We Gotta Thing - A Swinger Podcast

There are no shortage of lifestyle sitiuations that will cause us some anxiety! Visiting a club for the first time, going on a first date, being rejected by others, wondering if our partner will 'find someone better,' performance issue worries....and so on. What is actually going on in our brains when we feel anxious or depressed? How can we recognize what's really happening and deal with it in a healthy way? Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us as we help to address some of these very common concerns. Spoiler Alert: You are not alone in dealing with these feelings and emotions!

In this episode we review our trip to 'The Resort' which was first introduced by George in episode 137. The Resort is a new opportunity to step into ethical non-monogamy in a new format and market. This property is set on the cliffs of western Jamaica and is absolutely stunning! The views, the service, the food, the entertainment, the sensual vibe and of course the sexy people were all amazing! Spoiler alert: you won't be disappointed.... Mentioned in this episode: The Resort website Music by Pornoson (used with permission) Devious Dragonfly Events The Free We Gotta Thing Info Hub Contact Mr Jones for a WGT community promo code

Can the lifestyle become an addiction? Well, it can if we don't recognize what's going on in our brains. In this episode with Catherine from Expansive Connection, we break down the key components at play including New Relationship Energy (NRE), Novelty, Desensation, the 'Pleasure Paradox' and how all of this shows up in our relationships. Of course we also discuss ways to recognize and respond when armed with this new knowledge! Discussed in this episode: Expansive Connection Coaching The Hidden Brain Podcast: The Paradox of Pleasure The Hidden Brain Podcast: The Path to Enough Join the We Gotta Thing Community Request a WGT Community promo code from Mr Jones

What does it take to be 'successful' as a couple in the world of non-monogamy? In this episode we discuss waht we believe to be the four most important characteristics of a power couple in the lifestyle: Be Connected Be Curious Be Confident Be Approachable Important Links: Contact Mr Jones to request a WGT community trial discount promo code Get access to the free We Gotta Thing Information Hub collection of resources Learn how to be successful as a single guy in the lifestyle Learn how to talk to your partner about non-monogamy STD Hero testing kits discount Follow us on 'X' and Instagram

Do you struggle with your understanding of how non-monogamy reconciles with a life of faith? Join us for a thought provoking conversation with Dr Mitch G, the newest member of the Expansive Connection coaching team. His training, experience, and specialization in religion and theology provides a helpful framework and understanding for those with religious backgrounds who find themselves struggling with their belief systems or plagued by shame, guilt, and fear over what they've been taught or once believed. Dr Mitch's Education and Certifications B.A in Religion Master's degree in Theology Doctoral degree in Holistic Health Postive Psychology & Well-being Coaching Certification Resources supporting this episode: Join the We Gotta Thing Community! Expansive Connection Coaching Embracing Prodigals by John Sanders (Cascade Books, 2020) How the Bible Actually Works by Peter Enns, PhD (Harper One, 2019) Inspired by Rachel Held Evans (Nelson Books, 2018) Better Ways to Read the Bible by Zack W. Lambert (Brazos Press, 2025) "Why You Don't Want a Biblical Marriage" with Jennifer Bird, PhD (Podcast - The New Evangelicals) Marriage in the Bible - What Do the Texts Say? by Jennifer G. Bird, PhD (Rowman & Littlefield, 2023) Sex, God & the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy by Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD (Routledge, 2017) Let's Talk About Sex - Challenging the Church's Stance on Sexual Morality by Glen Farell (Love Done Right, 2024) or their podcast "But is it Biblical" with Glen & Lydia Farell Shameless - A Sexual Reformation by Nadia Bolz-Weber (Convergent, 2019) Beyond Shame - Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts (Fortress Press, 2020) The Wisdom of Your Body - Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection through Embodied Living by Hillary McBride, PhD (Brazos Press, 2021) NG Podcast - "Reconciling Religion & Non-monogamy" 9/10/2024 Casual Swinger Podcast - "Shame on you! - Love God" 12/16/2019

One of the most common concerns for those in the lifestyle or considering non-monogamy is the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection or disease. We invited Alan Brock, CEO, and Dr William Budd, Scientific Advisor from Better Life Sciences and STD Hero testing to discuss the realities, myths, modern testing practices and services available today. We believe awareness and education along with affordable and accessible testing services comprise the most important aspects to create the best opportunity for safer sex for all in today's world. Mentioned in this episode: Better Life Science and STD Hero Testing STD Hero testing kits discount Free We Gotta Thing Information Hub Access Contact Mr Jones to request a WGT community trial discount promo code Follow us on 'X' and Instagram

We all know that all relationships, monogamous and non-monogamous, will change over time. Many of those changes will lead to the relationship ending. But does it have to end? Why can't the dynamics of a relationship change while preserving the friendship through it's next phase? Kel from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us to discuss how to navigate these changes in a way that can preserve and often grow the relationship! Expansive Connection Coaching We Gotta Thing Community

This 'ask us anything' episode was recorded live at our 9th annual group trip to Desire Pearl. Not only did we answer questions but our friends helped us out by contributing as well. Use Promo Code: WGT100 to receive $100 off our annual WGT premium community membership between now and January 4, 2026.

As a follow up to our episode 142, we hear from Catherine about how the ending of her marriage is affecting her coaching business at Expansive Connection. Will her clients still trust her as a coach? Has this loss made her job more difficult when discussing non-monogamy with her clients? Does she feel like a bit of an imposter? Will this experience make her a better coach? Would you see a coach who has lost her marriage after becoming non-monogamous? Listen in to find out! Safety Statements Join our We Gotta Thing community here! Expansive Connection Coaching

We are joined by Dedeker, Emily and Jase from the Multiamory* podcast to discuss the similarities and differences between the swinging lifestyle and polyamory! We also talk about what exactly New Relationship Energy (NRE) is and how we can recognize and navigate those strong feelings and emotions when they hit you or someone you love. *Multiamory centers multiple forms of love- everything from monogamy to nonmonogamy, casual dating to queerplatoni partnerships, married couples living separately to those who are single by choice, and everything in between. The Multiamory Podcast and Team

This episode gets very real and very personal. Catherine, from Expansive Connection Relationship Coaching, tells her story of how her marriage fell apart while engaged in a non-monogamous relationship with her husband. Many couples fear this type of loss when considering and moving into and through non-monogamy. Catherine courageously shares her story so that others may benefit and be fully prepared for making such an important relationship decision. Expansive Connection Coaching We Gotta Thing Episode 41- A Licensed Counselor Breaks Down Jealousy Making Polyamory Work Episode- Coming Out to Your Kids Normalizing Non Monogamy- Catherine & Ray Jen Hatmaker- Awake WGT Single Guys Only Space

Join us and Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching as we discuss the six most important things those new to the lifestyle need to know and us veterans of the lifestyle need always to remember: Radical Honesty as the Starting Point Shifting Mindsets: From Specialness to Uniqueness Navigating Jealousy and Compersion with Conscious Awareness Boundaries, Agreements and People-Pleasing Navigating Different Paces in the Journey Co-Creating Evolving Agreements Expansive Connection Coaching We Gotta Thing Community We Gotta Thing Website We Gotta Thing on Instagram

None of us are immune from having 'real life' issues disrupt our relationship or our current life plans and goals. Health issues, family responsibilities, career changes and relocations are just a few of the things that we can expect to encounter in life that will change our priorities. After just over a year of not playing with others in the lifestyle we are happy to announce we are back in the game! Listen in to learn why we stopped, what we had to work through as a couple, what we learned and how we decided to reengage with others at this time. Mentioned this episode: WGT Quarterly Membership Promo Code: WGT930 (expires September 30, 2025) 2 + 2 Swingers Club in Athens, Greece WGT Desire Pearl Event- November 15-22, 2025

In episode 136 Kel, from Expansive Connection Coaching explained all nine Enneagram personality types and motivations. Listen in on this real-time coaching session as Kel reveals the Enneagram results of Mr & Mrs Jones and helps them understand their types and how to better value and understand each other as life partners. Episode Resources: Books The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso; Russ Hudson The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron; Suzanne Stabile Podcast Series Enneagram 2.0 Websites Enneagram Institute The Narrative Enneagram Non-monogamy Coaching Expansive Connection

When we hear the word 'swinger' or 'lifestyle' the first time we may think of key parties, sleezy sex clubs, orgies with strangers and lots of perverted people who will have sex with anyone. With how non-monogamy is portrayed in some movies and television shows it's not surprising that many of us have this perception! During our most recent trip to Desire Riviera Maya we asked the couples to tell us how they would describe the world of non-monogamy to others and how that description has changed from their pre-lifestyle perceptions.

Join us as we chat with the founder of a brand new lifestyle vacation spot in Jamaica- 'The Resort.' This upscale venue gives lifestyle travelers an additional and much needed option for a sexy vacation as ethical non-monogamy becomes more mainstream around the world. Visit their website for more details and information about membership and booking!

Join us as Kel from Expansive Connection explains the Enneagram system which offers numerous benefits for personal and professional development by providing insights into motivations, behaviors, and relationships. It helps individuals understand their core personality type, strengths, weaknesses, and how they interact with others. This understanding can lead to improved self-awareness, better communication, stronger relationships, and a better connection with others in the lifestyle! Episode Resources: Books The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso; Russ Hudson The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron; Suzanne Stabile Podcast Series Enneagram 2.0 Websites Enneagram Institute The Narrative Enneagram Non-monogamy Coaching Expansive Connection

This 'Origin Story' format episode features our friends Kurt & Vicki and highlights another unique journey into and through non-monogamy. Perhaps their story of working through issues will resonate with those who struggle with things from 'the past' and how previous life experiences can interfere with fully enjoying the lifestyle. Mentioned in this episode: We Gotta Thing Community Kasidie and SDC Club Sapphire