Thriving In Motherhood Podcast | Productivity, Planning, Family Systems, Time Management, Survival Mode, Mental Health, Vision

This weeks conversation with Rachel Miller @rachelmillermarketing is one that will get you looking back what you wrote about your gifts and talents when we were creating our visions together at the beginning of the year. Her story of how she was able to pivot her innate gifts from teaching into running businesses so she could be home with her children is sure to inspire. We chat about much more from mom guilt to adoption.

In this weeks chat with Ashley Brown we talk about how to shift from thinking about routines as something we have to do to get the house clean to "routines help me live in alignment who I am and connect with who I am every day." That is a powerful Thriving Thought that has already made a huge impact on my life in the last few weeks since we recorded this episode and I'm excited to see what it does for you!

Do you ever feel trapped in your home? I certainly did...until this one thing changed: a paradigm shift. All of a sudden I was back in my circle of influence. I was empowered to take action and make choices. I left my victim thinking behind and started actually creating a space where I love to be. What is a favorite space in your home that you just love being in?

Today I'm chatting with @madelinecasey about how to start something new. This is a packed episode covering the practical realities, fears, things that hold us back as well as what we can do about them to move forward and explore. How Can I Support You?

We are nearing the end of our Essentialism book club discussion with covering the important idea of how do we, as moms, make space to figure out what is important to us. Life fills up so fast - especially when we consider the needs and wants of everyone in our household. But what is essential? Join Madeline Casey and I as we get to the root of making space for things that matter most to us in practical ways.

Do you feel the drive to just squeeze one more thing into your day? One more load of laundry? One more phone call? One more store? I know I sure can fall into that trap, completely erasing all the margin into my day. Now I'm feeling rushed because I didn't budget for the diaper blow out or children wanting to help me make dinner. But after reading Essentialism I'm learning to say no to "just one more". The unexpected result is the ability to just live in the present, and that brings so much joy into my life. I'm able to just enjoy what is going on in front of me.

This weeks focus from my Essentialism book club discussion with Madeline Casey is to Choose Your Priorities or Someone Else Will. We tackle some tough realities in this chat and it left us with lots to think about. But it didn't stop there. The breakthroughs led to me figuring out what mattered to me and making changes in our home which in turn allowed me to have both a bigger impact and and be less frazzled by the end of the day.

Today Madeline Casey and I are kicking off a five part series discussing the book Essentialism by Greg Mckeown. To start off we are diving deep into the concept of Protecting the Asset - which means YOU. We recorded this series back in November which means I've been thinking about these chats for months and it's been changing me. I'm thrilled I can finally share them with you!

This week we are celebrating all of YOUR hard work in creating your vision for 2021! Listen in and be inspired by mothers in this community share their words and what it means to them. I learned so much from all of you and I'm excited to use your insights and epiphanies moving into 2021.

This week we are talking all about how to use color to make planning as simple as possible. Adding color is not something I do well so I chatted with an expert, Pamela Moose (my mother!!!) about the why, what and how.

I recently reflected on all the things that I chose to do. After writing out my list I was amazed to discover that it was my little, daily choices that built the life that I'm living right now. Not my external circumstances. Not the hard things that are just part of life. But my choices. This was an empowering realization that gives me hope and confidence that I can continue to create a life that I love - and you can too. Lots of encouragement and actionable steps in this weeks episode.

This Christmas season I've been reflecting on how God wants to help me in my life. I share some of my thoughts and insights on this weeks podcast and I hope it gives you hope and something to ponder about in your own life.

Did you know that novelty - new experiences and deviances from our normal routine - is actually a need to live a life with energy and enthusiasm? In this episode we talk about how to harness the power of novelty this holiday season and how to make it part of 2021.

I LOVE habits and routines, but when my schedule is unpredictable and frequently interrupted it has been so hard to make anything stick. This week I'm sharing what I've finally figured out about creating habits when I'm in survival mode and what you can do to have success with your habits when you are in a hard season.

This week I am sharing how to create a holiday season everyone enjoys - including you there! It is possible to have a rejuvenating holiday with your children by taking a few minutes to figure out what you want, what you don't want, and what your limitations are. All the details and our Thanksgiving last week as a case study are in this weeks episode.

At the beginning of October I was waking up to the fact that I've been on autopilot for most of 2020. I've been doing things without much thought to try and keep up and meet needs in every aspect of my life. And I was weary. As I pondered what to do about my situation, the phrase "Simplify to Soar" came to mind. In this weeks episode I share all about what that phrase means to me and what I've done to create space in my life to be able to evaluate how I'm using my time and energy and make the switch from autopilot to intentional. I also have a special invitation in there for you to join me. I'd love to hear who's in it with me!

When I asked the moms at the Create a Life You Love class last week what was the biggest barrier to making their goals happen the majority answered: Exhaustion! After a incredibly unusual year (plus all the other stuff in our personal lives that has nothing to do with the pandemic), we are all feeling a bit tired. But the reality is - I was tired before 2020 (you probably were too). In fact I've been exhausted most of the last seven years since becoming a mom. It's just reality with pregnancies, sleepless nights (either from feedings or nightmares or potty training or sickness). But I've still been able to make progress on my goals and make a life I dreamed up years ago what I live every day and love it. You absolutely can too. All my secrets in this weeks episode.

This week I'm sharing our absolute favorite family dinner ritual that turns even the craziest night around. This is a zero prep, major fan favorite that gets everyone running to the table (win!). I started it out of desperation one night and it's stuck around and become something even more wonderful that I could have imagined. Listen to this *short episode and give it a try tonight!

Have you ever felt like you were drowning in clutter and chaos at home? This weeks chat with Steph @the_secret_slob is sure to bring you both validation and encouragement. Steph shares how she was able to apply the @the_flylady system in her own life to develop habits and routines that keep her home clean. But as she points out - it was never about having a clean house. After you listen come share your biggest take-away here in the comments!

This weeks chat with @elizabethjacox_ is a story of six years of internal struggle shifting from a life in academia researching stem cells to becoming a full time stay at home mom with four young children. It was a major pivot point in her life, and it wasn't until she decided to own that choice that she could let go of feelings of failure and embrace the beautiful life around her. This conversation is sure to both validate the life altering (and maybe slightly traumatic) experience of becoming a mother and inspire ownership of the incredible path.

This weeks conversation with Angela Red Elk is inspiring and eye-opening. Angela shares her perspective as a Native American healing from intergenerational trauma, as well as the importance of knowing who you are and where you fit in the world, and how this has all impacted her motherhood.

Are you a to-do list person? I know they are popular tool for getting things done, but I don't use them. Why? I go into all the reasons in this week's episode along with what I do instead. The result? Clarity, major progress in a small amount of time, ability enjoy spending time my kids instead of feeling interrupted, and I'm able to "get it all" done and have a break. Have a listen today for a simple alternative to the ever growing to-do list! Key Points: Pros of a To-do List: get everything out of your brain into one place. Cons of a To-do list: Tells your brain you need to do all of it right now (possible exception - when you have a major deadline like moving and there is a lot to do right now) Creates unhealthy precedent that checking everything off your list is most important Not an end in sight. Easy to end the day looking at all that isn't accomplished with hopes of being faster/more efficient tomorrow Recipe for exhaustion and feeling like you are on a treadmill. Looking at all those things every time you need to do something is making a ton of micro decisions which leads to decision fatigue. It is real and has a huge impact on the rest of your day - even your child asking you a question. You don't get a real break What I do instead: Plan My weeks, not my days Start by choosing my big 3 for the week Break down into context based todos It is a finite list I make on Sunday in my weekly planning. I choose what is most important this week and some nice tos, and let the rest go When I have a moment, look at the context - just a handful of things so only making a few choices make massive progress in a small amount of time End the week usually checking off most everything - if not everything. Get a break and rest in my brain. No treadmill. Pick priorities again next week.

We all know "doing it all" is a myth. And yet how many of us still drive ourselves to exhaustion trying to check off all the to-dos on our lists? How many of us keep pushing ourselves further than our limits? Well in this episode I share some principles and practices that help me juggle all the needs of my family and many of our wants. And spoiler alert - I don't have it all figured out. BUT I have been around the block a few times of complete burn out and I'm learning to stop myself before I drive straight into survival mode.

Do you ever have problems sleeping because your mind is racing? For me it is a sure sign I'm overwhelmed. In this episode I talk about the 5 steps I use to face the overwhelm head on and create space and calm in my brain. Key Points from this Episode: Steps I take when I'm feeling overwhelmed: Recognize that I'm feeling overwhelmed. Usually this means I can't sleep because my mind is racing. Brain dump everything in my head. Either mind map or just write it out in a list. Categorize my brain dump into three areas: single tasks (quick wins!), projects (multiple steps to complete), to research (need to learn more before I know what my next step is). Tackle a few quick wins to build momentum Identify the one or two pressing projects causing my stress and focus on them After a week or two of working on these pressing projects I'm ready for a long term planning session.

This weeks chat with Annie Stoker @annielynnfavoritethings is one that literally had us both in tears. As a young mom with two children, Annie shares how she is proactively working to diminish the effect that anxiety has on her life and the specific things she has been learning. She also shares deeply personal moments where she knows that God has been there strengthening her through the hard time and growing pains of motherhood. This is a powerful conversation that you won't want to miss.

Today I want to share some scripts that will help you advocate for yourself in a couple ways. We'll talk about when you are discovering things about yourself and you need to have discussions with someone you trust as well as how to ask for help. Key Points from this Episode: Step one to having a productive conversation is you learning to become aware of your own thoughts. You don't need a quiet place to start to figure out your thoughts. It can be while you're making lunch or doing other things. Try saying "the story I am telling myself is..." to start how you are feeling. Try saying "I am feeling ___ because of ___." Throughout a discussion with a loved one, listen to understand rather than respond. (Check out Episode 53 for more info) Podcast Episodes on the Seven Habits of Effective People by Stephen R. Covey The Emotional Bank Account with Madeline Casey [Episode 48] Living Your Life in Quadrant 2 with Madeline Casey [Episode 49] Seeking For Paradigm Shifts with Madeline Casey [Episode 50] Expanding Your Circle of Influence with Madeline Casey [Episode 51] Seeking to Understand and Thinking Win-Win with Madeline Casey [Episode 53] Synergizing in Daily Life and with Major Decisions with Madeline Casey [Episode 54] Create Your own Personal Mission Statement with Madeline Casey [Episode 55] If you're feeling defensive, try responding with "thank you for telling me that hard thing." Allow for responses of how the other is feeling. If you know circumstances are adjusting and you don't have the same capacities, you can say "I can tell I'm not going to be able to do all the things I was doing because of XYZ, so what can we let go of or decrease our expectations of so we can choose where my effort goes?" If you try to power through for too long, you'll likely crash and burnout and might even get sick. Choose what you let go of and do it in a way that is not a surprise to everyone else in your household. Practice with a friend so it's low-stakes.

Today I'm talking with Mary Caplin, mother of two and a certified doula. She shares some incredible defining moments in her mothering journey. She talks about paradigm shifts and some sacred moments of grieving through a miscarriage. Key Points from this Episode: Being a mother who is committed is more important than any "accomplishments." Thinking about your commitment to you kids helps you recognize the good that you are doing in your daily life. We can't be perfect 100% of the time, but we can be pretty good at commitment! Learning from other moms around you can help you relax into what you are doing. Letting go and giving our problems over to God will allow Him to carry you. Let go of the negative and it will make room for the hope to come in. You are a woman. You are strong. You are a mother. Just by virtue of being a mother, you are blessed with intuition. It's a real thing and you will be able to make the best decisions that are best for you and your family. Motherhood is vulnerability and strength together. Learning how to go through a grieving process with your spouse is unifying. Speak your feelings out loud in your car alone. Write it out. Talk to a spouse or other loved ones. Let the feelings out to be able to process them.

Today I'm talking about what thriving is! What the definitions of it are, how it has evolved over time for me and what it can mean for you. Key Points from this Episode: Thriving used to be this desperate wish that I hoped was possible for me during motherhood. Thriving is all about growing. Think about plants, if they are growing and doing well, we often call it thriving. When things are going well, if you are thriving, you are preparing for future challenges. (Ex: building routines, making freezer meals) Life is not split up into either you are thriving because things are going well or you're surviving and miserable because things aren't going well. Having a solid base of the 3 pillars (See Episode 115) gives you the space to live your personal mission in this life. Distraction and overwhelm can come easily without the base of the pillars. The goal is to take the fear out of that time when you are not thriving. Remember to have friends in motherhood! (See Episode 97 and Episode 98)

Today I'm talking about why I don't stress about homeschooling and how I do that. There are some very practical tips and some thoughts that I have that help me not totally freak out. Key Points from this Episode: There are going to be interruptions, so plan for them! Make food accessible to all your kids that they can reach and take care of those needs on their own. Keep carrots on the bottom shelf in the fridge. Make triple batches of muffins and keep them in the freezer. Have special toys like play dough or animals from the dollar store that get pulled out for younger kids during the school hours so they can be happy while you work with the older kids. If you're using manipulatives with older kids, have enough for the youngers to play with the same kind. If your older kids are using notebooks, have one for your youngers to color in and use during the same time. This lets them feel included in what you are already doing. One of my favorite things about homeschooling is that it allows for the kids to be intentionally involved in the daily household life. I wanted them to have time to help with the dishes, laundry, food prep, etc. We work that into our day and it's part of school for us! It's hard to take the time to teach them the household tasks, but it's an investment in the future for all of us. Make a clipboard (see resources below) with the have-tos for your kids so you aren't the one always dictating what's happening next. Directing to the clipboard makes it one boundary to keep rather than needing to keep boundaries separately for math, and reading, and handwriting, and a chore, etc. Find a system for your papers and notebooks and pencils and pens. I like having one bucket just for notebooking (century and nature in resources below) with the notebooks and writing utensils for that activity that stays out of reach until we are notebooking again. We lock away a lot of our homeschool materials as a training tool to help kids understand that not everything is available all the time. Homeschool is not about school. It's about a lifestyle. Choose curriculum that fits the priorities you have for your kids! (see below for what I use with my kids) Trust that the child is a whole person! They have everything they need to be able to become who they are. Our job is to help cultivate the room to grow. We can't choose the timing. Take a breath and know it'll be okay! I don't feel responsible for creating all these activities that go with homeschooling or all of these amazing experiences. I create space that lets them play out and explore the things that really caught their attention. Trust that time is a great teacher. Trust that space is a great teacher. What do you love? Do more of that. What do you not love? Why? Do less of that. Problem solve! What can I do to make this easier on myself? It's going to be messy and that's okay! Build in some structure so the kids can help with the household stuff so you can have some time for things you want to do too.

Today I'm sharing with you some lessons I learned from the last week of pregnancy and the first few weeks of postpartum. Our experiences may be different, but the process is what I want you to focus on with today's episode. That process can be applied to other circumstances in your life (even if it isn't pregnancy)! Key Points from this Episode: The Soul part of Pillars of Thriving (Soul, Scope, & Structure) makes or breaks if you are suffering in misery whether circumstances are great or difficult. When I'm uncomfortable, my first thoughts are to wish that the circumstances will change. Ex: I'm so tired of being pregnant. I'm tired all the time. I wish this baby would just come already! Write out what is in your circle of influence and your circle of concern. Try to let go of what is in your circle of concern. Make peace with what you can. It's okay to feel sad about something that you wanted and you're not getting. Being okay with being sad about it opened the door for me to actually be able to give my timing over to the Lord. Bad days don't last as long as I think they do. There will be an end to the hard days, even if it's just for another day or two. Enjoy the good moments when you have them! Be present with what you can do (even if it isn't much) and find peace with it because you can know it will change again before you know it. Let yourself have a break from the bad days emotionally, because they will happen physically too! I don't have to assign any meaning to how I'm feeling. At all. Neither do you. Take a break and flip the dialogue in your head if you're stuck in a negative cycle. If you can respond in the moment rather than being focused on what already happened or what will happen, it can allow you to find joy in the given moment.

Today I'm talking about the power of actually writing down your morning and evening routines. Finally doing this one little thing has been hugely transformative for my life. Also, I'm sharing big announcements about the Thriving in Motherhood 2021 Planner and the Create a Life You Love founding members beta program experience. Key Points from this Episode: Having the morning routine and evening routine written down help move us along when our brains are not working as effectively as they can be. Be an advocate for yourself (see Episode 115) and figure out what will prepare you to renew yourself. Having the list helps me have a rejuvenating evening rather than mindlessly consume. Write it down! Write down what you want to do before the kids wake up, what you want to do before lunch, what you want done before kids go to bed, and what you want to do before you go to bed that will restore you.

Today I'm talking with Tiana Woodbury, mother of two boys. She shares her experiences with her first child having a club foot and what that process has been like for her. She talks about how to live with joy and make her own joy. She shares how she has learned to lower her expectations and love it! Key Points from this Episode: Sometimes life throws you a curve ball and you have to adjust your plans quickly to make the most of the situation. With the help of other moms and doctors you can learn what you need to in order to make the best decisions for your family. Sometimes God gives us a gift of interest in things that we will one day need to know to help our children. Wherever you are, you are in charge of your happiness. Lower your expectations, but LOVE it. As a mom, give yourself some grace period. You are here to facilitate your children's experience, and sometimes we have different plans for our kids. Choosing your battles to let them explore their opinions can be freeing. Kids just want to be involved in the little things. See if you can find little ways to involve your kids in what YOU like so your bucket can be filled throughout your day. If you want to start with flowers, start with Zinnias or Sunflowers. Having a plan for something small to do every day keeps things exciting and moving forward. Warm toes are happy children. Invest in good shoes and outdoor time stays much more enjoyable for everyone. Consider winter (or major inside times) as a good chance to research and prepare for the next time you can go outside and put your research to use. Way exceeding your low expectations feels so much better than shooting SO high and being disappointed. When you move to a new place (temporarily or permanently) try to become a local. Explore the town and find the things that make that new place unique. Learn from your failures and don't give up!

Today I'm sharing with you the very specific steps that I took to prepare for a major life change. This can apply to a new baby, a move, or any other major life change. Key Points from this Episode: Notice your fears and anxieties. Write down thoughts. Create a new road map to work from - have a paradigm shift so you can operate from your circle of influence. Use your personal super powers to solve your problems and create a vision for how things can go. Share that vision with your family and step into the leadership role, building in systems and communication to support you through the time of change. Talk with your spouse or trusted friend when you get to stuck points in your thinking and aren't sure how to overcome certain fears or challenges If you have had an experience like this in the past, answer the question: "What was really traumatic or didn't go well that I don't want to repeat this time? What went really well that I do want to repeat this time?" Use what is hard now to intentionally practice and prepare for the challenges ahead. Create a false (and immediate) deadline to see what your absolute necessities are. It should be a shorter list that you can then focus your time and energy on before returning to the nice-to-dos. Think through what you need now and will need in the future. Make peace with the fact that taking care of yourself will allow you to keep taking care of others. Talk through specifics with your spouse so you can both be prepared for you to take that time.

Today I'm talking with Jeni Awerkamp, who was also my first interview back on Episode 1! We talk about how things have changed over the past two years and how Jeni has changed her experiences by changing her thoughts. Key Points from this Episode: Give ourselves space and grace when we are in transitional times in our lives. Recognize that we will have more stable times to come. Our thoughts have a huge role in us feeling well. Being able to shift the unhelpful thoughts can change our entire reality. Make the decision to act, not be acted upon. Tell yourself "you will no longer think negatively of yourself and your situations." Things happen that genuinely make you feel overwhelmed, but you can still control your thoughts around this. Replace the "I can't do this" thoughts with "There is a lot do here, but I can do it one step at a time." Replace "I'm all alone" with "I am never alone. Help is one phone call away." We don't have to be good at making mistakes, but we can be good at apologizing. Take things one day at a time, but in the realm of not worrying about something that happened yesterday or what might happen tomorrow. Enjoy the moment you are in. Awareness of your thoughts is the first HUGE step to being able to change your thoughts. Ask yourself "What can I do?" and "How can I get help to get this done?" as you catalog your anxieties or concerns to see how to make your concerns something more concrete.

Today I'm talking about our family values. How I came up with them and how we implement them in our household. These help my family catch the vision and the values that help us get to where we want to go. Key Points from this Episode: Core values are unifying and keep our families together heading in the same direction. Turn your values into a family cheer! We try to "catch" the kids living these values and talk about it at dinner together. What we look for, we see more often in our lives! Creating this unity and culture will give them a gift as they leave the home that they will know that they have a place they were part of something and belong no matter what. Craft the values together as a family, or decide ahead of time and present them to your kids.

Today I'm talking with Jessica Ralston. She's a mother of six, homeschools, and she and her husband both run businesses out of their home. Today she shares her journey of going from a place of chaos and just surviving to taking some intentional steps to regain her personal power and take care of herself and, in turn, create a beautiful life for her family. Key Points from this Episode: The decision of being more intentional with physical health, can lead to being more intentional with other things. It builds momentum. Being in a victim or comparison mindset makes things feel worse. Be selfish. Take care of yourself. Everyone is going to be okay if you take a few minutes to take care of yourself. Shift your mindset to abundance, and gratitude, and being proactive. Our kids need to know that we are human people with needs and passions. We are our only advocates for our own needs. We need to take that responsibility seriously for ourselves. We don't have control over our kids, but we do have control over our own actions. Looking at the big picture can help put the small challenges and imperfections in perspective. When you're able to tackle your daily life with more joy and competence, then you're able to think more into the future about the bigger things that you can achieve too. Shift from an Parents vs Children mindset, into a Team mindset within the family. It allows everyone to work together and play together better. Try to decipher the big things from the little things. Learn your children's love languages because when the kids feel loved, they are more willing to listen and have hard conversations. Consider staggering bedtime to allow some individual time with each age group of your children.

Today, I'm sharing with you something I've been working on for years, which is the Three Pillars of Thriving and the Three Identities associated with them. This episode explains how you can actually thrive in any season of motherhood. Key Points from this Episode: The struggle between knowing that we are made for motherhood and feeling like it is REALLY hard is where these pillars grew out of. How we're think about life and ourselves is what influences our reality. Take time to notice where you are on these three pillars. The pillars take you from surviving to thriving. Pillar 1 - Scope is having a purpose, or intention, for your life. In the scriptures, we see examples of women with callings and purpose that have nothing to do with raising children. God has something else for them to do. God sees us as whole people. When you have Scope, it helps you go from feeling lost or stuck in the mundane to feeling confident and fulfilled and living with meaning and purpose. There are skills and systems involved in Scope to take you from one end of the spectrum to the other. Pillar 2 - Structure gives you a pattern or organization for reducing the mental and physical chaos in your life. This involves creating a strong family and recognizing that you are part of that family. Structure allows you to have the head space to think beyond the bare-bones essentials. Pillar 3 - Soul is looking at your total self. Your spirit, body, mind, and connection with God. This is where you can start to feel peace and joy and gratitude. This is where you are taken care of, where you have energy. Where we're filling our buckets so we can overflow into other people. This is where we are breaking down limiting beliefs. When any one of these three is being neglected, then things don't feel right. The model of Be, Do, Have teaches us that we need to focus on being one way before we do to then have the desired result. Identity 1 - Visionary - Someone who does thinking and planning about the future with imagination, creativity, and wisdom. Able to have dreams or visions (literally or metaphorically). Someone who seeks personal revelation from God. Identity 2 - Leader - Someone who has the art of motivating and connecting and empathizing with people to help them act towards achieving a common goal. Working towards putting people first while making your vision a reality. Identity 3 - Advocate - Someone who calls to one's aide. One who pleads the cause of another. In this case, you need to be your own advocate to ask for and make the space for the things you need. Advocate to yourself, for yourself to become aware of your thoughts and how you're interacting in the world.

Today, I'm talking with Annette Pimentel. She's a mother of six children and an author of children's non-fiction literature. Today we're talking about how she learned to embrace who she is to be an authentic mother and to use her strengths and talents to create a culture in her home that allows her to fully be her as well as to use her strengths to solve problems. Key Points from this Episode: Knowing the story of why you made a decision during a hard time helps form who you are. Being a mom doesn't mean you can't be authentic to yourself. Sometimes the best solutions we come up with are the ones that come from our core of passions and talents. The things we care about can be the center of your mothering. Those things can become your toolkit for being a mother. It takes creativity to truly be who we are and still solve those parenting problems, but they are the most authentic. Become friends with the librarians! They are an amazing resource and love seeing people who care about books. Books and stories (and the conversations you have about them) can help you maintain closeness with your children as they grow older. Check out books and read them before you read them to your kids if you think they might have a viewpoint that is uncomfortably different from your own so you can think through things you can talk about together. Stories about everyday people who can change the world are amazing. You don't have to be a famous person, or even particularly smart. You don't have to be rich. You just have to feel passionately about something and you can change the world! The family routines can allow your family to feel safe even when circumstances change. Your home becomes the safe haven when life around gets crazy. Resources This site contains affiliate links to products. We may receive a commission for purchases made through these links. All the Way to the Top: How One Girl's Fight for Americans with Disabilities Changed Everything Girl Running Mountain Chef: How One Man Lost His Groceries, Changed His Plans, and Helped Cook Up the National Park Service Do you Really Want to Meet A Dinosaur

It's taken me years to figure out the logistics of creating and maintaining a clean home. Today, I'm taking you through the very practical aspects of how to declutter and how to clean. Key Points from this Episode: Getting rid of things does not equate to having a tidy home space. Creating a home for each thing (read: containers) helps the space feel neater. The Dollar Tree is a great option to find cheap containers. Use containers to help support your habits and routines. Find a routine for a pick up time at some point in your day. (We like 4pm) It lets me ignore a lot of the mess and enjoy the moments of the day knowing that there is a set time that things will be put in order again. Find one small step at a time for keeping an area clean. Start with practicing having everyone clear their plates after breakfast. Then add it loading dishes in the dishwasher. Then add in unloading the dishwasher. Adjust locations of things so kids can complete tasks. Adjust the time you have your meals so you have energy to handle the set up and clean up of the meal. Etc. Link a new habit to an existing one. If tooth brushing is well-established, add a "tooth brush tidy" and clean up their room when they finish brushing teeth. In our house, this includes (1) put away clothes that are out, (2) put away books, (3) put away toys, (4) put trash in the trash can. Hannah Rust teaches all about homemade cleaners and store-bought cleaners and real time cleaning in her course (see resources). It took away my paralysis surrounding cleaning. Having enough cleaning cloths makes it possible to have enough to last cleaning all week so you only have to wash towels once a week. Wipe down spaces as you're using them. Keeping cleaning supplies in the bathroom makes those spare moments usable. Resources This site contains affiliate links to products. We may receive a commission for purchases made through these links. Simple Green Cleaning Course Use Discount Code THRIVING15 for 15% off! Atomic Habits by James Clear Cotton Washcloths

Today I'm talking with Hannah Rust. She's a mother of almost 3 children. We talk about when she realized that she can do things differently than the way she had always done them and differently than the way others have done thing around her. This lead to her decision to live very intentionally. Key Points from this Episode: Choosing an unmedicated and natural birth for her second pregnancy was one of turning point decisions that lead to intentionality. Speak more kindly to yourself! Recognize that we cannot define ourselves simply by what we get done in the day. Just because you have done something one way does not mean you cannot change your mind! Having a strategic plan for money prevents it from disappearing unknowingly. Catching yourself when you start negative self-talk is the first step to changing it. Replacing it with a phrase like "I am enough" can combat it. Understanding where you are on the path from Surviving to Thriving allows you to name where you are and understand that it's a season that can and will change. Changing seasons in the backwards direction does not mean you are slipping or failing. It's a cycle! Being tidy is a skill, not a personality trait. Clearing out the mess and opening up the time that you used to take to deal with your mess opens the door for you to ask the bigger questions about how you want to spend your time intentionally. Getting rid of the clutter allows you to actually clean, not just spending all the time putting away the clutter. Our kids are human beings. We are not better than them just because we are older and bigger and know more. They deserve respect just like another adult or friend does. How we label our children is how they end up turning out. We see what we focus on. Resources Simple Green Cleaning eCourse Connect with Hannah Instagram: @daydancer Website: daydancer.com

Today, I'm talking with Britney Grover! She shares her story about the amazing change that has happened in her over the last year as she has learned some tools to help her with her mental health. She's learned how to take care of herself first so she can continue to pour into others. Key Points from this Episode: Major life changes, like having a baby or having a spouse come home for deployment can trigger major emotions. Finding the right counselor who can teach the baby steps that you need are key to starting to heal. Remember that "thoughts aren't real." It can help calm the anxiety about things that haven't happened. Figure out what things are non-negotiable for your mental health. Examples: prayer, scripture study, exercise, and sleep. Let go of "should." Maybe things "should be" exactly as they are. If you need help, keep looking for the right counselor until you find somebody who clicks with you. "The God that I've come to know is the God that's telling me to accept myself and telling me to love myself as I am, where I am, with what I'm doing, with what I'm accomplishing, exactly where I am." - Britney Grover Resources Don't Sweat the Small Stuff Connect with Britney Website: ThisLifeofMind.com Facebook: britneylynda

We reached 100 episodes... TEN episodes ago! Today is all about celebrating what we've done and news about what is coming next to the Thriving in Motherhood Podcast! embed html Subscribe (and rate and review – thank you!): Google Play | iTunes | Stitcher Key Points from this Episode: My word for the year is Connection and I want to help our community connect more. Tag @thrivinginmotherhood.podcast on Instagram and join the Facebook Group while you share your wins in your life! The Thriving in Motherhood Website has had a face-lift with the purpose to serve you better! Find out where you are on the Surviving to Thriving pathway and get the new resource that applies to where you are! Learn to work within your limitations and THRIVE! Join the wait list for the course. Resources Thriving in Motherhood Facebook Group Surviving Guide Re-Entry Guide Normalizing Guide Exploring Guide Thriving Guide Course Wait List

Today I'm talking about what I do when I start to lose it! I'm mostly enjoying this time we have during the quarantine, but there are some times when I am not fine. These are some of the tools that I've developed over the years that I am getting lots of practice on during this crazy time. Key Points from this Episode: I used to think that if I was in a funk, that I was there to stay. It's not true! I've found ways to help myself reset and have a great rest of the day! This works for me 98% of the time - take a nap or go to bed early! Usually I'm just tired. I refer to my quarterly review where I wrote down projects and things I want to get done. I find a way to make even baby steps progress on a project. Feeling productive helps built positivity. I find a way (if possible) to get some space. If my husband can watch the kids for me, I go for a half hour walk by myself. I listened to a podcast, called a friend, and called my mom on the walk. Listen to an audiobook to give some perspective to your life. Get outside of your own circumstances to think about something bigger than yourself. Phone a friend! Just talking to somebody else feels so nice to reconnect, even if it's just over the phone. Journaling paired with scripture study and really connecting with God is huge to maintaining my mental state. It helps us in the moment, but it helps rewire your brain to look for positives in your life! I'm finding more good the more consistent I am with my journaling. Recognize that some things are nobody's fault. Nobody around you deserves the anger and wrath you might feel. It might help you to let it go instead. Sit down for 5 minutes when you need to! Exercise! Even if it's just a little bit. Resources Becoming by Michelle Obama Thriving in Motherhood Journal Generation Mindful

Today we're talking about how to strengthen your marriage during hard times instead of letting those hard times pull you apart. I'm joined by my husband of almost 9 years, Andrew, for today's episode as we share some practical tips that have made all the difference for us as we've gone from bombing the hard times to having the hard times actually bring us together more. Key Points from this Episode: Everyone's challenging times are different, but we can apply some principles to keep on the same page with our spouse when we are feeling the challenge. When big challenges are going on, remember that you can't always be "on." Give yourself and your spouse grace. Lower your expectations! Paper plates, to us, means it's a hard season and dishes is something we can let slide. It's so much easier to get kids to dump their plates in the garbage than to handle all the cleanup of the kitchen after dealing with a meal. Assume that your spouse is doing their best, even if it's nowhere close to their normal maximum capacity. Check in and connect every night especially during hard times. Ask "How are you? and Where are you at?" Figure out the stories you are telling yourself about your interpretations of the day. You'll often find that the same experience has impacted each of you completely differently. Ask "If I could do one thing, what's the one thing that's the most meaningful or helpful to you today?" or "What deadlines do you have?" "What are your top priorities right now that need time and focus?" Asking these types of questions help figure out the pain points everyone is dealing with and maximizes the little effort that can get done during the day. We have weekly planning meetings as a couple. In that, we each share our top 3 priorities to accomplish that week. Planning helps us adjust our efforts to help both of us meet our goals. Share some fun and happy things that happened each day during your evening check-in. Friday night default is date night! Rarely do we leave the house, but we know we will spend the time together after kids are in bed. Planning on it makes it something to look forward to and help us grow closer together. Serve your spouse a little, even if you feel maxed out. It will go such a long way!

Today I'm talking about how I completely changed how I experience my life and motherhood. I'll share an experience that illustrates this point and then I'll talk about how. I'll talk about the actual things that I changed how I feel about life during really hard times, as well as when things are going well. Key Points from this Episode: My third and fourth pregnancies were super hard physically, but this time (my fourth pregnancy) I am doing so much better because of the things that I've learned and been able to apply to my thinking. I'm using my time well and being the type of person I want to be despite the struggles, where I cannot say that about my third pregnancy. Becoming aware of my thoughts was the first step to being intentional with changing the thoughts. Consistently identify and shifting my thinking to more helpful and less distorted thinking has slowly shifted my natural way of thinking into a much more helpful and positive natural state. Recognize what phase of the Surviving to Thriving Framework you are in. Are you in Surviving, Re-Entry, Normalizing, Exploring, or Thriving? This will give you perspective on your current situation and where you get to go next. Teach your brain NOT to scan for negative and hard, but instead to ask "What am I grateful for?" "What were my big wins today?" and "How have I seen the hand of the Lord today?" Think through what your next steps on your projects are so you know what's next rather than wandering and twiddling your thumbs when you have a few spare minutes. That way, you are working consistently on moving your projects and goals forward. Carving out time for a spiritual connection with God has been key to my change for the better perspective. CONSISTENCY is key to retraining your brain. Ask the questions every day! Resources Thriving in Motherhood Journal

Today, I'm taking your with me through a monthly planning session. I review the previous month and look into the next month. Today's focus is more on how to use a monthly review when things are going great! Key Points from this Episode: The planner helps so much when you are in time of pure survival and also when things are going well! If you're on top of your game, add things to your monthly review page during each weekly planning, then you just have to finish off at the end of the month. My focus for the month is either helping me get very clear on the one thing that really matters on a personal level or a study question I am trying to think about throughout the month. We have an innate need to learn, so write down what you've learned and take some time to choose what you are learning. Accomplishments are for anything you consider a win: projects, who you're becoming, progress in ANYTHING! Places we went is a very short list during quarantine, but it's a reminder that it's healthy for us to experience new things and meet new people. The Family category helps me plan things that are fun for our family, plan routines and systems for our family, and figure out what I need to intentionally teach my family. Now, look ahead to next month! It's so important for me to seek God's help in deciding what I need to focus on. My prayer has been to know what I need to do to be prepared for our future. Make sure your projects is not a list of every project you ever want to do, but instead, is what you can reasonably do in the next 30 days. Really think about your self-care. Think about where you are and what you really need right now. To plan your days, consider energy mapping. Plan your toughest tasks for when you recognize you are at your best levels. Plan more mindless tasks for when you know you have a tough time focusing. Resources Thriving in Motherhood Planner Quarterly Review Episode

Today we're talking about how to add variety to your meal planning during this time when we are all at home with our families. Key Points from this Episode: I've always had the philosophy that I cook one meal. My kids have never experienced double-cooking where we have one food for the adults and another food for the kids. We allow kids to say "this isn't my favorite" but not "eww! I hate this" and those kinds of negative talk. We have the family rule that kids must take 2-3 "polite bites" of everything on their plate and after that, they don't have to eat any more if they don't want to. The kids can make themselves toast or a sandwich if they are still hungry, but I don't cook anything extra for them. I cook to what I want to eat because I'm doing the work. Watch some YouTube to get some inspiration for something different! Add something like homemade croutons to an existing salad you like to change the whole feel. Cook enough food that you have leftovers (at least for the adults) to take some of the work out of prepping food. Consider organizing your fridge where leftovers are all together and easily accessible so they don't get lost in the fridge. Take something you normally make and find ways to change up the flavor combinations and it will revitalize the food! Make something (like sauerkraut, tortilla, or pita bread) from homemade that you usually buy and it will feel new again! Make a triple batch of muffins and freeze whatever you can't finish. They are quick to heat up in the microwave and a great snack. Blend ice cubes into snow cones and add orange juice! Leftover smoothies or kefir ice cream can go in popsicle molds to save for another day. Homemade granola can be added to smoothies or ice cream. Mix in a pre-packaged oatmeal packet with regular oatmeal to spread out the sugar and flavor. Subscribe to a produce box delivery! They add variety and excitement to your fruits and veggies. Try something that sounds crazy like Chickpea Cookies! Find some friends to share recipes with! Resources This site contains affiliate links to products. We may receive a commission for purchases made through these links. Misfits Market Organic Fruits and Vegetables delivery - coupon code for 25% off your first box: COOKWME-LO0GPI Faithful Plateful Mel's Kitchen Cafe - Muffin Recipes Pinch of Yum Refurbished Blendtec Blender Silicon Mini Muffin Pan How to Make Sauerkraut Cultures for Health - Kefir Grains

Today I'm sharing with you an experience I recently had with learning my family stories. They are deepening joy, resilience, and character for myself and for my children. I invite you to join me! Key Points from this Episode: Collect some of your family stories. You can read previously compiled stories, check out FamilySearch.org, or call a family member and learn from the source! My great-great-grandmother lost her husband in the 1918 flu pandemic. Due to her pregnancy, she was too at-risk to say her goodbyes to her husband. It hurt, but she kept going. She got remarried and lost multiple children in infancy/youth. When faced with yet another death of a child, she punched herself in the stomach and told herself, "Buck up, old girl. You've done this before. You can do this again." That phrase now comes to my mind when another tantrum, another spill, another mess comes my way. I can do this, and so can you! They help remind me of who I came from and what they overcame and what they accomplished, even though things were hard. They help in little ways to improve my character and choose to take on some of their traits, follow their example, and become more of the good that they were. It helps connect the present to the past. It creates deeper, richer, more grateful experiences. Resources FamilySearch.org

This week we talk about getting out of survival mode on a practical level. What it looks like, what it feels like. Things to look for and be aware of as you go through re-entry to establish some routines and rhythms in your life. Key Points from this Episode: Try to get back into regular habits like getting dressed, taking showers regularly, brushing your teeth, feeding yourself, and feeding your families. There is going to be a point where you do see things happening in your favor but it's going to take some time and that's okay. Make sure your habits are working for you rather than against you. Just try to be 1% better in an area each day. It can be in regards to your home or your habits. It will slowly dig you out of the survival mode feeling. Look for things that can have some lasting impact like making a cleaning caddy, buying another trash can, or decluttering an area. Re-Entry feels like constantly putting out fires. Once you've put out enough fires, then your brain can start to figure out what the new normal will be. Remember it's not just about your home, it's also about taking care of yourself. Remember that it's going to feel hard for a while and you're not going to see much change or progress for a while, but that doesn't mean that change or that progress isn't being built up. Once you start to see the progress, it will be SO motivating!! Resources This site contains affiliate links to products. We may receive a commission for purchases made through these links. The FlyLady Website Sink Reflections by Marla Cilley Atomic Habits by James Clear

Today we're talking all about Quarterly Reviews! They are wonderful for when your brain feels so full that you don't know what the next step is. They can bring perspective to uncertain times and help focus the next stage of life. Key Points from this Episode: Quarterly Reviews are so great to help empty your brain and plan for the next chunk of time. Start by reviewing anything you wrote down at the beginning of the year. Things like your vision, goals, habits (if you have them). Review your last 30 days Write down what you've discovered or learned. Write down what you've accomplished. Write some highlights that have happened to or with your family. Write down what books or podcasts you've read or listened to. Write down where you went (even if it's just on walks around the neighborhood). Ask yourself what went well in the last 90 days. There is something that is going well, even in the toughest times. Be honest (but not mean) about what didn't go well in the last 90 days. What progress did you make on your goals? What goals are no longer relevant? What other goals emerged? What goals will I focus on this upcoming quarter? Think about "becoming" goals like being patient, being kind, not yelling, etc. If you're feeling more on top of things, take advantage of the new freedom in your schedule! Be creative with what's in front of you right now for the next 90 days. Decide what's most important for you to be excited about and focus on in the next quarter. Connecting with your kids every day, cleaning up your home, starting a creative project to keep your hands busy, scripture study etc. Ask what do you want to stop doing and what do you want to start doing. Set limits on apps or other electronics that you are spending more time on than you want to be. Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10 in the following areas. Ask yourself why and if there is anything you can do to bump yourself up the scale just a little bit. Intellectual Social Emotional Avocational Physical Vocational Marital Financial Parental Spiritual Resources 2020 Planner Thriving in Motherhood Journal How I Go on Vacation Every Day