Good Girls Talk About Sex

Betsy is a 38-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, straight, monogamous and in a relationship. Betsy had sex for the first time at age 27, and after a brief period of one-night-stands, married a man whose sexual desires were significantly different than hers. She says her naturally high libido was "beat right out of me." Today, divorced and reclaiming her sexuality, Betsy is with a new partner and exploring her long-suppressed interest in BDSM. Last year Betsy came to me to do sexual communication coaching. She tells some of that story in this episode. Major themes in this episode include exploring new sexual realms (with support from a coach), navigating a changing relationship with her body, and BDSM. How Betsy started to feel better in her body by doing a sexy dance workout Her relief at losing her virginity at age 27 Betsy joins the bar scene and has sex with lots of different men Settled into marriage, Betsy and her husband had mismatched libidos Betsy's dawning desire for BDSM activities Betsy met her current partner and experienced immediate trust and opening of communication The yes/no/maybe list (download at leahcarey.com/checklist) The dynamics of a BDSM play sessions, including sub-space and post-mortem talk sessions Betsy shares some of the specific activities she and her partner do during play sessions Anal play, learning to use pain for pleasure, role playing and restraints The role trust plays in her current relationship and how it affects all aspects of Betsy's life The audio extras for this episode are: Betsy talks more about her BDSM relationship with her partner, including specific activities they enjoy and how important trust is in their relationship. Extended Q&A Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Shelly is a 44-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, lesbian, living with her girlfriend and monogamous. She grew up in the Mormon church, got married and had seven children as she was expected to do. Then several years ago she started questioning her faith and left the church. She then realized that she's also a lesbian, which is an extreme no-no in the Mormon church. Major themes in this episode include the interplay of Mormonism and lesbianism, and recovering from guilt and shame from rejecting childhood teachings. As a teenager, having to "confess" all sexual activity and thoughts to an older male bishop How consent is impacted when alcohol is involved Shelly's earliest experience of same-sex attraction Opening to curiosity around lesbianism while letting go of the disgust she had been taught The difference in intimacy shared between women and men Shelly's first gay experience How Shelly talks to her seven children about sex now that they are out of the Mormon church The audio extras for this episode: The full Q&A Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Laina is a 33-year-old cis-gender woman who describes herself as Chinese, heterosexual, married, and monogamous. Laina has one child and struggles with body image. She believes that nobody would want to have sex with her, and that her husband only does it because she's his only option. Major themes in this episode include body image, libido, and changes in sexuality after giving birth. The objectification of Asian women in culture and media Connecting pleasure to sex and sexuality How media conditions us to find women attractive and a sexual turn-on It's okay to have varying levels of sex drive, even to the point of demi-sexuality Laina's husband told her he wishes they had more sex Different types of turn-ons, like feeling warm and safe during cuddling How Laina's body image impacts her sex life How Laina's relationship to her body has changed since giving birth The audio extras for this episode are: Laina discusses her sex drive and how the book 50 Shades of Gray opened her eyes to the idea of female pleasure. The extended Q&A Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Jessi Kneeland is a 32-year old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, bisexual, single, and monogamish. Jessi gets up-close and VERY personal about her recent explorations into sex with women. This is Jessi's second appearance on the show and she is the body image coach who has supported me through my own sexual exploration over the past few years. You can find her online at www.JessiKneeland.com and on Instagram @JessiKneeland. You can find her writing on queer sex HERE. You can find my season 1 conversation with Jessi HERE. The major theme of this episode is Jessi's detailing her first serious explorations into queer sex and partnering with women. Realizing that not everyone is attracted to all types of people and bodies What does hetero-romantic mean? How she dresses and presents herself determines the people who are attracted to her How people socialized as female communicate and respond differently than people socialized as male Why it can be challenging as a female to "hit on" other females, especially given the work that Jessi does Jessi's hot night with a beautiful woman in Portugal The audio extras for this episode are: A detailed conversation about how Jessi discovered her g-spot, learned how to stimulate it, and has now learned about squirting. This is a not-to-be-missed conversation, which is why I am making it available for EVERY patron. Jessi and I talk about how people respond when we call ourselves bisexual, how we signal gender and sexuality through our appearance, and also dive into the ever-thorny question of … how do you define sex? The extended Q&A Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Inez is a 32-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heterosexual, married with children, and monogamous. She lives with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. Inez is dealing with chronic illness and is in a currently sexless marriage. Topics covered in this interview include: recovering personal pleasure after abuse/trauma, body image, chronic illness and its impact on sexual activity, and how a partner's mental health diagnosis impacts the relationship. How it felt as an adult to tell her father about childhood sexual abuse The culture difference around sex between the Midwest of the United States vs. the west coast Discovering she was pregnant while on drugs How weight fluctuations affect her experience of sexuality How a partner having short stamina can be desirable for a survivor of sexual abuse How her partner violated consent and led to her feeling unsafe and cutting off sexual contact Audio extras for this episode are: Inez talks about the difficult relationship she had with her mother and stepfather and the effect that has on how she parents her own children. Extended Q&A Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Danielle is a 41-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, Jewish, heteroflexible, married and monogamous. Danielle and her husband Adam host the podcast Marriage and Martinis, where they explore every hilarious, heartfelt, shocking, embarrassing, and completely inappropriate facet of marriage and parenting. Major themes in this episode include how OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) affected Danielle's early experience of sex, how we allow our assumptions of what other people think affect our actions and decisions, and how sex changes after marriage and kids. Making out with boys in 7th grade for a sense of belonging rather than pleasure Danielle's experience with a type of OCD called scrupulosity The cultural pressure to lose our virginity The mismatch between Danielle's body image and how her body actually looked Does the number of partners we have equal the amount of sexual "experience" we have? How Danielle's sexual relationship with her husband changed after having kids A sexual experience Danielle would love to have, but doesn't think her relationship could handle it The audio extras for this episode are: An extended conversation about body image and how it affects her relationship with her husband The extended Q&A Resources mentioned in this episode: The Tenga Egg – a GREAT toy to use on a partner with a penis! Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Shana is a 41-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as biracial (half black/half white), heterosexual, monogamous and currently in a relationship. Major themes explored in this episode include healing from old hurts, learning about consent, and discovering our own pleasure, rather than just focusing on pleasing our partner. How she came to relate running late to eroticism Her first sexual experience, and how it conditioned her to not trust white men The moment Shana first had intercourse and why it was so devastating … and why she pretended it was okay Why Shana has never felt comfortable calling that experience rape The expectation that women are supposed to please their partner and not ask for anything The conversation she had with her current lover after their first time having sex How tenderness and masculinity go hand-in-hand The audio extras for this episode are: An extended conversation with Shana about how two men decided whether or not she had been raped, and how listening to other women tell their #MeToo stories has helped her The extended Q&A Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

It's the season one finale of Good Girls Talk About Sex! In each interview I've done a rapid-fire Q&A and not all of those answers have been broadcast, so this episode is a compilation of those answers. At the end, I'll share my takeaways from season one of Good Girls Talk About Sex! Approximately how many sex partners have you had? What is your favorite sex position? What is your favorite sex toy? Do you have sex during your period? Do you have hair down there or are you bare? Do you have a single orgasm or are you multi-orgasmic? What is your favorite masturbation fantasy? Do you swallow or not? How much noise do you make during sex? Do you prefer penetration or external stimulation? Do you prefer to be the giver or receiver of sexual pleasure? My reflections Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Amy, a 47-year-old cisgender white woman who describes herself as bisexual and married. I was interested in talking with Amy because she teased me with this bit of info: after being with her partner for almost 30 years, they discovered a previously undisclosed mutual interest in a new sexual adventure. How did they go for so long without discovering this shared interest? She tells us in this conversation. The librarian whose support allowed her to dive into more adult material than other kids her age How Amy handled getting her first period The young man Amy chose for her first sexual experience The boundaries that Amy and her husband set for their relationship when they were in college, and how that has developed over the 20+ years of their marriage How Amy discovered her submissive side Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Elizabeth is a cisgender white woman in a monogamous heterosexual relationship who is approaching 40. She has an active sex life with her male partner, which includes pegging. While that is something that might be considered relatively common in some circles, for others it is out on the fringes of "normal" sexual activity. Elizabeth opens up about how they got into it, why she loves it, and why it's scary to admit to when living in a small, conservative town. Her teenage "practice partner" who helped her learn about hand jobs, blow jobs and more What her ex-husband said to her when she expressed sexual desires Why she feels self-conscious during oral sex as a plus-size woman Why anal sex is something she thinks can bring the genders together Why wearing a strap-on penis doesn't make her feel any less like a cis-gendered woman In this episode, we mentioned the following resources: Online erotica – Literotica The Feeldoe sex toy – Feeldoe Online shopping – Amazon's sexual health and wellness section Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Trystan Reese is a transgender white man in a monogamous gay marriage who is 35 years old. In 2017, Trystan gave birth to a baby conceived with his husband Biff. Their story has been shared in People Magazine, CNN, Cosmo and more. You can find them online at BiffAndI.com. While Trystan has been living as a man for the past 15 years, he was raised and socialized as a female for his first 18 years. That gives him an intimate understanding of both sides of the gender spectrum – including insight into which aspects are biological or hormonal and which are societal. The conversations gay men have BEFORE they start dating that other couples don't (but should!) have An important thing we can learn from Trystan's strategy of revealing that he's trans Why our relationship to our body is more important than the shape of our body when we're starting a new relationship Should we be telling little girls that they're beautiful? How Trystan's stay-at-home-dad partner manages his energy so he has enough left over for sex In this episode, we mentioned the following resources: Podcast - Dan Savage's SavageLove podcast Book - Cory Silverberg's book "What Makes A Baby" Book - Cory Silverberg's book "Sex Is A Funny Word" Trystan's website: www.BiffandI.com Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Yaz is a 30-year-old who describes herself as half-Persian/half-European, polyamorous, and single. I wanted to interview Yaz because I recently saw her describe herself this way: "My assets include diversity (I am genderqueer, pansexual, a person of color, fat, and make under $30,000/year), a playful attitude (I am really a kid in an adult body), and a know-how of holding space for those whose voices get lost in the shuffle." Discovering the delights of the shower and bathtub faucet Discovering porn and movie sex scenes Yaz defines gender queer, pansexual, and gender non-conforming as she experiences them How being fat has affected her experience of sexuality Her first experience of penetrative sex … and what happened when she realized she wasn't ready The STARS talk (as featured in Episode 8a) Is it still non-consensual if we don't say "no?" What Yaz looks for in a potential partner Mentioned in this episode: Sex Positive Portland – Where Yaz and I met, that provides education on sex positive topics as well as organized events in the Portland, Oregon, area Sex Positive World – The parent organization for Sex Positive Portland, with chapters around the world The STARS talk - an easy to remember acronym that will help you begin conversations leading to great, consensual sex. We did an entire episode on it and you can listen here! Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Kate is a cisgender white woman in a monogamous heterosexual marriage who is 37 years old. Kate is a stripper in Portland, Oregon. I met her one afternoon when I visited Sassy's with a friend of hers and she sat down to chat with us between sets. The first thing I noticed about Kate was that even though I had just seen her dancing naked on a pole, she was one of the most articulate and intelligent women I'd met in a long time. She forced me to come face-to-face with my own judgments about sex workers. The conversation in Kate's childhood home about sexuality Why being the "pursuer" in a romantic relationship felt empowering for Kate as a teenager How Kate got into dancing The different degrees of sex work Why creating a fantasy is the larger part of sex work The different sexual proclivities of men from different cultures In this episode, we mentioned the following resources: Strip club – Sassy's Former strip club - The Lusty Lady Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

In this special bonus episode, Dr. Evelin Dacker explains the STARS method she created. It's an easy-to-remember acronym that will help you begin conversations leading to great, consensual sex. But I don't want you to just get the theory behind the conversation, I want you to hear it in practice! So I invited my friend Ray to join me for a sample STARS conversation that you'll get to hear about halfway through this episode. What is sex positivity? The lack of conversation about sex in the medical profession An overview of what the letters in STARS stand for Leah's experience with STARS Breaking down the STARS conversation: STI Status Turn Ons Avoids Relationship intentions Safer sex practices A sample STARS conversation: Introducing Ray STI Status Turn Ons and avoids Relationship intentions Safer sex practices You can find much more about the STARS method at www.maketimeforthetalk.com. You can find Dr. Evelin Dacker at www.EvelinDacker.com. Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Dr. Evelin Dacker is a cisgender half-Mexican, half-Jewish polyamorous woman who is 53 years old. Evelin is a sex-positive physician in Eugene, Oregon and the CEO of Sex Positive Portland, an organization dedicated to understanding and exploring all aspects of human sexuality. She is also the creator of the STARS Talk, a format for talking about your sexuality and preferences so that we can ALL have more satisfying sexual encounters with both current and new partners. Evelin's history with masturbation from the time she was a baby Judy Blume's books as sex education How the ability to self-pleasure replaced a desire for sex as a teenager Learning compersion Distinguishing between open relationships and cheating The relationship Evelin defines as "primary" Meeting her spouse on a beach in Thailand What is NRE? (Hint: New Relationship Energy) The effects of being married to an alcoholic How the story of their meeting kept her marriage together The terrible side effects Evelin experienced with birth control pills The distinction between moving sexual energy and sensual energy while having sex The answer Evelin knew but didn't want to know: she didn't feel safe The discovery that saved Evelin's soul: Roller Derby The re-emergence of Evelin's bisexuality Sober vs. dry drunk Getting turned on by seeing someone flirting with her spouse Becoming anorgasmic and looking forward to menopause Opening the relationship Meeting a soulmate that supported Evelin through deep sexual healing The end of her marriage and discovering polyamory The evolution of the relationship with her spouse now that they are no longer married In this episode, we mentioned the following resources: Evelin's TEDx Talk - Seeing STARS: A stimulating safer sex talk Evelin's website - www.EvelinDacker.com Book – Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel Movie – Henry and June Television series – Portrait of a Marriage Retailer and education center – She Bop is a women-owned sex toy boutique in Portland, Oregon Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Jessi Kneeland is a 31-year-old cisgender woman who describes herself as white, bisexual, monogamous, and currently single. Jessi is a coach, speaker, writer, and altogether kickass person who is passionate about helping women to understand their bodies and their sexuality. She is the coach who has stood with me through my sexual exploration and reclaiming my body. You can find her online at www.JessiKneeland.com and on Instagram at @jessikneeland The lesson Jessi learned at age 7 about what it meant to desire male attention The lessons she learned about body image in her young life How confusing it is for people who were assaulted as children and didn't understand that it was assault at the time, and how important it is to give accurate language to those experiences The ways Jessi went about healing from childhood assault How detrimental it is to compare our trauma with other people's trauma Jessi's transition from feeling sexy to feeling sexual pleasure Practicing "vagina kung fu" When Jessi learned that what she thought was "great sex" … wasn't The male body worker who helped Jessi recognize how her physical injuries were reflecting the emotional trauma she had been through Jessi offers an easy anatomy lesson on the muscles of the vagina The cultural narrative around women's role in sex Jessi's recommendations for great reading In this episode, we mentioned the following resources: Book – Becoming Cliterate Book – Come As You Are Video – Jessi's TEDx Talk Sex toy – The Womanizer Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Jenna is a 34-year-old, cisgender female who describes herself as white, lesbian, monogamous, and engaged to be married. Jenna knew from an early age that she was attracted to women, and jokes that she "experimented with boys" when she was in her early 20s. The sex life she shares with her fiancée is helping Jenna to sort through and release some of the sexual trauma she experienced earlier in her life. The first time Jenna realized she was attracted to breasts How she felt when her father compared lesbianism to alcoholism and drug addiction How women are required to remember every detail of an assault from years ago when most of us don't remember what we had for breakfast The important place masturbation holds in Jenna's relationship with her partner The positive connotation Jenna now has for the words "good girl" Mentioned in this episode: Jessi Kneeland - Jessi is a body image coach who is featured in the next episode (Episode 7). Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Stacey is a 45-year-old, cisgender female who describes herself as black, heterosexual, single, and non-monogamous. While some may know the term ethical non-monogamy, it's still not spoken about often in social circles. That can lead to the misconception that it's rare, when in fact people of all types – and even in the most conservative communities – are engaging in various forms of open relationships. Stacey is totally down-to-earth, so she's a great person to ease us into this conversation the first time. And stick around for the Quick Five, because Stacey gives an amazing lesson on how to become multi-orgasmic! Learning how to kiss with a cousin The lack of affection in her childhood home How her father's emotional absence affects Stacey in her adult relationships Raising a daughter to believe in her own sexual empowerment Stacey discusses ethical non-monogamy Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Terri is a 32-year-old, cisgender female who describes herself as Pakistani, straight, married and monogamous. Terri was born in Pakistan and for the first ten years of her life, she lived in a culture where physical affection was not seen and it was assumed she would have an arranged marriage. When her family moved to the United States, everything changed. Terri provides us with a fascinating glimpse into what it's like to live with a foot in two worlds. Why it wasn't even okay for her to watch a kiss in an animated movie like Aladdin The explicit message she got from a boy, while her parents didn't even want her to be friends with a boy How she and her Muslim girlfriends covered for each other when they went out on dates The "freaky" things she did with her boyfriends How she is raising her own children to think about religion and sexuality Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Sharon is a 58-year-old, cisgender female who describes herself as white, straight, single and monogamous. Sharon opens up about her night of many firsts: first date, first kiss, and first unwanted sexual experience. This episode celebrates the pleasures of solo sex and remaining sexual while growing older. The fateful phone call that could have been for Sharon or her sister The book her parents gave her in lieu of talking to her about sex The best piece of advice Sharon ever got about sex How getting older is affecting her body's physical response (but she's still multi-orgasmic!) The death of one of Sharon's sex toys and having to buy a new one Mentioned in this episode: She Bop – A women-owned sex toy boutique in Portland, Oregon Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Meagan is a 36-year-old, cisgender woman who describes herself as Hispanic, straight, single and monogamous. Meagan talks frankly about her childhood explorations of sexuality, how she felt culpable for the things that happened to her as a teenager because she looked older than she was, and why she has taken time off from dating and sex as an adult. Sharing her mom's vibrator with friends during a sleepover Why her first kiss grossed her out and made her feel ashamed Learning to feel pleasure … long after she'd started having sex Why Meagan has always thought of herself as a "bad girl" A former boss who Meagan believes preys on strong women Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

In the very first episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Liz, a 37-year-old, cis-gendered white woman who is single, heterosexual, and monogamous. When it came to exploring her sexuality, Liz took her time – while all her friends were gossiping about their boyfriends and hookups as teenagers, Liz knew she wasn't ready to lose control. As a single woman, she now has sex occasionally while she waits to find love. Here are some of the great moments Liz shared: Her mom's unforgettable description of giving birth Her first Spin The Bottle kiss, gone very wrong Using condoms during oral sex Playing with remote control vibrators in public What it means to feel sexy Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

IT'S COMING!!!!!! I've been working on this podcast for over a year and I'm SOOOO excited to finally be sharing it with you! Here's a sneak peek into the conversations we'll be sharing in the first season of Good Girls Talk About Sex……