Dear Old Dads

The Toms would like to talk about some of the greatest parenting advice they ever saw. And it's a meme. Or like, a tweet or something. But it's that good. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

No idea if we're being scammed or not but assuming it's real, he's got a lot to tell us about his horrific Christmas. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Lydia joins Thomas and Eli to talk about a recent NYT article about the hidden grief of not becoming a grandparent. How would we feel if our children decided they didn't want kids? (Fingers crossed, this should hopefully be the last of the no-Tom episodes!) Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Lydia and Heath are with us as we tackle a listener question about a situation regarding their child's karate class, and we discuss what makes a coach good or bad. We're releasing the patron version for everyone because the bonus story just needs to be heard. It features t And yes, the audio still sucks since this was the same recording session. Last one! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

We were not able to locate the actor who normally plays Tom so in this episode he has been replaced by the combined forces of Lydia Smith and Heath Enright. The 4 of us discuss an article about a free-range parenting experiment. Note: I (Thomas) made a blunder in the recording of this podcast and had to use backup audio which combines Lydia and I. As a result, the quality is a little sub-optimal to a degree that may even be noticeable to normal human people. I could apologize, but no one is more upset about it than me, so does that really make sense? I think I'll apologize to myself and then not accept my own apology. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Eli had an interesting situation come up with Max involving another kid being potentially a bad influence. What should we do in this situation? And then he realizes he has never told us his infamous "Pot Party" story... Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Tom shares a post from Reddit's Am I the Asshole and the dads debate the asshole-ranking of all of the characters involved. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Eli's got a parenting question and his facebook parenting group has... answers. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

The dads discuss politeness - what it is, how to instill it in your kids, and if it actually matters in the world. Also, how polite should we be with our closest friends and partners, and is there harm to being too polite in those relationships? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

We all know video games are how satan steals your kids' souls. But what if that's all they want to do? And what if they become homicidal maniacs while playing them? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Parenting is so friggen hard nowadays that the Surgeon General had to issue a report saying so. He probably received a few too many emails from his kid's school and was like ENOUGH, I'm writing a report. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

The dads all came in to record a new episode after the results of the election, and reflect on how to talk to kids about what happened, what may happen in this future administration, and what our responsibility is to others as we navigate the darkest timeline. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Did Eli overreact to another parent's verbal reminders for Max to "Dracula Sneeze?" How should we approach these sorts of situations to best advocate for our children? Should we be bossing other people's kids around or what? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

The Curry household has an intense curfew debate. Is Tom insane this time? Or is it the children who are wrong. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Shall we...rip into it? Thomas kicks things off in sharing perhaps a breakthrough (dear god please) with Screamy Smith, and Tom carries us home with an Am I The Asshole post about children needing to earn celebration. Stick around for Eli's impression of his sister! Rip into it. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

After a brief half of the episode talking sovereign citizens for some reason, the dads discuss the challenges of libido mismatches. Rip into it. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

The dads start off with a conversation about people diagnosing themselves with stuff using TikTok and other methods, but then the episode is diverted with a stunning revelation about Eli's brain... Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Tom was having some deep thoughts on consent and how we're teaching it to our boys. Is it possibly damaging to their self-esteem? How could we do it better? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

This is a personal one - Tom shares an important update about a member of the Curry family, with their permission. But first! A story about how Tom may have actually changed the toxically masculine heart and mind of a car salesman. Also patrons, no need to listen to the end of the show if you're in the Facebook group. You already got the only necessary part of this particular Disneyland story from Lydia. What Thomas shares here is basically the same info...this is definitely not Lydia writing this. Promise. Rip into it. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

The Dads are back already?! You better believe it. We're here for part two of our discussion regarding micro-cheating, working our way through that 21-item listicle. Some major revelations are shared between the dads. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

We couldn't fit the fun of this one in a single episode, so we have a two-parter where the dads go through a list of behaviors that are considered examples of micro-cheating...or are they? You'll be surprised on who teams up for some of these! BUT FIRST - an imperative update on whether or not Thomas could do a pull-up! AND AFTER - a fantastic story from the Curry Clan! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Let's face it, men can be pretty delusional about their athletic and physical abilities. But surely, none of the men on THIS podcast, right? RIGHT??? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

The Smiths went to Disneyland and much happiness (and insanity) ensued! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Eli shares a story from when he solo parented Max during Anna's very real-sounding-named fiddle festival, and the dads discuss what it means to have a child that's different in some way and the things they have to keep in mind when experiencing a world not necessarily built for them. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Eli witnessed an interaction in Target that raised the questions: How do you tell your kids when you can't afford something? Or, how do you tell them when you absolutely could afford something, but they really don't need it and have too much already? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

The dads are back with some more Doug Emhoff/Tim Walz content. A son dared to feel unrestricted joy and love for his dad at a thrilling time, and after some important discussino, the dudes are here to make fun of the right wing tweets that are upset about it. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Republicans see themselves as the party of men and manliness, but are they? Or are they the party whiny fragile little weird douchebags? Democrats, on the other hand, have some great examples of masculinity this election cycle: Second Gentleman Doug Emhoff and Governor Tim Walz - America's Dads. And this episode was recorded before the DNC even started. (You can tell because Thomas isn't openly sobbing the entire time about Gus Walz.) Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Phoebe got a haircut recently and picked out something different than most kids her age, but it just spoke to her. The dads examine their own childhood approach to invention and reinvention of their self, and the methods they employ to help raise happy and healthy young adults that aren't as hung up on changing things up. Also somehow we talk for an extended period of time about the CEO of Jimmy John's being...intimate...with a shark. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Today's discussion is focused on a tweet that caused a bit of a stir between the child-rearing and the child-free regarding finding meaning in life without children. Will the dads end up three-bearsing it? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

Recently, Tom has been challenging a family dynamic that is unwittingly "othering" one of the kids. The dads talk about being a black sheep, and the role parents can play in mitigating that risk in the future. And only patrons get to hear the bonus story where Tom had the chance to...rip into it. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

The dads talk about spaces and events being inclusive and exclusive of kids. What do we do when our friends or family are creating the space but are oblivious to (or dismissive of) the significant logistics that are part of these decisions for parents? Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

We've got a Reddit hypothetical that launches some great philosophical discussion regarding the push and pull of morality when our partners and kids would bear the sacrifice. We also discover Tom and Thomas are actually literal twins, and it freaks them out as much as it's bound to freak all of you out just reading it here. Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon!

First, Eli gives us a bit of a lesson on the CrowdStrike situation for some reason. Then, Thomas's family has turned him into something he never thought he'd be. He shares the story of his shame in having to hire help. Warning: this one gets yelly. For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook

Eli's TikTok-ery continues in this episode as the dudes discuss effectively advocating for your kid and tools to counter our, often unhelpful, natural reactions in that advocacy. For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook

It's an episode of updates in some stereotypical dad arenas: construction and taxes. Eli explains his experience of anger as he tackles his construction headache, while Thomas does something UNTHINKABLE to try and solve the dads' tax problems. For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook

The dads talk about getting older, and accidentally discover they're all on diets and mad about it. Tom shares his theory which kicks off a discussion about the common aging outcomes for men. Rip into it. For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook

Very Famous TikToker Eli shared a video with Tom and Thomas, and the dads get into a discussion about how much physical affection is appropriate in front of your kids. What about in a public place where other kids may be? How much of this is just shaped by society at this particular point in time, and should that be challenged? For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

Eli has had a revelation regarding his previously stated psychopathic opinion on apologizing. His new position is... psychopathic but less? For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

They're calling it Hermeneutic Labor! Tom read an article about this and he's mad about it. Or at least, we think he is. We haven't been able to interpret his feelings and frankly we don't really care enough to bother. For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

...and I'll do my sadfishing all over the place. An article from Parents described the phenomenon of sadfishing, wherein youngsters post vague, emotional statuses, photos, memes, etc. in the hopes of support and community as they navigate some of those tough moments, but do they actually receive what they're looking for? For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

The dads discuss how they celebrated their Father's Day this year before checking out some REALLY HELPFUL fatherhood advice from other dads that was published in the New York Times. Seriously, you won't believe how helpful it is. /s And patrons get multiple stories in today's bonus, including a really heartwarming update! You'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll keep your mouth shut when you're around Max. For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

This dads discuss how family trips and activities might be harder on kids than we realize. Are we putting too many expectations on our kids? How do we have a successful family trip? For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected]

Thomas's kids finished the baseball season and it was a very surprising success. However, what's next? At a certain point, Phoebe will have to start playing a different game entirely, for some reason, called softball. Why the inequality on that? What other aspects of our kids' lives feature this kind of thing? For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook

The dads have been through a year-long tax weirdness that just resulted in the state of CA freezing Tom's kid's bank accounts. No normal episodes can happen until the grievances have been aired. For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook

The dads listen to the recent commencement speech from Harrison Butker that is way more inside Catholic baseball than they expected, but also Eli disturbingly understands every single reference. Are women people? Should they be allowed to vote and have jobs? This sentient mayonnaise has opinions. For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook

We are finally covering an r/AITA that Eli sent a million years ago, and it's honestly a bit nonsensical but it launches Eli into one of the most amazing things you'll hear in Dear Old Dads history. Buckle up! For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook

Thomas shares some medical news for one of the Smith kids, and the dads chat about how to show up for your child, and talk to them, in tough situations that aren't their choice, especially if you carry your own personal history and experiences with that same diagnosis. A great conversation all around and a couple of admissions that Tom's take...is...right? For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook

On r/AmItheAsshole, a woman shares a moment she had with her ex-husband at their child's funeral and the subsequent reaction from his new wife. In seeking comfort, who do you turn to, and what boundaries do you have with others as your dynamic with them changes? We'll just say...the guys do not see eye to eye on this one. For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook

If you're a parent of more than one child, chances are you have 1 or more kids who are super easy and chill, and 1 or more kids who is... not. How do we handle that? What's going on there? The dads discuss, and they NAME NAMES. For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook

AI technology is advancing ridiculously quickly. Some day, if not today, AI image generators will be able to create incredibly realistic pornographic photos and video of... anyone. Including children. So, what are our responsibilities as dads? Is it possible to make this technology safe for our kids, and if it isn't, who bears responsibility for that? Also, little easter egg: only patrons will know what the constant noise in Tom's background is. You need to have heard the April 2024 bonus to be in the know! For extended episodes, bonus content, and most importantly, for an AD FREE SHOW, make sure to pledge on Patreon! Join the Facebook Group! facebook.com/groups/dearolddads For comments, email [email protected] Follow us on Twitter: @DearOldDads Facebook Page: Dear Old Dads on Facebook