LOVERS by shan

What does it really mean to build a relationship outside the rules you were taught? Is it still polyamory if only one person has other lovers? And most importantly, what happens when that dynamic actually works for you?In this honest and eye-opening conversation, multi-disciplinary entertainer, author, and founder of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner, shares their experience in their polyamorous journey. We dive into the importance of knowing your own capacity for connection, and Alyson’s go-to communication tool: Frequency, Duration, and Intensity. It’s a simple yet powerful way to check in about how often you connect, for how long, and with what level of emotional depth.Even if you’re monogamous, this framework can change the way you relate, helping you set boundaries, stay aligned, and make sure your relationships feel balanced and intentional. Whether you’re curious about polyamory or simply want tools for building healthier, more intentional partnerships, this episode will leave you thinking about love in a whole new way.🔗 Follow AlysonInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/alysonstonerTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alysonstonerYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@alysonstoner📚 Preorder Alyson’s new book Semi-Well-Adjusted Despite Literally Everything (Out August 12, 2025) → https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/semi-well-adjusted-9781250353498/ 🧠 Learn more about Movement Genius → https://www.movementgenius.com/Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with just you?In this bold and expansive episode, Shan dives into The Eartha Kitt Effect—a cultural and emotional awakening inspired by the legendary performer Eartha Kitt, whose unapologetic views on love, compromise, and individuality continue to resonate decades later. This “effect” refers to the growing movement of people, especially women, who are choosing the single life on purpose, not by default.Joining Shan is Dr. Bella DePaulo, renowned social psychologist and author of Single at Heart, to unpack why some of the most fulfilled people are not in romantic relationships—and never want to be.Together, they explore: 🔥 Why Eartha Kitt’s viral interview moment ("Compromise? For what?") sparked a generation of self-partnership 🌱 How choosing not to center romance can lead to deeper personal growth, freedom, and connection 🧠 The science behind happiness in singlehood and the myth of the “incomplete” single person 💔 How media and social norms still stigmatize solo living—and what it looks like to rewrite your own happy ending Eartha’s now-iconic 1982 interview, where she laughs at the idea of compromising for a man, has become a symbol for self-honoring love. Her words echo across social media as more people step into identities that aren’t centered on romantic validation but on personal wholeness.Whether you're single by choice, rethinking long-term relationships, or simply seeking permission to define love your way—this episode is your affirmation.✨ The Eartha Kitt Effect is here so listen now and ask yourself: What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with you?🔗 Follow Bella DePaulo: Website: belladepaulo.com Books: Single at Heart, How We Live Now, and more – Amazon💞 Want more from Lover? → Meet Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you: loversbyshan.com → Get a free weekly Love Letter straight to your inbox: Join the newsletter → Join the Lovers Community: loversbyshan.com/community → Try free quizzes + worksheets: Deepen your relationships📩 For ads or inquiries: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Does making friends get harder as you get older? How the hell do I make friends? This episode is a rerun, and it's STILL very accurate. According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021, many people are not satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 percent say they are only somewhat satisfied, and 17 percent say they are not too or not at all satisfied with the number of friends they have.If you fall in that range of little to no satisfaction in friendships, here’s what you need to know about creating a bond. So, how long does it take to make a new friend?- 50 hours before you consider them a casual friend - 90 hours before becoming real friends - 200hours- before becoming close friends source: 'Journal of Social and Personal Relationships' As the New York Times reported in 2012, there are “three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” Cultivating emotionally intimate relationships, in other words, takes more work than just compliments.In this episode, I sit down with my friends Krista and Tabia, and we talk about our friendships, the ups, downs, and the work it takes to make them work. A special thank you to Kamil Lewis, LMF,T, and Danielle Bayard-Jacskon, Bumble Friendship Expert, for lending their expertise on forming friendships. Follow the guests on this episode:Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram/http://tiktok.com/shanboody / @loversbyshan Follow Krista: https://www.instagram.com/itskrista/https://www.instagram.com/almost30podcast/Follow Tabia:https://www.instagram.com/tabiacharles/Follow Danielle Bayard-Jacksonhttps://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/https://www.instagram.com/friendforward/Follow Kamil Lewis, LMFThttps://www.instagram.com/kamil.lewis/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/safewordpod/Advertising & Other Inquiries: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if the love story you were chasing… was never really yours?In this episode, actress Miranda Rae Mayo joins Shan to explore the journey of finding love by letting go of the fantasy. Known for her role on Chicago Fire, Miranda opens up about her current relationship and how she had to release the pressure to be “perfect” to experience a real connection.Together, they explore how love doesn’t always look the way we expected, and why exploring non-monogamy challenged (and expanded) her thoughts around love, security, and partnership.🔗 Follow MirandaMiranda https://www.instagram.com/mrmayoFollow her exclusive project https://www.instagram.com/hereshecomestv/ Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does it mean to date and be in relationships in a trauma-informed way? Are you dating from a place of fear instead of self-worth? In this powerful episode, certified dating and relationship coach Anwar White opens up about his personal journey and why emotional safety is the foundation of any healthy relationship. We explore the crucial question: Can you really date men if you're scared of them, or if deep down, you don't even like them?Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships, navigating dating anxiety, or looking to build confidence and emotional security in love, this episode will give you the tools to understand and honor your safety needs.In this powerful and deeply personal episode, dating coach Anwar White joins Shan to talk about what it means to date with emotional and relational safety at the center. Anwar shares his personal story of leaving an unsafe environment as a child alongside his mother, and how that shaped his deep understanding of safety, trust, and partnership. Now, as a coach helping Black and Brown women find aligned, lasting love, Anwar breaks down the realities of trauma-informed dating, co-regulation, and building standards rooted in self-worth.This conversation also explores the ways our early relationships model love for us, and how watching his mother now thrive in a healthy partnership has become part of Anwar’s full-circle healing and success story.🔗 Follow Anwarhttps://www.instagram.com/datingcoachanwarListen to his podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1PTRAwfi9ZPDF6h4BOWXvjCheckout his services https://getyourguycoaching.com/Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Weezy and Mandii B get real about shedding the pressure to “find the one” and embracing what feels good instead of what looks good on paper, how we need to reverse engineer the way we have casual sex, and how to set yourself up for success while dating and having casual sex. WeezyWTF expands on how sexual liberation goes hand in hand with how you approach and manifest casual sex. Mandii B & Binx open up about surviving sexual assault, and how that experience reshaped their relationships with men in their community. Follow Weezy: @weezywtfFollow Mandii B: @fullcourtpumpsTour Dates: https://nhbtour.com/Get their book: https://a.co/d/8VY8Tje Follow Binx: @the_binxFollow Vincent aka Hands of Furey: Learn more about him: http://www.handsoffurey.com/Join the community at: loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if numbness is the hidden wound of high-functioning depression?In this episode, Shan sits down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a board-certified psychiatrist, clinical researcher, and internationally recognized mental health advocate.They dive deep into anhedonia, the loss of pleasure or interest in things that once brought you joy, and how it shows up, especially for those living with high-functioning depression. Dr. Joseph expands on how joy is our birthright and how it connects to our biopsychosocial blueprint.Expect insights on:✨ How high-functioning depression operates✨ Why anhedonia is so often overlooked✨ The three-part psycho-socio-biological model that explains it✨ How to begin reconnecting with your desire and vitality👑 Follow Dr. Judith Joseph on Instagram: instagram.com/drjudithjoseph👥 Join the community: loversbyshan.com/communitySign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me loversbyshan.com/newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if the key to better sex isn’t new, but rooted in ancestral knowledge?In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller, mythologist, and ancient erotica expert Seema Anand to explore the rich, and yes, deeply sexy, history of sexual liberation, and why it's never really been a modern idea.Together, they unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry, ritual, and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes, the Kama Sutra makes an appearance), the role of storytelling in the bedroom, and how wearing your desire, literally, can be one of the boldest, most freeing things you do.This conversation even inspired a whole jewelry line. The Kama Collection is a tribute to sensuality, intention, and the art of not hiding your hunger.👑 Follow Seema Anand on Instagram: @seemaanandstorytelling🔥 Shop the Kama Collection: surmeyi.com/kamaThe waist chain designed for being on topThe anklet designed for when your legs are in the airThe necklace designed for yab yumThe earrings designed for ridingThe choker designed for lotus positionThe spine chain designed for doggystyle 👥 Join the community: loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do fuckboys… fuckboy? In this episode, we dig into the root of it.Just ahead of the release of his new single Permanent Vacation (dropping June 18), genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach, ghost, and repeat the cycle. Together, they unpack how fear of commitment, cultural conditioning, and childhood wounds can all contribute to the “Certified Loverboy” identity.Duckwrth opens up about his own evolution—from polyamory and emotional avoidance to developing a deeper sense of self-awareness and desire for real connection.If you’ve ever dated a fuckboy, been affected by one, or are reflecting on your own relationship patterns, this one’s for you.🎧 Watch the video for Permanent Vacation 💫 Follow Duckwrth on Instagram: @duckwrth 👥 Join the community at: loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever wondered where your libido went? In this episode we do a deep dive on sexual slumps, low libido and lack of sexual desire that is frustrating (lack of desire that is not frustrating is not a problem!). We get to have this conversation first from the lens of Emmy-winning journalist Tamsen Fadal whose journey with low libido started in perimenopause and peaked on her honeymoon! From hot flashes and brain fog in the newsroom to bedroom low sex drive, Tamsen has become treasured for pulling back the curtain on midlife like never before. In this honest and empowering episode, menopause advocate Tamsen joins Shan for a conversation about menopause, sex drive and embracing life’s shifts.Tamsen shares how a one-word note from her doctor "menopause...?" set off a journey she wasn’t prepared for, and how that diagnosis impacted her body, her identity, and her intimacy. From tough talks with her husband to the quiet shame so many women carry through midlife transitions, Tamsen reminds us that getting older isn’t the end of our sensual selves, it can actually be the beginning.In part two of this episode we are giving you a MasterClass on low libido led by three doctors: OBGYN Dr. Mickey, lifestyle medical physician Dr Lean AND Pelvic Floor expert Dr. Janelle Frederick aka the Vagina Rehab Doctor.This is a highlight of our hour and fifteen convo if you’d like to listen to the rest go toLoversbyshan.com/community Follow Tamsen on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadalGet her book How to MenopauseListen to her podcast The Tamsen ShowCheckout her website https://www.tamsenfadal.com/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From fatphobia to racism to ageism and ableism, Kennedy challenges the norms around love, desirability, and who gets to be the “main character.” This one’s for anyone who's ever felt left out of the story — and is ready to take the pen back.Bestselling romance author Kennedy Ryan (Before I Let Go, Reel) sits down with Shan to talk about what happens when women stop shrinking themselves to be chosen. From rewriting the stories we’ve inherited about sex, love, and partnership — to questioning why women with standards get labeled as “too much”Kennedy opens up about what radical self-worth actually looks like, and why romance should always center women’s pleasure. This episode is a love letter to anyone who’s ever been made to feel like they’re asking for too much. Kennedy shares her love story of being married to Sam for over 20 years while raising their autistic son. This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityFollow Kennedy on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/kennedyryan1Get her latest book https://kennedyryanwrites.com/Get a weekly love letter from me:https://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What kind of stories do we pass down through the way we love?Actor and mom Xosha Roquemore sits down with Shan to talk about sex, self-worth, and how becoming a mother shifted everything. It starts with one question she asked that stopped us both: “Have the kind of sex you’d be proud to tell your daughter about.”We talk about the early messages she got about sex, how sexual coercion showed up in her past, and why that experience still needs more language. She shares a fun one-night stand story and how even casual sex can feel good when it comes from choice, not pressure.Xosha also talks about single motherhood, not as a hardship, but as a privilege. Being a mom has made her sharper, clearer, and way more intentional about who gets access to her.This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today!https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityFollow Xosha on socialshttps://www.instagram.com/xoshro/Get a Weekly Lovers Letter from Mehttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Reclaiming Intimacy: Jessie Woo’s Journey Beyond Trauma. Comedian and media personality Jessie Woo joins Shan for a powerful conversation about healing, love, and rediscovering sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. Jessie shares her painful story of her assault and her joyful story of her relationship with Jay Allen aka Mr Easter.Now Jessie is on the path to reclaiming pleasure and building healthy relationships, offering hope and practical insights for anyone on their own journey of recovery. This episode explores the complexities of intimacy after trauma, the importance of self-love, and why your story doesn’t end with someone else’s actions.At the end of the episode, trauma expert Jimanekia Eborn joins us to discuss why sexual assault is a community issue plus she give her hot take on the Diddy trial and some people’s harmful comments about Cassie. How do you reclaim love and pleasure after trauma? How do you support survivors in your life?We discuss these questions PLUS we have a free resource for sexual assault survivors and those navigating grief called The Grief Registry.Content Warning:This episode discusses sexual assault and trauma. Listener discretion is advised.If you or someone you know is a survivor of sexual assault, resources and support are available. Visit RAINN.org or call 800-656-HOPE.Thank You Jessie Woohttps://www.instagram.com/thejessiewoo/Jess a Couple Things Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmu_OLDekKoPr-TgAY8lYIgGet a Weekly Lovers Letter from Mehttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Nothing good lasts. Right? In this deeply moving episode, Canadian singer-songwriter Alessia Cara joins Shan Boodram to explore the connection between intimacy, loss, and the fear of death (thanatophobia). Inspired by her song "Subside" from Love and Hyperbole, Alessia opens up about her personal journey with grief and how it shapes the way she loves and creates. Together, they dive into universal questions: How do we hold on to love while letting go of control? How does the fear of loss impact our relationships, intimacy, and even our everyday choices?Esther Perel talks about how desire and loss can sit right next to each other. This made me think about how those ideas show up in everyday relationships: the death of connection, the slow fading of intimacy, or the fear that something we’ve built might not last.When you zoom out, so much of how we attach, how we love, and even how we have sex is shaped by that deeper fear, what happens if I lose this? Or if I lose you? Or if I lose me in this?Thank You Alessia Carahttp://alessiacara.comhttps://www.instagram.com/alessiasmusichttps://www.youtube.com/@alessiacaraThanks Dame for sponsoring this episode:Dame makes products designed to enhance intimacy and connection—whether you’re with a partner or flying solo. http://dame.com/shanDame Coupon: SHAN15Join My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week’s episode, I sit down with Raven-Symoné and her wife Miranda Pearman-Maday for a refreshingly honest conversation about love and what it really takes to sustain a modern relationship. They share why they chose a sleep divorce, and how sleeping separately has deepened their emotional bond, sharpened their communication, and brought them even closer.This episode is a masterclass in emotional maturity and intentional partnership, an invitation to rethink what a healthy marriage can look like in a monogamix relationship. Thank You Raven & Mirandainstagram.com/ravensymoneinstagram.com/mirandamadayCatch them on Tea Time with Raven & Miranda, a candid, cozy space where they spill everything from relationship realness to spiritual insights. Streaming now on YouTube.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week’s episode, I sit down with the legendary Cree Summer to talk about her journey through love, loss, and rediscovery in her 50s. Cree opens up about losing her sex drive during her marriage due to a lack of emotional shelter and the importance of finding a partner who provides safety and calm during life’s storms. We also dive into how her sex drive has improved post-menopause and what she’s looking forward to as she explores love again in her senior years. Whether you’re navigating relationships, rethinking intimacy, or seeking inspiration for your own journey, this conversation is a must-listen.Episode Highlights: Cree’s reflections on her marriage and why emotional shelter is non-negotiable in a relationship How menopause transformed her sex drive and perspective on intimacy The importance of finding a partner who provides safety and positivity Cree’s hopes and expectations for love in her golden years Lessons on emotional security, provision, and rediscovering self-worth The importance of women making the first move and asking men out Thank You Cree Summerinstagram.com/iamcreesummerx.com/iamcreesummerhttps://www.adultswim.com/videos/oh-my-god-yes-a-series-of-extremely-relatable-circumstancesJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityIf you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need to hear Cree’s powerful story. For more conversations like this, visit LoversByShan.com and join our community for exclusive content, workshops, and more!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is a rare solo episode with just Shan behind the mic—no guests, no distractions. Just her, answering some of your most pressing, unfiltered questions. From personal reflections to deeper dives on topics you’ve been dying to hear her take on, this one’s intimate, insightful, and straight from the heartJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you ready to dive deep into the complexities of love, faith, and identity? In this thought-provoking episode, Shan Boodram sits down with B. Simone to discuss the transformative journey of embracing chastity, understanding soul ties, and exploring the nuances of identity and connection.While B. Simone does not identify as demisexual, Shan suggests the possibility during their candid conversation, sparking an insightful dialogue about emotional intimacy and sexual attraction. This episode unpacks key topics like:✨ What You’ll Learn: Demisexuality: A sexual orientation where someone experiences sexual attraction only after forming a strong emotional bond. Soul Ties: A deep, often spiritual connection that binds two people, sometimes through shared experiences or intimacy. Chastity: A lifestyle or mindset of aligning one’s sexual behavior and thoughts with personal, moral, or spiritual values, which may or may not involve abstinence. Together, Shan and B. Simone explore how devotion to faith, self-love, and personal growth can shape intimate relationships and redefine what it means to truly connect with others.Whether you’re curious about demisexuality, seeking clarity on soul ties, or inspired by the intersection of spirituality and sexuality, this episode is packed with insights that will leave you reflecting on your own path to sacred love.🎧 Tune in now, and don’t forget to subscribe for more episodes on love, relationships, and self-discovery!Thank You B. Simonehttps://www.instagram.com/thebsimoneLet’s Try This Again: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz67j2koC3urUkQirbvueCAhttps://www.officialbsimone.com/Join My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityThanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shan See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Does a change in your intimate needs have to mean a change of heart? In this episode of Lovers Shan Boodram sits down with Karamo Brown, TV personality (Karama and Queer Eye), author, and culture expert, for a raw and revealing conversation about intimacy and growth. Karamo opens up about how his intimate needs evolved through his 20s, 30s, and 40s—both emotionally and in the bedroom. He shares how these changes led to the end of a past relationship, where his partner couldn’t accept his evolving needs without taking it personally.Now, in a thriving new relationship, Karamo reveals how he’s learned to bring his partner along as he navigates these changes, fostering a deeper connection and understanding. This episode is packed with wisdom on embracing growth, improving communication, and honoring your needs without guilt.Karamo Brown, Lovers and Friends Podcast, Lovers by Shan, Shan Boodram, intimacy in relationships, emotional intimacy, evolving needs in relationships, intimacy advice, relationship communication, breakups and growth, thriving relationships, intimacy in 20s 30s 40s, LGBTQ relationships, personal growth, gay relationship advice, sex and relationshipsThank You Karamo Brownhttps://www.instagram.com/karamoLearn About His TV Show: https://karamoshow.com/Get His New Children’s Book: https://zandoprojects.com/books/i-am-okay-to-feel/Thanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shanJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are You Loyal to Your Gender or Your Relationship? Shan Boodram sits down with Khadeen and Devale Ellis, the dynamic married duo known for their raw honesty, humor, and insights on love and relationships. Together, they share how they saved their marriage by breaking free from traditional gender roles and prioritizing their partnership above all else.Khadeen and Devale Ellis are actors, content creators, and authors of the best-selling book We Over Me: The Counterintuitive Approach to Getting Everything You Want From Your Relationship. Known for their hit podcast Dead Ass and their viral YouTube channel chronicling their family life, the Ellises have inspired millions with their relatable and unfiltered take on marriage, parenting, and personal growth. In this episode the couple talks about the controversy over Devale’s vasectomy, being called a simp, making a plate for your husband, and putting your career on pause so the family can win. Thank You Khadeen and Devalehttps://www.instagram.com/khadeeniam/https://www.instagram.com/iamdevale/Read or listen to their book: https://www.amazon.com/We-Over-Counterintuitive-Everything-Relationship/dp/0593577604Thanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jessie Reyez joins the podcast to celebrate her new album, Paid in Memories and to dive into the complexities of boundaries and self-respect. Together, we unpack what it means to be labeled a "villain" (by both yourself and others) for setting boundaries and standing firm in your self-worth. Jessie shares her personal journey of choosing to stay single rather than settling for less in love, reflecting on the regret of taking too much accountability in her past relationship, and embracing her love language—having her alone time respected.We also talk about her upcoming album, Paid in Memories, which promises to be a raw and powerful exploration of love, loss, and acceptance. Don’t miss this candid and inspiring conversation that’s all about choosing yourself, even when it’s hard because self-respect is never up for negotiation.Thank You Bumble This episode of Lovers and Friends is presented by Bumble, where dating your way is always the right way. There’s a world where you can find love that works for you. So date now, on Bumble.Thank You Jessie Reyezhttps://www.instagram.com/jessiereyez/Listen to Jessie’s latest musicJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Deepica Mutyala, founder of Live Tinted and a trailblazing entrepreneur, for an honest and empowering conversation about being single, thriving in your 30s, and preparing for the love and family you deserve. Deepica shares her journey of building a successful career while staying true to her dreams of finding the right partner and creating a family. Together, Shan and Deepica discuss the challenges of dating when you’re successful, the importance of not settling, and how to embrace being single as a time to grow, reflect, and prepare for the life you truly want. Whether you’re navigating the dating world, focusing on self-growth, or manifesting your dream relationship, this episode will leave you inspired and ready to take on love and life with intention.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you Deepicahttps://www.instagram.com/deepicaGet Live Tintedhttps://www.livetinted.com/Join My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lena Waithe on Cuddling Over ClimaxingIn this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Emmy-winning writer, producer, and actress Lena Waithe (Queen & Slim, Master of None, The Chi) for an eye-opening conversation about intimacy, love, and meaningful connections. Lena shares why you should never have sex with someone unless you can imagine a positive aftermath for both of you. She dives into how cuddling can create a deeper emotional bond than sex, especially when the future of a relationship feels uncertain. Lena also opens up about the power of plutonic relationships, revealing why some of her most impactful connections today are non-romantic. With all of the rumors about her love life, Lena sets the record straight and shares what truly matters to her in building authentic connections. This episode will challenge your views on love, intimacy, and boundaries in ways you won’t want to miss!Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you Lenahttps://www.instagram.com/lenawaithe/Legacy Talk Podcasthttps://lemonada.lnk.to/LegacyTalkWithLenaWaithehs?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaZR0rgZOhMXnR_1HkQjiKfKa5_UUPHcXYlKFCmzjhKgXdje2qDlp8lbhmg_aem_wULmegwSQB8ct8zEmMkQfgJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What kind of relationship with sex do we want young people to have? In this episode myself and Tika Sumpter, known for her multifaceted career as an actor and creator, explore this question as parents and as people reparenting themselves. In this episode Tika shares her compelling personal story that shaped her approach to intimacy and education. Growing up in a Christian household, discussions about sex were often avoided or framed solely around negative consequences. This instilled fear and confusion about her own sexuality during her teenage years. In her twenties, Tika found herself navigating relationships without a clear understanding of her body or pleasure, often pretending to have a sexual IQ she hadn't yet developed. Therapy became a turning point, helping her reconnect with herself and embrace her sexual identity.Now, as a mother, Tika is determined to break this cycle for her daughter. On this episode, she opens up about her journey and shares how she is redefining sex and intimacy education in her household. Her goal is to raise her daughter to be a sexually and relationally competent individual, equipped with the tools and knowledge Tika wishes she had earlier in life.Tika is best known for her work on screen but did you know she also makes children’s content? She is the creator of The Adventures of Curious Cove, a podcast anchored by the beloved series Ella the Curious. This project reflects her passion for storytelling and education, making complex topics accessible and engaging for young audiences.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you TikaPreorder Tika's upcoming book!https://tinyurl.com/I-Got-It-From-My-Mama-Bookhttps://www.instagram.com/tikasumpterhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/adventures-of-curiosity-cove/id1760587303Age by Age Sexual Development GuideAs per Tika’s request…loversbyshan.com/quizzesJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this deeply personal episode presented by Bumble, singer Mario opens up about the profound impact of unresolved trauma stemming from his relationship with his mother. He shares how this pain shaped his early behavior towards women, leading to manipulation and broken connections. Mario takes us on his journey of self-reflection, healing, and ultimately embracing his inner feminine energy—a process that not only reshaped his relationships but also elevated his personal growth and artistry.As Mario gets real about accountability, self-love, and the power of healing, he also introduces us to his latest album, "Glad You Came"—a soulful and vulnerable collection of music inspired by his life experiences and growth. Tune in for an honest, thought-provoking conversation that dives into the intersections of trauma, love, and creativity.Don't miss this inspiring episode and be sure to check out Mario's new album, "Glad You Came," now streaming on all platforms!Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you MarioInstagram.com/marioworldwide Glad You Came, streaming everywhere you listen to musicThank you AryaA couples subscription service that helps you spice it up with the help of an intimacy concierge, an app and products delivered to your doorhttps://www.arya.fyi/shanMy class on MasterClassIf you’d like tangible tips for improving your relationship with sex AND your sex appeal. I HIGHLY recommend checking out my class on MasterClass the Art of Sex Appealmasterclass.com/shanJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Beyond Pleasure: Three Keys to Truly Fulfilling SexSex is at the intersection of life and humanity. For the majority of us, it’s how we got here and for parents, it’s how we will continue on after we are gone. We often hear the term “better” sex, which begs two questions: what does that mean? And, why is the sex we are currently having not good enough?In this episode we will define the goal of sex - regardless of the stage of the relationship and we will also discuss what prevents us from having sex that lives up to our desired potential. I’m going to take you on a journey as we explore the three sexual freedoms. Starting with discussing the power of freedom to, which I think describes the stage that myself and my husband/ the creative director of this podcast, Jared Brady are in. Then freedom from, which I discuss with my friends Yancy and Premika Leo. Finally we will talk about the Freedom not to, which I explore with my Lovers Community.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.My class on MasterClassIf you’d like tangible tips for improving your relationship with sex AND your sex appeal. I HIGHLY recommend checking out my class on MasterClass the Art of Sex Appealmasterclass.com/shanBetter Sex QuizIf you want to know which freedom you should focus on in order to improve your sex life today, try this quizhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/bettersexCommitment Structure QuizIf Shan and Jared’s conversation around open relationships intrigued you, take this quiz to identify your commitment structurehttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/commitmentJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kerry Washington, you read right. Award-winning actor, director, producer, and activist Kerry Washington. In support of the second season of her hit show UnPrisoned on Hulu Onyx Collective, Kerry stopped by Lovers and Friends to discuss what she learned from Paige, how learning that her biological father was a sperm donor changed her family for the better, therapy with her parents and husband, how real parents should get with their kids, her parenting philosophy and more. If you loved Kerry Washington in any of her classics, like Scandal or Django Unchained OR if you read her book Thicker Than Water, you will LOVE UnPrisoned and furthermore, this raw interview on the power and potential that comes when you heal the family by not being afraid to hurt or disappoint one another. Of course I couldn’t have Kerry Washington stop by and NOT talk about sex, reproductive rights and pole dancing - so expect that too :). ALSO relationship expert and UnPrisoned creator Tracy McMillan stops by to discuss the power of intuition.Watch the trailer to UnPrisonedhttps://youtu.be/HIn14DY9eFA?si=2VxtEkm6V6_UT3kxWatch UnPrisonedhttps://www.hulu.com/series/unprisoned-5b48cecb-15b5-4e06-b475-f2ac5a64bd24Follow Kerry Washington https://www.instagram.com/kerrywashington/?hl=enWatch her YouTube Show Street You Grew Up Onhttps://youtu.be/Omh270yZLbU?si=Fof717hAfW9Fz8iARead her Memoir Thicker than Waterhttps://www.amazon.com/Thicker-than-Water-Kerry-Washington/dp/0316497398Follow Tracy McMillanhttps://www.instagram.com/tracymcmillan/Thanks to Our Sponsors Hulu Onyx CollectiveFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kelly Rowland, you read right. This is a CAN NOT MISS, special release Lovers and Friends episode with Shan Boodram AND it is best experienced after you watch Mea Culpa now streaming worldwide on Netflix. In this intimate, first-of-its-kind conversation Kelly Rowland shares how she went from a sexually repressed upbringing to living up to her pleasure potential as a sensualist, plus how her sexual awakening gave her the confidence to play Mea in Mea Clupa alongside Trevante Rhodes, whom she shares very STEAMY sex scenes with on screen. Kelly also discusses her feelings on divorce, kink, toys in the bedroom, and overcoming the fear of being imperfect.Watch the trailer to Mea Culpahttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0g9YfjJSAFollow Kelly https://www.instagram.com/kellyrowland/https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0g9YfjJSAThanks to Our Sponsors DAMEHead to http://dame.com at dame.com and if you’d like to pick something up, my code SHANLOVERS gets you 15% off at checkoutARYA Head to http://arya.fyi to learn how they’re helping couples break their sexual routine and if you’re interested in trying it code SHAN15 gets you 15% off nowFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to (some of) the best of Lovers and Friends the podcast. Hear from JESSIE REYES, MELISSA AND KEV OnSTAGE, ABBY DE LA ROSA, SHANOLA HAMPTON, TIM Chantrangsu aka DE LA GHETTO, DREW LOVE from THEY, RACHEL LINDSAY and GLO ATANMO during this special recap episode.THANKS TO OUR SPONSORONSEKINGo to http://oneskin.co and 15% off with code LOVERS15GLO ATANMOhttps://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZU?si=GtWZkCBspPlmUA8fhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/1W4xrpdCh0V3OwXZCYt1bO?si=mJNj1rxcQ7a333AUmgsqMAJESSIE REYEShttps://youtu.be/7IbgI3-s7Ps?si=j0CL3b8gYqsNbqFehttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2w3jYgkVIgg2eQoYWuALhp?si=8q3ptyfKQbWn9FrrY3bZTAMELISSA AND KEVhttps://youtu.be/hrMVcujhg1A?si=idb7xnDq8TX1aBh_https://open.spotify.com/episode/4NjXUyZ5suDL3ytxUALFV8?si=gg3B7zvfQnm5nS9XUpkyZAABBY DE LA ROSAhttps://youtu.be/aq8290G52_I?si=oaI5d_ALvuj82z9Vhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/5AM2X8zNwmgV3koVtgemPC?si=pzqGDEw3QMCe8Awx9eFK7QSHANOLA HAMPTONhttps://youtu.be/J7PZakvvdCo?si=LDSbtyjNTKuNmZ1uhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2pHr7jrSj7iQTZlsbIUoYV?si=-pk8WovdSbqLLyrXDrRpRgTIM DE LA GHETTOhttps://youtu.be/G6WYaHFOjEU?si=uDvI7cap3yCs0srqhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/0VuY52Ct9XS9Wua4dtupO6?si=ZFMbJEQOQ56IuBADlxm8ogDREW LOVEhttps://youtu.be/bdooXjRGprY?si=AG3KL1r-wAfeb8Gmhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/39lGd7mxW9jvpGpOPYMKaj?si=ou8FILHeSGG7P21hCZwMogRACHEL LINDSAYhttps://youtu.be/bnEORZJD2pQ?si=LiHiZKFU1-_Cv8l6https://open.spotify.com/episode/1kN3P1KoHI3LcnLNRgzY76?si=faUIGN4ATUaLvewVQ3AjCQHELP WHY CAN’T I ORGASMhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2X8oEJMQ8JNSu6Psa53r7O?si=wJMEWu6vTmGpia1waTZ0SwSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

FUCK the fairytale! How does that land on you? Does it make you go FUCK YES we need to be realistic about love OR does it make you go FUCK NO I desire the fairytale and that’s what I’ll get. Well when dating coach Damona Hoffman suggests you F the Fairytale, she kinda wants you to feel both. Tired of the same old dating game and ready to find real, lasting love? Join us in this episode of FUCK the Fairytale as we explore what a true fairytale relationship looks like with expert dating coach Damona Hoffman. We’ll challenge outdated ideas of the ideal partner and redefine what happiness looks like in modern relationships. Don’t miss your chance to discover true love - watch now!FOLLOW DAMONA HOFFMANhttps://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/https://damonahoffman.com/ RitualVisit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. Ritual is offering Lovers and Friends 30% off during your first month. BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. HelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! Quince Go to http://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns!DamonaFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you ready to break free from outdated social norms and discover the real power of being true to yourself? Mal Wright from Netflix's The Ultimatum is here to share her story of why she chose to end her engagement, why gender has no place in sex, and the one thing her next partner must have. Don't miss this inspiring story and get ready to experience the liberating effects of embracing your true self! Follow Mal https://www.instagram.com/igobymal/https://malwright.komi.io/Thanks to Our SponsorsDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSSKIMSSKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.BABBELGet 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERSBetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. Follow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you curious why Vanessa and Xander, a happily married couple, chose not to have children? Find out by joining therapist Vanessa and her husband Xander as they share their personal story about why they chose to remain childfree. Tune in to learn more about their unconventional decision and how it has impacted their lives!Follow Vanessa and Xander Marinhttps://sextalksbook.com/https://vmtherapy.com/HelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! StoryWorthGo to http://StoryWorth.com/lovers and save $10 on your first purchase! Zoc DocGo to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Becoming a Pro: Master These Kama Sutra Sex Moves and Take Things to the Next Level. Spend some quality time with Seema Anand as she guides you through the Kama Sutra to discover the perfect positions for your pleasure even if the penis is too big, too small, or not experienced enough. From beginner-friendly poses to more advanced options, you'll learn something new no matter your level. So if you haven't found your go-to position yet, tune in now and explore with Seema!Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skillfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.Follow Seemahttps://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=enhttps://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytellingThanks to our SponsorsSKIMSSKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/loversGet a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month. UNCOMMON GOODShttp://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/Lovers, for 15% off your first gift OneSkinGet 15% off with the code Lovers15 at http://oneskin.co. Follow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramTiktok.com/shanboody See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, we're joined by renowned guests from the popular podcast "Tonight's Conversation Podcast" – Ace Metaphor, Kita Rose, and Just Mike The Poet. This podcast is renowned for bringing together social media personalities, relationship experts, and therapists to explore themes related to love, dating, and relationships. Our discussion today centers on the dynamics of relationships, specifically focusing on the contrasting preferences of men and women in intimate settings. Additionally, we'll delve into a provocative topic: the impact of masturbation on one's sexual desire towards their partner.FOLLOW Tonight's Conversationhttps://www.instagram.com/tonightsconversation/https://linktr.ee/tonightsconversationcardsACE: https://www.instagram.com/acemetaphor/KITA: https://www.instagram.com/kitarose_/?hl=enMIKE: https://tonightsconversation.vhx.tv/videos/tc-date-night-s1-e8Thanks to our sponsorsDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSRitualRitual is offering my listeners 30% off during your first month. Visit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription todayLumeAs a special offer for listeners of Lovers and Friends, new customers get $5 off Lume’s Starter Pack with our exclusive code and link. And for a limited time, returning customers can get $5 off their next purchase of $30 or more, too! Use code LOVERS at http://LumeDeodorant.comHelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! That means one breakfast item per box while your subscription is active. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode is where raw opinions and humor collide! In this series, I sit down with James and Fuhad, the dynamic duo behind the top 5 Spotify podcast, ShxtsNGigs. Known for their unapologetically honest and often hilarious takes, these best friends have become a sensation among Gen Z audiences in the UK. Today we talk about what makes them different in a world of podcast about Sex/Relationships. Follow ShxtsNGigs : https://www.instagram.com/shxtsngigs/Follow ShxtNGigs: https://www.youtube.com/@ShtsNGigsPodcastFollow James Duncan : https://www.instagram.com/jamesduncan/Follow Fuhad : https://www.instagram.com/fuhad_/Babbel Http://Babbel.com/LOVERS to Get 55% off at Babbel. Rules and restrictions may applySkimsHoliday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.OneSkinget 15% off OneSkin with our code LOVERS15 at http://oneskin.cothis show is sponsored by BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthFollow Shan@shanboodram - IG@shanboody - Tik Tok@loversandfriends - YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you young and attracted to mature men? Many younger women are dating older men, but is it really worth it? Anna Akana was in her twenties when she had a public relationship with Ray Williams Johnson, and she's here to tell us why it was a huge mistake. Hear her story plus the joys of dating older men today. Learn why Anna thinks women younger than 25 should be warned about the possible repercussions before taking the plunge. Plus, find out why she's so happy now that she's dating a man in his sixties, another in his fifties, and even one woman in her forties! Dive into this episode now if you're interested in learning more about what it's like to date an older partner.Follow Anna Akana https://www.instagram.com/annaakanahttps://www.youtube.com/annaakanahttps://www.squadup.com/events/it-gets-darker-anna-akana-friends-1Thanks to our sponsorsFirst LeafGo to http://TryFirstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95. UNCOMMON GOODSTo get 15% off your next gift, go to http://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERSHelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! ZocdocGo to http://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shan@shanboodram - IG@shanboody - Tik Tok@loversandfriends - YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you want to understand hormones better? Dr. Jolene Brighten is here to demystify the power of hormones and how they can affect fertility, sex drive, ADHD, how long it takes to orgasm, and period pain. Tune in as she explains what hormones are, their function and role in our bodies, plus how they can be managed for improved health and wellness. Learn from the experts! Don't miss out on this insightful educational experience with Dr. Jolene Brighten.Thanks to our sponsorsOne Skinhttp://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS15 at checkout for 15% offDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSQuincehttp://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.UNCOMMON GOODShttp://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERS for 15% offThanks to Our Guesthttps://drbrighten.com/https://www.instagram.com/drjolenebrightenFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you struggling to understand what real self love looks like? Do you find yourself getting hurt or blinded by pain and not being able to move forward? In this special video, Shan Boodram will answer your questions on how to heal from hurt and cultivate a deeper sense of self love. Get ready for some never before heard revelations with some timeless gems - it’s time to discover the key to unlocking true peace and freedom. Tune in now and learn how real self love can free you from pain and hurt by embracing the nature of those very things.Thanks to the sponsors of this episodeBetterHelp is sponsoring this episodeVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthRitualhttp://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 30% off your first monthSkimsGo to http://SKIMS.com and get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollarsFactorHead to http://FACTOR MEALS.com/lovers50 and use code lovers50 to get 50% offFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Get an in-depth and candid look into the fascinating 40-year marriage of my parents, and see how their dynamic can shed light on the relationship of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith. I'm interviewing my parents to ask the questions we all want answered when it comes to a long-term relationship going through myriad ups and downs inclduing breakups, dating others, and going through social shame for staying through it all. Why is it still worth fighting for? Jada Pinkett Smith talks about this question in her new memoir, Worthy.Thanks to my parents for being apart of this episode follow my momhttps://www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholiviahttps://www.youtube.com/c/YourTravelWithOliviaThanks to the sponsors of this episodeHelloFreshhttp://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shipping!One Skinhttp://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS15 at checkout for 15% offFirst LeafTry http://Firstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95 Books I suggested in this episodehttps://www.amazon.com/shop/shanboody/list/3IM9P9FGJOL9J?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsflist_aipsfshanboody_TFZ9F6EQ6YY0ZZYBYT2JFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you struggling with the fear of commitment? Feeling like there’s something wrong with you because all of your relationships have ended shortly after the honeymoon phase? You're not alone! Join Brenden Durell as he talks about his own experiences with the fear of commitment and how he learned to address it. In this video, Brenden will be opening up about why he never stayed past the honeymoon phase and how to combat the fear of commitment. It's time to give love another chance!Thanks to the Sponsors of this EpisodeJenni Kaynehttp://jennikayne.com use the code LOVERS at checkout to get 15% offThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first monthDipsea Stories http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS for 30 days of full access for free Babbelhttp://babbel.com/lovers to Get 55% off Rules and restrictions may apply.Follow Brenden https://www.instagram.com/brendendurell/?hl=enhttps://mylinks.brendendurell.com/Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do we fix our desire for relationships with people that will inevitably become broken. And how do we stop ourselves from aligning healthy with boring? That’s what we’re talking about on this episode of Lovers and Friends. Attraction, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is a complex process. It can be influenced by numerous factors, from biology to personal history. If someone finds themselves repeatedly attracted to individuals with certain undesirable characteristics (like the makeup of a fuckboy: charismatic but not reliable, fun to be around but not fun to be apart from because communication is not stable or when out of sight they’re unpredictable, they make big plans but don’t consistently make the small actions to move towards that goal especially when it comes to you, etc…), understanding the underlying causes and taking conscious steps to modify patterns of attraction can be beneficial. Here's a scientific, step-by-step approach:Self-awareness and reflection Next, Examine past patternsUnderstand the biologyCognitive-behavioral techniques Increase self-worthExpand your social circleEducate yourselfAvoid idealizationpractice mindfulnessFollow Leah Lamarrhttps://www.instagram.com/leahlamarrhttps://sociatap.com/leahlamarr/ Show Love to Our SponsorsZoc DocGo to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEHello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shippingSkimsTry The Cotton collection and more are available now at http://SKIMS.com Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars! Extras in this episode The Art of Manipulation: Influence Human Behavior, Understand the Psychology of Manipulation, Effectively Manage People, and Get What You (Really) Want! Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever been told that relationships require hard work? Well, it's time for a reality check with therapist Nina Westbrook who is married to NBA All Star Russel Westbrook! Nina shares their experiences and insights on relationships and even addresses people who say that Russel could do better than her- her response will inspire you. Follow Nina Westbrookhttps://www.instagram.com/ninawestbrookhttps://www.youtube.com/@TheRelationshipChronicleshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-chronicles-with-nina-westbrook/id1696624137Thanks to our sponsorsFactor Mealshttp://FACTORMEALS.com/lovers50 use code lovers50 to get 50% This video is sponsored by BetterHelpBetterHelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first monthAcornshttp://acorns.com/lovers to download Acorns to start saving and investing for your future today! Ritualhttp://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today.EXTRAS in this episode I reference Naval RavikantAnd used a clip from Esther Perel’s videos https://youtu.be/ejTBjX4Cu6Y?si=uy7tyOEeYAZnxs5QFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Here’s what men don't tell you about how to be a better intimate partner…How do you get your man to go from bland to blazing in bed? Why should men stop watching porn? How do you encourage your man to ask for what he wants in bed? Are you missing out on pleasure by not using breathwork? Alex Grendi is a certified men’s sex coach who specializes in performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction. He’s here to talk about the importance of asking for what you want in the bedroom AND the struggle (especially for men) of figuring out what that REALLY is. Some of you have mentioned that you like the longer solo interview episodes and that’s what this is. Follow Alex Grendi www.youtube.com/@alex.grendiwww.superiorlovers.comemail - [email protected] to our SponsorsLiquid IVhttp://LIQUIDIV.COM using the promo code LOVERS at checkout for a 20%Skimshttp://skims.comDipseahttp://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSGet an extended 30 day free trial Hello Freshhttp://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months!Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Kama Sutra, a renowned ancient Indian Sanskrit text, often perceived as a guide to sexual positions and techniques, is in fact a comprehensive guide to virtuous and gracious living. Written between 400 BCE and 200 CE by a sage named Vatsyayana, this text covers various aspects of life, including family, relationships, and personal conduct, amongst others. The Kama Sutra is a profound ancient text that offers wisdom not only on intimacy but on many facets of life. Its holistic approach to love and relationships makes it a rich resource for understanding ancient Indian society's perspectives on love, life, and morality. By exploring it in depth, you may find a plethora of wisdom that goes beyond the bedroom and offers insights into a virtuous and gracious life.On this episode we have Seema Anand guides us through what we missed while looking at the pictures of sex positions in the kama Sutra. Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skilfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.Follow Seemahttps://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=enhttps://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytellingThanks to our SponsorsThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/loversGet a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month. Babbelhttp://Babbel.com/loversGet 55% off your Babbel subscriptionZocdochttp://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week I needed some breathing room so I brought in my ventilator aka husband Jared Brady.Listen to Pick a Side https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4sasTfLuqSzV6hxtYKWSPu?si=12a9d1fbf6434ebeThanks to Our SponsorHello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does it take to get you in the mood? Maybe like some it’s strawberries and silk. Or maybe like many others, it’s a little more … nuanced than that. Jonathan Singletary and my husband Jared Brady teamed up to make a sexy song devoted to the women who do a lot and consequently, need a little more to get…there. When it comes to being horny aka getting in the mood, this conversation is often about what you can do to get there, but in this episode we go into what has to first be done, OR in some cases undone for it to become feasible for all parties. Getting horny seems simple when we look at it through a Super Bad lens, but when we insert real people with real lives we can appreciate this complex process that relies on an interplay of neurological, hormonal, emotional, and physiological cooperation.Thanks to Our SponsorsRitualhttp://Ritual.com/LOVERSRitual is offering my listeners 20% off during your first monthFabFitFunhttp://FabFitFun.com/LOVERSSign up at, customize your box, and get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few. Dipseahttp://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSDipsea is offering an extended 30 day FREE trial MOOD: https://linktr.ee/jsingletaryFollow our guestsJonathan Singletaryhttps://www.instagram.com/jonathansingletaryhttps://linktr.ee/jsingletaryElaine Welterothhttps://www.instagram.com/elainewelterothhttps://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2023/02/14/ask-elaine-husband-new-mom-less-attracted/Jared Bradyhttp://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Finding the one is a life quest, one that many people never complete.Some people don’t pick anyone, some people pick the wrong one, and some give up hope looking for the one and start considering the two, three, four or five…There’s no shame in this, especially when you both acknowledge this choice not to settle, but to secure the future you want by selecting a partner who may not tick all of your boxes, but you know that in time and when you’re both ready to make a mutual commitment - you just might be able make it work with them. This acknowledgement that I’m talking about often comes in the form of a marriage pact. A marriage pact is an agreement made by two people that states that if we are both still single by a certain due date, we will marry each other. People make these pacts for a number of reasons: fear of commitment or because the connection is right, but the timing isn’t. However in most cases, it’s an all-else fails backup plan. But, what happens when that fails to? Or perhaps even scarier - when the plan actually succeeds? Now what? That is what we are exploring on this episode of Lovers and Friends with the cast of The Marriage Pact streaming now on The Roku Channel.You can stream #TheMarriagePact FREE on a Roku, the Roku mobile app and http://therokuchannel.com. It’s also available on Samsung Smart TVs and Amazon Fire Sticks.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode SKIMSCheckout the Cotton Collection and more at http://SKIMS.com they offer free shipping on orders over seventy-five bucks!Hello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for an amazing 50% off plus free shipping!Liquid IVGet 20% off when you go to http://LIQUIDIV.com and use code LOVERS at checkoutBetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you marry the person that you have the best sex with?Ashley Cobb opens up about being the best every man has ever had and also struggling to find a man who’s capable of having her. Plus the men previously known as Enjoy the Podcast link up to share their insights on the Madonna Whore complex.So, this complex describes a psychological phenomenon in which a man's perception of women is divided into two distinct categories: the Madonna and the whore. The Madonna is perfect, pure, and really caring. She's the nurturing type and has qualities like innocence and morality. This side of the complex is associated with safety, comfort, and connection. The whore, on the other hand, is associated with sexual desire, sensuality, and eroticism. This side of the complex involves fantasies or desires for more adventurous or taboo experiences and whores are seen as mysterious and unpredictable. If men have this complex and subscribe to its ideologies that a woman is either pure innocence or pure erroticism, it makes it tough for him to see one woman as both a sexual partner and someone he could have a real, serious relationship with.Watch full videos of Lovers and Friends podcasthttps://www.youtube.com/@loversandfriendspodcastThanks to the sponsors of this episodeHoneyLoveGet 20% Off your entire order (including the best bra you’ll own) with our exclusive link http://honeylove.com/LOVERS.BabbelReady to learn another language? Get up to 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERSRules and restrictions may applyFabFitFunSign up at http://FabFitFun.com/LOVERS to get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few. BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthFollow our guest Ashley Cobbhttps://www.instagram.com/sexwithashley/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Would you consider yourself a freak? Being freaky means you are open and willing to experiment and experience a variety of sexual activities. That's what we are getting into this episode. Where do you scale on the levels of freaky?I’m joined by Andrea Lewis whom you may recognize from Degrassi or if you are a 90s baby then you may remember her for role in Cadet Kelly on the Disney Channel. Andrea’s latest starring role is “Three Ways” which you can watch now on Hulu. I am also joined by Tyomi, a sexologist and sex therapist with over 12 years of experience. She specializes in unlocking pleasure for clients and has over 140 million views on her youtube channel and she’s here to tell us about her definition of a freak.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Hello Fresh!Try out America’s #1 meal kit for yourself! Get 50% off plus free shipping!https://www.hellofresh.com/50loversZocdocDownload the app for free and find yourself a top-rated doctor!https://www.zocdoc.com/loversFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] Andrea: https://www.instagram.com/andrealewishttps://www.instagram.com/blackbeautyeffect/Watch Three Ways on Hulu: https://www.hulu.com/movie/three-ways-7afd18f4-5b2c-4097-b532-bd956aa21bd4Follow Tyomi: https://www.instagram.com/realglamazontyomi/https://www.youtube.com/glamerotica101See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if I told you that the biggest turn off for partners can be your own self deprecating comments? The times you’ve said “oh no I haven’t shaved” Have you ever wondered how your insecurities can affect your relationships? Self deprecating comments and insecurities play a vital role in how we interact with others, especially when it comes to intimacy. Remember that one time you excused yourself with your partner because you hadn’t shaved? Chances are you pointed out the elephant in the room that was only existent to you. In this week’s episode, I am joined by Jessie Paege, a YouTube personality, actress, author, and entrepreneur. Through her comedic and relatable content, she has built an audience of over 2 million followers across her social channels. Jessie uses her platform to crush stereotypes and raise awareness of mental health issues and LGBTQ+ issues. Her debut book is called, Hey, It's Okay to Be You, which fits perfectly with our conversation about how insecurities play a role in our relationships. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code LOVERS at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod #adRitual:There’s no more shame in your gut game. Get 20% off your first month. Visit: https://www.ritual.com/loversFactor:Try Factor meals and get 50%off by visiting: https://www.factormeals.com/lovers50Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] Jessie: https://www.youtube.com/@jessiepaegehttps://www.instagram.com/jessiepaege/https://www.tiktok.com/@jessiepaegeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.