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In today’s episode, Tom and I are sharing what it’s like living through the largest fire in Nebraska history. This isn’t a polished or perfectly processed story. It’s still super fresh, and in many ways, we’re still IN it.What started as concern quickly turned into evacuation and long days of uncertainty. All of that turned into the very REAL possibility of losing not just land, but livelihood, animals, and a way of life that runs deep in this part of the country.This conversation isn’t about tying things up in a neat bow. We want to give an honest look into an experience that SO many in our state have been living, and also, create space for both gratitude and grief to exist at the same time.In this episode, we cover:The rapid shift from awareness to evacuation as the fires escalatedWhat those days looked like in real timeThe reality of protecting animals, land, and livelihood under pressureExperiencing the fire from 2 perspectivesThe emotional weight of leaving home without knowing what you’ll return toThe physical & mental toll of long days on the front linesWhy “it will grow back” overlooks the real human impactHolding both gratitude AND grief at the same timeThe adrenaline response + what happens when it wears offProcessing an experience that’s still fresh + the importance of empathy in crisis Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/largest-fire-in-nebraska-history Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today’s episode, I’m talking about the only thing for certain is that we’re ALL human.“This isn’t the disaster you’re making it out to be.” That’s a real comment I saw online about the fires here in Nebraska. Yes, the same fires that, as of this recording, have burned over 700,000 acres AND came within miles of our home.I’ve seen people say things like, “the grass will grow back” or “fire promotes regrowth.” While yes, those things can be true, they completely miss the human side of what’s happening.The truth is, if you haven’t lived something like this, you can’t fully understand it. That’s exactly why we need more empathy. We need to take the time to FEEL with someone, even if we don’t fully understand what they’re going through.In this episode, I cover:How the recent Nebraska fires have caused real, ongoing devastationWhy certain comments are severely lacking empathyWhy you cannot fully understand a situation you haven’t livedPracticing more empathy + curiosity, even when you don’t fully understand someone else’s experienceRealizing we are ALL human and are doing the best we can Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/all-human Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today’s episode, rancher and business owner Caroline Nelson is here to talk about anger, shame, and releasing emotions. What started as burnout (in motherhood, business, and more) quickly turned into something deeper. Through that awareness came a pivotal shift: recognizing a lack of true worthiness. Not confidence or capability, but deep, internal worthiness. After that, everything began to change!Caroline and I also talk about the role of anger in healing (and why it’s not something to avoid), how shame can keep us stuck, the physical side of healing, what it actually looks like to start showing up for yourself, and more.This conversation is honest, layered, and FULL of moments that might make you pause and reflect on your own patterns. If you’ve ever struggled with anger, shame, or releasing emotions (yep, talking to myself here), you don’t want to miss this episode!In this episode, we cover:Caroline’s journey from burnout to healing + pushing through motherhood & business demandsWhy intellectualizing ≠ actually processing emotionsThe difference between confidence and true worthinessHow shame keeps us stuck + why anger can move us forwardWhat anger work looks like + how it builds self-trustRecognizing self-betrayal and people-pleasing patternsHow betrayal can be a catalyst for boundaries + self-worthSetting boundaries in real time (without over-explaining) + why this gets easierHow emotional healing shows up physically in the bodyThe link between stress, repressed emotions & physical symptomsLetting go of toxic positivity and allowing both/and emotionsWhy healing isn’t linear + how to respond with emotional maturity instead of reactivityViewing triggers + setbacks as data, NOT failureReducing numbing behaviors by increasing REAL connection Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/releasing-emotions Connect with Caroline:Follow on Instagram @bigskycaroline and @littlecreekmontanaCheck out her websiteLearn more about Little Creek Cowgirl Camp Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] Resources & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today’s episode, I’m talking about what anxiety is and why it’s hard to just “calm down.” When anxiety shows up, it’s not just an emotion floating around randomly. It’s actually a survival response rooted in our nervous system, because our bodies are designed to protect us!What truly helps? SAFETY! When we feel safe, logic comes back online, and we’re able to think more clearly.If you need more support with anxiety and/or safety, and are feeling called to go deeper in your inner work, you can schedule a free 30-minute connection call for 1:1 Good Movement Guidance. Don’t forget to mention “cast pod” when you book to receive 10% off!In this episode, I cover:What anxiety actually is + why we can’t simply “positive think” our way out of itHow Inside Out 2 offers a powerful visual example of how anxiety can take over our internal “control panel”Why anxiety is a survival response rooted in the nervous systemWhy phrases like “calm down” don’t help when someone is experiencing anxietyHow agriculture and rural life naturally bring uncertainty + can amplify anxietyWhy creating safety is the key to calming anxiety + helping logic come back onlinePractical ways to signal safety to your nervous systemWhy anxiety isn’t a flaw or glitch in the system Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/what-is-anxiety Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] Resources & Links:IG Reel about anxietyJoin The DrawSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today’s episode, I’m talking about the first step to improved communication. We often jump straight to “What do I say?” or “How do I say this better?” But we bypass the root of it all: self-awareness.If we don’t understand how we’re wired, how our nervous system responds, and how our tone or energy is received, no amount of communication tools will truly “fix” it. Ultimately, improved and effective communication starts with US!If you’re ready to go deeper into the Good Movement Framework with tools and practical support, I’d love to have you join me over on my private podcast, The Draw!In this episode, I cover:Why communication “tools” can fail when the foundation is missingThe mistake of focusing on what to say instead of self-awarenessWhy self-awareness is understanding your wiring, triggers & nervous systemWhy self-awareness ≠ self-centerednessHow social awareness helps you notice body language, tone & energyIntegrating both self + social awareness for grounded, effective communicationWhy respect and regulation matter more than total agreementUnderstanding that even with awareness, some hard decisions may still followMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/improved-communicationConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] & Links:Join The DrawSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today’s episode, I’m talking about what it looks like to truly apologize. If the apology includes a “but,” it’s usually not a repair. It’s more like deflection and self-protection. If admitting mistakes didn’t feel safe when we were young, of course it’s going to feel hard now. Safety HAS to exist for honesty and accountability to grow!If this conversation resonates and you’d like to explore your own patterns around apologizing or admitting mistakes, I’d love to support you on your journey. You can schedule a free 30-minute 1:1 Good Movement Guidance call - don’t forget to mention “cast pod” for 10% off!In this episode, I cover:What my SM community polls revealed about emotional recognition & apologies in childhoodWhat a true apology is + why “I’m sorry, but…” isn’t real repairHow apologies can be used to deflect blame and avoid admitting mistakesWhy safety is essential for accountability and honest repairThe importance of modeling genuine apologies for our kidsEmbracing progress over perfection as we heal and do it differentlyMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/truly-apologizeConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] & Links:Episode 120: Why Is It So Hard to Admit Mistakes?Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today’s episode, I’m talking about how talking kindly to your body can benefit your life. About halfway through this last year, I came across Heal Your Body by Louise Hay. It led me to her book You Can Heal Your Life, and while some of it may sound a little “woo,” something about it landed!Now, I’m not saying affirmations *magically* fix everything. However, I’ve noticed a difference in MY everyday life since I’ve been using them!'Of course, nothing is perfect. I still get sick, and I still have hard days. But I’m no longer comfortably numb. Acknowledging anger, sadness, and fear has changed the environment inside my body. It has created space for me to THRIVE, and I’m truly grateful for that!If you’ve been feeling called to go deeper into your own inner work and healing, I’d love to support you. You can schedule a free 30-minute call for 1:1 Good Movement Guidance - make sure to mention “cast pod” so you’ll receive 10% off when you commit to 6 months!In this episode, I cover:Reflecting on the 1-year anniversary of my bilateral breast amputation + the emotional growth that has unfolded alongside physical healingMy discovery of Louise Hay’s work + the connection between emotions, self-talk & physical healthHow speaking kindly to my body shifted my experience with cold sores & sicknessThe daily affirmation I’ve been using for my bodyReal-life examples of my affirmations in actionHow moving from criticism & numbing to curiosity & compassion has allowed me to thriveMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/talking-kindly-to-your-bodyConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] & Links:You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay (affiliate link)Heal Your Body by Louise HaySchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting Some links referenced above are affiliate links, which means I may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. Thank you for your support!

In today’s episode, I’m talking about what happens when we choose to step closer instead of pulling away. My curiosity recently led me to consume I Take My Coffee Black by Tyler Merritt.One of his quotes totally stopped me in my tracks when I heard it: “Distance breeds suspicion, and proximity breeds empathy” (he credits Brian Lawrence). That one sentence captures SO much of what fuels misunderstanding (and what heals it).It’s a whole lot harder to stay angry, judgmental, or hateful toward someone when you actually get close to them. When we get curious and learn someone’s story, compassion naturally follows.Proximity doesn’t mean agreement - it means empathy, grace, and humanity!In this episode, I cover:How the book I Take My Coffee Black inspired a deeper reflection for meThe powerful idea that “distance breeds suspicion, and proximity breeds empathy”How learning someone’s story makes it harder to judge or stay stuck in angerA personal example of how getting curious & stepping closer changed things for the betterWhy proximity doesn’t require agreement, but creates space for empathy & grace Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/what-happens-when-we-step-closer Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] Resources & Links:I Take My Coffee Black by Tyler Merritt (affiliate link)Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting Some links referenced above are affiliate links, which means I may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. Thank you for your support!

In today's episode, I’m talking with licensed mental health therapist Victoria Mexcur about a new way to grit through. Trauma is often treated as a singular, heavy label, but it’s much more nuanced. It’s an experience that impacts the nervous system, creates mental loops, and can disconnect the mind and body in very individual ways.We dive into breaking stigma, repair, and why mental health is just as foundational as the land and animals we care so deeply for. This conversation is grounding, honest, and incredibly needed; I know it will meet you right where you are!In this episode, we cover:Victoria’s path into therapy + why she chose trauma workWhat trauma actually is + why it looks different for everyoneA reframe of “gritting through” that works WITH the body (instead of overriding it)How somatic experiencing & EMDR support nervous system regulationKey lessons from animals + Peter Levine’s workWhy traditional talk therapy isn’t always the right fit for rural & ag folksHow flexible, accessible therapy better supports rural life during busy seasonsUsing grit + a “get-er-done” mindset to reach out for support instead of going it aloneSimple starting tools for nervous system regulationWhy mental health is foundational to sustaining families, operations & long-term well-being Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/new-way-to-grit-through Connect with Victoria:Follow on Instagram @tread_deepcounselingCheck out her websiteSend her an email at [email protected] out to her at (402) 403-9561 Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] Resources & Links:In An Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter LevineSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today’s episode, I’m talking about why it’s so hard to admit mistakes. I truly believe our willingness (or inability) to admit mistakes has a lot to do with our nervous systems and how they were shaped early on.If you grew up in a home where mistakes were met with grace, understanding, and direction, chances are it feels safer for you to own them now. But if mistakes were met with anger, shame, or punishment, your nervous system learned that it wasn’t safe to admit wrongdoing.This shows up everywhere these days - especially online. Mistakes are rarely met with curiosity or compassion anymore, but with harsh judgment and public shaming.If we genuinely want people to take responsibility (as well as ourselves), we HAVE to create safer spaces to be able to do so!In this episode, I cover:How our upbringing & early nervous system wiring shape our ability to admit mistakesThe role of modeling and imitation when we witness others deflect blame or avoid accountabilityWhy today’s online culture makes admitting mistakes feel increasingly unsafeHow to get curious when admitting a mistake feels HARDWays to engage with someone who struggles to admit mistakesHow Tom & I are modeling accountability + repair to help our kids w/admitting mistakes Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/hard-to-admit-mistakes Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] Resources & Links:Join The DrawSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I’m talking to Amber Trejo, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in complex trauma and attachment, about what might be under the perfectionism, shame, and self-loathing. Amber explains how complex trauma often forms when there was never a true baseline of safety growing up, how, while it can be painful to realize we might hurt our kids, the repair matters FAR more than perfection, and so much more.Healing from complex trauma and things like perfectionism, shame, and self-loathing doesn’t start with “being better,” it starts with awareness, curiosity, and support. Whether that’s therapy, learning, or simply beginning to ask yourself gentler questions, please know you are not broken, and you are NOT alone!In this episode, we cover:Amber’s journey into understanding & working with complex traumaWhat complex trauma (C-PTSD) is + how growing up without a baseline of safety impacts the nervous systemThe key difference between PTSD and complex traumaHow emotional neglect often goes unrecognized, even in childhoods that felt “good”Why shame is central to complex trauma + how it often shows upHow complex trauma affects relationships, conflict & nervous system capacityWhy repair matters more than perfection in parentingHow to support yourself + loved ones when navigating complex trauma Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/under-the-perfectionism Connect with Amber:Follow on Instagram @integrativetraumatherapistConnect on FacebookFollow on TikTokCheck out her websiteSend her an email at [email protected] Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] & Links:You Can Heal Your Life by Louise HayJoin The DrawSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happens when the thing isn’t the thing. In rural and ag spaces, especially, we’re really good at shoving feelings down and pushing through. What’s underneath that “thing” is usually a whole pile of unacknowledged stuff (stress, exhaustion, grief, burnout, and more).Recognizing this gives us so much freedom. It helps us stop shaming ourselves for our reactions, stop personalizing other people’s emotions, and create space to get curious about what’s really going on.In this episode, I cover:How the “thing” that triggers us is often just the surface-level momentA real-life ranch example of displaced frustration between Tom and meWhat’s usually underneath the “thing”How recognizing when the thing isn’t the thing helps us and othersWhy this awareness creates space for curiosity, boundaries & more grounded communicationHow remembering that the thing isn’t the thing allows us to extend grace & compassion Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/when-the-thing-isnt-the-thing Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] & Links:Join The DrawSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

I'm excited to welcome Lydia Van Aken to the podcast today!In today's episode, we're talking about getting out of your head and into the run. Lydia shares how our emotions, beliefs, and nervous system state directly affect our horses (whether we’re aware of it or not). Building a strong connection requires self-awareness, intentionality, and learning how to regulate yourself FIRST. We also talk honestly about the cultural messages many of us grew up with in ag and rural communities, how suppressing emotions actually impacts our bodies, overthinking, and more. If you’re stuck in fear, frustration, or setback, stop focusing only on what’s wrong. Look for the opportunity, because ultimately, whatever you focus on will grow!In this episode, we cover:Lydia’s rodeo journey + how this led her into performance coaching & working with the mental side of athleticsHow the human athlete’s mindset directly impacts the equine athleteWhy self-awareness is key to building trust and connection with a horseHow suppressing emotions often leads to overwhelm and breakdown laterWhy getting into the run requires stepping out of overthinking & trusting muscle memoryWhy too much information can pull athletes out of their bodies and into their headsThe power in finding opportunity & growth within your challenges Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/getting-out-of-your-head Connect with Lydia:Follow on Instagram @breakinggroundcoachingConnect on FacebookCheck out her websiteSend her an email at [email protected] Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] Resources & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you Check out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm talking about the beliefs that keep us from asking for help. Asking for and receiving help is something I’ve been working on in my own life for quite some time now. It’s something that many of us struggle with (especially in agriculture).The truth, though? Not asking for help keeps us isolated, and honestly, that’s not benefiting anyone. As I continue working on this in my own life, I’ve realized that asking for and receiving help doesn’t mean I’m weak or “less than.” I’m letting connection happen, and that’s a beautiful thing!I want to encourage you to think about YOUR beliefs that may be keeping you from asking for help. You might be surprised at how good it feels when someone helps you (and how much they love it, too)!In this episode, I cover:Why asking for & receiving help has been such a challenge for me + many others in rural spacesA recent example from my own life of almost turning down help + what it revealedResults from my recent Instagram poll about how likely we are to ask for help5 core beliefs that hold many of us back from asking for helpHow generational conditioning & learned survival patterns shape the ways we avoid or decline helpThe difference between healthy independence & isolating ourselvesA powerful reframe I’m now leaning into when asking for help3 reflection prompts for you to explore Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/asking-for-help Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you Join the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveCheck out my merch shopGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, we're talking about the growing pains of boundaries, help, and working together. While we complement each other in day-to-day work (and our relationship overall), we definitely still butt heads. We've had arguments that feel funny now (like a certain Jack Russell terrier that almost ruined our relationship)! Working cattle has taught us about reading energy, adjusting expectations, and giving each other space when necessary.Maybe you have some growing pains with boundaries, asking for help, or something else in your life. Either way, you're so not alone, and we hope this lighthearted Q&A helps you feel a little more seen!In this episode, we cover:How Tom and I complement each other in day-to-day ranch work + spots where we still butt headsThe growing pains of boundaries in marriageOur argument from years ago that now feels funnyThe cattle-working lesson that shows up in our marriageWhy both asking for help AND receiving help still feels challengingA meaningful moment of finally accepting help that made a big differenceMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/growing-pains-of-boundariesConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you Join the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveCheck out my merch shopGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting