How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

Do you ever feel like you are speaking to a brick wall?Do your kids sometimes ignore you as if you’re invisible?Do you feel the frustration eating away at you?Well let me tell you something - you are not alone! Every child has moments, and some more than others, of simply not listening. There are so many reasons for this, and yes some of them are learned, but some are simply part of growing up.In today’s episode I am going to explore the main reasons your children don’t listen to you, and give you some practical tips you can start using right now to get your kids wanting to listen to you, which will bring your stress levels down too!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:28 - You are not alone03:10 - Listening is self-regulation06:51 - Patterns of behaviour08:30 - A need for independence11:00 - 5 steps to get your kids listening13:42 - How to make your life easier💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After school tantrums are anything but random.Often, they are a sign that your child has been trying super hard to follow the rules and be on their best behaviour all day - and for neurodivergent children they could be masking all day - and this is exhausting. So when you turn up, they release all of the emotions and big feelings.It might not feel like it, but I promise you, that’s a good thing because it means you are their safe space.But parenting these meltdowns is not easy, so in this episode I’m going to share some really practical tips that you can start using to make those moments feel less stressful and more manageable!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:40 - The one mistake every parent makes01:56 - Discharging the battery03:58 - 3 things your child needs07:19 - Create reset time💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From Adolescence to Louis Theroux, the manosphere has become a mainstream talking point, and that’s a good thing!The manosphere is a term associated with toxic behaviour. Me, you, and all other parents out there know this is not what it means to be masculine or manly, but our kids don’t know that, and it is so important that we help them identify and understand problematic content when they see it, in age appropriate ways.Today I am diving inside the manosphere… well, sort of… to give you some practical tips that you can use to support those tricky conversations, and to help your children become confident, independent and compassionate people.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:17 - What is the manosphere?04:44 - The internet fills information voids07:15 - Don’t panic08:47 - Don’t say don’t12:54 - Critical thinking skills15:45 - Help your son navigate problematic content21:19 - For single mothers💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Returning to work is not easy, especially for new parents.You’ve probably had an extended time off. Your routine is different, your priorities are different, and life is different - you have a child now! So going back to work will never be the same as before.It is hard to adjust to your new normal, but I am going to share five ways you can shift your mindset to deal with this big change.Spoiler alert: parents might be superheroes, but we’re all still human. It’s ok to cut yourself some slack!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:24 - You WILL have to drop things04:57 - Control what you can in the moment08:28 - Find the tribe you need09:44 - Curate your own feed13:29 - Your child needs YOU to be ok💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are many myths about single parent families, and I’m telling you they are not true.The success, wellbeing and happiness of your child has nothing to do with how many parents they live with. In fact, children with single parents are very high achievers.But that doesn’t stop you feeling isolated, lonely, even out of your depth, wondering if you’re doing things right, or doing enough, or being as good a parent as everyone else.Today I’m giving your mojo back. Whether you’re a single parent or not, the practical advice in this episode is valuable to all parents.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:57 - The myths of single parenting06:07 - An invisible pressure10:20 - 3 simple questions14:41 - Boundaries18:04 - Pick your battles20:50 - Community buffers stress💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Calm down.Every parent knows these are the worst two words you can ever say to your child in the midst of a meltdown… and we’ve all learnt the hard way!Bringing your kids down from a tantrum can be impossible, and it’s much better if you have the tools and the tricks to diffuse a situation or calm them down before it escalates into a full tantrum.In this episode I am going to share a life-changing parenting hack that you can use to relieve yours and your child’s overwhelm, and it only takes 30 seconds.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:05 - Calm down02:54 - Meltdowns are not a behavioural problem05:02 - The physiological sigh10:21 - 3 things happen12:28 - Smell the flower, blow out the candle💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You have high expectations for your kids. Every parent does, and I get it!But sometimes we can present those expectations in ways that may not be as supportive to our children as we hoped.Last week I talked through the behaviours you can model to boost your kids’ academic success, confidence and friendships, so today I’m going further and giving you practical, easy to use tips for each of these, that help you manage expectations and show up in the best way possible.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:9 Modelled Behaviours Boosting Academic Success, Confidence and Friendships - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/9-modelled-bevahiours-boosting-academic-success-confidence-friendships/ Highlights from this episode:01:30 - The Eton of State Schools05:57 - Expectation Does Not Guarantee Success12:09 - 3 Tips for Academic Success18:20 - Expectations for Confidence25:14 - Building Friendships💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The UK government has opened a public consultation on a potential social media ban for under 16 year olds, and this creates a huge opportunity for us.It’s not just about giving our opinion to government, but as parents we now have a real chance to connect with our kids like never before.What is their opinion on this?How do they feel?What matters to them, and why?This is chance for us to encourage our children to find a voice, and learn how to speak up for themselves whilst respecting others opinions, even if they disagree with them.And in this episode I share six reasons why this discussion is so important, and give you some practical tips to help you, as you navigate this tricky subject with your own kids.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:Why I Now Believe in a Social Media Ban - https://drmaryhan.com/why-i-now-believe-in-a-social-media-ban-for-under-16s/ Highlights from this episode:00:53 - The social media ban03:44 - See how your child sees things07:54 - Having an opinion10:16 - Using your voice12:50 - An opportunity to shape the outcome💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you have not yet watched American skier Eileen Gu’s interview following her silver medal at the recent Winter Olympics, click the link below, because it blew me away!Her confidence and self-assuredness is an amazing example to lots of young people, especially young women and girls, and it got me thinking… are there common actions or traits of parents who raise successful, confident children?We’re going to find out!In this episode I am going to focus specifically on behaviours that boost academic success, confidence and friendships, and give you three practical tips for each.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:Eileen Gu Interview - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CAhmzgTSBTI Highlights from this episode:00:31 - Eileen Gu05:17 - The Bobo Doll Experiment10:28 - Modelling academic success13:02 - Persistence over perfection16:48 - Confidence is an inside job19:19 - Model realistic confidence24:17 - Friendship Jenga27:16 - Model healthy friendships💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Children should be seen and not heard. Do you agree?We’ve all heard that expression, and we were all probably told this by our own parents! But I have noticed more and more examples of adult only areas of public spaces - on trains or in shopping malls - so I wanted to tackle this head on.For the record, I don’t agree with that saying, and in this episode I am going to share five reasons why it is better for us and our children when we encourage and support them to be included.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:26 - Seen but not heard03:17 - Learning on the job08:52 - Plan A, B, and C14:16 - Focus on what you CAN control💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Outbursts, tantrums, meltdowns… whatever you call them, they’re not fun!But your kids are not hardwired to deal with their emotions, it’s a skill they learn over time, and it’s your job as parent to support them and encourage them to develop those skills.It’s not easy - I can attest to that, having raised two kids myself! And that’s why in this episode I help you understand what causes emotional outbursts, how these present themselves in different ages and stages, and what you can do to support them.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:59 - Fear of judgement02:32 - Emotional regulation is learned07:43 - Verbal and physical escalations10:35 - The teen years14:08 - The biggest causes of emotional outbursts18:23 - How to handle outbursts23:10 - Keep them safe27:17 - What is the skills gap?💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Should I give my children pocket money?How much is enough?Should they have to earn it through chores?Knowing how much, when, and what can feel like a tricky minefield when thinking about pocket money for our kids. Some of you might decide simply not to do it, and that’s ok too.I can’t give you the right answer, because only you know what’s best for your family, but in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five benefits of pocket money, from emotional regulation to financial skills, that might just help you find the answers you’re looking for.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:09 - Linking pocket money to chores03:30 - Don’t eat the marshmallow!05:29 - Opportunity cost08:36 - Pocket money builds emotional regulation11:04 - Finance and social conscience💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you know 1 in 3 children have little or no confidence?Did you know girls are more likely to downplay their confidence?And did you know that children from non-white and minority ethnic groups are likely to have less confidence than their white male friends?Today I speak to Kathryn McColl, co-founder of Hark, the education agency that delivers programmes to over 90% of UK schools. Hark recently published their Listen Up report, which collected anonymous data from 1,400 children across the UK to better understand what they call the ‘confidence crisis.’I drill down into some of their jaw-dropping insights, including the above, as we discuss why confidence appears to be on the decline among young people.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Connect with Kathryn:More about Hark - https://harklondon.com/ Get the Listen Up Report - https://harklondon.com/listen-up/ Connect on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathryn-mccoll-5a918329/ Highlights from this episode:02:32 - What is Hark?05:43 - Confidence means opportunity11:08 - The impact of role models15:11 - Transitioning from primary to secondary school21:46 - Friction teaches confidence27:09 - Post exam stress29:37 - Girls hide their confidence33:37 - The confidence ladder💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From gentle parenting to FAFO, social media bombards us with content about the latest trends, so how do you really know what works and what doesn’t?In today’s bucket emptying episode, I talk you through some of the biggest parenting trends, and explain how they can be impacting you, and the ways in which you might then choose to parent your own kids.Because parenting is all-consuming. It’s a 24/7/365 gig, and the trends of day, whether we subscribe to them or not, can feel like they define us as parents. I’m here to tell you they don’t!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:48 - FAFO Parenting03:30 - Are we defined by the trends?06:23 - Labels take away the overwhelm09:56 - There’s no one size fits all approach12:35 - Parental intuition15:22 - Science vs media💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mental health is not just a buzz word, and oftentimes it goes hand in hand with physical health. But because we can’t see mental health, as parents it can be so easy to procrastinate these important conversations that provide a safe, supportive space for our children to really get honest with us.Whether you’re listening to this during Children’s Mental Health week or at any other time of the year, these practical tips will really help you to kickstart conversations about mental health with your family.It might not be easy, and it might take some time, but I promise you if you persevere and remain patient, your kids will eventually feel comfortable enough to talk to you.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/ Highlights from this episode:01:15 - Physical health IS mental health03:41 - I’ve noticed that…07:17 - How are you feeling?10:30 - Use books15:09 - Teachable moments16:38 - Talk out loud18:46 - 3 things to consider💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A sense of belonging is a basic human need. Without it can lead to loneliness, depression and many other mental and physical health issues.So to celebrate Children’s Mental Health Week, the theme of which this year is ‘this is my place’, I am going to give you five tips to help your children build their sense of belonging, because the world is a better place with them in it, and it’s our job as parents to help them believe that.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/ Attachment Theory: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/attachment-theory/ Highlights from this episode:00:28 - Children’s Mental Health Week02:21 - Attachment theory05:48 - Emotional availability09:27 - Help them to explore11:58 - Don’t diminish their interests14:05 - Belonging starts at home16:32 - You are important💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From the 8 Plus to A-Levels, exams can be a stressful experience… often as much for you, the parent, as the kids.You want the best for them, and of course you want them to do well, but it’s important to make sure we create a supportive environment, and not inadvertently add to the pressure.That’s why, in this important episode, I’m going to talk you through the dos and do nots of navigating exam season, and give you a bunch of super practical advice, which you can use right away.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:26 - It comes down to two things03:17 - Stay in your own lane07:29 - How to overcome self-sabotage12:29 - Supercharge your revision17:12 - Talk to your children21:15 - A balanced routine includes time for fun24:23 - Rest and restore27:17 - Support ought to be directed by the child, not us30:37 - What not to do35:28 - Trust their process!💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this bucket emptying episode, I look a bit closer at my conversation with Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London.In last week’s interview he spoke to us at length about his research, but in today’s episode I want to drill down just a little more into some of his comments on emotional coregulation, and I’m going to share my own thoughts and some useful tips which you can put into action right away.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…More about Sam and his work:Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/ Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/ Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools Highlights from this episode:01:25 - Sam Wass on emotional coregulation07:00 - Stress contagion11:17 - Matching our children’s state14:24 - Meet them where they’re at💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does your child ever get worked up, and you find it escalates super fast but feel powerless to bring them down from that ledge?Every parent has been there, but it’s only in recent years that we have really begun to understand the reasons why, and it’s all about neuroscience.Children’s brains are changing and developing all the time, which means as parents it can be so difficult to keep up, and know how to support them with things like emotional regulation, so I want to talk though some of these challenges and give you some practical advice that I hope will help you and your family.To have this conversation I am joined by Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London, and shares some of his expertise, to help us all understand some of the science behind emotional regulation.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…More about Sam and his work:Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/ Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/ Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools Highlights from this episode:04:10 - Measuring brain stem activity08:08 - Nature versus nurture13:18 - Panic disorders17:20 - Long term effects of children in high stress states21:23 - Brain stem arousal is trending up25:29 - You’re only still when you’re dead31:25 - Children hate broccoli because of science35:18 - We’re going on a bear hunt42:33 - Quadrants48:00 - Mums and dads play differently53:29 - Co-regulating59:14 - Stress contagion💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I can’t do it!” - as parents we hear this all the time.Our children are learning new skills and experiencing new things every day, which means they are always facing things they’ve never done before. This can be scary, and often our kids might think they can’t do it or they’re not good enough.That’s why building resilience is so important. It gives them the foundation they need to persevere, to fail without fear, and to find that inner strength when things feel tough or challenging.In today’s bucket emptying I’m going to share five things you can do to create that shift, and help to build that resilience. And the best part: these are things you can start doing right now.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:49 - Non-friction06:23 - Modelling resilience08:19 - Curated friction10:20 - Boredom please12:44 - Conflict is friction14:16 - Don’t rush in to fix setbacks💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why won’t my kids go to sleep at their bed time?It doesn’t matter if your child is 2 or 20, every parent in the world will ask themselves this question, because sometimes, even if we stick to the routine, they just won’t settle down and get in bed.In this episode I continue our discussion around sleep, sharing some of the ways in which overtiredness can impact our kids and what you can do about it. Plus, I explain how things like puberty, technology and other factors have a bigger impact than you might realise.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:37 - Blankets and putty03:50 - Chronic sleep deprivation09:10 - Puberty and hormones12:27 - The emotional tank18:06 - Sibling dynamics and room sharing22:25 - Over scheduling26:02 - How to tackle overtiredness 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

New year is my favourite time of year.It’s a chance for us to turn a blank page and make conscious changes in our lives. Maybe you want to improve your health, or perhaps you have certain career goals, or maybe you just want to save for that dream family holiday.Whatever it is you set out to do this year, it all comes down to one thing: habits.Saving money is a habit.Eating better is a habit.Exercising more is a habit.Making time for yourself and your family… you guessed it, is a habit!So in this episode, I’m going to talk through how you can create positive new habits for yourself through stacking. By following this method, you can create super meaningful changes in your life by stacking small, easy new habits.The combined results over time can be life-changing!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:58 - New year, atomic habits02:16 - Focus on the system not the goal04:34 - The two types of results06:24 - The habit that works all of the time09:02 - Little steps for a big change10:34 - A profound reminder💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s bedtime. You’ve done all the right things. You followed the routine. There are no disruptions. And yet… the kids just won’t go to sleep!We’ve all been there, which is why in this episode, the first of a two-part special, I am going to explore the hidden reasons your children might not sleep.Some of these things might be hiding in plain sight, and that’s ok. Over the next two episodes I am going to show you what they are, and give you some practical tips to help you manage them, so that your little ones get to sleep as peacefully and as stress-free as possible.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:13 - I wish I knew this earlier…03:57 - The 3 main functions of sleep06:18 - 5 bedtime essentials08:32 - Cool rooms make better sleep12:36 - Morning bright light is crucial17:28 - Noise20:25 - The bedroom as a multipurpose space23:56 - Diet, hydration and timing30:16 - Physical activity and energy release💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What did you do today?It’s the question every parents asks when we pick our kids up from school, nursery, or wherever they’ve been. The response is usually ‘I don’t know,’ ‘nothing,’ or a disinterested grunt or huff, am I right?Getting our kids to open up can be painful and frustrating, so in this bucket emptying episode I am sharing 10 questions that will get your children talking.These are everyday questions, but when used at the right time can be super powerful, and you can start using them right now.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:36 - Wrong questions, wrong time03:18 - What made you laugh?05:20 - What are you looking forward to?07:07 - Who did you help today?10:41 - What did you learn about yourself?11:52 - What did someone do that you admired?13:55 - What’s the nicest thing someone has done for you?15:03 - What have you tried hard at today?16:54 - What are you grateful for?17:58 - What family rule or tradition would you like to create?19:33 - Complete this sentence…💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s said that comparison is the thief of joy, and there’s truth to this.Whether it’s your kids thinking their life is so unfair because their friends have phones, or go to parties and they’re not allowed, to you as a parent constantly judging yourself against the other mums and dads at the school gate.In this episode, I show you how to avoid the dreaded comparison trap. I explain the five step response framework, share some helpful tips to stop you comparing yourself against other parents, and talk through some examples to help you put all of this into practice.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:57 - What are we doing wrong?04:37 - The five step response framework08:17 - When to say yes14:41 - Coping when the answer is no17:41 - Age appropriate conversations21:17 - School gate gossip24:50 - Give yourself 48 hours27:31 - Talk it through with your tribe29:26 - Neurodiversity and social media32:23 - Examples36:06 - Separation comparison from genuine concern💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I believe in you.I will always love you.I am always here for you.How often do you say any of these things to your children?The truth is, it’s probably less you’d like to admit, and you’re not alone. As parents, it’s easy to get caught up in the day to day of parenting, that we forget to give our kids the affirmation and reassurance they want and need from us.In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share ten things that you can start saying to your children right now to build self-belief, confidence and resilience.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:57 - What is confirmation bias?05:14 - Tell me more about…08:22 - Big emotions can be tricky10:07 - I like the way you…12:20 - I’m always here when you need me14:59 - Each day I am learning more about you17:06 - I am grateful I am your parent because…18:37 - Within you is your greatest self💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you and your family made New Year resolutions?And how many have you broken already?I love making resolutions. It’s the highlight of my year. But statistics show that most New Year resolutions are broken, so you are not alone! However, making resolutions, even if we break them, can still be super valuable for our personal growth and in building confidence, especially in our kids.In today’s episode I will show you how to set intentions and make realistic, achievable resolutions. I will explain how you can give yourself the best chance of succeeding, but also talk through why it’s ok to break your resolutions.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, have a very happy new year, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:35 - The highlight of my year02:26 - The 10 most popular resolutions07:06 - Intentions nurtures habits of success08:53 - I am capable of doing hard things12:20 - Empowering children with agency15:30 - Use your imagination19:41 - Confidence is experiential21:52 - The world is better because you are in it25:04 - Create a habit to reflect💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As 2025 draws to a close, I thought the best way to round out another year of the podcast is to give you a compilation of our best bits and the best tips in one episode.Consider this your How Not to Screw Up Your Kids cheat sheet for 2025!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, have a very happy new year, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:05 - Rage Against the Screen04:27 - Empowering Children with Disabilities11:11 - Generation Zombie15:56 - Raising Happy ADHD Children24:50 - How Your Children Develop Their Sense of Identity💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas from me and the team at How Not to Screw Up Your Kids. However you are celebrating, and whatever you’re doing, I hope you’re having some well earned time off, and getting some precious quality time with your loved ones.Just in case you need a few wise words of encouragement in your ear, here are some of the best bits from the last year of the podcast, taken from some of your most favourite episodes.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:51 - Adolescence: Lessons for Raising Boys11:46 - I Yell… Then I Cry… Then I Google ‘Gentle Parenting’16:05 - The Five Things All Children Need28:08 - Building Children and Teens’ Self Belief and Confidence31:00 - From Google to the Great Outdoors: Why Spending More Time Outside is GOOD for Your Children💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Our children are sponges. They absorb our energy.So when we start our day with a bang, that rubs off, and our kids will be unbalanced from the get go. And that just sets us all up for a difficult day, doesn’t it?So, in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share my top tips on how to set up your day for calm, cooperation and compassion.I will give you 5 things that you can do at the start of your day, and 2 things to do at the end, and you can start them right now!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:30 - Less bang, more fizz02:38 - The wake up rule05:26 - Screen time embargo07:20 - Early movement09:51 - Get ready11:14 - Today is a new day15:00 - One lesson learnt💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you close to your children?Do you still feel connected as they get older?Do you spend as much time with them as you want?I’m going to guess that you answered no to at least one of these questions. Am I right?Today I am joined by Emma and Eleanor from The Reconnected, to discuss the importance of making time to connect with our children… and ourselves.We talk about breathwork and why we all need to make time for ourselves, because if we can’t show up for ourselves, we won’t be able to show up for our kids.We also discuss the challenges of raising kids in today’s world, where technology and screens can feel like barriers disconnecting us from our children.And we talk about the confusing amount of information online, and why it’s almost impossible to get the right support if you don’t know where to look for it.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation, because this is a bumper seasonal episode to help you navigate the Christmas break with your kids…More from The Reconnected:The Website: https://thereconnected.com/ The Book: https://thereconnected.com/reconnected-parenting-book/ Get the App: https://thereconnected.com/app/ Highlights from this episode:02:43 - The terrible 2s06:28 - I am going to nail this11:52 - Modern life is set up for disconnection16:16 - I CAN have time for myself20:30 - Breathwork is not a last resort25:04 - Tell me how to fix it30:03 - A rock and a hard place34:22 - Who are your 5 most inspiring people?39:35 - Connection is always the solution43:01 - Repairing the damage49:01 - Give yourself permission💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you get your children to cooperate with you, when they just don’t want to?It’s a problem we all face - our kids will refuse to do something not because they don’t want to, but because we’re telling them to, and it’s so frustrating! So what’s the answer?In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to introduce you to the psychology of cooperation, and give you some simple, helpful, and practical tips you can use right away.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:12 - Cooperation is transactional03:28 - Validate your children’s feelings04:47 - Explain why08:10 - Focus on effort and process10:55 - Self Care14:17 - Connecting actions to feelings16:08 - Challenge just enough19:18 - Offer choices where possible💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does your child struggle with their confidence?Do you wish you could help?Well you’re in luck, because confidence is a learned skill, and there are many easy things you can do to help build self-confidence in your kids.In this episode, I’m going to give you a 10 day plan, which you can start using right now, to help develop those skills and improve confidence. Remember: the brain is a muscle, and confidence is just about giving the right parts of the brain a workout - from taking the lead on tasks to positive reinforcement, it’s easy if you know how!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:02 - One focus per day03:16 - The Seven Cs11:48 - Day 1: A wall of fame14:55 - Day 2: Encourage self-talk to be more growth oriented16:43 - Day 3: Ask for their help19:28 - Day 4: Give descriptive praise21:34 - Day 5: Reflective on 3 good things and 1 learning22:56 - Day 6: Set aside time to play25:46 - Day 7: Acknowledge their feelings27:06 - Day 8: Ask them to do something28:43 - Day 9: Stage appropriate choices29:46 - Day 10: Reflect on the last 10 days💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do your children resent you?Do you resent your children?How good are you at managing this?Resentment is a funny thing. It feels like it comes out of nowhere, but actually, it can be the result of many small little events that build up and up until it overflows.Then, you find yourself arguing with your children, or worse, that resentment just continues to simmer, and it becomes harder to resolve.We’ve all heard that old saying that prevention is better than cure, so in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share some of the most effective ways you can avoid resentment, and give you some really useful tips to help you put these into practice.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:02:50 - Communicate your needs09:19 - Manage expectations14:15 - Learn how to delegate💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On Christmas Day in 1986, 30 million Brits were glued to their screens as Eastenders’ Dirty Den handed divorce papers to Angie Watts, in one of the most watched television episodes of all time.As shocking as that was in 1986, the reality today is that separation is commonplace and 40% of marriages end in divorce. Many parents part ways, and often our children get caught in the crossfire, through no fault of their own.With January approaching, when separations are at their highest, how do we make sure our kids don’t suffer from our actions?And how do we ensure children grow up feeling happy, safe and loved when their parents divorce or separate?On this episode I am joined by James Hayhurst, the founder of The Parents’ Promise, which is doing some incredible work to campaign for more awareness of separation, and the resources to support children who are experiencing a separation at home.Whether you have separated, you are going through a divorce, or perhaps you experience this yourself as a child, this episode will really make a difference.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…More about James:The Parents’ Promise - https://theparentspromise.org.uk/ James on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jameshayhurst1/ Mentioned in this episode:17 Signs of Parental Alienation - https://www.parentingstyles.com/parenting/dynamics/parental-alienation/ Highlights from this episode:02:49 - What is The Parents’ Promise?05:31 - We can do better09:05 - We need to talk about divorce11:33 - What to be mindful of15:23 - What do young people think?19:21 - Long term goals22:49 - Bad partner does not mean bad parent27:01 - 17 signs of parental alienation30:28 - Move fast and create things37:02 - Get involved💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From Elf on a Shelf and advent calendars to the business of seeing the whole family in such a short period… Christmas can be stressful, and it can be super overwhelming, especially for us parents.Santa doesn’t do organising for us, which means the holiday season is often wrought with so much pressure to get everything right, and so often we put that pressure on ourselves.So in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five top tips to help you manage the upcoming festive season, which you can start using right now to make your holiday planning easier, stress free and successful!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:03 - The silly season04:19 - Plan ahead08:56 - Be realistic with yourself16:02 - Always have a backup plan18:50 - Don’t take things too seriously22:52 - Have the difficult conversations in advance💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whether it’s toppled block towers, disappointing test results, or missed goals on the sports field, setbacks are a daily occurrence for our children, and I want to show you how to transform them into powerful opportunities for growth.This is about raising resilient kids who see mistakes not as failures, but as stepping stones.In this episode, I will share a practical framework you can use at home, and explain how you can use the exposure ladder templates in my resource library to break down those setbacks into small, easy steps.This is all about reframing challenges in a way that encourages confidence and curiosity, and helps your kids become the happiest, healthiest, and most successful version of themselves.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:02:24 - The full body alarm04:54 - Support, don’t solve06:36 - Positive praise10:29 - The power of yet12:55 - Exposure ladders16:06 - Creating a safe space to take risk18:40 - Practice is reflective too20:33 - Maryhan’s playbook23:00 - Sport, performance, and neurodiversity27:26 - Listener challenge💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As parents, we worry. It’s in our nature!Are they safe?Are they hungry?Are they happy?The list goes on…But SPOILER ALERT: our kids worry too!The world is a scary place, and the world around them is constantly changing, with new things to learn and new experiences to process all the time.In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to reveal the six most common things your children worry about AND I will share some super practical tips to help you deal with them. Because remember, your job as mum and dad is to support, and that means empowering our little ones to fix things themselves, so that they grow up to be confident, independent, and well-rounded adults.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:Becoming Me - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/becoming-me-the-school-years/ Breathing & Take 10 - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/breathing-techniques-for-anxious-children/ Highlights from this episode:01:02 - Worry is an important emotion02:25 - Worried about social relationships06:21 - Worried about social media08:52 - Worried about big life changes11:09 - Worried about to-do lists15:45 - Worried about inconsistency19:14 - Worried about trauma22:03 - Name it to tame it23:46 - Deep breaths25:39 - Maryhanisms29:08 - A worry window💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.