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It’s the dead of winter and we’re all in “hamper girl mode.” Jordana and Jared shake off the cold by jumping into some heated dating questions. Can a person have too many ongoing chats on a dating app? How do I know if breaking up was the right decision? And TikTok has spoken: Ghosting is out and “avoidant discarding” is in. J&J discuss this new dating term and how it’s even worse than just leaving someone on read. Later, a listener meets his Reese Witherspoon-esque dream girl. The catch? She lives in a completely different city. J&J give him pointers on how to set up a second date without scaring her off. The “Awkward Encounter”, a typically smooth bartender dreads a looming speed dating event he signed up for. J&J coach him on how to make a great first impression. Then we play “Red Flag, Deal Breaker?,” about a post-sex breakup comment, missing ice cube trays and a date who is only looking for one thing. Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s a second-guessing time of year on the podcast and in the dating world! Should you go out even though you're not feeling it in the thick of winter? Should you go for it with the cute person you met in your hometown? All the kinds of questions that J&J are tackling this Friday! They play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about texting an ex’s family that his cheating is the reason your relationship is ending. Plus, a listener writes in about wanting to pursue the guy in her hometown thousands of miles away, but she’s not sure she’s in it for the right reasons. After her last breakup and a similar situation, is going for a Hallmark-level romance just a way to evade vulnerability or a better way to ease into a new relationship? J&J discuss her circumstance and whether she’s processed emotions enough to make a decision. Have a dating question for Jared & Jordana? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our hotline 212-589-8903 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the midst of reflecting and changing, this episode is on theme for the new year shifts you’re trying to make happen! After J&J catch each other up on their holiday breaks, a listener committed to keeping casual wonders how she can keep her anxious dating habits at bay. The Awkward Encounter would be a nightmare for any parent and teen. Then, after dedicating his 20s to his career, a 30m listener asks how to make his focus more dating-centric. Can a demanding job complement his dating life or is it time for a career change? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about strange Instagram follows, working throughout a date, and a quirky reuse choice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If someone isn’t for you, let them. Easier said than done, but in today’s episode, we’re joined by Mel Robbins (@melrobbins), motivational speaker and author of “The Let Them Theory”, to tell us how. After Mel comes in hot with a reality check that we may be the cause of our biggest problems, Jared and Jordana question how listeners can apply the Let Them Theory to their lives whether they’re on the apps, ready to have kids or in a constant communication rut with their significant other.For more from our guest, pick up your copy of “The Let Them Theory” here: https://amzn.to/3DJDmsr Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J & J are fresh off a dinner party together, but Jared’s own awkward encounter at a bar afterwards has him regretting that nightcap martini. After some daydreaming about winter getaways, we dig into the e-mails, starting with a listener who put their friend onto the pod, watched them succeed at finding love, but keeps striking out on their own. They tackle a couple of listener’s dating app woes, like should you stop replying if they make an edit to their profile you really dislike? Today’s "Awkward Encounter" pushes the boundaries between “awkward” and “heartbreaking,” with a write-in from a woman who thought she was getting a ring but got a break-up instead. Keeping the New Year unhinged, “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” covers disclosing food allergies, being pushy about “going to my place”, and talking about your parents sex lives on a first date… which we think might require a little more professional help. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating Coach, Hinge Relationship Science expert, and friend of the pod Logan Ury (@loganury) is here to help J & J answer the question haunting single women everywhere: Where are all the guys?!? Her new Netflix show “The Later Daters,” where she coaches singles over 55 on how to get back in the dating scene, is now streaming – and proving that some dating struggles never change, even with age. They really dig into Logan’s 2025 passion projects: the gender imbalance in dating, the need for male support networks, and how we can improve the male end of the dating pool. We hear from one listener who wants to know if being single for years makes them undateable, but Logan’s here to assure us all that it’s never too late to find love. All of this tees up Monday’s special Benefits episode: Logan coaching Jared, on air, no holding back. You won’t want to miss it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy New Year, U Up? listeners! J&J are ringing in the New Year doing what they do best: going a little bit off the rails. Jared plans to celebrate the New Year by toasting his martini to the moon (and hopes you will toast him back, wherever she is). They reflect about their 2024, before diving into some of Jared’s 2025 dating resolutions which include new-and-improved dating lines, personal improvement, and why you should be an even worse first date. Then, we hear from one listener who wants to know if she should be vision boarding her relationship, and an older listener grappling with a middle-aged breakup. Finally, we end with a quick “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” where every write-in has us asking, “what’s going on with men??” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The holidays are coming to a close, the New Year is looming – is it time to get your shit together? We’re ending 2024 by welcoming author, entrepreneur, and returning guest Ramit Sethi (@ramit) to the studio for a (seriously) fun conversation about money and relationships. His new book, "Money for Couples", is about how to create your most "Rich Life." It’s a touchy subject, but Ramit holds our hand through it all: how to broach the money convo early on, reframing financial conversations through a more romantic lens, what you might not be considering when thinking about engagement rings, and so much more. Plus, we hear from a male listener struggling with gender-based expectations when it comes to paying on dates – why is it so awkward to go Dutch? We wrap things up with a rapid fire game, “Fund It or Forget It.” See you in 2025! Buy Ramit Sethi's book here. Check out Ramit Sethi's 2022 U Up episode on Apple or Spotify. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

‘Twas the U Up? before Christmas so J&J dressed up for fun. Regardless of your holiday plans, you won’t want to miss this one! With unhinged holiday spirit taking over the entire studio, they play a round of “Naughty or Nice?”, offer up Jared’s first date of 2025, and end with a holiday competition of ‘Twas The Night Before Christmas rewrites by Jared and our producer, Candice. Plus, the Awkward Encounter involves a feline funk and J&J give a reality check when a cheating woman writes in with hopes for her next relationship before she’s ended her current one. Head to our Instagram @u.up.podcast to vote on our pod poetry and get details on how to win a date with Jared. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does 2025 hold for your love life? Kelley Knight (@kelley__knight), psychic and owner of Modern Mystic Shop, returns to the studio to help us see what’s in store for each of our futures! First, she surprises J&J with gifts and they catch up since she gave Jared a reading in an episode last December. Then, Jared and Jordana each ask a question about different aspects of their lives for a quick reading. The episode ends with a round of Tarotscopes as Kelley makes predictions for each zodiac sign, with our hosts and producers paying extra attention to our own signs.For more from our guest, follow @modernmystic_shop or visit modernmystic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After a couple weeks away from the studio and just days after Jared’s special taping, Jordana starts this episode by giving Jared his flowers and catches him up on her girls’ trip as the hosts settle back in. The first email asks for advice for everyone traveling to stay with family over the holiday season. How do you balance dating and family time when you’re away from your city, but don’t want to take a break? The Awkward Encounter, sponsored by A24’s Babygirl, comes from a woman unsure when to bring up her kinks to find the right partner. Next, a listener with a calculated approach to her dating life is starting to second-guess herself after her friends’ judgment about her current situation. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about family baggage, an angry cat, and a vegan’s roach reservations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling lucky? On par with Friday the 13th, Jared and Jordana ease into the episode with their thoughts on superstitions, energy, and beliefs. Plus, Jared shares where his head is at ahead of a recording break for the Thanksgiving holiday, Jordana’s trip, and his special taping. Then, they play a game called “Is That My Wife?” inspired by Jared’s DMs. The episode ends with an email from a 26M listener wondering if he should be feeling more for the woman he’s been seeing for a couple of months or if dating in the digital age has skewed his perspective. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why won’t Jared go to therapy? We get this question often and, this week, he shares his own thought on why as well as a helpful TikTok, "Men Who Wear Masks And Struggle With Conflict" by @elisemicheals. Plus, he and Jordana are slipping more into f*ck it mode for the holidays. The first email is advice ahead of office holiday party season when your coworkers knew your ex: how do you introduce your new boyfriend to your coworkers without any awkward moments? The Awkward Encounter has a strange condom request. Then, we hear from a listener who’s growing frustrated with a conversation ick with the guy she’s dating. Every time she shares a story, he somehow makes it about himself. Can they get over these conflicting communication styles? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about turning a submission into a Hinge prompt, an off-putting first date experience, and acting like a baby when you’re sick Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are feeling good for this Friday episode with big plans for both hosts, and with this kind of energy, you never know where the conversation will take them! As you’ve seen on IG Stories by now, Jordana should be on her way back from a group trip and Jared is gearing up for his special taping in Tarrytown. With live performances on their minds, and as with most conversations lately, Wicked finds its way into their chat–except it just has Jared missing when he was into Marvel movies. Plus, Jared gets a lesson in chlamydia (yes, chlamydia) from Jordana ahead of his Australia trip. The episode ends with a reveal: with soulmate drawings picking up on TikTok, Candice commissioned a reading for Jared. J&J react to the predictions from the Etsy psychic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re officially in “let’s circle back in the new year” territory, and to embrace it, J&J set out to make this the most unhinged U Up? episode this year. They talk about the pursuit of meaningful relationships and how the distraction of dating apps is clouding the way for the people making actual efforts. Plus, after the public reaction to Benny Blanco sharing that his relationship with Selena Gomez started by her asking him out*, they talk about the public’s perceptions of their relationship and the obstacles that even Selena has faced as a successful woman that wants to find love. The first email comes from a listener writing in from the post-date Uber: what are the signs a guy wants you to leave after sex? She shares what she took as signs to leave, and J&J weigh in on whether she overthought the situation. The Awkward Encounter comes from Genova as a listener has an unusually sexual sight in her new city. The next email is questioning whether to act on being called “The One That Got Away.” Our listener’s reconnection with her ex reignited feelings, but should she just leave it alone out of respect for his new relationship, or was his admittance to still loving her an invite to try again? The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about homework before spending a holiday together, hiking on a first date and using a childhood nickname. *The Benny Blanco clip we react to is from Kai Cenat’s YouTube video, “Benny Blanco Comes On Kai Cenat's Stream!” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s the biggest shopping day of the year, but before you get the new iPhone 16, J&J want you to know how a new AI feature on the iOS 18 update could affect your dating life. With breakup texts submitted to our Instagram and a ChatGPT assist from our producer, Shannon, Jared and Jordana break down how the conversations went and generate what an AI version would look like. They also determine when a breakup text is appropriate and play out their own breakup scenarios. The episode ends with a round of “Icky or Picky?” about proposing a shopping spree for a first date. Is this a fun way to get spoiled for a few hours by a dating app rando, or is it just creepy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s officially our favorite time of the year and J&J get a little unhinged today as they amp up for what’s to come! They come in hot with a fresh new rant about TikTok’s favorite couple, Pookie and Jett. Plus, because the holidays are a tricky time for love lives regardless of status, J&J are guiding you through Thanksgiving and the start of holiday season with a lightning round of advice. They listen to a slightly shady voicemail from a curious mom and answer a range of Instagram submissions covering various holiday hiccups, from early dating momentum to interfaith relationships and in-law issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're at the end of cuffing week to prep you for the cuffing season ahead, and Jared and Jordana are doing temp checks on the unofficial statuses between casual, comfortable and committed. First, Jordana gives us a home renovation update and Jared shares a sad breakup story of his own. They play a round of "Icky or Picky?" about getting too comfortable wearing weird PJs too soon. Plus, a 27F listener needs advice on whether or not to build a roster to kick her dating life into high gear. The episode ends with a new game, "Cuffed or Casual?" as J&J weigh in on Instagram submissions of confusing moves that could be deemed as nothing serious or a sign that the other person wants a real relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The holidays are getting closer and the weather is getting colder which can only mean one thing: cuffing season is here. Jared and Jordana delve into the discourse around cuffing season and discuss controlling the narrative around your dating life. Then, a 27F listener writes in to ask whether wanting casual sex is derailing her dating goals. She's never had a real boyfriend; is abstinence the only way she'll ever find one? The Awkward Encounter involves a situationship with a love kink. Next, a listener with a tumor diagnosis asks how to address her medical journey while dating. The episode ends with a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about sharing your life with your SO, updating Hinge daily, and owning only one cutlery set. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's our anniversary! 7 years after the first U Up? episode, Jared and Jordana walk into a decorated studio themed to the traditional 7th-anniversary gifts: copper and wool. First, J&J exchange gifts, then they talk about what the dreaded 7-year itch means in relationships. Next, Jared and Jordana reveal their lists of what they want for the pod's future. The episode ends with a lightning round of U Up? history and reflecting on top pod moments since our last anniversary. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared fills Jordana in on his bizarre and funny late night Halloween experience and they also discuss the new Martha Stewart documentary. They hear from a listener who is struggling with communication from their partner. Next, they hear an Awkward Encounter that ends with them walking in on somebody in bed with another girl. Then, they discuss an email from a listener who isn't sure how to know if a relationship is serious if they both don't want marriage. Finally, they dive into a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" featuring a fat-phobic date, a boyfriend unwilling to compromise, and Olivia Rodrigo's number one red flag. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

DISCLAIMER: This episode was recorded prior to the election. Jared and Jordana divulge the complexities of dating during an election year and how to navigate discussing politics on a date. In this week’s "Icky or Picky?" a listener wants to know if their date littering dog poop is something worth overlooking. Next, they tackle a listener’s dilemma concerning her date's disappointing "whiskey dick" and Jared opens up about male performance anxiety. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're officially headed towards the toughest times to date—cuffing season and the holidays—so Jared and Jordana discuss how to navigate this tricky period. They hear from a patient whose attractive doctor makes her temperature rise but she's unsure whether to make a move or not. Next, they hear an Awkward Encounter about life at boarding school. Then, they discuss an email from a listener whose boyfriend is extremely jealous and suspicious of her male friend. Finally, they dive into a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about toilet plungers and gift giving etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana break down artist Spritely’s viral TikTok breakup video, unpacking relationship red flags, communication pitfalls, and the complexities of moving for love. In this week’s "Icky or Picky?" a listener asks if designer labels make or break a date J&J agree, no one should feel judged for their fashion choices, no matter the brand. Next, they tackle a listener’s dilemma about tracking down a Bumble match from nearly a year ago. Is her search romantic or just plain extra? Jared and Jordana empathize but offer a crucial reminder: while bold moves can impress, more than one follow-up message might push things into red flag territory. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s the spookiest episode of the year, and Jordana and Jared are feeling a little trapped in more ways than one! They rank Halloween couple’s costumes for 2024 and explore what your costume choice reveals about your relationship. Then, they tackle a listener’s costume conundrum, where differing opinions on what’s “too sexy” lead to the conclusion that her date is too controlling. Next, an Awkward Encounter that’s more alarming than amusing. Then, they advise a listener who wonders if she’s being unreasonable for expecting her Halloween one-night stand to leave by morning. J&J completely understand her perspective and hold a masterclass on how to nail the perfect one-night stand. Finally, the episode wraps up with a Halloween-themed lightning round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” tackling controversial costumes, costume refusals, and the right time to suggest a couples costume. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Friday’s episode, Jordana navigates the chaos of her impending move, sparking a deeper conversation with Jared about how our living spaces impact relationships. Next, they tackle an Icky or Picky from a listener overwhelmed by her boyfriend’s bombardment of romantic texts. Even though this partner checks all the right boxes on paper, J&J explore why it’s okay to walk away when the spark just isn’t there. Finally, they dive into an email from a listener seeking advice about her boyfriend’s hidden vaping habit, which was downplayed early on. J&J encourage an open conversation that leans into support, not shame—proving that honesty is key. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Non-subscribers, take note: new episodes will now be dropping every Wednesday and Friday at 6 AM EST. Now that business is taken care of, there's a trending breakup J&J need to discuss: Jason Tartick and Kat Stickler. They analyze their breakup announcements, plus discuss societal pressures and expectations put upon celebrity couples. Next, a 31F is having trouble with same-day date cancellations, leading J&J to explore the nuances around when and how to cancel on a date. Then, brace yourself for an Awkward Encounter about a college kiss gone horribly wrong—it still haunts our listener to this day! The second advice email is seeking a masterclass in becoming a more effective PITA (Pain In The Ass). J&J delve into the importance of negotiation in relationships and wielding strong opinions as an advantage. The episode wraps up with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” about a surprising pet, a boyfriend who selectively shares, and a date who insists on getting all the cash back. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the inaugural Friday episode! Jared and Jordana are still at Spotify HQ, gavels in hand, ready to tackle Couple's Court. This week, they dive into a sh*tty dilemma from a listener who's struggling to get her boyfriend to clean up his bathroom blow-ups. Jordana passionately sides with the listener, while Jared shares how we can do better as a country when it comes to bathroom supplies. Next, a 30F listener without social media feels uneasy that her 32M boyfriend—who posts frequently—has no pictures of her on his feed. Is it weird that he's leaving her out of his posts even if she was there for those moments? J&J give her tips on how to address the issue with a vulnerable approach instead of an accusatory tone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J&J are coming to us from Spotify HQ, and Jordana is realizing she doesn't know NYC as well as she thought. First, they tackle a listener's email about men on dating apps giving her unsolicited advice. J&J discuss how to nail the art of roasting without going off the rails. The Awkward Encounter is a two-parter including a train platform romance gone wrong. Then, another listener needs help validating jealousy after her fiancé shares a compliment he got from a coworker. J&J try to give her perspective and decide if couples should even be sharing the compliments they receive outside their relationship. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about a pocketed dirty condom, a mom with a vendetta and a light show at 3 AM. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana kick off this last Sunday Special with a round of “Petty or Prudent?”. They tackle a homemade sign a listener hung in her neighborhood, calling out her ex for his deceitful ways. It’s her bold move to retaliate against a liar and cheater, but J&J have some clever suggestions for delivering her message with a bit more finesse—no neighborhood drama required. Next, J&J give advice to a listener whose boyfriend is still grappling with the emotional fallout from his recent divorce. Despite their amazing adventures and great chemistry this couple might have, J&J focus on the passive aggressive ways he has been downplaying their relationship and wonder if he’s even ready for someone new. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve got an update! The Oversharing segment Jared and Jordana disagreed about two weeks ago has extra context, and now Jared feels like apologies are owed (kind of). Then, J&J answer an email from a listener who is considering re-matching with a guy she’s dated before on the apps but she’s worried that he won’t remember her. J&J give her the pep talk she needs to pull the trigger and swipe again. Next, an Awkward Encounter turns a new relationship into a family reunion. The second email is a two-part problem: a listener’s boyfriend is still friends with his exes and she also has a situationship she cannot shake. J&J break down the issues and figure out why we might keep our exes around. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about a first date foul, Eras tour tickets lie, and a tacky gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's one of our last Sunday Specials before we move to Fridays (read: Thursdays, if you're a subscriber)! J&J kick off with a round of Couple's Court about deleted nudes. Our listener got a weird feeling (iykyk) about her bf, so her gut told her to look through his phone. It looked clean at first until she found deleted nudes of him--and another woman, but here's where it gets strange: he told her that it was just a porn subscription, and the porn star requires him to exchange nudes on Snapchat. When you're done rolling your eyes, listen and get ready to weigh in on whether this is truly an open and shut case. Then, J&J help another listener navigate whether she should consider getting back together with her ex or walk away. He clearly had commitment issues when they were together, but now that they're apart, he took her advice to go to therapy. J&J discuss the boundaries she needs to set moving forward and if his decision to go to therapy is enough to open the door again. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spooky Season has officially started and Jordana kicks us off with an update about the odd happenings in her apartment building. Then, Jared recounts his own bizarre experience that happened the night before. Plus, they weigh in on WalletHub's "Best and Worst Cities To Date In 2024". The Awkward Encounter turns a listener's kink into an ick. Next, a listener who wants to know why men always seem to always settle down after they end a situationship where they couldn’t commit. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” in partnership with Netflix, including a shared bathroom debate, a long-distance situationship with friends who are possibly too persuasive, and a vegan surprise. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are easing into another Sunday Special with a quick check-in on the current states of their minds. Jared shares how his new hobby, golf, is one way to watch a man’s insecurities unveiled. Plus, Jordana is going stircrazy in her temporary home while she’s waiting for her house to finish major renovations. Next, they play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a first date to a nude beach. Afterward, a 29M listener writes in concerned about the trajectory of his relationship. He and his fiancée are feeling less compatible as their relationship goes on, but is he stuck because he already proposed to her? Jared and Jordana take issue with the focus of his email and discuss the importance of communication and knowing when to call it quits. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re navigating second-guessing today! Jared tells Jordana about his latest trip to Boca, when his parents started dissecting why he’s still single, and Jordana pulls him out his own head. Afterward, they get an email from a listener concerned that her boyfriend is too much of a green flag. She spent her 20s dating toxic “boys,” so why isn’t she satisfied in a stable relationship with a mature man? The Awkward Encounter is a funny story that’ll have you clearing your Google search history. Then, a woman writes in after getting disgusted by her aunt’s reaction to meeting her boyfriend. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” in partnership with Angry Orchard, about sharing locations, a killer dating app DM, and TikTok thirst traps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re coming full circle as actress and filmmaker, Heather Graham joins J&J for an extra special Sunday episode. 2 years ago in a Benefits episode, Jordana shared the story of how Heather Graham’s list for manifesting the perfect partner led her and several friends to meet their husbands in a matter of months, and Jared made a list of his own too. Fast-forward to present day where a listener wrote in to announce she’s getting married and those episodes helped her find her man too, so it was finally time Heather Graham knew her impact on the U Up? World. After J&J bring her up to speed on her unknown history with the pod, she shares her affirmations, how her friend group wills what they want into their lives and the ways she’s learned to make better choices than what may feel familiar to someone with a dysfunctional past. The episode ends with a lightning round of “Firsts & Worsts.” For more from Heather Graham (@heathergraham), see her sophomore directorial project, “Chosen Family” on October 11, 2024. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back in the studio and with the way the U Up? world works, it’s still Jordana’s birthday. They get excited about everything fall has to offer, from dating and the NFL to fall fashion. Plus, a subscriber helps Jordana amend a remark from last week’s chat about Chappell Roan, and Jared gets a touching message from a fan. The first email comes from a 31F listener who’s starting to feel like she’s mothering her 26M partner. Is this a slight play at weaponized incompetence, or just a serious lack of awareness? The Awkward Encounter is a building ick as a 35F listener is struggling to deal with her BF’s snoring or morning kisses while he’s wearing a mouthguard. Next, a listener feels like she won’t get out of her own way when it comes to great matches she’s met on dating apps. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about backrubs, a surprise home visit, and unsolicited business advice, in partnership with Angry Orchard. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are reminding us of the “disgustings” they are in today’s Sunday Special, but you’ll forget all about that by the time you hear how unhinged the advice email is. After catching up, they play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” that throws us back to the topic that inspired this segment: sharing streaming services. Is it petty or prudent to kick an ex off of your streaming accounts after a breakup? The episode ends with an advice email from a 40M listener hung up on sex in past relationships despite hearing “wedding bells” for his current partner. Looking beyond the red flags being waved, J&J sense something more problematic going on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana is back from her trip to "Fra" and we’re getting a full recap, which includes her very own Britney Spears moment. Then, in a strange turn of events, we get a dramatic reading of a Chappell Roan song from Jared. Next, we hear from a listener who has an unwanted third person in her relationship: her boyfriend’s brother. J&J try to read between the lines and figure out what this actually means for her relationship. Then, an Awkward Encounter from a listener whose mom opened a very private package. Finally, a love story from a listener who met her dream guy at the Renaissance faire. Is it too far-fetched to travel to another state to pursue her (maybe) knight in shining armor? The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” in partnership with Angry Orchard, including a partner with a very sexy hobby, a kiss with a childhood crush, and a first date who chose an interesting seat. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana hear from a listener who has been engaged not once, not twice, but three times without ever making it to the altar. Is anyone ever 100% certain before walking down the aisle? First, Jared shares a recent plane mishap that has him thinking that he'll make a good boyfriend one day. Next, they receive a "Couple's Court" from a listener who has beef with her boyfriend's beard, reminding Jordana of a constant grooming conversation she has with her husband. J&J recreate the conversation they think this listener should have to get exactly what she wants. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Long intro lovers, rejoice! Jared and Jordana are kicking off today’s episode with some well-deserved random rants. The first email comes from a listener unsure if she should tell the guy she is currently dating that she hooked up with his friend in the past. Should the new guy even care if she's a "homie hopper"? J&J discuss the double standards when it comes to men and women in this situation. Next, the Awkward Encounter is about a first date that took the phrase “honesty is the best policy” a little too far. Then, J&J help a listener whose partner likes to include others in the bedroom, but she’s not sure if that’s for her. The episode ends with a round of "Made You Blush" stories, in partnership with NYX, featuring an epic ghosting story and a woman who needs to improve her kissing strategy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's the first Sunday Special of September meaning cuffing season hasn't arrived yet, so until then, Jared and Jordana are reminding single daters what they should be doing to make the most of dating this fall. Then, the "Icky or Picky?" submission includes one of the most unhinged Hinge voice memos of all time. Next, we hear from a listener who is in a pickle (in more ways than one). While her boyfriend is working overseas, she finds herself falling for her pickleball partner. J&J talk her through the rom-com storyline her life has become. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s episode is full of realizations. First, Jared and Jordana help a listener who downloaded the apps before moving and unexpectedly fell in love. While helping her through a potential long-distance dilemma, J&J agree on a new dating principle they think all single people on the verge of a move should follow. Next up, an Awkward Encounter where a listener is determined to get her jeans back after hooking up with two roommates on the same night. Then, an upset listener writes in after noticing her boyfriend changes into a different person when he’s around his friends, even though he warned her this would happen. Jared puts himself in her boyfriend's shoes to try to understand his reasoning. The episode ends with a round of "Made You Blush" stories, in partnership with NYX, about needing emergency services mid-hookup and getting pranked during an awful date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special, Kaitlyn Bristowe (@kaitlynbristowe), host of the "Off The Vine" podcast, reunites with her friend Jared and finally meets Jordana for a U Up? crossover we've all been waiting for. Having been the Bachelorette at a pivotal point in the digital era and a year past a relationship so public it warranted a breakup announcement post, Kaitlyn reveals how boundaries with social media have evolved in her career and personal life as a public figure. Then, J&J grill her with a game about what she’s looking for in her next partner. The episode ends with an email from a listener wondering how to navigate the mutual friend group after a breakup. Kaitlyn can relate, sharing a time when someone else from Bachelor Nation confronted her about a date, and the three discuss how important it is to have open communication within a close group. For more from Kaitlyn Bristowe, check out the "Off The Vine" podcast (@offthevinepodcast) where Jared and Jordana will join her soon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are closing out the summer with what's weighing on our minds. They discuss the significance of hometown heroes and ask the important questions like, what’s a bigger deal: getting a street named after you or having your name on your town’s Wikipedia page? Next up, they do a lightning round full of questions submitted by listeners, from how to compromise with your football-obsessed partner this fall to whether you should hook up with your handyman and, on a more serious note, how long can one ethically date multiple people before they let their partners know? The episode ends with a round of "Made You Blush" stories, in partnership with NYX, where Jared and Jordana both share a time they found themselves a little flushed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s Sunday Special, we’re revisiting a tried and true segment: the deal reveal. But before diving right in, J&J mourn the end of summer and discuss their remaining plans. Afterwards, the two hold a "Couples Court" to discuss a long debated argument between an engaged couple from early on in their relationship. Next, J&J dissect a “Deal Reveal,” where they decode texts between a confused listener and their date. If their date was so great, why won’t the other person adjust their schedule to have another? J&J use the texts to figure out if this is a friend-zoning situation or if the other person is really just too busy to compromise Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are putting themselves in the shoes of listeners who are facing tough situations today. But before diving right in, they caught up with their producer Belle about her bachelorette party and wedding prep. Then, the first email is about the pros and cons of auditioning for a dating show. Next up, an Awkward Encounter from a listener who searched through her dates wallet and found a lot more than she bargained for. Then, we hear from a listener who needs help deciding if they should break their personal rule they set for themselves and move in with their partner before getting engaged. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about first date etiquette, avoiding a post-BJ kiss, and a shocking message a listener found on her BF’s phone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special is full of disconnects today, but before diving in, J&J take us to Plug City to talk you through where they were right before the recording. They spent the first part of their day at Albert’s Bar after the owner (a subscriber!) reached out claiming his spot was great for a first date. They took in the ambiance during a special project for the pod and ended with lunch to get the full experience so they could assess for themselves. Afterward, they read an “Icky or Picky?” about a trip to Jared’s second home, the Comedy Cellar, but our listener wasn’t laughing. She was out with her boyfriend for a fun date night, and one joke made him laugh so hard, a mix of the ick and embarrassment came over her. Next, an Aussie listener writes in about her relationship going downhill ever since she let her BF know how her parents felt about their relationship, and now distance is getting added to the mix as he moves closer to work. Are the obstacles all in their heads or can nothing be done? J&J give their two cents to help her out of the hole she’s in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are diving right in because Dr. Naomi Bernstein, Jordana’s sister and co-host of Oversharing, is in the studio to ease us into this episode. Plus, her husband Jeff tagged along, so we got both sides of their story as they take us back to dating in 2006. Afterwards, Jared sneaks in a mini session about his “hoodfishing” issue on the apps. The first email is from a listener struggling with talking to her boyfriend about grief. She recently lost her dad, but her boyfriend’s obvious discomfort has her holding back, so J&J get some help from Dr. Naomi on how she should proceed. The Awkward Encounter is one single mom’s “what happened in vegas” story. Then, we hear from a listener needing J&J to help her decide whether to give her BF a heads up that her ex will be at a wedding they’re attending soon. Her BF doesn’t want to know about exes, but they’re both in the wedding party, so should an exception be made to avoid an awkward moment? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about repeating a couples trip to Italy, getting grossed out by period sex, and bizarre eating habits. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re kicking off the first Sunday Special of August with not-so-unique dating experiences. J&J play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a seemingly flirty line that rubbed one listener the wrong way. Then, an email comes from a listener who keeps getting what he calls the “hero treatment breakup,” a breakup involving loads of compliments leaving you alone and confused. Jared and Jordana have played both sides of this breakup style and lend perspective over what they think is happening. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices