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Van Badham: a fool in love!Van Badham is an author, playwright, Guardian columnist, broadcaster and general all 'round ratbag. Van and I talk about how she'd given up on love and then fell in love at Trades Hall, across a crowded room at the age of 39. We take a brilliant listener call on what single life can look like in your 60s and get into Van's dating dealbreakers and "he's a ten but...". A wonderful episode with a wise and thoughtful woman determined to wait for the best (chuck out the rest).Van's new play "A Fool in Love" HEREVan on Facebook HEREVan in the Guardian HEREVan's Book HEREBOOK TICKETS TO THE DEAR NELLY LIVE AT THE MALTHOUSE HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERENelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Spankie Jackzon: Winner of Drag Race Down Under!This week I am joined by my favourite Drag Queen Spankie Bloody Jackzon. Spankie is LTS (long-term-single) and not prepared to settle for less. We talk about Fairytales and how much of a barrier they are to real love, how Spankie was going for "the wrong type" of men and how BME (Big Mum Energy) can get in the way of connection. We take a great listener call on preparing kids to be good grown-ups (who are ready for dating) and another call on period sex - yes, I asked a cis, gay man about period sex. Spankie has learned that love is effort and that he wants to be the Little Spoon sometimes. A fabulous and funny episode with an icon in the Australasia performance scene.Spankie's website with all the stuff HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

AMANDA HAMPSON: from teen mum to acclaimed authorToday we talk to author Amanda Hampson. Amanda in now a 69 year old author, but was once a scared teen mum, kicked out of home and giving her child up for adoption. She's gone on to have more children and a couple of marriages but is avowedly - and happily - single. We talk all that stuff as well as why quitting is for winners, how petty divorce can get and we take a wonderful listener call about how we can see past relationships in a very different light once we heal. A fascinating episode that reminds us that the good old days were not that good.Amanda's Website HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BONUS CHRISTMAS EPISODE WITH BEV KILLICK!Bev shares her top celebration./event tips:refuse to take on perfectionbe naughty and niceenjoy your guilty pleasurestake the pressure downpresentation is key - not the amount of money spentgo where the love isBev and I also take some wonderful listener calls on navigating a tricky Christmas with step-kids and dealing with other people's ex's at Chrissy. We also take great listener letters on navigating your first Christmas without your kids and, what to do over the holidays if you family has rejected you.Bev's Cashew But Roast: HERERoast chook recipe: HERELOVE YAS,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Alice Fraser: Learn How to Fight!We are joined today by comedian Alice Fraser. Alice is beyond description - a wonderfully intelligent, thoughtful and insightful woman who is such a deep soul that I'm not sure I kept up! Alice and I talk about hacking the brain you have (and accepting it), how to embrace and handle conflict, about abuse and madness, Russian princesses, rejection and how chronic illness can affect relationships. We take a brilliant listener call on resentment about "weaponised incompetence". ALL THE THINGS! This is such a glorious episode - enjoy!Alice's website: HEREAlice Fraser on Patreon: HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Renee The Celebrant: Who's ya Daddy?This week we are joined by Renee Thompson - wedding celebrant, DJ, MC and massive horn-bag. Renee talks to us about being in a non-monogamous relationship and how to keep that rolling along in a healthy way. She talks kink and how it's connected to her conservative upbringing and, the "red and green" flags she sees as a wedding celebrant. We take an excellent listener call on a mid-life sexual awakening and all the usual stupid shit an ex has done and, Renee's dating dealbreakers. Celebrant by day and kinkster by night - a fascinating discussion with a bundle of pure joy!Renee The Celebrant's website: www.reneethecelebrant.com.auTomboy Website: www.tomboyonline.netRADAR relationship check in template: https://www.multiamory.com/radarSUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERENelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kaz Cooke: I am more interested in being happy than with someone!Award winning author and journalist Kaz Cooke joins us to talk about being single after a series of duds in her younger years and coping with the end of a long-term relationship. We do a deep-dive into menopause and how it can affect sex, dating and relationships. We talk about developing a sense of worthiness as we age and how friends provide sustenance. We take a listener call on what it's like to have a facial difference and be in the dating pool and we get an update on the "travel with them stress-test"... Kaz and I have some thoughts.A wonderful episode with a powerhouse of Australian publishing.Kaz's Books and other info HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt Kelly: I just wanted love!We're joined today by children's entertainer Matt Kelly. Matt shares his late-start to dating, how he was love-sick and swept up in the feels and how eventually he found his lovely beau. We talk about hope, change and knowing when you're done. We take a very important call about protecting yourself financially when you start a new relationship and whether or not you need to be friends with an ex (hot tip: hurt, hate, heal first). We read a letter about social media etiquette and whether it means anything at all. A wonderful episode with a mind and thoughtful man.WIRE (Women's Information Referral Exchange): https://www.wire.org.au/SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERENelly x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

CHRIS RYAN: CAN LONG DISTANCE WORK?Comedian Chris Ryan joins us to talk long distance relationships, how to heal a broken heart, why rushing in a sign you need to love yourself more and why you should never be grateful for "just enough".CHRIS RYAN'S WEBSITE HEREHOW TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART TED TALK HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

HAPPY 40TH BIRTHDAY TO US: with PRODUCER SAMMY!OMG, we have hit the 40 episode mark. And to celebrate I am joined today by Producer Sammy! We talk his hopes for the future (he's a single, straight, cis man in the wild), confessions, controlling partners, holidays with dates and we rip into an absolute doosh who drops a woman for a surgery scar. Sammy talks about stupid shit an ex has done and his dating deal breakers...PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sloppy Seconds with Helen Thorn: I didn't know it could feel like this!We're back with comedian and author Helen Thorn. Helen was blindsided with infidelity a few years ago and her 20+ year marriage came to an end. She spiralled and has spent recent years slowly rebuilding. In wonderful news she has FOUND A NEW LOVE. First and foremost for herself and now, with a lovely bloke she met on Bumble and whom she didn't see coming. A hopeful and heartwarming episode with one of my dearest friends.PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A short message about darling Cal Wilson and a little glimmer for the molls.Nelly x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey molls, Producer Fahey here. We are devastated by the news of the passing of darling Cal Wilson. Nelly's ride or die. A podcast favourite and the woman who single handedly kept the Glue Gun industry afloat. Nelly always referred to Cal as her Strawberry Friend. Someone you put a star next to in your contacts list, the person you could 100% rely on, call at any hour, the one you know would always be there. We can't believe she is gone. Our love to her beautiful boy and husband in their unimaginable grief. Thank you for living us all, Cal. We sure loved you too.Nelly, Fahey and Sammy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

CATH DAVIS IS BACK FOR SLOPPY SECONDS AND SHE ASKS NELLY: DO YOU STILL BELIEVE IN LOVE?Nelly and Cath talk Miriam Margolyes, whether or not Nelly has given up on love, calling out a best friend who treats you like shit and, how to date when you're widowed. SYDNEY SHOWOctober 7th at the Comedy Store with YUMI STYNES, BENJAMIN LAW AND CHRIS RYANTickets and info HERE PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SYDNEY SHOW!October 7th at the Comedy Store with YUMI STYNES, BENJAMIN LAW AND CHRIS RYANTickets and info HERE PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BONUS EPISODE: LIVE RECORDING AT THE BRUNSWICK BALLROOMNelly Thomas, Bev Killick, Adam Richard and Geraldine HickeySYDNEY SHOWOctober 7th at the Comedy Store with YUMI STYNES, BENJAMIN LAW AND CHRIS RYANTickets and info HERE PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

WADE DUFFIN IS BACK FOR SLOPPY SECONDS: KIDS OR NO KIDS, THAT IS THE QUESTION!Today we are joined for Sloppy Seconds with Wade Duffin! You remember Wade: he was a bit of a party boy in his younger days then met my friend and colleague comedian Claire Hooper and is now very much a family man. Indeed, he’s a stay at home dad who’s also just gone into screen writing. We talk about how he's been, dating requirements in middle age (get good pillows people!) and he asks whether it's easier dating people with or without kids. We take great listener calls on dating fat chicks (!) and also, camper vans.Book recommendation: In the Dream House by Carmen Maria MachadoSYDNEY SHOWOctober 7th at the Comedy Store with YUMI STYNES, BENJAMIN LAW AND CHRIS RYANTickets and info HERE PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sloppy Seconds with Wes SnellingWes and I talk about Dry July and how giving up booze for a month radically changed Wes’s anxiety, mood and physical health. Wes asks me about sexual identity and we have a really open and interesting discussion about the stereotypes around bisexuality, sexual fluidity and all the things that come with that. We do some ripper memes and take a couple of gorgeous listener calls on online dating profiles. We take a listener letter on unsolicited dick pics and what the hell is up with that and we end on a discussion about what a massive buzzkill claustrophobic relationships are. Wes, as always, is open, honest and curious. His voice alone is to die for and he brings his beautiful heart and big brain to the chat.SYDNEY SHOW: OCTOBER 7TH!At Comedy Store with YUMI STYNES, BENJAMIN LAW AND CHRIS RYANTickets and info HERE PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Fabulous Adam Richard: having sex sober and other stuff!We are joined this week by comedian, writer and Logies superstar Adam Richard. We talk about owning who you are, how progress is two steps forward and one back, how giving up drinking in middle-age changed EVERYTHING, Adam's first engagement in his late 40's and what it's like to have sex sober after a life-time of drinking. We take a very moving listener call on feeling broken-down and how to get yourself back to solid ground. Plus, all the usual memes and he's a ten but etc. There's so much laughter and wisdom from darling Adam. You're going to love this one.LIVE SHOW IN MELBOURNE THIS SATURDAY (with The Fabulous Adam Richard)!Tickets and info HEREPATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERENelly x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

YVIE JONES IS IN YOUR GOGGLE-BOX!Today we are joined by the one and only Yvie Jones. You may know her from Gogglebox (yes, her, Angie and all the dogs entertained us for many seasons), or I’m a Celebrity Get me Out of Here, Studio 10, Snackmasters, The Project or her own podcast Two Girls, One Pod. Yvie is a 50 year old, long-term single woman who loves her life! We talk about Yvie’s dating and relationships history, fat shaming and telling people to fuck off.We take a beautiful listener call from a woman going through chemo who wants to know if she should put pics on the apps of her fabulous bald self or not.We get into stupid shit Yvie’s ex’s have done (there’s a lot) and “He’s a ten but”. Yvie is an example of a happy, independent woman who knows what she’s worth and embraces the single life. You’re going to love her.BOOK TICKETS TO THE LIVE SHOW HERE PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!For $5 a month you get a bonus epFor $10 a month you get a bonus ep and video contentFor $20 a month you get all that PLUS Nelly will write your online dating profile for you DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TOM BALLARD: THERE WERE SIGNS!Today we are joined award winning comedian, actor and homo about town Tom Ballard. We talk about when Tom and I met when he was the ripe old age of 14.He’s early 30s now so yes, we’ve made an exception to have him on the podcast but man, it was worth it. He tells us his moving and somewhat complicated coming of age story (shout out to Lucy – you’ll know what I mean). Tom and I talk about a Dear Nelly dating success, aging in the gay community and take some wonderful listener calls of growing self awareness and another on how the hell you can tell who and who isn’t a lesbetian.A glorious episode with someone I’ve watched grow up and whom I adore. TOM'S WEBSITE HEREPATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!For $5 a month you get a bonus epFor $10 a month you get a bonus ep and video contentFor $20 a month you get all that PLUS Nelly will write your online dating profile for you DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERENelly xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SLOPPY SECONDS WITH PRODUCER FAHEY!We talk about blending families: How do you tell the kids you’re dating, how do you introduce them to new partners and kids and, when do you introduce them?And break-ups. But of a different kind: how do you break up with friends? Those partings are just as necessary and can be more frequent than romantic ones, but we don’t have a script for it.We talk trauma bonding: what it is and how to spot it.And then we take a wonderful listener call on coming (pun intended) into your own in middle age – a 40 something mum who has started dating and discovered she’s a squirter. Having the best sex of her life - on a pile of towels.A beautiful and hilarious episode with my bestie and the producer of this podcast, Fabulous Fahey.PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!For $5 a month you get a bonus epFor $10 a month you get a bonus ep and video contentFor $20 a month you get all that PLUS Nelly will write your online dating profile for you DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

WELCOME TO KINK AND OTHER STUFFToday we’re joined by bone fide civilian and horn-bag Son Guzzardi. Son shares some awful teen experiences at Catholic school, their early long-term relationship with an older man and then a joyful exploration – and perhaps late adolescence – as a queer person. Son is now married with kids and we talk about how that squares with being – in their words – a ho. Son talks about finding the kink scene and how empowering that was.We also take some listener calls on non-monogamy, poly and related issues. Finally, we end with a fight about bisexuality and we witness the evolution of The Son from biphobia to open-minded acceptance and also, from their previous codependent ways to valuing autonomy and space. Son is warm, open, funny and very generous in sharing about mistakes they’ve made and how they’ve changed. I absolutely loved this chat and I reckon you will too.PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!For $5 a month you get a bonus epFor $10 a month you get a bonus ep and video contentFor $20 a month you get all that PLUS Nelly will write your online dating profile for you DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DOAh, this one is self-explanatory: break-ups, recovery, heart-break and all the things.A special, personal episode.Ted Talk: how to fix a broken heart HERELIVE SHOW INFO AND TICKETS: HEREPATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!For $5 a month you get a bonus epFor $10 a month you get a bonus ep and video contentFor $20 a month you get all that PLUS Nelly will write your online dating profile for you DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERENelly xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

WADE DUFFIN: GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSIONToday we are joined by aspiring screen-writer and house-dad Wade Duffin who made a massive pivot in middle-age. We talk about Wade's early dating mistakes, the challenges and joys of marriage and, Wade's dealbreakers. We also take a brilliant listener call on how to support someone through divorce and a great letter on "Consensual Noon-Monogamy". A heartwarming and hilarious episode - enjoy!LIVE SHOW TICKETS HERE PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!For $5 a month you get a bonus epFor $10 a month you get a bonus ep and video contentFor $20 a month you get all that PLUS Nelly will write your online dating profile for you DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Gilbert Caluya: Bravery is OverratedToday we are joined by academic and author Dr Gilbert Caluya. Gilbert is trained in Critical Thinking Theory; or what we call here at Dear Nelly, Ripping Up the Script.Gilbert talks to me about his shame, pride and how the scripts of "bravery" can be damaging. Gilbert is a Gay, Asian man and we talk about the racism he has experienced in dating, his early dating history, age-gaps and his life as a long-term single man.LIVE SHOW TICKETS HEREPATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!For $5 a month you get a bonus epFor $10 a month you get a bonus ep and video contentFor $20 a month you get all that PLUS Nelly will write your online dating profile for youDEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month.SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Debra Campbell: don't date your therapist!Deb Campbell is an author and psychologist. I talk to Deb today about her relationships history, her divorce, her remarriage and her experience of DATING HER FORMER THERAPIST (hot tip: don't do that). We take some wonderful listener calls and do the usual memes and other stuff. A cracker ep from an actual expert.Deb's website: HERE (buy her book LOVELANDS via her website - I highly recommend it)BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SPECIAL EPISODE WITH SHITTING WITH THE DOOR OPEN PODCAST: FRIENDS AS SOUL-MATESWe are joined today by two of my favourite people, Wade Duffin and Harley Breen. In a Dear Nelly Special I am joined by TWO guests to talk about a different kind of love - the love of friends. Wade and Harley are LOOSE UNITS and this episode is filled with laughter and dick jokes. We get into the importance of friends, different types of love, mental health and fresh vaj (that will make sense). We take a great (but frightening) listener call about online dating, and we finish up with "stupid shit" an ex-friend has done and "he's a ten but..." - AKA friendship dealbreakers.We talk about "THE ONE": maybe there's more "than one" or, your "one" is a best mate. Food for thought.Please take this opportunity to listen to Wade and Harley's wonderful podcast Shitting with the Door Open: HERE.Enjoy!Nelly xBONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

GERALDINE HICKEY IS BACK FOR SLOPPY SECONDSGezza is back! She asks me what it's like to tackle "Divorce Admin" (hint: it's diabolical). We briefly chat about The Ultimatum: Queer Love on Netflix and how to handle rejection. We take some great listener calls on how to support a friend in a concerning relationship and, how to respectfully navigate a relationship with a trans woman. We also do a letter on TAKING YOUR KIDS ON A DATE and we finish with Gezza's BIG MISTAKE.Geraldine is golden, as always. Enjoy!GERALDINE'S WEBSITE: HEREJacinta Parson's article: HEREDivorce admin list: HERE (scroll down)BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bev Killick: married after ONE DATEThis may be our funniest episode yet. I laughed so much a little bit of wee came out. Comedian Bev Killick talks us through her first marriage to a man she'd known for ONE NIGHT. We take a beautiful listener call on getting your mojo back and do the memes and all the stuff. Get your Tena Lady ready - this one is a wild ride.Bev's facebook: HEREBONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SPECIAL EPISODE 2: THROW AN ELBOW EARLYWhile Nelly is having a short, well-earned break we present to you the first of the series - Best Of Dear Nelly.We'll be back in two weeks but until then enjoy the funniest bits from the first 21 eps, some memes, a Culture Share about "Queen Charlotte" and some new listener calls.BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERENelly x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SPECIAL EPISODE: ALL THE FUNNY BITSWhile Nelly is having a short, well-earned break we present to you the first of the series - Best Of Dear Nelly.We'll be back in two weeks but until then enjoy the funniest bits from the first 20 eps, some bloopers and some new listener calls! You also get Nelly's take on the Kardashians and some other stuff.BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

THERE IS NO "WE" IN "ME" Today we’re back for another Sloppy Seconds with the one and only Genevieve Morris. Gen asks me how I see my long-term relationship now that I’m a couple of years out of it. We talk about the healing power of cashiers, why we love Freddie Mercury and we take a brilliant listener letter on dating a widower and how to handle the feelings that come with the presence of “another woman” still in the house. We take some calls on "Thruppy Thirds" and celebrating single mums. Lastly, Gen rails against that couple thing of ‘we think’ or ‘he reckons’ or 'she said' – be your own person, molls. Enjoy!BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SPECIAL LIVE RECORDING WITH REUBEN KAYE!Today we have an exciting episode – a recording of the sold-out Live Show I did recently with comedy, camp, cabaret superstar Reuben Kaye! This episode is unlike others. It was recorded in front of a live audience, with a man under the age of 40 and it totally went off the rails. It was a special for IDAHOBIT day – the international day against homophobia, biphobia and transphobia. And it’s bloody fabulous!Reuben and I talk about his early dating days, his experiences at school as a boy ahead of his time (that bit will make you cry). We talked some of his sexual preferences, his sexcapades and he poked at fun at me, whilst I laughed at him. (I told him off once or twice too). Reuben is just wonderful. He was hilarious – side-splittingly so – but also raw and vulnerable. I am pretty sure he went places he doesn’t usually go in interviews and man; we were the beneficiaries.A trigger warning: it’s probably the best part of the episode but we do get into intergenerational trauma and there’s some discussion of suicide.And Bonus – writer, creator and singer of the Dear Nelly theme song, Casey Bennetto sings the theme song live.ENJOY! REUBEN’S WEBSITE (WITH TOURING INFO): HERE BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SLOPPY SECONDS WITH EMMA RACEToday we have the one and only Emma Race back. Emma and I talk the joys of perimenopause. We turn the tables and Emma gets to ask me a question – she asks what it’s like to be a newly single parent and if I miss those shared parenting moments. (Spoiler alert: yes and no). We talk about how you know when it’s’ time to leave a long-term relationship and, what it’s like to be a strong woman who wants her hand held. We take some awesome listener calls on how to ask for what you want in the bedroom and another one on vaginal atrophy – and before you laugh, yes it’s a real thing. As with all sloppy seconds we end with Emma’s thoughts on the biggest dating or relationships mistake she sees. Emma is a wise old chook - you get to love her insights all over again. LIVE SHOW!!!May 20th 2023 at Comedy Republic in Melbourne and also, Live-streamed for overseas, interstate and listeners with disabilities. DO. NOT. MISS. IT.Nelly live in conversation with camp, comedy, cabaret sensation Reuben Kaye.Info and tickets HERE. BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SLOPPY SECONDS WITH JO STANLEYToday we have our second return co-host - the one and only Jo Stanley. Jo joined us for episode 10 on 23rd March and talked us through her late start to dating, her early(ish) marriage and making it work through the trials and tribulations of life, love, alcohol, date nights and kids. In this episode Jo asks me about how to support friends through divorce and separation. We take some awesome listener calls on what to do if your partner gets jealous when you exercise (that one floored us both) and Mari calls back to tell us how’s she’s going post-chemo. As always Jo is thoughtful, kind and hilarious – there’s a reason I asked her back. We recorded this ep on zoom but don’t worry, I upped the wifi and it sounds good. Jo’s husband interrupts the recording and that goes really well :)  REMINDER: WE'RE DOING ANOTHER LIVE SHOW!!!May 20th 2023 at Comedy Republic in Melbourne and also, Live-streamed for overseas, interstate and listeners with disabilities. DO. NOT. MISS. IT.Nelly live in conversation with camp, comedy, cabaret sensation Reuben Kaye.Info and tickets HERE. BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SLOPPY SECONDS WITH SCOTT BRENNANToday we have a special episode. It’s our first return co-host - the one and only Scott Brennan. Scotty Brennan joined us on 23rd Feb and talked us through his journey of recovering from being cheated on by a long term partner. Because we’ve already covered that story in his first ep, today Nelly gives Scotty the chance to turn the tables and ask HER the questions. He chose to ask Nelly about her online dating journey, her first date and what it was like to get dumped. There's some awesome listener calls on what to do if you’ve had the best sex of your life and think you’ll never find it again, another on buying a house with your ex and a beautiful call from a woman who made the brave decision to end her marriage and is now grappling with the disappointment and shame of living a more frugal, share-house life. (Spoiler alert: Nelly and Scott both reckon she’s doing great.) And lastly they take a listener letter on feeling guilt when you break up with someone. That one’s a doozy. Enjoy our first Sloppy Seconds! REMINDER: WE'RE DOING ANOTHER LIVE SHOW!!!May 20th 2023 at Comedy Republic in Melbourne and also, Live-streamed for overseas, interstate and listeners with disabilities. DO. NOT. MISS. IT. Nelly live in conversation with camp, comedy, cabaret sensation Reuben Kaye.Info and tickets HERE. BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to Episode 15 of Dear Nelly with co-host Psychiatrist, Author and Broadcaster Dr Steve Ellen. Steve and I met when I was working on ABC radio and I instantly adored him – he’s open, honest, humble and vulnerable in a way that many professionals at that level seem to struggle to be. Steve was married young, has one child and was divorced in middle age. He took time to recover and then started dating on the apps in his late 40s. And bloody loved it. For the most part. He’s now late 50’s and in a relationship with an woman he met on the apps and I have to say, they have the MOST FASCINATING first date story you will ever hear. Steve is bright, open, funny and a nice mix of earnest and slightly jaded – right in my wheelhouse. Not too long ago he was the true unicorn of the online dating world: a single straight man with a job. Listen and learn.DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOW WITH REUEBN KAYE (May 20th):LIVE SHOW IN PERSON TICKETS HERELIVESTREAM (ONLINE) TICKETS HERE STEVE'S WEBSITE HERESUBSCRIBE to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a MonthSEND Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today we are joined by Cath Davis. Unlike many of my guests, Cath is not in showbiz. She’s a proper bone fide civilian with a normal job. Cath is a professional middle aged woman with a background in policy, unionism and education. She’s long-term single, has a bunch of mates, loves her family and career and is not interested in a relationship unless it value-adds. Bravo to her. Cath and I talk about being in your 40s and long-term single and what that’s like. We have a particularly moving exchange about how it feels to “not give” your parents grandkids. We talk about loving your own space and how you can learn from unsatisfying/inadequate/bad relationships in your twenties that you deserve more and, that you can build a happy life on your own. I also honour how great it is to have mates like Cath who have the energy, willingness and time to help out with - and enjoy - everyone else's offspring. Yes she's THAT FRIEND. We also take some great listener calls on celebrating single life and also, a pretty niche but relevant call on whether the word “misogynist” is over-used which, in turn, prompts a chat about the co-opting of terms like gaslighting and other dating terminology – are they overused (I reckon they might be)?BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to this episode of Dear Nelly with co-host Jane Montgomery Griffiths: Actor, writer, classicist and Head of School of Performing Arts, Collarts, Melbourne. Nelly and Jane talk about experiencing first blinding love, sexuality and our relationship with our bodies as we age and, whether or not there's "A ONE" for everyone. Jane is a brilliant, thoughtful and erudite woman and any scholarly nerds out there will LOVE this episode. Everyone else will love her vulnerability and candour. We also take a great listener call on whether or not we HAVE to be body-positive and up for anything in the bedroom. A ripper ep. BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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GENEVIEVE MORRISWelcome to this episode of Dear Nelly with Genevieve Morris - she’s a comedian, actress and check-out chick and her local IGA (that is not a metaphor). You probably know Gen from various TV roles but most notably Comedy Inc and weirdly, from that ANZ ad where she played Barbara the arsehole Bank Manager (Barbara lives in Bank World). Gen is one of the most honest, open and raw guests we've had on the podcast and you're going to love her. Topics covered include painful sex, long-term marriage to your best mate, recovering from cancer, wan*ers (literally), STIs and whether to bone a guy at work.Strap in, you're going to fall in love with Genevieve Morris. BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

APRIL 1ST DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOW 2023 INFO AND TICKETS HERE - DON'T MISS OUT!INFO AND TICKETS TO ALL OF KIRTY'S SHOWS HEREWe're joined today by comedian Kirsty Webeck. We talk about how Kirsty found herself dating the same person over and over again (hint: not good matches) and then, through therapy, changed her mindset and dating choices. We take listener calls on how to pace relationships and how to signal to other LGBTIQA+ women you're "one of them" if you don't "look the part". We talk about a couple of great memes and finish with Kirsty's deal-breakers. A great episode with one of the funniest and most lovely humans on the planet. And yes, we discuss fingering at film nights - it's a thing.BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

INFO AND TICKETS FOR THE DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOW HEREToday's co-host is radio and TV personality Jo Stanley. Jo and Nelly discuss the highs and lows of her long-term marriage - including a frank and fearless that it almost ended because of alcoholism - and take some listener calls on lingerie and the amount of free time men seem to have.BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TO BOOK TICKETS TO OUR LIVE SHOW ON APRIL 1ST 2023, CLICK HEREToday we are joined by the one and only Wes Snelling. Wes is LTS (long term single) and hasn't been in a long-term, romantic relationship for 23 years. We discuss the highs and lows of that and how much Wes LOVES living alone. We take a listener call on getting back into sex with new people after a long-term relationship ended (not always easy) and hear from a straight woman who hired a male sex worker to get her mojo back after divorce. This ep is packed with love, laughs and a few tears. You'll love it. Nelly xBONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment.TICKETS AND INFO TO CAL WILSON'S COMEDY FESTIVAL SHOW SUPPOSABLY HERE Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to this episode of Dear Nelly with co-host Helen Thorn: comedian, author and co-host of the wildly successful Scummy Mummies podcast. Helen and Nelly talk about her massive Covid blindside, recovering from the end of her marriage and getting back into dating in her forties (hot tip: she's very good at it). Helen's divorce hasn't been one of those neat "we're still friends" divorces, it's rough - but she's picked herself up and is bloody thriving. A raw episode full of love and laughs.BOOK TICKETS TO THE "DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOW HERE Scummy Mummies websiteGet Divorced, Be Happy by Helen ThornBONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For messages, live show and other info see Nelly's website HERE (www.nellythomas.com)FAKING ORGASMS WITH EMMA RACEToday we are joined by married lady and mum of 3, Emma Race. Emma Race is the Co creator and producer of the award winning Outer Sanctum Podcast and the co-principal of Making the Call - a pathway program for women in sports broadcasting. Emma had a series of tricky relationships in her 20's and was willing and able to be the "cool aunty" and perpetual bridesmaid until she accidentally fell in love with a bloke a bit older than her, got married and had a bunch of kids. Emma and I talk about the mistakes she made as a youngster - she's not proud of all of her dating history - and how she and her husband make it work long-term.The Outer Sanctum Podcast website BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Fahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

YOUR MESSAGES MAKE THE PODCAST!Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question, comment or story.Welcome to Episode 5 of Dear Nelly with co-host Scott Brennan.Nelly and Scott talk about recovering from cheating, why love-bombing is such a huge red flag and those bloody fish photos in straight guys' online dating profiles (Scott's analysis will surprise you). They also get into Scott's dating dealbreakers and the stupidist thing an ex has done... let's just say it STINKS (literally). Scott just got engaged for the first time at the age of 50 and Nelly also plans his wedding. BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nelly's co-host for this week is comedian Meshel Laurie. They discuss what's like being a single-single-proper-single-mum, what dating is like in your 40's and why you should let your kids have a say in your boyfriends. Meshel also gives some top tips on pick-up confidence - girl has some game.BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY - HERE'S A GIFT TO YOU!Here's a a free Bonus Episode from me, to you, for Valentine's Day!You'll get this episode today and your normal one on Thursday - 2 in one week, BONUS!Today's episode is special. It features listener calls about Valentine's Day, some thoughts from my very own kids and my Lovely Lauren calls in.You get a sneak peak from other Bonus eps and some research on the Day of Love - or the day of plastic crap - as well as a meme or two. Enjoy.RESOURCES:LATROBE STUDY: https://www.latrobe.edu.au/news/articles/2022/release/survey-reveals-teens-attitudes-to-sexual-healthSEX EDUCATION on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/au/title/80197526HEARTBREAK HIGH on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/au/title/81342553 FOR MORE BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.