Tiny Bites of Wagaliciousness

Have you noticed that you’re not perfect? Yeah, me too. Through the years I’ve gotten better at not kicking myself when I do something dumb, and it still hurts when I realize I’ve said something wrong and hurt someone’s feelings. Maybe you’re like that too? Give the gift of grace to yourself, just as you try to give grace to others. When you don’t know something, give someone the gift of teaching you. When you make a mistake, give the gift of fixing things. When you lash out in anger, give the gift of an apology. We’re all human and we all do stupid and sometimes even mean things. When that’s you, give the gift of grace, and may you be offered the gift of grace in return. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Think of a time when goosebumps sprang up on your arms and you got a warm, tingly feeling all over. That’s a good feeling, right? Can you remember what you thought or said or saw or heard that triggered that feeling? Maybe you even got puddles of tears in your eyes. Have you ever wondered what’s up with that? When that happens to me, I know that a deep connection to truth and love has just occurred. There are many definitions of what it is that we’re connecting to – pick the definition that resonates with you and celebrate that moment of perfect communion. Keep a notebook of what happened just before each time you felt that connection and read the notes often. That’s a lovely soft way to create a better world, one goosebump at a time. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Quick – think of something that makes you instantly irritated or angry. What if I told you that you can change that? The primitive part of your brain has a 1 to 3 second head start over the logical part of your brain, and it reacts most quickly and strongly to things that have upset you many times before. Take a breath – take control of the primitive part of your brain and tell it to relax while the frontal lobe lets you find the logic and reason around whatever just upset you. Help your jaw unclench and your shoulders relax as you choose to take a bigger-picture look at that thing that usually upsets you. Choose a new way to look at irritations and watch your stress melt away. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

How are you feeling right this minute? Frustrated? Bored? Excited? Humans have emotions and we’re meant to feel them. Now and then we’re bowled over by strong negative emotions and it’s very annoying to have helpful people saying things like “this happened for a reason” or “someday this will all make sense” when you hurt so hard you can’t even breathe. It is perfectly ok to be sad, so don’t waste your precious time and energy trying to suck it up buttercup or putting on a show for others. Feel what you feel, fix what you can, process the rest and then, when you’re ready, move on. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

A friend and I were having breakfast recently and she told me about some changes in her workplace that felt bad to her. She felt disrespected and not valuable to an organization she’s poured herself into. The more she talked, the worse she felt. She was earning an advanced degree in MSU. Remember MSU? That’s Making Stuff Up. Our brains can put together amazing scenarios about what happened, why it happened, who caused it to happen and how much they are out to get you, and the scary part is, because it’s happening inside our head, it’s easy for us to believe. It’s just the brain, trying to make sense of various input data and making stuff up as it goes. Your job, when you notice that happen, is to ask questions to gain clarity before believing or acting on those scenarios. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Look around you – what do you see? This morning I saw the first sunrise rainbow I’ve ever seen, and it was beautiful. On the same drive I saw a three-car accident on the side of the road and it was beautiful too. How can that be? Everything is beautiful. Everything. It’s up to you to look at in a way that emphasizes the beauty, not the flaws. Rainbows are beautiful and magical and ethereal – most people would agree to that, so seeing the beauty is easy. Traffic accidents aren’t generally thought of as beautiful, though when you focus on the police and EMTs efficiently doing their jobs to help people in a stressful and potentially dangerous situation, the beauty of it becomes apparent. Highlight the beauty of things and feel the contentment that will bring into your life. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Do you know someone – maybe you – who blames their parents for problems they have now? That’s lazy. Human, yes. Normal, yes. Lazy, absolutely. It doesn’t matter if they were controlling, withholding, incompetent, or abusive as parents, what happened to you happened. It can’t be changed. Continuing to place blame is lazy. When you continue to use their lack of parenting ability to excuse your lack of progress in life, you’re selling yourself short. You, standing where you are right now, have the talent and ability to be and do and have whatever you want. Blame holds you in a stuck place. Time to get to work on yourself and get on with your fabulous life! PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Want to feel better about yourself? Learn to focus on the best aspects of the people you interact with. Focus on their kindness, their competence, and their great smile. Focus on the evidence of their heart being poured into their work. Focus on their faith in themselves and their trust of others. When you focus on the best aspects of the people around you, you become more aware of those same aspects of yourself. Make it a habit to focus on the best aspects of others and you’ll begin to feel better about yourself. Bonus! PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Are you a right-fighter? I used to be and still have to resist the urge now and then. Maybe this has happened to you: someone comes to you with a problem, wants you to help them solve it, listens to your suggestions, and then they do something completely different. That used to irritate the life out of me – why would they waste my time if they didn’t value my input? Consider this - what other people do with your input is not your business. The very best thing you can do is let them talk, give them advice if they ask you for it, and then let it go. You can’t control how they receive the information or what they do with it. Their life – their lessons. Let them fight for themselves. It feels so good to stop being a right-fighter. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Can you be optimistic in the face of failure? The US space program took 32 tries before being able to put a man on the moon. The 32nd mission was one small step for man, one giant leap for mankind, and a lot of failed missions led up to that step. When you try to do something and it doesn’t turn out quite like you planned, what’s your usual response? Do you beat yourself up? Try to cover the failure up? Or do you find a way to see the problem clearly so you can solve it next time? Optimism in the face of failure is the secret to resilience. When you habitually mine the failure for the lessons it can teach you, you learn and grow. Every failure has at least one lesson in it, and your optimistic outlook is the key to seeing and learning it. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Don’t you just love that feeling of being in love? Did you know you can create that feeling whenever you want? We are designed to feel love and be love, and love is who we are. To create a feeling of love, all you need to do is find something to love. Look around you – there’s so much to love. Love the sun sparkling on water…love the songs birds are singing to each other…love the road you drive on and the car you drive and the people who designed and built those roads and cars so you could use them. Love the music coming out of the radio, the radio itself and the people whose brains conceived of this amazing device and the artists who wrote and created that wonderful music. When you focus on what you love, you feel that love. And when you learn to love everything, you’ll be in love any time you want to be! PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Want a perfect way to gut your self-esteem and self-confidence? Of course you don’t, yet you probably do it a lot. What is “it”? Comparing yourself to others. If you’re like most people, nearly 10% of your thinking time each day is spent comparing yourself to others, often feeling like you don’t measure up. Can you stop doing that? When you find yourself using someone else as a yardstick to measure yourself, ask these questions: Is that person the best measure of me and my talents? Where are they in their journey in relation to my journey? Is this person possibly comparing themselves to me? You are the only you in the entire world. There is literally no comparison. Can you stop comparing yourself to others and use that time and energy to contribute in your own, one-of-a-kind way? The world needs more people like you, not you like other people. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

If you’ve lived more than a few years, there are people who have let you down in some way. Maybe you trusted or loved them and they used or betrayed you. If you’re like most people, maybe you beat yourself over it. May I give you a more powerful way to think about it? You gave trust or love to this person. You opened yourself to them, you felt good doing it, and you learned from the experience. What they did with the trust or love you gave was up to them and the repercussions they suffer are on them. Let them live their life and let yourself off the hook. You did the best you could with the information you had, and now you have more information. Instead of beating yourself up, focus on those in your life who deserve your trust and your love and pour it on them. It’s so much more fun to release and move on than it is to regret and beat yourself up. Move on, and enjoy looking for better people to love and trust. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Is there someone who doesn’t like you? Do you respond by doing things to help them see the “real” you? Don’t. It’s a waste of your precious time and energy to try to make someone like you. When you’re around someone who doesn’t appreciate you, realize it’s their issue, not yours. There are people you don’t like. Maybe you don’t even know why you don’t want to be around them – you just don’t. Allow others the same freedom. Don’t keep trying to make someone like you. Let them come to you eventually, if they want to, and in the meantime, let them be while you focus on the people in your life who already like and love you. That’s where your precious time and energy belongs. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Observe the world around you for any length of time and you’ll understand that a lot of what happens around you, and sometimes even to you isn’t perfect. Sometimes it’s horrible or tragic. There is darkness that may occasionally happen to you, but the darkness isn’t you. You are the light that continues to shine in spite of the darkness you endure. You are the beacon that others look to in order to find their own strength. You may not know the influence you have on others, and yet you do. You are the light that others follow, being inspired by how you’ve navigated the darkness in your own life. Be the light and shine in a way only you can. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Time is on your side. Really! If you’re faced with a big decision or a big problem, wait. And then wait some more. Focus on something you enjoy or feel in control of and let time bring the solution to you. When I do this, I give the problem to the committee in the back of my head. That’s my personification of my intuition – you can use my term or create your own. Each time I start to ruminate about the problem, I remind myself that the committee is at work and will let me know when they have the answer. Let your brain work on the problem in the background while you go about your life. And suddenly, almost like magic, the perfect solution or decision will come to you. See – that committee in the back of your head takes care of you! PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Is it right for you to want to be happy? When you want to be happy, is it tough to find happiness? How often do you actually look for happiness? And is life supposed to be happy all the time? It might surprise you to know that it isn’t. Life isn’t about being happy all the time – it’s in the setbacks, heartbreaks, and yearning for more that we stretch ourselves and grow. It’s in the reaching for more and the catching up to that more that make life truly worth living, and you can only reach and catch up when you’re not quite there. Teach yourself to be OK when things are not optimal, because those are the times that line you up for the next level of happiness and success. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Do you know the word godwink? Maybe you say “happenstance” or “synchronicity” or “coincidence” – all are similar words for the special little things you notice that are somehow special to you. Some people see a butterfly or certain kind of bird and feel the presence of a departed loved one. Some see matching numbers like 333 or 1111 and feel a connection to the infinite. Think of what your special godwink might be, and notice and appreciate it when it shows up in your day. Smile and use that moment to remember how much good there is in the world and how wonderful it is when it shows up for you. Being in the moment instead of letting your time-traveling brain wander around in past problems or future worries lets you focus on life’s little miracles, which are always just waiting for you to see them. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Do you make yourself small? I spent a big part of my life trying to fit in, to adapt, to be part of…whatever. I was making myself small. And then I discovered that we were never meant to be small. People who cared about us taught us to adapt and fit in because that’s what they’d been taught to do. When we focus on fitting in, we limit our own bigness. We were born big – full of wonder and curiosity and possibilities. Remember how that felt, before you began to adapt to the world instead of shaping your world your way? You are still full of wonder and curiosity and possibilities. Resist the urge to make yourself small. Be big – the universe is expanding and changing, and you can, too. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Are there people in your life that get on your last nerve? People you avoid when you can and dread being near when you can’t? Maybe you even think they’re bad or evil, so you are justified in disliking them. They may not deserve your good thoughts, but you deserve your good thoughts about them. Face it, everyone has at least one redeeming quality – you owe it to yourself find it. When you can find just one positive thing to focus on about that person you dislike, you shift your attitude from one of negativity to one of positivity and that benefits you. Can you do that? Because when you can, you become a better friend, co-worker, leader, and partner. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

How do you feel? Seriously, stop what you’re doing to NOTICE how you feel. It sounds weird, I know – we’re so used to our own feelings that often we forget to really feel them. It matters to notice what you’re feeling as you feel it because so many of our feelings are patterns we’ve gotten in to that we don’t notice or question, and many of them don’t serve us very well. When you get in the habit of noticing how you feel, you can teach yourself to refocus so you can feel better. So – notice how you feel. Right now, how do you feel? Do you want to feel that way? If so, yay! If not, what can you do right now in this moment to change how you feel? Do it, I dare you! PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Do you often feel self-conscious around people you don’t know well? Guess what? That’s perfectly normal. Most of us spend a lot of our lives feeling like others are judging us and not coming to a very flattering conclusion. Does that sound like you sometimes? Maybe this will help - people don’t focus on you as much as you think they do, because they’re too busy focusing on themselves. Really take that in – they’re not focused on you because they’re focused on themselves. When you can feel comfortable with that thought, you’ll feel more comfortable in your own skin, and you’ll feel less self-conscious and more confident, too. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Have you ever had the experience of being with someone, you both experienced the same event, yet you came away from it with different ideas of what happened? You look at the world through the sum total of your life experiences. The other person looks at the world through the sum total of their experiences. Both of you processed the event through what the experiences in your life have taught you. News flash - no two humans have the same experiences, so all of us react differently to the same things. We’ll see things differently – even things that we watch unfold as we are right next to each other. When you understand that you are unique and have a unique point of view, and so does everyone else, it’s easy to avoid arguments and misunderstandings. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Do you feel stressed a lot? For some people, stress is chronic, which can be devastating to relationships and to their health. Want to know the secret to stress relief? It’s not having a stress-free life, it’s having a stress-free outlook. What happens around you happens. You’re not in control of red lights, gridlock traffic, rude clients – none of it. You can’t control what happens around you – you can control your response to it. Think about one thing that happens in your life often and that causes you to feel stress, think about how you usually react, and how you’d rather react. Practice the new reaction in your mind, so that when the thing happens in your life, you’re ready to try out your new, improved, stress-relieving reaction. Ahhhh…less stress! PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Are you the best you that you could be? Probably not – we’re all human and we all have our weaknesses. Are you pretty awesome anyway? Probably so – though you might not think so. Nearly everyone downplays their strengths and focuses on their weaknesses. If you have a tough time taking a compliment, that’s one indication that you might want to learn to focus on your awesomeness instead of on your weaknesses. To start becoming the best you that you can possibly be, make a list of the things you’re already good or great at and keep that list where you can see it and add to it any time. Then add one thing to your morning routine - remind yourself that there is only one “you” on this planet and you’re going to be the best “you” possible all day long. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Do you know that you’re at your very most powerful right now? Yep…it’s true. You have all the power you’ll ever have right this very moment. And in the next moment, you’ll still have it. No matter how much you’d like to change the past or the future, this moment right here is where all your power is. You can’t go back and get a do-over for yesterday, and while decisions you make right now may impact your future, you don’t have a crystal ball to see exactly how. Today is where all of your possibilities lie. Today is a brand new day. How will you use your today? Because it really is all up to you. And your power is really right now. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Having a bad day? Maybe you’re surrounded by grumpy people, or maybe you are the crabby one. No matter why things are off-kilter, there’s a simple way to get back on an even keel and help those around you, too. Find something to laugh about. If it’s just you that’s crabby, what usually makes you smile? Think about that or do that. Right now. If you’re surrounded by crabby people, is there something you can say that will make them all laugh? If you can make a joke – one that’s not at the expense of anyone, except maybe you – that can quickly ease a tense moment. If your team already has an inside joke, invoke it. If not, maybe it’s time to see if you can create one…quickly! PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Most of us have heard the phrase “you are what you eat.” It’s a pithy way to remind us that food is fuel, and if we fuel our bodies with junk they won’t work as well as if we feed it well. What if I told you that you are what you think? People who focus on what they dislike are constantly aware of what they dislike. The neighbor’s barking dog – red lights – people who cut in line or cut them off in traffic. How do you think those people feel most of the time? What you focus on is what you’re paying attention to, which means it’s what you’re going to notice most and react to most. You are what you think, so focus on what you love, not what you fear or what you dislike. Believe me, it’s way more fun to focus on the positive things that are all around you than the negative things. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

When you were 8 years old, what was your biggest problem in life? How about when you were a teenager? College student? Chances are, as you got older and lived more life, your problems also became more complex, yet it’s very likely that some of the attitudes, beliefs and behaviors you used to solve problems as a young child still exist and are in use now, whether or not they serve you and your more complex problems. Those behavior patterns were formed in childhood and your brain is a pattern-running machine. It wants to meet problems head-on with the same pattern it’s been running most of your life. Next time you catch yourself reacting in the same old way, ask yourself if that’s really how you want to behave now that you’re grown up. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Have you ever noticed how similar words can have very different meanings? Gratitude and appreciation seem the same, but no. Nice and good seem the same, but no. Right and fair seem the same, and yet also no. Those three sets of words – gratitude and appreciation, nice and good, right and fair – are often used as synonyms and can mean wildly different things to different people. If you’re having a disagreement with someone, remember the words being used may not mean the same thing to both of you. When the other person says something that hits you wrong, instead of getting upset, gently ask, “can you please explain that a little more for me?” You’re not issuing a challenge, you’re asking for more clarity. When the two of you understand what you each mean, the pathway to mutual understanding happens. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

How do you feel when you expect a response from someone and they’re silent? Do you feel judged? Disrespected? Small? If so, congratulations because you’ve gone to MSU. You’re assuming that their silence is an affront, a condemnation, or a complete dismissal of you. You're making stuff up. Heck, maybe they didn’t even hear you! Silence on their part does not equal “less than” on your part – maybe they’re so blown away by your brilliance they have no words. When you notice yourself feeling judged or disrespected, take a moment to remind yourself that those are YOUR feelings, and no one else is in control of your feelings but you. It’s up to you to control your feelings starting right this minute. That’s how you show yourself the respect you deserve! PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door. Maybe you’ve heard that before, or something similar. Trite phrases are shorthand for deep truths, which is the reason they get repeated so often. Really really really wanting that job you just interviewed for? On pins and needles because the person you’re crushing on seems to see you only as a friend? Stressed because there’s a girlfriend trip coming up, you want to go soooo bad, and it’s just not in your budget right now? If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door. Or maybe it is your door, just not quite yet. That feeling of longing or stressing or pining is really just impatience. Going through life is remembering that life is the long game. Just because it’s not happening right this very minute doesn’t mean it won’t happen at all. Patience…your doors are yours, and they’re poised and ready to swing wide when the time is right. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Let’s crawl inside your noggin…what was the last thought you remember having? How did it feel? And are you having trouble thinking about what you were just thinking? Most of the time we don’t pay a lot of attention to our thoughts – they come and go and are sort of like wallpaper. Sure, they’re there, but not necessarily the center of attention. When you learn to pay attention to those thoughts, you learn to shape your personal outlook on life. When people say “be present” they mean notice your world, inside and outside your head, in real time, not as memories. The magic of being present is that you are aware of the goodness all around you, which translates to more pleasant thoughts. More pleasant thoughts become a happier outlook on life. You’ll feel much less stressed when you focus on your world in real time. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Is there someone in your life who constantly makes bad choices? It’s tempting to continually bail them out of the trouble they get themselves into, especially if it’s someone you care deeply about. Don’t. The kindest, most loving, most supportive thing you can do for them is to set a great example. When you show someone that making good decisions is possible, that success is possible, that happiness is possible, that living life on your terms is possible, you give them a huge gift. They see your life and, no matter what’s going on in theirs, they can see the possibilities for themselves. Living the life of your dreams isn’t selfish. It shares that dream, amplifying the good you do in the world. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Do you know someone who’s never at fault? They never do anything wrong, they always throw someone else under the bus, and they never apologize because they’re never wrong. I have an important question for you – do you have to be around this person? If not, let them go. Seriously – get them out of your circle because they’re toxic to your other relationships. If you do have to be around them – like if they’re a family member or co-worker – then think about helping them grow into a better person. Help them see that blaming others makes them look bad. Maybe role-play how they might calmly accept responsibility for their part in the problem. Try it – be the person who helps them behave like an adult. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

I used to do this, and maybe you did, too – before I’d make a decision, I’d consider the opinions of key people in my life in order to decide how to act. This proved problematic because sometimes I thought that one key person would approve, and another would disapprove – how could I make the right decision if they wouldn’t agree? It’s exhausting!! It’s actually worse than exhausting – it’s how you stunt your own personal growth and confidence. When I started making decisions based on what felt right to me, suddenly life became simpler and I started feeling better about myself and my decisions. Scary? At first – try it, though. Being your authentic self is where the juice and the joy is in life. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

The other day I needed to move a large bag of dog food. Twenty years ago it would have been easy…now, it’s a bit tougher. Do you ever feel like you can’t do something? Whether it’s something you used to be able to do or something you’ve never done before, challenge yourself to do it. Instead of getting frustrated or feeling defeated, think of it like it’s a puzzle that you and only you can solve. Let yourself get creative – invent different ways to accomplish that thing inside your head before you try them out in real life. Who knows, you might even make yourself laugh. And just like me, I know you’ll find a way to do that seemingly impossible thing. Shift your “can’t” to “will” and watch yourself succeed. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Have you ever thought about the memories you are leaving behind you as you travel through life? I didn’t until one playful night at the airport, waiting to board a plane. I had a box of chocolates that had been given to me, and I decided to share them before takeoff instead of carrying them on. I opened the box and walked around the gate area offering chocolates to anyone and everyone who wanted them. Some people ignored me, some looked at me like I was trying to poison them, and many gave me big smiles and took a chocolate or two. Fast-forward through the flight and as we deplaned and hurried down the concourse, a woman called out, “thank you, Chocolate Lady!” Wow…I thought I was just saving myself some calories – what I also did was give people a fun memory to share. What memories will you leave behind you today? PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Quick – name three things you dislike. Because I can’t read your mind, here are three common ones – being stuck in traffic, a difficult co-worker, and doing the laundry. What if I told you that the things you dislike aren’t the problem? It’s not the traffic jam…it’s your thoughts about the traffic jam. It’s not the difficult co-worker…it’s your thoughts about the difficult co-worker. It’s not the laundry…it’s your thoughts about the laundry. Oooooh, tricky, right? But it’s true – the fields of neuroplasticity and positive psychology are based on your ability to shift your thoughts so you can feel better. Want to feel better when you’re faced with something you dislike? Mentally shift your focus – your better feelings are just an intentional thought away. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Do you like planning things? Outings, parties, meals – those fun kinds of things? Maybe parts can be un-fun, like when a problem crops up or it feels like you need more time to get done, but are you a person who enjoys putting things together? Have you ever thought of why you enjoy it? Two words - delicious anticipation. If you’re like most people, you enjoy the planning of things because you like to think about the people who will be involved, how they’ll feel being part of it, and how to make it even more special. Now, if you’re not the kind of person who typically likes planning things, think about the next meal you’ll make or share with at least one person – can you plan it with the preferences and pleasure of that person in mind? When you shift your focus, you’ll enjoy the delicious anticipation, too! PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

You know that wonderful feeling you get when you achieve greatness? That feeling when you have a peak experience? Whether by achievement or serendipity, they’re called “peak experiences” because they don’t happen all the time. Some people are good at enjoying the experience and going on with their life, while others make themselves crazy trying to recreate a peak experience or create the next, even better, peak experience. Those two feelings are completely different – one stems from self-confidence while the other stems from a feeling of lack. If you stress yourself out trying to recreate something, relax, enjoy the fact that it happened and be open to it happening again, or to something even better happening. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Are you a mood driver or a mood catcher? When you walk into a room, do people become more like you or do you become more like them? It’s common to be a mood chameleon, blending your mood to fit the dominant mood in the room. If people are sad, you become sad, too. If people are celebrating, you celebrate too. Going along to get along is OK in the case of a very minor disagreement or when you are maintaining your professionalism. Going along to get along isn’t OK when you’re constantly allowing others to dictate how you feel. You’re not being authentic and you’ll lose your sense of self as well as your credibility. You don’t have to be the most dominant mood in the room, you just have to know how you really feel, and be confident in your authentic feelings. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Maybe you’ve heard the saying, “hurt people hurt people.” It’s only the people who are unhappy who are mean to others. People who bully are unhappy. People who are manipulative are unhappy. People who are suspicious are unhappy. When a person lashes out at you, they learned that behavior from someone, probably during their childhood. When someone manipulates situations with Machiavellian skill, someone modeled that behavior for them. People show you the coping skills they learned as a child and whether or not they’ve learned and grown since then. Hurt people sometimes can’t break those early patterns and so they hurt people. You can’t please them because you can’t fix them. Don’t take their actions towards you personally. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Think of you and your teammates or family members like a wolf pack. You’re all in it together and the survival of the family or business wouldn’t be possible without the contributions of every team member. Not everyone contributes equally, and that’s OK. Some are on the steep leg of the learning curve – think of them as the pack’s puppies and yearlings. Some of them are active and action-oriented – think of them as the scouts. Some are the decision-makers – think of them as the pack leader. The dynamics of the pack shift and change as the pups and yearlings grow, and yet all contribute to the team’s success. Yes, there might be occasional growling, and when the dust clears the team comes back into harmony. Wolf packs are highly social and specialized groups – your team is, too. Focus on the strengths of each member of your pack and watch it thrive. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Ah, family members. They’re a special kind of wonderful, mingled with a special kind of crazy, right? Siblings who grew up in the same household, sharing the same life experiences, turn out quite differently, reacting to the world and to each other differently, too. It’s as if the expectation is that since you all led the same lives, you must feel the same way about things. Even worse is the tendency to decide you know what the other’s thought process and motives are, so without asking, you treat them as if they’re really thinking what you think they’re thinking. Yikes! Communication inside the family unit is often very difficult because of the shared history, along with the tendency to treat relatives as if they’re the same person you knew 20 years ago. Here’s a novel thought – instead of deciding what someone’s motive or thought process is, just ask them. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Resiliency is a skill you can build. Resilience is the ability to adapt to new situations, which you’ve been doing your whole life. Resiliency is gracefully letting go of the things you can’t control. When you make peace with the idea that the only thing you can truly control is how you react to things, you step into a powerful place of resilience. Resiliency is maintaining your calm center as the storm swirls around you. Resiliency is trusting yourself to make good decisions no matter what life throws at you. Your ability to be resilient is something that’s there and getting stronger with every decision you make. Trust in your resiliency and feel your confidence as it grows. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Is there someone in your life who seems to live to argue? I dated a guy once who loved to argue and conversations with him felt a lot like a debate. If you guess that relationship didn’t last very long, you’re right! He was deep in the no-fun zone…do you know someone like that? Take this thought with you – you don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to. Just because someone corrects you doesn’t mean you need to engage. They’re trying to pick a fight and you don’t have to be their partner in it. Don’t even respond. Put a placid look on your face and keep your mouth closed while they try to lure you into arguing. People who love to argue hate this and will go find someone more fun than you to argue with. Meet argumentative people with calm silence and soon you’ll have fewer argumentative people in your life. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Do you ever get a little impatient or short-tempered? If you don’t want those around you – family, co-workers, friends, pets – reacting to your frantic energy, it’s helpful to control your frantic energy. How? Learn to notice when you’re starting down the path to losing your temper, stop what you’re doing and take a couple of long, slow deep breaths. Give yourself a couple of moments to reset your mental atmosphere. Yes, you’re busy. And yes, you can give yourself time to be your best self. Things around you will stay in flow only if you stay in flow, so take a minute and breathe. You’ve been busy before and it all worked out fine. It will this time, too. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Can you shake hands and make peace with grief? Everything that lives will eventually stop living – that’s true whether we’re talking about a blade of grass or your favorite person. Loss is inevitable, so why are we so shocked and grief-stricken when it happens? “If only I’d taken my dog on more walks she would have lived longer.” “If I’d watered it more often, my lawn wouldn’t have died.” “If only I’d…” – well, you get the idea, right? We take on responsibility for something that would have happened anyway, and use that feeling of responsibility to beat ourselves up. Stop it. Be nicer to yourself. When you can see a loss coming, get as philosophical about it as you possibly can. Because loss is inevitable. Beating yourself up over it is optional. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing

Maybe there are people in your life who are rooting for you to change the world by gifting it with your offspring. That’s one way, for sure. It’s not the only way, though. You affect the future with your actions, big and small, and how they touch other lives and hearts. When you are happy and you interact with just one other person, you affect their mood positively, as well as the moods of everyone they interact with and everyone those people interact with. Your mood affects three layers of human beings – that’s pretty powerful, right? So yes, go ahead and have children if you really want them. And if you want to have a faster and equally powerful effect on our world, focus on your mood. Every day you can greet the world with an uplifted heart, you uplift the world. PS...want more? Subscribe to the Mind, Body, Soul Sessions podcast, a weekly mental spa treatment for your total self! #success #leader #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment #mentalwellbeing