Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

This episode tackles a relatable and critical question from a listener: what do I do about my own anxiety as my child goes from kid to tween to teen? The key is learning the difference between normal adolescent development and your parental anxiety’s desire to take charge. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song – after you purchase, you’ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to melin.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout for 30% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Our guest on this episode is Lynn’s amazing colleague, Mindy Szelap, a therapist who is known affectionately as the Poop Lady. Because anxiety has connections to all sorts of stomach problems, including constipation and pain, Mindy offers information and tips for dealing with worried tummies. Find Mindy here: bayareaspacetreatment.com WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song – after you purchase, you’ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to melin.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout for 30% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do your kids lie? The answer is likely yes. And we adults do, too, because honesty is not always the best policy. In this episode, we talk about lying, what’s normal developmentally, and how to help your kids better understand the nuances. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song – after you purchase, you’ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to melin.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout for 30% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this recast of a popular episode from last year, sit in on Lynn's consultation with Mom, Dad and their high school junior who would prefer just staying in his room for most of the summer. Lynn helps identify the skill most teens need to strengthen — the skill of doing something you don't really want to do (and how it applies to getting a first job, applying to college, or completing schoolwork). Most parents will find this a very relatable episode about teens learning to motivate themselves to move forward despite some discomfort. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Mother’s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song – after you purchase, you’ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Go to CLARITIN.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parents often focus on the details of a child’s anxiety or frustration or distress. The parental interrogation fueled by “I have to know what happened and they should be able to tell me” is a common sentiment. Do you fall prey to needing to know the details? Our desire to know is less important than supporting our children’s ability to manage their emotions and learn problem solving. Can you help without knowing the details? Yes, yes, yes! WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Mother’s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song – after you purchase, you’ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Go to CLARITIN.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s graduation time. Robin is smack in the middle of this emotional time and Lynn has navigated it twice. So they’re both crying. ...and here's the Katrina Kenison piece that Lynn mentions: https://www.katrinakenison.com/2020/03/16/the-gift-of-an-ordinary-day/ WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Mother’s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song – after you purchase, you’ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Go to CLARITIN.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you been hearing a lot about boundaries lately? And “toxic relationships"? Buzzwords capture our—and our children’s—attention, but what do memes and quotes on social media actually teach us about managing friendships and repairing ruptures? In this episode we talk about the skills of repair, the importance of connection, and valuing relationships amidst the pull of a throw-away culture. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Mother’s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song – after you purchase, you’ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Go to CLARITIN.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes kids have big reactions over seemingly small things. Or they panic over something that hasn’t really bothered them in the past. Is this a “new” problem, or a different piece content that worry has discovered? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Mother’s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song – after you purchase, you’ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Go to CLARITIN.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Pediatricians and family physicians are on the front lines of our children’s mental health needs. In fact, they are reporting more and more that it’s the most common (and often most challenging) issue they are addressing with families. On this episode, Lynn and Robin are joined by Dr. Jessica Hochman, whose practice and podcast (Ask Dr. Jessica) focus on helping families feel more confident and informed. What is it like to be a pediatrician in the age of worry? What is most satisfying/challenging for her as she strives to balance offering information, decreasing worry, and supporting healthy connection? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for GREENLIGHT today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Mother’s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this recast of a popular Season 5 episode, we continue our discussion on loneliness, this time focusing on adults. Making friends in adulthood feels risky. If you are at all anxious or introverted, vulnerability and rejection hardly seem worth it. But connection is possible once we dispel some limiting beliefs. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for GREENLIGHT today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Mother’s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you wish your child could hear about worry directly from Lynn? Here you go! In previous episodes Lynn has spoken directly to teens; this episode is for the youngsters. She describes how worry works, what makes it better and worse, and how to externalize and talk to worry. Listen with your child! Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for GREENLIGHT today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Mother’s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’ve talked about kids and phones before, but it deserves another deeper look. What’s the impact of younger and younger children having smartphones? The research shows big shifts on mental health after 2010? It’s time to talk about the consequences of smartphones seriously. Here is the article by Jonathan Haidt which we discuss in this episode: https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2024/03/teen-childhood-smartphone-use-mental-health-effects/677722/ Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for GREENLIGHT today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Mother’s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Death is a part of life, but it still scares most of us. When children experience death and other types of loss, they grieve in different ways, depending on age, family culture, and personality. How can you help your child deal with loss and grief, especially when you yourself are grieving? What can parents do and say to help children navigate a painful but universal human experience? And can we do better when showing our children how to support others? UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster. Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every once in a while, teens need a pep talk that is based on accurate information and hopeful language about their moods, their relationships and their mental health. Anxiety and depression are common and powerful but not inevitable and certainly not permanent. Listen to this with your teen. Then, have a talk and listen more. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster. Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s a fact: some kids need more social coaching than others. And if your child (or you!) struggle with anxiety, practicing social skills is both more challenging and more vital. How do we enhance our kids’ ability to make good friends? The research offers some interesting do’s and don’ts that will be helpful to all parents! UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster. Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lynn often says that the hardest people to work with in her practice are the ones that don’t own their own stuff. In this episode, we talk about owning patterns in your marriage. Both Robin and Lynn work with their husbands and both are consistently working on owning and breaking patterns. Do you get defensive? Of course you do! We’ll get specific in this episode. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster. Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A global cognitive style, to use the fancy terminology, means that your perceptions of the world or yourself are broad and overly general: “All dogs are mean” or “I never get anything right.” Because this pattern is a solid predictor for depression and anxiety, it’s one to recognize and interrupt. We’ll talk about how to make helpful shifts in your family. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back . And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As college acceptance letters arrive, it 's timely to revisit this popular episode from Season 4! Parents and students are focusing on college admissions earlier and earlier, hoping to get a head start on what has become an increasingly competitive race through high school. They say they want their kids to be “happy” and “successful” in college, but if parents are obsessed with the "getting in," are they developing the right skills to help them thrive once there? Anxiety expert and therapist Lynn Lyons shares her perspective after treating teens for decades through this process (and well after). We invite you to listen (or re-listen!) to our prior episode, "High Anxiety & Good Grades: Our Toxic Achievement Culture". UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back . And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Adults often wonder why the “plan” they have in place for their anxious child doesn’t work. In this episode, Lynn explains why this happens (your goals and hopes aren’t enough) and what to do instead (it’s all about the skills to manage worry when it arrives.) UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back . And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lynn often refers to anxiety as a cult leader: powerful, demanding compliance, and full of rigid rules. What happens when one family member wants out? Or when a long generational pattern of worry resists any change? In this episode, we break down the pull of the anxiety cult and how to change the rules for you and your family, even when others refuse. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back . And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lately listeners have been asking about performance anxiety, particularly when it shows up in sports. Should we push our child to compete? What if they love to practice but don’t perform during games? The truth is that very few children will actually become pro athletes, so sports and other activities become opportunities to learn valuable anxiety and emotional management skills. Here is the Today show article which Lynn mentions: Should you let your kids quit? Experts share advice on when to know it’s OK UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when children are the absolute focus of a family? Marriages suffer, says Michele Weiner-Davis, a renowned relationship expert who pulls couples back from the brink. We asked Michele to bust some couple myths and set us straight. Boy, she knows her stuff. Books by Michelle Weiner-Davis: Divorce Busting, The Divorce Remedy, Healing from Infidelity, The Sex-Starved Marriage, The Sex-Starved Wife. The Sex-Starved Marriage, a Ted Talk by Michelle Weiner-Davis. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dating and doubt go together like peanut butter and jelly. Anxiety and worry love to invade, looking for certainty in every text, post, and conversation. And what about parenting teens through this stage? Teens are (developmentally) driving full speed while we’d like them to pump the brakes. In this episode, what you need to know about worry, dating, ruminating and relationships. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Seeking therapy for you or your child can feel like a big step for many reasons. Combined with busy schedules and long waiting lists, and affordability getting help can be unobtainable. In this episode, we talk about how to overcome some of those barriers, with DIY ideas and great resources available right now. Books, podcast & websites referenced in this episode: ADHD Expert Dr. Sharon Saline How to Recover from Depression: A talk on Youtube by Michael Yapko Breaking the Patterns of Depression by Michael Yapko ADHD DUDE Ryan Wexelblatt The Puberty Podcast The Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Lisa Damor The Anxiety Audit by Lynn Lyons Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents by Reid Wilson & Lynn Lyons What to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck by Dawn Huebner Feeling Great by David Burns Stopping the Noise in Your Head by Reid Wilson Anxieties.com [Website of Reid Wilson] Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts by Sally Winston & Martin Seif No Time to Panic by Matt Gutman UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Categories and labels are appealing because they help us make sense of a complex world. And there are definitely times when a label can help. But labels can also be limiting. When we label our kids—and when teens label themselves—we risk permanent and global identities that get in the way of growth and malleability. WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this recast of a popular episode, we talk about the parenting phrases we love, how they help with emotional management, and why you need to have a few of these in your back pocket, ready to use when needed. These help for your kids whether they are 3 or 33. WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024! And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this recast of a popular Season 5 episode, we discuss how positive connection is the goal... but is there such a thing as too connected? Yup, and it’s called enmeshment. In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk privacy, autonomy, and boundaries. If your goal is to be “best friends” with your child, have a listen. WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024! And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you afraid of your anxious child’s outbursts? Are you allowing those big tantrums to rule the house and dictate your parenting? Sparked by a listener question, this episode dives into a common problem: how do we change the family patterns caused by a rigid, anxious child’s explosive behavior? WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024! And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Two (really) stressed gals show up for this episode to talk about injecting fun and playfulness into holiday events. Robin and Lynn share lots of ideas wrapped up in a little encouragement, and by the end, they both feel better. We think you will, too! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024! And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Not disappointing others seems like a good thing, right? But when make it your global goal, you will decrease your credibility and increase your own feelings of resentment. In this mini episode we talk about the benefits of knowing how and when to say no. WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024! And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this not-to-be missed episode, Lynn and Robin talk to the expert Lynn values most, Dr. Michael Yapko. Dr. Yapko is one of the world’s foremost experts on depression, how it moves through families, and what parents need to do about prevention. He knows the research and shares it, busting myths and offering advice we guarantee you haven’t heard before. WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024! And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many parents struggle with the question of how to help a child who feels overwhelmed in an unfamiliar situation, by loud noises, or the start of a new activity. When do we gently push them forward, when do we let them avoid, and how do we handle our own worry so it doesn’t add to the problem? CHECK OUT OUR PLAYLISTS ON SPECIFIC MENTAL HEALTH & PARENTING TOPICS Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. TAKE A COURSE ON ANXIETY MANAGEMENT Explore our additional resources for adults and children. FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024! And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Families will often avoid game night or other family competitions if a child has difficulty losing. Or they require the game to be “fixed” so the bad loser doesn’t lose. Games (and winning and losing) offer great opportunities to practice flexibility and emotional management, and in this mini-episode, we’ll tell you how. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Go to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order. Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off. Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this recast of a popular episode from last year, we tackle the statements our friends and families use when they're staying stuck in their anxiety patterns. If you hear them or use them, listen up. We have responses ready to go. WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Go to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order. Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off. Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Although the holidays can be special, the patterns that show up in people are predictable, even if it is Thanksgiving or Christmas. Critical parent? Passive aggressive sibling? Catastrophic you? In this episode, we talk about the most common and stressful holiday traps and how you and your family can disrupt them. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Go to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order. Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off. Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Anxiety is about “what if,” but with the reality of violence and war, we are now living with “what is.” As parents, How do we process the ongoing news and graphic images of terror in our world? How do we help our children and where do we look for connection? NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Go to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order. Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off. Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Robin is up to her eyeballs in the college application process, so we pulled in two great people to help her and you: a school counselor on the front lines, and Jill Shulman, college admissions coach, author and sane person who founded the Chill Parents’ Revolution. There is so much wisdom here for parents! NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Go to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order. Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off. Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Knowing when you need professional help and when to let your child “grow out of it” is a tricky question…sometimes. In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk about when to allow some time and space (imaginary nephews) and when to take action (selective mutism.) NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Go to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order. Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off. Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster. As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Helping people recognize and shift their own patterns is a key component of Lynn’s approach to emotional management. But there are three patterns that can really add discord in our personal relationships. Do you resist the urge to blame? Can you own your stuff? Can you communicate your feelings well? In this episode, we unpack these patterns and offer some ideas to shift them. Edie Brickell! Here's the song Nothing that we spoke of... and the Julia Louis-Dreyfuss podcast that is discussed. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off. Go to vessi.com/fluster and enter code fluster at checkout to receive your 15% discount! Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order. Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14-day FREE trial with your own personal trainer. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to ​get $80 off of your first month​. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this two-part In Session episode, Lynn talks to Marie, a mom from New Zealand whose very imaginative and worried daughter has dramatic fears which can be frustrating for the whole family. Marie has done a great job talking to her daughter about her nighttime fears, but she needs some additional guidance about how to retrain that brain with consistency, humor and a bit of silly bribery. Lynn gives Marie a plan, sends her off for two months to practice, and then speaks again with Marie (and her daughter!) to learn about and discuss the progress they’ve made. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off. Go to vessi.com/fluster and enter code fluster at checkout to receive your 15% discount! Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order. Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14-day FREE trial with your own personal trainer. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to ​get $80 off of your first month​. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Smart phones are here to stay. And so are the questions we parents have about social media, screen time, group chats…it’s overwhelming. In this episode, we speak with social media expert Devorah Heitner, author of the new book Growing Up in Public, to help us sort through the noise and guide our decisions. Here is article referenced in this episode: My Family Tested 20 Kid-Safe Phones & Devices — These Were The Best NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off. Go to vessi.com/fluster and enter code fluster at checkout to receive your 15% discount! Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order. Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14-day FREE trial with your own personal trainer. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to ​get $80 off of your first month​. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Getting a worried child into school can be exhausting, but once there, we want them to stay! In this episode, we talk about keeping anxious kids in school, the need for a team approach that includes the school nurse, the danger of the “pick-up plan,” and how a consistent (and supportive) message lays the foundation for success. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off. Go to vessi.com/fluster and enter code fluster at checkout to receive your 15% discount! Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order. Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14-day FREE trial with your own personal trainer. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to ​get $80 off of your first month​. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Teaching kids how to handle big emotions is an ongoing job for parents. But what happens when children become anxious about the possibility of feeling those emotions at all? Although it can be confusing for kids and parents, this pattern is not that unusual, and really no different from other fears that children develop. Prompted by a listener question, this episode addresses the fear of feeling feelings and why attempts to avoid, as always, backfire. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER. Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Our first-ever guest is Lynn’s pal and co-author Reid Wilson. Reid and Lynn met in 2007 and that meeting resulted in two books and a fast friendship. Join them as they talk anxiety, self-help, Reid’s brilliant OCD work and the tenth anniversary of their book, Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER. Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When smartphones first came on the scene, schools had rather strict policies about their presence and use. Over time, even though schools kept policies in place, most schools stopped enforcing them. The tide might be shifting again. With more than a decade of research and experience to review, what do we know about learning, attention, and even addiction when it comes to our kids, smartphones, learning and our parenting? NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER. Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As kids enter Middle School, their brains, bodies and relationships go through big changes. Parents tend to brace themselves for the roller coasters of this stage, but it’s also full of energy and discovery and fun. How can we better appreciate the Middle School years? How do we best step in with open eyes and big hearts at this time when they need our connection and support? NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER. Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s time for a brutally honest conversation about what moms are experiencing right now. Are we pathologizing the demands of our current parenting culture? If you are exhausted or disorganized or overwhelmed, is there something wrong with you? And what kind of help do you need? NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER. Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When some children make mistakes or get overwhelmed, they jump quickly to self criticism and even self hate: “I’m terrible! I suck! You don’t love me!” What does this mean? Is it a red flag? And how should parents react? In this recast of a popular Season 4 episode, Lynn discusses the traps to avoid and the family skills to promote when this dramatic pattern takes hold. Referenced in this episode: Past Episode: Helping Kids With Shame & Self-Harm NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER. Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Visit Graduate-debt-free.com and take the first step to securing a debt free education by picking up your copy of David F. Shutler’s new book: Graduate Debt Free: Escaping the Student Loan Matrix. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Helping an anxious student requires a strong collaboration between families and schools, but so often meetings to create a plan become adversarial. In this re-cast of a previous episode, Lynn (who routinely attends such meetings) offers her key tips for how parents and schools can work together to support a child and teach the needed skills, minus the conflict and blaming. We also answer a question from a shy mom entering a new school environment. She’s socially anxious but wants to do the best for her kids. What can she do to connect? NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER. Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Visit Graduate-debt-free.com and take the first step to securing a debt free education by picking up your copy of David F. Shutler’s new book: Graduate Debt Free: Escaping the Student Loan Matrix. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is your child heading off to college this fall? If it’s their first year, then the roommate uncertainty may be dominating your household. Sparked by a compelling listener question, we tackle the perks and the problems of roommates and what you can (and can’t) do to help. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER. Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Visit Graduate-debt-free.com and take the first step to securing a debt free education by picking up your copy of David F. Shutler’s new book: Graduate Debt Free: Escaping the Student Loan Matrix. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices