Kingdom Sexuality

Kyle and Alana put a lot of work into this Oral Sex Series finale so that it wouldn't blow... (pun intended). But in all seriousness, these oral sex episodes have had so much thought, research, and data behind them. So in this weeks finale oral sex episode they talk about fellatio (aka: oral sex being done on a man, a blow job, or BJ). Alana and Kyle discuss some of the statistics from the survey's they put out over the past few weeks, why many women have a difficult time giving oral sex on their husband, some tips to help, how to go about bringing up the subject of oral sex with your spouse, and so much more! And if you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of our content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send a DM or email us at [email protected]. Don't forget to check out our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and our new Facebook Group! We're also on Patreon now! So support us there for some exciting and exclusive perks! And, don't forget to leave them a review on Apple Podcasts! Links we mentioned in today's episode: Married Dance (use the code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 10% off!) Oral Blessings article Hot, Holy, & Humorous article Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Well, we said this episode is coming and here it is! You wanted to hear more information about cunnilingus? Listen in! It's a longer episode but Alana and Kyle tackle SO much really valuable information. Things like: how do you even begin to start talking about oral sex with your spouse? and why do some women struggle when it comes to receiving oral sex? Kyle and Alana also ran a big survey before doing this series and gathered a bunch of data. You’ll hear it woven in throughout this episode and NEXT week’s episode as well. They got almost 4,500 responses, so the data is from a decent-sized sample and data set! Also, if you haven't listen to episode 112: Deep Dive Into Anatomy it's recommended to go listen to that one first, as there's quite a bit of anatomy talk in this episode and the one to come. And if you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of our content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send a DM or email us at [email protected]. Don't forget to check out our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and our new Facebook Group! We're also on Patreon now! So support us there for some exciting and exclusive perks! Links from today's episode: She Comes First - US Link - Canadian Link Opposites: Wants Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The highly anticipated, long awaited oral sex episode is here! Alana and Kyle will be doing more in depth episodes on fellatio and cunnilingus in the coming episodes but Seth and Melanie Studley did a FANTASTIC job starting off this series. You're not going to want to miss this one. They chat about questions like: How would a couple, who’s struggled with the idea of oral sex, introduce it into their marriage? What should the conversations look like? What considerations should be given to hygiene prior to oral? How does a woman work on getting her mind in the zone for oral sex? We're excited for you to tune in! Connect with Seth and Melanie Studley: Instagram- @anatomyofmarriage Website- www.anatomyofus.com And if you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of our content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send a DM or email us at [email protected]. Don't forget to check out our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and our new Facebook Group! We're also on Patreon now! So support us there for some exciting and exclusive perks! Links from today's episode David Schnarch: Passionate Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Buckle up for this in depth chat on both male and female anatomy!! Kyle uses his medical knowledge of the body to discuss everything anatomy! And when we say everything, we mean everything!! Some of this information might not seem relevant, but it is actually so helpful when it comes to bringing more pleasuring to a woman! Like, did you know the "g-spot" is actually just a clitoral cluster?? And did you know that the vagina gets longer when a woman becomes more aroused?? Husbands, you're going to want to listen to this one so you are able to bring your understand your wife's body to the next level! We also chat about what women want men to know about their anatomy and what men wish women knew about their bodies! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, Thursday content for men, and so much more! Have an idea of what you'd like to hear us talk about? Send us a DM or an email at [email protected]! Links from today's episode: She Comes First: -US LINK -CANADIAN LINK Come As You Are: -US LINK -CANADIAN LINK Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So many of these "this is the newly discovered 6 love language!" have been coming out, are they valid? Is there a love language that's missing? Tune in as Alana and Kyle chat about the supposed 6th love language: feeling seen/known. Is feeling seen or feeling known its own love language? Is it a combination of a few? Do you feel seen when your spouse speaks your love language? We'd love to know your thoughts! Shoot us a DM or an email sharing your thoughts!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, Thursday content for men, and so much more! Have an idea of what you'd like to hear us talk about? Send us a DM or an email at [email protected]! Link's from today's episode: 5 Love Language Book Love Language Quiz Prayers For Your Husband eBook Prayers For Your Wife eBook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ho Ho HOLD UP, you can still be intimate when you're around family this Christmas?? Yep! Listen in as Kyle and Alana chat about some ways you can make intimacy more of a priority this Christmas! Spoiler alert: it starts with decreasing the amount of stress in your life!! They discuss some other times of day you can have sex when you're around family, different locations, and how removing as much stress as possible will help increase both your libido and energy!! Merry Christmas, from the KS Team. Praying this Christmas is filled with so much love, joy, and Jesus. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, Thursday content for men, and so much more! Have an idea of what you'd like to hear us talk about? Send us a DM or an email at [email protected]! Links from today's episode: Come As You Are (US link) Come As You Are (Canadian link) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prepare to have a very jolly Christmas, because Alana and Kyle are giving you Kingdom Sexuality's very first SEX CHALLENGE!! Not sure what a sex challenge is? Basically, it's committing to being intimate for a set number of days in a row. In this episode they go through a bunch of FAQ's when it comes to sex challenges. Questions like: Does it HAVE to be sex every day? How do I bring up the idea of a sex challenge to my spouse? What happens if I'm not in the mood one of the days? And so much more!! If you join the 12 Days of Christmas sex challenge we would LOVE to hear how it went for you! So be sure to join our Facebook group: Kingdom Sexuality Community and share how it's impacted your marriage! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality, that's where you'll find even more of our content! Weekly sex positions, content specific to men, connect questions, couples challenges, and so much more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send us a DM on Instagram or shoot us an email at [email protected]! And be sure to leave us a review and you might just hear it in the next episode. Links from today's episode: Intimately Us App Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know that this time of the year can be a busy time. Typically well meaningly so, but things can get real busy real quick. So how can we be proactive about this and protect our connection when the craziness of the holidays come around? What are some practical ways to make space for connection during busy times? Alana and Kyle chat through those questions and so much more! They mentioned this quote in the episode: "If you let it, the busyness of life will kill your marriage." So it’s up to you and your spouse to start now. Decide together that this Christmas will be a Christmas of connection instead of one filled with hurry and busyness. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We share weekly sex positions, couples challenges, content for men, and so much more! And don't forget to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts and you might just hear it at the start of our next episode! Links from today's episode: Prayers For Your Wife eBook Prayers For Your Husband eBook The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry Book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know the beautiful season of giving is nearing, so Kyle and Alana start off the episode by diving into some fun sexy stocking stuffers! But on top of that, they also go more into: what can you be giving your spouse that's worth even MORE than a physical gift? Things like the gift of being present, the gift of exploration, and the gift of selflessness. Putting off our selfish nature OUTSIDE of the bedroom and seeing how it transforms things INSIDE the bedroom. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We share weekly sex positions, couples challenges, content for men, and so much more! And don't forget to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts and you might just hear it at the start of our next episode! Links from today's episode: US Amazon Store Canadian Amazon Store Mentionables (use the code KINGDOM for 10% off!) COCONU (code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 15% off!) Married Dance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the KS podcast Alana and Kyle have a couple of very special guests with us to help us close out our opposites series. Abe and Elaine Romero join in today to chat about what it looks like for them to have a commuter marriage! Living in different states how can they stay connected emotionally? Sexually?? What advice do they have for other long distance marriages? How can couples be cultivating connection when they're in different locations? They chat through this, and more! You won't want to miss it. Check out Abe and Elaine's IG pages: @commutermarriagesupport and @marriage.isajoke! Make sure you follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see all of our content! We share weekly sex positions, connect questions, couples challenges, and so much more! Links from todays episode: -Ultimate Intimacy -Intimately Us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether it’s differences in where you want to live, what you want to do in the bedroom, or if you even WANT each other in the bedroom (meaning more drive related). I feel like at some point in time we’ve all had these sorts of opposites come up in our marriages. So how do you navigate this? When you and your spouse want different things? Alana and Kyle dive into this and so much more in this episode, so listen up! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly sex positions, content specific to men, couples challenges, connect questions, discounts, and so much more! Links from today's episode: Article by Sheila Wray Gregoire Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have a time of day preference when it comes to sex? Does your spouse? And are they the same? Alana and Kyle tackle the age old debate of morning sex vs. evening sex! (Don't worry, they don't forget about afternoon delights!) But more seriously, how do you navigate this if you're not a night owl but your spouse would rather stay up super late- when do you incorporate your intimacy? Tune in, and maybe if you've never thought about what time of day you prefer you and your spouse can have that conversation! If you're not already be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! That's where you'll see more of our content: weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Plus we even have a day dedicated to the men! Have a topic suggestion for us? Shoot us an email at [email protected]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you and your spouse different sizes height-wise or weight-wise? Then this is the episode for you! Kyle and Alana chat about how to navigate this and what positions are ideal for you guys! If you and your spouse are different sizes, please know that you can still have a beautiful, sexy, and flourishing sex life! It may take a bit more patience as you attempt different positions, but it will be so worth it! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We post weekly "hump day" positions, content specific to men, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Or something you'd add to today's episode? Feel free to send us a DM or an email at [email protected]! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Odds are good that you and your spouse feel loved in different ways. In this episode, Alana and Kyle chat about the 5 love languages and how to navigate it when you and your spouse's love languages aren't the same. Like, what do you do when your spouse's love language is gifts but you have zero interest in buying gifts? Or if your love language is acts of service but you're left frustrated waiting for your spouse to take out the garbage? Or your spouse loves to touch you, but the thought of PDA makes you uncomfortable? Alana and Kyle are going to chat all about that today. If you're not already be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly couples challenges, connect questions, "hump day" sex positions, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for us? Shoot us an email at [email protected] Links from today's episode: Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages Book 46: Communicating During Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You've heard the term opposites attract, right? Is this true in your marriage? Are you and your spouse wildly different when it comes to your personalities? Is one of you introverted and the other extroverted? Tune in to the second episode in our Opposites series as Kyle and Alana answer questions like: "How do we navigate being different than our spouse well?" and "What does it look like being introverted vs extroverted when it comes to the bedroom??" Like any team, you can use your unique skills and abilities to work together to have a meaningful and happy life. Rather than focusing on ways we wish our partner was more like us, we can learn to understand, appreciate, and work with our personality differences. “The goal of marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.” -R. Dodd If you're not already be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! That's where you'll see weekly couples challenges, Wednesday "hump day" positions, connection questions, content specific to men on Thursday's, and so much more! Links from today's episode: Intimately Us App Ultimate Intimacy App Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wow, we've made it to an exciting milestone: Episode 100! In this bonus episode, Kyle interviews Alana about what these first 100 episodes have been like, how they've grown her, and how this whole podcast even began! Oh, and make sure you listen to the end to hear about the exciting 100th episode giveaway that's they'll be releasing on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! Thank you so much for listening to our episodes and following along with us over the years. We appreciate the likes, shares, reviews, and messages so much- you guys are seriously such a blessing to the entire KS team. We can't wait to see where the next 100 episodes take us, and we're excited to see what God has in store for this little ministry!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's a long one, but it's a good one. Ruth Joseph joins Kyle and Alana and shares her story of being in an unequally yolked marriage, how it impacts her life, and so much more. Ruth answers big questions like "does being in an unequally yolked marriage have an effect on your sex life?" and "what would your advice be to someone who's considering getting into an unequally yolked relationship?" Ruth’s handle is @iamruthjoseph, check out more of her content!! As always you can find more of our stuff on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today Kyle and Alana have the pleasure of chatting with Tony and Alisa Dilorenzo, hosts of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast and authors of an amazing marriage book called 6 Pillars of Intimacy! They discuss emotional intimacy in depth; how emotional intimacy is connected to sexual intimacy, and what to do if only one of the couple in the marriage is putting in the word to cultivate it. They touch on scheduling sex, doing sex challenges, and how sexual intimacy can be a barometer for the rest of your marriage! You're not going to want to miss this one. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We post weekly couples challenges, have Wednesday "Hump Day's", and even a day of the week devoted to the men! You can check out Tony and Alisa's content here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Looking for a way to help "porn proof" your devices? Check out ⁠Covenant Eyes⁠! Use the code KS30 for your first 30 days free! Here's part two of our episode with Samantha Enns, Kyle's lovely wife! Alana asked her the questions that our followers sent over on Instagram. Sam tackles some big questions like "Did you struggle with comparison, knowing what he'd seen?" and "Did his addiction impact your sex life? How?". Again, we are so sorry for those of you who are going through this. We're praying that Sam's vulnerability and Kyle's testimony will encourage you. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly "hump day" sex positions, content for the men on Thursdays, connect questions, couples challenges, and so much more! Links from today's episode: Covenant Eyes use the code: KS30 for 30 days free! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Big thank you to this episodes sponsor, Faithful Counseling! Looking for some affordable Christian counseling? ⁠Use this link to get 10% off your first month! If you haven't listened to Kyle's Sextimony episode we would highly recommend you do that before listening to this one! In this episode Alana interviews Kyle's wife, Samantha, asking her the questions that our followers sent over on Instagram. Sam tackles some big questions like "How do I check in without accusing him/prying too much?" and "How can you trust him after his struggles with porn?". We are so sorry for those of you who are going through this. Emotions are raw and it’s extremely difficult. But there is so much hope for you! We trust that Sam's vulnerability and Kyle's testimony will encourage you. This will be a two part series with the next segment coming out next week, so stay tuned for more! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly "hump day" sex positions, content for the men on Thursdays, connect questions, couples challenges, and so much more! Links from today's episode: Covenant Eyes use the code: KS30 for 30 days free! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sex is everywhere we turn. Whether it's in a show we're watching, the latest Netflix release, on our feed as we're scrolling Instagram, on a billboard by the highway, or in the book we're reading. So many forms of media give us access to things that can often leave us wondering... does this count as porn? You're not going to want to miss this episode where Paris and Alana chat about: how do we know when the media we are watching goes too far? We might think "Everyone does it. It's not a big deal, it's not like I'm addicted to watching porn or something like that..." BUT, could what you're watching be breaking Holy Spirit's heart? Listen in to hear some ways you can protect yourself from this! *This episode has been re-recorded to better reflect where the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast is today. While it’s showing up in our earlier archives, it features updated content and a fresh take on the topic. You might notice it sounds newer than its original air date. We appreciate you tuning in as we give new life to some of our early episodes! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We post weekly connect questions, "Hump Day" Wednesday's, share content directed to men on Thursdays, couples challenges, and lots more!! Links from the episode: Plugged In IMDB VidAngel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Looking for a way to help "porn proof" your devices? Check out ⁠Covenant Eyes⁠! Use the code KS30 for your first 30 days free! Let's get to know the latest KS team member, shall we? In this episode, Alana chats with Kyle and he shares his journey of overcoming a pornography addiction. Kyle goes into detail explaining his struggles, when he realized he needed to seek professional help, and gives really practical tips to overcome a pornography addiction. Have any porn related questions you'd like answered? Feel free to direct your messages to Kyle on the Kingdom Sexuality Instagram account @kingdomsexuality or shoot him a DM on his personal account @kyleenns. And if you're not following the KS team already, go check out the Instagram account! That's where they'll share latest episodes, Wednesday "Hump Day" positions, connect questions, Thursday's "for the men", and so much more! Links from today's episode: Covenant Eyes (use the code KS30 for your first 30 days free!) 30 Prayers For Your Husband Ebook 30 Prayers For Your Wife Ebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tune into this episode where Kyle interviews Dr. Cameron Staley to talk about his new porn recovery programs: The Life After Pornography online program and the Life After Pornography Coach app! Dr. Staley has a background in porn research and ACT therapy for overcoming porn addiction. If pornography is a struggle for you, or someone you know this is definitely an episode for you to listen to and share!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! From weekly connect questions, "Hump Day" Wednesdays, to Thursday's for the men- there will be something for you! Covenant Eyes is also an incredible program that helps by restricting access to pornographic websites on your devices, helping you to end your pornography addiction! Use to code "KS30" when you sign up to get your first 30 days free!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Due to an internet issue this once full-length episode has been cut in half and turned into a "teaser episode" of a more in depth one to come! Listen in as Alana, Paris, and Kyle chat about masturbation and sex toys and their roll in the marriage bed. Have some questions for the team around this topic? Shoot us an email at [email protected] and we'll do our best to address it in our later episode! Thank you for your grace and patience! Links from today's episode: Faithful Counselling Evelyn James: betrayal coach Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don't miss this in depth episode that covers SO many good topics! Alana and Kyle tackle the questions you sent us on Instagram- we had put up stories asking what women would want to ask a man, or what questions men would want to ask us. And they were really great questions, so we're going to break it up into a bunch of parts and tackle them over time! So if your question didn't get answered this time, make sure you listen to our upcoming episodes and we'll likely answer in the future! Kyle and Alana discuss a lot about cultivating emotional intimacy, communication, orgasms, pornography effects on your spouse, and so much more!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll find weekly connection questions, Wednesday "hump day" sex positions, "Men's Day" Thursday's, and so much more! Links from today's episode: Purity Culture Episode 1 Purity Culture Episode 2 The Womanhood Diaries: Orgasms Let's Chat Orgasms- the how, techniques, + more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're not going to want to miss this incredible episode on navigating sexual rejection! It's time to have a real moment with yourself next time your partner initiates intimacy and you decline the offer... take a moment to ask yourself: WHY though? If I'm too tired to do this or am I just wanting to do something else? Is this really a 'not tonight's moment' or can it simply be a 'not right now, let me decompress from a hard day' moment?Are you up for other things? A naked body massage, cuddling and kissing, etc. We're NOT saying you have to say "yes" every time if you're not actually in the mood. But sometimes it's VERY easy to 'just say no'. We have to remember that this isn't something that if you tell them no they can go ask one of their buddies if they want to go and do this with them. This is something only you can give. It's a gift that only you can give them they cannot find satisfaction in anything else without breaking God's covenantal design for marriage. *This episode has been re-recorded to better reflect where the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast is today. While it’s showing up in our earlier archives, it features updated content and a fresh take on the topic. You might notice it sounds newer than its original air date. We appreciate you tuning in as we give new life to some of our early episodes! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! And check out our website to see our KS merch and incredible ebooks! Links from today's episode: Emotional Intimacy Episode Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have a HUGE announcement at the end of this episode so make sure you listen to the end to find out what's new in the KS world! Did you know 1/3 of our followers are guys?! We noticed that we've been getting more and more messages from the men asking questions, or women asking things on behalf of their husbands. So we had Kyle come on so we could pick a man's brain on some of the questions we've been working through! Things like: is it valuable for men to be listening to our episodes? and how can men be having more of these intimate conversations with their wives? So guys, we hear you, and we’re here for you! Shoot us your messages on Instagram @kingdomsexuality, and we'll get back to you! Be sure to follow so you can see weekly couples challenges, Wednesday "hump day" sex positions, our "men's day" Thursday's- and so much more!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time to tune into another Q&A episode!! Alana and Paris discuss some of your most asked questions like: how to stay connected (non-sexually) with your spouse when you have little ones, how to bring up the topic of intimacy with your spouse without it being awkward, what to do if you're struggling with arousal, and so much more! If you're a fan of Q&A's feel free to send us more questions on our Instagram account! *This episode has been re-recorded to better reflect where the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast is today. While it’s showing up in our earlier archives, it features updated content and a fresh take on the topic. You might notice it sounds newer than its original air date. We appreciate you tuning in as we give new life to some of our early episodes! Go follow us @kingdomsexuality! That's where you'll see weekly couples challenges, Wednesday "hump day" positions, connection questions, and so much more! Links mentioned in today's episode: Great Sex Rescue- Sheila Wray Gregoire Nitty Gritty Wedding Night Run Down Taking Charge of Your Fertility Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERY one of us has differing sexual desires and libido, it’s unique to us, just like our finger print. Yet so many couples struggle and feel isolated when they have varying sex drives from one another. One spouse is typically labeled as "high drive" and the other is "low drive". But should we even be using the term high and low drive? Could it turn into a label that can potentially carry identity? Listen in as Paris and Alana dive deep into varying sexual desire, debunk myths, and shed light on topics usually kept in the darkness. Follow us on Instagram @KingdomSexuality to see so much more! We share weekly couples challenges, connect questions, a Wednesday "Hump Day" sex position, and much more! Check out our website for more resources and our shop: www.kingdomsexualityministry.com Links from today's episode: 30 Prayers For Your Wife Ebook Cultivating A Missional Marriage Episode Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen in to another episode of the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast as Alana and Rusti ask each other the question: is sexy just a state of mind? It's time to ask ourselves some questions too! Like, what does it even mean to be sexy? Or to FEEL sexy? Does it have to do with appearance or is there more to it than that? What's something my spouse does that I find sexy- and do they know it?? Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to join the community! We share connect questions, couples challenges, "hump day" Wednesdays, and so much more! Don't forget to check out our website as well we're you'll find out more about us and you can see resources that we love and trust! www.kingdomsexualityministry.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you in those first fresh years of marriage? When everything is shiny and bright with the future wide ahead of you? Such a precious and exciting time in life! But it can also be a season filled with unmet expectations, struggle, and unanswered questions. Like many, maybe you're sitting there wondering: "Why don't I want sex as much as I thought I would?" or "How can I go about telling my spouse if I'm not feeling completely satisfied where things are at right now?". Pop in your headphones and listen in as Paris and Rusti chat though those questions and so much more! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see when that new resource is live!! You'll also see weekly couples challenges, connect questions, Wednesday "Hump Day" positions, and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gearing up to your wedding night and not sure what to expect? Do you have some big questions but don't know who to get to answer them? Tune into this fun episode where Alana and Rusti share the nitty gritty's about the wedding night! They discuss pain, condoms, lube, and so much more! If you're engaged and getting married soon you're not going to want to miss this one! We also have an amazing in-depth resource coming for you soon, so keep your eye's out for that!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see our latest posts, reels, and giveaways! Links from today's episode: COCONU (use our code: kingdomsexuality for a discount!) GLYDE CONDOMS Love Your First Year: Premarital Course Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you in a season of waiting? Maybe it's waiting for a boyfriend. Or perhaps you're waiting for your wedding day! Listen in as Alana and Paris chat about these seasons, share their hearts on the periods of waiting, and where to focus your heart in these times. They also discuss boundaries- what does it look like to have boundaries before you're married? What lines are okay to cross? How far is too far?? You're not going to want to miss it! Be sure you're following them on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to be where the action is happening! You'll see weekly couples challenges, connect questions, "Hump Day" Wednesdays, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for them? Feel free to send a DM on Instagram or send an email to: [email protected] Links from today's episode: Singleness: Interview with Jody Nagyl Singleness, Sexuality, & Confronting The Past with Jody Nagyl Premarital Preparation... God's Way The Ultimate Premarital Chat Authentic Intimacy Singleness Blog Post Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

YOU asked and THEY answered! Tune into this amazing episode with the whole KS team; Alana, Paris, and Rusti, answer questions that were submitted over on Instagram. They answer questions like "how can I get my mind into love making?", "what does intimacy look like once you've got little ones?", "how do you navigate differing sex drives?", and so much more! The team gets real, sharing their hearts on some big questions! Anything else you'd like to ask the team? Feel free to send them an email [email protected] or DM on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. Be sure to follow Kingdom Sexuality on IG to see weekly couples challenges, connect questions, Wednesday "hump day" sex positions, and so much more! Links from today's episode: Praying For Your Wife Ebook Mentionables (use code KINGDOM10 for a sweet discount!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Last week the Kingdom Sexuality Team went over a bunch of things that sex is! So this week, Alana and Rusti chat about some of the things that sex is NOT. Things like: sex is not a form of currency, it's not something you have do so you're spouse doesn't have their needs met somewhere else, and it's not always clean and comfortable! Sex is a bunch of things, but there are a lot of things that sex is not. So listen in as we get super honest and open about some lies floating around about intimacy! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more! We post weekly "hump day" sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The world around us displays sex in a very specific way. It's glamorized to look like this erotic, romantic, perfect, multiple-orgasm experience every. single. time... And so many of us say "I Do" and expect that to be what goes down in the bedroom but we're hit with the realization that sex, like everything else in life, is a learned skill that you'll get better at over time! So put in those headphones and listen in as Alana, Paris, and Rusti get back to the basics and go over the fundamentals of what sex really is. Sex is a gift from God, a learned skill, a covenant reflection of Christ's love for us, a means of fighting spiritual battles, and SO much more! Be sure to follow along with us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more! You'll find weekly challenges, sex position ideas, connect questions, sweet discounts, and so much more! Links from today's episode: KAC Podcast: Sex and Marriage- Paris Simpson & Alana Martens Ultimate Intimacy App Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The long anticipated, much requested, birth control episode is finally here! After numerous attempts at recording this, Rusti swooped in and did a beautiful job breaking down natural family planning, how you can go about tracking your cycle, gauging when your ovulation is happening- all to help prevent pregnancy or assist you if you're trying to conceive! If you have any questions about today's episode feel free to shoot us a message on Instagram! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see all of our weekly challenges, "hump day" sex positions, connect questions, and so much more! Have a topic request for us? Feel free to DM us on Instagram or email us at [email protected] Links mentioned in the episode: Taking Charge of Your Fertility Paris' personal Instagram account: @sheswildandwell Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tune into this amazing episode that was requested by YOU! Alana and Rusti chat about some "do's and don't's" when it comes to conversations with your friends about your intimate life! What's okay to share? How do I even bring this topic up with friends? What if everyone judges me for asking this question? They cover all those questions and more! Be sure to listen till the end to hear the "practical application" side as Rusti and Alana share some things that you could bring up in conversation with trusted friends. Are you following us on Instagram? Check out our page @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, connect questions, discounts on amazing products, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion? Shoot us a DM on Instagram or an email to [email protected]! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen in as Alana and Rusti share their hearts and chat about spiritual gifts, what it looks like using them in your marriage, and how to begin walking in a missional marriage. They also share some advice for those in the relationship who are the ones running hard after Jesus and how to navigate life if your spouse isn't on the same page as you yet. If you’re not following us on Instagram be sure you check us out @kingdomsexuality! You’ll see weekly challenges, “hump day” sex positions, exciting discounts, and so much more!! Have a topic suggestion for the KS Team? Shoot us a DM or an email at [email protected]! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THE BIG QUESTION: Is your marriage reflecting Jesus’ love to those around you? If you’re unsure of how to answer that question, I think it’s time to do some heart work. Think about it! You and your spouse were put together for a purpose. You each individually have a specific calling and gifts that were given to you and passions that get you fired up. So then, when you put those gifts, callings, and passions and combine them with your spouses- you become a powerhouse for Jesus! So tune in as Alana and Rusti chat through what it looks like to have a marriage on mission! (Part two of this conversation will be coming next week!) Join the community of likeminded believers on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Can't wait to see you over there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ready to have a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist answer YOUR questions?? Callie Teel, PT, DPT is a dedicated follower of Christ and a long time Kingdom Sexuality fan. She has a passion for helping women overcome dysfunction and embrace the sexual beings God created them to be. She graduated from Texas Tech university Health Science Center with her doctorate in physical therapy and then trained to become a pelvic health specialist. She now works in Amarillo Texas, helping women with all kinds of things like; pain with intimacy, difficulty climaxing, pre and postpartum care, incontinence, constipation and so much more. She did a beautiful job answering your questions and sharing her wealth of knowledge with us- this is an episode you're not going to want to miss!! Callie and a coworker created their own podcast “Pelvic Service Announcement” to educate and empower others about their pelvic health! Be sure to check it out! And if you're not, be sure to follow us on Instagram as well @kingdomsexuality where you'll see all of our latest updates, weekly sex positions, connect questions, discounts on great products, and so much more!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

YOU ASKED and WE ANSWERED! Here are some of the questions we've received on our Instagram account about the three of us! So we; Alana, Paris, and Rusti, share more about who we are! We chat about what we do on the daily, if we were virgins when we got married, what our love languages are, favourite part about doing this ministry, and more! Put in your headphones and get to know us better!! Feel free to share some of your own answers with us over on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! Over there you'll see us share weekly sex positions, connect questions, and so much more! Have any more personal questions for us? Shoot them our way either in our DM's or email us at [email protected]! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does your sexuality need a life preserver? Has purity culture, church culture, LACK of of information, or trauma creeped its way into your sex life and you feel like you're about to drown? In this interview Paris and Rusti interview Sheila Gregoire, author of "The Great Sex Rescue" ( and many others, check out her new revised version of 'The Good Girls Guide To Great Sex' ) and chat with her about her study of over 20,000 women with the goal of getting to the heart of our struggle with sexuality. You guys are NOT going to want to miss this one! If you're not already be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality where you'll find weekly couples challenges, connect questions, sex position ideas, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send us a DM on Instagram or an email: [email protected]! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve done an episode on “spicing it up” in the bedroom before, but now that we’ve got Rusti here and since it’s been a long time since that episode came out (fun fact, that was our 4th episode to be released) it seemed like a good time to make a “spice it up 2.0”! If you’ve been married for any length of time you’ll know that sex can easily become routine. We’re busy people! The list of things to do is never ceasing and ever growing- we need to pick kids up from school, take out the trash, get food on the table, spring clean, and see friends… so when there is a spare moment to be intimate it can easily turn into a 10 step list of things you do every time. And a routine can be great, but maybe you’re ready to try something different or long to add some fireworks and butterflies again! So we’ve compiled a little list of some ways that you can go about spicing things up! If you're not, be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! That's where you'll see weekly couples challenges, "Hump Day" sex positions, connect questions and so much more! Link to our ebook: HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Recently on our Instagram Rusti shared a handful of hindrances very briefly that could impede us from that body shuttering, skin tingling, hair raising prize. Today we're going to go a little bit more in depth, give some more background information that will hopefully help gain more wisdom when it comes to understanding why we might be struggling to reach orgasm. We absolutely want to preface this with the fact that we will be discussing sexual trauma a bit and so this is a trigger warning in case you are still going through your healing. We want to be sensitive to those listening who are working through trauma, so the KS Team wanted to make sure you had ample warning! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to join the community! You'll see couples challenges, weekly sex positions, connect questions, and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tune into this fun interview with author, Karin Freeland! Karin has published a book called "The In's and Outs of My Vagina: A Penetrating Memoir", and she shares how she came to write this book, some of the hilarious and relatable stories in it, and so much more! You can find Karin on Instagram @karinfreeland, and her book is on Amazon and BarnesandNoble.com! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community of like-minded believers who are also journeying through this with you! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connection questions, and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s about time the KS team did an episode solely on this topic! We’re not sure why it seems to happen this way, but there is this switch that so many of us come across as newlyweds. We go into marriage assuming that this magical switch is going to flip and that they can go from thinking that sex is bad/dirty/something we shouldn't want… to thinking that it’s incredible and love every minute of it. That’s a big switch to flip!! So tune in as Alana and Rusti tackle this big topic! Links from today’s episode: @loveyourfirstyear Find our ebook on our website: www.kingdomsexualityministry.com! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You’ll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does your dream date look like? What does your spouses dream date look like? Are they similar or super different? Tune in as Alana, Paris, and Rusti share what their dream dates were and what their husbands were! Have the chat with your spouse, then after doing the date try out some new sexual technique! The KS team goes through 4 different techniques that can be helpful to try in the bedroom, so listen in to hear those after they share their dream dates! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see when we're uploading new episodes, weekly sex positions, couples challenges, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send us a DM on Instagram or shoot us an email [email protected], we'd love to hear what your dream dates were!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kyler and Britt from @loveyourfirstyear take this episode over and tackle some amazing questions that you guys sent in specifically to be answered by a man! They did an incredible job sharing their hearts and answering your questions around sex and marriage. Be sure to follow them on Instagram @loveyourfirstyear to see all of their content that's geared towards engaged couples and making your first year of marriage a fantastic one! And be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community of like-minded believers who are also journeying through this with you! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connection questions, and so more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Valentine's Day, Kingdom Sexuality listeners! They decided to switch things up and go a different route for this Valentine's Day episode! Listen in as Alana and Rusti chat about the slightly less glamorous side of intimacy. They go over an array of sticky situations that can occur, common hiccups that can throw a wrench in your sexy plans, embarrassing things that are totally normal to occur during lovemaking sessions. So buckle up, get ready to laugh and let's go! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices