Celebrate Kids Podcast with Dr. Kathy

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the concept of parenting beyond merely raising well-behaved children. She challenges the notion that the primary goal of parenting should be to produce obedient kids who do the right things at the right times. Instead, Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of encouraging children to be comfortable in their own skin and to embrace their true selves. Drawing on insights from Elizabeth Tenty's article in Motherly, the discussion highlights four key practices of parents with well-behaved kids: listening to their children, validating emotions, explaining decisions, and maintaining consistent boundaries. Join us as we explore a more holistic approach to parenting that focuses on nurturing individuality and self-acceptance in children.

Gentle parenting has become one of the most popular parenting trends among millennials. But when warmth replaces structure, experts warn it can backfire. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the difference between permissive and authoritative parenting and why boundaries are one of the greatest gifts parents can give their children.

Remember when teens spent weekends wandering the neighborhood and doing things just for fun, without documenting it online? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy reflect on what young people have lost in the age of constant connectivity and why kids still need unstructured time, real relationships, and room to grow in independence.

Artificial intelligence is quietly entering children's toy boxes. New reports show dozens of toys marketed to kids using AI systems, despite restrictions meant to keep children away from these technologies. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss how AI toys shape identity and relationships, and why parents must pay attention.

Nearly 80% of high school students report getting less than the recommended amount of sleep. Is it puberty, caffeine, busy schedules, or digital distraction? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the causes and dangers of teen sleep deprivation and how Psalm 127 reframes sleep as a gift from God.

Broadband internet expanded rapidly in the early 2010s, and teen mental health concerns rose alongside it. Is the internet the problem? Or is loneliness the deeper issue? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack research, rural broadband history, teen identity formation, and what Psalm 42 teaches us about longing and connection.

More parents are pushing back against school issued devices, citing distraction, inappropriate access, and concerns about learning loss. Should schools count classroom screen time differently from recreational use? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the formation question behind technology and what the Tower of Babel teaches us about tools and pride.

Why are so many kids picky eaters today? Is it selfishness, fear, lack of exposure, or something deeper? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack cultural food trends, parenting pressure, restaurant frustration, and what the Israelites' craving for Egypt teaches us about control and growth.

In this special Saturday Q&A episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy answer real parent questions from a Be Bold for Jesus event in Spokane. Topics include teenage hormonal rages, foster child grief, loud and goofy personalities, advanced toddlers, adult word-smart debates, and how the 8 Great Smarts apply for a lifetime.

Americans are marrying later than ever. But is delaying marriage actually costing young adults something deeper? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack Brad Wilcox's warning about the "Midas mindset," the difference between marriage and idolatry, and how to talk to kids about family without making it an idol.

A new Institute for Family Studies report (surveying nearly 24,000 parents and more than 40,000 children, including 2,600 teens) argues that modern culture quietly rewards one kind of parenting: keeping kids quiet, often by putting them in front of a screen. In this conversation, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk honestly about the moment we all recognize, when a baby cries in a restaurant, or a kid is "being a kid" in public, and why our irritation may reveal a deeper cultural drift toward convenience over community. Then they pivot to hope: why real world practice (restaurants, church, airports, sidewalks, teams, trees, and yes, even scraped knees) is one of God's most practical tools for building resilient kids.

February can bring a slump, low motivation, heavier workloads, gray skies, and frayed tempers. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore how parents can respond wisely to midwinter mood dips and meet core needs before pushing harder conversations.

Many parents want to give their children the childhood they never had. But can parenting from past pain unintentionally create new problems? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore how trauma, overcorrection, discernment, and security in God shape healthy parenting, and how to break cycles without parenting from fear.

At the time of recording, Norway was leading the Olympic medal count, and one Norwegian leader said it was because of how their society's structures of work and leisure operate. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore what happens when families plan both discipline and delight, how structure builds security, and why "organized joy" might be one of the most overlooked parenting tools today.

Books are disappearing from kids' lives, and so is something sacred. In this episode of Celebrate Kids: Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore startling new data showing that only 30% of eighth-graders read at or above proficiency, and that over 30% of teens hardly ever read for fun. Together, they unpack why reading has declined over the last 40 years and how technology has quietly taken its place. Dr. Kathy, whose Ph.D. is in reading and educational psychology, explains that kids don't just learn from books, they learn through them. Reading shapes imagination, memory, empathy, and even spiritual understanding. From a dad's nightly reading routine full of laughter and silly voices to the ancient call in Deuteronomy for God's Word to be read aloud to every generation, Wayne and Dr. Kathy remind parents that reading isn't just an academic exercise; it's identity formation. Discover how reading together restores belonging, deepens faith, and invites our kids to see the world through God's story, not just a glowing screen.

Every parent knows the morning rush can swing from peaceful to chaotic in seconds. But new research suggests that what we do in those early minutes may shape much more than how fast we get out the door, it may shape our children's resilience, emotional stability, and sense of belonging. In today's Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore a study highlighting nine morning habits practiced by parents who raise happy, resilient kids. They unpack why connection matters more than control, how mornings imprint identity, and why some "chaotic kids" just think differently, not worse. With humor, real family stories, practical tools, and Scripture, this episode reimagines mornings not as a battleground, but as one of parenting's most powerful windows of influence.

In this sobering episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy address recent violent tragedies involving individuals struggling with gender identity and mental health. With compassion and clarity, they explore the link between identity confusion and misplaced hope, and how parents can respond with prayer and character formation in a confusing cultural moment.

More teens are turning to AI chatbots for friendship and emotional support, but can artificial companionship replace real relationships? In this episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why self-reflective kids are especially drawn to AI, what we lose when we prioritize efficiency over embodied friendship, and how parents can guide children toward real, life-giving connection. Before diving in, Wayne shares about our partnership with Summit Ministries. Dr. Kathy will be speaking at Summit's summer sessions, powerful two-week worldview intensives for students ages 16 through college. If you want your teen grounded in biblical truth before stepping into adulthood, visit: summit.org/celebratekids Use code celebrate26 for a discount.

Grief is heavier for kids today. Divorce. Death. Global crises. Friendship fractures. Family instability. Even exposure to constant news cycles. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk honestly about what it looks like to help children process grief, without rushing them, fixing them, or forcing conversations they're not ready to have.

In this special Q&A episode of The Celebrate Kids Podcast, Wayne and Dr. Kathy answer real questions from Christian school leaders and teachers at Linville Hill Christian School in Paradise, Pennsylvania and Hillcrest Academy in Minnesota. These questions aren't theoretical. They come from classrooms, dorm rooms, and dinner tables. Here's what they tackle: How do we teach empathy, especially toward students who are hard to love? Dr. Kathy explains that empathy begins with self-awareness. If children can't identify and manage their own feelings, they will struggle to recognize others' emotions. Discernment matters. Service matters. Prayer matters. And sometimes empathy grows not by fixing someone's pain, but by simply acknowledging it. Are we fooling ourselves about technology addiction? Screens are addictive. The dopamine cycle is real. But the deeper issue isn't just devices, it's the lies we attach to them: "I deserve to be happy all the time." "I need constant choice." "I'm the center." Technology amplifies those lies. The solution is formation. Sabbaths. Boundaries. Stewardship. Teaching children that they are created on purpose and cannot afford to waste their time. What about kids using AI to write their papers? This isn't just about cheating. It continues our conversation about formation. Writing is not simply information transfer; it is character development. Wrestling with ideas, revising drafts, struggling through clarity, that's where growth happens. AI might save time. But what if the point wasn't speed? The question becomes: What kind of human are we forming in our writing? How do we help perfectionist students who freeze under pressure? Perfectionism often grows from home culture. It can reflect unrealistic expectations, fear of mistakes, or conditional approval. Dr. Kathy reminds us: Perfect has already been done. His name is Jesus. Progress matters more than flawlessness. Struggle builds endurance, character, and hope. Perfectionism paralyzes. Grace frees. Why should we let kids struggle? Because resilience only grows through recovery. James 1 and Romans 5 remind us that perseverance produces character. If we rescue children too quickly, we risk raising fragile adults. Victory after struggle builds deep confidence. Struggle isn't failure. It's formation. So, this episode is packed with practical wisdom to guide kids and parents to deeper faith and stronger conviction. If you'd like to bring Dr. Kathy to your school, church, or community, visit CelebrateKids.com and click "Book Dr. Kathy." Have a question you'd like answered in a future Q&A episode? Email Wayne at [email protected]. We're grateful you're here. And we're honored to help you celebrate kids well.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore a fascinating report published in Science examining nearly 35,000 elite performers. The surprising conclusion? Many of the world's most accomplished musicians, scientists, athletes, and chess masters were not early prodigies. In fact, early specialization often predicts burnout rather than lifelong excellence. That challenges modern parenting. In a culture that pushes optimization, early reading programs, elite travel teams, and accelerated academics, many parents feel pressure to help their children get ahead and stay ahead. But what if early polish is not the same as deep potential? What if rushing specialization actually limits exploration? Dr. Kathy unpacks the deeper motivations behind our desire for prodigious children. Sometimes it's fear. Sometimes it's pride. Sometimes it's a longing for ease. And sometimes it's the subtle temptation to tie our identity to our children's performance. The conversation moves beyond academics into identity formation. When competence becomes the foundation of a child's worth, the pyramid flips upside down. Security, not performance, must come first. Children thrive when they know they are loved unconditionally, when their identity is anchored in Christ, and when their gifts are discerned rather than demanded.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore a growing trend among so called "TV Moms," parents who allow television freely but restrict personal devices like iPads and phones. Is there really a difference? Or is all screen time the same? Drawing on current research and practical parenting experience, Dr. Kathy explains why screens are not created equal. Television can become communal and conversational when used intentionally. Personal devices, however, are engineered for individual consumption and often create emotional ownership that's harder for kids to relinquish. But even TV loses its value when it becomes constant background noise. The deeper concern isn't just screen exposure, it's what screens are replacing. Quiet. Conversation. Boredom. Creative play. Relational engagement. In a culture where something is always on, children are losing the natural rhythms that form identity: sitting, walking, listening, asking, and wondering. When noise fills every space, wisdom has no room to rise. Dr. Kathy reminds parents that quiet is not empty. Quiet is formative. It's where discernment grows, where creativity sparks, where the Holy Spirit speaks. Identity is shaped not by constant input but by repeated relational moments in which children feel known and guided. This episode challenges parents to reconsider not just how much media their kids consume, but whether screens are crowding out the spaces where character, connection, and confidence are built. Check out Dr. Kathy's book on this topic, Screens and Teens, here>>

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "217955b7-5fd7-479a-ae95-4239381dfd0a" data-testid= "conversation-turn-202" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore a sobering reality: up to 70–80% of young adults aging out of foster care face homelessness, incarceration, addiction, or mental health struggles within just two years. What happens when young people are forced to launch without a runway? The conversation moves from foster care to the everyday home. While many parents joke about 18 being the "launch date," real readiness isn't about a birthday; it's about preparation. Dr. Kathy unpacks how confidence and competence are built over time through identity formation, financial literacy, character development, and gradual responsibility. Launching isn't abrupt independence; it's scaffolded growth. Using the image of learning to ride a bike, from tricycles to training wheels to open pavement, this episode reminds parents that scars are part of growth. Falling while learning to walk didn't mean failure. It meant development. The same is true when young adults stumble in the early stages of independence. Ultimately, the deepest runway parents can build isn't dependence on mom and dad, but security in Christ. When identity is rooted in Jesus, young adults carry with them wisdom, conviction, companionship, and courage wherever they go. True launch readiness isn't just financial or emotional, it's spiritual. If you're wondering how to raise kids who can step into adulthood with clarity and resilience, this episode will give you both vision and practical encouragement.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch step into one of the most common and uncomfortable parenting conversations: How do we explain where babies come from without confusing or misleading our kids? The discussion is sparked by a popular podcast moment in which a celebrity mom offers a simple explanation: "When two people love each other enough, their love gets them a baby." While well-intentioned, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why answers like this, though emotionally appealing, can quietly create confusion or misunderstanding in a child's mind. Using a memorable ice-skating analogy, the episode acknowledges how slippery these conversations can feel for parents. But avoiding them doesn't make kids safer; it just sends them elsewhere for answers. Dr. Kathy explains why parents must be the trusted authority on questions about bodies, intimacy, and life, and why clarity matters even when the details are age-appropriate and gradual. Rooted in Psalm 139, the episode reassures parents that a child's worth is never defined by how they were conceived, but by who created them. When kids eventually learn the fuller story of biology, relationships, or even painful family circumstances, honest foundations help them feel secure rather than misled. Wayne and Dr. Kathy encourage parents to speak the truth with care, to name body parts accurately, to explain intimacy appropriately, and to always frame life as something intentionally crafted by God. Kids can handle reality when it's delivered with love, wisdom, and patience. This episode equips parents to step onto the ice with confidence, helping their children grow in understanding without fear, and letting truth become a bright light that cuts through confusion later in life.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack why Celebrate Kids has joined the "Greater Than Campaign," a broad coalition led by organizations like Them Before Us, Focus on the Family, and the Colson Center, all centered on one conviction: children's needs come before adult desires. Rather than framing the conversation as political or reactionary, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explain why this issue is fundamentally about children's wellbeing, identity, and long-term flourishing. Drawing from Scripture, research, and lived experience, they clarify that supporting children does not require hostility toward others, but it does require moral clarity and courage. The episode addresses one of the hardest tensions parents and Christians face today: how to affirm the dignity of every person while still advocating for what Scripture and evidence consistently show is best for kids, being raised, whenever possible, by a committed mother and father. Dr. Kathy emphasizes that this is not about attacking anyone's identity, but about being for children in a culture that increasingly asks them to absorb adult choices and consequences. Wayne and Dr. Kathy also speak honestly about the cost of silence. When Christians withdraw from difficult conversations, children are left without advocates. Drawing on Jesus' words in Matthew 19, the episode reframes this moment as one in which believers are called not to win arguments, but to steward the vulnerable, placing kids where Jesus placed them: at the center. This conversation offers parents the language, confidence, and steadiness to navigate these discussions with neighbors, friends, and even their own children. It reminds listeners that hard teachings are still loving teachings, and that standing for kids, even when misunderstood, is one of the clearest ways to reflect Christ in a confusing world. Listeners are encouraged to explore the Greater Than campaign through the show notes and prayerfully consider how they might support efforts that put children first.

What if the words we speak over our kids aren't just communication, but are actually creation? In this episode of Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy tackle a new claim from psychologist Dr. Chelsea Haug-Zavaleta that children should receive 100 compliments a day to thrive emotionally. Dr. Kathy challenges the research, explaining that it's not about the number of compliments, it's about the ratio of affirmation to correction and the meaning behind our words. She offers practical insights for balancing affirmation with healthy boundaries, showing how kids form identity through the voices they trust most. Together, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack what it means to parent fragile and resilient kids, share how correction can build character rather than shame, and connect the science of affirmation to the biblical power of blessing from Genesis 27. This episode reminds us that spoken love forms lasting truth, and that a few sincere words can build what a hundred empty praises never could.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy respond to a landmark legal case that is already reshaping conversations around gender, medicine, and parental fear. A 22-year-old woman, who identified as male as a teenager, was awarded $2 million after a jury found that medical professionals failed to follow standards of care when approving irreversible surgery while she was still a minor. The case raises sobering questions about pressure, fear, consent, and what happens when adults rush to solve a child's distress rather than fully understanding it. Rather than debating politics or policy, this conversation centers on parents, especially those who feel trapped between wanting their child to be safe, wanting them to be happy, and being told that immediate medical intervention is the only loving option. Dr. Kathy speaks candidly about how fear, particularly fear fueled by suicide narratives, can override discernment, silence conscience, create fear, and lead families to decisions they never imagined they would make. The episode explores a crucial distinction: dissatisfaction is not the same as identity. Many kids experience discomfort with their bodies, peer rejection, teasing, or confusion during puberty, but discomfort does not automatically require eradication. Dr. Kathy challenges parents to ask better questions, slow the process down, and help children understand why they feel dissatisfied before affirming irreversible conclusions. Drawing from Raising Gender-Confident Kids, the discussion reframes confidence not as denying struggle, but as building the moral and emotional "chest" that helps children hold discomfort without being swept away by fear or cultural pressure. Parents are encouraged to walk with their kids through seasons of confusion, offering presence, truth, protection, and endurance, rather than rushing to solutions that promise immediate relief but carry lifelong consequences. Rooted in Scripture, the episode reminds listeners that many temptations come dressed as compassion, offering partial truths without full disclosure of cost. Children are especially vulnerable to these narratives when adults bypass conscience in the name of urgency. True love, the hosts argue, does not panic; it shepherds. This episode offers parents courage, clarity, and hope: you are not cruel for slowing down, asking questions, or helping your child sit with discomfort. In fact, that steady presence may be the very thing that forms confidence, resilience, and lasting peace.

For years, success has been measured by degrees earned, income achieved, titles held, and recognition gained. But what happens when those markers keep shifting, leaving people exhausted and unsatisfied? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch wrestle with a growing cultural question: If we don't define success for our kids, who will, and will they like where it leads them? Drawing from a recent EdSurge reflection, the conversation explores how achievement based definitions of success often move the goalposts endlessly, leaving even high achievers feeling behind. Dr. Kathy challenges parents to recognize that children are always watching, not just what we say success is, but what we live as if it is. Our calendars, conversations, sacrifices, and celebrations quietly teach our kids what matters most. Rather than anchoring success to prestige or productivity, Dr. Kathy reframes it through a Christ centered lens: identity in Christ, lives marked by abundance rather than accumulation, and purpose expressed through service and sacrifice. Success, she argues, is not about becoming impressive, but about becoming who God created you to be and stewarding that calling with competence and faithfulness. Rooted in the biblical story of Bezalel, the craftsman called and equipped by God, this episode reminds parents that Scripture celebrates faithful skill and obedience far more than status or acclaim. When children are taught that success means living with integrity and purpose before God, they gain clarity in a world eager to define them by outcomes alone. This conversation invites parents to reclaim the definition of success, not as something to chase endlessly, but as a life of abundance and faithful stewardship.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "3abb279b-4b5e-4449-9ab3-92c186da07ee" data-testid= "conversation-turn-188" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> As conversations about banning phones and curbing screen use grow louder, parents are left asking an honest question: Is technology the problem, or are we? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new legislative efforts around screen limits and use them as a springboard for a much more personal conversation about parenting and formation. Dr. Kathy reframes the issue with clarity and grace: technology itself isn't the enemy, but when it becomes the primary way kids (and adults) cope with boredom or anxiety, something essential is lost. Parents are challenged to look inward first, recognizing that kids will struggle to give up screens if adults aren't willing to do the same. The episode explores why screens often become a refuge for anxious hearts, and why removing them without replacing them leaves kids unprepared to process life well. Rather than advocating for extremes, the conversation centers on coexisting wisely with technology. Parents are encouraged to build alternative rhythms that include quiet, prayer, creativity, play, conversation, and service, so screens aren't the default solution to every uncomfortable moment. Dr. Kathy also offers a clear, realistic vision for a family tech policy: visible alternatives, no devices in bedrooms, strong boundaries, character based decisions, and parents who are confident enough to say no without guilt. Grounded in Jesus' teaching about the Sabbath in Mark 2, the episode reminds families that limits are not punishments; they are gifts. Just as rest was designed to restore humanity, wise tech boundaries protect attention and relationships. When children learn that they are valued apart from constant stimulation or connection, they gain freedom rather than restriction. This episode equips parents to lead with humility and courage, helping technology return to its rightful place as a tool, not a ruler.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack a surprising trend from a recent CDC report: many traditional adolescent risk behaviors are declining, but anxiety and fear are rising. While this may sound like good news on the surface, the conversation asks a deeper question: What happens when kids don't take the kinds of risks that help them grow? Dr. Kathy clarifies that this isn't about encouraging dangerous behavior, but about restoring appropriate, guided risk, the kind that builds confidence, competence, humility, and resilience. From trying out for a team to walking to the library alone, kids need chances to stretch, stumble, succeed, and recover. When parents remove every risk in the name of safety, children may internalize fear rather than strength. The episode also speaks directly to parents' hearts. Letting kids struggle is hard. Watching disappointment hurts. But our response in those moments, whether we frame the experience as growth or regret, shapes how children understand themselves. When kids know they are supported and not defined by outcomes, they grow into adults who believe they can handle life. Grounded in Jesus' parable of the talents in Matthew 25, this conversation reframes risk taking as stewardship rather than recklessness. Avoiding all risk doesn't preserve potential; it buries it. Parents are encouraged to know their individual child well and offer a longer leash when the stakes are manageable. In doing so, they help their kids develop the courage and resilience they'll need for the darker, harder moments that inevitably come later in life.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "26c66446-a078-4221-83fc-a943474a836f" data-testid= "conversation-turn-184" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch respond to a heartbreaking moment from American Idol, where a song written in memory of a young girl lost to suicide brings renewed attention to bullying, social media pressure, anxiety, and teen mental health. While the story is tender and sobering, the conversation moves carefully toward clarity rather than fear. Dr. Kathy helps parents distinguish between being anxious, a normal human experience, and clinical anxiety, which often develops when kids don't have the relationships or support to process worry well. Not every anxious child is on a path toward depression, but every child needs guidance in learning how to name and work through hard emotions. Parents are encouraged to stay observant without catastrophizing and engaged without hovering. The episode also addresses the reality that much of modern culture, especially social media, is designed to intensify comparison and emotional overload. Rather than blaming kids for struggling, parents are invited to come alongside them with truth, data, compassion, and hope, reminding them that what they're feeling is understandable and that they are not alone. Rooted in Psalm 42, this conversation reframes anxiety as an invitation to connection rather than a diagnosis to fear. When kids are allowed to express worry without shame and are guided toward resilience, faith, and support, anxious moments don't have to become anxious identities. This episode offers parents reassurance and practical encouragement to be a steady, hopeful presence in an anxious age.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "d9152fb2-8bc1-49be-bc28-1542c3b03a42" data-testid= "conversation-turn-182" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> What should parents do when public figures stir strong reactions, confusion, anger, fear, or frustration? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore a real world case from England where a teacher faced disciplinary action after showing political footage to older teens. Rather than taking a political stance, the conversation turns to a deeper parenting question: should teenagers be introduced to people and ideas that feel troubling or controversial? Dr. Kathy explains why shielding kids from difficult figures doesn't build maturity, but guided exposure does. Together, they unpack how discernment is formed through conversation, curiosity, humility, and relationship, not avoidance. Parents are encouraged to acknowledge what their kids already see, name emotional reactions honestly, and walk with them through anxiety or confusion when it arises. The episode also highlights the importance of parents modeling learning, sharing the books and thinkers that shape their own views, and explaining how they evaluate what's worth listening to. Grounded in Daniel 1, this conversation reminds families that God often forms wisdom not by isolation, but by engagement paired with conviction. When teens are given scaffolding instead of silence, they grow confident in their ability to think critically and live faithfully in a complex world.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "a8c6b819-8960-4d58-8ae6-ad1a9c0e5c24" data-testid= "conversation-turn-180" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Puberty can feel overwhelming for kids and parents alike. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new research on pubertal self efficacy and why confidence, not avoidance, is key to helping kids navigate this critical season. Drawing from findings in the Journal of Adolescence, they discuss how teens who understand what's happening in their bodies and emotions experience less anxiety and depression. Dr. Kathy explains self efficacy as the belief that "I can handle what's being asked of me," and shows parents how this confidence is built through contribution, clear instruction, patience, and ongoing conversation. Together, they unpack why puberty is such a significant identity shaping moment and why kids don't need mystery or silence, but guidance and reassurance. Grounded in Luke 2 and Jesus' own growth into maturity, this episode equips parents to replace fear with formation, helping kids experience puberty not as something to endure alone, but as a God designed process they are capable of walking through well.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "5a0e6d5b-4e63-4e3b-ba94-8a696d5938d1" data-testid= "conversation-turn-178" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> As Valentine's Day approaches, emotions around friendship, belonging, and affection naturally rise, especially for kids. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch help parents use this season as a teaching moment, not just a holiday. Together, they unpack what true friendship really is and how it differs from casual relationships. They dive into why not everyone belongs in the same place in a child's heart. Dr. Kathy introduces a simple yet powerful framework for understanding friendship levels, helping kids learn healthy boundaries and trust over time. The conversation also explores why self respect is essential for meaningful relationships, why kids must know their own God-given worth before they can love others well. Rooted in Jesus' command to love our neighbor as ourselves, this episode equips parents to guide children through affection, disappointment, conflict, and connection with wisdom, clarity, and grace, shining a steady light through the emotional complexities that Valentine's season can bring.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "04378a08-745d-40a3-94c5-615ea4461ad4" data-testid= "conversation-turn-176" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Are our kids actually becoming less capable thinkers, and if so, why does that matter? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore growing concerns about children's cognitive development, drawing on research from cognitive neuroscientist Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath. Together, they examine how increased screen use, especially in classrooms, may be reshaping how kids reason and learn. But this conversation goes deeper than test scores or IQ. Dr. Kathy reframes intellect as a muscle, one that fuels discernment, freedom, creativity, and wise decision making. They discuss why intelligence must be understood locally and relationally, not just nationally or digitally, and how parents can nurture thinking hearts by inviting kids into conversation, problem solving, boredom, and responsibility. Grounded in Solomon's prayer for a discerning heart, this episode reminds parents that raising intellectually capable kids isn't about academic pressure; it's about forming wise, free people who can love God with their minds and live faithfully in the world they're called to serve.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, hosts discuss the impact of weather-related school cancellations, particularly snow days, on children's education and well-being. They reflect on how traditional snow days have shifted post-COVID, with many schools opting for remote learning instead of allowing kids a break from schoolwork. Dr. Kathy encourages listeners to use these moments of disruption to consider broader questions about the educational system and to explore opportunities for character development throughout a child's schooling from preschool to grade 12. The segment aims to provide encouragement and insight into making the most of unexpected school closures. For more on the Christian boarding high school that incorporates discipleship and mentorship into a classical approach to education that Wayne mentioned in the show, visit www.gohillcrest.com

Are we helping our kids, or holding them back? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore the growing concern of overparenting and what truly drives it beneath the surface. Responding to research outlining common signs of overparenting, Dr. Kathy explains how fear and a parent's need to look successful often lead us to correct too often and trust too little. Together, they unpack the difference between guidance and control, love and fear. Using the image of Peter stepping out of the boat, this conversation reframes parenting as staying close without stepping in too soon, allowing kids to struggle, learn, and grow while knowing help is available. For parents who feel exhausted or unsure where the line is, this episode offers reassurance and a clearer vision: raising capable, resilient kids by learning when to step back rather than step in.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "8eec6507-c532-4f97-b712-30ca25f6674b" data-testid= "conversation-turn-172" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Why are teens and young adults suddenly drawn to reading, crocheting, sewing, walking, and other so-called "grandma hobbies"? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore why slower, quieter pastimes are resurfacing, and why they matter deeply for identity formation. Dr. Kathy explains how hobbies cultivate joy, perseverance, reflection, and self-awareness in a culture driven by speed, comparison, and constant stimulation. Together, they unpack the difference between fleeting happiness and lasting joy, why self-awareness is underdeveloped in today's noisy world, and how practices like crafting, reading, and walking help kids learn to be comfortable with their own thoughts. Grounded in Luke 2 and the ordinary rhythms of Jesus' early life, this conversation encourages parents to reintroduce quiet, purposeful activities, not as escape from life, but as a way for kids to inhabit it more fully.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "3b20914a-0802-4e62-946c-1a34b6f57967" data-testid= "conversation-turn-170" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Is social media always harmful for kids, or can we teach them to use it wisely? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new research from Australia suggesting a "Goldilocks" window for social media use, where moderate engagement may support connection, but overuse or total avoidance can both undermine wellbeing. Together, they unpack why social media should be treated like any other powerful tool: taught, modeled, limited, and purposefully used. Dr. Kathy explains how parents can establish a healthy social media "diet," why real time relationships matter more than digital ones, and what kids lose when screens crowd out hobbies, service, and embodied belonging. Grounded in Acts 2 and identity formation, this conversation reframes social media not as a villain or a savior, but as something that must never bear the full weight of a child's belonging or identity.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "b8bb0470-e8b4-4fb4-84a5-5c5e80d0259c" data-testid= "conversation-turn-168" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender step carefully into a painful cultural moment following the death of Renee Nicole Good in Minnesota. Rather than debating politics, they explore how moments of public tragedy and unrest can quietly shape a child's identity, and a parent's emotional posture. This conversation unpacks how fear and uncertainty can begin to define who we think we are if we aren't grounded in something bigger. Dr. Kathy walks through the five key dimensions of identity, intellectual, emotional, social, physical, and spiritual, and explains how helping kids develop a big enough identity keeps cultural moments from swallowing them whole. The episode also offers practical guidance for parents who feel overwhelmed themselves: how to apologize when we overreact and how to teach children that sadness is a faithful response before anger. Grounded in the image of Jesus weeping with Mary and Martha, this episode reminds parents that sitting with grief is not weakness, it's formation.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "406bb266-3ffc-486a-8f1b-585d3ebfe839" data-testid= "conversation-turn-166" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Have playgrounds become too safe for kids to actually grow? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender take a thoughtful look at the increasing restrictions on playgrounds and recess, and what those rules may be costing our children. From banning running and roughhousing to removing swings altogether, today's playgrounds often prioritize control over exploration. This conversation explores why unstructured play matters for confidence, problem solving, self regulation, and social development. Drawing on child development and Scripture, Dr. Kathy challenges parents and educators to reconsider whether constant supervision and rigid rules actually help kids, or quietly undermine courage and judgment. Grounded in Jesus' invitation to "let the little children come," this episode invites adults to trade whistle-blowing for watchful presence and to see recess not as chaos to manage, but as formation in motion.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "eeda7058-bf59-4ca6-acc4-d8d7acc2cb63" data-testid= "conversation-turn-164" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Is creativity something to manage, or something to nurture? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender reframe creativity as far more than art projects or imaginative play. Drawing on research, classroom stories, and Scripture, they explore how creativity fuels resilience and character formation in children. From sticks turning into swords on a hike to invented words like fantabulous, this conversation shows how imagination helps kids problem solve, regulate stress, and engage the real world more deeply, not escape it. Rooted in Genesis 1, the episode reminds parents that creativity is part of what it means to bear God's image. Nature becomes the ultimate open ended classroom, inviting wonder, curiosity, and growth. If you've ever worried that creativity leads to chaos or distraction, this episode offers reassurance and practical wisdom for guiding, celebrating, and protecting your child's God-given creativity as it shapes both character and faith.

What if something as simple as ordering dinner could shape your child's confidence for life? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how everyday moments, like letting kids speak up, make mistakes, and try again, become powerful training grounds for resilience. Using a creative family practice as a springboard, they unpack how courage grows through support, not pressure, and why failure isn't fatal, it's formative. Drawing on child development wisdom and the biblical story of Moses' struggle with speech, this conversation reassures parents that hesitation isn't weakness and that embarrassment doesn't disqualify a child from growth. If you want to help your kids develop confidence, communication skills, and resilience without crushing their spirit, this episode offers practical guidance and deep encouragement for walking alongside them as they learn to stand back up and try again.

When children struggle with gender identity, it's rarely just about gender. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender respond to recent pauses in so-called gender-affirming care for minors and explore what real care for kids actually looks like. Drawing from counseling experience, research, Scripture, and deep compassion, they unpack why anxiety, depression, trauma, and confusion about the future often sit beneath gender distress, and why rushing to medical solutions can miss the deeper needs of the child. This conversation equips parents and loved ones with a posture rooted in compassion, hope, truth, and confidence, showing how to engage kids without rejection or oversimplification. If you love a child who is wrestling with identity questions and want to walk with them wisely and faithfully, this episode offers clarity and a path forward grounded in relationship rather than reaction.

We drill the ABCs. We practice math facts. But when it comes to kindness, we often expect it to appear fully formed, without teaching it. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the critical difference between politeness and true kindness, drawing on psychological research, parenting wisdom, and the biblical story of the Prodigal Son. They unpack why forcing apologies can create scripts instead of sincerity, how empathy is a muscle that must be taught and practiced, and why safety always precedes compassion. This conversation challenges parents to move beyond surface-level behavior management toward heart-level formation modeling mercy, curiosity, repair, and other-centeredness. If you want to raise kids who are genuinely kind, not just well-mannered, this episode will give you clarity, conviction, and practical direction.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "d1f64c8a-43ff-482c-8f64-4880ea222891" data-testid= "conversation-turn-156" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Is creativity something we should encourage or control? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the powerful role creativity plays in children's development and why time in nature may be one of the most underutilized tools parents have. Drawing from research, real parenting questions, and a biblical vision of creativity rooted in God's design, they unpack how imagination builds resilience, flexibility, and character, not chaos. From imaginary play and boredom to stress relief and problem-solving, this conversation reframes creativity as more than art projects or talent, it's a vital part of how kids learn to engage the real world well. If you've ever wondered whether letting your kids roam, wonder, or "get creative" is helping or hurting them, this episode will bring clarity, encouragement, and practical wisdom for raising kids who are both grounded and imaginative.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "e76189e2-e803-4d11-8822-839000f282f6" data-testid= "conversation-turn-154" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> As states across the country move to restrict minors' access to social media, a deeper question emerges: Why does the government feel the need to step in at all? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the growing wave of age-gating laws, parental consent requirements, and outright bans, and what they reveal about childhood, conscience, and cultural formation. Together, they unpack the tension between external guardrails and internal virtue, the developmental realities kids face online, and why laws may slow harm but can't form wisdom. Drawing on research, real parenting scenarios, and a biblical framework, this conversation equips parents to move beyond fear or passivity and toward intentional formation, helping kids learn discernment, self-control, and identity at home, long before a constable ever has to step in. If you're navigating screens, laws, and the pressure of modern parenting, this episode will give you clarity, courage, and practical next steps.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-68c436b6-c164-832c-9422-c7a823071a31-2" data-testid= "conversation-turn-152" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Public language is getting louder, harsher, and more vulgar, and our kids are listening. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the rising use of profanity in politics and public life and ask a deeper question: What does the way we speak reveal about our character? Together, they unpack the difference between freedom and license, why breaking rules isn't the same as courage, and how words shape virtue, dignity, and trust. Drawing from Scripture, cultural thinkers, and real parenting conversations, this episode equips parents to teach kids how to express strong emotions without dehumanizing others—and how to form character in a culture that often rewards outrage over wisdom. If you've ever wondered how to help your kids speak with conviction and compassion, this conversation is for you.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "485c5b0e-364b-44fb-92bb-c8088ff4ea1d" data-testid= "conversation-turn-146" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Do kids really need to be taught to focus, or do they need permission to wonder first? In this Facing the Dark episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore new research showing that children learn even when they're not intentionally paying attention. Together, they unpack the difference between curiosity and concentration, why wonder is not a distraction but a doorway to learning, and how parents can teach focus without extinguishing imagination. Anchored in child development, the 8 Great Smarts, and the story of Gideon, this conversation equips parents to nurture both attentiveness and awe, so kids grow confident and spiritually curious in a world that often rushes them to perform.

Why do parents think school is going great, while many kids feel disengaged and uninspired? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack research revealing the growing gap between how parents and students experience school. Together, they explore why learning often feels passive, why awe and wonder fade as kids get older, and how families can re-ignite curiosity by connecting schoolwork to real life. From dinner-table conversations to creative family rhythms, this episode equips parents to help kids move beyond grades and tests toward meaningful, integrated learning rooted in purpose, faith, and joy.