Brandon The Dom
Hey, I’m Brandon the Dom.
Brandon The Dom
Show overview
Brandon The Dom has been publishing since 2024, and across the 2 years since has built a catalogue of 73 episodes. That works out to roughly 30 hours of audio in total. Releases follow a weekly cadence.
Episodes typically run twenty to thirty-five minutes — most land between 17 min and 28 min — though episode length varies meaningfully from one episode to the next. None of the episodes are flagged explicit by the publisher. It is catalogued as a EN-language Society & Culture show.
The show is actively publishing — the most recent episode landed 2 weeks ago, with 18 episodes already out so far this year. The busiest year was 2025, with 52 episodes published.
From the publisher
Hey, I’m Brandon the Dom. I am a sex and relationship coach - and I want to guide you towards deeper connection, kinky and wild sex, and fulfilling emotional intimacy. Together, we will explore your boundaries, pleasure and willingness to move past barriers toward full self-expression. In a safe and trusting environment, I will help you tap into the vulnerable side of your sexuality - free from judgement and shame.
Latest Episodes
View all 73 episodesBDSM Q&A: Biting, Dominant Power, Self Worth as Men, and Practicing Asserting Wants
Tantric Breathing for Sex: A Simple Tool for Deeper Intimacy and Pleasure
Cock Worship: 10 Principles to Worship Your Man
Why Grief Can Kill—or Intensify—Your Sexual Desire
Stop Believing the Illusion of Total Control
Ep 68BDSM Q&A: Intense Sexual Feelings, Dom Drop, Truth About 24/7 Dynamics, Communication in BDSM
In this special video, I'm addressing your burning questions from the Red Room Forums and YouTube comments section, offering more detailed responses than a quick reply. Stay tuned for practical insights on navigating complex dynamics and fostering stronger connections in bdsm dynamics and relationships.---👉 Join Community: https://www.brandonthedom.com/red-room👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:24) - Q1: Dealing With Intense Sexual Feelings (04:00) - Q2: Dom Drop (08:38) - Q3: Truth About 24/7 Dynamics (16:24) - Q4: Why So Much Communication in BDSM ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:📖 Subdrop: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sub-drop📖 Subspace: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/subspace📖 Traits of a Good Dom: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/what-is-a-good-dominant▶️ Feburary Q&A: https://youtu.be/A2UV9c1aaIM
Ep 67The Submission That Isn't: Identifying Topping from the Bottom
Are you struggling with topping from the bottom in your D/s dynamic? Learn what topping from the bottom really means, why it happens, and how Dominants and submissives can rebuild trust, improve communication, and create deeper, more satisfying power exchange relationships.---👉 Join Community: https://www.brandonthedom.com/red-room👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching👉 Dom Course: https://www.brandonthedom.com/developing-dominance---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:16) - What Is Topping From the Bottom? (03:32) - What Isn’t Topping From the Bottom (07:06) - Topping From the Bottom vs. Bratting (08:13) - Why Do Submissives Top From the Bottom? (15:59) - How to Address Topping From the Bottom (16:27) - What the Dom Can Do (24:54) - What the Submissive Can Do ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Topping Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/topping-from-the-bottom📖 Brat Taming: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/brat-tamer📖 BDSM Scene Crafting : https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-scene📖 Trauma Support: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/trauma-support 📖 Building Trust: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/building-trust 📖 Boundaries & Limits: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-limits 📖 Difficult Conversations: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/difficult-conversations📖 Power Exchange: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/power-exchange📖 Submissive Mindset: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/submissive-mindset
Ep 66Tantric Touch: More Than Just a Pleasurable Massage
Want to deepen intimacy and pleasure through touch? Tantric Touch enhances connection with intentional, mindful techniques for sensual intimacy, deeper bonding, and experiencing pleasure beyond goal-driven sex.---👉 Join Community: https://www.brandonthedom.com/red-room👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Touch Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/tantric-touch📖 Tantric Eye Gazing for Sex: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/tantric-eye-gazing📖 Tantric Breathing for Sex: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/tantric-breathing📖 Tantric Sex Guide: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/tantric-sex📖 Tantric Yoni Massage: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/yoni-massage
Ep 65Service Top: An Overlooked Role (Which Can Make You A Better Dom)
What does it mean to be a Service Top in BDSM? Discover how giving from the Top can be just as fulfilling as receiving, why Dominants should learn to serve too, and how genuine service deepens trust, pleasure, and connection.---👉 Join Community: https://www.brandonthedom.com/red-room👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching👉 Dom Course: https://www.brandonthedom.com/developing-dominance---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:15) - What Is a Service Top? (03:50) - Why Be of Service as a Top? (05:29) - Why Be of Service as a Dom? (07:23) - How to Be of Service as a Top ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Service Top Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/service-top📖 Pleasure Doms: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/pleasure-dom📖 Service Submissive: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/service-sub📖 Dominant Archetypes: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/types-of-doms📖 Dominant Mindset: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/dominant-mindset📖 Boundaries & Limits: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-limits
Ep 64BDSM Q&A: Discipline Without Punishment, Praise Kinks, Trust Building & Attachment Styles in D/s
In this special video, I'm addressing your burning questions from the YouTube comments section, offering more detailed responses than a quick reply. Stay tuned for practical insights on navigating complex dynamics and fostering stronger connections in bdsm dynamics and relationships.---👉 Join Community: https://www.brandonthedom.com/red-room👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:16) - Q1: Trust Building After Harm (06:52) - Q2: Discipline Without Punishment (12:02) - Q3: Giving Spiritual Praise (15:51) - Q4: Opposite Attachment Styles in D/s Dynamics ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:📖 Trust Building: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/building-trust📖 Discipline: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/discipline📖 Subdrop: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sub-drop📖 Praise: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/praise-kink📖 Subspace: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/subspace📖 Attachment Styles: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/attachment-style📖 Tantric Eye Gazing: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/tantric-eye-gazing
Ep 63Supporting a Traumatized Partner in BDSM & Sex
How can you support a partner with trauma while exploring sex or BDSM safely and lovingly? Learn trauma-informed ways to build trust, create emotional safety, and help your partner reconnect with their body, pleasure, and power.---👉 Join Community: https://www.brandonthedom.com/red-room👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching👉 Free Sex Menu with 350+ Acts: https://www.brandonthedom.com/resources/sex-menu-template---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:17) - What Is Trauma? (02:36) - How Trauma May Manifest in BDSM (05:33) - How Trauma Impacts Pleasure (06:14) - How Trauma Impacts Power Exchange (07:35) - How to Support a Partner with Trauma (10:02) - Stage 1: Safety & Stabilization (16:59) - Stage 2: Remembrance and Mourning (18:57) - Stage 3: Reconnecting and Integrating (28:27) - Stage 4: Consolidation and Resolution ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Trauma Support Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/trauma-support📖 Dom Sub Relationship: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/dom-sub-relationship📖 Shame: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/shame📖 Sexual Performance Anxiety: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sexual-performance-anxiety📖 Subdrop: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sub-drop📖 Praise: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/praise-kink🔗 Trauma-Informed Consensual Kink: https://www.instagram.com/traumainformedkink🔗 The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture: https://amzn.to/47cfOIJ🔗 Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair: https://amzn.to/3J21zNr🔗 PESI: https://www.pesi.com/🔗 NAMI Family Support Groups: https://www.nami.org/support-education/support-groups/nami-family-support-group/
Ep 62How to Navigate Age Gap Relationships (and Other Power Imbalances)
What is an age gap relationship, and can it really work? Explore the dynamics, benefits, and potential risks of age gap relationships, and learn how informed consent, communication, and mutual respect can make them fulfilling and nurturing for both partners.---👉 Join Community: https://www.brandonthedom.com/red-room👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:16) - What Are Age Gap Relationships? (01:59) - Why Would Someone Want to Be in an Age Gap Relationship? (02:34) - Why a Younger Person Might Want to Engage in an Age Gap Relationship (04:30) - Why an Older Person Might Want to Engage in an Age Gap Relationship (06:36) - Mutual Intentions and Considerations (07:26) - How to Mitigate the Risks of Power Imbalance (09:09) - Fallacy of Age Equals Maturity (11:36) - Fallacy of Power Imbalances Leading to Exploitation (13:07) - How to Engage in an Age Gap Relationship (18:41) - How to Express Concerns About Age Gap Relationships ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Age-Gap Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/age-gap-relationships📖 Dom Sub Relationship: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/dom-sub-relationship📖 Difficult Conversations: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/difficult-conversations
Ep 61Make Roleplay Hotter, Easier, and Less Awkward
What makes roleplay sex so exciting? Discover how erotic roleplay engages your most powerful sexual organ—the brain—while helping you explore taboo desires, deepen intimacy, and have a lot more fun in and out of the bedroom.---👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching👉 Dominant Dirty Talk Masterclass: https://www.brandonthedom.com/dominant-dirty-talk-masterclass---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:15) - What is Sexual Roleplay? (01:02) - Why People Roleplay (03:45) - How to Roleplay (05:44) - Levels of Roleplay (08:36) - What To Do When It Feels Awkward (09:23) - Returning to Reality ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Roleplay Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/roleplay-sex📖 Dom Sub Relationship: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/dom-sub-relationship📖 Primal Play: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/primal-play📖 Public Play: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/public-sex📖 Shadow Play: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-play📖 Dealing with Shame: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/shame
Ep 60Discipline Isn’t Punishment: The Secret to a Thriving D/s Relationship
Ever wondered how discipline can make your BDSM dynamic stronger and more erotic? Discover how expanding your understanding of discipline—beyond just punishment—creates structure, accountability, and deeper connection for both Dominant and submissive.---👉 Free Sex Menu with 350+ Acts: https://www.brandonthedom.com/resources/sex-menu-template👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching👉 Dom Course: https://www.brandonthedom.com/developing-dominance---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:16) - What is Discipline? (01:43) - Discipline vs. Punishment (02:44) - Why Use Discipline? (04:47) - Step 1: Start with Self-Discipline (06:20) - Step 2: Give the Dynamic a Purpose (09:52) - Step 3: Create a Code of Conduct (13:59) - Step 4: Use the Accountability Triangle (14:50) - Rewards (16:49) - Punishment (19:54) - Feedback (24:31) - Step 5: Adjusting the Code of Conduct ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Discipline Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/discipline📖 Brat Taming: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/brat-tamer📖 Praise: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/praise-kink📖 Rewards: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-rewards📖 Punishments: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-punishments📖 Situationships: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/situationship📖 Difficult Conversations: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/difficult-conversations
Ep 59Tantric Eye Gazing: A Practice Far More Vulnerable Than Sex
What if deeper intimacy could begin with a single gaze? Eye gazing is a powerful Tantric practice that helps couples and individuals build connection, trust, and presence by simply looking into each other’s eyes. Learn the difference between eye gazing and staring, why it’s so transformative, and how to start your own practice—solo or with a partner.---👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:22) - What is Tantric Eye Gazing? (02:12) - Eye Gazing vs. Staring (03:12) - Why Engage in Eye Gazing (07:28) - How Does This Improve Your Relationship and Sex Life? (08:46) - How to Engage in Tantric Eye Gazing (09:33) - How to Eye Gaze with a Partner (13:15) - How to Eye Gaze on Your Own ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Eye Gazing Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/tantric-eye-gazing📖 Tantric Breathing for Sex: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/tantric-breathing📖 Tantric Touch for Sex: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/tantric-touch📖 Tantric Sex Guide: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/tantric-sex
Ep 58Predicament Bondage: Turning Submission into an Exhilarating Game
Curious about predicament bondage? Discover how this unique form of BDSM combines restraint, creativity, and psychology to create thrilling challenges where the submissive must choose between pain, pleasure, or surrender.---👉 Free Sex Menu with 350+ Acts: https://www.brandonthedom.com/resources/sex-menu-template👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:15) - What Is Predicament Bondage? (02:01) - Why Do People Enjoy Predicament Bondage? (03:59) - How to Design Predicament Bondage (04:29) - Risk Management & Safety (08:27) - Motivations (09:51) - Strategies (13:28) - Tips for the Submissive ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Predicament Bondage Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/predicament-bondage📖 Light Bondage: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/light-bondage📖 Pleasure Dom: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/pleasure-dom📖 Praise: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/praise-kink📖 Rewards: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-rewards📖 Punishments: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-punishments
Ep 5710 Unexpected Benefits of Dom-Sub Relationships
Ever wondered what makes a Dom sub relationship so powerful? This video explores the potential benefits of power exchange within BDSM dynamics, from deeper intimacy to hotter passion. I discuss how these relationships can lead to personal growth and offers valuable relationship advice for those curious about this kink lifestyle.---👉 Free Sex Menu with 350+ Acts: https://www.brandonthedom.com/resources/sex-menu-template👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching👉 Dom Course: https://www.brandonthedom.com/developing-dominance---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:11) - What Are Dom/sub Relationships? (03:37) - Who Actually Has the Power in the Relationship? (06:08) - Benefit 1: Needs Are Met. Boundaries Are Respected. (08:54) - Benefit 2: You Establish Consent for Everything (12:04) - Benefit 3: Shared Purpose & Values (13:47) - Benefit 4: Clearly Defined Roles (16:28) - Benefit 5: Knowing What You're Supposed To Do (17:51) - Benefit 6: Becoming New Versions of Yourself (19:31) - Benefit 7: Exploration of Identity (21:17) - Benefit 8: Polarity & Erotic Tension (23:34) - Benefit 9: Intimacy Through Vulnerability (24:43) - Benefit 10: Sex in the Foreground ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Dom sub Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/dom-sub-relationship📖 Shadow Play: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-play📖 Situationships: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/situationship📖 Praise: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/praise-kink📖 Rewards: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-rewards📖 Punishments: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-punishments📖 Difficult Conversations: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/difficult-conversations📖 Bratting: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/brat-tamer📖 Building trust: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/building-trust📖 Public Play: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-play-party📖 Cockwarming: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/cockwarming📖 Free Use: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/free-use-kink
Ep 56Your First BDSM Party: Here's What to Expect
Ever wondered what really goes on at a BDSM Play Party? Learn how to survive your first event, turn nerves into confidence, and have an unforgettable night of kink, connection, and fun—without feeling lost or overwhelmed.---👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching👉 Dom Course: https://www.brandonthedom.com/developing-dominance---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Play Party Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-play-party📖 Munch: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-munch📖 Subspace: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/subspace📖 Subdrop: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sub-drop📖 Sample vetting: https://flogandflow.com/resources/safety/
Ep 55Is a Free Use Kink Really Just Unlimited Sex?
Curious about free use kink? Discover what it is, how it works, why people enjoy it, and the rules of consent that make it both thrilling and safe. Learn how to explore free use kink responsibly in this guide.---👉 Free Sex Menu with 350+ Acts: https://www.brandonthedom.com/resources/sex-menu-template👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching👉 Dom Course: https://www.brandonthedom.com/developing-dominance---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:09) - What is a Free Use Kink (03:49) - Types of Free Use (04:41) - Why Do People Enjoy Free Use? (06:28) - How to Engage in Free Use (09:58) - Free Use Scenarios to Try ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Free Use Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/free-use-kink📖 Limits & Boundaries: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-limits📖 Degradation: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/degradation-kink📖 Public Play: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/public-sex📖 Light Bondage: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/light-bondage
Ep 54Types of Doms: Which One Are You Meant to Be?
Curious about which Dom you are—or could become? Explore the different types of Doms in BDSM, from classic Masters to sensual Pleasure Doms, and learn how to find or craft a persona that fits your true desires.---👉 Free Sex Menu with 350+ Acts: https://www.brandonthedom.com/resources/sex-menu-template👉 Get Coaching: https://www.brandonthedom.com/coaching👉 Dom Course: https://www.brandonthedom.com/developing-dominance---TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:(00:00) - Intro (00:15) - What is a Dom? (02:36) - Types of Doms (08:45) - How to Create Your Own Dominant Persona (11:59) - Step 1: Understand Yourself (12:22) - Understanding Your Desires (15:56) - Understanding Your Personality (17:50) - Understanding Your Values (18:58) - Step 2: Decide What You Do (19:15) - Choosing Activities (20:23) - Choosing the Energy in Your Behavior (21:39) - Choosing Your Tools & Toys (23:21) - Step 3: Craft How You Look (23:57) - Craft Your Wardrobe (24:49) - Craft Your Environment ---FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:🔥 Types of Doms Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/types-of-doms📖 Degradation: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/degradation-kink📖 Primal Play: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/primal-play📖 Pleasure Dom: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/pleasure-dom📖 Brat Tamer: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/brat-tamer📖 Light Bondage: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/light-bondage📖 Orgasm Control: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/orgasm-control