Better Men Get Better Women - The Mountain Top

Can you believe we've never covered this topic in all the years of doing this show? But my guest Marcus Oakey from the UK is absolutely the right man for the job, given that he has been a professional charisma coach for over a decade now. So what is charisma, anyway? And why is it so elusive? Well, whatever it is, we can agree that those who exhibit it tend to do so effortlessly, or at least seemingly so. Are there different types of charisma? Can you fine-tune your persona to be uniquely charismatic? Is it possible to be charismatic without having to be the life of the party? What is 'The Unbreakable Law'? What's up with the term 'is-ness'? And what does Marcus mean by being in a constant state of 'maybe'? What is the key difference between power and strength? How do regular, normal people respond to an unusually charismatic social interaction in unexpected ways? And hold on...what's the difference between being socially advanced beyond most people and downright creepy? How do we get to that unconsciously competent level of 'is-ness' rather than 'outsourcing our thinking', as Marcus would put it? And most of all, how can we find the wherewithal to build our own charisma through changes in mindset and habits? Autumn is coming, and it's time to establish what your 'new normal' will be. Archetect a better life and get better women. Talk to me about it by scheduling at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

For the first time ever, I welcome two guests on the show at once. The Collinses (aka SiMalCo) are living proof of what happens when two people who are way too smart and educated for their own good find love together. They're serial entrepreneurs, world travelers, polymaths and—most importantly for our purposes at hand—commenters on life, sex and relationships. So the topic du jour came to pass based on the idea expressed in their book of how humans use lures to attract a mate. Buckle up, because the pace of this episode is the fastest we've seen in a long time, and we cover an immense amount of ground...often hilariously. Why is dating like sales? (including a GOLDEN tip for up-and-coming salesguys) How does the 'fishing expedition' change when we're after casual relationships vs. something long-term? Is luring someone primarily with physical attractiveness really a good strategy? Meanwhile, why do so many men get lured in and hooked by women they're not even attracted to? If you can relate, this episode will get you 'off the hook'. What was up with Simone's 'breakup deadline'? What does the ev psych idea of 'sneaky f*uckers' have to do with all of this? Plus...outgoing introverts, fishing online, and the Devil's Threesome. Attract the right woman for you once and for all. Talk to me for free by clicking on the red button at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

The truth is that being successful with women comes down in large part to learned skill. Some men have it, some don't...and even fewer are willing to fight for the right to acquire those skills. And there's no 'easy button'. Like me, my guest Darren Fuji wasn't exactly born with a the silver spoon of sexual attractiveness in his mouth. But he indeed has become an absolute machine with women over the years, culminating in his fantastic current relationship with a professional model. What clear advantages do most men have compared to most women in cultivating the skills of attraction? What are some of the big lies many men are told about their likelihood of becoming more attractive to women? And why do we now live in a society where everyone seems to want everything handed to them? Certainly the few and the proud will rise to the occasion of putting in the blood, sweat and tears to truly achieve in this life, but what are the perhaps unexpected rewards to doing so? What has laziness, lack of ambition and flat-out complacency done to the prospects for an optimistic 'new normal' from a social perspective? What about millennials...is their level of personal discipline and work ethic really below the standard set by previous generations? And by God, what must the old-timers from those previous generations think of ALL of us? Most of all, what can we do to grit out the tough first steps and establish real determination and work ethic in our lives, especially when it comes to getting a great woman? Check out the show notes page, where you can talk to me FREE for 25 minutes 1-on-1 https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

I first found out about my guest when I stumbled across his recent conversation with Scott Adams of Dilbert fame. Hotep is an independent thinker who speaks his mind, while being able to back up every word of what he says with logical sense. He has a long history of serial entrepreneurship, marketing for high-profile performers and various other pursuits, but as it turns out his curious mindset has also led to a lot of thought on women and masculinity. So for starters, what's the key to staying sane and focused in the midst of the crazy news cycles we're confronted with these days? How does Hotep measure and evaluate all the information? Why is it nearly impossible to have a real, actual conversation on Twitter anymore? Hotep talks frequently about 'reading the room'...how does that pertain to expressing bold, authentic thought? Is getting news from so-called 'unbiased' sources really the way to get down to the bottom of what's going on in the world? How can we as men step up and be bold in the face of cancel culture? What is causing so many men to fear and even grow bitter toward women, and what is the cure? What is a 'nice guy's' real problem when it comes to women? Enjoy nonstop real talk on subjects most podcasts are afraid to touch...and it's all about mutual respect, empowering all of us to make a stand for our truth and what matters most to us. Have you been to The Mountain Top Podcast's show notes page lately? Get free reports, the action-packed daily newsletter and talk to me 1-on-1 free for 25 minutes. It's all at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Well, here we go...it's the long overdue show on sexy motherhood. And yes, I completely understand the very premise is up for debate. That's why I brought in the hottest mommy I know, none other than my wife Emily. Curiously enough, the first direction we went in was debating the 'dad bod' and 'mom bod' factor. Do we as men really desire that rail-thin supermodel body, or do many of us prefer a woman shaped more like she's had a baby or two? In addition to what they look like, how do hot moms really turn us on? Is how we act and carry ourselves as dads even more profound an issue when it comes to turning those hot moms on? And how about 'boy moms'...what's the deal with them, and why are they so cool? How does life experience and parental obligation contribute to a particular affinity between single moms and single dads? When the idealistic 'halo' of childless singlehood fades, is that actually a good thing for a budding relationship? Why do so many dating coaches for men warn against dating single moms? Does that advice apply equally to single dads? Are there actually men and women out there who prefer single parents, even if they don't have any kids themselves? And God help us...what's the deal with 'dad jokes' and the certain women who love them? Join me on Parler, the new free-speech friendly social media app @scotmckay, and as always talk to me for 25 minutes free when you schedule at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest Todd Kashdan is the guru of curiosity, having literally written the book on it. As a college professor, one would think he would count his fellow highly-educated people as naturally curious...but is it really always the case? How is being curious good for your social life and your attractiveness to women? What are the perhaps unexpected benefits of adopting a curious lifestyle? Meanwhile, is there a darker side of curiosity that few people ever dare to talk about? Moreover, is there a dark side of YOU that you should be more curious about? How is curiosity--or lack thereof--tied to stress levels? Can you actually point to objective trends in today's society that are stealing our curious nature away from us? And how have media outlets capitalized upon that to get clicks, build their audience and even further an agenda? How come kids don't seem to be as curious as they used to be, and how can we instill more curiosity within them? But is it even worth being so curious when we're never going to get all the answers as long as we live? Have you talked to me for 25 minutes FREE yet? Let's talk about your plan for greatness. Visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

When his book Die Fat Or Get Tough came out, it told the truth about getting in shape that people weren't trying to hear. And that's really only one example of how Steve Siebold's work boldly addresses mental toughness in a visceral, yet engaging way that we as men can genuinely relate to. Since Steve's name came up on the show a couple of episodes ago, I reached out to him and decided to have him on to go over his latest work, along with some of his golden gems from past books. Have you ever noticed that whether it's in sports or in life, the one with the most mental toughness generally wins? Certainly, with all of the craziness happening in the world today, mental toughness is necessary just to hang in there. But what does having mental toughness even mean? And how does it directly affect your success on the field, in your career and yes...in your relationships with women? How does 'microwave thinking' defeat mental toughness? What does all of this have to do with financial success? In what ways are we being suckers in life, perhaps without even realizing it? How can mental toughness transform you into a master negotiator? What is the relationship between grit and mental toughness? How can we raise our kids to be gritty, and what makes mental toughness so crucial to successful relationships? Get a 25-minute phone consultation with me for free when you visit https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest co-host believes men not only are as emotional as women are, but it's important to our masculinity to feel deeply. Don't get that confused with being an 'emo' soy boy, however. For starters, GS describes what a heart-felt relationship with a modern woman who is strong yet feminine looks like. But wait...who is this 'strong woman' anyway, and what is she like? Whoever she is, she's only going to be powerfully attracted to a masculine man. So to that end, GS outlines three ways to be fully masculine without being an unemotional robot about it. How can we respond to women rather than merely reacting? What do women mean when they say they want a man who 'listens'? And what in the world is being 'emotionally available' all about? Why do women start nagging us? And what's even scarier in a relationship than that, although few of us even recognize it when it's happening? How does providing true safety to a woman contrast with the 'alpha model' of masculinity? How can men be emotional while still being conscious of how they're affecting feminine attraction and devotion? So do real men shed tears, or not? And what does that have to do with the larger question of how to be a man of depth? Join us on the Mountain Top Summit, the Facebook Group for high quality men of character and distinction https://mountaintoppodcast.com/facebook === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

So what's your personality type? Introverted? Extroverted? Thinking vs. feeling? Whatever...because my guest believes all the Enneagram and Myers-Briggs tests you have ever taken are only marginally better than the horoscope in the newspaper, at best. His ideas are positively iconoclastic, but he's done his homework and shares insights into developing your personality on YOUR terms that will make you stand up and cheer. The first place he drops the hammer is on the concept of personality versus identity. Are you really stuck being the person you've always been, even if you would really rather be someone different? I mean, what if 'just be yourself' isn't working? And furthermore, what if self-help doesn't work either? Does the 'body positive' crowd have your best interests at heart? Why exactly is it that people who lack vision are often so bored and depressed in the present? And on the other hand, how can our loftiest goals actually hamstring us from thriving? What happens when larger societal influences compel us to be a certain way or do certain things? How does 'learned helplessness' inhibit personal growth? How in the world are we supposed to figure ourselves out if we don't use standardized tests to guide us? And here's the clincher...how do our experiences with women shape our identity, and therefore our personality? Plus, even though I've been quiet about it until now, you'll get the story on how I shed over 50 pounds and reinvented my health. Find free reports, show notes and more at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

It's been nearly twelve years, but Alex Allman of Revolutionary Sex is back to cover one of the most confounding subjects possible in the world of relationship advice. That's of course, true love. What is it? What does it mean to be 'in love'? Just importantly, what does it NOT mean? And when do you know you're actually there? Well, the truth is people may have different representations and definitions for true love, but there really is some substance to it...despite how nebulous and over-used the word itself is in the English language. Alex kicks the discussion off with some deep hippie stuff from the Grateful Dead, before carefully explaining how love isn't just something to aspire to, it's something you also build...and do. He's also careful to note the spiritual aspect of romantic love, even though what he says may not be what you're expecting. And you'll definitely not hear the same old jingoistic dating advice battle cries here. To that end, we define the difference between love and infatuation. We also talk about how to make sure who you throw your heart to is going to catch it without breaking it...assuming that's possible. Is true love really a 'ball and chain', or the opposite? How do masculinity and femininity--in combination with maturity--pave the way for true love to happen? What meta-level impact does solid self-esteem have on real love that goes the distance? Is love just as much about timing as it is finding the right person? We're living in difficult times, but you're not alone. Call me for 25-minutes free. Visit the main site for details https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My co-host is a sought after social photographer in New York City whose work is featured in magazines. He has worked hundreds of weddings. This means he has seen how that many couples get along, all from a third-party perspective. Now, if you're expecting some sort of protracted 'bridezilla' rant here, you're in for a shock. Sure, couples experience a lot of stress when getting married, but can you really tell whether or not a couple has 'the right stuff' to go the long-haul simply by observing them through the wedding process? Are most guys Steven meets with the right woman for them? How long has the typical couple been dating before tying the knot? What percentage of them meet online these days? How often does it seem like the bride cares more about throwing a big wedding party than the actual man she's marrying? What are the differences between couples who are getting married for the first time vs. the second or third time? And are most guys punching above their pay grade? (how's that for a convenient conflation of two phrases?) By the way, why to we as men dislike getting our picture taken so much? Visit our sponsors Origin, Keyport and Hero Soap, plus schedule 25-minutes on the phone with me for free at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ===

We've long since evolved from the caveman days, but has our inherent nature as sexual beings? My guest is international speaker, media personality and politico-spiritual thought leader Preity Uupala, who firmly believes most women reject the notion that 'they don't need a man'. She has a fresh, interesting way of speaking about masculinity and femininity, including the fascinating perception that there's often a fine line between the two even while being polar opposites. Find out exactly what she means by that, along with some eye-opening thoughts on why men and women often have such a hard time relating to each other. Why do women say they want a 'sweet, nice guy' when they really don't? And how profound is the importance of having a strong sense of identity as a man in order to help a woman truly feel safe with us? Preity thinks like a woman while thoroughly enjoying men. That leads to her completely unique syntax and thought formation as she travels down a different path to ultimately reach the very same destination I have when it comes to how masculinity and femininity relate to each other. It's a fun conversation, for sure. Schedule 25-minutes on the phone with me for free at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

With the milestone 200th episode, it's fun to consider how far we've come, yet how many of the core ideas we still talk about have evolved. Big thanks to Eben Pagan (aka David DeAngelo) and the team at Double Your Dating for making this classic recording of my 2007 Interviews With Dating Gurus available to you as a free download for the very first time. It's truly like a blast through everything foundational here at X & Y Communications, which is fitting since it's the interview that basically put us on the map. Back then, getting this gig was for a dating coach like appearing on The Tonight Show was for a stand-up comic. We talk about deserving what you want, why self-help tactics usually fail, how (and why) to date multiple women on the way to meeting 'the one', and how I decided to get married. You'll get the first mention of 'the big four' ever, discover what an 'I/J' is and why high-quality women avoid them, hear the case for why chivalry still matters, and get a load of the one simple (and now infamous) meeting with a woman that changed my life forever. Then we talk about the first date phrase women use that lets you know you just hit the jackpot, and secrets to dating success for men who are shorter than average. You'll get my thoughts on dating younger women, how to identify a quality woman without being influenced by what others think, and of course I wouldn't think of leaving you hanging with regard to either 'the nuclear weapon or attraction' or 'the most important 30 minutes in dating'. You're likely to get a kick out of how radically different the conversation is in this interview from the typical pick-up artist advice from that time period. It was somewhat revolutionary back then. There are lots of links in this episode, so it's best to head over to the show notes page and collect all the goodies. https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Okay, this is going to be a sticky episode for many of you guys, as it contains plenty of potentially incendiary ideas that will rip the scabs off of old wounds. But it's all for the greater good, as you'll see. We'll uncover the types of traumas many of us endure during childhood, and shine the light on how it all affects us as grown men. According to my guest, psychotherapist Riana Milne, virtually all of us experience at least some of these traumatic experiences growing up, and I'm inclined to believe her. Having gotten to know Riana and her work, she has earned my genuine respect, as helping heal brokenness is arduous, messy work. So heads up, when Riana starts going over the top ten traumas kids tend to face, it really is going to stir the pot for many of us...starting with why there is more dysfunctional trauma going on now than in years past, and a greater number of psychopaths out there as well. Next, find out the nature of Jekyll and Hyde relationships and why they're so devastating. What is up with how people nowadays are so addicted to electronic devices and media? What impact does fatherhood in particular really have on child development? Are many of us completely oblivious to even having undergone trauma as kids? How damaging is mental illness to the futures of our children? Could a high need for sexual activity as an adult point to childhood trauma? How will kids going through the current COVID-19 global crisis be potentially affected as adults? And best of all, Riana reveals how to move from the blame and shame game toward a happier, more fulfilling life of great relationships with others. Discover blue sky ahead by scheduling 25-minutes with me for free at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Over the past four years or so, the idea of The Hero's Journey has come up more and more often. My guest has built his entire practice around it, so for this episode we decided to go beyond the basic definitions and examples and do a deep dive. So for starters, what is it about this archetypal rendition of the classic hero story that is so riveting to us as men? Joseph Campbell's idea of powerful myth has fueled atheistic thought, but is that really the only logical perspective one can take? How does The Hero's Journey speak to universal truth not only in how we as humans attempt to comprehend the universe, but also in how we process the pattern of our own lives? And what's more, how does it all matter to YOU in becoming the best 'big four' man of character you can be? What does The Hero's Journey tell us about patience, virtue and the importance of mentorship? Why is it so important to leave home, only to ultimately return? How does The Hero's Journey narrative help us reconcile 'Imposter Syndrome'? Who is 'The Goddess' and how does she empower us to be better with women? Why is it that the most interesting part of The Hero's Journey comes right before the end? And how come 'hero' is such a loaded term, such that few accept being referred to as one? By the way, is there such thing as 'The Anti-Hero's Journey'? Be the hero in your own life...and in the lives of women everywhere. It all starts with a free 25-minute phone call with me. Schedule at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

You don't have to be fictional--or dead--to be legendary. My guest Tommy Breedlove quite literally wrote the book on it. He joins us to talk about how to man up and reinvent ourselves in order to make a real, measurable difference in this life. So first off, what's the very foundation of becoming legendary? And what does being legendary even mean? How do women view and respond to legendary men? Do you have to be world famous in order to be legendary? What if we struggle to feel like we're 'enough'? How can we start today on our own path to legendary status? What are the new habits we need to develop over the longer term? Next, Tommy reveals the arch enemies of maximizing your core purpose...and wait until you hear the shocking place those enemies hail from. What is the best advice for sticking to what's good and avoiding the 'dark side'? On that note, what gets into certain men's minds leading them to become 'legendary' bad guys, anyway? How can we know the cause we're to become legendary for really is a good one? If we find ourselves angry, how do we harness that for a valid, significant legacy contribution to this world? And how can good be the enemy of what's best, thereby hamstringing our true purpose? Gentlemen, join a band of brothers who will lift one another to greatness. It begins by taking control of your own 'new normal' and getting on board for Un-Settled. https://mountaintoppodcast.com/unsettled === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Mark Edward Davis has been a men's coach for years now, and he's the right guest to join me for the topic of 'panic proofing' ourselves...which has been on my mind since the COVID-19 disruption started. We jump right in, starting with how masculinity is integrally linked to staying calm and collected under pressure, and what it actually looks like to be 'the rock' when a storm hits. What is the stark difference between those who panic and those remain calm and lead? Hint: it's ridiculously simple and uncomplicated What is the secret to rising above potential feelings of inadequacy or even 'Imposter Syndrome' to lead in the midst of crisis? How about a real, practical way to literally be the voice of calm? Mark reveals the difference between smart soldiers and dead ones...in other words, why thousands of stormtroopers get shot in Star Wars when none of the main characters do. What do the most respected US presidents in recent history have in common? How can we build the habit of having 'field sense' during intense moments of crisis? How does the importance of fatherhood factor into all of this? Are attitudes even more contagious than COVID-19? How optimistic should we be? Get fired up for this essential conversation, gentlemen. And the way, what would Vince Lombardi do? Visit the newly-updated https://www.mountaintoppodcast.com and talk to me free for 25-minutes. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My long time friend David Shade is the undisputed master of giving women incredible pleasure. He returns to the show once again to deliver powerful insights into what it will be like relating to women after the current quarantine is over and the 'all clear' sign is given. So how about it? What is the 'new normal' going to be after COVID-19, especially as it relates to women and sex? David offers his thoughts, in context with the fact he is 64 and has a 20-year-old girlfriend. That's not a typo, and you'll hear not only exactly how he made that happen, but why it's not unusual for him. Doesn't he ever feel like he's babysitting...I mean, they're not even old enough to drink? Wait until you hear his shocking answer. That leads to his take on female sexual maturity, and how we as men can be more sexually mature even in our twenties. What does David have to say about giving women what they need in order for them to give you what you want? Will it surprise you to hear David talk about women being in charge? It shouldn't...once you discover what he really means. Find out David's ninja strategy for relating to women you've been dating during social distancing, and how to stop fearing 'rejection'. And how does the nature of women's fantasies portend what post-quarantine dating life will be like? How are you doing during the present quarantine situation? Talk to me 25 minutes for free when you sign up at the newly-updated http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Beyond the catchy phrase, what exactly was my long-time friend Dr. Jed Diamond talking about when he coined the term 'Disconnection Syndrome'? Well for starters, you'll find out it's far more complex than people merely being separated from each other. It's a systemic issue that's been brewing for years now, and affects even our relationship with self. To kick off the conversation, Jed defines Disconnection Syndrome and explains how it's directly responsible for many of the ongoing social issues we see in today's world. Discover how this transcends the interpersonal to include how we interact with the world itself, as evidenced by some of the perhaps unexpected environmental effects of the current global pandemic. Meanwhile, what are some of the negative effects that purely electronic interaction has on our real, human abilities to connect? Are there subtle ways we've cheapened our sense of connection without even realizing it? Discover the surprising answers to these questions, along with the shocking ways our physical bodies and minds adapt. The most profound part of this episode comes when Jed details how we have become disconnected from our own identity as men. What happened there, why is it so rampant in today's world and how do we fix it? Overall, how can we get back to basics in the form of real, live human connection, and how might the pandemic crisis actually help us collectively to do that? Many of the men who do Laser Coaching with me or who are on the Ten-Plus strategic coaching program have been communicating with me in recent days about specific ideas and concerns in the midst of the current pandemic. You too can talk to me for free for 25 minutes by scheduling at www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

For those of us who live what I call 'The Suburban Sleepwalk', the present COVID-19 pandemic has represented one of the most profound challenges of our lifetime. We can't just watch this unfold on television...we're LIVING it. Obviously, having our proverbial 'cheese moved' is inherently painful, especially when our relationships and our very livelihood are disrupted. Even though such disruption feels like an imminent threat, how do we not only survive but thrive in context? What if instead of losing our sense of humor we found it? How can we turn lemons into lemonade? And does having our world shaken up quite literally challenge us to reevaluate what is important and valuable to us? Meanwhile, were the survival and preparedness guys really on to something here? What can we expect to be different in our lives--and in the world writ large--once the 'all clear' signal is given? Can we look forward to a kinder, friendlier and perhaps even cleaner world to live in, or will people simply revert back to their respective comfort zones? Tune in for surprising predictions on how the state of dating and relating will be affected, along with practical ideas on how to take every good, valuable and positive lesson from this present crisis and run with it long term. Coincidentally, and perhaps surprisingly, Emily and I were already committed to disrupting our lives in the best way possible. These times have only illuminated how powerful that can be. The best news is YOU can join us in reaching for better, doing more and living with greater purpose AND fulfillment. Your open invitation can be found at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/unsettled. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest, Alison Pena is known as 'The Bad Widow', and you're about to find out why. Just a few short years ago she found herself heartbroken by the loss of her beloved husband, who passed after a brief illness. But in the midst of her considerable grief and gritting her way through picking up the pieces, something remarkable happened. As you listen to her, you'll quickly realize her story is not only inspiring and unexpectedly uplifting, it's also as powerful a roadmap to understanding and relating to widowed women as you've ever imagined. And of course, if you've lost the love of your life yourself, this episode promises to be a source of inspiration for you. In this episode, we tackle all of the most confusing, frustrating and heartwrenching issues, beginning with why people's behavior tends to be so ironic toward those who are near death. And what about how weird people also get when you've experienced deep personal loss? Wait until you hear Alison's brave and ingenious plan to cut through that shame and uncertainty in order to genuinely connect with those around her. What was her stunning realization that somehow gave her peace and even freedom after her husband passed? And how did she open up to successfully finding love again? What's more, how did her current partner masterfully navigate her widowhood as a quintessential 'big four' man? What are the steps to doing the same if you ever date a widow? Join the cadre of men who want MORE out of life...while discovering how to live again. It's called Un-Settled, and you can sign on here http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/unsettled === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

I have to tip my hat to my guest, Matt Sinkovitz. Not only has he taken on the topic of how porn affects our lives, he's made it his primary gig. Right out of the gate, we address the concept of porn addiction. You'll appreciate Matt's candid take on this loaded topic. And with the global percentage of Internet traffic that's porn-related, could it be true that virtually everyone is watching it? In that context, how does a guy reconcile his deep feelings of shame and guilt over doing so? What are some of the particularly jarring and at times unexpected sources and consequences of that shame? Do most men really have schlongers as big as male porn stars? Are all porn actresses being exploited and/or trafficked? Isn't porn sex nothing like real-world sex anyway? What's the real-world difference between watching porn and satisfying oneself using pure imagination? Should getting a hot girlfriend or wife be a reasonable cure for the desire to watch porn? Is there a correlation between porn usage and other negative patterns in our lives...even at an unconscious level? So let's say we're successful in quitting porn...what real-world advantages can we expect to gain from that? Should we go full-on 'no fap'? How can we as men overcome hiding in the darkness to find the community and support necessary to succeed? And hold on a second...is porn really all bad? Is there a counterpoint that outlines some of the benefits of watching it? Listen and be both challenged and amazed. Head over to mountaintoppodcast.com to score free reports, the full Amazon store and your quick way to schedule a free 25-minute call with me. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Want to feel more alive, pursue your passions, make women love you and score some extra money on top of all else? Two words: side hustle. My guest Nick Loper is the man with the plan, and he joins us for the long-overdue deep dive on the subject. So what exactly is a side hustle? And how come nobody ever uses the term 'moonlighting' in the online entrepreneurial space? What does it take to let our ideas become reality and how does that make us feel more alive? Next, we talk about how to launch a side hustle that matters, including specific action steps. Why is starting a side biz like online dating? What is Nick's 'buy buttons theory'? And what if you can't seem to come up with any genius, original ideas? (As a bonus, this is also a ninja strategy for developing your stand-up comedy routine!) How does Nick's 'what sucks' exercise relate to all of this? As counter-intuitive as it sounds, how can building a new source of income actually increase your overall freedom as opposed to bogging you down with more busy work? Finally, what are the first steps you can take once you decide you're all in on starting a side hustle for yourself? If you haven't visited mountaintoppodcast.com in a while, you're missing out on free reports, the full Amazon store and your quick way to schedule a free 25-minute call with me. Go for it! www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Man, isn't it true how some people grow older, but they somehow never grow up? My guest is Josh Burnette, author of Adulting 101, and he has very specific theories as to how and why this happens. What's going on in our minds when we opt to avoid evolving into mature, responsible adults? Is what we're holding onto really better than what we gain by growing up? Obviously, being a child--or worse, a Neanderthal--isn't attractive to women at all, and it won't ever advance your career. Is there a 'bigger picture' to adulting that extends beyond our sense of self? What is more important to a true adult than mere happiness? What are some of the key life lessons that adults have figured out? And what does Josh do to motivate guys toward adulthood? What specific tips does he give? And who's going to be around for guys in real life to lead by example? What happened in Josh's life when he got married and became a father? Clearly, one must BE and adult before one can effectively raise kids, right? So wait a minute, does that all add up to a sobering reality that lots and lots of people skip marriage, swear off having kids and perhaps stay in that dead-end job out of a desire to avoid 'adulting' altogether? Sounds preposterous... All of this and more crisp, golden tenders of wisdom from the back of the house at Chick-Fil-A. Now you can schedule a 25-minute call with me directly, download free reports and more at www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Let's face it. If I know anything about you guys who listen to this show, it's that you're not getting any sleep. It may seem heroic now, but it's not healthy and it's pretty much killing us. Enter Mollie McGlocklin, a sleep optimization expert who knows how to put this topic to bed, once and for all. Fortunately, she didn't take my advice and call her upcoming new podcast 'Sleep With Mollie' or 'Let's Go To Bed'. She wisely chose 'Sleep Is A Skill' as her brand, and her mission is to give us a wake up call when it comes to healthy sleep. So don't worry, sleepyhead...this ain't one of those weird but crazy-popular podcasts designed for insomniacs. So then, what did Mollie discover through her own sleepless experiences? And why is it that we have such a harder time getting to sleep in today's world? Why is everyone up all night and getting up at the crack of lunch? How exactly is that making us sicker? Meanwhile, is there really an ideal sleep amount, or does that vary? Why do older folks actually need less sleep? How come some people need a cold and/or noisy room? And what's up with 'power napping'? Plus, as a special bonus you'll get my quick and dirty tips for solving 'jet lag'. Sweet dreams, amigos. Check out new badass friends of the show, download free reports, check the transcript and get on my schedule in real-time...all at www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Well, if there has ever been an overdue topic, this one is it. On this show we shamelessly discuss the 'm word', courtesy of my charming guest Helena Nista. Helena is originally from Poland and now living in Australia. She is a sex therapist, tantric practitioner and occasional body worker (yes, it's what you think). According to her, the body is capable of 'tons and tons of multi-layered amazing, ecstatic, blissful pleasurable experiences', and she is all about helping us realize those blissful states. She believes that practicing with oneself allows us as men to achieve better sexual control and discover more intense, full-body orgasmic experiences. Discover the fascinating reasons why most people are so bad at self-pleasuring, perhaps without even realizing it. What does Helena have to say about the No-Fap Movement? Do men lose their sexual energy when they masturbate? And what makes her so confident that she knows how men experience orgasms, even as a woman? Discover why Helena believes self-pleasure is fantastic training for paired sex. Can you have a 45 minute, full-body orgasm as a man? And would we even want to, considering most of us are already realizing how much we could go for a burger and a beer before we're even done ejaculating? Finally, what about women and masturbation? What do we as men need to know about that? Find out more about our guest and sign up for a free 25-minute call with me personally at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest Rob Kowalski grew up without a dad, and ended up becoming a male stripper in his early adult years. Finally, after leading a rambunctious life of sex and debauchery with countless women, he had a faith conversion experience which inspired him to stop having sex outside the bonds of holy matrimony. Now in his mid-forties, Rob is still unmarried...and yes, he's still not having sex. In most faith based settings, both teens and adults are simply told to stay away from sex until marriage, without really being told why. But in this episode, you'll hear Rob's resolute, logical case for abstention until marriage, and why even masturbation is out of bounds. Are people getting the timing of marriage all wrong vis-a-vis modern postponement of adulthood? And how does the virtue of delayed gratification enter into all of this? And is sex outside of marriage inherently disrespectful, if not downright abusive to women because they're wired differently? What if the big disconnect really is that we as men are still focused on sex, even if it's while vowing abstinence? Whereas, what if a truly healthy relationship focuses less on sex as the central cornerstone of long-term happiness? Wouldn't it be easier to bypass fast sex under those circumstances? And moreover, does that have anything at all to do with what love is really all about...as opposed to pure lust? And how does any of this apply logically or emotionally to men who aren't of the Christian faith? Ready to introduce the woman of your dreams to your world? Join me at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

When my co-host Jennifer Dougherty was in the business world, she started to feel a bit burned out. What did she do to pull herself out of that conundrum and change her mindset? Well, it all led to her to write a book on how she beat burnout and got focused. How can you too genuinely come to grips with what your dreams really are, and why you're dreaming them? And what if you're already doing that which you genuinely dreamed of doing, and yet are still feeling crispy around the edges? How does that mess with your productivity, let alone your mindset? How do talent, passion, strategy and hard work intersect to contribute to dream realization? What are the ironic bad feelings people can experience even after apparently accomplishing what they dreamed of doing? Are dreams overrated, given how people tend to feel once they've fulfilled them? Is it unreasonable and possibly even counter-productive to encourage our kids to dream big? And what of the idea that we often don't even realize what we wanted all along until we get it? How in the world would we reverse engineer such a concept? Do people sabotage their dreams willingly when they can't see past the moment? And of course, what do you do if you feel like your dreams aren't working out as planned? Isn't it time for you to start living your dream...or possibly even dreaming BIGGER? Let's talk. Join me at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

You guys tend to love those shows where we do a deep dive into a particularly intelligent realm of thought and seek out truly profound breakthroughs. When I happened across a piece by my long-time Danish friend Michael Lassen on virtuous patience vs. simply waiting around, I instinctively knew it was a moral imperative as men to have him on the show. So for starters, what's the difference between accepting and embracing a certain situation? Is waiting really a virtue? And what's the concrete difference between waiting and patience? Further, is patience meant to be aimed at achieving perfection, or is that counter-productive? How patient should you be when the woman you want is dating another guy who is no good for her? Discover Michael's three-faceted approach to gaining personal power, regardless of the outcome of any particular situation. Then, find out what my own personal interaction with Navy SEALs has revealed about how they are trained to harness personal power in the exact same way. Also, if patience is a virtue, shouldn't life be about enjoying the journey? Science may in fact support that very notion... And as a special bonus, you'll also get Michael's truly evolved thoughts on 'approaching' and attracting women, along with some objective ideas on avoiding the number one most devastating attraction killer. Find show notes, transcripts, free reports, the YouTube version, book recommendations and more at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

We never want to let things get too straight-laced around here, so for a change of pace I 'talk smack' this episode with my new friend Jillian Keenan, who is an international journalist and spanking expert. So the obvious first question is how does one become a spanking expert to begin with? Jillian's surprising answer sets the tone for the rest of the show, beginning with why women LOVE to be spanked during sex, and how spanking takes on profound sexual importance for some. Next, discover the mindblowing physiology behind why women find spanking sexually pleasurable. What is the difference between spanking as a kink vs. as a fetish? Why is it that spanking is so closely tied to playful flirtation? And of course, I'd be in for a 'red ass' if I didn't acknowledge how the classic representations of spanking in film didn't factor into all this. Is scolding--or even downright disciplinary shame--a part of what makes spanking so sexy? What goes on at organized 'spanking parties'? What is a 'service switch'? And how about the most effective mechanics of a good, proper spanking? By the way, does Jillian basically run around 'butt hurt' her entire life without being able to sit down...or is there 'recovery time' allowed? Basically, even though we get slap-happy about it, you can look forward to the whole truth about spanking, no ifs, ands or butts. January is already half over. If 2020 is going to be your year to get the right woman into your life, let's get on it: http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My new friend and fellow 'Balti-moron' Dave Elliot talks about relationships between men and women in a visceral, down-to-earth manner that I'm sure you're going to appreciate. Among his numerous interesting ideas is his brilliant A.L.L.W.A.Y.S. framework for predicting whether or not a relationship is built to last. After all, you and your woman want to always stay together, but there are also all sorts of ways to stay together. So first off, how is it that some people can date for literally years, but their marriage is wrecked within just a few months of saying 'I do'? And on the other hand, what are those seven major factors that genuinely and accurately determine whether or not a couple will defy the divorce rate odds and be happy together for decades? Dave and I talk clearly and candidly about what it takes. This episode is all about knowing your own values and avoiding the fear of going deep with a woman you've just met only to encounter bitter disappointment...and instead boldly seeking out and finding the relationship of a lifetime with a fantastic woman who is truly your significant other. Talk to me for 25 minutes free, and let's make 2020 the year you get the woman of your dreams into your life. http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

This episode may come off as a bit weird up front, as it's the first show we've ever published to BOTH The Mountain Top and X & Y On The Fly feeds. But hey...we figured this is a timely conversation everyone can and should have, and also (more obviously) we're co-hosting this one together. So on with it... In this fast-paced show we talk candidly--and at times controversially--about how dating, relating and even socializing itself have changed in the last decade, and how we ourselves control what the next decade holds. What about online dating, apps and social media? Shouldn't it be easier than ever for men and women to meet, attract each other and build relationships? But instead, men and women appear to have lost touch with how to relate to each other. It's as if we as a human race have gotten better than ever at mere social manipulation, and place a higher value on that than real connection. As a result, are people justified in questioning the value of even pursuing a relationship nowadays? Have people in general become more pessimistic toward the other gender? And wait until you get Emily's take on how the #MeToo movement has influenced dating and relating. But the ultimate question is with regard to what happens going forward. What do we as a society really want from our relationships with each other? Yes, 2020 has arrived, and you can talk to Emily and/or me for 25 minutes free. All the details are at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

A blast from the past has resurfaced, and it's none other than my long-time friend and frequent oldskool David D. co-collaborator Will H., aka 'Big Will'. Together, he and I are like two examples of the 'old bull' from ye olde 'two bulls on the hill' joke. We were sure to poke a lot of fun at ourselves and tell embarrassing stories in this episode, and we sincerely trust that you young bulls out there will be fully equipped to 'walk down there and get 'em all' after you're finished listening. And rest assured, whatever age you are you're going to get lots of laughs out of this show. Will H. is known for his humorous way of bringing logical fact to light, and we've never had a dull moment recording together. So of course, we fully address why younger women tend to love older men so much...and better yet, how younger guys can bridge the gap. What are the most infamous fashion faux pas committed by men...along with the social ones that basically act as chick repellent? How is it that older guys can possibly be more handsome and sexy to women...even physically? And on the other hand, what does it look like when older guys refuse to grow up? Hint: it's worse for them, not better. Add it up, and this episode boils down to taking what older men know about how to attract women, bottling it up and giving y'all a big swig of it. The end of 2019 is here, and the new year is coming. Remember, you can talk to me for 25 minutes free. All the details are at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My co-host and returning guest Myke Macapinlac began his career as a techie guy in the IT world. Like many men in such a position, he often felt there was a 'glass wall' separating him from others socially. Yet, it's often as if techie guys feel if they only work harder, make more money and get that coveted promotion, then attracting women--and their social life in general--will take care of itself. Unfortunately, that simply isn't the case for most. So why do left-brained guys in particular struggle so much socially? What are the three major traits that make someone more sociable--or even likable--to begin with? What was it about early pickup advice that appealed to techie guys so much? How can you overcome crippling 'analysis paralysis', and how come plenty of other guys don't seem to be affected by it in the least? What does it really mean to 'be inside your head' as opposed to 'in your body'? And hey, what happens when we meet a woman who is a left-brained, technical type? Finally, what else can left-brained guys do to increase their overall attractiveness to women? The end of 2019 is here, and the new year is coming. Let's get on the phone and talk about getting the results with women you deserve. You get 25 minutes for free when you sign up at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Given how central this topic has historically been to the world of men's dating advice, it's hard to believe we've never done a show on it until now. But given how so many men struggle when talking to women, the idea of telling an actual end-to-end story seems overwhelming. Enter my guest co-host, Paul Smith, who has written several books on storytelling, including his latest 'The 10 Stories Great Leaders Tell'. To kick things off, we settle any confusion between what makes for a truly engaging story compared to a 'cool story, bro'. What is the proper role of humor in storytelling, and how important is it? On the other hand, what is the absolute most crucial prerequisite skill for effective storytelling? What are the three elements of a good, solid story? What are the eight questions you have to ask yourself when constructing a storyline? What does it take to craft meaningful stories for specific situations rather than telling the same few stories over and over? What is the difference between inductive vs. deductive storytelling? And of course, Paul reveals his ten stories that great leaders indeed tell. Sick of spinning your wheels with no progress to speak of? Let's get the results you deserve. Talk to me for 25 minutes free when you sign up at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

You asked for this, and it's long overdue... I can't count how many guys over the years have asked me why women LOVE romance novels like 50 Shades Of Grey so much. Well, I've invited popular romance novel author Porscha Sterling on as my co-host to break down exactly why women get so turned on by this genre. What's more, we talk about all of the different tips we as men can glean from romance novels to attract and delight women just like the central characters in the books do. So how about it, then...why do women prefer romance novels over the visceral visual stimulation of porn (or do they)? And do women really want the 'bad boy' persona in real life quite the same way they seem to desire it in the novels? How does all of this alpha imagery reconcile with all of the conflicting messages on masculinity that we see in the media? I mean, could it be true that what women SAY they want compared to what they REALLY want could be at odds, or is it all just a political power play? OR...is something even deeper and more meaningful really what is going on there? How is it that people who can't stand each other end up falling in love? And how do women really envision meeting the man of their dreams? By the way, what's the deal with women wanting a man to 'pursue' them? Isn't that the same as 'chasing'? It's true, gentlemen...women still love real men. Isn't it time you attracted the women you really want? Talk to me for 25 minutes free when you sign up at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

So many of us as men are terrified of fatherhood to begin with. But if and when the time comes, we almost invariably hope for a son...you know, a "chip off the old block". But every man who fathers a little girl immediately realizes that daughters are equally amazing in their own unique and wonderful ways. But for many men, that signals somewhat of a transformation of how they view women in general. This is all-important because of the tremendous influence we as fathers have on our daughters (and also on our sons, of course), regardless of what some naysayers may want us to believe. Well, my guest is NLP coach Mark Sing, who is the perfect co-host for this episode because he is the proud new dad of a three-month old little girl. His perspective, combined with that of a grizzled fatherhood vet like me makes for one rambunctious show. Get ready for an honest, down-to-earth discussion about the intricacies of being a man who not only loves women, but loves certain women particularly dearly. Is your role as a provider and protector meaningful in the same way for your daughter as it is for her mom? And on a lighter note, what's the real deal with 'dad jokes'? Fair warning...this episode ended up featuring longer-than-normal soliloquies by both of us, but it's all in the name of waxing philosophical about such a deeply personal and impactful topic. When you level up your manliness, you increase your attractiveness to women. Talk to me for 25 minutes free when you sign up at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

The motto of the Boy Scouts of America is 'be prepared'. Unfortunately, scouting isn't much of a thing anymore compared to what it used to be. As a result, a whole lot of us as men aren't really, um...prepared anymore. If you think about it, it's easy to feel as if we don't have to be. There are automatic transmissions, wrinkle-free shirts and oil change places out there. But...when that time presents itself where it's time to be a hero in a certain small way--and we just can't--it really sucks. It kicks you in your manhood. Well, my guest Jonathan Catherman has always loathed that feeling, which led him to writing a whole manual for men on how to be ready for 100 different situations that all men should be prepared for. If you're looking for a fast-action episode that's chock full of practical knowledge, then you just found it, Bubba. Now, obviously being prepared for the small things in life makes us tons more confident when the larger issues present themselves, but the impact our preparedness has on our ability to attract women is also not to be underestimated. Threats become challenges, which in turn blossom into opportunities. And wait until you hear the REAL reason why most full-grown men STILL don't prepare themselves, even though we all realize it's necessary. Is it time for a reckoning in your life? Are you ready to step up, draw a line in the sand and start getting the women and the life you want? Talk to me for 25 minutes free when you sign up at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Most of you probably know my guest co-host as David DeAngelo, one of the founding fathers of the modern men's dating advice movement. But for the past decade or so Eben Pagan has been on a journey of personal evolution, leading him to a mission of inspiring you to turn your passions into both a living AND and legacy. Indeed, many of us as men often wonder aloud what our true gifts even are, let alone feeling any passion toward them. So then, how DO we figure out how we're going to leave a positive mark on the world? OH SCREW IT...we both knew about ten minutes into this thing it was time to throw away the script and go old-school talking David D. stuff. That's what you want, and that's what we gave you. And baby, does this show deliver. The segue starts with the ironic reality of how the David D. mystique happened, especially given the man Eben has become and what he is teaching nowadays. But as fun as the story of David D.'s early days are, stay tuned for perhaps the most shocking statement Eben could possibly have made about his work as David D...which left even me speechless. And wait until you hear about how meeting his wife Annie transformed everything, including his evolution as a man. Now, all of that said, I'm sure at least one of you is still left saying, 'Hey, all of that at the beginning about being a unique kind of genius was the best part!' Let's hear it for not trying to please everyone, right? Looking for the right coach to help you achieve greatness in your relationships with women? Talk to me for 25 minutes free when you sign up at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

As often as this topic comes up, I firmly believe a large percentage of us as guys still don't fully grasp how important this subject is to women. My guest, intimacy coach Allana Pratt would go so far as to call it a dealbreaker. And wouldn't you know it...it all starts with communication, which Allana compares to a figure eight. How can being the 'hero of small things' make a major difference? How can you reconcile a woman's desire for a dominant decision-maker with our own genuine desire not to come off as a controlling jerk? And what does it take on both your best and worst days to be a rock of consistency for her? How does relaxing and resting into a woman's feminine nature actually cause her to feel safer, loving and respecting you more than ever before? And how do both you AND she gain from that relational state? While we're at it, we explain the specific kind of leadership from a man that makes a woman want to do anything for us. And hey...what DO women want, anyway? How can we make sure we're a safe, calming influence during her 'loco moments' rather than getting china plates thrown at us like in the Godfather? All of these important life questions are pondered along with many others in this particularly thought-provoking episode. Schedule 25 minutes with me for free about where you are now and where you want to be when it comes to your life with women. Sign up at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

As we all know, 'be yourself' is the lamest, most generic advice ever. But have you ever stopped to think why we as men would ever stop representing our true selves to begin with? Well, the title of this episode is a strong hint as to why, and my co-host is the man to explain what's up with that. Indeed, Clovis Colley isn't only a certified hypnotherapist in-house here at X & Y Communications, he's been around the block a few times. So what are guilt and shame all about anyway? And what useful purpose do they serve, if any? How do people try to shame us, or even project their own shame onto us? How has the 'toxic masculinity' narrative increased shame, even if under the guise of hoping to reduce it? What does it mean to 'take ourselves too seriously', and how do we pile on the pressure, shame and guilt when we do so? How can you tell when someone is trying to shame you for their own pathetic reasons, read them like a cheap paperback and refuse to let them affect you? How does setting and maintaining boundaries combat against undue shame and guilt? Discover the disastrous but shockingly common way people try to avoid shame only to experience even more of it. Finally, and most importantly, what's the pathway out of feeling undue shame and guilt? You can get 25 minutes on the phone with me free, subscribe to daily advice on getting better with women, score free reports and much more at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

When I first started dating my wife Emily, she brought a book with her containing a brilliant array of questions to help us get to know each other. Even though that may sound intimidating on the surface, it really turned out to be a lot of fun and the book genuinely functioned as advertised. A few weeks ago that book came up in conversation, and it occurred to me to find the author, Laurie Seale, and have her on as a guest. It turns out she is a regular 'Jaqueline Of All Trades'...and as smart, charming and fascinating as you would expect from someone who wrote such a book. In this episode we discuss the trials and tribulations men and women have nowadays when creating conversation with each other, along with some genius ways to kick off first date communication in a positive way. Laurie talks about the value of knowing yourself before seeking to know someone else, along with how to break the ice on such topics as passion, purpose, lifestyle, past relationships, basic compatibility and spirituality. She then suggests ideas for when you're in a hurry, along with offering some wise words on sussing out dealbreakers. Just for good measure, there are some fun stories along the way to illuminate the whole human dance of mutual romantic discovery. Schedule 25 minutes with me free, subscribe to the daily advice on getting better with women, download transcripts and much more at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

My guest co-host, author Acamea Deadwiler, is all about breaking pre-conceived notions. In her book Single That!, she writes words of encouragement and clarity to single women. But...I couldn't help but recognize the immense value to us as men of gaining insight into her list of myths, especially since Acamea is so level-headed, positive and easy-going in her approach to men and women finding love together. So how about it, then? If a woman is still single in, say, her thirties, does that mean there's something wrong with her? What about women who think something is wrong with YOU because you're still single? Do women have unrealistic expectations nowadays...both before AND after they're married? Are single women just too busy? Are they lonely 'spinsters'? Or is the opposite true...that they're 'female players'? Are most women 'golddiggers' at heart, intending to find a man who will pay their way in life? And why do all single women seem to ask, 'What are you looking for?' before we've even met them yet? Talk to me free for 25 minutes, get transcripts, download free reports and subscribe to the world-famous newsletter at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Decades ago the Kinsey Institute infamously attempted to define the parameters of human sexual thought and behavior. Over the years books such as My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday have elaborated upon just how dirty the human mind can get. But it wasn't until Internet-driven research came along that we really found out what human beings think and do in private anonymity. This bold insight comes to you in large part courtesy of my guest, neuroscientist Dr. Ogi Ogas, along with his fellow researchers. So how did Ogi compile all of his research, and how can he know it's accurate? How did it differ from other scientists' expectations? What's up with women's 'rape fantasies', and how does what goes on in their romance novels differ from what happens in online porn? What other dark emotions are most prevalent in human sexual fantasies...and how are they often weirdly in conflict with each other? What is the one sexual fantasy we all seem to secretly have in common, regardless of our gender or sexual orientation? And how come the porn we choose to watch tends to depict something different than the sexual experiences we'd partake of IRL? Next, get Ogi's surprising thoughts on so-called 'female friendly' porn, and the REAL reason why women can be so resentful of mainstream porn designed for men. Are women watching porn at all? If so, how many of them...and what types of them? How do women really view porn usage by their significant others, and the fantasies associated with it? How many people partake of truly unusual or even illegal porn? And as men, are we really turned on by the types of women the media says we should be? Prepare to have your pre-conceived notions of what 'normal' fantasies look like completely upended. Talk to me free for 25 minutes, get transcripts, download free reports and subscribe to the world-famous newsletter at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Everyone is familiar with the term. But what exactly IS a 'friends with benefits' relationship? Who gets into relationships like that, and what can be expected from it? And how is it different than having a 'sex buddy'? Is it about whether I'm willing to be seen in public with her or not...or introduce her to my friends? As you can see, this is a sticky topic right from the get-go. Well, my long-time friend and fellow dating coach Susan Winter is never shy about tackling even the friskiest subjects, so I invited her back to the show for this fun-filled discussion. For starters, what REALLY causes two people to forge a FWB arrangement? How accurate is the movie portrayal of FWB in the eponymously-named movie with Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis? What other interesting revelations can be arrived at from watching that film? And when FWB relationships happen in real life, is there really any chance that deeper feelings won't develop? How is it that one-night stands can often be drama-free, but FWB arrangements almost never are? Is it that woman are intentionally trying to trap us into a more serious relationship? Or have women actually learned how to have and enjoy 'no strings' sex early on in our present day sexual economy? What are the ramifications of all of this as far as 'sex buddy' partnerships go? Do they tend to evolve into FWBs, and therefore eventually into 'catching feelings'? For our part as men, do we always think it's fine to be used as a 'sex toy' by women? And get a load of this...is a desire to have a deeper, more connected and dare we say a more meaningful relationship as opposed to a string of FWBs born of the same character trait that drives our ambitious nature in the workplace? Get in on the free newsletter, get show notes and talk to me free for 25 minutes at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Emily and I have been together for nearly fourteen years, and we agree on just about everything...at least fundamentally. That's a big part of what makes our relationship wonderful. But that doesn't mean we don't have our prickly moments. Therefore, we figured we'd record an episode where we break down what exactly constitutes 'healthy' disagreement as opposed to something twisted and dysfunctional. So how do people end up in a relationship with someone they disagree with even on the baseline stuff? Believe it or not, we can think of at least two ways that happens...and all too often. If a woman is driving you nuts, can you change her? Can she change YOU? If you give in to your partner's preferences or opinions, is that 'compromising' your relationship...or giving your power away? Do the two of you even have to have the same interests up front at all? Certain 'relationship gurus' are on record saying it's healthy for couples to fight. On the other hand, is it healthy never to disagree at all? Well, we have a take on both of those opinions for sure, including why it is that Emily and I can freely get snippy with each other and only make our relationship stronger all the while. What about when you're given 'the silent treatment'? And what if there's a serious breach of trust, like someone cheats on the other partner? What if there's a source of extreme stress either inside or outside the relationship itself? By the way, I know way too much about ballet, and you should probably be worried. Visit http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com for the free newsletter, all the free reports to talk to me for 25 minutes. And for more from both of us, check out the X & Y On The Fly podcast at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

It doesn't matter whether you've got your eye on a woman who is desired by other men, you're dating a woman who incessantly tells you how other guys want her, or you're in a relationship with a woman who is constantly hit up on by other dudes...this episode is for you. My main man Bobby Rio returns to hash it all out, throwing down some real talk about how to be the man even in such awkward and potentially frustrating situations. And what if your girlfriend has a pesky BFF who keeps trying to introduce her to someone else? How about if her own family members want to break the two of you up? Could it somehow even be that YOU are the one causing other men to run 'boyfriend destroyer game' on the woman you're with? Brutal. And wait a minute...on the other hand, what are the parameters of stepping in to meet a woman yourself when some other guy is clearly failing on his date with her? Is there ever a scenario when that's okay? What's really going on when a woman says, 'I have a boyfriend'? And could her antics really all be about trying to impress you? As improbable as that sounds, wait until you hear the raw truth. And what does pizza delivery have to do with all of this? Get the free newsletter, all the free reports and find out how to talk to me for 25 minutes free at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Why is it men are so concerned about speaking their truth when talking to women? Well, according to returning guest Kim Seltzer's interesting perspective, men and women both tend to complain about the widespread miscommunication between the genders nowadays. This leads to lots of offended people, followed inevitably by pandemic fear of talking to each other. But as it turns out, there's a pattern to how everything tends to fall apart, and it's easy to remove yourself from the cycle...which you'll discover. Next, Kim shares the very foundation for talking to women effectively. It's going to blow you away because it's NOT what you think, and has probably never been talked about anywhere else. Better yet, did you know that talking to women might actually go better for you the LESS prepared you are with something slick to say? But how do you establish that all-important safety and security all the while? Also, what is the most powerful aspect of pickup success that no other pickup advice has ever dared to admit? Plus, discover the one external factor that can instantly increase how effective you are in communicating with women. Ultimately, however, it all comes down to this...is there ever a right time to say to a woman, 'You're going to love my nuts'? Find out how to take advantage of laser coaching sessions, get in on the free newsletter, download free reports and a whole lot more at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. You can also talk to me free for 25 minutes. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Asexuality as a sexual orientation may seem on the surface as if it's no orientation toward sexuality at all. But in reality, it's a much more complex subject than most people think. In fact, quite a number of people experience sexual attraction differently from the majority of everyone else. Enter world expert on the subject, Tony Bogaert from Brock University in Canada. The truth is there's much yet to be discovered on this fascinating subject, as Tony's own groundbreaking research really only dates back to 2002. What's more, it's like the gateway to 'The Wild West' when it comes to sexual studies in general...as you'll find out. So what is it that defines someone as part of the 'Ace Community'? What does it feel like to be asexual? Is there such thing as asexual romance? Indeed, one of the most powerful aspects of studying asexuality is how it informs the broader study of sexuality itself in so many unexpected ways. For example, what are the dynamics of a relationship between an ace person and a non-ace person? Would an asexual man be the perfect partner for a woman who has been sexually damaged in the past? Does asexuality actually relieve guilt and shame in the context of faith? How do asexual men handle the biological need to ejaculate? And what about greysexuality? Demisexuality? Even sapiosexuality? How are they related? Get the free the daily newsletter, all the free reports and basically take control of the entire world at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. You can also talk to me free for 25 minutes. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

One thing you can expect from this episode is that my co-host Cyndi Olin will definitely NOT hold back. The playful banter starts almost immediately, and Cyndi isn't at all shy about telling it like it is when it comes to women growing cold and distant. So let's say you're out with a woman and suddenly you don't know what she's thinking, or she's giving you mixed signals. Should you call it out, try harder to win her affection or simply chalk it up and stop 'pushing it uphill'? Why do women pull away so often even though we as humans typically crave real, honest connection? Next, hear Cyndi's legit take on the mistakes men make on first dates that cause women to hit the brakes rather than moving full speed ahead. Also discover why you have an extra risk-factor the higher your level of personal accomplishment is. What are the cultural factors that cause certain women to be more tacit on dates? As a special bonus, Cyndi offers secrets to asking out supermodels successfully. So then, if we don't want women to pull back, what's the opposite of that...it's a tricky question, isn't it? Speaking of questions, what should you ask a woman to draw her in as opposed to pushing her away? What about after you get to know a woman and are in a relationship with her? What are some of the ways she holds back in that context...and why? And then, the scariest idea of all...could it be women often don't even realize why they're pulling back? What can be done when she has completely lost attraction? Also, Cyndi discovers the deal with green M&Ms. And why is it that every time I imitate a woman's voice she has a southern accent? Finally demystify the daily newsletter, scarf up free reports and do all sorts of other cool things at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com. You can also talk to me free for 25 minutes about whatever is on your mind. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!