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Ep 104104: How to Maintain Control When Completely Overwhelmed
It’s a busy time of the year for many of us and perhaps you’re struggling with overwhelm recently – or maybe you feel out of control already. On today’s show, you’ll discover how to maintain control when completely overwhelmed. Know what’s important Get it all out of your head Drafts App OmniFocus Remember the Milk Evernote Moleskine notebooks Plan the work and work the plan Decide in advance to let some balls drop Keep sleeping Get up one hour earlier Be flexible Have block time for yourself and family Do something kind for someone else Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 103103: Sin by Silence, with Olivia Klaus
Olivia Klaus: Sin By Silence Inside the California Institution for Women, the first inmate initiated and led group in U.S. prison history, shatters the misconceptions of domestic violence. Convicted Women Against Abuse (CWAA) was created in 1989 to help women inside prison break the silence about abuse and learn more about what they needed to do to help others stop the cycle of violence. Director Olivia Klaus joins me to discuss how she influenced social change throughout the State of California through her film, Sin by Silence. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 102102: Seven Things to Ask the People You’re Managing, with Bonni Stachowiak
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. Are you taking on a role as a new manager? Do you know what to say in your first conversations with members of the team? Many new managers recognize the importance of early conversation with the people they will manage, but they don’t always know how to start those conversations. In this episode, I welcome back Bonni to review the seven questions to ask the people you’ll be managing. How did you come to work here? Tell me what you do for the team? What’s working on the team? What isn’t? How does this job fit (or not) into your career objectives? What keeps you busy outside of work? (And ask it exactly that way). What advice do you have for me on how to best work with you? If I ever have an issue with something you’re doing, what’s the best way to tell you? Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 101101: How to Get the Most from LinkedIn, with Donna Schilder
Donna Schilder: Executive & Career Coach Do you have a LinkedIn profile? Is it up to date? Do you get any benefit from it? If not, on today’s show you’ll learn how to get the most from LinkedIn to help you network, build your brand, and influence the world. I welcome back Donna Schilder to share her expertise on LinkedIn to help us maximize the use of this network. Reach out to Donna and her coaching team directly at (562) 685-5032. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 100100: How This Show Has Helped Our Listeners, with Bonni Stachowiak
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. It’s the two year anniversary of the show! On this episode, I turn the microphone to you and share how the community has benefitted from this show over 100 episodes. If you’re checking out the show for the first time, it’s also a great way to discover which past episodes have been most valuable to others. Thank you to the following community members for your contribution to this show: Ben Krueger Episode 98: Five Rules For Your New Leadership Role 42 Rules for Your New Leadership Role by Pam Fox Rollin Oliver Pelayo Episode 70: How 3 Words Can Drive Your Development This Year Steve Chase Three Ways To Handle a Sudden Change of Plans Episode 44: Susan Cain on The Power of Introverts Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a Word That Can’t Stop Talking DebB Bixler Episode 42: How To Gain Insight Into Personality Also see episodes 43, 44, 45, 46, & 47 Episode 89: The Value of the StrengthsFinder Assessment Episode 90: How to Interpret Your StrengthsFinder Results Rick Gray Episode 55: How to Lead in a Crisis Bhaskar Natarajan Duke Whitman Hakim Laukkoski Episode 91: Mark Goulston on How to Listen When Someone Is Venting Real Influence: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In by Mark Goulston and John Ullmen Carolye Asfahl Episode 79: Benefits You Get From A Recognition Program Episode 80: Ten Steps To Create A Recognition Program Kirk Morrison Suzie Farthing Episode 76: How To Handle People Who Smell Dave’s appearance on One Love for Nurses Episode 19: How To Influence Without Authority Tiago Mota Miranda Episode 2: How To Start Coaching Someone Episode 4: What Is Coaching and Why It’s Different From Other Development Tools Carmel Purdey Mohammad Al-Khalifa Episode 59: Seven Principles for Leading People Older Than You Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 9999: Succeeding Through Unexpected Change, with Nancy Santarelli
Nancy Santarelli: Dale Carnegie One of the most common times that we seek to reinvent ourselves in during a time of great change. While we all like to control change, we also know that sometimes big change comes when we least expect it. Today I welcome colleague and friend Nancy Santarelli from Dale Carnegie of Southern Los Angeles to share her she has navigating major changes in her career in the past decade. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 9898: Five Rules for Your New Leadership Role, with Pam Fox Rollin
Pam Fox Rollin: 42 Rules For Your New Leadership Role Author, 42 Rules For Your New Leadership Role Principal & Executive Coach, IdeaShape Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 9797: Three Ways to Reinvent Your Career, with Donna Schilder
Donna Schilder: Executive & Career Coach I received a lot of notes recently from community members who are using the term “reinventing themselves” to describe their current career activities. Many of us reach points in our careers where we decide to look inward to determine if we’re on the path that’s right for us. In this show, I speak with Donna Schilder, an expert career coach, on three things that you can get more clarity on how to reinvent your career. Access Donna’s Desired Work Characteristics Assessment and reach out to Donna and her coaching team directly at (562) 685-5032. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 9696: How to Get Buy-In for a New Initiative, with Christina Kull Martens
Christina Kull Martens: Northrop Grumman Most of us will either ask to or be called upon to roll out a new initiative sometime in our careers. My guest Christina Kull Martens and her team successfully launched the greeNG initiative at the Northrop Grumman Corporation. On this episode, you’ll learn how they did it. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 9595: Ten Ways to Reduce Distractions and Be More Productive, with Lynn Coffman and Michael Valentine
Lynn Coffman and Michael Valentine: Coffman Valentine & Associates The more successful we become, the more likely we will get distracted by other people and priorities. Every effective leader learns how to manage distractions so they can be more productive. Lynn and Michael bring their expertise to help us discover 10 things we can do to become more productive. To a knowledge worker, productivity means effectiveness. It’s time to shed the idea that creative, innovative, and evolving work fits neatly into a tightly controlled assembly lined approach. Today’s work is collaborative, often iterative and needs coordination in real time in order to meet the demands of the market. It is fast paced, ever evolving and 24/7/365. Now it’s about doing the right work at the right time in the best way. Are you overwhelmed yet? With so many things pulling you in multiple and competing directions, it is critical to develop focus. It’s easier said than done, but here are 10 practical ways to eliminate distractions and really focus on getting the outcomes your business and you must deliver. Turn off self-interrupting technologies. Silence the ding of email/text/IM/Social media notifications. Corral your communications. Email is not the only communication channel in town. Know what channels are available to you and use the best tool for the job. For example, email is great for handing off information that is not time sensitive. A phone call is better for developing a relationship and understanding. A live meeting may be better for decision making and consensus building. Use space as a tool. Everyone needs a place to do focus work. Close your office door. Go to another location – on or off- site. In an open office environment, put on headphones to indicate you are not to be disturbed. Close loops. Once you start a task, take it through to a natural conclusion. If you open an email, read it, decide what to do with it and do it. If a project is closed, write the after action report and put all papers back into the file and file it. If you make a promise to someone, write it down and note on your calendar when to follow up. Honor commitments to yourself, as much as you honor them with others. Block the time. After all, they pay you to work. Schedule your work first and then allow others to schedule work with you. Know where you are at all times. Use lists, calendars, spreadsheets or other thinking tools to know what work you (or your group) need to do. It is critical for balancing workload to be able to see both the short term and the long term view of your work commitments at any moment. Multi-tasking is a myth. You may be able to do it, but it will take you 30–100% more time. It lowers quality of work, speed of delivery, and may be dangerous. Build quiet time and play into your day. After all, knowledge workers are paid to think. Reflect, absorb, and solve problems. If you are mentally tired, take a break! Roll with the punches. Work is messy. It never goes exactly to plan. Change your expectations to meet reality. Know how to stop, start, and redirect tasks to keep focus and reach goals. Sharpen your skills saw. Technologies are constantly evolving. Schedule the time to learn new ways of working. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 9494: What to Do When Managing Without Authority
You simply can’t manage without the appropriate amount of authority. In this show, I walk you through six things you can do if you find yourself in this situation. In addition, this is a good check-point for ourselves as leaders to ensure we aren’t putting others into this situation. The most important thing to know? You can’t manage without authority. 1. What’s likely the scenario? Poor communication? Organizational politics? Discomfort area of the leader? Is it you? Do you really need authority in this area? 2. Watch and record what happens (or anticipate what could happen). 3. Connect your objectives and evidence to the bottom-line or organizational mission Almost always there is a cost factor What does it keep you from being able to do? Speaks to the logical minds of many leaders (task-oriented, people-oriented) 4. Make the request Be clear on the problem you are trying to solve and what you need Have a plan (timeline, steps, etc.) Show evidence that you have a plan Be prepared to get something different than you asked for – and ask yourself if it still solves the problem? 5. If necessary, ask to be removed from that project/responsibility 6. If all else fails, find a new position or employer Here’s a quick check-in for all of us: Are we putting anyone into this situation right now? Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 9393: How to Lead in a Professional Practice, with Gary Takacs
Gary Takacs: The Thriving Dentist Gary Takacs has been helping dentists become better business leaders for virtually his entire career. He is an expert in professional practice management and helps dentists to learn how to grow and develop their business and leadership skills so they can better serve patients and grow their practices. Gary is also the host of The Thriving Dentist podcast. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 9292: How to Tap Into Wisdom, with Barry Schwartz
Barry Schwartz: Practial Wisdom Leadership is often most challenging when the path forward is not clear. In this week’s episode, I talk withcBarry Schwartz, author of the book Practical Wisdom: The Right Way To Do the Right Thing to help us discover how we can make better decisions as leaders. Here are Barry’s TED Talks: Our Loss Of Wisdom Using Our Practical Wisdom The Paradox Of Choice Barry also mentioned the book The Blessing Of A Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 9191: How to Listen When Someone Is Venting, with Mark Goulston
Mark Goulston: Real Influence Check out Mark’s article on this same topic on the Harvard Business Review blog Three three-step process that Mark recommended: 1. What are you most frustrated about? 2. What are you most angry about? 3. What are you really worried about? Here are links to Mark’s books: Real Influence: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In Just Listen Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 9090: How to Interpret Your StrengthsFinder Results, with Steve Dosier
Steve Dosier: Blue Star Intel On episode #89, I welcomed Steve Dosier, a StrengthsFinder expert formerly of Gallup and now with Blue Star Intel, to teach us about the history of CliftonStrengths (formerly StrengthsFinder). This week, he takes Bonni and I through our StrengthsFinder 2.0 results so you can learn more about the value of utilizing your CliftonStrengths report. Questions Steve asked of us: Individual Questions How closely do you feel your Top–5 Strengths match you? What do you agree strongly with? Are there any areas that don’t quite sound like you? Relationship Questions What Strengths do you feel you both connect upon and why? What Strengths do you find complimentary to your own and why? How do you leverage each other’s Strengths to get the best from each other? (You get the best of me when…) I feel this Strength helps me provide a unique contribution to our relationship… (My contribution to this relationship is….) Now that you know each other’s Strengths as defined by the Clifton StrengthsFinder Report, what do you better understand and appreciate about each other? (Was there a point of conflict or disagreement that StrengthsFinder has helped you better understand and manage?) Bonni’s Strengths: Relator Achiever Connectedness Futuristic Strategic Dave’s Strengths (link to Dave’s report): Futuristic Relator Intellection Learner Responsibility Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 8989: The Value of the StrengthsFinder Assessment, with Steve Dosier
Steve Dosier: Blue Star Intel CliftonStrengths (formerly StrengthsFinder) is one of the most popular instruments utilized in corporate training and coaching programs. In this episode, I welcome Steve Dosier, a StrengthsFinder expert formerly of Gallup and now with Blue Star Intel, to teach us about the history of CliftonStrengths (formerly StrengthsFinder) and help us discover how we can get the most value from the CliftonStrengths assessment. Here are some of the resources we discussed during the show: StrengthsFinder 2.0 book* (a code is included in this book for the instrument) Now Discover Your Strengths* (also includes assessment) Living with Your Strengths book (also includes assessment) StrengthsFinder training for individuals and teams* (use code CFL10 for a 10% tuition discount) You can purchase a code ala carte to take the StrengthsFinder assessment at this link without purchasing the book. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 8888: Creating Meaning and Significance, with Bonni Stachowiak
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. What does a life plan give you? Clarity around what is important The ability to better manage priorities and balance your time Better sense of what to say no to… More of a sense that you are truly living “Contrary to popular belief, great things almost never happen by accident. Great accomplishments are planned. Sadly, much of the planning we do goes into accomplishments that leave us feeling empty in the end.” -Donald Miller How to phrase a goal: SMART goals Careful of negatively-focused goals, such as I want to lose weight… Focus on what you will gain (as in what will the benefit be…) Increase the likelihood of following through on goals Put them somewhere where you’ll see them Track your progress along the way Share them with others Create an ideal week that aligns with your life plan and your goals See Michael Hyatt’s book on Creating Your Personal Life Plan Other resources we mentioned: Remember the Milk Hope for the Flowers Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 8787: How to Lead Virtually, with Loren Kousaie
Loren Kousaie: Microsoft Almost everyone who leads is doing more influencing of people through technology. Many of us are even working remotely or managing others who work remotely. In this episode, I welcome Loren Kousaie from Microsoft to speak about his extensive experience in leading people virtually over the years – and to offer us suggestions and what we can do better when communicating and leading from a distance. Here are the questions I asked of Loren: Tell me about your role at Microsoft and how you’re physically spaced from your team. What’s a typical day like for you? Also, what kind of tools are you using to connect with your team? What is different about leading people working virtually than leading in other venues? How do you set expectations with your team about what a remote relationship with you will be like? When you started leading virtually, what was the biggest mind shift you had to make? What would you like to have known about leading virtually that you didn’t when you started? Leadership can be lonely. Leading virtually can be even lonelier – what do you do to stay in community with others, either professionally or personally? What’s a discovery you’ve made about yourself along the way that’s contributed to your success? “In order to arrive at what you do not know You must go by a way which is the way of ignorance. In order to possess what you do not possess You must go by the way of dispossession. In order to arrive at what you are not You must go through the way in which you are not. And what you do not know is the only thing you know And what you own is what you do not own And where you are is where you are not.” -T.S. Eliot Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 8686: How to Hire Smart, with Bonni Stachowiak
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. Virtually all leaders in organizations are called upon to manage (or at least be part of) the hiring process. In this episode, Bonni and I look at some common mistakes made in the hiring process and some straightforward things you can do to get better results in your hiring decisions. Common Failures in the Hiring Process: 1. Testing for interview skills instead of what it will take to do the job well Utilize behavioral interview questions Test for skills instead of only considering interview responses Book recommendation: Hiring Smart! by Pierre Mornell 2. Falling victim to the halo effect Sometimes one positive thing inappropriately interferes with our perceptions Define your criteria in advance of meeting with candidates Use multiple data points 3. Missing small clues along the way Have a multi-step process and track the individual’s progress through it 4. Forgetting that the very best candidates are interviewing you as much as you are interviewing them Look at your process from an outsider’s perspective 5. Not leveraging technology Leverage services that will help you connect with candidates Remember the hidden job market A mentioned a brief note about episode #85 Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 8585: Ten Ways to Pick Yourself Up When You’re Beaten Down
When we get beaten down, it’s important for us to take actions that will pick us back up. In this episode, I suggest ten things that you can do to pick yourself up after a difficult day, week, or month. If you are feeling beaten down right now, I challenge you to take action on at least one of these suggestions. 1) Find something to be in awe of…preferably something you had something to do with 2) Call the Leena in your life Beware of people who want to fix you Beware of people who don’t listen to you when you have a bad day. Find the people that will stop and listen 3) Help somebody who can do nothing for you The real test of a person’s character is to watch how they treat someone who can do nothing for them. Mother Theresa was a powerful example “The opposite of faith is not doubt, it’s certainty.” -Anne Lamott Who could you help? 4) Get outdoors 5) Read three pages of How To Stop Worrying and Start Living How to banish boredom What makes you tired and what you can do about it How to add one hour a day to your waking life 6) Teach people how to help you 7) Spend time with a small child Our son at church Our son at Toys ‘R Us 8) Get perspective to center you Great example: It Gets Better Project Find people who’ve walked down your path. “Ahead of you, with you, and behind you.” 9) Remember the Garth Brooks song, “Unanswered Prayers” Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers Remember when you’re talkin’ to the man upstairs That just because he doesn’t answer doesn’t mean he don’t care Some of God’s greatest gifts are unanswered prayers. 10) Have More Get Tos Than Got Tos The secret to happiness? Have more get tos than go tos. A word of warning…the above won’t be enough if you are clinically depressed. Talk to your doctor and see a counselor or therapist if you need more help. Also…you’ll forgot all of this the moment you get beaten down. That’s the time to come back to this episode. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 8484: The Surprising Truth About Influencing Others, with Daniel Pink
Daniel Pink: To Sell is Human Daniel Pink is the author of several bestselling books on the changing world of work. He recently released his newest book, To Sell Is Human, which is also now a bestseller. In this episode, Daniel joins me to speak about his new book, to tell us what’s changed about sales, and to explain why we’re all in sales now…even leaders. Here are the questions I asked of Daniel: You make a strong case in the book is that sales has changed. What’s changed? Most people I know assume that the best salespeople are extroverts. The research you’ve cited in your book says no. Why not? The use of sales scripts has been rampant in developing salespeople. You call sales scripts into question a bit in this book – so what can leaders and organizations do differently to develop their sales teams? You use the term “non-sales selling” to describe what a majority of us do in our work almost every day. One area your highlight is email subject lines. Why is the subject line so important and how does in matter in moving people? Community member question from Josh: What are some ways to dispel the stereotypical salesperson view so you can move onto effective selling and marketing? Community member question from Eveliina: What are the most important characteristics of a leader? Community member question from Jackie: From Peter Drucker….what do you want to be remembered for? What’s a discovery you’ve made about yourself along the way that’s contributed to your success? Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 8383: Seven Ways to Stop and Think
7 Ways To Stop and Think Jeff Weiner, the CEO of LinkedIn, posted an article this past week titled The Importance of Scheduling Nothing. Here are seven ways that you can also stop and think: 1) Stop telling yourself the lie that next week/month/year will be better 2) Book time to think each day, especially if you are a scheduler Dedicate time each day to think If you really want to discover what’s important to you, check your calendar and your bank account Check out this advice from Ursula Barnes, the CEO of Xerox 3) Brainstorm with yourself before brainstorming with others Check out the interview with Leigh Thompson on the most recent HBR Ideacast highlighting the truth about creative teams 4) Turn things off Turn off the phone and email Here’s a recent New York Times article citing research on the importance of freeing our brains 5) Write stuff down Check out David Allen’s book Getting Things Done Michael Hyatt produced a podcast on the Lost Art of Note-Taking on episode #47 of his show, This Is Your Life I use the Moleskine notebook for Evernote for all my note-taking…but it’s more important you have and use a system, than what the system is 6) Put things into “later” buckets I do this most actively for physical mail, bills, and online articles I use Pocket to save things to read later I use Buffer to queue posts to my social networks 7) Start saying no to more Start with something small Are you getting at least as much as your are giving? (financial, enjoyment, love, contribution to the world) I’ve left some professional organizations where the above wasn’t the case Bonus) Eliminate choices that may seem sacred Get rid of TV? Do you need to always be tied into the internet? This week, I’m taking 15 minutes every day to stop and think…please join me. Connect online to discuss your results! Thank you to Carmel Purdey, Mad Oo, MIchael Oneski, and Emad Aladawee for either liking our page on Facebook, following me on Google+, or following me on Twitter. Want a booster-shot mid-week? I send a weekly article via email so you can stay connected with our community and keep getting ideas and tools that will keep you moving forward. If you’re not already receiving the weekly articles, please subscribe at this link.
Ep 8282: How to Attract and Grow an Online Network, with Lynette Young
Lynette Young: Google+ for Small Businesses Virtually everyone wants to build their professional network, but few people are truly effective at doing it in person – and many believe it’s ever more challenging online. On this episode, I welcome Lynette Young from Purple Stripe Productions and author of the book Google+ for Small Businesses. Over 1.5 million people follow Lynette online, so she brings a lot of credibility and experience to those of us who want to engage online more effectively. Please note that since this episode originally aired, Google has permanently sunsetted the Google+ social media network. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 8181: Why Personal Leadership Is Great Business, with Jamie Welsh
Jamie Welsh: Red Willow Group When any of us are seeking better results, our first inclination is often to explore how we can change others. In reality, one of the best changes we can make is to first look at ourselves. In this episode, I welcome Jamie Welsh from Red Willow Group to explain how she coaches business leaders to look inward first when there are trying to create outward results. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 8080: Ten Steps to Create a Recognition Program, with Michelle Smith
Michelle Smith: O.C. Tanner Vice President, Business Development for O.C. Tanner The 10 steps we discuss: Strategic planning Understand your audience Fact finding Program structure Communication Type of awards Budget Measurement Tracking Analysis Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 7979: The Benefits You Get From a Recognition Program, with Michelle Smith
Michelle Smith: O.C. Tanner Vice President, Business Development for O.C. Tanner Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 7878: How to Control Worry, with Bonni Stachowiak
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. Towards the end of his life, Mark Twain famously said, “I’m an old man and I’ve known many troubles, most of which never happened.” Like Twain, many of us find ourselves captivated by worry on a regular basis. In this episode, we’ll take a look at this human reality and some of the things that each of us can do to better control worry, both professional and personally. Make a decision that it’s OK to worry once in awhile Take Dale Carnegie’s advice of “What’s the worst that can happen?” Get out of your own box and focus on serving others rather than worrying about ourselves Address challenges proactively – when there is trouble, take action! Live in day-tight compartments Some of the books we mentioned on this episode are: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers Getting Things Done by David Allen Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 7777: Leading with Purpose, with Heather Backstrom
Heather Backstrom: Executive Coach Some people live about 90 years. Some people live one year, 90 times. Which one are you and how does it affect your leadership of others and yourself? In this episode, my guest Heather Backstrom and I discuss the topic of purpose and how clarity of purpose can help us be more effective leaders and have more balanced and fulfilled lives. Not clear on your values? My one-page values exercise is available at this link. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 7676: How to Handle People Who Smell, with Jacquelyn Thorp
Jacquelyn Thorp: Train Me Today Sometimes things show up in the workspace that we don’t want and didn’t anticipate. In this episode, my guest Jacquelyn Thorp and I discuss what to do when someone on your team smells and is causing issues for colleagues. Jacquelyn brings her experience from handling this situation many times to help us address this proactively. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 7575: Are You Making These Mistakes When Pitching an Idea?
Bringing smart ideas to the table isn’t enough; we also need to be able to sell those ideas. The best idea communicated poorly will fare much worse than a mediocre idea communicated well. In this episode, I’ll examine what you can do to help your ideas take off. Six mistakes you may be making when pitching a great idea: 1) Neglecting to interact with the people who are impacted most by your idea. 2) Ignoring people who could help you. 3) Spending too much time on the unimportant details. 4) Assuming the “pitch” is the decision point. 5) Failing to strategize how to work around obstacles. 6) Hesitating on bad news. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 7474: Communication in a Family Business, with JoAnne Norton
JoAnne Norton: Family Business Consulting Group Family businesses account for 60% of all jobs in the United States and 98% of all companies elsewhere. The dynamics of family business are unique and communication becomes even more critical. In this episode, I interview family business consultant JoAnne Norton of the Family Business Consulting Group on how family business can prosper from one generation to the next with effective communication. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 7373: The Secret to Success at Conferences, with Charles Max Wood
Charles Max Wood As our careers grow, we get more and more opportunities to attend conferences. Most people fail to maximize what they can gain from a conference. In this episode, I interview experienced conference-goer and speaker Charles Max Wood of Ruby Rogues and Javascript Jabber on how he maximizes the value he gets from conferences. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 7272: How to Talk to People on Their Birthdays, with Bonni Stachowiak
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. Where people go wrong on birthdays and other important occasions: Many of have defaulted to no more than “HBD” on Facebook or other social media Some people even send birthday cards and just sign their names (gasp!) We’ve lost the personal touch I ever get robocalls now on my birthday How you can be better Have something to remind you (but not automated to send to the other party) Avoid the obligatory stuff you do because you feel like you have to Focus on the people who are close to you first and spend more time engaging with them on special days Instead of a “happy birthday,” how about sharing why you are grateful that that person showed up in your life I record a brief audio greeting for special people in my life to share why I’m grateful for them Whatever you do, make the personal connection…and do it sincerely Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 7171: Why We Are Stubborn and How to Fix It, with Bonni Stachowiak
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. We discuss a few examples of stubbornness showing up in our work and lives. Some of the reasons that we fall into a pattern of being stubborn: 1) We are perceived as experts in our field or topic (or we’ve convinced ourselves of this) and it simply doesn’t occur to us that we might be wrong about anything related to it. 2) We decided that we know enough about the situation, topic, or problem already and refuse to put in effort to discover more. 3) We need to fight every batte instead of carefully choosing them. 4) We miss the grey areas with people that make each situation unique and worthy of different types of responses from us. How We Can Work To Fix It: 1) Let’s examine how we react or respond when people bring us new ideas, suggestions, or changes – we can notice this ourselves, solicit feedback, or do assessment work. Either way, its important to become aware of our own patterns and tendencies. 2) We need to decide what shift (if any) is important for us to avoid stubbornness. For Dave, this shift is spending more time listening and less time explaining. 3) Find a way to hold yourself accountable for the results you want. If we’re not holding ourselves accountable in some way, then we don’t have sustainable change. 4) Find a shared truth (not just my truth or your truth – but a truth we can hold together). 5) Surround yourself with people who support you – Dave mentions how Bonni has been a big support in this way. Books We Mentioned: Getting to Yes by Fisher and Ury Getting Past No by Ury Difficult Conversations by Stone, Patton, Heen, and Fisher The Abilene Paradox by Harvey Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 7070: Three Words to Drive Your Development
The New Year is a natural time to think about renewal and how to be more effective as a leader. However, some of the typical things many of us do with New Year’s resolutions often end in failure – 88% of the time, according to one study. I look at how three words can help you set the stage for your development actions this year. I discuss how running a marathon helped me understand why so many of us have a hard time tackling so many goals at once. The problem with resolutions: A study by Richard Wiesman in the UK followed 3,000 people for a year and determined that only 12% of people actually fulfill their New Year’s resolutions Intention is easy – but putting the time into action is hard We are going to hit obstacles we don’t anticipate We we bit off more than we can chew, our systems can crumble. I talk about how I made this mistake a bit last year in my planning (see episode #23) and why I tried to do too much all at once. What works better: Reflect on the past year. Ask yourself: What did I do well last year? Where did I fall short? Ask people around you the same questions – talk to people you trust Look at assessments, 360s, performance reviews Examine patterns you are seeing with your team or group of people you lead – it get magnified What are the general themes that emerge of what you want to do differently? One example for me – interaction with others and social media Find three words that can meet it My three: Show Up, Flexibility, and Collaboration Start with one goal that will lead you there Communicate it: Have your 3 words visible Share your words with others Ask others to give feedback/coaching on this This is an effective way to connect with your team as well, as it’s simple for people to remember your goals I’d love to hear your 3 – and also I’d love to hear what works for you in your self-development at the beginning of a year. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 6969: How to Get It All Done, Even in the Midst of Chaos
All of us are trying to be effective while handling some level of chaos, yet some are more efficient in getting it all done than others. Dave responds to a listener question and gives suggestions for how to get it all done when the reason you aren’t getting it done is because you have too much on your plate. 1) Figure out what you need to do exclusively, that no one else can do Look at the last really full week you had… What could you teach someone else to do? Are you believing the fallacy that no one else could do as good a job as you on all your tasks? 2) Have defined outcomes for a specific timeframe Contract with your manager on what outcomes are most important Remember that you can’t hit a target that you don’t have Keep these priorities simple and easily trackable. The SMART framework can be helpful (see episode #15) 3) Do quality work (be careful about just focusing on speed) Figure out what performance metrics are important to your organization Meet or exceed those metrics If you don’t have clarity, try to find out how your leaders are measured 4) Come to the table with solutions Present challenges with the scope of work and give realistic projections backed up with evidence Allow your leader to participate in the decision you’ve made on priorities What not to say? My team has too much work and is overwhelmed (that’s not taking ownership) 5) Learn how to say no You can’t be everything to everybody Set boundaries in advance and trust your gut reactions Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
Ep 6868: What Not to Say, with Bonni Stachowiak
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. It’s understandable that many of us would want to take positive actions to be an effective leader. While positive steps are important, our experience has been that first stopping the things that aren’t working will get you faster results. In this week’s show, we look at what you should stop saying to the people you lead. What is said: “I don’t mean to be xxxxx, but…” What you teach people: I likely am whatever I just said that I don’t mean to be What is said: “But…” What you teach people: Ignore everything I said before I said the word “but” What is said: “Well, to be honest with you…” What you teach people: I’m not always honest all of the time What is said: “You made me feel…” What you teach people: Confusion, since nobody can make you feel anything What is said: Anger expressed at someone bringing bad news, even if they didn’t cause it What you teach people: Don’t ever bring me bad news What is said: I’m going to be the devil’s advocate here… What you teach people: I either like arguing for the sake of arguing or I’m not willing to own my opinions What is said: Giving your own opinion after asking someone for feedback What you teach people: You don’t really care about what they think Bonni also mentioned the 6 Thinking Hats as a model for more effective dialogue Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 6767: How to Be Concise, with Bonni Stachowiak
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. All of us are being bombarded by so much information and data that we can barely keep up. If we want to be able to influence more effectively, we need to be able to do it concisely. Bonni and I discuss strategies for making this happen. Mark Twain received the following telegram from a publisher: NEED 2-PAGE SHORT STORY TWO DAYS. And famously replied… NO CAN DO 2 PAGES TWO DAYS. CAN DO 30 PAGES 2 DAYS. NEED 30 DAYS TO DO 2 PAGES. In his book Information Anxiety, Richard Saul Wurman states that a standard issue of the New York Times contains more information than a citizen of 17th England would have absorbed in their entire lifetime. The problem? Many people will tune us out when we are not concise. People stop taking calls or are often “unavailable” from people who can’t be concise. Lots of people will stop seeking advice from someone who can’t give it concisely. We don’t have credibility with most audiences if we can’t communicate what we know concisely. What are the causes? For many of my clients, their technical training works against them in communicating concisely. People believe (falsely) that they are more credible the longer they speak. Not true…it’s about quality, not quantity. The “PowerPoint culture” in many organizations has reinforced the myth that more information in slides is better when presentation information. Most of the time, it’s not – less is more. Since making something concise takes time and investment, some of us simply just don’t want to do it out of laziness…even when we know it would help the audience. Selfishness sometimes creeps in – we like to hear ourselves talk and we forget that our purpose is to add value for the audience, not to look good ourselves. What are the solutions? Ask yourself if what you are about the communicate is really essential to the overall message? If you put yourself in the audience’s shows, would you really care about what it is you are about to say? Have someone you trust who knows your audience listen to what you are going to say before you get in front of your manager, a meeting, or a large presentation. Budget time to edit down what you are saying to make it more concise. Suggestions for implementation: Have firm standards on your conciseness and stick to them… As an example, this show is almost always 40 minutes or less. My weekly articles are 500 words or less Join Toastmasters and get practice speaking concisely Attend the Dale Carnegie Course and learn and use many models to get ideas across quickly. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 6666: Seven Ways to Survive Performance Reviews
I’ve come to the conclusion over the years that pretty much nobody likes performance reviews. Either you are having great dialogue and development conversations with people already and might not need them – or you are forced into conversations that don’t set the stage for regular dialogue. That said, there are things you can do that will make this a better experience for both parties. Here are seven things you can do that will help you (and the people you lead) survive performance reviews: 1) Start early and do harder ones first: You won’t do an effective job at handling all the advice below if you start late on this project. Too many leaders with large teams write all their performance reviews on the same day in a short period of time. Rather, take the time to think through what you will write (and later say) and how you plan to communicate it. Also, do the hardest reviews first – this will help clear your mind and also keep you from stressing about difficult reviews throughout the process. 2) If you need to, practice: Many reviews won’t require practice in advance, but at least some will. Practice giving tough feedback and having difficult conversations with a neutral party (not another employee, of course). Tap into help from a peer, leader, or human resources professional who can help. 3) Don’t spring surprises (and if you have to, give people time to save face): Feedback should be coming from you regularly during the review period. If there is something negative that shows up on the performance review, the person you are reviewing should already have been hearing about it from you for awhile and had a chance to begin working on it. When this isn’t possible (due to leadership transitions) give people time to absorb negative feedback and save some face before attempting to have a constructive conversation. 4) Balance the conversation appropriately: If the person you are reviewing is doing great work in 95% of their duties, don’t spend half the time talking about the 1-2 areas where they are lacking. Save that conversation for another time to go into more detail. Likewise, if a person is seriously under performing in a major of their work, then don’t try to find positive things to talk about to balance out the bad news – your time giving feedback needs to accurately reflect the work they are doing. 5) Give specific examples: You aren’t credible on your praise if the best you can say is “good job” and you don’t give people a path to correct themselves if critical feedback only suggests a “needs improvement.” People need to know specifically what they are doing well so they can repeat and specifically where to make changes to be more in alignment with great performance. Plus, you build trust with people when you cite specific examples. Agree or not, at least they know you care enough to pay attention. 6) Hold your ground: During the review conversation is not the time to be making changes to what you are communicating (thus the importance of point #1). Decide on your message in advance and stick to it. A mixed message based upon strong feedback from the other party only serves to make the conversation more complicated and sending a different message than you intended. If you’ve had a hard time holding your ground in the past, you need to practice in advance. See point #2. 7) Avoid talking about others not present: You are reviewing one person at a time, not the entire team. Be sure your feedback focuses on the person at hand and doesn’t veer into an inappropriate conversation about what others are or are not doing in their development. If you need to speak about others for the purpose of examples, stick to the facts and not your opinions or feedback about their development. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 6565: How to Prepare a Speech Without Panicking
Many of the clients I’ve worked with over the years would rather skip presenting all together. That’s not reality if you want to advance (or keep) your career these days, so a lot of people begin presentation planning with panic. In this episode, I give you clear steps you can take to reduce the panic and lay groundwork for a truly effective presentation. To prepare a speech without panicking… Consider yourself honored Many of my clients in the past have been less than enthusiastic about speaking opportunities. Not speaking (and building your communication skills in general) can really harm your career. Must Have Job Skills in 2013 from the Wall Street Journal. If you can learn to speak at least reasonable well, you can influence your work, decisions, direction, and so much more. A lot of people fear speaking – but you can do it! Stay away from the computer Don’t start with PowerPoint or Keynote when planning a presentation. You only make it more likely you will read from slides. It’s likely you’ll draft much of the presentation before considering the overall goal. Slides are NOT the presentation – they are just there to enhance it. YOU are the presentation…so start there. Ask yourself, “What’s the purpose of this presentation?” Three likely zones – which pertains to your talk (might be more than one): Persuade Inform Entertain Ask yourself, “What do I want someone in the audience to say about my talk at lunch?” It’s important for us to think through how we want our talk to be remembered. It’s also important that it’s memorable enough to be discussed later. We all have limited bandwidth these days. Mind map Start the mind map with the answer to the previous question – and work backwards. Use paper, a dry erase board, or a tool like iThoughtsHD. Examples, examples, examples, examples, examples… People remember examples, stories, evidence, demonstrations, experiences, etc. Don’t be fooled – content almost always trumps delivery (see CFL episode #38) Share stories whenever possible (see CFL episode #51) Prepare to change the world…seriously. Stay home or get someone else to do it if you’re not game for this. Sin by Silence is a great example of a project (and speaking) where a few people have change the world. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 6464: Eight Ways to Get Results By Managing Up, with Bonni Stachowiak
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. Bonni and I discuss our eight suggestions for managing up: 1) Support your manager publicly: Avoid gossip if you can, and when someone is truly trying to problem solve, do your best to help them understand each side of the situation instead of being critical. One of the fastest ways to lose trust with your manager is for them to discover you’ve been speaking poorly about them behind their backs. 2) Tell your manager what you are planning: It rarely is a problem to over communicate something…most people take the opposite position and don’t communicate enough. Talking openly about what you are planning to do is helpful when the outcome your manager expects isn’t 100% clear – or if your manager has a history of changing their mind about a project without sharing that change. 3) Avoid surprises: Managers and people named Bonni don’t like surprises…and none of us want to be caught off guard in a difficult situation. Help your manager save face by informing them when something doesn’t go as planned. This is hard is your manager is the “shoot the messenger” type, but it’s still an essential way to build trust over the long-term. 4) Come to the table with solutions: This goes right along with number #3. Absolutely address things quickly when there are issues, but also come to the table with a game plan for how it will get resolved. Your plan doesn’t need to be perfect, but it does need to reflect that you’ve done serious thinking about the problem and are ready and willing to put your talents into practice to resolve the issue. 5) Connect requests to their priorities: Most managers care about impact and sustainability. That means that whatever you are trying to do to influence your manager should align with the core mission of the organization and/or provide additional revenue or cost savings. If you can’t make the case for either of those two areas, you’re probably barking the wrong bark up the tree. 6) Spend time thinking through what your boss won’t: Everyone has their strengths and everyone has their blind spots. You do a huge service to your manager when you determine where they don’t have strengths and do whatever you can to support them in that areas through ideas, proposals, and actions. 7) Don’t go over their head: Unless it’s a serious ethical or legal situation, avoid trying to influence your manager by going over their head. Usually this only works once (the first time) and you’ll pay the price for a long time after that, assuming you are still around. 8) Get advice from others you trust: Talk to other people who know your manager and the things they care about. Learn about their style. Getting helpful advice from others can help you position your requests in the right way. Even if you don’t dialogue about it, observe what others do to influence your manager successfully. Remember, you won’t always get what you want – and sometimes that is a good thing. Finally, don’t get discouraged if you don’t see people playing by the same rules. You can really do amazing things if you do these eight things with consistency! Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 6363: Practical Advice for Mentoring, with Kurt Allebach
Kurt Allebach Two weeks ago we looked at how to start a mentoring program. This week, I welcome listener Kurt Allebach who has tons of experience in running and starting mentoring programs to provide more practical perspective on this topic. If you are a mentor, mentee, or just want to learn more about the benefits of mentoring, you’ll gain something of value. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 6262: Great Leadership Stories
Effective leaders learn from the good practices of other leaders in order to be more effective. In this special episode, I turn the reigns over to our community to share stories about great leadership moments that were meaningful to them. Join me for five stories than we can all learn something from to help us lead better. Leadership stories from our listening community: Mary Lou Jan Will Kirk Jesse Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 6161: How to Start a Mentoring Program, with Stella Cowan
Stella Cowan A great mentoring program can help both the organization and its people achieve incredible results. In this episode, I welcome mentoring expert Stella Cowan to discuss what leaders should consider when designing and implementing a formal mentoring program in their organizations. Here are the resources Stella mentioned, along with some additional tools: Dr. Lois Zachary (Center for Mentoring Excellence) Ida Abbott (home page) Stella recommends her articles “Beyond Mentors, the Need for Champions” and “Mentoring Groups and Mentoring Circles”) Stella recommends two to us during training/orientation and to provide continued support to mentors and mentees are: “Being an Effective Mentor: 101 Practical Strategies for Success,” and “Working with a Mentor: 50 Practical Strategies for Success.” So You Want to Be Mentored by Stella Cowan* International Mentoring Association (some parts of this site require membership for access) Slideshow: “Implementing a Mentoring Program” Stella uses this slideshow when presenting to groups interesting in implementing a program. The slideshow provides a high-level view of what’s required to create a successful design and launch. Sample Mentoring Agreement – This is a sample Stella found online and has referenced as a model. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 6060: If You Are Going to Fail, Fail Forward
Three lessons from Stefan’s story: The importance of leaders to be willing to admit mistakes Why creating results over time helps you stand out from the crowd The power of a long-term vision Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 5959: Seven Principles for Leading People Older Than You, with Bonni Stachowiak
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. I heard throughout my life that I should always honor those who are older than me and I’ve always been asked to lead them. In this episode, Bonni and I discuss situations where we’ve both been asked to lead people older than us and identify seven principles that can help you do this successfully as well. 1. Everyone is your superior in some way. “In my walks, every man I meet is my superior in some way, and in that I learn from him.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson 2. Focus on the right questions instead of the right answers. 3. Befriend people who are older than you are – and younger too. 4. Remember each person will be very young and very old. Movie recommendation: “The curious case of Benjamin Button.” 5. Honoring and leading are not mutually exclusive. 6. Not everyone wants to lead. 7. You are there for a reason. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 5858: How to Stop Worrying and Start Leading
I wish I could tell you that I’ve always felt confident as a leader, but I used to be a real scaredy cat. In this episode, I discuss six ways that I learned to have more confidence in my leadership abilities and not be consumed by the fear and worry about giving feedback to others. 1) Set expectations early: If expectations aren’t there with followers, create them. If they aren’t clear, clarify. Do it early or as soon as you can. 2) Be willing to change directions: A mentor gave me great advice when they said, “No leader is perfect. You can always acknowledge to a follower that something has been OK up until now, but that you are now making a different decision going forward.” 3) Ask a trusted colleague for feedback: I discovered that asking for advice from a person I trusted often gave me new ideas. 4) Respond in 24 hours: Zig Ziglar said, “If you need to eat a frog, you don’t want to look at that sucker too long. He ain’t gonna get any prettier.” (Customers – SCORE!) 5) Earn trust by being a good-finder: I spent time each day finding good stuff people were doing and told them. 6) Listen to daily inspiration: These days, I listen to podcasts. One that always gives me a boost is Michael Hyatt’s show This Is Your Life. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 5757: Six Mistakes That I Made in Podcasting
It sure would be nice if we could all learn to be more effective leaders without making any mistakes. However, while none of us would wish for mistakes, many of us learn the most from past missteps. In this episode, I talk about the value of mistakes and highlight six mistakes that I have made as the host of this show. I discuss the mistakes that I made in starting my first business many years ago and what I learned from these mistakes. I the more recent past, here are the six mistakes that I’ve made hosting this show: 1) Being too structured I mention the book Yes to the Mess: Surprising Leadership Lessons from Jazz by Frank Barrett that was featured on a recent HBR Ideacast. “If you’re not making a mistake, it’s a mistake.” -Miles Davis One of my mentors once said, “Any strength overused, becomes a liability.” 2) Assuming everyone listens the way I do We have listeners on Zune, iTunes, Stitcher, and BlackBerry – and even more places than those. 3) Forgetting the reason behind the goal 4) Driving the agenda myself Upcoming shows on mentoring, lessons from changing companies, and stories about great leaders are all listener suggestions 5) Not sharing enough specific stories I started to turn the corner a bit with episode #48: How to Lead When Someone Is Driving You Nuts 6) Not being engaged with people Why the list of 100 is gone What others mistakes have I made? Tell me. What mistakes have you made? Share in the comments section below. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 5656: Four Ways to Lead Virtually, with Mike Demas
Mike Demas: Micron Almost all of us are doing more virtually than we ever have before – and that includes our leadership responsibilities. Virtual leadership has become the norm in many organizations and leaders have had to adapt in order to influence effectively across distance. In this week’s episode, I speak with virtual teams expert Mike Demas on what strategies leaders can use in order to be as effective as possible in a virtual environment. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.
Ep 5555: How to Lead in Crisis, with Carol Taylor
Carol Taylor: Vanguard University Leaders face difficult situations when their organizations struggle through budgetary challenges. My guest, Carol Taylor, is all too familiar with such challenges and tells the story of the crisis that faced Vanguard University when she was appointed president. She is the author of Leading a Turnaround and the Joy of a Third Class Ticket found in Thriving Leadership edited by Karen Longman, and joins me on this episode to share her leadership journey at Vanguard. Two challenges for you after listening to today’s show: Visit the Vanguard University website for inspiration on what wonderful work they are doing since emerging from this crisis Share this episode with someone who is leading through a challenging time or crisis Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.