I am Driven Podcast

Leading expert in Developmental Trauma, Stephen Terrell shares the traumas of his own life that have influenced his role as a healer today. Stephen's "Transforming the Experience Based Brain" is a healing modality that has helped many people work through their own developmental trauma--which is trauma experienced in utero or as a child--as well as provided psychologists, therapists, and other healers with a method to support CNS regulation with their clients for healing. Stephen's methods inspire practitioners to use more right-brain 'being' to create space for healing.

Army veteran Scott DeLuzio was deployed to Afghanistan in 2010, and, like it does for many others, that deployment changed his life forever. His deployment ended when he was given the news that his younger brother, who was also deployed in Afghanistan, lost his life in combat. Upon his return home, he struggled to find himself and face his grief while also trying to learn how to be a father. Scott shares his stories and struggles on this weeks episode of the I am Driven podcast. You can find Scott online at driveonpodcast.com and his book Surviving Son is available on Amazon.

Anthony Trucks is a former NFL football player turned 'identity shift coach' who grew up in the foster care system. Experiencing numerous hardships at a young age motivated him to take action, constantly looking to improve his circumstances. He joins the I am Driven podcast to share challenges he's faced as a person, parent, and professional, as well as the importance of being able to shift your identity to reach your full potential. You can find Anthony on Instagram at anthonytrucks , and online at anthonytrucks.com. Check out his book Identity Shift on Amazon

Tom D'Eri was obviously a Driven from a very young age. He went from being isolated and lonely as a kid, to becoming a businessman named in Forbes 30 Under 30. He joins Dr. Doug and Meghan to share his experience growing up with parents who fostered his Driven nature, his entrepreneurship journey, as well as his book. He also specifically dives into his venture in his business Rising Tides Car Wash where 80% of his employees are on the autism spectrum. Take advantage of Tom's deal on his website and get a free resource with the purchase of his book at theautismadvantage.com

Erin Bellanca struggled through her Driven identity most of her young life, always eager to accomplish the next big thing. Once she was able to come down to earth, her identity shifted from being solely placed in her work and she was finally able to be present. Erin takes a deep dive with Dr. Doug and Meghan about life in a Driven marriage and how they manage to find balance as Driven women in their partnerships.

Dr. Doug and Meghan break down and discuss some of the intricacies of dreaming and what some parts of dreams can mean. What you can learn from and work through personally with your dreams might surprise you. Resources mentioned include Why We Dream by Matthew Walker, PhD and Inner Work by Robert A. Johnson.

A term that a lot of our Driven listeners have asked for us to break down, Dr. Doug joins Meghan to break down dorsal freeze on today's podcast. In sharing some analogies, as well as some real-life applications, plenty of Drivens should now have a better understanding of a term that gets thrown around quite a bit. Books mentioned in this podcast: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van den Kolk Trauma and Memory by Peter Levine Nurturing Resilience by Kathy Pain & Stephen Terrell

Melissa Hughes, Founder of Live Rich. Spread Wealth. Movement & Company, was sick of being suffocated and over worked in corporate America. She transitioned into coaching people into living richer lives by becoming their best selves. Melissa is a best-selling author, speaker, and master business coach that became a self-made millionaire by the age of 31! She shares her work with Drivens in helping them to channel the best version of themselves, as well as how she too became her best self. Learn more about Melissa's work at MelissaHughes.com or more about her business at LiveRichSpreadWealth.com Also on social media @IAmMelissaHughes

JL Holdsworth went from College Football player to World Record holder in powerlifting in 2 years. Failure is not an option and success can never come fast enough. JL experienced an awakening and until he did so, he didn't even realize all of the things he was missing out on, from observing the world to experiencing feelings. JL shares his story of how a self-sabotaging injury got him to where he is now and how his life has completely changed.

Trivinia Barber, the Driven woman whom Dr. Doug wrote chapter 5 of his book Driven about, gets vulnerable in this weeks episode. She shares about how her many traumas shaped her life and how, with the help of Dr Doug, she tackled a variety of intrusive thoughts and finally got her marriage to thrive after 20 years.

A United States Marine Corps Veteran turned serial entrepreneur and keynote speaker, Ben Taylor, gets vulnerable on the podcast this week. Ben shares stories from the impact of his military service and entrepreneurial endeavors, as well as his recent experience at the Driven Meditation Shooting Retreat. Many Driven's will surely be able to relate to what Ben shares about his journey through life. For more on the work Ben is doing visit: https://bentaylortalks.com/

From being overseas and leading covert intelligence briefings to orchestrating security programs for 4,000 Soldiers, Shelly Rood joins Dr. Doug and Meghan for this week's episode. She shares just some of the things she learned in her 16-year role as a female in a male-dominated profession as an Intelligence Officer in the US Army Reserves, along with the numerous challenges of that system. Shelly also speaks on some of the many ways she perceives the world and acts in life as a strong, Driven woman. As an ordained minister, she also offers her perspective on faith and Christianity and why so many people see and do it all wrong. The link mentioned by Shelly in the episode for the 21-page guide is https://othersoverself.com/DRIVEN/

The youngest podcast guest to date, Jordan Yusunas, started working with Dr. Doug while still in high school. He shares about his experience in discovering and channeling his drivenness, reframing his life to focus on the process, and realizing there isn't a finish line.

Kenny Baker is a former professional and continued competitive road cyclist who also works with his business 51 Fitness, a holistic health practice with the idea of full body wellness. Kenny is a true driven who has always found his most important competition in his eyes was himself. He found holistic practices in hearing about the work of Paul Chek (I'm Driven podcast guest 3/9 Episode 36) and dove right in those and similar modalities. Kenny was also a recent participant in Race Across America - (RAAM), which is a 3000-mile bike race starting in Oceanside, CA, and finishes in Annapolis, MD. Find more about Kenny's work at https://www.51fitness.org

Neuroscience has shown that 95% of our life experiences are shaped by unconscious programs. Dr. Olga Stevko is a Russian MD who has created a unique and powerful methodology that allows her to identify and transform unconscious programs which are caused by childhood traumas and traumas passed down genetically. We talk with Dr. Stevko about transforming unconscious programs and how we can change how the nervous system reacts to everything that triggers flight, fight and freeze responses, dramatically impacting our behavior as Drivens.

Rebecca Boatman has been working with Dr. Doug for about two and a half years through her transformation from girl to woman. As the founder of The Brave Movement, she has taken her training in emotional intelligence and helped transform the lives of thousands of women. Dr. Doug and Rebecca reference the book She by Robert Johnson as they discuss the parallels Rebecca experienced in her own life, as well as the intricacies of the female mind. Dr. Doug discusses the many complexities of the design for a relationship between a man and a woman, the things both sides should seek, and the roles to be played in divine masculinity and femininity. You can find more about The Brave Movement online at https://jointhebravemovement.com/about/

Amber Setter became an accountant, following in the footsteps of an admired role model, until she realized there was a desperate need in the industry. She decided to get her Masters in Leadership Studies and started her own company supporting better work-life balance and conscious business practices for CPAs. She talks with us about how her trauma molded her into becoming the professional and person she is today, as well as her journey to an impactful soul awakening. You can find Amber online at https://conscious.cpa

Ken Kladouris is a true driven who saw the lifestyle his uncle lived as a financial planner, and at a very young age decided that he would do anything he could to get to that place. Ken works in a unique position to be able to help people to stop living in how fear drives their desire to make money, and transition into helping people find stillness in their lives. Ken speaks on his experience with mediation and how the practice has affected how he not only lives his life, but also how he works. You can find Ken online at https://kenkladouris.com or his business page at https://www.stillnesstosuccess.com

Freddy Silva is a leading historical researcher, specifically in the realm of temples and consciousness, who has written seven books and starred in fourteen documentaries. Freddy shares a lot of insights to how he has worked to ground himself and continues to analyze his lifestyle and grounding habits. He also shares his unique relationship to music and how he uses it as a form of meditation. You can find Freddy online at invisibletemple.com

Dr. Doug and Meghan break down the practice of patience and its difficulties being a Driven. Specifically, in her current situation, being 9 months pregnant, Meg shares her experience being a Driven, expecting another child. The illusion of being trapped while anxiously awaiting the next big thing tests your patience to the utmost. Dr. Doug suggests taking time to meditate to continue a daily practice of patience while also understanding suffering comes from your inner-self.

Aaron Doughty took the leap that most say they want to take, but few persevere through. We talk with Aaron about what Doug calls the sin of the feminine: Control. Aaron grew up with a controlling, narcissistic step-mother, which led to a pattern of this type of female figure always controlling a part of his life. Noticing these patterns, and sick of living in the monotony of his 9-5 job selling women's shoes, Aaron's curiosity led him down a path of self-discovery and sharing what he learned on Youtube. His channel quickly grew to over 1M subscribers, and now he focuses on his passion for spreading self-love and spirituality with his growing online audience. You can find Aaron's videos on YouTube and his self-titled podcast on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

Mike Koenigs has always challenged at least the pace of the status quo. As a leader of his current company, he helps people see what they do best, but he still wrestles with his Driven fear-fueled scarcity. Mike shares with us how he hustled his way through life, finishing high school then moving away to go to technical school. He kept his head down, until he was forced to look up when his wife changed all the locks on their house. We talk with Mike about relationships, his journey to a successful career in media, and beating a bleak cancer diagnosis in his forties. Mike's story is one about comebacks. You can find his book, Cancerpreneur, on Amazon.

A self-titled former 'frogifier of men', Alison Armstrong's curiosity has led her to pursue a better understanding of men. We dig into the difference in mentalities of men and women with Alison, how they process situations differently and communicate differently. Our interactions with the opposite sex can get pretty complex considering every person's tendency to project wounds and to assume the other sex thinks, processes, and communicates like they do. We're different down to the simplest forms of our biology, and in this episode we study and celebrate those differences. Check out all of Alison's amazing online resources for understanding men, women, and intimacy at https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/

Michael Holt grew up in Philadelphia and knew as a young man he needed to remove himself from the environment to stop his self-sabotage, after a handful of run-ins with the law. Michael moved to California to forge his own path, studying under previous podcast guest, Paul Chek, to become a holistic health practitioner. We talk with Michael about the critical balance of being a savage and being a saint--that you can be both the most dangerous guy in the room, and the most loving. Michael's relatability to men led him to start a men's community for self-mastery. You can find information on that at tribemenscommunity.com and sign up for his newsletter.

This week we take some time on the podcast to review my top 10 recommended reads for those who have recently been introduced to this work. If you've read Dr. Doug's book and relate to being Driven, it's probably spurred A LOT of new questions and curiosities. These are some of the books Dr. Doug recommended to me in our early days working together, and some others I've really appreciated in my own journey. I break it down into 3 categories: Books for Greater Understanding, Books for Deeper Knowing, and Books for Taking Action. Get those Amazon carts queued up.

Tucker Max, New York Times Bestselling Author and founder of Scribe, and Veronica Max, a Nurse Practitioner, and entrepreneur herself, have been in a Driven marriage now for over a decade. In raising 4 kids, they've found a balance of organized chaos that works for them both, although that doesn't mean it's never a point of friction. The drive for self-sufficiency can cause turmoil in a relationship between Driven individuals because that then brings the other to ask, "Well what do you need me here for then?" Vulnerability is key in any relationship but Tucker & Veronica highlight how it's imperative in a Driven relationship.

Tim Corcoran is the founder of Purpose Mountain, where he offers Nature-Based Purpose Guidance to support people with a love for wild nature who feel a deep yearning to discover their purpose. Tim also serves as co-Director of Twin Eagles Wilderness School, an organization he co-founded with his wife, Jeannine Tidwell, in Sandpoint, Idaho in 2005 dedicated to facilitating deep nature connection mentoring, cultural restoration, and inner tracking. A leader of vision quests, holistic rites of passage, and men's groups, Tim has been facilitating spiritual initiations in the wilderness since 1999. Healing the cultural rift between the mainstream and indigenous cultures, transformational consciousness work, the spiritual journey, ancestral work, deep nature connection, family and health are all deep commitments in his life.

Steven Sisler is a behavioral analyst and axiologist who grew up in Boston as the son of a preacher. He went to seminary and his curiosity ended up pushing him out of the profession. Steven shares that life is a three-dimensional system and people who have their priorities of those dimensions in check are the most successful. Steven shares stories about how he has used axiology to read clients and understand them better than those who have known them their whole lives. Check out Steven's new book Axiology. Also visit behavioralresourcegroup.com or aristoaxiologygroup.com for more resources to look under the hood of your business or your own life.

Rick Ricart is the president of a family-owned group of car and motorcycle dealerships in Ohio, originally founded by his grandfather. Rick shares with us the 'full-speed' pursuit of success engrained during his upbringing, surrounded and supported by Driven individuals. We talk about the dark side of drive, and Rick's travels to the depths of addiction, as well as the rituals and practices he has put in place to maintain sobriety for the last 11 years. We talk about humility, aggressive patience, and gratitude for the people in our lives that help us stay grounded.

Jason Fowler is a physician's assistant in an Emergency Room as well as the Owner of Lake Effect Hockey, a fast-growing youth hockey organization. Jason's first job as a forensic pathologist assistant opened doors for him to teach pathology at a university which led him to want to go back to school to become a PA. Following his graduation with a 4.0 and testing in the top 2% on his boards. Eject buttons kept rerouting his life into different avenues so he then ran with his childrens' passion for hockey and his entrepreneurial spirit took over. Jason also shared about managing his driven son in both his sport and his school work.

As a trailblazer in the mental coaching space, it's an honor to have Gay Hendricks on the podcast. He shares his ideas about pure consciousness, the upper limit, and more. Getting to where you need to be is about the sincerity of your commitment. To not know the path to get there is part of the beauty of the journey. Gay's books include The Big Leap, The Genius Zone, Conscious Living, Conscious Loving, and more.

Mike Green is a Master Certified Coach who hosts some of the wildest expeditions we've heard of; and that's no metaphor. Mike's expertise lies in hunting and hiking the most extreme wilderness terrain across multiple continents from South Africa to Alaska, where he calls home. Mike has seen his Drive on display in all aspects of his life and shares with us his transformation from curiously wandering the unknown to leading others through it. Check out Mike's book Wandermust: A Hero's Journey to Seven Truths on Amazon.

Andrew Johnston is a Driven through and through. His story details a continued fight through adversity as a professional athlete and multi-race champion in two endurance sports, while engaged in an ongoing battle with a rare form of Leukemia he was diagnosed with at 32. Andrew continued his practice and study of the body after his professional athlete career by becoming a personal trainer and holistic health practitioner. We talk with Andrew about resilience, gratitude, and the fearful question all parents experience: How bad will we screw up our kids?

Sean Lake is a former pro-snowboarder turned entrepreneur who has consistently defined himself by taking 'hard lefts.' Sean thrived in the punk-rock scene, quickly latching on to skateboarding as a kid, which was hardly defined as a sport in the early 80s. In talking with Sean we discover that this exploration of friction in going against status quo was actually his way of following his heart. Sean shares with us stories of friendship, determination, and building a heart-led company. Check out Sean's growing brand, BubsNaturals.com for top notch collagen and MCT-Oil. 10% of profits are donated to veteran charities.

Drew Myers wrapped his arms around his father's advice: "if you're not happy, do something else." It took Drew 11 jobs in 11 years to figure out that happiness isn't 'found' in what we're doing. We talk with Drew about stumbling upon his calling as a radio show host, his journey to hell realms, and about a novel concept he embraced to lift himself out: Obedience. Check out Drew's amazing book on Amazon that details obeying the whispers that know better: The Tacos and Chocolate Diet socials: @DefiningAudacity DrewMyers.life

What gets people 'into Dr. Doug's office' is a sense of aloneness. Humans are wired for attachment. Every cell in our bodies is connected to the cells next to it. Separation creates pain. A cut to the skin is separation that creates pain, just as separation from other humans creates pain. Today we take a deep dive into the pain of isolation, the difference between pain and fear, and the realization by many of our Driven community members that the fear and avoidance of pain that got us to where we are isn't going to get us to where we want to go. We can confront that pain, appreciate that it is evidence of love, and know it's wisdom.

Justin Foster noticed his defiance at a young age and his Driven behaviors grew in the shadows, manifesting as the imposter syndrome that so many Driven's are familiar with. Justin shares with us key awakenings in his life that uprooted the ideal persona he had formed to be accepted in the herd. He moved to Austin, uncoupled from his wife, and changed careers, radically altering his life and forcing him to grow. The battle between the ego and the soul is something Justin has welcomed. We talk with Justin about sitting in that discomfort and approaching life with more non-dual 'Third Way Thinking.' rootandriver.com fosterthinking.com @fosterthinking (Instagram & Twitter) @reluctanthobo (Son's art page) @virginialacayo (partner's coaching website)

In part 2 of 2 on driven relationships, Dr. Doug talks us through the unconscious behaviors that may often put us at odds with our partner, and how we discern when our masculine or feminine energy may be at work. We outline some simple but critical steps to drastically improve your relationship with a Driven partner, and discuss practices we've implemented to improve our own relationships. We can both admit it's not always easy, but relationships HAVE to be difficult to build trust.

There's been a lot of interest from our Driven audience in understanding dynamics of intimate relationship with another Driven person. Whether you are married or seeking a partner, there are likely areas of consistent frustration when trying to connect with another. We're breaking this topic podcast into two parts, focusing first on the key relationship that must be integrated in your inner world in order to truly be available to a partner: Your own Masculine and Feminine energies.

Matt Terwilliger learned through competitive sports that emotions, when unchecked, can be exploited by your opponent. He strived for stoicism all the way through his basketball career, landing him in the 2007 NCAA Basketball National Championship. We talk with Matt about the motivating power emotions can have when you welcome and understand them, and how he tries to explain emotional regulation to his 4-year-old. Matt also shares his own awakening to an unhealthy relationship with money, how he has shifted his perspective away from security scarcity to abundance budgeting, and as a financial advisor how he helps his fellow Driven clients do the same.

Joey Coleman grew up as one of seven kids in a household that allowed his Drive to bloom from the start. A former criminal defense lawyer and jack of many trades, Joey now travels the country speaking and coaching C-suite executives on customer retention. We talk with Joey about the human condition, being married to a Driven, and impactful moments in his most influential relationships. Joey explains how his Drive manifests in his work as a conduit for the unspoken, both professionally and personally.

On today's podcast, we aim to wrap our hands around Imposter syndrome. Dr. Doug defines it broadly as the creation of an ideal or expectation in the outer world that doesn't match our inner world identity. As Driven individuals with a more complex emotional identity and often a heavy dose of perfectionism, many of us experience imposter syndrome. We talk through our personal experience with imposter syndrome, deliberate the potential differences in how it shows up for men and women, and discuss the ways we can ultimately harness it for healthy humility and a life of mastery.

Paul Chek has always been a seeker of knowledge and comprehensive understanding, constantly asking the question 'what caused that?'. This led him to a life of learning, first as an auto mechanic, then in the 82nd airborne division, then progressively exploring exercise science, holistic health, and spirituality. Paul is a licensed holistic health practitioner and founder of the Chek Institute, which offers fitness and healthcare professionals a uniquely integrated and holistic approach to health, fitness and well-being. We talk with Paul about the purpose of pain and suffering, the relationship between spirit and soul, and the uncommon occurrence of truly original thinking.

Entrepreneur turned investor, Scott Thompson grew up in Pennsylvania and identified as a 'pusher' from an early age. He pushed himself to become an Eagle scout by the age of 14 and All-state Wrestler by 17. Scott aspired to pursue his MBA at Stanford, but ultimately found more value in another type of education: sales training. Through his salesmanship and pushing drive, Scott started a staffing company that he quickly grew to over 8,000 staffed employees. We talk with Scott about the realizations we have when we are able to slow down and just be; and the difference between being motivated by personal gain and motivated by love.

Don Joseph Goewey worked hard throughout his career, finally landing himself a dream job at Stanford University. As fate would have it, his world was turned upside down with the diagnosis of a brain tumor, thrusting him out of a job and into an important phase of self-discovery. We talk with Don about how sometimes it takes a life-changing event to get you to 'wake up' and how finding happiness starts with realizing there's nothing to fix. Outside of his own coaching and writing, Don now serves as the executive director of the DeMello Spirituality Center. Check out the book mentioned in the podcast "Stop Fixing Yourself: Wake Up, All Is Well" by Anthony De Mello.

Brad Mills used his dream of making a movie, and the desire to fund it, to fuel his navigation through life. The now-retired serial entrepreneur was always an early adopter of technology and was one of the first to get involved in Bitcoin when he bought his for $5 each. Brad started out with the Google search 'how to make money online' which led to him working through numerous scams and network marketing to get himself to where he is now. We talk with Brad about learning, resilience, and the collective agreements that keep our society going.

Megan Hottman was a late bloomer, athletically. She found cycling in law school and it became her passion; so much so that she spent time as a professional cyclist and then started her own law practice representing injured cyclists. Megan was fueled by her passion, until the exposure to crash scenes, injuries, and death took its toll psychologically. We talk with Megan about secondary trauma and how many professionals like journalists, attorneys, and first responders experience it in their line of work, yet receive little training on how to deal with witnessing that trauma. As Driven individuals, we can relate to Megan's feelings of angst and appreciate that discomfort as a signal: it's time to grow.

Jayson Gaignard, founder of Mastermind Talks, joins us on the podcast for a deep discussion about both success and failure. He shares with us the internal battle of finding fulfillment in his work and in his life, as well as his commitment to the one thing that can't be taken from us: our relationships. Coming out of darkness is difficult, but Jayson shares how he was able to get through dropping out of high school, early success in eCommerce, a brush with bankruptcy, and the fledgling days of MMT funded by his personal bank account. The importance of surrounding yourself with people who won't let you fail is evident in his life, and it's that focus on community that has become his mastery path.

We get back to topics on the I am Driven podcast this week with projection. We talk about what projection is and how it impacts your life in your everyday interactions with both the world in general and other people. What you see is what you feel and what you feel is what you see. We also talk about projection in relationships, as well as collective projection and confirmation bias. The difficulties of trying to separate your feelings from your reality are real, and meditation is a great way to notice it, but what can you do about it?

A God-fearing man with a God-shaped hole in his heart, Trey Weis is yet another Driven who has turned to meditation to help channel his ambition. As a pediatric dentist, he credits his success to his education, along with his ability to focus on accomplishing one thing at a time. We talk with Trey about growing up as a driven kid, building a business versus buying a business, his experience with meta practice, and more. Trey also gives insights into marriage with a Driven partner, and how being married to another Driven has challenged him in the best way. As the manager of a team of 45 employees, Trey shares how he had to learn to transition from the in-your-face, masculine leadership of college football to leading a staff of primarily women.