Allyship is a Verb

The giveaway is over, but you can still head to the merch shop!This week, Molly Rix (she/her) steps out from behind the scenes as our audio engineer to become a guest who shares her story publicly for the first time. In this episode, you will learn: 1. How an innocent question over her 2020 birthday weekend changed her entire life 2. What it's been like looking for different pockets of community as she has been reinventing herself 3. Why re-entering the dating pool was intimidating🎙️ Connect with Molly:Sky Ripper on SpotifyHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

Podcast merch!!!Book a free ⁠discovery call⁠ for programming for Pride Month (and beyooooond!).This week, Ed Carratalà (he/him/él) updates us on transitioning from formerly teaching about LGBTQ+ communities privately to now openly offering it. In this episode, you will learn: 1. How creating a new queer community in Barcelona, Spain was sparked by former guest Charlie's Everywhere is Queer resource 2. What new therapy project is in the works 3. Why he continues to share that he's bi and field questions🎙️ Connect with Ed:InstagramTwitterHis research page (in Catalan) and GRPF: Couples and Family Research GroupHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

Book a free discovery call for programming for Pride Month (and beyoooond!).Bring Allyship is a Verb to your workplace at a special rate.This week, Dr. Trisha Wallis (she/her) shares how two years of work led up to the passing of California Senate Bill 372, a great example of the "Curb Cut" effect. You will learn: 1. Why the identities lesbian and queer don't fully fit, prompting her to use both, depending on the situation // 2. What "recruiting" looks like, including versions 2.0 and 3.0 // 3. How she leverages her privilege and access to do the most good, and what she does to check herself and keep the work moving forward🎙️ Connect with Trisha:InstagramHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

Please note: This is another replay due to a super busy past few weeks. 💜 This episode is from Season 2, so you'll hear my previous name. All replay slots will be extended with original episodes, I promise! 😊This week, Rebecca Kling (she/her) discusses creating inclusive summer camps for LGBTQ+ youth where they can be themselves without making everything about being from the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode, you will learn 1. What conversations are coming up at summer camps 2. How B'Mitzvahs/B'nai Mitzvahs may differ from Bar and Bat Mitzvahs 3. When we might engage in understanding and empathic conversations and when it's time to disrupt and agitate for change.🎙️ Connect with Rebecca to learn more about + support her work:MastodonLinkedInWebsiteCo-Founder of Better World Collaborative💻 Sources and resources from this episode:TransTorahCelebrating the Age of Mitzvah: A Guide for all Genders | KeshetHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

Take the Ace Flag Revision SurveyThis week, Ashabi Owagboriaye (she/they) shares the meaning behind the white stripe in the ace flag and why she’s launched an ace flag survey as a result. You will learn: 1. What they think about the intersection of transness and asexuality 2. Why openness can influence somebody and carry a generation in either direction if you’re not careful 3. How it feels like to have people come to them as an elder queer🎙️ Connect with Ashabi:Ace In Grace | Instagram💻 Sources and resources:I Am Cait | IMDBMiss Representation | IMDBShare the Ace Flag Revision Survey Instagram postYasmin Benoit | InstagramRefusing Compulsory Sexuality: A Black Asexual Lens on Our Sex-Obsessed Culture by Sherronda J BrownHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

Sign up for the AIAV newsletter⁠!This week, Sarah Gilbert (she/her) shares the story of how a random question Charlie asked a few years ago sparked a journey of self-discovery. You will learn: 1. What two pieces of advice she offers others wondering if they might be LGBTQ+ 2. How it feels to be a long-time LGBTQ+-affirming therapist learning later in life that she's queer and some of the fears and hesitations she's had around claiming the term 3. Why icons like Freddie Mercury have inspired her and how queer spaces like bars, drag shows, and musical theater feel comforting and joyful🎙️ Connect with Sarah:Transitions Therapy LLCSarah Gilbert CoachingHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

Please note: This is another replay to help with my mental health break. A new episode is coming on Tuesday, March 26th. Thanks for your continued patience and understanding. 💜 This episode is from Season 2, so you'll hear my previous name. Content warning for mentions of George Floyd's murder and generally sensitive topics without details. This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! Listen to minorities and thank them. In this week’s episode, Ra Ra Rollins (he/him) shares why he claims “queer” and “gay” and the difference in meaning for him between the two terms. He ponders if he’s Black first or gay, queer first, especially since not all spaces see him as a whole person with various, complex identities. Learn about how his work can be triggering as a Black therapist and what it means for him to hold space for clients at some of his same intersections. We also discuss how he pushed back in his grad school program because he learned from white professors who talked about white theorists and had white supervisors while seeing white clients. Despite that, he did gain two incredible mentors and friends for life. Ra Ra reclaims his energy by practicing boundaries, which did not come naturally to him, including by shutting down nearly all of his social media. There's also some discussion around rules and how he liberates himself from rules that don’t work or honor him. Resources, references, and full transcripts are available at ⁠www.allyshipisaverb.com/episode/ra-ra-rollins⁠ Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature an allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack⁠.

Check out the ⁠wearable merch⁠! You can also help me close the gap on my ⁠$757 goal⁠. I'm 76% of the way there at the time of writing this! Please note: I'm bringing back a fan-favorite episode from season one, especially for those of you who are new to the podcast! Just a heads up, you will hear my previous name. Why am I doing this? I'm burnt out. I need more support to keep this podcast going strong into season four. Anything you can do helps - whether it's snagging some merch, becoming a monthly donor, sponsoring an episode, or even sharing episodes. I'm incredibly grateful for those who've been supporting me, and the reality is each episode takes me over 20 hours to put together. It's overwhelming and has become unsustainable, especially in the current anti-LGBTQ+ political climate of both the US and globally. Your support means the world to me and helps so many feel seen, heard, and validated through the podcast. Plus, it's a crucial part of some people's LGBTQ+ allyship journeys. Thank you all so much for being a part of this community 🌈 New episodes will be coming, though I may do one more replay for my mental health 💜 I appreciate your patience and understanding. In this week’s episode, Trystan Reese (he/him) shares about his days of being a drag king and how he's been performing as a man since he was a kid. Learn about some of the practices he's adopted to check in with his colleagues so that they're in a continuous feedback loop, including addressing power dynamics and microaggressions. We also discuss a bit of what it's like to be trainers and consultants and the work that goes into it, including figuring out our boundaries and doing the work to know how to facilitate conversations. Trystan talks about how moved he was by ALOK's talk on the podcast Man Enough and how well they were able to articulate thoughts that have been circling in his own mind. Resources, references, and full transcripts are available at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.allyshipisaverb.com/episodes/trystan-reese Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature an allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

Check out the wearable merch!This week, Candace Rucker (she/her) challenges the thought that we are only one type of ally, advocate, or activist— instead, we can be fluid by going in and out of feelings and actions. You will learn: 1. How it feels to be marginalized and misunderstood due to mixed race and queer identity 2. Why she historically got really, really angry when thinking about being Black in America 3. Why she's such a fan of intersectionality and who she'd love to meet🎙️ Connect with Candace:LinkedIn💻 Sources and resources:The intersectionality wars | Vox.com piece about how and why Kimberlé Crenshaw coined intersectionalityStan Lee: A Life (Centennial) - Bob Batchelor | Bookshop.orgJournal of a Black Queer Nurse - Britney Daniels | Bookshop.orgBlack Friend: Essays - Ziwe | Bookshop.orgBlack AF History: The Un-Whitewashed Story of America - Michael Harriot | Bookshop.org(Disclaimer: Gender Sexuality Info, LLC may receive a small commission from you purchasing from the Bookshop.org links, which helps to provide free educational services like this podcast)Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

☎️ ⁠⁠⁠Call⁠⁠⁠ the new ⁠⁠⁠QTP Loveline⁠⁠⁠ to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragementThis week, Cielo Sunsarae (they/he) shares how harmful articles from a major conservative publisher turned into unexpected donations and partnerships for their Florida-based nonprofit. You will learn 1. What initially made them decide to cancel their top surgery and what they did later on to be comfortable with rescheduling and keeping it 2. How far some journalists have gone to write harmful articles or share misleading information (including about Cielo and Queer Trans Project) 3. Why clothing stores need to rethink options for fat and neurodivergent people (and all body types)🎙️ Connect with Cielo:InstagramTikTok💻 Sources and resources:Queer Trans Projectr/transmascdicks Trans BucketPress 3 for a pep talk from kindergartners. A new hotline gives you options for joy | NPRHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

⁠⁠⁠📺 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch the recording⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for PFLAG Los Angeles Presents: Trans and Nonbinary Joy ✨☎️ ⁠Call⁠ the new ⁠QTP Loveline⁠ to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragementThis week, Andrew Lear (he/him) discusses what goes into curating gay art history tours and the homophobia he's seen in academia. In this episode, you will learn 1. What intimate and sexual differences he’s seen for teenage boys and men across different cultures 2. How he’s seen gay art evolve over time 3. Which LGBTQ+ historical figures he’d want to have a dinner party with, and why🎙️ Connect with Andrew:FacebookOscar Wilde Tours💻 Sources and resources:Andrew Lear | WikipediaRare Photos of the Stonewall Riots On Display in New Exhibit | NY1Images From the Stonewall Uprising’s Final Night | NY Times7 LGBTQ Uprisings Before Stonewall | History.comStonewall at 40: The Voice Articles That Sparked a Final Night of Rioting | Village VoiceGay Liberation Front GLF | WikipediaGay Activists Alliance GAA | WikipediaFrank Kameny | WikipediaCraig Rodwell | WikipediaSylvia Rivera, “Y’all Better Quiet Down” Original Authorized Video, 1973 Gay Pride Rally NYC *loud volume warning* | YouTubeCamp Pride | Campus PrideShopQueer.co | Online, also has The Rainbow Book BusThe Lavender Rhino | Online, no website yet. Funded via KickstarterList of LGBT Bookstores | Wikipedia50 Queer Bookstores to Visit this Pride Month | Book RiotEverywhere Is Queer | You can also see thousands of LGBTQ+ owned shops hereMan in crisis calls gay bookstore, and manager and patrons answer | NBC NewsHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

🗳️ Voting for 'Allyship is a Verb' in the Sonic Bloom Awards People's Choice category has ended. Thanks to everyone who helped out!☎️ ⁠⁠Call⁠⁠ the new ⁠⁠QTP Loveline⁠⁠ to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragementThis week, Shane Whalley (ze/hir) sheds light on living in Austin, Texas as an older queer and genderqueer person. In this special update episode, you will learn 1. Why ze suggests not intervening during misgendering (without consent from the person harmed) 2. How ze wishes we would proactively approach social/political change (instead of playing defense) 3. What we could say instead of calling someone "brave" or "resilient"🎙️ Connect with Shane:LinkedIn TwitterDaring Dialogues | Shane’s training and consulting business💻 Sources and resources:Charlie’s Pronoun and Name Mistake FlowchartWaverships | AceDadAdvice on InstagramWant to practice pronouncing the ze/hir pronoun set? You can hear them (and more) here https://en.pronouns.page/Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

⁠⁠📺 ⁠⁠Watch the recording⁠⁠ for PFLAG Los Angeles Presents: Trans and Nonbinary Joy ✨☎️ Call the new QTP Loveline to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragementThis week, Tonya (she/they) shares how questioning their gender 3-5 years ago has taken them on a journey, including navigating decisions about pronouns, make-up, hair length, and clothing. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why they hired a wedding planner who has experience with queer weddings, among other intentional decisions they've been working through 2. What a previous workplace did that was a positive change for the LGBTQ+ community at large 3. How, surprisingly, a trip to a coffee shop in a small town in Texas recently made them feel seen💻 Sources and resources:Microsoft Teams Pronouns | YouTube video showing how to enable itReel one and two | Instagram account @butchboudoirproject showing how to add pronouns for iOS17Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

Watch the recording for PFLAG Los Angeles Presents: Trans and Nonbinary Joy ✨This week, Patrick Ladonis (he/him) shares how he shifted from fear to freedom when he came out to over 400 people at the premiere of his web series SCALES. In this episode, you will learn 1. How stressful it was to have people pry into his personal life before he felt comfortable talking about his now husband in the workplace 2. What CEOs and senior leadership can do to show up for employees, especially for shifting to an inclusive culture 3. How creating his web series changed him by building up his confidence, and he hopes future generations will discover it🎙️ Connect with Patrick:SCALES The Webseries | YouTube💻 Sources and resources:Lost-n-Found Youth | Atlanta-based nonprofit organization that provides services to LGBTQ+ youth experiencing homelessness.Atlanta Angels | Supporting children, youth, and families experiencing foster care.Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

This week, Tiffany Rossdale (she/her) shares about being a transgender woman and transformational life coach who emigrated from Manila, Philippines, to Tokyo, Japan. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why she’s passionate about legal reform for Japan’s LGBTQ+ community and advocacy, taking inspiration from other transgender actors and activists like Laverne Cox and Angelica Ross 2. How she has been navigating the complexities of dating as a transgender woman, including safety considerations 3. What healthcare providers can do to serve transgender and nonbinary patients better.🎙️ Connect with Tiffany:Breakfast with Tiffany Show | Apple PodcastsWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn💻 Sources and resources:Good news! Days after the episode was published, this happened: Japan's top court says trans sterilisation requirement unconstitutional | BBC NewsFEW Japan | For Empowering Women in JapanPride House TokyoFamous Japanese Trans Women | Tumblr post'Deeply hurt': Anti-trans hostility rises in Japan | Japan TimesAya Kamikawa | WikipediaLGBT culture in Tokyo | WikipediaHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠Substack.

This week, Mark S. King (he/him) shares how the landscape of HIV/AIDS has changed over the years since the AIDS crisis of the 80s and what it's been like for him, having lived with HIV for four decades. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why is it essential to fight against HIV criminalization, especially considering the injustices and stigma it perpetuates, particularly when it's used vindictively in personal disputes and can lead to unjust labeling as sexual predators 2. How not having access to basic services like transportation can impact our health and health outcomes 3. How he initially felt about folks making comparisons between the AIDS crisis and COVID-19 and what he thinks now🎙️ Connect with Mark S. King:Website | Where you can find his blog, My Fabulous DiseaseMy Fabulous Disease | Mark’s new book (borrowed from the blog’s title)The Day After He was Murdered, I Got a Card from Josh Kruger | Post from Mark’s blogFacebookX💻 Sources and resources:TheBody | HIV/AIDS ResourcesThe Reunion Project | National alliance of long-term survivors of HIVPOZ magazineHIV/AIDS awareness days | HIV.govUSCHA | United States Conference on AIDSHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠, ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠Substack.

This week, Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), is interviewed by various friends to celebrate turning 36 on September 17th, 2023! 🥳 In this episode, you will learn 1. Why they changed their name to Charlie Ocean from Chris Angel Murphy and some of what went into that decision 2. What some of their favorite books, shows, movies, and memes are 3. How to talk about someone who changed their name or pronouns with someone who doesn't know🎙️ Connect with Charlie:InstagramLinkedInSubstack💻 Sources and resources:: Small, Medium, Large : Foamy The Squirrel | YouTubeMuffins - Liam Kyle Sullivan (also known for the hit song Shoes) | YouTubeList of Strongbad emails | Homestar RunnerEnd of Ze World | YouTubeCharlie bit my finger | YouTubeCharlie the Unicorn | YouTube playlistY tho | Know your memeCharlie’s epic 90s birthday playlist | SpotifyHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠Instagram⁠, ⁠LinkedIn⁠, and ⁠Substack.

This week, Zoa Glows (they/she) returns from the first season to share how they navigate the workplace as a trans and nonbinary person, and what they wish workplaces would do to make it safer and easier. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why she decided to leave professional performing 2. What hate comments do to their spirit, and how their reactions to it have evolved over time (plus what those of us who follow Zoa on social can do to support them) 3. How some gendered terms may feel good to her in specific situations🎙️ Connect with Zoa:InstagramTikTok💻 Sources and resources:Charlie’s reel about not being transmasc (which includes the 2D 3D comment)The Gender and Sexuality Galaxies | Action Canada for Sexual Health and Rights📣 Announcements:Our names are a gift that we can exchange - Substack post about the name change from Chris Angel to CharlieNew merch drop 👀 with another line coming VERY soon 👕 Host Charlie Ocean (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities. You can follow them on Instagram, LinkedIn, and Substack.

This week, MJ Jupitus (they/them) shares about how they navigate language as a nonbinary person, including being their wife's wife, but not their parent's daughter. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why they call themselves a movement specialist instead of a physical trainer or physical therapist 2. What softness means to them physically and mentally 3. How we may have "queer posture" and what it is🎙️ Connect with MJ:InstagramWebsite📣 Announcements:There are just two days left to support Allyship is a Verb’s Indiegogo campaign, including lots of great perks! Please consider donating $15 in honor of Chris Angel’s milestone of 15 years on testosterone (August 12th).New merch drop 👀 with another line coming soon 👕Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This week, Jack Lam (they/them) discusses how being a Malaysian Chinese immigrant has impacted them, including struggling to release shame and fear so they could name and embrace their genderqueer identity after coming to the United States. In this episode, you will learn 1. How their gender expression becomes a powerful tool for visibility 2. When allyship begins to become performative and how to avoid it 3. Why we need to normalize talking about mental health and getting support🎙️ Connect with Jack:Instagram (select posts included below)To be an immigrantWhen you’re part of the communityQuestions to a genderqueer personFor when you want it all to end💻 Sources and resources:Coming Out: Living Authentically as LGBTQ Asian and Pacific Islander Americans | The National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance and HRC Foundation📣 Announcements:Love is in the air! 😍 Or is it? Charlie's personals ad for their friend Kaitlyn may have scared you away 😅 but if it hasn’t, go check out Kaitlyn on InstagramWant to bring Allyship is a Verb to your workplace or group? Get a shoutout? Check out our Indiegogo campaign, including lots of other great perks! Please consider donating $15 in honor of Charlie's milestone of 15 years on testosterone (August 12th).New merch drop 👀 with another line coming soon 👕Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

To kick off season three, Lena Dirscherl (they/them) returns to discuss the value of having recognizable LGBTQ+ flags with intentional design. In this episode, you will learn 1. What goes into sensitivity reading, including promoting authentic representation, avoiding harmful tropes, and challenging unconscious bias. 2. Where they have been finding and connecting with the polyamory community. 3. How technology fatigue can negatively impact LGBTQ+ entrepreneurs and artists.🎙️ Connect with Lena to learn more about + support their work:BoPoLena’s PatreonInstagramWebsite (and shop!)💻 Sources and resources from this episode:The History of Polyamory Flags | polyamproudtricolor polyamory pride flag | polyamproud📣 Announcements:The Queer Trans Project is a black-led and trans-led organization that offers build-a-queer kits and flight assistance. They need to raise $50K by September! Thanks to Sam Marion for helping me to amplify The Queer Trans Project’s great work.Want to bring Allyship is a Verb to your workplace or group? Get a shoutout? Check out our Indiegogo campaign, including lots of other great perks!New merch drop 👀 with another line coming soon 👕Major thanks to Kit Ballum Cohen (they/them/kit), a nonbinary designer, artist, and parent who designed the newest podcast cover. Follow + check out their work at https://linktr.ee/itskitHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

You go, Indiegogo! Season three is around the corner, and we have a quick announcement... we've launched an Indiegogo campaign with some sweet perks! At the time of writing this, we're also an Indiegogo Team Favorite :) :) :)Host Chris Angel ("Well, hello there!") needs your help to make this the best season yet. By contributing, you're helping to fund season three production costs. We'd also like to publish allyship e-books, have traveling audio exhibits, and so much more. You'll find yourself saying, "I've never known a podcast to have a [top secret idea] before!" I know, right?!As an indie-produced podcast, we truly can't do this without you <3We'd also love to offer a heartfelt OHMYGOSHTHANKYOUSOMUCH to those who have supported us over the years!!! Thanks to your contributions, we hired an illustrator this season to give us an incredible new podcast cover, which is already on some merch (with another design on the way soon). Big shoutout to nonbinary designer Kit Ballum Cohen!Anything, even $5, helps us get closer to our goal of $5,000 to make these wild ideas a reality. Thanks for your support!PS - If someone you know works for a company or organization that values diversity and inclusion, please consider forwarding the campaign to them. They may be interested in becoming a sponsor or hiring Chris Angel for a deeply discounted training session on allyship!See you VERY SOON on August 1st for the start of season three :)Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

Hopefully a future Allyship is a Verb guest, Anna DeShawn (she/her), created a mini-series called Black HIV in the South: How Did We Get Here? This is Episode 1 of 4. Please check out all of Anna's work with E3 Radio, LLC and The Qube (explained more in her bio further below). I had the extreme privilege of being introduced to Anna through The Ambies, as we were nominated in the same category! We met in Vegas at the award ceremony, and I cried tears of joy when she won Best DIY Podcast. Thank you for allowing me to amplify your top-notch work! - Chris Angel (they/them) The History of Black HIV in the South Go on a journey with Anna DeShawn to explore the history, economics, and culture of HIV/AIDS in the Black community. Through interviews and personal stories, Anna and her co-host, Duane Cramer, explore the shame, stigma, and solutions. In this episode, Anna and Duane share their personal connections to the work and the history of HIV/AIDS in the Black community. Subject matter experts Nathan Townsend, Jada Harris, and Dafina Ward deliver insight into the reality of life for individuals afflicted by HIV in the 80s and 90s, the story of Michael Felton, an early unsung hero in the fight for justice, and why we must turn our collective attention toward this epidemic in the South. ✊🏾✊🏽✊🏿🌈🏳️‍⚧️ Hosts: Anna DeShawn is a Chicago-born social entrepreneur who builds digital media platforms that center & celebrate BIPOC & QTPOC creatives. She received her bachelor's in radio/television production from Drake University and then received her master’s in communications from Ithaca College. Anna spent 12 years in the digital media space producing webinars and virtual events for government and corporate clients alike. Media has always been Anna’s passion, so she turned her passion into a reality when she founded E3 Radio, LLC. E3 Radio is an online radio station playing queer music & reporting on queer news in high rotation with an intersectional lens. Most recently, she co-founded The Qube, a curated app of music & podcasts by BIPOC & QTPOC creatives. Anna is determined to ride media into its next era by utilizing online radio streams to play the music & tell the stories that deserve to be heard. IG: https://www.instagram.com/annadeshawn/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/annadeshawn Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@annadeshawn?lang=en Since being diagnosed with HIV 27 years ago, Duane Cramer has become a tireless advocate for HIV awareness and education, using his photography and creative skills to bring attention to the disease. Duane is an internationally known, award-winning photographer. He is well known for his photography-based HIV awareness visuals, particularly his efforts in the African-American community, which has been disproportionately affected by HIV. In addition, his poignant photos of dignitaries, celebrities, and everyday individuals gracefully capture the humanity of his subjects. Duane’s work, which has been favorably compared to the late Gordon Parks and Herb Ritts for his compelling black-and-white imagery, has been published around the world. IG: https://www.instagram.com/eyeseeit/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DuaneCramer Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/duane.l.cramer ✊🏾✊🏽✊🏿🌈🏳️‍⚧️ Credits: Black HIV in the South: How Did We Get Here? is a production of The Qube. The Qube is a podcast production company and curated platform to discover the best BIPOC & QTPOC podcasts. Begin discovering at https://theqube.app and follow @thequbeapp across social. Produced by Latrice Sampson Richards of STS Productions (www.instagram.com/latricesampsonrichards) Podcast Editing by Xperience J of Shhh! Jus’ Listen Media (www.instagram.com/xperiencejay/) Research Contributor - Nicole Holmes, National Alliance of State and Territorial AIDS Directors (NASTAD), Manager of Health Equities Podcast Fact Checker - Timothy S. Jackson, Director of Government Relations at AIDS Foundation of Chicago

Former Allyship is a Verb guest, Destiny Clarke (she/they), has a podcast called Closeted History: LGBTQ+ Stories of the Past. This is Season 2, Episode 2 of their show. Please give it a watch/listen (it's best to watch the video! You can watch it on Allyship is a Verb's Spotify feed or Closeted History's YouTube channel). Be sure to follow Destiny's show wherever you listen to podcasts to learn more about the LGBTQ+ community's history! - Chris Angel (they/them) Disco Fever: How Music Fueled a Cultural Revolution In this episode, we explore the impact of disco on LGBTQ+ rights and the evolving societal norms during the transformative 1970s. Disco was not just about dancing the night away; it was a revolutionary movement that gave a voice to those in the margins of society. The rise of disco from its origins in LGBTQ+ clubs to mainstream success in the late 1970s transformed the world of music and helped pave the way for an intersectional fight for human rights. FOLLOW US 🌈 Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@closetedhistory Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/closetedhistory/ Connect on Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@closetedhistory Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ClosetedHistory/ SUPPORT OUR CHANNEL ♥️ Like, comment, and subscribe for more LGBTQ+ history! Join our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/ClosetedHistory Listener Support - https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/closetedhistorypodcast/ VISIT OUR SITE ✨ www.closetedhistory.com GET IN TOUCH 💌 [email protected]

This event aired live on June 2nd, 2023, via LinkedIn, and has been edited for brevity.To sign up for Rex's roundtable event, visit https://www.rexwilde.com/tgx-monthly-roundtableEnjoy this Pride Month bonus video episode! Join Rex Wilde (they/them) and Chris Angel Murphy (they/them) for a quick conversation about the importance and practice of queer joy and gender euphoria in the workplace. With so much discussion and movement around anti-LGBTQ legislation, it’s important to ground ourselves in how we can cultivate joy for LGBTQ+ and TGX+ (trans and gender expansive) folks – especially at work!You can listen to the audio or watch this video on Spotify. Alternatively, you can watch on ⁠LinkedIn⁠ to see the comments from the attendees and participate in the conversation.In this special bonus video episode, you will learn 1. How we define queer joy and gender euphoria 2. Some specific ways organizations and individuals can inspire joy for LGBTQ+ colleagues in the workplace 3. That repressing our joy doesn't lead to liberation, inspired by adrienne maree brown's book, Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good.🎙️ Connect with Rex to learn more about + support their work:LinkedInWebsite💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good | adrienne maree brown(Disclaimer: Gender Sexuality Info, LLC may receive a small commission from you purchasing from this link, which helps to provide free educational services like this podcast)Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

Consider the relevance of someone's identity. This week, Rebecca Kling (she/her) discusses creating inclusive summer camps for LGBTQ+ youth where they can be themselves without making everything about being from the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode, you will learn 1. What conversations are coming up at summer camps 2. How B'Mitzvahs/B'nai Mitzvahs may differ from Bar and Bat Mitzvahs 3. When we might engage in understanding and empathic conversations and when it's time to disrupt and agitate for change.🎙️ Connect with Rebecca to learn more about + support her work:MastodonLinkedInWebsiteCo-Founder of Better World Collaborative💻 Sources and resources from this episode:TransTorahCelebrating the Age of Mitzvah: A Guide for all Genders | KeshetHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

Sign up for Sam's workshop, Understanding the Basics of Neurodiversity and the Neurodiversity Movement. Happening virtually on Thursday, May 11th or 25th, 7-8 PM ET.Register for Speak Up! Tools for Active Trans Allyship with Chris Angel and Rebecca, Thursday, May 18th at 7 PM ET.This week, Christina Carlson (she/they) talks about how being ex-religious has impacted her life. In this episode, you will learn 1. How people are taught to distrust themselves, the harmful systems that upholds, and the additional impacts on queer and trans people 2. The impacts of not seeing yourself reflected around you 3. Why we should celebrate ourselves every chance we get.🎙️ Connect with Christina to learn more about + support their work:InstagramFacebookWebsiteChristina’s podcast Bitches, Witches, and QueersOther interviews Losing our way for love: How to Spot Co-dependency in Relationships and Christina Carlson on Embodied Spirituality💻 Sources and resources from this episode:EricaSmith.Sex.Ed InstagramHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

Want to book Charlie for Pride month and beyond? Check out their offerings here.This week, Maze Felix (they/them) talks about the beauty of T4T (trans for trans) relationships! In this episode, you will learn 1. What affirming actions they experienced behind the scenes while shooting a Pride Target commercial 2. Why being in community with others in their gender journeys is euphoric and healing 3. How relationships can be tested when trans, nonbinary, and gender expansive folks transition medically, legally, and/or socially.🎙️ Connect with Maze to learn more about + support their work:InstagramTikTokPolam With My Chapsticks | Poem on InstagramExamples of Maze’s fluidity | Post on Instagram💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Target ADMaze’s Humankind spotlightCode-switching | Better UpInterview with Maze Felix | Hear Us ScreamTrans Day of Visibility Nonbinary Panel | Watch on Spotify, YouTubeZoa Glow’s EpisodeHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This week, Shaan Dasani (he/they) talks about creating Agents of Change and what it means to have an all-queer and trans cast! In this episode, you will learn 1. How spy movies like D.E.B.S. and the James Bond series inspired him while writing Agents of Change. 2. Why having someone as a possibility model was helpful for their gender journey 3. What in the world a “nibling” is.🎙️ Connect with Shaan to learn more about + support their work:Shaan’s WebsiteShaan’s InstagramAgents of Change Instagram | For updates on when and where you can watch itKarma Theory Films Website💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Shaan’s Google Commercial | Goals in Google CalendarResources about Max of The L Word (contains spoilers)Recap of Max’s character arc‘The L Word’ failed a trans TV pioneer. 17 years later, he’s back to repair the damage | Los Angeles TimesThe L Word star Daniel Sea says it was ‘healing’ to return to the show as a happy trans elder | PinkNews‘The L Word’ Star Daniel Sea on the ‘Reparative Gesture’ of Max’s Return | IndieWireHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

RSVP to Celebrate Transgender Day of Visibility (TDOV)RSVP to Connecting With Community: How to Build an Online Audience for your LGBTQ-owned BusinessRSVP to Speak Up For TDOV: Talking Points for Active Trans AllyshipPut yourself in the other person's shoes. This week, Kathy Houston (she/her) talks about Club LILLES and what it means for her to be a late in life lesbian. In this episode, you will learn 1. How lesbian TikTok has been a wonderful, informative resource. 2. Why her first girlfriend gave her “homework.” 3. What it feels like to live in the affirming bubble of St. Petersburg, Florida.🎙️ Connect with Kathy to learn more about + support her work:WebsiteLinkedInFacebook💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Club LILLES | A social community and platform for women and non-binary people who identify as lesbian, bi-sexual, pansexual, or any sexuality that loves women. The word LILLES is an acronym for Late in life Lesbians but has been adapted since its creation. LILLES means people who love women who also are dedicated to a growth mindset and support others in the community.Queer Flower | TVTropes page on flowers and their meanings in the LGBTQ+ communityIn U.S., 10.2% of LGBT Adults Now Married to Same-Sex Spouse | GALLUPClub Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend | WikipediaGirls In WonderlandBiden signs into law same-sex marriage bill, 10 years after his famous Sunday show answer on the issue | CNNTennessee House passes bill targeting marriage equality | The Black Wall Street Times"Loofah code" at Florida's largest retirement community more about confused than enthused | Palm Beach PostHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This week, Lianna Newman (name only) expands on carving out space in STEM, finding community, and creating resources. In this episode, you will learn 1. Some changes we'd like to see in tech. 2. The complexities of gender-neutral vs gendered awards. 3. How to use no pronouns and what we mean when we ask someone for their pronouns in the first place.🎙️ Connect with Lianna to learn more about + support Lianna’s work:LinkedInInstagram💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Out In Tech | Non-profit community of LGBTQ+ tech leaders. We create opportunities for our members to advance their careers, grow their networks, and leverage tech for social change.Lesbians Who Tech | A community of LGBTQ women, non-binary, and trans individuals in and around tech (and the people who support them).oSTEM | A non-profit professional association for LGBTQ+ people in the STEM community.LGBTQ+ Conferences ListMore LGBTQ+ Job and Career resourcesCoded Bias | Documentary websiteBarbershop movie | IMDbMore LGBTQ+ tech resources:500 Queer Scientists visual campaignLGBTechLGBTQ in Technology SlackLGBT Tech InstituteOut to InnovatePride in StemStart OutTransTech SocialHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

Exploring the kink spectrum and community! This week, Wesley Toma (he/him) expands on how kink is a spectrum, and for those who fall on it, it's very unlikely we're vanilla kinksters. In this episode, you will learn 1. How kinks and fetishes are different. 2. Some examples of how someone could start safely exploring the kink community. 3. Why he currently must travel out of state to access certain kink communities and spaces.🎙️ Connect with Wesley to learn more about + support his work:Wesley’s websiteLinkedInFacebook page💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Wheel of Power and Privilege | University of Wisconsin-MadisonFetlifeBDSM Versus the DSM: A history of the fight that got kink de-classified as mental illness | The AtlanticHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

Check out Rebecca's parent coaching.We were nominated for Best Personal Growth and Best DIY for The Ambies! Thank you to those who watched live on March 7, 2023. We didn't win this time, though it was an honor to be nominated for both categories.This week, Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her), expands on why the term femme feels the most at home and who helped her to tap into that energy. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why her blog post about fictosexuality got a lot of attention, and what that even means. 2. How she owns "a shocking amount of pencil skirts" she doesn't wear, which leads to a larger conversation about her sensory experiences with gender presentation. 3. What she does as a gender specialist, and what she gets asked the most by parents she coaches.🎙️ Connect with Rebecca to learn more about + support her work:Rebecca Minor's WebsiteInstagramLinkedInFacebook page💻 Sources and resources from this episode:What is Fictosexuality? | Gender SpecialistCisgender Identity Challenge | Gender Specialist - Instagram postThis Man Married a Fictional Character. He'd Like You to Hear Him Out | New York TimesHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This week, Kieran Mcmonagle (he/him) expands on how he's learned so much from young people in the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why he shares that he was born in the right queer, trans body. 2. How no space can be truly safe for everyone. 3. How parents of trans kids should love and support their kids and do their own processing in private.🎙️ Connect with Kieran to learn more about + support his work:InstagramTikTokRed Cape Therapy💻 Sources and resources from this episode:LGBTQ+ Conference ListLGBTQ+ Camps for Youth, Adults, and FamiliesGood Judy Garage | Live in or near Denver, CO? Charlie highly recommends this LGBTQ+-owned auto repair shop!Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

Grab podcast merch here: https://www.bonfire.com/store/allyship-is-a-verb/This week, Ed Carratalà (él/he/him) expands on how he spent 33 years of his life hiding parts of himself. In this episode, you will learn: 1. What it was like for him to attend his first pride event after coming out. 2. Why he had to teach his therapy students about the LGBTQ+ community in secret. 3. How therapists can cause great harm to clients and why it can be helpful for them to do the work of questioning their own gender and sexuality.🎙️ Connect with Ed to learn more about + support his work:Instagram (and the photo from pride!)TwitterHis research page (in Catalan) and GRPF: Couples and Family Research GroupHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This event aired live on December 4th, 2022, and has been cut for clarity. "Are You OK?" documents the experiences and stories of 130+ trans and nonbinary youth living in the United States during this time of horrific anti-trans legislation.You can watch this video on Spotify or YouTube. Looking for more info about the merch? Grab the wearable merch here! Be sure to check the podcast website for any new stickers or other items.Author and photographer Jesse Freidin (he/him) and gender specialist and parent coach Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her) discuss the resiliency of trans youth and the importance of empowering trans kids to tell their own stories. Are You OK?: Empowering Trans Youth Through Storytelling features audio clips of the interviews, portraits of the youth, and more.In this special video episode, you will learn 1. Why this series is essential right now and what it's helping to combat. 2. What messages trans and nonbinary youth want to share with other youth. 3. The behind-the-scenes work going into Jesse's series and how you can help sustain it.Jesse FreidinJesse Freidin’s websiteAre You OK? | Series website; please financially support the project if you have the means or you can book a portraitWhen Dogs Heal and Finding Shelter series websitesFacebook pageInstagramTwitterRebecca MinorRebecca Minor's WebsiteFacebook pageInstagramLinkedInHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This week, Lena Dirscherl (they/them) expands on some of the many factors that influence gender. In this episode, you will learn: 1. What our thoughts are on the term "transgender" and where we think it's heading in the future. 2. Some of the many different definitions of "queer" or "queerness." 3. How "sex" and "gender" are made-up concepts and why that matters.🎙️ Connect with Lena to learn more about + support their work:BoPoLena’s PatreonInstagramTikTokWebsiteHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

In the wake of the most recent tragedy yesterday (November 19th, 2022) at Club Q, an LGBTQ+ nightclub in Colorado Springs, CO, I am publishing a formerly recorded episode that I never released. At the time of posting this, we believe that 5 people are dead and 18 are injured. There was a drag show.I didn't publish this episode because I thought it was too dark and heavy to be so early in the first season. I thought about revisiting it but then changed the format of the podcast episodes and it didn't fit anywhere else. But now, I feel moved to publish it.I'm leaving it as recorded in its final version, July 2021.Take good care, friends <3 Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

Did you miss our November event? Watch it here on YouTube: Are You OK?: Empowering Trans Youth Through Storytelling feat. Jesse Freidin and Rebecca MinorContent warning for abuse.This week, Cassie Brighter (she/her) expands on the hidden costs of being transgender, why TSA PreCheck may make travel safer for trans women, and how she responds to questions about "the surgery." In this episode, you will learn: 1. Why she doesn't want LGBTQ+ events at churches, even if they're affirming. 2. What it's like to run the Support Network for Parents of Trans Kids Facebook group. 3. How she learned about the "unacceptables in society" through bathroom graffiti and inappropriate jokes amongst adult men. We also discuss her being a trans advocate, mother, writer, and public speaker.PS: It's Transgender Awareness Month! Will you share this episode with someone you think might benefit from hearing it?🎙️ Connect with Cassie to learn more about + support her work:MediumFacebookInstagramSupport Network for Parents of Trans KidsEmpowered Trans Woman FacebookEmpowered Trans Woman InstagramProtect Trans Kids Facebook💻 Sources and resources from this episode:LGBTQ+ Awareness Events | Gender Sexuality InfoTransgender Day of Remembrance | Live in or near Boulder, CO? Charlie* will be speaking at this event in the evening.Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

Did you miss our November event? Watch it here on YouTube: ⁠Are You OK?: Empowering Trans Youth Through Storytelling feat. Jesse Freidin and Rebecca MinorThis week, Cody Daigle-Orians (he/they), AKA "Ace Dad Advice," explores what it means for them to be asexual, queer, and polyamorous. In this episode, you will learn: 1. How do his ace and polyamorous identities intersect? 2. How do they manage multiple relationships? 3. What is his experience of being ace within the broader LGBTQ+ community?We also discuss their upcoming book, I Am Ace: Advice on Living Your Best Asexual Life. It dropped on February 21, 2023, so please support Cody by pre-ordering or requesting it at your local library!PS: Did you know Ace Week is October 23-29th this year? Follow Cody's social media accounts for lots of resources and info! Links are on the episode page below.🎙️ Connect with Cody to learn more about + support their work:InstagramYouTubeTwitterTikTokFacebookPatreonWebsitePre-prder the book I Am Ace: Advice on Living Your Best Asexual Life💻 Sources and resources from this episode:How 'Ace Dad Advice' creator helps and learns from his asexual community | Good Morning AmericaNew York judge rules in favor of polyamorous relationships | LGBTQNATIONHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!!In this week's episode, Mister Larrie (he/him) and I get SILLY! It starts off with him encouraging you to do the work of finding your people in your communities (and to be patient with the process). We get into mistakes and how having a learner's mindset can help, including when others correct us. Learn what he's been told as a Black man about his career, mental health, and more. Mister Larrie reflects on being visible at multiple intersections and the emotional labor involved in holding those spaces for others, especially during his academic career. Early on, the pandemic inspired his switch to social media as his persona, Mister Larrie, in which he produces videos about mental health and crafting. We reminisce about elementary school and some of the projects we'd do as kids, which you may have done, too. Woof! Have you heard of the bear community? Mister Larrie and I give examples of our experiences, including critiques of what could be better for everyone involved.🎙️ Connect with Mister Larrie to learn more about + support his work:InstagramYouTubeTikTokFacebookWebsite💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Fast Company | We need more Black designers. Here’s how to support their successHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!!Content warning for LGBTQ+ youth discrimination, suicide statistics.In this week's episode, Petey Gibson (he/him) shares about who he's inspired by to embody gentle masculinity. Suppose you've wondered about the differences between characters written as cisgender men versus trans men or transmasculine people. In that case, Petey explains what he's experienced in Hollywood. We also get into the film he starred in and produced: The Sympathy Card, a Boston-based lesbian rom-com. Learn what Petey misses about the lesbian community and some of what his transition means to him. Petey reflects on Gen Z, LGBTQ+ media being niche, LGBTQ+ stories that don't involve trauma or coming out, the first time he passed as a man in public, comedy, sobriety, drag, Dyke Day LA, and more!🎙️ Connect with Petey to learn more about + support his work:InstagramWebsiteThe Sympathy Card - YouTube TrailerThe Sympathy Card - Website💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Meg Stalter’s Hi Gay 2021 and Hi Gay 2022ExBulletin | A fresh start for actor and comedian Petey GibsonAdvocate | 20 Photos of Trans Elders Who Have SurvivedTo Survive on This Shore: Photographs and Interviews with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Older Adults | Project by Jess T. Dugan and Vanessa FabbreThe Trevor Project | National Survey on LGBTQ Youth Mental Health 2021Study Reveals Which Transgender Teens Have Highest Suicide RiskMental Health Outcomes in Transgender and Nonbinary Youths Receiving Gender-Affirming CareDyke Day LAHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!!Did you miss the launch party for the Corporate Guide to LGBTQ+ Events? You can watch the recording and purchase the guide here!In this week's episode, Josée Sovinsky (she/they) updates us on what's changed since we spoke early last season, including pronouns and identities. If you've ever wondered why some people use two or more sets of pronouns, Josée explains what it means for her and how she tested they/them out before sharing that additional set with more people. They talk about the cisgender/transgender binary and how people can exist somewhere in between or outside of that, though we may not yet have the language for the experience. We also get into what it means to expand on definitions, create new terminology, adopt generic labels, or reject labels entirely (and how it's a personal process for everyone to decide what works for them). Learn why she thinks there is overlap between the LGBTQ+ and neurodivergence communities (including the parallels she has found in her journey with both). Josée reflects on bi panic, safety, unmasking, Heartstopper, affirming reactions and support, and why coming out this time looked and felt different.🎙️ Connect with Josée Sovinsky and learn more about + support their work:InstagramBlossom Counselling Centre2021 coming out post: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CQxERNOHMMa/The follow-up: https://www.instagram.com/p/CQ1SDvQrnHU/2022 coming out post: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cf9q17ZtJQ_/Follow-up meme post: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cgzu_i3jiMI/Neurodiversity and Eating Disorders: Considerations for Affirming Care | Presented by: Sophie Raniere (she/her), Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) & Josée Sovinsky (she/they), Registered Dietitian, Registered Psychotherapist 💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Not sure what to do if you make a mistake? Read Charlie's blog post, which features the pronoun and name mistake flowchart.

This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!!Interested in the Corporate Guide to LGBTQ+ Events? Watch the recorded launch party on LinkedIn! You can now buy the guide here.In this week’s episode, Jesse Freidin (he/him) shares about his former photography projects and how he's surprised himself by working on a new series that hits close to home. The "Are you OK?" series addresses the current wave of anti-trans legislation by interviewing trans and gender nonconforming youth with their families all over the States. Jesse talks us through some of what it takes to work on such a project, including building trust with the local communities, families, and youth themselves. We also get into the steps to maintain his own safety, especially as his work has him road-tripping all over. We discuss how concepts like "being an adult" and age overall may be different for trans folks. Learn about how he decides what kind of life he wants for himself outside of the noise of any narratives our society can place upon us, including the boundaries he maintains. Jesse reflects on what the series would have meant for him as a young person and marvels at the access trans youth have to each other present day.🎙️ Connect with Jesse to learn more about + support his work:Jesse Freidin’s websiteAre You OK? | Series website; please financially support the project if you have the meansWhen Dogs Heal and Finding Shelter series websitesFacebook pageInstagramTwitter💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Nondiscrimination Laws - Housing | Movement Advancement ProjectWill LGBTQ+ Retirees End Up Back In The Closet? | ForbesLGBTQ+ seniors fear having to go back in closet for the care they need | The 19th*LGBTQ+ Aging stats and resources | SAGE USANational Honor an LGBTQ+ Elder Resource Guide | You can see other LGBTQ+ awareness and related event dates here; National Honor Our LGBT Elders Day is May 16th yearlyPFLAG’s glossaryLambda Legal’s Help DeskHousing Discrimination and Persons Identifying as LGBTQ | HUD’s interpretation of the Fair Housing ActLGBTQ Retirement Communities and Cities in the US | Host Charlie also recommends Palm Springs, CaliforniaLGBTQ+ Social Support and Mentorship | Charlie’s list of mentoring opportunities🧳 Traveling while LGBTQ? Some bonus resources from Charlie:Everywhere is Queer | A map of LGBTQ+ owned businessesRefuge Restrooms | Map of safe restroom access for transgender, intersex, and gender nonconforming individualsYelp also allows you to access LGBTQ+-owned businesses and shows if a place has a gender-neutral restroomHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!!Content warning for mentions of George Floyd's murder and generally sensitive topics without details.In this week’s episode, Ra Ra Rollins (he/him) shares why he claims “queer” and “gay” and the difference in meaning for him between the two terms. He ponders if he’s Black first or gay, queer first, especially since not all spaces see him as a whole person with various, complex identities. Learn about how his work can be triggering as a Black therapist and what it means for him to hold space for clients at some of his same intersections. We also discuss how he pushed back in his grad school program because he learned from white professors who talked about white theorists and had white supervisors while seeing white clients. Despite that, he did gain two incredible mentors and friends for life. Ra Ra reclaims his energy by practicing boundaries, which did not come naturally to him, including by shutting down nearly all of his social media. There's also some discussion around rules and how he liberates himself from rules that don’t work or honor him.🎙️ Connect with Ra Ra to learn more about + support his work:Our guest had an online presence at the time of the recording but has since pulled it down to protect his peace.💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Foster and Adoption Laws - Movement Advancement ProjectOverall United States Policy Tally - Movement Advancement ProjectReport: South Has Most LGBTQ Residents In the U.S. - Memphis FlyerAbsolutely Not! - Are You Paying Me To Be Your Black Friend? w/ Ra Ra RollinsPoint Foundation - The LGBTQ Scholarship FundGender Sexuality Info’s scholarship list - Scroll down toward the bottom of the pageHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her). For more information about her parent and caregiver coaching, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/coachingIn this week’s episode, Richard Follett (he/him) shares how each of his intersections has shaped a portion of who he is and that while some of them may seem at odds with each other, that's not the case for him. Learn about how he knew he was gay at the age of four but found himself trying to "pray away the gay" and entered into a heterosexual marriage. We also discuss how the Metropolitan Community Church helped him to "marry" his sexuality and Christianity. Richard recalls several times people assumed he was straight/heterosexual because of myths and misconceptions people have about gay men and how he pushed for equality in his teachings with his students and colleagues throughout his career. There's also some storytelling related to his relationship with Charlie.💻 Sources and resources from this episode:It Gets Better Prof. Richard Follett - YouTube videoIt Gets Better ProjectMetropolitan Community Church (MCC)Gay Men’s Chorus of Los AngelesNational Coming Out Day is October 11th every year and you can find a list of more LGBTQ+ awareness events on Chris Angel’s GSI websiteCalifornia Courts - Proposition 8Los Angeles Times - When Gavin Newsom issued marriage licenses in San Francisco, his party was furious. Now, it’s a campaign adBritannica - Obergefell v. HodgesIMDB - Making Love filmHRC - What is a lavender ceremony?Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/learn Listeners of this podcast get 10% off with code ALLYSHIP For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat And if you're looking to book an LGBTQ+ event for Pride month or after, consider hiring me: https://www.chrisangelmurphy.com Our last episode of season one is a special video event featuring the live panel from Trans Day of Visibility on March 31st, 2022! It features stories and wisdom from Zoa Glows (they/she) [current set of pronouns since the event aired], Maze Felix (they/them), and Noel Fernando (they/them) at the intersections of being both nonbinary and trans. Zoa Glows was also a guest on the podcast earlier on in the season and it's one of the listener favorites! We got some great comments, questions, and love from the live panel viewers, so thank you to everyone who helped to make it happen, including Rebecca for helping with back-end tech! For panelist bios, more about the event, and a chance to watch with subtitles via YouTube, please visit: https://www.gendersexuality.info/blog/trans-day-of-visibility-nonbinary-visibility-panel Thank you to all of you for making season one such a great success!!! I'm so grateful and I'm glad I could take the time to acknowledge each of you for making Allyship is a Verb what it is today. See you Tuesday, August 2nd, 2022, for season two! <3 - Chris Angel (they/them) Resources, references, and full transcripts are available at https://www.allyshipisaverb.com/ Host Chris Angel (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work. Keep the conversation going on Instagram @GenderSexualityInfo

This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/learn Listeners of this podcast get 10% off with code ALLYSHIPIn this week’s episode, Destiny Clarke (who now uses she/they pronouns) talks about why they left teaching in the classroom to pursue a career in providing teachers with LGBTQ+ inclusive education. We discuss how living in North Carolina as a pansexual person isn't exactly easy and some surprising spaces and communities where she's found support. Learn what they call "bless your heart homophobia" and what that can look like in the South. Destiny explains how her gender expression has evolved over the years and how good it's felt to get support from her current partner. Learn about the 3 times she's started a Gender and Sexuality Alliance (GSA) club in her schools and how each time was different, including how she handled an instance of a parent pushing back.🎙️ Connect with Destiny:Closeted History Podcast - Instagram (the podcast launched June 1st, 2022!)Closeted History - Website💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Schitt's Creek - The Wine Not the Label - Scene on YouTubeMovement Advancement Project - North CarolinaLGBTQ Youth in The South - The Trevor ProjectReport: South Has Most LGBTQ Residents In the U.S.Let Me Google That for You - Encourage someone to do their own Google searchLGBTQ Center of DurhamGSA NetworkGLSENInsider: As a gender specialist, I've seen kids as young as 3 recognize they are trans by Rebecca MinorGender Specialist’s Cisgender Identity Challenge Instagram postQMUNITY.org’s Gender-neutral Language Sheet resource (scroll down)Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhatIn this week’s episode, Dominic (he/him) talks about the first time he got hit on by a girl and how that started his sexuality (and later gender) journey. Learn about what shifts occurred in his life as he started to be read as a man in society and some decisions he's made as a result, including going stealth. We also discuss how he told his mom he's a trans man and some of her initial reactions. Dominic talks about how he's felt in LGBTQ+ spaces over the years and how he kind of misses them but it would contradict his decision to be private. He also talks about co-running a support group and some of the stressful moments that have come about as a result.💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Count Me In - Human Rights CampaignPotato ParcelRuPaul Responds To Controversy Over The Word 'Tranny'How RuPaul’s comments on trans women led to a Drag Race revolt — and a rare apologyMariah Carey - Emotions | YouTubeTrans Day of Visibility: Nonbinary Visibility PanelPFLAG National - Find a chapter near youA Guide for the Gender Neutral B-MitzvahHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhatIn this week’s episode, Charlie Sprinkman (he/they) talks about growing up in "small-town vibes" Wisconsin and how it's important for people to find the best language for themselves. Learn about what happened when he came out during the Trump administration. We also discuss how important it is to make things better broadly for future generations and nerd out over the power of LGBTQ+ camps like Brave Trails. Charlie talks about their resource, Everywhere is Queer, and how they got the inspiration for it while driving home from Brave Trails. He also talks about voice dysphoria, traveling across 40+ states, and what queer spaces can do for people.🎙️ Connect with Charlie to learn more about + support their work:InstagramEverywhere is Queer💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Refuge RestroomsACLU | Grimm V. Gloucester County School BoardGavin Grimm’s TwitterNow Use Yelp to Find Gender-neutral RestroomsYelp makes it easy to support LGBTQ-owned businesses, and find “Open to All” places to celebrate PrideBrave Trails Forever Home Details + Fundraiser (also links to their programs)Gender Sexuality Info’s list of LGBTQ+ Camps for Youth, Adults, and Families (this is a resource by Charlie)Pattie Gonia | Environmentalist Drag Queen who recently co-founded The OathMKE Black | Milwaukee’s Black-owned Business DirectoryHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*