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In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down one of the most commonly misunderstood ideas in brain-based therapy: “what fires together, wires together.” While this concept explains how patterns form, it leaves out a critical truth—your brain is not fixed. Through the lens of neuroplasticity, EMDR therapy, and trauma-informed care, Kambria explains why repeating patterns isn’t inevitable—and how you can intentionally rewire your brain for change. What You’ll Learn: Why “we repeat what’s familiar” is only half the story How neuroplasticity allows you to unlearn trauma patterns The difference between habit vs. survival responses Why your brain actually craves novelty and experimentation How EMDR and brain-based therapies help rewire neural pathways Practical ways to break cycles and build new behaviors Key Takeaways: Your brain is not the problem—it’s the solution Repeating patterns is not automatic—it’s often reinforced habit Trauma does not guarantee repetition Change happens through intentional, small experiments Curiosity is a powerful tool for nervous system healing Try This: Set one new boundary this week Try a small “micro-experiment” (new habit, route, or behavior) Notice how your body responds to novelty vs. familiarity     Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, here's more ways to learn with Kambria! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/workwithkambria We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources    Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. 

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down one of the most misunderstood concepts in mental health: triggers. Using a brain-based therapy and EMDR framework, she explains that not all triggers are the same—and confusing them can disconnect you from your self-trust. You’ll learn how to distinguish between: Trauma replays from the past Healthy, protective nervous system responses in the present This episode is essential for anyone navigating trauma healing, anxiety, or boundary setting, especially women who have been conditioned to dismiss their internal alarm system. The Core Question When you feel triggered, ask: “What am I supposed to be learning right now?” This shifts you from: Reactivity → Curiosity Confusion → Clarity Disconnection → Self-trust  Practical Tools Identify intensity, duration, and context Notice which belief system is activated: Safety Worthiness (goodness) Control / power / choice Ask: Do I need safety? Do I need reassurance? Do I need to set a boundary or leave? Key Takeaway Triggers are not problems—they are messages from your nervous system. Some are asking you to heal the past.Others are asking you to protect yourself in the present. Learning the difference is the foundation of true self-trust and emotional regulation.     Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on more ways to learn with Kambria! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/workwithkambria We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources    Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down the viral “Let Them Theory” popularized by Mel Robbins—and explains why it often leaves therapy clients feeling stuck, dysregulated, and confused. If you’ve ever been told to “just let them” and found yourself still triggered, ruminating, or emotionally overwhelmed, this episode will give you the clarity you’ve been missing. Instead of passive advice, Kambria introduces her Zero Disturbance Acceptance Framework, a brain-based, EMDR-informed approach that helps you: Process emotional triggers at the nervous system level Set clear boundaries without losing self-trust Integrate dual truths for real emotional resolution This is not about avoiding your feelings—it’s about rewiring how your brain processes them Why This 4-Step Framework Works (Brain-Based Insight) Unlike passive advice, this method aligns with how your brain actually processes experience: Activates the brain’s adaptive information processing system Moves experiences from emotional reactivity → integrated memory Strengthens secure attachment to Self Transforms beliefs from cognitive ideas → embodied truth   The Solution: Zero Disturbance Acceptance Framework A brain-based, EMDR-informed method designed to help you fully process, regulate, and resolve emotional experiences—not just bypass them. There are 4 steps.  Step 1: Put Them Where They Belong Evaluate behavior using real evidence (not wishful thinking) Use judgment as a protective brain function, not something to suppress Decide: Do they belong in your inner circle—or outside of it?  This restores clarity and self-trust  Step 2: Accept Their Full Potential Acknowledge who they could have been Release attachment to unrealized outcomes Reduce rumination by separating hope from reality This step helps your brain let go of “what if” Step 3: Accept Their Chosen Reality Process what actually happened using brain-based methods (like Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing or Brainspotting) Integrate the truth of their actions—not just your interpretation  This is where real nervous system regulation happens  Step 4: Hold Dual Truths Two things can be true: Someone can have good intentions and harmful behaviors Someone can have potential and limitations This creates emotional neutrality and integration, not inner conflict.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, here's more ways to learn with Kambria! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/workwithkambria We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources    Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.    With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. 

Many people enter therapy believing that healing requires understanding why someone hurt them. Why did they act that way?Why did they treat me like that? But what if the search for “why” is actually keeping your brain stuck in trauma? In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, EMDR clinician Kambria Evans explores a powerful shift in brain-based therapy: moving away from analyzing other people’s behavior and toward reclaiming ownership of your own mind. Traditional therapy models often encourage clients to analyze family members, partners, or past experiences in an attempt to make sense of painful events. But trauma recovery doesn’t happen through endless analysis. Instead, real healing happens when the brain begins to integrate positive cognitions, adaptive beliefs, and nervous system regulation. Using principles from EMDR therapy and the Adaptive Information Processing model, Kambria explains how trauma healing becomes possible when you stop asking why someone hurt you and start focusing on the beliefs your brain holds about yourself. You’ll learn: Why the question “why did they do that?” can keep your brain stuck in trauma How traditional therapy models unintentionally reinforce codependency The brain-based reason positive cognitions matter in trauma healing How EMDR therapy helps people reclaim control of their nervous system  Why you are the CEO of your brain and beliefs This episode challenges outdated therapy narratives and offers a powerful shift toward autonomy, nervous system healing, and brain-based trauma recovery. If you’re interested in EMDR therapy, trauma healing, nervous system regulation, or brain-based mental health, this conversation will change how you think about therapy. Key Takeaways The question “why did they hurt me?” often keeps people stuck in trauma processing Trauma healing requires reclaiming ownership of your beliefs and nervous system Many traditional therapy models unintentionally reinforce codependency EMDR therapy focuses on integrating positive cognitions and adaptive beliefs You are the CEO of your brain and nervous system Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, here's more ways to learn with Kambria! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/workwithkambria We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources    Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.   

What is actually happening in your brain during EMDR therapy? In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down one of the most misunderstood aspects of EMDR therapy: trauma processing. Using a powerful courtroom analogy, Kambria explains how the brain weighs both negative trauma memories and positive adaptive beliefs during EMDR sessions. Many people believe EMDR therapy focuses only on painful memories—but that’s only part of the picture. In reality, the brain integrates both negative and positive evidence to help clients reach clarity, regulation, and healing. This episode explores: Why EMDR can feel intense How trauma beliefs are formed in childhood Why positive experiences are critical for healing How the brain’s adaptive information processing system works Why EMDR empowers the client—not the therapist—to decide what is true  If you've ever wondered what EMDR therapy is actually doing in your brain—or why it can feel so powerful—this episode will help you understand the science and psychology behind brain-based trauma therapy. 🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode What is happening in the brain during EMDR processing Why trauma creates negative beliefs about ourselves The role of positive adaptive information in trauma healing Why EMDR is not just about revisiting trauma How the brain integrates memories to reduce distress Why EMDR helps clients build self-trust and clarity 🧩 Key Concepts From This Episode Kambria introduces a powerful metaphor: Your brain during EMDR functions like a courtroom. Positive beliefs present evidence Negative beliefs present evidence Your observing self acts as the jury Through processing, the brain reaches a new verdict about what is actually true This process allows trauma memories to be reprocessed rather than relived. 💡 Who This Episode Is For This episode is helpful if you: Are considering EMDR therapy Are currently in trauma therapy Want to understand how the brain heals trauma Are a therapist interested in brain-based therapy models Want a clearer understanding of trauma and negative beliefs Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, here's more ways to learn with Kambria! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/workwithkambria We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources    Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

EMDR is often branded as a trauma therapy — but what people don’t talk about enough is this: Brain-based therapy doesn’t just calm your nervous system. It helps you reclaim your power. In this episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, EMDR therapist Kambria Evans breaks down the six biggest power moves that happen after EMDR therapy. From self-trust and nervous system regulation to dismantling internalized self-hatred and refusing to participate in other people’s narratives — this conversation reframes trauma healing as empowerment work. If you're a woman exploring EMDR therapy, brain-based therapy, or trauma-informed healing, this episode will expand how you think about recovery, neuroplasticity, and control. What Is EMDR Therapy? Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a brain-based therapy designed to help the nervous system reprocess traumatic memory networks. Rather than only talking about trauma, EMDR helps the brain metabolize unresolved experiences so they no longer trigger fight, flight, freeze, or collapse. The result? Increased emotional regulation Stronger self-efficacy Greater self-trust Reduced trauma reactivity A profound sense of internal power Who This Episode Is For Women considering EMDR therapy Clinicians interested in brain-based trauma treatment Highly sensitive women / empaths Women healing from domestic violence or narcissistic abuse Anyone wanting deeper self-trust through neuroscience-informed therapy What You’ll Learn in This Episode In this episode, we explore how EMDR doesn’t just reduce symptoms — it restores power, control, and self-trust at the nervous system level. You’ll learn why empathy was never meant to be passive. For highly sensitive or intuitive women, EMDR transforms empathy from self-abandonment into discernment and decisive action. Instead of absorbing other people’s chaos, you learn to use your sensitivity as information — and that is power. We also discuss how EMDR builds unshakable power in high-conflict environments like depositions, divorce, or narcissistic dynamics. Rather than rehearsing content, the work focuses on: Clearing negative beliefs rooted in helplessness Installing positive cognitions like control, choice, and self-efficacy Maintaining regulation under intentional provocation When those beliefs are fully integrated, manipulation tactics lose power — because you no longer hand yours over. We examine one of the greatest power moves of all: non-participation. EMDR integration often looks like: No longer defending yourself to unsafe people Refusing to argue with distorted narratives Shifting from “I must prove my worth” to “I know who I am” That shift is quiet, but it is formidable. This episode also addresses internalized self-hatred and the cultural conditioning that teaches women to distrust themselves. Through neuroplasticity and EMDR, outdated programming can be rewritten. Self-trust becomes the default. Shame loses power. We challenge the pathology model of the DSM and reframe anxiety, panic, and depression as powerful communication from the nervous system — not proof that something is wrong with you. Your body is not the enemy. It is intelligent. Finally, we explore the deepest expression of power: no longer needing universal approval. Instead asking: Do I understand myself? Do I trust myself? Do I like myself? When the answer becomes yes, you are no longer easy to destabilize. That is what real power looks like.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, here's more ways to learn with Kambria! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/workwithkambria We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources    Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online cours

In this powerful and direct episode of Zero Disturbance, Kambria Evans challenges two outdated therapy habits that are keeping women stuck: Obsessively trying to understand why someone hurt you Believing therapy is about “managing triggers” If you’ve spent years analyzing a parent, partner, ex, or boss — this episode will feel like permission to redirect your energy. She breaks down why brain-based therapy approaches like EMDR and Brainspotting are changing the game in trauma treatment — and why the goal is no longer trigger management, but trigger elimination or significant reduction. This conversation is for women navigating: High-conflict divorce Narcissistic or emotionally immature relationships Trauma triggers Attachment wounds Negative core beliefs Addiction dynamics Shame-based identity patterns  Key Takeaways 1️⃣ Stop Trying to Understand “Why” Trying to understand why someone drinks, cheats, withdraws, or yells is not your healing work. Your healing work is asking: What part of me is snagged here? Kambria introduces two powerful metaphors: The Cliff Analogy – Stop arguing with a cliff. If someone lacks the capacity to meet you, analyzing the cliff won’t build a bridge. The Thorny Branch – Instead of studying the branch, gently unsnag your sweater without unraveling yourself. Healing isn’t about diagnosing others. It’s about reclaiming your positive beliefs of self. 2️⃣ Managing Triggers Is Outdated Traditional therapy often teaches clients to count backwards, hold ice, ground with five things in the room, and/or white-knuckle through activation. These tools aren’t wrong — but they’re not the end goal. Brain-based modalities (like EMDR, Brainspotting, EMDR 2.0, Flash Technique) work by targeting the memory networks that created the trigger in the first place. Instead of managing activation, you can decrease, neutralize it, eliminate it. That’s the difference between coping and healing.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, here's more ways to learn with Kambria! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/workwithkambria We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources     Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down why EMDR is not just a trauma therapy—and why so many women experience profound clarity, embodiment, and self-trust through this brain-based modality. Drawing from over a decade of clinical practice, Kambria shares the seven most powerful outcomes she sees when clients complete EMDR, especially for women navigating relationships, identity confusion, and chronic emotional exhaustion. Unlike talk therapy or CBT, EMDR works directly with the nervous system and unconscious memory networks, allowing insight to be felt in the body—not just understood cognitively. This episode explores how EMDR helps women stop chasing explanations, release responsibility for others’ behavior, and reclaim their positive beliefs of self around goodness, safety, control, and responsibility. Key Topics Covered - Why EMDR works beyond cognitive insight - The four core belief “buckets” targeted in EMDR Acceptance vs. “putting people where they belong” - Why understanding why someone hurt you isn’t healing - How EMDR restores embodied clarity and emotional neutrality - Weaponized competence and nervous-system exhaustion - Measuring outcomes by how secure you feel—not others’ behavior 7 Outcomes Women Experience After EMDR - Embodied clarity instead of mental analysis - Secure ownership of positive beliefs of self - Action-oriented identity and grounded decision-making - Clear reality testing without shared delusion - Freedom from emotional manipulation and over-functioning - No longer needing validation, approval, or proof - Only accepting outcomes that create felt safety and security Who This Episode Is For - Women curious about EMDR or brain-based therapy - Clients burned out on talk therapy - Therapists and clinicians wanting language for EMDR outcomes - Anyone seeking nervous-system clarity without over-processing   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources    Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. 

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans explores seven powerful reasons EMDR therapy offers hope—especially for women—during times of collective trauma, oppression, and nervous system overwhelm. Drawing from neuroscience, the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model, and years of clinical experience, Kambria dismantles outdated myths about EMDR being intense, retraumatizing, or purely trauma-focused. This episode reframes EMDR as a choice-centered, body-based, brain-based therapy that prioritizes safety, clarity, and empowerment. Kambria explains how EMDR helps clients intentionally rewire unconscious beliefs, neutralize trauma without reliving it, and embody positive beliefs of self that were never allowed to fully develop. Whether you’re considering EMDR, currently in therapy, or a clinician wanting a more ethical and flexible approach, this episode is a grounding reminder that healing does not require suffering.   🔑 Key Takeaways EMDR allows you to intentionally rewire what was unconsciously learned Trauma can be processed without retelling or reliving painful experiences EMDR does not have to start with the “worst” memory Positive targets and resourcing are essential, not optional The goal of EMDR is eliminating triggers—not managing them Neuroplasticity proves that nothing about you is permanent Your worst fears about yourself will not be confirmed through EMDR 🧠 Topics Covered Brain-based therapy & EMDR Trauma and the nervous system Adaptive Information Processing (AIP model) Neuroplasticity and healing Choice, control, and consent in therapy EMDR myths vs. reality Women, trauma, and clarity in distressing times   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources     Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.   

As we enter the start of a new year—and what many attorneys recognize as divorce consultation season—this episode speaks directly to women who are questioning whether their marriage still fits who they’ve become. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, EMDR therapist Kambria Evans shares 10 core truths she has observed over more than a decade of supporting women through separation, divorce, and identity reorganization. Using a nervous-system and brain-based lens, Kambria explains why outgrowing a relationship is often a sign of healing—not failure—and how chronic relational stress, shame dynamics, and emotional labor impact the body, attachment system, and sense of self. Rather than telling women what to do, this episode offers clarity, validation, and practical frameworks to help listeners understand what their nervous system has been communicating for a long time. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why outgrowing a partner is neurologically normal, especially when relationships began before full brain development How chronic shame dynamics prevent secure attachment and keep the nervous system in survival mode A simple three-bucket framework (supportive, neutral, sabotaging) to assess relationship impact on your nervous system Why explanations (trauma, stress, PTSD) do not excuse adult relational behavior How prolonged emotional regression can lead to a powerful post-divorce “slingshot” effect Why women are often conditioned to outsource safety—and how reclaiming it changes everything How staying in your integrity during divorce supports long-term nervous-system regulation Why divorce doesn’t need to be perfect—just completed A guided visualization to reconnect with your felt sense of what you want next Brain-Based Therapy Perspective This episode integrates principles commonly addressed in EMDR therapy and Brainspotting, including: How unresolved shame lives in the nervous system Why relational environments shape identity and self-concept How clarity emerges when the body is no longer in chronic threat response The role of felt sense, regulation, and internal safety in decision-making Who This Episode Is For Women contemplating divorce or already in the process Women experiencing chronic confusion, exhaustion, or emotional shutdown in marriage Therapists and clinicians interested in relational trauma and nervous-system outcomes Anyone curious about divorce through a brain-based, non-shaming lens    Want to take a deeper dive? Get on the waitlist for the Brain-based Divorce Kit! This course provides a brain-based, non-shaming approach to understanding divorce, relational change, and identity reorganization. Grounded in EMDR-informed and Brainspotting-aligned principles, it reframes outgrowing a marriage as a normal neurological response to healing rather than failure. Designed for women contemplating divorce, already in the process, or feeling emotionally exhausted or shut down in their marriage, this course offers insight, validation, and a clear path forward through a brain-based, compassionate lens. LINK HERE:  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/brain-based-divorce-waitlist  Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.    Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources     With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans continues the Why Women Go to Therapy series with a passionate, clinically grounded conversation about EMDR, readiness, and why so many people—especially women—are being incorrectly told they’re “not ready” for trauma processing. Kambria breaks down what EMDR is, how the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model works, and why strict adherence to “first and worst” traumatic targets—often emphasized in early training—can become limiting for both clinicians and clients. This episode honors the importance of EMDR basic training and standard protocol, which lays a crucial foundation for ethical, effective trauma work. At the same time, Kambria highlights how decades of clinical innovation within the EMDR framework have expanded options far beyond what was available in the 1980s—allowing therapists to work more flexibly, safely, and responsively. Kambria challenges the idea that EMDR must be intense or retraumatizing to be effective, and makes a compelling case for a rebrand of EMDR—one that emphasizes regulation, choice, and accessibility rather than fear or overwhelm. By starting with positive targets, mid-level disturbance, and nervous system capacity, EMDR can support clarity, agency, and healing for far more people. This episode is for women seeking clarity about their readiness for EMDR, clinicians who feel boxed in by rigid interpretations of protocol, and anyone curious about how EMDR can be used more ethically, flexibly, and effectively. What You’ll Learn in This Episode What EMDR really is (and what it isn’t) Why most people are ready for EMDR when it’s applied flexibly The difference between EMDR readiness and protocol rigidity Why respecting standard protocol and expanding options both matter How positive targets and low-level disturbance can be powerful entry points Why telling someone they’re “not ready” can be retraumatizing How EMDR supports clarity, power, and choice—not just trauma relief What questions to ask when interviewing an EMDR therapist Why women deserve more agency in their healing process Who This Episode Is For Women navigating divorce, loss, identity shifts, parenting, menopause, or societal pressure Clinicians trained in EMDR who feel constrained by standard protocol alone Therapists wanting to work ethically, responsibly, and flexibly within the EMDR framework Anyone curious about trauma, neuroscience, and healing beyond pathology Favorite Positive Targets Before Processing Negative Material Kambria shares several preferred positive and resourcing targets that can be used before engaging negative or high-disturbance material: Modified Resource Development Installation (RDI) – Janina Fisher (2001) Four Blinks – Tom Zimmerman Positive Affect Tolerance Protocol – Andrew Leeds 3 Figures – Laurel Parnell   If you’re a clinician and this episode resonates, I want you to know about a way to go deeper; The Lesson Plan is a simple, practical framework for assessing readiness and integrating EMDR without flooding clients. Learn more about The Lesson Plan and get 30% off for therapists! Lesson Plan sale link here: https://zerodisturbance.mykajabi.com/offers/zZFZiLaL/checkout Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.   

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore the relationship between time, learning, and healing — and why simply waiting for time to pass doesn’t resolve trauma. Through a fictional clinical story of a woman navigating post-separation co-parenting, we unpack how people can become “stuck in time,” how EMDR helps clarify the difference between then and now, and why healing is about intentionally creating new learning and memory networks. We also discuss symptom onset, internalized voices from early caregivers, and how EMDR (often combined with parts work) helps reduce the power of old authority figures living in our minds. This episode reframes trauma not as damage, but as learning — and highlights how expanding positive beliefs on purpose gives clients more choice, clarity, and agency in the present. Key Takeaways: Time alone doesn’t heal; learning determines whether we move forward People can be “stuck in time” without realizing it’s happening EMDR strengthens the nervous system’s distinction between then vs. now Symptoms are communication, not pathology Positive memory networks can be created intentionally Internalized voices from caregivers can be neutralized, not fought Trauma responses often contain strategies that can be repurposed Who This Episode Is For: Women healing from relational trauma or separation Therapists working with complex trauma and EMDR Clients who feel confused about why symptoms appeared “later” Clinicians wanting a clearer framework for time + learning If you’re a clinician and this episode resonates, I want you to know about a way to go deeper; The Lesson Plan is a simple, practical framework for assessing readiness and integrating EMDR without flooding clients. Learn more about The Lesson Plan and get 30% off for therapists! Lesson Plan sale link here: https://zerodisturbance.mykajabi.com/offers/zZFZiLaL/checkout    Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources     With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. 

Many people believe EMDR has to be intense, overwhelming, or focused on reliving trauma — but that belief is limiting access to one of the most powerful therapeutic tools we have. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we unpack why EMDR doesn’t have to start with the “worst memory,” how beginning with lower-intensity targets in phase 4 or even positive targets (also called resource development installation) in phase 2 can be just as effective to get started, and why framing EMDR solely as a trauma modality is scaring clients away. This conversation reframes EMDR as a way of mapping learning, expanding positive beliefs, and restoring agency, choice, and power — especially for clients with complex or chronic trauma histories. Whether you’re a therapist, a client, or both, this episode offers a gentler, more expansive way to understand what EMDR can actually do. Key Takeaways: EMDR doesn’t require starting with the most intense traumatic memory “Not being ready for EMDR” is often a clinical myth rooted in limited training Starting with lower-disturbance or positive targets helps the nervous system generalize healing Focusing only on traumatic content can remove client agency and increase overwhelm EMDR is about mapping learning — not reliving trauma Expanding positive beliefs can neutralize traumatic material without directly targeting it Giving clients choice, power, and control is itself reparative Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. If you’re a clinician and this episode resonates, I want you to know about a way to go deeper; The Lesson Plan is a simple, practical framework for assessing readiness and integrating EMDR without flooding clients. Learn more about The Lesson Plan and get 30% off for therapists! Lesson Plan sale link here: https://zerodisturbance.mykajabi.com/offers/zZFZiLaL/checkout   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources     With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. 

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we continue the series Why Women Go to Therapy by exploring a counterintuitive and often uncomfortable truth: women can be disrespectful to men by not allowing them to figure things out for themselves. We highlight how women, who statistically attend therapy at much higher rates and have been socially conditioned to be nurturers, often slip into mothering, over-functioning, and enabling male partners. This deprives men of the opportunity to develop the foundational belief “I can figure things out”—a belief essential for emotional maturity, accountability, and healthy relationship dynamics. Learn what really happens when women stop “figuring things out” for their partners—and why it’s one of the most empowering shifts you can make in a relationship. We’re calling listeners to step into a new framework: ✨ I can figure things out — and he can figure things out.From this place, women can stop managing, fixing, and rescuing, and instead shift toward clear expectations, self-responsibility, and relational self-respect. The episode encourages deeper reflection on enabling behaviors, misplaced responsibility, and the revolutionary possibility of holding men capable instead of helpless. 🎯 KEY TAKEAWAYS Women Are Often Over-Functioning in Relationships Because women attend therapy more frequently and are conditioned to be nurturers, they often take responsibility for emotional labor, change efforts, and “relationship management” that does not belong to them. When women step back, we reclaim our energy and clarity—honoring our boundaries and focusing on our own growth. The Real Disrespect: Not Allowing Men to Figure Things Out When women assume men can’t improve, regulate emotions, communicate, or take responsibility, they unintentionally infantilize them. This diminishes growth and creates inequitable relationships. When women step back, he shows who he really is—takes responsibility (or doesn’t), learns (or doesn’t), and reveals patterns. When the relationship shifts, and healthier dynamics emerge, we allow the truth about compatibility to become clear. The Most Powerful Belief: “I Can Figure Things Out” In EMDR and in life, this positive belief fosters internal safety, resilience, autonomy, and evolution. Equally important? Believing others — including men — can figure things out too.   Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.    Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode, we reframe the viral conversation about “the male loneliness epidemic,” arguing that the issue isn’t loneliness — it’s a lack of curiosity. Men are naming their feelings more openly (which is great), but many are stopping there. Instead of asking why women are distancing themselves or leaving relationships, many men blame women, double down on old power structures, or retreat into defensiveness. We break down why this is happening, how power dynamics influence curiosity, and why women do not need to step in and fix or teach anyone. The capacity to learn exists — but curiosity must be a chosen behavior, not outsourced emotional labor. ⭐ Key Takeaways This isn’t a “male loneliness epidemic”; it’s a “male curiosity epidemic.” The information men need has always been available. Women have historically been forced to track men for safety and connection. Men have not been required to study women in the same way. Some men are doubling down on tantrums, power, and control instead of learning. This is now showing natural consequences: disconnection and loneliness. Women are not responsible for teaching grown men emotional intelligence. Curiosity is a choice, and refusing it carries its own outcomes. Real connection requires respect, mutual curiosity, and shared responsibility. Without it, relationships become performative or imbalanced. Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this game-changing episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans continues the "Why Women Go to Therapy" series with a profound conversation on marriage, identity, and the transformative power of EMDR therapy. Drawing from over a decade of clinical experience, she explores how so many women enter marriage carrying generational programming, internalized shame, and false beliefs about what makes them "good" or "successful." In light of the recent Vogue article suggesting that “having a boyfriend is embarrassing now,” this episode offers a particularly timely lens for re-thinking relational norms. While the Vogue article highlights how in today’s culture many women are publicly distancing themselves from the traditional badge of “partner status”—and instead choosing identity, autonomy, and self-defined value, its time that divorce also got a rebrand.  Through the story of a fictional client, Betsy, we illustrate how therapy—especially EMDR—can bring clarity, reduce emotional disturbance, and empower women to reevaluate long-held narratives. We challenge the outdated stigma around divorce and offer a bold reframe: divorce, for many women, is not a failure—it's an act of self-respect. Listeners will hear an honest exploration of: - Why EMDR is so effective in helping women find clarity in relationships - The "branding of marriage" vs. the reality behind closed doors - Four essential belief buckets used in EMDR to assess relationship health - How societal and family programming creates inner conflict around leaving - Why Self-led decisions—grounded in worth, safety, and power—must guide our biggest life choices   Whether you're navigating a relationship, contemplating a major life shift, or supporting a friend through divorce, this episode offers deep insights and compassionate validation. Its important to remind us: clarity is healing, and choosing yourself is never something to be ashamed of.    Quote to Remember:  "Divorce, when chosen from a place of self-worth and clarity, is not a failure—it’s an act of self-respect."   The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode, we explore the four distinct phases of therapy—with a spotlight on the often-overlooked 4th phase that can transform your healing journey. Drawing from EMDR, Brainspotting, and somatic therapy, this conversation breaks down what most therapeutic models miss and offers a path forward for deeper healing, integration, and self-leadership. 🧠 Four Phases of Therapy: Phase One – The Call to Heal: A felt sense or internal voice tells you, “Something’s not right.” Could show up as symptoms like panic attacks, IBS, migraines, or emotional overwhelm. Your nervous system is asking for help. Phase Two – Naming What’s Happening: Identifying trauma, patterns, and beliefs. Going beyond content and symptoms to explore the underlying negative beliefs of self. Using frameworks like the EMDR Beliefs Inventory to understand "Am I safe?", "Am I good?" etc. Phase Three – Understanding with Clarity: Realizing the root causes and integrating new understandings. Acceptance that positive beliefs of self likely won’t come from parents, society, or partners. Many end therapy here—but there’s more. Phase Four – Building the Self-Led System: Actively cultivating and expanding positive beliefs of self. Working with brain-based therapies to create felt experiences of worth, safety, and power. This is the transformational, empowering phase often skipped. 🌱 Key Takeaways: You deserve all four phases—not just awareness and coping. Brain-based therapies like EMDR and Brainspotting can help lock in positive beliefs at a body level. You don’t have to stay stuck at “understanding.” You can build, reclaim, and expand into a fully actualized self.  Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast and our Why Women Go to Therapy series, we bust the myth of "dopamine addiction" and dive deep into the truth about what your nervous system is really trying to do. Through powerful storytelling, neuroscience-backed insight, and trauma-informed wisdom, we reframe the language around dopamine, addiction, trauma bonding, and self-soothing. If you’ve ever wondered why you feel "addicted" to love, validation, work, or chaos—this one’s for you. Key Takeaways: Dopamine is not "good" or "bad" — it's a chemical signal tied to positive feeling states, not addiction. The real issue isn't dopamine; it’s unmet needs for self-soothing and safety. Trauma and early experiences create subconscious associations your brain tries to repeat—even decades later. EMDR and Brainspotting can help rewire those associations with intention. Predators (like narcissists) exploit your biology, but that doesn’t mean it’s your fault. Society conditions women to fall for love-bombing and dysfunctional romance, and it’s time to unlearn that. You can build a self-soothing, self-led system—on purpose.   Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.    Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this transformative episode, we dive into one of the core reasons many women seek therapy: shame. But shame isn’t just about feeling bad — it’s a manipulative system that’s often internalized from childhood, society, media, and relationships. Through personal insight and fictional client stories, Kambria walks listeners through how to identify, dismantle, and reclaim power from the shame system using somatic therapies like EMDR and Brainspotting. This episode is both an invitation and a call to action for women to stop outsourcing their self-worth — and start building a new, Self-Led identity from the inside out. 💡 Key Takeaways: Shame is an internal system — not a reflection of truth You weren't born with it — it was programmed into you We often give others (exes, bosses, society) the power to “mirror” who we are — even when they’re not safe or accurate EMDR and Brainspotting help dismantle shame at the body level, not just cognitively Healing isn’t about changing them — it’s about reclaiming yourself Client stories show how freedom feels when shame stops working on you You can receive feedback without shame when you're Self-Led Listener Challenge: Take a moment to notice: Where am I still using an internalized shame system that was never mine to begin with? Then ask: What would it feel like to let that go? Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we share a powerful story from a beachside restaurant in Portugal — where a loud fire alarm went off, but no one responded. This moment becomes a striking metaphor for how women often experience internal and external “alarms” from trauma, anxiety, or smear campaigns — even when they’re no longer in danger. We explore how outdated nervous system responses (like panic, overthinking, or fear) often come from childhood survival strategies or abusive dynamics. Through therapy — particularly EMDR and Brainspotting — women can learn to recognize these false alarms, reclaim their power, and stop reacting to chaos that isn’t theirs to manage. We also break down how narcissistic abuse and smear campaigns are designed to trigger alarm responses — and how women can stay grounded, neutral, and empowered in the face of that noise. Key Takeaways: Not every alarm means danger — pause, assess, and trust your clarity. Trauma can be rewired — your nervous system can learn a new way to respond. Smear campaigns are strategy, not truth — and often reveal more about the abuser. You don’t need to fight the noise — you can live fully despite it. Keep dancing, even when the alarm goes off.   Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

On the Zero Disturbance Podcast, in this episode of our Why Women Go to Therapy series, we’re diving into a topic that’s close to my heart — and one that might ruffle a few feathers: Why EMDR is dangerous. Now before you panic, we’re not saying EMDR is harmful — quite the opposite. EMDR is dangerous because it works. It’s powerful. It has the ability to align you with your positive beliefs of self, and when that happens, everything around you begins to shift. Your relationships, your job, your choices, your entire system — they all get shaken up. And that can feel really unsettling… but it’s also where true healing begins. Let’s talk about how EMDR contains a value system, even if it’s not named as such — a system rooted in beliefs like “I am safe,” “I have choices,” “I am worthy.” These aren’t just affirmations — they become embodied truths through the process. And as women, we’ve been conditioned to live disconnected from those truths. We also touch on real-world reasons why EMDR can be considered “dangerous” in our society: Women in legal proceedings (like assault cases) are often told not to fully heal so they can appear more “credible” in court. Clinicians are sometimes told to avoid EMDR with clients who dissociate — even though dissociation is often happening anyway. Pregnant women are discouraged from doing EMDR, as if their healing is somehow risky — when in fact, it's often exactly what they need most. But the biggest danger? The most exciting one? It’s that EMDR gives women clarity. Clarity that they are powerful. That they are enough. That they don’t have to stay in systems that don't serve them. And once you have that kind of clarity, you can’t unsee it. You start living differently — and that can feel disruptive, even terrifying. But it’s also liberating. We wrap up with a few powerful reflection questions Kambria loves to ask herself and her clients: Am I making this choice from a positive belief of self? Why not? (to check for internalized programming) Why is this right on time? (to reclaim power in difficult moments) This episode is for clinicians, for women in therapy, and for anyone ready to see themselves clearly and step fully into their self-led energy. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of Zero Disturbance, we challenge the obsession with analyzing narcissists—especially in the wake of narcissism going viral on social media. Drawing from extensive work with female clients recovering from narcissistic abuse, Kambria Evans offers a liberating message: stop trying to understand the narcissist and start reclaiming your own life. We explore how women often stay stuck in mental loops trying to dissect their partner’s behavior, history, or trauma in search of closure. But instead of answers, this rumination prolongs their pain and reinforces an unequal, trauma-informed framework. We emphasize that healthy, empathetic brains will never fully comprehend the narcissistic experience—and they don’t need to. This episode dives deep into:  - The emotional trap of trying to "figure out" narcissists - How empathy is weaponized to keep women stuck in unhealthy dynamics - Why giving any attention (even negative) keeps you energetically connected to the abuse - The need to shift focus from the narcissist’s dysfunction to your own healing and power - How EMDR therapy can help women reclaim positive beliefs of self - A bold call to stop blaming survivors with language like “trauma bonding” We also zoom out to connect narcissism with broader systemic issues like patriarchy, showing how women's trauma is often socially reinforced. This episode isn’t just about healing—it's about waking up, taking back your narrative, and creating a future where therapy isn't always about recovering from trauma, but about thriving in your wholeness. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In the 100th episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore the viral “We Do Not Care Club” created by Melani Sanders — a humorous and healing movement that’s resonating deeply with women everywhere. Through an EMDR lens, we break down why this message feels so good in the body, especially for women navigating burnout, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and midlife transitions like perimenopause and menopause. We learn how EMDR therapy helps clients move from negative self-beliefs (“I have to be perfect,” “It’s my fault”) to deep somatic neutrality — the kind of empowered calm that fuels true healing and lasting transformation. We also unpack how society’s expectations, gendered emotional labor, and unspoken pressures on women intersect with hormonal shifts, and why so many women are finally saying: We do not care. Whether you're deep in midlife or just beginning to question the stories you’ve been told, this episode offers education, validation, and a call to reclaim your own nervous system and voice — one belief at a time.This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we dive into a transformational topic: women and urges—and how honoring our body's messages can radically shift how we live, love, and lead. We explore why so many women are disconnected from their intuition, bodies, and desires, often due to lifelong social conditioning, trauma, and internalized shame. Through the lens of EMDR therapy and somatic healing, Kambria Evans shares how recognizing and following a “full-body yes” (and saying no to a “full-body no”) can become a revolutionary act of self-love. Key topics include: The importance of somatic awareness and listening to your body's urges How EMDR therapy can help process and play out suppressed parts safely The role of trauma, societal programming, and patriarchal norms in urge repression Why midlife can spark a crisis—or awakening—of long-ignored parts of self The difference between reactive choices and intentional decisions around urges How urge exploration can reduce burnout, autoimmune issues, and chronic stress A step-by-step invitation for therapists and non-therapists to practice urge awareness Whether you're a therapist, a woman in midlife, or someone exploring deeper emotional work, this episode will validate your inner knowing and help you return to the wisdom of your body. Your urges aren’t problems—they're messages. What happens if you actually listen? The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore why so many women come to therapy feeling confused, responsible for others, and disconnected from their inner guidance system. The focus? Two of the most misunderstood emotions in healing work: anger and disgust. Drawing from experience in EMDR and Brainspotting, we discuss how women are socialized to suppress anger and collapse into sadness—ultimately cutting themselves off from their internal safety systems. But when anger is reframed as action energy, and disgust as the clarity to distance from harm, everything changes. This is especially true when leaving narcissistic, abusive relationships. This episode covers: Why anger is essential for trauma recovery and boundary setting How disgust helps women see unsafe, narcissistic people and systems clearly What it means to be Self-led and own your positive core beliefs The impact of patriarchal programming on emotional expression How therapists can help women reclaim emotional safety and power Whether you're a therapist, survivor, or someone doing deep inner work, this episode will challenge old narratives and offer a transformative framework for healing. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.    With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this thought-provoking episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we continue on our empowering series, Why Women Go to Therapy, by diving deep into the transformative concept of parts work. Listen as we unpack how women develop internal “parts” throughout their lives—often in response to external pressures, trauma, or survival needs—and how these parts, though created with good intentions, can become outdated and energy-draining over time. Using relatable metaphors, personal stories, and clinical insight, we highlight how understanding and honoring these parts can free women from perfectionism, caretaking burnout, body shame, and more. Drawing from modalities like Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, and Brainspotting to explain how therapy helps women reclaim their energy, re-author old narratives, and reconnect with their authentic Self—free from internalized societal messaging.   Key Takeaways Women develop different “parts” over time—coping mechanisms shaped by experiences, trauma, and social conditioning. These parts aren’t bad; they were created to help—but many are now outdated and draining. You have the power to identify, reassign, or retire these parts—like a CEO managing a team. Much of what feels like your inner voice is actually internalized messaging from society, not your true Self. Therapy helps you separate who you really are from the parts you’ve had to become. Modalities like EMDR, IFS, and Brainspotting help access, heal, and integrate parts. You are not your anxiety or depression—you have parts that feel anxious or depressed. Rewriting these inner narratives brings clarity, freedom, and energy back to your system! The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.  

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we dive deep into the transformative world of Brainspotting—a brain-based, somatic therapy that helps access and heal trauma, especially the kind stored before we even had language. Kambria shares her surprising journey from EMDR skeptic to Brainspotting advocate, explaining how this technique—developed by Dr. David Grand—uses eye position to access “trauma spots” and “resource spots” in the brain. Through personal insight, clinical expertise, and rich storytelling, we outline why brainspotting can be especially profound for women navigating complex trauma, patriarchal programming, and early childhood wounds. What You’ll Learn: 1) The difference between EMDR and Brainspotting 2) How Brainspotting reaches preverbal memory networks 3) Why talk therapy may be “speaking gibberish” to younger parts of self 4) The profound shifts we experience personally through Brainspotting 5) Why combining EMDR + Brainspotting is a game-changer for therapists and clients alike If you’ve ever felt stuck in therapy, overwhelmed by the pace of healing, or disconnected from your body’s wisdom—this episode is your invitation to explore something radically different! The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.  

In this episode, we explore why EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is particularly powerful for women and how it serves not just as a healing tool, but as a form of personal and social revolution. Discussion on how EMDR helps clients target not only trauma and disturbing memories but also deeply embedded societal programming around safety, power, control, and worth. For women, many of these beliefs are tied to patriarchal, narcissistic structures that have historically denied them autonomy and value. EMDR offers a path to reclaim those beliefs by helping women internalize new, positive narratives in both mind and body. Key themes include: 1) Why traditional diagnoses like anxiety and depression often miss the bigger picture: these symptoms may be responses to oppressive environments, not personal defects. 2) How brain-based therapies like EMDR and Brainspotting work differently than talk therapy by including body-based processing and belief reprogramming. 3) The impact of generational trauma: many women carry survival strategies taught by mothers and grandmothers who lived with fewer rights and opportunities. 4) The feminist and activist lens of EMDR: reprogramming beliefs like “I am safe” or “I have power” is a radical act in a society that often withholds those truths from women. 5) Empowerment beyond trauma: Women aren’t just healing pain—they’re expanding into strength, clarity, and agency.  The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.    With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Have you ever asked yourself, “Am I good enough?” If so, you’re not alone. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we deep dive into this question, exploring how so many women struggle with self-doubt and the journey to reclaim their inherent worth. Every woman is born with her own unique goodness, and that worth is non-negotiable. Despite the external pressures, criticisms, and messages we encounter throughout life, our value remains constant. In this empowering episode, Kambria challenges the idea of seeking validation from others and instead encourages us to embrace our own value system—one that is free from societal standards and rooted in our true selves. We explore how many of these feelings of inadequacy are formed early in life—often before we’re five years old—and how they can be reprogrammed through therapy. Releasing the need to prove our worth and embracing self-compassion allows us to heal from feelings of shame and inadequacy. The core message? Your goodness belongs to you, and always has. Anyone who tries to confuse that is trying to control or objectify you. We hope to inspire listeners to build their own value systems, one that’s grounded in their true selves and impervious to the judgment of others. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt or felt like you were never enough, this episode is packed with powerful insights on how to move past those limiting beliefs and confidently live in your truth.   The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   What You’ll Learn: 1. The therapeutic journey of reclaiming your inherent goodness and understanding how external influences have shaped the way women perceive themselves. 2. How every woman is born with her own inherent goodness. Despite the pressures and messages, we receive throughout life, our worth is non-negotiable and always belongs to us. 3. Women are often conditioned to seek validation and approval from others, but it's essential to embrace our own value system, rather than relying on someone else's standards of "good enough." 4. How early negative beliefs about goodness are formed, and how these beliefs can be reprogrammed through therapy to help women move past feelings of shame, defectiveness, and inadequacy. 5. The power of surrender—letting go of the need to prove our worth and choosing instead to embrace our goodness and self-worth as we are. 6. How to build our own value system, rooted in their true selves, which helps us develop a strong sense of self that is impervious to external judgment.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.  With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Ever felt like you’re giving so much to others that you forget to take care of you? You're not alone. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance podcast, Kambria Evans shines a light on why so many women seek therapy—and it’s not because something’s “wrong” with us. It’s because we’ve been conditioned to ignore our own internal signals for far too long. In this eye-opening conversation, come learn why women often feel disconnected from our emotions, bodies, and true selves. From a young age, we’re taught to prioritize external validation and caregiving, leading us to lose touch with our inner needs and desires. This can leave us feeling out of sync with our own power, even as we continue to give to others. But here’s the truth: women's therapy shouldn't be about fixing an internal problem —it’s about reconnecting with our inner wisdom. We call for an updated approach to women's therapy—one that goes beyond the traditional labels and diagnoses. Instead, it’s all about tuning into your body, emotions, and intuition to rebuild trust in yourself. This isn’t just theory—it’s a call to action. This approach empowers women to trust their inner safety systems, make decisions that honor their well-being, and live in alignment with their truest selves. So, if you’re ready to hear how therapy can be the ultimate tool for self-empowerment, check out this game-changing episode. The insight will inspire you to reconnect with the most important person in your life: YOU. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.   What You’ll Learn: 1. The foundational reasons why women seek therapy, emphasizing the importance of internal safety systems, self-attachment, and emotional connection. 2. How women are often taught from an early age to focus on external validation and caregiving, which can lead to a disconnection from their own internal needs, emotions, and bodies. 3. Women eventually come to therapy seeking to understand who they truly are and what their purpose is—questions that should ideally be explored throughout their lives but are often neglected due to societal conditioning. 4. It's time for an updated approach to women's therapy, one that goes beyond traditional diagnoses like those found in the DSM, which often pathologize emotions and experiences instead of seeing them as important information. 5. Therapists, it's your job to help women reconnect with their internal safety systems—tuning into their emotions, body sensations, and intuitive responses. These connections, when nurtured, empower women to trust their inner wisdom and make decisions that prioritize their well-being, safety, and peace. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.     With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

The true definition (and outcomes) of depression goes far beyond what we typically think of: someone pulling away from loved ones, extreme sadness, maybe even feeling suicidal. But the truth is that depression is often a symptom of trauma, and can manifest in individuals in so many different ways. It may be a collapse after extreme anxiety that we may not even notice because we’ve normalized living life at a high cadence. When we crash into depression, we may feel safe because we learned that there’s safety in that. However, we may not recognize this initially because that learning happened in a pre-verbal stage, before we can even remember. Because we want to rewrite what we’ve learned and decided so we can feel better, because we want to heal from past trauma, EMDR is an amazing therapeutic option for people who suffer from depression and hopelessness. This week on the podcast, I’m sharing what happens in our bodies and minds when we experience early trauma, why depression and anxiety are so linked, why there might be a medical reason for some depression, and how depression can actually feel safe for some of us. There are so many options available for people who feel depressed, especially in the winter months. EMDR is just one of the tools that can help. I urge anyone who feels an overwhelming sense of helplessness and withdrawal to seek out professional help.   When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Thanks to Gabor Maté, we know that trauma isn’t just something that happens; it’s something that happens inside of you. So when something happens to us (or doesn’t happen, like in an omission of care) and we feel anxiety, that anxiety is a result of trauma. Anxiety can come from so many things, like overextending ourselves and trying to do too much, divorce, job loss, and even things that some might perceive as positive experiences like an upcoming social event, wedding, or vacation. And often we feel this way not because we are anxious people, but because our relationship with anxiety has been wired a certain way. And we know that neuroplasticity allows us to rewire our relationship with emotions, sense of self and identity. How cool is that? When we can expand the definition of anxiety outside of what the DSM and the American Psychological Association tell us it is, we can start to see the value of EMDR treatment for people who experience anxiety. This is a beautiful thing. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance podcast, I’m talking about what anxiety and trauma actually are, and why professional associations in the psychological space need to expand their official definitions so that more people can easily access the support and treatment they need. And I’m sharing why EMDR is a great choice for people who have experienced anxiety or who have been told they “have anxiety.” This is especially important so we can create more hope for people so they don’t think they have to “have anxiety” forever, as part of who they are. When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

  Forgiveness in therapy is a complex and often misunderstood concept. Many clients have been pressured to forgive their abusers or "just let it go," but this approach can be harmful and retraumatizing. True healing comes from understanding that what happened wasn't your fault, processing your emotions safely, and rebuilding trust in yourself. I've seen how EMDR can help desensitize traumatic memories without forcing forgiveness. The body stores trauma, making it impossible to simply forget. Instead, we work to integrate experiences in a way that allows us to feel safe and empowered again. This episode explores alternatives to the "forgive and forget" narrative that respect your healing journey. We'll discuss how to honor your anger as a protective force, forgive the parts of yourself that feel blame or shame, and reclaim your sense of safety and trust. Your only job in therapy is to reconnect with yourself and your inherent worth. And this message is for both individuals in therapy and their therapists.Join me as we dive into this important topic and empower both therapists and clients to approach trauma healing with compassion, understanding and respect for each individual's process. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos!  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Traditional therapy often focuses on measuring changes in behaviors and emotions. While valuable, this approach may overlook some important aspects of the healing process. As an EMDR therapist, I've discovered a powerful metric that can transform how we set goals and assess progress in therapy: process outcomes. Process outcomes measure how easy, efficient, or effective it is to implement positive changes. For EMDR clients, this could mean tracking how quickly they can access coping strategies or how much emotional distress they experience when facing triggers. By focusing on these metrics, we gain a more nuanced understanding of therapeutic progress. This week, I’m sharing my "secret sauce" for goal-setting and assessment in EMDR therapy. You'll learn how decreasing disturbances in the body can lead to effortless behavioral changes and free up energy for personal growth. And we'll explore the power of neutralizing negative experiences and expanding positive resources. For therapists, this episode offers fresh perspectives on treatment planning and client progress. For therapy clients, it provides insights into what's possible with EMDR and how to advocate for a more comprehensive approach to your healing journey. Tune in to discover how EMDR and other brain-based therapies are changing the therapeutic process, offering faster, more efficient paths to lasting change. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos!  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Safety in therapy is a complex and evolving concept. As therapists and clients, we're constantly learning and adapting our understanding of what creates true safety in the therapeutic process. This week on the podcast, we explore the nuances of safety in EMDR, Brainspotting and beyond, challenging some common assumptions and opening up new possibilities for healing. Our perceptions of safety can shift over time, both in immediate situations and in retrospect. My own certainly have. From first hearing about EMDR and Brainspotting (and discounting them), to now specializing in EMDR and training other therapists in the practice. For therapists, this means constantly reevaluating our approaches and being open to new modalities that may offer deeper healing for our clients like I did. For clients, it involves recognizing and honoring your own experiences of safety and empowerment in the therapeutic journey. The conversation has recently expanded to include emerging therapies like psychedelic-assisted treatments, despite no mention of so-called “alternative” therapies during therapy training. I invite you to approach these topics with curiosity and critical thinking rather than immediate judgment. We need to discuss the importance of ongoing education and personal experience in forming well-informed opinions about therapeutic approaches. In fact, I’m so committed to growth as a clinician and as a therapy client that I’ve started a year-long training in psychedelic-assisted treatments so I can speak more on the topic. Something I never would have imagined even just a few years ago. This episode challenges both therapists and clients to examine their preconceptions about safety in therapy and to remain open to new possibilities for healing. By leaning into a spirit of continuous learning and exploration, we can create more empowering and effective therapeutic experiences. Whether you're a seasoned EMDR practitioner, a therapy client, or simply interested in the future of mental health treatment, this episode offers valuable insights into creating true safety and facilitating deeper healing in therapy. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

EMDR therapy is a powerful path to healing, but many misconceptions persist about it—from medical professionals, therapists, and others. As an EMDR consultant with over ten thousand hours of sessions under my belt, I've witnessed firsthand how this brain-based therapy can transform lives when applied thoughtfully. Traditional talk therapy absolutely has its place, providing a safe space for clients to explore their narratives and build coping skills. However, EMDR takes healing to the next level by directly rewiring neural pathways associated with distressing memories and beliefs. This accelerated approach can lead to faster, more profound changes than talk therapy alone. One common myth that we need to bust is that EMDR is only suitable for severe trauma or that clients need extensive preparation before beginning. But the reality is that EMDR can be tailored to address a wide range of issues, from minor anxieties to complex PTSD. And by starting with less distressing memories and gradually building up, therapists can help clients experience the benefits of EMDR without overwhelm. This week on the podcast, I'll break down the various approaches within EMDR therapy, including standard protocol, addiction-focused techniques, and newer innovations. I'll explain how these different methods can be customized to meet each client's unique needs and comfort level. Whether you're a therapist looking to expand your toolkit or a client seeking more empowering treatment options, this discussion will equip you with the knowledge to make informed decisions about incorporating EMDR into your healing journey. This versatile, brain-based approach truly can accelerate progress and help to create lasting positive change. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook (+ supporting videos)! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Changing behavior, especially when it comes to addictive or compulsive patterns, is often misunderstood and oversimplified. Many therapists and rehab programs focus solely on modifying beliefs and behaviors, overlooking vital elements in our neurological programming. This approach can lead to frustration, repeated relapses, and unnecessary shame for those struggling to make lasting changes. This week on the podcast, we’re taking a look at a more comprehensive, brain-based perspective on behavior change. We'll discuss why traditional methods fall short and how modalities like EMDR can address the root causes of compulsive behaviors by working with our body's programming at a deeper level. Whether you're someone seeking more effective ways to create positive change in your life or a therapist looking to enhance your practice or, this conversation offers valuable insights into the complexities of human behavior and the potential for true transformation. Discover how understanding the full "code" behind our actions—including images, emotions, body sensations, urges, positive feeling states, and early life experiences—can lead to more successful and sustainable change. We'll challenge common misconceptions about willpower and addiction, and offer a compassionate, science-based approach to reprogramming unwanted patterns. This episode provides eye-opening information for both mental health professionals and individuals on their personal growth journey. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on behavior change that goes beyond simplistic advice and taps into the power of our neurological wiring. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook (+ supporting videos)! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

While many therapists identify as "trauma-informed" or "attachment-informed," these labels should be a given for any effective therapist. How so? Because any therapy work is attachment work. The reality is that we've all been shaped by our early experiences and relationships, creating programming that influences how we view ourselves and interact with others. Understanding attachment styles - secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized - offers valuable insight into relationship patterns. However, simply labeling someone's attachment style isn't enough. The key is uncovering the specific beliefs, adaptations, and coping mechanisms developed in childhood that still drive behavior today. This week, we explore creative ways people seek attachment and connection, from "show and tell" behaviors to dramatic outbursts. It also examines how we internalize beliefs about our worth and lovability, and the importance of developing our own secure internal "mirror" rather than constantly seeking validation from others. By recognizing these attachment dynamics in ourselves and our relationships, we can start to rewire old programming and develop healthier ways of connecting. EMDR offers an effective path for installing positive beliefs at a deep level, allowing true change and growth. Tune in to learn more about attachment, trauma, and the journey toward secure connection, both as a therapist supporting clients along this path and as a therapy client. This episode provides valuable perspectives for both therapists and clients seeking to create more fulfilling relationships and lives.   The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Mentioned in This Episode: The Client Workbook (+supporting videos) Dumb Things Therapists Say series Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook (+supporting videos)! We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Therapists often make an artificial distinction between addressing trauma in therapy and utilizing coaching for personal growth. Making this separation can limit the full potential of therapy and leave clients feeling prematurely "graduated" before they've had a chance to truly thrive. In reality, our brains are constantly running multiple "programs," both positive and negative, that shape our experiences and behaviors. EMDR and Brainspotting recognize this duality, working to desensitize disturbing memories while simultaneously strengthening positive resources and beliefs. These modalities don't just aim for the absence of symptoms, but for genuine expansion and empowerment. This episode challenges the notion that therapy should focus solely on resolving "mental illness" before handing clients off to coaches. Instead, it advocates for a more holistic approach that helps people not only heal from past traumas, but also build resilience, enhance performance, and create positive future templates. Listen in to explore how understanding these dual "programs" can shed light on complex relationship dynamics, particularly with narcissistic individuals. By recognizing the conflicting messages we receive and internalize, we can better navigate confusing situations and reclaim our power in the healing process. Whether you're a therapist looking to expand your toolkit or a client seeking to maximize your therapeutic journey, this episode offers valuable insights into the interconnected nature of trauma work and personal growth.   The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? You won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook!  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

The world of therapy is changing, and it's time to challenge the status quo. And I’m here to share why some of the most common diagnoses in the DSM, such as anxiety, depression, addiction, body dysmorphia, and PTSD, are not only limiting but can actually cause harm to both clients and therapists. By exploring the concept of "programming" and how our early experiences shape our beliefs, behaviors, and emotional responses, I’m offering a fresh (and maybe a little controversial) perspective on mental health diagnoses. I don’t believe that we’re defined by our diagnoses but that we’re a product of our coding, which starts at birth. When the collective “we” understand this, therapy clients can break free from limiting labels and reprogram ourselves for a more empowered future. And therapists can truly support their clients in the way they deserve. This episode provides practical tools for both therapists and clients to enhance their therapeutic journey and move beyond labels. And you’ll gain insights that will help you to understand the complexity of the human experience and how EMDR-informed therapy can create lasting change. If you've ever felt stuck or defined by your diagnosis, or watched a client struggle, this episode offers a path forward. Discover the power of reprogramming your mind and unlocking your true potential. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook!  We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle. With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

The new year is often a time for goal-setting and resolution-making, but so many people struggle with following through over the next 12 months. That’s not true for those who are using EMDR in their treatment. Why? Because the foundation of EMDR is about desensitizing disturbance of what happened in the past, what’s happening in the present, and creating a bridge into the future to feel calmer and more resourced. That’s how true change occurs. We don’t have to sit in discomfort for too long. EMDR can help us to create the future we want and deserve. This week on the podcast, I’m walking through the phases of EMDR and what that looks like in rewiring our brains for a fresh start in the new year. As so many try with resolutions, we can’t just let go of things and stop doing things; we have to desensitize and create new pathways, replacing an unwanted behavior with something else. EMDR is how we can do that. Listen in this week to hear more.   When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Mentioned in This Episode: * Laurel Parnell, PhD * Belief Inventory Guide   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.  Therapists, access our favorite free resources in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, full of free videos and downloads to help you develop your clinical reasoning skills, as well as ways to feel like an intentional designer of high-value offerings like intensives and passive income. Use these free resources to make the seemingly impossible feel absolutely accessible!   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. Need help with bilateral stimulation? I use TouchPoint for myself, my kids, and in my practice. They’re both affordable and discreet! Shop here and use the coupon code ZERODISTURBANCE for 12% off. Disclosure: Some of the links provided are affiliate links. If you choose to make a purchase through these links, I may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. This helps support my work.

When there’s a loss like the death of a loved one, there’s a cultural acknowledgement of that loss that gives us the time and space to grieve and to heal. But we experience grief in so many other situations, outside of death. Grief is something that helps us to process changes, like the death of an idea of the life we thought we’d have. We can never fully imagine how change and grief hits us because of illness, a move, or job loss. Life changes all the time and we often grieve those changes. But we don’t get the same response from the world around us as we do when someone passes away. This week, I’m sharing how we all go through the traditional grief cycle during times of change. I want to illuminate the grief cycle and help you to feel like what you’re experiencing is totally normal. I get it. I’ve been there. Let’s embrace EMDR to help process grief, in whatever form it finds us, and help to speed up the process of integration to create neutrality in our bodies. Listen in this week, and be sure to share the episode with someone who might need it to understand themselves and hear some comforting words of reassurance. When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Mentioned in This Episode: * On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, MD * Learn more about Lisa Larson Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.  Therapists, access our favorite free resources in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, full of free videos and downloads to help you develop your clinical reasoning skills, as well as ways to feel like an intentional designer of high-value offerings like intensives and passive income. Use these free resources to make the seemingly impossible feel absolutely accessible!   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. Need help with bilateral stimulation? I use TouchPoint for myself, my kids, and in my practice. They’re both affordable and discreet! Shop here and use the coupon code ZERODISTURBANCE for 12% off. Disclosure: Some of the links provided are affiliate links. If you choose to make a purchase through these links, I may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. This helps support my work.

We all know someone who has anger “problems,” but I believe that there’s a different conversation we need to have about anger. Anger is a feeling, not a problem, and it’s not bad unless expressed in a way that’s disproportionate to what’s happening. But not expressing enough anger is an even bigger problem than too much anger. Let me convince you why. Anger is a biologically-programmed survival response. However, society’s curriculum often tells us to repress it, specifically telling women that we can’t express our anger because it’s not ladylike or proper. The reality is that we can’t remove an emotion that’s attached to a survival response. Instead, we need to learn how to work with it. This week on the podcast, we’re talking about anger and why we need to change our thinking about its value in our lives. I’m sharing how we’re missing the point of anger, how repressing it in our children directly impacts their safety, and how the #MeToo movement has helped to shine a light on the need for appropriate anger responses attached to justice and protection. We’ve done such a disservice to everyone who feels anger as a trauma response, and it’s time that anger gets rebranded as something that helps support our wellbeing. Listen in to this important conversation about something we all experience in our lives.   When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance Get on the waiting list for our client workbook, coming soon!  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.  Therapists, access our favorite free resources in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, full of free videos and downloads to help you develop your clinical reasoning skills, as well as ways to feel like an intentional designer of high-value offerings like intensives and passive income. Use these free resources to make the seemingly impossible feel absolutely accessible!   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. Need help with bilateral stimulation? I use TouchPoint for myself, my kids, and in my practice. They’re both affordable and discreet! Shop here and use the coupon code ZERODISTURBANCE for 12% off. Disclosure: Some of the links provided are affiliate links. If you choose to make a purchase through these links, I may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. This helps support my work. Thank you for your understanding and support!

  We all have a relationship with something that’s helping us to feel a certain way, full and in control, empowered and attached. But we’ve been given so many different curricula around what we’re supposed to look and feel like, we’re using behaviors like food restriction or binging and purging in an effort to feel a certain way. Disordered eating isn’t a term I love, but it’s what’s used in mainstream culture. It’s a relationship, and not a healthy one. So when a therapy client is looking for support around disordered eating, it’s important for the therapist to get really curious about that relationship and where it manifested. Using EMDR and other brain-based modalities to help with disordered eating can help someone to look deep at the somatic sensation someone is feeling as a result of eating or food restriction. This week on the podcast, I’m sharing how our early attachments to our caregivers can impact binging or overeating, why cultural curriculum about food can be so harmful, and why there is so much complexity around disordered eating. This is such a nuanced and powerful topic, and I encourage you to approach it with curiosity and an open mind. When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Get on the waiting list for our client workbook, coming soon! Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.  Therapists, access our favorite free resources in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, full of free videos and downloads to help you develop your clinical reasoning skills, as well as ways to feel like an intentional designer of high-value offerings like intensives and passive income. Use these free resources to make the seemingly impossible feel absolutely accessible!   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. Need help with bilateral stimulation? I use TouchPoint for myself, my kids, and in my practice. They’re both affordable and discreet! Shop here and use the coupon code ZERODISTURBANCE for 12% off.   Disclosure: Some of the links provided are affiliate links. If you choose to make a purchase through these links, I may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. This helps support my work. Thank you for your understanding and support!

When someone seeks treatment for addiction, the truth is that we’re not actually treating the addiction; we’re treating the brain’s associations with the behavior that feels addictive. We’re delinking the positive feelings someone has with things like alcohol, compulsive shopping, smoking, gambling, and binge eating,, and looking for alternative ways for the person to have those same positive feelings. Essentially, we’re desensitizing the positive (addictive) behavior. When working with clients in my own practice and when consulting with other therapists, I use Robert Miller’s Feeling-State Protocol. And this week on the podcast, I’m sharing what that protocol looks like and how the questions help in the desensitization process. The benefit of using EMDR and other brain-based modalities in addiction is that we get to open our minds to the ways we can rewire our brain that are respectful and protective of our younger parts. There’s no benefit to shaming, as sometimes happens in 12-step and other recovery avenues. There are so many ways to support yourself and others in addiction; listen in this week to hear how EMDR can help. When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Mentioned in this episode: Tapping In: A Step-by-Step Guide to Activating Your Healing Resources Through Bilateral Stimulation by Laurel Parnell, PhD Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Get on the waiting list for our client workbook, coming soon! Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, full of free videos and downloads to help you develop your clinical reasoning skills, as well as ways to feel like an intentional designer of high-value offerings like intensives and passive income. Use these free resources to make the seemingly impossible feel absolutely accessible!   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. Need help with bilateral stimulation? I use TouchPoint for myself, my kids, and in my practice. They’re both affordable and discreet! Shop here and use the coupon code ZERODISTURBANCE for 12% off. Disclosure: Some of the links provided are affiliate links. If you choose to make a purchase through these links, I may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. This helps support my work. Thank you for your understanding and support!

The holiday season can be incredibly stressful and triggering for many reasons, from trying to defy our natural inclination to hibernate in the winter, to how our brains link to challenging events from all the holidays that came before. But you don’t have to dread the holidays or family get-togethers, if you can understand where your feelings come from and how to work through them. We store so many memories in our bodies; some of these memories we know and remember, but others happened before we can remember or realize that they were traumatic. Things like a parent not speaking up when another parent was drunk, changing schools, not being comforted when you were upset, being spanked, and more. We can understand the whole of these many moments as part of attachment trauma. And when we see television shows, social media posts and advertisements about what a holiday should look and feel like, we feel like there’s something wrong with us or our families. One solution is working on that attachment trauma with attachment-focused EMDR to help our nervous system desensitize those memories so you don’t have to go into the holidays already lit up with anxiety. This week on the podcast, I’m sharing more about what this looks like in practice and why EMDR can help us develop a relational mirror to help us better understand ourselves. When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Get on the waiting list for our client workbook, coming soon!  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, full of free videos and downloads to help you develop your clinical reasoning skills, as well as ways to feel like an intentional designer of high-value offerings like intensives and passive income. Use these free resources to make the seemingly impossible feel absolutely accessible!   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. Need help with bilateral stimulation? I use TouchPoint for myself, my kids, and in my practice. They’re both affordable and discreet! Shop here and use the coupon code ZERODISTURBANCE for 12% off. (I may receive compensation for the sale.)

The true definition (and outcomes) of depression goes far beyond what we typically think of: someone pulling away from loved ones, extreme sadness, maybe even feeling suicidal. But the truth is that depression is often a symptom of trauma, and can manifest in individuals in so many different ways. It may be a collapse after extreme anxiety that we may not even notice because we’ve normalized living life at a high cadence. When we crash into depression, we may feel safe because we learned that there’s safety in that. However, we may not recognize this initially because that learning happened in a pre-verbal stage, before we can even remember. Because we want to rewrite what we’ve learned and decided so we can feel better, because we want to heal from past trauma, EMDR is an amazing therapeutic option for people who suffer from depression and hopelessness. This week on the podcast, I’m sharing what happens in our bodies and minds when we experience early trauma, why depression and anxiety are so linked, why there might be a medical reason for some depression, and how depression can actually feel safe for some of us. There are so many options available for people who feel depressed, especially in the winter months. EMDR is just one of the tools that can help. I urge anyone who feels an overwhelming sense of helplessness and withdrawal to seek out professional help.   When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care.   Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, full of free videos and downloads to help you develop your clinical reasoning skills, as well as ways to feel like an intentional designer of high-value offerings like intensives and passive income. Use these free resources to make the seemingly impossible feel absolutely accessible!   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.   Need help with bilateral stimulation? I use TouchPoint for myself, my kids, and in my practice. They’re both affordable and discreet! Shop here and use the coupon code ZERODISTURBANCE for 12% off. (I may receive compensation for the sale.)