Happier with Gretchen Rubin

In this Very Special Episode, we discuss listener questions related to the Four Tendencies (are you an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel? -- and how that matters). Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/75; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Eighteen years ago, on a plane to Kansas City, I had a brief encounter with a woman—and I’ve regretted my action (or rather, inaction) ever since. Sometimes, we can be generous by taking. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why it boosts happiness to make friends with people of different ages, look behind you every time you leave, and the happiness stumbling block of pain. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/119; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In Russell Hoban’s brilliant picture book “A Bargain for Frances,” Frances observes, “Being careful is not as much fun as being friends. Do you want to be careful, or do you want to be friends?” An important question for adults as well as children. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Design your summer, start a podcast club, and ask yourself - are you the difficult one? Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/118; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We have to be very careful not to assume that we can predict how other people respond to our actions—especially to big, dramatic gestures. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; [email protected]; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happier in Hollywood is here! In this episode, veteran TV writers/producers/showrunners Liz Craft and Sarah Fain pick a new work mantra to get them through development season; talk to their agent about the worst call he ever had to make to them; and discuss whether or not they have hearts full of love. They also offer their weekly Hollywood hack. Get in touch: @elizabethcraft; @sarahfain; [email protected]; happierinhollywood.com; 949-HAPPY-21 To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Write a haiku, look for help from YouTube videos, how introverted parents can manage an extroverted child, and are you a "revealer" or a "concealer"? Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/117; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

My mother’s advice about an irksome renovation problem reminded me of an important Secret of Adulthood: Sometimes, the best solution is to do nothing at all. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; [email protected]; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Start your own side hustle, avoid the happiness stumbling block of "raising the bar," and whether we should plan our encounters with friends. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/116; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

My father told me, “At some point you have to switch from being advisor to being a cheerleader.” And I realized I’d probably already reached that point with my older daughter. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; [email protected]; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Boost your energy, why it can be helpful to listen to music in a foreign language, and a deep dive into the happiness stumbling block of loneliness. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/115; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We may wish our children used their time more “productively,” but we don’t always know when time is wasted—or not. What looks like wasted time could actually turn out to be quite productive. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; [email protected]; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why and how to say you're sorry, an interview with Sherry Lansing, a travel-related happiness hack, and Elizabeth conquers blepharitis. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/114; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A note on a friend’s computer taught me a giant lesson about writing--and life: Down with boredom. Skip the boring parts! To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why you should reclaim your dump zones, how to make a tough decision, and is your birthday important to you? Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/113; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of the most terrible wastes of time is to do something well that we need not do at all. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Pick a uniform, time yourself doing a task, a deep dive into an irksome request from a boss - plus the benefit of sloth videos. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/112; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sometimes, with even just one comment, we can help other people to see themselves differently. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Beware of "storage," a hack about flipping a coin, and more on the constant challenge of email. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/111; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I often think of this old joke in the context of habit change: If we want to find what we’re looking for, we have to search in the right place. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Very Special Episode: We talk about different types of loneliness, and what to do about it. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/110; 774-277-9336. And listen to Kristen Meinzer and Henry Molofsky's podcasts here: By the Book http://www.megaphone.fm/podcasts/bythebook and Missing Richard Simmons https://www.missingrichardsimmons.com/ To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of my favorite passages from “The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe” holds a terrific happiness reminder: we can always try minding our own business. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Pay attention to the light, a great idea for an April Fool's Day tradition, and a demerit for talking too much. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast/109; 774-277-9336 To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The great teacher is experience. A tough teacher, but a great teacher. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Turn your shower into a "happiness booth," the self-knowledge question inspired by the movie "Before Sunrise," and the challenge of saying "no" to your boss. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/108; 774.277.9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Even if it’s not necessary, it’s sweet when our efforts are appreciated. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Plan a secret date, a fascinating conversation with Susan Cain, author of "Quiet," and how to discover and listen to more podcasts. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/107; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In romance and in work, it’s helpful to have more than one thing going at a time. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our favorite Try-This-At-Home tips, some great before-and-after stories, and our favorite moments from the past year. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/106; 774.277.9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of my mother’s favorite teaching stories is a reminder that we can never know what’s good news, or bad news. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why we should try to end on a high note, child-like wonder vs. adult-like wonder, and a confession of unjust accusation. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/105; 774.277.9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s one of the great dreams of the United States: “I don’t say I’m no better than anybody else, but I’ll be danged if I ain’t jist as good.” To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why it's fun to have a life-story conversation, how to handle the emotional toll of the news, and a gold star for the New York City subway system. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/104; 774.277.9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

My sister the sage made one of her wise observations--which she learned the hard way, in Hollywood. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Pick the right moment to have a tough conversation, how to be happier during a tough time, and a deep dive into the Instagram #Happier2017 project. Get in touch @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/103; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We can’t find more happiness, more adventure, more richness to an experience that we bring to it. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why finding the missing puzzle piece can boost happiness, taming the "travel beast," and how personalized mugs can help solve the problem of the messy office kitchen. Get in touch @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/102; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There are few iron laws of the universe, but one such law seems to be: No deposit, no return. We never get out of things more than we put into them. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do something for your future self, think about whether you’re an “integrator” or “compartmentalizer,” and how flying wish paper can soothe heartache. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/101; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A passage from Ruth Ozeki’s novel “A Tale for the Time Being” provides a beautiful image of letting go of sorrow. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

To celebrate our 100th consecutive episode, we did a Very VERY Special Episode, where we answered questions from listeners. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/100; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

My friend told me the story of her personal miracle: the time her local subway ran express all the way downtown. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Get self-insight by taking personality quizzes, a hack for better emails, and how to address book club conflicts. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/99; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In 1662, Samuel Pepys made a diary entry that reminds me that to be happy, I have to keep a contented heart. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why it boosts happiness to have a quest, an interview with Gary Taubes about the case against sugar, and impassioned praise for a Uniqlo vest. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/98; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Announcement! I’m launching The Onward Project, a family of podcasts all about how to make your life happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative. Here, I introduce Kim Scott and Russ Laraway and their “Radical Candor” and Chris Guillebeau and his “Side Hustle School.” To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this first episode, you'll learn what side hustles are all about and what you can expect from this daily series. Side Hustle School features a new story EVERY DAY of someone who started a hustle without quitting their job. You’ll learn how they got the idea, how they overcame challenges along the way, and what the results are. You need a hustle!Subscribe now and create a new source of income before the year is over. Shownotes: sidehustleschool.comEmail: [email protected]: @chrisguillebeau To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How to start your own happiness project, a deep dive into the subject of break-ups, and a sweatpants-related demerit. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; [email protected]; happiercast.com/97; 774-277-9336. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Reading Harold Nicolson’s reflection that an “Englishman would not like to take snapshots of a fine vessel sinking” reminds me to ask myself: How, in my own life, can I live up to the highest ideas of my country? To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.