Better Sports Parents

Former Blue Jays' first round draft pick Travis Snider is on a mission to change youth sports. After experiencing the highs of what appeared to be a nearly flawless ascension as a youth star, Travis came face-to-face with the lows of struggling to perform as a pro due in large part to an identity that was tightly bound to results. He now pours his energy into teaching parents and coaches a better way to guide children through youth sports.In this segment, Travis discusses one of the most relatable challenges most parents face: the car ride home after their child's game or practice.Listen to the entire episode:⁠Spotify⁠⁠Apple⁠Watch on ⁠YouTube⁠

Farhan Lalji is a very recognizable face and voice in Canadian sports. Since 1997 he's been with TSN, covering everything from the Olympics to the Stanley Cup and the Super Bowl. He's a CFL Football Hall of Famer in the media category and a BC Football Hall of Famer as a builder thanks in large part to creating a high school football program from scratch in New Westminster. He also sits on the national board of KidSport and has spent years watching the youth sports landscape up close, from every angle. But in this episode of Better Sports Parents, Farhan isn't talking as a broadcaster or a Hall of Famer. He's talking as a dad. One who got caught up in hockey's spending arms race when his son was six years old, who made mistakes coaching his son that he's doing differently with his daughter, and who at one point realized he could still coach his son, but no longer push him. Farhan has one of the most quotable lines in the show's history: "In hockey, there are two types of parents: those who have money and those who borrow money. There's no not having money." He talks about what it was like to live inside that reality as a parent, even as someone with his level of sports awareness, and why the privatization of youth sport is his single biggest concern for the next generation of Canadian kids. This is a conversation about coaching, community, access, identity, and what it actually means to be a sports parent when you know everything about sport and still can't always get it right.Chapters00:00 Opening01:35 Introducing Farhan Lalji03:37 How sport influenced Farhan's life as an immigrant kid06:50 The high school football coach who never left his life08:03 What his parents stressed (and didn't) about youth sport09:23 Are we over-parenting in youth sport today?10:21 The loss of free play and what's filled the gap13:03 Devices, screen time & holding off on phones until 1415:47 From SFU communications to TSN: the career decision17:20 What coaching taught him about life lessons through sport18:17 How to connect with kids who have different competitive goals22:12 Valuing the player who just wants to belong25:14 A quarterback who said "I'm done after senior year"26:16 Where the line is between participation and competitive sport27:36 The pressures of youth hockey30:08 The academy bubble: socialization, entitlement and what kids miss32:38 "The real color in sport is green"34:42 The two types of hockey parents we've created35:06 Farhan's confession: he got caught up in it too37:14 Are we pricing ourselves out of hockey as a nation?39:12 Is the environment we've created in hockey a net positive?41:05 Why he chose to build a football program from scratch46:26 The Justin Morneau playoff game and what community sport can look like48:06 How do we get back to community sport?49:15 We need to pay coaches51:22 Why he left New Westminster and what his son actually wanted54:25 "I can coach him, but I can't push him"56:33 You're not coaching football. You're coaching kids.57:21 When is the right time to coach your own child?59:15 How he set boundaries with parents as a coach01:01:21 How a player taught him a valuable lesson01:02:47 Parenting his son vs. parenting his daughter in sports01:04:48 The number one issue in youth sports: privatizationResourcesUnpluggedKidSport

Andrea Neil is one the greatest players and leaders to ever wear the jersey for Canada's National Women's Soccer team. She played in multiple Women's World Cups, captaining Canada to a 4th place finish in 2003, its best ever result at the event. In this segment, Andrea implores parents to demand more from the people and organizations who oversee the development of children in sports.Listen to the full episode here:⁠Spotify⁠⁠Apple⁠Watch on ⁠YouTube⁠

Aaron Volpatti was never supposed to make it. He wasn't drafted. He wasn't a goal scorer. He grew up in Revelstoke, BC, playing house hockey at 14 and got cut from select teams. And then at 19 years old, while playing junior hockey with the Vernon Vipers, he was badly burned in an accident and told by doctors that his hockey career was over. He was wrapped head to toe in a hospital burn unit, unable to walk, when he made a decision that would define the rest of his life: he was coming back to play hockey no matter what. He was out of the hospital in six weeks. He played that fall. He went on to commit to Brown University. And he eventually played 114 games in the NHL... more than 70% of the players who were actually drafted in his draft year.But Aaron is far more interested in talking about what youth sport is getting wrong than revisiting what he got right. Now a cognitive performance and injury coach, author of Fighter, and father of three, Aaron brings a perspective on the youth sports environment that is equal parts personal and professional.He talks candidly about the trap of treating your child like an investment, the cost — financial and otherwise — of over-structuring kids' lives at the expense of free play and childhood, and why shaping your child's identity for them before they've had a chance to figure out who they are is one of the most harmful things the current youth sports culture is doing. He shares his own strict hockey rule for his young son, why he coaches parents far more often than he coaches the athletes themselves, and what he says to parents who worry their kid will fall behind. Aaron also opens up about struggling with his own identity after hockey ended, what visualization taught him about human potential, and what he genuinely wants his three kids to take from sport.This is a conversation about holding onto childhood, staying in the fight, and asking the question nobody in youth sports wants to answer: at what cost? Chapters00:00 Opening01:35 Introduction: Aaron Volpatti03:42 What minor hockey meant to Aaron growing up05:01 His parents' approach: no pressure, just values07:33 What "let kids be kids" actually means08:44 The lessons sport taught him09:45 Getting cut from select teams & staying humble13:53 The burn injury that should have ended his hockey career19:04 The visualization practice that changed everything23:53 Are the most talented players in the NHL?26:55 Why overlooked players with grit outlast the early stars29:58 Knowing your role: "you are not a goal scorer"31:54 What good coaches do that parents often undermine34:13 Equal play, age-appropriate competition37:14 Sacrificing kids' childhoods40:12 No spring or summer hockey: Aaron's family rule40:38 The fear of falling behind trap41:50 What the real return on investment in youth sport looks like44:55 Being your kid's cheerleader, not their critic47:18 The car ride home48:45 Rethinking mistakes & permission to fail50:02 Social media & comparison syndrome52:31 Helping athletes redefine performance55:46 Aaron's identity crisis57:32 Visualization, belief and finding life after sport1:00:34 Writing "Fighter"1:04:16 What Aaron wants his own kids to take from sport1:05:35 The biggest issue in youth sports today1:10:30 Setting boundariesResourcesFighter (Book)Aaron's WebsiteFollow Aaron on Instagram

Ray Ferraro is an 18-year NHL veteran, an award-winning hockey analyst, and the father of four boys. He's also coached young players over multiple decades and witnessed the evolution of parental involvement in youth sport. In this segment, Ray talks about his own evolution as a sports parent, the trap that many parents fall into when they invest in development, and how your child's interests need to drive their journey in youth sports.Listen to the full episode here:⁠Spotify⁠⁠Apple⁠Watch on ⁠YouTube⁠

Allison McNeill is one of the most accomplished figures in Canadian basketball. As a player, she won multiple provincial and national titles before finishing her collegiate career in the NCAA. As a coach, she took over Simon Fraser University's women's program in 1988 and spent 13 years turning it into a perennial national championship contender. She then took the reins of Canada's women's national team, ending a 12-year Olympic absence by guiding them back to the 2012 Games and making them competitive on the world stage. She has coached at every level of the game, from grade twos all the way to the national team, and she still gives back at the youth level today. But here's what Allison will tell you herself: if she were growing up now, she might never have played basketball at all. In this episode, Allison sits down with host Scott Rintoul to share what decades in the game have taught her about what youth sport is getting right and what it's getting badly wrong. She discusses the skyrocketing cost of youth sport, the trap of early specialization, and why sampling multiple sports builds better athletes and better people. Allison also shares what parents and coaches are doing on the sidelines that is quietly stealing the joy from their children's sporting experience. On the coaching side, Allison gets specific about what separates a good youth coach from a harmful one and why playing pedigree matters far less than whether a coach genuinely cares about the kids in front of them. She talks about how she built winning cultures at SFU and the national team, why every player on a roster needs to feel valued, and how the best coaches are the ones who show up for their athletes as full human beings. She also tackles the underrepresentation of women in coaching, and the importance of not letting a child's identity become wrapped up in their sport or their results. Chapters 00:00 Opening & Introduction03:44 Why Allison keeps coaching 05:34 The state of basketball in Canada in 2026 06:30 Why youth sport costs have skyrocketed 08:11 Solutions: facilities, nonprofits & government levers 11:50 Travel tournaments vs. what actually develops young athletes 14:16 Allison's multi-sport upbringing 16:48 The danger of early specialization 17:06 How Allison's parents shaped her athletic life 21:57 Over-involved parents27:42 Creating value for every player on the team 30:08 What basketball gave Allison that other sports didn't 31:29 How to run a youth practice that actually keeps kids engaged 35:15 Everyone plays vs competitive selection 37:14 Select teams, early tiering & the dropout cliff 39:28 What college coaches are actually looking for 43:05 Teaching kids to value roles45:28 The cost of rushing development 46:17 How to transform a culture49:50 The coach-parent relationship52:00 How to spot a great youth coach57:43 The most effective coaches1:02:55 Sport as a vehicle for life skills 1:05:15 The lasting imprint coaches leave1:07:29 Women in coaching1:10:05 Separating athlete identity from resultsResources Canadian Basketball Hall of FameBC Sports Hall of Fame Safe Sport Program (Canada Basketball) Long-Term Athlete Development (LTAD) Framework

Allison Forsyth is a former Olympic skier, a renowned SafeSport expert, and the Chief Sport Officer at Headversity. A survivor of abuse in sport and vocal advocate for athlete wellbeing, Allison founded Generation Safe to create more resources for athletes and organizations to confront and reduce maltreatment and abuse through sport. In this segment, Allison discusses the role parents, coaches and the current youth sports system play in creating the conditions for harm to escalate through sport.Listen to the full episode here:⁠Spotify⁠⁠Apple⁠Watch on ⁠YouTube

Most conversations about improving youth sports focus on athletes, parents, and coaches. This one looks at the people everyone else seems to forget — the officials. Dave Hawkshaw is the only Canadian to hold a full-time position as an NFL official. He has officiated over 100 games in the world's top football league after 13 years in the CFL, but his journey started the same way thousands of young Canadians begin theirs — as a teenager at a community park, picking up a whistle because his dad asked him to come out on a Sunday morning. In this conversation with Scott Rintoul, Dave pulls back the curtain on what it actually takes to make it as an official at the highest level: the film study, the flashcards, the zoom calls, the rule tests, the cross-country travel. And he makes the case that officiating is as demanding and as rewarding as any role in sport. But the heart of this episode is the youth sports officiating crisis unfolding right now. Young officials are being driven out of the game by coaches and parents who berate them from the sidelines. Sports across the country can't recruit enough officials to cover the games being played. Dave has seen it all as someone who started officiating flag football as a teenager, as a father watching his daughters play basketball and soccer at high levels, and as a man who has been on the field for 100+ NFL games. He breaks down what healthy coach-official relationships look like, why everything trickles down from how a coach carries themselves on the sideline, how parents should think about their behavior in the stands, and why a simple thank-you after a game goes further than most parents realize. This is a perspective that rarely gets a seat at the table in the youth sports conversation. It needs one. Chapters 0:00 Opening 1:36 Introducing Dave Hawkshaw: Canada's only full-time NFL official 3:54 How it all started: flag football on Sunday mornings with his dad 6:15 Dave's youth sports experience 7:26 What his parents focused on: work ethic, respect, and team sports 9:36 Why respecting officials was non-negotiable in his household 10:50 Breaking in as a young official 11:28 What keeps officials coming back, and what drives them away 12:55 Key mentors along the way 15:00 Why officials give their time for very little money 16:38 The unlikely path from CFL the NFL 20:02 Balancing the NFL, the CFL, firefighting, and a young family 21:25 How much work officials actually put in 24:22 What a good referee looks like to someone who officiates the NFL 26:19 Why young officials quit and what it takes to keep them 29:32 What a healthy coach-official relationship looks like in youth sports 31:12 When coaches lose their composure and the domino effect 32:57 Why yelling at officials is poor leadership, not passion 34:59 Tools officials can use to manage difficult situations 35:45 Advice for parents who know they get caught up in the emotion 37:21 Why do we only hold officials to a standard of perfection? 38:30 Having his daughters pick up the whistle 41:00 What Dave wants his daughters to take from sport 42:23 How youth sports has changed: early specialization 44:09 The pressure and financial investment parents bring to games 48:19 Has sideline behavior gotten better over the years? 49:12 Where the line is: what actually crosses it for a seasoned official 50:12 How to set the right tone early in a game without over-officiating 52:50 The power of a simple post-game thank-you from a coach or player 53:38 The biggest issue in youth sports today Resources: https://www.bcfootballhalloffame.com/dave-hawkshaw/

Dr. Rick Celebrini is the Vice President of Player Health and Performance for the Golden State Warriors and the father of four extremely athletic children, including Macklin Celebrini, the NHL's number 1 overall draft pick in 2024. A former professional soccer player himself, Rick has worked with professional and amateur athletes across several sports including basketball, hockey, and soccer. In this segment, Rick discusses the trend of early specialization among young athletes, offering his opinion as both a professional and a father while also outlining the guardrails that should exist for those who choose to focus on one sport early in their development.Listen to the full episode here:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/rick-celebrini-beware-of-dead-eyes-let-your-child/id1834970608?i=1000728010271Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5QPyUpUBjhKuRP4WMsBgmk?si=gGRGBXlfSuy6JRD2G833hwWatch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/2dNSmHBSzmw?si=lllANJMl0EpCEkiz

Jay DeMerit's path to professional soccer reads like a fairy tale, but he'll be the first to tell you it wasn't supposed to happen the way it did. No academy. No draft. Just a backpack, $1,800, and a willingness to knock on doors in the ninth division of English soccer. Within three years, he was captaining Watford in the Premier League. By 2010, he was a starter on the US World Cup team.But what Jay saw when he left the game in 2014 troubled him deeply: a youth sports system built around money, comparison, and results that was producing broken teenagers instead of confident, capable young people. So he decided to do something about it.In this wide-ranging conversation, Jay unpacks why his unconventional journey was actually powered by creativity, multi-sport development, and soft skills — and why today's system is actively working against those same things. He breaks down the inverted triangle at the heart of youth sports, where business and parents come before the child, and makes a compelling case for why holistic development, mentorship, and identity formation are the real work of youth sport.Jay also opens up about co-parenting a 10-year-old son with Olympic gold medalist Ashleigh McIvor, the comparison pressure his son already faces, and what he's had to unlearn as a sideline parent after a lifetime of being the loudest voice in the room.And he pulls back the curtain on Rise and Shine, tech platform he's been building for over four years that aims to bring mentorship, holistic learning, and real-world skill development to young athletes everywhere, regardless of geography or income. Chapters00:00 Opening and Introduction04:06 Why Jay chose youth development after his playing career06:50 The broken teenagers calling him from Premier League academies08:30 Why he stopped selling what he didn't believe in09:07 How creativity allowed him to become great13:13 How his youth sports experience shaped his creativity16:19 What his parents focused on and the safety they gave him to take risks19:11 Why process thinking beats results thinking every time19:49 Why Jay didn't focus on soccer until 1922:13 How a basketball mindset turned him into an elite soccer defender27:47 From the 9th division to Premier League captain in three years31:24 Does today's youth sports system foster creativity and multi-sport?34:11 The silo problem, and why "holistic" programs aren't actually holistic38:57 What Rise and Shine was built to do — and how it works40:38 What parents can actually do to push for better programming43:28 Global clubs shifting away from the pathway-to-pro narrative47:38 Can the Jay DeMerit story still happen today?51:05 What Rise and Shine the documentary sparked54:03 How the Rise and Shine camp evolved into a tech platform1:01:25 Addressing the "I don't want my kid on their phone more" concern1:05:12 Affordability and access in Canada1:07:36 How to properly develop leadership through sport1:11:16 Identity, early specialization, and decoupling self-worth from results1:16:34 The comparison pressure his son already faces1:19:07 Learning to shut up on the sideline — Jay's hardest parenting lesson1:20:23 The biggest issue in youth sports todayResources:Jay DeMerit | MLSsoccer.comRise and Shine Documentary https://youtu.be/GtSYAUn2I7I?si=dv6xKDe8fFJUDluE Home | RISExSHINE

Amar Doman didn't make it as a professional athlete, but sport shaped everything about the man, the father, and the business leader he became. In 2021, Amar purchased the BC Lions and has been one of the CFL's most community-invested owners ever since. He's also a husband, a father of three, and a youth football coach who has spent years learning what it really means to develop kids not just players. In this conversation with host Scott Rintoul, Amar opens up about the lessons sport taught him that carried seamlessly into business, why he believes contact sports like football and rugby build a kind of team camaraderie you simply can't find anywhere else, and what he's learned coaching his own son that changed how he parents all three of his kids. Amar and Scott also tackle some of the biggest challenges facing youth sport today — from the affordability crisis that is quietly excluding families across Canada, to the smartphone epidemic that's eroding the locker room culture, and game IQ that great athletes are built on. This is a wide-ranging, honest, and deeply practical conversation for any parent who wants to raise a confident, resilient, hard-working young person, whether they're chasing a championship or just learning to love the game. Chapters 0:00 Opening & Inroduction 3:21 Was owning a pro team always the dream? 4:20 Growing up in Victoria: rugby, basketball & backyard football 6:24 His parents' hands-off approach to sport 7:33 Staying active beyond youth sport 8:30 Coaching his own kids 10:23 What he actually wants his kids to get from sport 11:11 How sport transfers directly into business 12:18 Integrity: the same lessons show up everywhere 13:30 Why sport is a safe place to fail 14:27 Separating "dad" from "coach" on the field 17:04 How he's evolved as a coach year over year 19:44 Managing parents on the sideline 21:25 Listen before you react 22:32 Rotating players and what development really means 25:53 Why he chose football for his boys 27:35 How tackling is taught today vs. a generation ago 29:15 Football & rugby: a place for every body type 31:11 Flag football, the Olympics & BC's growth 32:41 Advice for parents on the sideline 34:10 How coaching made him a better sports parent 35:48 Where does equal play end and earned time begin? 37:02 The affordability crisis & what the Lions are doing about it 41:17 Merit-based sport vs. wealth-based sport 42:02 Can community sport make a comeback? 44:26 Where his values came from 46:11 Navigating social media with three kids 47:56 Should coaches address social media with players? 49:49 Highlight reels vs. full game film 52:37 The biggest issue in youth sports today 55:24 Why Amar chose to be a hands-on owner 56:45 Do sports backgrounds give people a business edge? Resources: https://www.bclions.com/amar-doman/ Follow Amar on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/amar.doman/?hl=en

Trevor Linden played 19 seasons in the NHL, captained the Vancouver Canucks to the 1994 Stanley Cup Final, and performed under the most intense pressure imaginable. But as a sports parent to his 8-year-old son? He's about as low-pressure as it gets. In this honest conversation, the former Canucks captain shares why he didn't need his son to play hockey, why parents are caught in an "arms race" mentality, and why travel tournaments to major markets for teams with very young players have become the expected entry point to youth sports. Trevor challenges the notion that more ice time, more skills training, and more travel equals better development. He advocates for bringing sports back to schools and community centers, questions why we've lost street hockey culture, and delivers a gut-punch reality check about families who can't afford to let their kids play. Key Topics Discussed: Why Trevor's parents' hands-off approach shaped his NHL career The "arms race" mentality destroying youth sports enjoyment Travel tournament culture and the pressure it puts on families Why "if a kid is going to reach a high level, he's going to get there regardless" Affordability and access issues in Canadian youth sports The loss of outdoor rinks and street hockey culture Multi-sport development and letting kids find their passion Why coaches gaming 11-year-old umpires is embarrassing Subscribe to Better Sports Parents for conversations with world-class athletes who understand what youth sports should actually be about. Chapters 00:00 Opening 01:35 Introduction03:17 Youth Sports: Then vs. Now 04:25 Growing Up in Medicine Hat: The Outdoor Rink Era 06:17 Parents Who Weren't Sports People 10:20 Raising a Son in Today's Hockey Environment 13:55 "I Didn't Need Him to Play Hockey" 17:30 Roman's Hockey Journey: Quit at 5, Returned at 7 21:45 Travel Tournament Expectation 25:10 Chicago, Toronto, Las Vegas: When Did This Become Normal? 28:40 "If a Kid Is Going to Reach High Level, He's Getting There" 32:15 The Arms Race Mentality Among Parents 36:50 The 11-Year-Old Umpire Story 40:25 "Let's Do the Right Thing. Who Cares Who Wins?" 44:10 Multi-Sport Development48:35 The Pressure Parents Put on Themselves 52:20 Street Hockey & Outdoor Rinks: What We've Lost 55:40 Intimate Partner Violence: Using Platform for Good 01:00:21 The Most Pressing Issue: Affordability and Access 01:02:12 The Gut Punch: "We Can't Afford to Play Hockey" 01:03:50 75% Don't Know About Financial Assistance Programs 01:04:15 Awareness of Jumpstart, KidSport & Similar Organizations About Trevor Linden: 19 NHL seasons (Vancouver, NY Islanders, Montreal, Washington) Captain of the 1994 Stanley Cup Final team Olympian 1998Former President of Hockey Operations, Vancouver Canucks Advocate for physical health, mental health & intimate partner violence awareness Resources: Canadian Men's Health Foundation https://menshealthfoundation.ca/champions/trevor-linden/ PSA for Intimate Partner Violence Awareness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R236gWQqB_o Follow Trevor Linden on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/trevor_linden/?hl=en

Terry McKaig built the most successful post-secondary baseball program in Canada's history at UBC, sending players to the MLB draft year after year. But if you asked him now, there are many things he would have done differently—especially in the first half of his coaching career.In this raw and honest conversation, Terry opens up about his transformation from a "hardcore, intense" 24-year-old coach who relied on intimidation to someone who completely changed his approach after his daughter was born. He shares the coaching regrets he carries, the dangerous trends he's witnessing in youth sports today, and why the overtraining epidemic is breaking young athletes' bodies.As a father who lost his wife Davina to mental health struggles, Terry also brings a powerful perspective on what truly matters in sports and life—and why we need to stop letting parental guilt drive our children's athletic decisions.Key Topics Discussed:The overtraining crisis: 9-year-olds playing baseball 10 months a yearWhy parents are driven by guilt instead of their child's actual dreamsHow becoming a father completely changed Terry's coaching philosophyThe imposter syndrome that led to his early "intimidation" coaching styleParent behavior at games and the referee shortage crisisWhy specialization vs. multi-sport is more complex than we thinkMental health, accountability, and the role of trust in coachingHow sport translates to life (and how Terry now coaches construction workers)Subscribe to Better Sports Parents for conversations with world-class performers who aren't afraid to share their mistakes, wisdom, and the lessons they learned the hard way.Chapters00:00 Opening01:35 Introduction: Terry McKaig's Background03:15 Looking Back at a Coaching Career04:50 The Intimidation Style: Coaching at 24 Years Old06:51 The Overlap Between Coaching and Parenting09:30 The Parental Guilt Trap: "I Better Not Screw This Up"12:45 Whose Dream Is It Really? 16:20 The Daughter Who Changed Everything19:35 Coaching Philosophy Transformation23:10 What Athletes Actually Need From Coaches27:40 The Overtraining Epidemic in Youth Sports32:15 Nine-Year-Olds Playing 10 Months of Baseball36:50 Parent Behavior: The Email Terry Sent41:25 The Referee Shortage Crisis45:30 When Sports Don't Have Enough Officials49:45 Specialization vs. Multi-Sport: The Reality54:20 The Top 1% vs. What Most Athletes Need58:35 Small Town Advantages and Disadvantages01:02:10 Playing With Better Players: Development Factor01:06:45 Being Around Talented Athletes Daily01:11:30 Taking Sport Into the Corporate World01:15:20 Coaching Construction Workers Through Mental Health01:18:06 Sport as Life Preparation01:20:03 Losing Davina: Mental Health and Accountability01:21:46 Trust at the Core of CoachingAbout Terry McKaig:Built UBC baseball into Canada's top university programFormer Canadian national team playerSent players to MLB draft annuallyNow works as an accountability coach helping construction workers with mental healthFather and widower with profound perspective on sport and life balanceResources:https://actu8agency.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/terry-mckaig/

Olympic gold medalist Steve Mesler (Vancouver 2010, Bobsled) delivers a nuanced perspective on youth sports that challenges both the "winning is everything" and "winning doesn't matter" camps. As co-founder of Classroom Champions and a father navigating today's youth sports landscape, Steve explores the complex relationship between achievement, self-worth, and the purpose of sport.This conversation digs deep into uncomfortable truths: Why do we tell kids winning doesn't matter while screaming at the TV during playoffs? Can we value podium performance AND lifelong participation? Steve shares insights from his Olympic journey, working with elite athletes as a performance coach, and raising his own children in an era of intense sports pressure.Key Topics Discussed:The paradox of achievement in sportSeparating results from self-worthWhy it's okay to be sad when you loseThe danger of "either/or" thinking in youth sportsBroadening success metrics for young athletesThe American vs. Canadian approach to youth sportsCreating space for both competition and participationChapters00:00 Introduction05:13 Steve's Athletic Journey & Early Influences06:45 Defining Success in Youth Sports08:20 Access to Sports as a Child 09:58 The Current Landscape of Youth Sports Specialization13:13 Formative Experiences and Lessons from Losing17:53 The Need to Be Explicit about Lessons from Sport19:27 Steve's Difficult Battle with Depression 23:05 Asking for Help and Overcoming Depression30:13 The Role of Hope in Recovery32:57 Classroom Champions: Empowering Youth Through Sports38:25 Navigating Youth Sports: Balancing Passion and Pressure42:17 Treating Sports Like Other Healthy Habits for Kids46:18 Changing the Value Proposition in Youth Sports48:05 The Complexities of Hockey Culture in Canada53:30 The Culture of Entitlement in Sports56:20 Defining Success Through Sports01:00:02 Long-Term Athlete Development & Bobsledding01:02:54 What Makes a Good Coach in Youth Sports?01:06:54 Trust and Communication in Coach-Athlete Relationships01:12:12 Redefining Success in Sports01:17:40 Balancing Winning & Personal Growth in SportsResources: Steve Mesler | Executive Performance CoachingClassroom Champions

Former NHL star Brendan Morrison (900+ games, West Coast Express) shares hard-earned wisdom from raising four Division I athletes. He challenges the "elite" youth sports culture that's pyramiding kids too early, discusses why banning parent coaches is often misguided, and reveals how his children took completely different paths to high-level athletics. In this episode, Brendan tackles tough topics: parents yelling at young referees, the false promise of early specialization, and why keeping expectations realistic is crucial for both parent and child wellbeing. If you're navigating the increasingly intense world of youth sports, this conversation offers perspective from someone who's lived it at the highest level—both as a player and a parent. Key Topics Discussed: Why labeling kids "elite" at young ages is problematic The dangers of early sports specialization How to handle referee abuse at youth games Why qualified parent coaches should be allowed behind the bench Different paths to Division I athletics Keeping realistic expectations as a sports parent Subscribe to Better Sports Parents for more conversations with Olympic athletes, professional sports stars, and experts who understand what truly matters in youth athletics. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 04:06 Detailing his Children's Youth Sports' Paths to the NCAA 07:15 How Youth Sports has Changed over the Past 20 Years 09:02 Kids Being Recruited for Travel Teams at 7 or 8 Years Old 10:24 Why His Kids Didn't Specialize in One Sport 15:35 Parental Behaviour He's Witnessed First-Hand 19:20 Coaching Your Own Kid 24:20 When a Parent Lost His Temper with Brendan 28:40 How Much Development Should Be Unstructured? 31:50 The Difference with Multi-Sport Athletes 35:40 Managing Parents Expectations 39:14 Changing NCAA Schools: His Son's Story 43:04 Brendan's Late Specialization in Hockey 44:56 His Parents Approach to Youth Sports 49:28 Versatility & Work Ethic: The Keys to Making the NHL 55:35 Challenges in Youth Sports Today 01:05:19 Finding the Right Balance in Youth Sports 01:07:23 Coaches and Referees: Retention Crisis 01:10:44 Why Parent Coaches Shouldn't Be Banned 01:13:52 Vetting Coaches: Skills vs. Character 01:14:45 Biggest Issue in Youth Sports Today About Brendan Morrison: Hobey Baker Award winner (top NCAA player, 1997) 900+ NHL games with 7 teams, including the legendary West Coast Express line Father of four Division I athletes Host of Reel West Coast Resources: ⁠https://www.hockey-reference.com/players/m/morribr01.html https://reelwestcoastfishing.com/

A 20-year veteran of Team Canada, Kim Gaucher shares her journey from a high school basketball star to a professional athlete and coach. She discusses the significance of youth sports in fostering social skills, resilience, and teamwork. Kim emphasizes the importance of parents modeling behaviour in teaching their children about sports, the benefits of multi-sport participation, and the challenges of access and affordability in youth sports today. She also highlights the cultural differences in youth sports between Europe and North America, the impact of social media, and the growing importance of mental health awareness in sports. Kim also reflects on the pressures faced by young athletes and the evolving landscape of women's sports.Among the key topics Kim discusses in this conversation:Why getting CUT from provincial teams was the best thing for her developmentHow social media is impacting young athletes' mental healthThe lack of accountability in youth sports programsWhat parents should actually look for in coachesKim's story is a masterclass in resilience—from being a shy kid who hated dance class to becoming Team Canada's captain for 9 years and playing professionally for two decades. Her insights on parenting, coaching, and the commercialization of youth sports are essential listening for every sports parent.Chapters:0:00 Introduction04:40 How Team Sports Changed Kim's Life05:35 Family Values that Show Up in Youth Sport06:50 Early Sports Memories: Dance and Soccer08:39 How Her Coach Made Soccer Fun10:44 A Childhood Filled with Free Play12:55 Parents Who Modeled Hard Work & Commitment15:23 When Basketball Became Her Passion17:16 Multi-Sport Athlete: Why It Mattered20:45 The Access Crisis in Canadian Basketball22:46 European Model vs. North American System29:00 School-Based Teams & Development33:35 The Current Focus on Individual Skills vs. Team Understanding35:40 The Lost Art of Problem-Solving38:10 How Kim's Parents Acted in the Stands39:53 Learning Through Trial & Error42:15 The Beneficiary of Great Coaches44:15 Sport Lessons She Takes into Parenting45:40 Defining Success in Youth Sports47:15 Social Media's Dark Side for Athletes52:46 Why Women's Sports Are Exploding54:06 Mental Health in Youth Sports58:40 Pressure in Today's Youth Sports59:55 Financial Pressure on Parents & Kids1:03:24 What Sport Teaches You for Life1:05:17 Career Reflections: Growing Team Canada1:06:42 The Biggest Issue in Youth Sports1:09:34 How to Evaluate Good CoachingResources: ⁠Kim Gaucher - Team Canada⁠

Hockey Hall of Famer Geraldine Heaney, who scored the game-winning goal in the first Women's World Championship and won Olympic gold, shares what's broken in youth hockey and her view on how to fix it.From pioneer player to coaching her own kids, Geraldine has seen it all: as a multi-sport athlete who taught herself the game, as an elite player, and now as a parent navigating today's youth hockey landscape.Geraldine coached at the professional and university levels and currently coaches U18 AA, the highest level of girls' hockey in Ontario. She doesn't sugarcoat: too many kids are overtrained (7+ times per week), parents have unrealistic expectations, and a lot of talented players don't understand the game.But she sees hope in kids who play for the right reasons, rare multi-sport athletes, and memories that outlast trophies.Key Issues Geraldine Tackles:Parents coaching from the sidelinesHockey's affordability problemUnrealistic expectations from parentsSocial media's dark sideWhy kids need to watch hockey to understand itHer approach to coaching her own kidsAbout Geraldine Heaney:Hockey Hall of Fame (2013) & IIHF Hall of Fame (2008)First Women's World Championship game-winning goal (1990)7 World Championship golds, Olympic gold (2002), Olympic silver (1998)Mother of two former competitive hockey playersChapters:00:00 Introduction03:50 The Growth of Women's Professional Hockey05:17 How Geraldine Got Started in Hockey08:00 Multi-Sport Athlete: Playing Everything09:07 How Multi-Sport Made Her a Hall of Famer10:26 What's Missing in Youth Sports Today11:22 The Pathway to Burnout13:25 Coaching U18 AA: Multi-Sport Athletes Are Gone15:56 Why Coaches Pressure Year-Round Specialization18:40 The Cost Crisis: Pricing Families Out of Hockey20:43 What Kids Should Get From Sport (Not Scholarships)26:00 Coaching Your Own Kids: The Challenges28:33 Parents Coaching from the Stands32:20 The Advantage of Having Parents Who Didn't Know Hockey33:58 What Kept Her in Hockey When There Was No Pathway35:47 Supporting as a Parent vs. Being Overbearing42:45 Why Kids Need to Watch Hockey45:47 Social Media's Impact on Young Athletes48:40 Mental Health in Youth Sports53:35 Pulling a Player Aside: Teaching vs. Attitude56:20 Advice for Parents Feeling the Pressure59:08 The Biggest Issue in Youth Sports Today59:56 Why She's Passionate About Youth SportsResources: ⁠⁠Legends of Hockey - Induction Showcase - Geraldine Heaney

Three-time Olympic gold medalist and Canadian Senator Marnie McBean joins Better Sports Parents to discuss the crisis facing youth sports in Canada and what we can do about it.From her rowing career to raising her 10-year-old daughter Isabel, Marnie shares insights on why multi-sport participation matters more than early specialization, how we're monetizing youth sports at kids' expense, and why confidence, not medals, should be the goal.Key topics include:Why Canadian boys might not finding their best sports (hint: it's the hockey pipeline)The difference between structured vs. unstructured playHow parents can support without backseat-coachingWhy we need tax incentives for coaches and multi-sport familiesThe future of sport in CanadaMarnie doesn't hold back on what's broken, but more importantly, she offers actionable solutions for parents, coaches, and policymakers who want to keep kids in sport longer and healthier.🎙️ Better Sports Parents helps families navigate youth sports with confidence, perspective, and purpose.👉 Subscribe for conversations with world-class athletes, coaches, and expertsChapters00:00 Introduction03:54 Why youth health and sport became Marnie's life mission05:47 Sport as the fun vehicle for improving quality of life08:31 Structured vs. unstructured play: What's missing today09:51 The privilege problem: Who gets access to youth sports?11:43 Multi-sport participation: Why it matters more than specialization17:30 Marnie's childhood: No specialization, just trying things22:40 Why Canadian boys may be missing sports outside of hockey24:54 What kept Marnie in sport while growing up26:24 What keeps athletes motivated beyond winning30:00 Letting kids bring their personality (yes, even the nails and makeup)33:29 The monetization of youth sports36:55 What does "winning" mean for your child?39:46 Lessons from around the world: Patience and perspective42:25 Let kids choose their sports44:07 Should parents stay at practice?46:47 The biggest distraction at the Olympics: Friends & family49:30 Building trust between coaches and parents54:46 The recreational pathway gap for teenagers57:23 Don't forget individual sports01:01:11 How can Canada improve the youth sports environment?01:03:24 Tax incentives for multi-sport and coaching stipendsResources:Senator Marnie McBean https://sencanada.ca/en/senators/mcbean-marnie/Jumpstart State of Play 2024 https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0122/8124/9892/files/State-of-Play-2024-EN.pdf?v=1713368242

Courtesy of Mas+ by Messi, Jesse Marsch, coach of Canada's National Men's Soccer Team, joins Better Sports Parents to share lessons from his playing career in MLS, managing in Europe, and raising three children across multiple countries and cultures.From playing for the US National Team to coaching the New York Red Bulls and leading clubs in Germany, Austria, and England, Jesse has seen youth sports development from every angle. Now as a father of three grown children who played sports around the world, he offers unique insights into what actually matters in youth athletics.Jesse Marsch doesn't give parenting advice: he gives coaching insights rooted in decades of professional experience and the lessons learned from watching his own three children navigate sports across the globe. This is an episode for every parent wondering whether they're doing it right, every coach trying to create the right environment, and every young athlete who just wants to love the game.KeyTopics Discussed:How sports became the bridge for his kids to adapt to new culturesThe Biggest Problem in Youth SportsCreating Space for Free PlayWhy the best players in the world grew up playing on the streets, not in structured environmentsThe Pay-to-Play RealityCoaching Your Own KidsBody Language on the SidelinesYouth DevelopmentCreating Club IdentityThe Canadian National Team ValuesAbout Jesse Marsch:Current Head Coach, Canada Men's National TeamFormer Head Coach: New York Red Bulls, Leeds United, RB Leipzig, Red Bull SalzburgFormer MLS player (14 years) and US National Team playerFather of three who have played sports in 8+ countriesChapters:00:00 Introduction05:30 The Evolution of MLS Since Jesse's Playing Days07:02 The Nomadic Coaching Lifestyle as a Parent09:10 How Sports Created Community in Every Country11:53 German HALA Tournaments: Pure Joy & Fun16:14 The Importance of Free Play20:20 Jesse's Evolution as a Sports Parent23:46 Jesse's Parents: Hands-Off But Held Him Accountable25:24 Teammates Who Shaped His Understanding of Leadership27:43 The Selflessness of Great Teammates30:00 Balancing Individual Drive with Team Selflessness32:47 The New York Red Bulls Parent Transformation Story36:45 Developing a Rapport with Parents39:54 The Pay-to-Play Model: Reality and Concerns44:16 What Should Parents Measure Success By?49:53 How Parents Unintentionally Put Pressure on Kids52:20 The Father Who Told His 8-Year-Old to "Shut Up"55:32 Jesse's Personal Values & Canadian Culture Alignment58:49 The Team's Character: 25 Games Without Playing Poorly1:01:53 How to Evaluate a Volunteer Coach1:05:04 What Makes a Healthy Sports Organization1:09:22 Building the DNA of Canadian1:11:24 The Biggest Issue in Youth Sports Today1:13:49 Closing ThoughtsResources: https://canadasoccer.com/profile/?id=56831&teamId=2068

Sports agent and advisor Ross Gurney shares his unique perspective on youth sports from both sides - as a professional who's guided players through leagues like the NHL & CFL and as a father navigating the youth sports environment with his own two children.With clients like Duncan Keith, Devon Toews, and Zach Benson, Ross has seen what it actually takes to make it to the highest levels of sport. But his message might surprise you: it's not about early specialization, elite camps, or rushing up levels. Instead, Ross advocates for "overcooking"—playing level-appropriate hockey where kids get more reps and meaningful roles.In this conversation, Ross discusses:Why early specialization is concerning from both a professional and parental lensThe dangerous overuse of the word "elite" in youth sportsHow good people can become "crazy sports parents" in one sport but not anotherWhat coaches actually want (hint: it's not always the stat-sheet leaders)Warning signs for parents when evaluating programs and organizationsWhy the biggest issue in youth sports today is access and facilitiesHow to identify a child's unique "internal scorecard" beyond traditional statisticsRoss also shares the powerful moment when his own son told him, "Dad, I don't think I want to be a hockey player"—and why that conversation was actually "really cool."Whether your child dreams of playing professionally or your focus is on wanting them to develop a lifelong love of sport, this episode offers invaluable wisdom on keeping joy, passion, and authentic play at the center of the youth sports experience.Chapters00:00 Introduction03:28 Breaking Into the Sports Agency Business06:48 Growing Up With Unstructured Play in Kelowna07:54 Parents' Hands-Off Approach to Youth Sports11:02 What Ross Sees in Today's Youth Sports Landscape12:13 Why Early Specialization Is Concerning13:10 Recognizing Kids Who Lack Joy in Their Sport14:12 How Good Parents Become "Crazy Sports Parents"15:53 Navigating His Own Child's Hockey Journey16:30 "I Don't Think I Want to Be a Hockey Player"18:45 Dealing With the Pressure of the Family Business19:26 What "Slow Down" Means for Youth Sports Parents21:05 Most Common Questions Parents Ask Ross23:15 "What Do We Need to Do to Get Seen?"25:20 How Life Changes When Sports Becomes a Business28:14 The Conflict of Talking to 14-Year-Olds About Pro Aspirations30:14 Elite: A Dangerous Word in Youth Sports33:43 The Business of Youth Sports & Skill Development36:27 Passion and the Internal Scorecard37:50 Finding Each Player's Contribution41:40 What Sport Has Brought to His Children's Lives43:18 What a Sports Agent Actually Is (At Their Best)46:28 Satisfaction Beyond a Client Going Pro49:50 The Philosophy of "Overcooking"52:52 Warning Signs: When to Walk Away From a Family54:56 What Coaches Actually Want vs. What Parents Think They Want57:16 Warning Signs in Organizations for Parents01:01:35 Lack of Recreational Pathways for Teenagers01:04:35 The Biggest Issue in Youth Sports Today: Access

Former CFL centre and Grey Cup champion Angus Reid discusses the troubling state of youth sports, the business model destroying accessibility, and what it really means to develop champions. Reid, now a high school football coach and author of "⁠Teenager: A Story About Finding Your Way⁠," shares why he refuses to charge kids for coaching, how parents unknowingly harm their children's development, and the critical difference between being demanding and demeaning.In this conversation, Reid reveals his approach to building resilience in teenagers, why he quit football in grade 8, and the coaching philosophy that keeps kids coming back. He challenges the year-round specialization model, advocates for multi-sport participation, and explains why the real goal isn't winning championships -- it's creating high-agency people who can handle life's challenges.KEY TOPICS:The privatization crisis in youth sports and its impact on accessibilityWhy Reid coaches for free and refuses to monetize youth developmentThe difference between coaching to win vs. coaching to developHow to build real confidence (not false bravado) in teenagersThe danger of waiting for external validationWhy football shouldn't be played until high schoolCreating environments where bringing your best is normalizedThe power of asking kids what they want from sports🔔 Subscribe to Better Sports Parents for more conversations about youth sports, parenting, and coaching#YouthSports #Coaching #Parenting #Football #AthleteDevelopment #teenagers #SportsParenting #HighSchoolSports #CFLChapters00:00 Introduction04:18 The Current Youth Sports Landscape04:42 The Business Model Problem in Youth Sports06:20 Defining Success and Winning in Youth Sports10:50 Why Angus Wrote "Teenager"12:10 Becoming Somebody vs. Wanting Things15:46 The Difficulty of Being a Teenager16:15 Why Angus Advocates for Difficult Challenges19:42 Finding the Courage to Join Football in Grade 1123:41 Balancing Firm Coaching with Positive Support25:10 Asking Kids What They Want from Sports29:52 The Duty to Give Back - Why Angus Coaches for Free31:28 Parental Investment and Healthy Sports Participation35:35 Multi-Sport Benefits Beyond Physical Development37:46 Learning from Angus's Parents45:30 Post-Game Conversations with Kids49:08 Was Football Ever Not Fun?54:20 The Mission: Raising Better Youth01:00:33 Why Football Despite Safety Concerns?01:02:11 The Evolution from Contact to Collision Sport01:06:33 How Parents Can Identify Good Coaches01:09:46 The Unlimited Impact of Coaches01:11:02 Making Kids Want to Be CoachedResources: https://angusreid.ca/book-teenager/

Former Canadian national team soccer player Steve Kindel shares invaluable insights on youth sports development through the lens of a player, a parent, and a coach. As Senior Technical Director for North Vancouver FC, father to NHL player Ben Kindel and Canada U17 soccer player Lacey, plus husband to former national team player Sara, Steve offers a unique perspective on balancing competition with healthy development.Among the issues Steve discusses in this episode:✅ The benefits and drawbacks of early sport specialization✅ How multi-sport participation develops better athletes✅ Managing playing time conversations with parents✅ When and how to implement age-appropriate tiering✅ The decision to let Ben leave home at 16 for major junior hockey✅ Why compete level matters more than outcome✅ The impact of social media and video games on youth sports✅ Cost barriers and accessibility challenges in modern youth sportsConnect with Better Sports Parents:🎙️ Subscribe for more expert insights on youth sports parenting📧 Share your thoughts and questions in the comments👍 Like if you found this valuableChapters00:00 Introduction06:18 Developing Competitiveness as a Youth Player09:21 Nature vs. Nurture: Can You Teach Compete?10:15 Understanding When Youth Engage in Sports12:53 The Four Pillars of Player Development16:22 Building Strong Parent-Coach Relationships20:52 Common Parent Concerns: Playing Time & Selection23:58 Club Philosophy: Healthy Lifestyle Beyond Youth25:51 Zooming Out: Long-Term Development Goals32:10 Tiering Young Players: When and How?39:14 Fluid Systems and Late Bloomers41:24 Removing Adult Pressure from Kids' Sports44:42 Steve's Youth Development and His Parents' Approach47:27 Are We Better Off Now? Accessibility & Free Play49:15 Connor Bedard's Path vs Patrick Kane's Path51:20 Teaching Kids to Miss Their Sport53:01 Multi-Sport Benefits: Soccer's Impact on Hockey IQ57:57 The Tough Decision: Leaving Home at 161:02:56 Fostering Love Without Parental Pressure1:06:43 The School Sports Debate1:11:07 The Biggest Challenge in Youth Sports1:15:32 Trying to Parent in the Social Media & Smart Phone EraResources: https://nvfc.ca/

Former NHL captain Andrew Ladd opens up about the hard truths facing kids in today’s youth sports system and what parents must change to help their children thrive. From early specialization to unhealthy pressure, entitlement, burnout, and the myth of the “perfect path,” Andrew shares powerful lessons from his pro career, his parenting journey, and years spent studying youth development after retirement. He also details "1616" - a mental health initiative he founded to equip young hockey players, coaches, and parents with tools to navigate the challenges that arise in both sport and life.If you’re a parent, coach, or athlete, this episode will shift the way you think about growth, motivation, confidence, mental skills, and why fun is the fuel kids actually need.Topics include:• Why today’s youth sport model pushes kids out too early• The critical difference between development and performance• How parents unintentionally block growth• Why success is never linear• The emotional skills kids must learn to thrive long-term• What Andrew wishes every parent understood sooner• How we can rebuild sports into a healthier, more joyful experienceChapters00:00 Introduction03:45 Life as a sports parent with three kids04:30 Multi-sport benefits and free play06:41 The loss of Free Play for today's kids10:55 Growing up with inclusion and special needs family members14:17 The importance of modelling behaviour as a parent15:16 How Andrew's parents approached youth sports17:57 Falling in love with hockey18:56 His grandfather as his biggest advocate22:07 Being a late bloomer and getting cut from teams25:00 Playing the long game in athlete development27:35 Teaching kids what "hard work" actually means29:12 How coaches and parents unintentionally create pressure32:36 Career struggles and mental health challenges38:35 Getting help from a mental performance coach39:36 Introduction to 1616 and the buffalo metaphor45:19 Making 1616 accessible to everyone49:19 The car ride home after the game55:41 How tools from 1616 might have helped Andrew as a teenager57:36 Helping today's youth open up about their challenges59:25 How coaches can benefit from 161601:01:55 Advice for youth coaches01:04:10 Setting expectations with parents01:06:12 Stop directing your kids from the stands01:07:33 Social media's impact on youth athletes01:11:15 Identity beyond sport01:13:25 Biggest issue in youth sports: Early specializationResources:https://1616.org/

Will Loftus didn't start playing football until grade 10, yet he went on to win two Grey Cups and play 11 years in the CFL.In this episode, the BC Football Hall of Fame inductee and founder of Game Ready Fitness shares game-changing insights for parents navigating youth sports today.What You'll Learn:✅ Why starting sports late can still lead to professional success✅ The power of multi-sport participation for athletic development✅ How to identify quality coaches who truly develop young athletes✅ When (and if) kids should specialize in one sport✅ Breaking down barriers to sports access for all families✅ The difference between fitting in vs. truly belonging in youth sports✅ How to handle tryouts, cuts, and disappointment with your child✅ Why physical literacy matters more than elite performance for most kidsWill's mission through Game Ready Fitness and the Washington Kids Foundation ensures every child has access to quality coaching and mentorship, regardless of background or skill level.His message to parents: Be present. Be your child's biggest cheerleader. You are their greatest coach.Chapters00:00 Introduction03:54 The Impact of Youth Sports on Personal Development05:43 Parental Influence on Will's Youth Sports Experience07:25 The Role of Multi-Sport Participation09:31 Transitioning to Football: A New Passion14:48 The Importance of Coaches and Mentorship19:02 Football: A Game of Inclusion22:57 Founding Game Ready Fitness: A New Direction25:37 Expanding Access and Inclusion in Youth Sports31:09 Impact on the Entire Family34:35 Navigating the Modern Youth Sports Landscape37:03 How do Youth Responsibly Specialize in a Sport?37:50 Advice for Overwhelmed Parents40:25 Developing the Whole Athlete43:14 Building Confidence Through Sports46:45 Creating a Sense of Belonging48:52 Navigating Youth Sports as a Parent51:18 Trusting Coaches and Their Decisions56:00 The Reality of Competition in Youth Sports01:00:34 Finding Quality Coaches01:06:43 Coaches: Take Ownership of Mistakes01:07:34 The Lasting Impact a Coach can HaveResources:https://gamereadyfitness.com/

Former NCAA Division 1 and professional soccer player John O’Sullivan, founder of Changing the Game Project, joins Scott Rintoul for a powerful and eye-opening conversation about the biggest issues in youth sports today – and how parents can fix them.From “joysticking” kids on the sidelines to early specialization, car-ride coaching, toxic environments, fear-based decisions, and the loss of free play, John breaks down why so many well-intentioned parents accidentally harm their child’s long-term development and what to do instead.You’ll learn:• Why shouting instructions (“shoot!”, “pass!”, “go wide!”) steals vital reps from kids• How to build motivated, resilient, self-driven athletes• The difference between talent selection and talent identification• What healthy sideline support ACTUALLY looks like• How parents, coaches, and clubs can work together• Why “I love watching you play” changes everythingIf you want your child to truly thrive in sports — physically, mentally, emotionally — this episode is essential.Subscribe for more conversations with world-class coaches, athletes, and experts improving youth sports.Chapters 00:00 Introduction03:34 Why John launched Changing the Game Project05:45 “Parents losing the plot”07:30 The danger of “joysticking” kids during games09:28 What positive sideline support actually looks like11:29 John’s own parenting mistakes13:40 How John’s parents shaped his athletic journey15:12 The importance of multi-sport backgrounds20:14 Would John succeed today?21:28 Why early talent selection fails kids22:57 Talent identification vs. talent selection26:00 The most logical North Star in youth sports29:00 The death of free play & how to bring it back31:53 Phones vs. play: the changing childhood34:36 John’s coaching philosophy and how to create joy37:37 What coach training often misses40:00 Holding parents accountable in clubs41:58 How parents unintentionally focus on the wrong things43:50 “I love watching you play”: why it’s magic47:20 How do parents eliminate car coaching?49:47 John’s approach with his own kids51:56 The FOMO trap in youth sports55:40 Healthy coach-parent communication59:18 What responsible tiering really looks like in youth sports1:04:05 Why development must stay fluid1:06:13 Kids want to play, not sit1:08:10 The most common problems John is hired to solve1:10:18 The growing crisis of access to youth sports1:12:14 Final thoughts and closingResources:Changing the Game Project https://changingthegameproject.com/John's 2014 Tedx Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VXw0XGOVQvw

Shane Doan, a former NHL player and current special advisor for the Toronto Maple Leafs, shares his insights on youth sports, parenting, and the importance of community in sports. He discusses his own experiences growing up in a small town, the value of playing multiple sports, and the challenges of coaching his own children. Shane emphasizes the significance of letting children experience both success and failure, embracing what's best for the team over the individual, and the role of sports in teaching life lessons.Chapters 00:00 Introduction03:37 Why Shane Cares Deeply About Youth Sports04:55 Parenting from the Sidelines06:20 What He Wanted His Kids to Get From Sports07:30 Learning as a Parent from Different Sports08:30 Dealing with Expectations and Legacy Pressure10:15 Teaching Confidence and Perspective12:25 Josh Doan’s Journey: The Long Game14:55 The Kamloops Moment: Testing Desire17:50 Letting Kids Choose Their Path19:15 The Value of Failure20:30 Guiding, Not Controlling23:05 Learning Through Failure (and a Little Humor)28:20 Playing the Game the Right Way31:40 Small-Town Roots: Halkirk, Alberta33:15 Community vs. Club Sports36:50 Multi-Sport Benefits and Perspective38:50 Balancing Club and School Sports41:30 Longevity Through Athletic Diversity43:45 Lessons from His Parents45:22 Managing Pressure and Emotions49:20 Listening Instead of Fixing51:20 The “Anything Is Possible” Mindset53:00 Coaching Your Own Child55:00 Influential Coaches and Mentors56:30 Navigating Parental Relationships as a Coach59:00 Building People, Not Just Players01:00:30 The Social Media Challenge01:03:20 Highlights vs. Real Life01:05:00 Parenting and Social Media Boundaries01:06:50 The Biggest Issue in Youth Sports Today01:09:20 Fixing the Game: Rebuilding Understanding01:12:41 Closing Thoughts

Gareth Rees, a proud Canadian who is a prominent figure in international rugby, discusses the multifaceted nature of youth sports. He emphasizes the importance of community, parental influence, and the need for a balanced approach to sports participation. Rees reflects on his own experiences and the lessons learned through sport, advocating for multi-sport participation and the necessity of creating a supportive environment for young athletes. He also addresses the pressures faced by parents and children in the competitive sports landscape, urging a shift in focus from high performance to holistic development.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Gareth Rees04:25 His Passion for Sports05:45 Parental Behaviour Youth Sports07:05 Navigating the Business of Youth Sports08:40 Where Should Parents Look for Direction11:00 Gareth's Early Sports Journey and Influences13:40 The Importance of his Parents Modeling Participation in Sports15:00 Sports Parents and The Fear of "Not Making It"17:35 The Value of Independence in Youth Sports20:45 Choosing Rugby: A Personal Journey23:35 Comparing Canadian and New Zealand Sport Cultures25:27 Self-Governance in Rugby and Community Values29:25 Encouraging Inclusivity & Building Self-Worth through Sports31:55 Barriers to Accessing Sports35:00 The Future of School Sports32:51 Enhancing Access to School Sports39:00 His Parental Approach Youth Sports42:40 Navigating Pressure in Youth Sports44:35 Overuse of "Elite" & "High Performance" in Youth Sports46:30 Identifying Good Coaching Practices49:05 Red Flags in Coaching51:05 Values Instilled Through Sports53:45 Building Community Through Sports56:40 The Importance of Mentorship in Sports58:40The Case for Multi-Sport Participation01:03:45 Forging a Unique Path in Sports01:05:40 Access and Affordability in Youth SportsResources:Gareth's Induction Speech at Canada's Sport Hall of Fame https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Q9WGTaTjgI

The Fear of Missing Out is a common pitfall in youth sports today. Find out how to spot it and combat it so that you're making the decisions that work best for your children and your family.

Travis Snider, a former Major League Baseball player, discusses his transition from professional sports to advocating for youth sports and the evolution of his company, ⁠3A Athletics⁠. He emphasizes the importance of emotional development, the impact of parental expectations, and the need for unstructured play in children's lives. Travis shares his personal experiences with identity crises and mental health, highlighting the significance of communication between parents and coaches. He advocates for a supportive community in youth sports and stresses the necessity of education for parents and coaches to foster a healthier environment for young athletes.Chapters00:00 Introduction04:05 Transitioning from Baseball to Youth Sports Advocacy06:30 Identity Crisis: The Fragility of Self-Worth in Sports08:45 The Impact of Personal Struggles on Professional Life17:05 Parenting and Emotional Regulation24:30 How Travis' Parents Approached Youth Sports25:15 The Importance of Unstructured Play in Youth Sports26:30 The Role of Community in Youth Sports30:00 FOMO: The Fear of Missing Out in Youth Sports32:35 Ensuring Enjoyment is Present in Youth Sports35:00 How Are We as Parents Getting Better?37:00 When Pressure Became Present for Travis40:57 Generational Impact of Parenting in Sports43:10 Adversity in Youth Sports45:00 The Impact of Intensity and Expectations48:30 Creating a Stronger Foundation for Kids52:00 Bridging the Gap Between Coaches and Parents55:25 Prioritizing the Mental Health of Our Children58:00 Improving Communication in Youth Sports01:01:20 The Power of Words and Their Impact01:09:10 Coping With Failure in Sports and Life01:12:30 The Importance of Modeling Behavior01:15:43 Resources for Parents and CoachesResources: https://3athletics.com/

Landon Ferraro shares his experiences growing up in a sports-oriented family, the pressures of constant comparison to his famous father, and the importance of fostering a positive environment for young athletes. He discusses the impact of parental influence, the value of multi-sport participation, and the necessity of free play in developing a love for sports. Landon emphasizes the need for parents to respect boundaries and allow coaches to guide their children, while also highlighting the importance of fun and enjoyment in youth sports. His personal anecdote about trying out refereeing as a kid provides a shining example of how adult behaviours can impact participation.Chapters00:00 Intro04:30 Navigating Legacy: The Ferraro Name08:10 The Pressure of Expectations10:30 Parental Influence in Youth Sports13:30 Early Sporting Memories and Influences19:00 Finding Balance: Father and Son Dynamics23:15 How His Father's Approach Changed Over Time27:00 Choosing Hockey a Path to Pursue31:00 Approaching Specialization vs. Multi-Sport as a Parent35:50 The Importance of Free Play in Youth Sports40:00 What was it about Hockey that Drew Him in?44:10 Can You Tell Which Kids Really Want to be Playing a Sport?51:05 The Role of Parents at Practice in Youth Sports1:00:05 Understanding the Coach-Parent Dynamic1:05:10 Landon's Experience as a Young RefereeResources: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/100-canucks-with-ferraro-shannon/id1819755909

Hockey Hall of Famer Cammi Granato shares her journey from a young girl playing hockey in Chicago to becoming a pioneer in the sport. She discusses the importance of family support, the challenges of being a female athlete in a male-dominated sport, and the pressures faced by young athletes today. Cammi emphasizes the need for inclusion in sports, the benefits of multi-sport participation, and the role of coaches in fostering a positive environment for youth athletes. She reflects on her own experiences and the lessons learned from her family, highlighting the importance of humility and love for the game.Chapters0:00 Introduction4:20 Growing Up in a Hockey Family7:20 Breaking Barriers as the Only Girl10:35 How Parents Protected and Supported Her Journey11:50 Sibling Dynamics and Basement Mini Sticks13:35 How Her Upbringing Taught Cammi Parenting Lessons15:35 The Pressure of Athletic Legacy20:30 Playing Multiple Sports Growing Up23:30 How Multi-Sport Experience Builds Better Athletes25:00 Programming vs. Creativity in Youth Sports27:30 The Narrow Path and Parent Pressure29:40 Viewing Sport Holistically33:00 What She Wanted Her Children to Get From Youth Sports34:40 What Inspires Her About Youth Sports Today36:50 Ground Rules for Coaches and Parents41:00 The Decline of Volunteers: Coaches and Referees46:15 Need for Socio-Emotional Coaching Education47:38 Inclusion and Accessibility in Youth Sports52:16 Helping Kids Deal with Pressure and Adversity55:20 When Coaching Crosses the Line58:30 Embracing Mistakes and Empowering Kids1:03:00 Family Values: Humility and TeamworkResources:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MNE1FaF29EE

Teaching your child to have respect and gratitude for officials and referees can positively influence your own behaviour towards those officiating youth sports.

Ray Ferraro's extensive experience in sports and parenting has provided him with a broad view of youth sports that spans many decades. As a former professional athlete, a globally recognized broadcaster, and a parent of four athletic boys, Ray has seen the youth sports environment change dramatically. In this conversation, he reflects on his own upbringing in the small town of Trail, discusses the influence of impactful youth sports' coaches, and emphasizes the importance of allowing children to enjoy sports without the pressure of adult expectations. Ferraro stresses the significance of understanding a child's love for their chosen activities, highlights the need for balance in parenting, and addresses the impact of social media on youth sports. He advocates for a supportive environment where children can thrive and enjoy their sporting experiences without undue pressure from adults.Chapters00:00 Intro04:35 Ray's Youth Sports Experience in Trail10:00 The Most Influential Coach on Ray's Life16:00 Sports Aren't a "Have To"18:25 How Ray Parented His Children in Sports19:30 Expectations in Kids' Sports23:50 Let the Coaches Coach and Players Play24:30 The Unintentional Pressure Parents Can Apply30:00 Increased Parental Attention in Youth Sports37:05 Observing Your Child's Choices40:00 How Ray Changed as a Sports Parent45:00 Following His Youngest Boys into Soccer50:30 Labeling Kids "Elite" at a Young Age55:15 Parents Using Kids' Achievements as a Status Symbol57:00 Why Does My Child Like Playing Sports?1:03:30 Why is there More Pressure in Youth Sports Today?1:07:10 How Parents Can Help Coaches1:10:15 Parents Giving Instructions from the Sidelines1:14:00 Achievement in Sport Does Not Impact Love for Your KidsResources: https://www.rayanddregs.com/

In the inaugural episode of Sideline Strategies, Scott Rintoul provides a quick and easy way to learn more about your child's interest in specific sports. Asking his own child this question gave him insight into what mattered to her and allowed him to reframe how he watched her play.

Andrea Neil, a Canadian soccer legend, shares her journey from overcoming several physical challenges to becoming a multi-sport athlete and eventually representing Canada internationally in soccer. She emphasizes the importance of heart-centered coaching, the purpose of sports beyond the objective of winning, and the role of parents in shaping a positive youth sports environment. Andrea discusses the need for ethical leadership in sports organizations, the importance of keeping girls engaged in sports, and why everyone should be questioning the current status quo in sports organizations. Through her experiences, she advocates for a holistic approach to sports that prioritizes personal development and community values over mere competition.Chapters00:00 Intro04:00 Early Physical Challenges05:10 Movement as Medicine07:00 Overcoming Adversity through Proactive Parenting10:40 The Importance of Multi-Sport Participation15:15 Heart-Centered Coaching: A New Approach21:00 Soccer: On Purpose By Accident31:00 Purpose vs. Objective in Youth Sports37:00 What She Wants Her Son to Get From Sports38:55 Football or Fightball?42:00 Coaching Soccer at Multiple Levels45:55 Are Sports Organizations Properly Preparing Coaches & Volunteers?49:00 Questioning Waivers and the Status Quo in Sports53:30 Ethical Leadership in Sports58:40 Defining Healthy Relationships Between Parents & Coaches01:02:45 Keeping Girls in Sports LongerResources: https://www.andreaneil.ca/Tedx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D8pljLzg8mg

Dr. Rick Celebrini is a former professional soccer player, the Vice President of Player Health and Performance for the Golden State Warriors, and the father of four extremely athletic children, including Macklin Celebrini, the NHL's number 1 overall draft pick in 2024. Rick shares his insights on youth sports, parenting, and athlete development from both a personal and professional perspective. In this conversation, he emphasizes the importance of allowing children to explore their passions, the balance between coaching and parenting, and the significance of character development in sports. He also discusses the risks of early specialization, the need for a multi-sport approach, and the pressures faced by young athletes today. He advocates for a long-term perspective in youth sports, focusing on enjoyment and personal growth rather than solely on competition and results.Chapters 00:00 Introduction05:20 Parenting Philosophy and Individuality in Sports06:30 Balancing Coaching and Parenting10:45 Fostering a Love of Sport in Children13:45 Rick's Passion for Youth Sports15:15 How Rick's Parents Supporting His Athletic Pursuits19:12 Competition and Life Skills in Sports21:40 The Role of Obsession in Athletic Success24:37 Personal Experiences Shaped His Professional Path25:51 Identity and Mental Game in Sports28:50 Multi-Sport Approach vs. Specialization31:30 Injury Risks with Early Specialization in Youth Sports33:20 The Business Side of Early Specialization38:30 The Child Needs to Lead the Sports Journey40:20 You Can See Burnout in the Eyes of Young Athletes42:45 What He Wants His Kids to Get out of Sports47:20 Non-Negotiables in Parenting and Sports48:45 How to Combat the Pressure of Youth Sports51:20 The Importance of a Lifelong Love of Sport53:55 Making Sports Accessible for All Children55:45 The Biggest Issue in Youth Sports Today57:10 Communication Between Coaches, Parents, and Organizations59:30 How the Golden State Warriors Create a Purpose-Filled Environment1:02:00 Empowering Parents in Youth Sports

Jon Montgomery, a gold medalist and host of The Amazing Race Canada, shares his insights on the importance of youth sports in personal development. He reflects on his own childhood experiences, the role of parents in shaping athletic identities, and the pressures faced by young athletes today. Montgomery emphasizes the value of multi-sport participation, the impact of social media, and the need for open conversations about sports and life with children. He advocates for a balanced approach to youth sports, focusing on enjoyment, physical literacy, and resilience rather than specialization and narrow development channels.Chapters00:00 Intro03:42 Jon's Foundation of Passion for Youth Sports05:14 Childhood Sports Experiences & Community Connection09:20 Influence of Family and Early Memories in Sports12:50 The Impact of Jon's Father on His Sports Experience17:55 Being Coached by Dad, Coaching Your Own Kids22:50 How Parents Stepped Up for Jon's Hockey Team26:50 The Shift to More Specialization in Youth Sports33:52 Transitioning to Skeleton and Olympic Aspirations38:25 The Impact of Multi-Sport Backgrounds42:00 The Role of Parents in Instilling Confidence48:20 Jon's Approach to Youth Sports as a Parent50:55 What He Wants His Children to Get From Youth Sports53:35 The Pressure of Youth Sports Today56:35 Setting Boundaries in Youth Sports59:40 Finding the Right Fit for Your Family1:01:26 Reflections on Changing Times in Sports1:04:10 Addressing Social Media Challenges1:07:10 Conversations as a Tool for Growth Resources: https://www.ctv.ca/shows/the-amazing-race-canada

Allison Forsyth, a Canadian Olympian and founder of Generation Safe, discusses her passion for youth sports and the importance of creating safe and positive environments for young athletes. She shares her own experiences growing up in a sports-oriented family, the role of parents in shaping children's sports experiences, and the challenges of pressure and expectations in youth sports. Allison emphasizes the need for diverse sporting experiences, the significance of socio-emotional coaching, and the critical issue of maltreatment in sports. As a parent of three children in sports, Allison shares her parental approach to youth sports and the experiences she has had with her children in various sports. She advocates for redefining success in sports beyond just winning and encourages parents to engage in safe sport education to empower themselves and their children.Chapters00:00 Intro05:22 The Passion for Youth Sports06:02 Allison's Early Sports Journey08:57 Her Parents' Influence in Sports12:10 The Joy of Skiing and Training14:11 The Importance of Multi-Sport Participation17:55 Understanding Pressure in Youth Sports20:40 How She Discovered Her Ability in Skiing25:30 Allison's Approach to Sports as a Parent33:12 The Biggest Issues in Youth Sports Today35:09 Understanding Maltreatment in Sports39:56 How Youth Sports Puts Pressure on Parents46:10 Treat Athletes as Humans First49:00 Keeping Youth Sports in Perspective51:24 How to Determine Safe Sport Environments58:06 The Importance of Socio-Emotional Coaching59:40 What to Look for in Your Child's CoachResources: https://generationsafe.ca/

An introduction to Better Sports Parents, a resource for parents to access perspectives, advice, and tools from world-class performers from across the world of sports. Hosted by veteran broadcaster Scott Rintoul, this weekly podcast examines the experiences, practices, and issues that have and continue to shape youth sports.