"But Jesus Drank Wine" & Other Stories That Kept Us Stuck

We at the BJDW pod love listener input for show topic ideas and we're so happy to share today around the most popular topic request, what do I do if my hub still drinks? There's no one better to join Meade and Christy in the studio to tackle this popular topic than their friend, mentor and former Head Coach of This Naked Mind, Scott Pinyard. Scott brings not only his insights from his own freedom from alcohol journey but the wisdom and guidance having coached thousands around this very topic. Plus it's always nice to have a dude's perspective, right?! They'll explore questions like what do we do when starting this journey if our spouses aren't joining us (a.k.a. they are still drinking) and what not to do! They'll talk about the number one key to getting the support you need and what to do if that support isn't available. They'll dive into all the stories that kept Meade and Christy stuck and the ones they hear all the time like, he's choosing the boys and beers over me, I can't do this if my hub drinks, if I do this my marriage will fail, how will we connect if not over drinks? And as always they'll leave you with their signature tiny TINA–a tiny new action you can take today if this is a place where you feel stuck. We hope you enjoy! To learn more about Scott and the work he does you can connect with him here! Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you'll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more! We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don't go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram. #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Join Meade and Christy for another rich conversation, another "meat and potatoes" episode, diving into the importance of understanding how our minds work and why it's important for doing this work that we "get to do." Listen in to discover why this work is about alcohol–and not alcohol– all at the same time and why changing our thinking is how we change our drinking. They'll answer questions like: What is a stress response cycle (and why heading to the grocery when we're hangry never turns out the way we intended). And what's that got to do with drinking? Why can we "know" what to do in an alcohol urge and yet not have access to those tools that would help us in those moments? And they'll explore what to try instead. They also explore why celebrating where you are–wherever that is–on your journey is important to creating new neural pathways and new habits. And don't miss today's TINA (TIny New Action) as a way for continuing the forward movement on this amazing journey! Scripture References ~ Ephesians 4:22-24 What comes up for you as you read this? We invite you to reflect and journal about it. Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you'll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more! We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don't go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram. #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity Resources mentioned in today's episode: Burnout Book The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Join Meade and Christy as they continue chatting about why understanding our relationship to alcohol requires, first, that we understand our relationship to our minds. They'll answer questions like: What are "stories?" Where do they come from? How do we uncover them if they're unconscious? How do we change them? How do we think about our thinking? Why are we thinking about thinking if we want to change a behavior? And why willpower doesn't work! What are some practical ways for digging into this heady (pun-intended!) topic? Scripture References ~ Philippians 4:4 Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you'll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more! We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don't go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram. #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity Resources mentioned in today's episode: Byron Katie The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Join Meade and Christy as they chat about why understanding our relationship to alcohol requires, first, that we understand our relationship to our minds. They'll answer questions like: What do minds do? What is the difference between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind? What are "meanings" and what influences them? What is cognitive dissonance? What does it look like? Why is it so painful and what do we do about it? How do we bring awareness to thoughts and feelings? What does the Bible say about our minds? What is meditation? Are we allowed to meditate as Christians? And what's any of this have to do with changing our drinking?! Scripture References ~ Romans 12:2 Psalm 46:10 Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you'll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more! We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don't go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram. #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity Resources mentioned in today's episode: Dr. Jud Brewer on "Everyday Addictions" The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Join Meade and Christy as they tackle this big topic that shows up as one of the most common stories that we tell ourselves about what alcohol "does for us." They explore why it's so hard to explore this story and why it feels really true for us. How did we come to believe this? What does connection with friends, husbands, kids and the Lord look like when free from alcohol and is it different than when in the drinking cycle? What were the hardest parts of trying to connect newly free from alcohol and what were some of the unexpected gifts? And how do we even begin to tackle this story when it feels so hard to imagine that it isn't true? This is a not-to-miss conversation that will no doubt continue as an ongoing conversation for future episodes. Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you'll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more! We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don't go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram. #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Join Meade and Christy as they have a super honest (and fun!) conversation about 40th birthdays, celebration, all things fun and how what they had always envisioned for their 40th birthdays wasn't exactly what they ended up being. What was surprising to them as they did their birthdays differently and how does that relate to one of the greatest and most unexpected gifts of finding freedom from alcohol? They explore the influence of the unconscious expectations we have for birthdays and how relief from the pressure we feel to do it "big" (not just pertaining to birthdays but in life!) can be felt by asking a few simple questions. Listen in for the shocking admission they make related to their kids and how that is being used for good, now. And be sure not to miss why it's totally ok to roll your eyes at what they talk about at the end! Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you'll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more! We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don't go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram. #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity Resources mentioned in today's episode: You Keep Getting Better - Maverick City Music The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Join Meade and Christy as they chat about one of the scariest and most frequently asked questions when taking a break from alcohol or newly stepping into freedom from alcohol life. What do I tell people? They explore things like what to do when someone offers you a drink and you're not drinking. What to do when people question why you're not drinking. And also and maybe more importantly what NOT to do learning from where Meade and Christy definitely got it wrong. They answer questions like, how long does it really take to become confident not drinking in social situations? Why do people even care that we're not drinking and you'll hear why it has nothing to do with us. Not just speculatively but because they both in the past were the people who gave others a hard time for not drinking. They also discuss the importance of planning ahead for AFFTs (alcohol-free first times) and how tools like visualization and "cheesy" scavenger hunts can make all the difference between a good night out and a bad one. We hope you'll enjoy this episode as much as they enjoyed recording it! Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you'll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more! We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don't go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram. #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Join Meade and Christy over the next two episodes as they each share so openly what it looked like to be miserably stuck in the drinking cycle - back when they thought they "must be alcoholics" - and learn all about how they found their way to freedom! They'll answer all the burning questions they get asked on the reg: What did life as a "problem" drinker look like in general—and in the church? When and what was their "rock bottom?" What were the biggest fears they had in quitting drinking? How did their friends who drink receive the news that they didn't drink anymore? How long did it take to find freedom from alcohol? What changed after they became AF - in their marriages, social circles, motherhood? What stayed the same? What have they found to be the best and worst parts of living, not just alcohol-free, but completely FREE from alcohol? There is a difference!!! While both Meade and Christy have shared their stories many times, in many places, and "knew" each other's story, they hadn't ever chatted about all the juicy details with each other choosing to save it all for the pod. We at the pod hope you'll enjoy listening in as much as they enjoyed hearing each other's stories live for the first time! Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you'll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more! We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don't go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram. #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Join Meade and Christy for the second of two episodes where they each share what it looked like to be miserably stuck in the drinking cycle - back when they thought for sure they "must be alcoholics" - and learn all about how they found their way to freedom! They answer all the burning questions they get asked on the reg: What did life as a "problem" drinker look like in general—and in the church? When and what was their "rock bottom?" What were the biggest fears they had in quitting drinking? How did their friends who drink receive the news that they didn't drink anymore? How long did it take to find freedom from alcohol? What changed after they became AF - in their marriages, social circles, motherhood? What stayed the same? What have they found to be the best and worst parts of living, not just alcohol-free, but completely FREE from alcohol? There is a difference!!! While both Meade and Christy have shared their stories many times in many places and "knew" each other's story, they hadn't ever chatted about all the juicy details with each other choosing to save it all for the pod. We at the pod hope you'll enjoy listening in as much as they enjoyed hearing each other's stories live for the first time. There's a lot packed into these episodes and yet they both were left with so many questions. Stay tuned for future episodes where they'll go even deeper into all.the.things! Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you'll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more! We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don't go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram. #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Join Meade and Christy, two retired-over-drinkers turned freedom-from-alcohol coaches, each week as they explore all of the stories that kept them stuck in the nightly over-drinking cycle, including but certainly not limited to "But Jesus drank wine?" If you're looking for two Christian women who get real about how wine held them back and explore tricky questions about drinking (and beyond!) with grace, compassion, and zero judgment, this is the podcast for you. Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy And head over to our site for more information: https://www.butjesusdrankwine.com/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.