Beat Your Genes Podcast

49: Listener questions & comments

What's the point of psychotherapy?

We discuss free will, take a call from a behavioral therapist asking about the scientific validity of evolutionary psychology, and Dr. Lisle explains the flawed thinking of positive & negative reinforcement.

Episode 46: Listener emails & questions

Understanding willpower and change part 2. A follow up from last week.

Willpower & Change, an evolutionary psychology take.

Dr. Lisle shares his experiences as a forensic psychologist for the criminal justice system in Dallas, Texas. We will go inside the psychology of a criminal mind with some insights & stories.

Listener questions, comments, and emails. Callers welcome!

Why is academia so liberal/left-wing?

How does sexual abuse or trauma affect us?

Understanding procrastination.

Lots of emails and questions from our last few shows so I'll be reading the emails on air and Dr. Lisle will be answering your questions.

The USA Presidential Election has been unbelievable. We will be discussing the psychology of Trump, Clinton and how an evolutionary psychologist, Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD, would view this election and its many politics.

We'll talk about dealing with grief, loss, and sadness

This week is for women. Last week was for men.

This week is for men. Next week is for women.

How do we manage stress?

We'll read & answer listener emails & questions.

We'll talk about the psychology behind humor.

Email any questions to [email protected] or call in 657-383-0751 Some of the questions we'll go over... From listeners: 1) Why do we see a huge discrepancy between societies empathy towards human needs until it comes to sexual satisfaction. We use tax money to fund basic needs of all kinds but if you're a sexual loser you're basically on your own in every way shape and form. Aren't outcast losers in the sexual realm more likely to become radical, rebellious, dangerous to the group? Are there any "stone age" examples of us quelling these dangers and are there any modern examples? 2) Western men seem to be overwhelmed because they are seeing the women they want drenched in sexual attention and it is petrifying them, often at an early age. Age difference is key here because guys in middle to late teens are just starting to figure out their place in the world, but teen girls the moment they hit legal status can be launched all the way into status and they aren't often keen to hide it. Western society is at a place where hypergamy is broadcasted due to marketing patterns which have always taken advantage of sex while young men are unable to ignore their peers being rocketed into the sexual marketing realm left wondering what is really left for them?

Evolutionary pscyhology explains grudges, sports competitions, and the rivalries that go with it.

If you've listened to an episode and had some questions or comments, now's the show to call in and ask them. Email me with your questions [email protected] or call in 657-383-0751 live at 8:30pm PST.

How do we make such great friends? We'll answer this question by going over an article called "Why Men Are Better at Friendship Than Women"

A humorously scientific look about what men say vs. what they mean.

A humorously scientific look about what women say and what they really mean.

We will discuss: - Why Do Relationships Fail? - What your partner says vs. what they mean - Comment on ways to "Hack Your Relationship" ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Feel free to call with your own story, question, or comment at 657-383-0751. We are live on Wednesdays at 8:30pm PST. Or email us at [email protected]

In this episode, we discuss a prominent psychologist's approach to relationships (called Emotional Focused Therapy) and how it relates to evolutionary psychology. We will hear a discussion between Dr. Lisle and a Marriage & Family Therapist on the differences between their approaches. We discuss an article about the key to relationship happiness. We go over more real life examples and questions.

Listen in as we go over a few real examples from our listeners of relationship conflicts. If you have a situation you'd like some help with please email us at [email protected] or call in to the show live on Wednesdays at 8:30pm PST at 657-383-0751

Listen in as we go over a few real examples from our listeners of relationship conflicts. If you have a situation you'd like some help with please email us at [email protected] or call in to the show live at 657-383-0751

Nate G and Dr. Doug Lisle discuss common dating traps that men and women find themselves in. We will also go over some listener comments/emails. If you'd like some advice from Dr. Lisle, feel free to email us at [email protected] or call in live at 657-383-0751 at 7:30pm PST on Wednesdays.

Nate G and Dr. Doug Lisle discuss common dating traps that men and women find themselves in. We will also go over some listener comments/emails. If you'd like some advice from Dr. Lisle, feel free to email us at [email protected] or call in live at 657-383-0751 at 7:30pm PST on Wednesdays.

We discuss which type of people hooks up the most.

Pyschologist Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD, takes a call from a man looking to learn more about human mating psychology If any listeners would like to call and ask advice from Dr. Lisle for a show, please email [email protected]

Have the dating games changed in 2 million years? Dr. Lisle reacts to a funny clip about why dating is so frustrating for women in the modern world. Why do women complain about men? Why do men complain about women? The next question Dr. Lisle goes over is a GQ article that asks "How much should a man spend on a first date?" Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

In terms of human history, how did the idea of "locking someone into a relationship" develop? Dr. Lisle discusses the evolution of relations in the human species eventually getting to why are people winding up in a relationship that they feel they have to stay in. There is a brief discussion about the book Sex at Dawn and the argument for polyamory. We find out that the modern world brings modern dilemnas in dating but we still operate under the same psychology as that of our ancient ancestors. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

Part 2 from last week's episode: You might never become a Brad Pitt or Cindy Crawford, but that shouldn't stop you from trying. Last episode, we went over the right moves to make to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. This show, we'll get to all the listener comments and questions about how to make yourself more attractive. Join Nathan Gershfeld and Dr. Doug Lisle in a show designed to help you find happiness and navigate the modern world with what you've got. A show where you''ll learn how to outsmart your genes to find true, lasting happiness. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

You might never become a Brad Pitt or Cindy Crawford, but that shouldn't stop you from trying. In tonight's episode, we will go over the right moves to make to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. Join Nathan Gershfeld and Dr. Doug Lisle in a show designed to help you find happiness and navigate the modren world with what you've got. A show where you'll learn how to outsmart your genes to find true, lasting happiness. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

Following up from last week's episode, Dr. Lisle continues to discuss the psychology of behavior through listener questions such as: Why can people get so offended when told that human nature drives their behavior? Can we improve our marketability in dating/relationships? How are men and women different from one another regarding relationships? Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

A follow-up to last week's episode, we will be going over more common mistakes that we all make in the mating dance that is dating. If you've ever had a dating experience where you felt you coudn't control yourself or the eventual outcome, that was your genes compelling you to behave in a certain way. This is a double-edged sword. On one hand, you can be optimizing your genes surviving but on the other hand, it may be detrimental to long-term happiness. We have evolved to enjoy the pursuit of love & sex through dating and relationships. In this episode we discuss how we can optimize happiness in this area by beating our genes. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

If you've ever had a dating experience where you felt you coudn't control yourself or the eventual outcome, that was your genes compelling you to behave in a certain way. This is a double-edged sword. On one hand, you can be optimizing your genes surviving but on the other hand, it may be detrimental to long-term happiness. We have evolved to enjoy the pursuit of love & sex through dating and relationships. In this episode Dr. Lisle discusses how we can optimize happiness in this area by beating our genes. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

Ever have a pushy friend that's trying to get you to do something you don't want to? It may seem like the only way to get them to understand "no" is to be rude or leave. In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD discusses how to get along without going along. For a variety of scenarios it is in our best interest to get along with our friends, family members, and co-workers. However, that does not mean that we have to just do everything they want us to. Learn some unique tips and tricks for staying firm but remaining pleasant. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

Dr. Lisle dives into a discussion of personality diffferences and what role they play in different life circumstances. For example, if you ever had to hire an attorney to defend you, you would want them to be a generally argumentative person. If you had to hire an accountant, you'd want them to be very detail-oriented. Similarly, if you are a naturally passionate and highly extraverted person, sitting at a desk job in your own cubicle all day long can be miserable even if it's a great job. How can you meet the challenges of the modern world while staying true to who you are? Find out about personality difference to know yourself. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

Today's topic is gender differences. We start the show about a news event that occured with an academic where he stepped into some trouble for discussing gender differences. Dr. Lisle discusses the biological difference between men and women. For example, men can become more explosively angry than women due to a particular hormone that rises quickly in males. On the other hand, women can still be just as competitive as males, but they are slicker and friendlier. How did these differences evolve? Why did certain traits evolve in the different genders? How are men and women different? How does this translate into modern society? Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

Where do political views come from? Dr Lisle explains that political differences evolved from our basic need to optimize the survival of the stone age village. This results in a natural split of political views that essentially desire to either "share more" or "share less". Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

As Dr. Lisle discusses the purpose of psychology, we begin with a discussion of thoughts, feelings, and behavior. Some philosophers believe that we can think one thing and then feel something completely different but Dr. Lisle explains these seemingly conflicting thoughts & feelings explains how this relates to stress. We discuss different models of psychology and some of the limits of learning theory. For example, do we learn our emotions during childhood? Dr. Lisle discusses an example of a common "beat your genes" trap for women nowadays of staying with a man who's not right for her. We continue on this topic for the remainder of the show and Dr. Lisle begins the explanation about differing mating strategies. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

Motivation and expectations are supposed to go hand-in-hand. The idea being - if you're expected to achieve a goal, your motivation kicks in to meet these expectations. In this episode, Dr. Lisle goes over a concept called The Ego Trap. Which is the trap we may find ourselves in if the expectations of our performance exceeds what we think we can reasonably accomplish. Dr. Lisle describes this trap, how this process works, why it works the way it does, and how to effectively overcome it. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D. Podcast website: www.BeatYourGenes.org True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : www.TrueToLife.us Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

What does "self-esteem" actually mean? In this episode, Dr. Lisle goes over the history of the study of self-esteem. Then he explains his own discoveries of esteem processes including self-esteem. As it turns out, nobody can give you "self-esteem". Dr. Lisle explains that self-esteem is quite literally esteem of your self, so it is how you view yourself. So, what's called "low self-esteem" or "high self-esteem" is entirely based on how you view yourself. However, this view is not easily changed, as Dr. Lisle describes a concept called the "internal audience" - a sort of social meter sitting inside your mind that views your own behavior & effort in context with expectations. When you impress your 'internal audience' through diligent effort, you feel higher self-esteem. In this episode, Dr. Lisle describes what you can do to impress your internal audience and therefore improve your self-esteem. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D. Podcast website: www.BeatYourGenes.org True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : www.TrueToLife.us Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

In the very first episode of the Beat Your Genes podcast, Host Nate Gershfeld talks with Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD about the purpose of life, happiness vs. pleasure, and the psychological mechanisms that guide our behavior. Dr. Lisle talks about some important findings namely, that purpose of life (biologically) is quite simple - to spread our own genes and ensure their survival into the next few generations. Because of this, our entire biology, physiology, and psychology is built around this goal. It's been like this for the entire history of our species and we have survived in nature due to this goal. All of a sudden, comes the modern environment of convenience and innovation in an incredibly short time frame. With this new environment comes a new set of challenges that our brains were never designed to solve. In this podcast and in future episodes, Dr. Lisle methodically describes what role the mind and, therefore, our behavior plays in our life experience and satisfaction. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D. Podcast website: www.BeatYourGenes.org True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : www.TrueToLife.us Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus