Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre

Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Dr. Jeffrey Hall’s tips for using social media to feel less alone. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Media - and social media in particular - is often pointed to as a culprit in our loneliness. Why is this? And are there ways to better harness the power of social media to feel less alone? Kristen and Jolenta get insights from Dr. Jeffrey Hall, author of Relating Through Technology. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Laura Tremaine’s tips for building and nurturing their friend councils. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Society often celebrates the BFF, the squad, or the busload of besties. But Laura Tremaine has a different take. She believes our lives are richer when we have a variety of unique friends to love and lean on - even if those friends never meet each other. She shares her philosophy with Jolenta and Kristen, and in her book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta and Kristen read some of the many stories you’ve shared about the topics we’ve recently covered on the show We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Dr. Jeremy Nobel’s tips for enjoying their own company. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

According to Dr. Jeremy Nobel, author of Project Unlonely, "at its core, a true sense of loneliness results from a disconnection to the self." But what does he mean by disconnection? What causes this kind of disconnection? And steps can we take to develop a good relationship with ourselves? Dr. Nobel stops by to share his findings. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Liz Craft and Sarah Fain’s tips for working together as friends. We want to hear from you! Please share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When is it a good idea to mix friendship and work? What are the benefits and drawbacks of working with a friend? And what can we do to ensure both the work and the friendship succeed when the two are mixed? Liz Craft and Sarah Fain, BFFs and business partners, share their wisdom. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Chelsea Devantez’s tips for considering and coping with BFF breakups. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Breaking up with friends is an oft-experienced but rarely talked about topic. How can we assess whether certain friendships are no longer healthy? And when is a breakup warranted? Chelsea Devantez, author of “I shouldn’t be telling you this, but I am anyway,” shares her thoughts. We want to hear from you! Please share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta and Kristen try some of Dr. Adrienne Wood’s tips for making the most of their social networks. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What is a social network - other than a movie? Does my social network include just friends - or also acquaintances and neighbors? And what makes a social network healthy or unhealthy? Walking us through these questions is Dr. Adrienne Wood. We want to hear from you! Please share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Also, be sure to follow us on Instagram: @howtobefinepod, @k10meinzer & @jolenta_G Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kristen and Jolenta try some of Dr. Carrie Henning-Smith’s tips for bridging the geographic friendship divide, record audio diaries, and report back. We want to hear from you! Please share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Also, be sure to follow us on Instagram: @howtobefinepod, @k10meinzer & @jolenta_G Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How is the geography of our world set up to make us more or less lonely? And how can we bridge the divide when we’re apart from those we love? Dr. Carrie Henning-Smith shares her insights, whose research focuses on how the environment impacts health from the immediate living environment to the broader geographical context. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Also, be sure to follow us on Instagram: @howtobefinepod, @k10meinzer & @jolenta_G Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kristen and Jolenta try some of Dr. Louise Hawkley’s loneliness tips on for size, record audio diaries, and report back. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Also, be sure to follow us on Instagram: @howtobefinepod, @k10meinzer & @jolenta_G Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’re back with a whole new season of How To Be Fine dedicated to the loneliness epidemic - with topics ranging from finding peace with solitude to making friends as an adult to breaking up with BFFs. Kicking things off is a conversation with Dr. Louise Hawkley, a field-leading expert on loneliness and social isolation who works with the National Opinion Research Center. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected] And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Also, be sure to follow us on Instagram: @howtobefinepod, @k10meinzer & @jolenta_G Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kristen and Jolenta are back with a whole new season of How to Be Fine dedicated to the topics of friendship and loneliness in the modern age. Along the way, they'll talk with esteemed experts. But even better: They'll put different friend-making methods to the test, acting as guinea pigs in their own social experiments. Join them as they laugh, learn, and awkwardly attempt to make new friends and deepen the friendships they already have. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine - Kristen and Jolenta share listeners’ reactions to the New Year, Same Old BS mini series. Plus, they make a special announcement! Keep in touch with us! Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On the final episode of How to Be Fine’s special series - New Year, Same Old BS - Kristen and Jolenta talk about the history of tobacco and weight loss marketing. Plus, they offer up advice on how to communicate more clearly as a new manager, and when to consider a therapist's techniques as red flags. Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41562-021-01202-9.epdf https://www.britannica.com/topic/smoking-tobacco/A-social-and-cultural-history-of-smoking https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/1920s-food-flapper-diet https://books.google.com/books?id=Aiwdx4k4uNoC&pg=PA21&hl=en&sa=X#v=onepage&q&f=false https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cigarette_smoking_for_weight_loss https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2602591/ https://time.com/3747439/smoking-cigarettes-weight-loss/ https://nypost.com/2022/11/02/heroin-chic-is-back-and-curvy-bodies-big-butts-are-out/ https://www.esquire.com/uk/style/fashion/a43258212/cigarettes-90s-london-kate-moss/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_tobacco https://www.science.org/content/article/why-smokers-are-skinny-rev2 https://www.mountsinai.org/health-library/selfcare-instructions/weight-gain-after-quitting-smoking-what-to-do https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2023/07/12/dua-lipa-lily-rose-depp-jenna-ortega-celebrities-smoking-cigarettes/70346466007/ https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/data_statistics/fact_sheets/health_effects/effects_cig_smoking/ https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/basic_information/health_effects/index.htm Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine’s special series - New Year, Same Old BS - Kristen and Jolenta talk about a handful of the many Christian Diet plans. Plus, they offer up advice for dealing with jealous feelings, and finding the right therapist. Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/innovation/the-seesawing-history-of-fad-diets-180981586/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christian_diet_programs https://academic.oup.com/columbia-scholarship-online/book/22528/chapter-abstract/182850030?redirectedFrom=fulltext https://www.mdpi.com/2077-1444/13/2/182#:~:text=Christian%20diet%20culture%20focuses%20on,importance%20of%20a%20healthy%20lifestyle. https://scholarspace.library.gwu.edu/downloads/4q77fr355?locale=zh https://thebiblicalnutritionist.com/christian-weight-loss-programs/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sylvester_Graham https://www.livestrong.com/article/120805-christian-weight-loss-programs/ https://erinltodd.com/making-another-christian-weight-loss-resolution-read-this-first/ https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2021/sep/29/gwen-shamblin-docuseries-the-way-down-remnant-fellowship https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-07-12/how-christianity-has-been-weaponised-by-weight-loss-movements/102509732 https://abcnews.go.com/Health/daniel-diet-straight-bible/story?id=21029387 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine’s special series - New Year, Same Old BS - Kristen and Jolenta uncover the surprising history of the Tapeworm diet. Plus, they offer up advice on how to accept a post-birth body, and how to get over unrequited love. Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.healthline.com/health/diet-and-weight-loss/tapeworm-diet https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cestoda https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/agricultural-and-biological-sciences/tapeworms https://www.mdpi.com/2673-6772/2/3/15 https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-20695743 https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/how-tuberculosis-shaped-victorian-fashion-180959029/ https://thequackdoctor.com/index.php/eat-eat-eat-those-notorious-tapeworm-diet-pills/ https://thequackdoctor.substack.com/about https://www.latimes.com/archives/blogs/booster-shots/story/2009-12-29/tyra-banks-and-the-tapeworm-diet https://www.today.com/health/iowa-woman-tries-tapeworm-diet-prompts-doctor-warning-6c10935746 https://metro.co.uk/2015/03/24/eeew-one-of-the-kardashians-said-she-wants-a-tapeworm-to-get-slim-5118092/ https://www.vice.com/en/article/xw5nnq/inside-the-lasting-legacy-of-tapeworm-diets https://www.huffpost.com/entry/woman-swallows-tapeworm-iowa_n_3780313 https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/the-horrifying-legacy-of-the-victorian-tapeworm-diet https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/science-news/10607615/Journalist-infested-himself-with-tapeworm-for-BBC-documentary.html https://www.bbc.com/news/science-environment-25968755 https://www.mountsinai.org/health-library/diseases-conditions/tapeworm-infection-beef-or-pork Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On the first episode of How to Be Fine’s special series - New Year, Same Old BS - Kristen and Jolenta dig into the Cabbage Soup Diet. Plus, they offer up advice on how to wake up with more energy, and how to keep in-laws out of reproductive matters. Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.encyclopedia.com/science/encyclopedias-almanacs-transcripts-and-maps/cabbage-soup-diet https://www.insider.com/guides/health/diet-nutrition/cabbage-soup-diet https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/lifestyle/food/1996/02/21/the-cabbage-soup-diet/25081d4f-ebd4-4c48-ba7e-a6d7af4edb54/ https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/lifestyle/food/1996/03/06/a-closer-look-into-the-cabbage-soup-diet/52684c10-9c2d-445e-ac95-d198fd546e01/ https://www.smithsonianmag.com/innovation/the-seesawing-history-of-fad-diets-180981586/ https://health.usnews.com/wellness/food/articles/cabbage-soup-diet https://www.science.gov/topicpages/c/cabbage+soup+diet https://news.ufl.edu/archive/2002/03/cabbage-soup-diet-no-lucky-charm-for-weight-loss-says-uf-expert-1.html https://www.webmd.com/diet/a-z/cabbage-soup-diet https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/the-cabbage-soup-diet https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/cabbage-soup-diet https://www.verywellfit.com/what-is-the-cabbage-soup-diet-3496214 https://www.emedicinehealth.com/cabbage_soup_diet_help_you_lose_weight/article_em.htm https://www.everydayhealth.com/diet-nutrition/cabbage-soup-diet.aspx https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cabbage_soup_diet#:~:text=The%20origins%20of%20the%20diet,and%20%22Russian%20Peasant%20Diet%22. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta have a conversation with special guest: screenwriter Juliet Giglio. Plus, they share listener feedback on Made-For-TV Holiday Movies and New Year’s Resolutions. Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta discuss whether or not New Year’s resolutions are actually effective. Plus, they offer up advice on dealing with medical vulnerability, and how to find an IRL literary community. Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://slate.com/human-interest/2014/01/new-years-resolutions-are-lame-the-peacock-vow-is-awesome.html https://www.teenvogue.com/story/new-years-resolutions-history https://www.economist.com/the-economist-explains/2018/01/05/the-origin-of-new-years-resolutions https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Year%27s_resolution https://www.history.com/news/the-history-of-new-years-resolutions https://www.merriam-webster.com/wordplay/when-did-new-years-resolutions-start https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/new-years-resolutions-statistics/ https://today.yougov.com/society/articles/44868-americans-new-years-resolutions-2023-poll?redirect_from=%2Ftopics%2Fsociety%2Farticles-reports%2F2022%2F12%2F28%2Famericans-new-years-resolutions-2023-poll https://faculty.wharton.upenn.edu/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Dai_Fresh_Start_2014_Mgmt_Sci.pdf https://fisher.osu.edu/blogs/leadreadtoday/why-most-new-years-resolutions-fail https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/jclp.1151 https://www.mdpi.com/1660-4601/18/6/3084 https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0234097#pone-0234097-g002 https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2980864/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the positive impact of made-for-tv holiday movies. Plus, they offer up advice on how to curb an emotional shopping habit, and how to create a more inclusive curriculum. Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.npr.org/2019/08/07/749067994/this-changes-everything-geena-davis-on-empowering-women-in-hollywood https://www.fielding.edu/why-christmas-movies-make-us-feel-good/#:~:text=The%20familiar%20tropes%2C%20and%20simple,seated%20need%20for%20social%20connection. https://www.forbes.com/sites/nancyberk/2022/08/24/ashley-williams-sparks-hallmark-medias-new-female-focused-storytelling-initiative/?sh=2628c9875a13 https://www.usmagazine.com/entertainment/pictures/hallmark-channels-leading-ladies-a-guide-to-the-networks-stars/ https://www.thedailybeast.com/the-normalizing-of-horrible-christmas-movies-must-be-stopped http://www.thefutoncritic.com/ratings/2022/12/13/hallmark-channels-countdown-to-christmas-continues-to-be-viewers-number-1-home-for-the-holidays-in-its-eighth-week-566510/20221213hallmark01/ https://www.vulture.com/article/lifetime-christmas-movie-santa-bootcamp.html https://www.vogue.com/article/why-are-all-the-women-in-hallmark-holiday-movies-portrayed-as-soulless-money-machines https://nursingclio.org/2019/01/17/hallmark-christmas-movies-guilty-pleasure-or-feminist-rallying-cry/ https://fortune.com/well/2022/11/24/christmas-movies-happiness-mental-health/ https://www.kqed.org/arts/10179597/anatomy-of-a-made-for-tv-christmas-movie https://www.her.ie/entertainment/christmas-movies-2-567989#:~:text=According%20to%20science%2C%20watching%20Christmas,actually%20good%20for%20your%20health.&text=That's%20right%2C%20tuning%20into%20Elf,us%20feeling%20happier%20and%20lighter. https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/here-s-why-it-feels-so-good-watch-those-hallmark-ncna1080841 https://www.theglobeandmail.com/arts/article-why-do-women-fall-for-made-for-tv-holiday-movies/ https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/tv/2022/12/07/hallmark-netflix-tv-christmas-movies-can-be-good/10837984002/ https://www.vox.com/culture/2017/12/14/16752012/hallmark-christmas-movies-explained https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/positively-media/202212/why-christmas-movies-make-us-feel-good#:~:text=The%20Benefits%20of%20Holiday%20Movies&text=They%20are%20heart%2Dhealthy%2C%20reducing,inspire%20new%20activities%20and%20goals. https://www.mentalfloss.com/posts/watching-holiday-movies-makes-us-feel-good-according-to-science Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta have a conversation with special guest: Melanie Hamlett. Plus, they share listener feedback on Seasonal Affective Disorder and The Great Divorce. Melanie Hamlett's Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@melhamlett?lang=en Cecilia Regina: coined phrase "shut up ring" - https://www.tiktok.com/@ceciliaregina275?_t=8hy39NsPQob&_r=1 Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about a looming feminist movement called “The Great Divorce”. Plus, they offer up advice on how to manage a shifting friendship dynamic, and how to avoid keeping track of family gift ideas. Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: The great divorce - https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8joNFfe/ Decenter men summer - https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8jEv7gv/ Mel Hamlett decentering men - https://www.tiktok.com/@melhamlett/video/7272349102459866401?_r=1&_t=8fpYVdiBQUt Shar Henley on king baby - tiktok.com/@sharhenley_/video/7236168121772526894?_t=8fpVerh8qXG&_r=1 https://charliestoolbox.medium.com/what-happened-once-i-decentered-men-54a36bd2d9db https://news.umich.edu/exactly-how-much-housework-does-a-husband-create/ https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2013/03/14/chapter-6-time-in-work-and-leisure-patterns-by-gender-and-family-structure/ https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220511-why-women-file-for-divorce-more-than-men https://yougov.co.uk/society/articles/34980-women-are-still-much-more-likely-have-do-most-coup https://web.stanford.edu/~mrosenfe/Rosenfeld_gender_of_breakup.pdf https://www.forbes.com/advisor/legal/divorce/divorce-statistics/#sources_section https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles.html https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9434459/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3478728/ https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2019/11/06/marriage-and-cohabitation-in-the-u-s/ https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X21001299#bib9 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share surprising facts about S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder). Plus, they offer up advice on how to make less noise as an upstairs neighbor, and how to cope with a new work schedule. Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/seasonal-affective-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20364651 https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/seasonal-affective-disorder https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/condition/seasonal-affective-disorder/#:~:text=Seasonal%20affective%20disorder%20occurs%20in,of%20people%20with%20bipolar%20disorder. https://www.bu.edu/articles/2019/seasonal-affective-disorder/ https://psychnews.psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/pn.39.14.0390031 https://medicine.yale.edu/psychiatry/research/programs/clinical_people/winter/ https://newsone.com/4418543/seasonal-depression-seasonal-affective-disorder-black-people/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23820095/ https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/article-abstract/496414 https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/01/12/seasonal-affective-disorder-depression-symptoms/ https://www.healthline.com/health-news/seasonal-affective-disorder-can-affect-you-in-the-summer-too ​​https://abcnews.go.com/Health/longer-dangerous-heat-waves-raises-concerns-increased-seasonal/story?id=101953058 https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/seasonal-affective-disorder-summer-1.6939208 https://www.ciphr.com/advice/seasonal-affective-disorder-at-work/#:~:text=You%20may%20find%20that%20SAD,while%20absence%20levels%20may%20rise. https://cbsaustin.com/news/local/seasonal-depression-could-lead-to-violent-tendencies https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8154709/ https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20170314-the-town-that-built-a-mirror-to-catch-the-sun https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2017/03/seasonal-affective-disorder-mosaic/519495/ https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/shining-a-light-on-winter-depression https://www.cuimc.columbia.edu/news/how-fight-seasonal-depression https://www.va.gov/washington-dc-health-care/stories/combating-seasonal-affective-disorder/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on Not Washing and Dopamenus. Plus, Kristen creates her own dopamenu, and listeners share some additional tips for a letter writer who regrets giving her children culturally insensitive names. Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about how to create a dopamenu, and when it may be useful. Plus, they offer up advice on dealing with a life-changing medical diagnosis, and maximizing limited free time. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @kristenmeinzer or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-6WCkTwW6xg https://www.adhdrewired.com/about/ https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/22/style/self-care/adhd-youtube.html https://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/childhood-adhd/adhd-dopamine https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-dopamine#causes https://www.bustle.com/wellness/dopamenu-productivity-dopamine-menu https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/184547 https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/imaging-study-shows-dopamine-dysfunction-is-not-the-main-cause-of-attention-deficit-hyperactivity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about showering, and how much of it is actually necessary. Plus, they offer up advice to a parent who regrets giving their children culturally insensitive names, and a letter writer who is getting ready for a fresh start on life. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/showering-daily-is-it-necessary-2019062617193 https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2020/07/hygiene-is-overrated/612235/ https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2020/09/26/917019912/in-the-era-of-hygiene-clean-author-makes-the-case-for-showering-less https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/people-without-underarm-protection/ https://www.cosmo.ph/kloka/korean-beauty/koreans-odorless-a4575-20230407 https://www.bbc.com/travel/article/20121129-the-origins-of-bathhouse-culture-around-the-world#:~:text=Much%20later%2C%20around%20300%20BC,visited%20by%20rich%20and%20poor. https://www.salon.com/2007/11/30/dirt_on_clean/ https://www.medicaldaily.com/brief-history-bathing-importance-hygiene-ancient-romes-sophisticated-showers-modern-364826 https://www.metmuseum.org/toah/hd/bath/hd_bath.htm https://www.theworldofchinese.com/2021/07/bathing-in-ancient-times/ https://healthfacts.blog/2017/09/25/how-often-did-people-bathe-in-ancient-times/ https://www.verywellhealth.com/evolution-of-personal-hygiene-1958874 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2542893/ https://www.voanews.com/a/science-health_historian-explores-evolution-personal-hygiene/6187950.html https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/weather/2023/08/22/hurricane-hilary-rises-water-level-lake-mead/70654623007/ https://www.thewaterscrooge.com/blog/how-many-gallons-of-water-does-a-shower-use#:~:text=The%20average%20American%20shower%20uses,gpm)%20(7.9%20lpm) https://www.today.com/shop/how-often-shower-t248281 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on Marathons and Brain Tapping. Plus, listeners share some additional tips for a letter writer who recently went through a breakup, and another who is concerned about not having shared interests with her partner. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @kristenmeinzer or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the history and potential benefits of brain tapping. Plus, they offer up advice on how to get the most out of therapy, and how to adjust to an unforeseen life change. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @kristenmeinzer or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.tiktok.com/@theholisticpsychologist/video/7036902110285352198?q=brain%20tapping%20eft&t=1691517241661 https://www.tiktok.com/@kaityneiswonger/video/7020212324610903302?q=sleep%20tapping&t=1691516953542 https://www.tiktok.com/@thetappingsolution/video/7163406927404305710?lang=en&q=brain%20tapping%20for%20sleep&t=1691517356191 https://www.tiktok.com/@thetappingsolution/video/7172362075635830062?q=tapping%20for%20sleep&t=1691534858065 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_Freedom_Techniques https://www.thrivingnow.com/history-of-tapping-eft/ https://www.everydayhealth.com/wellness/eft-tapping/guide/ https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/brain-tapping-sleep https://www.marieclaire.co.uk/life/health-fitness/brain-tapping-for-sleep https://www.researchgate.net/publication/259548223_The_current_status_of_energy_psychology_Extraordinary_claims_with_less_than_ordinary_evidence https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23364126/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6381429/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27642676/ https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1744388122001219?via%3Dihub https://www.thrivingnow.com/history-of-tapping-eft/ https://www.tappingwithdani.com/history-of-eft-tapping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the shocking side effects of marathon running. Plus, they offer up advice on how to explain the value of money to a young child, and how to make a relationship work without shared interests. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.history.com/news/why-is-a-marathon-26-2-miles https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marathon https://marathonhandbook.com/how-many-people-have-run-a-marathon/ https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/pictures/celebs-who-run-marathons-w446410/ https://www.distractify.com/p/why-does-running-a-marathon-make-you-poop https://www.iflscience.com/marathon-runners-poop-themselves-an-extraordinary-amount-this-is-why-66799 https://www.businessinsider.com/olympics-runner-yohann-diniz-poop-problems-why-marathons-are-bad-2016-8 https://www.insider.com/woman-stopped-9-porta-potties-during-marathon-got-personal-record-2021-11 https://www.insider.com/marathoner-pooped-pants-mile-7-down-legs-photo-fast-pace-2021-12 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6139872/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3119133/ https://www.bswhealth.com/blog/much-running-bad-heart https://ec.europa.eu/research-and-innovation/en/horizon-magazine/marathon-runners-produce-proteins-linked-heart-attacks https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/31/well/move/does-marathon-running-increase-the-risk-of-cardiac-arrest.html https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4792989/#!po=76.6667 https://waseda.elsevierpure.com/en/publications/marathon-running-alters-the-dna-base-excision-repair-in-human-ske https://marathonhandbook.com/is-running-a-marathon-bad-for-you/ https://bjsm.bmj.com/content/38/4/498 https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/health/injury/a30056593/common-injury-marathon-runners/ https://prophysiotherapy.co.uk/blog/common-marathon-injuries/ https://www.memorialhermann.org/services/specialties/rockets-sports-medicine-institute/sports-science-tips/tips-for-runners/marathon-injuries#:~:text=Hip%20pain%20and%20pain%20along,require%20time%20off%20from%20running. https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-022-13844-4 https://marathonhandbook.com/8-reasons-why-you-shouldnt-run-marathon/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on TV Dining and Skychology. Plus, they reveal the results from a survey posted on the How to Be Fine private Facebook community. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta investigate skychology and the claim that looking at the sky increases wellbeing. Plus, they offer advice on how to support a depressed partner and struggling with body positivity. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @kristenmeinzer or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.countryliving.com/uk/wellbeing/a41528108/looking-up-skychology-wellbeing-trend/ https://www.researchgate.net/publication/331702864_The_extraordinary_in_the_ordinary_Skychology_-_an_interpretative_phenomenological_analysis_of_looking_up_at_the_sky https://metro.co.uk/2022/10/04/how-looking-up-can-boost-your-wellbeing-according-to-skychology-17498824/ https://healthnews.com/mental-health/self-care-and-therapy/skychology-what-is-it-and-does-it-really-work/ https://www.naturalhealthwoman.com/the-skys-the-limit https://www.prevention.com/fitness/fitness-tips/a20464437/reduce-stress-with-sky-walking/ https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10902-020-00337-2#ref-CR5 https://news.stanford.edu/2015/06/30/hiking-mental-health-063015/ https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/17439760.2016.1221126 https://ggsc.berkeley.edu/images/uploads/GGSC-JTF_White_Paper-Awe_FINAL.pdf https://www.researchgate.net/publication/320435835_The_buffering_effect_of_awe_on_negative_affect_towards_lost_possessions https://www.bauer.uh.edu/mrrudd/download/AweExpandsTimeAvailability.pdf https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/psp-pspi0000018.pdf Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the stigma of eating while watching television. Plus, they offer up advice on determining when a breakup is justified, and how to become more positive. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.nytimes.com/2007/10/16/health/16well.html https://www.ratemds.com/blog/letting-kids-watch-tv-good-eating-habits/ https://blog.ochsner.org/articles/how-tv-can-help-kids-eat-healthy-foods https://www.wellandgood.com/eating-watching-tv/#:~:text=%22For%20my%20clients%20who%20look,watching%20something.%22%20 https://mashable.com/article/binge-watching-health-effects https://www.redbookmag.com/body/health-fitness/news/a20046/there-are-serious-health-benefits-to-staying-in-and-watching-tv/ https://www.prevention.com/health/a40107617/watching-less-tv-can-reduce-heart-disease-risk-study-says/ https://www.ndtv.com/food/pay-attention-to-food-here-are-bad-eating-habits-you-need-to-quit-1746095 https://wp.wwu.edu/eatingandreading/lettuce-discuss/#:~:text=Meal%20memory%20is%20how%20well,their%20brain%20from%20the%20meal https://ijbnpa.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/1479-5868-10-58 https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/distracted-eating-may-add-to-weight-gain-201303296037 https://www.lakanto.com/blogs/food-nutrition/mindless-distracted-eating https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/tv/tv-news/study-tv-feel-lonely-51511/ https://www.moroccoworldnews.com/2022/09/351497/study-watching-tv-during-meals-disrupts-kids-cognitive-development https://www.chop.edu/news/health-tip/language-development-talking-not-just-your-child#:~:text=It%20turns%20out%20that%20the,matter%20the%20family's%20socioeconomic%20status https://ec.europa.eu/eurostat/web/products-eurostat-news/-/DDN-20180706-1 https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2023/06/more-than-a-quarter-all-households-have-one-person.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on Myers-Briggs and Skinimalism. Plus, listeners share some additional tips for a letter writer who wants to make friends in a new city, and another who is having trouble communicating with their teenager. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about simplified skincare routines, also known as skinimalism. Plus, they offer up advice on how to deal with a friend that makes bad decisions, and how to get through to a noncommunicative teenager. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.cnn.com/cnn-underscored/beauty/skinimalism-beauty-trend https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/beauty-style/skinimalism-beauty-trend https://www.readersdigest.co.uk/lifestyle/fashion-beauty/what-is-skinimalism https://www.oprahdaily.com/beauty/skin-makeup/a42405264/skinimalism-new-beauty-skincare-routine-2023/ https://www.vogue.com/article/skinimalism-skin-care-benefits https://www.health.com/skinimalism-tiktok-trend-6826266 https://www.instyle.com/beauty/skin/skinimalism-trend https://www.vogue.co.uk/beauty/article/skinimalism-beauty-trend https://www.thelist.com/304958/heres-what-you-should-know-about-skinimalism/ https://www.allure.com/story/skin-care-ingredients-should-not-mix https://www.everydayhealth.com/skin-beauty/skin-care-ingredient-combinations-that-dont-mix/ https://business.pinterest.com/pinterest-predicts/2021/skinimalism/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the Myers-Briggs type indicator and its surprising origin story. Plus, they offer up advice on making friends in a new city, and how to be your true self around in-laws. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.themyersbriggs.com/en-US/Support/MBTI-Facts https://www.myersbriggs.org/more-about-personality-type/mbti-organizations/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/personality-change#:~:text=As%20consistent%20as%20a%20personality,are%20measurable%20through%20personality%20questionnaires https://psycnet.apa.org/buy/2018-39707-001 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/my-brothers-keeper/202002/in-defense-the-myers-briggs#:~:text=The%20next%20time%20someone%20tells,is%20not%20based%20on%20research https://nesslabs.com/mbti https://www.marketplace.org/2018/10/30/myers-briggs-system-evaluate-employees/ https://www.vox.com/2014/7/15/5881947/myers-briggs-personality-test-meaningless https://www.discovermagazine.com/mind/the-problem-with-the-myers-briggs-personality-test https://www.bbc.com/news/blogs-echochambers-28315137 https://www.livescience.com/65513-does-myers-briggs-personality-test-work.html https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2019/05/06/myers-briggs-type-indicator-does-not-matter/3635592002/ https://www.scienceabc.com/eyeopeners/is-the-myers-briggs-test-meaningful-or-is-it-just-pseudo-science.html https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/myers-briggs-psychology-test-garbage-b2200663.html https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2021/mar/03/they-become-dangerous-tools-the-dark-side-of-personality-tests https://www.vice.com/en/article/bjv8y5/the-myers-briggs-personality-test-bullshit Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on Standing Desks and Branding the Summer. Plus, listeners share some additional tips for a letter writer who gets anxious when trip planning, and another who hates cooking. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about “rat girl summer”, and why we give the summer a new theme every year. Plus, they offer up advice on how to set new career goals, and ways to feed your family without having to cook. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.tiktok.com/@lolaokola/video/7240910529332809006 https://www.tiktok.com/@lolaokola/video/7241253801053850926 https://www.tiktok.com/@umgabi/video/7243077034442804522 https://www.bustle.com/life/rat-girl-summer-tiktok https://www.intheknow.com/post/its-time-to-embrace-the-rodent-energy-content-creator-declares-2023-rat-girl-summer/ https://metro.co.uk/2023/06/06/its-time-for-your-rat-girl-summer-to-begin-18902539/ https://screenshot-media.com/the-future/trends/rat-girl-summer-vs-bed-rotting/ https://nypost.com/2023/06/21/im-having-a-ratgirlsummer-embracing-my-rodent-energy/ https://thetab.com/uk/2022/05/03/the-that-girl-vibe-is-over-were-about-to-enter-the-era-of-feral-girl-summer-249192 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hot_Girl_Summer https://www.glamour.com/story/sex-drive-changes-summer https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22810997/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17129909/ https://www.nytimes.com/2023/06/03/style/summer-predictions-branding.html https://www.nytimes.com/2021/08/14/style/delta-variant-vaccine-covid-summer.html https://www.vice.com/en/article/43je7w/megan-thee-stallion-fans-what-is-hot-girl-summer-wireless-festival https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/feral-girl-summer-creator-meme-1369450/ https://www.vox.com/the-goods/2019/7/12/20690515/hot-girl-summer-meme-define-explained https://www.vox.com/2018/3/20/16955588/feminism-waves-explained-first-second-third-fourth https://time.com/4314413/modern-feminism-is-selling-out/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the benefits and pitfalls of standing desks. Plus, they offer up advice on dealing with a seemingly one-sided friendship, and how to ace trip planning with ADHD. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/the-dangers-of-sitting https://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/23/magazine/who-made-that-standing-desk.html https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/19/upshot/why-standing-desks-are-overrated.html https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4167884/#:~:text=It%20is%20often%20suggested%20that,less%20effort%20(Steenstrup%202004). https://www.bmj.com/company/newsroom/standing-desks-alongside-other-measures-cut-office-workers-sitting-time-by-an-hour-a-day/ https://walkolution.com/blogs/the-walkolution-blog/standing-deks-overrated https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/the-truth-behind-standing-desks-2016092310264 https://www.posturite.co.uk/blog/standing-desks-are-they-still-popular https://themillions.com/2014/05/the-literature-of-the-standing-desk.html https://medium.com/smart-office/a-short-history-of-stand-up-desks-4951b1e49f50 https://www.carouselpt.com/2022/02/04/how-many-calories-are-burned-with-standing-desks-and-are-they-worth-it/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on the Soft Life and Hilaria Baldwin. Plus, listeners share some additional tips for a letter writer who’s thinking of moving to another country, and another who’s dealing with face picking. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the controversy surrounding Hilaria Baldwin’s identity. Plus, they offer up advice on deciding if it’s time to move to another country, and politely declining gifts. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.vulture.com/article/alec-baldwin-rust-shooting-hilaria-baldwin-halyna-hutchins.html https://www.vulture.com/2023/04/alec-baldwin-charges-dropped-rust-shooting.html#_ga=2.15440117.213573197.1682019009-1992599784.1654648858 https://www.vogue.com/article/hilaria-baldwin-accent-controversy-explainer https://www.instagram.com/p/CJB4FXwBmq3/ https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/30/style/hilaria-baldwin-interview.html https://www.lamag.com/culturefiles/hilaria-baldwin/ https://www.thecut.com/2021/07/hilaria-baldwin-is-once-again-defending-her-culture.html https://www.instagram.com/p/CRE6J9WMvAC/ https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2020/12/instagram-detective-tracie-egan-morrissey-on-hilaria-baldwin.html https://www.insider.com/hilaria-baldwin-spanish-controversy-public-life-timeline-2020-12#baldwin-goes-on-to-say-she-feels-lucky-she-grew-up-with-two-cultures-and-speaking-two-languages-36 https://www.vanityfair.com/style/2016/12/hilaria-baldwin-book-living-clearly-method https://www.thecut.com/2016/03/hilaria-baldwin-diet-workout-routine.html https://jezebel.com/alec-baldwin-hilaria-charges-dropped-instagram-1850362101 https://www.instagram.com/p/CrRnITqv9ir/ https://www.instagram.com/p/CrRcNmjuZVd/ https://www.vulture.com/2020/12/hilaria-baldwins-accent-and-amy-schumer-feud-explained.html https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0QmKL8irgI&t=64s https://www.dailymail.co.uk/video/tvshowbiz/video-2319068/Video-Hilaria-Baldwin-talks-Amy-Schumer-comments-body-shaming.html https://stylecaster.com/hilaria-baldwin-spanish-accent/ https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9099983/Genealogist-weighs-Hilaria-Baldwin-fiasco-confirm-NO-Spanish-roots.html https://www.today.com/video/make-hilaria-baldwins-simple-gazpacho-547323459831 https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17865567221283105/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the “soft life” trend and its origin story. Plus, they offer up advice on how to start a new career journey, and how to stop picking facial blemishes. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.dictionary.com/e/slang/soft-life/#:~:text=The%20term%20soft%20life%20and,popularity%20among%20young%20Black%20women https://fortune.com/2022/09/11/the-soft-life-of-dar/ https://www.insider.com/how-young-black-women-are-manifesting-a-soft-life-2022-12 https://andscape.com/features/the-softlife-isnt-as-easy-as-it-looks-online/ https://hermoney.com/earn/work-life-balance/is-living-a-soft-life-the-secret-to-success/ https://www.countryliving.com/uk/wellbeing/a42740284/soft-living/ https://mashable.com/article/soft-life-quiet-quitting-trend https://www.bustle.com/wellness/soft-life-black-women-self-care https://houston.momcollective.com/soft-life/ https://www.essence.com/health-and-wellness/living-the-soft-life/ https://heragenda.com/p/tips-for-living-a-soft-life/ https://africasacountry.com/2023/05/pitfalls-of-the-soft-life https://www.inhersight.com/blog/mental-health/soft-life-without-quitting-your-job https://www.ellecanada.com/culture/society/living-the-soft-life https://nordot.app/981848352915898368 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Jolenta has a conversation with a special guest: NXIVM survivor, Sarah Edmondson. Plus, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on hydration and NXIVM, and listeners share some additional advice for letter writers. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the infamous sex cult, NXIVM. Plus, they offer up advice on how to overcome procrastination, and how to stop comparing your life to others. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.timesunion.com/news/article/court-affirms-ouster-nxivm-doctor-s-medical-17895553.php https://news.bloomberglaw.com/health-law-and-business/nxivm-sex-cult-member-fails-in-suit-to-get-medical-license-back https://www.timesunion.com/local/article/Secrets-of-NXIVM-2880885.php https://www.vice.com/en/article/xgxzjj/dont-call-it-a-cult-the-shocking-story-of-keith-raniere-and-the-women-of-nxivm-excerpt https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/nxivm-keith-raniere-wellness-scam-sex-cult-848439/ https://www.forbes.com/sites/willyakowicz/2019/05/15/keith-raniere-the-leader-of-the-nxivm-sex-cult/?sh=6e17981f35a9 https://www.timesunion.com/7dayarchive/article/Discount-service-target-of-probe-15640345.php https://www.thecut.com/2019/04/nxivm-sex-cult-case-a-complete-timeline-of-events.html https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2010/11/bronfman-201011 https://frankreport.com/2017/12/03/nxivm-endless-curriculum-list-of-raniere-courses/ https://www.timesunion.com/news/article/NXIVM-loyalist-Danielle-Roberts-loses-license-for-16501584.php https://www.nytimes.com/article/nxivm-timeline.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta myth-bust some common misconceptions about hydration. Plus, they offer up advice on how to plan a balanced summer break, and managing expectations from family members. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK555956/ https://www.telegraph.co.uk/health-fitness/body/great-hydration-myth-why-dont-need-2-litres-day/ https://news.virginia.edu/content/everything-we-think-we-know-about-drinking-water-may-be-wrong https://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/health-nutrition/water-myth https://www.everydayhealth.com/dehydration/the-truth-about-hydration-myths-and-facts/ https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/uk/health/healthy-eating/a557375/8-signs-your-teen-has-an-eating-disorder/ https://toledocenter.com/bulimia/what-are-the-symptoms-of-bulimia-nervosa/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices