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In this week’s episode, I sit down with the legendary Cree Summer to talk about her journey through love, loss, and rediscovery in her 50s. Cree opens up about losing her sex drive during her marriage due to a lack of emotional shelter and the importance of finding a partner who provides safety and calm during life’s storms. We also dive into how her sex drive has improved post-menopause and what she’s looking forward to as she explores love again in her senior years. Whether you’re navigating relationships, rethinking intimacy, or seeking inspiration for your own journey, this conversation is a must-listen.Episode Highlights: Cree’s reflections on her marriage and why emotional shelter is non-negotiable in a relationship How menopause transformed her sex drive and perspective on intimacy The importance of finding a partner who provides safety and positivity Cree’s hopes and expectations for love in her golden years Lessons on emotional security, provision, and rediscovering self-worth The importance of women making the first move and asking men out Thank You Cree Summerinstagram.com/iamcreesummerx.com/iamcreesummerhttps://www.adultswim.com/videos/oh-my-god-yes-a-series-of-extremely-relatable-circumstancesJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityIf you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need to hear Cree’s powerful story. For more conversations like this, visit LoversByShan.com and join our community for exclusive content, workshops, and more!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is a rare solo episode with just Shan behind the mic—no guests, no distractions. Just her, answering some of your most pressing, unfiltered questions. From personal reflections to deeper dives on topics you’ve been dying to hear her take on, this one’s intimate, insightful, and straight from the heartJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you ready to dive deep into the complexities of love, faith, and identity? In this thought-provoking episode, Shan Boodram sits down with B. Simone to discuss the transformative journey of embracing chastity, understanding soul ties, and exploring the nuances of identity and connection.While B. Simone does not identify as demisexual, Shan suggests the possibility during their candid conversation, sparking an insightful dialogue about emotional intimacy and sexual attraction. This episode unpacks key topics like:✨ What You’ll Learn: Demisexuality: A sexual orientation where someone experiences sexual attraction only after forming a strong emotional bond. Soul Ties: A deep, often spiritual connection that binds two people, sometimes through shared experiences or intimacy. Chastity: A lifestyle or mindset of aligning one’s sexual behavior and thoughts with personal, moral, or spiritual values, which may or may not involve abstinence. Together, Shan and B. Simone explore how devotion to faith, self-love, and personal growth can shape intimate relationships and redefine what it means to truly connect with others.Whether you’re curious about demisexuality, seeking clarity on soul ties, or inspired by the intersection of spirituality and sexuality, this episode is packed with insights that will leave you reflecting on your own path to sacred love.🎧 Tune in now, and don’t forget to subscribe for more episodes on love, relationships, and self-discovery!Thank You B. Simonehttps://www.instagram.com/thebsimoneLet’s Try This Again: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz67j2koC3urUkQirbvueCAhttps://www.officialbsimone.com/Join My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityThanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shan See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Does a change in your intimate needs have to mean a change of heart? In this episode of Lovers Shan Boodram sits down with Karamo Brown, TV personality (Karama and Queer Eye), author, and culture expert, for a raw and revealing conversation about intimacy and growth. Karamo opens up about how his intimate needs evolved through his 20s, 30s, and 40s—both emotionally and in the bedroom. He shares how these changes led to the end of a past relationship, where his partner couldn’t accept his evolving needs without taking it personally.Now, in a thriving new relationship, Karamo reveals how he’s learned to bring his partner along as he navigates these changes, fostering a deeper connection and understanding. This episode is packed with wisdom on embracing growth, improving communication, and honoring your needs without guilt.Karamo Brown, Lovers and Friends Podcast, Lovers by Shan, Shan Boodram, intimacy in relationships, emotional intimacy, evolving needs in relationships, intimacy advice, relationship communication, breakups and growth, thriving relationships, intimacy in 20s 30s 40s, LGBTQ relationships, personal growth, gay relationship advice, sex and relationshipsThank You Karamo Brownhttps://www.instagram.com/karamoLearn About His TV Show: https://karamoshow.com/Get His New Children’s Book: https://zandoprojects.com/books/i-am-okay-to-feel/Thanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shanJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are You Loyal to Your Gender or Your Relationship? Shan Boodram sits down with Khadeen and Devale Ellis, the dynamic married duo known for their raw honesty, humor, and insights on love and relationships. Together, they share how they saved their marriage by breaking free from traditional gender roles and prioritizing their partnership above all else.Khadeen and Devale Ellis are actors, content creators, and authors of the best-selling book We Over Me: The Counterintuitive Approach to Getting Everything You Want From Your Relationship. Known for their hit podcast Dead Ass and their viral YouTube channel chronicling their family life, the Ellises have inspired millions with their relatable and unfiltered take on marriage, parenting, and personal growth. In this episode the couple talks about the controversy over Devale’s vasectomy, being called a simp, making a plate for your husband, and putting your career on pause so the family can win. Thank You Khadeen and Devalehttps://www.instagram.com/khadeeniam/https://www.instagram.com/iamdevale/Read or listen to their book: https://www.amazon.com/We-Over-Counterintuitive-Everything-Relationship/dp/0593577604Thanks Arya for sponsoring this episode:Arya is a service for couples that helps them break their sexual routine with the help of an intimacy concierge that serves up curated sexy scenes monthly to sign up or learn more go tohttp://arya.fyi/shanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jessie Reyez joins the podcast to celebrate her new album, Paid in Memories and to dive into the complexities of boundaries and self-respect. Together, we unpack what it means to be labeled a "villain" (by both yourself and others) for setting boundaries and standing firm in your self-worth. Jessie shares her personal journey of choosing to stay single rather than settling for less in love, reflecting on the regret of taking too much accountability in her past relationship, and embracing her love language—having her alone time respected.We also talk about her upcoming album, Paid in Memories, which promises to be a raw and powerful exploration of love, loss, and acceptance. Don’t miss this candid and inspiring conversation that’s all about choosing yourself, even when it’s hard because self-respect is never up for negotiation.Thank You Bumble This episode of Lovers and Friends is presented by Bumble, where dating your way is always the right way. There’s a world where you can find love that works for you. So date now, on Bumble.Thank You Jessie Reyezhttps://www.instagram.com/jessiereyez/Listen to Jessie’s latest musicJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist:https://www.loversbyshan.com/community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Deepica Mutyala, founder of Live Tinted and a trailblazing entrepreneur, for an honest and empowering conversation about being single, thriving in your 30s, and preparing for the love and family you deserve. Deepica shares her journey of building a successful career while staying true to her dreams of finding the right partner and creating a family. Together, Shan and Deepica discuss the challenges of dating when you’re successful, the importance of not settling, and how to embrace being single as a time to grow, reflect, and prepare for the life you truly want. Whether you’re navigating the dating world, focusing on self-growth, or manifesting your dream relationship, this episode will leave you inspired and ready to take on love and life with intention.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you Deepicahttps://www.instagram.com/deepicaGet Live Tintedhttps://www.livetinted.com/Join My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lena Waithe on Cuddling Over ClimaxingIn this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Emmy-winning writer, producer, and actress Lena Waithe (Queen & Slim, Master of None, The Chi) for an eye-opening conversation about intimacy, love, and meaningful connections. Lena shares why you should never have sex with someone unless you can imagine a positive aftermath for both of you. She dives into how cuddling can create a deeper emotional bond than sex, especially when the future of a relationship feels uncertain. Lena also opens up about the power of plutonic relationships, revealing why some of her most impactful connections today are non-romantic. With all of the rumors about her love life, Lena sets the record straight and shares what truly matters to her in building authentic connections. This episode will challenge your views on love, intimacy, and boundaries in ways you won’t want to miss!Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you Lenahttps://www.instagram.com/lenawaithe/Legacy Talk Podcasthttps://lemonada.lnk.to/LegacyTalkWithLenaWaithehs?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaZR0rgZOhMXnR_1HkQjiKfKa5_UUPHcXYlKFCmzjhKgXdje2qDlp8lbhmg_aem_wULmegwSQB8ct8zEmMkQfgJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What kind of relationship with sex do we want young people to have? In this episode myself and Tika Sumpter, known for her multifaceted career as an actor and creator, explore this question as parents and as people reparenting themselves. In this episode Tika shares her compelling personal story that shaped her approach to intimacy and education. Growing up in a Christian household, discussions about sex were often avoided or framed solely around negative consequences. This instilled fear and confusion about her own sexuality during her teenage years. In her twenties, Tika found herself navigating relationships without a clear understanding of her body or pleasure, often pretending to have a sexual IQ she hadn't yet developed. Therapy became a turning point, helping her reconnect with herself and embrace her sexual identity.Now, as a mother, Tika is determined to break this cycle for her daughter. On this episode, she opens up about her journey and shares how she is redefining sex and intimacy education in her household. Her goal is to raise her daughter to be a sexually and relationally competent individual, equipped with the tools and knowledge Tika wishes she had earlier in life.Tika is best known for her work on screen but did you know she also makes children’s content? She is the creator of The Adventures of Curious Cove, a podcast anchored by the beloved series Ella the Curious. This project reflects her passion for storytelling and education, making complex topics accessible and engaging for young audiences.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you TikaPreorder Tika's upcoming book!https://tinyurl.com/I-Got-It-From-My-Mama-Bookhttps://www.instagram.com/tikasumpterhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/adventures-of-curiosity-cove/id1760587303Age by Age Sexual Development GuideAs per Tika’s request…loversbyshan.com/quizzesJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this deeply personal episode presented by Bumble, singer Mario opens up about the profound impact of unresolved trauma stemming from his relationship with his mother. He shares how this pain shaped his early behavior towards women, leading to manipulation and broken connections. Mario takes us on his journey of self-reflection, healing, and ultimately embracing his inner feminine energy—a process that not only reshaped his relationships but also elevated his personal growth and artistry.As Mario gets real about accountability, self-love, and the power of healing, he also introduces us to his latest album, "Glad You Came"—a soulful and vulnerable collection of music inspired by his life experiences and growth. Tune in for an honest, thought-provoking conversation that dives into the intersections of trauma, love, and creativity.Don't miss this inspiring episode and be sure to check out Mario's new album, "Glad You Came," now streaming on all platforms!Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.Thank you MarioInstagram.com/marioworldwide Glad You Came, streaming everywhere you listen to musicThank you AryaA couples subscription service that helps you spice it up with the help of an intimacy concierge, an app and products delivered to your doorhttps://www.arya.fyi/shanMy class on MasterClassIf you’d like tangible tips for improving your relationship with sex AND your sex appeal. I HIGHLY recommend checking out my class on MasterClass the Art of Sex Appealmasterclass.com/shanJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Beyond Pleasure: Three Keys to Truly Fulfilling SexSex is at the intersection of life and humanity. For the majority of us, it’s how we got here and for parents, it’s how we will continue on after we are gone. We often hear the term “better” sex, which begs two questions: what does that mean? And, why is the sex we are currently having not good enough?In this episode we will define the goal of sex - regardless of the stage of the relationship and we will also discuss what prevents us from having sex that lives up to our desired potential. I’m going to take you on a journey as we explore the three sexual freedoms. Starting with discussing the power of freedom to, which I think describes the stage that myself and my husband/ the creative director of this podcast, Jared Brady are in. Then freedom from, which I discuss with my friends Yancy and Premika Leo. Finally we will talk about the Freedom not to, which I explore with my Lovers Community.Thank you BumbleThis episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.My class on MasterClassIf you’d like tangible tips for improving your relationship with sex AND your sex appeal. I HIGHLY recommend checking out my class on MasterClass the Art of Sex Appealmasterclass.com/shanBetter Sex QuizIf you want to know which freedom you should focus on in order to improve your sex life today, try this quizhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/bettersexCommitment Structure QuizIf Shan and Jared’s conversation around open relationships intrigued you, take this quiz to identify your commitment structurehttps://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/commitmentJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlisthttps://www.loversbyshan.com/communitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kerry Washington, you read right. Award-winning actor, director, producer, and activist Kerry Washington. In support of the second season of her hit show UnPrisoned on Hulu Onyx Collective, Kerry stopped by Lovers and Friends to discuss what she learned from Paige, how learning that her biological father was a sperm donor changed her family for the better, therapy with her parents and husband, how real parents should get with their kids, her parenting philosophy and more. If you loved Kerry Washington in any of her classics, like Scandal or Django Unchained OR if you read her book Thicker Than Water, you will LOVE UnPrisoned and furthermore, this raw interview on the power and potential that comes when you heal the family by not being afraid to hurt or disappoint one another. Of course I couldn’t have Kerry Washington stop by and NOT talk about sex, reproductive rights and pole dancing - so expect that too :). ALSO relationship expert and UnPrisoned creator Tracy McMillan stops by to discuss the power of intuition.Watch the trailer to UnPrisonedhttps://youtu.be/HIn14DY9eFA?si=2VxtEkm6V6_UT3kxWatch UnPrisonedhttps://www.hulu.com/series/unprisoned-5b48cecb-15b5-4e06-b475-f2ac5a64bd24Follow Kerry Washington https://www.instagram.com/kerrywashington/?hl=enWatch her YouTube Show Street You Grew Up Onhttps://youtu.be/Omh270yZLbU?si=Fof717hAfW9Fz8iARead her Memoir Thicker than Waterhttps://www.amazon.com/Thicker-than-Water-Kerry-Washington/dp/0316497398Follow Tracy McMillanhttps://www.instagram.com/tracymcmillan/Thanks to Our Sponsors Hulu Onyx CollectiveFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kelly Rowland, you read right. This is a CAN NOT MISS, special release Lovers and Friends episode with Shan Boodram AND it is best experienced after you watch Mea Culpa now streaming worldwide on Netflix. In this intimate, first-of-its-kind conversation Kelly Rowland shares how she went from a sexually repressed upbringing to living up to her pleasure potential as a sensualist, plus how her sexual awakening gave her the confidence to play Mea in Mea Clupa alongside Trevante Rhodes, whom she shares very STEAMY sex scenes with on screen. Kelly also discusses her feelings on divorce, kink, toys in the bedroom, and overcoming the fear of being imperfect.Watch the trailer to Mea Culpahttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0g9YfjJSAFollow Kelly https://www.instagram.com/kellyrowland/https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0g9YfjJSAThanks to Our Sponsors DAMEHead to http://dame.com at dame.com and if you’d like to pick something up, my code SHANLOVERS gets you 15% off at checkoutARYA Head to http://arya.fyi to learn how they’re helping couples break their sexual routine and if you’re interested in trying it code SHAN15 gets you 15% off nowFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to (some of) the best of Lovers and Friends the podcast. Hear from JESSIE REYES, MELISSA AND KEV OnSTAGE, ABBY DE LA ROSA, SHANOLA HAMPTON, TIM Chantrangsu aka DE LA GHETTO, DREW LOVE from THEY, RACHEL LINDSAY and GLO ATANMO during this special recap episode.THANKS TO OUR SPONSORONSEKINGo to http://oneskin.co and 15% off with code LOVERS15GLO ATANMOhttps://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZU?si=GtWZkCBspPlmUA8fhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/1W4xrpdCh0V3OwXZCYt1bO?si=mJNj1rxcQ7a333AUmgsqMAJESSIE REYEShttps://youtu.be/7IbgI3-s7Ps?si=j0CL3b8gYqsNbqFehttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2w3jYgkVIgg2eQoYWuALhp?si=8q3ptyfKQbWn9FrrY3bZTAMELISSA AND KEVhttps://youtu.be/hrMVcujhg1A?si=idb7xnDq8TX1aBh_https://open.spotify.com/episode/4NjXUyZ5suDL3ytxUALFV8?si=gg3B7zvfQnm5nS9XUpkyZAABBY DE LA ROSAhttps://youtu.be/aq8290G52_I?si=oaI5d_ALvuj82z9Vhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/5AM2X8zNwmgV3koVtgemPC?si=pzqGDEw3QMCe8Awx9eFK7QSHANOLA HAMPTONhttps://youtu.be/J7PZakvvdCo?si=LDSbtyjNTKuNmZ1uhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2pHr7jrSj7iQTZlsbIUoYV?si=-pk8WovdSbqLLyrXDrRpRgTIM DE LA GHETTOhttps://youtu.be/G6WYaHFOjEU?si=uDvI7cap3yCs0srqhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/0VuY52Ct9XS9Wua4dtupO6?si=ZFMbJEQOQ56IuBADlxm8ogDREW LOVEhttps://youtu.be/bdooXjRGprY?si=AG3KL1r-wAfeb8Gmhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/39lGd7mxW9jvpGpOPYMKaj?si=ou8FILHeSGG7P21hCZwMogRACHEL LINDSAYhttps://youtu.be/bnEORZJD2pQ?si=LiHiZKFU1-_Cv8l6https://open.spotify.com/episode/1kN3P1KoHI3LcnLNRgzY76?si=faUIGN4ATUaLvewVQ3AjCQHELP WHY CAN’T I ORGASMhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2X8oEJMQ8JNSu6Psa53r7O?si=wJMEWu6vTmGpia1waTZ0SwSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

FUCK the fairytale! How does that land on you? Does it make you go FUCK YES we need to be realistic about love OR does it make you go FUCK NO I desire the fairytale and that’s what I’ll get. Well when dating coach Damona Hoffman suggests you F the Fairytale, she kinda wants you to feel both. Tired of the same old dating game and ready to find real, lasting love? Join us in this episode of FUCK the Fairytale as we explore what a true fairytale relationship looks like with expert dating coach Damona Hoffman. We’ll challenge outdated ideas of the ideal partner and redefine what happiness looks like in modern relationships. Don’t miss your chance to discover true love - watch now!FOLLOW DAMONA HOFFMANhttps://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/https://damonahoffman.com/ RitualVisit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. Ritual is offering Lovers and Friends 30% off during your first month. BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. HelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! Quince Go to http://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns!DamonaFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you ready to break free from outdated social norms and discover the real power of being true to yourself? Mal Wright from Netflix's The Ultimatum is here to share her story of why she chose to end her engagement, why gender has no place in sex, and the one thing her next partner must have. Don't miss this inspiring story and get ready to experience the liberating effects of embracing your true self! Follow Mal https://www.instagram.com/igobymal/https://malwright.komi.io/Thanks to Our SponsorsDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSSKIMSSKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.BABBELGet 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERSBetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. Follow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you curious why Vanessa and Xander, a happily married couple, chose not to have children? Find out by joining therapist Vanessa and her husband Xander as they share their personal story about why they chose to remain childfree. Tune in to learn more about their unconventional decision and how it has impacted their lives!Follow Vanessa and Xander Marinhttps://sextalksbook.com/https://vmtherapy.com/HelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! StoryWorthGo to http://StoryWorth.com/lovers and save $10 on your first purchase! Zoc DocGo to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Becoming a Pro: Master These Kama Sutra Sex Moves and Take Things to the Next Level. Spend some quality time with Seema Anand as she guides you through the Kama Sutra to discover the perfect positions for your pleasure even if the penis is too big, too small, or not experienced enough. From beginner-friendly poses to more advanced options, you'll learn something new no matter your level. So if you haven't found your go-to position yet, tune in now and explore with Seema!Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skillfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.Follow Seemahttps://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=enhttps://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytellingThanks to our SponsorsSKIMSSKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/loversGet a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month. UNCOMMON GOODShttp://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/Lovers, for 15% off your first gift OneSkinGet 15% off with the code Lovers15 at http://oneskin.co. Follow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodramTiktok.com/shanboody See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, we're joined by renowned guests from the popular podcast "Tonight's Conversation Podcast" – Ace Metaphor, Kita Rose, and Just Mike The Poet. This podcast is renowned for bringing together social media personalities, relationship experts, and therapists to explore themes related to love, dating, and relationships. Our discussion today centers on the dynamics of relationships, specifically focusing on the contrasting preferences of men and women in intimate settings. Additionally, we'll delve into a provocative topic: the impact of masturbation on one's sexual desire towards their partner.FOLLOW Tonight's Conversationhttps://www.instagram.com/tonightsconversation/https://linktr.ee/tonightsconversationcardsACE: https://www.instagram.com/acemetaphor/KITA: https://www.instagram.com/kitarose_/?hl=enMIKE: https://tonightsconversation.vhx.tv/videos/tc-date-night-s1-e8Thanks to our sponsorsDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSRitualRitual is offering my listeners 30% off during your first month. Visit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription todayLumeAs a special offer for listeners of Lovers and Friends, new customers get $5 off Lume’s Starter Pack with our exclusive code and link. And for a limited time, returning customers can get $5 off their next purchase of $30 or more, too! Use code LOVERS at http://LumeDeodorant.comHelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! That means one breakfast item per box while your subscription is active. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode is where raw opinions and humor collide! In this series, I sit down with James and Fuhad, the dynamic duo behind the top 5 Spotify podcast, ShxtsNGigs. Known for their unapologetically honest and often hilarious takes, these best friends have become a sensation among Gen Z audiences in the UK. Today we talk about what makes them different in a world of podcast about Sex/Relationships. Follow ShxtsNGigs : https://www.instagram.com/shxtsngigs/Follow ShxtNGigs: https://www.youtube.com/@ShtsNGigsPodcastFollow James Duncan : https://www.instagram.com/jamesduncan/Follow Fuhad : https://www.instagram.com/fuhad_/Babbel Http://Babbel.com/LOVERS to Get 55% off at Babbel. Rules and restrictions may applySkimsHoliday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars.OneSkinget 15% off OneSkin with our code LOVERS15 at http://oneskin.cothis show is sponsored by BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthFollow Shan@shanboodram - IG@shanboody - Tik Tok@loversandfriends - YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you young and attracted to mature men? Many younger women are dating older men, but is it really worth it? Anna Akana was in her twenties when she had a public relationship with Ray Williams Johnson, and she's here to tell us why it was a huge mistake. Hear her story plus the joys of dating older men today. Learn why Anna thinks women younger than 25 should be warned about the possible repercussions before taking the plunge. Plus, find out why she's so happy now that she's dating a man in his sixties, another in his fifties, and even one woman in her forties! Dive into this episode now if you're interested in learning more about what it's like to date an older partner.Follow Anna Akana https://www.instagram.com/annaakanahttps://www.youtube.com/annaakanahttps://www.squadup.com/events/it-gets-darker-anna-akana-friends-1Thanks to our sponsorsFirst LeafGo to http://TryFirstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95. UNCOMMON GOODSTo get 15% off your next gift, go to http://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERSHelloFreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! ZocdocGo to http://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shan@shanboodram - IG@shanboody - Tik Tok@loversandfriends - YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you want to understand hormones better? Dr. Jolene Brighten is here to demystify the power of hormones and how they can affect fertility, sex drive, ADHD, how long it takes to orgasm, and period pain. Tune in as she explains what hormones are, their function and role in our bodies, plus how they can be managed for improved health and wellness. Learn from the experts! Don't miss out on this insightful educational experience with Dr. Jolene Brighten.Thanks to our sponsorsOne Skinhttp://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS15 at checkout for 15% offDipseaDipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSQuincehttp://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.UNCOMMON GOODShttp://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERS for 15% offThanks to Our Guesthttps://drbrighten.com/https://www.instagram.com/drjolenebrightenFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodramhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you struggling to understand what real self love looks like? Do you find yourself getting hurt or blinded by pain and not being able to move forward? In this special video, Shan Boodram will answer your questions on how to heal from hurt and cultivate a deeper sense of self love. Get ready for some never before heard revelations with some timeless gems - it’s time to discover the key to unlocking true peace and freedom. Tune in now and learn how real self love can free you from pain and hurt by embracing the nature of those very things.Thanks to the sponsors of this episodeBetterHelp is sponsoring this episodeVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthRitualhttp://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 30% off your first monthSkimsGo to http://SKIMS.com and get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollarsFactorHead to http://FACTOR MEALS.com/lovers50 and use code lovers50 to get 50% offFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Get an in-depth and candid look into the fascinating 40-year marriage of my parents, and see how their dynamic can shed light on the relationship of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith. I'm interviewing my parents to ask the questions we all want answered when it comes to a long-term relationship going through myriad ups and downs inclduing breakups, dating others, and going through social shame for staying through it all. Why is it still worth fighting for? Jada Pinkett Smith talks about this question in her new memoir, Worthy.Thanks to my parents for being apart of this episode follow my momhttps://www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholiviahttps://www.youtube.com/c/YourTravelWithOliviaThanks to the sponsors of this episodeHelloFreshhttp://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shipping!One Skinhttp://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS15 at checkout for 15% offFirst LeafTry http://Firstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95 Books I suggested in this episodehttps://www.amazon.com/shop/shanboody/list/3IM9P9FGJOL9J?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsflist_aipsfshanboody_TFZ9F6EQ6YY0ZZYBYT2JFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you struggling with the fear of commitment? Feeling like there’s something wrong with you because all of your relationships have ended shortly after the honeymoon phase? You're not alone! Join Brenden Durell as he talks about his own experiences with the fear of commitment and how he learned to address it. In this video, Brenden will be opening up about why he never stayed past the honeymoon phase and how to combat the fear of commitment. It's time to give love another chance!Thanks to the Sponsors of this EpisodeJenni Kaynehttp://jennikayne.com use the code LOVERS at checkout to get 15% offThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first monthDipsea Stories http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS for 30 days of full access for free Babbelhttp://babbel.com/lovers to Get 55% off Rules and restrictions may apply.Follow Brenden https://www.instagram.com/brendendurell/?hl=enhttps://mylinks.brendendurell.com/Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do we fix our desire for relationships with people that will inevitably become broken. And how do we stop ourselves from aligning healthy with boring? That’s what we’re talking about on this episode of Lovers and Friends. Attraction, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is a complex process. It can be influenced by numerous factors, from biology to personal history. If someone finds themselves repeatedly attracted to individuals with certain undesirable characteristics (like the makeup of a fuckboy: charismatic but not reliable, fun to be around but not fun to be apart from because communication is not stable or when out of sight they’re unpredictable, they make big plans but don’t consistently make the small actions to move towards that goal especially when it comes to you, etc…), understanding the underlying causes and taking conscious steps to modify patterns of attraction can be beneficial. Here's a scientific, step-by-step approach:Self-awareness and reflection Next, Examine past patternsUnderstand the biologyCognitive-behavioral techniques Increase self-worthExpand your social circleEducate yourselfAvoid idealizationpractice mindfulnessFollow Leah Lamarrhttps://www.instagram.com/leahlamarrhttps://sociatap.com/leahlamarr/ Show Love to Our SponsorsZoc DocGo to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEHello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shippingSkimsTry The Cotton collection and more are available now at http://SKIMS.com Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars! Extras in this episode The Art of Manipulation: Influence Human Behavior, Understand the Psychology of Manipulation, Effectively Manage People, and Get What You (Really) Want! Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever been told that relationships require hard work? Well, it's time for a reality check with therapist Nina Westbrook who is married to NBA All Star Russel Westbrook! Nina shares their experiences and insights on relationships and even addresses people who say that Russel could do better than her- her response will inspire you. Follow Nina Westbrookhttps://www.instagram.com/ninawestbrookhttps://www.youtube.com/@TheRelationshipChronicleshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-chronicles-with-nina-westbrook/id1696624137Thanks to our sponsorsFactor Mealshttp://FACTORMEALS.com/lovers50 use code lovers50 to get 50% This video is sponsored by BetterHelpBetterHelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first monthAcornshttp://acorns.com/lovers to download Acorns to start saving and investing for your future today! Ritualhttp://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today.EXTRAS in this episode I reference Naval RavikantAnd used a clip from Esther Perel’s videos https://youtu.be/ejTBjX4Cu6Y?si=uy7tyOEeYAZnxs5QFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Here’s what men don't tell you about how to be a better intimate partner…How do you get your man to go from bland to blazing in bed? Why should men stop watching porn? How do you encourage your man to ask for what he wants in bed? Are you missing out on pleasure by not using breathwork? Alex Grendi is a certified men’s sex coach who specializes in performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction. He’s here to talk about the importance of asking for what you want in the bedroom AND the struggle (especially for men) of figuring out what that REALLY is. Some of you have mentioned that you like the longer solo interview episodes and that’s what this is. Follow Alex Grendi www.youtube.com/@alex.grendiwww.superiorlovers.comemail - [email protected] to our SponsorsLiquid IVhttp://LIQUIDIV.COM using the promo code LOVERS at checkout for a 20%Skimshttp://skims.comDipseahttp://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSGet an extended 30 day free trial Hello Freshhttp://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months!Follow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Kama Sutra, a renowned ancient Indian Sanskrit text, often perceived as a guide to sexual positions and techniques, is in fact a comprehensive guide to virtuous and gracious living. Written between 400 BCE and 200 CE by a sage named Vatsyayana, this text covers various aspects of life, including family, relationships, and personal conduct, amongst others. The Kama Sutra is a profound ancient text that offers wisdom not only on intimacy but on many facets of life. Its holistic approach to love and relationships makes it a rich resource for understanding ancient Indian society's perspectives on love, life, and morality. By exploring it in depth, you may find a plethora of wisdom that goes beyond the bedroom and offers insights into a virtuous and gracious life.On this episode we have Seema Anand guides us through what we missed while looking at the pictures of sex positions in the kama Sutra. Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skilfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.Follow Seemahttps://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=enhttps://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytellingThanks to our SponsorsThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/loversGet a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month. Babbelhttp://Babbel.com/loversGet 55% off your Babbel subscriptionZocdochttp://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREEFollow Shanhttp://instagram.com/shanboodram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week I needed some breathing room so I brought in my ventilator aka husband Jared Brady.Listen to Pick a Side https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4sasTfLuqSzV6hxtYKWSPu?si=12a9d1fbf6434ebeThanks to Our SponsorHello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does it take to get you in the mood? Maybe like some it’s strawberries and silk. Or maybe like many others, it’s a little more … nuanced than that. Jonathan Singletary and my husband Jared Brady teamed up to make a sexy song devoted to the women who do a lot and consequently, need a little more to get…there. When it comes to being horny aka getting in the mood, this conversation is often about what you can do to get there, but in this episode we go into what has to first be done, OR in some cases undone for it to become feasible for all parties. Getting horny seems simple when we look at it through a Super Bad lens, but when we insert real people with real lives we can appreciate this complex process that relies on an interplay of neurological, hormonal, emotional, and physiological cooperation.Thanks to Our SponsorsRitualhttp://Ritual.com/LOVERSRitual is offering my listeners 20% off during your first monthFabFitFunhttp://FabFitFun.com/LOVERSSign up at, customize your box, and get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few. Dipseahttp://DipseaStories.com/LOVERSDipsea is offering an extended 30 day FREE trial MOOD: https://linktr.ee/jsingletaryFollow our guestsJonathan Singletaryhttps://www.instagram.com/jonathansingletaryhttps://linktr.ee/jsingletaryElaine Welterothhttps://www.instagram.com/elainewelterothhttps://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2023/02/14/ask-elaine-husband-new-mom-less-attracted/Jared Bradyhttp://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyFollow Shan:http://instagram.com/shanboodyhttp://tiktok.com/shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Finding the one is a life quest, one that many people never complete.Some people don’t pick anyone, some people pick the wrong one, and some give up hope looking for the one and start considering the two, three, four or five…There’s no shame in this, especially when you both acknowledge this choice not to settle, but to secure the future you want by selecting a partner who may not tick all of your boxes, but you know that in time and when you’re both ready to make a mutual commitment - you just might be able make it work with them. This acknowledgement that I’m talking about often comes in the form of a marriage pact. A marriage pact is an agreement made by two people that states that if we are both still single by a certain due date, we will marry each other. People make these pacts for a number of reasons: fear of commitment or because the connection is right, but the timing isn’t. However in most cases, it’s an all-else fails backup plan. But, what happens when that fails to? Or perhaps even scarier - when the plan actually succeeds? Now what? That is what we are exploring on this episode of Lovers and Friends with the cast of The Marriage Pact streaming now on The Roku Channel.You can stream #TheMarriagePact FREE on a Roku, the Roku mobile app and http://therokuchannel.com. It’s also available on Samsung Smart TVs and Amazon Fire Sticks.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode SKIMSCheckout the Cotton Collection and more at http://SKIMS.com they offer free shipping on orders over seventy-five bucks!Hello FreshGo to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for an amazing 50% off plus free shipping!Liquid IVGet 20% off when you go to http://LIQUIDIV.com and use code LOVERS at checkoutBetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you marry the person that you have the best sex with?Ashley Cobb opens up about being the best every man has ever had and also struggling to find a man who’s capable of having her. Plus the men previously known as Enjoy the Podcast link up to share their insights on the Madonna Whore complex.So, this complex describes a psychological phenomenon in which a man's perception of women is divided into two distinct categories: the Madonna and the whore. The Madonna is perfect, pure, and really caring. She's the nurturing type and has qualities like innocence and morality. This side of the complex is associated with safety, comfort, and connection. The whore, on the other hand, is associated with sexual desire, sensuality, and eroticism. This side of the complex involves fantasies or desires for more adventurous or taboo experiences and whores are seen as mysterious and unpredictable. If men have this complex and subscribe to its ideologies that a woman is either pure innocence or pure erroticism, it makes it tough for him to see one woman as both a sexual partner and someone he could have a real, serious relationship with.Watch full videos of Lovers and Friends podcasthttps://www.youtube.com/@loversandfriendspodcastThanks to the sponsors of this episodeHoneyLoveGet 20% Off your entire order (including the best bra you’ll own) with our exclusive link http://honeylove.com/LOVERS.BabbelReady to learn another language? Get up to 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERSRules and restrictions may applyFabFitFunSign up at http://FabFitFun.com/LOVERS to get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few. BetterHelpVisit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first monthFollow our guest Ashley Cobbhttps://www.instagram.com/sexwithashley/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Would you consider yourself a freak? Being freaky means you are open and willing to experiment and experience a variety of sexual activities. That's what we are getting into this episode. Where do you scale on the levels of freaky?I’m joined by Andrea Lewis whom you may recognize from Degrassi or if you are a 90s baby then you may remember her for role in Cadet Kelly on the Disney Channel. Andrea’s latest starring role is “Three Ways” which you can watch now on Hulu. I am also joined by Tyomi, a sexologist and sex therapist with over 12 years of experience. She specializes in unlocking pleasure for clients and has over 140 million views on her youtube channel and she’s here to tell us about her definition of a freak.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Hello Fresh!Try out America’s #1 meal kit for yourself! Get 50% off plus free shipping!https://www.hellofresh.com/50loversZocdocDownload the app for free and find yourself a top-rated doctor!https://www.zocdoc.com/loversFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] Andrea: https://www.instagram.com/andrealewishttps://www.instagram.com/blackbeautyeffect/Watch Three Ways on Hulu: https://www.hulu.com/movie/three-ways-7afd18f4-5b2c-4097-b532-bd956aa21bd4Follow Tyomi: https://www.instagram.com/realglamazontyomi/https://www.youtube.com/glamerotica101See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if I told you that the biggest turn off for partners can be your own self deprecating comments? The times you’ve said “oh no I haven’t shaved” Have you ever wondered how your insecurities can affect your relationships? Self deprecating comments and insecurities play a vital role in how we interact with others, especially when it comes to intimacy. Remember that one time you excused yourself with your partner because you hadn’t shaved? Chances are you pointed out the elephant in the room that was only existent to you. In this week’s episode, I am joined by Jessie Paege, a YouTube personality, actress, author, and entrepreneur. Through her comedic and relatable content, she has built an audience of over 2 million followers across her social channels. Jessie uses her platform to crush stereotypes and raise awareness of mental health issues and LGBTQ+ issues. Her debut book is called, Hey, It's Okay to Be You, which fits perfectly with our conversation about how insecurities play a role in our relationships. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code LOVERS at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod #adRitual:There’s no more shame in your gut game. Get 20% off your first month. Visit: https://www.ritual.com/loversFactor:Try Factor meals and get 50%off by visiting: https://www.factormeals.com/lovers50Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] Jessie: https://www.youtube.com/@jessiepaegehttps://www.instagram.com/jessiepaege/https://www.tiktok.com/@jessiepaegeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sex that doesn’t lead to orgasm.. Sound familiar? What if I said that sex that doesn’t lead to the big O can actually be very fulfilling and a lot more common than you think?Sexual experiences can encompass a wide variety of activities, such as kissing, touching, oral sex, manual stimulation, and penetration, among others. The experience and enjoyment of sex can vary greatly from person to person, and not everyone will achieve orgasm during sexual encounters. Some individuals may not experience orgasm at all, while others may experience it infrequently or under certain circumstances.The important aspect to remember is that sex should always be consensual, safe, and respectful of all parties involved. Communication and understanding between partners are essential to ensure that both individuals are comfortable and satisfied with their sexual experiences, regardless of whether orgasm occurs.That is exactly what I am talking about with my guests this week, Drea and Lex whom you may know from Pour Minds. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Rizos CurlsGet 10% off your Rizos Curls order with promo code LOVERS at checkout https://bit.ly/3XOE8tZ)Liquid IVGet 20% off ANYTHING you order when you use promo code LOVERS http://LIQUID IV DOT COM.SkimsGet free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars - all at http://SKIMS.comBetter Help get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting http://BetterHelp.com/lovers Follow Pour MindsListen to the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/too-much-pressure-ft-dess-dior/id1438182646?i=1000580429867Watch the YouTube videos:https://www.youtube.com/@DreaAndLex/videosFollow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode felt like a poon and the peen throwback.. If you know, you know! In this episode I sat down with my friend Ricky Shucks and we answered some of your best sex questions. Am I ruining sex by overthinking? Is squirting actually pee? Are we monogamous if I am still engaging in threesomes? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Fab Fit FunIf you join FabFitFun as a NEW seasonal member right now you’ll also get 20% off your membership so your 1st box is only $47.99 - for up to a $300 value box each season.Join today:http://www.fabfitfun.com/loversZoc DocFind a top rated doctor for your needs today: http://www.zocdoc.com/loversHoney Love Treat yourself to the best shapewear and supportwear on the market plus save 20% off by visiting: http://www.honeylove.com/loversHello Fresh Try America’s # 1 meal kit for yourself: http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50 Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] Rickyhttps://www.instagram.com/rickyshucks/?hl=enhttps://www.goodiebrand.com/https://www.instagram.com/nochasergang/?hl=enSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hello lovers and friends. This week’s episode is a little different and it’s because I had a lot to say on some trending pop culture news. To start things off, Keke Palmer‘s partner Darius Jackson was trending for all the wrong reasons. In this episode we talk about the tweet seen across the globe. “It's the outfit tho.. you a mom.” Next, we break down if Jonah Hill was out of line with his boundaries. A year after his split with ex girlfriend, Sarah Brady, Brady alleges that Hill emotionally abused her and she had the receipts to back up her claim. SHe posted screenshots of their exchange to her Instagram story that prompted widespread internet discourse about boundaries and whether Hill misused “therapy speak.”Lastly, to catch you up on the Adam22 and the Lena the Plug “drama”, the OnlyFans creator did her first scene with a male performer other than her husband. Lena’s husband, No Jumper founder Adam “Adam 22” Grandmaison, has said he was fine and encouraging of the scene.Thanks to the sponsor of this episode Better Help!Try therapy yourself and get 10% off your first month by going to:https://www.betterhelp.com/loversFollow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected]:https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/leylamohammed/keke-palmer-shamed-boyfriend-darius-jackson-outfit-momhttps://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-moms/news/keke-palmer-feels-powerful-as-a-mom-amid-darius-jackson-drama/https://www.forbes.com/sites/conormurray/2023/07/10/what-to-know-about-jonah-hills-emotional-abuse-allegatiohttps://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/jonah-hill-texts-ex-sarah-brady-expose-therapy-speak-dangers-rcna93748https://www.hotnewhiphop.com/693883-lena-the-plug-adam22-simp-claims-responsehttps://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12283131/Adam22s-wife-says-theyve-sex-filmed-porn-scene-man.htmlSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

According to the PEW research center about 41% of people between the ages of 18 to 29 are single. For people aged 30 to 49 that number drops dramatically to 23% and then it raises back up a scotch to 28% for those between 50 to 64, before increasing again to 36% for the 65+ crowd. So what does this tell us? My interpretation? On one hand, it tells the story of millennials' decline in divorce rates and on the other the fact that it showcases our increase in being consciously single for a lot longer than previous generations and in some cases, for the long haul. So can you still enjoy dating even if none of the dates go anywhere? In this episode, I sit down with Qimmah Russo, an influencer, model and athlete and she shares her perspective on this. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Get 55% off your Babbel subscription- by going to: https://www.babbel.com/loversTry America’s #1 Meal Kit and get 50% off plus free shipping by going to:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50Try Ritual for yourself and get 20% off your first month by going to: https://ritual.com/loversFollow the guests on this episode:https://www.instagram.com/qimmahrussohttps://www.instagram.com/workoutsbyqimmah/Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

According to the Singles in America study 55% of people reported that they’ve had a friends with benefits, which is a relationship where two people agree to have a sexual relationship based on convenience and a social relationship without a romantic commitment.And of the people in the study who said they’d had a friend with benefits, about 40% them said that their casual connection eventually turned into a longterm love affair.So is that number along with the guests of this episode and my personal experience enough to convince you that frequent fucking first and figuring the rest out later is the way to go? In this episode, we are joined by Siffat Haider and Nish Samantray the founders of Arrae- a natural supplement company, who’s passion is to help people optimize their health and wellness. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. HoneyLove Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://www.honeylove.com/lovers #honeylovepodBetterHelp Find more balance with BetterHelp today and get 10% off your first month. Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/lovers Follow the guests on this episode: Follow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/siffhaiderNish: https://www.instagram.com/plentyofnish_Check out Arrae: https://www.arrae.comKrista: https://www.instagram.com/itskristaKrizia: https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In 2021, Harvard Health did a giant gratitude study and found that couple who show gratitude for their partner, and who express that gratitude regularly, are more satisfied with their relationship. University of California Berkeley's research team referred to gratitude as the quiet difference maker in relationship formation. The journal of social and personal relationships reported that individuals who feel appreciated by their partners have better-functioning relationships that are less likely to be impacted by ineffective arguing and even financial stress. All that to say, a little gratitude goes a long way. In this episode, I talk to Dante Jones, (one half of the duo THEY) all about gratitude. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Zocdochttps://www.zocdoc.com/loversHello Fresh:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16Blissy https://www.blissy.com/loversCaraway Homehttps://www.carawayhome.com/lovers Article sited:https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happierFollow Shanhttps://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] Dante https://www.instagram.com/tefromtheyhttps://www.unofficialthey.com/tourFollow Dr. Sophia Godkinhttps://www.thehappinessdoctor.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Emily Morse is the host of the hit podcast Sex with Emily. Emily has been dubbed “the Dr. Ruth of a new generation” and has helped millions of people navigate the world of sex and relationships. In her new book Smart Sex, she condenses all she’s learned as a doctor of human sexuality and offers a groundbreaking framework that will change the way you think about sex and pleasure. In her new book you’ll uncover. · A new sexual intelligence that will allow you to connect deeply with your body, your desires, and the psychological and physical blocks that are keeping you from experiencing the pleasure that is your birthright.· Communication hacks to talk to your partner about topics ranging from oral sex to open relationships and everything in between.· The truth about orgasms and how to start having more plentiful, powerful, and satisfying orgasms.· Everything you need to know to be a good lover, from collaboration to technique. (Hint: it's not what you think.)· And so much moreFIVE PILLARS OF YOUR SEXUALITY:Pillar #1: EmbodimentPillar #2: Health Pillar #3: CollaborationPillar #4: Self- knowledge Pillar #5: Self acceptance Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Babbel:www.babbel.com/Lovers for 55% off your subscription. Betterhelp: www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month Hungryroot: www.hungryroot.com/lovers for 30% off your first delivery and free veggies. Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] Emily: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemilyGet Emily's new book:https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1686695143&refinements=p_27%3AEmily+Morse&s=books&sr=1-1See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you’re a podcast listener, you already know that there’s a whole lot of discussions about what people don’t do in relationships, what they need to be doing, and insight on what romantic partners want from others.And I guess it’s all well and good to have standards, but it’s even better to:Be aware of which standards are based on what we actually need to have a quality romantic partnership vs which standards are based on discriminatory, outdated values that hurt others AND our chances at forming healthy partnerships.Be clear about what standards people can hold you to. In short, what exactly are you bringing to the romantic relationship table and furthermore what are you admitting that you won’t be carrying? In this episode, I am discussing this in a hilarious and honest conversation with the ladies of Cocktales. We also have THE Matchmaking Duo here to share the secret to finding a compatible long term partner. Here is your conversation starter pack: What are you enthusiastically bringing to a romantic relationship today?What are you interested in getting better at bringing?What do you know you can’t and probably won’t carry?How do you want your romantic partner to respond to you when you’re not meeting their standards?How do you plan to respond when they inevitably, don’t meet all of yours?Which are your deal breakers and where considering your answers to the top questions can you stand to do a lil bending?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Ritual: Visit ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 10$ off your first 3 months. HelloFresh: Go to Hellofresh.com/lovers16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping! Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] the ladies of Cocktales: https://www.instagram.com/kikisaidso/https://www.instagram.com/cocktalespodcast/https://www.instagram.com/coffeebeandean/Follow the Matchmaking Duo:https://www.instagram.com/thematchmakingduo/Follow Krizia: https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What Is Your Love Story? Not the one that you’re in per se, but the one that subconsciously, you’ll move mountains or reality, to live inside? Psychologists have identified 26 kinds of stories that people commit to BEFORE committing to their romantic partner so, which one is yours?Our starring guest Raven Ross who you can recall from Netlfix’s reality series, Love is Blind Season 3. She is also a pilates instructor nearly a 2 million followers on social media. Raven went through one of the messiest Tik Tok cheating scandals last year with her ex-fiancee. Now, she’s ready to love out loud again plus wants to share with you how, why, and maybe even who.. A love story is a frame of reference for how you believe love works or should work. Kind of like how your political beliefs describe how you think a group of people should be governed. Now, as I mentioned off the top, in my fav book, the new psychology of love, there are 26 different common stories that people can subscribe to. Addiction - we have an intense first connection and from then on we need each other and create a dynamic based around the fear of parting waysAudition - you gotta win the part and keep proving you love me and if you forget the lines or go too far off scriptArt - my partner looks good and they make me look good because I own something beautifulBusiness - our union is designed to give us more money, power and respect from othersCookbook - love has a recipe and instruction list, if we forget ingredients or steps our love won’t be as goodFantasy - save me, marry me, and happily ever after me. Game - love is a sport with a winner and a loser or if we’re on the same team there’s still a captain and a bench playerGardening - love is something that has to grow and it takes time, awareness of the environment, plus continuous tending to in order to flourish. For more on this, see my episode where I explain the difference between a fruit and a fruit treeHistory - in our relationship you are who you were, there’s only past you and future you. Think of it like the difference between “I’ll believe it when I see it” and “let’s just see!”Horror - relationships are scary and the scarier it is, the more real it isHumor - love is a joke, some people get the joke early, some later, but sooner or later everyone gets humbledMystery - you don’t need to know everything about each other because maintaining the mystery is more important than discovering yourselves through uncovering one anotherPolice - you gotta place rules and boundaries on your partner because people are only as good as you’ll allow them to beReligion - love is in service of the LordSacrifice - love is just as much about what you give as what you’re willing to give up to demonstrate devotion to the otherScience - love can be studied and explained through scientific theory just like anything elseWar - love is a power struggle ruled by The other ones are: recover, science fiction, sewing, theater, travel, war, student-teacher, and a few more.Conversation starter packWhat story of love are you currently subscribing to?Which ones are you aspiring to?What narratives are you trying to stay clear of and why?What love story was modeled for you growing up?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS for 30% off your first delivery and your free veggies. http://www.carawayhome.com/lovers for 10% offwww.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month www.zocdoc.com to download the free appFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] Raven: https://www.instagram.com/pilatesbodyravenwww.pilatesbodyraven.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@pilatesbodyravenSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We often talk about how men have an easier life, but I think at this point we can also agree that maintaining the identity of “a real man” is extremely hard. Masculinity is what I would call a wet fish identity - because like catching a fish with your bear hands - It’s hard to do, even harder to hold onto and incredibly easy to lose a grip on. And one of the fastest ways to call your capability of holding onto a wet fish into question, is to add more slick to the situation by crying.It’s one thing for a man to reveal his hurt, pain and insecurities - which you might recall we already discussed in episod 4 of Lovers and Friends, do we really want vulnerable men starring Aba n Preach.So what comes up for us when we see a man cry? And how do we deconstruct those feelings without tearing down the man or his masculinity in the process? These are all questions I wanted to pontificate with, with the man himself, Dominic Gabriel- a personality and mental health advocate best known from his appearances on Netflix's Perfect Match and The Mole. You may also recognize him from his viral Tik Toks OR from his brand new podcast Dom Meets World. Conversation starter pack from this episode:What is masculinity? Is it something you have? Or something you have to earn and maintain?Is it a turnoff to see a man cry?Is it a turnon?Aren’t both of those responses equally as strange? What’s the healthier alternative?Is crying a useful expression regardless of gender? Should we all attempt to control it because it can be likened to losing your temper?How do we create an environment where people tasked with proving their masculinity, don’t feel like they have to keep up the audition in front of us?Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Storyworth https://www.storyworth.com/lovers to save $10 on your first purchase!Blissy https://www.blissy.com/loversGet better sleep now with Blissy and use LOVERS to get an additional 30% off at blissy.com/LOVERSBetter Help https://www.betterhelp.com/LOVERS for 10%off your first order Hello Fresh https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16Use code Lovers16 for 16 free meals Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] Dom: https://www.instagram.com/dontcalldomFollow the guys of ENJOY: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyhttps://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavishttps://www.instagram.com/datboykrayhttps://www.instagra.com/blamelosSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Did you know that every 7 seconds, a man thinks about sex?That's more than 500 times an hour and more than 12,000 times a day… And even though that sounds crazy, I’m sure it sounds familiar because this stat has circulated for decades. Now, myth-buster there is no scientific evidence to back this up, and studies that HAVE been done site that men think about sex an average of 19 times a day with the highest number of the study being around 380 thoughts a day and the lowest being once per day (which of course if you’re told to record how much you think about sex you’re gonna think about sex more and at the very least ONCE to note that your only thought about having sex that day was that you never thought about having sex… Point being, in a society that’s conditioned us to believe that all day men dream about sex, what do we do when the man we’re with doesn’t want to have sex with us? That’s where we’re going on this episode featuring Drew Love. the lead singer of the popular R&B group THEY who just released their album Nu Moon, which is streaming everywhere now. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Hello Fresh:https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16 use code lovers16 for your free meals and free shipping!Dame:https://www.dameproducts.com/LoversEnter code Lovers for 15% off Lomi:Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi. Use the codeLOVERS to save $50 https://www.lomi.com/loversSkims:Get free shipping on all orders over $75https://www.skims.comFollow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] THEY: https://www.instagram.com/theyFollow Drew Love:https://www.instagram.com/drewlove See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, I want to break down what I know about “knowing” someone is the one, before you know their true character. This isn’t meant to knock anyone who chooses to mate this way, because culturally a lot of us subscribe to the importance of instant attraction even if we don’t think we do - but instead to provide you with some knowledge that I wish I had before letting love at first sight lead me astray. Love at first sight is a global phenomenon - meaning no matter where you go, there it is in different languages, stories and beliefs.In this episode I define what love at first sight is, explain why the brain likes to do it, provide insight into how love at first sight might just be another brand of discrimination, explain how it can be used wisely and also share the dangers of placing a lot of emphasis on how couples met.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!BLISSYhttp://blissy.com/LOVERS and get an additional 30% off! BABBELhttp://Babbel.com/LOVERS for up to 55% off your subscription. Babbel—Language for life.HELLO FRESHhttp://hellofresh.com/LOVERS50 for 50% off plus free shipping!Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Let’s talk about submission! My fav definition of this comes from Hafeez who simply said to submit is to sub (be underneath) another person’s mission. Now, one of the main purposes of romantic relationships is to be stronger together - a concept we’ve gone into before when we discussed self expansion theory on episode 4 featuring Jeannie Mai. The Self expansion theory states that the best way to expand, together, is to take stock of each other’s strengths, then create a dynamic that aligns with that reality. But what happens when in the end of this audit, you realize that your strengths fall outside of traditional gender roles? And furthermore you realize that the man’s strengths are perfectly suited to aid in the woman’s success? How does it work and furthermore CAN it work when a man realizes his partner’s potential and then makes her mission, his main mission? That’s what we are going to be talking about on this episode featuring Jade Novah and Devin Johnson. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Hungryroot Go to http://www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS Use code LOVERS for 30% off your first order!That’s Hungryroot.com/LOVERS. Don’t forget to use our link, so they know we sent you.BetterhelpDiscover your potential with BetterHelpVisit http://www.betterhlp.com/lovers That's www.betterhlp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month.Follow Jade:https://www.instagram.com/jadenovah/Follow Devin: https://www.instagram.com/mrdevinaire/?hl=en Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For women in their 30s, 1 in 5 will experience problems conceiving their first child. Deja Riley, our starring guest gives firsthand advice of what it's like to go through over two years of fertility treatments. A grueling experience that's cost her over $20,000 and almost her marriage. In this episode Deja tells all: her experience with IUI, IVF, miscarriage, a chemical pregnancy, eastern medicine, and finally surrender. To keep up with Deja's journey follow herDeja:http://instagram.com/Dejariley @Doseofduality- her podcasthttp://Dejariley.comFollow our other special guestsKrizia: http://instagram.com/kriziacruz_Krystalhttp://instagram.com/krystalfranklintvThanks so much to the sponsors of this episode. SKIMSFits Everybody Collectionhttps://www.skims.comLOMIGet $50 off your electric countertop composter by visitinghttps://www.lomi.com/LOVERS Then using promocode LOVERSRITUAL and Synbiotic+Get 10% off your first 3 months by visitinghttps://www.ritual.com/LOVERS Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, I sit down with my mom and sister to talk about our sex ed growing up and now as parents ourselves, what we believe is the most important lesson to teach our kids when it comes to sex and love...You'll also hear a good bit of a past episode that you can listen to in its entirety here.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovers-and-friends-with-shan-boodram/id1586679298 I also explain how I plan to bring up conversations about sex to my daughters and what I hope they take away from those. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!Lume New customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code LOVERS at http://www.LumeDeodorant.comIntimissimi Go to http://www.intimissimi.com/jloZocDoc: http://www.ZOCDOC.com/LOVERSBetterhelp!Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month!http://www.betterhelp.com/loversFollow Lauren:https://www.maketheshiftcoach.com/https://www.instagram.com/maketheshiftwithlauren/Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/[email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.