We Are More: Sisters Talk Faith & Feminism

Seventy percent of divorces in the U.S. are initiated by women—and no, it’s not because we’ve all been corrupted by Taylor Swift and oat milk lattes. Maybe it’s because women are finally realizing they don’t have to stay married to men who think doing the dishes is “helping.” We’re digging into what this stat actually says about marriage, independence, and why AOC’s “I will not yield to disrespectful men” is basically our new national anthem. Come for the sass, stay for the stats, and bring plenty of wine—we'll all need it

This week, we're back in Women and the Gender of God by Amy Peeler, and the last chapters are taking us there. We’re talking about Mary’s yes—not a passive “sure, whatever,” but an informed, free, and powerful choice. We’re digging into consent, agency, and why the “perfect path” theology we grew up with is... not it. Plus, we wade into the masculine myth surrounding God and how patriarchy managed to call delusion “divine order.” Join us for another long-winded, fiery, funny chapter breakdown—because God gave us free will and three pages of notes.

What if God isn’t some bearded old guy in the sky? In this episode, we’re finally talking about Amy Peeler’s book, Women and the Gender of God, and yes — it’s as disruptive as it sounds. We're digging into who decided God had to be a “He,” why that stuck, and what cracks open when you question it. As always, it’s about gender, power, and the full-blown existential meltdown conservatives have when God doesn’t come wrapped in patriarchy. Spoiler: Ariana Grande might have been onto something.

Ever notice how the headlines are all about men? We’re over it. This week, we’re flipping the script—starting with an art gallery that straight-up banned men (and yes, it’s as iconic as it sounds). We’re also diving into BookTok: why it's blowing up, who’s trying to tear it down, and how the backlash reeks of sexist nonsense. Women are reading, creating, curating—and we’re here for all of it. Let’s make women the headline for once.

This is the episode where we ask: why are women leading in the Bible... but still not allowed to lead in half our churches? We’re talking prophets, preachers, and a “mighty throng” of gospel-proclaiming women — while the men were literally asleep. Plus, we’re side-eyeing Bible translations that erase women and calling out the church for being more patriarchal than the culture it claims to stand against. It’s about to get uncomfortable (in a holy way... ish).

You weren’t built to carry life alone—and you definitely weren’t meant to text your therapist, your mom, and your barista the same vent paragraph because you’ve got no one else. Girlhood is sacred. Female friendship is holy ground. Mary didn’t run to Joseph—she ran to Elizabeth. This week, we’re talking about why your village better include women who get it.

Who told y’all Mary Magdalene was a hooker? Because it wasn’t the Bible. Mary Magdalene wasn’t a prostitute — but erasing powerful women by calling them whores is a church tradition older than communion wine. This week we’re calling it what it is and dragging the theology that made it possible. And here's a shock: some of those dusty old sermons didn’t age well.

Today is the day! We're finally talking about our best friend (she doesn’t know it yet), Beth Allison Barr's, newest book: Becoming the Pastor’s Wife. Hang out with us while we uncover the ways the role of “pastor’s wife” has been shaped by patriarchy, not the Bible. Why have women been told that their calling to ministry means that they should marry a pastor? Why is it that when your husband gets a pulpit, you get a church organ and a casserole dish? Let’s unpack the expectations, the erasure, and what it means to reclaim your calling—without losing yourself in the process.

The western church's version of Jesus is too religious. Too focused on power, rules, and control—too busy legislating morality to look anything like, well, Jesus. If faith has been weaponized against you, if ‘Christian values’ seem more about politics than love, you’re not imagining it. Let’s talk about the difference between the real Jesus and the one wrapped in red, white, and blue. This week, we're wrapping up Steve Bezner’s Your Jesus is Too American and talking more about what it really means to follow Jesus when even Christianity doesn't look much like Him.

Our best friend, Beth Allison Barr, came to town, and you know we had to be there. We sat front and center for her talk on biblical womanhood, patriarchy, and why history is way less patriarchal than certain church leaders want it to be. She didn’t hold back, and honestly, we loved every second of it. In this episode, we’re recapping the highlights, sharing our favorite moments, and, of course, talking about "Becoming the Pastor's Wife." Oh, and did we totally fangirl? Maybe. No regrets.

The early church wasn’t obsessed with power. But modern American Christianity? I’s practically campaigning. If you think a billionaire is gonna save your soul—or your bank account—you might need to check who’s really benefiting from all that “Christian generosity.” Spoiler alert: it’s not the poor. It’s not the marginalized. And it’s definitely not Jesus. Generosity with conditions isn’t generosity at all, and when churches start looking more like political action committees than communities of faith, we’ve got a problem. This week, we’re diving into week 2 of Steve Bezner’s Your Jesus Is Too American and asking the big question: has the church traded real generosity for influence and control? Let’s talk about what it really means to give—without the fine print.

Jesus flipping tables? Iconic. The modern American church flipping its morals for political power? Not so much. This week, we’re reviewing Your Jesus Is Too American and the absolute mess that is evangelical nationalism. Plus, let's talk about how Beth Moore got canceled for… checks notes… standing up for the oppressed, and somehow we’re still pretending this isn’t a massive red flag? If Christianity is supposed to be about love, why does it look more like a political power grab? And if we’re supposed to follow Jesus, maybe we should stop idolizing golden statues of failed politicians. Just a thought. Join us for what may be our most controversial episode yet.

We’re back from our brief hiatus, and this episode? It's a wild ride. We’re diving headfirst into the church’s weird, exhausting obsession with women’s bodies—because apparently, holiness comes with a goal weight. We’ll also be fangirling over our best friend (who has no clue we exist) Beth Allison Barr’s upcoming book, Becoming the Pastor’s Wife, and unpacking how the church has perfected the art of controlling women under the guise of “godly expectations.” And before you start stressing about whether your body is a “temple,” let’s get one thing straight—it’s not about weight, waistlines, or whether you dyed your hair green. It’s about being the kind of person people turn to when they need to find God, not the kind of person handing out diet plans in His name.

Dinah's story is one of those Old Testament wild rides—tragic, infuriating, and somehow still relevant. We’re unpacking Genesis 34, where Jacob does the absolute least, Dinah’s brothers take justice into their own hands, and a certain man thinks "kidnap and assault" equals "love at first sight." Oh, and we found possibly the weirdest fictional retelling of this story ever written. If you've never heard of Dinah, you’re not alone—she's new to us too. Buckle up, because this one is morally grey at best.Trigger warning for this one: we'll be dealing with themes of assault and violence.

This week’s episode is all about love in its many forms. From the messy journey of self-love to loving your neighbor (even when they’re the worst), to the joys and chaos of romance, we’re diving into what it really means to love and be loved. Expect heartfelt moments, plenty of laughs, and maybe a little tough love—because, let’s be real, some of y’all (and us) need to hear it.Tune in, laugh with us, and remember: You are more than enough.

This week, we’re exploring the unfortunate world of The One Year Book of Devotions for Boys—and by that, we mean skimming, laughing, and asking the real questions like, “Why does this devotional need a two-part walrus saga?” It’s a bit of a wild ride—spazzy, unfocused, and full of tangents (because clearly, we’re thriving). From thrift-book bargains to passive moms and ambitious boys with career options like “pilot” or “pastor,” we’re unpacking the subliminal messages that shaped a generation of church kids. Grab your coffee (or scary murder book), and let’s do this before the breakdowns hit.

This week we're taking a break from the usual programming to check in—on us, on you, and on what faith looks like when leaders let us down. The Sunday Scaries is more than burnout; it’s about reclaiming spiritual health when walking into a church feels more terrifying than comforting.

What if everything you’ve been told about “biblical womanhood” missed the mark? This week, we're looking at complementarian versus egalitarian viewpoints—are women too strong? Too weak? Too much? Too little? Priscilla, one of Paul’s co-workers and a fearless leader in the early church, didn’t seem to struggle with any of that nonsense. She taught, she led, and she might have even written the book of Hebrews. So, why are we still stuck in the middle?

We're digging into Danae Dobson’s Let’s Talk... again, and wow—it’s a lot. From telling girls to tone down their personalities to teaching that courtship is just a prelude to being “married off,” this book is a time capsule of bad advice. And the “Let’s Talk About Boys” chapter? Let's just say that a chapter interviewing teenage boys about what they find attractive in girls is as gross and shallow as you’d expect. Why were we all told to be less and look perfect just to be “worthy”?If you grew up reading this book or anything like it, you’ll want to tune in. We have so so very many thoughts.

Let’s be honest: devotionals for "Christian Girls" are painful. This week, we're talking about a book from our youth, which isn’t just outdated—it’s a masterclass in teaching girls to feel small, ashamed, and silent. We’re unpacking the purity culture, body shaming, and impossible standards it peddles. This is just the first in a series, and trust us, we’re not holding back. Women, if you're ready to see yourselves as worth more to God than you ever thought possible, hit play—this one’s for you.

Ever prayed as a kid for a miraculous snowstorm—just to skip church? Been there. In this episode, we're talking about growing up in ultra-conservative churches, complete with boring devotionals and the same sermons over and over. Alyssa dishes on her “perfect Christian girl” phase—spoiler alert: it didn’t age well—and Bri shares how being single in the church sometimes feels like wearing a neon “unworthy” sign. If you’ve ever wondered how to unlearn the toxic churchy stuff while keeping the faith, this episode is for you. Press play and let’s dive into the mess together.

Today, we’re talking about Mary at the wedding in Cana and the audacious faith it takes to ask Jesus for a miracle—even when he seems to brush her off. The wine’s running out, the party’s about to flop, and Mary’s like, “Hey Jesus, do your thing.” His response? Basically, “Not my problem.” But Mary doesn’t even flinch—she just tells the servants, “Do whatever he says,” and boom, miracle time. Join us as we dive into this how her belief sparked Jesus’s first miracle and what it teaches women about strength, leadership, and maybe even a little holy side-eye.

When you picture Mary, the mother of Jesus, is she draped in blue, head bowed, the epitome of quiet submission? That’s the image art and tradition have sold us—but Mary was so much more. She was fierce. She was resilient. She was a leader—one whose husband submitted to her. This week, we’re taking a sledgehammer to the demure Mary trope and uncovering the incredible woman behind the blue veil. Want to know what strength really looks like? Hit play.

Alright, gather 'round, because we're talking Mary, the OG mother of Jesus (or MMOJ as the cool kids call her). Most Christmas services say, "Let's start at Luke 2, no need to go any further back." But not us, we're going all the way back to Luke 1 to see Mary make her big debut. And let us tell you, this teenager was way more than just some demure figure in a painting. Mary was the real deal - relatable and struggling with that whole "Hey, you're pregnant" news from the angel Gabriel. So let's ditch the caricatures and get to know the actual Mary. Grab your iced coffee or glass of wine, and let's dive into the story of one of the most iconic women in the Bible.

The holiday season: a time for joy… so we're told. Between gift lists, family gatherings, and endless to-dos, how do you hold onto that deep, lasting joy we’ve been told we're supposed to feel? In this episode, we’re talking about finding joy in the chaos and stress of the holidays. With a little help from Scripture (and maybe a laugh or two), we’re unpacking what it means to protect your peace and find some joy—because if Jesus talked about it, it’s probably worth a shot.

Picture this: the turkey’s still frozen, your aunts are already arguing about the mashed potatoes, and someone just brought up politics at the table. Sound familiar? We’re diving into all the chaos that comes with Thanksgiving – from setting boundaries that actually stick to finding real gratitude (even when it’s hard). Grab a slice of pumpkin pie and join us, because this year, we’re all about thankfulness and maybe even a little peace... in theory.

Thanksgiving is here, and so is the family drama buffet. But what if setting boundaries wasn’t just a self-care trend but something Jesus himself modeled? In this episode, we talk about why saying "no" to the guilt trip and the extra helping of stress might actually be Biblical. Whether it’s dodging awkward questions at the table or stepping away from toxic traditions, we’re here to remind you: even Jesus didn’t cater to everyone’s expectations. Let’s carve up some boundaries—just like the turkey!

Frankly, this episode got deleted in a haze of computer programs, migraines, and more than a few angry shouts into the void. But it's back, and better than ever! Probably. Anyway, listen in as we talk about learning to be still and protect yourself, even when you've been told to turn the other cheek.

Dating: Why is it such a nightmare for so many women? Whether it's safety concerns, boys looking for a mom-replacement, or pictures no one wants to see, women have dating rough. In episode 30, Bri is going to share her real-life experiences with online dating, screenshots and all. Then we'll ask some hard questions about our "Christian Dating" upbringing, including courting, kissing dating goodbye, and purity retreats. Is there a "right" way for Christian women to date? Should we have to lower our standards? As we tackle these big questions, we’ll also share a few laughs over the cringe-worthy messages Bri has saved. Single women, married women, happily never-want-to-be-married women, this one's for all of us!

Buckle up, witches! This Halloween, we’re diving broom-first into Salem’s dark history—but with a twist. We're here to mix some laughs and spooky singalongs with a fresh look at Salem’s so-called witches, who, honestly, deserve a lot more respect than the history books give. Think of them less as villains and more as martyrs caught in a real-life witch hunt. So light a candle, grab your cauldron, and prepare for a bit of history that’s a far cry from your favorite witchy flicks—because this story’s got more fire than even the Sanderson sisters could conjure.

In episode 28, we’re getting real about people-pleasing, passive partners, and why setting boundaries can feel like a full-time job. From dealing with someone else’s baggage to being the go-to for everyone’s responsibilities, women have been raised to keep the peace—but should we? We're diving into the story of Mary and Martha, and asking: Did Jesus really expect Christian women to handle all the day-to-day stuff? Plus, we’ll spill on our own people-pleasing misadventures. It’s an honest, relatable convo that just might hit close to home!

Welcome to the latest episode of the We Are More Podcast, where we navigate faith and latest Feminist TikTok trends—all while Alyssa battles a 'plague!' Join us in our bubblegum pink room as we react to our favorite videos and quotes. We delve into societal expectations, Pride and Prejudice, and the boxes we put "masculinity" and "femininity" into. Get comfy, grab a glass of wine, laugh, and engage with some serious (ish) conversations about respecting women and reclaiming space. Tune in for thought-provoking quotes, hilarious commentary, and our unapologetic voices!

In this episode, we wrap up Bathsheba’s story and dive deeper into the broader narrative of women in the Bible. Bathsheba's story is one of resilience, strength, and the impact of her legacy. But she isn’t the only woman in the Bible whose voice has been overlooked or misunderstood. From Queen Vashti's defiance to the tragedy of Tamar, there are countless women whose stories have shaped history, faith, and the role of women in the world today. We’ll explore why it's important to tell these stories and discuss the significance of hearing “she” and “her” from the pulpit. Representation, even in scripture, matters. So today, we ask—what does it mean for us now, and how do we carry these stories forward? Join us as we reflect on the lessons these women teach us and why their voices deserve to be heard just as loudly as the Davids and Josephs of the Bible.

Bathsheba’s story is back for part three, and we're taking a modern look at the scandal that rocked King David’s reign. How can our current-day lenses be used to see this story for what it really was? How much more can we talk about a story that only takes up 2 chapters in the Bible? Listen in to find out! Trigger warning: We discuss themes of abuse and assault, so please listen with care as we explore the deeper side of this biblical narrative.

In this episode, we’re diving even deeper into Bathsheba’s story—because one episode just couldn’t handle all the drama. If you’ve ever pictured her seductively lounging on her rooftop, well, we’re here to tell you that your pastor probably got it wrong. We’re busting myths, calling out misconceptions, and asking the real question: Was Bathsheba even naked? Spoiler alert: Dove soap wasn’t involved.. So buckle up for Part 2, where we go all in on the real tea behind the Bible’s most misunderstood woman.

Bathsheba: villain or victim? Spoiler alert, she's not the bad guy here. Forget the tired story of Bathsheba seducing David with a wink and a bathrobe—it’s time to clear her name. We’re breaking down how history (and some seriously messed up sermons) got it all wrong. So, grab your coffee and join us as we set the record straight. Bathsheba deserves a better legacy, and we’re here to give it to her!

Ever felt like you're doing all the heavy lifting while your partner conveniently 'forgets' how to help out or acts like you're the queen of all things domestic? In this episode, we dig into the fine art of weaponized incompetence. Why do some partners seem so helpless, and is that really okay? Come hang out with us as we talk about unhealthy relationship expectations and ask why so many of our Christian sisters are stuck with these dynamics. Let's all find the answer to the question: is he really that helpless?

Welcome to the married church lady club, where the hymnals weigh a ton, the expectations are impossibly high, and the pressure to be the "perfect wife" is a full-time job. In this episode, Alyssa is talking about what it’s really like to be married in the church. For many women in church, it feels like getting married means you "made it," but the demands keep piling up. And the advice from other married women? Let's just say our Feminist brains struggled with this one. If you're married, in church, and tired of not finding a community that gets what an equal partnership looks like, you’re in the right place. Join us!

Imagine stumbling upon a stranger in a place he's not supposed to be—it's fight or flight, right? Welcome to episode 20, where we dive into the Woman at the Well and her unexpected encounter with Jesus. For generations, pastors have pushed the narrative that this woman was rude to Jesus. That she was immoral and ashamed of herself. That she "had an attitude." But what if that's not true at all? What if her seemingly bold demeanor was just a mask to hide the fear of being alone with a man who could have done her harm? Today, we're retelling this story from the perspective of a woman just trying to survive a seemingly dangerous situation. Join us as we explore the Woman at the Well through the lens of real-life experiences, and find out why her reaction to Jesus might have been more understandable than you think.

In this episode, we’re taking on the Christian singles scene and its marriage-or-bust mentality. Bri is sharing her experience of what it’s like to be single in the church, where the pressure to find a husband can make you feel like a second-class citizen on Sundays. We’re pulling apart the tired idea that marriage is a woman’s highest calling and talking about why churches need to stop treating single people like they're a problem to be fixed. If you’re single in the church and tired of the pressure to pair up, this one’s for you!

In this episode, we're diving into the TikTok drama of 2024: Ballerina Farms. We’ll break down the article that kicked off the controversy, the family’s response, and our own take on the mess. Are they really all about family values, or is it just a show for control? What’s the real cost of living by someone else’s rules? And what does the whole "Trad Wife" trend mean for women today? Tune in as we peel back the layers of this drama and ask: is Ballerina Farms all about family values or is it all just a façade for control?

In this episode, we’re tearing into imposter syndrome, sparked by a question from Alyssa’s daughter about whether she’s allowed to be a feminist yet. As we grapple with blending Christianity and Feminism, we’ve had our own moments of doubt about whether we get to be "real" Feminists. But this feeling isn't new! Imposter syndrome has kept women feeling unworthy—both today and in Biblical times. Just like us, Esther (of the Bible) didn't feel like she was worthy, but now her name is written in history. So how can we move past our collective feelings of inadequacy? Listen in to hear our take!

We think most of us can agree: it's tough to be a woman. Today, we're drawing inspiration from Disney’s “A Bug’s Life” because, let’s face it, sometimes being a woman feels like dodging giant grasshoppers and navigating a world designed for someone else. We'll tackle serious issues like the staggering $300,000 more it costs to simply be a woman in the United States. And maybe, if we're lucky, Bri will sing the theme song from "A Bug's Life."

Remember when we explored Toxic Masculinity? This week, we're diving into its counterpart: Toxic Femininity. We're unpacking the outdated expectations of what women are “supposed” to look like, from rigid beauty standards to unrealistic norms. We'll be asking the questions, "Why do we do this to ourselves?" and "Is this what God asked us to be?" Join us as we reflect on these gender norms and search for a more authentic way to define ourselves beyond the stereotypes.

In this episode, we dig into the worlds of subliminal and benevolent sexism, exposing the subtle ways gender norms can even sneak into a Target run. And just for you, we did in-field research. We'll explore how our favorite stores and places sneak stereotypes into everyday thoughts, and how they can influence us all. So grab your coffee and join us for some serious chats, goofy stories, and a lot of Bri singing.

Today, we're diving into the deep end, tackling Christian Bros and Toxic Masculinity. We'll be dissecting means to be a 'manly man' in today's world and whether that fits in with God's plan. Plus, we've got our first-ever guest, Alyssa's husband Nathan, joining in. He's going to share his take on how toxic masculinity affects everyone. Get ready for laughs, deep thoughts, and maybe even a chicken impression or two. It's going to be a wild ride!

Boys will be boys? With the use of AI, now boys may become bots. Hold onto your virtual hats, because we're diving into AI and how it can become a nightmare when used against women. Join us as we unpack how AI is reshaping the landscape with manipulated videos and pictures. Spoiler alert: it’s not all glitter and girl power. Tune in as we turn up the heat on the gendered use of AI, deepfakes, and manipulation. This is an important one!

Hoping to hear us mispronounce some more Biblical terms? You're in luck! In our latest episode, we're diving once again into submission in Christian marriages, but this time we'll be exploring the term "Kephalē," or male headship (yes, we know how that sounds). Through lots of research, goofy stories, and Biblical takes, we'll explore how the Bible actually champions equality and mutual respect, not patriarchy. We hope you'll join us to laugh and learn, enjoying some ridiculous singing and stories along the way.

Ever wondered how Bridgerton’s juicy gossip ties into feminism in the church? Wonder no more! Join us for a laugh-filled mini episode where we chat about the Queen, dinosaurs, and the church’s role in championing women’s rights. It’s all about mixing Regency romance with modern faith, and it’s a conversation we can't wait to share with you!

This week, we’re back with more laughs, less rage (maybe), and a deep dive into the wild world of submission in marriage. Will we finally figure it out? Probably not. But we will have fun trying! Expect Taylor Swift shoutouts, pigeon mail jokes, and our best attempts to stay on track (spoiler: we won't). It's part two of a never-ending debate, filled with snark, silliness, and our usual dose of insanity. 😆💌💥 #PodcastLife #FemaleRage #SubmissionImpossible