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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

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Ep 199Hot Girl Summer (w/ Lawrence Chaney)

Drag queen of Scots Lawrence Chaney (winner of RPDR UK S2) chats with Nicole about his dating live after winning Drag Race, how he got banned from Tinder for 'catfishing' as himself, and pitches to host the UK version of Nailed It!. Meanwhile, Nicole's plans for a Hot Girl Summer have gone awry. For more drag queens on WWYDM, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Aug 20, 20211h 8m

Ep 198I got 99 problems... palsy is just one (w/ Maysoon Zayid)

Comedian and actress Maysoon Zayid was born with cerebral palsy. She chats with Nicole about some of the cruel comments she receives about her disability, the struggles comedians of color face in Hollywood, and shares her wild industry rejection stories. Maysoon also advocates why speed-dating is a cost-effective and efficient way of finding love, and helps break down the current Israeli-Palestinian conflict. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Aug 13, 202156 min

Ep 197How to be Intuitive About Your Love Life (w/ Laura Day)

'Psychic to the stars' and best selling author Laura Day is here to teach Nicole all about intuition and how to develop it. She discusses how she realized she had intuitive powers, coaches how to be intuitive about your own love life, and how to train your pleasure receptors and send out pleasure signals to a potential mate. Black Lives Still Matter! For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Aug 6, 20211h 3m

Ep 196Problem Solving on the Toilet (w/ Yola)

What a treat. Grammy nominated English musician Yola is here! Nicole and Yola chat about the difference in racism when dating in the UK vs the US, how crying on her motorcycle back from her mother's funeral inspired her songwriting, and how sitting on the toilet can be the best way to solve creative challenges. Check out Yola new album, Stand for Myself, out today. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 30, 20211h 3m

Ep 195Thriving Alone (w/ Harvey Guillén)

Actor Harvey Guillén (What We Do in the Shadows) is single but not quite ready to mingle. He discusses why he guards his profession from his dating life, how he found love on Instagram, and the important need for space in any relationship. Nicole reads some wild dating app profiles. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 23, 20211h 2m

Ep 194Being a Single Mom of 3 (w/ Francesca Amber)

Nicole’s close friend Francesca Amber (host of Law of Attraction Changed my Life) talks about the struggles of being a mother of twins, explains the latest fad of 'co-parenting', and describes how to use the Law of Attraction to manifest your dream person. Meanwhile, Nicole counts down the days until her dick appointment. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 16, 20211h 0m

Ep 193The Cost of Being 'Cute' (w/ Cat Hollis)

Cat Hollis led the 2020 Portland Stripper Strike. Here, she explain why it happened and her work for equitable workspaces in the adult industry. Cat discusses the costs of being cute, shares the common challenges people face when dating a stripper, and gives advice on how to feel sexy even after a rejection. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 9, 202147 min

Ep 192The Power of 'I Love You' (w/ Sam Richardson)

Actor and comedian Sam Richardson (Veep, I Think You Should Leave) chats with Nicole about his success finding love on Raya, wanting kids so he can continue doing kid things, the power of saying 'I love you' first in a relationship, and pitches ideas for dating app opening messages. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 2, 202154 min

Ep 191Are you 'Love Avoidant'? (w/ Reggie Watts)

Comedian and musician Reggie Watts (The Late Late Show with James Corden) chats with Nicole about his unique eating habits, his time spent playing in a 70's cover band, and the weird shift from being a fake band leader on Comedy Bang! Bang!, to a real band leader for The Late Late Show with James Corden. Nicole learns she may be 'love avoidant'. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 25, 202159 min

Ep 190We're living in the wildest times (w/ Jason Concepcion)

Jason Concepcion (host of Takeline, Binge Mode) joins Nicole to discuss the culture shock he experienced visiting the Philippines during a coup, how the pandemic revealed America's systemic failures, their favorite small businesses to support, and the WNBA. As America opens back up, Nicole's back in the dating game but it's not going so well. Are dating apps operating fake profiles to keep you engaged? Plus, Nicole runs into an old fling and things got weird. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 18, 20211h 4m

Ep 189Back in the Dating Game (w/ Shea Couleé)

Drag queen Shea Couleé (Winner of RPDR All Stars 5) talks to Nicole about finding love at the club, being a drag mother, wig mishaps, and doing poppers. Plus, Nicole's back in the dating game and it's off to an awkward start.For more Shea & Nicole, check out Nicole's episode on Shea's podcast Wanna Be On Top? For more drag queens on WWYDM, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 4, 20211h 6m

Ep 188Sleeping with Your Uber Driver (w/ London Hughes)

Comedian London Hughes (Netflix's To Catch a Dick) and Nicole chat about her experience moving to America during a pandemic and race war, sleeping with her Uber driver, doggy style techniques, sucking dick, and pitch their new doomsday movie idea. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 28, 20211h 8m

Ep 187Proposal Gone Wrong (w/ Paul Scheer)

Comedian and actor Paul Scheer (The League, Black Monday) and Nicole chat about how his proposal to June Diane Raphael went terribly wrong, how June's wedding ring was stolen from her finger, and shares good wisdom on the importance of relationship building. Plus, June sits nearby, fact-checking Paul's stories. May 25th See Why Won't You Date Me LIVE featuring Drag Race S11's Miss Congeniality Nina West! Get tickets at live.nicolebyerwastaken.com. Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 21, 20211h 3m

Ep 186Kinky in Public (w/ Jessica Rothe)

Actress Jessica Rothe (Happy Death Day, La La Land) and Nicole discuss if it's OK to do kinky acts in public, the bizarre ways people are monetizing kinks, and the surprising reality of male escorting. Plus, Jessica describes her pandemy micro-wedding, and her major mic-drop "I love you" moment in her relationship. See Why Won't You Date Me LIVE May 25th! Tickets at live.nicolebyerwastaken.com Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 14, 20211h 13m

Ep 185Filming Sex Scenes (w/ Casey Wilson)

Comedian Casey Wilson (Happy Endings, SNL) chats with Nicole about shooting her recent sex scene, exchanges crazy nannying stories, and shares how she met her husband on the set of Happy Endings. Plus, Nicole matched with her Nailed-It camera person and things got weird. Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 7, 20211h 0m

Ep 184Being 'Sexually Smart' (w/ JB Smoove)

Comedian, actor, and self-proclaimed 'Love Doctor' JB Smoove (Curb Your Enthusiasm) joins Nicole to provide his wisdom on flirting, roller skating, developing rhythm, and shares his guide on having sensual sex. Then, JB elaborates on some motivational quotes. For more of JB’s wisdom, check out his new daily podcast May I Elaborate? Daily Wisdom from JB Smoove. We're nominated for a Webby Award! Please cast your vote here: bit.ly/wwydmvote Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 30, 202145 min

Ep 183Bad Dating App Bios (w/ Aparna Nancherla)

Stand-up comedian Aparna Nancherla (BoJack Horseman, Corporate) joins Nicole to discuss how her first and only Tinder date evolved into her longterm relationship. They read some bad dating app bios, talk The Real Housewives of Potomac, and Aparna gives advice on preparing for the possibility of a Handmaid's Tale-like apocalypse. We're nominated for a Webby Award! Please cast your vote here: https://vote.webbyawards.com/PublicVoting#/2021/podcasts/general-series/comedy Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 23, 202149 min

Ep 182Will You Be My Girl? (w/ Jillian Bell)

Actress and comedian Jillian Bell (Workaholics,The Pole) joins Nicole to solve the reasoning behind their mutual singleness. They discuss the results of their recent psychic readings, how they confront people who aren't wearing a mask, QAnon, and manifest qualities of their dream partner. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 16, 20211h 14m

Ep 181Finding the G-Spot (w/ Marc Rebillet)

Loop Daddy AKA Marc Rebillet Fucks. He and Nicole have a very horny chat about how he's enjoying his singledom, gaining the confidence to dominate submissive women, and why being brutally honest in a relationship will save you so much time. Plus, Nicole shares some self-loving tips she learned from her therapist. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 9, 202154 min

Ep 180Deputy Gangs in the LA County Sheriff's Department (w/ Cerise Castle)

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In this bonus episode, Nicole talks to reporter Cerise Castle about her multi-part series, A TRADITION OF VIOLENCE, uncovering the history of deputy gangs in the LA County Sheriff's Department. Please note that this episode contains descriptions of police brutality and sexual assault that some people may find disturbing. Read Cerise's ongoing investigation here: knc.la/tradition See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 6, 202149 min

Ep 179Arranged Marriages (w/ Hari Kondabolu)

Stand-up comedian Hari Kondabolu (The Problem with Apu, host of Politically Re-Active) joins Nicole to break down some common misconceptions about arranged marriages, shares how he met his wife on Facebook, and discusses the importance of having personal space in any relationship. Nicole reflects on an odd conversation she had on a date about dingleberries, plus shares dating advice she received from John Cena while on the set of Wipeout. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 2, 20211h 0m

Ep 178Acid Tripping (w/ Bowen Yang)

Actor and comedian Bowen Yang (SNL) is just as fiercely single as Nicole. They talk about the struggles of singledom, the crazy current news cycles, their acid tripping experiences, and Bowen shares dating advice he received from Adam Sandler. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 26, 202159 min

Ep 177Polyamorous and Experimenting (w/ Ashley Ray)

Comedian and pop culture expert Ashley Ray (host of TV I Say podcast) used Tinder to run an experiment where she dated every zodiac sign for a month at a time. She explains her findings, her polyamorous dating life, and what it was like to have 8 boyfriends at once. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 19, 20211h 4m

Ep 176How to Manifest your Dream Man (w/ Alaska Thunderfuck)

Drag queen Alaska Thunderfuck (RuPaul's Drag Race S5, winner of Drag Race All Stars S2) joins Nicole to discuss what it was like to date another drag queen, how to manifest your dream man, their unexpected dating life after Drag Race, and some nightmare customer service stories. Plus, Nicole recounts the time she performed sketch comedy to Dolly Parton. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, go to blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 12, 20211h 1m

Ep 175Unravelling From A Breakup (w/ Rhea Butcher)

Comedian Rhea Butcher (Adam Ruins Everything, Good Trouble) chats with Nicole about how they quit smoking after 16 years, being a lifetime vegetarian, and their old stand-up show, Put Your Hands Together. Rhea then discusses what it was like to unravel from their past relationship, dealing with the public aspect of a breakup, and the story of how they met their new partner. Stream Rhea's new special, "Pull Yourself up by Your Bootleg" at bstlnk.to/butcher. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, go to blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 5, 20211h 1m

Ep 174You Need Therapy (w/ Nore Davis)

Comedian Nore Davis talks with Nicole about the movies that have brought them joy, why he's decided to 'date himself', leaving a toxic relationship, and the importance of therapy. This Black History Month, research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 26, 20211h 2m

Ep 173Love & Music (w/ Randy Jackson)

Musician/producer/host Randy Jackson (American Idol, Name That Tune) shares his skepticism with app dating, the worst date he’s been on, his favorite love songs, and catfishing. This Black History Month, research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 19, 202139 min

Ep 172Stripping & Sex Work (w/ Teddy B. Ruxpin)

Dancer and sex worker Teddy B. Ruxpin chats with Nicole about all things stripping and sex work. They discuss her start into the profession, finding her niche as an "alt girl", dealing with racism in the workplace, and her work for stripper advocacy. Plus, Teddy reveals she dated a comedian who would talk about her work in his stand-up routine. Tonight - See a LIVE virtual episode of Why Won't You Date Me? with Heidi N Closet! Tickets: onlocationlive.com/nicolebyer This Black History Month, research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 12, 202152 min

Ep 171Ask Him About His Credit Score (w/ Tiffany Haddish)

Actress and comedian Tiffany Haddish (Girls Trip, Night School) first clears the air regarding her Clubhouse bullying allegations. Then, she talks about how dating has changed since Girls Trip, how men try to manage her, the story of a sneaking ex-boyfriend, and of her first orgasm at the movies. Plus, Tiffany offers tips on: approaching men after the pandemy, how to increase your credit score, and why you should ask men about theirs. February 12th - See a LIVE virtual episode of Why Won't You Date Me? featuring Heidi N Closet! Tickets: onlocationlive.com/nicolebyer This Black History Month, research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 5, 20211h 10m

Ep 170Owning Your Sexuality (w/ Margaret Cho)

Comedian Margaret Cho (The Masked Singer, All-American Girl) and Nicole chat about claiming your right to talk about sexuality, her experience coming out as queer, learning Japanese bondage, and how she's practicing being a dominatrix. Plus, Nicole's worried she's talking to bots on dating apps. Check out After Hours with Margaret Cho live Feb 14th. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, go to blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jan 29, 202154 min

Ep 169Empowering Relationship Statements (w/ Deon Cole)

Actor and comedian Deon Cole (Black-ish, Barbershop) joins Nicole to share his deep wisdom about love and relationships. They discuss judging people by the moment, recognizing if your partner is in love with relationships or with you, the troubles of dating someone new in a mask, and getting over wanting what you can't have. Plus, Nicole shares a list of empowering relationship statements she found that moved her. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, go to blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jan 22, 202146 min

Ep 168Big Dick Energy (w/ Conan O'Brien)

Conan O'Brien is here to help solve the root problems behind Nicole's singledom. They also discuss his sexually repressed Catholic upbringing, what it's like to have Big Dick Energy, and his plans for his 20th wedding anniversary. Nicole demands to marry into the O'Brien family, explains to Conan how some of her vibrators work, and describes how she's now using a Theragun to masturbate. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jan 15, 20211h 6m

Ep 167Sex Work (w/ AM Davies)

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Sex worker AM Davies (Host of Yes, A Strippper Podcast) is here to answer all of Nicole's questions about stripping and sex work. She discusses the difference between decriminalizing vs legalizing sex work, how strippers are coerced into tipping the house, the diversity problem in strip clubs, and how she's working to unionize strippers. Dating as a sex worker also comes with its own challenges - AM shares how partners have been jealous of her work, how she's even been broken up over her Instagram, and so much more.Until Jan 12, you can see Why Won't You Date Me with D'Arcy Carden as a video podcast! Click here for tickets.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jan 8, 202159 min

Ep 166Lining Up a Relationship for the End of the World (w/ Niccole Thurman)

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Comedian & actress Niccole Thurman (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Shrill) joins Nicole to discuss their 2021 resolutions, how they are cleaning out toxic negativity in their life, and review each other's Hinge profiles.See Why Won't You Date Me LIVE January 6! Click here for tickets.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jan 1, 20211h 3m

Ep 165Wedding Ruiners (w/ Solomon Georgio)

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Stand-up comedian and #Skategang member Solomon Georgio (Shrill, Adam Ruins Everything) talks to Nicole about his recent butt surgery and how he's been adapting to his new butt. They also chat about his skincare routine, the importance of partners posing for photos, and why his mom got kicked out of his brother's wedding. Nicole reveals why she doesn't like Christmas and how she got into a fight about a Christmas tree.Nicole will be doing a live episode of Why Won't You Date Me on January 6! Click here for tickets.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dec 25, 20201h 1m

Ep 164Issues Affecting the Black Condition (w/ Roy Wood Jr.)

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Roy Wood Jr. (The Daily Show) shares his calculations on the safest way of traveling during COVID, discusses dealing with friends who aren't taking the pandemic seriously, getting detained in Canada, and reporting on Black issues on The Daily Show. Learn more about I See Me, Inc charity here. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dec 18, 20201h 7m

Ep 163Caught in the Act (w/ Jiggly Caliente)

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Drag queen and actress Jiggly Caliente (RuPaul's Drag Race S4, Broad City) joins Nicole to discuss sex work, walking in on friends or family members having sex, "Dick on-demand boys", and how much sex freakiness should you share with your partner?Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dec 11, 202054 min

Ep 162Healthcare (w/ Langston Kerman)

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Actor and comedian Langston Kerman (Insecure, The Boys) joins Nicole to discuss her recent broken ankle and awkward brush with healthcare. He also shares the perks of dating long distance, how to attract chucklefuckers, and how he used the '36 Questions That Lead to Love' to open up to his wife.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dec 4, 202058 min

Ep 161Serving the Full Fantasy (w/ Creme Fatale)

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Drag queen & makeup artist Creme Fatale joins Nicole to discuss dating horror stories, how to leave a bad date fast, why aren't there any lady gloryholes, and makeup.Check out Creme Fetale's YouTube channel here: youtube.com/channel/UCJS8an0aBA9NfTBku95UOtwSupport Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 27, 202049 min

Ep 160Grown-Up Breakup (w/ Lucy Stoole)

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Drag queen Lucy Stoole joins Nicole to discuss the story behind their drag name, their recent breakup, the struggles of dating app messaging, and if it's okay to leave a bad date early.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 20, 202059 min

Ep 159Fresh Heartbreak (w/ Priyanka)

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Drag queen Priyanka (Winner of Canada's Drag Race, host of YTV's The Zone) joins Nicole to discuss their very recent breakup, getting COVID19 from Brooke Lynn Hytes, evolving from a kids tv host to a drag queen, and explains the dark spiritual energy of Obeah.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 13, 20201h 3m

Ep 158Trash TV (w/ Patti Harrison)

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Comedian Patti Harrison (Shrill, Search Party) joins Nicole to chat about 90 Day Fiancé, issues with casting in today's media, and advocates for the well-being of child actors. Plus, they discuss their love for the Fast & Furious franchise, Patti shares the details of her childhood Vin Diesel sex dream, and Nicole shepherds Patti into trash television.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 6, 20201h 2m

Ep 157Volunteering in Your Community (w/ Mitra Jouhari)

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Comedian Mitra Jouhari (Big Mouth, Three Busy Debras, host of Urgent Care) joins Nicole to discuss missing malls, the horrors of dating in high school, awkward Zoom auditions, and reminisce about their improv days in NY.Plus, Mitra talks about how she's providing hygiene kits to the unhoused, and how you can support your local community help organizations.Donate to Resisterhood LA here.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 30, 202055 min

Ep 156Advice from a Dating Coach (w/ Damona Hoffman)

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Dating coach Damona Hoffman (A&E Network's #BlackLove, A Question of Love) is here to dish some professional advice. She shares tips for video-dating, setting up your dating app profile, how to stay sane with your partner in lockdown, and so much more! Plus, a conversation on racial bias in dating, navigating interracial relationships, and the struggle of in-person communication.Check out Damona's dating podcast: Dates & MatesSupport Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 23, 20201h 7m

Ep 155We're Thirsty (w/ Nichole Perkins)

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Writer and podcaster Nichole Perkins (Thirst Aid Kit) joins Nicole to discuss setting boundaries in your casual relationships, dealing with thirsty groupies, and, can you get COVID from your pussy? Plus Nicole writes a letter to her dream man, and is shopping for a $600 sex machine. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 16, 202051 min

Ep 154Rock Bottom (w/ Sydnee Washington)

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Comedian and actress Sydnee Washington (Broad City, Gayme Show) joins Nicole to discuss feel-good foods to eat when you're sad, their lowest points in life, finding love on Instagram, and setting boundaries with toxic family members.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 9, 20201h 4m

Ep 153Signs He's Into You (w/ Yassir Lester)

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It's our longest episode ever! Comedian Yassir Lester (Black Monday, Duncanville) joins Nicole to discuss sex protocol for a COVID era, reconnecting with old flings, body modifications, Yassir's Jersey Mike's tweet, and a list of signs that a man is into you.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 2, 20201h 40m

Ep 152Joking Around (w/ Yamaneika Saunders)

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The incredibly funny Yamaneika Saunders (Broad City, Inside Amy Schumer) joins Nicole to discuss comedy, following her mom's love for stand-up, her defense for humor about people with disabilities, and the depths of racism in our society. After the break, Yamaneika discusses breaking up in the pandemic, and her plan to freeze her eggs.Trigger Warning: My guest misgenders a person in a retelling of a story and I didn't correct them and I’m sorry to those who listened and were offended.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 25, 20201h 8m

Ep 151From Race Chaser to Husband (w/ Latrice Royale)

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Drag queen Latrice Royale (RuPaul's Drag Race, RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars) joins Nicole for a good teeheehee. She discusses getting into drag on a dare, writing on AJ and the Queen, meeting their husband Chris at a meet & greet, and the story behind their Chicago pride festival proposal.Check out Latrice's podcast: The Chop.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 18, 202059 min

Ep 150America Scammed Us (w/ Dewayne Perkins)

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Comedian and writer Dewayne Perkins (Brooklyn Nine-Nine, The Break with Michelle Wolf) joins Nicole to talk about getting back together with his ex, the importance of checking in with your partner, and how America has failed everyone. They also get into the systemic racism present in writers' rooms, and how to turn the thought of death into something positive.Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedyBuy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Advertise on Why Won’t You Date Me via Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 11, 20201h 11m