Anxiety to Confidence - The Personal Development Unplugged Podcast

"I'm Not Good Enough – Where'd That Go?" In this deep-dive episode of Personal Development Unplugged, we go straight to the heart of that old familiar belief: "I'm not good enough." Where did it come from? Why does it stick? And more importantly… how the hell do we finally let it go? Following on from FMQ 520, we go far deeper — unpacking the real intention behind that belief (yep, your unconscious mind is actually trying to protect you), the conflict it accidentally creates, and how to guide it toward a better way of keeping you safe. And then… we do the thing. A guided process — powerful, imaginative, and deeply integrative — designed to dissolve the old belief, honour the intention behind it, and install new, empowering beliefs that actually support you. Not named, not formal — just a beautifully crafted experience that uses memory, imagination, counterexamples, and emotional safety to shift how you see yourself. What you'll learn in this episode Where "I'm not good enough" really comes from Why it is helping you — but in the worst possible way How your unconscious mind gets stuck in a loop of "protecting" you by holding you back Why perfectionism is just the same belief wearing a different hat How to honour the original intention so your unconscious mind joins the team How to use imagination + real memories to generate powerful new beliefs A full guided process to change how you feel about the past and the future How to use this again to reinforce confidence, safety, and inner alignment The reminder that you are always more than you think you are Hypnosis-style process included Yep — this episode includes a guided inner process (eyes closed, deep focus) allowing you to revisit past experiences safely and then rehearse future success with new beliefs installed. Not formal hypnosis — but absolutely hypnotic in effect. Why this episode matters Because this belief — I'm not good enough — is the quiet saboteur behind so much anxiety, overwhelm, perfectionism, avoidance, and self-sabotage. When it shifts, life opens up. You get back your choices, your confidence, your comfort in your own skin. And your unconscious mind gets to protect you in a far better way. Takeaways Your unconscious mind always means well Protection and progress only conflict when the strategy is outdated You can change a belief by giving your unconscious mind better evidence and better options You don't need to "feel ready" — you need to feel safe You can install empowering beliefs now and rehearse a new future You're already capable; you just needed access to the right internal resources Please share this episode https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/469-im-not-good-enough-whered-that-go Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism So welcome to this longer podcast with me, Paul, Personal Development Unplugged. And it is unplugged in the way that we're going to do stuff that creates change in your life, okay? And if you were with me on the last FMQ, the five minute quickie, which is now a little bit longer, it was all about, I'm not good enough, where did it come from? We were looking very quickly and easily to find what was the cause of that belief? Because I believe, I'm not good enough, or I don't belong here, or those very general beliefs, because we have them in different areas of our life, came from somewhere else, came from something just below that, a more subtle belief, that are then generalised into different areas of our life. An

I'm Not Good Enough Where'd That Come From? In this slightly longer Five-Minute Quickie, we're digging into one of the sneakiest, most stubborn beliefs so many of us carry around: "I'm not good enough." Where did it come from? Why does it stick? And how do we uncover what's really underneath it? This FMQ is all about preparing you for the deeper dive coming in the next longer episode, where I'll be guiding you through a process to change this belief for good. But first, we need a seed — a direction — so when we get there, your unconscious mind is already lined up and ready to shift. What We Explore Today How "I'm not good enough" often starts with something very specific. Why a general belief always has a more personal root underneath it. The types of life experiences where this message gets planted. How your unconscious mind tries (clumsily!) to protect you with limiting beliefs. A gentle exercise to uncover the real identity belief below the surface. Your Mini-Mission Before we get to the long episode: Notice the feeling of "I'm not good enough." Keep the intensity no higher than a 5 out of 10. Ask: "I'm not good enough because I'm…?" Let the deeper belief rise — something identity-level like "I'm stupid," "I'm invisible," "I'm useless." Just notice it. No fixing today — just understanding. This gentle curiosity will set you up beautifully for the transformation we'll create together next week. Don't Miss the Next Episode That's where we take this seed, this awareness, and change the belief at the unconscious level. Not with willpower. Not with talking. But with a real process. Share with your friends so we can all make this change together https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-520-im-not-good-enough-whered-that-come-from Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism FMQ520 I'm Not Good Enough Where'd That Come From Hey, this five-minute quickie, I'm not good enough. Where did that come from? Slow down, Paul. Where did that come from? And we're going to go there, we're going to just have a little look at this to see where this belief of I'm not good enough, oh, you know, I don't deserve it, or, you know, I have to be a perfectionist, a perfectionist, I don't know why I said that. But just that, I think we've all got a belief like I'm not good enough. And the I think it comes from something else, something more specific. And when we look at the specific and understand it, guess what, sometimes it just disappears. And the thing is, that's what we're going to do. This is, again, a FMQ with a difference. Because it's not just me rambling, although it is a bit. It's all about working out something. So we're prepared for a longer podcast. And in that longer podcast, we can then dive more deeply into that subject and allow it to disappear, come up with a process. So this is what we're going to do. I'm not good enough. Where did it really come from? Now, a lot of you and me, we've just been told it. You've just been told it, you've been told it by your family, maybe members of your family. Sometimes when we think back, we can remember being told, you're just not good enough, you'll never make it. I know I was told that one time about I wanted to be an artist. I don't think I was ever going to be that good. But I had a dream to be an artist. And guess what, I was told, oh, there's so many good artists that don't make it, and you're never going to make it. Now that had more than just the effect of saying, oh, well,

I Feel Sh*t So Let's Change This Episode in a Nutshell In this deeper dive of Personal Development Unplugged, we get real about feeling stuck, low, anxious or just "not ourselves" — and what to actually do about it. No more endless talking, analysing or looping the same bloody thoughts. This is about changing how you feel at the unconscious level, where these issues were created… and where they can be changed. If you've ever struggled to remember what "good" even feels like, or wondered why you can't just think your way out of the cycle, this episode gives you a gentle, powerful way to move forward — using your imagination, memory, and your very real inner resources. What You'll Learn • Why "talking about your issue" rarely creates real change Talking keeps you in your conscious mind — the part that didn't create the problem. So it can't resolve it. • Why your unconscious mind is the key Your unconscious created these feelings to protect you. It just chose a bad strategy. So we go back to that level to educate it and update it. • How to discover how you actually want to feel (Not as easy as people pretend. But we make it easy.) • How to use memories to unlock feelings you thought you'd lost If you can imagine the feeling, you have felt it before — we just need to uncover the counter-examples. • A step-by-step method to go from "how I feel now" → "how I want to feel" Including the powerful "middle feeling" bridge that stops your brain panicking and makes real change doable. • How to create experiences in your future that your unconscious mind believes are real And therefore starts acting on them now. Why This Matters Because you deserve better than living with old, outdated emotional programmes. Because you are more than the issue you're experiencing. Because feeling good, calm, confident or safe isn't a fantasy — it's a memory inside you waiting to be brought forward. And because change doesn't require force, pressure or reliving the past. It requires permission, imagination and simple steps. Your Simple Action Steps Write down how you feel now. Be honest. No judgement. Write down how you want to feel. This is the feeling you'd choose if everything was just right. Find the halfway feeling. The emotional stepping stone. Use your imagination: Visualise yourself feeling the way you want to feel, in the exact context where you currently struggle. Drop into a memory: Let your unconscious find a time you actually felt this way before. Blend them. Bring that old feeling into the imagined future — your brain doesn't know the difference. Repeat with curiosity. It's simple. It's gentle. And it works. Cloughie's Notes (The Heart-to-Heart Bit) You are not broken. You don't need fixing. You simply learned a way of coping that doesn't serve you anymore. And just as you learned it, you can unlearn it. And relearn something far better. This episode is my way of guiding you to the place where you can make that change — easily, naturally, gently. Because you matter. And because I know what it's like to feel lost. And I know what it's like to find the way back. Useful Links • Free Hypnosis Library: paulcloughonline.com/podcast • Episode Mentioned: #78.1 – "My Qualities" • Instagram & Email: If something comes up, message me. We'll explore it in future episodes. Call to Action If this episode touched you, helped you, or even nudged you a little — please share it with someone who might need it. And subscribe, because the next episodes are going even deeper with real processes that create real change. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/468-i-feel-sht-so-lets-change/ ‎ Have more fun than you can stand. And remember: Change isn't magic… but it is magical. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Mus

Talking's Over It's Time To Change In this slightly-longer FMQ, we're taking a gentle but powerful step toward real change. No more talking about the issue. No more cycling through the same thoughts. This episode is all about shifting your focus to what actually creates transformation — how you want to feel. So many of us get stuck talking, thinking, analysing… and nothing changes. Why? Because talking doesn't always touch the unconscious mind — the place where these patterns were created in the first place. In this FMQ, I share: The real difference between empathy and compassion (and why empathy can overload you) Why talking about problems rarely changes them Where real emotional change really happens The simple, powerful pre-work for next week's longer deep-dive episode How focusing on "how I want to feel" can quietly shift things even before you do any formal process This episode is your gentle setup — your seed — for the bigger, deeper process in next week's longer podcast. And it's beautifully simple. ✅ Your 7-Day Challenge (The Seed for Next Week) Each day, take 2–3 quiet minutes and write down: How would I like to feel? Not the issue. Not the problem. Not "what's wrong". Just: How do I want to feel instead? Do it in different contexts if you want: With people At work Alone In difficult moments In good moments Then… let it simmer. Let your unconscious mind start doing what it does best. Next week, we'll take everything you've written and go deep with a full process to help make those feelings part of your natural way of being. Why This Matters Because talking doesn't always change anything — but educating the unconscious mind does. And this tiny step gets you ready for a huge one. Share It Share this FMQ with someone who needs to feel better, think differently, or get ready for some genuine positive change. You might kickstart something wonderful for them. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-519-talkings-over-its-time-to-change Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism FMQ 519 Talking's Over It's Time To Change Welcome to the five minute quickie podcast with a slight difference. Slight difference is I want you to think about things. So on a longer podcast, we can dive deeply into the subject and also with processes that allow you to change your issues. But what is it today? What is it today? Well, compassion or empathy. You see, I have real trouble with empathy. You see, empathy, if I can say it right, seems to be that you have to feel the feelings of that person to understand them. And I know some really nice people who are mega empathetic. And the thing is, I don't think it does them any good, because they really feel the feelings of someone who is in pain. And they feel in pain. I don't mind empathy when you're, you know, when you're feeling good, I'll join you in that one like no one's business. I'll be there quick as a flash. But as a therapist, I don't want to feel your pain. I really don't. My mother, bless her, she was super empathetic. She would have people come round. And in my mind, they were like, they dumped all their emotional pain on her, left it with her and walked away smiling. And she would then be for days thinking about it, worried about it, feeling it. I don't think that's healthy, do you? Now, what's the difference? Compassion. Compassion. Compassion to me is to understand how you feel, how it affects you. What are the effects of the way you're feeling? How, well, how bad i

How To Achieve Your Goals Easily There's an easier way to achieve your dreams and goals — one that actually feels good and keeps you motivated the whole way through. In this episode, I share a simple but powerful approach to goal setting that most people miss: starting from the last step — that moment when you've already achieved your goal — and using that feeling to drive you forward. You'll discover how to find your true why, anchor your motivation, and create a plan that's realistic, energising, and deeply aligned with what you want. And there's more — I'll also guide you through a special hypnosis process designed to connect your conscious and unconscious minds, so the path to your goals becomes effortless and natural. This isn't about grinding harder or forcing success. It's about feeling your way into it — knowing exactly what success looks and feels like so you can enjoy every step along the way. In this episode: The often-overlooked final step that makes all the difference in goal achievement How to find and anchor your true motivation (your why) Why traditional goal-setting keeps you stuck and how to flip it The role of your unconscious mind in creating success A guided hypnosis process to help you align and take inspired action Takeaway: When you start from the feeling of already having achieved your goal, and anchor that emotion, everything changes. Obstacles shrink, motivation grows, and the steps become natural. Listen now — and let's make your goals easier, more joyful, and truly yours. Then let's share it with others https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/467-how-to-achieve-your-goals-easily Shine Brightly 🌟 Oh! And the video link https://youtu.be/vIAOQUBEzjU Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism #467 How To Achieve Your Goals Easily . Hey, welcome to the Lungar podcast. How to achieve your goals the easy way. And yes, there is an easy way. And if you think about it, everyone talks, gives advice, maybe gives a workshop, give masterclasses in goal setting. And so many just go through the steps. But some forget that visualisation of the last step. And the last step is not the last step just before you get it. The last step is having already got your goal. You've achieved it. You're just about to move on. And you see, when you know that that's the step and you have it, so you know the step, you have that step, things just seem so good. You feel so incredible. You feel so motivated. You feel so confident because you've already achieved it. It's as if you have already achieved it. And I do this in so many ways in my trainer's training. I had to visualise not getting the certificate because that wasn't it for me. It was sitting alone on these steps out on the balcony in Santa Cruz University, holding my certificate just by myself saying, Bloody hell Cloughie, we did it. That was my confirmation. And the thing is, the weird thing about that was, when we were given the certificates, someone had forgotten to sign them. So the certificates didn't actually mean anything. That's so weird. So weird. But that feeling that I took through the whole of, it was July, a few years ago, but the whole of July, I had that sense, that feeling, Cloughie, we've done it. And that helped me through all sorts of obstacles and things like that. But we just did it. And that's the one thing that a lot of people forget. They think it's just, imagine you've got the, no, no, think of the very last step to know to guarantee that you've got t

Help Me Make a Difference Hey, it's Paul here, and this episode is a little different. I want to ask for your help — because I really want to make a difference. For years I've been putting out two episodes a week — a Five-Minute Quickie and a longer one — and to be honest, it's been tough to keep up. More than that, I've realised I want to go deeper. I want to spend more time on the stuff that really matters — the stuff that helps people change for good. So, from now on, I'll be doing one episode a week. Sometimes it'll be a short FMQ to plant a seed, and sometimes a longer one where we dive deep — with hypnosis, NLP, and all the good stuff that helps you change from the inside out. But here's the thing… I can't do it on my own. We all have our struggles, right? The things we keep bottled up because we don't want to seem weak, or we don't know who to talk to. I've seen too many people suffer in silence — and I don't want that to happen anymore. So I'd love your help. Tell me what's really going on for you — or maybe for someone you know. What's the thing you or they are struggling with? And just as important — how would you like to feel instead? That's where the real change begins. When you can imagine what it's like to feel better, to feel free, confident, peaceful — then we can start making that happen together. Please share this message https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/help-me-make-a-difference/ You can email me (anonymously if you like) at [email protected] I'd be so grateful to hear from you. Let's make this podcast something that doesn't just help you — but helps others too. Let's make it a real community of change. Thanks for being here, for listening, and for being part of this. Shine brightly, Paul And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Help me make a difference Hi, how you doing? I don't think we ask that enough, do we? How are you doing? And mean it. Sometimes I think we have to ask at least three times to the same person. Really? How you doing? Really? How you doing? And what am I talking about? What am I talking about? Well, I'm going to change the format of the Personal Development Unplugged podcast. For the last years and years and years and years and years, I've been cracking out two podcasts a week, five minute quickie and a longer version. And it's taken its toll a little bit because I find it really difficult to fit it all in. And my mind is that there's important things to talk about where we need to go into depth, find processes that really make a difference, approach the difficult subjects. And I think to do that, I'm only going to do a weekly podcast. And one of those will be a seed, a five minute quickie still, but it'll be a seed for a longer podcast so I can get you to think. Think and get ready for something deeper. But the whole point is I want to help people. I want to help people more than I've been doing. And to do that, again, I say we've got to approach these subjects, which are a little bit not taboo, but maybe they're not spoken about quite so much. And I'm noticing it happening a bit more now. You know, guys opening up, being strong and saying they need help. Unfortunately, there's one or two that we've seen in the news that don't. Damn, we miss them. It's too big a shame and we need to do something about it. And that's just not guys. It's everyone. We all have our struggles. And sometimes these struggles can seem so much because they're all inside, aren't they? They're in our bloody head and we seem to think that we have to deal with them by ourselves because it's weak to tell anybody about it. Or find the right person. Or I can't afford to get the therapy I need. I can't even admit I need therapy. And that's no fucking good to anybody. So what I want to do is to get deeper into subjects. Take a little time to get things right. I know. But I want to do deeper subjects with real deep hypnosis to get the unconscious mind to change. Because a lot of these issues that we have, they're in our bloody head. And they're not caused consciously. You think about it consciously. But if you had created it consciously, you would change easily, effortlessly. Just by thinking about it. Because you create things consciously, you change things consciously. But these are at an unconscious level. They're like unconscious behaviours. That limiting belief, those emotions, those negative emotions. And although they're, well I believe they're there to protect us. I just know there's better ways. And it's your unconscious mind needs guiding. It needs help to create change at the unconscious level. Because this is where our issues are created. Something happens to us and our unconscious mind decides to help. Unfortunately, sometimes it doesn't. It creates negative emotions. Has a limiting belief just to keep us safe. But then it carries on. But that's where I'm g

How To Make Sure You Get What You Want Ever feel like you're doing everything right toward your goals… and still somehow missing the mark? In this short and powerful 5-Minute Quickie, I'll get you thinking differently — about the real key to success. It's not about doing more, it's about choosing what really matters and owning it with absolute certainty. You'll explore: Why most people get overwhelmed and give up on their goals. How to simplify your path by writing everything down and seeing it clearly. A sneak peek into the longer, deeper episode to come — complete with a hypnosis process to make success feel inevitable. This FMQ is your seed for something bigger — a simple mindset shift that can change everything. Start now: write down what you truly want, rate what's most important, and get ready to make sure you actually get it. Listen now. Think deeply. Then be ready for the next one. And share with your friends: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-518-how-to-make-sure-you-get-what-you-want And as always the video link https://youtu.be/F4NUGealUYg Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism FMQ 518 How To Make Sure You Get What You Want Okay, welcome back to the 5-Minute Quickie, the FMQ, or the Personal Development Unplugged podcast, with me, Paul. And today, on this episode, this shorter episode, it's all about getting what you want, and getting it more often, and even better than you want. And this is, in effect, just for you to muse, to think a little bit, to get a little bit more curious, to begin to think of the things that you really want to have happen. Big goals, small goals, random. You could just list them out, all the different things you want, because I'm going to go through a process with you of making it easy. But that's going to be on a deeper dive, a deeper dive with a longer episode, and probably there'll be a process contained in it, because I love my hypnosis, or NLP processes. So we'll find something that goes with it as well, so we make that longer podcast something of real, real benefit to you. But the thing is, how many have you, how, say another way, have you ever been on a goal-setting work, workshop, a goal-setting course, anything, online, in person? You see, I find so many people miss the mark on this, they miss the key, they miss the key of being able to get it, get your goal, because, and I'll tell you why, there's so much to do. You forget how much in your life you have to do, you forget the overwhelming amount of steps along the way to achieve your goal. And when you do that, we tend to go, it's a bit like New Year's resolutions, we're just, they're just so much, so big. Sometimes we plod through them, sometimes we get to that plateau, and we just give up. Sometimes we start to get that negative belief that I'm not good enough, I shouldn't be able to do that, who am I? Because it becomes difficult, overwhelming. There's so much to bloody do. And that's where I want to get this deeper dive going. But in order to get there, I want to, I want you to begin to think, but before that, if there was an easier way, an easier way that, if that goal, that thing, the thing you desire, the things you want, is important to you, you would almost certainly guarantee success. That's what I'm going to, that's the process I'm bringing to you. It's almost certainly going to bring you that success. Now you might say, well, okay, Cloughie, why almost bloody certainty? Certainly. Certaint

A Formula to Real Success with a hypnosis process included What if real success isn't about hustling harder but aligning your unconscious mind with what truly matters to you? In this longer episode of Personal Development Unplugged, we dive into a simple yet powerful formula for achieving genuine success — the kind that feels right, deep inside. No fake positivity, no chasing someone else's version of "made it." You'll discover: How to define success on your terms The unconscious blocks that quietly hold you back A step-by-step hypnosis process to rewire your beliefs and actions so they work for you, not against you This isn't theory. It's a practical formula you can use right now to start living with purpose, confidence, and ease — and finally experience success that lasts. Because when you and your unconscious mind are aligned, things start to click. Magic happens. So… are you ready to find your own formula? Listen now — and let's make real success your new normal. As always, if you found value here, please share this episode, follow the podcast, and visit the free hypnosis page for even more deep change resources. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/466-a-formular-to-real-success/ Or watch the video here https://youtu.be/-Gy9JLi_NT8 Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, I just want to mention before we start this longer podcast that it does include a chunk of hypnosis, eyes closed, going deep inside to really get an unconscious understanding, learning of how you can achieve your dreams and goals and anything you want. So because of that, this is like a little warning. Please, when you get to that point, if you have anything that needs your attention, press stop. And then you can come back to this this time, and then you can listen to it when it's appropriate, when you have nothing to do, nothing to take your attention, because this is hypnosis. But I would say, this is something for you. And it'd be great for you to find that space, that time for you. So you can start to create the life you like, the life you dream of, and the life you deserve. Okay, so that's just a little pre thing that I just want to tell you about. But now, let's get on. Hey, welcome to the longer podcast. And what we're doing today is moving on from FMQ 517, how to be successful. And that was a muse, wasn't it? It was a seed, as it were, on thinking about not just having the positive mindset or the right mindset to achieve what you want. It was about the body set, whatever that is. That's what we're going to go. And how the mind and the body is totally connected. And when they're not connected, how things tend to go a little bit out of kilter. And where our goals or the things we want our desires, our dreams tend to well go off the mark, we aim at slightly the wrong place. And aiming off the wrong place means we go all over the place. And that gives us all sorts of things, you know, even limiting negative beliefs of, you know, upper failure, I shouldn't be here, I knew I couldn't do it. But the thing is, this is where we're going to change. So what are we going to do? I want you to think of goals, but goals are basically everything that you do. Everything you do in the day is a goal, isn't it? I'm going to go here, it's a goal of going there, I'm going to go on a walk, it's a goal. So don't think of goals as being massive things. It's just things that we aim to do. And it could be as simple as going to the gym, going to d

How to Really Be Successful Ever heard people bang on about mindset — and thought, "Yeah, but what about the rest of me?" This Five-Minute Quickie goes beyond the buzzword. Because success isn't just in your head — it's in your body too. In this short but mighty episode, we explore: Why mindset alone isn't enough — and what "body-set" really means How to align your physiology and psychology so your goals feel inevitable Simple ways to tap into your "future you" — breathing, posture, tone, gestures — to unlock real, embodied confidence Cloughie breaks it down in his trademark way: fun, grounded, and totally usable. When you bring your body and mind into alignment, you don't have to fake success — you become it. Takeaway: Success is a feeling you live, not just an idea you think. Act, move, and breathe like you've already achieved it — because that's how you'll get there quicker, bigger, and better. Please share and see others grow too: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-517-how-to-really-be-successful Oh! And there's a video of me recording this too https://youtu.be/NnGVNaRiabI Got feedback, a question, or a win to share? Email: [email protected] Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, welcome to the five minute quickie where we're going to muse about something, muse about mindset. Muse against mindset because so many people talk about getting the right mindset, getting that super mindset. But what is the right mindset? And what about the body set? Body set, Paul? Yeah. You see, mind and body are connected, aren't they? And we're going to muse about this for the moment, just to give you an idea of where the mind and body have to come together. Because if you just have supposedly the right mindset and the body is not following, you've got a misalignment. You're not congruent. You'll even have, you know, some friction going on, some conflict going on. And we don't want conflict, do we? We want alignment. We want integrity. We want authenticity. We want every bloomin' word you can think of like that. So what am I thinking about? I'm thinking about goals, achieving your goals. And this is not goal setting. This is just thinking about, imagine this, imagine this. Imagine stepping into your goal. I'm not just noticing what it's like emotionally, because we talk about the feeling of the wish fulfilled, finding that feeling, feeling what it would be like in the goal, to have achieved the goal, the successful completion of the goal. But it's not just that, is it? I want you to know what it would be like physically, physically to have your goal. Because when you put the two together, you will be unstoppable. So if you were now just to flip into a goal, think about it. And you were to start to notice where you breathe. As if you're already succeeded, how would you breathe? You'd be moving, I guess, with someone of confidence, confidence in the way that, because you've achieved your goal. You'd be moving with your confidence. No one else is, we'll talk about that in a moment. You would be teaching, you would be moving with your confidence, the way you would be that confident. How would you be speaking? What's the tone of your voice? What's the speed of your voice? Everything about your voice, how would it be when you knew you succeeded? Now you're moving, you're speaking. In this episode, I just want to dive down a little deeply, not a little deeply, just a little bit into how your

How Do I Get Results How often do you find yourself hearing the same advice again and again—through podcasts, books, conversations, or even a random TikTok—and thinking "I know this already…" but then quietly adding "…but I'm not doing it." That's exactly what this episode is about. I'll share with you: Why repetition matters (and why advice keeps showing up until you take action). The real secret to results: showing up, doing the reps, and letting go of perfection. How "practice makes permanent," not perfect. Why intention and consistency beat intensity every single time. A simple way to choose one thing that could change everything in your life. This isn't about waiting for motivation. It's about turning up, committing to the process, and making deposits in your "success bank." Some days will feel great, others won't—but both move you forward. At the end, I'll even share how you can use my free hypnosis resources to build confidence, consistency, and unstoppable momentum. Listen in—then ask yourself: what's the one thing you'll commit to showing up for over the next 10 days? and share the hell out of this episode https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/465-how-do-i-get-results/ 👉 And if you'd like to go deeper, or if something's blocking you (fear, doubt, past experiences), email me at [email protected] Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism #465 How Do I Get Results Hey, welcome back to a longer episode, but it's not going to be that long. It's not going to be that long because it's just going to be about a question to you. A bit more than a question, and maybe an odd swear word. I let them slip occasionally. As you see, this is a longer podcast, where we're going to muse a little bit this time. It's like a longer five minute quickie. Because the question I have for you is, do you ever experience this type of thing? Being reminded of the things that you either know about already, or reminded about the things you're not doing, or continue to hear that same advice that you're not taking. And it comes in different places, different forms. And if you took that advice, if you did it, it would make a world of difference. And the type of things I'm thinking about is, you know, you could be listening to a podcast, and you hear something, and you go, well, I know that. But in brackets, and you don't say it to yourself too much, but I'm not doing it. And then you listen to another podcast a little bit later on, a different one. And there's the same type of message. And then you might read a book. And you go, damn, it's repeating. And then something else comes along. Or someone in conversation says something. Or you see one of those ribbon old things on TikTok, which drive me mad. And you go, it's the same advice over and over again. And I get it, you see, I get it. Sometimes we need it. You see, I know that I share stuff in different ways. And it has a very similar message. The core theme is the same. And every time I say it, I say it slightly different, or differently. And I know that we need sometimes to hear it two, three, maybe four times until it oodles its way in. Because it will, it'll stick eventually, because we need it. But sometimes we're just not there. But the thing is, when you notice it, man, we have to take notice, because we've noticed it. So this is me sharing with you. This has been knocking at my door, which I needed to get. Why? Why did I need to get it? Because I was

Acting As If Without The Fake Welcome back to another Five Minute Quickie! You've probably heard the phrase "fake it till you make it"—but let's be honest, it feels like a lie, doesn't it? That's because it is. When you try to copy someone else—how they walk, talk, or behave—you're not acting as if, you're acting as them. And deep down, you know it. You can't fool yourself. So what's the real power behind acting as if? It's stepping into the version of you who has already achieved your goal. Not pretending, not faking—just allowing that future you to live in the present. That's when you tap into the physiology and psychology of success. In this short FMQ, I'll share why "acting as if" works, why faking never does, and how to make it real so you can accelerate your goals, your dreams, and your enjoyment of the journey. 🚀 Why not share it with a friend https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-516-acting-as-if-without-the-fake Have thoughts or questions about this? Email me: [email protected] Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Welcome back to amusing, a five minute quick amusing. Acting as if, but acting as if without fake, because it sometimes feels a fake and I'm going to tell you why it feels a fake, and how to make it real, real. You see, acting as if is one of the most powerful, I mean it, the real most powerful ways of achieving your goals. To achieve your goals, not only to achieve them, but to achieve them quicker, bigger, better, and enjoy them. Because there's one thing about getting what you want, it's enjoying the journey, enjoying the adventure. Becoming who you really are in that adventure, in the journey, not just the start and the end. And if you want to get ahead of the others, get ahead of the game, be in that top percentile that achieves their goals, above and beyond, quicker than anybody else, then acting as if is a thing. And I'm going to tell you now why it feels fake. You see, if you try copying somebody, copying their mannerisms, the way they speak, the way they move, as a copy, it's not you. It's them, and you're not bloody them. And it will feel fake, because you cannot fool yourself. You know, in effect, you're lying to yourself when you're trying to act that way. Because it's like acting like them, not acting as if. It's copying, and you're not a copy. Yes, you can model people, modeling is a different thing, it's a different art, it's not copying. Modeling is getting into someone's mind and noticing the strategies they use, and then using the strategy, not just a copy. And that's why it feels like fake, because you're lying to yourself. But the thing is, how do you act as if? Well, I'm going to dive deeper into this again in a longer podcast, because I know it's so important. And yes, Cloughie, you can say you've done it before, and I'll do it again, and I'll keep doing it, because the more I do it, the more I get better at explaining it, and the more, well, it'll be different every time. There'll be nuances, and you'll get it differently. Every time you listen to it, you'll learn a little bit more, because that's what happens. But acting as if is how you would behave if you'd already achieved your goal. And that's the thing. It's how you would be. So you're acting as if you've already got it, not acting as if you're somebody bloody else. So that would be then acting as if you're you, but just in the future. So bringing that future you who's achieve

No Regrets - Just Do It -Here's How Have you ever caught yourself holding back, waiting for the "perfect" moment, and later felt that sting of regret? The truth is, regret weighs far more heavily than failure ever could. Failure teaches you something. Regret leaves you stuck, wondering "what if?" In this longer episode of Personal Development Unplugged, I take you deep into how to break free from hesitation, silence that self-doubt, and finally step forward with courage. This isn't about recklessness — it's about learning how to live boldly, make choices you're proud of, and stop letting fear dictate your life. You'll discover: Why regret is heavier than failure (and how to free yourself from it) Simple mindset shifts to move from hesitation to momentum The one question that reframes fear and unlocks action A step-by-step hypnosis process to help you just do it — so you don't just think about change, you actually experience it This is more than a conversation — it's an opportunity to work with your unconscious mind, shift your patterns, and take meaningful action today. If you've ever said "I wish I had…" then this episode is for you. Share it with someone who needs that nudge forward, and don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode packed with practical tools, mindset shifts, and powerful processes. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/464-no-regrets-just-do-it-heres-how Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism So welcome back. Longer podcast, yeah? With me, Paul. And no regrets. No regrets. Have you had regrets? I think we've all had regrets about not doing things. Have you had this though? When you have this belief, I believe I'm not good enough. I don't belong here. I'm bloody stupid. What else? Because I think we've all had those negative beliefs, or sometimes we call them limiting beliefs because they do bloody limit us, don't they? What other limiting, negative beliefs do you have? And if you want to really think about it, I know you do, think of things that you've wanted to do but you swerved them. You didn't take that step, you backed away. Think of one of those. Don't do them all at once because you'll be overwhelmed. But just think of one thing that you wanted to do and you didn't do it. You swerved it, you made an excuse. What did that feel like? And to get to that feeling, you know, remember that time just as you were making that decision. You were choosing not to do something. And see yourself there. And just notice the voice in your head. What were you saying to yourself? You know, was it things like, ah, you're never going to make it. I shouldn't be here. I don't belong. And that old chestnut, because I'm not, well, I'm just not good enough. Well, there's that other one I've heard a lot now. And I think of myself sometimes. No, I'm too stupid. Can't do it. Shouldn't be here. What did it feel like? When you hear those words inside, what does it feel like? Yeah, because it does, doesn't it? It doesn't feel good at all. When we think about it now. And what we try to do, I guess, I know I'm talking about me, but I guess. We can try to justify it, can't we? Because, you know, who am I? Who am I to do this bloody thing? You know, who do you think you are? Go on, Cloughie, who do you think you are? You won't be good enough. You certainly don't belong there. People will look down at you, you know, and you're going to look and feel stupid. And then you're going to get that feeling of fai

How To Consistently Do Your Best How often do you really do your best? Honestly? In this short 5-minute quickie, we dive into a simple but powerful way to consistently show up at your best — without pressure, without overthinking. It's all about the magic of the pause. Just a few seconds between tasks can reset your focus, break negative carry-over from the last thing you did, and set the intention for doing your best on the next. You'll learn: Why your "best" should be your baseline, not an exception How a 2-second pause can change the quality of your whole day The role of feelings and intention in achieving your personal best A quick reflection practice to avoid carrying stress from one task into another It's not about constant improvement. It's about consistency. And when you do this, life feels better, easier, and more rewarding. Give it a try today — and share this with someone who could use a reminder to hit their best more often. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-515-how-to-consistently-do-your-best Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, welcome back to the five minute quickie, Amuse. Amuse, just for five minutes. On today, how can you, me, constantly do our best? Consistently do our best. Constantly, consistently, both the same. Got to do our best. I was thinking about it. I was journaling about it. Because I looked back over yesterday and realized, yeah, I didn't quite do my best. And it's not the, can I? Constant and never-ending improvement, which means doing better than your best. But it means just doing your best. Because we can't, or we could, we could always do 1% more. But if nothing else, surely our best should be the bottom line, the minimum bar. We should be able to get above that. We certainly should hit it more times than enough. And then when I was looking back, I looked back over yesterday, didn't quite do it. Didn't quite do it. Some things I did, and some things I didn't. And I bet if you just looked over your day, say yesterday, did you do your best on everything you did? Bloody difficult, isn't it? It is bloody difficult. So what do we do? What do we do? It's how to think. How to think. So I want to know how I can do my best through the day. Because the day is split up into little compartments, isn't it? Each one is a different thing. We're doing different things. We've got different aims, different goals for each one. So how are we going to do it? How are we going to remember? Because I think we need something like a pattern interrupt. And what's one of those? Well, you interrupt the pattern. And the pattern is, we just flow sometimes from one to the other. You know, I'm doing something, and then I just go into the next thing. And when you go into the next thing, it's as if you're not thinking. You think you're thinking, but you're not really thinking. That makes sense, doesn't it? It does. So what can you do? Well, I think it's like meditating for two seconds. It's the magic of the pause. Yeah, I talk about pause so many times, and it is a magical thing when you do it. And the pause doesn't have to be long. I talk about pausing, you know, for a couple of minutes, three minutes to see the beauty of the world, to listen to hear everything, be present in the moment. But all I'm thinking of now is a two second pause, or one second pause to go, I finished what I've done. Am I happy? Can I be grateful of what I've done? Did I do my best? If I never did, what can I lear

How to achieve your Dreams and Goals Want real results — not hype? In this episode of Personal Development Unplugged Paul Clough shows you how to move from wishful thinking to action that works. We dig into practical goal-setting, the feeling of the wish fulfilled, how to use your mind (RAS + visualization), and small, actionable steps that create momentum. Expect NLP-informed tips, a short guided hypnosis process to embed success in your unconscious, and direct coaching you can use today. Key takeaways Define success specifically: the clearer the goal, the faster the result. Use feeling of the wish fulfilled + physiology + inner dialogue to "act as if." Employ the Reticular Activating System—focus your mind and notice opportunities. Build micro-steps (tiny wins) and schedule regular reviews to stay on track. Align goals with your values — ensure they're ecological (good for you, others, planet). Quick practical guided hypnosis included — make this a daily habit. Share with one person who needs permission to step up today. Have more fun than you can stand. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/463-how-to-achieve-your-dreams-and-goals Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Diving deeper into success A little while ago I did a 5 minute quickie Amuse, that smaller episode And that was called Spicing up Success And I said then, I promised I would do a longer or deeper dive Getting more specific And then do a process A little bit of hypnosis So you can put it into Into your unconscious mind Because When you get it in the unconscious mind You are doing it just right Really are So Question Have you ever heard Or seen this? Someone saying And it's generally on social media Oh, I'm living the dream And they write underneath the pictures You know, I'm living the dream Yeah, I'm doing all of this You know what? You're bloody not, you're not living the dream We know you're not living the dream You're fudging it, you're faking it Because It's all about Being honest True All that stuff, and when people are doing that On social media, they're not They're trying to pretend You know, and that doesn't do anything for anybody Does it? Doesn't do anything for anybody So, I don't want you to Say you're Oops, say you're living the dream I want you to Live the adventure The adventure of being successful Success, whatever that means to you It's got to be The feeling of success Because if you think about it It doesn't matter what you do If you have the feeling of success Man, you're being Bloody successful, aren't you? You're being successful, and that's all I want So, the thing about success is We need to define What you want So, what is Success to you? What is success to you? Is it something like a goal? What type of goal? You want to achieve something? What do you particularly, specifically Specificity What do you want to achieve? Maybe, you know, we think sometimes It's something really, really Really big But it's not, is it? It doesn't have to be big It could be your health It could be something you're learning It could be Maybe going on holiday Because if you have a successful holiday You have cracked it, haven't you? Maybe it's Just being a bit more social Maybe you want to develop yourself In a way that you could be more social Or you want to communicate better Maybe you want to be a better presenter Maybe you want to get on better with your career Maybe You're getti

Understanding Focus: The RAS Have you ever noticed that once you buy a new car, suddenly that model seems to be everywhere? Or you hear a new word and then it pops up all the time? That's not magic – it's your Reticular Activating System (RAS) at work. In this Five Minute Quickie, I'm breaking down the RAS in plain English. It's the part of your brain that decides what to notice – and it's powered by emotion. The good news? You can train it to look for opportunities, positivity, and success. The bad news? If you're stuck in negative emotions, it will keep showing you reasons to stay stuck. So let's flip the switch. Learn how to focus on what serves you rather than what drags you down. Because when you understand your RAS, you can use it to fuel your goals, dreams, and everyday happiness. And keep listening – in the next longer episode I'll guide you through a process (with a bit of hypnosis) to help your unconscious mind focus deeply on what you truly want. You could start by focusing on sharing. Here is a link to this episode https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-514-understanding-focus-the-ras Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Have you ever noticed that when you buy something, say for example a car, or another way, you hear a word that you think, do you know what, that is a brilliant word. I love that word. Or there's somebody you start, you hear and you go, oh, that's a, they're really, really, a really good person. So interesting. And then suddenly the whole world is full of that, those cars that you thought was so special. That word that you thought was so interesting. That person seems to be everywhere. But where the bloody hell were they just a little while ago? You see, there's a thing called the reticulating activating system. And I want to put that into plain English because it's a natural phenomena that we use, your body uses to notice things, focus on things. And the thing is, because you're in an emotional state, when you buy that car, you feel so good. You hear that word, oh, it's so interesting. Or that person was so, so captivating. You're in an emotional state and your unconscious mind and your reticulating activating system, or some people just call it RAS, A-R-S, looks for it because you're in that emotional state, thinks it's good. But also here's the downside. Here's the downside. If you're in a negative state, you're feeling down, feeling depressed. You're feeling, I don't know, fear of missing out, FOMO. You've got that social anxiety. You know, you've got imposter syndrome, any, you feel in the bloody bank. I'll say that again. And I'll even still swear again. You feel in the bloody blank. What happens? You start to see issues, that issue, every bloody where. It's as if your whole life is full of those issues, but it isn't. It isn't. It's just this reticulating activating system, because you're emotional. It's focusing on what you're focusing on. Now we can use it though. We can use it because now you know, now you know what's happening. Now you can start to think about different things. If you start to have and think about different emotions, say positive emotions, highly charged positive emotions, we can get your mind and your brain and your focus to start focusing and looking for those type of opportunities, those events that would give you that feeling. So I want you to be able to learn how to focus your attention, have your brain, your mind focus on what works for yo

How To Achieve and Have the Mindset of Success We hear it everywhere: "You need the mindset of success." But what does that actually mean? And more importantly — how do you get it? In this episode of the Personal Development Unplugged podcast, I'll take you beyond the vague definitions and straight into a practical process you can use right now. We'll cut through the fluff and create a real mindset of success — one where your mind and body are fully aligned toward a specific goal. You'll discover how to: Get ultra clear and specific about what you really want (not what you don't want). Write it down in a way that seeds your unconscious mind. Identify the empowering beliefs that fuel your success. Step into the physiology and psychology of having already achieved your dream. Anchor it all with a simple word that triggers your success state whenever you need it. This isn't about "thinking positive." It's about aligning your thoughts, feelings, and actions so you naturally move toward your goals. By the end of this episode, you'll not only understand what the mindset of success is — you'll have it. Key Takeaway: Success isn't vague — it's specific. Write it down, embody it, and live it. Key Takeaways (bullet points) Success without specificity is meaningless — define exactly what you want. Writing your goals down engages your unconscious mind and makes them real. Shift from "I don't want X" to "I want Y" to avoid reinforcing negatives. Empowering beliefs like "I've got this" or "I deserve this" fuel motivation. Visualisation plus physiology creates a success state you can step into now. Anchor your mindset with a single word to trigger confidence and focus anytime. Your Call to Action Share this episode with someone who's chasing a dream but needs a success boost. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/462-how-to-achieve-and-have-the-mindset-of-success Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism The mindset of success. What is that? What is that mindset of success? Do you know? I don't. I do. You see, people talk about it, don't they? Talk about this mindset of success. But do they ever explain exactly what it is? And more importantly, do they explain how to get it? You know, just think of success. Go on, do it now. Do it now. Think of having a mindset of success. Did that inspire you to go and do something? I didn't think so. Because it's too bloody vague. Have you ever looked at the definition of success? It's pretty vague too. Here's one. One. It said, success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. How is that motivating? How is that a mindset of success? If that's the definition of success. There's another one, by the way. And I got to move something just to read it too. It says the satisfaction of tangible accomplishments. Bloody hell. Tangible accomplishments. Is that something that buzzes you? Is it really? Does it buzz you at all? I didn't think so. So let's just stay with this because it's quite obvious really, when you think about it, if everything is so bloody vague and therefore general, you're only going to get a general mindset of general success, which is absolutely pish all, isn't it? Nothing. So I want to go through one of my versions, because there's never just one, is there? You know, we can manipulate and morph and do all sorts of things with different processes. But this is the one that came to my mind. I wanted to go through it with you. So it's the mindset of success with some other st

Let's Flip Constant Striving For Improvement In personal development, we're always told to chase "constant and never-ending improvement." And yes, growth matters. But what if the pressure to always improve is actually holding you back? In this 5-minute quickie, I invite you to flip that idea. Instead of endlessly striving, take a moment to recognise the incredible skills and wisdom you already have. From communication, relationships, and problem-solving to resilience and creativity — you've built a lifetime of tools. Here's the thing: if you don't use them, you risk losing them. But by consciously using what you've learned — through selfless service, sharing, and living intentionally — you keep those skills alive, and they keep growing. So today's muse is simple: stop chasing for a minute and start using. You'll not only feel richer inside but also make a difference to others around you. Because personal growth isn't just about "more" — it's about sharing what you've already got. And sharing what you hear: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-513-lets-flip-constant-striving-for-improvement And the video link https://youtu.be/4xsaSMdFhhA Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism So another Muse, another Muse, the five quickie, five quickie, five minute quickie episode of the Personal Development Unplugged podcast, where I just want to bring subjects for you to think about. And maybe in that thinking, that musing, we'll find something below the surface or something special, a learning that we can take forward into the present, into the future and create a better life for ourselves. So what are we talking about today? Well, it's all about flip. How do we flip things? What do we flip? I'm going to tell you now. You see, we, I talk an awful lot about, in this genre of personal development, constant and never ending improvement. Can I? You know, looking for that 1% more. And I'm going to bang on about that. I'm probably bang on about it. Maybe a little bit. No, I'll never bang on about it too much. But, you know, sometimes constant and never ending improvement can drag us down a little. It can be a little bit overwhelming, you know, because sometimes we plateau. And when we plateau, we're waiting for the next bit. We're letting things integrate, but we think maybe we're not improving. But that is the plateau that we're going to, or the springboard we're going to jump off into our next set of steps of improvement. Because if you see, if you have a look at children, and you see them even day by day, you'll see massive changes in them, what they can do. If you don't see them for a little while, I have grandchildren. I don't see them every day because I don't live close to them. But when I do see them, Jesus, they have changed so much. The vocabulary changes, their thoughts changes, the things they're doing changes. Everything is, well, it's not just 1%. It is massive change. So we're all capable of massive change. Because if kiddies can do it, we can do it because we've got that in our, maybe it's in our DNA, but we've got it in our physiology, we've got it in our brain, it's a muscle. So here's the thing though. When we're a little bit older, looking at me, when we're a little bit older, maybe that change isn't quite so rapid, is it? It's not quite so rapid. It's not quite so different. If you look back over the months, you see a change. But the thing is,

Keeping Negative Emotions At Bay Ever lost your cool over something small — then realised it wasn't about the "thing" at all? In this episode of Personal Development Unplugged, I take you through a real-life moment where frustration turned into anger, then into something deeper… limiting beliefs like "I'm stupid" or "I'm not good enough." Here's the truth: those surface emotions are rarely the whole story. By peeling back the layers, you'll discover what's really driving them — and more importantly, how to release them. You'll learn: How to spot the real emotion underneath anger or frustration A simple process to break free from limiting beliefs before they grow Why small learnings create massive change over time This isn't about pretending negativity doesn't exist. It's about learning from it, dissolving it, and building stronger foundations for success — every single day. Takeaway: When you uncover the lesson behind an emotion, the emotion itself loses its grip. That's freedom. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/461-keeping-negative-emotions-at-bay and don't forget to check out the free hypnosis tracks waiting for you at paulcloughonline.com/podcast Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism #461 Keeping Negative Emotions At Bay Hey, imagine this. Just imagine this for a moment. Imagine if you're me, coming to my my body, my feet, my footsteps, my shoes, as we call it, into this lovely little recording place. And imagine this. You set out to record a podcast episode. And you do it. And do you know what? You're bloody pleased about it. It just seemed to all just flow. All just flow. You are in the zone. Whatever the zone is for that. You're just letting things just happen. The words just came so sweetly. You're there. You feel great. Feel good about yourself. You've even put a video out. You're recording the video. Everything is going just sweet. And then you finish. Now, what could be better? Something happened just in that moment. You were in the present. How good does that feel? How good does that feel? And then you go, well, I'm just going to take that audio section out and put it over there. And as you take it out, you put it onto this other program. What happens? There's a flat line all the way through. You know what a flat line means? It means this. Not a bloody sound. Oh, that must be a mistake. Must be a mistake. So click on the video. And what happens? I'm just mouthing words. Nothing's coming out. And there's a flat line. No audio. And I look down and there's my little microphone box thingy, which I don't know what it is, but I've got one of those over there. And it should be lit up. And it isn't. It means the microphone wasn't switched on. Oh my. Well, what happened? What happened? I went absolutely ballistic. First of all, I started shouting at myself. Why are you stupid? Go like that. Out loud, by the way, because there's no one can hear me in this place. So I can let it rip. And that didn't satisfy me. So what else did I do? Well, this bloody microphone got it. I swore at the microphone. I gave it. Why the hell weren't you switched on? You're so stupid. I don't know why I've got you. It was this person in front of me, this little microphone, my friend for all these years. And I was given it some. And then I thought to myself, how did I feel? How do I feel about this? And the thing is, I just felt angry. Really, really angry. And I though

Today Is A Special Day – Find Out Why Every single day is unique, but how often do we really live it like that? In this Five Minute Quickie, I want you to pause, reflect, and realise that today is the only one you'll ever get. No repeats, no reruns. We'll dive into: Why seeing today as a gift and a present changes your mindset How a little gratitude and intention can make ordinary days extraordinary Simple ways to create meaning for yourself and others in the moment This isn't about waiting for the future or getting stuck in the past. It's about recognising that today is special — because it's all we really have. Listen in, share it forward, and let's make this day one worth remembering. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-512-today-is-a-special-day-find-out-why And the video link https://youtu.be/rn3zxbj2LtU Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey the five minute quickie. Now this is really just five minutes to muse, or in some ways for me to muse and you hopefully to get inspired to muse on the same type of subjects or develop them even more. So what am I going to talk about today? Well it is today I want to talk about because what is today? What is today? Do you know? Well today is special. It's a special day today and why is it special? Come on, come on. Why is this special? Because it's the only bloody one you're going to get. Only one. This day has never happened before it will never happen again. End of. End of. This is the only day you're going to get. Now how often do we think about that? How often do you think about this is a special day? Or do we just go through it mundanely? What's the word? Anyway you know just go through our life. I don't say our daily life but yeah it is. How often do we just go through the day without thinking that it is special? How often? And how often then because if we thought about this is the one and only day we're going to get, make it special. And yeah personal admitment. Admitment? My words today are no good. I don't do it either. Well if I don't or do, I don't do it enough. Because I've just been thinking about it lately. Thinking well you know I heard a lovely lovely saying. You know what's special about today? Well it's another day above ground. Waking up and thinking another day above ground. I'm breathing. I'm here. So I now have an opportunity because it's all about having an opportunity to make this day special in a special way. You know maybe there's things I can do for other people. I know I go all bang on about selfless service. I do try to do as much as I can. We're all human. We all have our little foibles and we fall back and we get blindsided but we always hopefully try to do a little bit more for other people using the skills we've learned. Help them in this special day. And also I also think that we should make it special for ourselves. Because at the end of the day we're the only one of us. And therefore how can we make it special for us too? And if you thought about it just this is the muse. This is a muse where I'd love you to take away and sit down in the sun or in the evening or wherever you are with your glass of water, maybe a gin and tonic, maybe a beer, maybe a cup of tea, a coffee, maybe your puzzle book and just think how can I make every day special? Are there things I could do? Or just being grateful. Getting that seed of gratefulness inside you and feel it even more beca

Letting Yourself Down: Thinking of Others – DON'T Do you put everyone else first? Always there for family, friends, even the ones who don't always treat you right? That's an incredible value to have — being dependable, supportive, and accountable. But here's the truth: when you constantly put others before yourself, you're letting yourself down. And when you let yourself down, you let everyone down. In this episode, I'll guide you through a simple but powerful exercise to uncover your core life values — the foundation of who you are. Once you know your top three, you'll understand how to live in alignment with them, stay true to yourself, and actually be a stronger support for those you care about. This isn't about being selfish. It's about knowing who you are, standing on that rock-solid foundation, and being accountable to you. From there, everything else — your goals, dreams, relationships — falls into place. Listen in and find out: Why putting others first can actually let them down. How to discover your top three life values. How living by those values makes you the best version of you. Why accountability starts with yourself — or it doesn't work at all. It's time to stop letting yourself down. Build your foundation. Live your values. And only then, lift up others. Let's share this with others https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/460-letting-yourself-down-thinking-of-others-dont And there is a video of this too https://youtu.be/yRgclkZ-GgA Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism #460 Letting Yourself Down - Thinking Of Others -DON'T So, what's this longer episode going to be about? Well, I don't think it's going to be about that long, but it is important. And you know, well I think I know you, you're the type of person who won't let their mates down. You'd probably do anything, anything, rather than let somebody down, because that's the type of person you are. I think we've all done it, but I know you do it. You've rushed around, you've changed things, you know, you even made a few sacrifices probably and made a point that you could be counted on. You see, I think it's really good that you have that value, that you could be supportive and you're countable, you can be counted on. That's a great value to have. I want you to just remember those times now, if you just think about it now, remembering those times when you have looked to just help others, you know, you're not going to let them down. It could be that you want to make sure that you can be dependable or depended on. You infuse, you help motivate by being there. Remember it? Remember those times? I know there's more than one, so, you know, just have a think back for the moment right now, while I'm speaking of times in the past where you've busted a gut to make sure that you've supported other people. Yeah? Because we've all done it, but I know you have, you know, maybe your best friend. No, not that one, it's the other best friend, the other best friend out there. You know, if they asked you to do something, they needed help, they needed support, you'd be there, wouldn't you? You'd be there, like a bloody rat up a drain pipe. Not a nice term, but you would, wouldn't you? You'd be there. A family member, you'd be there. Even the one that you don't sometimes like. Sometimes we have families that don't suddenly gel, and even that one, if push came to shove, you'd be there. Absolutely, you'd b

Spicing Up Success Ever wondered why some goals feel like a slog while others seem to flow? In this 5-minute quickie, I dive into Neville Goddard's powerful idea of the feeling of the wish fulfilled—and then I take it further. What if you didn't just imagine the emotion of achieving your dream… but also stepped into the psychology and physiology of already having it? How would you breathe, walk, talk, and think if your goal was done and dusted? This is more than just motivation—it's how you train your unconscious mind to notice opportunities, attract success faster, and build unstoppable inner confidence. So if you're ready to achieve your dreams quicker, richer, and with more certainty—hit play. And if you know someone chasing their goals, share this with them. It might be exactly the nudge they need. 👉 Subscribe, share, and let's make success contagious. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-511-spicing-up-success/ And you can see the video of this episode here https://youtu.be/1l6VfjwxfH8 Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hello and welcome back to the five minute quickie. Something to amuse about and this is I think really important but it's so quick because we all, I guess anyway, we all want to achieve our dreams. We have goals that we'd like to succeed in and we'd like to have a life that is something worthwhile, isn't it? And that is made up of lots of mini goals, I guess, things that we'd like to have happen. And there was a guy who called Neville Goddard who spoke and wrote about a thing called the feeling of the wish fulfilled. And if you lived your life with that feeling, the feeling of the wish fulfilled, which in effect is if you can imagine having already got that goal, the thing that you wanted for, the thing you desire, your dream, what would that feel like? And then if you began to work towards that goal with that feeling, the feeling of the wish fulfilled, so as if you've already got it, it would just make it so much easier. And it would, you'd attract it, your unconscious mind would look for all those different things, the reticular activating system and your biological just tends to notice and focus on all the things you want. And it's brilliant. The feeling of the wish fulfilled. I'm going to do a longer podcast on this, but just to muse, what I've been thinking about is how could we make that a little bit richer, richer than the feeling of the wish fulfilled? Absolutely. Because that feeling is wonderful. If you imagine having already got the things that you want, being specific by the way, individually, wouldn't it be good? But hey, when you have that feeling and you can imagine having got your goal, you already know then what would it be like physically? How would you feel physically in your body? The physiology of the wish fulfilled. So not only then would you have the emotion, you'd also have the physiology. But what else? Well, if you think about it, not only the physiology, you'd have the psychology. So you've got the emotion, the feeling of the wish fulfilled. You'd also know the type of things you'd be thinking about, the pictures in your mind, having already got that goal. Now, if you put those three together, the feeling of the wish fulfilled, so you really ramp up that emotion. Then you start to think of the way you'd think having already got that, because now you know you could do it. You've got that confid

Why You Don't Succeed and How To Why do so many people fail to succeed while others break through and create the life they dream of? In this episode of the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast, I dive into four powerful questions that can change how you think about success, failure, and the choices you make every day. Are you just settling? Trying to move mountains? Wishing life was easy? Or constantly struggling? Here's the thing — success isn't about either/or. It's about this AND that. It's about striving, celebrating the plateaus, reviewing your values, and then springboarding forward with even more clarity and energy. You'll discover: Why settling keeps you stuck in the "I wish I had" syndrome How moving mountains without balance makes you lose what you value most The secret power of the plateau and why it's not failure but fuel How to build harmony (not balance) into your journey to success The five keys to success that pull it all together If you've ever felt stuck, stalled, or doubted yourself on the way to your goals, this episode is for you. By the end, you'll know how to pause, review, and reignite your path — and you'll be ready to step into the top few percent who actually succeed. Listen now, share with a friend who needs this, and let's make success inevitable. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/459-why-you-dont-succeed-and-how-to Oh! And if you want to see the video recording as well here's the link https://youtu.be/CyYemcp5nJw Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Good day, good morning, good afternoon, and any of all that stuff. Why don't you achieve success? Do you know what? I'm going to go straight into this with two, three, maybe four questions and see if they resonate with you. Here's the first one. Are you simply just settling for what you have? You know, that settle for what you've got. It's that balance. And you know what I think about balance. It's shit. But never mind. Just see if that sort of resonates with you. Are you just settling for what you have? Or, are you moving mountains to get what you want? Are you moving mountains to get your dreams, your goals? Do you really put every effort in? Do you see every moment of the day what you're looking for, the smell of success, and you're going for it every hour of the day? Now those two questions I heard from a guy called Alex Horowitz. I think that's how you pronounce his name. Superb, lovely guy, lovely guy. Loves his questions and questioning himself and human behaviour. Here's your third question. Similar vein, similar vein. Do you want it easy? Do you want it easy? That's life that is. No stress, no worry, no effort. You're just gonna be happy. This is what life's about. Doing nothing with no stress, no worry, no push, no pull. Imagine what that looks like. You know, dream on. Because that's all you'll be doing. But we'll get into that, we'll get into that. Or, do you want to struggle? Do you want to struggle? Do you want to fight? Do you want to fight for your dreams? Do you want to fight for what you want? What you haven't got yet? What you're going for? Now what does that look like when you're really fighting every moment of the day for what you want in life? Now those two came from Simon Sinek, another great guy. Another guy who poses great questions. And I heard both of those because give credit where it's really due. A guy called Chris from Modern Wisdom, the

Breaking Out of the Herd Are you ready to step out of the herd and be you? In this five-minute quickie, I'm diving into the power of embracing your uniqueness. We all conform at times, but what if living your true self — with kindness, courage, and selfless service — is exactly what the world needs? Inspired by David Goggins' words, this episode is about breaking free from the mould, shaking off imposter syndrome, and showing up as the uncommon person you really are. Because when you do, you don't just change yourself… you inspire others to do the same. 👉 Tune in, reflect, and take one small step today to live as your real, authentic self. Please share what you learn and the episode too: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq510-breaking-out-of-the-herd/ Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey my friend. A five minute quickie. And it's all about being unique. Because I think you're unique. I know I'm unique. But we're all unique, aren't we? And the thing is, why don't we show our uniqueness? Why don't we express it? Why do we conform? Conform to the normal, whatever the normal is. Conform to, just be the herd. And who wants to be part of the herd? But I think sometimes we are. Now, David Goggins said a wonderful thing. And I made a note of this because it stuck with me. He said, when people don't understand you, you're there. When people don't understand you, you're there. Because that's living an uncommon life amongst uncommon people. Being the uncommon person in a crowd of uncommon people, that's really, really, really unique. And obviously, he is really unique. You know, he's famous. Stay hard, MF. You can make up what the MF. So, in this little few minutes, I want you to consider, consider music, just sitting down, taking a little breath, and considering, are you, well, are you prepared to break out the mould? The mould of where you are now to what you'd like to be, who you'd like to be, who you really are. To express yourself in the way that you dress, the way you speak, not being just outrageous for sake, because that's just being a tit. Excuse me. But it is, isn't it? But being you, expressing the things that you've learned, sharing with people, you know, break out the mould and actually be kind. A lot of people aren't. And also selfless service, you know, doing things without any expectation of return is unique, is special, is out of the mould. Maybe you want to consider that. And probably, there are parts of your life, different contexts where you are, where you are unique, you're being your true self, where people maybe don't quite understand you because you're there. But I want you to consider where you're not. And maybe if you were to be that you, to be a little bit vulnerable, not be whole way, but just a little bit, to have the courage. You see, if you were to be the real you, express yourself, come out of the herd, be that uncommon person, then I think people would look at you and go, I wish. I wish I was brave enough to do that. That's the only reason sometimes they try to pull you back down to a poppy syndrome. Don't leave me behind. I don't want you to succeed because it shows me for what I am. But you can flip that. Because if you can be the change you want to see in yourself, be the real you, you will be the change you want to see in others or others want to see in themselves, because you become that living example, a livin

3 New Hypnosis Tracks With My Compliments I've just re-edited and transformed three of my favourite podcast processes into real hypnosis tracks — multi-layered sessions designed to get deep into your unconscious mind. These tracks include: Making decisions with unconscious clarity Making anxiety your best friend Spinning anxiety away (weird, but it works!) They join nearly 70 free hypnosis audios I've created for the Personal Development Unplugged community — all downloadable, no credit cards, no catches. 👉 Get instant access: paulcloughonline.com/podcast Inside, you'll also discover my best tip for using hypnosis effectively: set your intention before you press play — it supercharges results. Share this with friends who could use a little help. Change is quick, easy, and waiting for you. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism 3 New Hypnosis Tracks With My Compliments Hello my friends. Now, a little while ago I recorded three longer podcast episodes that contained processes. Processes for considering decisions using your unconscious mind but also making anxiety your best friend and also spinning anxiety away which is really weird but it's a lovely process. It just works and I use all these processes with my clients and they just seem to work and what I wanted to do was to re-edit them and put them into real hypnosis tracks. I call them real hypnosis tracks because it's not the relaxer therapy it's the real stuff but I made it slightly different. I've made them multi-layered so you're getting information into different hemispheres, different places, all over the place. My voice comes to you from everywhere and goes in everywhere and it makes such a difference because you can then let yourself go. So what I've done I've done those tracks now and I've now uploaded them to my special place. My special place where I've got nearly 70, probably I have got 70 hypnosis tracks now and they're all complementary. They're free. They're for you. It's my bit of giving back to the world as it were. So if you'd like them and if you're not a member of the podcast community, the Personal Development Unplugged podcast community, then all you have to do is go to pawcluffonline.com forward slash podcast and you'll get a return email from me. There's no credit cards because as I said they're completely complementary and you'll get a link and you press that link and there you're taken to this wonderful website. A wonderful website with say 70 processes with these three included and you can download them because that's why I put them on this separate website. So you can download them. You don't have to worry about them in Wi-Fi cutting out. You can put them from a PC to a phone. You can have them in anywhere. You can even share them but I'd rather you share the link and say go and get your own link. So it's personal pawcluffonline.com forward slash podcast. Share that link with everybody and they can have access to all those wonderful processes because I love hypnosis. I've been doing it for 25 years. I learned initially from a great man called Wilf Proudfoot who was recognized as one of the greatest hypnotist, hypnotherapist around but he kept a very low profile. I didn't know that at the time but I learned from him and then learned from others and me and two of my three sons have continued to develop our own special processes and hypnotic way of putting them together. That's Lu

Restoring Work-Life Balance (But I Hate the Word "Balance"!) Work-life balance. Sounds nice, doesn't it? But let's be honest — balance is boring! Life isn't a flat line; it's ups, downs, twists, and turns. What we really want isn't balance… it's harmony. In this quick 5-minute episode, we explore why chasing "balance" often leaves you frustrated and how to create the illusion of balance through harmony. You'll learn how to spot those niggling "off-kilter" feelings, uncover hidden clashes between your values, and make small, powerful micro-corrections that bring life back into flow. Whether it's work vs. relationships, health vs. ambition, or just feeling stretched in two directions — I'll give you the tools to notice, question, and adjust. And the best part? These aren't big life overhauls — they're tiny shifts that keep your energy, motivation, and relationships thriving. So if you've been feeling pulled in all directions, this episode will help you realign without losing the spark that makes life exciting. 🔗 Listen now, share with someone who needs it, and start living in harmony — not flatline "balance." https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-509-restoring-work-life-balance Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey my friends, a quick five minute musing about balance. I hate balance. But work-life balance. You know, what does that mean? Work-life balance. You see, life is not a flat line. It doesn't happen that way. It's ups and it's down and it's all over. But it's not a flat line. It's not imbalance. Because balance is boring. It's so boring. Think of just living your life with just a flat line. What would you see? Wouldn't it be grey? I think it'd be grey. In my mind it's grey. I've just been looking out there because I know what's happening next. And you know, I haven't got really many goals because if I have goals I've got to extend myself and push in different directions. You know, if I want to do something this exciting it might challenge me. So that's going to take me off balance. I get that funny feeling that, oh, I don't like that. God, that's not the way to live, is it? That's not the way to live. So what is? What is the way to live? I'm going to tell you. Slow down Cluffy. It's about harmony. And I've talked about this before, but harmony creates the balance that doesn't exist. Which is a weird thing, isn't it? Because I just said it doesn't exist. But it's that harmony that gives the illusion of balance. Because when you need to do one thing it comes along and you spend a little bit more effort there. A little bit more motivation there. And you have to give a little bit. But then you come back and you give a little bit back to that bit and let that other thing go. But you're always living, not on the edge, but sort of on the edge. But you're living towards your goals. Doing things that make your life a zing. Yeah, harmony. Allowing you to do one particular thing and then come back and find something else. And be so interesting and interested in life. That's what it does. And the thing is, you know when this is not happening. Because you feel out of balance. And I keep saying balance doesn't exist. But when you feel a little bit out of kilter. You feel a little bit being pushed and pulled. Maybe that's a better way to explain it. When you're being pushed and pulled in different directions. Or you feel like you are. It's as if there's

But I Can't Afford A Therapist 💥 "I can't afford therapy…" Sound familiar? You're not alone. And you're not stuck. In this longer unplugged episode, we tackle one of the most common barriers to better mental health: not being able to access or afford professional support. 🎙️ But what if that didn't have to stop you? This is not about ignoring the problem or playing it down. It's about taking back control—step by step—and discovering powerful, proven ways to feel better, move forward, and heal… without spending a penny. You'll learn: Why feeling stuck is natural—but change is possible The real damage of waiting, blaming, and self-berating (and how to stop) A DIY approach to emotional healing that's empowering, practical and free How to journal your way from confusion to clarity The one question you must stop asking—and the one that will change everything Why walking and breathing (yes, really!) can shift your whole internal world How to create your own step-by-step roadmap from where you are to where you want to be And access to my free hypnosis tracks to support your journey 💬 Plus: Why giving up is not an option, and how to feel safe, steady and hopeful—even when life feels heavy. This isn't fluff. It's action. It's simple because it works. And it's here for you right now. 🎧 Listen, share, and let's start a movement of healing—together. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/457-but-i-cant-afford-a-therapist/ Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism #457 But I Can't Afford A Therapist Hey, back to the longer podcast with me Paul. Personal development unplugged. And I've been hearing quite a few things about people getting anxious because they can't get access to professional support for their mental health. You know, they're not feeling in a good state and not being able to get access to someone who can help them actually is creating more anxiety, more stress. And therefore obviously that state gets worse, health gets worse and everything just goes tits up basically. So what do you do? What do you do when you can't get any access to that professional support? What do you do? What do you do where you could blame everything else? Everyone else? Because the world is unfair. Because it is unfair, it's totally unfair. You know, it's not, well, it's just unfair. Or you could have a pity party, which is a bit like blaming the world, isn't it? And just have a pity party by yourself. You could do. Or you could just hide away. Hide away, not let anybody see that you're down and hide away. You can hide away in plain sight, by the way, because you can put your defences up. Or you could show everybody, you know, and look for pity, maybe. You can also talk down to yourself, because talking down to yourself and berating yourself, well, that's what we do, isn't it? Or you ask yourself some really stupid questions. Things like, why is this happening to me? Why is this happening to me? Who the fuck cares why? You don't need to know why. If you knew why, would it change the situation? Not one bit. What's another stupid question? Well, how bad can this get? Or could this get any worse? Really stupid fucking questions. Why are they stupid? I'm sorry about swearing, but I just wanted to rock your boat a little bit, because those questions, you're asking your unconscious mind, because it's listening to what you say, whether it's outside or generally we do it on that with our internal voice, it's constantly listening to what you say. And we'll try to answer the questions. So if you ask, how bad can this get? Or can this get

In this short yet powerful Five-Minute Quickie episode, we're diving into a question that could seriously supercharge your personal development journey: "How often do you check your progress—and why?" Cloughie explores the sweet spot between over-checking (hello, obsession and lost motivation!) and under-checking (hello, complacency and drifting off-course). Whether it's your personal goals, weight, mindset, career, or even podcast stats, finding your ideal review rhythm is the key to staying on track, boosting motivation, and making real progress. You'll learn: Why too much checking can destroy momentum Why not checking enough can cost you time and energy The hidden fears behind your review habits (fear of failure or fear of success?) A simple mindset shift to help you course-correct without self-judgment How to schedule reviews that actually work for you 👉 This is your wake-up call to review with intention, stay aligned with your goals, and grow with purpose. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-508-an-important-question-why-and-how-often-do-you-check-your-progress Got a fear of failure or success story to share? Want help turning it around? Email me at: [email protected] And remember, this is all about learning to use your skills, energy, and focus to move forward with confidence. Oh! And the video link is here: https://youtu.be/rvFN6OWH2zw Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, 5 Minute Muse and I've got a question for you. I always ask, when we're setting our goals, we're thinking of our week, setting out our day. I always ask, how often do you review? Or do you review? Do you review what you've done? How far you've come? But I want to take this 5 Minute Muse just a little bit deeper. Just something to think about. Because I'm sure you do. I'm sure you do review. Do you? I'm sorry about that. But think about it. Do you check and review your progress? Daily? Weekly? Monthly? Quarterly? Yearly? Maybe never. You see, and it depends what it is, obviously. Could be a project. It could be your weight. It could be, if you do a podcast or a video and all this stuff. You know, how many likes, how many downloads, whatever it is. We set our targets, how close we are to the goal. Or we have a goal, we have targets and the review is where are we? Where are we from where we were to where we're going? Let's just take a snapshot so we know what we're doing. Now, if you do it too often, say you did it daily. Some people, when they're checking things like likes, downloads, might do it hourly. What a waste of time. It might not be a waste of time. That's me. But it is a waste of time. You see, if you're checking things too often, then you become obsessed. It's like OCD. You become obsessed by just looking and looking and looking. But what you're doing, you're looking, but you're not doing anything about it anyway. And you're not seeing results because you can't see results in a little snapshot. Because when you were there, now you're here and no time has passed. You haven't been able to see the progress. And what happens when you can't see progress? Oh, my motivation goes down. Oh, I'm going to have to keep checking. But I'm still not doing it. What I'm not doing, I'm not even doing anymore because my motivation has really dropped. Because it's just too much. You're wasting time. You're wasting effort. Because what you're checking for, your progress, you're not seeing anyway. But what about when you check too little? Say it was monthly, quarterly, yearly, maybe never.

The Alternative To Anxiety and Worry An empowering deep dive into how you can take control of anxiety and worry — and replace them with clarity, calm, and confidence. An empowering deep dive into how you can take control of anxiety and worry — and replace them with clarity, calm, and confidence. In this episode, Paul Clough (yes, me!) shares personal experiences and tried-and-tested NLP and hypnosis-based techniques to help you break the cycle of anxious thoughts, worry loops, and emotional overwhelm. Discover how to: Dissociate from unhelpful feelings, thoughts, and mental movies Rewire your internal voice to one of calm, strength, and clarity Use simple yet powerful visualisation and anchoring techniques Access the emotional states that truly support you Stop rehearsing failure and instead direct your own movie of success Prepare for real-life situations with ease and confidence You'll learn how your unconscious mind can work with you rather than against you, so you're no longer hijacked by imaginary fears or future catastrophes that never even happen. 💡 This isn't theory — it's a hands-on process you can do as you listen. So grab a notebook or just settle in with your headphones and let's stop anxiety in its tracks. Because there is an alternative… and it starts right here. 🎧 Listen now — and please share this episode with someone who needs it. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/456-the-alternative-to-anxiety-and-worry 👉 Also available as a full video on https://youtu.be/nrHeU1B_Ug8 Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism #456 The Alternative To Anxiety and Worry An alternative to anxiety and worry. What a great title, isn't it? Great title. Well, it is Cloughie. I can back it up, I assure you. But first of all, let's just think for a minute. And this will probably be a little bit of me. And let's see how it matches with your experience. How do we experience anxiety, worry? Well, for me, when something happens like that, I get a weird feeling in my tummy. It's really quite low in my tummy. And it's not really the most pleasant of feelings. But, hey, that's what it is. I might get butterflies. And it's more than butterflies. It's more intense, because it's like having ten times more butterflies than butterflies. So, that's the feeling I get. You know, I could get sometimes, when it's not good, I've had like a dread. Some might say deep dread, but I don't know quite how deep a deep dread goes. But it was something I dreaded. You know, because it's worry. Something, I can remember a particular thing, it really did worry. And I couldn't understand why, but that's what was happening. And when I thought about it, that was my heart. You know, it wasn't going into palpitations, but it was quickening. And it made everything so intense. And do you know what the weird thing is? The bloody thing wasn't even happening in real life. The thing I'm thinking about now, I was in another bloody country. To the thing I was worried about. Yet, the feelings were, they were shit. And they were continuous. That wasn't good. And why? Why did it feel that way? Because I was fully associated into that issue. It wasn't happening. It wasn't going to happen, even if it was going to happen. It was going to happen for a few weeks, because I was out of the country for a few weeks. But I was still fully associated into that issue. And that's a little bit of the problem. But we'll go into that deeper. So, let's think. What else? What else do we get? Because we've got the feelings. What else do we get? For me, and see if this res

Standing Still Is NOT OK – The Myth of 'Maintaining A Five-MinuteQuickie from Personal Development Unplugged What if standing still is actually taking you backwards? In this short, sharp episode, we break the illusion of "treading water" in personal growth. You're either moving forward or slipping back—and this 5-minute muse is a call to action for continuous personal development, even if it's just 1% at a time. Discover why consistent progress is essential for self-improvement, confidence, and mental well-being. Learn how applying small daily shifts in mindset and behaviour leads to lasting transformation—without overwhelm. This is real, doable self-growth. 🎯 Takeaways Standing still = slipping back 1% daily growth = exponential results The myth of "maintaining" Personal development isn't a sprint—it's an intention Progress in one area ripples through the rest of your life A simple reminder to evolve, not retreat. Go a challenge you want help with? Email: [email protected] Share this episode if it made you think – someone else needs to hear it too. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-507-standing-is-not-an-option-and-is-not-ok Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, welcome back to the Five Minute Quickie. And, imagine this. You're in a boat. You're a lovely little boat. And, you're on the river. And, there's a lovely little, there's a stream or a current, you know, going past. And, you've put an anchor down. And, as you put that anchor down, you think you're standing still. Are you? Because everything else is moving away from you. You're not moving forward. Everything else is moving forward. So, in effect, your standing still is maybe going backwards. That's what I want to talk to you about. Standing still is okay. No, it isn't. No, it isn't. You see, we talk about, can I? Constant and never-ending improvement. The 1%. And, I've talked about it in the longer podcast. I've talked about it in the past. And, I know I'm going to talk about it in the future. Because, if you're not striving, just striving just to be a little bit better. Then, I know if you think about it, just in your career, maybe in your fitness, maybe in your health, maybe in your learning. If you're not striving to be just a little bit better, you can kid yourself that you're standing still. You can kid yourself that you're just treading water. It'll be okay. But, in fact, you are going backwards. You're going backwards when you relate to other people in your field, if it's career and relationships and things like that. You're going backwards if it's your health. Because, we can all just do a little bit more. But, the thing is, you're not standing still. You're actually going backwards because the old saying, if you don't use it, you will lose it. If you don't use your brain, it's a muscle. You've got so much capacity. Use it or you'll lose it. We'll forget things. We've got to keep topping it up. We've got our body. We've got to keep moving it. You know, it's no good going to the gym once or doing a bit of stretching and going, yeah, I'm flexing because you'll lose it. You go next time, maybe just leave it for a couple of days and try touching your toes. You go, oh, that's tight. We've lost it. I was only standing still. I didn't really do much. In fact, I only tried to do the things I was doing before. Well, if you did the things you're doing before, you tend to find that you do them a little bit less. Because, sometimes you have to do a little bit more to keep even just the same thing. And, you don

Feeling a Failure – Let's Solve It Ever felt like a failure? That heavy, gut-sinking emotion that says "I'm not good enough" or *"I've let myself (or others) down"? You're not alone. But what if I told you feeling like a failure is not a fact – it's a signal. And better still, it's something we can solve together. In this episode of the Personal Development Unplugged podcast, we go deep – but in only the way we can. I'll walk you through how those thoughts of failure sneak in, what they really mean, and most importantly, give you simple, practical NLP and hypnosis-based tools to shift that feeling fast. Learn how to: • Challenge and change the story you're telling yourself • Turn emotional feedback into empowering action • Reclaim confidence and self-worth (without toxic positivity) • Use the language of success to rewire your internal dialogue • Start new habits that build momentum, not guilt This isn't about pretending everything's great. This is about acknowledging the feeling, finding the real intention behind it, and creating real, lasting change. And it's simpler than you think — because, say it with me: In simplicity, there is genius. It's time to take that feeling of failure and use it as fuel for your personal growth. Listen now and reclaim your inner success story. Watch the full video episode too if you fancy seeing my face in action! Subscribe. Share. Let's help more people unplug from limitations. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/455-feeling-a-failure-lets-solve-it https://youtu.be/zT59hSKIKvA Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, my friends, my friend. I think there's one or two here. The longer podcast and feeling a feeling of failure. Let's solve it. But before I go into that, I want to tell you a little story. Because yesterday I recorded this particular thing. Feelings of failure. And guess what happened? At the very end, I went to play it back. Video wise? Yeah, it's there. The microphone hadn't been switched on. Zero audio. Zero audio. And do you know what? I felt such a dumbo. What a dim F-U-C-K. What? I was so, I shouted at myself. In fact, I shouted at the microphone for not turning itself off to start off with. I had to blame somebody. And then I realized, Paul, you've learned a valuable lesson. Always go back to basics. Check your basics. Check your intention and check your equipment to make sure things are all firing on all cylinders before we start. There you go. But I'm back again. And this feeling of a failure, because you see, sometimes to be a success, we think we need to have just one more minute, just a bit more, just a bit more. And sometimes it's just one more rep, just one more, just one more. But there's the other side of that, where we don't quite do that one more minute. We don't do that one more rep. And we think, do you know what? Yeah, that'll do. That'll do. And it's nearly there. I'll tell you what, I'll finish it off in the morning. And the thing is about the feeling of failure, and we are going to solve it by the way, it's not all about effort. Because effort, too much of it, can bring pain. And that pain generally comes from a clash of values. You see, what do I mean by that clash of values? You see, why do I keep saying you see? We'll find out. You want to work hard. You want to make a success of your career. You want to earn a lot of money, because you want your family to be safe. You want your family to be comfortable, have all the riches, and to enjoy life. Because you have family as a very high value. And that's what you want to do. So you

A Respectful Look at the Views of Others A Five-Minute Quickie from the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast Ever wondered how someone can hold a belief so different from yours — even the total opposite — and still be right? Well, in this five-minute (ish!) ramble, we explore one of NLP's most important presuppositions: respect for another person's model of the world. We all build our own "maps" of reality based on our experiences. But what happens when we genuinely listen to someone else's? Can we learn from it? Can it balance, challenge, or even evolve our own beliefs? In this episode: Why no one's map is 100% the territory How curiosity leads to harmony (and less conflict) And why active listening could be your secret growth tool Take a moment, a breath, a coffee — and muse with me. Test everything. Respect difference. Be curious. Want the full experience? Subscribe, follow, and share the hell out of this with someone open-minded like you! https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-506-a-respectful-look-at-the-views-of-others And the video link https://youtu.be/yE9FVIl3nyo More fun than you can stand — wallow in curiosity! Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey. A little while ago we did a couple of five minute quickies about the, well, the convenient assumptions or presuppositions of NLP. And I wanted to, just for five minutes, to muse about another one, another one. And it's all about respect. Respect for the other person's model of the world. Because I don't know if you know that we all have our own models of the world and we all have our own maps. And someone said, you know, the map is not the territory. So if the map is not the territory and it's our map, but we're not really looking outside to find out what territory is, lovely metaphor, isn't it? But our world is, our world is a map. And we believe it's true, don't we? Everything that we believe must be right because we believe it. And guess what? Other people have different beliefs. Sometimes a bloody opposite. How is that? Because lots of things have happened in the past, their experiences, their backgrounds, their parents, everything you can think of has conspired with them to create beliefs and the choices they make in the world, which gives them more beliefs. And guess what, so have you. And you've formed this thing called a map, which may be right in some places, maybe not quite so right on others, but also there's a whole territory out there, which is constantly changing. And if you think of this modern world right now, everything is changing so quickly too. And we're being overwhelmed by so much information, but also a lot of false information. So it's really distorting everything. So how can our little map of the territory be right? But what we have to do, I think, is in order to get clearer, maybe other people's map, their territory, their, as we call it, model of the world, has something in it that we could learn from. Because there's always two sides of every slice of bread. See, there's something, but there's always two sides, isn't there? And maybe one side is buttered more than the other one is jammed. I'm not quite sure where that metaphor went. But it's all about really just listening, I guess, listening to other people, their dialogue, what they're saying, what their beliefs are, and then just matching them with yours and seeing how something changed. Because you can change beliefs in an instant. If something comes to you and you go, ah, I've seen it, I've done it, something has changed. All of a sudden, I never used to

#454 Mental Wellbeing – Tools and Strategies Part 1 Two simple tools that could change everything. We've all been through tough times — sadness, anxiety, OCD, loss of confidence, grief, loneliness… and it's all "stuff" that affects your mental wellbeing. But here's the thing: most of that big stuff? It started small. In this episode of the Personal Development Unplugged podcast, I (Cloughie) guide you through two powerful, yet beautifully simple mental wellbeing tools. These aren't fluffy techniques – they're real strategies that help you: Acknowledge and neutralise uncomfortable emotions (instead of pushing them down) Interrupt anxious thoughts and looping inner dialogue Get clarity, create strategies, and take back control Transform worry into personal power and positive action We do the work together. Right here. Right now. These are practical NLP-based tools you can use any time life throws you a curveball – no fluff, just real results. 🎧 Listen now and learn: Why ignoring "little stuff" makes it big How to speak directly to your unconscious mind What to do with that "weird feeling" you just can't shake How simple curiosity creates profound change The power of specificity and intention in self-healing This is Part 1 – more tools and techniques are coming soon. But these first two are game-changers. Start here. 🔁 Share this episode with someone who might need a gentle shift. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/454-mental-wellbeing-tools-and-strategies-part-1 📩 Email me your thoughts or requests at [email protected] 💬 Want tools for a specific issue? Just ask – I'll make a future episode for it. Don't forget to subscribe and follow wherever you get your podcasts. "In simplicity, there is genius." Let's keep it simple – and effective. And remember: Have more fun than you can stand – and wallow in joy. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey friend, how you doing? I think, like most of us, I say most of us, pretty generality-Cloughie again, but we've all gone through some shit. We've gone through some dark times. Well, certainly I have. And I think, because of that, it made me more interested in searching for tools, processes, protocols, whatever you want to call them, to assist in my mental well-being, but also to help other people's mental well-being. You know, even to the things of, I know you've got depression, you've got OCD, all that stuff, but you've also got not feeling bad, not feeling down, sad, alone, grief, so many different types of things that can affect your mental well-being. Even the thing of just loss of confidence, loneliness, agoraphobia, or as they say, I think, in the US, agoraphobia. I don't know. But you fill in the blank, because anything and everything is part of, or is something that could affect your mental well-being, your mental health. And over those years, because of that dark time, I found and developed, well, I found a lot of protocols, a lot of processes, a lot of tools, but I also used them to develop them in many different ways, to let go of, and I call it stuff. That's what I call these mental, or these issues that we have. They're just stuff. And some of those processes, either I found or developed, or some I did develop completely by myself, some is just like an evolution that I just felt I could make it better. They'll help clients get rid of really big stuff. That's big stuff. And you know what I'm going to say about big stuff is, if something is getting on you, is pulling you down, holding you back, making you feel really bad, and it's constantly on your mind, go and get it sorted straight away. Go and find a hypnotherapist, someone who does NLP, someone who does timeline therapy, who's a master hypnotist. Get it done really quickly, one-to-one. You'll get it done in two or

My Favourite Podcasts Hey! Just sharing some podcasts I really love. I think they're pretty popular, but if you haven't checked them out, give them a listen. Modern Wisdom (Chris Williamson):** Super thoughtful, articulate guy. Most guests resonate with me. Chase Jarvis Live:** Creative chats with honest, talented people. *School of Greatness (Lewis Howes):** From athlete to business guy, really grounded and inspiring. Mark Devine Show:** Navy SEAL turned spiritual explorer—really cool to see that side of things. Making Sense (Sam Harris):** Deep, sometimes complex, but worth it. Jordan Peterson:** Thoughtful and deep—might need a dictionary at times! Jordan Harbinger:** Down-to-earth, real conversations. Think Fast, Talk Smart:** Tips on how to communicate better. Bill Burr's Monday Morning Podcast:** Hilarious, honest, with some swearing. Joe Rogan:** Wide range of guests, super popular. Ass-Breaking Motivation:** Gets you fired up—some shouty, some inspiring. Would love to hear your favorites too! Send me an email at [email protected]. Sharing is caring, and it helps us all grow. And hey, make notes of those golden nuggets—you never know when you'll need them. That's it for now. Keep learning, keep sharing, and let's make this world a better place. Speak soon! https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-505-me-and-the-podcasts-i-like-and-learn-from And the video of this episode is here https://youtu.be/2B7hfTQopa0 Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey friend, 5 minute quickie and as you know, I tend to, well I do always, I always ask would you share the podcast, share the episode, because it does help. And what I thought was, although I always share episodes of other podcasts to my friends, my family, certainly my sons, who I think it'd really help. I thought today, I just share the type of podcasts that I think are really good. They certainly help me and it's something I look forward to. So they are pretty popular, I think. So maybe they're nothing too exciting, but they are really, really good. And the first one is a guy called Chris Williamson. I got my phone here because I need it for this, but he is brilliant because it's called the Modern Wisdom Podcast. Now, as with all things, some of the guests don't resonate, but with this guy, most of them do. But the most important thing for me is he is so thoughtful, so articulate. I would really, really love to be that articulate with the use of words and his thoughts. So that's one you really ought to look, well, not you ought to, but if you wanted to, you could look for and see what comes up. You've got things like the Chase Jarvis, what's it called? Chase Jarvis Live Podcast. Chase Jarvis was a photographer, but he's a creative and he brings on creative people. And I love that creativity and intuitive creativity. But he seems to be a rock solid guy. Very, very honest. So I love that one. One very similar to that is a guy called Lewis Howes with the School of Greatness. Again, not all the same, but he used to be like a super duper college football guy and things like that. Turned himself into this wonderful podcast guy, business and things like that. But it just gets guests, but he is so grounded and it just seems to, again, find the right balance of guests to come along. There's a great one I love to listen to. And that's a Mark Devine show, an ex Navy SEAL, who not only is in the big, strong Navy SEAL stuff, but also into spiritual awareness, meditation, intuitive, inside, unconscious, all the stuff we do here. And I love

Kindness: The Next Superpower Hey my friend—kindness… a superpower? Really? In this longer, deeper episode of the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast, Cloughie explores why kindness is one of the most underrated forces for change—inside and out. In a world that feels increasingly self-centred, reactive, and short-tempered, a simple act of kindness can disrupt the noise and spark real transformation. This is part personal confession (yes, Cloughie admits to being "a bit of a dick"), part gentle wake-up call, and 100% full of practical reflections to help you become more self-assured and more connected to those around you. What you'll discover: Why kindness isn't weakness—it's proof of deep inner strength The surprising return on investment of a small act of kindness How to shift from frustration to compassion (even in traffic!) Why you sometimes forget your own kindness—and how to bring it back to mind A reminder to start by being kind to yourself, because that's where it all begins How kindness feeds into your personal goals and dreams—if you choose to include it You'll also be invited to: Reflect on the kindness you've received and how it shaped you Review your day for simple "kindness moments" (smiles count!) Set an intention to actively make the world a better place—starting today This episode isn't fluffy—it's practical. It's a reminder that we don't need to wait for the world to change. We start with us. One kind moment at a time. Be kind—pass it on: If this touched something in you, share the episode with someone you care about. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/453-kindness-the-next-super-power/ Subscribe or follow to never miss a moment of mindset magic, deep musings, or a little friendly self-hypnosis. And if you've not yet explored all the free hypnosis at paulcloughonline.com, now's a good time. Because whatever you think you are… you're more than that. Let's fly Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey my friend. Kindness, a superpower. Really? This, I think, is one hell of a message to me, and especially what I see around the world and in my own world. And the guy who's knocking all sorts of stuff above me, you may hear his hammer going, but that doesn't matter. I'm going to show a little bit of kindness to him too. But why do I think kindness is a superpower? You see, I think it's our impact, your impact, my impact in such a self-centered world that we live in now. And I have to ask the question, I ask myself the question of myself, why is kindness so hard to show? Or just being kind, hard to do? You know, when you think about kindness, the return on investment, if you want to look at it in business terms, is great. The effect is massive. It affects you in your mind, your body, your emotions, your experiences. It affects other people's experiences, their mind. It affects everything. And that's just people. What about if you're kind to little old planet Earth? Look after planet Earth. And you see, this is what got me. We've all probably been out, if you drive anyway, but something similar. You're driving in a car, someone cuts you up. We're all driving nicely and they just have to push in. They have to push in. And you get, oh, you give it a good old beep on your horn. And maybe your mouth off something and things like that. But, you know, inside you're angry. You're angry. And you chose to be angry though. Did I? Yeah, you chose because you didn't need to be. Because when you think about it, that cutting in probably added a second to your journey. That's it. That's all it did. Ma

"I'm Stupid — I Don't Understand / They're Stupid — They Don't Understand Me" Another Five-Minute Quickie for those deeper musings… Ever thought "they just don't get me" or "I must be thick because I don't get them"? Here's a fresh lens: The meaning of your communication is the response you get — a golden presupposition of NLP. In this episode, we dive into: Why it's your responsibility to be understood How feeling misunderstood (or stupid) is a communication challenge, not a personal flaw Simple ways to change the way you speak so your message lands A mindset shift to stop blaming others (or yourself) when communication fails The power of reflection and "musing over a G&T" to grow your emotional intelligence If you've ever felt unheard or misjudged, this episode is your 10-minute reframe. Press play. Muse. Learn. Share. Subscribe, follow, and most of all — share this with someone who needs it. Let's spread better communication, understanding, and kindness, one listen at a time. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism So back with another five minute quickie slowdown, lovely. And it's another presupposition of NLP. A useful assumption. And what's it going to be about? Forget the NLP bit, it's neuro-linguistic programming. I love the funny thing. It's so associated with hypnosis as well and it's what I do. But I'm going to explain this thing. One of these useful assumptions and it is very simple. It says the meaning of the communication is the response you get. You see, who's responsible for understanding? Who's responsible for understanding? It's a weird question, isn't it? I mean, there are people, and you might be one of them, I know I am, that will say something and someone doesn't get it. And you go, oh, come on. You just don't get it. What is the matter with you? Are you stupid? Well, you might not say stupid, but you might bloody think it, don't you? What's the matter with them? Why don't they get it? It's their responsibility to get it. No, it isn't their responsibility. It's bloody yours. You're giving this communication out. And if they don't get it, that's you. Because you didn't get the response you want, you need to change your style of communication, the way you do it. Because I had these experiences before where people would be working in the building industry and people would talk to the lads on the tools. But they'd talk to them in pictures. They'd talk to them in very specific details. And those guys use their hands. They want things described how they're going to do things. Because if you keep saying, well, if you think of that picture, what it's going to be like when we're finished, they haven't got a bloody clue. They want to know how you pick something up, how you want it to be done. And when I explained this to people who were not getting the results, they changed. Guess what? Their communication was brilliant. It's so simple. But the simple thing is, the difficult thing is, there's simplicity, there's genius, but it makes it bloody difficult sometimes. It's hard to do. You have to do it. It's easy but hard because you have to think. And this is where the musing comes from. Am I getting my message across? Am I getting my message across the way I want it to be received? Because it's not their responsibility. It's mine. And in the same way, if someone is talking to you and you don't understand it and you go, oh, I must be such a klutz. I'm so dumb. I'm stupid. I just don't understand it. No, that's their responsibility. If they're using words that you don't understand, then they're an i

The Key To Unlocking Your Potential What if everything you want is already within you—just waiting for permission to emerge? In this unplugged deep dive, I share the true, no-fluff key to unlocking your potential… and it's not just motivational fluff or clickbait—it's practical, doable, and wildly empowering. You'll explore: What potential really is (and the Latin origin may surprise you) Why you're not living up to it (yet) How to smash that invisible box of limiting beliefs A simple 10-minute imagination exercise that can change everything How to prime your unconscious mind for success The tiny, powerful decision that turns dreaming into doing No guru-speak. No hype. Just honest tools to unlock your inner power and go further than you thought possible. Because your potential isn't fixed. It's only limited by one thing… and it's time to break that. "You choose to empower yourself. I'll give you the key—you turn it." — Cloughie Listen now and take the first step toward your true, limitless self. Share this with your friends, start a WhatsApp group like Paul's boys did, and spread the power of potential. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/452-the-key-to-unlocking-your-potential Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism And what a title, eh? What a title. The Key to Unlocking Your Potential. And it's not clickbait, by the way. It's not clickbait, because I do have a key. But think of this, though, first, as a question to you. Why is unlocking your potential, my potential, anybody's potential, important? I know we think it's obvious. And it's also probably hiding in plain sight. Because there's a question. Do you ever ask yourself, am I living up to my potential? Well, I'm guessing you probably don't. It could be just me, though. I don't know. It could be just me. I know I don't. I don't ask that. I strive for it sometimes. I strive for it the best I can, set my intentions. But do I ever look back and go, was I really living up to my potential? The other question we never ask is, what would happen if we did? What would happen if we did ask that? Are we living up to our potential? And again, the answer is probably bloody not. Or is that just me again? Because when we get into what really potential is, we can never actually be living it, I guess. But we can strive to be better than we were. And we have that striving to live to our potential, be living a life with the aim of being over our potential, up to our potential. If I'm trying to get the words right, you see, if you just think that with me, just for a moment, what would it be like? What would it be like if you were living a life, living up to your potential? What would it be like? What would you feel? What would it feel like when you're doing all the things you want to do? And they're probably way beyond your thoughts at this moment. Because we're not probably living up to our potential anyway. So what would our potential be? But if we could just shake off any limits in our head, in our mind, what might you be doing? What would your potential allow you to do? What would it attract you to? Just for a moment, I'm sure you're thinking about it just as I am. Imagine it now. Now take off those shackles, any limiting beliefs, because they're the buggers that, well, they just get in the way, don't they? Just imagine if you took away every limiting belief that you have. You forgot about all those negative experiences of the past. And you were doing the thing or things you were meant to be doing on this world, living up to your potential. What might you be do

How to Know If You or Someone Else Has Changed Have You Really Changed? In this five-minute muse, we dive into one of the simplest ways to know if you've truly changed… and most of us miss it. You'll explore the power of behaviour as the only real measure of change — and why we often forget the progress we've made. It's time to reflect, reset, and maybe even celebrate the changes you didn't know you'd already made. Let's pause, ponder, and grow — one convenient assumption at a time. And then share what you learn https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-503-how-to-know-if-you-or-someone-else-has-changed Oh and to see me recording this click here Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. Personal development [Unplugged] [podcast][NLP][Hypnosis][self development]self improvement][awareness]

The REAL Path to Self-Confidence: Why There's No "Blueprint" But Steps to Self-Assurity That Actually Work What This Episode Is Really About Let's get one thing straight right off the bat - there's no such thing as a confidence blueprint. If someone's selling you that, it's clickbait, pure and simple. But here's what I can give you: a real, honest look at self-assurity and how to build it from the ground up. You see, I've been where you are. I remember being at the peak of my confidence in my career - I couldn't do anything wrong, just knew I had it all figured out. Until I didn't. Something unexpected happened, boom, that confidence bloody went. Completely went. So where did it go? Well, stick around because I'll tell you about that. Self-Assurity vs The Confidence Myth Here's the thing about self-assurity - it's different from confidence. Self-assurance is being confident in the things you say and do because you're sure of your abilities. I love this little saying: being confident in your competence. Your competence is your abilities, isn't it? And when you're confident in your competence, you're self-assured. But it doesn't have to be in everything. If you haven't got the abilities, you can't be confident in them. That's where mastery comes in - doing what you know and knowing what you do. That's being confident in the things you say and do because you're sure of your abilities. There are people who know it but don't do it. And there are others who do what they don't know and think they're confident - but that's just overconfidence getting into the realms of stupidity. Becoming More Self-Assured You already have self-assurance - you just want a bit more. And that's all about knowing what you want. You need a target to aim for. If you know what you know, then you probably know what you don't know. Then you can decide what you want to know. What could you aim for? Maybe you want to be more social, deal with that social anxiety that's holding you back. Maybe you want to speak out more at meetings, express yourself in a group, maybe even do a podcast. Perhaps you want a better job, a promotion, more friends, a partner, or just to learn a particular skill. You name it, fill in the blank. The Process That Actually Works First question: Where the hell are we now? Where are we in relation to the thing we want? We need to know where we're starting from. Don't get overconfident and think you're further along than you are. Think about what qualities you have. Don't be shy about this - no one's going to read them. What do you know? What have you learned? What have you done before? What have other people said? Get a feeling for where you are now and all the good stuff you already have. Next question: What does what we want look like? And it's more than just looking. What would it look like when you've got it? What would you hear? How would that feel? You've got to know it feels right. Jump into the future and ask yourself - if I had it now, what would it feel like? What would it enable you to do? When you see the difference between where you are now and what it would look like, ask yourself: What do I need to bridge that gap? If this seems difficult, try this simple question: If this was really easy, what would that be like? Sometimes we overcomplicate things when the answer is right there. What You Need to Learn Everyone knows someone who's sure of themselves. They're grounded, strong, and they have that inner strength because they're sure of their abilities. So, what abilities do you need to learn? Where are you going to get them? Where are you going to learn them? Maybe it's getting the skill of talking, being able to open a conversation with somebody. That one little skill could change everything. Write these things down because you need to know what you need to learn. Start small. If you can do one small step, and you can because you want this, you know what it'll feel like, you've got the motivation, and if you master that one small step, you'll have confidence in your competence for that step. Taking Action That Counts Once you've got that goal in mind, you start taking action. It's an intuitive action, but also a thoughtful action. Continued action. As you do that, you become aware of where you are now because you've moved along the road toward your goal. You become flexible because you start thinking about what else you might need to learn. You're not rigid in your approach - you have flexibility because of your awareness and the action you're taking. You can also act as if you have it now. When you visualize yourself doing it, you'll know how you'll be in your physiology, how you'll walk, how you'll talk. You'll know your psychology, the way you think. The Ripple Effect Here's what's amazing - when you're aiming for this one thing and building self-assurance in this area, it generalises into other areas of your life. You become more self-assured in different areas you weren't even aware of. You might be wor

I'm Weird - What About You I'm 'Special' and Very Wierd and very proud about it too - Are you? This 5-minute quickie is from the video I recently put out on my very random newsletter in which I ask, encourage you to show your Specialness, your Weidness and make this little old planet Earth a nicer place to live. Please listen and share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-502-im-weird-what-about-you/ And you can get the video here: https://youtu.be/A526GBETRcU Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Loneliness and My Plan To Conquer It The Revolutionary Solution to Loneliness That Actually Works Feeling isolated? Struggling with loneliness? You're not alone. In this powerful episode, Paul Clough reveals his breakthrough plan to conquer loneliness once and for all – and it's not what you think. Why This Episode Matters: Loneliness has become an epidemic affecting millions worldwide. Whether you're personally struggling with isolation, know someone who is, or simply want to future-proof yourself against loneliness, this episode is essential listening. Paul's unique approach offers real hope and practical solutions that work – because everyone deserves meaningful connection. What You'll Discover: The Counterintuitive Approach: Why creating a plan for someone ELSE might be the key to solving your own loneliness crisis The Small Steps Strategy: How tiny actions like visiting coffee shops without your phone can transform your social life The Ikigai Framework: Paul's proven daily/weekly/monthly system that keeps you connected and engaged Real-World Action Steps: From library visits to cookery courses, yoga classes to reading groups – discover dozens of practical ways to rebuild your social connections Key Takeaways: Start Small: Begin with 60-second conversations and people-watching in public spaces Explore Interests: Use libraries and bookshops to discover what genuinely attracts you Join Communities: Wine tasting, art classes, meditation groups, and more – find your tribe Create Structure: Build a progressive plan with daily, weekly, and monthly social activities Take Action: Stop doomscrolling and start connecting with real people in real spaces Perfect For: Anyone experiencing loneliness or social isolation People who want to help lonely friends or family members Listeners seeking practical strategies for building community Those ready to break free from digital isolation and create real connections Take Action: Grab a pen and paper – you'll need them for this interactive episode. Paul guides you through creating your personalized loneliness-busting plan that actually works. Ready to transform loneliness into connection? This episode gives you the tools to make it happen. Subscribe to Personal Development Unplugged for more life-changing strategies and practical wisdom from Paul Clough. Need support? Email Paul directly – he responds personally and has your back on this journey. Lastly, please share this important message https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/450-loniness-and-my-plan-to-conquer-it Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Warning. You are entering into the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. Too late. Personal development unplugged. Welcome my friend to a longer podcast. And yeah, the solution to loneliness. Loneliness again. Yeah, solution. And this, I guess, is for anyone who is lonely. Or if you know anybody who is lonely. Or even for you. Because you might be lonely one day. So basically, it's for everyone. Yeah, that is. So let's start from the very beginning. Where did this get into my brain? I guess we've done a couple of episodes on loneliness. But something different happened to me. You see, here's a question. Have you ever doomscrolled? I think we all have, haven't we? And we all do. And there I was the other morning. Aimlessly scrolling. Just flicking that bloody phone. And then, it's as if the multiverse, the universe, the Akashic field, something, even my unconscious mind, sent me a message. But it wasn't. It was, I started to see videos of lonely people talking on things like T

What You Didn't Know Back Then Here is a little something I like to use with my clients, and it seems to give them an understanding as to why we sometimes hold ourselves back from moving forward. Please come with me and get a clearer understanding of how we can utilise this to move forward through difficult times. I know this is a bit ambiguous, but everything will become clear in the next 5 minutes, and you can join me in creating a better you. Please share this episode and let others become clearer too: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-501-what-you-didnt-know-back-then And a video of the recording is here to: https://youtu.be/nVUZtY6XyMA Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

How to Achieve Your Dream Outcome - The Complete Blueprint Episode Overview In this transformative episode, Paul CLoughie delivers on his promise from episode #445, revealing the exact methodology for turning your biggest dreams into reality. This isn't another generic goal-setting session—it's a deep dive into the psychological architecture of achievement, complete with a powerful guided hypnosis session to embed these principles into your subconscious mind. Episode Length: Approximately 25 minutes Key Focus: Dream achievement, goal manifestation, subconscious programming What You'll Discover The Specificity Principle Why vague dreams produce vague results (and how to avoid this trap) The danger of saying "I want more money" vs. creating specific financial targets How to transform general aspirations into laser-focused outcomes The Wish Fulfilled Methodology See It: Visualizing your achieved dream with crystal clarity Hear It: Programming the sounds of success into your mind Feel It: Embodying the emotions of already having achieved your goal Act As If: The powerful psychology of success behavior modeling The Four Critical Questions Framework Paul reveals the four questions that unlock subconscious motivation: What will happen if you get it? What won't happen if you get it? What will happen if you don't get it? What won't happen if you don't get it? Key Timestamps & Highlights [0:00-3:00] Introduction and connection to episode #445 [3:00-8:00] The specificity imperative - why details matter [8:00-12:00] Acting as if you've already achieved your dream [12:00-15:00] Learning from past successes and modeling others [15:00-18:00] The ecology check - ensuring your goals serve everyone [18:00-25:00] Guided hypnosis session - Programming your subconscious for success Powerful Takeaways The Present Moment Assessment Know exactly where you are on your journey (0%, 50%, 90%?) "What gets measured gets done" - the importance of tracking progress Creating your baseline for authentic goal measurement The Success Trigger Method Paul shares his personal trainer certification story - how he visualized sitting on steps with his certificate, and how this exact scenario manifested. Learn to create your own "achievement trigger" that signals you've reached your destination. The Resource Recovery Technique Mining your past successes for transferable skills Learning from others who've achieved similar dreams Why reinventing the wheel slows down your progress The Ecological Framework Ensuring your dreams benefit you, your loved ones, and the planet The importance of personal initiation vs. waiting for others Creating win-win outcomes that serve the greater good The Guided Hypnosis Experience The episode culminates in a transformative 7-minute hypnosis session designed to: Embed the "feeling of the wish fulfilled" into your subconscious Activate your reticular activating system to notice opportunities Program your unconscious mind to support your dream achievement Create lasting motivation that pulls rather than pushes you forward Note: This section begins around the 18-minute mark and should be experienced in a safe, comfortable environment with eyes closed. Action Steps Define Your Specific Dream: Move beyond "I want more money" to "I want to earn £X by doing Y" Create Your Success Movie: Visualize seeing, hearing, and feeling your achieved dream Establish Your Trigger: Identify the specific moment that will tell you "I've made it" Resource Audit: List skills from past successes that apply to this dream Model Success: Find someone who's achieved what you want and study their approach Act As If: Begin embodying the behaviors, language, and mindset of someone who's already achieved your dream Share the Love: Know someone with big dreams who's struggling to make them reality? Share this episode and help them unlock their potential. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/449-how-to-achieve-your-outcome-your-dream _*]:min-w-0 !gap-3.5"> Remember: Your dreams aren't just wishes—they're blueprints waiting to be built. This episode gives you the tools, the mindset, and the subconscious programming to make them your reality. Subscribe, follow, and leave a review to help more dream achievers discover Personal Development Unplugged! Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcas

How To Change Quickly Do you want to change the way you feel or act? Let's see if we can find a way to change either of those quickly. I feel we forget to notice how it is now and how you would like it to be. It ends to be one or the other but not both. So, in five minutes or so, let me share my thoughts and share a 'how to'. And it all comes from thinking in a particular way and asking a question. What's that way of thinking and that question? Well, you'll have to press play. Please share what you learn so others get the benefit too https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-500-how-to-change-quickly/ Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

A Journey to Better Behaviours: Rewire Your Reactions for Good Ever catch yourself snapping at someone and thinking, "Where the hell did that come from?" You're not alone. In this episode of Personal Development Unplugged, I'm getting honest about my own struggles with automatic reactions—and how I turned them around. This isn't just about stopping bad habits. It's about understanding the intention behind those knee-jerk behaviours and learning how to respond with calm, curiosity, and confidence. What you'll learn in this episode: How to recognise the unconscious triggers behind emotional outbursts Why your unconscious mind isn't the enemy—it's actually trying to protect you (even if it's doing a rubbish job) A simple yet powerful way to thank those old patterns—and let them go How to build new beliefs and emotional habits that support the real you Practical steps to respond with intention instead of reaction And a process to boot to follow along with If you want to feel more in control, improve your relationships, and stop letting outdated emotional patterns run the show—this is your invitation. Take the first step to emotional freedom. Listen now and discover how to create better behaviours from the inside out. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/448-changing-negative-behaviours-easily Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism For me, snapping at people became a habit that was not good Hey, my friend, are you like me when I say we all like to change bad reactions, bad behaviors. And I say bad, they're just not ones that we want to keep anymore. For me, well, this is one of them for me was snapping at people. Things would happen and before I knew it, bang, I'd snap. And it wasn't nice. And the result was not good. You can imagine if someone says something and you snap at them and then they snap back. And at the end of it, things didn't go well. And, then I got to be by myself. I felt like shit because I knew it wasn't right. And also, it wasn't really me. Well, it was me, but it wasn't the me that I wanted to be. Now, I could explore this knowing, you know, with my background, nlp, hypnosis therapy, I could explore it and find the core. But I didn't want to. I just didn't. I wanted, to go straight into a process for myself to change it, because I know you could. And the thing is, I knew that it was something from my unconscious mind because it was unconscious. It was a snap reaction. I didn't consciously think I'm going to be snappy. And that snappy went into like hurtful things and things like that was very personal, by the way. But I knew my unconscious mom was trying to protect me. And it was like a default thing. Now, you know, we think of fight and flight, but this was without the flight. It was just fight for no bloody reason. Well, there was a reason, but that reason had got Gone buy its sell date. I say that again. Gone buy its sell by date. It's gone past it. And I didn't need that type of protection. And, not to protected by those people who I snapped at because they weren't attacking me. It's just that, I couldn't control it. It was unconscious. And the thing is, it had become a habit. And a habit that was not a good one. So I wanted to change it. And that was a key. Or this is two of the keys. One is obviously recognizing that I needed help because it wasn't a good. So I really needed help. But. And I also knew that my unconscious mind was trying to help me, had a positive intention. It was trying to protect me. So I didn't want to fight my unconscious mind because that does no good. We los

Keeping On Target To Success Following on from the last FMQ musing about constant and never-ending improvement, I ask the question How Do You Know? Do you actually have a plan? Do we measure from where we were to where we are now, and how much further have we got to go? And how often do we need to check on our progress? Let's answer these questions and a couple more in this 5-minute muse. Come with me and press play Then share what you've learned https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-499-keeping-on-target-to-success Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Embracing Life: What If Today Was Your First or Last Day? In this episode of Personal Development Unplugged, we dig into two simple but powerful questions: What if today were your last day? What if it were your first? This is an extract from a live Q&A call I did for my son's (Joseph Clough) Mind Mastery group, and invite you to reflect, respond, and explore what really matters in your life. It's not heavy or dark—it's a spark. A chance to wake up to what you're doing with your time and how you want to live going forward. What you'll discover in this episode: The power of writing letters of love and gratitude—and who they need to be sent to. How small acts of kindness help shape the legacy you're already leaving behind. Why waiting for "someday" is a trap—and how to flip into action now. How to live with intention and awareness, instead of drifting on autopilot. A simple, powerful way to visualise your best self—and take the first steps to becoming them. You'll hear honest conversation, real moments with listeners, and practical insights that can shift your perspective in just one listen. This is the kind of reflection that leads to action—and action that changes everything. Call to Action: If this episode resonated with you, pass it on. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/447-on-life-and-how-we-might-live-it Subscribe, follow the podcast, and share it with someone who needs a reminder that their time—and their life—matters. More fun than you can stand. Wallow in pleasure Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, welcome to the longer podcast. And this one's quite long because a little while ago, I did a, live call, a question and answer live call. And I do these twice a month for my son, Joseph, Joseph Clough. And it's his mind mastery. And I did this life call. And it was in some ways inspired by a previous FMQ that I did about. Is this your last day of your life or the first day? And, what would you do? But I go into it so much more deeply here, and I get interaction with the people along the way. And because it goes into, I think, some really good stuff, some deep stuff, I thought I wanted to share it with you. So I have beeped out the name, so you'll hear a beep. And you'd have to just bear with me just a little bit because of the recording, because it was done on, like, a live call and it was a video, so the microphone wasn't necessarily quite so close all the time. But I think if you come with me, you will find new stuff. New stuff that will inspire you to become the person you were meant to be and more. So if that's okay, just come along for the ride. There you go. Oh, just one very quick thing before we get into it. Nearer the end, there is part of this that we go into hypnosis. To review everything at a hypnotic level means closing your eyes. So as you all know, being hypnosis, you need to have nothing that requires your attention. If it does, please stop at that particular point. If not, really. Enjoy. I've got something I wanted to. To. Well, yeah, I've been thinking about this for a little while, and it's not the most. I don't know why. Sometimes I think of some of the. Not the most happiest things in the world. And the thing I've been thinking about lately is. And you know what it is when you start thinking about stuff, the multiverse comes and gives you more ideas about it. I've got this idea about creating something and new stuff comes along. The books, the videos, the teacher comes along. Well, on this subject is all about death. I thought it is not the best subject to think about

Can I Really Get Better Every Day? CANI Constant and Neverending Improvement - Is that really a thing? Can you continue to improve by 1% a day? Is all that possible or just Personal Development hype? Well, let's see. Come with me for about 5 minutes and let's muse and see what we think. After that, please share this episode and your thoughts https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-498-can-i-really-get-better-every-day Oh! And the video of me recording this is here: https://youtu.be/cPNHyDEOE9E Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Did I Do Enough? A Deep Dive into Daily Reflection Ever catch yourself at the end of the day wondering, "Did I do enough?" Here's the thing - having the courage to answer that question honestly is where real growth begins. In this episode, I'm getting vulnerable about my own journey with this question. Some days I'm flying high, crushing goals and feeling unstoppable. Other days? Well, let's just say they feel like I'm moving through quicksand. Sound familiar? The beautiful truth is this: you are more than what you think you are, even on those challenging days. But here's what I've discovered - the difference between those breakthrough days and the struggle days often comes down to one simple thing: intention. When I set my intentions the night before, something magical happens. I wake up with clarity instead of confusion, purpose instead of procrastination. It's like giving your mind a roadmap before it even opens its eyes. What you'll discover in this episode: The simple ritual that transforms scattered days into focused ones Why your morning state of mind is everything (and how to master it) The art of honest reflection - learning from both your wins and your wobbles How to celebrate the small victories that actually create the big transformations Look, mastery is simply doing what you know and knowing what you do. And when you can honestly say "yes" to "Did I do enough?" - that's when you start to feel happy for no reason. Ready to take ownership of your days and create a ritual that actually works? Oh, and I've got some practical bits and bobs too. Tools you can use right now to gently take charge of your day — and reflect with pride instead of pressure. Because the truth is — the question "Did I do enough?" isn't here to judge you. It's an invitation to learn, tweak, and grow. So, if you're ready to start ending your days with a quiet, confident "yes…" Come have a listen and then share what you learn https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/446-did-i-do-enough-really/ ‎ With you all the way, Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Listen Now Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Do you ever ask yourself, did I do enough today Hey, welcome back to the longer podcast Personal Development Unplugged. And meeple. And I want to ask you a question. It's a question I sometimes ask myself. Should do it more. We shoulda. We could, have. But here's a question do you ever ask yourself, did I do enough? And, the thing is, it's not really the question. If you are you brave enough to answer it? Answer it honestly? You know, I kind of think I asked that question enough. But what about you? I don't think we do. Do we sit down at the end of a day and go, did I do enough? Was it good enough for me? Some days I look back at the end of the day, think I haven't done too much. But then as I go through the day, I think, o, well, I had a great client this morning. They did well. I did well. Then I hit the gym and I pushed through it. I didn't like it very much, but I pushed through it. Then I did that nice thing for somebody. Yeah, I did more than I thought. But then there are other days when I know, even during the bloody day, that this is a day. I call it pony, Pony and trap. It's rhyming. Slam, slam slang. And, you know, it didn't seem to change all through the day. It just was. It's a rubbish day. Yet how can you have these two totally different experiences, a, day that exceeded your expectations and you didn't realize it until you look back? It was awesome. You did this, you did that, you completed this, you started that, you smashed

If This Was The 1st or Last Day of your life? There's a question people often raise If this were the last day of your life, what would you do? or If this were the first day of your life, what would you do? I'd like you to think of the answer in a different way we usually would answer these two questions, which I think will make a difference to every day of your life. Have a listen and then share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-497-if-this-was-the-1st-or-last-day Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

IGNITE YOUR DREAM: THE JOURNEY TO REALIZATION Hey there, dream-chasers and life-lovers! Welcome back to another raw and real episode of Personal Development Unplugged. Ever had that dream sitting in your gut that feels like it might just burn you up from the inside if you don't pursue it? That vision that keeps you awake at night, whispering "what if..." even when every logical voice around you is shouting "impossible"? Today, I'm ripping open my own journey – the messy, beautiful adventure of chasing down a dream that completely revolutionized not just my career, but who I am at my core. THE DREAM THAT WOULDN'T DIE Let me take you back to when I was standing at that crossroads we all face – playing it safe or diving into the unknown. My passion for NLP and hypnosis was like this persistent itch I couldn't scratch. Society told me to find something "sensible," something "realistic." But as we talked about in our last mastermind session – your soul doesn't speak the language of sensible. It speaks in goosebumps, in that flutter in your chest when you imagine living your purpose. Remember when I shared how I'd hide my NLP books under more "respectable" business texts when meeting clients? That's the fear talking, folks. And fear will keep you small if you let it. FINDING YOUR GUIDES IN THE WILDERNESS Here's the thing – the universe has this funny way of sending you exactly the mentor you need when you're brave enough to take that first wobbly step. For me, it was encountering masters of the craft who saw something in me I couldn't yet see in myself. They didn't just teach techniques; they modeled what was possible. As I shared in our last get-together, transformation isn't just about acquiring skills – it's about becoming the person who can hold those skills with authenticity. My mentors didn't just change my career trajectory; they helped me rewrite my internal story. LEGACY IN MOTION One of the most profound insights I've had (which many of you resonated with last time we connected) is how our dreams create ripples beyond ourselves. Watching my sons carve their own paths in this field – bringing fresh perspectives and innovations I never could have imagined – has been the ultimate validation. They're not following my footsteps; they're creating their own trail using the permission I unknowingly gave them to pursue what lights them up. That's legacy in motion, my friends. YOUR TURN: AWAKENING THE DREAM So what about you? What's that thing making your heart race when you let yourself imagine it fully? As we discussed in our last session, the feeling of the "wish fulfilled" isn't just woo-woo visualization – it's programming your reticular activating system to recognize opportunities aligned with your vision. Here's what I want you to take away: Your unconventional dream isn't "too much" – it's precisely what the world needs from you Those obstacles and naysayers? They're not roadblocks; they're invitations to strengthen your resolve The mentors you need are already out there waiting for you to be ready to receive their guidance Your clear vision of success isn't fantasy – it's the blueprint your subconscious mind uses to navigate Understanding your deepest "why" isn't just motivational fluff – it's the fuel that will carry you through the inevitable valleys THE INVITATION This journey might take longer than you expect. It'll definitely be messier. But I promise you this – each step, each failure, each moment of doubt is part of the adventure that's shaping you into the person capable of holding that dream when it manifests. Remember what we shared in our circle last time: your dream exists for a reason. It chose you because you have something unique to bring to it that no one else can. It's time to dream big and then DOUBLE IT! Share your journey with me and our community of fellow dreamers. Let's give each other the courage to reach heights we can't even imagine yet. Spread the fire – share this episode with someone whose dream deserves oxygen to grow. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/445-i-had-a-deam-whats-yours/ Until next time, keep showing up, keep growing, and for heaven's sake, keep dreaming audaciously! —Your fellow traveller on this wild, wonderful journey Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at [email protected]. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on