Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

In honor of May 1st's deadline for many college bound seniors to make their choice, Lynn shares really relevant advice from her perspective over the last few decades of watching her adolescent clients to college and struggle with anxiety. Parents struggle knowing how to support academic success for their kids in a healthy way, so Lynn offers advice for parents of kids of all ages. We also answer a listener question in response to the recent episode on the toxicity of the achievement culture. If you haven’t heard it yet, I suggest you stop and listen to the first episode of Season 3 on Anxiety and good grades. Events! Mental health clinicians, register for Lynn's June 4th advanced clinical training: ANXIOUS FAMILIES: HOW TO USE PROCESS, PARENTS, AND HOMEWORK TO GET FAMILIES MOVING. Join Lynn and Robin for a luxe parenting retreat at Canyon Ranch this fall on October 22. Sign up for the presale when you complete this survey. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Panic Attacks. While they are incredibly common, they are often mislabeled and misunderstood. Teenagers, even adults, will casually throw the label around. What’s the difference between those really powerful moments of anxiety and a panic attack? How do you help your family members when they experience them? New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mistakes and Failures can be some of life’s best teachers. When it comes to letting our kids fail, how do we know the difference between letting them fail and letting them drown? What do you do if your teenager hasn’t mastered the skill of asking for help? Or, what do you say when your teen doesn’t even care? New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

At some point one of your children’s friends will be in crisis. How do you help your teens help their friends? How do you teach them to develop boundaries with those friends? When your child shares that a friend is feeling suicidal or cutting or other self-harming behaviors, what do you do? New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many families are feeling anxious about changes to their school routine, both kids and parents. How do we support our kids and teens and help them manage their worry about going back to school? And when does this worry become more serious and lead to school avoidance and school refusal? Lynn references Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD: A Scientifically Proven Program for Parents by Eli Lebowitz and her own book co-authored with Reid Wilson, Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit available until March 30th! Purchase the self-paced course now. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We talk a lot about the power of words...teaching kids to put words to their feelings, modeling emotional literacy. But the flip side of talking—the critical flip side—is listening. What happens when you don’t feel heard? What’s the toll on your mental health, royal or not? When our kids and teens talk, can we tap into the full power of listening? We discuss the way the public health conversation may change after Oprah's interview with Megan and Harry. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit available until March 30th! Purchase the self-paced course Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There's a lot of bad advice out there to weed through when so many claim to be parenting or anxiety experts. But some well-meaning advice will actually strengthen your child's anxious habits, and Lynn Lyons explains why. Previous Episodes Mentioned: The Anxiety Vaccine Part 2: What Parents Can Do Right Now When a Family Experiences Trauma New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course. Register closes Friday March 5th for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

All parents need this pep talk about managing COVID fatigue. And we recast a very popular episode. Anxiety shows up in the body—headaches, tummy troubles, and more. We talk about how understanding the mind body connection can help manage the physical symptoms of anxiety for you and your kids. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course. Register for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Previous Episodes Mentioned: The Anxiety Vaccine Part 2: What Parents Can Do Right Now Extreme Shame and Self-Harm Unpacking Your Family’s Emotional Baggage and Starting Fresh With Your Kids New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course. Register for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Does parenting squash all romance? No, resentment does. This pandemic has disproportionately impacted mothers. It's putting our relationships to the test. So as we work to support our kids, there are traps we all fall into our our relationships. We talk about learning to ask for help in the right way, dropping that defensiveness, reducing that resentment, and how improving your co-parenting will help your kids more than you know, New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course. Register for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We end Season 2 with a bang of an episode. Finishing off our conversation about preventing anxiety in our kids, we tackle the toxicity of our achievement culture. It’s so normalized it’s invisible to us. And we answer a listener question about how to develop a strong work ethic in her 8 year old twins. Lynn has a must hear answer for kids of any age. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course. Register for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we face a mental health crisis alongside the pandemic that we really focus on the emotional management skills that we can teach our children. It's an effective way to immunize them against emotional difficulties by talking about their emotions, raising their awareness of them, and parents modeling emotional literacy. Lynn discusses the commons trait that most anxious parents have in common in how they raise anxious kids. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course. Register for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

While we wait for a vaccine distribution plan to address our global pandemic, there is a mental health crisis happening simultaneously. Our numbers for anxiety were alarming even before 2020, and now, yikes. But there ways parents can promote a skill-based immunization strategy for our family’s mental health. Is there really a vaccine for anxiety? We reference a webinar featuring Lynn Lyons with Dr. Ashish Jha, MD and Dean of the Brown School of Public Health called "Living Through the Pandemic: Managing Hope and Concern with Vaccines on the Horizon." New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Register for the live workshop by 7pm EST January 22nd, 2021. Purchase the self-paced course. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and fundraise with Lynn's courses. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Supporting Our Teens Teens are part of the age group hardest hit by the impact of the pandemic. Missing out on both the social development and high school's rituals, teens are losing motivation, sleep, and connection. Here's how to help them. We reference a past episode on election anxiety that has many relevant tips to process and talk about very stressful current events in a healthy way with your kids. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Register for the live workshop. Purchase the self-paced course. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and fundraise with Lynn's courses. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Shame & Soul How do you support your children who feel shame very intensely? They feel shame so intensely that it might include self harming practices. What do you say when children say "I feel no worth?" Or "I can't believe I did that," or "I'm so stupid." How do you support your children who handle their mistakes in such a way that's self-punitive, and they're unforgiving with themselves? Also, we watched the movie soul and there is a message in that movie that we want all parents to hear. 26:00 Lynn and Robin discuss Pixar's latest movie Soul and the teaching opportunities in it for kids and parents. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Register for the live workshop. Purchase the self-paced course. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and fundraise with Lynn's courses. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Register for the live workshop. Purchase the self-paced course. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Silliness has never been a more a critical parenting tool than in 2020. Here's how to use it to make manage your anxiety and make your kids feel safe. Creating "joy" with your family may sound like too much pressure, so we break it down to a few 2 minute increments of joy. And we discuss the toxic humor to avoid. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Registration begins January 1. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For some families, holidays bring out their toughest dynamics. How do divorced parents manage a blended holiday putting their kids first? What if you have a house of angry teenagers with one of them recently in crisis? Is it possible to enjoy your holiday at home when all they want to do is fight? The digital picture frame Lynn references is on Amazon. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if COVID is giving you a pass this year that relieves you? What if you're glad to miss a family holiday? One listener hates Christmas because of her overbearing and difficult mother? How do you set boundaries with your parents? And is it ever too late? Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Santaphobia is real. Santa can freak some kids out. How do you help your child who’s afraid Santa will bring COVID into the house? How do you help the child who doesn’t want to hear anything at all about Santa? And how can the Santa story creep into toxic territory when used as a threatening or shaming tool? Do you do that? What’s a healthy way to talk about Santa? Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if your kids are freaking out that they can't celebrate their December holidays in the usual way this year? What if you are? Parents have an exceptional burden this year trying to make magic when they probably don't feel it. How do you manage the disappointment everyone feels and find inspiration to make the best of a situation this December? Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you have an anxious tween or teen who didn't like joining in before, how do you support them in a pandemic with remote learning? And another parent asks about her six year old's struggles with blaming others and finding friends. What do you say to the child who says, "Nobody likes me?" Books mentioned in this episode: Playing With Anxiety by Lynn Lyons and Reid Wilson Outsmarting Worry by Dawn Huebner David Gets In Trouble by David Shannon Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 has challenged every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves. Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm and tells parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast free of psychobabble and full of concrete advice. In each episode, Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. Find us at flusterclux.com Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Just because your Thanksgiving table will have empty chairs this year, doesn't mean that your family's dynamics aren't with you. What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dysfunctional generational patterns and give our kids the space for healthy feelings. This is an updated version of a previous episode (#10) about three of the most powerful patterns that shape not just our relationships with our families, partners, children, and friends but the world outside our homes. Lynn walks us through the very big sweet spot where we want to be modeling for our kids healthy emotional management and examples of the extremes to avoid. Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"It'll be okay." "Everything will be fine." "I'm right here." Our kids turned to us for reassurance, and anxious kids ask for a lot of it. When we tell them everything will be fine, it feels like the right thing to do in the moment. But is it? How does our well-meaning reassurance interfere with our children developing critical psychological skills? And what should we do instead? We'll answer that question in this week's episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting. Lynn Lyons 0:32 Hi, I'm Lynn Lyons. I'm an anxiety expert, speaker, Mom and author. I've been a therapist for 30 years. Robin Hutson 0:38 You're here because your family has some anxiety issues, or you want to prevent them. I'm your co-host and Lynn's sister in law, Robin, and I'm here to ask your questions. Lynn Lyons 0:47 Parenting can be a Flusterclux, and I'll help you find your way. There are so many things that we do for our kids, things that are loving and caring and supportive. Things that feel intuitive. Things that we know make our kids feel better. Oh, but if you've heard me talk about these things, oftentimes when it comes to worry and anxiety, there are a few of these things that get a little bit tricky, a little bit sticky. And we're going to talk about one of those. Today, we're going to talk about reassurance. Watch the What I know What I don't Know video on Lynn's Facebook page of her explaining the game. Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We'll hear a lot of hype about gratitude with the holidays coming. We'll go over how gratitude is proven to help you and how you may have been thinking about it all wrong. What are gratitude's powers? And what are its limits? And one listener asks what to do for her usually studious freshman, who's suddenly indifferent to high school and grades this year. Recommended talks on gratitude Brian Doyle, 365 Days of Thank you Louie Schwartzberg, Nature. Beauty. Gratitude. Laura Tice, Remember to Say Thank You Michael Norton, How to Buy Happiness Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. Robin reads Lynn a listener question on what to do for a usually studious freshman who's suddenly indifferent to high school and grades this year. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode and to learn more about the origins of Chip and Dale and the Chippendale dancers. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Anxiety is loud and messy. And it's physical, and it brings with its diarrhea and vomiting and headaches and tummy aches and hives, and all sorts of physical symptoms that can really confuse kids and parents alike. 2:08 Robin references Lynn's video that breakdown the physical process of anxiety for kids. 19:23 The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. 19:34 Robin reads Lynn a listener question Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your middle schooler is the opposite of a perfectionist— dirty hair, dirty room, indifference to academics, we discuss. And how do you parent your anxious kids in front of unsupportive in-laws? We’ll answer that question in this week’s episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting. 1:01 Robin asks Lynn a question from a listener who was reacting to the perfectionism episode a few shows back. Her middle schooler is the opposite of a perfectionist embracing sloppiness and mediocrity. 14:53 Lynn references Robin’s travel website Luxe Recess. 18:57 Robin shares why she uses a circle to manage her kids screen time. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. 17:41 Robin reads a listener question about a mother-in-law who is unsupportive and passive aggressive. 19:38 Lynn references her mentor Michael Yapko and his saying there’s a difference between something that impacts you personally, and something that you have to take personally. 26:26 Robin references Lynn’s books and videos as resources for parents and grandparents to get on the same page helping an anxious child. 29:46 Join the Flusterclux Facebook group, so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Winter is coming; let's talk about how to prevent depression. While 2020 has put anxiety center stage, there are risk factors that can bring about depression, too. What are they? And if you have them, what can you do? We'll answer that question in this week's episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting. 15:16 Lynn references Michael Yapko, one of her professional mentors. 29:17 Robin reads a listener question about a 13-year-old who sought treatment for social anxiety in the past. Since COVID, she’s become more withdrawn, eating less and just not interested in going anywhere. How does one know if she really is fine or if it’s more serious like depression. 38:46 So, join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you have an opportunity to ask Lynn, your question for an upcoming episode. And that’s Flusterclux with an X. SUGGESTED READING LIST Breaking the Patterns of Depression by Michael Yapko Advice I Ignored: Stories and Wisdom from a Formerly Depressed Teenager by Ruby Walker Feeling Great: The Revolutionary New Treatment for Depression and Anxiety by David Burns New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

:40 Lynn cites the American Psychological Association research, 68% of adults say currently that the election is “a significant source of stress.” 19:39 Lynn references a past episode that talks about when parents argue and model a resolution verses the vitriol of political debates among family members. 29:04 And Robin recommends all three seasons of Long Way Up starring Ewan McGregor and Charley Boorman as an antidote for election anxiety. 30:22 Lynn recommends the Dolly Parton documentary Here I Am on Netflix. 32:20 please join the Flusterclux Facebook group. And we want to let our listeners know that we are switching our schedule, and new episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Episode 27 arrives October 23rd. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

1:13 We’re going to do a progress report for students this fall. 4:04 HOW TO SUPPORT YOUNG LEARNERS THIS FALL 7:15 MIDDLE SCHOOLERS AND REMOTE LEARNING 13:01 HIGH SCHOOL, COLLEGE, and ACADEMIC PRESSURE 17:56 Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle to manage your kids’ screen time at home. 18:22 A LISTENER QUESTION: THE CHILD THERAPIST RELATIONSHIP “I have a 17 year old daughter with general and social anxiety that is seeing a licensed mental health professional for about nine months now. I’ve now realized this professional is not making any headway with my daughter’s anxiety. How do I end the relationship with this therapist? My daughter does like her, and 1) find a new therapist that can truly help my daughter and 2) not cause my daughter’s anxiety to go into a tailspin with a new therapist and possibly damage our relationship.” 24:59 WHAT TO ASK A CHILD THERAPIST FOR ANXIETY Lynn goes over the questions parents should ask any potential therapist for their child. She goes over recommended approaches for anxiety and OCD. 27:36 Robin and Lynn discuss their obsession with watching Masterclass lessons. 33:22 Join the Facebook group so that you can ask Lynn your question on future episodes. Follow Flusterclux on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

0:55 Lynn mentions an eating disorder called avoidant restrictive food intake disorder that came out in the latest edition of the DSM five, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual Fifth Edition of Psychiatric Diagnosis. 6:22 Robin shares a parenting hack to introduce new fruits or vegetables to young children. 8:47 Robin suggests a game called eat your face, where you take a variety of cut up fruits and vegetables to start design facial expressions. 14:06 Robin asks Lynn if picky eaters are grasping for control because they do not feel that have autonomy. 26:52 Lynn describes what isn’t a picky eater. 28:18 Robin references Lynn’s books, Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents. Use the Circle to manage your kids screen time. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a circle. I love it. 30:59 Listener Question about the pandemic affecting a child's memory. Join the Facebook group so you can ask your question to Lynn in a future episode. Closing Music Courtesy of Susie Tallman, "Apples & Bananas" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

1:09 Lynn describes the connection of perfectionism and anxiety in adults and kids she treats and suggests parents start looking at themselves and the messages around perfectionism they are sending. Robin references the book The Conscious Bride. 11:23 Lynn mentions the episode when she refers to the marital snort. 13:52 Lynn discusses the connection between perfectionism and procrastination and signs of perfectionism in children. 23:30 The Circle is what we use to manage our kids’ screen time. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a circle device for your home. 23:37 Robin reads a listener question for Lynn to answer about two girls who have anxiety of getting shots. 31:03 Robin references the co-parenting episode in relation to loading the dishwasher. 32:03 We talk about family silliness and the idea of embracing the messy 33:14 We encourage you to join our Facebook group so that you can submit a question for a future episode with Lynn. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lynn references the three prior episodes on the arc of diagnosis in anxiety and depression and what to notice in your child and what to do if you have a diagnosis and helping your child get the best treatment. 3:02 Robin mentioned in one of our first episodes the powerful that when children see us being playful, it’s telling them that they are safe— that the world is okay. 3:45 Lynn references an amazing podcast on bias with Jordan Harbinger and mentions Paul Eckman’s work on micro-expressions. 14:41 Robin talks about blogger Tania Lamb and her Halloween costumes, and I think she has a Facebook Live show, and her website is called Lola Lambchops. 20:58 Lynn shows the family culture of comedy giving James Corden and his parents as examples of two people who love to laugh. 22:30 We talk about teasing being toxic and not to exploit a child’s suffering, referencing Jimmy Kimmel’s annual Halloween candy prank as something not to do. But we are all for pranking adults like young woman who got her wisdom teeth out and her brothers picked her up and convinced her there was a zombie apocalypse. LISTENER QUESTION 23:03 This listener question is from a mom of three teens who are home with remote learning. She wants to know how to keep her kids engaged with work, and wonders how much nagging it acceptable to keep everyone on track while also working from home. MANAGE YOUR INTERNET WITH A CIRCLE 34:13 It lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kids’ Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off of a Circle. I love it. 34:30 Lynn brings up the discussion of fears from the week prior and explains why she is afraid of rats and the role the movies in our heads play in conjuring fear. Robin is afraid of sharks. 36:53 Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Suggested Reading Don't Say That Depression Is Caused by a Chemical Imbalance Stressors and chemical imbalances: Beliefs about the causes of depression in an acute psychiatric treatment sample. Suggested Viewing Lynn Lyons' Teen Anxiety and Depression Webinar Michael Yapko's Keys to Unlock Depression: Why Skills Work Better Than Pills Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

1:00 Lynn provides an overview of getting a child a mental health diagnosis and asks th4e questions all parents should consider. How do you get one? Do you need one? 8:26 Lynn explains the right way to think about a diagnosis and its role in treating a child or teen. She explains a child’s diagnosis is often a family diagnosis and references the book Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents that give families a roadmap after an anxiety diagnosis. She talks about how a depression, anxiety or ADHD diagnosis affects all members of the family and how to stop accommodating the diagnosis. 12:47 We talk about siblings of the diagnosed child and how they experience the disorder. 17:28 Robin talks about why she love her Circle to manage screen time with her kids. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off of a Circle. 18:10 Robin reads a listener question by a parent who is married to someone with anxiety and depression that has increased from the stress of two children, one with special needs and work. Lynn shares references for couples therapy: Michelle Wiener-Davis, and Terry Real. ADDITIONAL BOOKS AND PODCASTS FOR PARENTS WITH SPECIAL NEEDS KIDS Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid: A Survival Guide for Ordinary Parents of Special Children Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid Podcast The Mama Bear podcast Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask Lynn a question in a future episode. The podcast launched with the temporary name A Mom's Retreat in April 2020 for its pilot season. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 will challenge every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves. Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm and tells parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast free of psychobabble and full of concrete advice. In each episode, Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/ The podcast launched with the temporary name A Mom's Retreat in April 2020 for its pilot season. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Show Notes 0:34 Lynn and Robin discuss the new season of Flusterclux and describe who the podcast is for. Lynn describes emotional management as a goal for her therapy clients and her own family and why it is such a critical skill to strengthen relationships and prevent loneliness. 6:10 Robin and Lynn discuss the reason behind the name change from A Mom’s Retreat to Flusterclux. 8:46 Robin asks Lynn how families can tell if anxiety and anxious patterns are creeping into a household as a result of the stress of 2020. Lynn talks about rigidity and routine and explains the critical importance of flexibility within a routine for children and teens. 19:06 Robin asks Lynn how parents should be talking to their children about fall schedules to make room for its possibilities of changing. 21:53 Robin asks Lynn if there are better ways to talk to teens about school this fall than others to promote flexibility and adaptability. Lynn asks listeners a critical question she suggests all families ask themselves about the pandemic. 24:19 Lynn answers a listener question about a child who gets anxious being on camera and needs a reassurance that remote learning cannot provide. Lynn talks about the skill to develop around accepting criticism and social anxiety’s fear of judgement. 30:12 Lynn shares stories of her husband’s past whistling and then shows off her own whistling talents. 32:10 Join our Facebook group so that you can submit a question for a future episode with Lynn. We thank our sponsor Milestones Pediatric Therapy Center. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/ Show music by Peter Sandberg. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Show Notes :037 Robin reads the first of three listener questions in the episode. the first question. A mom asks how to help her six-year-old son who says other kids hate him. Lynn provides guidance on improving social skills as a life-long challenge, learning to take criticism, and learning to play with more flexibility. 12:06 The second listener question involves a family who experienced a traumatic accident while hiking together when a boulder crushed their daughter. They are trying to help her overcome her PTSD and flashbacks from the accident. Lynn discussing how to create mental distance from the event, avoid globalizing the event, and how to support the family’s different preferences of healing. 26:40 Robin reads the 3rd listener question about encouraging flexibility in a 4 year old. 27:07 Lynn teaches parents how to encourage flexibility in their children using the wall of flexibility and uncooked spaghetti. 31:44 Robin and Lynn discuss the Annie’s Mac and Cheese stage of parenting 33:42 Robin mentioned Lynn’s book Anxious Kids Anxious Parents that she wrote with Reid Wilson. Season 2 begins with new name next week! 33:06 Lynn mentions this is our last episode before we launch Season Two next Monday, 8/31/20 with a brand-new name. If you are a subscriber, it will be a seamless transition. Make sure that you subscribe on whatever platform you listen to the podcast on. And also at 8:30PM on Sunday night, August 30, join us on the Mom’s Retreat Facebook page for a live Facebook get together where we will give have giveaways and share announcements about new content coming for Season 2. So please join us this Sunday, August 30th at 8:30PM EST. See you then! Find us at www.amomsretreat.com https://www.facebook.com/amomsretreat https://www.instagram.com/amomsretreat/ https://twitter.com/Amomsretreat Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

0:49 Robin reads the first question from listeners. Hi, I’m a school counselor in an elementary school. The return to school has many parents, myself included, anxious. With that said, how do you suggest I coach parents on supporting students prior to the return date? We know kids are picking up their cues from the adults. They’re surrounded by and many times those adults are unintentionally feeding student fears. How can I assist a family member and myself who’s super stressed and anxious, but is unwilling or unable to change patterns? 7:44 Lynn talks about the importance of positive expectancy in our language with our children. 9:44 Lynn gives in home and at school ways to create ritual for a new school year. 12:10 Lynn talks about why academics are NOT the priority this fall, and has a special message for parents concerned about their children falling behind academically. 15:49 Robin reads the second listener question about teacher anxiety I facilitate the majority of our building-based professional development as I try to think about what the fall will look like, and I really can’t. We have a few teachers we’re really concerned about in regards to their emotional health and readiness for in-person instruction. My principal and I have discussed this at length, how do we address this with them gracefully without putting them over the edge and make them feel supported? We think they could really use some professional help. What can we do? 19:17 Robin referenced one of Lynn’s Facebook Live videos talking about feeling back to school anxiety for the first time: “the worry rookies”. 21:13 Robin talked about this Facebook post that was a letter from nurses to teachers. 22:03 Lynn talks about not misplacing anger or blame on the school situation but to model empathy. Get inspired by our summer guide in order to make some memories or celebrate the start of school. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

0:31 HOW TO HELP SIBLINGS STOP FIGHTING “How to best deal with sibling fights being stuck at home for such an extended time. All the extra emotions everyone is feeling siblings are fighting way more than usual. What can I do?” 0:54 Lynn differentiates between the two kinds of sibling fights. One is that it’s mostly verbal and yelling and calling each other names or arguing over who gets to sit where on the couch, etc. And the other is when they get physical, and so somebody is in danger of getting hurt. 7:42 AVOID “BOYS WILL BE BOYS” THINKING Lynn explains the negative impact tolerating violence causes and how to set limits to curb it. 13:49 The Montessori school cure all of a little Dixie cup of water 14:30 A WORKING MOM WITH AN EMPTY TANK “As a working mom with two children under five, I’ve noticed a significant change in my own frustration, tolerance, and increased exhaustion and anger during the quarantine. Aside from taking a walk with the stroller, time alone or spending any time on myself is just nonexistent. And neither child sleeps through the night consistently. What strategies can I employ at home to be less emotionally reactive?” 15:09 Start with sleep. We did a whole episode on sleep, 19:11 The playifcation on relaxation with tingly head massagers that are in the shape of a tulip. 22:09 Join our Facebook group where you can submit your own questions to Lynn for a future episode. We’re relaunching this podcast August 31st for a second season under a new name. Follow our social media. That’s where you’ll learn about the new name first. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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For our summer bonus episodes, Lynn is answering listener questions. "Help. I do not recognize my newly turned 13-year-old, she is exhibiting behavior I never would have anticipated. She has a thrill for adrenaline and constantly asking me about stupid things I did as a kid, and I feel like I'm mourning the sweetest little girl I've ever known. She recently confessed that she has attempted cutting which absolutely floored me." Lynn talks about how to help your teenagers develop skills to say no to their friends and how to show empathy without imitating their friends who have self destructive habits. Lynn mentions her webinar, Teens, Anxiety, and Depression, for teens and parents for families who feel that their children are struggling during this age. Robin references Lynn's Facebook Live video about the stresses of fall school and how parents are trying to manage the choices of going back to school this fall. If you have a listener question for Lynn, be sure to join the podcast Facebook group to submit one. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The research shows this pandemic has been disruptive to our families in significant ways. It's putting our marriages and relationships to the test. Collegial coparenting is critical. So as we share the parenting load, there are traps we all fall into with our partners and spouses. Lynn talks about asking for help in the right way, dropping defensiveness, resentment, and learning not to take the wrong things personally. In this episode Robin references Deb Perelmen's article in the New York Times: "In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both." Robin also references an episode of Celebrity Wife Swap but could not remember who starred in the episode. It was actually the premiere episode featuring Carnie Wilson and Tracey Gold. When referencing the movie This is 40 by Judd Apatow, Robin speaks of her past as a travel writer and how she's trying to bring the feeling of a vacation into the home. And if you need some inspiration, we have that summer episode guide from last week with all sorts of ways to create some family fun. The end song is Susie Tallman's Kookaburra, from one of her many outstanding children's albums. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Summer's here, and after our spring, we all would like to have some special summer moments outside with our families. In this episode, Lynn Lyons discusses how to handle common reactions from children. Maybe your child is anxious the virus and doesn't want to ease back into normal activities. Maybe your older kids are wanting to be too social or not social enough. We unpack boredom and its connection to creativity and unstructured play so that listeners can be ready with a constructive response to "I'm bored". And finally we discuss our ultimate summer guide to family fun. We asked podcast listeners to share their ideas on ways to make some magic for their kids this summer. The guide has 33 ideas: inside, outside, virtual, and local; you're bound to find ideas right for your family. We mention several things for summer activities and socializing that we compiled as an Amazon list. It includes the chocolate coins, picnic and hiking supplies, and the portable potty system Robin discusses. Music at the end of the episode includes "Summertime" with permission by Susie Tallman whose children's albums were some of our favorites when our kids were younger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This has been a crazy 2020. I mean, things were changing month by month, then week by week now, day by day, and kids are feeling more emotional. Maybe you're seeing an uptick in their anxiety, they're a little more withdrawn, more depressed, maybe there's an increasing feeling of anger or fear or frustration about what's going on in the world with the virus and with the protests. So today, we're going to take questions from you, the listeners, about the things you're seeing emotionally in your kids and what we can do to help as we try and navigate what continues to be such a tricky time. Lynn answers five questions from members of our Facebook group. And we discuss our next episode on ways to make your summer still memorable with several ideas for socially distanced family fun. Read a complete transcript on our website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As the world reacts to the Black Lives Matter movement, we discuss how emotional management can help white people handle white fragility and why families should stop the cycle of raising colorblind children. We provide additional resources for our listeners to read, watch, and listen to for themselves and their children. Articles for Therapists, Teachers, and Parents An Invitation to White Therapists Specific, Candid, and Helpful Responses to Expressions of Racism and Bias My White Friend Asked Me on Facebook to Explain White Privilege. I Decided to Be Honest As a Black Mother, My Parenting Is Always Political Dear White Parents, My Black Son and Husband Need You Right Now White Kids Need to Start Using Their Privilege for Good — Here’s How to Teach Them 9 Phrases Allies Can Say When Called Out Instead of Getting Defensive Beyond Blackout Tuesday: Starting Your Lifelong Anti-Racism Journey Suggested Reading So You Want to Talk About Race, by Ijeoma Oluo Waking Up White, by Debby Irving How To Be Less Stupid About Race, by Crystal M. Donaldson How To Be An Anti-Racist, by Ibram X. Kendi Antagonists, Advocates, and Allies by Catrice M Jackson Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad They Were Her Property by Stephanie E. Jones-Rogers, PhD I’m Still Here by Austin Channing Social Media To Follow Ally Henny's Facebook Page Rachel Cargle's Instagram Page Waste Free Marie's Instagram Page Podcasts By Black Mothers Articles by Black Bloggers To Support 5 Movies To Watch On Netflix In June 2020 Starring Black Leads Black YouTube Family Vloggers DO Exist! 3 TV Moments That Perfectly Portray “The Talk” For Black Families Teach Your Child to Be An Advocate For Change Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dysfunctional generational patterns and give our kids the space for healthy feelings. This is a very special episode about three of the most powerful patterns that shape not just our relationships with our families, partners, children, and friends but the world outside our homes. Lynn walks us through the very big sweet spot where we want to be modeling for our kids healthy emotional management and examples of the extremes to avoid. Links to what we talked about The Jane Fonda documentary Our prior episode on flattening our emotional curve "Ac Cent Tchu Ate The Positive" that great Bing Crosby and the Andrew Sisters cover Everyone should watch Lynn's video on her website of a lecture she gave called "Can Mr. Rogers Save Us All?" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mom guilt, burnout, and stress over remote learning has most parents exhausted these days. Hear psychotherapist Lynn Lyons share ways to manage these common pandemic parenting stresses. In this bonus episode, we asked listeners to share what they needed help with most, and Lynn delivers strategies to make days smoother. 1:38 We address burnout and how to fill an empty tank is small breaks. 6:56 A listener mentions that she feels guilty telling her children she is working when they want her attention. Lynn discusses the real purpose of guilt as an emotion and the toxicity of misapplied guilt. 12:06 The conversation moves to schoolwork stress and how to give the right space for kids to perform and why getting involved isn't always best. 19:06 We discuss how the lockdown has been a teacher of resilience for kids used to getting what they want. Lynn describes the difference between disruption and devastation and how the pandemic affects families differently. Lynn explains that our own self care must be independent of our children's emotions. 29:29 Robin asks Lynn to relay a time as a mom that she couldn't easily show her vanilla ice cream face. Read the whole transcript on our site. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Our sleep is very illustrative of other things that are going on. When we opened it up on our Facebook group and asked people if they had questions, we got a lot of responses. So, for anybody who's listening and who's wondering whether or not the sleep issues that they're dealing with in their family are unique, the answer is no. They are not. 3:42 Our first section of the show, Lynn offers guidance to parents of younger children. Starting at age four, Lynn offers ways for children to fall asleep and stay in their own beds. Lynn gives a glimpse of the recorded scripts she makes for her clients to help their children go to sleep, and we offer a free download of an example for you to use. 13:15 Lynn talks about the "mommy fruit scale" and how to convey to your younger kids that you just feel out of gas. 14:45 Lynn goes over realistic boundaries for tween and teen sleeping schedules and how to negotiate healthy sleep limits with them. We talk about the role of devices in sleep disruption and how to manage it. We discuss a WiFI device that can shut off at night to prevent kids from accessing the internet past bedtime. Use our affiliate link for a $20 off coupon. 22:35 We discuss the need to limit our exposure to the news, particularly children, who cannot process it well, as one listener's 4th grader is now waking throughout the night and watching news throughout the day. 26:20 Lynn gives parents her own favorite sleep trick that prevents the brain from ruminating. She goes over her ABC game and its magical amount of cognitive functioning to prevent rumination. Outro music is the wonderful Susie Tallman and her cover of "Slumber Song" from her album Lullaby Themes For Sleepy Dreams. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices