Desire on Fire

If you've ever felt like no matter how much self-work you do, you still end up in the same patterns—this episode is for you. Ellie and Aimee are back in the studio, fresh from their Sacred Union weekend, reflecting on one of the biggest revelations of their work: awareness alone is not enough. You can read all the books, listen to all the podcasts, and even go to therapy—but without the right community, deep transformation remains just out of reach. In this conversation, they share their personal journeys of healing within sisterhood, why we were never meant to do this alone, and how community is the missing piece in feminine embodiment. They also extend an invitation into Feminine Reclamation, their signature mentorship program, designed to take this work beyond awareness and into embodied transformation. If you're feeling called into deeper support, real sisterhood, and a space where you don't have to hold it all alone—this is your invitation. Key Themes & Highlights: Why Awareness Isn't Enough – The truth about why self-awareness alone won't break your patterns or create lasting change. The Cost of Isolation – Why so many women struggle with intimacy, trust, and feminine embodiment when they try to "figure it out" alone. How Sisterhood Heals – The profound impact of being seen, witnessed, and held by women who won't let you shrink. Ellie's Personal Reckoning – A raw, behind-the-scenes look at how she confronted her own resistance to support and what finally shifted everything. Releasing the Teacher-Student Dynamic – The radical shift in their leadership model and why they refuse to be put on a pedestal. The Invitation Into Feminine Reclamation – What it looks like to walk this path in an intimate, high-level mentorship space where transformation isn't just possible—it's inevitable. Listen now and step into the conversation. 📍 Apply for Feminine Reclamation: www.femininereclamation.com 📍 Join the conversation on Instagram: @desireonfire 📍 Sign up for our mailing list to be kept up to date on all our upcoming events and offerings This is your moment to say yes to deeper support, to being truly seen, and to reclaiming your feminine power within a sisterhood that won't let you forget who you are. Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

What does it really mean to embody the Queen? In this episode, we're diving into the Queen archetype—not as a title you achieve, but as a way of being. We explore the shift from immature feminine psychology to mature feminine embodiment, and why so many women unknowingly stay stuck in patterns of control, resentment, and unmet desires. If you've ever found yourself trying to fix, manage, or lead a man, or wondering why relationships feel exhausting rather than deeply nourishing—this conversation is for you. In This Episode, We Explore: Why being the Queen isn't about perfection—but about showing up fully in your power How to shift from control, chasing, and overgiving to trust, magnetism, and deep receiving The key patterns keeping women stuck in their immature feminine psychology The role of community and sisterhood in feminine transformation (why you can't do this alone) What it means to be great with men—and how this changes everything in love & relationships This episode is an invitation to step into your Queen energy and explore what it means to be a fully embodied, sovereign woman. Join Us for Embodying the Queen (Free Virtual Workshop!) If this conversation speaks to you, join us for our free, live workshop, Embodying the Queen. 📍 Tuesday, February 11th, 6:30-8PM CST on Zoom 💫 Can't make it live? RSVP to receive the replay. This is your space to step into the Queen energy you were made for. Save your spot here: 👉 www.embodyingthequeen.com Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Join us in this intimate conversation with Audrey and Hunter as they share their transformative love story, sparked by the practices and community of Desire on Fire. From Hunter's experience in "The Forge" men's session to the life-changing blindfold exercise at our February, 2024 retreat, this episode explores the power of truth-telling, the challenges of authentic connection, and the profound growth that comes from sacred union. Whether you're seeking love, deeper intimacy, or personal evolution, this episode will inspire you to embrace the courage it takes to transform for deeper love. Plus, discover the magic of the upcoming "Sacred Union" immersion (January 17-19, 2025) and how it can unlock new possibilities for your relationships. Highlights: How transformational work fosters authentic relationships. The powerful exercise that brought Audrey and Hunter together. Navigating roles, triggers, and growth in a conscious partnership. A deep dive into the archetypes of the "King" and "Queen" in modern relationships. Gratitude for the Desire on Fire community and its impact. Our Invitation: Ready to dive into your own transformative journey? Join us at the "Sacred Union" immersion this January 17-19, 2025. Sign up today and explore the power of truth-telling, polarity, and connection. Links Mentioned: Register for Sacred Union: https://www.sacredunion.live Follow us on Instagram for updates: Desire on Fire 🔥 Join us for our FIRST-EVER 3-day immersion for both women AND men: Sacred Union January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX. First 40 tickets sold at super early bird price! Claim yours here: www.SacredUnion.Live Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

This week we sat down with Ellie's husband Rob, who candidly shared his perspective on the pitfalls of social media and marketing (this is NOT your typical conversation about these topics!). We discussed our responsibility as facilitators of transformational work and how we can share our work with integrity. Whether you're in the coaching industry or not, we think you'll get a lot from this conversation and examining if your use of social media is serving you or not. Join us IN-PERSON for Sacred Union: our 3-day immersion for women & men (singles AND couples!), taking place January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX: www.SacredUnion.live Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Aimee and Ellie sit down to catch up and share the shifts they're experiencing as they come out of their sabbatical/maternity leave! Aimee shares why she hit "pause" on her dating life, and Ellie shares her recent initiations as a new mom of two. Sign up to join us IN-PERSON for Sacred Union: our 3-day immersion for women & men, taking place January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX: www.SacredUnion.live Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

On this week's podcast episode, Ellie, Rob and Aimee dive into a conversation that invites us to take a deeper look into everyday relationship dynamics. From sharing hard-earned wisdom from our own journeys, to dissecting the patterns we see playing out in the popular show "Nobody Wants This," to questionable dynamics we've observed on social media… we leave no stone unturned! Our conversation digs into potential societal shifts, where evolving gender roles require a delicate balance. What's required for men to step into their purpose as protectors and providers, while women embody their "soft power" and feminine essence, without burning out? In the light of such profound insights, we announce our exciting upcoming event, the (co-ed!!) Sacred Union weekend, set for January in Austin, Texas. The anticipation builds as we invite our listeners to join us on this transformational journey. It's a three-day event where we'll be diving deep into relationships, healing, and personal growth. We're so excited to share this experience with you all. Sign up to join us IN-PERSON for Sacred Union: our 3-day immersion for women & men, taking place January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX: www.SacredUnion.live Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

It's the end of an era. One year ago, we had no idea this was coming. And today, it seems like the most obvious thing in the world. The chapter of Desire on Fire is coming to an end. And with this death, comes an exciting and powerful re-birth. We have been going through such an intense metamorphosis over the last year, both personally and professionally. While Ellie's been gestating a baby, we've been gestating this re-brand, re-birth. Though our women's work isn't going anywhere, it became clear that the time has come to let go of our brand and business as we've known it, to make space for a new depth and frequency of our women's work, and to create space for the men's path, and co-ed work, within our community. So, we are letting Desire on Fire die, and we are going into the void for the next three months, while Ellie is on maternity leave and Aimee's focusing on dating and making space for love & partnership. And in the spaciousness, we're opening to receive the name of our new co-ed company. We're totally open to your name ideas! Thank you for participating in our community and receiving our work so openly, as Desire on Fire. We're so grateful and excited to move through this big relationSHIFT with you. Thank you for being along for the ride with us. Join us for our FIRST EVER 3-day immersion for both women AND men: Sacred Union January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX. First 40 tickets sold at super early bird price! Claim yours here: www.SacredUnion.Live Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Hey, beautiful souls! This week's episode feels vulnerable, yet important, to share with all of you. I, Aimee, am letting you in on the intimate journey I've been on that's led me to decide to have a cosmetic surgery procedure. I'm revealing my fears, feelings, and perspective-changes along the way, that led me to finally gifting myself something I've wanted for nearly a decade! In this solo podcast, I share how my views on beauty, radiance, vanity and self-love have transformed and evolved over time. I also explore the pitfalls of the body positivity movement and the nuances and complexities of wanting to be a "natural" woman, embracing her organic beauty, while also doing things to improve, upgrade and modify our body & appearance, in order to feel attractive, healthy and confident. I hope this episode is valuable, and challenges your perspectives and beliefs around beauty, plastic surgery, body-love, and how you source your radiance! Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Hi Desire on Fire fam! Ellie here. This week's episode is all about celebrating new beginnings, because we're diving deep into something you may have seen us share online and wondered about: the beautiful world of baby blessing ceremonies. This episode is inspired by the baby blessing Aimee recently hosted for me, as I enter the 3rd trimester and move closer to birthing my baby girl into the world. I want every mama to receive this kind of love and support, so I wanted to share what actually goes into hosting something like this, so you can create one yourself, if you feel called! And who better to navigate this journey with me than Aimee, who's always got amazing insights on creating meaningful experiences. We shared clear and simple steps, from who to invite, how to set it up, and how to structure your ceremony. So whether you're a soon-to-be mama yourself, a supportive sister, or just someone who wants to celebrate life passages in a way that truly matters, there's lots of gold for you in this episode. We also made an invitation at the end of the episode to an incredible free virtual event a sister of ours is hosting, all about creating a new paradigm for pregnancy, birth, postpartum and motherhood! "REBIRTH EARTH is a FREE 5-day live online transformational journey to reclaim the roots of your innate feminine essence and deepen harmony in the world, which begins in our homes. Are you ready to transform your life, your family, and create a ripple effect that spans for generations to come? I hope you will join me and the other incredible speakers in these thought provoking and inspiring conversations as we cultivate this community! Join us from June 24th - 28th, 2024 You can reserve your spot now by registering here: https://themotherstemple.krtra.com/t/8bpc5Iu160dT Chapters: 05:50 Creating meaningful rituals for life transitions is important. 09:32 Permission, love, and invitation for baby blessing. 11:36 Embracing rituals, learning from devoted friends. 14:24 Creating meaningful, reverent baby blessings with friends. 19:12 Balancing input and desires in event planning. 26:45 Encouraging mothers to share and co-create experience. 36:41 Receive blessings gracefully, breathe deeply, let go. 39:18 Touch, massage, music, and blessings in ceremony. 49:41 New virtual event for mothers, Rebirth Earth. Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

The last 8 months have been a season of massive transformation for Ellie and her inner circle, and in this week's solo episode, she dives deep into sharing the juicy revelations she's been having since her second pregnancy began last fall. She shares some of the BTS of her pregnancy journey– including the wild details of the conception, and how this baby girl is calling her forward into her fierce feminine– a reclamation like no other. Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Hey Desire on Fire fam, Aimee here! In March I attended ISTA level 2 (a deep, shamanic, initiatory training) in Bali, and I'm finally ready to share with you about it. This training was intense, forcing me to face my protective mechanisms (especially with men), my fear of rejection, and my deep yearning to be loved, chosen, claimed and taken by a man. In this episode, I share about the messy, vulnerable, and at-times-humiliating journey I went on in this retreat, and the healing that came out of it. I share a particularly hot moment, and let you in on my experience meeting a couple that changed my life. Enjoy the listen! Chapters: 03:41 Interrupting my Bali vacation for a deep personal initiation 07:02 Seeking personal insights and healing through this retreat 12:13 Revealing my fear of rejection and desire for acceptance. 16:20 Practicing polarity, surrendering, and a hot moment. 20:27 Expressing gratitude, opening up about my fears and discomfort. 23:35 Sharing my insecurities about my attractiveness, receiving reassurance, and unexpected comfort. 24:36 Emotional experience, fear, joy, acceptance. 27:56 Sharing vulnerably led to feeling so seen, accepted, and loved by a man. 33:52 Sharing gratitude with a man who embodies what I'm seeking. Resources mentioned: Click here to learn more and join us on The Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th 2024: www.radiantwomanweekend.com Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Picking up where we left off in our last episode on polarity, Aimee and Ellie are diving deep into the trenches of their own journeys. We'll be sharing the nitty-gritty struggles (and the unexpected breakthroughs!) that comes from embracing your feminine energy. Forget the outdated housewife stereotype – this is about trading in the gotta-do-it-all hustle, shifting out of overwhelm and burnout, and creating hot, harmonious relationships with men. In this week's episode we share how learning to ask for help, and receiving the support and love you need to embrace a more surrendered way of living, is the key for unlocking your feminine power— and we share practical tips on how to get there. Get ready to ditch the drama, embrace your radiance, and unlock deeper connections for relationship bliss! Chapters: 00:00 - 01:32 Our journey with polarity teachings and learning to integrate them, versus taking them to the extreme 01:32 - 12:07 Ellie shares about her journey with alchemizing her boss-babe drive and opening to receive her husband's reflections, support and provision on a whole new level… and what that has opened up for her 12:07 - 16:07 The backwards values in our culture and the deep work many of us need to do to truly embody our radiance and attract an aligned, devoted partner 16:07 - 17:50 How your out-of-balance masculine energy may be blocking the men in your life from feeling inspired to provide for and cherish you 17:50 - 20:22 Why it's so helpful and important for women to be in community with other women who are embodied in their feminine energy, receptivity and respect for the masculine, in order to make this shift yourself 20:22 - 21:58 Invitation to the Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th!! Resources mentioned: Click here to learn more and join us on The Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th 2024: www.radiantwomanweekend.com Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DofCommunity/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

The term "polarity" gets thrown around a lot… but have you ever wondered what it actually means, and why it matters?! In this episode, we break down our perspective and experience, and share examples of how our practice with empowered polarity is changing our relationships– and why we believe it's the KEY to hot, harmonious relationships with men! Chapters: 03:40 An update about our living situation and how we're creating more work/life balance. 09:31 The dynamics of masculine/feminine energies. 12:11 The power of getting truly vulnerable, and asking men for help. 13:32 Aimee shares a story about what her dating life looked like BEFORE practicing polarity… and how her unconscious drive to protect herself drove men away. 17:41 How to communicate your needs and ask for support. 20:33 Our take on what's behind the current climate around relationships… 'toxic' masculinity, failed relationships, 50% divorce rate. 24:09 We share the changes we believe are needed, like embracing mutual respect and understanding. 35:40 An invite to dive deeper into this work of embodying your feminine energy, and to join us in Austin, TX in June! If you're craving sisterhood, community, and healing with the masculine, you'll want to listen all the way to the end! Resources mentioned: Click here to learn more and join us on The Radiant Woman weekend in Austin: www.radiantwomanweekend.com Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DofCommunity/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

We've been cooking up something new for you. A whole new frequency. A new transmission. A new level of reality. And it's all been Spirit-guided. The fruits of a whole lotta inner-work labor over the last year— a total death & rebirth... Shedding deeper layers of programming than we ever have before – so that we can be more ourselves, more free, living in full integrity with our mission– and more of service to the women who walk this path alongside us. In this episode, we're taking you behind-the-scenes of the whole ride we've been on, birthing our new virtual 5-day event, The Feminine Revolution. In this 5 day journey, we'll be helping you unlock the code that has been the KEY for us (and the thousands of women we've mentored) to embody the full expression of our Feminine. It's for those of you ready to shed layers of masculine conditioning, and step into the highest potential of your feminine essence… so that you can become the woman who can have the life-giving intimacy + relationships you desire. Hint: it involves… Uncovering blocks + shedding armor that are keeping you stuck in your relationships with men Healing wounds with women + cultivating soul-aligned sisterhood Connecting to your body, awakening your sensuality + releasing shame If you know our annual virtual event The Pleasure Revolution (that we've run 9 times!) and you're curious about the change, this episode will let you in on everything we went through to birth this new transmission of our work into the world. Reclaiming the ancient wisdom + full range of our FEMININE is what we get to dig into in this event… and we are SO turned on by it! And we can't wait to bring you along with us!! Join us for FREE, April 29 - May 3rd 🌹 Link to sign up: www.femininerevolution.live Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee:https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

This week, we have a very special, long-awaited episode for you. We sat down with Rob Montgomerie to finally get his story out into the world (this is part 1 of a multi-part series)! Up until now, Rob has been a private person, happily serving behind-the-scenes, coaching leaders of some of the most powerful companies in the world. You may not be aware that Rob has also been a huge supporter of our work at Desire on Fire, consistently backing us in a myriad of ways to grow as leaders and serve our community at the highest level. But the birth of his son, Bear, two years ago, has ignited Rob even more deeply into his purpose, and called him step forward into a new role that's more public-facing— in service of doing everything he can to support men especially, and do his part to create the world he wants to leave to his son. Aimee and I have been asking Rob for YEARS to create a brother program to do the work we do with women at Desire on Fire, and I'm so thrilled to share that he finally said yes!! It begins mid-April, and it's called The Kings Code. ❤️‍🔥 Rob has been walking his own deeply transformational path for close to two decades now, which he generously shares about (without holding back) in this episode. The incredible life he has created of impact, abundance, family, and contribution, is a reflection of how this man deeply embodies the King archetype, and we really can't imagine anyone more qualified to guide men on their awakening journey. Inside the program, men will dive deep into rites of passage and archetypal psychology to help them claim their birthright as potent kings and leaders in their lives, relationships, and in the bedroom. Expect to Uncover: The delicate balance of sharing transformative experiences authentically. How conventional success metrics can lead to personal emptiness. An invitation to explore the King's Code, for profound personal growth. Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee; https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Dive into this episode for a deeply moving conversation that we hope will inspire, expand and ignite you on your spiritual path. We'd love to hear what you receive from listening!

Hey there, welcome back to the Desire on Fire podcast! Today's episode is a bit of a departure from our typical topics, but an important one! This week we're diving into talking about money, abundance, and financial freedom, topics that go hand-in-hand with living a life led by your deepest desires, and expanding into a life of abundance and fulfillment. Ellie sat down with an amazing guest expert: Penelope Jane Smith. She's a true thought leader in the realm of financial freedom, empowering countless female entrepreneurs with her unique strategies. Penelope shares her incredible money journey, from building a real estate empire to navigating tough times during market crashes. Her story is a testament to resilience and determination, and we hope it inspires and educates you. Find out what's in store for you in this episode: Visioning a lifestyle without the need to trade time for money Why it's not as difficult as it might seem to understand, manage, and grow your wealth Create ideas for how to create passive income and become financially free Penelope's "MESS" system for accelerating wealth creation and financial freedom The importance of having the right mindset about money and prosperity Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie The Financial Freedom (free ebook) by Penelope Jane Smith: In this training, you'll discover exactly what it'll take for you personally to become financially free so that you don't have to depend on your business, a job, the government, a partner, or anyone else for money. You'll also learn: The Two Types of Passive Income (and How to Get More of Each) Why It's Important to Create a Clear Financial Freedom Vision 3 Keys to Accelerating Your Journey to Financial Freedom Simple Steps You Can Take Right Now That Your Future Self Will Thank You For (She'll Have an Abundance of Money and Choice In Her Life!)

Dive into an episode where vulnerability meets transformation, and authenticity challenges the status quo. Aimee and Ellie, joined by Ellie's insightful husband, Rob, peel back the layers of their personal and professional journeys, revealing the raw, unedited truths that lie beneath the surface. They touch on moments of struggle and the deep, often uncomfortable shifts that have defined their paths. The concept of "coherence" becomes a beacon of hope and a guide towards authenticity. But what does it really take to align your life and work with your deepest truths? Aimee, Ellie, and Rob don't just tell you; they take you on a journey through their own battles with resistance, fear, and the quest for authenticity in a world that often demands conformity. This episode is more than just a conversation; it's a gateway to a transformative experience. If you've ever felt the pull between who you are and who you're meant to be, between the safety of the known and the exhilarating fear of the unknown, then this is for you. Step into a space where the transformation is real, the vulnerability is palpable, and the journey towards authenticity is anything but linear. Prepare to be intrigued, challenged, and inspired! In this episode, you'll discover: The importance of stepping back and reflecting on the hidden wounds that may be driving our behavior and actions How identifying a "virus" at Aimee's birthday party sparked business changes and massive growth for all of us What we're learning about polarity— what it actually means to us and how it's playing out in our lives Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

We are BACK with a very special episode series for you!! If you've been plugged into our community for the last six months or so, you're probably aware that we've been going through a major metamorphosis over here at Desire on Fire. Releasing scarcity, fear and control so we can open to being held by and receiving from the masculine on a wholeee new level. And Ellie's husband Rob has been a key player who has catalyzed and supported this deep transformation (while simultaneously undergoing his own changes + awakening!). So, we invited Rob onto the podcast so that we can dive deep with him, and really let you into the behind-the-scenes of this journey of what it's REALLY looked like for each of us (the messy, real and raw!) In this episode, Rob opens up about his own journey of healing, personal growth and finding coherence. Rob shares how the power of masculine and feminine energies has helped him overcome generational wounds, enabling him to break free from harmful cycles, and helped him become the amazing husband and father that he is today—as well as his passion for bringing this work to the world, to impact future generations. Get ready to be moved by Rob's story! In this episode, you'll learn: What past experiences changed Robert's life How one tough family dinner conversation showed the need for healing Why it doesn't end with addressing relationship issues and why it needs commitment How the "Sacred Initiation" retreat was the 'setup' he needed The unfolding of the 'medicine for the collective' What shaped his new life principles as husband and father Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

To listen to Jordan Candlish now, you might never guess he was once an ambitious ladder-climber in the corporate accounting world. To the outside world, he was the picture of success: achievement, stability, recognition. But deep down, he knew that staying in that world and doing things the way everyone else did them was actually playing small and safe with his life. He knew he was meant for more. So he took the leap into his own healing and evolution, and it's never been more clear to him that he made the right choice. Today, Jordan facilitates The Path, a men's coaching program that helps men heal old wounds, open up new possibilities and true purpose, and gain the maturity and confidence they need to live full-on in their lives and relationships. Aimee sat down with Jordan in Austin for a wide-ranging and intimate conversation about why men's personal growth work matters now more than ever, and why healthy brotherhood is so essential for men to thrive. What you'll learn in this episode: How Jordan went from high-powered corporate life to coaching men Who he had to disappoint — and why he got okay with it What propelled him into this work The main issues that get addressed when coaching men Jordan's view of porn (and what he thinks men should do) How he deals with controversy, failure, and criticism Come join us Oct. 13-15 at Desire On Fire Experience LIVE in gorgeous Austin, TX! Get 50% off your ticket when you use the code COMMUNITY. https://www.desireonfirelive.com/desireonfire-experience Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

In today's episode we sat down with our client and a college friend of Aimee's, Makayla Davis. She's in one of our all-time favorite photos taken at a Desire On Fire Live event. She's crying, fully immersed in a private moment of reckoning, and she's holding the hand of her good friend. It's an image that perfectly encapsulates what we do and why we're here: to help women thaw out, connect deeply with their aliveness in every area of life, and do it all together, held in a powerful container of real sisterhood. What Makayla reveals in today's conversation is that that moment happened at last year's Desire On Fire experience, in response to a question from Ellie onstage. For 30 years, she had been standing on the sidelines with her desires. When she reconnected with Aimee on social media and started seeing her posts, she experienced a whole range of feelings: judgment, envy, resistance, curiosity. The loudest message in her head was: That's not for you. For someone else, maybe, but not for you. Today we sat down with Makayla to get the whole story — what brought her here, what held her back at first, what had her finally say "yes," and why that's made all the difference for her in her life, work, and relationships. Makayla's journey is perfectly her own, and also super relatable. She's finally finding her center; discovering what it's like to look people in the eye for the first time and ask for what she wants; practicing saying what needs to be said, even when it's hard and messy; and finally buying lingerie. It's been a year of small steps that have added up to big transformation, with so much more ahead. If you're wondering if this work is for you, or you're curious but stuck because it feels way to edgy or taboo to talk about these things — we think you're going to love this conversation. In this episode, you'll learn: All the doubts, judgments, and fears that kept Makayla on the sidelines for so long… and what finally had her jump in The question on the first day that changed everything for her What's shifted for her in the year since she said yes to Desire On Fire Come join us Oct. 13-15 at Desire On Fire Experience LIVE in gorgeous Austin, TX! Get 50% off your ticket when you use the code COMMUNITY. https://www.desireonfirelive.com/desireonfire-experience Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Makayla at Awaken Coaches: https://www.awakencoaches.com/

We love to hear from our community, and we love to share stories and breakthroughs with you! This work all happens inside of real lives… and there's no better way to understand its transformative power than hearing directly from the women who have been through our programs and events. Last year, Prudence Stein-Greene was a successful real estate agent in LA — an extremely high-stress and high-drive industry. At the time, she was struggling with a business decision, so when a friend invited Prudence to attend our Desire on Fire Experience live in LA, she said yes, thinking it would be a great opportunity to have a business breakthrough. There was something else, something bigger that was underneath her reason for saying yes to DOFE: she was completely, utterly exhausted. With everything. Her work was incredibly demanding. She was burning out and missing out on coveted time with her kids. She had no connection at all to what she even wanted — in her work, in her marriage, in her life. She resorted to controlling things and people around her, including her husband, blaming him for her dissatisfaction and why their marriage wasn't aligned. Her friend encouraged her to spring for the hotel room, get away, and really devote herself to the work that weekend. She took the leap. What happened in those couple of days changed everything. She had the business breakthrough… and a whole lot more. We know you're going to love this conversation with Prudence. You'll get a real-life, down to earth take on what this work is, who it's for, what it can do for you, and why we are SO passionate about getting women in a room together for this experience! In this episode, you'll learn: What her fears were coming into the event The powerful breakthrough she experienced — and what it led to when she returned home What's different for her now in her life, work, and relationships The big change she made that has allowed her to expand her ability to hold sensation in her body The next steps she took after DOFE to fully claim her purpose, joy + passion Come join us Oct. 13-15 at Desire On Fire Experience LIVE in gorgeous Austin, TX! Get 50% off your ticket when you use the code COMMUNITY. https://www.desireonfirelive.com/desireonfire-experience Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Have you ever had a moment in your life when all your pain and accompanying coping mechanisms finally caught up with you? When you finally saw with total clarity that if you wanted to be able to have any kind of happiness in life, you'd have to face that pain and find healing? Our guest today is the relationship and intimacy coach Stefanos Sifandos — and he shares how that moment of getting "caught" forced him to reckon with a lifetime of abuse, fear, shame, and insecurity… and how that moment opened him up to the possibility of real love, deep connection, profound growth, and BIG impact on the world. Today Stefanos is a husband and happy new dad, and in his work with individuals and couples, he helps people on the journey to loving all the parts of themselves that they've been trying to run from and getting back into healthy relationship with the core of what matters most to them. And as he says: You can't run a new life from an old blueprint — and that applies to healing, surrender, intimacy, becoming a parent, and any kind of major personal transformation. If you've been on the verge of big change, and you know the time is right to face and heal your past, we think you'll be deeply inspired by this heartfelt conversation with Stefanos! What you'll learn in this episode: Where Stefanos got his start in transformational work How and why becoming a parent can feel like a "regression" in personal growth How shame holds us back – and what happens when we finally drop it Practical tips for balancing your nervous system when you're in anxiety & shame How commitment actually leads to feeling more free Join The Pleasure Revolution: a live, 5-day guided experience for those who are ready to release the hustle and see how much more you can magnetize with your feminine energy leading the way. Join Us Here: https://bit.ly/TPRpodcast Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Stefanos: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stefanossifandos/ Website: https://stefanossifandos.com/

We've taken a break from our podcast lately — not because we don't love it, but because we realized we just needed to pull back on some aspects of the business to make room for all the change that's been swirling around us. So today we're back, and we're sharing a deep-dive conversation about what's been going on in the business, in our relationships, and in our own personal growth as we navigate our transition to Austin together. As we let the conversation flow, here's a theme that kept arising: We are both deeply committed to practicing what we preach, and one of the most powerful opportunities we get to do that is when things are not working for us. It's when we get stuck in "obligation" energy that we have the chance to reconnect authentically with a desire-led life. It's when our most intimate relationships are experiencing their biggest challenges that we get to lean into radical honesty, sisterhood, and surrender. It's when life doesn't meet our expectations that we have the choice to either stay stuck in judgment and resentment… or move into looking at all the patterns that aren't serving us and find the true medicine. Choosing desire as a way of life is not easy. It will bring up ALL your shit and bring you to your knees. And as we keep finding: it's also the key to unlocking a quality of freedom and joy in life that we couldn't even have imagined. So listen in and catch up with us today! What you'll learn in this episode: Navigating the complexity of living together as friends and business partners Aimee is confronted by her desire to go to Bali Why conscious relating is not for the faint of heart How to find the gold in situations that aren't meeting your expectations What it means to surrender when you're in the middle of true pain + challenge Discerning when it's time to surrender, and when it's time to speak up A sneak peek into Amy's most recent Tantric experience Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

One of the things that consistently brings women into the Desire On Fire community is shame. Shame around sex for sure — wanting it, knowing what you want, asking out loud for what you want (often the most difficult and vulnerable part of our journey). But it's not just about sexual shame. It's also about shame around all kinds of desire — for any kind of pleasure, fun, abundance, agency, freedom, or satisfaction. Where does this shame come from? And how is it that even people who were raised outside of traditional religious environments and in sex-positive families (like Aimee and Ellie) still carry trauma and fear around sex and desire? Our guests today have a unique perspective, because they grew up inside the conservative evangelical structures that gave rise to purity culture. And through the long journey of exploration, unlearning, and finally being trained as sex therapists themselves, they've found a way forward towards healing, freedom, and wholeness — not just in their sex lives, but in the fullness of all kinds of desire. If you grew up in purity culture (and spoiler alert: we all feel the effects of this paradigm, whether we grew up with religion or not), we think you'll find this conversation with Juila Postema and Jeremiah Gibson to be enlightening and deeply encouraging. Julia and Jeremiah are currently the hosts of the Sexvangelicals, a sexual health podcast and education platform with the mission to support relationships in reclaiming sexuality following adverse religious experiences. What you'll learn in this episode: How Julia and Jeremiah found their way to freedom (and to each other) What exactly is purity culture? How purity culture affects even non-religious people Why early + clear conversations around sex, pleasure, and desire are so important How you can begin your journey to break free from sexual shame Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Julia and Jeremiah: Sexvangelicals website Julia and Jeremiah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexvangelicals/ Sexvangelicals podcast People + resources mentioned in this episode: DOF Episode with Elena Rossi on sexual healing after trauma AASECT (American Association of Sexual Educators, Counselors, and Therapists) Multi-Orgasmic Man, by Mantak Chia Extended Massive Orgasm, by Steve Bodansky Dr. Wednesday Martin Sexvangelicals podcast episode with Kara Haug - Reframing Our Stories Apple Podcasts summary: If you grew up in purity culture (and spoiler alert: we all feel the effects of this paradigm, whether we grew up with religion or not), we think you'll find this conversation with Juila Postema and Jeremiah Gibson to be enlightening and deeply encouraging. Julia and Jeremiah are currently the hosts of the Sexvangelicals, a sexual health podcast and education platform with the mission to support relationships in reclaiming sexuality following adverse religious experiences. We're looking at the roots of purity culture, its far-reaching effects on everything we do — and how to find healing and freedom in truth, love, and community.

You know how we love to invite men onto our podcast, and today's guest brings a ton of depth, insight, and honesty around the male perspective. Kevin Hermann is a highly skilled and experienced coach, specializing in business, leadership, and life coaching. He's led over 25 in-person retreats (that's a LOT of retreats!!). But so much more than all these credentials and accomplishments, what you get from Kevin is just the transparency he brings to this conversation. He shares openly about being newly engaged and monogamous, what this new level of commitment has brought up in his relationship… and so much more! If you've ever been curious about men's work — what it is, what it isn't, how it's changing — then this episode is for you. You'll hear about what men are struggling with the most, what they need the most, and how connecting at a deeper level with themselves and other men is essential for their growth and wellbeing. (Sound familiar? We say the same about sisterhood all the time!) You can find Kevin on Instagram where he's riffing on the evolution of the masculine and exploring the connection between style and spirituality. What you'll learn in this episode: What Kevin thinks about polarity — its benefits and challenges for men and women How Kevin responds to the question, Where are all the good men? Why you can't push your man into being in a men's group (and a better way to introduce it) Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Kevin: Kevin's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kev_hermann/ Kevin's website: https://www.kevinhermann.com/ Kevin on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinhermann/ People + resources mentioned in this episode: Dan Doty: https://dandoty.com/ David Dieda's The Way of the Superior Man Groups recommended by Kevin: Everyman ManKind Project Sacred Sons Man UNcivilized ManTalks

We've got another incredible Inner Circle Q&A call for you today! As so often happens, there is a common thread that winds its way through all these powerful shares today. Whether it's being a caretaker for an ailing family member, dealing with old patterns in your family dynamics, navigating the fear and tenderness of a new relationship, or living in the tension of taking on bold new things… … today's brave women are all dealing in some way or another with what it means to jump in bravely, with total honesty and vulnerability, and then trust the Universe to give you what's best for you. If you're seeking a straight shot of spiritual connection… then this episode is for you! These calls are like parachuting right into the heart of why spirituality + sisterhood are SO important for transformation. There is so much gold in these calls, and we're excited to share this one with you! What you'll learn in this episode: What it looks like to finally stop playing games and manipulating men What you might be fundamentally misunderstanding about vulnerability in relationships Why money made in the energy of turn-on + alignment goes WAY farther than money made from force or obligation Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Lynne Forrest's Victim Triangle Lynne Forrest's book, Guiding Principles for Life Beyond Victim Consciousness Alison Armstrong

In her "before doing the work" life, this is what Tanai Milgram said about herself: My whole life, I was so proud that no guy ever hurt me, that I was always the one to run away or catch the asshole before he hurt me. She'd left a trail of dozens of broken hearts in her wake … but she felt more alone and angry than ever. Like a lot of girls, Tanai grew up with the conditioning that it wasn't okay for her to express her full range of emotion. Being kind, sweet, and compliant was rewarded. But expressing things like anger, disappointment, deep sorrow, shame, or even ecstatic joy — these were on the "not approved" list. In this conversation, Tanai and I get to the very heart of why we close off so much, the price we pay for our silence and withholding, and what miracles start to happen when we FINALLY give ourselves permission to be fully self-expressed. I think you'll find SO much to relate to here — the anger and resentment, the pain of not holding good boundaries, the absolute terror of being seen, the ways our bodies are constantly trying to send us signals, and the wild journey we're all on. Today, Tanai is a Women's Intimacy Coach, podcast host, and somatic trauma healer. She's helped hundreds of women be unapologetically self-expressed in their relationships, using different styles of coaching, somatic meditations, retreats, and feminine embodiment practices. And in her "after doing the work" life, she knows that the key to finding true, lasting love is — paradoxically — allowing yourself to be heartbroken. Tune in today to receive this juicy wisdom! In this episode, you'll learn: All about Tanai's exciting journey and how she got where she is today What happens in our bodies and our lives when we repress our anger How her pussy was trying to communicate with her — and what happened when she finally listened The moment on a DoF retreat that was the turning point for her Why sisterhood matters so much — even if your "issue" is with men The key to finally attracting the kinds of men you say you want Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Tanai: Check out Tanai's Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram Tanai's website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com/ Wild Ugly Beautiful Retreat in Mexico (with Rinsha Ballani) — happening this April! The Unapologetic Program Resources mentioned in this episode: A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson Landmark Education

It's not every day you hear about someone getting her start in the world of sexual education by opening up a sex shop with her mom — but if there's one word to describe our guests today, it's definitely "unconventional." Amy Baldwin is a Certified Sexuality Educator with a degree in Psychology and a minor in Human Sexuality from San Francisco State University. In 2008, she opened Pure Pleasure Shop with her mother in Santa Cruz, CA. Their first employee was April Lampert… and the rest, as they say, is history. April showed up with a little less experience but a whole lot of fun and curiosity, and today she is the Vice President of Hot Octopuss, an innovative pleasure product company, and has dedicated her working life to educating people on a global scale about sexual pleasure, health and wellness, and pleasure products. Together, Amy and April started the Shameless Sex podcast. Their goal is to engage in unabashed real talk about sexuality with a playful twist, so that people everywhere can be inspired to experience radical self-love, sexual empowerment, and shame-free intimacy. Today we're diving in with Amy and April to talk about how to start using sex toys, what to do if you're curious (and maybe a little squeamish) about trying anal, and how to keep sex hot and alive in long term relationships. You're going to love this no-holds-barred conversation with two hilarious women who know how to put pleasure first. What you'll learn in this episode: Where to start if you've never used sex toys before How to safely explore anal to increase pleasure How Amy and April got into business together Whether porn can be a positive resource in your own sex life Amy and April's tips for keeping the sizzle in long-term relationships Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Amy + April: April on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aprillampert Amy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amyshamelesssex Pure Pleasure website: https://www.purepleasureshop.com/ Listen to the Shameless Sex podcast Products + Resources mentioned in this episode: Uberlube Hot Octopuss sex toys Esther Perel Dipsea erotica Bree Mills at Adult Time for educational porn Tristan Taormino and Sex Out Loud Radio

Today we're giving you another peek behind-the-scenes, into a call with some of our inner circle clients. And there must be something in the air, because this call definitely seemed to have a theme: navigating unknowns, holding tension in the in-between, and nurturing connection in our existing relationships as we're changing. Here's something that not a lot of people talk about in transformational work: it can be lonely at times. Yes, there are the highs. Moments of total magic and healing. Reaching new levels of love for yourself and others. Really feeling your own power. It's amazing! And also? Sometimes that's weird for other people. They don't know how to handle it. You might worry about losing friendships, or dynamics changing. You might feel pulled to try and mend broken relationships, or to let go of those that aren't in alignment. You might realize that your old friendships can't quite hold the depth we crave — and it can be hard to know how to find that solid sisterhood you really desire. In this call, we're going deep on what it means to surrender to this messy middle, and to trust that something greater is guiding you through. What we cover in this episode: What to do with the fear of losing control How to stay intimate + vulnerable when we're going through intense transformation How sisterhood can help ALL your relationships How to listen to your body so you know when it's time for a change What it means to 'intentionally cause intimacy' when you're longing for more connection in your life Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

If you've ever felt yourself buying into the cultural idea that sexiness, play, and pleasure fizzle after a certain age … then stop everything you're doing and listen to this episode! Today we're thrilled to have Tantra expert and international bestselling author Laurie Handlers on the show, and what an incredible conversation this is. Laurie is full of fire — you can feel it. It's in her body, her voice, her stories. She oozes confidence and total Pleasure Queen energy. Also? She knows her shit. She's been doing this work since 1978 and is one of the world's foremost authorities on Tantra and transformation through pleasure. In this interview, we cover everything from BDSM and what makes a relationship sizzle to her first marriage at 75 and embracing lifelong sexiness. You'll see why she's helped tens of thousands of couples and singles all over the world to experience the healing principles of Tantra and to discover why our higher purpose and creative life force are so intimately linked to our sexuality. Trust us, Laurie Handlers is #goals and you're gonna love her. What you'll learn in this episode: Why Laurie decided to get married at 75 (and their unique love story!) How women 50 years and beyond can stay sexy, curious + adventurous What Laurie saw was missing from Tantra that prompted her to write her bestselling book The importance of masculine and feminine energy to create whole-life integrity What made Laurie change her mind about BDSM The unusual definition of love Laurie and Michael hold — and why it works Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Laurie: Website: https://lauriehandlers.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/laurie.handlers Sex & Happiness book Extraordinary Lovers retreat Resources mentioned in this episode: Existential Kink, by Carolyn Elliott Rinsha episode on loving your body as it is International School of Temple Arts (ISTA) Miss Jaiya + Erotic Blueprint Om Rupani, Tantra + BDSM teacher Orgasmic Meditation Guy Shahar + Tantra Speed Date Landmark Education Allison Armstrong

We're doing something we've never done on the podcast before! We know that real sisterhood is medicine. The vulnerability, the intimacy, the no-BS reflections — this is the stuff that heals, expands, and empowers like nothing else. The Inner Circle is a paid membership for women that have been working with us for years: graduates of our Pleasure Mastery Program, retreats, or leadership programs. And each month, we do a real-time Q&A with the biggest things they're facing. And we realized something: there is SO much gold inside these calls. These are women who are living from their desires, who are exploring all kinds of new ways of thinking, acting, and being in the world. They are IN IT, doing this work with such heart. And witnessing that work in real time can be an incredible teacher for all of us. We love our Inner Circle calls so much that we wanted to try sharing them with everyone! So with the permission of the Inner Circle members, we're trying something new. We recorded this call and are offering it to you. It's basically a free mini-masterclass, filled with the wisdom that only sisterhood can bring. We hope you enjoy it! Inside the episode you'll learn: How to handle uncomfortable conversations with people who disagree with you (especially when you crave their approval) Practical tools that can help you let go of spiritual bypassing and work with your rage so that it actually comes in service of your highest good Noticing the difference between and open-hearted boundary and a wall What you can do if you're experiencing intense PMS symptoms Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Spiritual Bypassing book Robert Augustus Master Woman Code by Alisa Vitti Code Red by Lisa Lister

Today we're diving deep with the sexy, playful Shaft Uddin! At Desire on Fire, we always say that healing one area of your life never stays in that one area. That's why when you work on expanding your desire, pleasure, and connection in your sex life, you find yourself with more of all of that in the rest of your life, too. You begin to see powerful shifts in your romantic relationships, your work, your finances, and your sense of self-love. It's all connected! For Shaft Uddin, that's the ultimate beauty of tantra and why it's such an effective tool for expansion, healing, and growth. The profound intimacy of tantra brings peace — and that has a miraculous, magical effect in all areas of our lives. Shaft was SO generous with his story and with his healing journey. We know you're going to love his insights on sex, intimacy, trauma, healing old family wounds, and the immense power of forgiveness. A self-described "juicy geek," Shaft is a yoni whisperer, tantric practitioner, somatic trauma therapist, and sacred sexuality coach. In this episode, you'll learn: Shaft's amazing personal story of trauma, forgiveness, and freedom What tantra is and why it's so powerful What happens in a tantric massage session Prompts for how to genuinely connect with difficult people in your life Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Shaft: Website: http://www.sacredsexualawakening.com/ Insta: https://www.instagram.com/shaftuddin/ YouTube: youtube.com/user/shaftuddin Resources/people mentioned in this episode: Gina Swire: https://www.ginaswire.com/ Podcast episode with Gina

We're back after a 2-month hiatus from podcasting, blogging, promo-ing, and social media … and we're feeling GREAT. A lot has changed in those two months. Like a LOT. For one, we (Aimee, Ellie, Rob, and Bear) left LA and are now all living together in Austin, TX. And that's just the tip of the massive change iceberg. Throughout the last several months, we've been slowly passing through what feels like a major portal. It's been an initiation into what it really means to tune into and trust desire, especially when you don't have instant clarity about what's next and the place you are looks pretty damn perfect on paper. Most of all, it's been an incredible growth opportunity and a chance to really experience the profound difference between acting out of urgency and waiting patiently for the Fuck Yes! Today, we're diving into the intense portal that the last year has been for all of us — what we wrestled with, what we waited for, how we grew, and what we've learned. Listen to find out: What made us decide to relocate How it's been working to have Aimee living with Ellie + fam Why Aimee was a "yes" to Austin — and things that have surprised her What it means to wait patiently for the clarity of your desire in a world that's obsessed with instant gratification How to trust the greater plan of the Universe, even when your life looks nothing like you wish it did Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

If you're an ambitious woman like our guest today (and like both Aimee and Ellie), you might know how easy it is to confuse your work with your worth. It's so easy to get caught up in hustle and the masculine energy of go go go that we forget ourselves — our bodies, our desires, our wellbeing. The feminine path isn't just about appreciating our amazing bodies (though that's definitely part of it) and reconnecting with our desire and pleasure (also a huge component). It's about how surrender is the current we ride into all the very best things in our lives: abundance, real love, pleasure, purpose. We don't have to work and push to make things happen. The magic + medicine of the feminine is that she already knows how to allow every good thing. We just have to listen and trust her. Today's guest knows the exquisite ecstasy of surrender, in part because she's already experienced the other side — the hard-driving, the achieving, the burnout, and the numb sense that no matter how much you work, you're never really going to "get there." And she knows what happens when you let it all go and choose the path of rest, healing, listening, and deep trust. Mel Wells is a bestselling author and an embodied leadership and intimacy coach for queens. She's trained in holistic sex, love and relationships, eating psychology, and holistic health — and she sees now how reconnecting with the Divine feminine is what holds all of this together. She's also a blissed-out partner and brand new momma, and that journey is bringing home with even more tenderness the lessons of surrender. You're going to LOVE this wise, open conversation with someone who has journeyed far and found her way back to herself with such grace. In this episode, you'll learn: The major shift Mel made in her business How she started to feel the call to move into the space of feminine work Why women have to address the "when/then" mindset if they want to be happy Her amazing love story with her current partner Her journey of pregnancy and the miraculous birth of her baby Sky Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iammelwells/ https://www.instagram.com/thegoddesscollective_/ https://www.instagram.com/thequeendomcouncil/ Website: https://melwells.com/ Related episodes: Doing Less, Living Cyclically + Experiencing More "Yum" With Kate Northrup

Have you ever wished there was a 5 Love Languages … but for sex? You know: a way to know what nourishes you in the bedroom, what turns you on (and off), what turns your partner on (and off), what would lead to the most fulfilling, most satisfying sex you could possibly have. That's what the Erotic Blueprints deliever! When you know your erotic blueprint, you finally have a language to understand and communicate how you relate to eroticism. You'll be better able to communicate what you need. And you'll be able to let go of judgments around your own desires and those of your partner. So knowing your erotic blueprint isn't just sex-life-changing — although it's definitely that! — it can actually be a vehicle for deep connection and healing with your partner. There's a reason this framework has become such a cornerstone of the work we do at Desire on Fire. Today, Aimee is sharing an interview she did with Danielle Hatton on Danielle's podcast. Together, they're doing a deep-dive into the 5 Erotic Blueprints — what they look like, what they need, what their superpowers and shadows are, and how you can use these guides as a way to expand fully into who you are as a sexual being. In this episode, you'll learn: What the Erotic Blueprints are, how they work, and how they can transform your sex life How to work with them The biggest misconception about male and female sexuality What both Aimee and Danielle share in common when it comes to their blueprints How to talk to your partner about this work What you can do if you and your partner have very different blueprints (no, you don't have to break up!) Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Are you hiding your true personal style "in the closet"? What are you denying your true style desires — because you feel like they're too much, or not enough, or that your body isn't "right" enough yet to wear what you want to wear? Celebrity stylist Elissa Williams (and stylist for Aimee and Ellie at the Desire on Fire Experience!) believes fashion is way more than just clothes and trends. It's a tool for self-expression, empowerment, and manifestation in our lives. It's a way we communicate our real selves, and a physical representation of our self-love. And at its root, leaning into our natural style can be a deeply sacred practice, because our clothes are a physical reminder of all we're becoming. When we wear what we love and what makes us feel alive, free, sexy, abundant, and playful — regardless of the price tag — we're actually calling in more of the life we desire. Elissa is a celebrity stylist and investor, speaker, founder of the Embodied Style Method and The School of Heart-Centered Styling. She's a style alchemist, mixing fashion, self-expression, and a radical call to be the most evolved version of ourselves by creating a wardrobe that feels good and magnetizes abundance. In this energetic, positive workshop, Elissa walks us through the keys to powerfully embodying your personal style. She is FULL of bright wisdom, intelligent insight, and a totally magical approach to the simple, powerful act of dressing yourself each day. In this episode, you'll learn: Elissa's background and how she got where she is today Her surprising take on what "next level" really means Elissa's 5 steps to embody your personal style Why you should never hold back on getting different clothes when your body changes What to do when you're a Chanel girl who's currently living on a Target budget How she's found joy, abundance, and sexiness as a new mom Listen, follow, and review our podcast here! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Elissa: Website: https://www.theschoolofheartcenteredstyling.com/ Insta: https://www.instagram.com/elissamwilliams Free guide: https://yourvirtualclosetconcierge.members-only.online/manifest

We know many of you have been following Aimee's unconventional adventures with Alex over the last three months. From the Tantra retreat that was their first date to the 10 days in Australia that was their second, nothing about Aimee and Alex's experience has been ordinary. Their chemistry was palpable right off the bat, their connection felt real, and they definitely shared important things in common: personal growth work, embodied practices, coaching, and embracing a spirit of adventure and curiosity together. In this episode, Ellie joins Aimee as she shares the rollercoaster details of the last few weeks and the lessons learned as she and Alex decided to close this chapter of their relationship together. Ellie witnessed it all play out in real time, as they were all together in Portugal for the final days — and her perspective as a loving friend and wise sister makes the conversation that much more real and honest. What you'll learn in this episode: What led up to Aimee + Alex deciding to meet up in Portugal What felt amazing, what felt difficult — and when Aimee really knew it was over The moment when true sisterhood came into play to help Aimee face reality (why we need sisters, y'all!) Why Alex has been Ellie's favorite relationship for Aimee (so far), even though she knew the relationshift was the right thing What it means to "choose yourself" in the midst of emotional entanglement and difficult choices What Aimee is taking away from this experience, and what she's up to now Join us (and 300+ women!) in person or virtually at the Desire on Fire Experience event, October 29-30, in Southern California! www.desireonfirelive.com Code: DESIRE for $500 off the regular ticket price! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Related episodes: Tantra Retreat

In our culture, we tend to think of "success" as linear, and we measure it by "more" — more money, more stuff, bigger numbers, more followers, more work. But when we look at the natural world, we don't see linearity anywhere. It's ALL seasons and cycles. Rest + work. Growing + birthing. Sowing + harvest. So … why do we insist on running our lives by a measurement that is SO out of sync with our bodies, our souls, and literally all of nature and reality? And why are we surprised that we're stressed, burned out, and that our creative, sensual, and erotic energy is dried up? If you've done all the mindset work — the affirmations, the mantras, the positive thinking — and you still find yourself encountering the same struggles and roadblocks when it comes to work, money, and rest — then this episode is for you. Today's episode with Kate Northrup is going to challenge and upend EVERYTHING you thought you knew about success, satisfaction, and how to get what you truly desire. This is the perfect time to have Kate on the show, because we are in a season of huge change here at Desire on Fire, where we've been confronted again and again with what we thought "should" be happening vs. what is actually happening and what wants to be moving through us. What happens when we let go of control, drop deeply into our bodies, allow the flow, honor the cyclical nature of reality, and actually … do less? Oh how you're going to LOVE this refreshing, vital conversation with the incomparable Kate Northrup! In this episode, you'll learn: What the patriarchal model is missing, and why it's time to let it go Why you might want to reconsider goal-setting The lie we believe about finances and fulfillment — and what we need to embrace instead How Kate approaches marriage, sex, and eroticism as a highly amibitious, successful woman (this one might surprise you) Why there is no direct relationship between our numbers (money, followers, clients, etc.) and our impact — and how this can free us up (this insight was huge for us) Join us (and 300+ women!) in person or virtually at the Desire on Fire Experience event, October 29-30, in Southern California! www.desireonfirelive.com Code: DESIRE for $500 off the regular ticket price! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Kate: Insta: @katenorthrup Website: theorigincompany.co Resource: The Business Pressure Relief Kit Book: Do Less

If you met Danielle, you'd see an absolutely gorgeous, vivacious woman. And if you spent any amount of time talking to her, you'd immediately notice her depth, her curiosity, and her natural healing energy. But like so many of us, she's spent a lifetime dealing with the shadow of body insecurity — picking up on societal messages, mirroring her own mother's struggles, being steeped in beauty and dance culture. It wasn't until she started diving into her work with Desire on Fire that she began to look more closely at where these judgments were coming from — and what they were costing her. As she's moved deeper into living a desire-led life, she's found a way to "unhook" from these patterns, and that has given her an immense amount of freedom in her life. Here at Desire on Fire, we talk quite a bit about "shadow work" — but that can sometimes feel vague to someone who's new to it. So today in this vulnerable conversation between Ellie and Danielle, you'll get a concrete sense of what it means to face your shadows, to look at them tenderly, and then to release the hold they have on your life. We hope you find this conversation to be as encouraging and inspiring as we did! Danielle is currently a coach and breathwork teacher who works with clients virtually all over the world, and if you're lucky enough to live in London, you can now work with her in person. In this episode, you will learn: How Danielle and Ellie first met What shaped Danielle's ideas of her own beauty and body when she was growing up The tipping point for her — and how the work with Desire on Fire has offered her new tools to deal with an old shadow What it was like for her to voice her desires for the first time at the Desire on Fire Experience What changes when you simply refuse to participate in old patterns (even when everyone around you still is) Join us (and 300+ women!) in person or virtually at the Desire on Fire Experience event, October 29-30, in Southern California! www.desireonfirelive.com Code: DESIRE for $500 off the regular ticket price! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Danielle: Website: https://www.daniellehatton.com/ Insta: https://www.instagram.com/daniellehattonn/

One of the foundational values of the work we do, and the work we love guiding other women through, is radical honesty. And both of us have realized recently that we need to reconnect with this value when it comes to our struggles trying to "make it happen" with the upcoming Desire on Fire Live event at the end of October. Because here's the deal: it's been a hard, challenging, stressful year of planning. And we weren't expecting that. In fact, we were expecting it to be smooth sailing. And we hung on for a long, long time to that expectation. So when we seemed to encounter nothing but roadblocks — messaging snafus, canceled venues, date change, slow signups — we were really starting to feel stressed and discouraged. We got so caught up in what wasn't working that we lost sight of everything that was there for us, everything we had to be truly grateful for, and in some ways even the heart of the Experience itself. We were talking about this year as if it were playing piggyback on last year — when in fact, 2022 is a dramatically different year in a thousand different ways, and we weren't honoring that reality as much as we could have. So this episode is ALL about clearing the mess. We want to tell you what we've been learning (and re-learning) about this work. That means sharing what's real. Getting back to our foundation of gratitude, abundance, and flow. Reconnecting with the powerful, fierce heart of the Desire on Fire Experience. And extending a heartfelt invitation to all of you to come just as you are, whatever that looks like this year. What you'll learn in this episode: The rollercoaster of this year compared to last year Where we lost sight — and how we regained it Why Fall 2022 has a completely different feel (and very different needs) How this journey has called us to recommit to service What the DOFE really stands for Join us (and 300+ women!) in person or virtually at the Desire on Fire Experience event, October 29-30, in Southern California! www.desireonfirelive.com Code: DESIRE for $500 off the regular ticket price! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Related episodes:Ellie Shares Her Amazing Birth Story! Excavating Your Shadows with Adrian Ellison

In her early 20s, Elena Rossi spent 7 years dealing with chronic vaginal pain, yeast infections, and UTIs. She saw 22 doctors, tried all kinds of meds and creams — and nothing was working. The pain was actually getting worse. In all her visits to doctors of all kinds, all the questions were about her body. No one ever asked her about her relationship, or the quality of sex with her then-boyfriend, or if she felt safe or loved. No one ever asked, How is your heart? It took her p*ssy literally clamping down and excruciating pain to get her to stop and listen to what her body had been trying to tell her (louder and louder) for years. She was in an abusive relationship, and her entire being was saying: no, stop, get out, run. Her body held a wisdom that at the time she couldn't recognize or interpret. She spent the next 5 years on a journey of physical, mental, and emotional healing that eventually led to her sexual healing. And in the process, she discovered her life's work. Elena is a female libido specialist, the author of 2 books, a sex toy designer, and the founder of The Yoni Empire. A sensual connoisseur at heart, she helps women explore the nourishing power of sexuality infused with purpose and meaning. Today's conversation is raw and radically honest — the kind of no-BS truth-telling that women need in order for real healing to take place. Elena gets at the heart of what we're really craving, why porn makes a terrible sex-ed teacher, and what we need to admit to ourselves before we can truly find pleasure and sexual freedom. What you'll learn in this episode: Elena's personal journey from suffering to healing Aimee's recent experience of listening to her body As women, what it means to get clear on our intentions for sex What's really going on when people say they've 'lost' their libido What's underneath the things we say we want The thing we don't want to be honest about when it comes to sex Join us (and 300+ women!) in person or virtually at the Desire on Fire Experience event, October 29-30, in Southern California! www.desireonfirelive.com Code: DESIRE for $500 off the regular ticket price! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Elena: Insta: https://www.instagram.com/the_yoni_empire Website: https://theyoniempire.com/ People/resources mentioned: Steve Haines, Trauma Release Exercises: his book

If you're a Projector (or you have Projectors in your life and you want to understand/support them better) — then today's episode is for you! In this conversation, Ellie connects with Christen Hillmer, a coach and healer who is part of Desire on Fire community. She's a recent graduate of our Apprenticeship Program— and she also happens to be a Projector. Here's why this conversation is so important right now: Projectors only make up about 20% of the population, but are essential in facilitating healing, guidance, and wisdom for the planet. And if you're a Projector, you may have felt it: living fully by your design can be tricky, because we live in a culture that is really set up for Generators. We get all kinds of rewards and affirmation for action and hustle and hard work. And things like extra naps, light workloads, quiet, and ease can be seen as not productive and actually kind of … well, lazy. Today, Ellie and Christen dive into what it means to be a Projector and an entrepreneur — and how to build a life that actually allows you to thrive … exactly the way you were meant to. What you'll learn in this episode: What it was like for Ellie and Christen to discover they were Projectors The telltale signs that a Projector is operating from her aligned energy source — or not How to find ways to be seen that feel authentic, free, and empowering (vs. depleting and stuck in comparison) — whether you're on or off social media The biggest challenges Projectors face The 4 main areas of life where a Projector needs true sovereignty (vs. neediness) in order to be at peace What does it really mean to "wait for the invitation" and how can you become more attuned to invites coming in? Join us for The Ignited Woman Masterclass series, happening through the entire month of September! Sign up for free here: www.desireonfire.com/ignitedwoman Join us (and 300+ women!) in person or virtually at the Desire on Fire Experience event, October 29-30, in Southern California! www.desireonfirelive.com Code: DESIRE for $500 off the regular ticket price! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Christen: Insta: https://www.instagram.com/christen.hillmer/ Resources/people mentioned: Jenna Zoe at www.Myhumandesign.com Travis Day

Is it possible to truly, genuinely, passionately love your body … AND also want to change it? Does desiring change mean you don't fully accept your body? In a cultural movement that's all about cultivating self-love, it can actually feel weird and shameful to want to change our bodies — whether it's by losing weight, gaining weight, working out, cosmetic procedures, or plastic surgery. The result can be a kind of forced silence around the deep longings we might have, and a resistance to facing the shame we feel. So we might recognize we're losing out on certain aspects of abundant, healthy, sexy living in our current bodies … but feel totally unclear on how to choose a new way of showing up. So where does "positivity" cross over into "bypassing"? How can that be disempowering for women? And how can we practice continually tuning into and trusting our real desires when it comes to the choices we make around our bodies, regardless of where the cultural tides move? That's what we're talking about today, and wow — this is a nuanced, juicy episode! We've got the incredible and much-beloved Rinsha Ballani back on the show. Rinsha has been an integral part of Desire on Fire since the beginning, and she's no stranger to controversial stances — and this conversation is no exception. Bold, contrarian, and beautifully vulnerable, this is an episode for anyone who is walking the long journey to true body-self-love and embracing your worthiness, your sexiness, and your desires for your body, regardless of what shape or size it is. What you'll learn in this episode: Why Aimee decided to hire a personal trainer in Bali The judgments we hold about others' choices — and what those judgments are trying to show us Rinsha's movement to genuinely love every inch of her body What the body positivity movement has brought us — and what it's missing Working through our experiences of shame (instead of bypassing) to get to the deeper desire The plastic surgery Aimee really wants Learning to identify your "come from" — and why it makes all the difference Join us for The Ignited Woman Masterclass series, happening through the entire month of September! Sign up for free here: www.desireonfire.com/ignitedwoman Join us (and 300+ women!) in person at the Desire on Fire Experience event, October 29-30, in Southern California! www.desireonfirelive.com Code: DESIRE for $500 off the regular ticket price! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Rinsha: Insta: https://www.instagram.com/rinshaballani Click here to opt-in to Rinsha's email list to be the first to know when she launches her next offerings! https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6320cbd19f7462fb241d4f98 People/resources mentioned in this episode: Jordan Peterson Mikhaila Peterson Layla Martin Kyle Mercer website: https://www.lifeataltitude.com/ Kyle's Instagram: www.instagram.com/inquirymethod Related episodes: Kyle Mercer: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/aimee-and-ellie-get-coached-by-master-coach-and/id1511088586?i=1000557462717 Rinsha Ballani: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/have-the-best-sex-of-your-life-with-rinsha-ballani/id1511088586?i=1000532368599 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-deep-dive-with-rinsha-ballani-part-1/id1511088586?i=1000540608730 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-deep-dive-with-rinsha-ballani-part-2-blowing-shit/id1511088586?i=1000541332533

In early 2020, Jamie King was a rising star — an overnight sensation in the biz marketing world, landing 6-figure months like it was nothing and living in the limelight. She was also falling apart — stretched way too thin, trying to be everything to everyone, traveling all the time, doing constant hustle + grind when what she really desired was to be home with her kids. So for her, the lockdown was a godsend. It forced her to slow down. Take stock. Get back to the basics. Ask herself what she really wanted. And it turned out, she wanted something very different from what she'd wanted before. She had to get deeply in touch with everything she'd been bypassing. And she had to attend more than one ego-funeral that year. But it saved her, and it saved her marriage, and it gave her a whole new perspective on her mission and allowed her to shift her biz to be in alignment with her soul desires. Today, with her collection of "Slay" programs, Jamie teaches creatives, coaches, course creators, and online "Slay-dy Bosses" the Mindset, Spiritual, and Strategic steps for building a highly engaged tribe, and scaling their businesses to multiple 6 Figures. And she does it on her terms. You'll notice from the first minute of this interview: Jaimie does NOT hide from what's real. It's all out there — the struggles, "failures" (listen in for her fabulous, empowering perspective on this), revelations, brags, and evolutions. Everything she's accomplished is precisely because she is 100% committed to telling, living, and embodying her truth. If you're feeling the pull of a big transition or a shift in your identity — and especially if it's kind of freaking you out — you are going to LOVE the wisdom Jamie brings in today's conversation. What you'll learn in today's episode: What to do when your desires shift How to frame your experiences with bad investments, heartbreak, wrong choices, and "failures" The power of choosing to find the gift — and why it's not the same as "toxic positivity" Discerning the difference between consumption and true desire Embracing the pull to embrace a new identity Join us for The Ignited Woman Masterclass series, happening through the entire month of September! Sign up for free here: www.desireonfire.com/ignitedwoman Join us (and 300+ women!) in person at the Desire on Fire Experience event, October 29-30, in Southern California! www.desireonfirelive.com Code: DESIRE for $500 off the regular ticket price! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Jamie: Insta: https://www.instagram.com/jamiejoslinking/ Website: https://www.theslaycoach.com/

Waiting for Bear's arrival involved months of preparation for Ellie and her husband Rob. They had a plan for a natural birth at home, including hiring a midwife and doula, taking special birthing classes, and creating a birthing plan (complete with playlists!). Then … the birth happened. And Bear, it seems, definitely had some different ideas about how and when he wanted to arrive in this world. We talk a lot about surrender in this work — that sacred way we know we can trust what the Universe is up to and can trust our intuition and desire along the way. And sometimes surrender feels easy and amazing … and at other times, it is a deep spiritual (and literal!) labor. It requires heroic levels of inward listening. It asks you again and again to return to the primal ground of your being. Today, Ellie walks us through her entire birth odyssey, everything she was feeling, experiencing, and struggling with, all the support she received along the way, and what this journey has taught her that she never expected. This is an incredibly vulnerable, tender, and moving conversation! What you'll learn in this episode: Ellie's birth plan, and why she decided on a home birth What helped her the most in early labor The experience of a harrowing 30+-hour labor (that definitely did not go according to plan!) How she made it through the hardest parts What she wished she would have known going into labor What she learned — and what she'd like her next birth to be like Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Spiritual Midwifery, by Ina May Gaskin Tranquility by Hehe website and Insta Rights Over Your Birth Package from Sacred Birth Doula

Our culture often tells one story about how relationships are "supposed" to look. It can be hard for us to feel into possibilities beyond the traditional cultural understanding of monogamy. Non-monogamy is often portrayed as selfish, or as one partner caving to the wishes of the other — like the trope of the woman who begrudgingly agrees to a threesome so her man won't leave her. So it's understandable that many couples reject exploring outside-the-box desires, because it can feel uncomfortable and even threatening. Our guest today has come to challenge these inaccurate assumptions, and to shine an honest light on the realities, challenges, and beautiful expansions that ethical non-monogamy can bring to loving, committed relationships. Jessica Esfandiary and her husband Pasha have been married for 8 years and together for almost a decade. Most of those years have been spent cultivating a safe and reverent open/polyamorous partnership — including inviting Jessica's current female partner into their relationship. As a coach and host of the Open Late podcast, today Jessica is a curator of brave spaces for people to own their power and awaken to their most expansive selves. She helps couples create designer relationships with truth, vulnerability, intimacy, and play. If you've ever been non-monagamy-curious, have taboo desires you've never expressed, or are ready to have your assumptions about non-monogamy confronted — then you're gonna love today's episode! What you'll learn in this episode: Jessica and Pasha's journey to an open relationship and how they make it work The many variations of non-monogamy — and why it doesn't always have to be about sex The power of allowing your relationship(s) to change Why "jealousy" can be a lazy reason to not explore non-monogamy — and why it pays to dig deeper The honest challenges Jessica and Pasha have faced and how they dealt with them How to start the conversation with your partner if you're interested in exploring new ways of relating Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with jessica: Insta: https://www.instagram.com/journey.with.jessica Web: https://www.jessicaesfandiary.com/ Take the Relationship Style Quiz: https://www.jessicaesfandiary.com/whats-your-relationship-style Books mentioned: Pussy: a Reclamation Untrue Sex at Dawn

Almost no experience is so universal and so painful to women as shame about our bodies. And for millions of women, the shame about our vulvas is one of the deepest wounds we feel. Many of us have a moment where we felt that something was wrong or broken about our pussies: we didn't look like the images we saw porn we internalized disparaging comments from boys or men around us growing up we felt pressured to alter the appearance of our pussies (shaving, waxing, obsessive cleaning, even surgery) to conform to what we think they "should" look like we assumed that the way our bodies looked was weird and bad compared to other women out there But as our guest today says: When you hate a part of yourself, it goes numb. It goes silent. And when it comes to our pussies, we miss out on the most powerful wisdom and guidance system we have. We miss out on orgasmic pleasure. We miss out on real connection with partners and sharing our full self with the world. Today's guest, Kara Baruzzini, shares her extraordinary journey from hiding, silencing, and hating her pussy to being one of the foremost experts and celebrators of passionate pussy love. Today, she supports women to reclaim their pleasure and sensual nature, heal from sexual shame, expand their orgasmic potential, live more pleasure-filled lives, and embody their feminine energy. If you've ever struggled with pussy shame, you are going to LOVE the healing and liberating truth in today's episode! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Kara: Insta: https://www.instagram.com/kara.makingwaves Website: https://www.papayalovecoach.com/ Learn more about pussy love: https://www.instagram.com/vulvacasting/ https://www.instagram.com/The.vulva.gallery Pussy: A Reclamation The Pussy Talks documentary

To hear Maci Shelden talk today, you might never imagine where she was in her early 20s: playing the part, hanging out and drinking with high school and college friends, always bending over backwards for everyone, trying so hard to get it right and be a good girl. Underneath it all, she felt lonely and disconnected, like she was always pretending or putting on a show. She knew there had to be more to life than just going through the motions. And she was right! Maci has been with us at Desire on Fire since the very beginning. She was one of the participants on our very first online offering in 2018 (and has participated in many since), and is currently the student coordinator for our Inner Circle membership. In our very first in-person Desire on Fire retreat, she had a massive breakthrough that shattered her perception of herself. She also knew it would affect her new dating relationship with Tanner. She realized she was at a crossroads: Would she keep pretending like she always had, keep being the good girl she thought everyone expected? Or would she dare to be fully honest and say the thing that could end the relationship? In today's episode, Maci and Tanner give the vulnerable-sweet-sexy details about what this work has done for them, what it has allowed them to say yes to, and how a desire-led life shapes every aspect of a relationship. What you'll learn in this episode: What Maci finally admitted (out loud!) about herself at a DoF retreat The moment that shifted Maci and Tanner's relationship Sexy details of their adventures together The challenges along the way — and how they use this work daily to stay honest & connected How this level of honesty affects every aspect of their relationship Join us (and 300+ women!) in person at the Desire on Fire Experience event, October 29-30, in Southern California! www.desireonfirelive.com Code: DESIRE for $500 off the regular ticket price! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Maci: https://www.instagram.com/_itsmaci Connect with Tanner at Amazing Grace in Breckenridge

If you're ready to seriously up your money-manifesting mojo, then you are going to LOVE today's episode with the incomparable and magnetic Gina Swire! Gina is an internationally acclaimed self-love expert celebrated for her humorous and transformative speaking style and wildly popular self-love courses. And she understands — and powerfully embodies — a truth that we hold dear at Desire on Fire: at the heart of living your desires is knowing that you're worthy to receive every good thing you want. In today's episode, Gina talks about her own journey with money, how intimately it's linked to stories of self and self-love, and how you can re-imagine your relationship with money in ways that are expansive, sexy, and wildly abundant. What you'll get out of today's episode: What holds us back from truly breaking money barriers in our lives Identifying your energetic minimum — and resetting it to accommodate your desires What her dad told her before he died that changed her life A very sexy exercise that will totally change how you relate to money Want to get a taste of Aimee + Ellie's teaching and the Desire on Fire Community, for FREE? Join The Pleasure Revolution, 5-Day Challenge, Aug 8-12, 2022. Use the code PLEASURE at checkout, to register for free! www.thepleasurechallenge.com Join us (and 300+ women!) in person at the Desire on Fire Experience event, October 29-30, in Southern California! www.desireonfirelive.com Code: DESIRE for $500 off the regular ticket price! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Gina: Insta: https://www.instagram.com/ginaswire Website: https://www.ginaswire.com/

Things at Desire on Fire have been in HUGE flux this year. Have you felt it, too?! Ellie had her baby and took maternity leave. Aimee stepped into full-time management of the company while Ellie was away. Two new roles for both of them, both large and demanding in their own ways. They've also been feeling into something new in this time: there are areas of day-to-day management of the company that neither one of them wants to lean into. In fact, these tasks now feel draining, exhausting, and full of frustration and resentment. But somebody's gotta do them, right? So … now what? If you're familiar with Human Design, you know that crisis has a way of revealing our deepest needs and truths about who we are and who we're not … if we're willing to listen. After getting her own Human Design chart and reading done, Ellie invited Travis Day to come on the podcast and look at Aimee's chart, too. In this conversation, Travis does a live reading — going over the places where Aimee and Ellie complement, fulfill, amplify, and challenge each other — and offering a simple, surprising clarity for how they can move forward in this time of flux and transformation. PLUS — catch a surprise reading of Alex's chart for a peek into romantic possibilities for Aimee and Alex! What's revealed in this episode: The breaking point that made Aimee and Ellie realize something had to change Why we're so attracted by the sexy spark of opposites What causes anxiety and stress — and what we can do about it How to use simple emotions as powerful sign posts Why some people (like Alex) are super chaotic until they hit 30 — and what happens that "flips the switch" Want to get a taste of Aimee + Ellie's teaching and the Desire on Fire Community, for FREE? Join The Pleasure Revolution, 5-Day Challenge, Aug 8-12, 2022. Use the code PLEASURE at checkout, to register for free! www.thepleasurechallenge.com Join us (and 300+ women!) in person at the Desire on Fire Experience event, October 29-30, in Southern California! www.desireonfirelive.com Code: DESIRE for $500 off the regular ticket price! Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Connect with Travis: Instagram: Travis Day | Human Design (@travis.day) Website: Neutrino Seas Human Design Looking for an intro for Human Design 101? Check out MyHumanDesign.com!