Unashamed Unafraid

In this episode hosts Steven and James are joined by their friend Josh. They answer questions sent in by Josh and in doing so, they dive into a personal and candid discussion about recovery, touching on themes such as discipleship, shame, and the concept of being 'broken.' The conversation includes a deep dive into what it means to be 'recovered' versus 'in recovery,' the significance of self-care in a spiritual context, and the powerful idea that brokenness can lead to greater strength and beauty through divine grace.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

In this episode, Steve and Chris embrace the power of vulnerability as they introduce Gavin, a guest who courageously shares his journey through addiction, shame, and recovery. The candid conversation goes into the deeper, poignant narrative of Gavin's experiences from teenage struggles with pornography and masturbation, through tumultuous high school years, and eventually, unexpected betrayal within his marriage. Through honest dialogue and unwavering support from the Unashamed & Unafraid community, Gavin discusses the trials of religious repentance processes, the emotional toll of addiction, and the crucial turning points leading to his ongoing recovery. This raw and inspiring episode underscores the significance of sharing one's story without stigma, connecting deeply with others, and finding hope in the most unexpected places. Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

In this episode of Unashamed and Afraid, Steve welcomes Melanie, Michelle, and Sally to discuss their experiences with Heart of a Woman, a transformative Christian retreat designed to help women reconnect with God and themselves. Melanie shares the origins of Heart of a Woman, revealing how a call to create a dedicated retreat for women led to a decade-long journey of spiritual growth and female fellowship. Michelle and Sally, past attendees of the retreat, recount their varied experiences, emphasizing how the retreat provides a unique space for women to unplug from their daily lives, heal from trauma, and deepen their relationships with God through presentations, solo reflection time, and adventurous activities. Overall, Heart of a Woman aims to offer women a safe, supportive environment where they can explore their faith, build lasting connections, and return home with a renewed sense of spiritual and personal clarity.*Go to TheHeartofaWoman.net and use code UNASHAMED24 to save $50 when you sign up! (Valid until September 10, 2024)Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

In this heartfelt episode, join hosts James and Steven as they welcome Ian and Niccole to the studio to share their profound journey of overcoming addiction and codependency through faith and mutual support. From their first meeting in college to their struggles with addiction and codependency, the couple provides an authentic narrative of their battles and breakthroughs. Key highlights include their initial honesty with each other about their respective struggles, the transformational moment when Niccole set healthy boundaries, and Ian's growing self-acceptance and self-love bolstered by his renewed faith. The episode emphasizes the importance of community, accountability, and a non-judgmental approach—focused on finding God's love and self-worth beyond destructive behaviors. Tune in for an inspiring discussion on overcoming shame, embracing vulnerability, and reclaiming hope.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Jennifer suffered every type of abuse as a child. She was assaulted by her father, then by all the men that her mother brought home over the years. She came to feel that she was worthless, only there to make other people happy, and was filled with guilt. Years later, a therapist recommended she go get a massage to learn that not all touch was sexual. That backfired tremendously when her masseuse ended up raping her.Jennifer was in a dark place, and as she watched her mother succumb to alzheimer's she was afflicted with suicidal thoughts. She finally asked God to give her a reason to live in any way that He could. The next morning, a sunrise miracle caused a deep and fundamental shift within her. That, combined with the reframing that she gained from an experiential, ultimately healed her soul and put her on the road to recovery. Jennifer’s story is a message of hope both to addicts and victims of abuse everywhere.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

In the final episode of 'Codependency', the hosts discuss the intricacies of codependent relationships. The episode delves into the definition of codependency, its symptoms, and the difficulty individuals face in maintaining self-esteem, setting boundaries, and experiencing healthy intimacy. Through personal anecdotes and discussions, the team explores how codependency manifests and the challenges of overcoming it. They emphasize the importance of self-worth and boundaries in moving past codependent behaviors and introduce the concept that living in a codependent relationship is ultimately a choice. The conversation touches on various personal experiences and provides insights into the journey of recovery and transformation.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Having already defined codependency, the team now addresses how to break out of its cycle. The first step is to recognize what our codependent behaviors even are. We cannot choose a different path if we don’t see the choices that are there. Furthermore, if we want to stop manipulating others into meeting our needs, we have to make peace with the fact that we really do have needs and that it is acceptable for us to own and address them. If we aren’t willing to give a full and honest voice to those needs, we are much more likely to get them met in covert, manipulative ways.Another key takeaway is that we have to be willing to be honest, with no regard for the outcome. If we are not comfortable with sharing the truth that might make the other person mad at us and walk away from us, then we cannot live truthfully with that person. We have to be willing to suffer disconnection and be alone. We have to be willing to do the pain. “Enjoy that pain, there is beauty on the other side.”Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

The concept of codependency can be difficult to grasp and identifying it within ourselves or our relationships can prove challenging. In this episode, we break down the definition, assess its relevance, and offer strategies for recognizing and addressing it.If you’ve grappled with resentment in a relationship or felt compelled to manage someone else’s emotions or beliefs, this discussion may provide hope, guidance, and even relief.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

We’re thrilled to welcome Marc Pimsler back for another episode! Marc, a lover of God, is a therapist, seeker, and a teacher with the heart of a student. He's in long-term recovery and he's here to talk about making repair.Whether we refer to it as making repair, making amends, setting things right, or repairing relationships, there are ineffective or even harmful ways to approach it. Marc shows up with authenticity and passion to advocate for an effective approach. He begins by defining Addiction, Responsibility, and Accountability in a way that brings clarity to the discussion. We explore the reasons behind making repair, the work that must be done first, how to recognize unhealthy expectations, and strategies for navigating the process.You can reach Marc via email at [email protected] or find him on Instagram @mpimsler and Facebook.If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Alcoholics Anonymous' Dr. Bob's response to Bill Wilson after he complained that no one showed up for a meeting he spent the day organizing— "But you didn't drink today" — speaks volumes. In this episode, Steve, James, and Chris recognize the challenges of forming real connections and a supportive community while providing uplifting advice.Tune in for insightful truths like these: Everyone fears rejection, and introverts face extra hurdles, but there are ways to overcome them. Each connection made is a victory against isolation, and reaching out pulls us out of our negotiations with our addiction.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Christian was born the middle of eight children and felt that he had to act out to get noticed. In his early adolescence he experimented with opiates, alcohol, a cigarette, and sex.Kelle met Christian during their senior year of High School, the two started dating, and were quickly married after he returned home from his LDS mission. A few years and a motorcycle accident later, Christian went through a steady progression of painkillers, alcohol, gambling, and adultery. He became unable to hold down a job and disappeared for long stretches of time, Kelle and their four children unsure of when or if he would show up next. Christian and Kelle’s story is a testament to the fact that there is always a way back, that no soul is over and done, at least not so long as we are willing to open ourselves even a little to the light that is cracking its way into our hearts.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Just as we establish clear boundaries in our relationships with other people, we must also set boundaries in our relationship with digital media, especially when we consider that media use is the "most undiagnosed addiction behavior by a mile." It consumes massive chunks of our time on its own, and can lure the recovering porn addict back into full-blown relapse.Hear the Unashamed Unafraid team speak to all of these points, as well as how parents play a crucial role in modeling healthy media habits for their children, how women especially are hurt by social media's brutal comparison game, and how being constantly plugged in blocks us from "finding God in silence."Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Julie Forbes is a healer of souls. In this episode, we discuss her practice of helping people heal through spiritual connection with and in the presence of horses - Equine Assisted Learning. She has worked professionally in this field for over a decade in the St. George, Utah area.Julie shares the success she has witnessed in her work with troubled teens and addicts, asserting that no matter what we believe about ourselves, we can find a way to face our 'Soul Hurt,' release our false beliefs, and emerge renewed and healed. Join us as Julie describes how she became involved with Equine Assisted Learning, what the experience entails, and how God manifests through it. We believe you'll find her unique perspective on healing, the definition of addiction, and the promise of lasting recovery refreshing. You can contact Julie by email, [email protected], her website Dragonfly Soul, Facebook, and Instagram.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

"I absolutely know with every fiber of my being that [God] loves me for who I am."Recovery is not a one-size-fits-all process. Each person may define their recovery journey in terms of what resonates with them personally. Recovery is as much about self-awareness and growth as it is about overcoming addiction and the journey from “recovering” to “recovered” lies in our faith in God and His Son Jesus Christ that healing is not only possible for others, but we each too are worthy to receive it and can start living a fulfilling life unburdened by addiction.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

David Thompson is a marriage and family therapist, a certified sex addiction therapist, and half of the Two Therapists Talking podcast. In today’s episode he is invited to share whatever message “lights him up,” and he chooses to speak on the tremendous power of empathy. He even states that “empathy is the key that unlocks every door.”Of particular usefulness is David’s step-by-step guide for how to listen to a loved one with complete empathy. Empathy is impossible while still in shame, and he speaks to the need of separating who we are from what we have done. He shares the process by which he proves to each of his clients their inherent worth, allowing them to finally live unashamed.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

If porn is a paycheck and I’m getting $200 a week and you tell me to just stop - the math doesn’t add up because I’m broke. You have to give them hope - “what if I give you $500 a week in recovery.” And that $500 is hope. This episode uncovers the understanding of unconditional love from God in talking with others and seeking God. Brother and Sisterhood, good 12 Step programs, bootcamps, etc. is what provides the larger payoff of a life in peace from the insanity cycle of acting out. Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Matt and Natalie were high school sweethearts, but unknown by her, Matt had been struggling with pornography since he was a boy. His struggles continued through high school and a church mission, and into their marriage, but he had never shared any of this with his parents, church leaders, or with Natalie.After their first year of marriage, she opened up to him about a childhood of sexual abuse, and Matt began a very slow process of disclosure to her… a process that lasted the next twelve years. He lived with intense feelings of shame and felt as though he was “nothing.” After thirteen difficult years of marriage, and some months of separation, Matt was given the choice of divorce or in-house treatment at Desert Solace, in St. George, Utah. He chose Desert Solace. Those ninety days changed his relationship with himself, with God, and with his wife. He brought a new energy to their marriage as they began a journey of real and lasting recovery.Matt and Natalie’s story is a reminder of the possibility of transformation, real change, and renewed connection possible in recovery. We are reminded that there are no accidents, and everything in their journey has brought them to where they are now: coaches working with others who are facing the same struggles as they did. You can find them at truthrisingcoaching.com.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Changing our state is a good practice when dealing with life’s stressful events – but getting outside and connecting to nature resets our minds. Chris, Steve, and James share what works best for them from hiking, sitting by a fire, or getting on a boat to help reset their state of mind. The episode ends with a challenge to get outdoors and dive into nature. When you are done, go back to your car and get your phone and email a picture to [email protected]. Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Jacob and Trichelle, married for 32 years, both serve on the staff of Desert Solace, a pornography and sexual addiction treatment facility in St. George, Utah. In this episode, they recount their transformative journey from what they once described as 'soul sucking' to something they now see as 'beautiful'.Jacob's addiction overshadowed the first 26 years of their marriage but was difficult to identify as it oscillated between sex and workaholism. Their marriage teetered on the edge. Feeling unredeemable, both, at different points, reached their ultimate breaking points. In time, they both emerged from the darkness and today, help others through similar struggles.This episode delves into the couples’ heart-wrenching but ultimately redemptive story. Discover how they achieved what seemed impossible and continue to persevere today. Hear why they call God their best friend. Learn about Desert Solace and the impactful work Jacob and Trichelle now do there. Gain access to tools, resources, inspiration, and possibly a reframing of your own journey.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

In this episode, Steve, James, and guest Kurt Francom explore the role of a higher power in addiction recovery. Recognizing the diversity of perspectives surrounding this topic, the trio transcends conventional definitions, offering insights grounded in their collective experience. The conversation touches on crucial themes, including wounds, surrender, identity, healing, and happiness. If you've ever pondered the complexities of this subject, you'll enjoy this thought-provoking and spirited discussion.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Chris discusses his 15 years of sobriety and how it is defined with the group. Rather than a focus on abstinence from lust and acting out, recovery is a new way of life we walk with Christ. They also discuss the analogy of a marathon runner who trips up on mile 24 and how he doesn’t have to restart the race, he gets up and keeps on running. What is your story in recovery? How have you defined reality and, more importantly, how do you define living a life with Christ in true hope and recovery? Share with [email protected], [email protected], and [email protected] us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

“When you are at rock bottom, you are super hard on yourself and you are just going to keep going further down - but when you finally have hope - you see the light and desire to keep going.”Brian and Alicia met in middle school, served missions for their church and got married. On returning home from South Africa, Brian got a smartphone and quickly found out how slippery a slope pornography is. He used it to medicate the negative emotions in life and got to the point where he couldn’t ground out as “normal” during the day without pornography. Upon disclosure, Alicia began a journey of getting to know who God is. Together they began attending a couples recovery meeting and repairing their relationship. As they reached out to each other and to others, they saw there is hope in recovery and that recovery is possible. Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Recognizing that we have behaviors that are detrimental to both ourselves and others brings up some important questions. We wonder whether these actions classify as addictions, transient behaviors, or merely bad habits. More questions come up when we find that we can't easily stop the behavior.In this episode, we explore the reasons we even ask the questions. We contemplate the significance of the societal labels associated with such behaviors, the underlying factors contributing to our actions, and whether seeking help is necessary.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

Today, Bryce is known among his friends as genuinely happy, and capable of putting an entire room at ease upon entering it. But it was only a few years ago that he reached out for help from the edge of despair. He had hit rock bottom in a lifestyle of porn and sex that was wreaking havoc in his life. Breaking free from shame and his destructive habits proved to be a challenging journey, but supportive individuals entered his life and guided him into therapy and helped him develop a community of friends with whom he could share his challenges. In this episode, find out how Bryce's mother came to his rescue, the role God played in his recovery and how his newfound support network helped him navigate difficult changes, including the termination of a tumultuous romantic relationship. The episode ends with a compelling segment titled 'Advice from Bryce' and a surprise phone call.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

“Music can give me empathy like nobody around me can.” Join us in a shorter 20-minute episode as Steven, James, and Chris share how music has helped them see God differently. Not just Christian music, but anything that uplifts, inspires, takes you to a sad place, or otherwise moves you into a place of reflection and learning. Music is an amplifier of emotion which provides clarity and the opportunity to evaluate where we are in a moment of time - or to take us back to a moment of time. Often music can also be a way to numb out, get angry, and act out. Join us in the journey of exploring how music plays a part (or maybe doesn’t play a part) in your life. Steven ends with an invitation - pick music that makes you really uncomfortable because it pricks a particular emotion and read the lyrics, sing it out loud, and see what happens. Leave a comment below with your experience or email Steven, James, or Chris directly. Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at [email protected]

At the age of 9, Kaylawnni began a challenging journey with sexual compulsion. Her struggle is marked by confusion and damaged self-confidence. A lyric from her favorite song boldly highlights the cause, "The devil lies, and twists the truth." She always assumed she'd take her secrets to the grave, but then, a close friend bravely disclosed his own battles, inspiring her to start her path to recovery. In this bold and unashamed episode, Kaylawnni shares her insights and advice, highlighting the availability of help. Today, with God playing a significant role in her life, Kaylawnni reflects on her past with kindness and offers encouragement to those facing similar struggles.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected]. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook @UnashamedUnafraid and subscribe to our Youtube channel @UnashamedUnafraidPod

"That was a moment for me that changed the trajectory of my life, my recovery; changed the connection with my wife, changed how I saw my kids; changed so much of me and who I was…" -ChrisIn this short ‘Live Unashamed’ episode, Steve, James and Chris discuss resources that make a difference and how to find them. Good resources can initiate breakthroughs and sustain recovery, but they must have qualities that work for you like giving hope, helping with emotions and encouraging accountability and connection with others and with God. Steve encourages us to apply the “Fail Cheap and Fail Fast” principle to our search for resources and ends with an invitation to leave a comment about resources that have worked for you.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

Kurt Francom, the Executive Director and Host of 'Leading Saints', returns to discuss the concepts behind his recently released book, "Is God Disappointed in me? Removing Shame from the Gospel of Grace." This episode explores the inspiration behind the book, drawing on Francom's experiences within the Unashamed Unafraid and Warrior Heart Boot Camp communities.The book's title resonates with those of us navigating journeys marked by brokenness. Satan whispers that God is ashamed and that He surely can't love us. These lies are exposed through reflection on the nature of God and His commandments. We ask whether God's love and patience flow through adjustable faucets contingent on our performance, or as constant, raging waterfalls. In tackling these and other questions, this episode contributes valuable insights to the process of recovery. Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected]. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook @UnashamedUnafraid and subscribe to our Youtube channel @UnashamedUnafraidPod.

“I know where shame lives - and that’s in isolation.”Breaking anonymity shares how God has changed us and the desire to help one person to change their life is real when we come alive in Christ’s healing. It is reaching out with the most important messages in a shame-filled world - “you are not alone, and you are worth everything.” It is easy for us to compare our suffering against others. To think our story is too small compared to others. Regardless of “little t traumas'' or “BIG T TRAUMAS” - we all have our pain. Our ways of dealing with that pain, and the shame and loneliness of trying to do it alone and getting those stories out in the open is how we share the message that “God loves you no matter what, because He loved me no matter what, and there is Hope and Healing through Christ.” “It isn’t just my story changing people’s lives - it is the story of God changing people’s lives.”Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

Join us as we dive into stereotypes about addiction that are regularly aired in the shame game of trying to run and hide and act out in secret.A few mentioned early in this episode: Everybody who is an addict is non-functional - cannot hold down a job or a family.Don’t let ANYBODY know because it is the worst thing you can be doing - my kids can’t play with other people’s kids anymore.Once an addict, always an addict … The husband is a villain, the wife is a victim. Listen to this episode and leave us comments on what kept (or currently keeps) you in isolation and the cycle of confession and compulsion. When Christ healed the leper, he was no longer a leper. When he healed the blind, the blind could see. What’s keeping you from putting down the shackles of addiction and stepping into a new life of recovery? Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

My name is Hunter and this is my story. From the outside, my life seemed to be on a perfect track for success and happiness. I grew up with two parents in a loving and loyal family. I was a talented young man who especially did well in school. All of the adults around me felt that I had a bright future ahead of me in basically any career that I could want. My peers all saw me as simply another kid who was goofy and got good grades. But on the inside, I had a pain that I couldn't even fully admit to myself.Eventually I could no longer avoid the pain, and I found myself in the world of addiction recovery. After years of brutal self-honesty and therapy, I discovered that my relationship with my father largely shaped my view of myself. I had learned to push myself to become better using shame and unreasonable expectations: the way that my father had done with me. This shame-rooted relationship with my father then formed a lens that caused me to see God as a God of expectation. A God I couldn’t approach without feeling shame. Listen to my story to hear how I began to shed this lens and also see myself in a light of grace and self-worth.If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

“When I watched porn again or relapsed, I felt God was done with me now … but Jesus fully sees me and fully knows my whole story, and still loves me. That is so powerful.” Amanda stumbled on pornography at an early age. Thinking she was alone in her addiction she finally decided to share it with a friend - willing to accept rejection - only to discover that her friend Katie struggles too. Along their journey they found other women similarly struggling and so they decided to start an Instagram ministry. They were surprised how viral their posts went and now have a sisterhood of survivors fighting to overcome the addictive behaviors needed to be heard and accepted, letting go of shame. Amanda can be contacted through Instagram @the_victory_collective and www.TheVictoryCollective.net/contact. If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

Matthew and Brooklyn brought both honesty and baggage into their relationship. Brooklyn’s achievement-based upbringing coupled with past mistakes left her wrestling with her sense of self-worth. Matthew's addiction to pornography led to a struggle with comparisons that cast a shadow of pain and darkness over the early years of their marriage.Despite it all, their story is a heartwarming journey from light to darkness and on to redemption and deepening love. It’s full of God, good advice and good news.If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

The UU crew get together to wrap up the year and answer the following questions:What has been your favorite episode this past year and why?What has been an area of growth for you this past year ?If people can pray for you what do you need most?What has been a meaningful worship song for you this past year?As our gift to you, here is the song list from the UU team of their top 2023 “go to” tune:Hurt People Hurt People – Tim McGrawHoly Spirit, Come – Patrick MayburyRattle – Elevation Worship He Is With You – Adam AgeeHold Me Together – Jervis CampbellYour Way – KBYet – Ashley Hess & Maverick City MusicRemind Me Who I Am – Jason GreySpecific – Krista WellsI Am They – ScarsHope – NFEagle – Elevation WorshipPacific – Christa Wells Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

“A relationship with a healer cannot exist without a wound to heal. Telling Jesus to go and heal another because ‘I’m good’ doesn’t allow Christ room to heal your heart and deepen a relationship with Him.”Kurt shares his story of struggling in constantly seeking validation. He got an early massive dose of feeling good enough when he was called to be a bishop/pastor in church in his twenties and then continued to ascend up in leadership responsibilities. For him, his “lightbulb moment came with the realization that while he did not struggle with an addiction to drugs or lust, he was high on validation and used it as a numbing agent that separated him from Christ and other men.Uniquely, this episode ends with a Bootcamp style prayer asking God or heal our need for validation. To fill the hole in our hearts we’ve tried to fill with things that are not God. You can contact Kurt through his Leading Saints podcast and website. If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

Physically, emotionally, and sexually abused as a child, Pete tried to navigate through shame, anger, and confusion alone while self-medicating with many things, but especially with an addiction to lust. Constant cycles of confession and relapse didn’t help, but getting a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ and multiple bands of brothers have helped him find the path to hope and healing. Through reaching up and reaching out, Pete’s story magnifies God’s glory. Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected]. If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.

AnitaAnita used to avoid looking at herself in the mirror to hide from deep feelings of shame and brokenness. Life started out rough for her and led to years of drug and sex addiction, abortion and an affair. Today though, she looks in the mirror and feels joy and is cherished by God. In this episode, she shares the story of her transformation: a journey from being broken, to being healed through Jesus and into a life of joyful service to other broken women. Steve sums up the episode with the word “Holy”. Cassy says it’s perspective-changing.You can contact Anita via email at [email protected] or on the website www.jasminegrace.org.If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

“We are only standing where we are because of Jesus.” - Kylie Wife of a pastor and worship leader, Kylie felt alone in her sex addiction which began in her late teens around the same time of her parent’s divorce. Her husband Chris had his own struggles with substance abuse and other addictions. Together they struggled to juggle an exterior life of ministering while internally battling their secret lives. Now unashamed and unafraid they are working on their recovery and sharing their story to help others identify with Jesus to find hope and healing.You can contact Kylie (and Chris) by googling @kyliechrismond for her Instagram and Facebook pages. If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

Family and personal therapist Tony Overbay dives in deep with James and Steve on many topics and shared this quote: “The strongest force in the human personality is to act in alignment with how you see yourself” which lead to a discussion of how identifying ourselves primarily as addicts is very limiting and can become a self-fulfilling prophecy which limits our ability to become “recover-e-d” as Steve puts it. Tony talks about the importance of understanding our human condition with iterative growth and pushing aside shame to instead focus on what we are doing right and how to do more of that. To learn more about Tony and to connect with him, visit https://www.tonyoverbay.com/. If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

Marni opens her heart to share a painful marriage, turning her first husband over to Christ, managing through betrayal trauma, prayerful divorce, and how to move forward when her happily ever after was shattered. Moving out of her marriage was painful, but she kept her focus on her kids and deepened her relationship with God and began to find peace and eventually got remarried and has become a life coach to help others through their hope and healing. If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

In this episode, Tamara joins Steve and Cassy to share her inspiring story of recovering from an addiction to pornography. Tamara’s struggle with addiction inspired her to learn more about God and as a result she developed a more meaningful connection with him. She no longer views Him as a “genie” but rather her friend who she loves dearly. If you would like to connect with Tamara you can visit her website at www.Tamara-Kelly.com. If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

The authority you'll sense in John comes not from a best-selling book or successful podcast, but from a deep inner strength born of hard-fought victory over adversity. His journey began with a difficult childhood, where abuse and the loss of his father weighed heavily. As life unfolded, John fought battles with addiction, trauma and devastating losses, reaching a crushing low point that threatened to take everything. But a story of hope and resilience emerges as his recovery survives even the tragic death of a deeply-loved son. His secret sauce? A powerful alliance: fighting alongside God, his loyal wife, and a powerful brotherhood. This episode will leave you in awe of the human spirit and the triumph of faith.If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

In this episode, Evan and Missy share their inspiring story of how they found redemption and healing through Evan’s struggle with multiple addictions. Through Evan’s struggle with addiction, and the work he and Missy have done to recover, they were able to develop personal relationships with Jesus Christ, and their relationship has been able to heal. If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

Eric speaks straight from the heart as he shares his journey of overcoming abuse, steep shame, lack of motivation, and low self-esteem to find recovery. This was not a short journey. Eric was first introduced to several recovery resources many years ago and he was even encouraged by his parents and girlfriend but nothing stuck until he found his own motivation. As a newlywed, Eric has been open with his wife about his struggles and has found his favorite recovery resources. Enjoy listening as he candidly shares. If Eric’s story resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Producer Jeremy at [email protected].

Madi was 13 when she first encountered pornography. As a young Christian woman, she struggled to find resources online to help young women overcome addiction as most resources were for women who discovered their husband’s addiction and for men struggling with addiction. Feeling isolated and alone living a dual life, she finally got up the nerve to disclose what was going on to her father and local church leader. Madi reminds us that we are seen. That God loves us. That the battle is real, and we are enough when we are connected to God and others. Click here for the text from Madi's dad: There is Only War If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected]. Madi’s PodcastGoogle: Sisters On The Front Lines Podcast (google.com)Apple: Sisters On The Front Lines Podcast on Apple Podcasts

Brady and Aubrey share their story of redemption and healing from Brady’s struggle with pornography addiction. For years Brady felt he had to “out work” his addiction. Once Brady realized that God loved him individually, his recovery began. Brady and Aubrey share how his struggle with pornography addiction helped them both develop personal relationships with Jesus Christ, which has healed their relationship. If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.Do you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director Jeremy at [email protected].

Devin and Joslyn radiate with a powerful light, but their journey has been a challenge. Prior to their marriage, Devin opened up to Joslyn about his struggles with pornography. Joslyn worked for an addiction recovery program and knew the potential risks but saw Devin 'on his recovery game'. They married and things went well - for a while. Join us as we witness the transformative power of God in their lives.

Another great episode with a couple in recovery. When Chandler and Jade met each other, Chandler walked Jade through his journey of how he has struggled and what he is doing to overcome addiction. Jade spent time writing and working with God and chose to join Chandler in their combined path to continue to get to know God and let Him shape her perspective. To reach out and help others, Chandler created the Relay app at Jade’s urging to create a recovery community. Join us to hear the rest of their story.

Sathiya Sam is an author, and recovery coach and pastor for recovery. Sathiya is very passionate about this because he struggled with getting free from addiction and was frustrated by the lack of resources available for those who struggle with addiction and want to get out. Have a listen to his story and a taste of his book.

Oftentimes men feel the need to fight their battles alone out of fear of appearing weak and incapable. A brotherhood can remind them that they’re not alone. In a brotherhood men truly care for each other and within the brotherhood there is safety to talk about any aspect of your life. CT, Doug, and Seth join Steve and Jason to discuss what their brotherhood means to them and how it was formed through vulnerability with each other. They talk openly about how they’ve battled for each other’s hearts. This episode illustrates that you don’t need to live within a certain proximity of others to form a brotherhood of your own. If this episode resonates with you, or you know someone who might benefit from it, please feel free to share the link to the episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.