Becoming Something with Jonathan Pokluda

<p>In this episode we tackle one of the most asked questions on dating. How important is physical attraction? If you’re looking for a spouse we talk about the role of attraction in marriage and how important it should be in your search!</p>

<p>Since the pandemic have you been feeling more irritable? Tired? Angry? It’s because we’ve all been through a lot! In this episode, we talk to author John Eldredge about how to build up our reserves so we can become more resilient. To get his new book follow this link: <br><br><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09N8XS7Y4/ref=dbs_a_def_awm_bibl_vppi_i0" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09N8XS7Y4/ref=dbs_a_def_awm_bibl_vppi_i0</a></p>

<p>If God is good, why should I fear him? In this episode we talk about why Scripture says we should fear Him, and why it’s actually for our good. If you e ever struggled with this question, this episode is for you!</p>

<p>We live in a culture where absolute truth is absolutely evaporating. It is widely accepted that everyone has their own truth based on their life experiences. In this episode we talk about what Scripture has to say and how we can know what really is true.</p>

<p>Andy Crouch is an author and commentator on our culture through the lens of a Jesus follower. He specifically has written a game changing book called “The Tech Wise Family”, and we’re confident this book will have a similar impact. In this episode we talk about the importance of community and how technology has changed our relationships. To order Andy’s new book, click here:<br><br><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Life-Were-Looking-Relationship-Technological/dp/059323734X/ref=asc_df_059323734X_nodl?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=533224334354&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=12889298266385288890&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9027505&hvtargid=pla-1467486165035&psc=1&dplnkId=586e9918-a9c6-4587-9596-9eee6dc80e6e" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Life-Were-Looking-Relationship-Technological/dp/059323734X/ref=asc_df_059323734X_nodl?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=533224334354&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=12889298266385288890&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9027505&hvtargid=pla-1467486165035&psc=1&dplnkId=586e9918-a9c6-4587-9596-9eee6dc80e6e</a></p>

<p>Is God mad at you every time you sin? Many of us feel like God puts up with us rather than actually loving us. In this episode we do our best to clarify who God is and what his intentions are towards you!</p>

<p>How can you tell if you are hearing from God or if it’s just a voice in your head? Is he telling you who to date and you just can’t hear him? Is he telling you where to live but you’re ignoring him? If you’re looking to discern the voice of God in your life, check out this episode!</p>

<p>What’s the right thing to do once you’ve been cheated on? Should you extend grace or immediately break things off? We talk through what it means to be cheated on, and how you can best respond. If you’ve been cheated on, or are looking to help a friend in this situation, this podcast will be helpful for you!</p>

<p>In this week’s episode we talk to Scott Harrison, author and founder of charity: water. Scott is an amazing example of how Jesus can take your mess and turn it into a ministry. He went from nightclub promoter, to the founder of one of the most well known charities in America. To hear more, check out this episode or buy Scott’s book at this link:<br><br><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Thirst-Story-Redemption-Compassion-Mission/dp/1524762849/ref=asc_df_1524762849/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312143020546&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=4836135109016590742&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1026867&hvtargid=pla-526985540295&psc=1" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Thirst-Story-Redemption-Compassion-Mission/dp/1524762849/ref=asc_df_1524762849/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312143020546&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=4836135109016590742&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1026867&hvtargid=pla-526985540295&psc=1</a></p>

<p>In this episode we talk to New York Times Best Selling author, Lisa Bevere about how her perception of God has changed over the course of her life. We discuss how our perception of God affects how we live our lives. We also talk about how to hear from God. To pick up her new book “Fiercely Loved” follow this link:<br><br><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Fiercely-Loved-Gods-Thoughts-about/dp/0800741706" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Fiercely-Loved-Gods-Thoughts-about/dp/0800741706</a></p>

<p>We asked our audience at BeSo Live what topic they wanted to hear and this is what the voted on for session 2! In this episode we talk about how to break the cycle of sin in your family. If you’re looking to start fresh from hurts/sins in your family’s past, check out this episode!</p>

<p>Many of you follow JP's Friday Q&A on Instagram but our BeSo Live participants got to ask him questions in person! In this episode, JP covers a wide range of topics and answers the questions that young adults are asking. We hope you enjoyed this as much as we did!</p>

<p>This week’s episode was our first recording from Becoming Something Live in Waco, TX. We let the audience decide what they wanted to hear and they chose contentment. In this episode we cover what it means to be content in your young adult years. If you’re struggling in your career, finances, singleness, or anything else this episode is for you!</p>

<p>One of the most uncomfortable conversations in a dating relationship is when your significant other asks about your past. In this episode we help you think through what to say and how to say it. We also try to help you figure out what you should know from your boyfriend or girlfriend before you marry them. We hope this will help you!</p>

<p>Do you know that Jesus said not all sins can be forgiven? There is one sin that actually cannot be forgiven. In this episode we help you figure out if you’ve committed it. Check out this episode for an in depth explanation!</p>

<p>Don't like your job? You're not alone! Many of us have a job, but don't know why we do it other than to get a paycheck. In this episode we talk about why we work, and how to find purpose in your work. You've got a job to do, so let us help you enjoy it!</p>

<p>When it comes to work, your attitude is everything. In this episode we do our best to give you a biblical perspective on work. You’ve got a purpose whether you’re scooping ice cream or preaching to thousands!</p>

<p>One of the most frequent questions on JP’s Friday Q&A is about masturbation. Is it a sin? And if so, what’s the big deal about it? Why does masturbation affect your relationships? And how can you stop? We cover all of that and more in this week’s episode!</p>

<p>So often in the church world, we form our own Christian bubbles where we don’t have to talk with anyone we disagree with. In this episode, we talk with the founder of The New Evangelicals who recently publicly disagreed with one of our previous podcasts. We reached out to him to have a conversation to show how we can talk through our disagreements.<br><br>Our conversation went a little longer than normal so we trimmed this episode for time. To listen to the full un-edited version visit our YouTube channel: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz85jke2lw0mZrI4e7vjg3g" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz85jke2lw0mZrI4e7vjg3g</a></p>

<p>You may not even realize it, but you act as your own brand manager. What that means is you’re in charge of what other people think about you! For many of us, this is crippling because we care deeply about what other people think of us. In this episode we talk about how you can be freed from your need to be perceived a certain way!</p>

<p>One of JP’s all time favorite quotes is, “If dependence is the goal, then weakness is the advantage.” On this week’s episode we talk about why dependence is the goal of our faith and what it practically looks like to be dependent. Don’t let your self-reliance get in the way of a growing faith!</p>

<p>In this week's episode we talk to Jennie Allen, New York Times bestselling author and founder of IF:Gathering, about our need for community. So many of feeling lonely and without community. In Jennie's new book "Find Your People", she explains why community is so important and how you can find your own. This was such a helpful conversation! To order "Find Your People", follow this link: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Find-Your-People-Building-Community/dp/0593193385/ref=asc_df_0593193385/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=532476049386&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=761845783548781472&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1026867&hvtargid=pla-1459058127287&psc=1" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Find-Your-People-Building-Community/dp/0593193385/ref=asc_df_0593193385/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=532476049386&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=761845783548781472&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1026867&hvtargid=pla-1459058127287&psc=1</a></p>

<p>The way we date isn’t working. People are getting married later and getting divorced more often. In this episode we talk about some improvements we can make to the way we date that will impact the health of our relationships. If you’re looking for dating help, look no further!</p>

<p>In this week's episode we talk about the margin in our lives and the busyness of our schedule. We often hide behind our busyness while putting our faith on pause. To hear how that might impact your life, take a listen to this episode!</p>

<p>“Deconstruction” is a buzzword in many Christian circles and we’re here to tell you the potential opportunities and dangers that can be found in deconstruction. If you’re going through a season of doubt or questioning, check out this podcast for a helpful resource!<br><br>Helpful resources mentioned in this weeks episode:<br><br><a href="http://becomingsomething.com" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">becomingsomething.com</a><br><a href="http://gotquestions.org" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">gotquestions.org</a><br><a href="http://carm.org" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">carm.org</a><br><a href="http://probe.org" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">probe.org</a><br><a href="http://bibleproject.org" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">bibleproject.org</a></p>

<p>In this week's episode we talk about the mathematics of following Jesus. What does that mean you ask? Every year, JP subtracts something from his life so that it might add to his faith. To hear how that might impact your life, take a listen to this episode!</p>

<p>Every single day of your life there is a battle for your mind, and we want to make sure you win it. The narrative that the media and social media gives you is rarely the good or godly narrative. In this episode, we do our best to equip you with the tools needed to keep yourself from conforming to the thoughts of this world.</p>

<p>This week we talk to Kyle Idleman who is the Senior Pastor at Southeast Christian Church. We talk with him about what it actually means to influence people. He just released a brand new book called "One at a Time". Pick up the book here: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/One-Time-Unexpected-Wants-Change-ebook/dp/B09B2PLJRZ" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/One-Time-Unexpected-Wants-Change-ebook/dp/B09B2PLJRZ</a></p>

<p>In this week's episode we compile a lot of listener's questions on sex and give you our answers! If you're looking for an honest conversation on what to expect with sex, check out this episode!</p>

<p>In this week's episode we talk to the one and only Jackie Hill Perry about the topic of holiness. She wrote a brand new book on this topic and we had a great conversation about the character of God, the importance of Scripture, and how holiness is a better way to live. Get her book "Holier Than Thou" here: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Holier-Than-Thou-Holiness-Helps/dp/1535975717/ref=asc_df_1535975717/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=509467422400&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1380342126140334084&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1026867&hvtargid=pla-1249227234888&psc=1" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Holier-Than-Thou-Holiness-Helps/dp/1535975717/ref=asc_df_1535975717/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=509467422400&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1380342126140334084&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1026867&hvtargid=pla-1249227234888&psc=1</a></p>

<p>This episode comes out the week of Christmas, and for many listeners Christmas means lots and lots of family time. We address what that time should look like when family time typically means conflict. We discuss forgiveness, boundaries, and making the most of time with family.</p>

<p>In this week's episode we talk about whether or not Christians can or should drink alcohol. Is it a sin to be tipsy? Is it a sin to drink around non-Christians? Find out the answers on this episode! (disclaimer: we exchanged gifts at the beginning. If you are just looking for the content on this topic skip ahead to 15:30)</p>

<p>In this episode we talk about how eternity changes your today. If you're a believer in Jesus, you know you're going to Heaven, but what difference does that make on your life right now? Listen to find out!</p>

<p>If you're a guy who is single or dating, we're here to help you lookout for RED FLAGS from any girl you might be interested in. We talk about traits in girls that should make you pause (or even break up). <a href="http://Girls...check" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Girls...check</a> out this episode to know the type of woman godly guys are looking for!</p>

<p>If you're a girl who is single or dating, we're here to help you lookout for RED FLAGS from any guy you might be interested in. We talk about traits in guys that should make you pause (or even break up). <a href="http://Guys...check" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Guys...check</a> out this episode to know the type of man godly women are looking for!</p>

<p>We're joined by author and podcaster, Jamie Ivey, this week to talk all things identity. We discuss how to get over comparison, how to know your gifts, and how to actually like your gifts. You're going to love hearing from the gift that is Jamie Ivey! You can listen to her podcast "The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey" or order her books here: <a href="https://www.jamieivey.com" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.jamieivey.com</a></p>

<p>Faith is a word that is thrown around in Christian circles, but what does it really mean? What does it mean to have faith? What does it take to grow your faith? And what does faith look like in real life? We answer all of those questions and more on this episode!</p>

<p>Whether it's choosing to leave a job, date a girl, move cities, we'll face a lot of decisions as young adults. In this episode we help you create a plan to help make your decisions better! Check out this episode to protect your decisions from YOU!</p>

<p>In this episode we talk about talking to God. Why should we pray? What does prayer accomplish? We ask all those questions and more to Derwin Gray, who just wrote a fantastic book on prayer called "God, do you hear me?". Pick up the book here: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/God-Do-You-Hear-Me/dp/B09HSTP7QS/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Derwin+gray&qid=1634764557&qsid=147-7132712-8088650&sr=8-2&sres=1535995734%2C1400230489%2C1535995718%2CB00DTX1T1E%2C1535994894%2CB01FGL3ZQI%2CB00QL9LFAS%2CB08ZMBCM7R%2C1535994908%2CB0170ZFFOI%2CB07N96XQ78%2C108775920X%2C0802419755%2C1400221765%2C1400216559%2C1587434709&srpt=ABIS_BOOK" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/God-Do-You-Hear-Me/dp/B09HSTP7QS/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Derwin+gray&qid=1634764557&qsid=147-7132712-8088650&sr=8-2&sres=1535995734%2C1400230489%2C1535995718%2CB00DTX1T1E%2C1535994894%2CB01FGL3ZQI%2CB00QL9LFAS%2CB08ZMBCM7R%2C1535994908%2CB0170ZFFOI%2CB07N96XQ78%2C108775920X%2C0802419755%2C1400221765%2C1400216559%2C1587434709&srpt=ABIS_BOOK</a></p>

<p>On this weeks episode we cover A LOT of ground on the topic of singleness and dating. Lisa Anderson, who is the director of Boundless at Focus on the Family, joins us to help answer questions y'all have been sending our way. To buy Lisa's book "The Dating Manifesto" click here: <a href="https://family.christianbook.com/dating-manifesto-drama-pursuing-marriage-purpose/lisa-anderson/9781434708878/pd/708872?p=1159433&event=ORC" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://family.christianbook.com/dating-manifesto-drama-pursuing-marriage-purpose/lisa-anderson/9781434708878/pd/708872?p=1159433&event=ORC</a></p>

<p>In this episode we talk all things envy and jealousy. How can you combat the desire to have what other people have? How can you learn to celebrate other's successes rather than resent them for it? We address all of that and more on this week's episode!</p>

<p>In this week's episode, we're joined by David Marvin who is the author of the new book "We're All Freaking Out (and why we don't need to)". We have a discussion on anxiety and its' impact on our generation. If you want to pick up a copy of David's book click here: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08PYJSTLZ/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08PYJSTLZ/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1</a></p>

<p>In this week's episode we talk about how authoritative the Bible should be in our walk with Jesus. Can we trust it? How can we interpret something written thousands of years ago? We answer those questions and more!</p>

<p>The most questions we get from y'all are BY FAR on the topic of dating. We took a few of them and packed them into this podcast. We cover things like DTR's, expectations, dating the wrong person, and more.</p>

<p>This week we talk about the role of the megachurch in the modern church landscape. We've seen many megachurches fall because of leadership that isn't submitted to Jesus. Does that mean megachurches are bad? What makes a church biblical? We talk about all of this and more on this week's episode!</p>

<p>In this week's episode we talk about how feelings and faith interact. Can we trust our feelings? Should we make decisions based off of our feelings? We talk about all of that and more!</p>

<p>In this week's episode we talk about the rise of cynicism within Christianity and if it is at odds with the gospel. How can we be optimistic when things in the world look so grim?</p>

<p>In the Great Commission, Jesus gave us the command to go and make disciples. In this episode we talk about what that practically looks like. What does it mean to make disciples? What does it mean to be discipled? If you want to grow in your faith and help others grow in their faith, check out this episode!</p>

<p>Are you feeling lukewarm in your faith but don't want to be? This episode is for you! Here we describe the characteristics of a lukewarm faith and how to get out of it. We also talk about how to challenge believers in our life who seem to be lukewarm in their walk with Christ.</p>

<p>Whether you've moved to a new city and are looking for a church or are unsatisfied with your current church, we are here to help! In this episode we talk about the characteristics of a healthy church and the things you should keep in mind as you are looking. We also talk about whether streaming services online can count as your church.</p>