D&D live stream that raises for a sex worker mutual aid fund at twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can you get exactly what you want sexually without taking away something from what your partner wants? And if you can't...should you really care? In this episode, Shan sits down with Weezy from the wildly popular podcast, Whoreible Decisions, to discuss how the feminine femmes play down their expertise in the bedroom in order to not threaten their partner's masculinity. Shan and Lauren then sit down to talk about how this shows up outside the bedroom and impacts a feminine's their money, career, and relationships. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyJoin Shan's Mailing List: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Weezy on Instagram: www.instagram.com/weezywtfListen to the Whoreible Decisions Podcast on Youtube or wherever you get your podcasts Follow Lauren on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabethJoin Lauren's mailing list: www.maketheshiftcoach.com/joinSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's the last episode of 2021 and Shan brings together Jared and Lauren to share all that went on behind the scenes in making the podcast. Also, why doesn't Shan like the theme song?Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Listen to Enjoy the Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004 Follow Lauren on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabethSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you heard of a couple that's Living Apart Together? In this episode, Shan interviews Ev'Yan Whitney, a sensualist, and author of the book "Your Sensual Self" about how they and their husband decided to live in different states after being together for 19 years, while still continuing to be married. Shan also interviews her parents, who have been married for 40 years, to see there's anything they could learn from Ev'Yan's story to better their own marriage. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Ev'Yan Whitney on Instagram: www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney Follow Lauren on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia Follow Brian Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/briboo1958See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Shan interviews comedian Ashley Hesseltine from the "Girls Gotta Eat" Podcast. You could argue that this episode is about women getting off with men partners without giving anything sexual in return, you could also argue it’s about the validity of blue balls, or that we’re here to discuss dating in a post me-too era. But what it really boils down to is rewriting sexual and romantic scripts, especially for singles. How do you end an intimate encounter where you want to end it...and have it be okay?Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyJoin Shan's Mailing List: www.shanboodram.com/joinFollow Ashley Hesseltine: www.instagram.com/ashhessFollow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelosListen to Enjoy the Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004Follow Lauren on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabethSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When people take that vow of forever, do they enter into that contract knowing that they don’t really mean it? In this episode, Shan sits down with Bart and Geo, who check all the boxes of #CoupleGoals: a marriage, a beautiful home, family, podcast and multiple thriving businesses, to find out how their recent divorce scare has reframed what #CoupleGoals means to them now. Then it gets personal when Shan, her husband, her sister and her brother-in-law admit to times when they almost called it quits.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyKeep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list: www.shanboodram.com/joinFollow Geo on Instagram: www.instagram.com/geo_antoinetteFollow Bart on Instagram: www.instagram.com/bartkwanTune into Bart & Geo’s new podcast on YouTube: Get Close Podcast - YouTube Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyTune into Jared’s Podcast: ‎Enjoy the Podcast on Apple PodcastsFollow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For years, Shan has heard the rumors that A LOT of non-gay men are watching gay porn. In this episode we answer the question: What can gay men teach the non-gay community about how to have great sex? To find out Shan interviews Jade Fox, a queer lifestyle creator and social media influencer, Jade Fox, who admits to enjoying gay porn over lesbian porn. We also hear from Kevin Wade and Javonte Rose, two gay men, on what their secret sauce is when it comes to great sex.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Jade Fox on Instagram: www.instagram.com/iamjadefox Follow Kevin Wade on Instagram: www.instagram.com/iamkevinwade Follow Javonte Rose on Instagram: www.instagram.com/iamjavonteroseSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s storytime! Shan takes you down memory lane in order to answer the question she is asked most often throughout her career: When and how did you decide that you were going to be a sex expert? In this special edition episode and for the first time ever on the Podcast, Shan brings in the woman who witnessed it all. None other than Olivia Boodram, aka Mom.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyKeep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list: www.shanboodram.com/joinFollow Olivia Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In one of Shan’s toughest interviews to date, she sits down with New York Times Best Selling Author, Ashley C. Ford, who talks about her unconventional path to healing from sexual assault and how it impacted how she thought about sex. Shan also has a conversation with "Trauma Queen" Jimanekia about how to start the trauma healing process with a professional.If you are seeking support/resources due to sexual violence, you can reach out to organizations such as RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) by visiting www.rain.org or call their National Sexual Assault Hotline by dialing 800.656.HOPE (4673).Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyKeep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list: www.shanboodram.com/joinFollow Ashley C. Ford on Instagram: www.instagram.com/smashfizzleBuy Ashley’s Book: Somebody's Daughter: A Memoir https://www.amazon.com/Somebodys-Daughter-Ashley-C-Ford/dp/1250305977Follow Jimanekia on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jimanekiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why are women still having to pressure their partners into proposing? Shan interviews Krista Williams and Lindsay Simcik from the “Almost 30 Podcast” where Krista shares how her relationship evolved over the years and how she passively let him know that she was ready and waiting for his proposal to come. Shan shares her proposal story and how she was heartbroken when the proposal didn’t come on her original timeline. But that’s just one side of the discussion. To round out the conversation, Shan invites her husband and brother-in-law who share their experience with being pressured to propose.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyFollow the Almost 30 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/almost-30/id1148183612Follow Krista: www.instagram.com/itskristaFollow Lindsey: www.instagram.com/lindseysimcikFollow Jared Brady: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyFollow Enjoy the Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why are so many women immediately turned off when porn gets turned on? To find out, Shan interviews award-winning film maker and porn director, Erika Lust, about how her work addresses this common dilemma. Erika shares with us what kind of porn women should search for if they are looking to get off before getting turned off by less palatable options, and Shan sees if she can convince Lauren to give porn a chance.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyFollow Erika Lust on Instagram: www.instagram.com/erikalustGet your “Lovers and Friends” exclusive free 30 day trail to Lust Cinema: www.lustcinema.com/sign-up/loversandfriendsFollow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabethSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Should you change who you are in order to keep the lover you wanna be with? If your first reaction is "Hell to the No!" well...you're not alone. In this episode Shan interviews Emmy award-winning producer and host Jeannie Mai, who talks about how her marriage to Young Jeezy transformed her in ways that just didn’t surprise her, it also shocked the world! We also explore whether or not Shan regrets the changes she made for love with a revealing dialogue between her husband Jared and her sister Lauren.Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyFollow Jeannie Mai on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thejeanniemaiFollow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyFollow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabethSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Women say they want a man who is open and willing to be vulnerable, but is this really true? Back in 2019, Shan participated in a YouTube discussion with Aba and Preach where they covered this very topic.The conversation amassed over 1.3M views and nearly 9000 comments. Two years later, Shan, Aba & Preach re-visit this under-represented dialogue about why some men don't yet feel safe to show their vulnerable side with their partners.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Herpes, or “The Scarlet H”, is a very common and yet widely misunderstood STD. Shan interviews Shira Lazar, who discusses how her diagnosis with herpes has impacted her sex life. Dr. Ina Park, Medical Consultant at the CDC's Division of STD Prevention and author of the book “Strange Bedfellows”, breaks down the facts and science around herpes in order to erase the attached sitgmas, enabling healthy and empowered sex lives for those with STDs. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can a needle of filler give you the ability to orgasm by penetration? Shan interviews Dr. Courtenay Poucher, and gets the "O-shot" to find out. Dr. Poucher is a licensed and board certified expert cosmetic gynecologist who practices in Southern California. She has dedicated her career to women’s sexual health returning functionality and confidence to her patients with labiaplasty. She has been featured on The Doctors, NBC Access Live, and in New Beauty, Hustle and Elle.com. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There is so much great and life changing information about sex and love, but let’s say what you’re all thinking...it’s dry as f*ck! Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram will teach you what you really want to know about intimacy - from porn and orgasms to marriage and divorce - so you can be your own relationship expert.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.