Why Are People Into That?!

“I'm a very successful hu-cow!” At six months pregnant, sex work activist Maxine Holloway has never felt hotter. She opened up to Tina about the connection between her bovine breeding fetish and the realities of her growing body, everything her escort clients love about her transformation, and dating while being a queer poly slut who just happens to be knocked up.Discussed: a very literal Madonna-Whore complex, ovipositor porn, virility-themed cuckolding, MILF money, milk. /Maxine Holloway advocates for sex worker justice through the ever-intersecting avenues of activism, community organizing, politics, public health, and art. Since 2008 Holloway has been conspiring with Bay Area talent to create and showcase provocative performance, education and advocacy. Her pornography performances earned her AVN nominations, an XBIZ award, and a Feminist Porn Award. In 2014 she founded the Ask First Campaign to raise awareness about consent, and has brought the project to the Folsom Street Fair for the fifth year in a row. Certified in Sex-Education and HIV/STI Prevention, she recently completed her master's degree in public health at San Francisco State University. Her studies focus on the health, safety, and human rights of sex workers. Holloway recently curated We’re Still Working: The Art of Sex Work, a visual art exhibit and event series sharing the history and stories of Bay Area workers. Holloway is the co-founder of Bay Area Workers Support (BAWS) a sex worker resource organization and writes a monthly column for brokeassstuart.com, "Brain Throbs & Blow Jobs" where she interviews Bay Area providers, strippers and porn performers. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Carly from the NYC Pleasure Chest joins us again to discuss why it can be worth investing in luxury sex toys. Think about it in terms of form, function, aesthetics, price per orgasm, or the heirlooms you want to pass on to the next generation!Carly's blog is Dildo or Dil-don't! She's @Makeupandsin Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“You can desire me as C'etait all you want, but sex for me does not include C'etait. That is fully Mathieu." / In Part 2 of Why Are People Into Drag?! Anteus Mathieu, aka drag and burlesque performer C'etait Bontemps, describes some of their drag routines in graphic detail, digs into the complications of folks who are turned on by cross dressing, and concludes we should kill our idols. /Anteus Mathieu, aka C'etait Bontemps, is a Non-binary drag and burlesque performer living in Brooklyn! A Florida transplant, he has been working in nightlife for 6 years. His brand of drag melds the worlds of feminine and masculine performance in both sexy and sometimes uncomfortable ways. His goal is to push the boundaries of drag and burlesque as performance artistry to explore gender identity, sexual agency, and just plain weird shit.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Drag is how you perform gender for people to see and understand. If you’ve confused them, that’s even better!” /In Part 1 of this episode on gender bending performance art, Anteus Mathieu, aka C'etait Bontemps, discusses growing up in Florida watching RuPaul's Drag Race and going to gay clubs, and how burlesque helped him get in touch with his transmasculine identity. He opens up about how his community was affected by the Pulse nightclub massacre, and how his dysphoria relates to the ways his body is perceived sexually onstage.Stay tuned for Part Two later this month when Matthew describes his drag routines and digs into the complex implications of folks who are turned on by cross dressing. /Anteus Mathieu, aka C'etait Bontemps, is a Non-binary drag and burlesque performer living in Brooklyn! A Florida transplant, he has been working in nightlife for 6 years. His brand of drag melds the worlds of feminine and masculine performance in both sexy and sometimes uncomfortable ways. His goal is to push the boundaries of drag and burlesque as performance artistry to explore gender identity, sexual agency, and just plain weird shit.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So this episode is a little unusual for a few reasons. First, it was recorded over a year ago and somehow just kept getting pushed back. Second, it's definitely a first for YAPIT: an interview with a mother-son comedy duo who have their own sex podcast on my network, Acast. We discussed sex parties, virginity, cartoon porn, and much more. And KarenLee came to regret asking me to recount the most extreme fetish story I could think of... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"The more you clean leather, the more it smells like itself." For YAPIT Live at the 2nd Ave NYC Pleasure Chest in July '18 with my guests Erykah Ohms and Santos, we discussed leather as a sensual material, a fetish, a symbol, an aspiration, a fashion statement, a cultural beacon, and an ice cream sundae. //Also: the erotics of bootblacking care, chest harnesses, strap-on harnesses, leather appropriation and "post-fetishism" in fashion, bondage, impact play, protocol, what we think leather smells like, and how leather makes us feel. //Erykah Ohms is a New York-based, black, queer, cis, leather dyke, who is a kink enthusiast with masochistic tendencies. After quitting her job she wandered into a leather shop seeking employment. There she was introduced to the leather community which became an integral part of her journey in kink. Though she has since moved on from her days of slinging dildos and pushing poppers she remains active in the kink community as a queer performer. With her work, she strives to increase the visibility of POC in kink and sex-positive media. //Santos J. Arce is a 37 year old Brooklyn native. He is a latinx, trans masculine queer who seeks to bring an intersectional & inclusive perspective on sex ed. He has worked at Pleasure Chest, as a Sex Specialist for over 2 years, & has spoken about gender & sexuality on Buzzfeed & at SAGE NYC (a center that serves to improve the lives of LGBT older adults). When he isn't working as a sex educator, He is member of the trans/queer punk band Trashy, as well as a member of the Brooklyn Transcore Collective, which promotes trans & queer punk bands in & around New York City. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Any pain can be transformative” / July '18. Euridice Gallery in Brooklyn. At a live kink event curated by Amy Boyajian of Wildflower, Tina hosted a panel featuring Amy as well as kink pros Jin and Alice. "Allijin" had just done a piercing demo, so the panel focused mostly on body mod play, touching on the concepts of harm, aftercare, LARP therapy, suspension, and period sex. /During the Q&A, the panelists fielded questions about the intimacy of pain, as well as how to discuss both interests and boundaries when you're new to a kink scene. (Questions are restated by Tina to protect the privacy of the attendees). /Allijin is a play piercing demonstration duo based out of Brooklyn, NY. They publicly demonstrate needlework as a type of ritualistic and sensual practice. /Jin Hee is pro dominatrix, community events organizer, gender-nonconforming visual artist and gallerist. Jin was born and raised in Hawai and is now based in New York. Jin collectively organizes events and art shows with Brooklyn QTPOC punk collective No Flowers for Yt Powers and Disclaimer Gallery. /Alex "Alice" Maiorano is a professional body piercer, hook suspension practitioner, born and based in Brooklyn. Alice is the Manager of Ahimsa Piercing Studio, the head piercer of Anchors Aweigh Suspension Team and a production member of The Skin Project. /Amy Boyajian is the founder of Wild Flower, a gender neutral sexual wellness brand that focuses on pleasure and education. Previous to Wild Flower, Amy worked as a dominatrix in NYC, giving her a unique insight to sexuality within our culture and helping her shape her unique style of sexual education. Originally from the UK, Amy currently resides in New York City. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In March 2017, Tina gave a lecture at Skidmore College in update New York, based on an article she wrote for Refinery 29. The lecture and the article were called “Why Sex Work Decriminalization Matters to Feminism.” In light of the national conversation about SESTA/FOSTA, Tina decided to release the audio she recorded of this lecture (not the best sound quality, but solid content, promise!). Touching on topics from pop culture representation to trans rights to violence to consent to class to public health to emotional labor to utopian visions, this lecture offers many useful talking points for explaining the connection between the things that matter to sex workers and the things that matter to feminists.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I can make anybody into a clown!” Dear listeners, you may know by now that Tina is and always has been unnerved by clowns, and has even avoided requests for a YAPIT episode on that topic. Until now! The calming, elegant darkness of Domina Dia Dynasty, co-creator of NYC’s La Maison du Rouge, inspired Tina to face her fears. Tina crawled into Dia’s homemade yurt to discuss humiliation, exaggeration, wonder, curiosity, transformation, absurdity, masks, and how Dia likes to live in the place where humor and terror intersect. //Dia Dynasty is a Shamanatrix; a professional dominatrix who incorporates spiritual and healing modalities into her BDSM practice in order to offer her clients transformational and life-altering experiences. Her 10 years as a professional dominatrix in New York City, along with her lifelong engagement with yoga and magick have honed her skills of domination with a mixture of psychomagick, holistic health practices, and ritual work. Dia has been a guest on numerous kink, sex and spirituality forums including Kink Doctor’s Youtube talk show, Witchwave podcast, SexOutLoud Radio with Tristan Taormino, DownForWhatever podcast, Banana Mag print publication and more. Dia enjoys traveling the world, roller skating, archery, and tending to her home in Brooklyn with her cat and her life partner.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“As someone who has done sex work activism full time for years, I’ve found that in order to not burn out in this fight, I have to be having gross pervy sex, just living the ho life. Otherwise WTF are we fighting for?” // Recorded live at the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood Los Angeles May 2018, this panel features Siouxsie Q and Carly D. Three drama queen sex educators in WeHo discuss the politics of sexual freedom and then exercise it to the extreme! // Discover how to be a high status princess, how to follow the narrative arc of gaping, why the office of POTUS is the ultimate in power bottoming, what Siouxsie and Tina would do if they were stuck in an elevator and both had to pee, how turning housework into a sex game makes invisible labor visible, how to be a valeDICKtorian, and why people are into pigs, tunnel plugs, double penetration, ass to mouth, giant novelty cocks, and more! Also a very special guest appearance by Damien Bathory explaining the appeal of scat. // Writer, advocate, and performer Siouxsie Q has been an outspoken leader in the sex worker rights movement since 2012 when she launched her popular podcast, The WhoreCast, garnering national attention. Her first book, Truth Justice, and the American Whore was released in May of 2016, and her writing and perspectives have been featured in Wired, Alternet, CNN, Rolling Stone, National Public Radio and many more. Her sex column, The Whore Next Door, ran in the SF Weekly from 2014 until last year when she relocated to Los Angeles, to lead adult film performers in a historic win against the noxious California Proposition 60. She currently serves on the Board of Directors of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee and continues write, perform, and fight for sex workers rights at the local, state, and national levels. // Carly D. Weckstein is a sex educator and theatre director who works as the Junior Buyer at The Pleasure Chest stores. Raised by two Bay-Area gynecologists, she has a passion for empowering people through knowledge of their own bodies. In our culture of so many damaging and contradicting messages around sexuality, she believes that deep healing and joy can be found through re-claiming sex on your own terms. Carly loves teaching about communication, consent, orgasm, kink/BDSM and roleplay. When she's not talking to people about sex, she's busy running a feminist theatre ensemble in Los Angeles. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The second you make someone laugh, it’s so much easier to get money out of 'em!” / Live from McNally Jackson NYC in January 2018!We discussed colorism at strip clubs, #MeToo issues, Spread Magazine, how being a stripper prepares you to write single panel comics, and a certain portrait of Aya's mom wearing a leopard print fur bikini holding a snake! / From I Was A Teenage Dominatrix to The Happy Hooker, classic sex work books have been limited to pretty one-dimensional points of view. In the 21st century, sex work books are as prismatic as the workers themselves. Join sex work journalist and podcaster Tina Horn for a panel on the exciting and nuanced ways sex work is being written about right now. Learn how strippers around the world represent themselves, on topics ranging from snacks to the male ego, in Jacq the Stripper's crowdfunded self published Striptastic. Learn why Aya de Leon chose escort characters as the protagonists of her Justice Hustlers crime series. Learn how Akynos uses both her blogging and performance art as activism. We'll be discussing everything from stigma to genre to branding to high heels in an effort to create a real and honest portrait of the modern literary sex worker. / Jacq the Stripper is a Canadian writer, comedian, stripper and illustrator. She lives in New York City with her wife and plants.Beaver Show, Striptastic, social media... / Aya de Leon is an author, teacher, and activist in the Oakland Bay Area. Kensington Books publishes her sex worker heist series, Justice Hustlers: Uptown Thief in 2016 (winner of Independent Publisher and International Latino Book Awards), The Boss in 2017, and The Accidental Mistress in 2018. She has received acclaim in the Washington Post, Village Voice, Tits and Sass, The SF Chronicle, and The Establishment. Her work has also appeared in Ebony, Guernica, Writers Digest, Huffington Post, The Toast, The Honest Courtesan, Essence, VICE, Bitch Magazine and on Def Poetry. She is also at work on a black girl spy YA novel called Going Dark, and an adult spy novel about FBI infiltration of an African American political organization. She teaches creative writing in the African American Studies Department at UC Berkeley, and blogs and tweets about race, gender, and culture at @AyadeLeon and ayadeleon.com. kynos is a New York raised stripper and performance artist. For the past decade she has been featured in showcases from New York to Europe. She is a proud sex worker and human rights activist. She has spoken at events such as the 2016 International AIDS conference in South Africa and the AWID conference in Brazil of the same year. Her film Whore Logic has been featured in film festivals such as The Sex Worker Film and Arts festival. She currently has a new bi-weekly variety showcase with her dance troupe Koffee every other Thursdays at Essence bar in Brooklyn. To support her artistic endeavors please support her current gofundme campaign and sign up for her patreon where she will feature writings and a podcast on topics pertaining to her life, sex worker rights and conversations around sex and sexuality. She is currently a grad student at Goddard College in Vermont.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“If the thing you love to do is only seen in 'shame' porn, you may think that’s the only slot you fit into as a desirable person. That’s not cool, and that’s what I’m trying to fix.” / From ASMR to GIFS, comics to fan fiction, public screenings to photo sets of dudes who can suck their own dicks, this YAPIT Live from April 2018 at the Pleasure Chest in NYC explores all personal and political facets of modern pornography. / Special guests Math Magazine EiC Mackenzie Peck and Pleasure Chest sex educator Leon also swerve into an explanation of what FOSTA/SESTA means for sexual freedom, how paying for porn can actually improve your sex life, and the ethics of literally eating people. / MacKenzie Peck was born on Valentine's Day, raised in Connecticut, and graduated from the Maryland Institute College of Art, magna cum laude. Three years ago, she set on a path to becoming a pornographer. Now, with the hotly anticipated seventh issue of Math Magazine coming out soon, she is working to revolutionize social norms and evolve industry methodologies. /Leon is a worker at the pleasure chest and budding sex educator who has been active in the kink community for around eight years. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“When I’m editing my porn I love admiring the way my nails look wrapped around a dick.” / CONTENT WARNING: This episode includes frank, informed discussions of consensual non-consent fantasies, as well as two Jewish women unpacking what it means for trolls to invoke the Holocaust. / Artist, indie porn producer, and sex work organizer Arabelle Raphael is femme for a living. So what does it mean to be a queer lover of opulent extravagant finger adornments? Arabelle and I chatted about our mutual love of creepiness, the way she’s transformed troll hate mail into art, the Tex Avery cartoons that are forever linked to her femme identity, and exactly how to fuck someone when you have long nails (hint: very carefully!). / Arabelle Raphael is an artist, indie porn producer and sex worker living in the Bay Area. Arabelle has been nominated for numerous AVN awards and won her first in 2018. She is active in sex worker's rights and community organizing. She working on publishing her first book Evaluations.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I didn’t how to kiss gently. It was always about grabbing the person, putting my hand around their throat, biting. Leaving as many bruises on a body as possible. I confused a lot of people!”How is being an actress like being a dominatrix? Tina spoke with the creators of the groundbreaking new webseries "Mercy Mistress" about BDSM as healing, sex work as a consent ritual, and the perks of crop tops in winter.Mercy Mistress is an episodic dramatic series that follows Mistress Yin, a queer first generation Chinese-American professional and lifestyle dominatrix living in New York City. Each episode focuses on a different client and explores the roots of their particular kink while the larger story is one that unveils the layers of Mistress Yin's own sexuality and how she broke from a cycle of abuse, self-destruction, and childhood violence through her healing journey with BDSM.Yin Q is a BDSM educator/writer, media producer, sex work activist, and mother of two fierce girls. She has a BA from Barnard College and MFA from The New School. Poppy Liu is a first generation Yellow American New York City based actor, poet and community organizer who was born in Xi'An, China and raised between Minnesota and Shanghai.Poppy is the founding director of the production company Collective Sex which has the mission of decolonizing queer femme stories about body, sex, love and healing.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The ultimate fantasy is love.” Live from Camp Ravish, a sexy outdoor event in rural Texas, comes this atmospheric YAPIT Live! My special guest was world renowned rope bondage expert JD from 2 Knotty Boys. We discussed bondage, exhibitionism and voyeurism, spanking, age play, and more! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Chivalry is the kind of ritualized flirting that goes on and on and on." In this episode, iconic writer S. Bear Bergman makes a case for chivalry; a modern, bespoke, very queer kind. He compares it to high protocol BDSM, cruising, and good ole fashioned courtesy. Very much the kind of convo you’ll only find on YAPIT.S. Bear Bergman is a writer, storyteller, educator, activist and the founder and publisher of children’s book publisher Flamingo Rampant, which makes feminist, culturally-diverse children’s picture books about LGBT2Q+ kids and families. He writes creative non-fiction for grown ups, fiction for children, resolutely factual features for various news outlets, the advice column Asking Bear and was the co-editor along with Kate Bornstein of Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation. These days he spends most of his time making transgender cultural competency interventions any way he can and trying to avoid stepping on Lego. Learn more about his projects at sbearbergman.com. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Back in the 90s, I touched so many pussies and so many penises while doing erotic awakening massage that eventually I noticed there was no fucking difference: People were responding as erotic beings!”Part 2 of YaPi Tantra begins with Barbara Carrellas guiding us through the first steps to full body blissgasms. She also explains how the 10th anniversary edition of Urban Tantra came to include trans and gender nonconforming erotic awakening massage, and tells a bit of the origins of her tantra practice in a downtown Manhattan strip club. Barbara Carrellas is celebrating the brand new second edition of her bestselling book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century—the world’s first LGBTQ- and BDSM-inclusive Tantric sex book. She has also written Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide To Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving. Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®  — a philosophy, an international community, and an inclusive conscious sexuality practice. She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine for her Urban Tantra® workshops, and was awarded a 2016 Sexual Freedom Award for Lifetime Achievement. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The AIDS crisis was taking away our sexual freedom as well as our lives. I wanted to have sex in a way that was safe from HIV, but ecstatic as gay men in the all night disco palaces of your dreams.”Barbara Carrellas is a queer kinky sex educator whose work has been very influential on Tina’s personal and professional life. To celebrate the tenth anniversary edition of Barbara’s seminal book Urban Tantra, the two of them sat down to discuss breath and energy orgasms, their relative tolerate for “woo,” and the complications of cultural appropriation. This is Part One, with Part Two coming later this month!Barbara Carrellas is celebrating the brand new second edition of her bestselling book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century—the world’s first LGBTQ- and BDSM-inclusive Tantric sex book. She has also written Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide To Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving. Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®  — a philosophy, an international community, and an inclusive conscious sexuality practice. She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine for her Urban Tantra® workshops, and was awarded a 2016 Sexual Freedom Award for Lifetime Achievement. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The part of sex that most people love is the letting go, the freedom of connection with themselves or another person, the expansion, literally the OMG of it. Most people feel that want more of that and they want it to go on longer. Tantra offers practical ways to get you there."Recorded in front of a particularly enthusiastic audience at the Pleasure Chest in NYC, December 2017, this is the Tantra Edition of YAPIT Live! Featuring Barbara Carrellas, author of the kinky queer sex guide Urban Tantra, along with Sloan, a Pleasure Chest educator and curator, this episode covers massage, breath, orgies, and much more! $5+ Patrons get the episode early, as well as NOT ONE BUT TWO EXCLUSIVE EXTRAS including sex advice about asking for what you want when what you want is love, and a whole lot of fascinating audience questions. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Part Two of my conversation with Melissa Dessereau, MFT, in which we discuss attachment theory, and why queers are especially well equipped for non-monogamy. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This February, let's rethink our idea about romance by focusing on self love and solo sex!Tania has been with the Pleasure Chest for 2 years managing the Lincoln Avenue location in Chicago. She loves poetry, cooking and crystals. She finds a lot of joy in helping folks find a way to love themselves and others. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“You can’t really control whether you’re having an emotional connection with someone." By popular demand, here is an entire episode on the topic of open relationships, with a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who also happens to be an out queer polyamorous badass. Is having a customized relationship really worth all that processing? Listen and decide for yourself!Melissa Dessereau is a perceptive and nuanced therapist with a refreshingly frank style. For over 20 years, she has been working with individuals, couples, and families to foster personal growth and satisfying relationships. She has a way of making clients feel comfortable, understood, and at ease — like no matter what you say she gets it and doesn’t judge you. And she’s funny.Melissa can deal with complexity and better yet can make it simple and manageable. She’s well-versed with queer, kinky, and polyamorous relationships and experiences. You can visit her web page at http://www.phiirst.com/bio-melissa.htm.Melissa is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She completed her Master of Science in Family Therapy with a concentration in Sex Therapy at Thomas Jefferson University. She also holds Master of Arts in Child Development from Tufts University. Melissa is a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“In summary, life is pain; submit to me!” Mistress Blunt’s professional practice incorporates devotional principles of yoga with classic BDSM training. In this highly intellectual and erotic episode, she talks with Tina about altered states of consciousness, the relationship between chronic pain and S&M, and her specialized femme induction sessions. Danielle Blunt is a New York City based professional and lifestyle domina. She is a classically trained dominatrix, a sex worker’s rights activist, a public health student, a full-spectrum doula, a yoga teacher, a writer, an award winning visual artist, and a plant mom. Her play, work and research all explore the intersections of tenderness and pain. She enjoys long walks on the beach and making men cry.@MistressBlunt  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A freezer filled with vacuum-sealed dirty panties. Breeder gloves for fisting. How to turn a vibrator into a bondage toy. Putting feet in assholes. A mutual love of ruined orgasms. The dominatrix edition of YAPIT Live at the Pleasure Chest in NYC has all this and a whole lot more kinky shit. “I want you to feel like you can’t get away at all. I want a hundred locks. I want to chain you down. I want you to feel like a complete prisoner.”This all-BDSM sex worker panel features NYC-based dominatrix Lucy Sweetkill of La Maison du Rouge, and Ryan, the Outreach Coordinator of the Pleasure Chest NYC. Recording by Justine Mclellan, sponsored by Acast. If you’re in the NYC area, come to the monthly live series to enjoy raunchy talk with my special sexpert guests, wine and refreshments, schmoozing with babes, and discounted sex toy shopping! Updated info is always at TinaHorn.net/live.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cleaning things up so you can get extra dirty. That’s the philosophy of Ask A Clean Person columnist and podcaster Jolie Kerr. Tina had the misconception that a cleaning expert probably wouldn’t share some of her disgusting interests, but Jolie defies expectations with her dirty mouth and filthy mind. In this episode, Jolie gives tips for using ketchup to clean leather strap-on harnesses, and using meat tenderizer to clean up period blood; and Tina tells a very personal story about an anal catastrophe.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

NYC-based Sex educator Carly is sick and tired of shame-y New Years' Resolutions. So we decided to brainstorm body positive ways to start 2018! From watching yourself masturbate to treating your sex toys extra nice, this is the only resolution guide you'll need this January!Carly S. has been a sex educator since 2010 and runs the blog dildoordildont. If you ever meet her, she loves strong coffee and even stronger vibration. She's called the Queen of Wands, and it's easy to figure out why. Check the Pleasure Chest calendar to see her teach!  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“What I love the most about being a porn performer is the vulnerability." This summer while Tina was visiting Austin Texas, she had an extremely personal and poignant conversation on with her old friend Mickey Mod. Mickey opened up about his career as a porn star, how stigma changes when you fall in love, and why the double standard of the “interracial” porn genre is an economic justice issue. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special holiday guide from the Pleasure Chest, LA sex specialist Tracy walks us through all sort of stocking stuffer ideas from vibrators that double as jewelry, to porn, books, bondage toys, massage oils, gift cards, gift packages, and special deals to give the gift of stress relief to all your loved ones!Tracy is the Supervisor and Sex specialist at the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood. She has been working for the Pleasure Chest since 2015 and in the adult toy industry for 6 years. Her goal is to help others explore and add a lil spice and everything nice to their lives!  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Theres a tendency for men in tech to trust machines more than they trust women.” For the first time ever, Tina tackles a speculative YAPIT: or as guest Rose Eveleth calls it: why WOULD people BE into that? Rose is the host and producer of Flash Forward, a spectacular podcast about the future. She’s also written extensively about sex robots technology with feminist humor and scientific skepticism. In this episode, Tina and Rose muse on everything from the consent politics of machines, to how sex workers and sex robots might work together, to where the hell you would store a sex robot in a New York apartment. Rose Eveleth is a journalist who covers how humans tangle with sports, science and technology. She’s the host and producer of Flash Forward, a podcast about the future, and has covered everything from fake tumbleweed farms to sexist prosthetics. Before all that she worked at The Atlantic, Smithsonian Magazine, Nautilus Magazine, TED and CBS. Her work has appeared on Vice, BBC Future, Racked, Scientific American, Eater, The New York Times, Fusion, Five Thirty Eight and more. In her spare time she makes paper automata and day dreams about hanging out with a pack of foxes.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Lesbian vampires. Face-hugging aliens. Blue collar werewolves. Shitty boyfriend robots. Abject zombies. Mermaids with strap-ons. The devil’s ice-cold dick. These are just some of the hilarious ways we sexualized monsters on this Halloween edition of YAPIT Live at the Pleasure Chest in NYC. My gore whore guests Katie Skelly (author of the graphic novel My Pretty Vampire), Kristen Sollee (author of Witches Sluts Feminists) and Carly (sex educator at the Pleasure Chest and author of the Dildo Or Dil-Don't blog). Recording by Ben Weber sponsored by Acast. If you’re in the NYC area, come to the monthly live series to enjoy raunchy talk with my special sexpert guests, wine and refreshments, schmoozing with babes, and discounted sex toy shopping! Updated info is always at TinaHorn.net/live.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I’m imagining a sperm-soaked pulsating os right now.”Tina hopped on the phone with Stephanie Berman, creator of the Pop! ejaculating dildo. They discussed the reproductive origin story of this innovative toy, as well as kinky and gender affirming uses.@TheSemenette Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For the latest in my special series from the Pleasure Chest, Mary joins me to chat about Domination and Submission. Mary has worked in various aspects of the adult industry for nearly two decades. Through pleasure education, pro domination, and outfitting premier adult stores, her focus has always been on validating fantasies and relieving humans of sexual oppressions. She currently resides in Los Angeles with her partner, two kids, and often teaches kink oriented workshops at the Pleasure Chest West Hollywood.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Pub Day Jaclyn Friedman! Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All is now available everywhere! To celebrate, enjoy this recording from our live crossover podcast at Sex Expo NYC. We discussed Ted Cruz’ “staffing issue,” the reproductive rights actions of the Satanic Temple, psychic dicks, masturbation, our favorite vibrators, adult baby diaper lovers, tentacle porn, and how to start the resistance from your bedroomRecorded live in front of an audience at the Sex Expo in Brooklyn September 23rd by Nora Linde. Educational programming sponsored by the Pleasure Chest. Engineering sponsored by Acast.http://www.jaclynfriedman.com/unscrewed@jaclynf TinaHorn.net/Live@TinaHornsAss@thesexexpo @PleasureChestNY @acast Music by Trezure Empire Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

G spots, 69’ing, custom porn, crystal massage oil: It’s YAPT Live at the Pleasure Chest with Misha Battle and Carly! Recorded on Sept 7th in NYC, this panel also covered NURU, pegging, magic wands, how sword swallowing helps you to improve your oral sex skills, and why Carly wants to be on News12 The Bronx for beating up an intruder with a certain sex toy. Recording engineered by Justine Mclellan and sponsored by Acast.@TinaHornsAss@MyishaBattle @Makeupandsin @PleasureChestNY @acast  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex coach Ev’yan Whitney joins Tina on the phone from Portland Oregon to discuss the sex appeal of crystals, polyamory, demisexuality, masturbation, self care, and more.Ev’Yan Whitney is a writer, sensualist, and sexuality doula—a person who helps facilitate, educate, and hold space for women who are seeking to come into the full expression of their erotic selves. When she’s not writing or taking sexy selfies on Instagram, she’s helping women step out of sexual shame and into their erotic power via one-on-one coaching.Ev’Yan is also the host of The Sexually Liberated Woman podcast, which is an ongoing sex-positive dialogue that highlights, celebrates, and encourages the sexually liberated woman. You can find more about her work at sexloveliberation.com and see her brazenly celebrating her sexuality on Instagram at @evyan.whitney Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oct 5th NYC! Sexy Monsters at the Pleasure Chest! Kristen Korvette (Witches Sluts Feminists) & Katie Skelly (My Pretty Vampire) join me to discuss why witches, vampires, werewolves, and other monsters are so erotic. TinaHorn.net/LIVE! See you there! “Magic is shifting perception and consciousness. That happens during sex whether you like it or not,.” In this episode, Kristen Korvette aka Kristen Sollee shares tips for masturbation magic, activist incantation, and the historical connection between powerful sluts and seductive witches. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Halloween is the one time of year you can wear fetish gear or lingerie in public, and the Pleasure Chest is the perfect place to shop for those dark and sexy accessories. But what about when you find yourself wanting to be a dominatrix, or a human puppy, or a stocking lover all year round? The Pleasure Chest has you, ahem, covered for all of your erotic wearable needs. Join Koko of the PC store in WeHo LA for an exploration of collars, schoolgirl skirts, packers, cat eye masks, and more outfits to signal to the world the slut or the stud you know you are inside. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Picking up cash with your pussy. Pulling bills out of your butt. Torturing men until they reveal where they've hidden your money around the room. Tina and Lorelei have witnessed some wild intersections of finances and sex in their time. In Part Two, they continue their discussion of financial domination and cash fetishism. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Money makes the world go round, or so it's been sung. So what about when cash makes your pussy wet and your dick hard? Pornographer, writer, and activist Lorelei Lee understands both sides of the transactional fetish known as financial domination. In this episode, Tina and Lorelei explore the circumstances in which sex work is and is not "findoming," plus all the different ways to fuck on top of a pile of money. “You exist only to prop me up. This is the entire reason you go to work. You’re just a pay piggie. You might as well sign over your check to me. The thing that’s thrilling me is having cash accumulate around me, rubbing it on my body, smelling it. I love to fuck on it. I love to throw it around the room. I feel like I’m receiving power when I receive that money, power that I specifically felt the lack of at many times in my life. I’m owning it, controlling it, stepping on it. Maybe the thing I’m dominating is the money… “ Lorelei Lee has been an adult film performer, a bachelor party dancer, a professional dominatrix, a waitress, an advice columnist, and a writing teacher. She has been nominated for 11 AVN awards. Her fiction, nonfiction, and poetry have appeared in Salon, The Rumpus, WIRED, Denver Quarterly, the Los Angeles Review of Books, Buzzfeed, $pread Magazine, and elsewhere. She cowrote the independent film About Cherry, in distribution through IFC films. She is a member of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee and was the Free Speech Coalition’s 2015 Woman of the Year. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

NYC! Come out TONIGHT to see sex coach Myisha Battle and Tina Horn in conversation at the East side Pleasure Chest (TinaHorn.net/Live). If you're not in New York, then enjoy this Interrobang interview recorded the last time Myisha was in town...Sex coach Myisha Battle — who also hosts her own sex podcast Down For Whatever — has plenty to say on the subjects of threesomes, dirty talk, and squirting. But she really blew Tina's mind when she started describing dinosaur role plays and her taste for slippery nuru porn! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Pleasure Chest is a Virgo just like Tina Horn! To celebrate the 46th anniversary of this legendary sex toy retailer, Tina interviewed National Head of Business Operations Sarah Tomchesson about why people are into sex shops! Sarah explains why the biggest hurdle is walking through the door, why it's important to get a tactile feel for your sex toys, and why her grandmother got mad at her for working in this industry (but not for the reasons you might expect!).Sarah Tomchesson is Head of Business Operations for Pleasure Chest, the nation’s oldest sex-positive retailer. Sarah discovered sex-positivity and feminism while attending Reed College and after graduating with a B.A. began teaching sexual wellness and pleasure-centered workshops and seminars. Her career has involved a range of entrepreneurial endeavors, which led her to the Pleasure Chest in 2009 where she oversees company operations, brand strategy and leadership development. In addition to seeking out every opportunity to spread the message of pleasure as wellness, Sarah is also a founding member and current board member of Dyke Day LA, a volunteer-operated, free, all ages pride event in Los Angeles. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I’m really interested in stories where the sex worker doesn’t die and end up in a garbage bag.” Antonia Crane was one of the women working at the Lusty Lady when they made their historical unionization. Now she has cowritten a script called The Lusty based on her experience. Tina caught up with her during a trip to LA to talk about Westward and their favorite sex work writers. Antonia Crane is a performer, 2-time Moth Story Slam Winner and writing instructor in Los Angeles. She has written for The New York Times, The Believer, The Toast, Playboy, Cosmopolitan, Salon.com, The Rumpus, Electric Literature, DAME, The Los Angeles Review, Quartz: The Atlantic Media, Medium.com, Buzzfeed and dozens of other places. Her screenplay “The Lusty” (co-written by Transparent director, writer Silas Howard), based on the true story of the exotic dancer’s labor union, is a recipient of the San Francisco Film Society/Kenneth Rainin Foundation Grant in screenwriting, 2015. She is at work on an essay collection and a feature film. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tired of storing your vibrator in a sticky drawer? Entrepreneur Lidia Bonilla certainly was! That’s why in 2013 she left a career in banking to found the House of Plume, creating beautiful storage solutions for all of your sexual accessories. Lidia sat down with Tina to discuss the Women of Sex Tech group, why Facebook won’t allow ads for sexual wellness products, and how the sex toy industry is even whiter than banking. LIDIA BONILLA: Covered by Fast Company, Tech Crunch, and Huffington Post, the Moi Box Deluxe launched Lidia’s reputation as a design innovator, change agent and sought after expert. She speaks on topics ranging from sex in communities of color and dismantling sexual taboos to the nuts and bolts of turning an idea into a real product.Perhaps it’s no coincidence that, in her former career as a compliance and regulatory expert, Lidia worked with various “naughty” financial institutions. Raised in Miami, she calls Brooklyn home. Her spirits animals include Beyoncé, Rihanna, and the entire cast of the Golden Girls. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In Part 2 of Why Are People Into Female Dominance?!, Midori explains the appeal of compassionate sadism and details the unusual ways that graduates from her ForteFemme women’s dominance intensive use their training.Dan Savage calls Midori “The Super Nova of Kink”! She is an artistic visionary who has touched lives across the globe with her expertise in sexuality, personal fulfillment, and kinky adventures. Using her “head-heart-hands” methodology she facilitates tackling challenging topics and creating space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Her incredible passion is fully on display in her transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Make Hot Play Happen. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I like a long flirtation stroking the crevices of the mind and the back alleys of the imagination.” Midori certainly knows from femme seduction. This sex ed legend joins Tina for the 50th episode to talk about her women's dominance intensive ForteFemme and topping from a feminine space. Tina tells the full origin story of Midori’s inspiration for her power femme name. A truly evocative storyteller, Midori basically had Tina flustered and blushing the entire conversation. Stay tuned for Part two on August 15th!Dan Savage calls Midori “The Super Nova of Kink”! She is an artistic visionary who has touched lives across the globe with her expertise in sexuality, personal fulfillment, and kinky adventures. Using her “head-heart-hands” methodology she facilitates tackling challenging topics and creating space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Her incredible passion is fully on display in her transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Make Hot Play Happen. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

August is Anal Month at the Pleasure Chest! Tina was stoked to sit down with Brandon B, manager of the flagship West Village Pleasure Chest store (yup, the one from the rabbit vibe episode of Sex and the City) to discuss all things butt-related. This episode includes a butt-load (had to!) of toy recommendations from Brandon, including plugs, vibrators, beads, lube, even electro-stim! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"The freaks were at the Lusty. They wanted to be seen. They were shoving zucchinis up their asses and tying themselves into pretzels They were wearing santa hats and coming in as a gang of clowns and all jerking off together. Does it come from shame?” When Tina was in LA, she dropped by writer Antonia Crane's place to dig into some questions about erotic shame. Why are people so attached to their own erotic shame? Can sex help you overcome the power that shame holds over you? Do we NEED shame for sex to be fun? Whats the difference between liberation and hedonism in feminist sex positive culture? Should we harness shame and make it our bitch?Antonia Crane is a performer, 2-time Moth Story Slam Winner and writing instructor in Los Angeles. She has written for The New York Times, The Believer, The Toast, Playboy, Cosmopolitan, Salon.com, The Rumpus, Electric Literature, DAME, The Los Angeles Review, Quartz: The Atlantic Media, Medium.com, Buzzfeed and dozens of other places. Her screenplay “The Lusty” (co-written by Transparent director, writer Silas Howard), based on the true story of the exotic dancer’s labor union, is a recipient of the San Francisco Film Society/Kenneth Rainin Foundation Grant in screenwriting, 2015. She is at work on an essay collection and a feature film. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you think Sex Toy, chances are you’re thinking of a vibrator. But with so many different sizes and styles and gizmos, it can be overwhelming to find the vibrator that’s right for you… or to know how to expand your collection. Well, now is the perfect time to get your vibe on, because for the entire month of July at every Pleasure Chest store in NYC, LA, and Chicago as well as on the website pleasurechest dot com, everything that vibrates is buy one get one half off! Victor Tobar, the National Buying and Merchandising Manager for the Pleasure Chest joined me to explain the difference between from bullets and pocket rockets and pebbles and wands and duel-stim rabbits and butt vibes and more! We discuss whether we would get cyborg vibrator attachments, how to release perineum tension, and what Sex and the City tour bus tourists are looking for when they stop at the Pleasure Chest!Victor Tobar is the Pleasure Chest's National Buying and Merchandising Manager. He's been working in sex-positive sex toy retail for over a decade, and has been leading kink and sexuality workshops nationally for the last ten years. Victor stands firm in his belief that sexuality is as expansive as your imagination; let it run wild! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I'm attracted to dark misunderstood women. There's no moral valence to darkness.” Slutist editrix Kristen Sollee is the author of Witches Sluts Feminists, the new book everyone needs (creative directed by Tina Horn). Whether you’re curious about the history of persecution against women or the modern political activism of the Satanic Temple, or just wondering why everyone has crystals now, Kristen is your new favorite guide to the female occult. How does all of this relate to Pizzagate, Marcia Clark, and the Wizard of Oz? Listen now and get yourself a personalized copy of this book from witcheslutsfeminists dot com! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"I like to rub their dicks together in my mouth a little extra." In Part Two of our Gang Bang episode, kinky porn power couple Maitresse Madeline Marlowe and Will Havoc further discuss the technical, romantic, artistic, and queer potential of creating gang bang porn. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.