How to Outgrow our Flakiness - Jogen Salzberg, Sensei

In this talk, Jogen explores why it has become so difficult to show up for one another in a culture of endless options and easy canceling. Through the lens of Zen practice, he examines social anxiety, the tendency to overextend ourselves, and the role of the critical mind in undermining commitment. By clarifying our obligations and affinities, learning to sit with discomfort, and ultimately living by vow rather than momentary feelings, the talk points toward a more grounded and reliable way of relating—one rooted in presence, honesty, and spiritual maturity.