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Signs of spring are popping up everywhere, and we're embracing this spirit of renewal. Jordana shares some of her favorite lottery slogans and how they can be applied directly to your love life. And Jared takes his YouTube trolls head on and ends the Leonardo DiCaprio dating comparisons. Then, on "Petty or Prudent?", a listener gets cheated on by her longtime partner and decides to share the news with her ex's childhood role model and favorite high school teacher (Mr. Feeney anyone?). Later, a listener wonders if competitive dates are a bad idea after a night mini golfing with her boyfriend turns disastrous. New Yorkers -- U Up? LIVE is coming to a venue near you! Get your tickets to see Jared & Jordana live and in-person at The Palladium in Times Square on April 30th: https://betches.co/uuplive Today's the LAST DAY to get the official U Up? "Is That My Wife?" hat! Get yours here before it's too late: https://shop.betches.com/collections/hats/products/is-that-my-wife-hat Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on U Up?, we’re making the most of our extra hour of daylight, mostly by making excuses to leave work early. Jared’s fresh off of a trip to Boca and has the fresh tan to prove it. Jordana’s planning for her own winter getaway with an upcoming trip to the Cayman Islands. Jared tells us about a strange run-in he had with a fan while on a swanky date. Later, we hear from a listener who’s conflicted about whether or not she should go on a girl’s trip to Miami because it makes her boyfriend uncomfortable. On “Awkward Encounter,” an apartment nightmare turns into a reality when a listener’s sister finds out her ex boyfriend’s new girlfriend moved into the unit next door. On “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?”, we got bet bragging, dog poop hurling and trauma dumping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today's Friday Feels episode of U Up?, we're joined by musician and songwriter, Spritely, who captured the hearts and attention of millions after posting a spoof song about her shocking breakup with her longterm boyfriend. Spritely breaks down the full story behind her viral video, reflects on red flags from the relationship and answers some tough questions from J&J. Spritely's new single, "Before I Fall Apart," comes out on March 7th and can be streamed on Apple Music and Spotify. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spring is only a few weeks away and J&J are here to get your dating life in tip-top shape. Jordana recounts a late night with the Betches that turned hairy when they almost got deserted at a Long Island steakhouse. Then, Jared gives his tips on how to make your dating app profile stand out and catch attention in only half a second. Later, Jordana explains how to work through an awkward texting dynamic early on in dating and Jared shares his own head-scratching situation. Then we dive into our listener inbox and J&J talk a listener through how to follow up with a stranger he met in a real life meet-cute without seeming creepy. On “Are We Dating?”, J&J help out a listener whose weekend trips with her situationship have her stuck in the “back alley” of dating. Another listener writes in with fears that the guy she’s interested in may have put her on the back burner. On this week’s “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?”, aggressive texts, anti-vegetarian dating profiles and piss pots. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Friday and Jordana’s feeling sassy. She’s got a new game to play with Jared called “Pack or Pass?” Here’s how it works—would you relocate to Buffalo to stay with the love of your life? The game explores just how far you'd be willing to go, literally, for your relationship. Later, on "Icky or Picky?," we hear from a listener who experiences an unforgettable ick when her date insists on carrying an umbrella for shade during an entire hike. Then, a busy single mom writes in about a new guy she’s excited about, but feels overwhelmed by his constant texting. J&J offer advice on how to set communication boundaries without killing the spark of a new romance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared’s officially off on his Australia and New Zealand tour and hopes to meet some of our down under listeners at his upcoming shows. Later, he tells a story about his own awkward encounter with a gastroenterologist and Jordana dissects a texting exchange Jared had with a woman he was seeing that turned sour. We dive into our email inbox and hear from a listener who is worried that sleeping with a new romantic interest on their first date may have jeopardized their chance at a committed relationship. Then we hear from a listener who isn’t sure if shooting her shot was worth it. And this week’s Awkward Encounter has us wondering if there's any situation where a cheese grater is a remotely acceptable birthday gift. Later on Red Flag or Deal Breaker, we hear about some eligible bachelors who are still legally married (possibly for financial reasons), who use bots to flirt with women and who ask you to go barefoot at a bar on the first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lordy, Lordy look who’s 40! It’s the “Worst Day of the Year” aka Jared’s birthday. Now that he’s over the hill, Jared is embracing his “I want to speak to the manager” energy and reflecting with Jordana on the peaks and valleys from the past year. Then, we play Petty or Prudent and hear from a listener who got dumped the day after her boyfriend planned a romantic dinner for their one-year anniversary. Later, we dive into an email about a woman who tries to backpedal into dating a guy she once ended things with when he gave her the ick. There’s been one thing on our minds since October and it’s… “Is that my wife?” We got all your DMs and comments about needing merch and now we have it! For a limited time only, get your “Is That My Wife? hat at https://shop.betches.com/products/is-that-my-wife-hat. Available from now until March 14th. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared’s fresh off of a trip to Montreal, or as he calls it The Coldest Place on Earth, and comes back with hot takes about the food and one glowing restaurant recommendation. Then J&J gab about their recent trip to L.A. and the difference in hotness factor between Los Angeles and New York (Gremlin Swamp People unite!). They also reflect on a strange interaction they had with a recently divorced man at a bar.Later, we dive into emails and hear from a listener who feels that her boyfriend made a joke at her expense that went too far. On an Awkward Encounter that we’ll never forget, a listener takes a chance going to a playoff hockey game with a guy she just met. Things take a turn when the “Mayor of Detroit” picks her up in a Dukes of Hazard themed golf cart and gets plastered at the game. Then a listener taps J&J for advice on a romantic connection where the physical isn’t matching the emotional one. We end with a round Red Flag Deal Breaker about a forgotten vasectomy, a mean quote from a Rate My Professor review, and an aspiring “boy dad.” Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This bonus episode is sponsored by Netflix! J and J are reflecting on five years of "Love is Blind" and they’re doing it in the most authentic way possible-in the pods! They find out the hard way what it's really like to communicate in the pods as they test themselves on their emotional intuition. Then, they go on to share their two cents on the communication styles of some of the most iconic couples while breaking down the impact the show has had on modern relationships. Plus, Jared and Jordana go in for a round of Couples Court as they ponder why we don’t walk away when a partner gives us the shrug? They round out the episode with an epic Love Is Blind version of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, pod edition. Don’t miss Season 8, streaming now only on Netflix – new episodes drop this Friday! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared “Cupid” Freid and Jordana “Matchmaker” Abraham are here to answer all your Valentine’s Day questions. This year for V-Day, Jared’s off to Alpharetta, Georgia for a block of shows and Jordana’s staying in while hubby Mike cooks her up something special. J&J discuss what the perfect meal for V-Day is that still leaves room for romance (for our home cooks, Chef Jared suggests grilled chicken, penne and spaghetti squash). Then in partnership with Shake Shack, we play a special game called BOGO or NOGO where J&J evaluate situationships and decide if listeners should enjoy the Shake Shack’s Smoke Shack BOGO deal with them or save it for someone more deserving. Later, we dive into a lightning round of V-day questions like, “when is it too soon to celebrate Valentine’s Day with someone you’re dating?”, “how do I tell my partner I want to do something for V-day?” and “how do I ask the guy I’m casually seeing if we’ll be spending Valentine’s Day together?” Get the Shake Shack BOGO for yourself by visiting Shakeshack.com and using code BEMINE or click here: shakeshack.app.link/vdaybogobetches Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana’s gone full-on suburbs. She’s enrolled in a “tennis clinic” and in between perfecting her serve is trying to infiltrate the neighborhood gossip circle. She continues to debate the pros and cons of pulling the trigger on getting a dog. Later, J&J give a pep talk to a listener who recently went through a bad breakup after realizing that she and her longterm partner were not on the same page regarding kids. On Awkward Encounter, things get messy after a dog steals a listener’s menstrual cup. And this week’s Red Flag or Deal Breaker? has Jared and Jordana wondering if bad hygiene is a valid reason to dump someone. Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared’s 40th birthday is approaching and he might be on the cusp of an impending meltdown. He’s being haunted by images of how he’ll be spending his upcoming 40th: alone, on an international flight to New Zealand (in a Delta One seat, of course). And after purchasing a luxe coffee maker with insane upkeep, Jordana is having some buyer’s remorse. On Icky or Picky, a listener keeps accidentally going on dates with guys with the same last name as her and it’s creeping her out. Later, we hear from a CrossFit betch who is having trouble meeting her match. Her parents say that her impressive physique may be to blame. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s February, which means we can all complain about it officially being the coldest month of the year. To start things off, Jordana tells Jared about her sister’s recent stay at her place and the creative new ways her seven-year-old nephew stress tested her new furniture. Jared’s hot off of a star-studded show at the Comedy Cellar, where Madonna inexplicably performed a 40-minute comedy set. Later we dive into our mailbox, and hear from a listener who worries that all her longterm relationships will end up with a dead bedroom. Also, a recent divorcee finds herself stumbling through her reentry into the dating world and regrettably commissions a pet portrait for a man she was casually seeing whose dog died. In “Awkward Encounter,” Jared & Jordana advise a listener who just realized she went on dates with two guys who are close friends and debates whether or not she should tell them. In “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?“, we hear about a guy who pretends he went to an Ivy League school, an ex-boyfriend who might be a little too obsessed with his sister and a woman who won’t stop comparing the man she’s seeing to her ex. Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Another Bachelor breakup broke the internet this week. After four years of dating and no engagement in sight, Matt James called quits on his relationship with Rachael Kirkconnell. With all the confusion and discourse over this breakup, Jared and Jordana enter the chat with their own takeaways. On “Icky or Picky,” a listener ends up dating a meme king which is all fun and games until he sends her about 30 memes over the course of two days. When things don’t work out between them, he sends her a Venmo request for the cost a previous date. In a dramatic reading of these text exchanges, Jared channels his inner spaghetti Western villain. Later, we hear from a listener who’s experimenting in her love life by dating a “nice guy” for once, who just so happens to do everything with his ex girlfriend. And by everything, we mean couples massages, hanging out multiple times a week and going on romantic vacations. Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re one month into 2025 and J&J are here to keep you motivated, even if you already quit your New Year’s Resolutions. Jordana is fresh off of hosting a housewarming party and Jared is struggling to find time to write a book about dating while actively still dating. Later, we hop into emails, including a listener who wonders if her friends actually need to know the guy she’s dating and we answer the mother of all dating questions: How do I approach the gym hottie without being creepy? Today’s “Awkward Encounter” takes us to church with a wild listener story about hooking up with their former worship leader. On “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” J&J debate if terrible reviews on RateMyProfessor are a good reason to not date someone, consider what proper texting etiquette looks like during a national emergency, and question whether it’s bad form to refuse to go to a certain dating spot because it isn’t romantic enough. Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

More than 25 years later, "Sex and the City" is still on our minds when it comes to how we would handle dating and relationships. However, since Gen Z has entered the chat and millennials hit double-digit rounds of rewatching, the discussions have shifted from identifying as the Carrie of your group to Carrie Bradshaw arguably being one of the worst characters we know. Still, Jared and Jordana aren't ready to hop on the hate train yet. They break down why we're so repulsed by some of Carrie's most memorable moments and how it translates into our evolving love lives. Plus, they play a round of "Icky or Picky?" about a flirty text that fell flat. The episode ends with an advice email about overcoming post-breakup pettiness. Is it natural to want to wish pain upon your ex when you're still reeling from a breakup, or do specific actions need to be taken to move on? Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s the dead of winter and we’re all in “hamper girl mode.” Jordana and Jared shake off the cold by jumping into some heated dating questions. Can a person have too many ongoing chats on a dating app? How do I know if breaking up was the right decision? And TikTok has spoken: Ghosting is out and “avoidant discarding” is in. J&J discuss this new dating term and how it’s even worse than just leaving someone on read. Later, a listener meets his Reese Witherspoon-esque dream girl. The catch? She lives in a completely different city. J&J give him pointers on how to set up a second date without scaring her off. The “Awkward Encounter”, a typically smooth bartender dreads a looming speed dating event he signed up for. J&J coach him on how to make a great first impression. Then we play “Red Flag, Deal Breaker?,” about a post-sex breakup comment, missing ice cube trays and a date who is only looking for one thing. Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s a second-guessing time of year on the podcast and in the dating world! Should you go out even though you're not feeling it in the thick of winter? Should you go for it with the cute person you met in your hometown? All the kinds of questions that J&J are tackling this Friday! They play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about texting an ex’s family that his cheating is the reason your relationship is ending. Plus, a listener writes in about wanting to pursue the guy in her hometown thousands of miles away, but she’s not sure she’s in it for the right reasons. After her last breakup and a similar situation, is going for a Hallmark-level romance just a way to evade vulnerability or a better way to ease into a new relationship? J&J discuss her circumstance and whether she’s processed emotions enough to make a decision. Have a dating question for Jared & Jordana? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our hotline 212-589-8903 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the midst of reflecting and changing, this episode is on theme for the new year shifts you’re trying to make happen! After J&J catch each other up on their holiday breaks, a listener committed to keeping casual wonders how she can keep her anxious dating habits at bay. The Awkward Encounter would be a nightmare for any parent and teen. Then, after dedicating his 20s to his career, a 30m listener asks how to make his focus more dating-centric. Can a demanding job complement his dating life or is it time for a career change? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about strange Instagram follows, working throughout a date, and a quirky reuse choice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If someone isn’t for you, let them. Easier said than done, but in today’s episode, we’re joined by Mel Robbins (@melrobbins), motivational speaker and author of “The Let Them Theory”, to tell us how. After Mel comes in hot with a reality check that we may be the cause of our biggest problems, Jared and Jordana question how listeners can apply the Let Them Theory to their lives whether they’re on the apps, ready to have kids or in a constant communication rut with their significant other.For more from our guest, pick up your copy of “The Let Them Theory” here: https://amzn.to/3DJDmsr Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J & J are fresh off a dinner party together, but Jared’s own awkward encounter at a bar afterwards has him regretting that nightcap martini. After some daydreaming about winter getaways, we dig into the e-mails, starting with a listener who put their friend onto the pod, watched them succeed at finding love, but keeps striking out on their own. They tackle a couple of listener’s dating app woes, like should you stop replying if they make an edit to their profile you really dislike? Today’s "Awkward Encounter" pushes the boundaries between “awkward” and “heartbreaking,” with a write-in from a woman who thought she was getting a ring but got a break-up instead. Keeping the New Year unhinged, “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” covers disclosing food allergies, being pushy about “going to my place”, and talking about your parents sex lives on a first date… which we think might require a little more professional help. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating Coach, Hinge Relationship Science expert, and friend of the pod Logan Ury (@loganury) is here to help J & J answer the question haunting single women everywhere: Where are all the guys?!? Her new Netflix show “The Later Daters,” where she coaches singles over 55 on how to get back in the dating scene, is now streaming – and proving that some dating struggles never change, even with age. They really dig into Logan’s 2025 passion projects: the gender imbalance in dating, the need for male support networks, and how we can improve the male end of the dating pool. We hear from one listener who wants to know if being single for years makes them undateable, but Logan’s here to assure us all that it’s never too late to find love. All of this tees up Monday’s special Benefits episode: Logan coaching Jared, on air, no holding back. You won’t want to miss it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy New Year, U Up? listeners! J&J are ringing in the New Year doing what they do best: going a little bit off the rails. Jared plans to celebrate the New Year by toasting his martini to the moon (and hopes you will toast him back, wherever she is). They reflect about their 2024, before diving into some of Jared’s 2025 dating resolutions which include new-and-improved dating lines, personal improvement, and why you should be an even worse first date. Then, we hear from one listener who wants to know if she should be vision boarding her relationship, and an older listener grappling with a middle-aged breakup. Finally, we end with a quick “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” where every write-in has us asking, “what’s going on with men??” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The holidays are coming to a close, the New Year is looming – is it time to get your shit together? We’re ending 2024 by welcoming author, entrepreneur, and returning guest Ramit Sethi (@ramit) to the studio for a (seriously) fun conversation about money and relationships. His new book, "Money for Couples", is about how to create your most "Rich Life." It’s a touchy subject, but Ramit holds our hand through it all: how to broach the money convo early on, reframing financial conversations through a more romantic lens, what you might not be considering when thinking about engagement rings, and so much more. Plus, we hear from a male listener struggling with gender-based expectations when it comes to paying on dates – why is it so awkward to go Dutch? We wrap things up with a rapid fire game, “Fund It or Forget It.” See you in 2025! Buy Ramit Sethi's book here. Check out Ramit Sethi's 2022 U Up episode on Apple or Spotify. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

‘Twas the U Up? before Christmas so J&J dressed up for fun. Regardless of your holiday plans, you won’t want to miss this one! With unhinged holiday spirit taking over the entire studio, they play a round of “Naughty or Nice?”, offer up Jared’s first date of 2025, and end with a holiday competition of ‘Twas The Night Before Christmas rewrites by Jared and our producer, Candice. Plus, the Awkward Encounter involves a feline funk and J&J give a reality check when a cheating woman writes in with hopes for her next relationship before she’s ended her current one. Head to our Instagram @u.up.podcast to vote on our pod poetry and get details on how to win a date with Jared. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does 2025 hold for your love life? Kelley Knight (@kelley__knight), psychic and owner of Modern Mystic Shop, returns to the studio to help us see what’s in store for each of our futures! First, she surprises J&J with gifts and they catch up since she gave Jared a reading in an episode last December. Then, Jared and Jordana each ask a question about different aspects of their lives for a quick reading. The episode ends with a round of Tarotscopes as Kelley makes predictions for each zodiac sign, with our hosts and producers paying extra attention to our own signs.For more from our guest, follow @modernmystic_shop or visit modernmystic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After a couple weeks away from the studio and just days after Jared’s special taping, Jordana starts this episode by giving Jared his flowers and catches him up on her girls’ trip as the hosts settle back in. The first email asks for advice for everyone traveling to stay with family over the holiday season. How do you balance dating and family time when you’re away from your city, but don’t want to take a break? The Awkward Encounter, sponsored by A24’s Babygirl, comes from a woman unsure when to bring up her kinks to find the right partner. Next, a listener with a calculated approach to her dating life is starting to second-guess herself after her friends’ judgment about her current situation. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about family baggage, an angry cat, and a vegan’s roach reservations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling lucky? On par with Friday the 13th, Jared and Jordana ease into the episode with their thoughts on superstitions, energy, and beliefs. Plus, Jared shares where his head is at ahead of a recording break for the Thanksgiving holiday, Jordana’s trip, and his special taping. Then, they play a game called “Is That My Wife?” inspired by Jared’s DMs. The episode ends with an email from a 26M listener wondering if he should be feeling more for the woman he’s been seeing for a couple of months or if dating in the digital age has skewed his perspective. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why won’t Jared go to therapy? We get this question often and, this week, he shares his own thought on why as well as a helpful TikTok, "Men Who Wear Masks And Struggle With Conflict" by @elisemicheals. Plus, he and Jordana are slipping more into f*ck it mode for the holidays. The first email is advice ahead of office holiday party season when your coworkers knew your ex: how do you introduce your new boyfriend to your coworkers without any awkward moments? The Awkward Encounter has a strange condom request. Then, we hear from a listener who’s growing frustrated with a conversation ick with the guy she’s dating. Every time she shares a story, he somehow makes it about himself. Can they get over these conflicting communication styles? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about turning a submission into a Hinge prompt, an off-putting first date experience, and acting like a baby when you’re sick Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are feeling good for this Friday episode with big plans for both hosts, and with this kind of energy, you never know where the conversation will take them! As you’ve seen on IG Stories by now, Jordana should be on her way back from a group trip and Jared is gearing up for his special taping in Tarrytown. With live performances on their minds, and as with most conversations lately, Wicked finds its way into their chat–except it just has Jared missing when he was into Marvel movies. Plus, Jared gets a lesson in chlamydia (yes, chlamydia) from Jordana ahead of his Australia trip. The episode ends with a reveal: with soulmate drawings picking up on TikTok, Candice commissioned a reading for Jared. J&J react to the predictions from the Etsy psychic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re officially in “let’s circle back in the new year” territory, and to embrace it, J&J set out to make this the most unhinged U Up? episode this year. They talk about the pursuit of meaningful relationships and how the distraction of dating apps is clouding the way for the people making actual efforts. Plus, after the public reaction to Benny Blanco sharing that his relationship with Selena Gomez started by her asking him out*, they talk about the public’s perceptions of their relationship and the obstacles that even Selena has faced as a successful woman that wants to find love. The first email comes from a listener writing in from the post-date Uber: what are the signs a guy wants you to leave after sex? She shares what she took as signs to leave, and J&J weigh in on whether she overthought the situation. The Awkward Encounter comes from Genova as a listener has an unusually sexual sight in her new city. The next email is questioning whether to act on being called “The One That Got Away.” Our listener’s reconnection with her ex reignited feelings, but should she just leave it alone out of respect for his new relationship, or was his admittance to still loving her an invite to try again? The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about homework before spending a holiday together, hiking on a first date and using a childhood nickname. *The Benny Blanco clip we react to is from Kai Cenat’s YouTube video, “Benny Blanco Comes On Kai Cenat's Stream!” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s the biggest shopping day of the year, but before you get the new iPhone 16, J&J want you to know how a new AI feature on the iOS 18 update could affect your dating life. With breakup texts submitted to our Instagram and a ChatGPT assist from our producer, Shannon, Jared and Jordana break down how the conversations went and generate what an AI version would look like. They also determine when a breakup text is appropriate and play out their own breakup scenarios. The episode ends with a round of “Icky or Picky?” about proposing a shopping spree for a first date. Is this a fun way to get spoiled for a few hours by a dating app rando, or is it just creepy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s officially our favorite time of the year and J&J get a little unhinged today as they amp up for what’s to come! They come in hot with a fresh new rant about TikTok’s favorite couple, Pookie and Jett. Plus, because the holidays are a tricky time for love lives regardless of status, J&J are guiding you through Thanksgiving and the start of holiday season with a lightning round of advice. They listen to a slightly shady voicemail from a curious mom and answer a range of Instagram submissions covering various holiday hiccups, from early dating momentum to interfaith relationships and in-law issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're at the end of cuffing week to prep you for the cuffing season ahead, and Jared and Jordana are doing temp checks on the unofficial statuses between casual, comfortable and committed. First, Jordana gives us a home renovation update and Jared shares a sad breakup story of his own. They play a round of "Icky or Picky?" about getting too comfortable wearing weird PJs too soon. Plus, a 27F listener needs advice on whether or not to build a roster to kick her dating life into high gear. The episode ends with a new game, "Cuffed or Casual?" as J&J weigh in on Instagram submissions of confusing moves that could be deemed as nothing serious or a sign that the other person wants a real relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The holidays are getting closer and the weather is getting colder which can only mean one thing: cuffing season is here. Jared and Jordana delve into the discourse around cuffing season and discuss controlling the narrative around your dating life. Then, a 27F listener writes in to ask whether wanting casual sex is derailing her dating goals. She's never had a real boyfriend; is abstinence the only way she'll ever find one? The Awkward Encounter involves a situationship with a love kink. Next, a listener with a tumor diagnosis asks how to address her medical journey while dating. The episode ends with a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about sharing your life with your SO, updating Hinge daily, and owning only one cutlery set. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's our anniversary! 7 years after the first U Up? episode, Jared and Jordana walk into a decorated studio themed to the traditional 7th-anniversary gifts: copper and wool. First, J&J exchange gifts, then they talk about what the dreaded 7-year itch means in relationships. Next, Jared and Jordana reveal their lists of what they want for the pod's future. The episode ends with a lightning round of U Up? history and reflecting on top pod moments since our last anniversary. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared fills Jordana in on his bizarre and funny late night Halloween experience and they also discuss the new Martha Stewart documentary. They hear from a listener who is struggling with communication from their partner. Next, they hear an Awkward Encounter that ends with them walking in on somebody in bed with another girl. Then, they discuss an email from a listener who isn't sure how to know if a relationship is serious if they both don't want marriage. Finally, they dive into a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" featuring a fat-phobic date, a boyfriend unwilling to compromise, and Olivia Rodrigo's number one red flag. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

DISCLAIMER: This episode was recorded prior to the election. Jared and Jordana divulge the complexities of dating during an election year and how to navigate discussing politics on a date. In this week’s "Icky or Picky?" a listener wants to know if their date littering dog poop is something worth overlooking. Next, they tackle a listener’s dilemma concerning her date's disappointing "whiskey dick" and Jared opens up about male performance anxiety. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're officially headed towards the toughest times to date—cuffing season and the holidays—so Jared and Jordana discuss how to navigate this tricky period. They hear from a patient whose attractive doctor makes her temperature rise but she's unsure whether to make a move or not. Next, they hear an Awkward Encounter about life at boarding school. Then, they discuss an email from a listener whose boyfriend is extremely jealous and suspicious of her male friend. Finally, they dive into a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about toilet plungers and gift giving etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana break down artist Spritely’s viral TikTok breakup video, unpacking relationship red flags, communication pitfalls, and the complexities of moving for love. In this week’s "Icky or Picky?" a listener asks if designer labels make or break a date J&J agree, no one should feel judged for their fashion choices, no matter the brand. Next, they tackle a listener’s dilemma about tracking down a Bumble match from nearly a year ago. Is her search romantic or just plain extra? Jared and Jordana empathize but offer a crucial reminder: while bold moves can impress, more than one follow-up message might push things into red flag territory. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s the spookiest episode of the year, and Jordana and Jared are feeling a little trapped in more ways than one! They rank Halloween couple’s costumes for 2024 and explore what your costume choice reveals about your relationship. Then, they tackle a listener’s costume conundrum, where differing opinions on what’s “too sexy” lead to the conclusion that her date is too controlling. Next, an Awkward Encounter that’s more alarming than amusing. Then, they advise a listener who wonders if she’s being unreasonable for expecting her Halloween one-night stand to leave by morning. J&J completely understand her perspective and hold a masterclass on how to nail the perfect one-night stand. Finally, the episode wraps up with a Halloween-themed lightning round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” tackling controversial costumes, costume refusals, and the right time to suggest a couples costume. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Friday’s episode, Jordana navigates the chaos of her impending move, sparking a deeper conversation with Jared about how our living spaces impact relationships. Next, they tackle an Icky or Picky from a listener overwhelmed by her boyfriend’s bombardment of romantic texts. Even though this partner checks all the right boxes on paper, J&J explore why it’s okay to walk away when the spark just isn’t there. Finally, they dive into an email from a listener seeking advice about her boyfriend’s hidden vaping habit, which was downplayed early on. J&J encourage an open conversation that leans into support, not shame—proving that honesty is key. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Non-subscribers, take note: new episodes will now be dropping every Wednesday and Friday at 6 AM EST. Now that business is taken care of, there's a trending breakup J&J need to discuss: Jason Tartick and Kat Stickler. They analyze their breakup announcements, plus discuss societal pressures and expectations put upon celebrity couples. Next, a 31F is having trouble with same-day date cancellations, leading J&J to explore the nuances around when and how to cancel on a date. Then, brace yourself for an Awkward Encounter about a college kiss gone horribly wrong—it still haunts our listener to this day! The second advice email is seeking a masterclass in becoming a more effective PITA (Pain In The Ass). J&J delve into the importance of negotiation in relationships and wielding strong opinions as an advantage. The episode wraps up with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” about a surprising pet, a boyfriend who selectively shares, and a date who insists on getting all the cash back. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the inaugural Friday episode! Jared and Jordana are still at Spotify HQ, gavels in hand, ready to tackle Couple's Court. This week, they dive into a sh*tty dilemma from a listener who's struggling to get her boyfriend to clean up his bathroom blow-ups. Jordana passionately sides with the listener, while Jared shares how we can do better as a country when it comes to bathroom supplies. Next, a 30F listener without social media feels uneasy that her 32M boyfriend—who posts frequently—has no pictures of her on his feed. Is it weird that he's leaving her out of his posts even if she was there for those moments? J&J give her tips on how to address the issue with a vulnerable approach instead of an accusatory tone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J&J are coming to us from Spotify HQ, and Jordana is realizing she doesn't know NYC as well as she thought. First, they tackle a listener's email about men on dating apps giving her unsolicited advice. J&J discuss how to nail the art of roasting without going off the rails. The Awkward Encounter is a two-parter including a train platform romance gone wrong. Then, another listener needs help validating jealousy after her fiancé shares a compliment he got from a coworker. J&J try to give her perspective and decide if couples should even be sharing the compliments they receive outside their relationship. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about a pocketed dirty condom, a mom with a vendetta and a light show at 3 AM. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana kick off this last Sunday Special with a round of “Petty or Prudent?”. They tackle a homemade sign a listener hung in her neighborhood, calling out her ex for his deceitful ways. It’s her bold move to retaliate against a liar and cheater, but J&J have some clever suggestions for delivering her message with a bit more finesse—no neighborhood drama required. Next, J&J give advice to a listener whose boyfriend is still grappling with the emotional fallout from his recent divorce. Despite their amazing adventures and great chemistry this couple might have, J&J focus on the passive aggressive ways he has been downplaying their relationship and wonder if he’s even ready for someone new. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve got an update! The Oversharing segment Jared and Jordana disagreed about two weeks ago has extra context, and now Jared feels like apologies are owed (kind of). Then, J&J answer an email from a listener who is considering re-matching with a guy she’s dated before on the apps but she’s worried that he won’t remember her. J&J give her the pep talk she needs to pull the trigger and swipe again. Next, an Awkward Encounter turns a new relationship into a family reunion. The second email is a two-part problem: a listener’s boyfriend is still friends with his exes and she also has a situationship she cannot shake. J&J break down the issues and figure out why we might keep our exes around. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about a first date foul, Eras tour tickets lie, and a tacky gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's one of our last Sunday Specials before we move to Fridays (read: Thursdays, if you're a subscriber)! J&J kick off with a round of Couple's Court about deleted nudes. Our listener got a weird feeling (iykyk) about her bf, so her gut told her to look through his phone. It looked clean at first until she found deleted nudes of him--and another woman, but here's where it gets strange: he told her that it was just a porn subscription, and the porn star requires him to exchange nudes on Snapchat. When you're done rolling your eyes, listen and get ready to weigh in on whether this is truly an open and shut case. Then, J&J help another listener navigate whether she should consider getting back together with her ex or walk away. He clearly had commitment issues when they were together, but now that they're apart, he took her advice to go to therapy. J&J discuss the boundaries she needs to set moving forward and if his decision to go to therapy is enough to open the door again. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spooky Season has officially started and Jordana kicks us off with an update about the odd happenings in her apartment building. Then, Jared recounts his own bizarre experience that happened the night before. Plus, they weigh in on WalletHub's "Best and Worst Cities To Date In 2024". The Awkward Encounter turns a listener's kink into an ick. Next, a listener who wants to know why men always seem to always settle down after they end a situationship where they couldn’t commit. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” in partnership with Netflix, including a shared bathroom debate, a long-distance situationship with friends who are possibly too persuasive, and a vegan surprise. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are easing into another Sunday Special with a quick check-in on the current states of their minds. Jared shares how his new hobby, golf, is one way to watch a man’s insecurities unveiled. Plus, Jordana is going stircrazy in her temporary home while she’s waiting for her house to finish major renovations. Next, they play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a first date to a nude beach. Afterward, a 29M listener writes in concerned about the trajectory of his relationship. He and his fiancée are feeling less compatible as their relationship goes on, but is he stuck because he already proposed to her? Jared and Jordana take issue with the focus of his email and discuss the importance of communication and knowing when to call it quits. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices