Better Sports Parents

Former Blue Jays' first round draft pick Travis Snider is on a mission to change youth sports. After experiencing the highs of what appeared to be a nearly flawless ascension as a youth star, Travis came face-to-face with the lows of struggling to perform as a pro due in large part to an identity that was tightly bound to results. He now pours his energy into teaching parents and coaches a better way to guide children through youth sports.In this segment, Travis discusses one of the most relatable challenges most parents face: the car ride home after their child's game or practice.Listen to the entire episode:⁠Spotify⁠⁠Apple⁠Watch on ⁠YouTube⁠

Farhan Lalji is a very recognizable face and voice in Canadian sports. Since 1997 he's been with TSN, covering everything from the Olympics to the Stanley Cup and the Super Bowl. He's a CFL Football Hall of Famer in the media category and a BC Football Hall of Famer as a builder thanks in large part to creating a high school football program from scratch in New Westminster. He also sits on the national board of KidSport and has spent years watching the youth sports landscape up close, from every angle. But in this episode of Better Sports Parents, Farhan isn't talking as a broadcaster or a Hall of Famer. He's talking as a dad. One who got caught up in hockey's spending arms race when his son was six years old, who made mistakes coaching his son that he's doing differently with his daughter, and who at one point realized he could still coach his son, but no longer push him. Farhan has one of the most quotable lines in the show's history: "In hockey, there are two types of parents: those who have money and those who borrow money. There's no not having money." He talks about what it was like to live inside that reality as a parent, even as someone with his level of sports awareness, and why the privatization of youth sport is his single biggest concern for the next generation of Canadian kids. This is a conversation about coaching, community, access, identity, and what it actually means to be a sports parent when you know everything about sport and still can't always get it right.Chapters00:00 Opening01:35 Introducing Farhan Lalji03:37 How sport influenced Farhan's life as an immigrant kid06:50 The high school football coach who never left his life08:03 What his parents stressed (and didn't) about youth sport09:23 Are we over-parenting in youth sport today?10:21 The loss of free play and what's filled the gap13:03 Devices, screen time & holding off on phones until 1415:47 From SFU communications to TSN: the career decision17:20 What coaching taught him about life lessons through sport18:17 How to connect with kids who have different competitive goals22:12 Valuing the player who just wants to belong25:14 A quarterback who said "I'm done after senior year"26:16 Where the line is between participation and competitive sport27:36 The pressures of youth hockey30:08 The academy bubble: socialization, entitlement and what kids miss32:38 "The real color in sport is green"34:42 The two types of hockey parents we've created35:06 Farhan's confession: he got caught up in it too37:14 Are we pricing ourselves out of hockey as a nation?39:12 Is the environment we've created in hockey a net positive?41:05 Why he chose to build a football program from scratch46:26 The Justin Morneau playoff game and what community sport can look like48:06 How do we get back to community sport?49:15 We need to pay coaches51:22 Why he left New Westminster and what his son actually wanted54:25 "I can coach him, but I can't push him"56:33 You're not coaching football. You're coaching kids.57:21 When is the right time to coach your own child?59:15 How he set boundaries with parents as a coach01:01:21 How a player taught him a valuable lesson01:02:47 Parenting his son vs. parenting his daughter in sports01:04:48 The number one issue in youth sports: privatizationResourcesUnpluggedKidSport

Andrea Neil is one the greatest players and leaders to ever wear the jersey for Canada's National Women's Soccer team. She played in multiple Women's World Cups, captaining Canada to a 4th place finish in 2003, its best ever result at the event. In this segment, Andrea implores parents to demand more from the people and organizations who oversee the development of children in sports.Listen to the full episode here:⁠Spotify⁠⁠Apple⁠Watch on ⁠YouTube⁠

Aaron Volpatti was never supposed to make it. He wasn't drafted. He wasn't a goal scorer. He grew up in Revelstoke, BC, playing house hockey at 14 and got cut from select teams. And then at 19 years old, while playing junior hockey with the Vernon Vipers, he was badly burned in an accident and told by doctors that his hockey career was over. He was wrapped head to toe in a hospital burn unit, unable to walk, when he made a decision that would define the rest of his life: he was coming back to play hockey no matter what. He was out of the hospital in six weeks. He played that fall. He went on to commit to Brown University. And he eventually played 114 games in the NHL... more than 70% of the players who were actually drafted in his draft year.But Aaron is far more interested in talking about what youth sport is getting wrong than revisiting what he got right. Now a cognitive performance and injury coach, author of Fighter, and father of three, Aaron brings a perspective on the youth sports environment that is equal parts personal and professional.He talks candidly about the trap of treating your child like an investment, the cost — financial and otherwise — of over-structuring kids' lives at the expense of free play and childhood, and why shaping your child's identity for them before they've had a chance to figure out who they are is one of the most harmful things the current youth sports culture is doing. He shares his own strict hockey rule for his young son, why he coaches parents far more often than he coaches the athletes themselves, and what he says to parents who worry their kid will fall behind. Aaron also opens up about struggling with his own identity after hockey ended, what visualization taught him about human potential, and what he genuinely wants his three kids to take from sport.This is a conversation about holding onto childhood, staying in the fight, and asking the question nobody in youth sports wants to answer: at what cost? Chapters00:00 Opening01:35 Introduction: Aaron Volpatti03:42 What minor hockey meant to Aaron growing up05:01 His parents' approach: no pressure, just values07:33 What "let kids be kids" actually means08:44 The lessons sport taught him09:45 Getting cut from select teams & staying humble13:53 The burn injury that should have ended his hockey career19:04 The visualization practice that changed everything23:53 Are the most talented players in the NHL?26:55 Why overlooked players with grit outlast the early stars29:58 Knowing your role: "you are not a goal scorer"31:54 What good coaches do that parents often undermine34:13 Equal play, age-appropriate competition37:14 Sacrificing kids' childhoods40:12 No spring or summer hockey: Aaron's family rule40:38 The fear of falling behind trap41:50 What the real return on investment in youth sport looks like44:55 Being your kid's cheerleader, not their critic47:18 The car ride home48:45 Rethinking mistakes & permission to fail50:02 Social media & comparison syndrome52:31 Helping athletes redefine performance55:46 Aaron's identity crisis57:32 Visualization, belief and finding life after sport1:00:34 Writing "Fighter"1:04:16 What Aaron wants his own kids to take from sport1:05:35 The biggest issue in youth sports today1:10:30 Setting boundariesResourcesFighter (Book)Aaron's WebsiteFollow Aaron on Instagram

Ray Ferraro is an 18-year NHL veteran, an award-winning hockey analyst, and the father of four boys. He's also coached young players over multiple decades and witnessed the evolution of parental involvement in youth sport. In this segment, Ray talks about his own evolution as a sports parent, the trap that many parents fall into when they invest in development, and how your child's interests need to drive their journey in youth sports.Listen to the full episode here:⁠Spotify⁠⁠Apple⁠Watch on ⁠YouTube⁠

Allison McNeill is one of the most accomplished figures in Canadian basketball. As a player, she won multiple provincial and national titles before finishing her collegiate career in the NCAA. As a coach, she took over Simon Fraser University's women's program in 1988 and spent 13 years turning it into a perennial national championship contender. She then took the reins of Canada's women's national team, ending a 12-year Olympic absence by guiding them back to the 2012 Games and making them competitive on the world stage. She has coached at every level of the game, from grade twos all the way to the national team, and she still gives back at the youth level today. But here's what Allison will tell you herself: if she were growing up now, she might never have played basketball at all. In this episode, Allison sits down with host Scott Rintoul to share what decades in the game have taught her about what youth sport is getting right and what it's getting badly wrong. She discusses the skyrocketing cost of youth sport, the trap of early specialization, and why sampling multiple sports builds better athletes and better people. Allison also shares what parents and coaches are doing on the sidelines that is quietly stealing the joy from their children's sporting experience. On the coaching side, Allison gets specific about what separates a good youth coach from a harmful one and why playing pedigree matters far less than whether a coach genuinely cares about the kids in front of them. She talks about how she built winning cultures at SFU and the national team, why every player on a roster needs to feel valued, and how the best coaches are the ones who show up for their athletes as full human beings. She also tackles the underrepresentation of women in coaching, and the importance of not letting a child's identity become wrapped up in their sport or their results. Chapters 00:00 Opening & Introduction03:44 Why Allison keeps coaching 05:34 The state of basketball in Canada in 2026 06:30 Why youth sport costs have skyrocketed 08:11 Solutions: facilities, nonprofits & government levers 11:50 Travel tournaments vs. what actually develops young athletes 14:16 Allison's multi-sport upbringing 16:48 The danger of early specialization 17:06 How Allison's parents shaped her athletic life 21:57 Over-involved parents27:42 Creating value for every player on the team 30:08 What basketball gave Allison that other sports didn't 31:29 How to run a youth practice that actually keeps kids engaged 35:15 Everyone plays vs competitive selection 37:14 Select teams, early tiering & the dropout cliff 39:28 What college coaches are actually looking for 43:05 Teaching kids to value roles45:28 The cost of rushing development 46:17 How to transform a culture49:50 The coach-parent relationship52:00 How to spot a great youth coach57:43 The most effective coaches1:02:55 Sport as a vehicle for life skills 1:05:15 The lasting imprint coaches leave1:07:29 Women in coaching1:10:05 Separating athlete identity from resultsResources Canadian Basketball Hall of FameBC Sports Hall of Fame Safe Sport Program (Canada Basketball) Long-Term Athlete Development (LTAD) Framework

Allison Forsyth is a former Olympic skier, a renowned SafeSport expert, and the Chief Sport Officer at Headversity. A survivor of abuse in sport and vocal advocate for athlete wellbeing, Allison founded Generation Safe to create more resources for athletes and organizations to confront and reduce maltreatment and abuse through sport. In this segment, Allison discusses the role parents, coaches and the current youth sports system play in creating the conditions for harm to escalate through sport.Listen to the full episode here:⁠Spotify⁠⁠Apple⁠Watch on ⁠YouTube

Most conversations about improving youth sports focus on athletes, parents, and coaches. This one looks at the people everyone else seems to forget — the officials. Dave Hawkshaw is the only Canadian to hold a full-time position as an NFL official. He has officiated over 100 games in the world's top football league after 13 years in the CFL, but his journey started the same way thousands of young Canadians begin theirs — as a teenager at a community park, picking up a whistle because his dad asked him to come out on a Sunday morning. In this conversation with Scott Rintoul, Dave pulls back the curtain on what it actually takes to make it as an official at the highest level: the film study, the flashcards, the zoom calls, the rule tests, the cross-country travel. And he makes the case that officiating is as demanding and as rewarding as any role in sport. But the heart of this episode is the youth sports officiating crisis unfolding right now. Young officials are being driven out of the game by coaches and parents who berate them from the sidelines. Sports across the country can't recruit enough officials to cover the games being played. Dave has seen it all as someone who started officiating flag football as a teenager, as a father watching his daughters play basketball and soccer at high levels, and as a man who has been on the field for 100+ NFL games. He breaks down what healthy coach-official relationships look like, why everything trickles down from how a coach carries themselves on the sideline, how parents should think about their behavior in the stands, and why a simple thank-you after a game goes further than most parents realize. This is a perspective that rarely gets a seat at the table in the youth sports conversation. It needs one. Chapters 0:00 Opening 1:36 Introducing Dave Hawkshaw: Canada's only full-time NFL official 3:54 How it all started: flag football on Sunday mornings with his dad 6:15 Dave's youth sports experience 7:26 What his parents focused on: work ethic, respect, and team sports 9:36 Why respecting officials was non-negotiable in his household 10:50 Breaking in as a young official 11:28 What keeps officials coming back, and what drives them away 12:55 Key mentors along the way 15:00 Why officials give their time for very little money 16:38 The unlikely path from CFL the NFL 20:02 Balancing the NFL, the CFL, firefighting, and a young family 21:25 How much work officials actually put in 24:22 What a good referee looks like to someone who officiates the NFL 26:19 Why young officials quit and what it takes to keep them 29:32 What a healthy coach-official relationship looks like in youth sports 31:12 When coaches lose their composure and the domino effect 32:57 Why yelling at officials is poor leadership, not passion 34:59 Tools officials can use to manage difficult situations 35:45 Advice for parents who know they get caught up in the emotion 37:21 Why do we only hold officials to a standard of perfection? 38:30 Having his daughters pick up the whistle 41:00 What Dave wants his daughters to take from sport 42:23 How youth sports has changed: early specialization 44:09 The pressure and financial investment parents bring to games 48:19 Has sideline behavior gotten better over the years? 49:12 Where the line is: what actually crosses it for a seasoned official 50:12 How to set the right tone early in a game without over-officiating 52:50 The power of a simple post-game thank-you from a coach or player 53:38 The biggest issue in youth sports today Resources: https://www.bcfootballhalloffame.com/dave-hawkshaw/

Dr. Rick Celebrini is the Vice President of Player Health and Performance for the Golden State Warriors and the father of four extremely athletic children, including Macklin Celebrini, the NHL's number 1 overall draft pick in 2024. A former professional soccer player himself, Rick has worked with professional and amateur athletes across several sports including basketball, hockey, and soccer. In this segment, Rick discusses the trend of early specialization among young athletes, offering his opinion as both a professional and a father while also outlining the guardrails that should exist for those who choose to focus on one sport early in their development.Listen to the full episode here:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/rick-celebrini-beware-of-dead-eyes-let-your-child/id1834970608?i=1000728010271Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5QPyUpUBjhKuRP4WMsBgmk?si=gGRGBXlfSuy6JRD2G833hwWatch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/2dNSmHBSzmw?si=lllANJMl0EpCEkiz

Jay DeMerit's path to professional soccer reads like a fairy tale, but he'll be the first to tell you it wasn't supposed to happen the way it did. No academy. No draft. Just a backpack, $1,800, and a willingness to knock on doors in the ninth division of English soccer. Within three years, he was captaining Watford in the Premier League. By 2010, he was a starter on the US World Cup team.But what Jay saw when he left the game in 2014 troubled him deeply: a youth sports system built around money, comparison, and results that was producing broken teenagers instead of confident, capable young people. So he decided to do something about it.In this wide-ranging conversation, Jay unpacks why his unconventional journey was actually powered by creativity, multi-sport development, and soft skills — and why today's system is actively working against those same things. He breaks down the inverted triangle at the heart of youth sports, where business and parents come before the child, and makes a compelling case for why holistic development, mentorship, and identity formation are the real work of youth sport.Jay also opens up about co-parenting a 10-year-old son with Olympic gold medalist Ashleigh McIvor, the comparison pressure his son already faces, and what he's had to unlearn as a sideline parent after a lifetime of being the loudest voice in the room.And he pulls back the curtain on Rise and Shine, tech platform he's been building for over four years that aims to bring mentorship, holistic learning, and real-world skill development to young athletes everywhere, regardless of geography or income. Chapters00:00 Opening and Introduction04:06 Why Jay chose youth development after his playing career06:50 The broken teenagers calling him from Premier League academies08:30 Why he stopped selling what he didn't believe in09:07 How creativity allowed him to become great13:13 How his youth sports experience shaped his creativity16:19 What his parents focused on and the safety they gave him to take risks19:11 Why process thinking beats results thinking every time19:49 Why Jay didn't focus on soccer until 1922:13 How a basketball mindset turned him into an elite soccer defender27:47 From the 9th division to Premier League captain in three years31:24 Does today's youth sports system foster creativity and multi-sport?34:11 The silo problem, and why "holistic" programs aren't actually holistic38:57 What Rise and Shine was built to do — and how it works40:38 What parents can actually do to push for better programming43:28 Global clubs shifting away from the pathway-to-pro narrative47:38 Can the Jay DeMerit story still happen today?51:05 What Rise and Shine the documentary sparked54:03 How the Rise and Shine camp evolved into a tech platform1:01:25 Addressing the "I don't want my kid on their phone more" concern1:05:12 Affordability and access in Canada1:07:36 How to properly develop leadership through sport1:11:16 Identity, early specialization, and decoupling self-worth from results1:16:34 The comparison pressure his son already faces1:19:07 Learning to shut up on the sideline — Jay's hardest parenting lesson1:20:23 The biggest issue in youth sports todayResources:Jay DeMerit | MLSsoccer.comRise and Shine Documentary https://youtu.be/GtSYAUn2I7I?si=dv6xKDe8fFJUDluE Home | RISExSHINE

Amar Doman didn't make it as a professional athlete, but sport shaped everything about the man, the father, and the business leader he became. In 2021, Amar purchased the BC Lions and has been one of the CFL's most community-invested owners ever since. He's also a husband, a father of three, and a youth football coach who has spent years learning what it really means to develop kids not just players. In this conversation with host Scott Rintoul, Amar opens up about the lessons sport taught him that carried seamlessly into business, why he believes contact sports like football and rugby build a kind of team camaraderie you simply can't find anywhere else, and what he's learned coaching his own son that changed how he parents all three of his kids. Amar and Scott also tackle some of the biggest challenges facing youth sport today — from the affordability crisis that is quietly excluding families across Canada, to the smartphone epidemic that's eroding the locker room culture, and game IQ that great athletes are built on. This is a wide-ranging, honest, and deeply practical conversation for any parent who wants to raise a confident, resilient, hard-working young person, whether they're chasing a championship or just learning to love the game. Chapters 0:00 Opening & Inroduction 3:21 Was owning a pro team always the dream? 4:20 Growing up in Victoria: rugby, basketball & backyard football 6:24 His parents' hands-off approach to sport 7:33 Staying active beyond youth sport 8:30 Coaching his own kids 10:23 What he actually wants his kids to get from sport 11:11 How sport transfers directly into business 12:18 Integrity: the same lessons show up everywhere 13:30 Why sport is a safe place to fail 14:27 Separating "dad" from "coach" on the field 17:04 How he's evolved as a coach year over year 19:44 Managing parents on the sideline 21:25 Listen before you react 22:32 Rotating players and what development really means 25:53 Why he chose football for his boys 27:35 How tackling is taught today vs. a generation ago 29:15 Football & rugby: a place for every body type 31:11 Flag football, the Olympics & BC's growth 32:41 Advice for parents on the sideline 34:10 How coaching made him a better sports parent 35:48 Where does equal play end and earned time begin? 37:02 The affordability crisis & what the Lions are doing about it 41:17 Merit-based sport vs. wealth-based sport 42:02 Can community sport make a comeback? 44:26 Where his values came from 46:11 Navigating social media with three kids 47:56 Should coaches address social media with players? 49:49 Highlight reels vs. full game film 52:37 The biggest issue in youth sports today 55:24 Why Amar chose to be a hands-on owner 56:45 Do sports backgrounds give people a business edge? Resources: https://www.bclions.com/amar-doman/ Follow Amar on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/amar.doman/?hl=en