Hotter Than Ever

“I am impressed with the midlife crisis.” We’re thrilled to welcome Lauren Zander, CEO and founder of the Handel Group, back to Hotter Than Ever. As a life coach, whose coaching technique, the Handel Method, has been taught at MIT, Stanford Business School, and to the likes of CEOs and celebrities, Lauren is no stranger to helping her clients navigate through midlife crises. Yet when Lauren experienced a midlife crisis of her own, it rocked her to her core ways that she could have never anticipated.Join us for a candid and introspective conversation as Erin and Lauren share their personal midlife crisis journeys, what they learned in the aftermath, and how they rebuilt their lives and relationships into something more authentic and profound. We discuss: Breaking stereotypes and why midlife crises are sexy and liberating for women—not just menHow the ending of their respective marriages ignited Lauren and Erin’s midlife transformationsReconstructing your identity after a long marriageDiscerning true friendships and gaining clarity on what you need out of relationshipsComing out on the other side of a midlife crisis—embracing self-honesty, listening to your body, and focusing on what’s most important Discovering the beauty in rebuilding a life, relationships, and aspirations with deeper significance and alignmentOUR GUEST: Lauren Zander is the Founder and CEO of Handel Group®, a renowned life coaching company. She's the creator of The Handel Method®, taught in over 35 world-class institutions like MIT, NYU, and Stanford Graduate School of Business. Lauren is the creator of Inner.U: Learn to Human Better®, the online coaching course that teaches the entirety of The Handel Method. With two decades of coaching experience, Lauren has empowered countless clients, including top executives from companies like Vogue and AOL. She's also authored "Maybe It’s You," a practical guide to achieving your life goals. Lauren's expertise has been featured in The New York Times, Forbes, and more.Want more Lauren Zander? Find her coaching company online at https://www.handelgroup.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: @laurenzander_coach @inneru.coachFacebook: @laurenzander Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

When Laura Stratte was diagnosed with breast cancer at age 35, she didn't just fight it—it transformed her life’s path. Following nursing school, Laura became a superhero of sorts—a nurse navigator—guiding cancer warriors through the tangled mess of the healthcare system, from diagnosis to survivorship. Now in the world of health tech, she’s helping women own their menopause and master their health.In this episode, Erin sits down with Laura to discuss navigating health challenges that so many women find themselves in. This includes the complexities of cancer care, the need for improved support beyond medical treatment, and the impact of toxicities—financial and time-related—on patients and caregivers. Beyond healthcare, Laura sheds light on how she pivoted her career, and how you can too, no matter what life throws at you. Join us, as we discuss:How Laura's breast cancer diagnosis at 35 shaped her nursing career trajectoryWhy you should always ask for a nurse navigator if you’re diagnosed with cancerThe importance of integrated care for cancer patients and beyondThe financial and time toxicities of treating and managing cancer— it’s a full time job and requires better support systemsHow Laura blazed a career transition into health tech at 47How Laura embraced her shaved head and found empowerment and freedom during her cancer journeyOUR GUEST: Laura Stratte is a mother, wife, nurse, and 2x cancer survivor. Three years ago at the ripe old age of 47, Laura Stratte decided to leave the security of traditional healthcare as an oncology RN and enter the unpredictable and unknown-to-her world of startups and digital health at Elektra Health. Switching her speciality from breast cancer care to the overlapping field of menopause care, she continues to help women navigate major life changes. Want more Laura? Find her on:Instagram/Threads: @lstratteElektra Health: @ElektrahealthFB: @LauraHoffmannStratteTwitter: @lstratteWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts!Mentioned in this

“Can you assume that nothing is wrong with you?” Self-defined perfectionist, psychotherapist, writer, and former on-site therapist at Google, Katherine Morgan Schafler wants you to know that it’s ok to be a perfectionist. In her book "The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control, A Path to Peace and Power,” Katherine challenges the stigma surrounding perfectionism in our culture by defining both its healthy and unhealthy manifestations, exposes its harmful gender biases towards women, and advocates for redefining the call for “balance.”In conversation with host (and fellow perfectionist!) Erin, Katherine offers insights into perfectionism’s impact on relationships, work, and personal growth. Unveiling insights into navigating ambition, embracing fluidity, and prioritizing values aligned with current life seasons, they explore:Defining perfectionism and why it's not a flaw, but a facet of your unique brillianceThe dynamic relationship between perfectionism and mental healthHow perfectionism became a gendered term for women and a hindrance to embracing ambition and powerRedefining ‘balance’ —it's about internal well-being, not checking off tasks How to prioritize values that align most with the current season of your lifeManaging your energy vs. managing your time (read the Harvard Business Review article Katherine mentions HERE) Distinguishing between meaningful pursuits and the allure of immediate gratificationOUR GUEST: Katherine Morgan Schafler, LMHC, is a psychotherapist, writer and speaker based in New York City. Formerly an on-site therapist at Google, she earned her degrees and training at UC Berkeley and Columbia University, with post-graduate certification from the Association for Spirituality and Psychotherapy.Want more Katherine? Find her online at https://www.katherinemorganschafler.com/ and follow her on Instagram @katherinemorganschaflerWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts!Mentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership...

“This too shall pass.” Being human means understanding that challenging times, as tough as they may be, won’t last forever. It’s the highs and lows, the ebbs and flows that make up our everyday existence. But how do we work through those lows–or as Erin likes to call them, the ‘dips’? In this episode, we navigate the intricate terrain of managing the ‘dips’ – those moments when darkness creeps in and threatens our optimism and resilience. Whether it’s seasonal affective disorder, single parenthood, career demands, or the struggle with self-care and transitions, this episode is your reminder that life isn't always sunshine and roses–and that’s ok. Tune in for tips, tools, and wisdom from Erin’s personal experiences on how to maneuver these curves, including:Acknowledging that life isn't a constant upward trajectory; it's about embracing the blend of light and shadow that shapes our journeyUnderstanding that challenging times will pass, support is there for you if you reach out, and that setting boundaries is self-careFind solace in gratitude by recognizing the blessings, small joys, and connections that anchor us in turbulent timesEmbracing vulnerability and recognizing that it's okay not to have everything figured outWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts!Mentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing

There’s nothing hotter than using your finances as the ultimate tool to build the life of your dreams. But how do we get there? On this week’s episode of Hotter Than Ever, we’re joined by Veronica Grant, a financial expert and host of the Run Your Money podcast. Veronica is not your typical financial guru; she's a certified financial wellness consultant who intertwines personal finance wisdom with coaching and a keen awareness of the social and economic systems affecting women's wealth.Join Erin and Veronica as they delve into Veronica’s personal money journey, the impact our relationships have on our finances, and practical tips for managing and growing your income, including:How starting to build wealth at a young age helped Veronica develop a money-savvy mindset she carried into adulthoodHow money trauma in childhood impacts adult financial behavior and what you can do to re-write these narratives Why comparing your cash flow to others’ can skew your financial realityUnpacking the intersection of politics and personal finance and how political decisions directly influence our financial well-beingWhy it’s important to start money conversations early on in relationships and how to continue to the conversation throughout a partnership or marriagePractical ways to increase income and financial strategies for being self-employedFinding the harmony between chasing financial success and being present in other aspects of your lifeOUR GUEST: Veronica Grant, a financial powerhouse with a unique story that defies the typical "money makeover" narrative, has always had a knack for financial savvy. She started her financial journey at 11 as a sought-after baby sitter and opened a 401k on day one of her first job. However, launching her own business in 2015 brought unexpected challenges, teaching her that managing money goes beyond budgets. Armed with degrees in International Studies and Social and Economic Justice, plus certification as a Financial Wellness Consultant, Veronica empowers women to overcome systemic barriers and claim the wealth they deserve. Want more Veronica? Find her online at https://www.veronicagrant.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: @veronicaegrantTikTok: @veronicaegrantPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/run-your-money-show/id1077479098 Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod <li...

Imagine discovering that the man you believed was your dad was not your biological father. What would that do to your sense of self and identity? Carmen Rita Wong lived that reality, and it sparked an electrifying journey of self-discovery that shares in her memoir, "Why Didn't You Tell Me?" Get ready for a rollercoaster of revelations as she uncovers her heritage and answers the age-old question: Who the hell am I?But Carmen's life isn't just about secrets and ancestry. It's a relentless journey of reinvention in both her personal and professional spheres. From multiple successful career pivots to navigating the complexities of family and parenting, Carmen's story is an inspiring tale of resilience and the audacity to be unapologetically herself.Join Erin and Carmen for a conversation that dives deep into self-discovery, family mysteries, smashing stereotypes, and a rebellious spirit in a world that insists on fitting into its tiny, boring boxes. Here's what’s on the table:Discovering the difference between who you are, who the world says you are, and who your parents tell you to beCarmen’s journey that followed learning about her father’s true identityThe challenges Carmen faced as a Latina and Chinese woman in predominantly white environmentsWhy 50 is a transformative and liberating age for women and helps us see what’s most important in lifeCarmen's magnetic career transitions, from magazine editor to advice columnist, to writer and more!Exploring parent-child relationships and the importance of letting your kids be their own unique selvesEmbracing change and redefining what family and relationships mean - it's a pathway to epic connectionsOUR GUEST: Carmen Rita Wong is a writer, producer, and non-profit board leader, including the boards of The Moth and the Planned Parenthood Federation of America. She is the former co-creator and television host of On the Money on CNBC and was a national advice columnist for Glamour, Latina, Essence, Men’s Health, and Good Housekeeping. Carmen is the author of a series of novels and two bestselling advice books, including her latest memoir "Why Didn't You Tell Me?". She is the founder and CEO of Malecon Productions, LLC, where she develops female-focused media and entertainment. Want more Carmen? Find her and her books online at https://www.carmenritawong.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: @carmenritawongTwitter: @CarmenSense Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: <a...

“I don’t believe in rules.”Rebecca Woolf is a rule-breaker: she doesn't believe in following society's cookie-cutter definitions of motherhood. In this unapologetic episode, she takes us on a journey through her life as a mother who fully embraces her sexuality and autonomy. Just like we say at the beginning of each episode, Rebecca has not only broken the rules in her own life, but also found her path to being freer, happier, sexier, and more self-expressed.Rebecca's path to this point is unconventional, and she's here to share every raw, honest, and sexy detail. With an award-winning personal blog, "Girl's Gone Child," her Substack “The Braid,” the column "Sex and the Single Mom" on Romper.com, and her memoir "All of This," Rebecca has shattered the rules and redefined what it means to be a single mom.In this episode, Erin and Rebecca dive headfirst into the intricate world of motherhood, sexuality, and self-expression. Together, they unpack:Why it feels scandalous to be a mom writing about sex in our culture and what we can do to challenge those beliefsWhat it means when someone tells you you're "more than just a mom" and how it robs us of thinking of moms as multifaceted humans.Navigating parenting as a single mom: being both mom and dad, and the complexities of bringing new partners into one’s lifeWhy blended families shouldn't always be the goal - there are other options beyond falling back into conventional relationshipsThe liberating power of creating a shame-free homeOUR GUEST: Rebecca Woolf, a personal essayist since her teens, is renowned for her award-winning blog, "Girl’s Gone Child," and essays featured in Refinery29, LitHub, Entertainment Weekly, Huffington Post, and more. She writes the column "Sex &amp; the Single Mom" on Romper.com and “ The Braid" newsletter on Substack. Her published works include "Rockabye: From Wild to Child" and the best-selling memoir "ALL OF THIS: a memoir of death and desire." Based in Los Angeles, she shares her life with her son and three daughters.Want more Rebecca? Find her and her writing online at https://rebeccawoolf.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: @rebeccawooolfTwitter: @GirlsGoneChildWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpodTikTok: @hotterthaneverpodYoutube: @hotterthaneverpodFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode!We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and...

What would you do if you weren’t afraid of failing? Dr. Sonora Jha., essayist, novelist, and professor of journalism at Seattle University, is the embodiment of this very question. From forsaking math and sciences growing up in Mumbai, to entering the male-dominiated field of journalism, to writing the memoir “How to Raise a Feminist Son'' and the novel “The Laughter” (which is told from a white male perspective), today’s guest has consistently defied societal expectations. True to her life story, Dr. Jha doesn't mince words. She fearlessly dives into charged topics like 'patriarchy,' 'white supremacy,' and 'the male gaze,' revealing how these forces influence both societal norms and our personal choices. Prepare for a fascinating, honest and insightful conversation that touches on love, feminism, identity, how we tell our own stories, and so much more, including:How discovering the freedom to fail allowed Dr. Jha to explore her passion for storytellingThe challenges of working in a male-dominated fieldThe harsh truths about the 'having it all' mythExploring the crossroads of white supremacy and colonization and their impact on education, culture, and our personal choicesDr. Jha’s journey writing from the white male perspective in "The Laughter" and how it became a vehicle for truth and self-expression as a brown womanThe revelation that we're all unreliable narrators in our life stories and the complexities of human perception and storytellingThe challenges of being a woman of color in a relationship with a conservative white man, exploring the intricate dance of love and politicsRediscovering the beauty in the institution of marriage and choosing love over fear in our daily lives and relationshipsOUR GUEST: Sonora Jha, PhD, is a renowned essayist, novelist, and journalism professor at Seattle University. She's the author of 'How to Raise a Feminist Son,' 'Foreign,' and 'The Laughter.' Sonora's op-eds and essays have graced publications like the New York Times and The Establishment. With an extensive background in journalism, she's taught writing at prestigious institutions like Hugo House and Hedgebrook Writers’ Retreat and serves on the boards of Hedgebrook Writers’ Retreat, Artist Trust, and Hugo House.Want more Dr. Jha? Find her and her books online at https://www.sonorajha.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: @sonorajha1Facebook: @sonorajha Twitter: @ProfSonoraJha Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod <span class="ql-ui"...

“What do you think will happen first, world peace or the end of lying?”Lauren Zander, CEO and founder of The Handel Group, was a life coach long before being a life coach was a “thing”. Forget the clichés; Lauren's trademarked coaching technique, the Handel Method, isn't about hand-holding—it's about getting sh*t done. She's taught it at prestigious institutions like MIT and Stanford Business School and counts celebrities, CEOs, and entrepreneurs among her clients.In this episode, Lauren takes the wheel as your personal life coach to expose the truths we're afraid to confront. First stop: our culture, which, let's be real, thrives on lying. But Lauren's on a mission to change that. She'll lay out why we're all so prone to being “pleasey” (especially women!), the role behavioral epigenetics plays in our life choices, and how self-sacrifice leaves us high and dry. We also discuss:Lauren’s journey from being an environmental studies graduate to becoming a life-coaching guruBehavioral epigenetics and why knowing your family history is like holding the treasure map to your futureWhy we're trained to lie, and how it holds us back, making us feel like we're impostersUnmasking the origin of people-pleasing, the invisible puppeteer that hijacks our desiresThe concept of parallel relationships—you don't have to agree and overlap on everythingLauren dissects the three main voices in our heads: the chicken (fear), the brat (self-sabotage), and the weather reporter (judgment and commentary). Learn how to master these voices, drop the excuses, and step into authenticityWhy doing what we know will get results feels like trying to move mountains and why big achievements aren't microwaveableThe power of transparency and authenticity in coaching. Lauren believes in laying it all out, and she's got the results to prove itOUR GUEST: Lauren Zander is the Founder and CEO of Handel Group®, a renowned life coaching company. She's the creator of The Handel Method®, taught in over 35 world-class institutions like MIT, NYU, and Stanford Graduate School of Business. Lauren is the creator of Inner.U: Learn to Human Better®, the online coaching course that teaches the entirety of The Handel Method. With two decades of coaching experience, Lauren has empowered countless clients, including top executives from companies like Vogue and AOL. She's also authored "Maybe It’s You," a practical guide to achieving your life goals. Lauren's expertise has been featured in The New York Times, Forbes, and more.Want more Lauren Zander? Find her coaching company online at https://www.handelgroup.com/ and follow her on:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/laurenzander_coach/https://www.instagram.com/inneru.coach/<span class="ql-ui"...

What if you dared to let go of the old to make room for the new? In today’s episode, Erin gets raw and vulnerable when reflecting on the seismic shifts in her life. From getting a divorce after 17 years of marriage, navigating the maze co-parenting, and the plot twist of finding an unexpected new love. If you've ever found yourself in the midst of a divorce, a crumbling relationship, or a job that sucks the soul out of you, Erin’s got a message: It’s ok to let it go. Erin’s story is a reminder that each time we let something go, we are given the gift to begin again and take control of our own destiny. Here’s your sign to embrace the beauty in life’s unpredictability and savor the freedom in new beginnings.Buckle-up as we discuss: Divorce Isn't a Dirty Word: It's okay to admit when a relationship has run its course. Divorce can be mutual, liberating, and the right decision for both partiesSharing Your Truth: Why Erin talks openly about her personal life on the podcast and a reminder that your story is yours to tellCo-Parenting After Divorce: How setting boundaries and maintaining respect can lead to a peaceful and functional arrangement for everyone involvedMaking Room for the Unexpected: Erin’s journey to falling in love again and why we shouldn’t be afraid to embrace the unexpected and let relationships evolve naturallyWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Mentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing

Lisa Ann is a name synonymous with adult film fame, but her journey goes far beyond the screen. She has also been a talent agent, written two books, and is now a radio host for fantasy sports, including the "Lisa Ann Does Fantasy Bettor" show on Youtube. Lisa's story is one of resilience, reinvention, and empowerment. Her ability to navigate two vastly different worlds and emerge as a strong, influential figure is a testament to her determination and unwavering commitment to personal growth.Join Erin as she delves deep into Lisa Ann's remarkable life story, from her early years as a teenager to her evolution from adult film stardom to becoming a respected voice in the world of sports radio and fantasy football, including the wisdom and life lessons she learned along the way. Get ready as we discuss:Lisa Ann's journey to achieve three essential goals: traveling the world, achieving financial independence, and making her own scheduleBuilding a strong sense of self and learning to prioritize your own thoughts and values over others' opinionsHow Lisa’s time in the p*rn industry helped foster her sexual self-discovery and taught her the importance of connection and communication in sexHer unwavering advocacy for female empowerment and “interracial” representation within the adult entertainment industry.Insights into the changing landscape of adult content, from strict regulations in the '90s to the rise of aggressive and degrading material in today’s online worldThe complexities and risks of platforms like OnlyFans and the importance of online safetyLisa’s transition into the world of fantasy sports–a lesson in maximizing the opportunities you’re given by doing your homework and working hardOUR GUEST: Lisa Ann is an icon in the Adult Industry with over two decades of success. Her career spans from being the most searched adult star to feature dancing, producing, directing, and running a talent agency for adult performers. In 2014, Lisa Ann shocked the world with her retirement, driven by her newfound passion for SiriusXM Fantasy Sports Radio. She dominated the Fantasy Football scene, winning the SiriusXM Celebrity Host League in her debut year. Her retirement mantra was simple, "it’s time to get out of bed and put some clothes on!" Since her retirement, she has written two books, including her autobiography, "The Life," providing an unfiltered look into the world of an adult star. This marked the beginning of her love for writing and a world of opportunities.Want more Lisa Ann? Find her online at https://thereallisaann.social/ and follow her on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thereallisaann/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheRealLisaAnn/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/thereallisaann<span class="ql-ui"...

Can improv comedy be used as a tool to improve your life?Drawing from her wealth of experience teaching improv to groups from nuclear physicists to CEOs, award-winning comedian, author, and speaker Katie Goodman demonstrates how the principles of improv can help you live more creatively, spontaneously, and courageously. Whether it’s learning to navigate the unexpected, being present with what’s right in front of us, or silencing your inner critic, Katie’s contagious enthusiasm and practical wisdom prove that there’s so much more that can be gleaned from improv than just making you laugh.In this episode, Erin gets specific with Katie to extract those practical gems you can apply right now. Here's what's on the table:The 8 ways improv comedy can serve as a practical tool for dealing with the unexpected, effective communication, being present, and more! Learn more HEREHow constraints can breed creativityGagging your inner critic and replacing it with an inner coach to guide your towards your goals and avoid the negative self-talkLearning to embrace small changes and the thrill of ‘getting lost’ to uncover your authentic selfShowing up as our authentic selves, in both our professional and personal lives. Find your niche and rock it.OUR GUEST: Katie Goodman is an acclaimed comedian, author, and speaker with a comedic career garnering 3+ million online views and TV appearances. She's the creator of "Broad Comedy," a national Off-Broadway touring show blending comedy and self-help, recognized by luminaries like Arianna Huffington, Comedy Central, and more. With a Philosophy degree from the University of Pennsylvania, Katie's diverse expertise led to her MacArthur Genius Grant nomination for theater work. With over two decades of experience, she's empowered 30,000+ individuals through improv comedy tools to enhance creativity, courage, and confidence. Beyond her New York City base, Katie travels nationwide, sharing her wisdom through speaking events, comedy shows, and corporate workshops, helping people thrive in handling life's challenges. She's also the author of "Improvisation For The Spirit," offering insights into leading a more creative, spontaneous, and courageous life using improv comedy techniques.Want more Katie? Find her online at https://www.katiegoodman.com/ and follow her on:IG: ​​https://www.instagram.com/thekatiegoodman/FB: https://www.facebook.com/KatieGoodmanComedy/Twitter: https://twitter.com/KatieGoodmanWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:<span...

Why do we care so much about what others think of us? We've all been there, meticulously curating our lives to be oh-so likable. But guess what? It's time to shed that people-pleasing skin and unleash our unfiltered, unapologetic, and authentic selves. In this episode, Erin fearlessly tackles the age-old conundrum of whether you'd rather be liked by everyone (yawn) or adored by those who truly get you. In a culture that breeds chameleons, it’s time to start being the neon unicorn you were born to be.From middle school drama to navigating the corporate world, Erin shares laugh-out-loud anecdotes and hard-earned wisdom on why being your authentic self is not just liberating; it's downright magnetic. This includes:Getting honest: are you willing to settle for being liked by many but not truly known, or do you crave deep connections with those who genuinely understand you? Focusing on connecting with those who truly resonate with you, rather than the approval of the herdWhy your job in life is to be the best version of yourself and share your unique gifts with the worldHow people-pleasing and faking happiness can limit your self-expression and personal growthCultivating a positivity bias and how it can help you attract the right people and opportunitiesWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. Mentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing

When we say women over 40 are “Hotter Than Ever”, we mean it and so does Dr. Anna Cabeca. As a triple-board certified OBGYN, best selling author, and host of “The Girlfriend Doctor" podcast, Dr. Anna is on a mission to break the stigma that menopause means “it’s all downhill from here” and instead help women reclaim their vibrancy, sexuality, health, and happiness before, during, and after menopause. Through her multi-decade medical career and her own personal experiences, Dr. Anna has not only been able to successfully reverse her own early onset menopause and infertility, but help countless women thrive in this phase of life. It’s all part of what Dr. Anna refers to as getting in touch with your vitality during your “second spring” of life.Join Erin and Dr. Anna in this insightful conversation as they discuss the importance of holistic health and reclaiming your agency to enjoy a healthier and happy life in your second spring when confronting menopause. Other topics include:Discussing the gaps in women’s healthcare that Dr. Anna experienced first handHow discovering ancient healing practices, medicinal foods, and lifestyle shifts that reversed Dr. Anna’s early menopause diagnosis and enabled her to naturally conceive a child at 41How a “food as medicine” approach and the mind-body connection play crucial roles in women's health and challenge conventional medicineEmpowering oneself to take control of their health and address root causes rather than merely managing symptomsDebunking menopause myths and shedding light on perimenopauseBio-identical hormones and the potential for rejuvenation during menopauseHow removing stress, choosing positivity, and reconnecting with love and intimacy can help you become happier and healthier in menopauseOUR GUEST: Anna Cabeca, DO, OBGYN, FACOG, is best selling author of The Hormone Fix and Keto-Green 16 and MenuPause . Dr. Anna is triple-board certified and a fellow of gynecology and obstetrics, integrative medicine, and anti-aging and regenerative medicine. She holds special certifications in functional medicine, sexual health, and bioidentical hormone replacement therapy. She lectures frequently on these topics throughout the world to large audiences and is known nationally as The Girlfriend Doctor and is host of The Girlfriend Doctor show. She has personally developed natural products to help women balance hormones and thrive through menopause including the highly acclaimed Julva® cream for the vulva and MightyMaca® Plus , a powerful superfood blend. She now lives in Dallas with her daughters, horses and dogs.Want more Dr. Anna? Find her and her products online at https://drannacabeca.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegirlfrienddoctor/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegirlfrienddoctor/ YouTube:<a...

“If you’re breathing, you’re sexual.” Dr. Juliana Hauser is on a mission to connect people with their essence – their truest self – through uncovering, demystifying, and reclaiming their unique sexuality. Through her work as a sex therapist and educator with countless clients, Dr. Juliana has demonstrated how showing up for yourself in the bedroom can help you show up for yourself in EVERY corner of your life.In this episode, Erin and Dr. Juliana strip away societal taboos, inviting you to explore the hidden depths of your desires and rediscover your sexual agency to lead a happier and more fulfilled life. Other topics include:Why sexuality is both a core expression of us and a core experience for usDefining “holistic sexuality” and how it encompasses sensuality, connection, love, intimacy, desire, and pleasureSexual agency, and how it helps you better understand who you are and seek what you want in life, unapologeticallyRediscovering your desires by breaking free from societal expectationsHow hearing “no’s” can help you better trust “yes’s”How to apply skills from your sex life into other parts of your life (and vice versa!) to create success and fulfillmentCreating a sex plan and changing the discourse around sexWhat sexual fantasies can tell us about ourselves and why they shouldn’t be judgedOUR GUEST: Dr. Juliana Hauser, is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), licensed professional counselor (LPC), and holds a PhD in Counseling Education. As a seasoned therapist and educator with a focus on sex positivity, she's authored sex-positive programs for Planned Parenthood, managed a halfway house, and worked with sexual abuse survivors and abusers. Her conversational therapy style has earned her the nickname 'you’re like my best girlfriend…with a PhD.' Join Dr. Hauser in her mission to spread holistic, non-intimidating sex positivity worldwide.Want more Dr. Juliana? Find her online at https://dr-juliana.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjulianahauser/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drjulianamorris/Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod<span class="ql-ui"...

Step into the mystical as we delve into the realm of the "Woo". Erin ponders the enigmatic world of modern spirituality, offering a fresh perspective on astrology, human design, crystals, manifestation, intention setting, mantras, altars, and the belief that everything happens for a reason. Basically, Erin sorts all the bullsh*t that can come with contemporary interpretations of these practices, so you don’t have to. And once the dust settles, it becomes clear the power these tools can hold in helping us show up as our best selves each day and in savoring the present.In this episode, Erin shares why after a long relationship with skepticism, she has since dubbed herself “Woo-Adjacent”, covering topics like: Embracing the Woo: How contemporary spirituality offers an alternative to conventional religionAstrology Alchemy: Erin’s secret horoscope obsession and how even the most rational minds can find solace and guidance in the starsManifestation Magic: The power of intention setting and vision boards in shaping your dreams and desires into realityMantras and Altars: Unearthing the significance of daily rituals and grounding practices that empower your journey toward authenticityForce vs. Flow: Shifting from a mindset of control and force to one of ease and trust in the universe's guidanceEmbracing the Unknown: Exploring the mysterious third path where life's surprises and opportunities unfoldWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!Mentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing

Magic mushrooms? Psychedelics? Microdosing? Drugs once considered countercultural are being reinvented as part of the plant medicine movement. As Tracey Tee, the founder of “Moms on Mushrooms” (M.O.M) explains, it’s perhaps the best ‘assistant’ you can find when it comes to your unique healing and personal growth. In a world overwhelmed by information and distractions, Tracy helps women forge a new path to reconnect with their hearts and true selves through the power of psychedelics.Whether you're a seasoned advocate or a curious skeptic, join Erin as she delves into this eye-opening conversation with Tracy, who takes us on a journey from the depths of COVID-induced despair to the transformative power of micro-dosing with magic mushrooms, including:Tracy’s journey, from co-creating "The Pump and Dump Show" for moms to her current role in the plant medicine movementWhat is micro-dosing and how does it differ from traditional therapies?Magic mushrooms’ role in mental wellness and personal growthChanging the approach to mental health to empower individuals to take charge of their healing journey.The cultural shift surrounding plant medicine and its potential to offer new perspectives on life, emotions, and inner peace.Importance of community, intention, and readiness for change in the context of personal growth.Exploring the skepticism about "woo”, while acknowledging its potential for healing and growth Challenging preconceptions and encourages self-compassion, exploring the transformative power of psychedelics.OUR GUEST: Tracey Tee, active in the momosphere for over a decade, co-created The Pump and Dump Show, starred in its nationally touring comedy, and co-produced the Band of Mothers Podcast. She's also the CEO of Band of Mothers Media. Inspired by her own psilocybin journey during the pandemic, in 2022, she launched M.O.M. (Moms on Mushrooms), an online microdosing course for moms. Tracey's mission is to unite mothers through plant medicine for personal growth and healing. M.O.M. has gained widespread recognition, featuring on NPR, Today Show, Piers Morgan, Rolling Stone, CBS Saturday Morning, PBS, Colorado Public Radio, NBC News, and Romper Magazine. Tracey resides in Denver, Colorado, with her husband of 21 years and their 12-year-old miracle daughter. She aims to create a conscious, Sacred Feminine-inspired model of doing business.Want more Tracey? Find her online at https://www.momsonmushrooms.com/ and follow her work on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/momsonmushroomsofficial/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: <a...

Despite traveling to 102 countries and scuba-diving with shark countless times, writer and travel expert Lisa Niver wouldn’t call herself “brave”. She prefers “brave-ish”. As Lisa explains in her memoir Brave-ish: One Breakup, Six Continents and Feeling Fearless After Fifty, cultivating bravery is like planting seeds—it takes patience and practice to see it grow. Years later, the fruits of those seeds have led Lisa on an incredible journey of self-discovery, adventure, and transformation. In this captivating episode, Lisa reminds us that it’s never too late to live our own "Brave-ish" life, explore the world, and create the life we dream of. In addition, Erin and Lisa discuss:Lisa's transformation and liberation after getting divorced at 47Her pursuit of 50 new adventures before turning 50 and the lessons she learned along the wayThe significance of self-care, rest, and reflection in achieving personal growthRedefining bravery as a muscle that grows through practice and facing fearsThe power of embracing change, stepping out of our comfort zones, and taking challenges head-onThe importance of honest self-assessment, finding balance between adventure and communityCrafting a unique, unconventional life pathOUR GUEST: Lisa Niver, an award-winning travel expert, has explored 102 countries on six continents. A University of Pennsylvania graduate, she spent seven years sailing with cruise lines like Princess Cruises and Royal Caribbean, and three years backpacking across Asia. Her articles appear in esteemed publications like AARP and WIRED, and she hosts the podcast Make Your Own Map, featuring interviews with figures like Deepak Chopra and Olympic medalists. With multiple journalism awards and finalist recognition, Niver is also a #3 travel influencer in 2023. She shares her insights on KTLA TV, YouTube (2 million views), and in her memoir "Brave-ish, One Breakup, Six Continents and Feeling Fearless After Fifty."Want more Lisa? Find her online at http://wesaidgotravel.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisaniver TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisaniver Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisa.niver Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisaniver YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LisaNiver Pinterest: <a href="https://www.pinterest.com/wesaidgotravel/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

What do you do when you are faced with the choice between leaving a life you love or leaving yourself behind? These are the questions that essayist, professor, and mother Kelly McMasters explores in her memoir The Leaving Season, as she details her remarkable journey from being a sophisticated writer in New York City to a rural mom of two in Pennsylvania. It was in this transition that Kelly came to define her unique relationship to motherhood, find liberation in divorce, and discover the beauty that comes with choosing yourself and unapologetic happiness.Join us for a deeply emotional and powerful conversation, as Kelly and Erin explore themes of love, loss, transformation, motherhood, self-discovery, and freedom, including:Breaking free from a life that no longer allows you to be youRaw emotions of motherhood: when you don’t think of yourself as a “natural mother”; the freeing feeling of becoming a single mother after divorceThe fantasy of marriage and how it masks the reality of what happens when relationships grow apartComplexities of divorce, finding critical distance, and softening anger from past relationshipsReinvention as a mother and finding empowerment on your own termsDating after divorce: creating a relationship in a way that works best for you and letting go of the fantasyWhat it means to no longer apologize for using your voiceOUR GUEST: Kelly McMasters is an essayist, professor, mother, and former bookshop owner. She is the author of several books including her recent memoir-in-essays The Leaving Season, and co-editor of the ABA national bestseller Wanting: Women Writing About Desire (Catapult, 2023). Her essays, reviews, and articles have appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post Magazine and The Paris Review. Kelly serves as an Associate Professor of English and Director of Publishing Studies at Hofstra University.Want more Kelly? Find her online at www.kellymcmasters.com and follow her on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelly_mc_masters/Facebook: www.facebook.com/kelly.mcmasters.3You can find her books at:The Leaving Season: A Memoir in Essays: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-leaving-season-kelly-mcmasters/1142386744Wanting: Women Writing About Desire: https://bookshop.org/p/books/wanting-women-writing-about-desire-margot-kahn/18576719?ean=9781646220113Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at <a...

What does it mean to find “the lid to your pot?” Bela Gandhi, founder of Smart Dating Academy, shares her journey from business school to unlocking her gift for igniting meaningful connections. From her work with countless clients, Bela delivers insights on love, attachment, and embracing the best version of ourselves on the journey to finding lasting happiness.Bela takes the reins as your love life's personal trainer in this transformational conversation with Erin. They delve deep into relationships, from the evolutionary roots of our romantic preferences, to the impact of family dynamics on dating patterns, and so much more, including:Unmasking the truth behind relationship failuresWhy someone “good on paper” is not always worth the paper it’s written onThe fascinating role of DNA in our dating preferences, including the allure of tall menUnderstanding the difference between what we think we want vs. what we truly need for lasting loveDiscovering your "elevator people" and aligning happiness with potential partnersBreaking free from destructive relationship cycles fueled by family of origin dynamicsDebunking misconceptions about attraction and chemistryWhy we’re acculturated to want the wrong things in a relationshipWhy Bela has her clients wait 15+ dates before exploring physical intimacy (WHAT?!) and the importance of standing in your emotional strengthRedefining relationships as fundamentally contractual and knowing when to renegotiate those contractsOUR GUEST: Bela Gandhi is a born cupid with a gift for helping people find love. Her matchmaking journey began in college when she had a lightning bolt moment, predicting a perfect match for her roommate who eventually got married and had beautiful kids. While getting degrees in Finance and German and working in Mergers &amp; Acquisitions, Bela's passion for matchmaking persisted. After her family business was acquired, she founded Smart Dating Academy in 2009, incorporating online dating into her proven process. Now, with a life she adores, a fantastic husband, and two amazing kids, Bela is dedicated to spreading love and helping others find their perfect match.Want more Bela? Find her online at http://www.smartdatingacademy.com/ and follow her on:Smart Dating Academy Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/smart-dating-academy-the-podcast/id1583496218?uo=4YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyIAVW4NhaLg7TbTJSVZlewInstagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

Melissa Febos has always had a penchant for operating outside of convention. Whether it was her eagerness to try all of the drugs she was warned about in her school’s D.A.R.E program or deciding to self-homeschool herself at 16, she knew she was different from her peers. Now as a bestselling author and associate professor, Melissa joins us to explore the complexities of desire, empowerment, and self-discovery, drawing from her experiences as a professional dominatrix and her recovery from heroin addiction.In this conversation Erin and Melissa have no limits when it comes to talking about sexuality and the power of embracing your true self, including:Working outside of conventional norms and institutions, while being driven and intellectually curiousLiving with addiction and working in the sex industryWriting about your life experience and how it can be used to make sense of yourself and your pastExploring sexual empowerment, and the desire to be desired over 40Talking about sex with your kids, from expectations and pornography to the language of consentWhy not telling yourself the whole truth can be a survival mechanismEmbracing change and recognizing that personal and sexual evolution are constantThe value of open and communicative relationships to sustain personal developmentOUR GUEST: Melissa Febos is the bestselling author of four books, most recently, Girlhood, winner of the National Book Critics Circle Award in criticism, and Body Work: The Radical Power of Personal Narrative. She is the recipient of awards and fellowships from the Guggenheim Foundation, the National Endowment for the Arts, MacDowell, LAMBDA Literary and others. She is an associate professor at the University of Iowa.Want more Melissa? Find her online at https://www.melissafebos.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: @melissafebosTwitter: @melissafebosFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissafebosWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpodYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPgFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode.We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating...

What are the things that make a romantic relationship Hotter Than Ever? Sure there's chemistry and physical attraction (that's a given!) but there are so many other factors that make for a healthy, sexy, open connection between two conscious adults. Erin shares her opinion on how to turn up the heat by cultivating aspects like:Self-relianceAffectionHonestyVulnerabilityReliabilityConfidenceAsking for What You WantBoundariesTime AlonePositivityListeningand of course, as Aretha sang...RespectWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and sign up for our email list online at www.hotterthaneverpod.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ (DM us here!)TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. Head over to Apple Podcasts to write your review!Mentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing

What is the fabric of your spirit? Podcaster and brand strategist and Sybil Amuti not only answers questions like these, but inspires us to ask them of ourselves. In this episode, we’re investigating how we show up for the world and what it takes to embrace our truest, most colorful selves. Sybil’s infectious charm, inspiring wisdom and expansive podcast community are proof of the miracles that happen when we harness the power of voice–whether that’s our own, the voices of others, or even the voice of God. This episode is packed with revelations and Sybil is taking us to church (although church might not be where you think it is): The power of community that comes from storytellingUnderstanding that we are not alone–and that asking for help is a powerful tool (even if you’re yelling at God or the universe…we won’t judge) Learning how to put your spirit on display. How can we identify ourselves through things like clothing, passions, even candy (are you a Starburst or a Dove Bar?).Overcoming chronic people pleasing, and knowing that the effort you put into helping others should also go towards helping yourself Not dwelling on the bad stuff, because of how much evidence we have of the good stuffExploring the difference between the structure of religion and a personal relationship with God, and leaning into that connection when it calls to us Finding evidence of the divine in nature (why is corn so organized? What is a pine cone and why does it look like that? You can’t make this stuff up!)Embracing that we are just shadows and dust. Let’s all just enjoy the magical things that are available to us, like human connection, community, and dressing up Claiming your voice sometimes requires the silencing of everyone else’s, and working on suspending the judgment of others (and yes, we mean the voices in your head, too) Make sure to listen to Sybil on the Great Girlfriends Show podcast using this link, or find it wherever you get your podcasts. The Great Girlfriends Show connects women with daily tips and solutions for living a passionate life and building a thriving business, and we couldn’t recommend it enough.OUR GUEST: Sybil Clark Amuti is an executive brand strategist, podcast producer and host, philanthropist, wife, and mother. For over 15 years, Sybil has delivered world-class strategy and brand direction to some of the world's most renowned personal, corporate, and philanthropic brands, such as Scholastic, Nike, Sony Entertainment, Conde Nast, Tony Robbins, Red Table Talk and more. Her company, Legacy Row, is focused on legacy brand building and creating an alliance of like missioned brands who seek to create an impact on a local to global level. Sybil also serves as the creator and co-host of The Great Girlfriends Show, a podcast conversation series created to connect women with daily tips and solutions for living a passionate everyday life and building a thriving business. Under her direction, The Great...

Romance has gone through a big operating system update recently. Now that Erin’s been released from captivity (aka her long marriage), she’s giving us a highly subjective, hopefully handy survival guide to this new, evolved ecosystem of love. But in order to redefine our beliefs around love, romance and dating, we’ll first have to define some terms. It’s easy to get tangled in the wires of all this new-age romance, especially when there’s all this new, at times nerdy terminology that goes with it (WTF is a polycule?). Open your notebooks, everyone, because today we’ll be giving you lessons such as:The 411 on dating apps: which ones are right for you, depending on your wants and needs What it means that people are questioning monogamy–now that partnerships are lasting longer than everWhat it’s like to begin that process of unlearning implicit biases around relationship structures and opening your belief system to consider options other than monogamyHow people in unconventional relationships may be using layers of language to intellectualize something that’s likely to be very challenging emotionally There’s not just one way of being, anyone can re-assess and re-define what they think about love and monogamy at any time–and you can do that too! When it comes to love and desire, all bets are off. It’s a choose your own adventure life now, and it’s time to make the most of yours Here’s an index of terms we discuss in this episode, for reference: GGG: “Good Giving and Game.” Someone who is good in bed, committed to giving equal pleasure, and is up for anythingENM/CNM: Ethical/Consensual Non-Monogamy. People who want to be/sleep with multiple people at a time, but don’t want to be dishonest about it.Polyamory: The practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved.Primary/nesting Partner: The partner you are most committed/attached to in a polyamorous relationship. If they are your “nesting partner,” that means you live with them. NRE: “New Relationship Energy.” That feeling in a new relationship when you’re deeply infatuated with someone and it’s borderline obsessive Compersion: Experiencing or feeling joy for your partner when they are excited about a new relationship or turned on by a new sexual thing they’re experiencing with someone other than you Polycule: A group of three or more people in a relationship together Unicorn: A third party sexual partner that you and your partner bring in to your sexual and/or romantic relationship Relationship escalator: A relationship that builds upwards towards linear goals (ie. moving in together, having children, etc) Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook:...

Calling Kellye Howard resilient doesn’t quite capture her ability to triumph in the face of relentless challenges. The stand up comic/actor/speaker turns even the darkest of tragedies into stories that will leave you hanging on every word. Her journey of healing through laughter–and lots of therapists–is epic, and her willingness to try anything once (except beef, pork and scorpions) will inspire you to do the same. In this episode, we’re unpacking what it takes to find yourself–and follow your passion–no matter what challenges life throws your way. Kellye takes us through the many different lives she’s lived, and we uncover truths such as:The pain we carry from trauma doesn’t go away until we face it head on– it will keep showing up in other places until we doIt’s vital to remember your successes in life just as much–if not more–than the failures Doing what you’re passionate about is a powerful medicine. In many cases, it can be lifesavingWhen you’re passionate about something–keep at it, no matter what you’ve been through or how long you’ve taken a break from it. This next try could be your best yet Don’t let your past dictate who you could become Sometimes, it’s helpful to view adversity as an opportunity to grow closer to your authentic, best self One form of healing is likely not going to be the one that fixes it all–healing is a cumulative process, and you are the result of every step you take towards that healing–whether that be trying out different therapists or going to see a witch–all of it adds to your growthSeek lasting joy instead of fleeting happiness–it will ensure that your cup is half full even on your worst days Make sure to follow Kellye’s socials for details about her upcoming one woman show, “Crazy Or Nah,” in theaters later this year, and listen to her podcast “Be Less Petty” using this link, or find it wherever you get your podcasts. You can also watch her in the TV series “Power Book IV: Force” on Starz, Amazon Prime, or Hulu. Want more Kellye? Learn more about her here. While you’re at it, find her online: Website: https://www.kellyehoward.com/ Socials: @kellyehoward on every platformWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: <a...

If you have even been convinced that you needed to lose weight before you went after that next relationship, promotion or achievement of any kind, you are not alone. In this episode, we’re renegotiating the qualifications it takes to have a “successful” body. The answer? Making peace with the body you’re in right now. Erin walks us through her journey of overcoming an unhealthy relationship with food and self-image, and after years of diets, weight fluctuation, 12 step programs, and searching for a higher power…she’s here to assure you that you are more than capable of finding success and love at any size. Your body is not deviant, incorrect, or unlovable. And neither are you. Through this journey, we’ll be exploring subjects such as:How our belief systems and the narratives we allow our subconscious to tell us limit what we think we’re capable of in life Overcoming the judgment of a gorgeous family that finds chubbiness unacceptableThe reality behind trading your health and a normal functioning body to achieve what is ultimately a temporary ideal body shape The dangers of internalizing the message “to be thin is to be lovable” Unlearning the belief that it’s our job as women to control our weight and our bodies Internalizing the truth that (shocker) men actually like women’s bodies, and not just one specific kind Demystifying the dominance the scale has on the lives of many women, and realizing that those numbers mean absolutely nothing Understanding that it’s important to live well and take care of your health, but that a large part of being well is not being so f*cking mean to yourself!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list!Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. Mentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing

Dawn Porter was reluctant to call herself a Director, even after her movie premiered at Sundance and got picked up by HBO. Today her award-winning documentaries (John Lewis: Good Trouble, The Way I See It) are an invaluable addition to the historical record, but her humility keeps her from calling herself an activist. In this episode, we’re using Dawn's expertise – she was once a practicing attorney – to renegotiate the contracts that keep women from assuming titles we don’t think we’re qualified for, even when we have more than enough on our resumes. Dawn takes us through her incredible journey from comfortable DC lawyer to celebrated documentarian, covering topics such as: The importance of advocating for yourself with as much passion as you advocate for others How to free yourself from the traps of structure and comfort to take on your next, great adventure How to use mistakes as stepping stones to your next success Learning how to get comfortable with discomfort Stepping into your power and your title as a woman in charge Acknowledging the danger of “if it ain't broke, don’t fix it,” because sometimes breaking things is the first step to your next great adventure. In Dawn’s case, it led her to flying on with Oprah in her private jet to meet Harry (yes, that Harry)OUR GUEST: Dawn Porter is an award-winning documentary filmmaker. Her latest film, The Lady Bird Diaries - about first lady Lady Bird Johnson, just premiered at SXSW. She has had a busy decade - she made a great ESPN documentary series 37 Words about Title IX, the civil rights legislation that gave women the equal opportunity to play sports, and her mental health series The Me You Can’t See, which she made with Oprah and Prince Harry, premiered on Apple TV. You may also have seen her films John Lewis: Good Trouble about the legendary Congressman and Civil Rights leader or The Way I See It, about photojournalist Pete Souza, who served as Chief Official...

You belong. You think you don’t, but you do. I promise. Despite being a successful actor, producer, activist and…firefighter(?!) Alysia Reiner still has to remind herself that she fits in. But she goes beyond just reminding herself–Reiner is on a mission to create belonging for others through her films, art and social justice endeavors. The definition of walking the walk, she’s all about taking action.Why give money to environmental rights groups when you could learn to be a community firefighter instead? Why post about women getting equal pay when you can make a movie–by women for women–and make the female investors 110% back on their returns? Does this woman ever sleep? We’ll answer all this and more in this episode, with some pretty life changing takeaways, such as:Life is all about playing the long game, especially now that we’re living longer than ever beforeTake your creative career at your own pace: people reach success at different speedsDon’t get a nose job. You do you.Take the time before success to really get clear on what you want…once you figure that out, you’re more likely to become a magnet for it Leaning into action-oriented service helps to heal you as much as it helps your communityRegardless of how many magazine covers, red carpets or runways one is on, belonging is elusive to all of us at times To succeed in a long term partnership, work on conflicts before they even start. Get a couples therapist before you have problems, just to have someone on deck who knows your relationship. That is, if your partner’s open to itLoving your partner is a choice that you have to make every day, and making intimacy a priority is essential You can try your hardest and do your absolute best and still fail: it’s the getting back up that countsIf you’re feeling particularly inspired, find local volunteer firefighter opportunities at https://makemeafirefighter.org/ Want more Alysia? Learn more about her here. While you’re at it, find her online:Her website: www.alysiareiner.com Instagram: @alysiareinerFacebook: Alysia ReinerTwitter: @alysiareinerWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and sign up for our email list online at www.hotterthaneverpod.comInstagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

There are many reasons we stay in long-term marriages/ partnerships/ relationships that aren't working. But what if staying, in the end, is not the right decision for you? How do you know when it's time to go?Erin shares the kinds of relationship dynamics she's seen and admires; the reasons she stayed too long in her own marriage; why your friends are not going to tell you the truth, and how you can make a change without first having to go to the depths of suffering.In this episode, we’ll be unpacking what it means to take the leap, asking ourselves...What am I willing to accept as a baseline of happiness and wellbeing?If my marriage has problems, are they the kind I want to work at solving?How do I gain the courage to generate immense change in my life, even when it seems impossible?You deserve a partnership filled with compassion and kindness that supports your every dream!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online and join our mailing list at www.hotterthaneverpod.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpodYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPgFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453Please rate and review Hotter Than Ever on Apple Podcasts and help other people to find the show!Mentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing

We’re sitting down with Oprah dynasty legend, author, producer and transformation doula Sheri Salata to renegotiate what life looks like after you’ve achieved your wildest dreams (hint: it’s not over!). We’ll be unpacking what it means to focus on yourself beyond your work, and what happens when we choose to step out from behind the curtain and into the spotlight. Join us for a conversation about:The price of amassing conventional success and achievements, and how that factors into our self worthLearning how to steward your own wellbeing and ascend beyond people pleasingRecovering from self betrayal–in the many forms it takes–and learning how to have your own backWhat it means to choose discomfort in order to continue evolving, releasing, healing and upleveling, until our very last breathGetting over the shame that comes with the desire to be front and center, and to have a public voice and presenceOvercoming chronic dissatisfaction and learning to appreciate the time you have left in this world (and start using it to its fullest)Knowing that you can’t complain your way to the life of your dreams. Our actions are completely informed by the stories we tell ourselves, so start telling yourself an incredible story and get going!“The only love that you must have, that’s like breath, is yours” - Sheri Salata“I f*cking hate the way that everything’s an evolution, we’re never just fixed” - Erin Keating Free for Hotter Than Ever listeners! Check out Sheri’s Change 10 Words Workbook using this link.OUR GUEST: Sheri Salata is an author, world class producer and transformation doula. She is the founder + CEO of The Support System, a global membership group for women dedicated to creating real-life transformation. Sheri’s memoir, The Beautiful No: And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence and Transformation is an Amazon Editor’s Choice Best Memoir and an Apple Must-Listen audio book.Sheri spent 20 years in the land of Oprah finishing that glorious run as the final Executive Producer of The Oprah Winfrey Show, President of Harpo Studios and President of OWN as captured in the cable hit series Season 25: Oprah Behind The Scenes. Sheri lives in the Napa Valley with her bulldog babies Dolly and Buzz the Wonder Boy.Learn more about “The Support System” through this link. Check out her incredible memoir, “The Beautiful No” here.Want more Sheri? Learn more about her here. While you’re at it, find her online:https://sherisalata.com/https://www.instagram.com/sherisalata/<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/sherisalatacommunity" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

Calling all formerly partnered/married/committed folks. It’s time to get back out there! But how? Where? And what do I do?! In this juicy episode, Erin dishes about what happened when she started dating a bunch of men (and many at the same time) in the year after ending her marriage of 16 years. Bottom line – whatever you’re looking for is available to you. So how do you figure out what you are looking for? In this episode, Erin takes us through her Rumspringa of romantic adventures in the year following her separation, and divulges some of the lessons she’s learned along the ride. We're renegotiating the timeline for when we're allowed to date, have torrid affairs, and get super f*cking romantically entangled. We’ll be covering topics like: Using romantic exploration to cultivate your own sense of self and desires Reconnecting with your body and desirability during your sexual reprise (people still want you, and you don’t have to be skinny or a 20 year old!) Gaining practice in expressing your authentic and genuine needs Seeking low stakes, exciting connections beyond just sex (but the sex is a great plus) Cultivating a willingness to have new experiences, to accept new people into your life and to let them go Trusting that if you go out there to have fun, you will evolve, and you’ll come to know what you want Learning the “take a flier, just in case” mindset, because you never know when an unexpected connection can sweep you off your feetWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online and join our mailing list at www.hotterthaneverpod.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpodYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453Mentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing

Even in fourth grade, Barb knew they had to get out. They had seen David Bowie in drag on SNL and realized there was something better out there, something that felt right. Sometimes the binary – whether that be for gender, sex, or position in bed – just doesn’t honor everything we are. So we go punk rock and say f*ck it. In this episode, we’re talking to musician, Billboard Platinum music producer, author, and overall icon Barb Morrison. We're renegotiating what gender, sex, and everything in between means to us, and how that drives what we ask for–and who we become–in our relationships. Here’s some insight Barb gives us throughout the episode: Gender is who you want to be, sexuality is who you want to f*ck What it’s like knowing who you are but not having the words to describe it (yet) Discovering your sexuality can happen through cartoon characters, crushes on 2nd grade teachers, punk rock, maybe even a gay boyfriend or two Sometimes we just need to bottom for God and accept whatever love (or lessons) the universe has in store for us Life is a tragedy in close up and a comedy when you zoom out…it’s good to trust that there’s a bigger picture Exploring our roles and possibilities in the bedroom is essential, as is investigating your desires Sex evolves in a partnership, and it can be seen as connection and communication just as much as a tool for pleasure If you’re still thinking about Tom of Finland (as we are), check out this WikiWant more Barb? Learn more about them here.Pre-order Barb's book “Bottoming For God” here!While you’re at it, find them online: www.barbmorrisonmusic.com https://www.instagram.com/barb__morrison/ https://twitter.com/barbmorrison https://www.instagram.com/bottomingforgod/Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online and join our mailing list at www.hotterthaneverpod.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpodYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453Mentioned in this

Do you ever wonder if you’re the one holding you back? In this episode Erin shares the attitudes and beliefs that will help you level up in your career or any area where your mojo could use a boost. HINT: Take a risk and channel Dolly Parton!In this episode, we’re reopening the terms and conditions for what it takes to level up in life. We’ll be discussing…What it actually means to be “qualified” for the life you wantThe “legitimacy” versus “fuck it” attitudeHow sometimes we need to fire ourselves in order to get a promotionThe beauty of audacity in womenGiving ourselves permission to try (and even to fail!)Hairspray, John Waters, Dolly Parton, and much moreFollow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode.We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. Head over to Apple Podcasts to write your review!Stay in the know with all things Hotter Than Ever! Sign up for our email list!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at https://www.hotterthaneverpod.com/Follow us on social @hotterthaneverpod!Instagram Facebook TikTok You TubeMentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing

What happens if we immediately regret the single most important decision many of us will make in our lives? The day after writer Joanna Rakoff got married, she knew she had made a big mistake. But as a self-professed “good girl” and quasi-perfectionist, she stayed in the marriage for fifteen years. Her big wake up call came when at a conference, she spotted the man she had dated in college, not just any man, but the love of her life. Joanna shares how she overcame her fear of being judged by the world, and the relief that came when she finally let go and leapt into a new life. In this episode, the contract we’re rewriting is one of expectations around romance, marriage, and motherhood. We’re challenging the imaginary court of public opinion that we as women have been taught to fear so much. We discuss:Why a supposedly life-ending mistake can be a blessing in disguiseHow to challenge the notion that making a big change will lead to ridiculeSome of the reasons we make not-so-stellar choicesThe warning signs to notice in your body that reveal your true feelingsWhy you should stop wasting so much time caring and start changing your life todayOUR GUEST: Joanna Rakoff is the author of the international bestselling memoir My Salinger Year and the bestselling novel A Fortunate Age, winner of the Goldberg Prize for Fiction and the Elle Readers’ Prize. Rakoff’s books have been translated into twenty languages, and the film adaptation of My Salinger Year, starring Sigourney Weaver and Margaret Qualley, opened in theaters worldwide in 2021 and is now available on Amazon Prime, AppleTV, and everywhere you stream movies.Joanna’s Website: www.joannarakoff.comBuy Joanna’s Book “My Salinger Year”: https://www.amazon.com/My-Salinger-Year-Joanna-Rakoff/dp/030794798XWatch the feature film “My Salinger Year” on Apple TV, Amazon Prime or Youtube Joanna’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/joannarakoff Joanna’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joannarakoff/ Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. Head over to Apple Podcasts to write your review!Stay in the know with all things Hotter Than Ever! Sign up for our email list!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at https://www.hotterthaneverpod.com/Follow us on social @hotterthaneverpod!<a href="https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

Pleasure is more than just an Eat, Pray, Love fantasy. We need it to feel good! So why don’t we give ourselves permission to have more of it? Think about the last indulgence you allowed yourself beyond a glass of white wine or a square of dark chocolate (having two squares doesn’t count). Erin shares that most of us don’t even come close to the line of overindulgence, and how you can make pleasure a priority in your life today!In this episode we discuss:Renegotiating pleasure’s place in our livesTaking inventory of everything we’ve been holding ourselves back from in order to “have it all” Accepting that hedonism isn’t fatal Flexing our biologically built-in feel-good muscles, igniting our senses, and rediscovering what it’s like to really put pleasure first. Really. Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. Head over to Apple Podcasts to write your review!Stay in the know with all things Hotter Than Ever! Sign up for our email list!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at https://www.hotterthaneverpod.com/Follow us on social @hotterthaneverpod!Instagram Facebook TikTok You TubeMentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing

Why are we so scared of change?&nbsp;The second half of your life can behappier, sexier and more fulfilled, but you may need to blow somestuff up.&nbsp;To find out how, we're bringing you interviews and frank,irreverent, inexpert advice on everything from career and aging to sexand body image in what used to be called "middle age."&nbsp;Laugh, gethonest, break the rules and stop caring what other people think.&nbsp;Joinus, and let's be hot together!The show drops on 4/20. Follow us now so you'll know when we go live!