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If you haven’t heard of Bill Eddy, he’s basically the king of kicking high conflict’s ass. And he’s got a fantastically simple tip to greatly minimize communication problems with difficult people called the BIFF response:
B = BRIEF: Keep your reply short, and preferably in writing.
I = INFORMATIVE: Respond with relevant facts, not emotions. Don’t waste time defending or explaining yourself; a high-conflict person will just cherry-pick new arguments.
F = FRIENDLY: Don’t go overboard with this one but do take the time to begin and end communications in polite, neutral manner.
F = FIRM: Don’t participate in additional drama. If the ex’s temper flares up, calmly (and firmly!) end the conversation.
Bill Eddy has a great example of using the BIFF response on his website that’s gold for anyone who’s gotten stuck arguing in circles with a difficult narcissist. The BIFF response is also perfect when used in combination with our 10 Commandments for high-conflict co-parenting.
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