At Peace Parents Podcast

The subject of this podcast can be triggering, but I'm committed to talking about it because so many parents of PDA children and teens encounter violence - and I am sending love and, compassion and deep empathy to all of you - and because part of the mission of At Peace Parents is to reduce violence at the individual, household and societal level. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode I talk with At Peace Parents coach Kendahl Damashek about parenting twice exceptional children - who are both gifted and PDA. Kendahl shares her personal experience being 2E and raising 2E children. You can learn more about her and her coaching services at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/kendahl-private-coaching-1To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode I share how Polyvagal Theory - cutting edge understanding of how the human nervous system works - can help us parent our PDA children and teens. Specifically, I look at how it helps us answer the following paradoxical questions:1 - Why do things seem to get worse after I dive in on accommodating?2 - How can my child turn their responses on or off if the behaviors truly aren't under their conscious control?3 - Similarly, how can equalizing be social in nature if not under their control?4 - Why, after making so much progress with my PDA child, do I personally feel so awful in my own nervous system?To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode I share the lessons I learned THE HARD WAY about advocating for my PDA son. Because you are truly not alone if you're feeling angry and exhausted after trying to convince teachers, doctors, therapists, grandparents, even spouses what your child needs and why - I've worked with hundreds of families who have gone through this. I share these lessons in the hope that it will short cut the process for you, so you can preserve some of your limited energy. Interested in the two books I mention - Non-Violent Communication and Boundary Boss. You can find links to both on our resources page, and if you buy through those links a commission will go towards our scholarship program. www.atpeaceparents.com/resourcesTo learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Parents often ask me how their three-year-old PDA child could possibly be masking before they've even started preschsool and seen much of how other kids behave. It's a great question, and one I asked many times as well. In this episode I dig into the answer, according to Polyvagal Theory.To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode Dr. Alex Klein and I answer questions that families submitted. If you'd like to submit a question for one of our future conversations, here is where you can do so: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/submit-question-klein-ehrlichHere's some of the questions we took on for this episode:How do you know if the behavior you are observing as a parent is from ADHD or PDA? What are the differences and similarities?Why are psychologists so resistant to recognizing PDA? (Asked as “What is wrong with Psychologists that they can’t see this as a neurotype!?!” 😊)Are psychologists helpful at all if they aren’t PDA themselves? Is it even worth trying to find a psychologist?What do you do if ABA is recommended by a doctor, but intuitively you don't think it is the right fit? To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Does your child refuses to write or draw? In this episode I share my story of my son's avoidance of both and how supporting his nervous with PDA accommodations enabled him to come back to them over time. The story also illustrates the general logic of supporting a child through and out of burnout. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Knowing the difference between boundaries and rules, and when to use each, can be really helpful when parenting a PDA child or teen. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode I reconnect with my longtime dear friend, Lauren Stern Noel, who is also a developmental therapist and DIR-Floortime therapist working with Autistic children and children with developmental disabilities. We talk about playing with PDA children, and how it can look different than what parents might have expected.Lauren serves families and schools directly in the greater Chicago area and you can learn more about her services and work at her website: https://www.playtimekids.org/about-laurenLauren's full bio is here: Lauren Stern Noel has been working with children with autism spectrum disorders and developmental differences since 2003. She is a credentialed Developmental Therapist through the Illinois Early Intervention program, a certified Infant Mental Health Specialist through Erikson Institute, and a Fellows-level certified DIRFloortime® therapist through Profectum™ Academy. Lauren believes that relationships and a strong social-emotional foundation are the basis for play, development and learning.Lauren earned a Bachelor’s degree in psychology from the University of Michigan and a Master’s degree in child development from Tufts University.To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent!xoxo,Casey

In this episode I discuss how as parents of PDA children or teens we do both parenting and caregiving, and how that relates to a "Gentle Parenting" approach.To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode I talk about how I view parenting a PDA child or teen as distinct from "Gentle Parenting" by focusing on rhythms instead of routines.To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Signalling safety - often non-verbally - to your PDA child or teen can be a really impactful way to accommodate their nervous system. In this episode I provide seven tips on how to do it. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.You can also connect with me on:Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparentsFacebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparentsYouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparentsAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.comThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode I discuss my two sons, the differences between SPD and PDA, and how those differences impact parenting. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass. You can also connect with me on:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

When my PDA son was four-years-old and we were in crisis I called my longtime dear friend, Lauren Stern Noel, who is also a developmental therapist and DIR-Floortime therapist working with Autistic children and children with developmental disabilities. She invited me to Chicago to stay with her family and meet her most trusted colleagues - a speech language pathologist and occupational therapist - to help Cooper stabilize. The most profound shift for me was in my parenting and helping me start my paradigm shift towards a non-behavioral approach to supporting my PDA child. In this episode we discuss that beginning and her insights working with many children with developmental, learning, or interactional differences.Lauren serves families and schools directly in the greater Chicago area and you can learn more about her services and work at her website.Lauren's full bio is here: Lauren Stern Noel has been working with children with autism spectrum disorders and developmental differences since 2003. She is a credentialed Developmental Therapist through the Illinois Early Intervention program, a certified Infant Mental Health Specialist through Erikson Institute, and a Fellows-level certified DIRFloortime® therapist through Profectum™ Academy. Lauren believes that relationships and a strong social-emotional foundation are the basis for play, development and learning.Lauren earned a Bachelor’s degree in psychology from the University of Michigan and a Master’s degree in child development from Tufts University.~~To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass. You can also connect with me on:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

I always get questions about how to handle dynamics between a Pathologically Demand Avoidant child or teen and their sibling/s. And with good reason - it can be REALLY hard to navigate these dynamics in ways that support all members of the family.Want more on this topic? I first discussed it about a year ago in episode 15.To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass. You can also connect with me on:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode I discuss the practical skills we need as parents to support the nervous systems and health of our PDA children and teens, and how it relates to my morning's yoga session...To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass. You can also connect with me on:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

I explain strewing as an accommodation that can help PDA children and teens. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass. You can also connect with me on:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Casey and Dr. Klein discuss PDA in their first podcast (of many to follow) and he shares some of the insights of PDA he's gained as a clinical psychologist. Disclaimer: Dr. Klein does not provide any clinical, medical, or therapeutic support as part of this podcast. To work with him as a clinician, you can find him here: https://www.dralexklein.com/(Casey doesn't either). You can submit questions for my future chats with Dr. Klein here. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass. You can also connect with me on:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Casey discusses the five most common ways she's found parents of PDA children and teens get stuck in bringing their family to stability.To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass. You can also connect with me on:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Casey discusses the ways parents of PDA children shoot themselves with the "second arrow" - often guilt - and ways to transcend it.To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass. You can also connect with me on:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode Casey discusses having a service dog to help her PDA son, and some of the ups and downs she's been through. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass. You can also connect with me on:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Casey discusses her identity, her role as a researcher rather than an advocate, and how this informs her objective approach - and openness -to helping each unique family find what works for them and the PDA child or teen without an attachment to path they choose. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass. You can also connect with me on:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeAnd information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Casey talks about the theory of change she uses in her work, and the common fear parents have that if they accommodate their PDA children and teens they will not be able to succeed as adults. To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace ParentsThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode Casey discusses the challenges and strategies of parenting a PDA child or teen through the holiday season. (This episode was pulled from a recent Instagram Live video.)To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Casey discusses the variability among PDA children and teens. To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

PDA children and teens have empathy, and in this episode we talk about why and how to help their nervous systems so they can access it. To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode we discuss the unique experience of parenting a PDA child for parents who are also pathologically demand avoidant and offer some simple tools and insights that may be helpful. To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, we discuss why the Halloween - and the holidays - are so tough on PDA children and teens, as well as their parents, and I offer some tips to help you get through the beginning of what we call "The Gauntlet" in my family (the period between Halloween and my son's bday in January).Remember - it's not you! It's totally normal to dread these times of the year because of societal demands and expectations!I hope this podcast episode serves you.To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode Casey talks about the fawn and freeze responses to nervous system activation.To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Casey discusses why behavioral approaches don't work for PDA children and teens.To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Casey talks about therapy for PDA children. To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

This episode explores what I call "The Theory of Change" of parenting a Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child or teen through an accommodation approach over the long term (years!). We talk about the logic behind lowering demands and making choices that feel counterintuitive as a parent to support your child back into their "thinking brain."We also discuss radical acceptance and what that means day-to-day as a parent as a PDA child or teen. To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

This episode discusses what it *actually* looks like to radically accept your PDA child or teen. For many parents this is where the rubber hits the road and it is less about a nebulous or theoretical "acceptance" of a neurodivergent child, and more about the points at which we have to accept that raising a child with a nervous system disability requires tradeoffs to our lifestyle, letting go of certain expectations we had for our lives, and cost-benefit decision-making within constraints.I hope it serves you. To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, we discuss the difference between trauma and Pathological Demand Avoidance, as well as the overlaps in terms of your child's or teen's behavior.We talk about how you can heal trauma, however you cannot heal a neurotype, but rather accommodate it through trauma-informed parenting and practices.Sometimes, as parents, we don't know where the line is between trauma and neurotype, so we have to be consistent in connection and accommodations and observe our own data about your child or teen over time. I hope this episode serves you!To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

This episode is designed to do three things:Give you clarity on how to figure out the root cause of your child's controlling and avoidant behavior - Is it Anxiety, OCD and/or Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)?Help you notice subtle differences in controlling and avoidant behavior to determine if there is more than one thing going on.Encourage you to startobserving and tracking your chlid or teen's unique "indicators" (Basic Needs access, Connection and Trust with you, and Nervous System Stress) over the long term so you can make decisions about what type of approach is more supportive of your family (Exposure vs. Accommodation).Happy Listening! To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Caseyps. Here is the link if you are interested in getting on the waitlist for the the next cohort of the Paradigm Shift Program. Citations: Polyvagal Theory steven PorgesThe Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma  (Good explanation of what happens to our bodies when we go into "fight or flight." Helpful for understanding the PDA child's experience)What happened to you (Oprah and Dr. Perry)The Whole-Brain childBeyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children's Behavioral ChallengesUnwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear and Heal your Mind.

"Is my child Autistic with Demand Avoidance OR is my child PDA?"This is a question I get often from parents, so this is a free training to help you discern the answer that question for yourself. We will cover:Figuring out which "lens" is most helpful to support your unique child and the root cause of the behaviors you observe.Understanding that it is not an "either/or" or binary situation where PDA kids don't have social communication differences or that non-PDA autistic children and teens don't need autonomy and have sensitive nervous systems.Patterns I have observed that help you distinguish for yourself whether your child is PDA.Patterns I have observed among the 100s of parents I work with whose children or teens are indeed PDA.An invitation to take an experimental approach and collect data on *your* unique child.I hope it serves you!To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, I answer this very commonly asked question: What is the difference between PDA and trauma? As part of my answer, I discuss five things:1. Why there is so much confusion between PDA and trauma. 2. Why there are different root causes behind similar nervous system activation.3. Where there are points of overlap between PDA and trauma.4. Different approaches to supporting them. 5. What we don't know yet about healing vs. accommodating a neurotype vs. neuroplasticity and where your child will land.Citations:"What Happened to You: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing," by Bruce Perry, MD, Ph.D. and Oprah Winfrey"The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk"Harnessing Electrochemicals to Treat Disorders Arising from Traumatic Stress" by Ronald Ruden (2019: 223)To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

This episode is an excerpt from the "Progress with PDA" workshop and is a way of looking at progress, even when you feel your most stuck as a parent.This perspective is the "yin" side to the "yang" of tracking data and indicators of progress that you observe of your PDA child or teen as they move out of burnout and towards more well-being. I hope the episode serves you. To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, I answer the question: "What do I do when my PDA child or teen really wants to do something - see friends, play a sport, engage in an activity - but there is a big fallout afterwards?"To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, Casey shares the logic behind why sticker charts, laminated schedules, strict routines, and many of the supports used with children who have social communication differences and executive functioning differences actually backfire with PDA kids and young adults. To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, Casey shares her story from the perspective of a parent as she experienced the time leading up to her son's burnout (3.5 years old), her son's burnout (5.5 years old), and the current moment (8.5 years old). She ends with a spiritual insight from Buddhism about not shooting oneself with the "second arrow" when things are hard.To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, I share an excerpt from the Paradigm Shift Program session that focused on Marriage, Co-Parenting, and Communication dynamics while raising a Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child or teen. I share my personal story, how raising a PDA child has impacted my marriage and share one fundamental insight about being the "lead" parent vs. the parent who is doing less of the caregiving.This is a great episode to listen to with your partner to help you get on the same page and realize you are not alone in navigating these dynamics!Citations: Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome in ChildrenThe Tilt Parenting Podcast Episode with Harry Thompson (Episode 109) has been removed from the website because of allegations against Harry, so I can't link to it as a citation.  Atlantic Article "Why Women Still Can't Have it All" - the concept of "lead parenting" is named in the writing. To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo,Casey

In this episode, I outline the ways in which the description of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM)-5 overlaps with some of the surface-level indicators of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) or "Pervasive Drive for Autonomy."Although there are many things that look the same on the surface, if we dig deeper to discover the root cause of your child's behavior, you may realize that Oppositional Defiant Disorder isn't really an explanatory diagnostic category, while Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) is.I also outline the five things that an Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) diagnosis doesn't explain:Internalized expressions of PDA (e.g. freeze/fawn)Trouble accessing basic needs (e.g. toileting indepedently, safety, eating, sleeping, or hygiene)Sensory DifferencesSocial Communication DifferencesNeed for constant undivided attention/coregulationCitations: "High Masking" term by Rachel Dorsey, Autistic SLPTILT Parenting Podcast Reference: Episode 154: Dr. Mona Delahooke on Looking Beyond Children's Challenging BehaviorBeyond Behaviors by Mona DelahookeBody-Brain Parenting by Mona DelahookeTo connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode we explore identifying with a particular neurotype - whether it is Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA), Autistic, Neurotypical, ADHD, or none at all- and the choices we have for ourselves and for our children.At the core, we discuss how autonomy is incorporated into the process of your child choosing an identity, and separating that from medical diagnosis and the nervous system mechanisms that lead to fight/flight/freeze.Hope you enjoy!To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so hard to understand as a parent and for therapists, pediatricians, teachers, and people looking in on your child's life?In this episode, I answer the following questions: How do I know whether it is "defiance" or typical kid behavior or Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)?How do I know whether it is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD), or ADHD? Can a PDA child appear totally typical at school or with a grandparent, but not at home?What if my child is not "explosive" - can they still be pathologically demand avoidant? (PDA) Citation:"Beyond Behaviors: Using Compassion and Brain Science to Understand and Solve Children's Challenging Behaviors" by Dr. Mona DelahookeTo connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so hard to understand as a parent and for therapists, pediatricians, teachers, and people looking in on your child's life?In this episode, I answer the following questions: My child doesn't seem Autistic, can they still be Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA)?My child seems typical some of the time, can they still be Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA)? Citations: Term "High Masking" from Rachel Dosey, Autistic SLP"Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity" by Andrew Solomon. To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode on Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and Toileting, we discuss the impact that cumulative nervous system stress has on toileting, through two mechanisms: The nervous system's fight/flight or freeze response and how it impacts the metabolism, cortisol, and adrenaline, all of which impact digestion and toileting, and "Control coalescing" around toileting as a way to get back to a place of perceived safety.The episode concludes with some practical parenting advice on how to get unstuck from a PDA or demand avoidant child who refuses to potty train or who has had a toileting "regression" after being potty trained. To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, I tackle the complex and often difficult topic of managing siblings and a PDA child at the same time, as well as the impact on siblings of raising a PDA child or child with a sensitive nervous system in the same home. Please note: This is recorded from a live video and so often when I said "Accidentally" I used air quotes because it was not truly accidental. To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, I answer questions that parents submitted as "secret and inappropriate" about PDA. I answer as honestly and objectively as possible! The five questions were:✨ Can you have “PDA Lite”?✨ Is PDA always Autism?✨What happened to an older generation of PDAers?✨Can trauma cause PDA?✨Do you think autism and PDA are more common now or do you think it is because we have broader diagnostic tools?Citation: "Neurotribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity" by Steve Silberman.To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

This episode describes the three stages of the journey that parents of PDA children and teens go through on their path to peace. First, the "Doing Everything" phase where you learn and do everything you possibly can to help your child. Second, the "Structural Change" phase where you make changes to your lifestyle and make difficult tradeoffs that reflect the fact that you are raising a child with a nervous system disability. Third, the "Surrender" phase where you seek out meaning, purpose, nervous system healing (for yourself), and sometimes spirituality as you let go of the things you cannot control in your life. To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey