Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Beatriz Victoria Albina, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, breaks down the ways a dysregulated nervous system might be getting in your way romantically, how to tune into the cues your body is sending you and how to heal ourselves for happier, healthier relationships. Then the Dear Damona question this week is: 15 years later, I find myself back in the dating pool. Where do I begin?Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program The Dating Accelerator, for $50 off this month ONLY: DamonaHoffman.com/programUse the code: MARCH50Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mercury may be retrograde but we are moving forward on a new path to love with an All-Dear-Damona episode. This week’s questions came in from all over the globe: I’ve been told that men should do the chasing. Do I really have to sit around and wait? How do I keep my cool when matches ask questions that I’ve already answered in my dating profile? I’ve done a lot of inner work. How much can I reasonably expect a male match to have done? A famous singer-songwriter reached out to me on Instagram. How do I know if it’s the real deal? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program The Dating Accelerator, for $50 off this month ONLY: DamonaHoffman.com/programUse the code: MARCH50Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this jam-packed Master Class you’ll learn why apathy may be the reason you’re feeling burned out in dating and how empathy is the antidote. Damona shares why empathy makes you more attractive, how to cultivate it, and exercises to strengthen both self-empathy and relational empathy. Plus, our Dear Damona questions for the week include: Why are so many people less emotionally available than they say? How can we utilize roster dating for less burnout and better turnout? I used to find joy in dating. Now it feels like a chore. How can I find joy again? How can you get a nervous first date to open up and relax? We are giving away 3 audio book copies of F The Fairy Tale in celebration of 550 episodes of Dates & Mates! To enter, just share this episode on your social media and tag Damona @DamonaHoffman and you will be entered for a chance to get the F The Fairy Tale e-book. If you’re tired of dating burnout then it’s time to identify your dating loops and move on in love. For the entire month of March, we are giving you $50 off the Dating Accelerator! Just visit DamonaHoffman.com/Course and enter the code March50Coming up next in the Dates & Mates lineup, we have an all Dear Damona so send in your questions! Submit them on any of the socials @ DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Johnny Fernandez, life and love coach, joins Damona to answer the question: is dating really harder today? This is a hot debate and it continues as Johnny and Damona put their four decades of collective experience to work. Whether you're feeling like dating is impossible, or just wondering if you’re doing it all wrong, if you’re intrigued by masculine/feminine dynamics or not, this episode is for you! Then we have this Dear Damona question of the week:After coming on strong, communication with my match has slowed. How do I know if he’s busy or lost interest?Book your tickets to an upcoming Love Breakthrough Live at radianceandcourage.com. The direct link will be in the show notes. You can learn more about Johnny and his wife Lara at @JohnnyAndLaraLAST CALL for questions for the February Dear Damona episode! Submit your audio or written questions asap on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or on voicemail at 424-246-6255TIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Modern Dating Challenges (00:00:00) The Role of Love Coaching (00:01:06) Johnny's Journey into Love Coaching (00:02:20) Expectations in Modern Relationships (00:06:12) The Impact of Choice on Satisfaction (00:10:16) Effort Required in Today's Dating Landscape (00:12:16) The Importance of Romantic Relationships (00:13:18) Choosing Your Hard (00:15:04) Introduction to Modern Dating (00:15:13) The Rhetoric of Comparison (00:15:50) Awareness of Desire (00:17:02) Fundamentals of the 3D True Love Method (00:17:59) The Paradox of Choice in Dating (00:19:57) Societal Programming and Commitment (00:20:59) The Importance of Distinction (00:22:29) Focusing on Healthy Relationships (00:24:37) Authenticity in Dating (00:27:07) Quality vs. Quantity in Dating (00:29:28) The Reality of Romance (30:25)Accepting What You Allow (31:16)Understanding Self-Sabotage (31:28)Love Breakthrough Live Overview (31:57)Breaking Through Self-Limiting Beliefs (32:21)Unpopular Opinion on Hustle Culture (34:19)The Importance of Emotional Connection (35:00)Closing Thoughts and Resources (35:56)Listener Question Introduction (36:45)Advice for a Listener (37:17)Navigating Grief and Relationships (39:59)The Importance of Mutual Interest (41:24)Empathy and Understanding in Dating (42:30)Possibility of Future Love (45:04)Closing Remarks (46:14) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lindsay Jill Roth, award winning television producer, shares her new book, “Romances & Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) In 250 Questions”, how these questions and ultimately the communication they foster can determine the trajectory of a relationship. Then our Dear Damona question this week is:Is it time for a talk? My man keeps updating his online profile.Get the book: “Romances & Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) In 250 Questions” and follow Lindsay on Instagram @LindsayJillRoth Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Relationship Questions (00:00:00) Host Introduction (00:00:13) Lyndsey's Background (00:02:29) Creating the System (00:03:51) Importance of Communication (00:06:08) Finding Comfort in Asking Questions (00:07:43) Starting Points for Conversations (00:08:29) Timing for Relationship Discussions (00:10:35) Therapy Before Problems Arise (00:11:17) International Romance Story (00:11:44) Pivotal Moment in the Relationship (00:13:37) Creating the System from Experience (00:15:09) Vulnerability in Relationships (00:16:35) The Challenge of Modern Dating (00:17:06) Initial Connection Over Text (00:18:44) The Disappointment of Zero Chemistry (00:19:20) Researching a Potential Partner (00:20:04) Deliberate Communication Choices (00:21:12) Importance of Getting Offline (00:22:00) Book Structure and Relationship Progression (00:23:06) The Role of Money in Relationships (00:25:03) Communication as a Foundation (00:27:12) Understanding Conflict Styles (00:28:37) Self-Discovery Through Relationships (00:31:20) Future Aspirations and Relationship Impact (00:32:51) The Importance of Structure in Relationships (34:05) Defining Spirituality in Dating (34:41) The Value of Self-Reflection (35:51) Using Books as Relationship Tools (37:11) Revisiting Conversations in Long-Term Relationships (38:05) The Evolution of Relationship Conversations (39:00) Permission to Not Have All the Answers (39:30) Unpopular Opinions on Dating (41:10) The Need for Open Communication (41:39) Listener Question on Relationship Insecurities (43:21) Navigating Undefined Relationship Spaces (46:05) Taking the Initiative in Relationship Conversations (48:40) Exploring Serious Relationships (00:50:59) The Power of Vulnerability (00:52:07) Episode Wrap-Up and Resources (00:52:15) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Devyn Simone, Tinder’s Resident Relationship Expert, joins Damona in celebration of Valentine’s Day to test Damona’s online dating knowledge in a Tinder Trivia showdown! Whether you’re feeling the love or dodging Cupid’s arrow this year, we’ve got something for you. Then in a special Dear Damona and Dear Devyn, our questions this week are: My matches want to skip getting to know each other and get straight to the date. How do I deal with this? I keep getting ghosted. Am I coming on too strong? You can find Tinder in the App Store or the Google Play Store, and you can find Devyn on Instagram @DevynSimone*This is NOT a sponsored episode*Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Welcome to Dates and Mates (00:00:06) Introducing Devin Simone (00:02:05) Catch-Up Between Friends (00:02:41) Tinder Trivia Game Introduction (00:03:52) The Evolution of Online Dating (00:04:54) Importance of Hope in Dating (00:08:06) First Trivia Question: Tinder's Activity Day (00:09:07) Burnout in Dating (00:11:27) Maximizing Dating App Time (00:12:21) Momentum in Online Dating (00:14:14) The Importance of Phone Calls (00:14:28) Trivia Game Begins (00:15:26) Benefits of Tinder's Passport Feature (00:16:34) Changing Dating Parameters Post-COVID (00:17:05) Misconceptions About Dating Options (00:20:49) Investment in Dating Apps (00:23:44) Study on Men's Perceptions of Women (00:24:18) Reality of Men's Relationship Goals (00:27:08) Understanding Individual Relationship Seriousness (00:28:33) The Importance of Online Dating Opportunities (00:29:25) Trivia Game Introduction (00:30:08) Loud Looking Trend (00:31:14) Shift in Dating Culture (00:32:11) Self-Reflection in Dating (00:34:34) Profile Photo Selection (00:39:31) AI Photo Selector Tool (00:42:42) Tinder Data Insights (00:43:24) AI Tools for Profile Building (00:44:13) Using Data for Dating Ease (00:45:07) Support Beyond Profiles (00:45:42) Confidence through Tools (00:46:11) Quality of Relationships (00:46:59) Listener Questions Introduction (00:47:38) Handling Men on Dating Apps (00:48:43) Importance of Pre-Screening (00:49:33) Communication Methods (00:50:49) Scheduled Mini-Dates (00:52:12) Ghosting and Quality Connections (00:52:28) Assessing Dating Patterns (00:53:25) Self-Inquiry in Relationships (00:54:01) Defining Quality in Partners (00:56:00) Closing Remarks and Appreciation (00:56:54) Closing Remarks and Thanks (00:57:25) Valentine's Day Episode Mention (00:57:25) Upcoming Guest Announcement (00:58:32) Valentine's Day Wishes (00:58:32) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Valentine’s Day is around the corner and Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! Whether you're navigating dating apps, dealing with relationship questions, or just trying to avoid all those pink hearts in the grocery store…February can be a tricky time! Set the record straight in this all Dear Damona episode with your top questions like: A hot new match has convinced me the dating apps are worth a second go. How do I do this? My dates aren’t taking the time to get to know the real me.Where can I meet matches dating on a deeper level? Is my dating groove too strong? I have two love interests and both work in the same building. Friends say I should put a pause on dating, but I don’t want to. What do you say? And, my identical twin ex couldn’t peel away from his brother for our relationship. Did I ignore red flags? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/programSubmit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to the Episode (00:00:00)Listener Questions Begin (00:02:14)Listener's Dating Experience (00:02:17)Mindset and Dating Strategies (00:04:09)Clarifying Dating Goals (00:07:27)Anonymous Listener's Dilemma (00:09:40)Advice on Age and Compatibility (00:11:57)Navigating Workplace Relationships (00:14:16)Empowerment in Dating Choices (00:15:19)Navigating Real-Life Dating Challenges (00:16:28) Empowering Self-Expression in Dating (00:19:44) Seeking Connection Amidst Life's Responsibilities (00:23:10) Understanding Dating Mindset (00:26:13) Defining Relationship Goals (00:31:39) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, hosts of the Dateable Podcast, share the knowledge and insights from their brand-new book, “How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love.” Whether you're stuck in the dating rut or just looking for that spark of clarity, they’ve got the tools to help you date smarter and connect deeper. Then our Dear Damona question this week is:Now that I’ve stopped chasing unavailable men, I can’t seem to find anyone that I am attracted to. What do I do?Go to HowToBeDateable.com to grab a copy of “How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love.” And you can follow Yue and Julie on Instagram @DateablePodcast lLAST CALL to JOIN US LIVE - if you want more tools, support, and community, spend the entire day with Damona and her team while you heal your heart and renew your faith in romance at our one-day-only F the Fairy Tale Virtual Retreat. This live online event is ALMOST SOLD OUT so grab your ticket before it’s gone at DamonaHoffman.com/RetreatSubmit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“What To Do When You Get Dumped” author-illustrator, mother-daughter duo, Suzy Hopkins and Hallie Bateman take on heartbreak in a refreshing way in their new graphic novel. Discover tips on healing from a breakup, moving on, and leaning into love again. Plus, we have this week’s Dear Damona question: Why do my Hinge matches like my profile but then never write to me?Grab your copy of Suzy and Hallie’s graphic novel, “What To Do When You Get Dumped” by visiting: https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/what-to-do-when-you-get-dumped-9781639731893/Let’s get real! Dating feels harder than it should be right now leaving many feeling emotionally drained. That’s why Damona is hosting a special open call: Dealing with Dating Burnout TOMORROW Wednesday, January 22nd at 4p.m. PST / 7p.m. EST. Learn quick tools to protect your energy while staying open to connection, how to recognize if your dating patterns are draining you, and simple shifts to make dating feel more aligned with your values. Visit DamonaHoffman.com/DatingBurnoutAnd if you want more tools, support, and community, spend the entire day with Damona and her team while you heal your heart and renew your faith in romance at our one-day-only F the Fairy Tale Virtual Retreat. This live online event is almost SOLD OUT so grab your ticket before it’s gone at DamonaHoffman.com/RetreatSubmit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Breakups (00:00:00) Divorce Month (00:01:06) The Inspiration for the Book (00:03:30) The Role of Tarot (00:04:51) Navigating Trauma (00:05:53) The Healing Process (00:08:25) Collaborative Writing Process (00:10:16) Depth of the Story (00:12:38) Advice and Wisdom (00:15:53) Encouragement in Writing (00:16:37) Daily Meditations (00:17:52) Writing Through Pain (00:18:50) Forgiveness vs. Moving Forward (00:20:27) Finding Peace (00:22:50) Behold the Badger (00:23:10) Reclaiming Spaces (00:28:14) Rewriting Memories (00:30:06) Making a "What Was True" List (00:32:28) The list of issues (00:34:07) Personal truths in healing (00:35:47) Rewriting the script (00:37:21) Counseling for recovery (00:38:50) Grief and awakening (00:39:30) Rediscovering desire (00:41:17) Unpopular opinions on dating apps (00:43:06) The value of being single (00:44:26) Closing thoughts and book promotion (00:46:40) Dating Apps and Burnout (00:50:56) Understanding Dating Mechanisms (00:52:20) Perception of Dating Experiences (00:53:32) Introducing the Fairy Tale Online Retreat (00:56:08) Upcoming Episode Teaser (00:57:21) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Orna & Matthew Walters, founders of Love On Purpose, share the knowledge and insights from their new book, “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Finding Lasting Love”. You’ll learn how you might be standing in your own way when it comes to love and what you can do to get yourself back on track. And our Dear Damona question this week is:I want to pay for Premium on one app? Should I choose Tinder, Bumble, or OKCupid?Grab a copy of “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Finding Lasting Love” by visiting: https://www.loveonpurpose.com/getting-it-right-this-time/Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. Enrollment is NOW OPEN for The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat but spaces are limited. Get your ticket now at DamonaHoffman.com/retreat Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Guests Introduction (00:00:56) Background of the Guests (00:02:10) Discussion on Title Choice (00:03:22) Challenges in Dating (00:03:41) Dating in the Modern Era (00:04:25) Myth of Effortless Love (00:05:03) Conflict in Relationships (00:06:54) Understanding Triggers (00:09:25) Authenticity in Communication (00:11:56) Patterns in Relationships (00:12:33) Brain Science of Attraction (00:14:13) Personal Experiences with Love (00:15:17) The Impact of Past Trauma (00:15:50) Contrasting Upbringings (00:16:13) Subconscious Patterns in Relationships (00:17:23) Understanding Love Imprint (00:18:36) Evaluating Relationship Needs (00:20:01) Misinterpreting Feelings (00:20:56) Commitment Before Understanding (00:21:56) The Danger of Rushing Relationships (00:22:41) Tools for Self-Discovery (00:23:54) Visceral Responses to Love Imprints (00:25:15) Meaning in Past Experiences (00:26:10) Chemistry vs. Love Imprint (00:28:21) The Complexity of Love Imprints (00:29:16) Broadening Relationship Perspectives (00:30:34) Understanding Casual Alcoholism (00:31:16) Realizing Personal Responsibility (00:31:36) The Love Imprint Concept (00:32:30) Navigating Relationship Myths (00:33:36) Recognizing Relationship Intentions (00:34:39) The Fantasy of Being Chosen (00:35:36) Growth Through Relationships (00:37:11) Using Dating Apps Effectively (00:38:07) The Reality of Dating (00:39:36) The Importance of Clarity in Relationships (00:42:37) Manifestation in Relationships (00:45:40) Love Imprints and Relationship Dynamics (00:46:25) Self-Discovery in Relationships (00:47:56) Unpopular Opinions on Dating (00:48:28) Deal Breakers in Relationships (00:49:52) Optimizing Dating Profiles (00:55:00) Choosing the Right Dating App (00:59:33) Fairy Tale Therapy Retreat (01:00:44) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Carol Allen, Vedic astrologer, returns to kick off 2025 with her annual love forecast in an episode packed with guidance and revelations. Whether you’re single and searching, navigating a partnership, or simply curious about how the stars align for you, this episode will illuminate your path to love by highlighting the times you should lean into love, when you should play it cool and when to follow up on old flames. Plus, our Dear Damona question of the week:What’s up with all this lovebombing on dating apps?Map out your year and your journey in love with a Personal Success Calendar from Carol Allen. Head to DamonaHoffman.com/mycalendar to get 60% off your personalized astrology daily forecast.Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat is available by invitation-only and Damona is hand-selecting each participant in this life-changing event. Apply today at DamonaHoffman.com/retreatSubmit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Vedic Astrology (00:00:13) Understanding Vedic Astrology (00:05:46) Auspicious Dates for Love (00:11:23) The Importance of Venus (00:12:42) Transits and Their Impact (00:15:08) The Sati Sati Cycle and the US (00:16:09) Impact of 2020 on Relationships (00:17:15) Transitioning Relationships (00:18:22) Rahu Periods and Global Chaos (00:18:55) Commitment to Joy (00:19:24) Venus in 2025 (00:20:20) Venus Retrograde Dates (00:21:05) Revisiting Past Connections (00:22:20) Upcoming Venus Favorable Periods (00:24:40) Navigating Tricky Times (00:25:58) Mars Retrograde Impact (00:26:21) April Challenges (00:27:33) Mercury Retrograde Overview (00:28:40) Mercury Retrograde Dates (00:29:58) Jupiter and Marriage (00:31:07) Jupiter Retrograde Timeline (00:32:21) Winter Weddings Warning (00:33:05) Engagement Timing (00:33:20) Wedding Chart Insights (00:34:25) Personal Success Calendar (00:34:27) Astrological Techniques for Love (00:35:07) Jupiter and Mars Relationship Technique (00:36:32) Celebrity Astrology Examples (00:37:47) Taylor Swift's Chart Analysis (00:40:13) Beyoncé's Astrological Insights (00:42:27) Personal Success Calendar Benefits (00:44:08) Unpopular Opinion on Dating (00:46:01) Listener Question on Love Bombing (00:47:59) Understanding Love Bombing (00:50:09) Patterns in Relationships (00:51:19) Recognizing Manipulation (00:52:22) Setting Boundaries in Dating (00:53:17) Importance of Offline Interaction (00:54:30) Evaluating Reactions to Boundaries (00:55:55) Sorting Out Emotional Manipulation (00:57:29) Upcoming Fairy Tale Retreat (00:58:36) Astrological Calendar Offer (00:59:47) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona offers a visualization to guide you through the ups and downs of this year and plant seeds for a 2025 full of love in this special minisode. Then, she shares her word of the year along with an exercise that you can try today to begin transforming your love journey.Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat is available by invitation-only and Damona is hand-selecting each participant in this life-changing event. Apply today at DamonaHoffman.com/retreatThe song in this episode is called Meditation On Love and is by Kirk Osamayo. It is from the Free Music Archive, license type CC BY.TIMESTAMPSIntroduction to the Episode (00:00)Tangible Love Goals (00:09)Visualization and Meditation Introduction (01:04)Year-End Reflection (02:17)Letting Go of Past Disappointments (04:09)Visualizing a Hopeful Future (05:54)The Concept of Grace (09:11)Grace as a Game Changer (10:37)Final Thoughts on Grace (11:53)New Year Exercise (13:01)Invitation for Feedback (14:36)Closing Remarks (15:46) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona shares reflections on the swiping stats from 2024 based on Tinder and Bumble trends from their year-end reports. Then she looks forward to the future to predict what you can expect in the world of dating and relationships in 2025. Are you feeling burned out on dating—like you’re giving so much but getting nothing back? Then join Damona on February 1st for a one-day virtual retreat - Fairy Tale Therapy, where you’ll reconnect with yourself and a community of hopeful daters who get it. Together, you’ll set powerful intentions for your love life, uncover new dating tools, and recharge your self-love battery so you can step into the new year with clarity and confidence. Apply asap, spaces are limited and each attendee will be hand-picked by Damona: DamonaHoffman.com/retreatTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Holiday Challenges (00:00)Reflections on 2024 Trends (00:01)Tinder Year in Swipe Report (00:02)Vision Boards in Dating (00:04)Bumble Global Dating Trends (00:05)Micro Romance and Its Impact (00:05)Community Building Through Content (00:08)Emotional Stability in Relationships (00:12)Guy BFFs as Influencers (00:13)Predictions for 2025 (00:14)The Year of the Woman (00:15) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Laura Stassi, author and host of the Dating While Gray podcast, reveals how many of our dating challenges and solutions remain the same, regardless of age, gender, or sexuality. And Laura joins Damona for a special Dear Damona segment to answer your questions, like: I’d like to move to Tennessee and meet a Southern gentleman. Should I start dating long distance in the meantime? I have a medical issue that is lowering my self esteem. How can I move past this and begin dating again? Listen to the Dating While Gray podcast wherever you get your podcasts and be sure to follow Laura on Instagram @DatingWhileGrayReady to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/programSubmit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Guest Introduction (00:01:15) Laura's Background (00:02:19) Podcast Journey (00:05:41) Media Representation of Older Daters (00:06:21) Dating Trends and Challenges (00:10:34) Dating Attitudes Across Ages (00:11:57) Learning from Dating Experiences (00:14:04) Shifting Dating Etiquette (00:15:38) The rigidity of dating (00:16:16) Compromise in dating (00:17:22) Dating models and etiquette (00:18:36) Older daters' routines (00:19:47) Generosity in dating (00:20:46) Communication in dating (00:22:12) Meeting people offline (00:24:52) Overcoming fear of being alone (00:27:57) Reconnecting with past acquaintances (00:29:00) Long-distance dating considerations (00:31:01) Exploring Relocation for Love (00:31:59) Importance of Community (00:32:21) Dating as Discovery (00:34:13) Listener Question on Self-Esteem (00:36:20) Vulnerability in Sharing Challenges (00:37:26) Stigmas Around Health Issues (00:39:46) Navigating Disclosure in Dating (00:40:57) Redefining Sexual Intimacy (00:42:28) Intentional Dating Post-Pandemic (00:44:01) Comfort with Oneself (00:45:18) Closing Remarks and Resources (00:46:14) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aleeza Ben Shalom, celebrity matchmaker of Netflix’s Jewish Matchmaking, shares actionable advice to help you find your path on this dating journey with wisdom from her new book “Matchmaker, Matchmaker: Find Me a Love That Lasts”. And the Dear Damona question this week is: What are the signs that someone is interested in you?Pre-order your copy of Aleeza's new book, “Matchmaker, Matchmaker: Find Me a Love That Lasts”, by visiting: https://marriagemindedmentor.com/book/And, follow Aleeza on Instagram @AleezaBenShalom!Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/programSubmit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntro (00:00:00) Finding your personal dating playbook (00:01:03) Meet Aleeza Ben Shalom (00:02:14) Aleeza's journey as a matchmaker (00:02:50) Date them till you hate them (00:04:02) The three-date rule (00:05:30) Clarity in dating decisions (00:06:37) The importance of staying curious (00:07:25) Navigating difficult conversations (00:10:30) Rejection as a form of protection (00:13:20) The five-day challenge (00:14:42) Five Day Challenge Explained (00:15:04)Clarifying the No Touching Rule (00:15:49)Tips for the Challenge (00:16:36)Importance of Connection in Dating (00:18:39)Dating Dynamics and Tests (00:19:47)Rules for Same-Sex Couples (00:20:33)Calculating Relationship Compatibility (00:21:06)Interests vs. Core Values (00:22:44)Significance of Family Values (00:24:22)Understanding Timelines in Relationships (00:26:53)Self-Discovery in Dating (00:29:16)The Five-Year Relationship Evolution (00:29:50) The 555 Dating Rule Explained (00:30:23) Building Momentum in Dating (00:31:04) Chemistry and Intentional Dating (00:34:13) Soulmate Clarity Concept (00:37:38) Navigating Workplace Relationships (00:40:41) Dating Gestures and Vibes (00:45:35) Small Moves in Dating (00:46:29) Attraction Beyond Age (00:47:22) Investing in Clear Signals (00:48:52) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s episode is dedicated to YOU! The holidays are here, bringing all the cozy vibes, family gatherings, and… yep, those inevitable relationship questions. Damona answers all your pressing holiday love questions, from family expectations to finding romance under the mistletoe.She will answer your top questions like: I have been dating a wonderful man for 7 months now and STILL don’t feel a physical connection. Is it time to call it quits? I got ghosted after 4 months of dating, is it something I said? I am interested in some of the singles in my triathlon club. Do I shoot my shot or is it too risky? She made the reservation but then asked for my credit card to reimburse her the deposit. Is that a petty red flag? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/programSubmit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntro (00:00:00) Uncertainty in Relationships (00:00:01) Light-hearted Commentary (00:00:03) Holiday Dating Dilemmas (00:00:06) Listener's Voice Memo (00:01:55) Annie's Relationship Concerns (00:02:01) Ghosting After Four Months (00:07:58) Communication Issues in Relationships (00:09:00) Conflict Resolution Advice (00:12:22) Triathlon Club Dating Dilemma (00:16:24) Breaking the Ice in a Club (00:16:46) The Benefits of Physical Activity (00:17:18) Navigating Group Dynamics (00:19:50) Using Dating Apps (00:22:02) Addressing Gender Roles in Dating (00:23:55) Finding Common Ground (00:26:12) Preparing for Holiday Conversations (00:29:38) Closing Thoughts and Future Episodes (00:30:52) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lauren Frances, Love and Relationships Expert, talks all about first dates from when they start (it’s not when you think) to how to graciously end one that’s just not working for you. And our Dear Damona question of the week is, “My match is great, not a single dealbreaker, and I STILL can’t wrap my head around commitment. What now?”Want to join Lauren’s incredible Love Magnet Makeover? Just visit DamonaHoffman.com/lovemagnetSubmit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTimestampsIntro (00:00:00) The First Date Starts Early (00:00:09) Preparation for First Dates (00:00:14) Value of First Dates (00:01:05) Introducing Lauren Francis (00:02:05) Persistence in Publishing (00:03:09) Timing in Dating (00:04:38) Transitioning to Phone Calls (00:05:53) Setting Up Phone Conversations (00:07:25) Importance of Privacy (00:09:10) Breaking the Ice (00:11:21) Choosing the Right Date Venue (00:12:18) Being Seen on Dates (00:13:06) Creating the Right Vibe (00:15:02) Understanding Enthusiasm in Dating (00:16:35) The Enthusiasm Gap (00:20:37) First Dates as Your Party (00:21:37) Heartache Prevention Tips (00:25:12) Compatibility and Actions Over Words (00:30:07) Ghosting and Relationship Alignment (00:31:02) Rejection Reasons (00:32:58) Ending Dates Positively (00:34:04) Creating a Great First Impression (00:35:02) Love Magnet Makeover Introduction (00:36:01) Details of Love Magnet Makeover (00:37:04) A Listener's Commitment Question (00:40:04) Navigating Relationship Fears (00:41:07) Understanding Commitment (00:42:19) Empowerment in Relationships (00:48:00) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Alfiee, psychologist, host of the Couched in Color podcast and founder of the AAKOMA Project, dives into attachment styles, how depression can impact a partnership, and the ways our traumas and triggers can become unearthed in new relationships. Then this week’s Dear Damona question is: I married too young and stayed too long. Can you please help me get back into the dating game?Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/programSubmit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTimestampsIntroduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Attachment Styles Overview (00:00:59) Expectations in Relationships (00:03:30) The Desire to Change Partners (00:05:04) The Fantasy of Relationships (00:06:13) Effort vs. Work in Relationships (00:08:01) Unpacking Emotional Baggage (00:08:35) Understanding Attachment Styles (00:09:55) Cultural Context of Attachment (00:12:04) Personal Experiences with Attachment (00:14:23) Embracing Attachment Nuances (00:15:17) Understanding Family Dynamics and Attachment Styles (00:16:50) Personal Reflection on Attachment Styles (00:17:42) The Impact of Community on Relationships (00:18:26) Navigating Triggers in Relationships (00:19:55) Mental Health and Medication Statistics (00:20:37) Stigma Around Mental Health in Communities (00:22:13) Dating with Mental Health Challenges (00:23:05) Recognizing Deal Breakers in Relationships (00:23:43) Changing Attitudes Towards Therapy (00:25:51) Generational Differences in Mental Health Views (00:27:06) Healing from Trauma and Relationships (00:28:08) The Process of Healing and Trauma Management (00:30:25) Distinguishing Good and Bad Butterflies (00:32:22) The Importance of Self-Reflection Before Dating (00:33:14) Understanding Triggers in Relationships (00:33:50)Disclosing Trauma in Relationships (00:35:17)Trust and Safety in Sharing Trauma (00:36:12)Empowerment in Relationships (00:38:17)Unpopular Opinions on Relationships (00:39:46)Finding a New Relationship After Marriage (00:41:23)Going Where the People Are (00:43:24)Strategic Socializing for Dating (00:45:38).Creating Momentum in Dating (00:49:04) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you’re navigating cuffing season, gearing up to meet someone's family for the holidays, or figuring out how to take your dating game to the next level— Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! She’s answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like: I struggle to find matches in my area and while I am willing to travel, many men aren’t. So what now? My matches keep removing their profiles once we exchange numbers. What’s going on here? When should daters consider sleeping together? Are gender roles changing or do men still have to be the initiator? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contactBad news…we filled our last spot for the year. Good news!! We opened ONE BONUS for VIP coaching this fall. Last chance to get one on one coaching with Damona and her team. Want to snag our lucky last spot? Register for an intro call at DamonaHoffman.com/introcall asap!TIMESTAMPSIntro (00:00:00)Does This Mean He Likes Me? (00:00:01)Am I Ever Gonna Meet Someone? (00:00:04)I'm Tired of Swiping (00:00:06)Cuffing Season and Relationship Dynamics (00:00:08)Adrian's Dating App Dilemma (00:01:43)Changing Location Filters in Dating (00:04:25)The Importance of Compatibility (00:05:39)Long-Distance Relationship Insights (00:06:53)Dating Apps and Long-Distance Features (00:09:24)Caution Against Exchanging Phone Numbers (00:11:28)Identifying Catfish and Scammers (00:12:38)Maintaining Momentum in Communication (00:13:38)Sue's Experience with Catfish (00:14:41)Navigating Online Dating Safely (00:15:54)Introduction to Possible Soulmates (00:17:59)Guidelines for Intimacy (00:19:01)Understanding Sexual Health (00:20:22)Pacing Your Relationship (00:24:23)Women Initiating Dates (00:25:28)Mutual Interest in Dating (00:26:46)Being True to Yourself (00:29:04)Closing Remarks and Engagement (00:30:19) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Esther Lee, Deputy Editor of The Knot, breaks down the stats released in the website’s Relationship & Intimacy Study, and spills the tea on where singles are finding love, what they’re actually looking for, how they’re spending their time on dates, and those dating dealbreakers we just can’t shake. And, this week’s Dear Damona question is: Is a bra an appropriate gift for a young couple?Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: DamonaHoffman.com/programLAST CALL - Just 1 spot remains for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call ASAP with our head of coaching programs: DamonaHoffman.com/introcallSubmit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TimestampsIntroduction to the Episode (00:00:00)Damona's Welcome (00:00:13)Introducing Esther Lee (00:01:04)Damona's Personal Wedding Experience (00:02:11)Evolution of Wedding Planning (00:02:49)The Knot's 2024 Study Overview (00:03:46)Key Findings of the Study (00:05:01)Dating Apps vs. Real-Life Connections (00:05:54)Generational Perspectives on Dating (00:06:41)Changing Standards in Attraction (00:07:56)Being Easy to Talk To (00:09:14)Fostering Connection and Communication (00:09:47)Listening as a Key Element (00:11:40)The Chemistry Myth (00:12:10)Importance of Sexual Attraction (00:12:59)Married Couples and Sexual Chemistry (00:14:00)Comfort and Chemistry in Relationships (00:15:54)Commitment After Marriage (00:16:51)Importance of Attraction (00:18:05)Subjective Sense of Humor (00:19:29)Humor as Relationship Tool (00:21:01)Video Game Dates (00:21:48)Meeting Through Gaming (00:24:00)Creative and Affordable Dates (00:26:06)Deal Breakers in Relationships (00:29:59)Chemistry vs. Values (00:31:00)Long Distance Relationships (00:32:48)Communication in Long-Distance Relationships (00:33:14)Intentionality in Relationships (00:34:05)Finding Love Beyond Geography (00:35:36)Unpopular Opinion on First Dates (00:37:17)Navigating Intimate Gift Missteps (00:39:20) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Benjamin Camras, The Flirt Coach & host of the Flirtations Flirtcast, joins Damona for our annual Halloween Dating Horror Stories Special. You’ll laugh, you’ll scream, and you’ll get useful advice to survive your next bad date. Stories include: Blindsided by a Blind Date The Vegetarian Variation The Creepy Car Concert The Deskside Date The Freudian Movie Man Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: DamonaHoffman.com/programOnly 1 spot remains for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call ASAP with our head of coaching programs: DamonaHoffman.com/introcallSubmit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Halloween Horror Stories (00:00:00)Listener Engagement (00:00:07)Benjamin the Flirt Coach Introduction (00:02:18)Costume Reveal (00:02:30)Personal Dating Horror Stories (00:04:10)Listener Story from Amanda (00:07:07)Discussion on Movie Dates (00:11:40)Activity Date Preferences (00:12:40)Candy Smuggling at the Movies (00:14:31)Vegetarian Red Flag Story (00:15:47)Flirty Late Night Snack Decisions (00:16:31)Libras and Perspective (00:17:09)Boundaries and Alcohol-Induced Choices (00:19:20)Dating an Older Guy (00:20:01)Red Flags in Dating (00:21:11)Avoiding Generalizations in Dating (00:22:13)First Date Conversations (00:24:49)Exploring Physical Intimacy (00:26:11)Flirtation as Foreplay (00:27:28)Listener Horror Story Introduction (00:28:44)Zoom Date Disaster (00:30:24)Multitasking on Dates (00:31:57)Check-in Date Tips (00:33:04)Pre-Date Communication (00:33:50)Slow Dating Trend (00:34:13)In-App Calling Features (00:37:13)Age and Dating Preferences (00:38:28)Horror Story Introduction (00:39:55)Uncomfortable Date Behavior (00:41:32)Lying About Height (00:43:01)Closing Remarks (00:46:18) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Erika Wasserman, Your Financial Therapist, is shifting the narrative around money and using those sometimes-tough conversations to build deeper trust and better communication with your partner and tackling the tricky financial situations singles often find themselves in while dating. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I have social anxiety. Do I need to focus on making more friends before pursuing a romantic relationship?Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: DamonaHoffman.com/programOnly 2 spots remain for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call ASAP with our head of coaching programs: DamonaHoffman.com/introcallSubmit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Relationship Stress (00:00:00)Host's Opening Remarks (00:00:14)Introduction of Erika Wasserman (00:02:26)Erika's Journey to Financial Therapy (00:03:19)Dating and Financial Transparency (00:04:08)Challenges of Financial Conversations (00:09:15)Gamifying Financial Discussions (00:10:01)Reality of Debt in Dating (00:12:04)Understanding Debt and Relationships (00:14:46)Understanding Debt and Readiness to Date (00:15:46)Differentiating Rich and Wealthy (00:17:32)Wealth Beyond Money (00:19:51)Influence of Family Background on Money Beliefs (00:21:20)Communication About Money (00:22:40)Fear of Financial Loss in Relationships (00:23:25)Pricing Themselves Out of the Dating Pool (00:24:12)Contributions in Relationships (00:25:35)Navigating Different Financial Backgrounds (00:28:00)Frugality vs. Spending Comfort (00:32:01)Coupon Encounter (00:33:03)Financial Conversations (00:34:06)Creating Financial Intimacy (00:35:38)Side-by-Side Conversations (00:36:27)Vulnerability in Conversations (00:37:08)Joyful Spending (00:38:38)Unpopular Opinions (00:39:50)Divorce Edition Cards (00:40:24)Impact of Financial Relationships (00:40:55)Listener Question on Social Anxiety (00:42:00)Building Connections (00:44:38)Taking Baby Steps (00:47:39)Engaging with the Audience (00:48:42) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take a sneak peak into a private coaching session with our listener, Michelle, as Damona identifies the dating loops and myths that are keeping this Dates & Mates Method graduate from finding the relationship she desires. Listen in as Michelle comes to a realization about the men she’s been dating and why it hasn’t worked out. And help yourself along the way as Damona shares quick tips and takeaways that you can apply right away to your own dating dilemmas.Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: DamonaHoffman.com/programOnly 2 spots remain for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call: DamonaHoffman.com/introcallSubmit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to the Episode (00:00:00)Coaching Insights (00:00:59)Michelle's Experience (00:02:47)Appreciation for Coaching (00:04:41)Transformational Skills (00:05:50)Dating While Pregnant (00:06:05)Desire for Partnership (00:06:53)Impact of Solo Parenting on Dating (00:08:47)Understanding High Standards (00:10:15)Trusting Oneself (00:11:00)Freeing Yourself from Pressure (00:11:32)Encouragement to Freeze Eggs (00:12:11)Embracing Options in Dating (00:14:39)Current Dating Life (00:15:26)Effective Screening Process (00:16:15)Invitation to Continue Conversation (00:17:13)The Importance of Boundaries (00:18:11)Mindset for Successful Conversations (00:18:27)Challenges with Dating Separated Individuals (00:19:14)Physical Attraction and Curiosity (00:20:23)Recognizing Anxiety in Dating (00:21:20)Discovering Availability Issues (00:21:40)Misleading Profiles and Aliases (00:23:32)Learning to Say No (00:24:38)Exploring the Other Camp (00:25:07)Signs of Attraction and Availability (00:26:05)Disappointment in Dating Dynamics (00:27:17)The Complexity of Attraction (00:28:19)Nurturing vs. Romantic Dynamics (00:31:01)Finding the Right Words (00:32:08)Navigating Emotional Intensity (00:33:57)Testing Attraction in Early Dates (00:35:12)Belief and Self-Responsibility (00:37:02)Inheriting Stories (00:37:50)Rewriting Personal Narratives (00:39:14)Mindset Shifts and Mantras (00:41:10)Attraction Dynamics (00:43:10)Navigating Dating While Parenting (00:46:07)Reflection on Progress (00:48:21)Encouragement and Support (00:51:07)Coaching Transformation Invitation (00:52:14) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Meghan Keane, the founder of NPR’s Life Kit, shares her new book, “Party of One: Be Your Own Best Partner”. Listen in as she peels back the layers of our complicated feelings about being single and dissects the ways that singlism could be dealt with in your own life. It’s time to embrace your single life or the singles in your life so that we can all thrive together regardless of our relationship status. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I recently reconnected with a casual long term friend. How do I figure out if he likes me without making a fool of myself?Fun little announcement, my meditation program is now back on the Dates & Mates website. If you want to meditate and visualize your way out of stressing about your singlehood. Let me help you. Look for my meditation collection on the homepage of DamonaHoffman.com today!Submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Singlehood (00:00:00)Embracing Singlehood (00:01:03)Interview with Meghan Kane (00:02:54)Navigating Societal Expectations (00:03:18).Understanding Singleism (00:06:24)Confronting Single Shame (00:09:30)Transforming Thoughts: From Why to What (00:10:41)The Power of Storytelling (00:14:50)Intimidation in Dating (00:16:54)The Complexity of Strong Women (00:17:01)Reframing Intimidation (00:18:00)Questioning Marriage (00:19:00)Voyeurism in Dating (00:20:00)Building Intentional Friendships (00:21:54)Diversity in Friendships (00:22:36)Making the First Move (00:23:15)Finding Friends with Shared Values (00:24:56)Lowering the Stakes in Friendships (00:25:50)Digital Connections (00:27:18)Mindset Shifts After Relationships (00:30:32)Radical Acceptance in Singlehood (00:31:52)Values Work and Radical Acceptance (00:33:01)Life Values Inventory (00:34:04)Building Goals Around Values (00:34:50)Changing Scripts in Dating (00:36:35)Unexpected Partnerships (00:37:25)Maintaining Individuality in Relationships (00:38:53)Supporting Single Friends (00:39:34)Self-Work and Future Relationships (00:41:46)Unpopular Opinion on Dating (00:42:14)Understanding Dating Apps and Intentions (00:49:25)Challenging Negative Narratives (00:50:23)Creating Your Own Love Story (00:51:33)Upcoming Episode Teaser (00:52:45) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! Whether you’re in a relationship or looking for love, she is answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like: I feel like my partner isn’t matching my efforts. How can I get him to be more of a caretaker? I want to stay friends with my exes but I find it incredibly painful. Am I self sabotaging? I thought we had fun but they said they didn’t feel chemistry…what went wrong? An ex once said my lack of questions was a red flag, but I think it's a difference in communication styles. What do you think? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contactOnly 1 spot left for VIP coaching this fall. Is it you? Register for an intro call at DamonaHoffman.com/introcall and find out!TIMESTAMPSIntro (00:00:00)Managing expectations in relationships (00:01:28)Communicating needs in relationships (00:02:02)Are love languages real? (00:05:25)Self-sabotaging in friendships (00:06:44)Navigating chemistry and attraction (00:10:50)Flirting techniques to enhance attraction (00:12:17)The impact of date venues on chemistry (00:15:49)Communication Styles in Dating (00:18:11)Questions as Indicators of Interest (00:19:13)Nervousness and Connection (00:20:12)Red Flags Revisited (00:21:22)Interpreting Signs and Signals (00:22:26)Inclusivity in Dating Advice (00:23:35)The Importance of Follow-Up Questions (00:24:43)Engagement in Conversations (00:25:51)Listener Interaction Invitation (00:26:59) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kiaundra Jackson, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, unpacks how therapy language is influencing our dating lives and shares why it’s essential to move beyond labels to truly thrive in our relationships. She also shares the telltale signs of toxic relationships. Our dear Damona question this week is: I've used them all, but none seem to be a good fit. Is it me or the apps?Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator for a limited-time-only for 10% off using the code PODCAST10 at DamonaHoffman.com/programSubmit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Toxic Relationships (00:00:00)Guest Introduction (00:02:05)Rise of Dating Burnout (00:02:25)Importance of Healthy Relationships (00:03:10)Modeling Healthy Relationships (00:04:18)Personal Accountability in Relationships (00:06:10)Elements of Healthy Relationships (00:07:24)Taking Inventory of Past Relationships (00:10:10)Signs of Toxic Relationships (00:11:37)Understanding Narcissism (00:12:42)Manipulation vs. Healthy Goals (15:13)Setting Boundaries (17:20)Handling Triggered Reactions (19:28)Recognizing Relationship Dynamics (24:30)The Importance of Slow Love (28:47)Healing from Toxic Relationships (00:31:11)Unpacking Emotional Luggage (00:31:32)Rushing into New Relationships (00:31:54)The Process of Unpacking (00:32:33)Recognizing Healthy vs. Toxic Traits (00:33:18)When to Share Personal History (00:34:06)Finding the Right Time to Share (00:35:00)Ongoing Conversations About Baggage (00:37:54)Unpopular Opinion on Relationship Work (00:39:03)Perspective on Relationship Challenges (00:39:57)Invitation to Deeper Connection (00:40:17)Navigating Dating Apps (00:41:42)Understanding Dating App Experiences (00:42:11)Adjusting to Online Dating (00:43:17)Common Experience on Dating Apps (00:44:16)Finding New Dating Opportunities (00:45:21) Navigating Dating Apps (00:46:17)Understanding App Dynamics (00:47:18)Managing Expectations with Dating Apps (00:48:19)Addressing Dating Burnout (00:49:13)Upcoming Dear Damona Episode (00:50:13)Halloween Dating Horror Stories Call (00:50:13) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take a sneak peak into a private coaching session with our listener, Staci, as Damona identifies the dating loops and myths that are keeping this single mom from experiencing the relationship she desires. Along the way, Damona shares quick tips and takeaways that you can apply right away to your own dating dilemmas.Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator today for 10% off using the code PODCAST10 at DamonaHoffman.com/programsubmit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.comTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to the Coaching Session (00:00:00)Damona's Experience (00:01:00)Staci's Introduction (00:03:14)Goals for the Session (00:04:08)Staci's Dating History (00:05:10)Burnout from Dating Apps (00:06:43).Impact of the Pandemic (00:08:17)Self-Discovery in Dating (00:09:13).Shifting Perspectives (00:10:21)Dating App Dynamics (00:11:35)Choosing vs. Being Chosen (00:13:56)Dating After 50 (00:15:25)Challenges in Conversations (00:17:10)Understanding the Texting Trap (00:18:08)Developing a Texting Strategy (00:18:46)Breaking Free from Canned Responses (00:20:01)Recognizing Exhausted Energy (00:20:57)Exploring Offline Dating (00:25:01)Finding Connection in New Experiences (00:26:14)Mindset and Clarity on Dating Goals (00:27:48)Affirmations and Attraction (00:28:35)Visualizing the Ideal Partner (00:32:31)Exploring Fitness as a Dating Venue (00:34:04)Flirting Skills (00:37:08)Flirting Formula (00:37:41)Roleplay Practice (00:39:19)Challenge Accepted (00:41:01)The Power of Touch (00:41:33)Living Vision (00:44:53)Flirting and Connection (00:45:59)Feeling Inspired (00:46:42)Closing Thoughts (00:48:31) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mayday! It’s a dating burnout crisis! Damona gives a master class about the causes, the current stats, and THE FIX for the apathy and frustration that many daters are feeling today. In this episode, you will learn: The #1 secret weapon for building connection How to reclaim your power and replenish after burnout Top tips for avoiding burnout on dating apps Insider secrets or offline dating Protecting your peace with friends and loved ones And, how to reframe your dating burnout and turn it into fuel for romance Want to learn more? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contactTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Dating Burnout (00:00:00)Defining Burnout (00:00:57)Complexities of Modern Dating (00:02:07)Zombie Dating Explained (00:08:11)Dating Hygiene Tips (00:09:25)Addressing Apathy with Empathy (00:11:57)Forming a Connector Circle (00:13:10)Saying Yes to New Experiences (00:14:14)Creating a Comprehensive Dating Plan (00:15:28)Tracking Progress in Dating (00:17:48)Finding a Dating Accountability Buddy (00:18:50)Quieting Naysayers (00:19:53)Reframing Dating Burnout (00:21:07)What’s inside the Book "F the Fairy Tale" (00:21:07)Listener Review Highlight (00:22:05)Encouragement to Share the Episode (00:22:05) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! Whether you’ve listened to 12 seasons or 12 episodes, she is answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like: I’m stuck in a first date rut. How do I turn things around to find lasting love? How do I delicately tell my match that family is important, but relationships need to be a priority too? There’s a big drinking culture where I live. How do I meet singles who share my more laid back vibe? And, I’ve done the work, but I can’t seem to attract someone who’s done the same. Is it time to lower my standards? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contactAnd, are YOU tired of being comfortably single? We are enrolling NOW for Damona’s signature group coaching program, The Dates & Mates Method! Sure, you’ve been fine on your own but just imagine how the RIGHT person could add to your life… If you’re ready to create a dating plan and date differently this fall, then this is the time to sign up. Don’t miss out on a limited number of spots in this annual program. Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com/method Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brenden Durell, intimacy expert on Netflix's Too Hot To Handle, guides us towards a deeper connection within with exercises that he practiced on the show and inspired by his intimacy retreat. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I find myself falling for men who either go all in or don’t give me the time of day. How can I change my pattern?Follow Brenden on Instagram @BrendenDurell and be sure to check out his work at BrendenDurell.comLook out for his “Inspired Intimacy Challenge” on socials and the Intimacy in the Jungle retreat in October.And, we are enrolling NOW for Damona’s signature group coaching program, The Dates & Mates Method! If you’re ready to create a dating plan and date differently this fall, then this is the time to sign up. Don’t miss out on a limited number of spots in this annual program. Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com/methodTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Intimacy (00:00:00)Mirror Work Begins (00:00:09)Understanding Intimacy (00:00:13)Brendan's Background (00:02:05)Location and Energy (00:02:41)Premise of "Too Hot to Handle" (00:04:19)Evolution of Brendan's Role (00:06:00)Mirror Exercise Explanation (00:08:05)Impact of Reality TV (00:10:07)Apologizing to Oneself (00:11:23)Historical Context of Mirrors (00:12:23)Power of Self-Forgiveness (00:14:26)Intimacy Retreats (00:16:49)The Connection with Mother Earth (00:18:00)City Slicker vs. Nature (00:18:18)Walking Through Discomfort (00:19:17)Presence in the Moment (00:20:22)Reframing Time Pressure (00:24:51)Rites of Passage Experience (00:26:08)Intimacy in the Jungle Retreat (00:28:46)Embracing the Unknown (00:30:09)Renegotiating Commitments (00:32:35)God Exists in Everything (00:34:00)Exploring Intimacy Across Cultures (00:34:46)Curiosity in Personal Growth (00:35:52)Demystifying Intimacy (00:36:40)Reframing Perspectives on Pleasure (00:36:51)Listener's Dating Struggles (00:38:49)Prioritizing Self-Love (00:40:02)Understanding Relationship Patterns (00:41:08)Setting Boundaries in Dating (00:42:39)The Importance of Inner Intimacy (00:45:26)Invitation to Join the Program (00:46:32) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeff Guenther, AKA TherapyJeff on Instagram, joins Damona in the premiere of Season 12 of Dates & Mates for a state of the date address! They cover all phases of the dating journey from clarifying what you’re seeking to first dates, defining the relationship and even planning for the dreaded breakup. The Dear Damona question this week is: What’s the best way to reach out to someone new on LinkedIn?Be sure to follow Jeff on Instagram @TherapyJeff and grab a copy of his new book, Big Dating Energy, on shelves now!And get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month.TIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Season 12 (00:00:00)Overview of the Episode (00:02:06)Introducing Therapy Jeff (00:04:29)Jeff's Book Release (00:05:00)Collaborating with an Ex (00:06:47)Personal Insights in the Book (00:08:48)Clarifying Deal Breakers (00:12:04)Understanding Relationship Needs (00:15:18)The Role of Fears in Dating (00:18:31)Dating Apps Discussion (00:20:07)The Impact of Dating Apps on Love (23:20)The Shift in Dating Dynamics (23:41)Boundaries with Technology (24:27)The Need for Healthy Relationships (27:48)Imagining Ideal Dating Apps (28:16)Cultural Changes in Dating Apps (29:39)Tips for Long-term Relationship Survival (30:19)Navigating Conflict in Relationships (31:59)Communication After Intimacy (33:10)Creating Sexual Energy (35:24)Understanding Breakups (36:45)Ethical Breakup Practices (39:05)The Value of Planning in Relationships (41:38)The Intimacy of Breakup Conversations (43:09)Listener Question on LinkedIn Outreach (44:02)Introduction and Connector Circle (00:46:04)Sliding into DMs (00:46:59)Approaching on LinkedIn (00:48:11)Navigating Online Connections (00:49:19)Promoting the Dates & Mates Method (00:50:16)Call for Listener Questions (00:51:13)Wrap-Up and Guest Teaser (00:52:06) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all hope to feel something special on that first date, but true love takes time, and so does trust. Damona debunks The Chemistry Myth and The Soulmate Myth while offering real solutions to today’s dating troubles. Based on themes from her new book, F The Fairy Tale, this episode highlights The Goals Pillar and The Values Pillar in a conversation between Damona and love and relationship experts, Carol Allen & Katherine Woodward, in one of the top panels from the F the Fairy Tale Forum last year.Be sure to follow Carol on Instagram @CarolAllenAstrologer and get a special discount on her annual personal success calendar at DamonaHoffman.com/mycalendarAnd, be sure to follow Katherine on Instagram @KatherineWoodwardThomas and check out her work at KatherineWoodwardThomas.comGet Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month.TIMESTAMPS(00:00:00) Introduction to the Episode (00:01:07) Transition to Communication and Trust (00:02:04) The Chemistry Myth (00:03:05) Introducing Guests Katherine and Carol (00:03:56) Insights on Communication (00:06:45) Astrological Compatibility Discussion (00:10:10) Understanding Relationship Dynamics (00:14:23) Scarcity Mindset in Dating (00:18:08) Listener Questions and Support (00:19:13) Dating Fatigue at 26 (00:20:10) Late Bloomers in Love (00:22:19) Faith and Trust in Dating (00:24:09) Top Dealbreakers in Relationships (00:25:42) Self-Reflection in Relationships (00:27:54) Abundant Mindset Tips (00:29:31) From Wallflower to Proficient Dater (00:30:12) Strategic Dating Approach (00:32:27) Promoting Personal Success Calendars (00:33:20) Book Reviews and Community Engagement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s tempting to date by a list of preferred qualities and a set of prescribed rules, but these myths prevent singles from discovering more fulfilling relationships. Damona debunks The List Myth and The Rules Myth and offers real solutions to today’s common dating problems. Based on themes from her new book, F The Fairy Tale, this episode highlights The Goals Pillar and The Values Pillar in a conversation between Damona and love and relationship experts, Orna and Matthew Walters and Evan Marc Katz.Be sure to follow Evan on Instagram @RealEvanMarcKatz and check out his work at EvanMarcKatz.comAnd, be sure to follow Orna and Matthew on Instagram @OrnaAndMatthew and pre-order their new book at Barnes & Noble, Getting It Right This Time by visiting: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/getting-it-right-this-time-orna-walters/1145412458Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month.TIMESTAMPS(00:00:00) Introduction to the Episode (00:01:05) The Goals and Values Pillars (00:02:10) Breaking the Rules Myth (00:03:18) Introduction of Guests (00:06:12) The Importance of Values (00:08:03) Engaging Conversations (00:11:01) Understanding Love Imprints (00:12:36) The Role of the Subconscious (00:14:03) Client-Centered Approach (00:15:50) Masterclass on Attraction (00:16:26) Listener Questions Segment (00:16:50) Evan's Jdate Experience (00:18:07) Crafting a Great Profile (00:19:57) Storytelling in Profiles (00:21:09) Best Dating Sites for Older Women (00:22:11) Pressure on Dating Apps (00:23:40) Women’s Standards in Dating (00:24:46) Meeting Men Outside Comfort Zones (00:26:47) Investment in Dating (00:28:22) Closing Remarks and Book Promotion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The idea of one perfect match is attractive, but the pursuit of soulmates actually prevents singles from moving into committed relationships AND from staying when things get tough. Damona tackles The Soulmate Myth revealing how it leads to an either or mentality and outlines how to approach dating with an abundance mindset instead.Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona!This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month.TIMESTAMPS(00:00:00) Introduction to the Soulmate Myth (00:01:06) The Soulmate Myth Explained (00:02:27) Shifting Mindsets (00:04:37) Listener Question on Soulmates (00:03:29) Statistics on Belief in Soulmates (00:05:59) The Impact of Dating Apps (00:07:15) Probability of Finding a Soulmate (00:08:42) Destiny vs. Growth Mindset (00:10:13) Myth Origins and Beliefs (00:11:16) Invitation to Join the Book Squad Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling butterflies with a match may seem like a good sign for your romantic future, but many times it's a window to the past. Damona busts The Chemistry Myth so that you can stop missing the true markers of relationship success and stop second guessing your dating choices. Plus, she answers this spicy Dear Damona question: How fast is too fast to have sex with a new person?Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona!This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month.TIMESTAMPS(00:00:10) The Chemistry Myth (00:00:55) Personal Experience with Chemistry Myth (00:04:27) Physiological Aspect of Chemistry (00:05:33) Dear Damona Question on Slow Love (00:07:42) Tossing out Timelines (00:08:41) Safe Sex and Boundaries (00:11:13) Joining the Book Squad (00:12:24) Conclusion and Invitation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Swipe apps have gamified dating but that doesn’t mean you have to play it their way! Damona dives deep into The Rules Myth with love and relationship experts Ariel Ford and Francesca Hoagie in one of her favorite panels from the F the The Fairy Tale Forum last year. Together they address how singles are hungry for shortcuts to finding love and reveal why this approach may be preventing them from making fulfilling connections.Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona!Follow Arielle Ford on Instagram @ArielleFord_author and pick up a copy of her international bestseller, “THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction”.Follow Francesca Hogi on Instagram @DearFranny and check out the Dear Franny Podcast!This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month.TIMESTAMPS(00:00:00) Dates & Mates Intro(00:01:06) The rules myth (00:02:10) Introduction of Ariel Ford and Francesca Hogi (00:04:34) Defining love (00:06:30) Navigating dating without rules (00:09:08) Evolution of relationships (00:13:13) Existence of soulmates (00:16:58) Meeting people outside of dating apps (00:18:02) The potential of organic connections (00:19:52) Manifesting love and the meet cute mindset (00:21:36) The abundance mindset and love before first sight (00:26:06) Dating in midlife and redefining compatibility (00:29:44) Embracing the process of dating and love skills Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you date by a list? How’s that going for you? Damona tackles The List Myth in the second episode of the “F The Fairy Tale'' Summer Series. Plus, Damona shares some dating math to illustrate how The List Myth hurts you more than helps you…and what you should focus on instead.Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona!This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month.TIMESTAMPS(00:00:00) Intro to the "F the Fairy Tale" summer series.(00:01:09) The list myth (00:02:21) Narrowing the list (00:05:55) Importance of leaving reviews (00:06:58) Announcement of the next episode Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are kicking off the “F The Fairy Tale” Summer Series this week with one of our most-asked questions: Online dating doesn’t work for me. How do I meet my match IRL?Plus, Damona shares dating tips for the summer and her own story of an epic summer romance with a man who went by the name of Mr. Pandemonium.Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona!This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jillian Turecki, certified relationship coach and host of the Jillian On Love podcast, joins us for our Dates & Mates Season 11 finale! She and Damona explore why the fantasy of "The One" captivates us, and how this desire often masks a need for personal healing and growth.We are bringing back the Romance Rollback this week with:Surprising Facts About the Evolution of Dating Then our Dear Damona question this week is:My dates keep ditching me… for my brother! What can I do?Follow Jillian at @JillianTurecki and you can become of member of Jillian’s relationship school by visiting JillianTurecki.com/membershipTo read the Mental Floss piece on the Evolution of dating visit: mentalfloss.com/article/79140/10-fascinating-facts-about-evolution-dating-and-courtshipGet Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month.TIMESTAMPS(00:03:40) The romance rollback (00:11:28) Introduction of Jillian Turecki (00:14:52) The myth of the one (00:20:34) The concept of "the one" (00:23:50) Reasons for being single (00:30:04) Challenges in building trust (00:35:02) The evolving dating landscape (00:36:08) Missions in relationship coaching (00:40:16) Making Dating Safer for Women (00:42:07) The Responsibility of Men in Dating Safety(00:51:38) Impact of Attractiveness of Family Members on Dating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Inessa Freya, international feng shui master and spiritual psychologist, reveals how simple changes in your home can attract new romantic possibilities, improve your current relationships, and bring a sense of harmony and balance that radiates from the inside out. Plus, Damona shares why she credits Inessa for being a part of bringing Mr. Hoffman into her life!But first we have a surprising dating dish to serve up for you: Move over healthcare! Could dating apps be the new benefit? Then our Dear Damona question this week is:Dating Burnout is real!!! How do I remain positive when I am struggling to find my match?Follow Inessa on Instagram @Inessa_Freya and learn more about her work by visiting www.fengshuifromtheheart.comRead the Forbes piece: forbes.com/sites/soulaimagourani/2024/06/04/dating-services-as-a-future-company-perk/?sh=5df2e008459aRead the Independent piece: https://sg.news.yahoo.com/tokyo-launch-first-government-run-091413507.htmlGet convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp.TIMESTAMPSTIMESTAMPS(00:00:15) The introduction to Feng Shui(00:02:24) Dating apps as employee benefits (00:06:20) Government-sponsored dating apps (00:08:59) Introduction to Inessa Freya(00:10:36) Understanding Feng Shui (00:12:39) Personal experiences with Feng Shui(00:18:01) Clearing up energy and finding love(00:19:52) Visualizing love and moving for love(00:24:32) Feng Shui principles and applying them(00:26:33) Decluttering and space clearing (00:33:13) Space Clearing with Intention (00:33:47) Impact of Objects on Energy (00:35:14) Moving and Arranging Items (00:35:55) Feng Shui Rules for Bed Placement (00:39:38) Ancient Aspects of Feng Shui (00:42:00) Maintaining a Positive Dating Mindset (00:47:35) Challenging Societal Narratives (00:48:42) Attracting Someone (00:49:52) Mindset and Clarity (00:50:50) The Five Dating Loops (00:51:57) Setting Intentions (00:53:03) Upcoming Season Finale Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lily Womble, host of the Date Brazen podcast, shares insights from her new book, “Thank You, More Please” so that you can navigate the dating world with eyes wide open and a little main character energy. Plus, she will share how to know when it's time for a dating detox. The Dating Dish story this week is based on new findings from Tinder:The Green Flags Study on Assumptions & DatingThen our Dear Damona question this week is:How fast is too fast when dating a new match?Follow Lily on Instagram @DateBrazen and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Thank You, More Please”.Read the Tinder study by visiting: tinderpressroom.com/The-Green-Flags-Study#assets_allGet convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp.TIMESTAMPS(00:00:00) Intro(00:01:38) Tinder's "Green Flag Study" on assumptions in dating (00:05:47) Challenges in modern dating (00:07:00) Creating positive dating experiences (00:14:57) Criticism of dating apps (00:17:24) The challenges of modern dating (00:18:36) Design of dating apps (00:19:01) Impact of dating apps on users (00:21:23) Dependency on dating apps (00:22:22) Main character energy in dating (00:25:57) The practice of dating skills (00:30:15) Challenging societal messaging (00:29:11) Bragging on a date (00:34:22) Brazen Bragging (00:38:08) Essence Based Preferences (00:42:18) Dating Detox: When and Why (00:48:28) Importance of Intentional Dating (00:49:21) Navigating Relationship Preparation (00:49:58) Lily Womble's new book, "Thank You More Please" (00:50:27) Listener Question: Relationship Pace (00:51:52) The Notion of "Slow Love" (00:53:06) Balancing New Love and Personal Life (00:55:21) Cherishing New Love (00:56:32) Invitation for Questions and Future Episode Preview Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mat Boggs, YouTube dating coach, sets you up for your best first date yet as he covers everything from red flags and conversation topics to knowing how much time to invest in a match.The Dating Dish story this week comes from Mashable:Dating Culture Has Become Selfish. How Do We Fix It?Then our Dear Damona question this week is:An old flame invited me to their big birthday bash in Cabo. Should I go?Follow Mat on Youtube @MatBoggs and check out his MANifest Your Man Program by visiting: https://www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/resources/mym/offer/strategy-sessionRead the Mashable story at: mashable.com/article/selfish-dating-app-cultureGet convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp.TIMESTAMPS(00:00:12) First dates: The gateway to new possibilities (00:01:57) Dating culture: A selfish era (00:04:35) The capitalist mindset and dating(00:08:45) Rethinking the approach to dating(00:10:22) Do's and don'ts of first dates(00:17:47) Red Flags in Dating (00:18:38) Internal Repetitive Energy (00:19:35) Internal GPS System (00:21:28) Manipulative Behaviors(00:23:04) Vibration for Long-Lasting Love (00:24:35) Compatibility of Interests (00:25:42) Mindset and Deal Breakers (00:26:37) Mindset for Online Dating (00:29:50) Intentional Action in Dating(00:30:51) Sharing on First Dates (00:33:30) Whose hands are you going to put this baby into?(00:35:33)Shifting the conversation (00:36:33) Mel's authentic approach(00:43:46) Dear Damona - Tracy's dilemma (00:45:17) Damona's advice to Tracy (00:49:06) Happy Birthday and Letting Go (00:50:17) Lily Womble Up Next Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, couples therapist and author, lays a foundational framework to deepen connection and self-understanding in her new book “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive.” In this episode, she will share specific exercises and prompts to get you thinking about love differently.The Dating Dish story this week comes to you from NBC News:Could an AI Dating Concierge fix your dating life?Then our Dear Damona question this week is:Is it a red flag if my match doesn’t ask me questions about myself?LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off on Tuesday, May 29th. Last chance to enroll in the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshopFollow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram @Dr.Alexandra.Solomon and grab a copy of her new book, “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship heal, Grow and Thrive”Read the NBC News story at: https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/internet/ai-personas-are-future-dating-bumble-founder-says-many-arent-buying-rcna151738Get it off your chest, with BetterHelp.Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kara Loewentheil, Master Certified Life Coach, applies an analytical, feminist lens towards understanding our current dating culture and how our old stories may be affecting our decisions in love.The Dating Dish story this week is based on a national study conducted by Whirlpool:Spring Clean Your Dating Profile: A Surprising Social Experiment Uncovers What Singles Prioritize Most Then our Dear Damona question this week is:How can I get more messages from my matches?LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off. Sign up for the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshopFollow Kara on Instagram @KaraLoewentheil and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets In Your Head and How To Get It Out.”Read about the Whirpool survey at: prnewswire.com/news-releases/spring-clean-your-dating-profile-whirlpool-brand-uncovers-what-singles-prioritize-most-in-a-potential-partner-302077664.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sara Jane Ho, etiquette expert and host of Netflix’s Mind Your Manners, joins to share the definitive etiquette rules for dating, talking, and texting inspired by her new book.The Dating Dish story this week comes from CNN: Bumble no longer requires women to make the first move! Then our Dear Damona question this week is:My match and I are traveling farther than normal to meet. Does that mean our date should last longer?ANNOUNCEMENT: For the first time in a long time, Damona and her team are offering 1-on-1 coaching! Apply to become her next success story at DamonaHoffman.com/applicationFollow Sara Jane on Instagram @SaraJaneHo and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Mind Your Manners: How to Be Your Best Self in Any Situation”.Read the CNN article for yourself: cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Scott Lyons, host of The Gently Used Human podcast, talks about his new book, “Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis & Chaos In Yourself & Others”. This week’s Dating Dish is: HuffPost shares the reasons why we try to “fix” our matches…and what you should probably do instead. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How can I attract more culturally open matches?Follow Scott on Instagram @DrScottLyons and be sure to grab a copy of his book!Share the love: Get your copy of Damona’s book F the Fairy Tale on Amazon too and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode!HuffPost article https://www.huffpost.com/entry/taylor-swift-fix-him-relationships_l_662a5511e4b005d7bf0cbef0TIMESTAMPS(00:01:36) Why do we try to fix people in our relationships?(00:08:09) Introduction of Dr. Scott Lyons(00:13:32) Causes of addiction to drama(00:17:24) Origin of addiction to drama(00:18:09) Ecosystem and Turbulence(00:19:27) Numbness and Seeking Sensation(00:24:02) Addiction to Drama and Dating Apps(00:27:00) Attentional Economy and Social Media(00:33:13) Interrupting Peace and News Consumption(00:35:26) Dating App Activation and Frameworks(00:37:21) Awareness and Reflexive Behavior(00:38:01) Avoidance Tactics(00:38:24) Escaping Chaos(00:39:30) Milestones of Healing(00:42:41) Processing Trauma(00:43:42) Belonging and Identity(00:47:02) Cultural Diversity in Dating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this all-Dear Damona episode, Damona takes on dating burnout and swipe fatigue by answering your questions, like: Is it a bad sign if my Bumble match is taking more than 3 days to reply? How do I manage expectations with new partners? How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable? And, is it more difficult to find love after 50? Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode!TIMESTAMPS00:00:07 Is it a bad sign if my bumble match is stuck on his move for days?00:02:19 How do I manage expectations with new partners? 00:17:27 How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable?00:18:30 Dealing with fixer-uppers 00:27:50 Is it more difficult to find love after 50? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Psychic Matchmaker Deborah Graham teaches singles to dial into their own psychic intuition. Plus, she shares her experiences as a psychic matchmaker, and her own story of being intuitively matched as well. Then, she gives a jaw-dropping live, on-air love reading. The Dating Dish this week is: Beware of Digital Body Language while you’re online dating. The Dear Damona questionis: What signs indicate that a person might be leaning towards commitment?Follow her on Instagram @PsychicDeborahGraham and learn more about her work by visiting psychicdeborahgraham.comF the Fairy Tale readers, the Dating Accelerator Program is open for on-going enrollment. Join today and get access to private livestreams with Damona just for VIP clients and Dating Accelerator students at DamonaHoffman.com/programTIMESTAMPS00:00:00 Intuition in Dating 00:02:32 Digital Body Language 00:13:15 Psychic Matchmaker's Introduction 00:14:39 Realization of Psychic Gifts00:16:05 Limitations of Using Psychic Gifts 00:16:18 Arranged Marriage00:17:49 Psychic Abilities00:20:18 Beginning of Psychic Matchmaking00:23:36 Mission and Intuition 00:25:48 Reading Energy and Intuition 00:27:49 Internal Compass and Muscle Testing 00:30:20 Silence and Energy Communication 00:30:48 Silence and Intuition 00:31:44 Psychic Reading for Producer Lindsey00:33:27 Revelation about L's Past Relationship00:38:33 Dating Rules and Intuition00:41:16 Avoiding Ghosting and Dating Process00:45:01 Early Phase Dating00:46:06 Reframing Expectations00:47:18 Enjoying the Process00:48:13 Clarity and Guidance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fan favorite guest Mark Groves is back! This time he’s joined by his wife Kylie McBeath, to discuss their amazing new book Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this interview they get to the root of codependency and offer ways to heal trauma and date intentionally. The dating dish story is: The Downside of Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook groups. In Dear Damona a listener asks: Why are there so many fake profiles and how can you avoid getting frustrated with them?Follow Mark @createthelove and Kylie @beingisbeautiful and pick up your copy of Liberated Love (https://read.macmillan.com/lp/liberated-love/) today!Speaking of books - F the Fairy Tale is currently on sale at Amazon. Leave a review on Amazon to have a chance at getting thanked personally on the show! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Keishorne Scott, author and relationship & heartbreak coach, shares his strategies for healing after a breakup and setting boundaries. Plus, he’ll tell you which matches to avoid and which ones are safe to date. The Dating Dish this week is: Speed dating is making a comeback as Gen Z ditches dating apps. USA Today says, we shouldn't be surprised. The Dear Damona question is: What’s the etiquette for messaging a new match?Follow Keishorne on Instagram @KeishorneScott and learn more about his work and books at KeishorneScott.com!Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and take advantage of the discounted rate. Then leave a review and Damona may thank you live on-air!TIMESTAMPS(00:01:04) Spring cleaning and new beginnings - Damona discusses the positive aspects of spring and new relationship beginnings.(00:02:37) Speed dating resurgence - Damona discusses the resurgence of speed dating and its comparison to dating apps.(00:08:07) Preparing for speed dating - Damona host provides advice on preparing for speed dating events and engaging in meaningful conversations.(00:12:55) Managing expectations in dating - Damona emphasizes the importance of managing expectations and having a positive mindset in dating.00:16:15) Introduction to Keishorne Scott - Damona introduces Keishorne Scott, a relationship and heartbreak coach, and discusses his work.(00:16:57) Overcoming heartbreak - Keishorne shares his personal experience with heartbreak and the journey to self-love and healing.(00:18:01) Self Work and Understanding Love - Keishorne discusses the self-work needed before marriage and understanding love.(00:20:00) Masculine and Feminine Gender Roles - Keishorne and Damona debate traditional gender roles in relationships and personal expression.(00:21:18) Types of Men to Avoid - Keishorne explains the "mouse," "bird," "dog," and "lion" archetypes and why to avoid them.(00:23:29) Recognizing Relationship Red Flags - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of communication and addressing personal issues in relationships.(00:28:03) Knowing When to Move On - Keishorne shares insights on recognizing when a relationship has run its course and the importance of mental health.(00:31:20) Healing from Heartbreak - Keishorne discusses the individual nature of healing from heartbreak and the non-negotiable aspect of self-healing.(00:32:49) Dealing with heartbreak and self-love - Keishorne Scott advises taking time to focus on oneself after a breakup.00:33:40 Overcoming heartbreak and reconnecting with oneself - Damona Hoffman discusses the process of healing and reestablishing one's identity.00:35:03 The discomfort of healing - Keishorne and Damona explore the discomfort that comes with healing and the importance of seeking support.00:36:42 Maintaining boundaries - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of setting and maintaining personal boundaries in relationships.00:39:08 Parting words and gratitude - Keishorne expresses gratitude for the discussion and shares insight on the importance of boundaries for personal protection.00:40:22 Advice for a listener's dating situation - Damona addresses a listener's concerns about texting frequency and dating intentions.00:47:56 Upcoming episode preview and book promotion - Damona promotes an upcoming episode and a book deal for "F the Fairytale." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices