Dear Black Gay Men Podcast

I spent 3 months on dating apps with 0 matches…For a while I thought I wasn’t what Black guys desired, but really, it was a deeper key that I was missing: intention…both mine and theirs.Dating is a combination of time and effort. Some of us have a lot of time to date, but don’t focus our effort in a way that moves us down our journey to happiness. Others have effort, but no time. Some have neither.The sweet spot is when you AND HE have bothRelationships are born with you and the guy you’re trying to get to know have (1) the time necessary to fulfill the physical and emotional needs of a new dating situation and (2) the desire to put forth the effort to get close.When you have both but swipe right on someone who doesn’t, what happens can only lead to disappointment and rejection. This episode, hopefully, helps us all identify how much time and effort we have individually and for the guy we have eyes for.Dear Black Gay Men Podcast is new every Thursday. We’re finally out of YouTube jail and I can’t be more excited. We stream our live show Thursday, at 8pm Eastern. Subscribe on YouTube or join our YouTube channel to support what we do at Dear Black Gay Men.By joining, you’ll get* Exclusive content like behind the scenes footage and special interviews* Members-only access to Dear Black Gay Men merch and events* Support queer stories on the DBGM platform. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Let’s watch some Netflix…I thought this was enough for quality time: you’re here; I’m here. We’re spending time so it has to be quality. Then I met Brandon.He checked all the boxes of the non-negotiables that Lamont talked about on his appearance on Dear Black Gay Men Podcast. But every time we spent time together, I felt more alone with Brandon than I did without him.Quality is relativeOur love languages are not one-size fits all. Each of us has a reason why that particular love language resonates with us. I talk about my quality time qualifications in this episode of the podcast, but we all have to discover why we like what we like.What makes time quality?Why does physical touch light you up?What kinds of words are affirmative for you?We each have to dive a little deeper into what we like to find why we like it (1) so we can better assess who speaks our love language fluently, and (2) to teach a good man how to better connect with us when we find him.Dear Black Gay Men Podcast is new every Thursday. We may be in YouTube jail, but we’re live on Twitter (cuz I refuse to call it X), Facebook, and Instagram. We stream our live show Thursday, at 8pm Eastern. Subscribe on YouTube or join our YouTube channel to support what we do at Dear Black Gay Men.By joining, you’ll get* Exclusive content like behind the scenes footage and special interviews* Members-only access to Dear Black Gay Men merch and events* Support queer stories on the DBGM platform. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

It could all be so simple, but…We’d rather make the dating process so hard. It boils down to ego keeping us from what we actually want.Desire says, “I want a man.” But ego says “I’m independent.”Desire says, “I’m ready to date”. But ego says “Say less.”Ego is that thing lingering in the back of our mind that protects who we are from the outside and we think it keeps us safe. Ego is that piece of our personality makes us hyper-independent and needing nothing from anybody.But the hard thing about not needing anything from anybody is that you never have anybody to need anything from.Join the BBC: Banned Book Club on Instagram @DearBlackGayMen Every couple that I’ve interviewed on Dear Black Gay Men Podcast tells me, in no uncertain terms, that they need something from their partner. Whether it’s small stuff like cooking or cleaning, or big things like support after a traumatic event, partnership is about needing. Not from an insufficient place, but after building a life that is so big that it takes two (or more) giving full effort to hold up.But we don’t go from hyper-independent to dateable overnight. The process in the middle is what I call “learning to lean”--it’s quite literally how we manifest the relationship that will fulfill us.The second you make the jump is the second you step out of fear and step into the best time of your Black gay life.Dear Black Gay Men Podcast is new this season with a whole list of guests that I’m excited to talk to in The Backroom. Our live show continues Thursday, February 6, at 8pm Eastern. Subscribe on YouTube or join our YouTube channel to support what we do at Dear Black Gay Men.By joining, you’ll get* Exclusive content like behind the scenes footage and special interviews* Members-only access to Dear Black Gay Men merch and events* Support queer stories on the DBGM platform. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Dating has gotten way too complicated, but…It’s not the dating. It’s me. Underneath all the fluff, and heartache, and trauma all of us have endured, we all want the same thing: to be desired, to be wanted, and to be loved. Dating is the pathway each of us has to walk to fulfill that desire—the process of figuring out who we are and sharing it with someone special.New uploads EVERY DAYSupport the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4➡️ Shop DBGM Merch: https://www.dearblackgaymen.shop ➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I feel like dating has gotten so complicatedNot that I’m old or anything, but there was a time when you saw someone at the club or out in gay spaces, walked over to him, asked his number. Probably jotted it on a napkin, and you pursued happiness. Now, as this experience would have it, men get to see you, build a narrative around who you are and how you carry yourself, then react to, ghost, or deny that guy.Welcome to Dear Black Gay Men on Substack. It’s still our short, b******t-free step out of our comfort zone to talk about all the emotional ups and downs along our journey to happiness. Join us and let’s get there together!If you’ve been rejected, congratulations, you wanted something and it didn’t happen. But you’re still here. Guess you’re a lot stronger than you thought.He told me I’m not masc enoughI really thought I was over this particular rejection. He was bold enough to tell me, in no uncertain terms, that I just wasn’t his type. That level of clarity comes only two real options, (1) heed what he said and move on, or (2) commiserate. I opted for the latter option until I saw his new boo.Years later, he strolls into a local gay/affirming spot that we both frequent and his man is less butch and more queen of a butch queen than I am—or at least that’s what my ego let me believe.Lessons come to show us ourselvesIt’s easy to say we’re healed from something when that trigger never shows its ugly head. There is a totally different emotional muscle system at play when the trigger waves from across the room, navigates through a crowded club so it can hug you and ask you how you’ve been.If I say Black love is beautiful; if I believe that being Black gay men and loving Black gay men is dope, then why can’t I get over this. Why can’t I heal? Why can’t I honor their relationship just as I would want them to appreciate and affirm mine—should one arise.That’s when I got the lesson.Dear Black Gay Men Podcast is new this season with a whole list of guests that I’m excited to talk to in The Backroom. Our live show returns Thursday, January 30, at 8pm Eastern. Subscribe on YouTube or join our YouTube channel to support what we do at Dear Black Gay MenBy joining, you’ll get* Exclusive content like behind the scenes footage and special interviews* Members-only access to Dear Black Gay Men merch and events* Support queer stories on the DBGM platform. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Thank GOD I didn't f*ck this man...➡️ Become an Insider: https://youtube.com/@dearblackgaymen/join➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.com📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

While I was cruising on the apps one day, this guy's profile really rubbed me the wrong way. I realized that I don't like condoms, but not for the reason you'd think. This episode is dedicated to overcoming condoms so we can get free. Condoms: Explained on Dear Black Gay Men LIVEFollow @JaiTheGentleman on IG, @DearBlackGayMen on IG.Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men on YouTube This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

It's been a while since I've uploaded to this platform and explanations are in order. I did take a little while to sort through some personal things. Nothing major, but this episode is dedicated to one of the big lessons that I uncovered during my time away from the mic.Follow @JaiTheGentleman on IG, @dearblackgaymen on IG.Tune in to the live show every Thursday at 8pm Eastern on YouTube This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Noah's Arc was mym 2005 dating goals before dating goals were even a thing. I remember going to Best Buy to buy the box set so I could dream about outing a piece of trade and living happily ever after.Now, nearly 20 years later, I can watch Noah's Arc with a different set of dating eyes. I can see where they went wrong, what dating lessons should I have left on TV, and which ones can I learn from this fictitious love story and apply to my very real dating life.Join this channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCATtcqkKs0IdiFN5-Ye4drw/join📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

This one is pretty vulnerable for me, but I'll admit it boldly: I'm a gaslighter. My last relationship had to end because I did some dirty stuff while we were together. Ralph Pittman is the human gaslight and I only know that because the way he messed up Drew is exactly how I acted in my last serious dating situation.But so many of our listeners/viewers are still up-in-the-air about what gaslighting is and how to spot it. So this video is dedicated to uncovering gaslighting and how we do it EVERY DAY in life, in friendships, and in dating.➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe➡️ Join the newsletter: http://www.dearblackgaymen.com/weekly📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Sl*t shaming aside, Ali Adamos is good at doing many things. He can get countless men to give him exactly what he wants---usually exactly HOW he wants it. Isn't that our dating dream? Getting a guy to date us, be with us, love us HOW we want to be loved?After I 💦 and I could think clearly, I looked at Ali, what he says, how he moves through life to attract so many men and there was one BIG lesson in there. This is how we can take a 💦 dump's secret weapon and use it in our dating lives.“Single is Your Super Power” by Case Kenny: https://amzn.to/3DkqlSsHIV/AIDS discussion: https://youtube.com/live/MI_boZ_nwsA➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe➡️ Join the newsletter: http://dearblackgaymen.substack.comWelcome to Dear Black Gay Men on YouTube.📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastYT: https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentleman This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

@OpenRelationshipPodcast is one of our faves here on the channel. The hosts give different perspectives on gay dating, Black LGBTQ social issues and everything A to Z about Black gay culture. But this particular story rubbed me the wrong way and I think Rodney may have it wrong.I am not trans, nor am I a parent, so most may take my perspectives with a grain of salt, but Neyo story has us questioning everything about communication, parenting, and what we would do if our future child comes to us questioning their gender identity. #queer #neyo #transphobia ➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe➡️ Join the newsletter: http://www.dearblackgaymen.com/weekly📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I know it’s Leo season, but this lesson in Gemini dating hit me so hard this week. I went on a date, asked the guy “what are you looking for?’ Of course, in true gay fashion, he responded “I’m not really looking.” For some reason, we’ll go looking for EVERYTHING in the world except a date. We’ll look for money, cars, degrees, jobs, customers, but love is something we expect to fall in our lap.This episode is dedicated to righting a wrong that has Black gay culture in a chokehold. Hopefully this week’s doneness reminder will leave you feeling a little more courageous as you go through the emotional ups and downs along your journey to happiness.GET YOUR TICKETS TO THE LIVE SHOW: http://www.dearblackgaymen.com/events/dc“Single is Your Super Power” by Case Kenny: https://amzn.to/3DkqlSsJoin the Afterparty on Patreon: https://bit.ly/3OysErB ➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe➡️ Join the newsletter: http://www.dearblackgaymen.com/weekly📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

@BishopOCAllen renewed his vows to his husband of 20 years, Rashad Burgess. Allen, who I call “B”, said he hates folding clothes. To the untrained ear, that sounds like something you discover over a 20 year marriage. But to me, I thought how dope it is that he’s self-aware enough to know that about himself and to say it publicly.This episode is dedicated to helping each of us single people grow a level of self-awareness that helps us date better, find better men, and connect with guys more deeply. I’m using one example that we’ve all seen on the dating apps or in real life, but this one problem in Black gay culture may be able to shed some light on a bigger lesson we can all apply to our dating lives as Black gay men. #datingadvice #relationships #singlelifeSpecial Announcement coming tomorrow: https://youtube.com/live/Y9yLzIEjxaw?feature=share“Single is Your Super Power” by Case Kenny: https://amzn.to/3DkqlSsSpecial thanks to @oretteayton5262 and @phynekat for the comments and encouragementJoin the Afterparty on Patreon: https://bit.ly/3OysErB ➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe➡️ Join the newsletter: http://www.dearblackgaymen.com/weeklyWelcome to Dear Black Gay Men on YouTube.📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastYT: https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever met a guy, got a number, texted for a while, a couple dates, but just can't make it over the 90-day hump? After so many failed dating attempts, it's easy to think it's either all men...or it's got to be me.This episode of the podcast is here to show us that it's a little of column A, a little of column B. A whole lot of luck and the right kind of work. What kind of work should we be putting into our dating situations? And how to ensure that work pays off?Special thanks to @infiniteimani3534 for the inspo, and comments from @YzBG and http://www.instagram.com/alexanderlove_love➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe➡️ Join the newsletter: http://www.dearblackgaymen.com/weekly This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I don't want to say EVERYONE has cheated, but have a relationship or dating commitment violated is an experience way too many gay guys have in common. I'm a cheater. I had a wonderful relationship that fell apart because of a lot of issues I brought into the dating situation.Now that I've worked through my ish (I am a single guru after all - https://youtu.be/sY4ubstbX-c) and I've dealt with my issues (as best I can), I'm sharing some of the lessons I've learned on why we cheat and how to avoid the pitfalls that lead us to cheat in the first place.➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe➡️ Join the newsletter: http://www.dearblackgaymen.com/weekly📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

New uploads WEDNESDAYS & THURSDAYSSupport the Channel: https://bit.ly/43lQ2N9Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4I really don’t think Black gay men are singling right. When it comes to dating, there is some intention we have to put behind who we allow into our lives. This post is a must see for any Black gay guy who is looking to get back into the dating pool. What should you be looking out for and how can we navigate dating better?“Single is Your Super Power” by Case Kenny: https://amzn.to/3DkqlSs➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe➡️ Join the newsletter: http://www.dearblackgaymen.com/weekly📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

When's the last time somebody asked you if you're a top or bottom? For me it was a couple days ago just before a first date. He was more interested in my position than he was in the date. Then I got the lesson.➡️ Become an Insider: http://www.dearblackgaymen/subscribe📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Gee Smalls is the Jai-appointed king of nudism in Atlanta. I'm worried about what to wear on an upcoming cabin trip, meanwhile he's naked on the gram. Then I got the lesson.➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I was traveling for an entanglement--not a date, not a relationship--a purely physical exchange when I got a big lesson about hook-up culture and how it's an analogy for Black gay culture at large.➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I remember when I used to watch older guys in the club thinking, "where yo man at?" I swore that I'd have me a husband before I end up 40 in the club...➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

We go live Thursdays at 8pm EST!Join the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Knowing what we want in a relationship sounds good on its face, but some of us have taken "knowing" to an unhealthy extent. This week's episode of Dear Black Gay Men Podcast is focused on a date I went on with "Victor" and some of the pitfalls that come with being a single man over 30 trying to date in these streets. I learned a valuable lesson that comes up when we think about compromise in dating. #dating #relationshipadvice #singlelife Cast of Love & Us Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLsyEUF8oSDh16JK_AlExsRuNLa44mq2TuWelcome to Dear Black Gay Men on YouTube.📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastYT: https://www.youtube.com/@DearBlackGayMenApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Talking to a new guy is the part of dating that is the most exciting because you get to figure out the guy and dream about your future together. But with that can come some tense discussions. This week's episode is dedicated to understanding where those arguments come from when you're dating, how to get out of them, and the self-work Black gay guys have to do to avoid them altogether. #dating #relationshipadvice #singlelife Welcome to Dear Black Gay Men on YouTube.📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastYT: https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Asking someone on a date seems pretty simple, but so many Black gay guys fail (or suck) at it, even in 2023. In this episode, @jaithegentleman gives his short, 3 step process to asking anyone on date and getting them to say yes. If you want to get the date with the guy you've been eyeing across the bar, gym, supermarket, or app, this episode was made specifically for you. #dating #relationshipadvice #singlelife Full episode with @thegaydatingcoach : https://youtu.be/7GOut-EOnIoWelcome to Dear Black Gay Men on YouTube.📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastIG: https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

We go live Thursdays at 9pm EST!Join the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4The best part about talking to so many gay guys about dating is that I can start to see the patterns. Every time the conversation of prominent interracial couples comes up, I see a patter. I could be biased, but there is an equation that makes interracial dating work for some people. Watch the full episodes:Kinks: https://www.youtube.com/live/24-eHAipiBo?feature=shareBody Image: https://youtu.be/3hUbRDbrC74Dating: https://www.youtube.com/live/MI_boZ_nwsA?feature=shareI'm looking back on how far we've come on Dear Black Gay Men Live. I haven't been the most dedicated to much in my career, but conversations about dating, s*x, gay culture, and single life thrill me so much that they outweigh all the mundane tasks. So this look back is one part unpacking aha moments, and one part taking pride in the conversations we've had. Thanks for rocking with me. --JTG#sexadvice #blackgaymen #gayandproud Welcome to Dear Black Gay Men on YouTube.📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastYT: https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

This episode was therapy for me. It took actual therapy, a failed Jack'd encounter, and some introspection for me to see one of my deepest issues in dating. Enjoy.New uploads THURSDAYSJoin the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Saturday night at a sex party-->Sunday morning at church-->Monday afternoon epiphany moments.New uploads THURSDAYSJoin the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: YouTube.com/@DearBlackGayMen🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

It's crazy that a trip to the mall, ten years ago, with my ex-boyfriend Thomas would lead me to this aha moment at my big-big-age.New episodes WEDNESDAYSJoin the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I had horrible s*x with two people that taught me some huge lessons.New episodes WEDNESDAYSJoin the group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4Listen to the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I asked a simple question about sex in the group and we jumped in the comments to give our pair of pennies. But what came up was a discussion about self, connection and relationship that I didn't expect.This episode is particularly significant for me because it marks our 50th episode of the podcast. As you can tell, I record these days--sometimes, weeks--in advance. But my gratitude to you all for rocking with me and my crazy thoughts gets deeper each week. --JTG➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever heard something that sounded right, but it took you a little while before you actually got the lesson? That was me in this conversation with Hakim Asadi. He talked about closure in one of my last episodes of Dear Black Gay Men Live in 2022. But it wasn't until recently where I totally got the lesson.➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I asked this question the other day about first dates, hopefully attempting to get some clarity on how to have better ones. Then I remember, "I'm the FIRST DATE GURU".Full disclosure, though, I am rarely asked out on a first date. So as I was thinking about what I hope he's going to do, I realized there is a fool proof equation to making a first date memorable.➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

First, thank you to all our listeners and subscribers. We're coming up on 7500 monthly downloads. For a new show that's only 15 minutes long, that's a BIG DEAL. Then, I had a conversation with a friend of mine who we'll call "Oscar". He said something--responded to something I mentioned in a previous episode--and that conversation made think. ➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I asked this question in our Dear Black Gay Men Insiders group and the conversation was...interesting. Somehow "talking to" became the plot...perpetrated by Millenials...to get us caught up IN THE BULLSH!T.Oddly enough, I think the "talking to" phase is critical to dating. This episode is my argument why.➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: https://bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I asked this question about talking to someone and got so many responses about commitment. Reading through got me to thinking about a particular minister that I used to crush on...and why I used to crush on him. #JudgeMeLater, but this is what I learned.➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB Group: bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I've interviewed bottoms asking them what they wish tops understood. Then last week, I talked to a top who had his own "things bottoms should know". But, this is my take as a vers who doesn't bottom that often. #JudgeMeLater➡️ Join Dear Black Gay Men Insiders for exclusive contentFB: bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.dearblackgaymen.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

You go out on a date, what do you expect the next day? A good morning text? Some sweet nothings in your DMs? That was me, secretly wanting him to fawn over me on date two. But this date with "Brandon" is changing all of that for me.Back again with some #firstdatechronicles. He and I went out a couple weeks ago, but instead of feeling left behind and jilted, I'm still in my feels because Brandon is a different kind of man. And in being so, inspiring me to be a different kind of man. Take a listen to see what I mean.➡️ EXCLUSIVE CONTENT from Dear Black Gay MenJoin the FB Group: bit.ly/3wsiWx4📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I advocate for the single life because a purposeful single life leads to purposeful, fulfilling relationships. I learned that lesson from a whole host of failed dating attempts. These are the nuggets I picked up along the way.Links:https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenhttps://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.comTheme music by The Passion HIFI This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

If nothing else, I am consistent. Stood up for a date so I started a podcast. Stood up again by the same dude, must mean season 2. Another failed dating attempt, must mean it's time to get back to work. Thanks universe.Links:https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenhttps://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.comTheme music by The Passion HIFI This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

It was an ass appointment that reminded me of a preacher with a Jheri curl. Long story, but a good lesson.Dear Black Gay Men Live: https://bit.ly/3UfQSqhLinks:https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenhttps://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.comTheme music by The Passion HIFI This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

If you’ve ever been ghosted, it can be hard to pick up the pieces especially if you were really cutting for this man. When I got ghosted, luckily, I knew it was his loss, but it still hurt. This is my story. Hopefully you can relate.Magic Mind: https://www.magicmind.co/dbgm Use code “DBGM20” for 40% off your subscription (limited time offer)Links:https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenhttps://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanhttp://www.dearblackgaymen.comTheme music by The Passion HIFI This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I’ve dated men who were EXCITING and that made me EXCITED to be around them. Then I dated men who were just a date. Because I’ve been on both ends of the excited-ness spectrum, I’m pretty good at pulling out some hallmarks to know when he’s actually excited about you, or if it’s just a show.Magic Mind: https://www.magicmind.co/dbgm Use code “DBGM20” for 40% off your subscription (limited time offer)Q&A: https://youtu.be/dezoSBrtcrkLinks:https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenhttps://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com Theme music by The Passion HIFI This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Even though I’m healed now, I’m guilty as anyone else of hurting people in my past. This episode is my story of figuring out what gaslighting is, how I gaslit my ex, and what I did to overcome it—my healing process.Magic Mind: https://www.magicmind.co/dbgm Use code “DBGM20” for 40% off your subscription (limited time offer)3 Unmistakeable Signs He’s Gaslighting You: https://youtu.be/zejx5Eisdj0Links:https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenhttps://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.comTheme music by The Passion HIFI This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

After recording this one, I've realized that I dedicated a lot of energy to "Joe" for one reason. This episode, I'm talking through how I learned that it's way past time to move on.📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

I be quitting s**t. Quitting people, quitting projects, quitting everything I've set my mind to. Well, not everything, but a lot of stuff. So I'm talking about how I'm not quitting this season and the lessons I'm learning by persevering.📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7sYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNj🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastYT: https://bit.ly/3VerZNjApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.I had an ex, Terry, who taught me the most valuable lesson of all: cheating has nothing to do with sex. This is the story.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

The most random conversation in the DMs gave me two HUGE insights on my own dating life and our culture. Spoiler Alert: you may want to stay out my DMs. #SingleLife #Identification #RepresentationMatters #DatingAdvice #SingleAdvocate📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastYT: https://bit.ly/3V8HjuWApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Glory holes have intention behind them--not just the people that use them. There's a lesson there if you allow it. #hookups #entanglements #anon #DatingAdvice #SingleAdvocate📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastYT: https://bit.ly/3V8HjuWApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Why do we end up doing the "so what's up" tango when we hook-up? I got a huge aha about our interests and attractions on my last entanglement. #Hookups #SingleLife #DatingAdvice #SingleAdvocate📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastYT: https://bit.ly/3V8HjuW🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe

Break ups suck, no matter who you are and who initiated. It takes time and work to get back to yourself “with full mobility”. These are 5 benchmarks along the journey. #BreakUps #DatingAdvice #SingleAdvocate📲 Subscribe to Dear Black Gay Men PodcastYT: https://www.instagram.com/DearBlackGayMenApple: https://tinyurl.com/5ymdtdx4Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/2p9pye7s🎶 Theme music by The Passion HIFIOur purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.➡️ Connect with Jai The GentlemanIG: https://www.instagram.com/JaiTheGentlemanShop: http://www.fullyvers.com/shophttp://www.fullyvers.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dearblackgaymen.substack.com/subscribe