Better Men Get Better Women - The Mountain Top

Well, two podcasts dropping on two holidays in a row means it's a moral imperative to have Emily back on again, especially since 2020 has finally drawn to a close and it's time to address 2021. What will the 'new normal' look like insofar as dating and relationships go? How soon until we can actually get there? What unexpected surprises might be in store for all of us, whether we're currently in a relationship or looking forward to getting into one? What can be observed from past pandemics and applied to the current dating situation? What are the perhaps untold truths about how men and women have been relating together all along for the last nine months? And what about some real-world strategies for making damn skippy sure 2021 is far better than 2020? How much of that is really within our control, anyway? Are we really going to be doomed to endless suggestions for 'Zoom dating'? Where can our source of optimism come from in a world where many believe it's as bad as it gets and won't get better anytime soon? Well, if you're going to favor an optimistic viewpoint, you're going to need a plan to bounce back. You don't have to go it alone. Go to https://mountaintoppodcast.com and start the year off right by scheduling a free 25-minute call with me to set that plan in motion. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Last week on this very show I said out loud that I had never met anyone in a happy relationship who was miserable. That concept is worth a deeper discussion, and who better to have it with than the very woman I'm in a happy relationship with? Now obviously, one can be perfectly happy without being in any relationship at all, for sure. But right out of the gate, Emily floats several more complicated scenarios; asking if someone can be happy despite a miserable relationship, if miserable people necessarily get into equally miserable relationships, or if two people miserable in the same way can somehow contort themselves into their mutually-agreeable form of bliss together. But first things first. We define 'misery' in clear terms, then call out the 'elephant in the room' with regard to whether COVID lockdowns have wrought more relationship misery even among typically happy couples. What about couples who argue constantly, aren't they inherently miserable...or not necessarily? What happens when people who love drama get into relationships...does misery always ensue? Does relationship misery have to be a permanent state, or does it ebb and flow? Can it be cured completely? Can two miserable people alleviate each other's misery by finding love together? What are some practical ways people unwittingly doom their relationships to misery? And the biggest question of all...what twisted mindsets in today's post-modern world are contributing to record rates of relationship misery? Meanwhile, does dorkiness stave off misery? Well, after the dust clears from this crazy episode, the one certainty is that YOU don't want to end up in a miserable relationship yourself. Get a plan to fight back against the miserable statistics by talking to me for free. Just click the red button in the upper right hand corner at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

I told Emily I was having the guy from Origin on my show, and she responded, 'War Engine? What's that?' Well, I got someone who is arguably just as cool. I'm joined by none other than Pete Roberts, host of the Hands and Daylight podcast and leader of the pack over at Origin. What you'll notice first about Pete is he's an all-around good dude who is clearly proud to be a man and walks the walk. We tackle the subject of everyday masculinity, meaning the little things we as men do--or should be doing--on a consistent basis. For starters, discover the mindset that mature, evolved men know is foundational to manhood, yet which young men almost always exhibit the exact opposite of...even as they think they're more macho by doing so. Next, how does a man handle daily interactions with both women AND other men, including over social media? Then I share my personal lesson from a Navy SEAL on how to be more of a man in the most subtle but powerful of ways. Is it true that if you don't have the capacity to be violent, you're harmless? What are the little things that make a man a true father to his kids every day? How do boundaries enter into daily life, including the balance between work, family and leisure time? What should a man do when he inevitably messes up sometimes? And of course, we get around to talking about men's health and how easy it is for us to neglect it. Make 2021 your year to rise above and take ownership of your very own 'new normal'. Your first 25-minutes are free when you get on my calendar at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

In the last episode we talked in depth about the concept of self-awareness. This time, we turn our attention to the idea of self-worth. Obviously, this is all about how much value we assign to ourselves and is closely tied to self-respect. My guest is Kamini Wood, who as a mother of five knows the struggle is real to find time in life for self-ANYTHING. Nevertheless, she has given tons of thought to this topic and has arrived at the conclusion that most of us basically do the equivalent of outsourcing our self-worth. So what does that even MEAN, exactly? What other areas of self-evaluation and reflection is it tied to? How do particularly smart and/or analytical guys struggle? What can we do to guard against feeling like a Lone Ranger in the midst of all of this self-worth stuff? And what is the right way and the wrong way to involve others, lest we indeed not outsource our own self-worth? Why do men struggle so much with 'strong vulnerability', therefore suffering through tough patches that could have been alleviated or even bypassed altogether? Are we necessarily outsourcing our self-worth to someONE else, as opposed to someHOW or someTHING else? What influences the self-worth of truly successful men as opposed to the mediocre masses? And perhaps most devastating of all, how are we handing over our self-worth when we approach, meet and relate to women? Plan on powerful insights all around, and even a rare lacrosse reference. Discover all the secrets to why masculine men of character get better women and lead richer lives when you visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest is Marine Corps Lt. Colonel Ann Bernard, who as head of 365 Firsts currently advocates for getting out of our infamous comfort/familiarity zones to try new and exciting adventures. Interestingly enough, she says much of our wherewithal in that regard comes from self-awareness. Now, I fully realize 'self-awareness' is one of those terms that may mean different things to different people, but in this episode you're in for one of the clearest and most direct descriptions of it ever. In addition to finding out the practical elements of it, you'll discover the symptoms of lacking self-awareness...and how a scary amount of guys don't even realize they do (which makes sense, if you think about it). So then, is this all related to identity, maturity and some of the other concepts we talk about frequently around here or is it something else completely? Can you actually have too much self-awareness? I mean, wouldn't that lead to self-consciousness (which is different!) and hyper-analysis issues? And on that note, what is the difference between self-awareness and self-concept? How is self-awareness related to the all-important element of confidence? Why is self-awareness a must for attracting women? How should we deal with 'haters'? What is so important about trying new things for the first time? How does all of this make us both better listeners AND better storytellers? Get the action-packed daily newsletter, your free copy of Sticking Points Solved and sign up for a free 25-minute introductory call when you visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

When you get right down to it, if you're on a team your coaches and your cheerleaders have something important in common. They're both on your side, and they both want you to win. So it's really no wonder that a former Phoenix Suns cheerleader like my co-host Bee Evans would go on to become a professional coach. More specifically, Bee is a resilience coach, and one of her biggest soapboxes is 'tearing out the tags'. What's up with the human tendency to slap a label on everything and everyone? I mean, do face-value assertions and preconceived notions really serve the greater good? You can imagine the sneaky effect this kind of psychology has wrought upon relationships between men and women, let alone everyone else. Well, this episode's discussion starts with a disarming look at how Bee views her time with the Phoenix Suns nowadays compared to how she did in the moment, and it'll be no surprise that it has plenty to do with public stereotype versus objective reality. That leads to an eye-opening discussion of how we as men often place attractive women into some rather unattractive boxes, and Bee has some encouraging truth for all of us. On top of that, women tend to categorize themselves in plenty of self-limiting ways in their own right. But let's not kid ourselves, so do we as men. How does that affect our success with women? And how do all of us re-apply tags and labels to both ourselves and others as life unfolds in unexpected ways? Speaking more about tags and labels, get ready to discover how people's intentions don't necessarily have everything to do with how they classify us--or even themselves. And stay tuned for Bee's GOLDEN advice on how to intrigue and attract the most beautiful women. Here's the bottom line: in today's world of knee-jerking social media frenzy, intentions often don't match up with perceptions...and reality can seem an even more distant concept. Bee's mission is to bridge that gap in a world that could really use it. Have you talked to me for 25-minutes free yet? Sign up today and get on my calendar at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

With the recent passing of Sir Sean Connery, there couldn't be a better time to celebrate the rich legacy of Ian Fleming's James Bond, particularly as played by the OG himself. We begin with a brief discussion of Connery's legacy of smooth, debonair masculinity on film, which despite his perhaps ironic off-screen issues with women in real life stands as nothing short of iconic. So if you've never seen a Sean Connery Bond flick, where should you start? And why even watch at all? I mean, what can we gain by studying the persona of Connery's 007, from his 'alpha' demeanor to his calm, cool and collected style with women? What are the takeaways from that for our real lives, meeting and interacting with real women? Is it feasible to actually live like James Bond, even if only on some levels...and only part way? And what is it about Connery's Bond in particular that is so magnetic to women? Speaking of women, what makes 'Bond Girls' in particular so exotic, alluring and downright desirable? And on the other hand, is James Bond even 'boyfriend material'? Perhaps the most fun is had toward the end of this episode, where Bruce and I talk about Bond villains, particularly the infamous Ernst Blofeld. What makes him so slimy and, well...the opposite of attractive to women? It couldn't be that he's a cat lover, could it? Why not find your own mystique, and transform your fortunes with women in the process. It all starts with a 25-minute intro call. Get on my schedule for free at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Well, now I've done it. I went and got a creativity coach as a guest co-host. His name is Jeff Leisawitz from Seattle, and you're in for a show that's guaranteed by its very nature to be fun, entertaining AND interesting. To start off, we all know it's not exactly easy to simply be creative at the drop of a hat. Therefore, we define creativity in, well...some truly creative terms. That quickly leads us to the sobering conclusion that despite what many think, creativity isn't really an optional 'luxury item'. It's absolutely integral to a life well-lived. But fear not, Jeff has an elegant way to tune your mind up for greater levels of creativity...all centered around one basic mindset shift. Here's a hint: plenty of us need to have a more creative vision of creativity itself. Is it really true there's no such thing as an original thought? What is it that separates mere talent from truly legendary status? And on a far less lofty level, how does Jeff coax guys to start thinking 'out of the box' for once? What happens when crisis hits and we're forced out of our comfort-familiarity zone and into creative mode? It seems like there's one big hurdle virtually everyone has to clear first, and we'll call it out. And here's a good question...is creativity feminine in nature? And speaking of women, how does your creativity directly contribute to living the exciting life that inevitably attracts women? Feel like it's time to think out of the box for yourself and come up with new and creative ways to get the right woman into your life? Talk to me about it for free when you get on my calendar at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

The idea for this episode on dying well--or dying gallantly and with dignity, if you will--has been on my radar screen for quite a while. The issue was finding the right guest to make it as powerful a show as it deserves to be. Enter my new friend Larry Indiviglia. First off, Larry is a United States Naval Academy graduate, so he knows plenty about duty, honor and sacrifice. On top of that, however, he had the particularly notable experience just this year of meeting a woman who was dying of cancer, falling in love, and being by her side until the very end. He has written a book about that experience, and in this show shares his unique and powerful thoughts of a life well-lived to the very last breath. So for starters, what exactly does it mean to die well? Despite the archetypal theme of going out in a blaze of glory, is that reasonable--or even possible? Why are such themes in stories like Gran Torino and Breaking Bad so incredibly fascinating and alluring to us as men? Is it necessarily true that we die alone, or can others around us contribute to a life well ended? What are the powerful and perhaps unexpected factors that present themselves when we know we have a limited time left? How can our minds play tricks on us in devious ways as we fantasize about our own deaths? Is that even healthy? Did Tim McGraw get it right when he exhorted us to 'live like we're dying'? We'll even tackle perhaps the scariest question of all on this subject...how to die well if your body or even your mind betrays you in old age. John Donne may have noted centuries ago that the bell will toll for thee, but he also penned 'death be not proud'. In the stunning conclusion to this particularly unforgettable and powerful episode, will spell out exactly what that means. Make the most of the one life we're given and invite the greatest woman you've ever met to join you. Talk to me for free when you get on my schedule at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Get ready for an empowering, uplifting show at precisely the time in history when we could all use it. My long-time friend and all-around nice lady Iris Benrubi joins me to talk about personal power. In particular, we're revealing and discussing those little hidden places in your life where you can actually DO something. But to start off, we wonder aloud why so many people seem to actively want to retreat into victimhood, despite the negative impact that has on confidence and self-esteem. It's no wonder that the idea of personal agency all starts with figuring out what we actually want and how to get it, right? And is it true you're going to end up exactly like your parents, no matter what? Could it be true that doing the exact opposite of what you're conditioned to could be just as disempowering as simply falling in line with groupthink? How does the tangle between opportunity and consequences affect our psychological mindset? Do we really have to hit rock bottom and lose all that makes us comfortable before bouncing back in a way that's truly in alignment with our hopes and dreams? Next, discover how there are two ways most men are handling the COVID-19 crisis. Which guy are you? What is the secret to deriving strength from life situations that would wither others? How can you begin to feel truly powerful at attracting and interacting with women, even if you've gone your entire life thus far without? And how can you acquire the power to get the RIGHT woman in your life, once and for all? Let's talk 25 minutes for free about how to get you to the next level in your career, lifestyle and--of course--in your relationships with women. Get on my calendar at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Okay, here it is. We don't talk about marriage very often on this show. Simply put, it's a topic that tends to polarize the audience. Nevertheless, you really can't expect to cover all of the bases when it comes to dating and relationships without ever addressing it. Enter my guest Amy Schoen, who specializes in the field of marriage readiness. Together she and I decided that a particularly fun and useful angle would be to talk about what it means to be 'marriage material'. Now, to be sure this pretty much aligns with the concepts of 'boyfriend material' and 'girlfriend material'. So then, this show offers equal opportunity visibility into what indicates long-term potential for either a man or a woman. Interestingly enough, even when women aren't particularly looking for a serious relationship, they still tend to be super-attracted to men with qualities that indicate long-term potential. Perhaps weirdly, that is even often the case when they're looking for a quick fling. So do I have your attention yet? What you're about to hear is all-important for any man who want's to enjoy greater success with women. Count on a wealth of knowledge, wisdom and tips that over-deliver...turning you into a veritable magnet for feminine attraction. Fall is here, and the world is opening up. Talk to me free for 25 minutes about how to create your own 'new normal', featuring the most fulfilling relationships with women ever. https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest is best known for his work on introversion, but the topic of this show is sure to hit the target regardless of your personality type. At its essence, it's all about how to be influential. So what's the right way and the wrong way to do that? I mean, isn't attention seeking for insecure, needy guys and self-promotion for douches? And hold on...isn't this whole desire to be seen, known, remembered somewhat narcissistic at its very core? Well, none of that is necessarily true. That can only mean there's an altogether better and more effective way to be truly memorable, which Nick and I discuss in sometimes alarming, at times unexpected, but always encouraging detail. And let's not kid ourselves. Even if you're not entirely motivated to conquer the world and leave your mark on a grand scale, that relatively low-key lifestyle you're content with may even be at risk if you fail to be influential in any measurable way. So then, what are the first outward steps to having more of an impact on those around us? Prepare to be amazed by how simple, easy and non-threatening this and the ensuing steps really are...and how major the social payoff for following them really is. And most importantly of all, of course, what does this all have to do with being a 'big four' man who attracts women as effectively as he can? If you haven't yet talked to me for 25 minutes free, get on my calendar at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Everyone has heard about how men have a feminine side and women a masculine one. How true is that? And if it's the case, how does the concept typically manifest itself? Is it a good thing, or is it something we would be better off minimizing the effects of? And wait a minute...are the traits and behaviors that we somewhat automatically consider masculine or feminine really such, or are they simply human? What if all of this is just a social construct to begin with? But what if it isn't? Then what? Does that change the whole perspective? I mean, if masculinity is 'toxic' as we're led to believe nowadays, why are so many women trying to act like men? What if we all migrated toward the feminine instead? But can't there be such a thing as 'toxic femininity' in that case? After all, is femininity always 'soft' and inherently innocuous? And what of the idea that masculine dominance is sexy to women...how can that be? How come there are tomboys but no such thing as a tomgirl? What do single moms have to do with all of this? Stay tuned for the trait we've never really considered feminine before, but just might be...and we make a solid case for it. But all the while we're the same couple of dorks you know and love, who may or may not have knocked back a couple before hitting 'record' on this episode. Find the right relationship or dramatically improve the one you're already in. It all starts with a phone visit with us, free for 25 minutes. https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Fresh off of his Oval Office interview with The President, author and editor of America's 1st Freedom Magazine Frank Miniter returns to the show for a deep dive into how to rise above all the fearmongering going on in today's media. As Kipling wrote, a real man keeps his head when all about him are losing theirs, and this episode gets to the heart of that matter. To begin with, what exactly is it that's driving a culture of non-stop fearmongering these days? Can it really be only about the election...and will it therefore stop after November 3rd? What decidedly human element is nearly always lacking in a culture of fearmongering, yet acts as the perfect antidote for it? How can you be a flat-out disruptive force against rampant fear right now in a way that will make women love, love, love you for it? And how about fear itself...what is it? Is it binary? Should we learn how to deal with it and perhaps harness it, or eliminate it altogether? You'll hear what famous men of courage have said about that in the past. So what's the actual process to developing the habit of courage? And what's the real-world payoff for doing so? The even better question is what are the syndromic consequences to our manhood if we don't? Also, what can we do to recognize even subtle fearmongering and act accordingly before we're entrapped by it? Stay tuned for the absolute silver bullet for staying out of the fearmongering fray, and the proper response to fear-based trolls. There's a whole world of valuable resources for you and a way to schedule 25 minutes with me for free when you visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Far too much conversation nowadays has been reduced to ad hominem name calling, especially on social media. There's no question it's pedantic, anti-masculine and therefore decidedly unattractive to women. Nevertheless, it seems like emotions are running at a fever pitch and sober judgment is going out the window. In the midst of all that, how do we secure our rightful place as mature, civil men of character? And what can we do to reclaim it if we've found ourselves slipping lately? Well, my guest Ed Wynn is best known for his political commentary, but his latest book We The People gets to the heart of the subject du jour. So what's the best way to set the tone for a civil conversation from the very start? How can you guard against falling into the trap of sneaky internet trolls? Why is it people nowadays have turned everything political, are so dogmatic and judge different views so harshly? Has narrative-driven cognitive dissonance really replaced rational logic? Is it really possible to 'choose truth over facts'? How do refined, evolved men take personal responsibility and affect change in the world rather than either claiming victimhood and/or alienating everyone else in the process? Ultimately, it's all part of unraveling the mystery of why younger women love older men so much. Be a better man, get better women, enjoy a more fulfilling career and go on more magnificent adventures. It all starts with a free 25-minute phone call with me personally. Get on my calendar at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Let's face it, everything about the year 2020 thus far has compelled most people to hide in their homes for fear of going out in public. My guest today is the author of Live Great Lifestyle and The Lean Body Guide, and his number one battle these days is helping men just like you and I to stand up and get back out there. So then, we know the obvious reasons why so many of us have become homebodies these days, but what are the sneakier, more subtle ones? For starters, have you put on the 'lockdown 15' and want to get rid of it? What are some ways you can take back both your physical and psychological well-being? And how do you do that if you've lost your job, let alone have the time, money or wherewithal to figure out where to meet women nowadays? What if 2020 has delivered a major hit to your confidence in general? What kind of havoc does that wreak on your mental toughness...sometimes in dangerously subtle ways? How might this year be wearing on you such that you're less attractive to women? So what it really comes down to is, are you going to view 2020 as something that happened TO you, or something that happened FOR you? The good news is you still have about three and a half months to get it right. And yes, you can start by talking to me 1-on-1 about it. Your first 25 minutes are free when you visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest is one of those guys who had the grit and determination to go 'all in' on his dreams, laying it all on the line to become a pro basketball player. Even more fascinating is the story of how he eventually found his larger calling of empowering young athletes to greatness, while inspiring all of us to find our game and be at the top of it. Now, if you're like me, basketball isn't exactly your most marketable skill. But no worries, Dre Baldwin's message will motivate you to take your game to the next level, whatever it is. So for sure, we talk hoops some to get the show rolling, but you know how sneaky I am. It takes about a minute and a half before we're tying it all back to having the heart of a champion, overachieving and breaking apart any roadblocks standing in our way. That conversation had to start with none other than Mike, of course. What was it about MJ that was so transcendent in terms of redefining what it means to be at the top of one's game? As for Dre himself, how did he go from pro basketball player to motivational influencer? And how can you be at the pinnacle of your game, whatever it is...even if it's not basketball? Dre has four key principles for you. And of course, we talk at length about how all of this applies to improving your relationships to women...including Dre's surprising take on 'faking it 'til you make it', and the secret prerequisite to true confidence. Fall is here, and it's time for you to attract the right woman into your life. It all starts with a visit to https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

When my guest Jed Jurchenko first got married, he assumed everything would go wonderfully because, well...that's how it's supposed to work, right? Little did he know he was in for a total train wreck. Emerging from that rocky first marriage, Jed sought to understand how to build a relationship around mutual trust, a sane mindset and solid communication skills. Indeed, it's not that couples won't ever disagree, but what is the best way to handle conflict when it arises? Well, for starters you'll discover the number one best philosophy for virtually eliminating hateful, spiteful arguments...and it might not be what you think. What's the best way to effectively resolve an argument, and how exactly do you know when it has indeed been resolved? What are examples of 'atomic bombs' that should be avoided at all costs during relational conflict? If you have a long history of being 'Mr. Nice Guy' in relationships, what are the ramifications of that? And how can you proactively guard against future arguments even as you go about your day-to-day relationship? What is the golden secret that makes arguing virtually impossible? Is it really all about communication, or is there a more foundational element that must be addressed first? Just for good measure, you'll hear the powerful phrase that really gets to the heart of the matter when things get crazy. Why do women resort to nagging their men, anyway? And obviously, we'd be remiss if we didn't talk about COVID-induced stress. 2020 is still rolling on. How are you doing? Take control over your 'new normal'. You can do so by talking to me free for 25-minutes. Schedule at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

What do you get when you have a guy who looks like Tyler Childers but talks with a Mid-Atlantic accent? Someone completely different than you're used to, and that's my main man and fellow dating coach for men Ryan Black. As it turns out, he and I are both getting asked the same question over and over nowadays, and that's how in the world to meet women given the present state of things. Well, you have questions, and we have answers...starting with a look at how the situation is both radically different from AND exactly the same as it ever was. How has the COVID-19 lockdown impacted our dating lives in unexpected ways? Speaking of which, how does wearing a mask really, truly affect approaching, meeting and attracting women? And more importantly, what do you DO about it? For sure, the pandemic isn't exactly over just yet, but what are the real reasons why women seem to be shying away from actually meeting in-person, even as the world has started opening back up? You can absolutely expect real, practical ways to start inviting more women in you life in the here and now, plus some bold predictions about what the near future may look like. By the way, how does online dating factor into all of this? Plus, get my hot take on who has the world's worst Twitter feed...by far. What will your 'new normal' look like when all the dust clears? Let's talk about it for 25-minutes FREE. Schedule at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Returning guest Helena Nista is a sex therapist, tantra practitioner and author of Legendary Lover. She was a major hit with you guys the first time she was on due to her straightforward yet happy-go-lucky style, all the while absolutely free of shame while exuding pure class and femininity. That's a winning combination, so I invited her back this time to discuss how we as men should talk to women about orgasms...then actually give them all they can handle. What better place to start such a conversation than with the idea of 'mental foreplay'? Why is it that women can talk so naturally about sexual matters, yet most men freak out over it? Should we even talk about sex at all? Why not just make a move when the time is right? But wait a minute...when exactly IS the right time? Dial up the flirtation, thrill women to the moon and back, and make them come back for more. Helena spills all the secrets, and is as charming as ever as she does. And how about when we're actually in the bedroom? How can we guard against 'failing to deploy'? What different kinds of orgasms do women have, and how do we find out what they like? Also, discover how to turn even the most 'alpha' woman into a doe-eyed sex kitten. Is it true women instinctively want to pleasure us when we pleasure them? Plus, you'll be treated to a fascinating conversation about the almost supernatural elements of sexual pleasure that are rarely, if ever, talked about in the open (this even caught Helena off-guard). Fair warning...you may need a cold shower after this one, so take a deep breath before clicking 'play'. In order to improve your sex life, you have to have the right woman in it to begin with. Talk to me 25 minutes for free: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Can you believe we've never covered this topic in all the years of doing this show? But my guest Marcus Oakey from the UK is absolutely the right man for the job, given that he has been a professional charisma coach for over a decade now. So what is charisma, anyway? And why is it so elusive? Well, whatever it is, we can agree that those who exhibit it tend to do so effortlessly, or at least seemingly so. Are there different types of charisma? Can you fine-tune your persona to be uniquely charismatic? Is it possible to be charismatic without having to be the life of the party? What is 'The Unbreakable Law'? What's up with the term 'is-ness'? And what does Marcus mean by being in a constant state of 'maybe'? What is the key difference between power and strength? How do regular, normal people respond to an unusually charismatic social interaction in unexpected ways? And hold on...what's the difference between being socially advanced beyond most people and downright creepy? How do we get to that unconsciously competent level of 'is-ness' rather than 'outsourcing our thinking', as Marcus would put it? And most of all, how can we find the wherewithal to build our own charisma through changes in mindset and habits? Autumn is coming, and it's time to establish what your 'new normal' will be. Archetect a better life and get better women. Talk to me about it by scheduling at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

For the first time ever, I welcome two guests on the show at once. The Collinses (aka SiMalCo) are living proof of what happens when two people who are way too smart and educated for their own good find love together. They're serial entrepreneurs, world travelers, polymaths and—most importantly for our purposes at hand—commenters on life, sex and relationships. So the topic du jour came to pass based on the idea expressed in their book of how humans use lures to attract a mate. Buckle up, because the pace of this episode is the fastest we've seen in a long time, and we cover an immense amount of ground...often hilariously. Why is dating like sales? (including a GOLDEN tip for up-and-coming salesguys) How does the 'fishing expedition' change when we're after casual relationships vs. something long-term? Is luring someone primarily with physical attractiveness really a good strategy? Meanwhile, why do so many men get lured in and hooked by women they're not even attracted to? If you can relate, this episode will get you 'off the hook'. What was up with Simone's 'breakup deadline'? What does the ev psych idea of 'sneaky f*uckers' have to do with all of this? Plus...outgoing introverts, fishing online, and the Devil's Threesome. Attract the right woman for you once and for all. Talk to me for free by clicking on the red button at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

The truth is that being successful with women comes down in large part to learned skill. Some men have it, some don't...and even fewer are willing to fight for the right to acquire those skills. And there's no 'easy button'. Like me, my guest Darren Fuji wasn't exactly born with a the silver spoon of sexual attractiveness in his mouth. But he indeed has become an absolute machine with women over the years, culminating in his fantastic current relationship with a professional model. What clear advantages do most men have compared to most women in cultivating the skills of attraction? What are some of the big lies many men are told about their likelihood of becoming more attractive to women? And why do we now live in a society where everyone seems to want everything handed to them? Certainly the few and the proud will rise to the occasion of putting in the blood, sweat and tears to truly achieve in this life, but what are the perhaps unexpected rewards to doing so? What has laziness, lack of ambition and flat-out complacency done to the prospects for an optimistic 'new normal' from a social perspective? What about millennials...is their level of personal discipline and work ethic really below the standard set by previous generations? And by God, what must the old-timers from those previous generations think of ALL of us? Most of all, what can we do to grit out the tough first steps and establish real determination and work ethic in our lives, especially when it comes to getting a great woman? Check out the show notes page, where you can talk to me FREE for 25 minutes 1-on-1 https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

I first found out about my guest when I stumbled across his recent conversation with Scott Adams of Dilbert fame. Hotep is an independent thinker who speaks his mind, while being able to back up every word of what he says with logical sense. He has a long history of serial entrepreneurship, marketing for high-profile performers and various other pursuits, but as it turns out his curious mindset has also led to a lot of thought on women and masculinity. So for starters, what's the key to staying sane and focused in the midst of the crazy news cycles we're confronted with these days? How does Hotep measure and evaluate all the information? Why is it nearly impossible to have a real, actual conversation on Twitter anymore? Hotep talks frequently about 'reading the room'...how does that pertain to expressing bold, authentic thought? Is getting news from so-called 'unbiased' sources really the way to get down to the bottom of what's going on in the world? How can we as men step up and be bold in the face of cancel culture? What is causing so many men to fear and even grow bitter toward women, and what is the cure? What is a 'nice guy's' real problem when it comes to women? Enjoy nonstop real talk on subjects most podcasts are afraid to touch...and it's all about mutual respect, empowering all of us to make a stand for our truth and what matters most to us. Have you been to The Mountain Top Podcast's show notes page lately? Get free reports, the action-packed daily newsletter and talk to me 1-on-1 free for 25 minutes. It's all at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Well, here we go...it's the long overdue show on sexy motherhood. And yes, I completely understand the very premise is up for debate. That's why I brought in the hottest mommy I know, none other than my wife Emily. Curiously enough, the first direction we went in was debating the 'dad bod' and 'mom bod' factor. Do we as men really desire that rail-thin supermodel body, or do many of us prefer a woman shaped more like she's had a baby or two? In addition to what they look like, how do hot moms really turn us on? Is how we act and carry ourselves as dads even more profound an issue when it comes to turning those hot moms on? And how about 'boy moms'...what's the deal with them, and why are they so cool? How does life experience and parental obligation contribute to a particular affinity between single moms and single dads? When the idealistic 'halo' of childless singlehood fades, is that actually a good thing for a budding relationship? Why do so many dating coaches for men warn against dating single moms? Does that advice apply equally to single dads? Are there actually men and women out there who prefer single parents, even if they don't have any kids themselves? And God help us...what's the deal with 'dad jokes' and the certain women who love them? Join me on Parler, the new free-speech friendly social media app @scotmckay, and as always talk to me for 25 minutes free when you schedule at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest Todd Kashdan is the guru of curiosity, having literally written the book on it. As a college professor, one would think he would count his fellow highly-educated people as naturally curious...but is it really always the case? How is being curious good for your social life and your attractiveness to women? What are the perhaps unexpected benefits of adopting a curious lifestyle? Meanwhile, is there a darker side of curiosity that few people ever dare to talk about? Moreover, is there a dark side of YOU that you should be more curious about? How is curiosity--or lack thereof--tied to stress levels? Can you actually point to objective trends in today's society that are stealing our curious nature away from us? And how have media outlets capitalized upon that to get clicks, build their audience and even further an agenda? How come kids don't seem to be as curious as they used to be, and how can we instill more curiosity within them? But is it even worth being so curious when we're never going to get all the answers as long as we live? Have you talked to me for 25 minutes FREE yet? Let's talk about your plan for greatness. Visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

When his book Die Fat Or Get Tough came out, it told the truth about getting in shape that people weren't trying to hear. And that's really only one example of how Steve Siebold's work boldly addresses mental toughness in a visceral, yet engaging way that we as men can genuinely relate to. Since Steve's name came up on the show a couple of episodes ago, I reached out to him and decided to have him on to go over his latest work, along with some of his golden gems from past books. Have you ever noticed that whether it's in sports or in life, the one with the most mental toughness generally wins? Certainly, with all of the craziness happening in the world today, mental toughness is necessary just to hang in there. But what does having mental toughness even mean? And how does it directly affect your success on the field, in your career and yes...in your relationships with women? How does 'microwave thinking' defeat mental toughness? What does all of this have to do with financial success? In what ways are we being suckers in life, perhaps without even realizing it? How can mental toughness transform you into a master negotiator? What is the relationship between grit and mental toughness? How can we raise our kids to be gritty, and what makes mental toughness so crucial to successful relationships? Get a 25-minute phone consultation with me for free when you visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest co-host believes men not only are as emotional as women are, but it's important to our masculinity to feel deeply. Don't get that confused with being an 'emo' soy boy, however. For starters, GS describes what a heart-felt relationship with a modern woman who is strong yet feminine looks like. But wait...who is this 'strong woman' anyway, and what is she like? Whoever she is, she's only going to be powerfully attracted to a masculine man. So to that end, GS outlines three ways to be fully masculine without being an unemotional robot about it. How can we respond to women rather than merely reacting? What do women mean when they say they want a man who 'listens'? And what in the world is being 'emotionally available' all about? Why do women start nagging us? And what's even scarier in a relationship than that, although few of us even recognize it when it's happening? How does providing true safety to a woman contrast with the 'alpha model' of masculinity? How can men be emotional while still being conscious of how they're affecting feminine attraction and devotion? So do real men shed tears, or not? And what does that have to do with the larger question of how to be a man of depth? Join us on the Mountain Top Summit, the Facebook Group for high quality men of character and distinction https://mountaintoppodcast.com/facebook === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

So what's your personality type? Introverted? Extroverted? Thinking vs. feeling? Whatever...because my guest believes all the Enneagram and Myers-Briggs tests you have ever taken are only marginally better than the horoscope in the newspaper, at best. His ideas are positively iconoclastic, but he's done his homework and shares insights into developing your personality on YOUR terms that will make you stand up and cheer. The first place he drops the hammer is on the concept of personality versus identity. Are you really stuck being the person you've always been, even if you would really rather be someone different? I mean, what if 'just be yourself' isn't working? And furthermore, what if self-help doesn't work either? Does the 'body positive' crowd have your best interests at heart? Why exactly is it that people who lack vision are often so bored and depressed in the present? And on the other hand, how can our loftiest goals actually hamstring us from thriving? What happens when larger societal influences compel us to be a certain way or do certain things? How does 'learned helplessness' inhibit personal growth? How in the world are we supposed to figure ourselves out if we don't use standardized tests to guide us? And here's the clincher...how do our experiences with women shape our identity, and therefore our personality? Plus, even though I've been quiet about it until now, you'll get the story on how I shed over 50 pounds and reinvented my health. Find free reports, show notes and more at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

It's been nearly twelve years, but Alex Allman of Revolutionary Sex is back to cover one of the most confounding subjects possible in the world of relationship advice. That's of course, true love. What is it? What does it mean to be 'in love'? Just importantly, what does it NOT mean? And when do you know you're actually there? Well, the truth is people may have different representations and definitions for true love, but there really is some substance to it...despite how nebulous and over-used the word itself is in the English language. Alex kicks the discussion off with some deep hippie stuff from the Grateful Dead, before carefully explaining how love isn't just something to aspire to, it's something you also build...and do. He's also careful to note the spiritual aspect of romantic love, even though what he says may not be what you're expecting. And you'll definitely not hear the same old jingoistic dating advice battle cries here. To that end, we define the difference between love and infatuation. We also talk about how to make sure who you throw your heart to is going to catch it without breaking it...assuming that's possible. Is true love really a 'ball and chain', or the opposite? How do masculinity and femininity--in combination with maturity--pave the way for true love to happen? What meta-level impact does solid self-esteem have on real love that goes the distance? Is love just as much about timing as it is finding the right person? We're living in difficult times, but you're not alone. Call me for 25-minutes free. Visit the main site for details https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My co-host is a sought after social photographer in New York City whose work is featured in magazines. He has worked hundreds of weddings. This means he has seen how that many couples get along, all from a third-party perspective. Now, if you're expecting some sort of protracted 'bridezilla' rant here, you're in for a shock. Sure, couples experience a lot of stress when getting married, but can you really tell whether or not a couple has 'the right stuff' to go the long-haul simply by observing them through the wedding process? Are most guys Steven meets with the right woman for them? How long has the typical couple been dating before tying the knot? What percentage of them meet online these days? How often does it seem like the bride cares more about throwing a big wedding party than the actual man she's marrying? What are the differences between couples who are getting married for the first time vs. the second or third time? And are most guys punching above their pay grade? (how's that for a convenient conflation of two phrases?) By the way, why to we as men dislike getting our picture taken so much? Visit our sponsors Origin, Keyport and Hero Soap, plus schedule 25-minutes on the phone with me for free at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ===

We've long since evolved from the caveman days, but has our inherent nature as sexual beings? My guest is international speaker, media personality and politico-spiritual thought leader Preity Uupala, who firmly believes most women reject the notion that 'they don't need a man'. She has a fresh, interesting way of speaking about masculinity and femininity, including the fascinating perception that there's often a fine line between the two even while being polar opposites. Find out exactly what she means by that, along with some eye-opening thoughts on why men and women often have such a hard time relating to each other. Why do women say they want a 'sweet, nice guy' when they really don't? And how profound is the importance of having a strong sense of identity as a man in order to help a woman truly feel safe with us? Preity thinks like a woman while thoroughly enjoying men. That leads to her completely unique syntax and thought formation as she travels down a different path to ultimately reach the very same destination I have when it comes to how masculinity and femininity relate to each other. It's a fun conversation, for sure. Schedule 25-minutes on the phone with me for free at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

With the milestone 200th episode, it's fun to consider how far we've come, yet how many of the core ideas we still talk about have evolved. Big thanks to Eben Pagan (aka David DeAngelo) and the team at Double Your Dating for making this classic recording of my 2007 Interviews With Dating Gurus available to you as a free download for the very first time. It's truly like a blast through everything foundational here at X & Y Communications, which is fitting since it's the interview that basically put us on the map. Back then, getting this gig was for a dating coach like appearing on The Tonight Show was for a stand-up comic. We talk about deserving what you want, why self-help tactics usually fail, how (and why) to date multiple women on the way to meeting 'the one', and how I decided to get married. You'll get the first mention of 'the big four' ever, discover what an 'I/J' is and why high-quality women avoid them, hear the case for why chivalry still matters, and get a load of the one simple (and now infamous) meeting with a woman that changed my life forever. Then we talk about the first date phrase women use that lets you know you just hit the jackpot, and secrets to dating success for men who are shorter than average. You'll get my thoughts on dating younger women, how to identify a quality woman without being influenced by what others think, and of course I wouldn't think of leaving you hanging with regard to either 'the nuclear weapon or attraction' or 'the most important 30 minutes in dating'. You're likely to get a kick out of how radically different the conversation is in this interview from the typical pick-up artist advice from that time period. It was somewhat revolutionary back then. There are lots of links in this episode, so it's best to head over to the show notes page and collect all the goodies. https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Okay, this is going to be a sticky episode for many of you guys, as it contains plenty of potentially incendiary ideas that will rip the scabs off of old wounds. But it's all for the greater good, as you'll see. We'll uncover the types of traumas many of us endure during childhood, and shine the light on how it all affects us as grown men. According to my guest, psychotherapist Riana Milne, virtually all of us experience at least some of these traumatic experiences growing up, and I'm inclined to believe her. Having gotten to know Riana and her work, she has earned my genuine respect, as helping heal brokenness is arduous, messy work. So heads up, when Riana starts going over the top ten traumas kids tend to face, it really is going to stir the pot for many of us...starting with why there is more dysfunctional trauma going on now than in years past, and a greater number of psychopaths out there as well. Next, find out the nature of Jekyll and Hyde relationships and why they're so devastating. What is up with how people nowadays are so addicted to electronic devices and media? What impact does fatherhood in particular really have on child development? Are many of us completely oblivious to even having undergone trauma as kids? How damaging is mental illness to the futures of our children? Could a high need for sexual activity as an adult point to childhood trauma? How will kids going through the current COVID-19 global crisis be potentially affected as adults? And best of all, Riana reveals how to move from the blame and shame game toward a happier, more fulfilling life of great relationships with others. Discover blue sky ahead by scheduling 25-minutes with me for free at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Over the past four years or so, the idea of The Hero's Journey has come up more and more often. My guest has built his entire practice around it, so for this episode we decided to go beyond the basic definitions and examples and do a deep dive. So for starters, what is it about this archetypal rendition of the classic hero story that is so riveting to us as men? Joseph Campbell's idea of powerful myth has fueled atheistic thought, but is that really the only logical perspective one can take? How does The Hero's Journey speak to universal truth not only in how we as humans attempt to comprehend the universe, but also in how we process the pattern of our own lives? And what's more, how does it all matter to YOU in becoming the best 'big four' man of character you can be? What does The Hero's Journey tell us about patience, virtue and the importance of mentorship? Why is it so important to leave home, only to ultimately return? How does The Hero's Journey narrative help us reconcile 'Imposter Syndrome'? Who is 'The Goddess' and how does she empower us to be better with women? Why is it that the most interesting part of The Hero's Journey comes right before the end? And how come 'hero' is such a loaded term, such that few accept being referred to as one? By the way, is there such thing as 'The Anti-Hero's Journey'? Be the hero in your own life...and in the lives of women everywhere. It all starts with a free 25-minute phone call with me. Schedule at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

You don't have to be fictional--or dead--to be legendary. My guest Tommy Breedlove quite literally wrote the book on it. He joins us to talk about how to man up and reinvent ourselves in order to make a real, measurable difference in this life. So first off, what's the very foundation of becoming legendary? And what does being legendary even mean? How do women view and respond to legendary men? Do you have to be world famous in order to be legendary? What if we struggle to feel like we're 'enough'? How can we start today on our own path to legendary status? What are the new habits we need to develop over the longer term? Next, Tommy reveals the arch enemies of maximizing your core purpose...and wait until you hear the shocking place those enemies hail from. What is the best advice for sticking to what's good and avoiding the 'dark side'? On that note, what gets into certain men's minds leading them to become 'legendary' bad guys, anyway? How can we know the cause we're to become legendary for really is a good one? If we find ourselves angry, how do we harness that for a valid, significant legacy contribution to this world? And how can good be the enemy of what's best, thereby hamstringing our true purpose? Gentlemen, join a band of brothers who will lift one another to greatness. It begins by taking control of your own 'new normal' and getting on board for Un-Settled. https://mountaintoppodcast.com/unsettled === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Mark Edward Davis has been a men's coach for years now, and he's the right guest to join me for the topic of 'panic proofing' ourselves...which has been on my mind since the COVID-19 disruption started. We jump right in, starting with how masculinity is integrally linked to staying calm and collected under pressure, and what it actually looks like to be 'the rock' when a storm hits. What is the stark difference between those who panic and those remain calm and lead? Hint: it's ridiculously simple and uncomplicated What is the secret to rising above potential feelings of inadequacy or even 'Imposter Syndrome' to lead in the midst of crisis? How about a real, practical way to literally be the voice of calm? Mark reveals the difference between smart soldiers and dead ones...in other words, why thousands of stormtroopers get shot in Star Wars when none of the main characters do. What do the most respected US presidents in recent history have in common? How can we build the habit of having 'field sense' during intense moments of crisis? How does the importance of fatherhood factor into all of this? Are attitudes even more contagious than COVID-19? How optimistic should we be? Get fired up for this essential conversation, gentlemen. And the way, what would Vince Lombardi do? Visit the newly-updated https://www.mountaintoppodcast.com and talk to me free for 25-minutes. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My long time friend David Shade is the undisputed master of giving women incredible pleasure. He returns to the show once again to deliver powerful insights into what it will be like relating to women after the current quarantine is over and the 'all clear' sign is given. So how about it? What is the 'new normal' going to be after COVID-19, especially as it relates to women and sex? David offers his thoughts, in context with the fact he is 64 and has a 20-year-old girlfriend. That's not a typo, and you'll hear not only exactly how he made that happen, but why it's not unusual for him. Doesn't he ever feel like he's babysitting...I mean, they're not even old enough to drink? Wait until you hear his shocking answer. That leads to his take on female sexual maturity, and how we as men can be more sexually mature even in our twenties. What does David have to say about giving women what they need in order for them to give you what you want? Will it surprise you to hear David talk about women being in charge? It shouldn't...once you discover what he really means. Find out David's ninja strategy for relating to women you've been dating during social distancing, and how to stop fearing 'rejection'. And how does the nature of women's fantasies portend what post-quarantine dating life will be like? How are you doing during the present quarantine situation? Talk to me 25 minutes for free when you sign up at the newly-updated http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Beyond the catchy phrase, what exactly was my long-time friend Dr. Jed Diamond talking about when he coined the term 'Disconnection Syndrome'? Well for starters, you'll find out it's far more complex than people merely being separated from each other. It's a systemic issue that's been brewing for years now, and affects even our relationship with self. To kick off the conversation, Jed defines Disconnection Syndrome and explains how it's directly responsible for many of the ongoing social issues we see in today's world. Discover how this transcends the interpersonal to include how we interact with the world itself, as evidenced by some of the perhaps unexpected environmental effects of the current global pandemic. Meanwhile, what are some of the negative effects that purely electronic interaction has on our real, human abilities to connect? Are there subtle ways we've cheapened our sense of connection without even realizing it? Discover the surprising answers to these questions, along with the shocking ways our physical bodies and minds adapt. The most profound part of this episode comes when Jed details how we have become disconnected from our own identity as men. What happened there, why is it so rampant in today's world and how do we fix it? Overall, how can we get back to basics in the form of real, live human connection, and how might the pandemic crisis actually help us collectively to do that? Many of the men who do Laser Coaching with me or who are on the Ten-Plus strategic coaching program have been communicating with me in recent days about specific ideas and concerns in the midst of the current pandemic. You too can talk to me for free for 25 minutes by scheduling at www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

For those of us who live what I call 'The Suburban Sleepwalk', the present COVID-19 pandemic has represented one of the most profound challenges of our lifetime. We can't just watch this unfold on television...we're LIVING it. Obviously, having our proverbial 'cheese moved' is inherently painful, especially when our relationships and our very livelihood are disrupted. Even though such disruption feels like an imminent threat, how do we not only survive but thrive in context? What if instead of losing our sense of humor we found it? How can we turn lemons into lemonade? And does having our world shaken up quite literally challenge us to reevaluate what is important and valuable to us? Meanwhile, were the survival and preparedness guys really on to something here? What can we expect to be different in our lives--and in the world writ large--once the 'all clear' signal is given? Can we look forward to a kinder, friendlier and perhaps even cleaner world to live in, or will people simply revert back to their respective comfort zones? Tune in for surprising predictions on how the state of dating and relating will be affected, along with practical ideas on how to take every good, valuable and positive lesson from this present crisis and run with it long term. Coincidentally, and perhaps surprisingly, Emily and I were already committed to disrupting our lives in the best way possible. These times have only illuminated how powerful that can be. The best news is YOU can join us in reaching for better, doing more and living with greater purpose AND fulfillment. Your open invitation can be found at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/unsettled. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest, Alison Pena is known as 'The Bad Widow', and you're about to find out why. Just a few short years ago she found herself heartbroken by the loss of her beloved husband, who passed after a brief illness. But in the midst of her considerable grief and gritting her way through picking up the pieces, something remarkable happened. As you listen to her, you'll quickly realize her story is not only inspiring and unexpectedly uplifting, it's also as powerful a roadmap to understanding and relating to widowed women as you've ever imagined. And of course, if you've lost the love of your life yourself, this episode promises to be a source of inspiration for you. In this episode, we tackle all of the most confusing, frustrating and heartwrenching issues, beginning with why people's behavior tends to be so ironic toward those who are near death. And what about how weird people also get when you've experienced deep personal loss? Wait until you hear Alison's brave and ingenious plan to cut through that shame and uncertainty in order to genuinely connect with those around her. What was her stunning realization that somehow gave her peace and even freedom after her husband passed? And how did she open up to successfully finding love again? What's more, how did her current partner masterfully navigate her widowhood as a quintessential 'big four' man? What are the steps to doing the same if you ever date a widow? Join the cadre of men who want MORE out of life...while discovering how to live again. It's called Un-Settled, and you can sign on here http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/unsettled === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

I have to tip my hat to my guest, Matt Sinkovitz. Not only has he taken on the topic of how porn affects our lives, he's made it his primary gig. Right out of the gate, we address the concept of porn addiction. You'll appreciate Matt's candid take on this loaded topic. And with the global percentage of Internet traffic that's porn-related, could it be true that virtually everyone is watching it? In that context, how does a guy reconcile his deep feelings of shame and guilt over doing so? What are some of the particularly jarring and at times unexpected sources and consequences of that shame? Do most men really have schlongers as big as male porn stars? Are all porn actresses being exploited and/or trafficked? Isn't porn sex nothing like real-world sex anyway? What's the real-world difference between watching porn and satisfying oneself using pure imagination? Should getting a hot girlfriend or wife be a reasonable cure for the desire to watch porn? Is there a correlation between porn usage and other negative patterns in our lives...even at an unconscious level? So let's say we're successful in quitting porn...what real-world advantages can we expect to gain from that? Should we go full-on 'no fap'? How can we as men overcome hiding in the darkness to find the community and support necessary to succeed? And hold on a second...is porn really all bad? Is there a counterpoint that outlines some of the benefits of watching it? Listen and be both challenged and amazed. Head over to mountaintoppodcast.com to score free reports, the full Amazon store and your quick way to schedule a free 25-minute call with me. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Want to feel more alive, pursue your passions, make women love you and score some extra money on top of all else? Two words: side hustle. My guest Nick Loper is the man with the plan, and he joins us for the long-overdue deep dive on the subject. So what exactly is a side hustle? And how come nobody ever uses the term 'moonlighting' in the online entrepreneurial space? What does it take to let our ideas become reality and how does that make us feel more alive? Next, we talk about how to launch a side hustle that matters, including specific action steps. Why is starting a side biz like online dating? What is Nick's 'buy buttons theory'? And what if you can't seem to come up with any genius, original ideas? (As a bonus, this is also a ninja strategy for developing your stand-up comedy routine!) How does Nick's 'what sucks' exercise relate to all of this? As counter-intuitive as it sounds, how can building a new source of income actually increase your overall freedom as opposed to bogging you down with more busy work? Finally, what are the first steps you can take once you decide you're all in on starting a side hustle for yourself? If you haven't visited mountaintoppodcast.com in a while, you're missing out on free reports, the full Amazon store and your quick way to schedule a free 25-minute call with me. Go for it! www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Man, isn't it true how some people grow older, but they somehow never grow up? My guest is Josh Burnette, author of Adulting 101, and he has very specific theories as to how and why this happens. What's going on in our minds when we opt to avoid evolving into mature, responsible adults? Is what we're holding onto really better than what we gain by growing up? Obviously, being a child--or worse, a Neanderthal--isn't attractive to women at all, and it won't ever advance your career. Is there a 'bigger picture' to adulting that extends beyond our sense of self? What is more important to a true adult than mere happiness? What are some of the key life lessons that adults have figured out? And what does Josh do to motivate guys toward adulthood? What specific tips does he give? And who's going to be around for guys in real life to lead by example? What happened in Josh's life when he got married and became a father? Clearly, one must BE and adult before one can effectively raise kids, right? So wait a minute, does that all add up to a sobering reality that lots and lots of people skip marriage, swear off having kids and perhaps stay in that dead-end job out of a desire to avoid 'adulting' altogether? Sounds preposterous... All of this and more crisp, golden tenders of wisdom from the back of the house at Chick-Fil-A. Now you can schedule a 25-minute call with me directly, download free reports and more at www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Let's face it. If I know anything about you guys who listen to this show, it's that you're not getting any sleep. It may seem heroic now, but it's not healthy and it's pretty much killing us. Enter Mollie McGlocklin, a sleep optimization expert who knows how to put this topic to bed, once and for all. Fortunately, she didn't take my advice and call her upcoming new podcast 'Sleep With Mollie' or 'Let's Go To Bed'. She wisely chose 'Sleep Is A Skill' as her brand, and her mission is to give us a wake up call when it comes to healthy sleep. So don't worry, sleepyhead...this ain't one of those weird but crazy-popular podcasts designed for insomniacs. So then, what did Mollie discover through her own sleepless experiences? And why is it that we have such a harder time getting to sleep in today's world? Why is everyone up all night and getting up at the crack of lunch? How exactly is that making us sicker? Meanwhile, is there really an ideal sleep amount, or does that vary? Why do older folks actually need less sleep? How come some people need a cold and/or noisy room? And what's up with 'power napping'? Plus, as a special bonus you'll get my quick and dirty tips for solving 'jet lag'. Sweet dreams, amigos. Check out new badass friends of the show, download free reports, check the transcript and get on my schedule in real-time...all at www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Well, if there has ever been an overdue topic, this one is it. On this show we shamelessly discuss the 'm word', courtesy of my charming guest Helena Nista. Helena is originally from Poland and now living in Australia. She is a sex therapist, tantric practitioner and occasional body worker (yes, it's what you think). According to her, the body is capable of 'tons and tons of multi-layered amazing, ecstatic, blissful pleasurable experiences', and she is all about helping us realize those blissful states. She believes that practicing with oneself allows us as men to achieve better sexual control and discover more intense, full-body orgasmic experiences. Discover the fascinating reasons why most people are so bad at self-pleasuring, perhaps without even realizing it. What does Helena have to say about the No-Fap Movement? Do men lose their sexual energy when they masturbate? And what makes her so confident that she knows how men experience orgasms, even as a woman? Discover why Helena believes self-pleasure is fantastic training for paired sex. Can you have a 45 minute, full-body orgasm as a man? And would we even want to, considering most of us are already realizing how much we could go for a burger and a beer before we're even done ejaculating? Finally, what about women and masturbation? What do we as men need to know about that? Find out more about our guest and sign up for a free 25-minute call with me personally at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest Rob Kowalski grew up without a dad, and ended up becoming a male stripper in his early adult years. Finally, after leading a rambunctious life of sex and debauchery with countless women, he had a faith conversion experience which inspired him to stop having sex outside the bonds of holy matrimony. Now in his mid-forties, Rob is still unmarried...and yes, he's still not having sex. In most faith based settings, both teens and adults are simply told to stay away from sex until marriage, without really being told why. But in this episode, you'll hear Rob's resolute, logical case for abstention until marriage, and why even masturbation is out of bounds. Are people getting the timing of marriage all wrong vis-a-vis modern postponement of adulthood? And how does the virtue of delayed gratification enter into all of this? And is sex outside of marriage inherently disrespectful, if not downright abusive to women because they're wired differently? What if the big disconnect really is that we as men are still focused on sex, even if it's while vowing abstinence? Whereas, what if a truly healthy relationship focuses less on sex as the central cornerstone of long-term happiness? Wouldn't it be easier to bypass fast sex under those circumstances? And moreover, does that have anything at all to do with what love is really all about...as opposed to pure lust? And how does any of this apply logically or emotionally to men who aren't of the Christian faith? Ready to introduce the woman of your dreams to your world? Join me at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

When my co-host Jennifer Dougherty was in the business world, she started to feel a bit burned out. What did she do to pull herself out of that conundrum and change her mindset? Well, it all led to her to write a book on how she beat burnout and got focused. How can you too genuinely come to grips with what your dreams really are, and why you're dreaming them? And what if you're already doing that which you genuinely dreamed of doing, and yet are still feeling crispy around the edges? How does that mess with your productivity, let alone your mindset? How do talent, passion, strategy and hard work intersect to contribute to dream realization? What are the ironic bad feelings people can experience even after apparently accomplishing what they dreamed of doing? Are dreams overrated, given how people tend to feel once they've fulfilled them? Is it unreasonable and possibly even counter-productive to encourage our kids to dream big? And what of the idea that we often don't even realize what we wanted all along until we get it? How in the world would we reverse engineer such a concept? Do people sabotage their dreams willingly when they can't see past the moment? And of course, what do you do if you feel like your dreams aren't working out as planned? Isn't it time for you to start living your dream...or possibly even dreaming BIGGER? Let's talk. Join me at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

You guys tend to love those shows where we do a deep dive into a particularly intelligent realm of thought and seek out truly profound breakthroughs. When I happened across a piece by my long-time Danish friend Michael Lassen on virtuous patience vs. simply waiting around, I instinctively knew it was a moral imperative as men to have him on the show. So for starters, what's the difference between accepting and embracing a certain situation? Is waiting really a virtue? And what's the concrete difference between waiting and patience? Further, is patience meant to be aimed at achieving perfection, or is that counter-productive? How patient should you be when the woman you want is dating another guy who is no good for her? Discover Michael's three-faceted approach to gaining personal power, regardless of the outcome of any particular situation. Then, find out what my own personal interaction with Navy SEALs has revealed about how they are trained to harness personal power in the exact same way. Also, if patience is a virtue, shouldn't life be about enjoying the journey? Science may in fact support that very notion... And as a special bonus, you'll also get Michael's truly evolved thoughts on 'approaching' and attracting women, along with some objective ideas on avoiding the number one most devastating attraction killer. Find show notes, transcripts, free reports, the YouTube version, book recommendations and more at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

We never want to let things get too straight-laced around here, so for a change of pace I 'talk smack' this episode with my new friend Jillian Keenan, who is an international journalist and spanking expert. So the obvious first question is how does one become a spanking expert to begin with? Jillian's surprising answer sets the tone for the rest of the show, beginning with why women LOVE to be spanked during sex, and how spanking takes on profound sexual importance for some. Next, discover the mindblowing physiology behind why women find spanking sexually pleasurable. What is the difference between spanking as a kink vs. as a fetish? Why is it that spanking is so closely tied to playful flirtation? And of course, I'd be in for a 'red ass' if I didn't acknowledge how the classic representations of spanking in film didn't factor into all this. Is scolding--or even downright disciplinary shame--a part of what makes spanking so sexy? What goes on at organized 'spanking parties'? What is a 'service switch'? And how about the most effective mechanics of a good, proper spanking? By the way, does Jillian basically run around 'butt hurt' her entire life without being able to sit down...or is there 'recovery time' allowed? Basically, even though we get slap-happy about it, you can look forward to the whole truth about spanking, no ifs, ands or butts. January is already half over. If 2020 is going to be your year to get the right woman into your life, let's get on it: http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!