Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is holding out hope for reconciliation with their girlfriend. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is flirting (and more) with their coworker who is in a relationship. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is sick of being haunted by their ex. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is trying to meet their partner's needs by ending the relationship. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is not in fact a homewrecker but who feels guilty for the toxic drama in her friend's marriage. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is struggling to move on because they don't understand their ex's reasons for a sudden break up. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is sick of walking on eggshells with their friend. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling bothered by a friend dating her crush. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is grappling with resentment for how their friend hurt them in the past. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is dealing with gambling addiction and self-sabotage. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner critiques the way they do everyday tasks. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who can't stop thinking about their cheating ex. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone doesn't know how to come out as asexual to their longterm partner. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like their ex moved on too fast. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't know how to find peace while breaking up with her homophobic father. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels fundamentally changed by her hurtful ex and doesn't like how that relationship is still showing up in her new one. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra check in about relationship anarchy and answer a letter from someone who feels 50/50 in their stable relationship. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want to hurt their partner but whose intuition is telling them to get a divorce. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants more sex in their otherwise awesome marriage. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In a brief departure from our usual schedule, Sam interviews Sierra about her upcoming book, Ephemera, and Sierra reads a few poems. The interview covers topics like life cycles, queer love, and impermanence. Pre-order Ephemera now and receive 15% off by using promo code justbreakup. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Doing bad things doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you a PERSON. Now’s the time to use your mistakes as a roadmap for better decisions rather than evidence of your evilness; to move forward after cheating with a more realistic understanding of your wounds, not in mourning over the “perfect” relationship you “ruined.” (Because—get this—it wasn’t perfect if it couldn’t handle your messiness.) Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can’t love your partner out of their insecurities. You can tell them your truth, and eventually, they’ll just have to choose to believe you. If they can’t, it might be time for a classic JBU (WOW it’s been a while!). You deserve to be with someone who isn’t constantly asking you to prove your love. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our feelings are 100% valid but also 100% our responsibility. Other people aren’t hurting us just because we’re hurt (even if they did break “girl code,” like a friend dating our ex). Instead of trying to control the narrative, how can you decenter yourself in your understanding of their relationship, accept the inevitability of nuance, and self-soothe on your time? Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s okay that people hold versions of you in their mind that you don’t agree with. It’s also inevitable. Reaching out to an ex to explain what “really” happened doesn’t usually help anyone, and might even hurt them. If you know your truth, does it matter that others don’t? Can you release the need for validation and let them process the relationship for themselves? Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feelings are valid, but feelings are liars. How can we separate our partner’s actual behavior from the stories it tells to us? What if being late didn’t mean disrespecting your time, or only grabbing their own towel wasn’t seen as an act of malice? (But also, c’mon…) Realizing it’s not that deep is a good start, but radically accepting our partner is better. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being in relationship with a grieving partner is HARD—even harder than grieving yourself. But you can’t be the only bailing out water. Something has to change, whether you stop and let the boat sink or they start helping. How can you acknowledge their depression AND your isolation while you slowly work your back to the relationship you had? Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can’t carve trust out of your partner’s deceit. If they’ve shown you a pattern, it’s best to believe it. And while it’s hard to let go of a relationship you fought so long for, it’s worse to stay in an unsafe, unsatisfying one. Even Sam might leave Peter over this many lies (and that’s saying a LOT). Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You’re not just “full of hormones,” you are FULL OF HORMONES! Your pregnant feelings are valid, but instead of blaming your partner for the bad ones, tell them you need more—more patience, support, sharing of the mental load (and more Indian food, dammit!). Once you properly mourn the relationship you had, you can open yourself to a stronger, deeper one. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You’re not bound to the thing you thought you wanted. If you want more (or less, or different), let them know. You can’t avoid revealing feelings and risking rejection, but it’s never as scary as you think—and it can be so worth it. If it doesn’t work, you can always go back to your hoe phase. That’s eternal. (Be warned: y’all asked for tangents, and we delivered.) Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Someone saying your worst fear is true doesn’t mean it is; it means they knew your worst fear and used it against you. And that will always say more about them than it does about you. Look to the people who really know you for affirmation, and try to cut the cords to external validation, as destabilizing as it might be. And if you haven’t already, f***ing watch The Last Of Us (Sierra insists). Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yes, white supremacy poisons everything. No, that doesn’t mean the kind, self-aware white man you’re dating is going to do you harm. Without worst-case-scenario-ing yourself to death, try to prepare for the difficult things that are likely to happen if you do commit to this interracial relationship. (And if the worst case does happen, you can just break up!) Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Compatibility isn’t being the same, it’s finding someone whose differences fit yours. Instead of thinking you might one day “fix” your more inactive, laidback partner, see if you can accept that you have different lifestyles (and that productivity and rest are equally valuable, capitalism be damned). Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a non-binary parent in our Incredibly Gendered World, you WILL have awkward conversations and tense moments, but in the bubble of family, you can affirm and honor your identity. Outside that bubble, it’s up to you who you correct and who you leave in ignorance; when it matters and when sacrificing your peace isn’t worth it. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s only natural to feel abandoned by a partner who leaves for months-long work trips (especially if you’re stuck in upstate New York…). Remember that they’re not the villain—the situation just isn’t working. Figure out what you need from the relationship and approach the problem as a TEAM. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don’t owe people who have hurt you anything. If someone disregards your core identity then has the audacity to turn up after FOUR YEARS and invite you to their wedding, you can respond, or not. You can tell the truth, or not. You can open up about how they hurt you, or not. The only thing you should absolutely do is block-block-block immediately after. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can give someone your best on a silver platter, and they might not like silver. That tells us nothing about you, except that you weren’t right for them. Be kind to yourself until you find the one who loves precious metals—and don’t even try to be friends with your ex until “I love you” fades to “I’d be fine playing a board game with you then leaving.” Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s not wrong to want to hurt the person who hurt you (but it is wrong to take your scathing shower comebacks into the real world). You can’t reason your way out of anger, but you can rely on your circle to build yourself up, let people know how much this experience affected you, and remember that this won’t be this hard forever. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Not having a threesome isn’t an excuse for cheating. And if they did cheat, then you get to decide how the relationship goes from there. Ask yourself: Is it working? Is it worth it? Have they earned their place in your life? Or is the well bone dry, and you’re holding out for trickles? It’s abundant elsewhere if you’re willing to look. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Having empathy is not at odds with demanding accountability. You can respond compassionately to someone’s struggles and still advocate for what you need to have a healthy, functioning relationship with them—anywhere from setting a series of small boundaries to cutting them off completely. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your ex’s new relationship did not rise out of the corpse of your old one. Some people choose to leave us (and in decidedly cruel ways, too). It’s definitely unfair that we’re forced to carry the pain of their actions, but we CAN rightsize our trauma and investigate what’s hiding behind our embarrassment. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Valentine's Day! Or Not. Whatever, it's just a Tuesday. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: Food Science Babe Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adult friendships are HARD. But they’re worth it, even if every new friend won’t be your BFF (or show you their butt, *cough cough* Sam). By recognizing the extreme diversity in human relationships, we can meet people where they are, enforce our boundaries, and enjoy the connection as is without expecting all friends to fulfill all needs. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating again after marriage? Welcome to your second adolescence! Be kind to yourself as you learn this new skill, especially if you’re carrying around grief that you don’t know where to put. Start challenging your own preferences as you explore the parameters of your desire—don’t worry, you’re not wasting anyone’s time. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: Food Science Babe Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get this lady a horse so that she can ride outta that wedding! If you need more time to make a major life decision, take it. Just make sure the decision is “do I want to marry THIS man, THIS month?” and not “do I want to be with this man or this OTHER man?” (or worse, the IDEA of this other man). Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s okay to want to be with someone who has more to say. But it’s more important to figure out what their silence triggers in you. If your anxiety monster will allow it, imagine what it would feel like to believe your partner when they say “I’m fine.” Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can you believe sexuality is more complicated than checking a box?! It’s physical, nebulous, and doesn’t need to be confirmed or denied by your partnerships. Whether you stay in a safe, loving relationship with a man, end your marriage to pursue passionate sex with a woman, or explore an in-between that works for you, you don’t need immediate clarity—or a label. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: Boys In Blue Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parents aren’t some little nuggets to be unearthed. For the healthiest relationship with them, the trick is setting reasonable expectations and boundaries that are more sustainable than trying to change them, and learning to give yourself the thing you desperately wish they’d give you (easier said than done, we know). Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yes, breakups are a mindf*** on every single level. But just because your ex is having a reaction you can’t see doesn’t mean your relationship wasn’t important. It means you don’t have access to each other anymore, but you do have teammates you can turn to. (And if all else fails, you can always call upon The Block, or its trusted sidekick, The Mute.) Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi! Welcome to Just Break Up: Relationship Advice From Your Queer Besties. Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yesika Salgado is a Los Angeles-based Salvadoran poet who writes about her family, culture, city, and fat body. She is a leading voice in poetry, both in performance and social media. She has garnered a large online following across multiple social media platforms through her poetry and her determination to make poetry accessible to everyone in everyday scenarios. The conversation covers the wild things men say on dating apps, when their best still doesn’t meet your needs, the fear of being vulnerable, and the dangers of turning men into poetry. Join us on Patreon! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: Take yourself out to dinner and a movie Just Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices