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What do sex coaching and marriage coaching have in common? Other than a coach and a coachee, of course. To have loving, respectful and enriching sexual and romantic relationships you need to "go first" and work on what YOU want to experience. In doing so, everything around you will start to shift because the way you show up shifts, your relationship with yourself shifts, and as a result, all your relationships and your life experience positive changes. Join Erika Alsborn and Maggie Reyes as they talk about the foundation of all interpersonal relationships -the Self- from their unique, yet very similar, perspectives.  Maggie Reyes is a Life Coach and Modern Marriage Mentor who specializes in helping driven, ambitious women create the marriages of their dreams , without waiting for their partners to change or adding more work to their lives. She is the creator of The Marriage MBA Program, a 6 month mentorship in creating a successful marriage using principles from positive psychology, cognitive science and simple coaching tools that you can learn today and apply tomorrow. Maggie is the author of the best selling "Questions for Couples Journal" and the host of the Top 100 "The Marriage Life Coach Podcast."   In this episode: Learn about the impact that your own work and mindset shifts can bring into your romantic relationship(s)  The importance of holding space for the things and the behaviors/treatment that you want to receive.  What are "standards" in your relationships and why you need them.     Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group Follow and reach out on IG Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here    Related episodes Episode 06: The productivity trap blocks you from your pleasure   Resources and Links 1:1 coaching waitlist  Slut academy waitlist Maggie's Website  Maggie's Instagram: @themaggiereyes     You can also listen to this episode and access the information, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/20

Everyday sensuality is so valuable. Through this series, you will find guidance and inspiration to experience sensuality in your everyday life without anything super fancy and anything external, just by creating moments of feminine delight through your senses.    In the second episode of the series, you will learn how to transform any meal into a supra sensual experience that will gratify ALL your senses. When you are connected to your senses, you experience pleasure, not necessarily sexual (although it can be) and as you know, pleasure is good for you, you are made for pleasure, and you don't need to limit pleasure to the bedroom, you can experience it through everyday activities.    Being with your sensations.  Enjoying dinner with other people and a nice conversation is heartwarming, or a lunch break scrolling through social media can help unplug your brain and give you the boost you need for the second half of your work day. However, sitting down with yourself and experiencing all the sensations that your food has to offer can be so rich and pleasurable.    The key is to be truly present and pay attention to how the food looks, and how it smells, you can touch it, and focus on how it feels in your mouth, your lips, or even on your hands. Do it with intention and focus on the sensations, the thoughts, and the feelings that come to your mind through this experience.    In this episode: Learn how everyday sensuality can up level your everyday life Learn how a daily task can help you connect with yourself through your senses Explore the ways you can transform a regular meal into a deeply sensual experience  Discover how you can spot the parts of yourself that need inner work, through sensual experiences   Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group Follow and reach out on IG Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here     Related episodes Episode 11: Sensuality vs Sexuality Episode 12: Everyday Sensuality Series - Sensual Shower Episode16: GUIDED PRACTICE: Sensual & Loving Full Body Experience     You can also listen to this episode and access the information, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/19  

This episode will be a game changer, so empowering and effective in so many ways, especially when it comes to experiencing more turn-on and more pleasurable sex regularly, including astounding foreplay.   Your relationship with self-pleasure and foreplay You are responsible for your turn on and while your partner (or partners) gets to be involved in it, you own your turn-on. And if your partner is a man, it can take way, way longer for us women to get to the point where we are ready. Putting yourself in charge of your pleasure AND your turn-on during foreplay changes the way you enter the bedroom and changes the whole experience. When you are in charge, you are no longer dependent on what your partner does or doesn't do because you receive them from a place of ownership and you get to share all the pleasure that you already feel.     "A lot of women feel so dependent on men to initiate sex, to turn us on, to take care of us sexually, this is all part of the conditioning we've received growing up and the lack of role models and all of that so when you flip that narrative and you say actually I'm responsible for my own turn on and I take the matters into my own hand you are reversing a lot of that and you start to decondition a lot of that stuff" [10:06]   Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group Follow and reach out on IG Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here   Resources and links 1:1 coaching https://forms.gle/nauYr3xQrnoajbPDA   Related episodes  Episode 02: Self-Pleasure vs Masturbation     You can also listen to this episode and access the information, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here:https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/18  

In this episode, Erika and Morgan share their experiences through the different seasons of life, including motherhood, and how embodying their own soul purpose has allowed them to help other women walk this path too.   Morgan Day Cecil has a Master's Degree in Philosophy and has spent 20-years training in mind-body-spirit methodologies for healing and transformation, including yoga, breath work, trauma-release, hypnotherapy, deep feminine psychology, energy healing, contemplative Christianity, and Tantra.     Self-reclamation is healing. With the images of womanhood that are carved in our collective and a shared wounded feminine history, often times women find themselves with a profound disconnection between their conscious and unconscious desires and goals. But the good news is that you are allowed to shed your identity and create a new one!   You can reclaim the parts that have been deeply wounded, even if it was by other women, and start the process of healing, to show up in the world being who YOU want to be. Self-reclamation is brave work, our mothers didn't get a chance to do this, we are the front runners, so sharing the process can be really inspiring, and that's what you will find in this conversation.   A new womanhood What you do for your soul and your healing is bigger than you. It begins in your heart and impacts the collective because we are connected to all women. When we understand this, we know it is safe to let other women do their own work, because together we are creating a new kind of womanhood, where each of us gets to embody their soul's purpose.     "Step into our future self, the woman that we decide we are becoming. It doesn't matter what happened in the past, it doesn't matter our history or what we carry from our ancestors, we are conscious beings and we get to decide in this present moment who we want to become" [35:05]   “Coming home to yourself is about learning to trust what lights you up and letting other women be on that journey too. We don’t need to police each other, you can absolutely trust another woman with her journey of coming home to herself and what lights her up ” [49:40]   "When you are connected to your soul and what she is here for, like, it doesn't matter what anyone says, there is such clarity and confidence that comes through that" [54:23]       Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group Follow and reach out on IG Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here   Resources and links Slut academy waitlist   Morgan’s  Website: www.morgandaycecil.com Morgan’s Instagram: @morgandaycecil     Related episodes    Episode 14: How to be sexual/sexy AND feel safe in this world       You can also listen to this episode and access the information, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here:https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/17

In this episode, Erika guides you through a sensual experience that encourages you to accept and live your pleasure as an ever-changing story. You get to just be, you get to enjoy yourself, your sensuality, and your pleasure during all of the stages of your life, all of your seasons. And you get to be present with your feelings and your sensations because pleasure is good for you. Self pleasure is good for you.   Coming home to your body and enjoying your presence is a deep and sensual experience, solitude can be a space to connect with your spiritual heart and with your physical body through pleasurable sensuality.   Remember that you don’t have a body, you ARE a body and you deserve to develop a rich loving relationship with yourself, you deserve to embrace and love the body that you are, just the way you are, it is the most wonderful place you could be living in. You deserve to embody and enjoy your wholeness.   “Commit to accepting and welcoming whatever you are experiencing as it is. You can think of your body and your pleasure as the relationship between the planet and the weather. Your body is the planet, your pleasure is the weather. The planet doesn’t complain about the weather, it accepts it. Sometimes it’s raining, sometimes it’s sunny, there’s winter, then comes spring,  there’s seasons. It just is. You can have the same no expectations, accepting, welcoming relationship to your pleasure…” [03:07]   Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group Follow and reach out on IG Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here   Resources and links 1:1 coaching https://forms.gle/nauYr3xQrnoajbPDA   Related episodes  02: Sex Pleasure vs Masturbation     You can also listen to this episode and access the information, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/16

In this episode, Erika inspires you to amplify your pleasure by getting to know your body on a deeper level. Your whole body is a pleasure playground and it constitutes your pleasure landscape, however, there are specific areas of your body that are more sensitive, the erogenous zones, and they can give you exquisite pleasure and sensations, and even orgasm, and no, it’s not only the genitals.    Some erogenous zones are directly associated with sexuality, but others are not, and that’s why it is so important to explore yourself fully so that you don’t overlook any pleasure source, and to you give yourself the chance to discover not only where you like to touch yourself or be touched, but also the HOW.    “So by focusing on your whole body as a big playground for pleasure and erotic goodness you will discover new areas of your body that you may have ignored or forgotten about and/or you will increase pleasure by more directly and generously focusing on pleasuring yourself” [10:18]   “Start to really expand your pleasure landscape, draw a bigger map of pleasure in your body so that when you are solo pleasuring yourself you are not just going straight to the genitals but allowing yourself to give yourself a full body massage, or tickle your skin and breathe into the sensations and have a  non specific erogenous zones good time” [07:07]   Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group Follow and reach out on IG Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here   You can also listen to this episode and access the information, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/15  

When you are radical and bold with your sexual energy, and you conduct yourself from that sexyness, you inevitably attract people’s energy, you become magnetic, but there are certain moments when you could feel nervous, scared, intimidated and, in general, unsafe with the type of attention that it is been given to you. While there is a valid reason to feel that way, you can build resilience and strength, and program your nervous system to protect yourself and your energy.    As you start to work on your pleasure and your sexuality, and you start feeling energetically gorgeous, your behavior changes not only in the bedroom but in all areas of your life. You emanate a type of energy that is irresistibly attractive to men and women and they start to respond to how you move, how you talk, how you behave and how you carry yourself in general. If you are starting this journey, know that all this doesn’t have to be a reason for you to stop discovering, enjoying and showing up as the sexual, sensual adult woman that you are. Your transformation is magical, fun and relevant, so remember, you get to choose how you show up.    From visualizations to personal defense, in this episode inspired by a follower, Erika shares with you six strategies to feel more confident, empowered and in control of how you react to the world around you, so that you can decide for yourself and choose how you want to be perceived and how you really want to do with and respond to the attention you get.    “When we want to transform anything in our lives, but specifically when it comes to sexuality because it can be so connected to deep fear, deep conditioning, strong emotions like shame, etc., and fear of consequences, right? It's important to know and ask yourself, ‘am I afraid of the result or am I afraid of the journey?’. Often times it’s one out of the two” [09:43 ]   “We can operate from the same kind of smallness or power dynamic or hierarchy as if we still were that little kid, that little girl with strangers or with other adults in life as an adult. So you have to make sure that you understand that ‘I am an adult now and I set my own rules, now I get to be the adult, now I am at the top of that hierarchy, now I am the one who is deciding what the consequences are, who gets to do what and I am sovereign and autonomous’ ”[14:55]   “How do I reject a suggestion from someone that I don’t know. Why do I care so much about a stranger’s feelings that I override my own authentic feeling and I completely disregard and ignore what my body and mind, and spirit and pussy are telling me?” [18:25]     Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group Follow and reach out on IG Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here   Resources and Links 1:1 coaching https://forms.gle/nauYr3xQrnoajbPDA   You can also listen to this episode and access the information, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/14

In this episode, Julia and Erika share about their personal and professional experiences as a coach to bring you a beautifully deep and raw conversation about pleasure, sex, sex and aging, and female power. Below are a few of the things they cover in this episode.     Sex, a literal and metaphorical concept of creation. Sex is not only about feeling the sensations, although that is an indivisible part of it. Your body is a vessel where the universe can channel, through your sex, very powerful energy that can make an immense impact in your life and in the life of the people around you. Julia, more than a coach, is a sex magician and she believes that when you allow yourself to deepen your sexuality and enjoy your pleasure at its full expression, you get access to sexual ecstasy and you can anchor to your erotic power to create your life from that magical place.    Female power, Eros, and the inevitable passing of time. Being a sensual woman, a lighthouse and a channel can put you in a vulnerable position, the world and some of the other women are not going to feel comfortable with you owning your erotic power and your wholeness, because it can be deeply triggering for them; and that can be painful for you. If to this potential conflict, you add the fact that mature women also shine their light and live their sensuality, you encounter a whole other trigger for people who hold themselves back: the fact that mature women also get to shine their light, show, and enjoy their sensuality, and harness their erotic power.    So how can you live as your sensual and erotic self, enjoy your sexuality and leverage your sexual power? In this episode Erika and Julia reflect on their own journeys as embodied teachers, to share with you a word of acceptance and surrender that could help you ease the doubts and discomfort that comes with standing on your sexual power and living your truth.    “But eventually, like, as you get access to your sensations, and you, you're more comfortable in your body and all the things that you were talking about, and you teach, that vessel starts to open. And so then the inevitable question is, well, it's all coming in from the universe. Where's it going? You know, where do I take this? Who's going to feel it? What impact that can have and maybe that's one of the reasons why female sexuality is so controlled repress. blardy blardy blar because you No, we're all conditioned to keep our vessels tiny. And then we have no impact.”[9.25]   “Because of that, you know, that beautiful flow of energy. So, like you said that doesn’t change as you age, you can still light up a room with your eros. It’s very subtle, it’s not kind of particularly out there, but you can see people respond.” [39.24]   Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group Follow and reach out on IG Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here   Resources and Links Julia’s Website: www.julialally.com Julia’s Instagram: @thejulialally Julia's Links: https://linktr.ee/julialally   Related episodes 07: Fuck ageism – you can age AND sexually thrive!   You can also listen to this episode and access the information, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/13  

 Everyday sensuality is so valuable. Through this series, you will find guidance and inspiration to experience sensuality in your everyday life without anything super fancy and without anything external, just by creating moments of feminine delight through your senses.    In the first episode of the series, you will learn how to transform your everyday shower into a deeply sensual experience that will allow you to connect with yourself from within and literally make that moment more sensual and pleasurable, AND that connection with yourself will eventually make your life better by just being present, and nothing else.   Sensuality allows you to feel your way through life Connecting with yourself and your senses is available to you at all times. An everyday task, like a shower, is something we usually perform in automatic, but by taking a moment to be present, feel the sensations on your body, smell yourself and your beauty products, listen to the sounds, looking at your lathered skin, all that can shift the way you start or finish your day and, ultimately how you experience your life.    Sensuality as the gratification of the senses can transform both your everyday life and your sexuality, the key is perception, focus, and intention. So for this sensual shower, you're not going to do anything physically different, you will just shower while being profoundly present and deeply connected to your senses and see how that shifts your experience of taking a shower. Suppose you decide to make this a regular practice. In that case, everyday sensuality will shift something within allowing you to expand your capacity to be with that from within and this will take ALL your experiences to the next level. Enjoy!   "Everyday sensuality is so valuable. It is in a way the art of a feminine delight. It's what makes life better and more enjoyable. Without anything super fancy without anything external. It is an experience or within. It's an experience that is available to you at all times. And I will tell you how to do it so that you can make your life better" [03:15]   In this episode: Learn how everyday sensuality can up level your everyday life Learn how a daily task can help you connect with yourself through your senses Explore the ways you can transform a regular shower into a deeply sensual experience and into an expression of self-love.   Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group Follow and reach out on IG Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here   Related episodes Episode 11: Sensuality vs Sexuality   You can also listen to this episode and access the information, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/12

When you are mindfully connected to your senses, you absorb the world around you through your sensuality. Every moment of your day can be a sensual and pleasurable experience, including your sexuality.    In this episode we will break down and analyze these two words, to inspire you and encourage you to explore your own sexuality, sex, and sexiness from the perspective of sensuality. Regardless of size, age, color, and other stereotypical concepts, you can cultivate and embody sensuality and FEEL happy, sexy, and fulfilled in a unique and personal way.   Join the fun and get the full shownotes, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here:https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/11

In this episode Michelle Panning shares her vast knowledge regarding attachment styles and relationships. Michelle is an Intimacy Alchemist. She helps women get connected to themselves so they can experience real intimacy with men. She helps single women, women in relationships, situationships and everything in between. She is a self-proclaimed trigger queen and will help you go from feeling anxious and stressed about your love life to feeling confident, worthy and secure.   Join us to discover what it means to have a certain attachment style (or several) and build relationships with individuals who have similar or different attachment styles. We'll talk about how it may look like, how it may feel, and most importantly how you can hold yourself through your relationships and your life.   Join the fun and get the full shownotes, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/10

In this episode, instead of sharing with you a long, in-depth and super juicy episode, I want you to listen to a short and powerful, positive sex mantra. Sometimes all it takes to recalibrate and come home to your own body is to take a moment to connect with yourself.  I trust this powerful message will reach the part of you that needs to hear it.  Listen to this powerful mantra and get the full shownotes, resources and links mentioned in this episode here:https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/09

Yes, my love, you can actively and all by yourself, increase your experience of sexual turn-on and desire. Getting turned on is not spontaneous and it is not always easy, but it doesn’t have to be an uphill road all the time! You can create a state of being that is ready to experience more sexual turn-on AND more sexual satisfaction when you desire it.  In this episode, I share five essential tools to focus on regularly to maintain and cultivate sexual turn-on, I guarantee you that they work, but you have to get hands-on, pun intended.  Join the fun and get the full shownotes, resources, and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/08

Ageism, in general, is so detrimental but when it comes to sexuality, it can shut you down. It can prevent you from enjoying pleasure during each and every stage of your life. It holds you back with limiting beliefs like “I am too old for…” which by the way are almost never true. In this episode I will share with you my perspective on aging. Aging doesn’t need to be gloom and doom, in fact, your sexual life keeps getting more interesting and sassy, if you allow yourself to embody pleasure and sensuality throughout your life. Being youthful is a type of energy and it is attractive, and you, my friend, can cultivate it through pleasure.   Join the fun and get the full shownotes, resources and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/07

    In this episode, I’m aiming to inspire you to both reprioritize sexuality in your life as something important, and also reframe or change your mindset around what it means to be productive. Today, many of us have the technology we “need” to help us with our lives so that we can free up time. How do you invest that time? Self-care, including sexual self-care, is important and it directly impacts your relational well-being and your romantic relationship(s). Let’s explore how you value productivity in your life and how that affects your well-being and specifically your sexual well-being.   Join the fun and get the full shownotes, resources and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/06

Understanding your arousal states and systems can have a life-changing effect on your ability to get turned on! Arousal is really two processes that work together – providing gradually increasing stimulation for the accelerators, and getting rid of everything your brakes might respond to, which includes physical, emotional, and social risks. In this episode, we will explore these processes so that you can understand them and work with them in a powerful way.   Join the fun and get the full shownotes, resources and links mentioned in this episode here: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/05

  Breast massage can create a wonderful self-love experience, love and acceptance of your breasts and activate your body in a super juicy heart-centered way. Pretty Rad.   In this episode we will explore the whys and hows of this deep, powerful practice, how it can make sex better and the energetic explanation behind all this.    Join the fun and get the full shownotes, resources and links mentioned in this episode here:https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/04

Understanding the sexual seasons can completely change how you approach your sexuality and what you expect from your body. Do you aim for the same results all the time when it comes to sexuality?  This framework helps us normalize why we can’t be horny all the time, and why sometimes it can seem like nothing is happening, and then BOOM! You're sexually alive again. In this episode I'll break the topic down and I'll share with you exactly what the sexual seasons are and how to apply this knowledge to your life and sexuality. Join the fun and get the full show notes at https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/03

Self-pleasure is the PRACTICE of connecting and experimenting, exploring and even healing your sexuality. It’s a non-goal-oriented practice you do to reach a distant overarching goal, but in the moment, in the actual experience, the aim is to be with what is. If you want to establish a self-pleasure practice and have amazing guided self-pleasure practices, then definitely check out my amazing online course PLEASURE TREATS! Doors open on May 26th! Join the fun and find the full shownotes and links to the resources mentioned in this episode at https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/02

Welcome to the very first episode of Yes, please...! I'm so excited to kick off this podcast by sharing my journey towards becoming a sex coach (not your average job!) and also a little bit about the work I do as coach. Join the fun and find the full shownotes and links to the resources mentioned in this episode at https://www.erikaalsborn.com/podcast/01

Yes, yes, yes, this is your go-to podcast for all things sexuality, pleasure and orgasms! I’ve named this podcast “Yes, Please” because that’s how I want you to feel about all things sex, pleasure and orgasms – “Yes, please… AND MORE!” This is THE podcast for you if you want to experience more shameless pleasure and ecstatic orgasms in your life and sexuality, deeper satisfaction, more joy and confidence as a woman and embrace and celebrate your sexuality all throughout your whole life journey! BUT, this podcast isn’t “just” about sex, pleasure and sex education, it’s about so much more… personal growth, living a radiant and authentic life, radical joy and expression, giving birth in power and positivity and experiencing general fucking goodness.A new thought-provoking, mind-elevating and pussy-activation episode drops every Tuesday! Subscribe and tune in weekly!Join the Facebook group Follow and reach out on Instagram Check the website