From Foster to Forever

Thinking about foster care or adoption—but unsure how to prepare financially? Dealing with challenging finances already?In this episode of From Foster to Forever, I sit down with financial coach Dylan Snowden to talk about one of the most overlooked (and often overwhelming) parts of the journey: money.We get real about the hidden costs of growing a family, how to plan for the unknown, and why understanding your finances before a child enters your home can make all the difference.Whether you're just starting to consider foster care or you're already parenting, this conversation will help you feel more grounded, prepared, and empowered.💡 What You’ll LearnHow to estimate the true cost of raising a child—even when so much is unknownWhy you should understand your current expenses before fosteringThe reality of foster care stipends (and why they don’t go as far as people think)A simple way to plan for unexpected costs (hint: add a buffer!)How to figure out what your life actually costs each monthThe difference between “serious” expenses vs. “fun” spending—and why you need bothHow to reduce impulse spending (Amazon! Target! Oh my!)What a 529 plan is and whether it’s still worth itWhy your retirement matters more than your child’s college fundHow couples can navigate money differences without fightingA realistic approach to paying off debt and still living your life🔑 Key TakeawayYou don’t need to have everything figured out—but you do need to start with awareness.Understanding your current financial picture is the foundation for making confident, grounded decisions about growing your family.❤️ A Note from MeThis conversation felt especially meaningful because Dylan actually helped me and Joe get a handle on our finances during a major life transition. I can personally say—this work matters.If money has ever felt confusing, stressful, or overwhelming, you are not alone. And you don’t have to figure it out on your own.🔗 Resources & LinksConnect with Dylan Snowden: dylanteachesfinance.comJoin Dylan’s “Finally Done Admin Hour” (free!)Follow the podcast: @foster2foreverpodcastVisit: fromfostertoforever.com🎧 Share This EpisodeIf this episode helped you feel more prepared or less alone, share it with a friend who’s considering foster care or adoption. These are the conversations we need to be having.⭐ Enjoying the Podcast?Please rate, review, and follow the show—it helps more families find these stories and resources.

She was fostering two toddlers and still waiting to adopt — so she decided to have a baby on her own...When Maryanne Grant first came on the show, she was in the middle of a long, uncertain foster-to-adopt journey with two young siblings. Now she’s back with a life update — and so much has changed.In this episode, Maryanne shares what it’s really like to wait years for adoption finalization, how the appeals process can delay permanency, and how she made the decision to become a single mom by choice while still fostering. She opens up about fertility treatments, choosing a sperm donor, raising three children on her own, and the emotional difference between fostering and having a biological child — and why love is still love no matter how a child comes into your life.This is an honest, hopeful, and deeply real conversation about modern motherhood, foster care, and building a family in unexpected ways.In This Episode, We Talk About:The reality of waiting years for foster adoption finalizationHow ICWA cases can impact foster-to-adopt timelinesThe emotional toll of inconsistent bio parent visitsTermination of parental rights (TPR) and the appeals processBecoming a single mom by choiceIUI, donor sperm, and choosing a donorRaising three kids under three as a single momThe difference between bonding through birth vs. foster careOpen conversations with kids about their story and familySibling relationships in foster careKnowing your limits as a foster parentBuilding a “village” and foster care communityMemorable Quotes From This Episode:“Love is love. I don’t differentiate on love — but the process is very different.”“I wanted this child so badly that I was willing to make it happen however I could.”“Kids deserve someone who 100% chooses them.”“Our family just has a mommy — and that’s okay.”“Adoption will change everything and nothing at the same time.”Resources Mentioned:Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA)Single Mom by Choice communitySeattle Sperm Bank (donor process discussion)Foster care adoption & appeals processConnect with Us:Website: fromfoster2forever.comInstagram: @foster2foreverpodcastIf this episode touched you, please share it with someone who cares about foster care, adoption, or building a family in a nontraditional way.

In this powerful and deeply insightful episode of From Foster to Forever, I sit down with child therapist and author Stacy Schaffer to explore what foster and adoptive parents really need to understand about childhood trauma, attachment, and healing.Stacy specializes in play therapy, a transformative approach that helps children express emotions they don’t yet have the words for. Through tools like sand tray therapy, somatic release, and creative expression, she offers a window into how children process grief, loss, and complex family dynamics.Together, we dive into the realities that many foster and adoptive families face—but don’t always talk about openly.This conversation is both validating and eye-opening, offering practical tools and emotional reassurance for parents navigating the beautiful and challenging journey of raising children from hard places.💡 In This Episode, We Discuss:What play therapy is and why it works for childrenHow kids communicate trauma through play, not wordsWhy building trust slowly is essential in therapyThe truth about confidentiality between therapist, child, and parentHow to find the right therapist (especially with Medicaid barriers)What generational trauma is—and how to begin healing itWhy it’s critical to honor a child’s grief, even in a loving homeHow to support kids through birth family visits and emotional dysregulationThe role of somatic (body-based) healing—including physical release toolsWhy foster and adoptive parents must prioritize their own support❤️ A Powerful Reminder for ParentsStacy shares a truth many parents need to hear:“It’s amazing and beautiful—and also exhausting. You can feel both.”Supporting your child starts with supporting yourself.📘 About Stacy SchaefferStacy Schaeffer is a child therapist specializing in grief and trauma, as well as the author of“With Love from a Children’s Therapist.”Her work blends clinical expertise with lived experience, offering both guidance and compassion to families navigating complex emotional landscapes.🌐 Website: https://stacyschaeffer.com📱 Instagram: @hope_restored🌱 About This PodcastFrom Foster to Forever shares honest, hopeful stories of families formed through foster care and adoption—highlighting resilience, healing, and the beauty of nontraditional paths to parenthood.🎧 New episodes weekly🌐 Visit: https://fromfoster2forever.com📱 Instagram: @foster2foreverpodcast🔖 If This Episode Spoke to You…Please follow, rate, and share with someone who needs encouragement on their foster or adoptive parenting journey.Mentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

Foster care can bring a whirlwind of emotions, and today we're diving deep into the complexities that come with it. We’re chatting with Emily McDaniel, a seasoned foster care provider who's opened her heart and home to 21 kids over the years. Right off the bat, she highlights the tough truth that a lot of rejection in foster care is self-imposed, and that it's a wild ride to support families in crisis. As we peel back the layers, Emily shares her journey from wanting to run an orphanage to becoming a forever mom to a two-year-old girl and a 21-year-old young man. Stick around as we explore the ups and downs of foster care, the importance of community, and how to keep your why front and center in this challenging yet rewarding world. In this episode, we tackle the complex and often misunderstood world of foster care, featuring a candid conversation with Emily McDaniel, a foster care provider who’s made it her mission to open her heart and home to children in need. With 21 placements under her belt, Emily shares her experiences, the challenges she faces, and the incredible rewards that come from fostering. We dig deep into the emotional landscape of foster care—where love and loss often go hand in hand. Emily recounts her journey, revealing how her upbringing shaped her desire to help children in crisis and how she navigates the tricky waters of attachment and separation. As we explore the reality of foster care, we also highlight the need for community support and the importance of understanding the unique struggles that foster families face. Emily's perspective is both enlightening and heart-wrenching, as she discusses the realities of rejection and the hope that comes with each new placement. This episode is filled with rich insights, touching stories, and a reminder that fostering is a brave and noble calling that requires not just a big heart, but a strong support network. Whether you’re a seasoned foster parent or just curious about the system, this episode will leave you with a renewed appreciation for the families that make fostering a part of their lives.Takeaways:Foster care is often a journey through rejection, not just for the children but for the caregivers who deeply invest themselves emotionally.Understanding the importance of community support is crucial in foster care, as the journey can feel isolating and challenging without it.Each foster placement comes with its own unique challenges and joys, showcasing the complexity of building connections and navigating the system.The idea of 'home' in foster care isn't just about shelter; it’s about creating a nurturing environment for children who need stability and love.Having an open heart to foster children can lead to unexpected family dynamics, with some placements growing into lifelong relationships.Ultimately, knowing your 'why' in fostering is key; it anchors you through the ups and downs and helps you focus on the children’s needs.***LISTENER'S SPECIAL OFFER: GET 10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGAZINE***Mentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

Dyslexia isn’t just a reading problem—it’s a whole brain vibe! In our chat today, we dive into some eye-opening insights with Russell Van Broecklin, a dyslexia researcher who's got the lowdown on how dyslexia works and why it’s not as straightforward as folks think. He lays down the truth that while dyslexics might read and write slower, their brains are firing on all cylinders when it comes to thinking. So, if you’ve got a kiddo who’s struggling, don’t sweat it! Russell shares some killer strategies for helping them thrive academically, even if traditional methods have made them feel like they’re swimming upstream. Join us as we unravel the myths and equip ourselves with some solid tools to help our little learners soar! Dyslexia is often misunderstood as a simple reading issue, but let me tell you, it’s way more complex than that. Russell Van Broecklin, our guest on the podcast, dives deep into the nuances of dyslexia, sharing his own journey and expertise as a New York State funded dyslexia researcher. He reveals that while dyslexics might read and write slower than their peers, they often think and process information faster, which flips the script on how we perceive learning difficulties. Throughout our conversation, Russell emphasizes the importance of recognizing the unique cognitive strengths dyslexics possess, which can lead to incredible academic and personal success when properly supported. He recounts his own experiences in law school, where he not only navigated the challenges of dyslexia but thrived, showcasing that with the right strategies, dyslexics can outperform even the best and brightest at institutions like Harvard. A standout moment from the episode is when he shares his research findings, revealing that he helped students go from struggling to thriving, often at a fraction of the cost of traditional approaches. It’s a game-changer for parents and educators alike, showing that understanding and tailored interventions can lead to phenomenal outcomes for dyslexic children.Takeaways:Dyslexia isn't just about reading; it's a whole brain organization thing that can affect writing too.Contrary to popular belief, dyslexics can learn to read better than many traditionally 'smart' kids.With the right strategies, dyslexics can think faster than their peers, especially in higher education settings.Identifying dyslexia early is crucial; if you suspect your child has it, get them tested by professionals as soon as possible.Links referenced in this episode:FromFosterToForever.comFosterToForeverpodcastdyslexiaclasses.comdyslexiaclasses.comMentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Rachel sits down with functional medicine physician and adoptive father Dr. Aaron Hartman to explore how early trauma, environmental factors, and holistic healthcare can shape the lives of foster and adopted children.Dr. Hartman shares the story of adopting his daughters through foster care and how his journey parenting a child with complex medical needs transformed his medical practice. Together, Rachel and Dr. Hartman discuss navigating the healthcare system, advocating for special-needs children, and practical ways families can support neurodivergent kids—emotionally, nutritionally, and medically.This conversation offers hope, validation, and actionable guidance for foster, adoptive, and kinship parents navigating complex challenges.🌱 In This Episode, We Discuss:Dr. Hartman’s journey adopting and his challenges with the system - being wrongful accused and having to defend himself without being defensive and taking it personally.Parenting children with medical and developmental challengesNavigating Child Protective Services and medical advocacyWhy early intervention can change a child’s life trajectoryFunctional and integrative medicine approaches for kidsGut health, nutrition, and brain developmentSupporting children with autism, ADHD, and trauma historiesHypermobility, low tone, and nutritional needsPractical strategies for families with limited resourcesFood sensitivities, picky eating, and reducing sugar dependencyAttachment struggles and building emotional safetyEnvironmental health, mold, and chemical exposureThe connection between soil, food quality, and human healthThoughtful, individualized approaches to vaccinesWhy parents must become strong advocates for their children💡 Key Takeaways✨ Handling the system with grace and ease. ✨ Early support and personalized care can dramatically improve long-term outcomes for children with special needs. ✨ Nutrition, gut health, and environment play a major role in brain and behavioral health. ✨ Attachment and emotional safety are essential for healing trauma. ✨ Parents don’t need perfection—but education, curiosity, and persistence matter. ✨ Hope is always possible, even with “hopeless” diagnoses.❤️ About Our GuestDr. Aaron Hartman is a functional and integrative medicine physician, researcher, and father of three, two of whom were adopted through foster care. His personal parenting journey led him to specialize in helping children and adults with complex, chronic, and neurodevelopmental conditions through holistic, individualized care.📚 Resources MentionedUncurable: From Hopeless Diagnosis to Defying All Odds by Dr. Aaron HartmanGAPS Diet (Gut and Psychology Syndrome)Low-Dose Naltrexone (LDN)Leucovorin Environmental Working Group’s Clean 15 & Dirty DozenDr. Hartman’s website, blogs, and podcast (for free education)📣 Connect With Us✨ Subscribe & Review: ✨ Website: ✨ Instagram ✨ FacebookMentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

Recognizing our superpower as parents is the name of the game today, and it’s not about having all the answers. Our presence alone can be a game-changer for our kids, especially those who come from foster care and carry their own unique traumas. We’re diving deep with Jenny Hornby, a licensed counselor and trauma expert, who’s got some serious insights on how to help kids process their feelings in a safe way. We chat about EMDR therapy, which Jenny describes like taking a train ride through their experiences without reliving the trauma. So, whether you’re a seasoned foster parent or just curious about the journey, tune in for stories and tips that’ll resonate with anyone navigating the wild world of parenting! Join us as we embark on a heartfelt conversation about the power of presence in parenting, especially for those navigating the choppy waters of foster care and adoption. This episode features Jenny Hornby, a licensed counselor whose expertise in trauma therapy shines a light on the complexities of emotional healing for children. We kick things off with a discussion about EMDR therapy—an innovative approach that helps children process their trauma in a safe and structured way. Jenny explains how this technique allows kids to revisit painful memories without the overwhelming emotions that typically accompany them. By using relatable analogies, she makes the therapy sound not only effective but also approachable, inviting listeners to consider how vital it is for kids to know they aren’t alone in their struggles. The conversation shifts to Jenny's own experiences as an adoptive parent, where she shares poignant moments from her journey that resonate deeply. From the emotional intricacies of meeting her child’s birth mother to the joys and challenges of raising kids who have experienced trauma, Jenny’s stories paint a vivid picture of love and resilience. She also discusses the importance of open lines of communication and how to gently guide children through their feelings about their pasts. This relatability adds a layer of warmth and authenticity to the episode, making it a must-listen for anyone involved in or considering adoption. As we wind down, Jenny offers practical advice for parents on how to handle their children’s big emotions. She emphasizes the necessity of self-awareness for parents, reminding us that we need to check in with ourselves before we can effectively support our kids. The episode closes with a reminder that being present and allowing children to feel their emotions is one of the greatest gifts we can give them. With humor and heart, this episode serves as a powerful reminder of the impact that love, understanding, and patience can have on healing and growth for both parents and children.Takeaways:As parents, our greatest superpower is simply being there for our kids, no cap!When it comes to kids from foster care, trauma is almost a given, so we need to be prepared.EMDR therapy helps kids process trauma without reliving it, making it a game changer.Building trust with kids is crucial; it’s about showing up and letting them lead the way.Using creative methods like art and storytelling can help children express their fears and emotions.Being present is key—sometimes, just hanging out with your kid in silence can do wonders.Links referenced in this episode:fromFoster2forever.com@foster2foreverpodcastmsJennybooks.comFostering Families Today Magazine (10% off subscription)Mentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

Today, we hear the heartfelt journey of David and Jill, who took the leap from being childless to adopting two beautiful siblings through the Foster to Adopt process. They share openly about how infertility led them to this path and speak about how this experience has transformed them into better people and deepened their love in ways they never imagined. From navigating the emotional rollercoaster of uncertainty, to the joys and challenges of raising toddlers who came from a tough background, their happy story is a testament to resilience and unconditional love. We chat about the importance of support systems, how to handle the unique dynamics of blended families, and the sheer joy of watching their kids thrive. So, tune in as we celebrate these non-traditional family stories that remind us that love knows no bounds! In this episode, we cover the inspiring journey of David and Jill, a couple who always wanted to be parents. When faced with infertility, they took the leap into the world of foster care and adoption. Their story isn't just about becoming parents; it's about overcoming challenges, embracing love, and the unexpected twists life throws your way. From their struggles with infertility to the joyful surprise of welcoming two sisters into their home, their candid conversation is filled with heartfelt reflections and light-hearted moments that keep the listeners engaged. They discuss how the foster-to-adopt process has transformed their lives, making them better individuals and parents, and how their love for their children runs deeper than they ever thought possible. David and Jill's experiences illustrate the highs and lows of fostering, including the emotional turmoil of potentially losing their girls when they first entered their lives. With a mix of humor and vulnerability, they recount the uncertainty of not knowing how long they would have the girls and the challenges of navigating the court system. Their honesty about the rollercoaster of emotions resonates with many, as they share the lessons learned through love, patience, and support from their community. The couple emphasizes the importance of connecting with others who understand the unique challenges of fostering, echoing the sentiment that it truly takes a village to raise a child. By sharing their journey, David and Jill not only highlight the beauty of foster care but also inspire others who may be considering this path. As they reflect on their family's growth and the love they have cultivated, listeners are left with a powerful message: the journey of parenting—whether through fostering or adopting—is filled with uncertainties, but the love that emerges from it is both profound and life-changing. This episode is a testament to the transformative power of family, no matter how it comes together.Takeaways:Becoming parents through fostering transformed us into better individuals, deepening our love.The journey from fostering to adoption can be long and emotionally challenging, but it's worth it.Having support from others who understand the challenges of fostering is absolutely priceless.Our kids, despite their tough beginnings, are full of love and joy, reminding us daily.Navigating the foster care system requires patience, faith, and a lot of love for the kids.The importance of being kind and building relationships with social workers and attorneys cannot be overstated.Companies mentioned in this episode:Foster2Forever.comThe VillageMentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

This episode is a deep dive into the world of foster care - specifically, fostering a teen as a single woman. Our guest, Emily Ellett, shares her personal journey as a foster parent with candor and insight, shedding light on the realities, challenges, and heartfelt moments that come with it. We tackle the common misconceptions surrounding these kids and how the truth often varies from what’s painted for potential foster parents. Emily's experiences reveal the rollercoaster of emotions that come with fostering teens, the unexpected hurdles, and the moments that make it all worth it. We chat about the importance of having a solid support system and the need to be open about what help you might need, all while keeping it real and relatable. Listen to hear all about love, resilience, and the complexities of foster care!From Foster to Forever takes a deep dive into the heartfelt and often unpredictable world of foster parenting in its latest episode featuring audiobook narrator and singer Emily Ellet. Listeners are treated to Emily's personal journey into fostering, which began from a place of genuine desire to help children who need a stable and loving home. The episode sheds light on the rigorous certification process she underwent, which served as her introduction to the realities of foster care, while also highlighting her personal experiences with trauma and the impact it had on her journey. Throughout the episode, Emily shares candid anecdotes about her first placements, illustrating the joys and difficulties that come with fostering teens who have faced significant challenges. Her reflections reveal the complexities of navigating relationships with not just the children but also with her own family, who were unsupportive of her decision to foster. This narrative not only underscores the emotional rollercoaster of fostering but also emphasizes the importance of having a solid support system in place. Emily’s transparency about her struggles, including the miscommunication with caseworkers and the emotional toll of her experiences, offers a realistic perspective that is often overlooked. The overarching message of the episode is clear: fostering is a journey filled with challenges, but the love and connection foster parents bring to the lives of children make it a deeply rewarding endeavor. Emily's story serves as both a cautionary tale and an inspiring guide for those considering fostering, reminding listeners that while the path is not easy, it is undeniably worthwhile. This episode is a valuable resource for anyone looking to understand the realities of foster care, especially when fostering an older child.Takeaways:Fostering can be a wild ride, and it's crucial to go in with your eyes wide open about the potential challenges ahead.Getting into fostering isn't just about helping kids; it's about knowing your own limits and having a solid support system in place.The reality of foster care often differs from the rosy picture painted by agencies; transparency is key for success.Foster parents need to be aware that the kids they take in may have complicated histories that could trigger their own past traumas, especially older children and teens.Links referenced in this episode:fromfoster2forever.com@foster2foreverpodcastMentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

Flexibility and openness are the name of the game when it comes to fostering and adopting, and our guest, Nikki, really drives that point home today. She’s got a heartwarming story about her journey through foster care, navigating the ups and downs with grace and humor. From dealing with unexpected placements straight out of the hospital to fostering a medically fragile baby, Nikki shares the real scoop on what it’s like to open your home and heart to kids in need. We also dive into how her family adapted, the community support that came through in spades, and the bittersweet moments of attachment and letting go. So, grab your headphones and settle in for a chat that’s not just insightful but also sprinkled with wit and wisdom—perfect for anyone curious about the foster care world!Diving into the heart of foster care and adoption, we chat with Nikki Zakocs, an audiobook narrator and former foster mom who shares her journey through the often chaotic but incredibly rewarding world of fostering. From the moment she and her husband decided to open their home to children in need, Nikki emphasizes the importance of flexibility and an open mind. With three biological kids already in tow, they embarked on a deeply personal journey that began with a lot of research and conversations about what it means to be a foster family. She candidly recounts her initial hopes of adopting internationally, only to discover that the path to foster-to-adopt was not just feasible, but also filled with unexpected joys and challenges. Nikki paints a vivid picture of her first placement, a newborn baby girl who arrived just days after they were licensed, and the whirlwind of emotions that came with it, including the overwhelming feeling of court appearances and the reality of potentially having to let go of the children she grew to love. The conversation flows effortlessly as Nikki shares the ups and downs of fostering, from the excitement of welcoming new children into her home to the heart-wrenching moments of saying goodbye. She reflects on the bonds formed and the lessons learned along the way, highlighting how her experiences have shaped her family's view of love and compassion. The episode is sprinkled with humor and warmth, as Nikki recounts the hilarious and chaotic moments of having multiple kids in the house, including the supportive network of friends and community members who rallied around her family with clothes, baby supplies, and a whole lot of encouragement. We also discuss the emotional toll fostering can take on both parents and biological children, yet how it ultimately opens their hearts and minds to the realities of life for many children in the system. As we wrap up, Nikki shares her insights on keeping the connection with biological families and how her views have shifted over the years. She champions the idea that fostering is not just about providing a temporary home, but about being part of a larger family narrative that includes birth families, reinforcing the importance of understanding and compassion in a child’s life. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone considering fostering or simply wanting to understand the complexities of foster care better.Takeaways:Flexibility and an open mindset are essential when entering the world of foster care.The experience of fostering can profoundly change your perspective on life and parenting.Involving your biological children in the foster care process can provide valuable lessons about empathy and community.The emotional attachment formed during fostering is real and can lead to heart-wrenching goodbyes when children are reunified with their families.Links referenced in this episode:FromFosterToForever.comFosterToForeverPodcast (Instagram)Save 10% of Fostering Families Today MagazineMentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

Kanika Vasudeva joins us today to dive into the mystical realm of the Akashic Records and the art of energy expansion. We kick things off by exploring what the Akashic Records really are—think of them as a cosmic library filled with everything about your life and soul's journey. Kanika encourages us to embrace our curiosity and even our skepticism, reminding us that accessing this wealth of knowledge is not just for the “gifted” but is open to anyone willing to explore. We chat about how tapping into these records can help folks navigate their paths to building non-traditional families, especially when it comes to fostering and adoption. Plus, we dish out some real talk on how to handle the emotional rollercoaster that comes with these journeys, showing how understanding our soul contracts can provide clarity and closure amidst the chaos. So, whether you’re a seasoned spiritual seeker or just a curious newbie, this episode is packed with insights to help you on your journey! Kanika Vasudeva joins us to unravel the fascinating concept of the Akashic Records, a mystical library that holds all the secrets of our lives. If you're curious about how this cosmic database can guide you in your foster-to-adopt journey, you're in for a treat! Kanika likens the Akashic Records to a Google Drive for your soul, where you can access everything from past life experiences to insights about your current relationships. She passionately explains that anyone can tap into their records, no special training required—just a willingness to ask for help and an open heart. Rachel shares her own emotional rollercoaster concerning infertility and the profound belief that certain souls are destined to join our families. This leads us to discuss how the Akashic Records can provide clarity and healing for those experiencing the loss of a child or the challenges that come with fostering. Kanika reassures us that we can connect with the souls of children who are meant to be part of our lives, offering a sense of closure and understanding during tough times. The conversation takes a practical turn as Kanika shares actionable insights about using the Akashic Records to navigate parenting challenges, particularly in fostering scenarios where trauma and uncertainty often lurk. The episode wraps up with an emphasis on intention and the power of energy work to create safe spaces for our kids. If you’re looking to deepen your connection with your children and understand the bigger picture of your family's journey, this episode is packed with wisdom and warmth. Get ready to explore the realms of energy healing and the Akashic Records with Kanika Vasudeva!Takeaways:The Akashic Records are like a mystical library storing all the juicy details of your life, including past lives and soul contracts, so anyone can access them to understand their story better.Kanika encourages everyone to give energy work a shot, even if it feels a bit out there—there's zero harm in asking the universe for help when you're feeling stuck or confused.Understanding your soul contracts, especially in the context of fostering and adopting, can provide closure and clarity on your journey—it's all about learning and evolving together.It's crucial to recognize that while life can seem unfair at times, there's often a bigger lesson at play, helping us grow and understand our purpose more deeply.The importance of receiving help can't be overstated; sometimes, you just gotta let go and trust the universe to guide you through tough times.Even kids can benefit from energy work, as it helps them process trauma and feel safer in their environment—it's all about creating that loving, supportive space.Links referenced in this episode:artoflifecenter.comfromfoster2forever.comfoster2foreverpodcast (Instagram)Fostering Families Today Magazine (save 10%)Mentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

Martha Chaput drops some real talk with us today about the rollercoaster of fostering and adopting children. She shares her heart-wrenching experiences of loving and letting go, highlighting how important it is to make decisions centered on the child's well-being, even when it’s tough. We dive into the nitty-gritty of navigating the foster system, the moments of joy, the heartbreak, and the blessings that come from opening your heart to these kids. Martha’s candid reflections will make you laugh, cry, and rethink what family truly means. So grab your favorite snack, kick back, and join us for this heartfelt convo that’s all about love, resilience, and the beautiful messiness of family life!Takeaways:Martha Chaput shares her emotional journey through fostering and adoption, highlighting the challenges and joys, especially that come along with reunification.The conversation touches on the complexities of the foster care system and how it impacts both children and foster parents.Martha emphasizes the importance of being educated about the foster system before diving in, urging others to attend informational meetings.They discuss the heart-wrenching experiences of loving a child and then having to let them go, illustrating the emotional toll of fostering.Martha's story reveals how connections with biological families can shape the future for adopted children, stressing the value of maintaining those ties.The podcast dives into the idea of fostering older children and how that could be a different, yet rewarding experience for families.Fostering can be a wild ride, and Martha Chaput’s journey is no exception! In this laid-back yet deeply engaging episode, host Rachel Fulginiti and Martha dive into the nitty-gritty of foster parenting, sharing laughter, tears, and plenty of heartwarming stories. Martha kicks things off by sharing her initial motivations for fostering, which stem from a lifelong dream of having a big family. The chat quickly shifts to the bumps along the way, including the emotional rollercoaster of her first placements—experiences that left her with more questions than answers and a deeper understanding of the complexities of the foster care system. As the conversation flows, Martha opens up about the challenges of navigating visits with biological parents and the heartbreak of letting go of children she had grown to love. It’s not all sad, though; she also shares uplifting moments, too. Martha’s stories are filled with wit and warmth, making them relatable while shedding light on the real struggles foster parents face. She emphasizes the value of having a support system—mentors who get it and are there to guide you through the ups and downs. Towards the end, Martha offers some solid advice for those considering fostering. She encourages folks to take that first step, attend an orientation, and keep an open mind. The episode wraps up with a heartfelt reminder that, whether for a brief moment or a lifetime, fostering is all about making a difference in a child’s life. Martha’s journey is a testament to the love and resilience that foster families embody, and this episode is a must-listen for anyone intrigued by the foster care experience.Links referenced in this episode:fromfoster2forever.com@foster2foreverpodcast (Instagram)Fostering Families Today Magazine (10% off)Mentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

This week, we’re diving deep into the whirlwind journey of foster care and adoption with our guest, Bonnie Butler. She shares her story of going from contemplating stepping back from the foster system to unexpectedly adopting a sibling set of six kids—yeah, you heard that right, six! We talk about the real struggles and triumphs of blending families, navigating trauma, and finding emotional balance in the chaos. Bonnie’s insights on emotional intelligence for foster parents are gold, especially when dealing with the unique challenges that come with fostering traumatized children. So get ready for a heartfelt chat packed with wisdom, humor, and insight.Ever thought about adopting a whole sibling set? Bonnie Butler did, and she’s here to tell us all about it. In this episode, she shares her journey from a family of four to suddenly embracing six new faces—five girls and one boy. Talk about a plot twist! Bonnie’s storytelling is both humorous and heartfelt as she recounts the initial shock and the whirlwind of emotions that followed the unexpected call to adopt. The episode unpacks not just the logistical challenges of accommodating six kids, but also the emotional hurdles that come with fostering children from tumultuous backgrounds. Bonnie reflects on how her family navigated the chaos, learned to set boundaries, and ultimately transformed their lives into one big, messy, loving family. With a blend of laughter and empathy, she discusses the invaluable lessons learned along the way, emphasizing the importance of patience, understanding, and the magic of everyday moments that make the journey worthwhile. It’s a beautiful reminder that every family is unique, and sometimes, the most unconventional paths lead to the most incredible stories.Takeaways:The Universe truly has impeccable timing, as demonstrated by the unexpected call to adopt six kids.Navigating foster care and adoption can be a wild ride, filled with emotional highs and lows.Creating a loving and structured environment is essential for helping traumatized children heal.It's crucial for foster parents to focus on self-care and stress management while fostering.Links referenced in this episode:bonniebutlercoaching.combonnieanniebutlercoaching.comfromfostertoforever.comfoster2foreverpodcast.com

Mary Fields shares her deeply personal journey of resilience and healing on the podcast, emphasizing that kindness can be a powerful tool for change. Growing up in the foster care system, she faced immense challenges that could have turned her bitter, but instead, she found strength in the support of kind individuals along the way. As an author of the memoir "Forever and a Day," Mary opens up about her experiences, including the struggle of reconciling her past trauma with her present as a mother of four. In a candid conversation with host Rachel, they dive into how humor became a coping mechanism and the importance of recognizing the inner child's voice. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of survival, compassion, and the transformative power of kindness, reminding us all to seek and spread love wherever we can.Mary Fields shines a light on the often-overlooked realities of growing up in the foster care system in this heartfelt episode of Foster to Forever. Her conversation with host Rachel delves into her personal experiences, offering listeners a raw and unfiltered look at the challenges she faced while navigating a childhood filled with instability and trauma. Mary’s story is one of resilience, as she reflects on how kindness from others helped her survive a turbulent upbringing. From her early memories in foster homes to the complexities of her relationships with her biological parents, Mary’s narrative is both poignant and relatable. She emphasizes that while she could have become a bitter person, the compassion she received sparked a fire of hope within her, leading to her current role as a loving mother and author.Mary’s memoir, 'Forever and a Day', is not just a recounting of her past; it’s an invitation to understand the intricacies of trauma, healing, and the power of kindness in transforming lives. Throughout the episode, she discusses the misconceptions surrounding foster children, urging listeners to recognize that these kids are often victims of unfortunate circumstances rather than delinquents or bad kids. Mary’s reflections inspire a call to action, reminding us all that kindness can break cycles of negativity and foster a sense of belonging in those who need it most. As she navigates the challenges of motherhood, Mary shares how she strives to provide her children with the love and security she was denied, showing that healing is possible and that every child deserves a chance to thrive.In this episode, Mary Fields recounts her transformative journey from a troubled childhood in the foster care system to becoming a nurturing mother and an inspiring author. The conversation with Rachel is a powerful exploration of resilience, hope, and the profound impact of kindness. Mary's experiences highlight the harsh realities many children face while in foster care, yet her narrative is not solely about hardship; it’s about the healing power of compassion and connection. She reflects on her time in various foster homes, sharing both the struggles she endured and the moments of kindness that kept her spirit alive.As Mary discusses her memoir, 'Forever and a Day', she reveals the irony behind its title—a phrase her mother used in letters despite her failures as a parent. This duality underscores the themes of love, loss, and the journey toward self-acceptance that permeate her writing. The episode emphasizes the importance of advocating for foster children, challenging listeners to confront their biases and support the vulnerable. Mary’s insights on motherhood reveal her commitment to breaking the cycle of trauma by fostering an environment filled with love and understanding for her own children. This engaging conversation serves as a reminder that while the past can shape us, it does not define our future, and that kindness is a powerful tool for change.Takeaways: Mary shares her incredible journey from a challenging childhood in foster care to becoming a loving mother, highlighting the importance of kindness in healing. The episode emphasizes that not all foster care experiences are positive, and Mary candidly discusses her traumatic memories and the impact they had on her life. Mary reflects on her relationship with her inner child, recognizing the need to honor and nurture her past self as a way to heal and grow. Humor plays a vital role in coping with life's hardships, as Mary uses wit to navigate her experiences and find the lighter side of dark moments. Listeners are encouraged to recognize the power of kindness in their interactions, as Mary believes it can change lives and provide hope for those struggling. Mary's memoir, 'Forever and a Day', serves as a testament to resilience, showcasing how she reclaimed her narrative and found strength through her experiences.

In this powerful and heart-opening conversation, I sit down with Hilary Crowley — foster-to-adopt mom, holistic health practitioner, energy healer, TEDx speaker, and author of The Power of Energy Medicine. Hilary shares the extraordinary story of how she followed intuition, courage, and connection all the way to her son — and the unexpected lessons she learned along the way.From discovering the importance of foster-care support groups before certification, to navigating shutdowns, attachment, sibling dynamics, and biological family relationships, Hilary offers deep insight into what it really means to love, advocate, and parent a child who has survived instability and trauma.We also explore the intersection of intuition and fostering, how to recognize an intuitive “yes,” and why older-child adoption is a powerful — and often overlooked — pathway to building a family.This episode is full of wisdom, warmth, and practical guidance for anyone considering fostering or adoption, anyone parenting a child with trauma, or anyone wanting to better understand the emotional landscape of the foster-to-adopt journey.In This Episode, We Discuss:✨ The Power of Support Groups: Why attending a foster-care support group before certification can completely shift your journey.How Hilary built trust with resource workers just by showing up.✨ The Foster-to-Adopt Origin StoryHilary’s longing for a second child and the friend who unexpectedly opened the door to fostering.Her first experiences learning the “lingo” and navigating parenting classes.✨ A Moment of Raw Honesty in Training Hilary’s emotional fear response during training — and the life-changing validation she received from a social worker.✨ Navigating the Needs of Two ChildrenHow fostering disrupted her biological son’s world — and how it ultimately expanded his compassion and resilience.✨ Understanding Shutdowns / Rock BrainWhat shutdowns looked like in real life, what triggered them, and the remarkable strategy Hilary used to help her son feel safe and reconnected. Why “parent as if this may never change” became essential guidance.✨ Biological Family RelationshipsNavigating shifting dynamics and relationships at home.How her sons are now building connections as a young adults.✨ Intuition, Energy, and AdoptionHow Hilary’s work as an energy healer informed her parenting and decision-making.What an intuitive “yes” really feels like — and how to differentiate intuition from fear.Why fostering aligns deeply with the true meaning of the word foster: to encourage, nourish, and support.✨ A Powerful Message for Prospective Foster ParentsWhy older-child adoption (6–10+) is filled with beauty, growth, and meaning — and why these children deserve more visibility and love. Key TakeawaysShowing up and becoming known in your foster community can change everything.Children with trauma need connection and safety more than perfection.Saying no to a placement can be an act of love and alignment.Intuition is a real, accessible tool for navigating uncertainty.Adoption is deeply transformative for the entire family.

Life's a wild ride, isn't it? Kind of like fostering and adopting, which is the heart and soul of our podcast, From Foster to Forever. We dive into the ups and downs of non-traditional families, sharing heartfelt stories that are anything but ordinary. In this latest episode, I pop in to give a shout-out after a little break from the mic. I know, I know, it’s been a minute, but hey, life (and surgery!) happens. Whether you’re a new listener or a seasoned vet, I’m stoked to have you here with me. I also take a moment to thank all you lovely folks who’ve been tuning in and leaving those golden five-star reviews. Seriously, they help get our stories out there for others who might need a little hope or support. Plus, I’m super excited to announce that I’ve joined the ranks of columnists at Fostering Families Today, a sweet publication all about foster care. My first piece drops online soon, where I discuss how my CrossFit journey helped me tackle the tough times during fostering. It’s all about that mental toughness, and trust me, it’s a game changer. So, stay tuned, because I’m gearing up for season three and I want to hear from you! Got a story to share or know someone who does? Hit me up. Let’s keep this conversation rolling and make some magic happen!Takeaways: This episode welcomes newcomers and reminds longtime listeners about the journey so far. Rachel expresses gratitude for every review, emphasizing their importance in spreading awareness. The podcast announces a new column by Rachel in Fostering Families Today Magazine, a must-read for foster care enthusiasts. Rachel discusses her first article, which ties her personal story of fostering-to-adopt, with her passion for CrossFit and mental toughness. Listeners are encouraged to share their own foster to adopt stories for potential podcast features. The episode wraps up with Rachel's summer wishes for health, safety, and joy for all listeners.