Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

My guest today is Cynthia Kane. This week is all about communication! Cynthia shares all kinds of advice and help for intentional communication including: the four pillars of right speech and accessing the space (or the pause) to choose how to engage. We pull out some metaphors - why the teen years are a river & behavior as an iceberg. Cynthia and I talk on the importance of authenticity with your teen, what authenticity means, & how to get better at it. Cynthia ends by sharing two concrete strategies for sitting with sensation. Takeaways from the show The four pillars of right speech The pause/the space The teen years as a river Choosing & getting better at authenticity Sitting with sensation For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s show is a solo show- the second of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Takeaways from the show Reviewing the “why” of this series Natural consequences Personal awareness Nurturing relationship Becoming your most conscious self Getting curious around what’s behind behavior Powerful opportunities to grow relationship Having no agenda but curiosity Punishment is a short term tool For show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Dana Dorfman is here today, and we’re talking all about parental anxiety. We talk on how it’s ingrained in us that education, achievement, and productivity are so important, which makes us anxious parents. We talk about how adolescents are dealing with a lot of stuff we didn’t - active shooter drills, the pandemic, constant social media & news. The pressure on our teens is real and accelerated, but there’s also some hope & inspiration there. Dr. Dorfman shares about her 8 parent anxiety reaction types and how we can use that info to do better. Takeaways from the show Dr. Dana Dorfman’s new book: When Worry Works Parental anxiety Generational divides & what adolescents are dealing with today Not letting our narrative get in the way of our teen’s path Achievement pressure 8 parent anxiety reaction types When & how our anxiety can be helpful Defining your values For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Excited to be revisiting this limited series on alternatives to punishment! Part one explores allow for things to unfold for our teens, validating feelings and offering support if needed/asked for. See full show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/alternatives-to-punishment-part-1/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Cindy Muchnick. Listen in this week as Cindy and I talk about “The Parent Compass” book & movement, a guide for parents on how to pull back & let go through the teen years. Moving from managing everything for your little kids to pulling back & giving your teens the reins can be really hard, but we have to do it. Cindy shares some tips for inviting feedback from your adolescent and why, sometimes, we do want our kids to struggle. I ask Cindy about how to talk to teens and stay solution-focused when they don’t seem to be a good fit or interested in a typical, four-year college path. We end by sharing thoughts on over-tutoring, letter grades, monitoring your teen’s grades, & picking colleges. Takeaways from the show “The Parent Compass” book & movement Moving from manager to consultant during the teen years Inviting feedback from your teen Staying “fiercely committed & lovingly detached” Building resiliency by doing hard things Gap years & options outside of four-year colleges Conversations when your teen is struggling with academics What does “do your best” really mean? Over-tutoring, letter grades, & choosing colleges For full show notes, including transcriptions, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today's podcast is a solo show with your host, Casey O'Roarty. Today the content comes straight from the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens Facebook group. I talk a lot with my clients and here on the pod about "energetic responsibility" and a mama posted a question asking me to go deeper. The result is this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is someone who is a friend to the JC pod, DeAntwann “DJ” Johnson. This episode is all about mutual respect. Casey and DJ start by talking about how the idea of respect has changed from the 1950’s to today, and how kids & teens today are asking to & expecting to be respected. We teach respect by being respectful. They dig into whether or not kids need to earn their dignity, our respect, and our love (spoiler: they don’t). DJ points out that the way we treat our children at home is the basis for what they expect from other adults outside of the home, and Casey explains how kids being disrespected in their home can show up as defiance & disconnection. DJ shares stepping stones you can use when young people are disrespectful, a bit about how teenage brain development plays in, and how to be a leader from a place of service for your teen. Casey finishes up by touching on the power of “and” - teaching & expecting kids to respect themselves AND the person in front of them. Takeaways from the show: Showing up respectfully and modeling respect for our teens The difference between respect and being nice Cultivating and teaching respect by being respectful, not by demanding it Kids deserve respect, dignity, & love - they don’t need to earn it Disrespect in the home showing up as defiance and disconnect Softening, respecting, and loving your kids regardless of how they’re showing up Leading from a place of service Teaching teens to respect themselves AND the person in front of them For full show notes including transcriptions, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's show is a solo show with your host, Casey O'Roarty. It's you and me, babe! You. And. Me. Another solo show for diving into work of parenting teens and rolling around in it together. Today I am talking about how encouragement can be a tool for relationship, skill building and showing up as our best. I share language and thoughts about how to uplevel the encouragement in YOUR home so that your teens are more likely to step into cooperation and collaboration. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Rachel Macy Stafford. Rachel joins Casey today to share about her new book, “Soul Shift,” and how to find joy and get back to yourself. Rachel shares the painful truth that started her journey. Casey and Rachel connect over the challenges that raising teens can bring, and how we can be present, relationship-focused, and connected with them during the tough times. Rachel shares a beautiful story about how being human and vulnerable with your teens allows them to be authentic with you, too. They touch on the messiness of teens and how we need to deeply know our children so we can best support them. Rachel shares some of her best practices to find self-worth & growth, like speaking to yourself compassionately and taking time for yourself. Takeaways from the show Cultivating the practice of presence Asking yourself and owning why you do what you do Finding time to nurture yourself Uncovering and responding to one’s deepest truths Connecting with your teen through presence Being real, authentic, & vulnerable with your teen Presence as a door opener for your teen Letting go of distractions and prioritizing connection Finding your self-worth Being in your experience vs. observing the experience For more show notes including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Domari Dickenson. Domari shares how she got started on her Conscious Parenting & Positive Discipline journey. They discuss what Conscious Parenting, Positive Parenting, & Gentle Parenting mean and if those are helpful labels. Domari shares her tips for those of us who are transitioning to a different parenting style, including identifying & digging into your own triggers, leading with love & grace, and feeling all of your feelings. Domari Dickinson is an unschooling mom of four, a certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, and a liberation partner. She provides specialized programs and coaching services that invite parents to identify their oppressive parenting practices while co-creating spaces where they can discuss how to implement more liberatory, love-centered practices that are focused on freedom, respect, and autonomy. Domari is also an educational consultant and serves on the board for the Alliance of Self-Directed Education. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bringing this show back from the vault to remember how we can get clear if we are responding to our kids in a way that is helpful and guiding them towards life skill building. Listen in as I break down the five criteria for Positive Discipline and how it looks in real life with our kids. See all the show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/TBT-259-SOLO-Is-this-positive-discipline Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Chris Willard. Dr. Willard explains how trying to teach mindfulness to teens ended up being a learning opportunity for himself and why he wrote his new book, “How we Grow Through What We Go Through.” He explains the three types of trauma, then Casey & Chris connect on how much self-work needs to be done to parent teens. Casey asks what the first steps are for moving through triggers, and Dr. Willard shares how children & teens can be the catalyst for us to do that work. They dig into why we don’t punish adolescents and what tools to use when things do go sideways with your teen like pausing, responding vs. reacting, mindfulness, anticipating, co-regulating, building trust, & asking “what are both learning?” Dr. Willard and Casey wrap-up today by sharing some specific breathing strategies for all ages. Key takeaways from the show Post-traumatic growth The three types of trauma Doing the self-work to parent our teens First steps for moving through triggers The benefits of making amends & repair with children Why we don’t punish adolescents “Draw out their best, don’t punish out their worst” Tools for a dysregulated parent to stay connected & supportive Asking “what are both learning?” Starting early to build co-regulation strategies Breathing strategies for all-ages For full show notes including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me during this solo show as I talk about "holding the container" for our teens to move through their experiences and practice life skills. Easier said than done. I walk us thought what this looks like in the context of sibling relationships, substance experimenting, school, chores and more - check it out and let me know what you think! Get more show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-367-solo-holding-container-teens-life-skills Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Shefali Tsabary. Dr. Shefali begins by sharing her journey into motherhood & discovering conscious parenting. She shares a bit about what her new book, “The Parenting Map” covers. Casey and Dr. Shefali talk about how challenging it is to look inward and how we work towards growth, not perfection. They dig into challenging any narratives you may have for your own children and finding your flow. Casey asks how we can get past the “smoke screen” and dig in deeper into what’s going on with misbehavior. They talk about teens practicing regulation and about how individuation & defiance are not only developmentally appropriate but necessary. Dr. Shefali shares her five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, fleer and how to acknowledge and calm your ego. They wrap up talking on being in partnership with your child, how & why negotiating with your kids can actually be a good thing, and why we don’t use punishment. Takeaways from the show What is conscious parenting? Dr. Shefali’s new book: “The Parenting Map” The challenges of looking inward Parenting is about growth, not perfection Challenging & deconstructing your narratives The “iceberg” and “smoke screen” behind behaviors Defiance is developmentally healthy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Titania Jordan. Casey and Titania share an engaging, relatable conversation about kids, tweens, teens, and their access to technology & apps. Kids & teens having access to screens can be really convenient, and many of us have brought these tools into our lives. At the same time, they also bring a lot of struggles. Titania shares the importance of modeling healthy use with your own phone. They dig into how to talk to your kids about sexting, nudes, & consent. Casey asks how to know which apps are okay and how to keep up with new apps. Titania shares her thoughts on parental controls, screen time limits, & filters. They also talk about resources like Bark & Skyward, and how much parents really need to know. Takeaways from the show Struggles with teens & their screens Conversations to have with your teen about tech Modeling a healthy relationship with your phone & other screens Prioritizing face-to-face connections Sexting, nudes, & consent Knowing which apps are okay - old & new Using parental controls, screen time limits, & filters Can parents over-monitor? For more episode information including full show transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am exploring unconditional love and how./if this is what our teens experience from us. We may SAY that we love them no matter what, but is that the message they are getting? And what does creating a home where love is unconditional offer to our kids? Listen in and let me know what you think! See full show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-365-solo-unconditional-love-teens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Olivia Thompson. Olivia shares her path to Sesh, a mental health platform for online support groups led by licensed therapists. Olivia shares what she loves about Sesh and tells Casey her thoughts on support groups and connecting with other people who are going through the same things you are. Casey & Olivia talk about the benefits of telehealth. Olivia explains how she was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, her own mental health journey, & strategies that work well for her. Casey connects Olivia’s story to how we can support and scaffold for teens & young adults with ADHD. They also touch on addiction, recovery, identifying triggers, and the stigmas & barriers around mental healthcare. Takeaways from the show Using online & telehealth resources for mental health Support groups & connecting with a community ADHD diagnosis as an adult Sesh platform & offerings Stigmas around & barriers to mental healthcare For full transcripts and more show notesm, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am thrilled to be expanding on a conversation happening in the Living Joyful Courage community around how to support a growth mindset and optimism in our teens. They have a lot going on and are coming of age in a messy world - listen in to this show to hear my take on it all. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Hunter Clarke-Fields. Back from Abu Dhabi, Casey and Hunter reflect on Parenthood: The Unconference. Hunter shares how she got involved with the conference, and they remember what it was like to visit the UAE (including a trip to a camel festival and being anointed with oils)! They discuss the universality of parenting challenges despite other cultural differences. Casey and Hunter finish by sharing what tools they used to stay confident on a global stage like mindfulness, self-compassion, & preparing beforehand. Takeaways from the show Reflections on Parenthood: The Unconference Universality of parenting challenges Tools that helped Hunter & Casey feel confident and happy presenting on a global stage The power of community For full show transcripts and other details visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This solo show takes a closer look at how parenting with Positive Discipline does NOT equal avoiding the hard stuff, instead it is about leaning into relationship WHEN the hard stuff shows up. Being brave is something we are invited into over and over again as we parent through the seasons of adolescence. Listen in as I explore what that looks like internally, as well as externally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg. Stephanie starts by explaining what a narcissist is, what they’re driven by, & what that may look like. Stephanie shares what it’s like to be in relationship with a narcissist, how you might feel growing up with a narcissistic parent, and how that ripples out into other relationships. Casey asks for indicators that someone may be a narcissistic parent and what that relationship looks like as an adult. They talk about setting limits & boundaries that work versus cutting a parent out. Stephanie shares her wisdom on radical acceptance & letting go. Casey & Stephanie dig into how people can start dismantling their negative thinking. Takeaways from the show What is narcissism? What’s the experience of someone who’s in relationship with a narcissist? Indicators that someone might be a narcissist Role-reversal & daughters comforting mothers Relationships with narcissistic mothers as an adult Setting limits & boundaries that work Radical acceptance Dismantling negative thinking For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A solo show all about how to shift into the "roommate mentality" when inviting our teens to contribute and help out around the house. I know, I know, it can feel really tough to get them up and moving... But I am confident there are some nuggets here in this pod that will help you turn things around. Enjoy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Olatunde Sobomehin. Olatunde Sobomehin shares about his life-changing sabbatical and how that led to him co-authoring the book, “Creative Hustle: Blaze Your Own Path and Make Work That Matters.” Olatunde shares how to name and know your and your teen’s gifts & goals and how principles, people, & practice can help you move from gifts to goals. He shares specific questions to reflect on to discover your gifts and what he sees getting in the way for young people. They dig into how to help young adults choose work that matters while still needing to make money. Casey shares some of her story about finding and choosing work that matters to her. Sobomehin wraps up by sharing more about his book, who is profiled inside, and practical tips for encouraging your teen to stretch & find their own ‘creative hustle.’ Takeaways from the show Knowing and naming your and your teen’s gifts & goals Principles, people, and practice Questions to ask to discover your gifts What gets in the way for young people? Choosing work that matters and balancing that with finances Encouraging teens to stretch into their “creative hustle” For more episode info, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today is a solo show that highlights shifting our thinking about how we are showing up for Gen Z and why this is crucial as we move through the adolescent years with our kids. I share three essential tools for making this shift in a way that strengthens relationship and provides space for our kids to discover who they're meant to be. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart. Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart & Casey dig into ADHD in the adolescent years. Parents of teens with ADHD may see dysregulation looking like compulsiveness, messiness, impulsivity, & a lack of motivation. Parents may think that their kids are lazy or lacking willpower, when in reality, their executive functioning skills are truly off balance. Dr. Lockhart & Casey talk about discussing long-term goals with teens, moving backwards from there, baby steps, as well as figuring out what feels hard so we can best support them. They discuss how to support adolescents with ADHD and how that may differ from what neurotypical teen brains need. Dr. Lockhart explains what rejection sensitive dysphoria is & how to talk to teens about their ADHD. Casey asks how to get buy-in from a teen to work with an ADHD coach or other outside support or services. They finish by talking about what teens with ADHD need most. Takeaways from the show Keeping your focus on teaching life skills, not compliance What does ADHD look like in an adolescent? Misconceptions about teens with ADHD Asking “what’s hard about it?” Scaffolding & strategies like body doubling and creating a false sense of urgency Do teens with ADHD need different things to support brain development than a neurotypical adolescent? Rejection sensitive dysphoria Talking to teens about their ADHD Getting your teen to utilize an ADHD coach or other outside support What do teens with ADHD need most? For more episode details including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I am on solo to talk about moving into a new year and how community supports us in growing through what we are going through. I am here to speak directly to you, the listener, and hopeful that you feel seen and heard in what I share. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Casey Davidson. Casey Davidson shares her path to sobriety and becoming a sober coach. Davidson explains what Dry January is - one of five adults in the US did Dry January last year! Davidson shares which demographics are drinking more & less and how the pandemic ramped up consumption. Casey Davidson shares the effects of alcohol on the body, even for light and moderate drinkers, and some benefits that come with not drinking. They discuss what obstacles can pop up for people who are not drinking. Casey Davidson shares about the “sober curious” movement - experimenting with not drinking without the pressure of giving up alcohol completely. They dig into the highs and lows of the first 30 days of sobriety and the best “quit lit.” Takeaways from the show Experimenting with sobriety Dry January Normalization of drinking in our culture Impacts of using alcohol to “take the edge off” Benefits of not drinking Obstacles of not drinking The “sober curious” movement The first 30 days of sobriety Finding the approach that resonates with you The best “Quit Lit” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Casey for the final show of 2022! Casey’s solo this episode, recapping and reflecting on the year and welcoming 2023. She revisits her 2022 vision board and some of her favorite episodes & guests from the year. Casey ends the show by leading an end-of-year manifestation ritual. Takeaways from the show: Themes & challenges during the holiday season Releasing 2022 & welcoming 2023 Favorite Joyful Courage episodes this year Make a list of the things you did this year Letting go of & releasing the things you’re done with For complete transcripts and complete show info, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Ivy Kwong. Ivy shares about her journey to become a psychotherapist and how she’s healing her relationship and connecting with her parents. Ivy talks about increasing your capacity for discomfort and staying regulated during conversations. Casey and Ivy dig into genetic & experiential intergenerational trauma and how to start healing by expanding your awareness and reparenting yourself. They talk about knowing your inner-selves at different ages and what brings them out. Casey asks what clues we can look for that we have trauma to heal and if we need apologies from parents to move forward. Ivy explains setting boundaries with our parents. Casey and Ivy wrap up by talking about finding compassion for ourselves on our journey. Key takeaways from the podcast: Creating safe spaces for conversations Increasing your capacity for discomfort Healing intergenerational trauma Reparenting ourselves Knowing your inner-selves at different ages Clues that you have trauma to heal The desire to change our parents Setting boundaries with our parents Finding compassion for ourselves For more details including complete transcripts visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy to have this episode to lean back on as we find ourselves in yet another holiday season! Ericka came on last year and talk to me about expectations, flexibility, and communication with our teens during this somewhat-stressful-but-we-want-everyone-to-be-happy time of year. The struggle is real, right!? Ericka provides thoughtful ideas around tradition, gratitude and prioritizing OUR happiness during this season. You can find the full show notes for this episode by going to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-302-creating-tradition-and-connection-with-ericka-souter/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Elise Knox. Casey and Elise share thoughts and advice on taking care of ourselves while connecting with our teens. How do we keep it together during the turbulent teenage years? Elise shares how she stays grounded, then Casey and Elise explore what a parent’s role is during the teen years & how parents can define and get their needs met. They discuss how to show up helpfully, not hurtfully, in the most challenging moments, how to build relationship before the teen years, and how to show up when your teen isn’t feeling connected to you. Elise touches on how we can have empathy and compassion for teenage troubles without projecting our experiences as adolescents. Casey and Elise close by talking about what teens want & need from their parents. Takeaways from the show Keeping it together during the turbulent teen years Staying grounded & calm while holding boundaries Controlling your nervous system A parent’s role & needs during the teen years How to show up in challenging moments to be helpful and not hurtful Phases, behaviors, and challenges won’t last forever Showing up for your teen when they aren’t feeling connected with you Building relationship before the teen years Having compassion for teen troubles without projecting What teens want & need from us For more podcast details including transcription, visit our website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today's guests are Jean Chatzky and Kathryn Tuggle. Casey, Jean and Kathryn discuss their new book, "How to Money". Key takeaways from the show: How do young people learn financial literacy like short-term spending and long-term planning? What are families missing when they teach their children about money? Tracking spending, budgeting, & apps What resources can parents use to educate themselves to better educate their kids about finances? When to start teaching kids/teens about money Teens working & earning their own money Why or why not connect allowance/payment to chores How to help your teen set-up an IRA Tips for teens regarding choosing majors & schools, student loans, and first jobs Find more details about the show on our website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Julie Lythcott-Haims. Casey and Julie chat about Julie’s newest book, “Your Turn: How to Be an Adult,” including what topics are covered, reactions from young adults & parents, and what Julie was hoping for while she wrote this book. They talk on how young adults learn to “fend for themselves” and find self-acceptance. Casey and Julie dig into how and when young adults claim their own narratives and the challenges of when that’s different from your vision for them. They get into the unknown and lifelong effects of Gen Z and the pandemic and wrap-up by touching on how great self-agency and problem-solving feels for everyone, especially these young adults. Takeaways from the show How young people learn to “fend for themselves” What surprises young adults when they move away from home Using Julie’s new book “Your Turn: How to Be an Adult” as a roadmap for adulthood Young adults claiming their own narratives (and when that’s different from your own vision for them) Young adults finding self-acceptance COVID-19 impacting Gen Z Self-agency & problem-solving Looking for more? Check out our website for more + transcripts of the episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Alicia Robertson. Casey and Alicia discuss how to keep and grow your self-worth, healthy boundaries, communication, and confidence during and after divorce. Alicia advises on what to share with kids about your divorce and how to give them (and yourself) safety, security, and stability during this complex, emotional time. Casey and Alicia talk custody agreements, single parenting, co-parenting challenges, and tweens and teens having a parental preference. They wrap up by digging into dating after divorce. Takeaways from the show: Creating a new family dynamic after divorce What kids need to know about divorce and why you’re separating Boundaries, communication, follow-through, and safety with your previous partner Responding instead of reacting Typical custody agreements Single parenting & co-parenting Tweens and teens having strong opinions & parental preferences Dating after divorce See full show details including transcription here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Another throwback!! Love going into the vault to revisit some of the Joyful Courage solo shows of the past. This one is especialy sweet. Our teens are doing the best they can with the tools they have in the moment. They are responding to the external events and experineces around them. Listen in as I guide listeners through an experiential activity that highlights how the WAY we communicate influences how our kids are feeling, thinking and deciding to do. You're kids are not manipulating you. Get the full show notes for this show on our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Todd Adams. Todd and Casey talk about raising young, straight, cis-gendered, white men and how to balance teaching them about the responsibility that comes with their privilege without over-burdening them. They discuss what it means to “be a man” and how to nurture a young man’s emotional intelligence & the importance of modeling. Todd shares how important it is for parents to be self-aware, curious, and willing to learn. He gives strategies for connecting with and calling-in teenagers and why to connect when they’re ready. Casey and Todd remind us that there’s not a perfect script, but an ongoing conversation, when it comes to tough topics like consent, substance use, & being advocates. Todd wraps up by talking about what healthy masculinity and “mature masculinity” look like to him. Takeaways from the show Raising teenagers is messy- especially right now. What is privilege? What does it mean to “be a man?” What are the men in your home modeling for your teens? What do boys need from their parents? What are ways to call-in & connect with teens? It’s natural for kids to pull away from us in their teen years. There’s no script for tough topics with teens like consent & being advocates - it’s an ongoing conversation. What is healthy masculinity? For more see our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Anjali Ferguson. Dr. Anjali Ferguson and Casey dig deep in this episode on how to be in conversation with teens about social-political issues, including abortion. Dr. Ferguson weighs in on if we should bring up tricky topics or wait for children to ask questions and gives tips on how to be ready for emotionally-charged topics. They share advice on when and how to take a moment during challenging conversations and the work that’s needed to parent differently than we were parented. Dr. Ferguson explains how to validate and hear what your teen is sharing, even when you have a difference of opinion. Casey asks Dr. Ferguson about best practices for being open with tweens and teens, especially regarding reproductive rights. They talk about the pros and cons of teenagers getting news and information from social media like TikTok. Dr. Ferguson shares how Parenting Culture provides resources for and supports families of different races, faiths, and cultures to address tough topics and difficult questions. She wraps up by speaking on openness, racial socialization, and cultural identity. Key takeaways from the show All kids and teens will ask you hard questions and want answers - expect it & prepare to be open Inviting open dialogue, staying non-judgmental, & communicating around emotionally-charged topics How to handle your child or teen having different opinions than you do Kids will stop coming to us if they don’t feel heard, seen, & validated, especially when we have differing opinions Knowing when to be open with tweens & teens, especially regarding reproductive rights and when to fall back on facts Destigmatizing why people choose abortion How do we handle teens getting their news and information from social media like TikTok? Asking questions to model & foster critical thinking Resources for families of different races, faiths, and cultures to address difficult questions and tough topics like reproductive rights, Covid-19, healthcare, & more What’s racial socialization? What’s your cultural identity? Looking for more? Find all the show details on our website here: www.besproutable.com/podcasts/tough-conversations-election-anjali-ferguson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So glad to be highlighting this show again - wowzer. This is such a profound invitation, every day, to be who our teens need then to be. Yes, love them with all of you, stand by them, AND give them space to discover all there is to learn from mistakes and risks, triumphs and failures - these are THEIRS to experience. Doesn't mean we abandon them, it DOES mean that we love them through it all regardless of how it looks. This is what all kids need, even those adult ones! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aly shares about her own tough teen years and how she started working with parents of teens. Casey & Aly dig into what misguided ideas parents of teens have and what new brain science is showing us, like behavior-based parenting (ie: punishments and rewards) leading to acting-out & defiance and how much brains grow & change during puberty. Aly explains what a boundary truly is, and why children & teens should not and cannot be responsible for parent’s feelings. She shares how common co-dependence is for Gen X and Gen Y and how that can lead to controlling or catering to your teen along with a sense of responsibility for others feelings and behaviors. Casey breaks down being kind & firm at the same time. Aly defines boundaries and expectations with examples as well as how & why to stay compassionate and curious with your teen. Aly wraps up by explaining what teens need to show their best effort, including in an antiquated school system. Takeaways from the show: Misguided ideas about the teen years We parent the way we were parented The strategies that worked well with your young child will not work with that same child in the teen years 100% of behavior is driven by emotion; we must learn relationship-skills and how to connect Gen X and Gen Y were raised with a heavy responsibility for their parent’s feelings, leading to co-dependence Everyone, including parents and teens, are worthy and deserving of respect You are responsible for your own feelings and behaviors and not anyone else’s (including your teens) What really is a boundary? What’s the difference between a boundary and an expectation? Staying compassionate and curious with your teen Effort = belief in self + belief in a probable success + understanding the risk of failure Parenting is a process that starts with you: be gracious, let it be messy, & it’s never too late to change a relationship For more information + transcripts go to our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I'm outta here!! For real. I am on a plane with Julietta Skoog, my partner at Sproutable headed out on a WORLD TOUR!! We land later today in the UAE and will be speaking at the Parenthood Unconference next week, alongside so many amazing speakers. Listen to this SHORT solo show to hear all about it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Domari Dickinson. Domari shares how she got started on her Conscious Parenting & Positive Discipline journey. They discuss what Conscious Parenting, Positive Parenting, & Gentle Parenting mean and if those are helpful labels. Domari shares her tips for those of us who are transitioning to a different parenting style, including identifying & digging into your own triggers, leading with love & grace, and feeling all of your feelings. Takeaways from the show: What does being a conscious parent mean? Doing the work ourselves & focusing on personal growth Unpacking your bags and identifying your triggers Leading with love & grace Get comfortable asking yourself “why?” Being okay with not having “the right answer” Feeling & accepting all of your feelings For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Listeners - you are in for a TREAT!! This Thursday the Joyful Courage podcast feed is being taken over by my good friend, Julie Neale, host and brilliance over at Mothers Quest Podcast. Julie has powerful conversations with incredible guests and I am honored to be sharing one of those convos here with the Joyful Courage community. Julie's guest is Jonathan Mooney, father, writer, speaker, activist, and self-described “do-gooder.” He is the author of Normal Sucks, How to Live, Learn and Thrive Outside the Lines. Jonathan forged his own path to Brown University where he co-founded an organization and co-wrote a book to help neurodivergent students like himself succeed in college. He has been a champion for neurological and physical diversity for more than two decades, and goes deep and wide with Julie about the pervasive impact of institutionalized and cultural ableism and his quest to help himself and others with differences understand they are not deficient. You are IN FOR A TREAT MY FRIENDS!! While you're at it, be sure to check out MothersQuest episode 93 where Julie's son, a freshman at UCLA, interviews Jonathan about neurodivergent activism and more! Appreciating you all so much! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Kimberly Holmes. Kimberly and Casey talk about their family backgrounds and what common challenges long-term, committed couples are facing. They discuss couples therapy and intentionally supporting both spouses & a safe environment during Marriage Helpers workshops. Casey and Kimberly talk similarities and differences between problem solving, using curiosity questions, and compromising with a teen versus with a spouse. Kimberly shares advice on how to listen to and take feedback from a partner and tips on how parents can find common ground when it comes to their teens. Casey and Kimberly wrap up digging into the importance of consistency, relationships ending, and the challenges of co-parenting. Takeaways: How do the teen years affect your partnership with your spouse? Pushing or pulling out of a marriage How do you show up in your relationship? Genuinely asking your spouse questions with curiosity Receiving feedback from a spouse without getting defensive Finding common ground, empathy, & being teammates with your spouse Do parents need to have the same parenting style? Can every marriage be saved? When is it time to call it quits? Having peace in your decisions Co-parenting challenges, disappointments, & tips Find full show notes here: http://www.besproutable.com/eps-341-exploring-intimate-partnerships-kimberly-holmes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so grateful to be bringing back this show. It was a powerful re-listen for me, and I remembered the tension of the early teen years, the mistakes my daughter was telling me she was making, and how challenging it was to hold it all and still feel like I knew what I was doing. If you are committed to relationship centered parenting AND struggling with your teens risky behavior or less than ideal decision making, this show will help you feel seen, no doubt. If you are interested in the waitlist for my membership program, head to www.besproutable.com/ljc. For more complete shownotes for this show go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-115-solo-show-exploring-trust-and-surrender-as-i-navigate-all-there-is-to-learn-while-raising-a-teen/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Britt Hawthorne. Casey and Britt dig into what being anti-biased and anti-racist mean. Britt shares strategies from her new book, “Raising Anti-Racist Children: A Practical Parenting Guide,” for talking about racism with children and teens including embracing getting uncomfortable & admitting what you don’t know. Britt shares her wisdom on how to tackle tough topics like police brutality with your kids and family. Guest Description Britt Hawthorne is a black, bi-racial mama, teacher, author, and anti-bias & anti-racist facilitator. Britt partners with caregivers, educators, and families to raise the next generation of anti-racist children. Together with her beloved partner, they are raising their kids to be empathetic, critical thinkers embracing justice and activism. Her days are filled with coffee, teaching, and joy. You can find out more about Britt at www.britthawthorne.com. See full show notes here: http://www.besproutable.com/raising-anti-racist-children-with-britt-hawthorne/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Raising teenagers is HARD. This solo show explores the dynamic we create when we work to hold on to control and what come alive when we are willing to let go and give our kids the space they need to develop the skills that will serve them in the long term. Get the full show notes at: www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-339-solo-having-the-courage-to-let-go Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Amy Lang. Amy and Casey discuss the importance of and how to talk about sex and sexuality with your tweens and teens. This conversation covers sex, sexuality, consent, sex positivity, pornography, safe spaces for sex, gender. They also share resources and tips for these sometimes-awkward conversations with growing kids. Amy Lang has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. In 2006, she started Birds & Bees & Kids. With her lively, engaging, and down-to-earth style she helps parents become comfortable and confident talking with their kids. Amy’s books, online solutions center, and podcast show parents they really can become their kids' go-to birds and bees source. Amy is still married to her first husband, and they are getting the hang of parenting their recently launched man-child. She lives in Seattle, WA, and you can learn more about her work at BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com and BBKPros.com. Find out more here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Throwing it back this week to episode 171, a solo show were I explore the work of keeping it together when things fall apart. I would argue this is THE work. If you are someone who find youself getting on the emotional freight train with your kids, this show is for you. I share ideas and practices that will support you with staying in the present moment and being who your kids need you to be when they are having a hard time. Find all the show notes on the original show page - https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-171-solo-show-being-the-calm-inside-the-storm/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I am interviewing Esther Goetz. Esther is the mama behind the wildly popular instagram account, Moms of Bigs. We spent time in this interview talking about the power of community during this season of parenting, and how authenticity and transparency about our experiences creates deeper connections with each other, and supports us in moving through the hard times. See the full show notes at: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I am back with a FRESH solo show for you! I dig into the phrase "I believe you" as I understand it from Dr. Becky Kennedy's work. What would have happened if our parents had said that to us as teens? What could it open up in our relationship with our OWN teens if we are willing to say it to them? Enjoy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices