The Endings We Know and the Ones That Sneak Up on Us

Podcast Show Notes

Episode Title:

When Ambition Loosens Its Grip: On Aging, Endings, and the Change That Finally Found Me

Episode Description:

What happens when the drive that has defined your entire creative life begins to shift — not through loss, but through something quieter and more surprising? In this deeply personal episode of The Writer's Journey, acclaimed author and writing teacher Laura Davis shares an essay born from her own writing class, exploring endings, ambition, and the unexpected season of change that has arrived in her 70th year. This is essential listening for any writer — or human — navigating the tension between who they've always been and who they're becoming.

What Laura Covers in This Episode:

A stunning excerpt from writer Patti Digh that reframes endings as invitations rather than losses

A writing exercise on endings that Laura uses with her students — and writes herself

A candid look at the long list of endings Laura has lived through across her lifetime

The surprising subject that didn't make her initial list — and why it matters most right now

What it means when lifelong ambition begins to transform from the inside out

How Laura's relationship to work, time, and creative output has quietly, profoundly changed

The difference between drive disappearing and drive evolving

What it looks like to let go of projects, plans, and "should-dos" — with relief instead of guilt

Why open space has become as essential to Laura as the writing and teaching that has shaped her work life for decades

Episode Highlights:

The Endings Exercise — Laura introduces a powerful classroom prompt inspired by Patti Digh's A Geography of Endings that invites writers to inventory the endings they've lived — and discover what wants to be written.

A List That Spans a Lifetime — Laura reads from her own wide-ranging list of endings, moving from profound losses to quiet turning points, modeling the vulnerability she asks of her students.

The Ending She Didn't See Coming — The subject Laura chose to write about in depth wasn't on her list at all — and it turns out to be the one that illuminates everything.

Still Writing, Still Teaching — But Differently — Laura reflects on what she has and hasn't let go of during a period of deep health challenge, and why her two weekly Substack posts never fell away.

The Loosening — Laura pinpoints exactly what has changed: not the love of writing or teaching, but something that was always tangled up with it — and the relief of finally setting it down.

The New Architecture of a Day — Laura paints a vivid picture of how her mornings have changed, and why open, unscheduled time has become non-negotiable for her creative life.

Crossing Things Off — Not Because They're Done — Laura describes a new and deeply satisfying relationship to her to-do list, and what it means to release a plan with grace instead of guilt.

A Sea Change, Arriving on Its Own — Laura reflects on how the transformation she sensed coming for years finally arrived — not through effort, but through surrender.

About Host Laura Davis:

Laura Davis is an acclaimed author and writing teacher with more than 35 years of experience guiding writers of all levels toward their most meaningful work. She is the author of seven books, including her award-winning memoir The Burning Light of Two Stars (BookLife Prize Winner, 2021) and co-author of the groundbreaking The Courage to Heal.

Laura hosts The Writer's Journey podcast and the Midweek Pause for Peace, teaches weekly writing classes on Zoom, leads international writing retreats, and publishes The Writer's Journey newsletter on Substack. Her Creative Camino pilgrimage brings writers together on the Camino de Santiago for transformative experiences at the intersection of walking, writing, and community.

Resources Laura Mentions:

"A Geography of Endings" by Patti Digh (December 2025 Substack post) — https://pattidigh.substack.com/p/a-geography-of-endings

The Burning Light of Two Stars by Laura Davis — award-winning memoir (BookLife Prize Winner, 2021) — https://lauradavis.net/the-burning-light-of-two-stars

The Courage to Heal by Laura Davis and Ellen Bass — available wherever books are sold: https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Heal-Survivors-Sexual-Abuse/dp/0061284335

Flourishing as We Age: A Writing Retreat for Women — oceanfront retreat in Santa Cruz, California, June 2026 — https://lauradavis.net/flourishing/

A Creative Pilgrimage on the Camino de Santiago—September 2026 https://lauradavis.net/camino/

The Writer's Journey — Laura's Substack newsletter: https://laurasaridavis.substack.com

Laura Davis's website — writing classes, books, workshops, and retreats: https://lauradavis.net

Key Takeaways from This Episode:

Endings are not failures — they are, as Patti Digh writes, invitations that reshape us.

The most revealing writing prompt is often the one you least expect. The subject that didn't make Laura's initial list turned out to hold the most truth.

Drive and ambition can evolve without disappearing.

Open, unstructured time is not wasted time. Spaciousness is not the enemy of productivity — it is the necessary condition for the most meaningful work.

Letting go of a project or plan with satisfaction — not guilt — is a skill worth cultivating. Not every idea on the list deserves to be manifested, and recognizing that is a sign of creative maturity, not giving up.

Episode Call-to-Action:

Try the Endings Exercise yourself. Set a timer for ten minutes and make your own list of endings — big and small, expected and surprising. Let yourself be surprised by what appears. Then choose one and write the story of it in depth. Notice what didn't make your first draft of the list. That might be exactly where to begin.

Join Laura in Santa Cruz this June for Flourishing as We Age: A Writing Retreat for Women — a week at a beautiful oceanfront retreat center using story, deep listening, and ritual to welcome change, build resilience, and hold grief and gratitude at the same time. Learn more at  https://lauradavis.net/flourishing/

Connect with Laura Davis:

Substack Newsletter: The Writer's Journey — essays, poems, nature photos, and more

Website: lauradavis.net — writing classes, books, workshops, and international retreats

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