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In this week’s episode, we shift the conversation from inner healing to how that healing actually plays out inside your marriage. Jerrad opens up about the quieter, less flashy season Dad Tired has entered, and why he’s more encouraged than ever as he hears private stories of repentance, courage, and healing from men around the world.Then we turn to the heart of Step 005: your marriage is meant to display Christ’s love for His church. Not primarily your happiness. Not comfort. But a living, breathing picture of the gospel inside your home. When we lose sight of that, everything in marriage starts to unravel. When we stay focused on it, everything begins to fall into place.From there, we get ultra-practical. Jerrad unpacks four clear, measurable ways husbands can model Christ’s love toward their wives — ways you can start evaluating and practicing this week.What We CoverWhy external “hype” has faded… and why that’s actually a good thingThe unseen, private faithfulness of men that is changing generationsThe biblical symbolism of marriage — from Genesis to JesusWhy marriage falls apart when we expect it to serve our happinessHow to reset your expectations around the purpose of marriageFour simple questions every husband should ask himself each weekWhy your wife is meant to feel emotionally, spiritually, and physically safe with youFour Ways Christ Loves His Church… and How We Model Them(With verses for your study)Christ Pursues FirstRomans 5:8You take initiative. You move toward her. You start the conversations. You pursue her heart.Christ Sacrifices DailyEphesians 5:25, Mark 10:45You lay down comfort, preference, ego, and convenience for her good — with joy, not resentment.Christ Shows CompassionHebrews 4:15, 1 Peter 3:7You slow down, listen well, empathize, honor her, and create emotional safety.Christ Protects and Strengthens2 Thessalonians 3:3You become a refuge — physically, emotionally, spiritually — where she feels secure and lifted up.Free Download: Step 005 PDFWe created a full PDF to help you process Step 005 on your own or with a Garage Group:dadtired.com/7stepsThis includes:A theological overview of marriageCommon barriers men facePractical exercisesReflection questionsScripture study promptsThe four measurable areas of pursuitPartner With the MissionDad Tired is at 7% of its 2026 fundraising goal. If this ministry has helped you and you want to stand with the thousands of quiet, faithful men doing the work no one sees, you can give at:dadtired.com/donateEpisode Sponsor: Tyndale — The One Year BibleStart reading the Bible daily in a simple and sustainable way.Choose from multiple paths and editions: men’s, women’s, journaling, prayer, chronological, and more.Learn more at: oneyearbible.comLinks MentionedStep 005 PDF: dadtired.com/7stepsDonate: dadtired.com/donateOne Year Bible: oneyearbible.com

You can have a good life — not an easy life, but one filled with deep peace and joy that circumstances can’t shake. In this episode, Jerrad unpacks Step 4 of the Seven Steps of Discipleship: Forming Spiritual Habits — a conversation about how men grow through intentional, daily rhythms that train the soul for godliness.Jerrad shares how his own healing journey began with one powerful declaration: “I’m a truth teller.” That single identity statement became the foundation for transformation. From there, he talks about how building small, consistent habits — rooted in who you’re becoming, not just what you’re doing — can reshape your entire life.Through stories, scripture, and real talk, this episode will help you:Understand why identity always comes before habitsRecognize that you’re already a man of habits — they just need redirectingLearn how to start small and stay consistent (even when motivation fades)Discover how godly habits train you to live with deep joy and peace, regardless of circumstanceLater in the episode, Jerrad is joined by Kaleb Allen, one of the most disciplined men he knows, to talk about practical spiritual disciplines — from Bible reading and prayer to solitude, gratitude, and Sabbath — and how these rhythms keep your soul grounded when life gets chaotic.If you’ve ever felt stuck, inconsistent, or spiritually dry, this episode is your invitation to start building a life you’re proud of — one small habit at a time.🎯 Key Scripture: 1 Timothy 4:7–8“Train yourself for godliness. For while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way—holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.”Announcements:💰 We’re sitting at just 4% of our fundraising goal for 2026. If Dad Tired has encouraged you, consider making a tax-deductible donation before year-end: dadtired.com/donate👨‍👧‍👦 Dadology Parenting Conference – April 24–25, 2026 in San Diego. Grab tickets now at dadtired.com/dadology🏔️ Father/Son Alaska Trip – June 2026. Registration closes end of January. Join us for a once-in-a-lifetime adventure: Learn More Here🎁 Sponsor:Cozy Earth – Get the best sleep of your life with Cozy Earth’s bamboo sheets and pajamas (Leila’s favorite gift ever). Use code DADTIRED for 40% off your order at CozyEarth.com.

What if the reason you keep reacting, withdrawing, or losing patience isn’t about your present—but your past?In this episode, Jerrad unpacks Step 3 of the Seven Steps of Discipleship: Addressing Past Wounds—a practical and gospel-centered conversation about facing the pain we’ve carried instead of burying it. With honesty and compassion, he walks men through why ignoring our wounds doesn’t make them disappear; it just makes them leak into our marriage, our parenting, and our leadership.Through biblical truth, personal story, and real-world guidance, Jerrad helps you see that this step isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about inviting God into the places you’ve avoided for too long.With a mix of vulnerability and hope, this episode will help you:Recognize how unhealed wounds shape your reactions and relationshipsConnect the dots between your pain and the lies you believeLearn a simple 4-part process for addressing wounds (Scripture, Naming, Writing, Sharing)Discover how to speak gospel truth to yourselfTake the first step toward becoming a healed man who leads a healthy familyWhether you’ve minimized your pain, masked it with work, or felt like your story doesn’t matter, this episode is a reminder that strong families begin with healed men—and healing starts when you face what’s been buried.Prayer:“Father, reveal the wounds I’ve tried to hide. Give me courage to bring them into the light, and remind me that Your grace is big enough to heal every part of my story.”Scriptures Mentioned:Psalm 34:18James 5:16John 8:32Isaiah 61:12 Corinthians 12:9Resources & Links:🎯 Download the free Seven Steps of Discipleship PDF💡 Register for the Dadology Parenting Conference (April 24–25, 2026 — San Diego)🙌 Support the mission: dadtired.com/donate🎙️ Learn more about Dad Tired Conferences We’d like to thank Samaritan’s Purse and Operation Christmas Child and The Go Bible for sponsoring today’s episode.

What if healing isn’t found in isolation, but in the presence of brothers who know the worst about you and love you anyway?In this episode, Jerrad unpacks Step 2 of the Seven Steps of Discipleship: Find Your Brotherhood: a conversation about why God never intended men to walk alone. Through biblical truth, personal story, and raw honesty, he explores why confession, friendship, and brotherhood aren’t optional extras in the Christian life, they’re essential for healing.Later in the episode, Jerrad is joined by Nick, a Dad Tired listener who shares how brotherhood changed everything for him, from addiction and isolation to freedom and deep friendship. Together they paint a picture of what real, gospel-centered friendships can look like for men who are ready to stop pretending and start healing.With a mix of vulnerability and hope, this episode will help you:Understand why it’s not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2)Recognize how brotherhood leads to real healing (James 5:16)Learn how confession brings both forgiveness and restorationDiscover practical ways to build honest friendshipsSee why every man needs a circle of brothers before he can lead his family wellWhether you’ve been burned by shallow friendships or you’re just tired of trying to follow Jesus alone, this episode is a reminder that strong families begin with healed men, and healed men don’t heal alone.Prayer:“Father, help me find and build the kind of friendships that bring healing. Give me brothers who will know me fully and love me still.”Scriptures Mentioned:Genesis 2:18James 5:16Proverbs 27:17Ecclesiastes 4:9–12John 15:12–13Resources & Links🎯 Download the free Seven Steps of Discipleship PDF💡 Register for the Dadology Parenting Conference (April 24–25, 2026 — San Diego)🙌 Support the mission: dadtired.com/donate🎙️ Learn more about Dad Tired Conferences & SpeakingWe'd like to thank Samaratin's Purse and Operation Christmas Child for sponsoring today's episode.

DOWNLOAD FREE PDFWhat if following Jesus actually costs you everything?In this first episode of our new 7-part series, The Seven Steps of Discipleship, Jerrad unpacks Step One — Count the Cost — and challenges men to slow down, read the small print, and honestly consider what it means to follow Jesus.You’ll learn why Jesus told the crowds to “count the cost” before following Him, what it looks like to build your faith on a real foundation, and how to take a personal inventory of what discipleship might cost you.Later in the episode, Jerrad sits down with his friend Ryan, who shares his real-time story of moving from compartmentalized faith to full surrender — and what it looks like when God takes the head seat at the table of your life.This is Part 1 of the Seven Steps of Discipleship:1️⃣ Count the Cost2️⃣ Brotherhood3️⃣ Address Wounds4️⃣ Build Habits5️⃣ Cherish Your Spouse6️⃣ Raise Your Kids7️⃣ Live the Bigger CallingResources Mentioned: Dadology Parenting ConferenceDonate To The MinistryFREE PDF worksheetThe One Year BibleLectric Bikes

Most dads want to disciple their kids—but sometimes we don’t know where to start. In this episode, Kaleb shares a simple rhythm he’s been using in his own home: teaching the Apostles’ Creed. Whether it’s on car rides, walks, or at bedtime, this ancient confession of faith has become a bridge to talk about who God is and what we believe as a family.As Kaleb walks through each line of the Creed, he focuses on one most of us overlook: “He ascended into heaven and is seated at the right hand of the Father.” He unpacks what that means for our daily discipleship—how it shapes the way we pray, parent, and live under the reign of King Jesus.Through personal stories, biblical teaching, and practical insight, this episode will help you see how even ancient words can lead to modern transformation right in your own home.With a mix of theology and real-life dad moments, you’ll learn to:Use the Apostles’ Creed as a tool for family discipleshipExplain big doctrines in simple language your kids can graspSee how the Ascension reveals Jesus as both Savior and KingUnderstand the connection between Christ’s reign and your everyday missionBring faith into your family’s ordinary rhythmsPrayer:“Father, thank You that Jesus reigns as King—and that His finished work means I can rest, lead, and love my family with confidence and peace.”Scriptures MentionedActs 1:9–11Ephesians 4:10Daniel 7:13–14Philippians 2:5–11Hebrews 7:25Resources & LinksToday’s Sponsor: The Hands-On Bible by TyndaleOperation Christmas ChildBring A Dad Tired Conference To Your ChurchBecome a Monthly Partner

Join us in Alaska for a Father Son TripWhat if the greatest gift you could give your son isn’t a car, a college fund, or a successful life—but a deep sense that he is beloved?In this episode, Jerrad sits down with Peter Goodwin and Connor Ketchum from The Quarry Project, a father–son camp in Alaska helping dads disciple their boys into biblical manhood. Together, they unpack what it really means to raise sons who know who they are, where they come from, and what they’re made for.Through honest stories, theological insight, and real-world examples, they explore how today’s dads can break generational cycles and become the kind of fathers who bless rather than wound.With a mix of vulnerability and hope, this episode will help you:Understand the power of a father’s blessingLearn why “beloved sonship” is the foundation of manhoodRecognize how your own father wounds impact your parentingDiscover what true initiation into manhood looks likeSee how God can redeem your family’s story through youWhether you had a great dad or no dad at all, this episode is a powerful reminder that strong families begin with healed men—and your son’s journey into manhood starts with you.Prayer:“Father, help me see my son the way You see me—beloved, chosen, and full of purpose.”Scriptures MentionedIsaiah 51:1–2Luke 3:21–22Ephesians 1:5–6Proverbs 22:6Deuteronomy 6:6–7Resources & LinksToday’s Sponsor: The One Year Bible by TyndaleRegister for the Dad Tired x Quarry Project Father–Son Trip Invite Jerrad to Speak at Your ChurchBecome a Monthly Partner

What if the clutter around you- your messy car, chaotic desk, or unfinished projects—was actually revealing something deeper happening inside you?In this episode, Jerrad challenges men to look beneath the surface and see how the outward disorder in our lives often mirrors the inward chaos of our souls. Before stepping into the mission God’s calling us to, He’s inviting us to bring order, attention, and faithfulness to the small things right in front of us.Through personal stories, honest reflection, and a practical framework, Jerrad helps listeners see that spiritual leadership starts with stewardship. You can’t lead your family well, love your wife faithfully, or change the world for Christ if your life is cluttered and chaotic.With a mix of conviction and grace, this episode will help you:Recognize how outward messes reveal inward disorderUnderstand why God calls men to faithfulness in the small things firstLearn seven practical ways to clean up “sloppy” areas of your lifeSee how physical order can become a daily act of spiritual worshipPrepare your heart for the bigger mission God’s about to call you intoWhether you feel distracted, disorganized, or just stuck, this episode is a wake-up call to bring order to the chaos—and become the kind of man God can trust with more.Prayer:“God, is there anything in my life that grieves You?”Scriptures MentionedPsalm 139:23–24Proverbs 4:23Luke 16:101 Corinthians 14:33Colossians 3:23Resources & LinksToday’s Sponsor: Samaritan’s Purse – Operation Christmas ChildInvite Jerrad To Speak At Your ChurchBecome A Monthly Partner

Watch on YouTubeFeeling the pull to lead your family and faith well, but not sure where to start? In this episode, Jerrad breaks down a simple, clear, and repeatable 7-step process to help men move from drifting to disciple.Whether you’re new to following Jesus or just hungry for deeper growth, this framework will help you count the cost, build brotherhood, heal your wounds, and lead with purpose.If you’ve ever thought, “I’m ready to step up, I just don’t know how,” this episode is for you.HOST A CONFERENCEChapters00:00 – Welcome to Dad Tired01:10 – Why men are feeling the call to lead again03:45 – The problem with shallow men’s ministry06:00 – What God is stirring in this season09:00 – How to know if God is prompting you11:30 – Step 1: Count the Cost14:00 – Step 2: Build the Brotherhood16:30 – Step 3: Heal the Wounds19:00 – Step 4: Create the Habits21:30 – Step 5: Cherish Your Wife24:00 – Step 6: Train Up Your Kids27:00 – Step 7: Find a Bigger Calling29:30 – Why this matters for the next generation31:00 – How you can join the mission

What does it really mean to follow Jesus when the cost is high?In this week’s episode, Jerrad reflects on the tragic assassination of Charlie Kirk; not just as a political figure, but as a brother in Christ who boldly proclaimed the gospel until his final moments.Drawing from Luke 9 and his own experiences at the Dad Tired retreat, Jerrad challenges men to slow down, quiet the noise, and seriously ask: Am I all in with Jesus?You’ll hear:Why silence matters for hearing God’s voiceHow Charlie Kirk’s final words point us to courage and hopeThe danger of being overly eager or overly cautious in discipleshipWhat it means to “count the cost” before putting your hand to the plowThis episode is a sobering call to examine our “but first” excuses and to step fully into the life Jesus is calling us to live.

What if the very thing you fear most—suffering—was actually the place God wanted to meet you most deeply?In this episode, Jerrad opens a new series through 1 Peter, a letter written to Christians facing intense persecution under Nero. With raw honesty and pastoral encouragement, he reminds us that suffering isn’t a sign that God has abandoned us—it’s often the very soil where our faith takes root.Drawing from Peter’s opening words, Jerrad shares personal stories of walking with grieving families, parenting through pain, and clinging to identity in Christ when the world speaks lies. More than tips or quick fixes, this episode centers us on the truth that even in suffering, we can bless God—because our hope and inheritance are secure in Jesus.With insight from 1 Peter 1:1–5 and the broader historical context, you’ll discover:Why Peter calls us “elect exiles” and why that matters for your identity todayHow to hold onto hope when life feels like it’s falling apartWhy remembering who you are in Christ can anchor you through hardshipThe difference between the world’s identity labels and God’s declaration over youNine reasons Peter gives us to bless God, even in sufferingWhether you’re grieving, discouraged, or just need a reminder of where your true hope lies, this episode will help you lift your eyes to the One who guards both your inheritance and your soul.Scriptures Mentioned1 Peter 1:1–5Exodus 14–15Philippians 1:62 Corinthians 4:16–18John 16:33Psalm 34:18Resources & LinksToday’s Sponsor: World Watch NewsInvite Jerrad To Speak At Your ChurchBecome A Monthly Partner

Watch on YouTubeWhat if the hardest thing you’ve ever faced wasn’t 60 days in the wilderness, but the weight of leading your family through suffering?In this episode, Jerrad sits down with Alone Season 5 winner, Sam Larson, whose victory on national TV was followed by a far heavier reality at home: all three of his children being diagnosed with CLN3 Batten Disease, a rare terminal illness.With raw honesty and gospel hope, Sam shares how grief stripped away every illusion of control, what it means to father children with a limited timeline, and how Jesus became more real than ever in the middle of heartbreak.With insight from 2 Corinthians 12, Matthew 5, and Romans 8, you’ll discover:Why suffering can feel like an uninvited gift that drives us closer to ChristThe difference between choosing hardship (like Alone) and enduring pain you never asked forHow to anchor your family in gospel hope when life feels unbearableWhy men need brothers in Christ to speak truth when they’re drowning in liesWhat it looks like to find joy, purpose, and community even in seasons of deep sufferingWhether you’re walking through grief, feeling the crushing weight of fatherhood, or just longing for purpose in your everyday life, this episode will remind you that Jesus has conquered even the darkest parts of our story—and He is with you.Scriptures Mentioned2 Corinthians 12:9–10Matthew 5:4Romans 8:18–25John 16:332 Corinthians 4:16–18Psalm 34:181 Peter 1:6–7James 1:2–4Philippians 1:6Resources & LinksToday’s Sponsors: World Watch NewsVisit Sam’s church: Redemption Hill Bible Church – Hickman, NebraskaInvite Jerrad To Speak At Your ChurchBecome A Monthly Partner

Watch on YouTubeWhat if the biggest battle you’re fighting isn’t around you, but inside your own head?In this episode, Jerrad gets real about the lies men quietly believe every day—the voices that whisper (or shout), “You’re not enough, you’ll never change, you’re unlovable, you don’t matter.” Drawing from personal struggles, conversations with friends, and the truth of Scripture, he unpacks how to recognize these destructive thoughts and replace them with what God actually says.With insight from John 8:44, Romans 8:1, 2 Corinthians 5:17, and Ephesians 2:10, you’ll discover:The 10 most common lies men believe—and how they quietly shape our marriages, parenting, and walk with GodWhy these lies don’t just stay in your head but impact your words, actions, and relationshipsHow Satan, the father of lies, plants accusations that erode your identity in ChristThe practical, biblical way to combat lies—not with pep talks or hype—but with the Word of God and gospel-centered communityWhy truth spoken by brothers in Christ can break through lies when self-talk can’tWhether you’ve felt the sting of shame, the weight of failure, or the loneliness of “I have to do this on my own,” this episode will help you step back onto the solid ground of God’s truth and live as the healed man He created you to be.Scriptures MentionedJohn 8:44Romans 8:12 Corinthians 5:17Ephesians 2:10Proverbs 24:16Philippians 1:61 John 3:1Romans 5:81 Corinthians 6:19–201 Peter 2:92 Corinthians 12:9Ecclesiastes 4:9–10Galatians 6:2John 15:5Resources & LinksToday’s Sponsors: Courage For Life Study BibleInvite Jerrad To Speak At Your ChurchBecome A Monthly Partner

Watch on YouTube HereWhat would your wife and kids say if someone asked, “Is your dad full of joy?”In this episode, Jerrad gets honest about why so many dads feel grumpy, short-tempered, and exhausted, and why joy often feels out of reach. Sharing personal stories, biblical truth, and ten practical steps, he unpacks how Christian dads can move from frustration to deep joy rooted in Jesus.With insight from Psalm 16:11, Galatians 5:22–23, and John 15:10–11, you’ll discover:The hidden reasons dads lose joy (unconfessed sin, silent pressures, numbing out)Why God actually cares about your joy as a manHow joy flows from God’s presence, obedience, and salvationPractical rhythms to restore joy in your home—like confession, gratitude, play, rest, and communityWhether you’ve been stuck in grumpiness or just long to be a more joy-filled dad, this episode will help you step back into the life God designed for you.Scriptures MentionedPsalm 16:11Galatians 5:22–23Psalm 51:12James 1:2–4John 15:10–11Philippians 4:6–71 Thessalonians 5:16–18Ecclesiastes 3:12–13Matthew 18:3John 16:24Mark 10:45Matthew 11:28–29Hebrews 10:24–25Resources & LinksToday’s Sponsors: Dwell Bible App & World WatchInvite Jerrad To Speak At Your ChurchBecome A Monthly PartnerFunny Video Jerrad Laughed AtScientific Benefits of Gratitude

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/vNdWKOY3wmAWhat would it look like if every part of your life was lived in the light. No shortcuts, no secrets, no lies?In this episode, Jerrad challenges men to step into radical honesty, starting with the smallest details. Drawing from his own healing journey, he unpacks why healed men are truth-tellers, how integrity builds confidence, and why it matters to look more like your Heavenly Father—the Father of light—than the father of lies.With biblical insight from 1 John 1:6–7, Proverbs 10:9, and Luke 16:10, you’ll discover:Why even “small” lies keep you stuckHow walking in the light transforms your confidence and relationshipsPractical steps to start telling the truth in everythingThe role of trusted friends, counselors, and community in your healingWhether you’re holding onto a hidden struggle or just want to live with more integrity, this episode will help you take your next step toward freedom.Scriptures Mentioned:1 John 1:6–7Proverbs 10:9Luke 16:10John 8:44James 1:17Resources & Links:Today's Sponsor: Hands On BibleInvite Jerrad To Speak At Your ChurchBecome A Monthly Partner

Watch on YouTube HEREWhat if the most powerful discipleship moments with your kids weren’t planned, but hidden in the everyday?In this heartfelt solo episode, Jerrad Lopes shares the honest struggle of staying connected with your kids; especially as they grow into pre-teens and teens. From the exhausting early days of parenting toddlers to the emotional complexity of raising a 14-year-old, Jerrad opens up about his own wins, failures, and surprising lessons learned.Through a spontaneous UTV adventure in the Arizona desert, he discovered a truth that changed how he parents: deep connection isn’t built in big, perfectly planned moments, it’s formed in the small, mundane ones. With biblical insight from Deuteronomy and the example of Jesus, Jerrad shows how ordinary life can become the best classroom for pointing your kids to Christ.This episode is an encouragement to slow down, notice the moments you might be missing, and remember that God uses the everyday to shape both your kids’ hearts and yours.What You’ll Learn:Why parenting often gets harder as your kids grow olderHow to build “relational equity” with your kids in simple, everyday waysWhy the mundane moments are often the most spiritually impactfulHow Jesus used ordinary life to disciple His followersPractical ideas to connect with both younger kids and teensHow God uses parenting moments to shape your own faithMentioned in This Episode:Deuteronomy 6:4–7 — Teaching your kids in everyday lifeMatthew 6 & Mark 4 — How Jesus used lilies and storms to teach spiritual truthsArizona ATV AdventuresBook Jerrad to speak: jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving ItToday’s Sponsors: Courage For Life Bible & World Watch News

Watch on Youtube: https://youtu.be/l6cKcqatpt8?si=yIQMZfIQxc-W2pPFWhat if your emotions weren’t the enemy—but the invitation to grow into the man God’s calling you to be?In this powerful solo episode, Chris Hilken explores the complicated relationship men have with their emotions. Most guys tend to fall off one side of the horse: either rejecting their emotions altogether or letting them run the show. But what if there’s a better way?With biblical insight and real-life examples, Chris makes the case that emotions aren’t something to obey or ignore—they’re something to redeem. He shares a practical framework for navigating emotions like anger, fear, and sadness through a gospel lens, helping men avoid the extremes of emotional numbness or chaos.This episode is a call for men to stop being passive with their emotions and start learning how to steward them like Jesus did—intentionally, righteously, and powerfully.What You’ll Learn:Why men are more emotional than they realizeThe 3 questions every man should ask when he feels something deeplyHow to know if your emotions are leading you toward Christ—or away from HimWhy “being true to yourself” is not a biblical ideaWhat Jesus, Nehemiah, and Esther teach us about godly emotionHow to break the pattern of reacting emotionally and start responding spirituallyWhy redeemed emotions can actually strengthen your leadership as a husband and fatherMentioned in This Episode:“Emotions are a check engine light, not a GPS” analogyJonathan Edwards on righteous vs. carnal affectionsMark 11 (Jesus’ righteous anger)Genesis 4 (Cain’s destructive jealousy)Nehemiah 1 and Matthew 27 (sadness that rebuilds vs. sadness that destroys)Esther 4 and Luke 22 (courage vs. fear)Book Jerrad to speak: jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: Amazon LinkToday's Sponsor: Classical Conversations

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7qy-dTUtTA4Most men have learned how to clean up well.We look calm. Composed. Put together.We show up to church, crack a few jokes, keep the peace; and no one would know what’s actually happening in our hearts.But Jesus isn’t fooled by appearance. He sees straight through the polish and into the pain.In today’s episode, Kaleb unpacks what it means to “clean the inside of the cup.”He shares a raw story about how God confronted him in the middle of the night, while he was busy rehearsing a bitter argument in his head, and revealed just how much unhealed junk was still living in his heart.This isn’t about behavior management. It’s about soul work.Because your wife doesn’t need a perfect version of you. Your kids don’t need a dad who looks impressive.They need a man who is whole on the inside.In this episode:The hidden difference between external discipline and internal healthHow to know if you’re just “managing the outside”The biblical call to clean the inside of your cupWhat makes a man useful to GodWhy your family needs a healed version of you—not a polished one"Woe to you… You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. First clean the inside of the cup…”— Matthew 23:25–26Resources:Bring A Conference To Your Church: https://www.dadtired.com/conferencesSupport the mission: https://www.dadtired.com/donateToday's Sponsor: Hands On Kids Bible by TyndaleGo deeper:If this episode hit you—share it with a friend or take 30 seconds to leave a review. It helps us reach more men who are ready to do the hard work of becoming whole.

Lectric Xpedition Bike: Watch HereWhat if the pain you’ve buried is the very thing blocking you from becoming the man God created you to be?In this raw and emotional episode, Jerrad sits down with Dr. Brad Johnson—also known as BJ Communicates—to talk about grief, father wounds, and how trauma shapes us more than we realize. BJ shares the heartbreaking story of holding his newborn son as he took his last breath, walking through the fog of loss in his marriage, and later grieving the death of his own father before reconciliation could happen.Together, they unpack how fatherlessness, unprocessed emotions, and generational pain keep men stuck—and why ignoring it doesn’t make it go away. They talk about how grief shows up in unexpected ways (like road rage and burnout), why most men lack true friendships, and how healing begins with honest conversations.This episode is an invitation to stop carrying what God has called you to cast—and to believe that the best version of you is on the other side of your pain.What You’ll Learn:Why men are emotional—even when they say they’re notHow father wounds affect your identityThe power of grief and what it revealsWhat it means to carry trauma in your bodyHow to connect with your wife through emotional check-insWhy men struggle to form deep friendshipsHow generational patterns repeat if we don’t interrupt themWhy healing is spiritual—and why it matters for your familyMentioned in This Episode:BJ Communicates’ books: Hard Conversations seriesSupport group for grieving dads: Sad Dad“Feelings Wheel” for emotional check-insBook Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Watch this interview on Youtube: https://youtu.be/4c_qHfeSGAEWhat if the lie you're believing is the very thing keeping you from peace?In this powerful and convicting episode, Jerrad sits down with bestselling author Gary Thomas to dismantle one of the most common, but rarely admitted lies Christian men believe: God owes me. Together, they talk about the quiet entitlement that sneaks into our faith, why peace feels so elusive, and how the Gospel offers something far deeper than comfort or success.Jerrad and Gary explore how social media fuels discontent, how unspoken expectations erode intimacy with God, and why healing begins when we face our sin instead of hiding it. They share personal stories, biblical truth, and hard-won wisdom for men who want more than just behavior change, they want transformation.This episode is a much-needed reminder: God’s not holding out on you. He’s already given you more than you deserve.What You’ll Learn:Why entitlement might be the root of your spiritual frustrationHow believing a lie can sabotage your faithThe difference between comfort and peaceWhat Gary learned through suffering, silence, and surrenderWhy social media subtly kills gratitudeHow to be a man of peace in a world full of chaosWhy facing your sin leads to deeper joyHow the Gospel frees you—from your past, for your futureMentioned in This Episode:Gary Thomas’ new book: The Life You Were Reborn to LiveGary’s website: https://www.garythomas.comBook Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBWatch and subscribe on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4c_qHfeSGAE

Watch this conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ihMjsKPxdA8What if your greatest strength… is also the thing that wears you out the most?In this honest and inspiring conversation, Jerrad sits down with Michael Seifert—founder of PublicSq. and EveryLife—to talk about identity, pressure, purpose, and the hidden cost of success. Though Michael leads some of the most mission-driven companies in America, he opens up about the soul battles behind his ambition—and why Sabbath rest might be his greatest act of obedience.They talk about legacy, fatherhood, and how a rebellious teenager found Jesus at a ranch in Northern California. Michael shares how a single week transformed his relationship with his dad, the real reason behind his inner drive, and the moment he realized that working for the praises of man would eventually break him.This episode is a reminder that God doesn’t just care about what you build—but who you're becoming while you build it.What You’ll Learn:Why your identity can’t come from what you accomplishThe four roles a dad plays (caretaker, cop, coach, consultant)How pressure to succeed impacts father-son relationshipsWhat Michael learned about humility from his dadThe beauty of building with God—and learning to restHow to lead your family while healing from your own woundsWhy starting a values-driven business invites both criticism and purposeMentioned in This Episode:J.H. Ranch: https://jhranch.comPublicSq: https://publicsq.comEveryLife Diapers: https://everylife.comToday's Sponsor: dwellbible.com/dadtiredMichael's South Korea launch at Yoido Full Gospel ChurchJerrad’s mantra: “Strong families begin with healed men”🔗 Resources:Book Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBWatch and subscribe on YouTube

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/B50C1AlD3aoWhat if the things that slow you down… are the very things God wants to use to form you?In this slow, soulful conversation, Jerrad sits down with Jake Weidmann—a master penman (yes, that’s a real thing) and artist whose life and work are marked by discipline, creativity, and deep intentionality. From carving sacred art to raising four kids, Jake shares how slowing down has reshaped not just his craft—but his soul.They talk about the connection between beauty and time, why being creative has nothing to do with being “artsy,” and how discipline and delight can co-exist in the life of a godly man. Jake opens up about the doubts that haunted his early career, what it means to “exult in monotony,” and the emotional moment he hoisted an Amish barn beam onto his shoulder—realizing he was quite literally taking up his cross.This episode is a breath of fresh air in a world that worships speed.What You’ll Learn:Why slowing down might be the most spiritual thing you do todayHow discipline, doubt, and beauty all shape a man’s soulThe lost art of doing one thing well over a long timeWhat it means to create as a reflection of the CreatorHow parenting and craftsmanship have more in common than you thinkWhy creativity isn’t just for artists—it’s for every man made in God’s imageThe surprising story behind Jake’s “Old Rugged Cross” artworkMentioned in This Episode:Jake’s book and artwork: https://jakeweidmann.comG.K. Chesterton’s OrthodoxyThe story of the “pen wizard” and the golden age of handwritingBenedictine wisdom: To work is to prayJerrad’s mantra: “Decades over days”🔗 Resources:Book Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBWatch the episode on YouTube and subscribe!

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/Uovkiigw4gwWhat if the thing that nearly destroyed you… became the thing God used to heal others?In this raw and redemptive episode, Jerrad sits down with Sammy Perez, a man who grew up without a dad, entered the system at age 8, and spent much of his early life in prison. But that’s not where the story ends. Through a prison cellmate, an unexpected visitation, and the unlikely love of a spiritual father, Sammy’s life was completely turned around.Together, they talk about father wounds, the ache for belonging, how prison both broke and saved him, and the long road to healing as a man and dad. Sammy shares the tear-filled moment he gave his life to Jesus behind bars, the first time he saw his son through glass, and how God turned his pain into purpose.This is one of the most powerful stories we’ve ever told.What You’ll Learn:Why boys without dads often become men without directionHow shame disconnects us from our story and how healing reconnects usThe surprising moment Sammy met his son for the first timeWhat it looks like to father when you were never fatheredHow a consistent man named Terry changed everythingWhy God’s love can rewire even the hardest heartsThe full-circle moment that brought Sammy back into prisons… this time with purposeMentioned in This Episode:Prison Fellowship’s Angel Tree ProgramSammy’s work helping former prisoners reintegrate into societyThe story of Clarence; the cellmate who wouldn’t stop asking Sammy if he wanted to know JesusJerrad’s teaching on 2 Kings 6 and the power of new perspective🔗 Resources:Book Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBLearn more about Prison Fellowship: https://www.prisonfellowship.org

Watch this interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/JEN5VOBXp9gWhat if being a “man” had nothing to do with bench press numbers or beard length—and everything to do with becoming a safe place?In this vulnerable and soul-stirring episode, Jerrad sits down with Brant Hansen to talk about what it really means to be a man. From playing the flute and battling shame to protecting the vulnerable and bringing peace to your home, Brant flips the typical narrative of masculinity on its head.They unpack the ache many men feel to be better, why muscle doesn’t equal maturity, and how a man’s deepest strength might just be his gentleness. Brant shares the heart behind his book The Men We Need, what it means to be a “keeper of the garden,” and how every man, no matter his story, can begin again.This one gets deep fast.What You’ll Learn:Why your presence is more than physical proximityHow spiritual formation leads to true masculinityWhy “being strong” often looks like tendernessWhat your tone of voice says about the kind of man you areThe one vision for manhood that could reshape your homeHow to become a non-anxious presence for your wife and kidsWhy it’s never too late to pivot and become the man God’s calling you to beMentioned in This Episode:Brant’s book: The Men We NeedThe Hebrew word for God’s covering in Eden—“royal garments”Lamentations 3 and Philippians 4 as anchors for anxious menBible Memory App for rewiring shame loopsThe “Keeper of the Garden” vision of masculinityHow passive men still make their homes unsafe🔗 Resources:Book Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBGet Brant’s book The Men We NeedToday’s Sponsor: Classical Conversations

Watch this interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/LLFfgIW8OH4In this honest and gritty conversation, Shane Winnings and Jerrad talk about the ache behind every man’s desire to be a good dad—and why good intentions still leave so many guys feeling like they’re failing.Shane shares his own story of growing as a father while leading a national movement to fight fatherlessness. They unpack how wounds from our own dads often fuel our desire to be better, but why motivation alone won’t cut it. From military discipline to spiritual revival, from being physically present to emotionally absent, this conversation gets real fast.They also dive into Shane’s bold new campaign Make Dads Great Again, what’s sparking revival in Gen Z men, how fatherhood videos are breaking algorithms and breaking men open, and why the greatest threat to your calling might be your unchecked hustle.What You’ll Learn:Why proximity doesn’t equal presence in your homeHow to stop “tinkering” and start truly engaging your kidsThe real reason father wounds hurt so deeplyHow to love your family in the way they actually receive loveWhy being faithful at home matters more than platform or ministry successHow revival might already be happening—just not the way we expectMentioned in This Episode:Shane’s viral Make Dads Great Again campaignWesley Huff’s surprising influence on Joe RoganWhy Gen Z men are leading the way back to churchThe trap of high-output, low-impact fatherhoodHow to heal the pain that productivity can’t coverBook Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBToday’s Sponsors:DwellBible.com/DadTired

Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/8QC4kcRPwbQWhy do so many dads feel like they’re failing, even when they’re doing their best?In this honest and soul-stirring conversation, John Eldredge helps us trace the ache beneath our anger, our addictions, and our constant striving. He explains why most men are still chasing love and validation they never received, how childhood wounds shape adult behavior, and why true healing—not behavior modification—is the key to becoming the man your family needs.Jerrad and John unpack father wounds, mother wounds, emotional detachment, and the deep desire for adventure that often gets twisted into sin. If you've ever felt like you're just trying to survive—numbing your pain, doubting your worth, or holding your breath through life—this conversation will help you breathe again.What You’ll Learn:Why behavior change won’t work without soul healingHow father and mother wounds still shape your adult lifeThe two core needs every boy carries into manhoodWhy adventure and validation matter to your spiritual lifeHow to begin healing old attachments and rewire your storyWhat it looks like to fight for your family, your faith, and your futureMentioned in the Episode:Wild at Heart and Resilient by John EldredgeExperience Jesus (John’s new book on healing)Why boys need a thousand moments of delight from their dadsHow your unhealed story gets passed to your kidsJerrad’s punching bag story (and why it felt amazing)Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBToday's Sponsors: Tyndale Study Bibles + World Watch News

What if the part of you that you hate the most is the part God is most eager to heal?In this episode, Jerrad opens up about a moment that nearly ended him, and the journey that brought him back. He shares a powerful story from his two-week intensive recovery experience, including the surprising object that became a symbol of grace and compassion. If you’ve ever carried shame, hidden pain, or felt like your sin disqualifies you from being loved, this conversation is for you.Whether you’re a husband, father, or man who’s just tired of pretending, this episode is an invitation to drop the shame and discover the healing God offers to the parts of you that feel unlovable.What You’ll Learn:Why shame makes healing so hard, and what finally breaks its grip.The powerful metaphor that helped Jerrad see himself through God’s eyes.How childhood wounds shape adult sin patterns.What Jesus actually thinks about your sin (hint: it’s not what you assume).The difference between guilt, shame, and compassion.A fresh way to view your struggles, and the small boy inside still seeking safety.Mentioned in the Episode:The Dwell Bible App – dwellbible.com/dadtired (25% off for listeners).The two-week men's recovery intensive Jerrad attended.A simple but profound healing exercise involving a stuffed monkey.Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/1iY74eYwYBQWhat if your marriage wasn’t just surviving—but actually healing you?In this powerful episode, Jerrad sits down with author and speaker Gabe Lyons (The Fight for Us) to talk about the real work of building a thriving marriage—especially when life throws curveballs like special needs parenting, trauma, and unspoken pain.They unpack:The power of radical honesty (and why most couples never get there)How to stop nursing wounds in silence and start creating real intimacyWhy “no secrets” might be the most life-changing marriage ruleWhat to do when you feel emotionally disconnectedHow confession and emotional leadership can radically change your marriage and parentingIf you’ve ever felt stuck in your marriage or unsure how to lead your family spiritually—this conversation is for you.📘 Check out Gabe’s new book: The Fight for Us: Overcome What Divides and Build a Marriage That ThrivesInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBToday's Sponsor: Classical Conversations Homeschooling

Why do so many men feel stuck—emotionally, spiritually, and relationally—even while doing all the “right” things? In this vulnerable conversation, Kyle Idleman talks about the inner battles men face in silence. He explains why many men hide behind performance and productivity, how healing begins with connection (not accomplishment), and what it really looks like to take every thought captive.Kyle and Jerrad dig into thought patterns that keep men stuck, the mental load of leadership, and why confessing weakness isn’t whining—it’s spiritual obedience. If you’ve ever felt alone, overburdened, or ashamed of not “being further along,” this conversation will help you breathe again.What You’ll Learn:Why men around age 40 often face unexpected internal crisisHow emotional connection—not productivity—defines your healthWhat it looks like to take every thought captive in practical termsThe healing power of confession and friendshipHow to recognize and break negative thought patternsMorning routines, prayer habits, and spoken truth as tools for renewalMentioned in the Episode:Every Thought Captive (Kyle Idleman’s new book)Galatians 6: “Bear one another’s burdens”The power of saying Scripture aloud to renew your mindHealthy male friendships and confession as healing rhythmsThe “+/- 3 of 40” principle: why men change between 37–43Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

What do you do when something isn’t technically sin—but still doesn’t feel right? In this episode, Jerrad shares a vulnerable story from his week that left him convicted, even though no clear line was crossed. He unpacks the concept of “inner, middle, and outer circle behaviors”—a tool from recovery circles—and challenges Christian men to evaluate the subtle patterns that quietly lead to sin, disconnection, or hidden shame.If you’re a husband or father wrestling with old habits, emotional isolation, or unspoken compromise, this episode gives practical language to your inner conflict—and a gospel-centered path toward integrity and healing.What You’ll Learn:How to identify subtle behaviors that lead to sinThe difference between self-care and numbingWhy “middle circle” habits matter for Christian menPractical steps for radical honesty in marriageHow to confess without spiraling into shameWhy healing starts with small, honest steps—not perfectionMentioned in the Episode:The “Inner, Middle, Outer Circle” tool from recovery workDad Tired Retreat (September – signup at dadtired.com)Kids' News Sponsor -World Watch News Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

What do you do when your marriage feels broken—but you don’t know how to fix it? In this episode, Dave and Ann Wilson share their story of nearly losing their marriage at year 10, and how God brought them through bitterness, performance, and unmet expectations into healing and intimacy.With over four decades of marriage experience and years of leading marriage ministries, they speak candidly about wounds from the past, what happens when a wife feels unseen, and why husbands often withdraw instead of engage. You’ll also hear practical tools for renewing your mind, healing emotional wounds, and building each other up instead of tearing each other down.What You’ll Learn:What to do when one spouse has “lost all feelings”How past trauma affects your marriage todayWhy healing starts with individual repentance and soul workThe power of affirmation and the damage of chronic critiqueHow to speak life to your spouse (instead of yelling)What it means to be an “azer kenegdo” and partner in the spiritual battleWhy most men feel unloved and unliked in their marriage—and how to change that Links and Resources:Vertical Marriage and How to Speak Life to Your Husband by Dave & Ann WilsonBiblical Reference- Romans 12:2 – the daily renewing of your mind.Pre-order link: Amazon – How to Speak Life to Your HusbandInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Why do so many christian men fall into the same sinful patterns over and over? Jerrad reveals how habitual sin is often rooted in emotional escape—in attempts to numb pain, stress, or fear. Drawing from his own experience in intensive counseling and a growing commitment to truth-telling, he helps men understand how to face uncomfortable emotions rather than flee from them.This episode is for every man who feels stuck, ashamed, or exhausted by the cycle of sin and silence. You’ll walk away with practical tools to sit in discomfort, recognize your escape habits, and move toward healing and integrity in Christ. What You’ll Learn:Why escaping pain fuels habitual sin in Christian menHow to recognize subtle behaviors that lead to deeper compromiseWhat it means to sit in discomfort instead of numbing outThe power of presence, meditation, and prayer for spiritual growthWhy truth-telling must be the foundation of healingHow to identify your personal “escape mechanisms” (like social media, work, food, or fantasy)Resources & Links :Inner / Middle / Outer Circle framework for sin and copingJerrad’s 156-day truth-telling streakScripture Reference: Matthew 6:33 – Seek first the KingdomUpcoming “Garage Groups” and online healing spaces (in development)Dad Tired fundraising needs & support at dadtired.com/donateInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

In this episode, Nick Stumbo (Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries) shares his personal story of battling pornography addiction while serving as a pastor—and how it nearly cost him his marriage. Nick and Jerrad unpack the cycle of shame, hidden habits, emotional coping, and why true healing for Christian men requires more than confession.If you've ever felt stuck in sin, numb to your marriage, or spiritually ashamed, this conversation offers a hopeful path toward recovery and freedom in Christ.What You’ll Learn:Why many Christian men deny the severity of their porn useThe real difference between struggle and addictionHow shame and secrecy keep men stuckUnderstanding your middle circle behaviors (the warning signs)Why confession alone doesn’t lead to freedomHow to identify your escape patterns What wives need to know (and how to avoid trauma-based confessions)Episode Resources and Links :Pure Desire Ministries: puredesire.orgBook: Setting Us Free by Nick StumboRecovery groups: Seven Pillars of Freedom (for men), Betrayal & Beyond (for wives)The “Three Questions” that define addictionTools: Inner/Middle/Outer Circle framework, HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired)Sponsor: Dwell Bible App – dwellbible.com/dadtiredInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

In this episode, Jerrad Lopes returns after a four-month break. He shares how hidden sin, deep wounds, and a crisis of identity led him to the darkest season of his life—and how God met him there. Jerrad opens up about stepping away from ministry, entering a two-week counseling intensive, and why full healing is impossible without radical honesty.This episode is a call to Christian men: if you want your family to thrive, healing must begin with you. You don’t need more parenting tips—you need deep, soul-level transformation. And it starts by coming out of hiding.What You’ll Learn:Why secrecy destroys spiritual leadershipThe emotional cost of compartmentalized sinThe moment Jerrad chose full healing over self-destructionWhy counseling and community are essential for real changeWhat it feels like to live with nothing hiddenHow Dad Tired is shifting focus toward men's healing ministryEpisode Resources & Links:Dad Tired’s upcoming retreat: Register at dadtired.comDad Tired's Mighty Networks Community for men (free)Episode Sponsor: World Watch News (sponsor for family-safe news)Episode 462 :“Important Ministry Update” & conversation with Kaleb and ChrisInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

In this episode, Jerrad sits down with Caleb Allen and Chris Hilken to share a ministry update. This is a follow-up to the first update from earlier this year. The conversation focuses on personal growth, spiritual accountability, and the next steps for Dad Tired.What You’ll hear: • What restoration has looked like behind the scenes • Why confession, counsel, and community were key • How the team approached trust and leadership • What has changed in Jerrad’s personal walk with God • How grace and truth have shaped the process • What’s ahead for the Dad Tired podcast and the ministry Tune in for an honest conversation about repentance, restoration, and spiritual health. Episode Resources: Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB Support Dad Tired: https://www.dadtired.com/donate Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com Join the community or ask a question: https://www.dadtired.com Dad Tired Annual Retreat: https://www.dadtired.com/retreat Range Leather (15% off): https://rangeleather.com/dadtired – Code: DADTIRED

What does it really mean to be a man of God? In this powerful follow-up to Part One of the Biblical Masculinity series, we explore 8 core traits of a godly man through the PRIME MEN acrostic: Peacemaking, Repentant, Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, and Noble.With insight from scripture, stories of failure and redemption (from Adam to Jesus), and quotes from thinkers like C.S. Lewis, John Piper, and Voddie Baucham, this episode will challenge and inspire you to grow as a man of faith.Whether you're a dad, a husband, or a young man figuring out what biblical manhood really looks like, this one is for you.🔑 Key Topics:Why meek ≠ weak (Jesus was both powerful and gentle)Endurance in suffering and fatherhoodThe cost of moral compromiseHow empathy and nobility set godly men apartPractical ways to grow in each area📖 Scriptures Mentioned:John 8, 1 Timothy 3, Ephesians 6, Genesis 18, Numbers 20, Judges 16, Matthew 4, Luke 23, Philippians 2, Proverbs 24, Micah 6:8🎯 Action Step:Grab a journal. Circle 4 areas you’re doing well, 2 that need growth, and 1 where you’re bleeding. Then invite a godly man to speak into your life.👉 Join our free men’s community at: dadtired.com/community🎧 Check out Dwell for 25% OFF: dwellbible.com/dadtiredInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Is your view of masculinity shaped more by culture than Christ? In this first part of a two-part series, Chris Hilkin unpacks what the Bible really says about being a man. Drawing on personal stories, cultural contrasts, and Scripture, Chris introduces the PRIME MEN acrostic—a framework for understanding godly manhood—and walks through the first two foundational traits: Peacemaker and Repentant.This episode is a call for Christian men to unlearn shallow definitions of manhood and replace them with gospel-centered convictions. Whether you’re raising sons or seeking healing yourself, this message will challenge and equip you for deeper discipleship.What You’ll Learn:Why cultural masculinity often misses the markWhat it means to be a peacemaker and why it matters in your homeThe difference between remorse and biblical repentanceWhy being a godly man starts with personal integrity, not dominanceHow to lead your children toward a Christ-centered view of manhood📖 Scriptures References:Matthew 5:9Romans 12:1James 1:19Acts 3:192 Corinthians 7:10Proverbs 28:13Luke 15 (The Prodigal Son)Luke 19 (Zacchaeus)Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Why did Jesus always send His disciples out two by two—and why does it still matter today? In this powerful solo episode, Kaleb teaches the biblical principle of living life with godly brothers by your side. Drawing from Luke 10 and examples throughout Acts, he shows how isolation makes men vulnerable, while companionship strengthens our courage, witness, and joy.If you’re a husband, father, or follower of Jesus trying to carry the load alone, this episode is a call to lock arms with men who will walk with you in faith, accountability, laughter, and mission. What You’ll Learn:Why Jesus never sent disciples out alone4 biblical reasons men need strong brothers in their livesHow isolation leaves you spiritually vulnerableThe power of shared testimony and mutual encouragementWhy friendship isn’t a luxury—it’s a gospel valueHow to build meaningful brotherhood in everyday life📖 Scriptures References:Luke 10:1 – Jesus sends disciples two by twoEcclesiastes 4:9–12 – Two are better than one1 Peter 5:8 – Watch out for the prowling enemy1 Samuel 23:16–17 – Jonathan strengthens DavidProverbs 12:25 – A good word makes him glad2 Corinthians 13:1 – Testimony established by two witnessesInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

What if friendship is one of the most powerful tools God gives us to battle confusion, discouragement, and spiritual despair? Kaleb teaches the story of the Road to Emmaus (Luke 24) to show how the presence of Jesus is often revealed when two believers walk together through grief and doubt.Drawing from Scripture, Church history, and stories of Christian martyrs, this episode highlights how friendship is not a side benefit of the Christian life—it’s a core part of God's design for your healing and strength. If you’ve felt tired, isolated, or unsure where God is in your pain, this message will remind you: you were never meant to walk alone. What You’ll Learn:Why Jesus met two disciples walking and talking—not isolatedThe four spiritual benefits of gospel-centered friendshipHow the Holy Spirit enters conversations marked by honesty and humilityThe power of processing confusion with a godly friendWhy real friendship requires transparency, not performanceThe image of “the third traveler” as the Holy Spirit in your walk📖 Scriptures References:Luke 24 (Road to Emmaus)Ephesians 6 (Armor of God)John 15 (Greater love has no one...)John 14 (Spirit will not leave you as orphans)Proverbs 12:25, 1 Samuel 23, 2 Corinthians 13:1 Episode Mentions :The Dwell Bible App – Sponsor offering guided Lent reflections and devotionals- dwellbible.com/dadtiredPerpetua & Felicity – Early Christian martyrs and friends.Robert Murray McCheyne Bible Plan – Recommended yearly reading plan.Dietrich Bonhoeffer, St. Bernard of Clairvaux, Augustine – Quotes and stories on friendship and theology.Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Can a man truly grow in holiness without growing in friendship? Kaleb challenges the individualistic mindset many Christian men carry—and shows how friendship is not just helpful, but essential for spiritual maturity. Drawing from John 15, the life of Jesus, and examples like Augustine, he unpacks the truth that holiness and friendship are inseparably linked.If you’ve felt isolated, self-reliant, or unsure how to build meaningful relationships as a Christian man, this episode reframes friendship not as a luxury, but as a command of Christ—and a taste of heaven itself.What You’ll Learn:Why Jesus commanded friendship on the night of His betrayalHow real friendship is a path to Christlikeness, not a distraction from itThe danger of isolated spiritual leadershipWhy holiness without friendship is often just masked prideThe healing power of brotherhood in seasons of mental, emotional, and spiritual struggleHow friendship prepares us for heaven’s ultimate communion📖 Scripture References:John 15:12–14 – “Greater love has no one than this…”Psalm 41:9 – Betrayal by a close friendRomans 5:8, John 14, the Farewell DiscourseResources and Links :Missionary Flights International – Aviation ministry serving in Haiti, the Bahamas, and the Dominican Republic- missionaryflights.orgSpiritual Friendship by St. Aelred of RievaulxAugustine’s Conversion (Confessions)Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

In this episode Kaleb narrates how anxiety, looping thoughts, and self-condemnation can pull us away from the moments that matter most. While watching his son overcome fear at a waterpark, Kaleb found himself mentally stuck—replaying frustrations, doubts, and failures. Through John 14:27, he reflects on the kind of peace Jesus gives: not escape from life’s storms, but presence within them—a peace that interrupts fear and helps us stay grounded in what God is doing right in front of us.What You’ll Learn:How to break mental loops of fear, regret, and condemnationWhy Jesus spoke peace to His disciples before His own sufferingThe difference between worldly peace and the peace of ChristHow external perspective—God’s Word, a friend, or your spouse—can shatter inner turmoilWhy recognizing God’s presence can restore joy in your fatherhood and faith📖 Scripture References:John 14:27 – “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you…”John 13–17 – The Farewell DiscourseRomans 8:28 – All things work together for goodMatthew 28:20 – “I am with you always” (implied)Practical Advice:Memorize John 14:27Talk to your spouse or a trusted friend to break the loopAllow God’s Word to “kick in your front door” when condemnation creeps inInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Many wrestle with the image of God in the Old Testament—how can the same God who loves and weeps in the New Testament also command war and destruction? In this episode, Chris Hilkin tackles one of the hardest questions in the Bible: is the God of the Old Testament morally good?Chris walks through five biblical and historical reasons why the conquest narratives aren’t what modern readers often assume. You'll hear how ancient war language, the slow process of displacement, divine justice, and God's mercy all help make sense of these difficult passages—and why rejecting God on moral grounds requires a much deeper look at history and Scripture.What You’ll Learn:Why “utter destruction” often used hyperbolic war language, not literal commandsHow God’s judgment differs from human genocide or racismThe role of divine justice in protecting future generations from corruptionWhy God has the moral authority to give and take lifeHow to answer questions about Old Testament violence Scriptures References:Deuteronomy 7, 20; Joshua 6, 10; Judges 1–21 Samuel 15; Exodus 23; Job 1:21; Romans 13Revelation 7.Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

What has God entrusted to you—and are you stewarding it well?In today’s episode we unpack a powerful biblical theme woven throughout the New Testament: stewardship. From Jesus’ parable of the faithful servant to the Apostle Paul's letters to Timothy, we’re reminded that God is watching how we handle the things He’s put in our hands—especially our homes, marriages, and children.Plus, we share a wild church history story about the Apostle John chasing down a gang leader on horseback. No, seriously.Whether you’re a dad, husband, or just a guy trying to walk faithfully with Jesus, this episode will challenge you to reject passivity and embrace your God-given role as a steward.🔑 Key Topics:What biblical stewardship actually meansHow Jesus contrasted faithful vs. wicked servantsPaul’s urgent message to Timothy about responsibilityA convicting story from early church historyWhy passion fades, but daily faithfulness endures📖 Scriptures Mentioned:Matthew 24:45–51, 1 Timothy 1:11, 1 Corinthians 4:1–2, 1 Thessalonians 2:4, Galatians 2:7Check out dwell for 25% OFF at: dwellbible.com/dadtiredInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Many Christians—and critics—wrestle with this difficult question: does the Bible support slavery? Chris Hilkin discusses the most misunderstood and controversial aspects of the Old Testament. He confronts the assumption that God condones slavery by unpacking what the Bible actually says about servitude, justice, and human dignity. Through historical context, Hebrew language insights, and careful biblical interpretation, Chris explains how God’s law placed boundaries on power, offered protections to the vulnerable, and called His people to reflect His justice and mercy—even in broken systems.What You’ll Learn:Why the Hebrew Bible doesn’t have a category for race-based slaveryHow biblical servitude functioned like voluntary indentured laborWhat protections the Mosaic law gave to servants—including freedom, fair treatment, and legal rightsHow the New Testament condemns slave trading as sinful 📖 Scriptures References:Exodus 21:16 Deuteronomy 23:15–16 Leviticus, Deuteronomy, Exodus – Laws protecting servants1 Timothy 1:10 – All are one in Christ; serve others in loveIsaiah 61 Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Many christians feel unequipped to handle the hard questions—especially when it comes to the Old Testament. Why does God seem so angry? Did He really command entire crowds to be destroyed? In this episode, Chris Hilkin opens a new teaching series by offering simple, powerful tools for reading Scripture faithfully. He walks through how to understand difficult passages, avoid common interpretation mistakes, and confidently answering the kinds of questions people might ask about God’s character in the Bible.What You’ll Learn:Why we must use clear Scripture to interpret confusing passagesHow to distinguish between biblical description and prescriptionWhy not every story in the Bible teaches a moral or doctrineHow context, authorship, and genre shape proper understandingCommon interpretation errors that lead to misunderstanding God’s characterWhy Jesus must be the hero of every biblical narrative📖 Scripture References:Psalm 82 vs. Isaiah 44 & Deuteronomy 6 Exodus, Deuteronomy, Leviticus – laws about slavery, justice, and culture1 Samuel 15, Job 1:21, Romans 13 John 3:16, Ephesians 2:8–9Deuteronomy 6:4–6 – The ShemaGalatians 3, Philippians 2, Isaiah 61 Resources & Links :Podcast sponsor-Range Leather Use code DADTIRED at rangeleather.com/dadtired for 15% off custom hatsEmail for Notes: [email protected] Future Topics in the SeriesEp 453- Chris Hilken- Morality of God in the Old Testament- Part 2| 453Ep 455- Chris Hilken- Morality of God in the Old Testament- Part 3| 455Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

How do you lead your family with faith and conviction in a culture that no longer shares your values? In this conversation, Patrick Miller discusses the message of his new book Joyful Outsiders. Joyful Outsiders —a guide for Christian men learning to follow Jesus in a world that feels disorienting, even hostile. He explains why being an outsider isn’t something to avoid, but a biblical identity to embrace. Raising kids, discipling others, or navigating your own tension with culture, this episode offers practical wisdom for how to live faithfully, lead intentionally, and stay rooted in joy—even when the world pushes back.What You’ll Learn:Why Christians have always been cultural outsidersThe difference between conforming, combating, cloistering—and joyfully engagingSix biblical archetypes for cultural engagement (e.g. Advisor, Protestor, Artist)How to parent kids through complex questions about faith, identity, and cultureWhy spiritual influence requires wisdom, not one-size-fits-all responsesHow calling, personality, and gifts shape your impact in the world📖 Scripture References Hebrews 13 1 Peter 1Ephesians 2, Philippians 2, Galatians 3 Daniel 2Episode ResourcesBook: Joyful Outsiders: Six Ways to Live Like Jesus in a Disorienting Culture by Patrick Miller and Keith SimonAvailable from major booksellers or at joyfuloutsiders.comFree Assessment: Take the “Outsider Archetype” quiz to discover your primary role in cultural engagement- joyfuloutsiders.com Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

A new year often brings the desire to reset—not just with goals and routines, but in how we lead, parent, and connect with God. In this episode, Kaleb Allen reflects on the emotional and spiritual weight many men carry coming out of the holidays: feeling off-rhythm, spiritually dry, or unsure how to re-engage. In reference to James 5:17 and Elijah’s prayer life, he calls Christian husbands, fathers, and leaders back to the foundation—fervent, honest, consistent prayer. He urges you to show up before God with your whole heart and trust Him to work through your weakness.What You’ll Learn:Why James 5:17 matters for men struggling to prayHow early church history describes James as a man of consistent prayerWhat it means to pray like Elijah—with faith, urgency, and expectationWhy prayer is hard—and how to reengage your heart when you feel numbThe role of fervency, persistence, and spiritual travail in breakthroughWhy your emotions can’t be trusted to lead your prayer lifeHow real prayer engages your whole being, not just your words📖 Scriptures References:James 5:17–18 1 Kings 18Daniel 7Matthew 28, John 13, Luke 24Romans 8 1 Thessalonians 5 Luke 18Sponsor: Dwell Bible App Listen to the Bible on your schedule with flexible plans here: dwellbible.com/dadtiredInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

What do you do when life falls apart—and you're still expected to lead, provide, and hold it all together? In this episode, Pastor John Onwuchekwa shares his story of unexpected loss, spiritual exhaustion, and the slow, grace-filled process of healing. Through raw moments of grief, relational strain, and a sabbatical that reshaped him, John shows why grief isn’t something to get over—but something we have to learn to carry.Together, John and Kaleb explore how Scripture, friendship, and deep honesty help Christian men navigate sorrow without losing hope. If you’re in a season of loss—or walking with someone who is—this conversation offers comfort, language, and direction. What You’ll Learn:Why grief isn't linear—and why it doesn't mean you're doing it wrongThe difference between honesty and hopelessnessHow grief affects marriage, friendships, and spiritual rhythmsWhy isolation is more dangerous than tragedyHow Ecclesiastes and the resurrection became anchors for John’s healingWhat to do (and not do) when walking with someone who's grievingScriptures References:Ecclesiastes – Finding hope in hard truths1 Thessalonians 4; 1 Corinthians 15 Acts 1 Isaiah 53 John 11 Episode Resources:1. Book: We Go On by John Onwuchekwa – Available at major booksellers and wegoontour.com2. National Tour: We Go On Tour — A live evening of music, film, comedy, and teaching on grief and hope-wegoontour.com3. Sponsor: Dwell Bible App -dwellbible.com/dadtiredInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

In this episode, Peter Ostapko shares how God called him out of banking and into a creative, countercultural ministry: Kinsman Journal. Built around the themes of faith, fatherhood, and work, the journal combines original photography, timeless essays, and deep storytelling to speak to the heart of Christian men.Peter also explains how Kinsman has grown beyond print into live gatherings like Kinsman Table, where excellence, hospitality, and intentionality create space for men to connect and grow- through presence. Listen in to hear more about deeper brotherhood, renewed purpose, or a new way to engage with the men in your life. What You’ll Learn:How a vision for “faith, fatherhood, and work” sparked a national movementWhy the Kinsman Journal focuses on everyday men’s stories, not celebrity voicesHow beauty and excellence open doors for discipleshipWhy men need more than sermons—they need community and challengeThe difference between programming and presence in men’s ministryHow local gatherings and generosity can reshape modern masculinityEpisode Resources: 1. Kinsman Journal – A premium print journal with original stories, photos, and essays on faith, fatherhood, and work Order or bulk-gift at: https://www.kinsman.org 2. Kinsman Table – Invite-only gatherings for men (3x/year), built around hospitality, reflection, and curated conversation3.Kinsman Nights & Kinsman Forum – Public and discipleship-focused events happening monthly and in select cities4.Kinsman Podcast – Audio version of the journal available for free on podcast platforms5.Bonhoeffer’s Life Together .6.Book: The Revenge of Analog .7.Book: The Alternative to Futility by Elton Trueblood.Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Most Christian men want to be more consistent—more prayerful, more disciplined, more engaged. But what if the struggle isn’t really about discipline at all? In this episode, Kaleb Allen looks at the life of Daniel to show that lasting spiritual habits flow from conviction, not willpower. It’s not about trying harder—it’s about believing deeper. If you’re tired of starting strong and fading out, this message will help you reframe discipline as a response to what you believe about God, not just a task to check off.What You’ll Learn:Why discipline without conviction eventually failsHow Daniel’s life shows the power of consistent devotion over decadesThe difference between spiritual guilt and genuine desireWhy you may not have a “prayer problem”—you may have a belief problemHow to write spiritual resolutions that actually shape your lifeWhy the lion’s den was safer for Daniel than 30 days without prayer📖 Scriptures References:Daniel 6 1 Kings 18Romans 8, Revelation, John 13–17 Episode Resources:Jonathan Edwards’ Resolutions – 70 life commitments Edwards wrote at age 18Challenge to List Your Own 10 Spiritual Resolutions Robert Murray McCheyne Bible PlanSponsor- Range Leather - rangeleather.com/dadtired | Use code DADTIRED for 15% offInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB