We Are More: Sisters Talk Faith & Feminism

Baby don’t hurt me… but let’s talk about love anyway. This week: how Jesus loved, how people want to be loved, and how not to mess it up. Because love isn’t complicated — it’s just often misunderstood. Listen now.

Sin isn’t a rulebook. It isn’t about all the don’ts. At its core, sin is love lost — not loving God, not loving others. And if the church misses that, it’s missing the whole point. Let’s talk about it in this week’s episode. Listen now.

🎉 Episode 71! We’ve laughed, we’ve cried, and now we’re getting real. This week: James Dobson—yes, the “good Christian advice” guy who… wasn’t. 😬We’re breaking down his problematic takes on women, feminism, parenting, and the LGBTQ+ community and asking: how did this advice shape culture—and why are we still talking about it?If you’ve ever wondered how “faith + advice” can go wrong, or why some church teachings hurt more than help, this episode is one you don’t want to miss.

This week’s episode starts with polls, Dora the Explorer flashbacks, and Gilmore Girls references (because obviously). But then we buckle up for something way less fun: Doug Wilson. He calls himself a pastor, but his so-called “good news” is Christian nationalism, repealing women’s right to vote, and household “headship” that looks a lot like oppression. We’re calling it what it is: Doug’s ‘Good News’ Enslaves Women.

This week, we’re diving into Season 2 of Shiny Happy People. It takes us inside Teen Mania—boot camp–style weekends, fear tactics, and nonstop manipulation disguised as discipleship. We’re talking cult vibes, political power grabs, and how it left a generation of students picking up the pieces while pretending everything was shiny and happy.

This week we’re doing what we do best—scrolling, judging, and calling out the nonsense. From savage memes to shutdown phrases like “That sounds hurtful—was that your intention?”, we’re bringing the sass and the side-eye. We talk sensitive leaders, boundary-setting like a boss, and why you should absolutely make him uncomfortable. Come for the chaos, stay for the mason jar full of hydration, rest, and refusing to touch grass.

Some faiths hand out tracts. Others hand out casseroles. And some actually hand out kindness. This week, we’re talking about how Protestants love to say “it’s not about works”—then use that as an excuse to be rude, judgmental, and lazy about loving people well. If grace is real (and it is), it should make us nicer. Not meaner.

This week we're asking "What in the Hallelujah?"—because our guest Heather Frazier is here! Author of "Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!" and full-time slayer of religious BS, Heather walks us through her wild ride of unlearning everything from fear-based faith to misogynistic theology. She’s hilarious, unfiltered, and somehow still full of grace. Come for the deconstruction, stay for the snark, and maybe grab a drink—it’s that kind of episode.

This week on The Church and the Restless, we’re decentering men—spiritually, socially, and scripturally. From Deborah the war-leading prophet, to St. Brigid who founded monasteries, to Margaret Towner—the first woman ordained in the Presbyterian Church, to Rachel Held Evans who made evangelical Twitter sweat—we’re reclaiming the pulpit. Women preaching isn’t some radical new doctrine; it’s been canon since Judges 4. And if patriarchy thinks it wrote the altar call, we’re here to remind them—women have been main characters in the pews, the pulpits, and the plot since day one.

We asked our TikTok audience one big question: what would make women feel safe in church again? The answers were honest, a little spicy, and surprisingly consistent. This week, we’re diving into our own experiences—navigating church spaces as women who’ve questioned where we belong—and sharing the responses that hit hardest. It's not about dragging people back to Sunday services... it’s about naming what’s broken and imagining something better.

This week we’re keeping it chill(ish) and chatting about everything from Mackenzie Scott’s “quiet billionaire” philanthropy flex to a women-only rideshare app that actually prioritizes safety—because apparently that's still a radical concept. We’re also reading some of our favorite TikTok comments (the unhinged ones live rent-free in our heads) and laughing our way through the chaos. Oh, and we do a quick dive into India’s Finance Minister, Nirmala Sitharaman, who’s running the show and making moves you probably haven’t heard enough about. No heavy agenda—just some good stories, side-eye-worthy headlines, and a little feminist sparkle to tie it all together.

We hated seeing our faces on Zoom, but loved talking to Cynthia Beach. She’s the brilliant mind behind The Surface of Water, and we’re diving into church trauma, fierce female characters, and the truth that cuts deep. From classroom memories to #ChurchToo realities, this conversation is raw, honest, and a little too familiar for anyone who's spent time behind the scenes at church. It’s one of those episodes that lingers long after it ends.

Is he brooding… or just emotionally unavailable? In this episode, we dive into the relationships we were told to root for—Elizabeth & Darcy and Ross & Rachel. We'll unpack these problematic romances we grew up idolizing—because “he’s a cinnamon roll to her” only works if he’s not a raging jerk to literally everyone else. From Darcy's insult proposal to Ross’s chronic jealousy and entitlement, we’re asking the hard questions—like, was Lizzie falling in love… or just touring real estate?

Ever feel more like a crumpled plastic bag than a soaring firework? Same. This week, we’re calling out the lies that tell us we’re not smart enough, strong enough, or worthy enough—and where those lies really come from. From church culture to capitalism, we’re naming names and pushing back. Because you were never meant to stay stuck in the trash.

Women keep leaving the church—and the marriages it pushes. Maybe because “God will provide” somehow turned into “he pays the bills, you provide literally everything else.” In this episode, we’re redefining what it means to be a provider: emotionally, spiritually, relationally. It’s not just about money, and it’s definitely not just for men. Cue a Gloria Gaynor remix: I Will Provide.

Seventy percent of divorces in the U.S. are initiated by women—and no, it’s not because we’ve all been corrupted by Taylor Swift and oat milk lattes. Maybe it’s because women are finally realizing they don’t have to stay married to men who think doing the dishes is “helping.” We’re digging into what this stat actually says about marriage, independence, and why AOC’s “I will not yield to disrespectful men” is basically our new national anthem. Come for the sass, stay for the stats, and bring plenty of wine—we'll all need it

This week, we're back in Women and the Gender of God by Amy Peeler, and the last chapters are taking us there. We’re talking about Mary’s yes—not a passive “sure, whatever,” but an informed, free, and powerful choice. We’re digging into consent, agency, and why the “perfect path” theology we grew up with is... not it. Plus, we wade into the masculine myth surrounding God and how patriarchy managed to call delusion “divine order.” Join us for another long-winded, fiery, funny chapter breakdown—because God gave us free will and three pages of notes.

What if God isn’t some bearded old guy in the sky? In this episode, we’re finally talking about Amy Peeler’s book, Women and the Gender of God, and yes — it’s as disruptive as it sounds. We're digging into who decided God had to be a “He,” why that stuck, and what cracks open when you question it. As always, it’s about gender, power, and the full-blown existential meltdown conservatives have when God doesn’t come wrapped in patriarchy. Spoiler: Ariana Grande might have been onto something.

Ever notice how the headlines are all about men? We’re over it. This week, we’re flipping the script—starting with an art gallery that straight-up banned men (and yes, it’s as iconic as it sounds). We’re also diving into BookTok: why it's blowing up, who’s trying to tear it down, and how the backlash reeks of sexist nonsense. Women are reading, creating, curating—and we’re here for all of it. Let’s make women the headline for once.

This is the episode where we ask: why are women leading in the Bible... but still not allowed to lead in half our churches? We’re talking prophets, preachers, and a “mighty throng” of gospel-proclaiming women — while the men were literally asleep. Plus, we’re side-eyeing Bible translations that erase women and calling out the church for being more patriarchal than the culture it claims to stand against. It’s about to get uncomfortable (in a holy way... ish).

You weren’t built to carry life alone—and you definitely weren’t meant to text your therapist, your mom, and your barista the same vent paragraph because you’ve got no one else. Girlhood is sacred. Female friendship is holy ground. Mary didn’t run to Joseph—she ran to Elizabeth. This week, we’re talking about why your village better include women who get it.

Who told y’all Mary Magdalene was a hooker? Because it wasn’t the Bible. Mary Magdalene wasn’t a prostitute — but erasing powerful women by calling them whores is a church tradition older than communion wine. This week we’re calling it what it is and dragging the theology that made it possible. And here's a shock: some of those dusty old sermons didn’t age well.

Today is the day! We're finally talking about our best friend (she doesn’t know it yet), Beth Allison Barr's, newest book: Becoming the Pastor’s Wife. Hang out with us while we uncover the ways the role of “pastor’s wife” has been shaped by patriarchy, not the Bible. Why have women been told that their calling to ministry means that they should marry a pastor? Why is it that when your husband gets a pulpit, you get a church organ and a casserole dish? Let’s unpack the expectations, the erasure, and what it means to reclaim your calling—without losing yourself in the process.

The western church's version of Jesus is too religious. Too focused on power, rules, and control—too busy legislating morality to look anything like, well, Jesus. If faith has been weaponized against you, if ‘Christian values’ seem more about politics than love, you’re not imagining it. Let’s talk about the difference between the real Jesus and the one wrapped in red, white, and blue. This week, we're wrapping up Steve Bezner’s Your Jesus is Too American and talking more about what it really means to follow Jesus when even Christianity doesn't look much like Him.

Our best friend, Beth Allison Barr, came to town, and you know we had to be there. We sat front and center for her talk on biblical womanhood, patriarchy, and why history is way less patriarchal than certain church leaders want it to be. She didn’t hold back, and honestly, we loved every second of it. In this episode, we’re recapping the highlights, sharing our favorite moments, and, of course, talking about "Becoming the Pastor's Wife." Oh, and did we totally fangirl? Maybe. No regrets.

The early church wasn’t obsessed with power. But modern American Christianity? I’s practically campaigning. If you think a billionaire is gonna save your soul—or your bank account—you might need to check who’s really benefiting from all that “Christian generosity.” Spoiler alert: it’s not the poor. It’s not the marginalized. And it’s definitely not Jesus. Generosity with conditions isn’t generosity at all, and when churches start looking more like political action committees than communities of faith, we’ve got a problem. This week, we’re diving into week 2 of Steve Bezner’s Your Jesus Is Too American and asking the big question: has the church traded real generosity for influence and control? Let’s talk about what it really means to give—without the fine print.

Jesus flipping tables? Iconic. The modern American church flipping its morals for political power? Not so much. This week, we’re reviewing Your Jesus Is Too American and the absolute mess that is evangelical nationalism. Plus, let's talk about how Beth Moore got canceled for… checks notes… standing up for the oppressed, and somehow we’re still pretending this isn’t a massive red flag? If Christianity is supposed to be about love, why does it look more like a political power grab? And if we’re supposed to follow Jesus, maybe we should stop idolizing golden statues of failed politicians. Just a thought. Join us for what may be our most controversial episode yet.

We’re back from our brief hiatus, and this episode? It's a wild ride. We’re diving headfirst into the church’s weird, exhausting obsession with women’s bodies—because apparently, holiness comes with a goal weight. We’ll also be fangirling over our best friend (who has no clue we exist) Beth Allison Barr’s upcoming book, Becoming the Pastor’s Wife, and unpacking how the church has perfected the art of controlling women under the guise of “godly expectations.” And before you start stressing about whether your body is a “temple,” let’s get one thing straight—it’s not about weight, waistlines, or whether you dyed your hair green. It’s about being the kind of person people turn to when they need to find God, not the kind of person handing out diet plans in His name.

Dinah's story is one of those Old Testament wild rides—tragic, infuriating, and somehow still relevant. We’re unpacking Genesis 34, where Jacob does the absolute least, Dinah’s brothers take justice into their own hands, and a certain man thinks "kidnap and assault" equals "love at first sight." Oh, and we found possibly the weirdest fictional retelling of this story ever written. If you've never heard of Dinah, you’re not alone—she's new to us too. Buckle up, because this one is morally grey at best.Trigger warning for this one: we'll be dealing with themes of assault and violence.

This week’s episode is all about love in its many forms. From the messy journey of self-love to loving your neighbor (even when they’re the worst), to the joys and chaos of romance, we’re diving into what it really means to love and be loved. Expect heartfelt moments, plenty of laughs, and maybe a little tough love—because, let’s be real, some of y’all (and us) need to hear it.Tune in, laugh with us, and remember: You are more than enough.

This week, we’re exploring the unfortunate world of The One Year Book of Devotions for Boys—and by that, we mean skimming, laughing, and asking the real questions like, “Why does this devotional need a two-part walrus saga?” It’s a bit of a wild ride—spazzy, unfocused, and full of tangents (because clearly, we’re thriving). From thrift-book bargains to passive moms and ambitious boys with career options like “pilot” or “pastor,” we’re unpacking the subliminal messages that shaped a generation of church kids. Grab your coffee (or scary murder book), and let’s do this before the breakdowns hit.

This week we're taking a break from the usual programming to check in—on us, on you, and on what faith looks like when leaders let us down. The Sunday Scaries is more than burnout; it’s about reclaiming spiritual health when walking into a church feels more terrifying than comforting.

What if everything you’ve been told about “biblical womanhood” missed the mark? This week, we're looking at complementarian versus egalitarian viewpoints—are women too strong? Too weak? Too much? Too little? Priscilla, one of Paul’s co-workers and a fearless leader in the early church, didn’t seem to struggle with any of that nonsense. She taught, she led, and she might have even written the book of Hebrews. So, why are we still stuck in the middle?

We're digging into Danae Dobson’s Let’s Talk... again, and wow—it’s a lot. From telling girls to tone down their personalities to teaching that courtship is just a prelude to being “married off,” this book is a time capsule of bad advice. And the “Let’s Talk About Boys” chapter? Let's just say that a chapter interviewing teenage boys about what they find attractive in girls is as gross and shallow as you’d expect. Why were we all told to be less and look perfect just to be “worthy”?If you grew up reading this book or anything like it, you’ll want to tune in. We have so so very many thoughts.

Let’s be honest: devotionals for "Christian Girls" are painful. This week, we're talking about a book from our youth, which isn’t just outdated—it’s a masterclass in teaching girls to feel small, ashamed, and silent. We’re unpacking the purity culture, body shaming, and impossible standards it peddles. This is just the first in a series, and trust us, we’re not holding back. Women, if you're ready to see yourselves as worth more to God than you ever thought possible, hit play—this one’s for you.

Ever prayed as a kid for a miraculous snowstorm—just to skip church? Been there. In this episode, we're talking about growing up in ultra-conservative churches, complete with boring devotionals and the same sermons over and over. Alyssa dishes on her “perfect Christian girl” phase—spoiler alert: it didn’t age well—and Bri shares how being single in the church sometimes feels like wearing a neon “unworthy” sign. If you’ve ever wondered how to unlearn the toxic churchy stuff while keeping the faith, this episode is for you. Press play and let’s dive into the mess together.

Today, we’re talking about Mary at the wedding in Cana and the audacious faith it takes to ask Jesus for a miracle—even when he seems to brush her off. The wine’s running out, the party’s about to flop, and Mary’s like, “Hey Jesus, do your thing.” His response? Basically, “Not my problem.” But Mary doesn’t even flinch—she just tells the servants, “Do whatever he says,” and boom, miracle time. Join us as we dive into this how her belief sparked Jesus’s first miracle and what it teaches women about strength, leadership, and maybe even a little holy side-eye.

When you picture Mary, the mother of Jesus, is she draped in blue, head bowed, the epitome of quiet submission? That’s the image art and tradition have sold us—but Mary was so much more. She was fierce. She was resilient. She was a leader—one whose husband submitted to her. This week, we’re taking a sledgehammer to the demure Mary trope and uncovering the incredible woman behind the blue veil. Want to know what strength really looks like? Hit play.

Alright, gather 'round, because we're talking Mary, the OG mother of Jesus (or MMOJ as the cool kids call her). Most Christmas services say, "Let's start at Luke 2, no need to go any further back." But not us, we're going all the way back to Luke 1 to see Mary make her big debut. And let us tell you, this teenager was way more than just some demure figure in a painting. Mary was the real deal - relatable and struggling with that whole "Hey, you're pregnant" news from the angel Gabriel. So let's ditch the caricatures and get to know the actual Mary. Grab your iced coffee or glass of wine, and let's dive into the story of one of the most iconic women in the Bible.

The holiday season: a time for joy… so we're told. Between gift lists, family gatherings, and endless to-dos, how do you hold onto that deep, lasting joy we’ve been told we're supposed to feel? In this episode, we’re talking about finding joy in the chaos and stress of the holidays. With a little help from Scripture (and maybe a laugh or two), we’re unpacking what it means to protect your peace and find some joy—because if Jesus talked about it, it’s probably worth a shot.

Picture this: the turkey’s still frozen, your aunts are already arguing about the mashed potatoes, and someone just brought up politics at the table. Sound familiar? We’re diving into all the chaos that comes with Thanksgiving – from setting boundaries that actually stick to finding real gratitude (even when it’s hard). Grab a slice of pumpkin pie and join us, because this year, we’re all about thankfulness and maybe even a little peace... in theory.

Thanksgiving is here, and so is the family drama buffet. But what if setting boundaries wasn’t just a self-care trend but something Jesus himself modeled? In this episode, we talk about why saying "no" to the guilt trip and the extra helping of stress might actually be Biblical. Whether it’s dodging awkward questions at the table or stepping away from toxic traditions, we’re here to remind you: even Jesus didn’t cater to everyone’s expectations. Let’s carve up some boundaries—just like the turkey!

Frankly, this episode got deleted in a haze of computer programs, migraines, and more than a few angry shouts into the void. But it's back, and better than ever! Probably. Anyway, listen in as we talk about learning to be still and protect yourself, even when you've been told to turn the other cheek.

Dating: Why is it such a nightmare for so many women? Whether it's safety concerns, boys looking for a mom-replacement, or pictures no one wants to see, women have dating rough. In episode 30, Bri is going to share her real-life experiences with online dating, screenshots and all. Then we'll ask some hard questions about our "Christian Dating" upbringing, including courting, kissing dating goodbye, and purity retreats. Is there a "right" way for Christian women to date? Should we have to lower our standards? As we tackle these big questions, we’ll also share a few laughs over the cringe-worthy messages Bri has saved. Single women, married women, happily never-want-to-be-married women, this one's for all of us!

Buckle up, witches! This Halloween, we’re diving broom-first into Salem’s dark history—but with a twist. We're here to mix some laughs and spooky singalongs with a fresh look at Salem’s so-called witches, who, honestly, deserve a lot more respect than the history books give. Think of them less as villains and more as martyrs caught in a real-life witch hunt. So light a candle, grab your cauldron, and prepare for a bit of history that’s a far cry from your favorite witchy flicks—because this story’s got more fire than even the Sanderson sisters could conjure.

In episode 28, we’re getting real about people-pleasing, passive partners, and why setting boundaries can feel like a full-time job. From dealing with someone else’s baggage to being the go-to for everyone’s responsibilities, women have been raised to keep the peace—but should we? We're diving into the story of Mary and Martha, and asking: Did Jesus really expect Christian women to handle all the day-to-day stuff? Plus, we’ll spill on our own people-pleasing misadventures. It’s an honest, relatable convo that just might hit close to home!

Welcome to the latest episode of the We Are More Podcast, where we navigate faith and latest Feminist TikTok trends—all while Alyssa battles a 'plague!' Join us in our bubblegum pink room as we react to our favorite videos and quotes. We delve into societal expectations, Pride and Prejudice, and the boxes we put "masculinity" and "femininity" into. Get comfy, grab a glass of wine, laugh, and engage with some serious (ish) conversations about respecting women and reclaiming space. Tune in for thought-provoking quotes, hilarious commentary, and our unapologetic voices!

In this episode, we wrap up Bathsheba’s story and dive deeper into the broader narrative of women in the Bible. Bathsheba's story is one of resilience, strength, and the impact of her legacy. But she isn’t the only woman in the Bible whose voice has been overlooked or misunderstood. From Queen Vashti's defiance to the tragedy of Tamar, there are countless women whose stories have shaped history, faith, and the role of women in the world today. We’ll explore why it's important to tell these stories and discuss the significance of hearing “she” and “her” from the pulpit. Representation, even in scripture, matters. So today, we ask—what does it mean for us now, and how do we carry these stories forward? Join us as we reflect on the lessons these women teach us and why their voices deserve to be heard just as loudly as the Davids and Josephs of the Bible.

Bathsheba’s story is back for part three, and we're taking a modern look at the scandal that rocked King David’s reign. How can our current-day lenses be used to see this story for what it really was? How much more can we talk about a story that only takes up 2 chapters in the Bible? Listen in to find out! Trigger warning: We discuss themes of abuse and assault, so please listen with care as we explore the deeper side of this biblical narrative.

In this episode, we’re diving even deeper into Bathsheba’s story—because one episode just couldn’t handle all the drama. If you’ve ever pictured her seductively lounging on her rooftop, well, we’re here to tell you that your pastor probably got it wrong. We’re busting myths, calling out misconceptions, and asking the real question: Was Bathsheba even naked? Spoiler alert: Dove soap wasn’t involved.. So buckle up for Part 2, where we go all in on the real tea behind the Bible’s most misunderstood woman.