The Sex Wrap

This is a replay of episode #165 which was part of a three week series on breaking up and moving on. In this episode, we talk about your partner's exes (which does not necessarily mean a break-up!... but can!). We talk strategies and things to look out for. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How long should you wait to have sex with a new partner? Should you wait until marriage? Why do some people consider waiting and some people don't? What factors go into these decisions for different people? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sex positivity and sex-positive are terms that get used a lot... but what do they really mean? And more than that, how do these concepts impact us, our sexual selves, and our society more broadly? And how can we promote sex-positive environments? All that and more on today's episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today our question is about whether someone's sexual orientation can change. And can it change multiple times? We talk about determinants of sexual orientation and what factors might contribute to someone's sexual orientation changing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Even if you don't think you subscribe to any of the myths about masturbation, they can affect some of your underlying attitudes about masturbation and sexuality. Today we unpack some of the common myths about masturbation and discuss how to combat the repercussions they may have on you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we get into nipples--how to touch them, how to stimulate them, and how to dive into pleasure in our bodies through them. This episode is for ALL nipples, no matter what your gender. And, as promised, some top rated charities to donate to for Turkey and Syria right now: https://www.sams-usa.net/; https://disasterphilanthropy.org/; https://plan-international.org/; https://www.directrelief.org/ --donate what you can! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Continuing on our month of touching ourselves, testes (balls) are up next! Why, when, and how do you need to touch your balls? And how can you make it fun and part of your routine? We are here to catch testicular cancer early! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This month is focused on touching yourself. We start with a self- exam episode to talk all things boobs. Why do you need to do a breast self-exam (BSE)? How do you do a BSE? When do you need to do them? How do you incorporate partners into the process? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we talk about how to get around all the dating anxieties: from swiping to actually dating someone longer term, we have some ideas to help you through it. And, for more intense ansxiety, we recommend contacting the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Helpline: 1-800-950-NAMI (6264). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REPLAY from season 2! In this week's episode, we discuss how social media, and Instagram specifically, sometimes make us feel bad about ourselves. AND, what we can do about it. Here are some links we mention in the show: simply nailogical; reddit's insta v reality; and the h3h3 video. Here's your extra credit reading: article 1, article 2, and article 3. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we talk about capitalism, romance, sex, and relationships. How does the economy relate to our relationships? What does it tell us about ourselves and our preferences and our habits? And how can we start to shift our perspectives? Check in on the conversation on social media, too @thesexwrap! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our first episode of the year is our 2022 year in review! We check in on some of our fav episodes and remind you of a few you may have missed. Get the highlights here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are a lot of reasons you might be crying after sex (regularly or occasionally), and we cover them all in today's episode. We also talk about things you can do about it and how to communicate about it (of course!). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes you find out that a friend's partner is cheating on them, and today we talk about when you should or shouldn't talk to your friend about that discovery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our mini-series on cheating: today we tackle what cheating looks like in open relationships, how to prevent it, how to navigate it if it happens, and when to cut your losses and move on. Listen in and see if you learn something... you might surprise yourself! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One more replay before you get a bunch of new content for the next month to get you through the holidaze! This is a classic episode--one of our first dozen episodes! We recorded this back in 2017, but the content is just as fresh now as it was then. Episode 10 dares to ask the age old question: What's your number? As in, how many people have you hooked up with? How many people have you done the nasty with? How many people have you rounded the bases with? How many people have you been with? ...no matter how you ask the question, our answer is the same. Tune in to hear us discuss "what's in a number?" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we are replaying one of our favs from the vault--episode 151, about deleting your ex's intimate images and videos. When you break up with a partner, there is a lot of healing and cleaning and resetting that has to happen. And part of that process includes dealing with any intimate images or sexts you may have shared. Today we talk about the conversations, the follow-ups, and even the timeline for the cyber part of your breakup. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we are on a mini-holiday vacation from podcasting. But we are replaying one of our fav episodes--one where Spring and Andrew disagree! In episode 58 (original air date early 2019) we address a question submitted where a woman stated that her boyfriend doesn’t like it when she talks about their sex with her friends. This episode was a couple of months in the making: Spring and Andrew originally disagreed with how to answer the question. So, finally, here is the episode, complete with us acknowledging the validity of each other's opinions. Remember, consent is important! For further reading, check out this link or this one on the topic of consent. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner was secretly masturbating or hiding their use of porn or a vibrator? Have you ever hidden these things from a partner? Today we talk about some of the reasons people may hide these behaviors, how that affects relationships, and what we can do about it (from both sides of the relationship!). Tune in to get your Sex Wrap fix! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What are Kegels and who should be doing them? How, why, and how much? All your Kegel basics are here, plus, of course, how they interact with your sex life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is just a few minutes--with some reminders and a teaser for what to watch out for on our Instagram (@thesexwrap) this week! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shae Harmon is our guest on today's podcast and they are here to talk about trans people's experiences of pleasure and joy and how we can broaden the conversations about sexuality to be more inclusive and expansive. Content warning: there are a few unbleeped words on this episode! Shae (they/them) is a trainee sexologist at the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology in the UK, soon embarking on their final year. Shae has experience running queer and sex positive events in London, mentoring and supporting queers, running workshops on consent, negotiation, sex menu writing, relationship styles, activism and intimacy. They have been an active participant in restorative justice within various communities. They sometimes blog about trans/non-binary issues for Feeld, COSRT and other sites. Extra credit links: Shae Harmon Instagram @shaequeertherapy Shae Harmon tiktok @shaequeertherapy Smut Peddlars Zine (amateur erotica by young, POC, trans and non-binary people) Xan West - cute stories and erotica based on gender and body diverse peeps Fucking Trans Women - Zine by Mira Bellwether Pinklabel.tv Porn Crashpad Porn Trans Sex, Lucie Fielding - a book for therapists working with Gender Diverse clients Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's still butt month at The Sex Wrap, and today we tackle the other side of the anal question: what about when you don't want to try butt stuff? Today we talk through the discussion and the options. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's October, which means it is "butt month" at The Sex Wrap! And all month we are answering your questions about butts and what happens when you do fun, sexual things with your butt! Today we talk about the anus as a muscle and what happens when you play with your butt--in the short and in the long term! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prostate play is something a lot of people are curious about! Today we have a question from a heterosexual couple where the male was interested in trying some "butt stuff" with his female partner. We talk you down Anal Road, giving you all the info about the sights you need/want to see on the way! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Monkeypox--is it a STD/STI? Should I be worried about it? Can I prevent it? HELP! This episode has all your questions answered. And for more info, check out the CDC's info page at: https://www.cdc.gov/poxvirus/monkeypox/index.html. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Hooking up" is maybe the most over-used phrase to describe, well, so many sexual behaviors. Today we talk about the "rules" of hooking-up, and how to do it better. (Hint: it definitely involves communication!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So many people ask us this question in moments of turmoil--like after that night where you were on a boat and there just wasn't a condom, or when the condom broke, or when you suspect someone has not be honest about their past... WHEN SHOULD I GET TESTED?? Today we talk about the when, the how, the why, the what, ... a little bit of every aspect of the question. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever have like the best best best sex with someone, and then break up with them, and then think "OH NO I HAVE TO HAVE BAD SEX AGAIN"?? Well you're not alone, and we're here to help. We talk about how you can prevent the bad-sex-again blues! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're on break for the month of August, so we are replaying some of our favorite episodes! This is originally episode #156. Today we talk all things bisexual. Think you know what it is to be bi? Think you know what outcomes bisexual people experience differently? You might not know as much as you think! Tune in to today's episode to learn a little more about what it means to be bi bi bi! *** This show is a part of the Podglomerate network, a company that produces, distributes, and monetizes podcasts. We encourage you to visit the website and sign up for our newsletter for more information about our shows, launches, and events. For more information on how The Podglomerate treats data, please see our Privacy Policy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it really harder to make friends as you get older? Today we talk about how to develop friendships. And, our tip of the day: Sometimes reconnecting to existing friends is the fastest path! And, check out some scholarly articles on the topic: https://scholar.harvard.edu/files/sampson/files/1988_asr_0.pdf; https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0140197112000334; and https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-662-55665-8_26! We're on break for the month of August, so we are replaying some of our favorite episodes! This is originally episode #147. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're on break for the month of August, so we are replaying some of our favorite episodes! This is originally episode #143. So you want to have a threesome? Here's your homework: listen to this episode! We talk about all the communication that needs to happen before, during, and afterward. Impress your lovers with your threesome skillzzzzz!! And, if you want to participate in research about our podcast, head over to this link to get involved: https://cunysph.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_e9bcxYc3TDxuptb (only those who are 18-25 years old this time!). *** This show is a part of the Podglomerate network, a company that produces, distributes, and monetizes podcasts. We encourage you to visit the website and sign up for our newsletter for more information about our shows, launches, and events. For more information on how The Podglomerate treats data, please see our Privacy Policy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're on break for the month of August, so we are replaying some of our favorite episodes! This is originally episode #147. So we talk about explicit enthusiastic YES consent a lot. But we also know that a lot of people don't actively engage in that type of consent for sex. Is that ok? What about vibes? Are vibes enough for consent to sex? What about in a relationship when you've been having sex for a while? This, and more, on today's episode! *** This show is a part of the Podglomerate network, a company that produces, distributes, and monetizes podcasts. We encourage you to visit the website and sign up for our newsletter for more information about our shows, launches, and events. For more information on how The Podglomerate treats data, please see our Privacy Policy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is it? How can I do it? What if my partner wants it/what if my partner doesn't want it? All of your answers about pegging are HERE! We're on break for the month of August, so we are replaying some of our favorite episodes! This is originally episode #147. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"You guys" is an American colloquialism that has come under fire in recent years, and we are here to illuminate why... and why and how you might want to change your speech patterns. Because decolonizing our language serves us all! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we focus on abortion as health care. Listen in to learn how to talk to others in your life about abortion. Continued reading: https://slate.com/technology/2022/05/abortion-access-health-care-pregnancy.html All the ways you can donate to support abortion access: https://www.guttmacher.org/article/2022/05/heres-how-philanthropy-can-protect-access-abortion-post-roe-v-wade-world Infographics to share: https://www.guttmacher.org/sites/default/files/images/gender_inclusive_conversations.png Abortion funds: to donate or to access https://abortionfunds.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ok, today is a LANGUAGE day! We get into the definition of fag hag, but also the societal and cultural implications of the usage of the word. And we talk reclamation and so much more! Extra credit study we mentioned on women's body esteem is here: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19447691/ ... check in with us @thesexwrap on any social media platform to engage in the conversation! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we talk about slapping--is it ok to slap during sex? What do you need to talk about before hand? What do you need to talk about after? How do you go about incorporating slapping into your repertoire? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are discussing all things love bites today--why people like them, why people don't like them, where to put them, where not to put them, how to minimize or maximize your hickey experience (depending on your desires!) and how to incorporate them with consent. We talk about what you might want to consider and how to approach them with your partners. Join the conversation on our social media pages @thesexwrap! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's question comes from a listener who is in a loving relationship but feels a little stuck in the way her partner is seeing her. The Madonna/Whore complex is a phenomenon that our culture perpetuates as a script for how women are sometimes viewed by their partners. We talk about what it is, how it shows up culturally and in relationships, and what you can do about it if it is present in your relationship. (And how to kink it up if you want to play with it --with consent of course!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we talk about specifics--how can you show up for people in your life MORE FULLY? How can you show up for people that don't have as much privilege as you do? And we give a special shoutout to the Daybreaker dance community! *** This show is a part of the Podglomerate network, a company that produces, distributes, and monetizes podcasts. We encourage you to visit the website and sign up for our newsletter for more information about our shows, launches, and events. For more information on how The Podglomerate treats data, please see our Privacy Policy. Since you’re listening to The Sex Wrap, we’d like to suggest you also try other Podglomerate shows surrounding relationships, entertainment, and health and wellness like 2 Girls 1 Podcast and We Don’t Deserve Dogs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ok, so sure, shower sex sounds hot. But it also sounds, well, like a lot of work! And kinda dangerous? Today we talk about all the barriers to enjoyable shower sex, and then how to wash those barriers away! We give all our hot, wet tips to you to keep your bathroom a-rockin'! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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We have had so many questions about sex and disabilities, most of which fall under two categories: How do I broach the topic of sex with someone I’m dating who has a disability? and How do I talk about my disability with a potential partner? Today we invite expert Shelly Baer from The University of Miami and The Bold Beauty Project to answer these questions and more. WAY more. We talk about a range of disabilities, including mobility, sensory, intellectual, developmental disabilities and chronic illnesses, We get into the importance of pleasure and disability and uncover a lot of stereotypes and myths. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In Episode 24, we talk about what toxic masculinity is, why it is a problem, and what we can do to combat it. Along with a call to action!!! *** This show is a part of the Podglomerate network, a company that produces, distributes, and monetizes podcasts. We encourage you to visit the website and sign up for our newsletter for more information about our shows, launches, and events. For more information on how The Podglomerate treats data, please see our Privacy Policy. Since you’re listening to The Sex Wrap, we’d like to suggest you also try other Podglomerate shows surrounding relationships, entertainment, and health and wellness like 2 Girls 1 Podcast and We Don’t Deserve Dogs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we are revisiting our bonus episode talking about why it is important to vote in the Midterm elections! We mention a few registration websites in the podcast: Rock the Vote, and Vote.org. We also talk about I side with to find out how candidates' stances on issues align with yours. Also, check out MTV's voting strategy of bringing a friend! *** This show is a part of the Podglomerate network, a company that produces, distributes, and monetizes podcasts. We encourage you to visit the website and sign up for our newsletter for more information about our shows, launches, and events. For more information on how The Podglomerate treats data, please see our Privacy Policy. Since you’re listening to The Sex Wrap, we’d like to suggest you also try other Podglomerate shows surrounding relationships, entertainment, and health and wellness like 2 Girls 1 Podcast and We Don’t Deserve Dogs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we talk about #couplegoals or #relationshipgoals... who are your relationship icons? What type of relationships do you want to emulate? The alternate title that Andrew suggested for this episode was "OK, Boomer," because we talk a bit about NOT wanting to create relationships like a lot of our parents and their friends modeled for us. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To conclude our month of "firsts," today we talk about what to think about, what to talk about, and what to expect in your first open relationship. Why do people want open relationships? What are some healthy and not-so-healthy reasons for being in one? We get into it all today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In our month of firsts, we are finally back to everyone's favorite topic: butt stuff! Our fav sex therapist Cyndi Darnell guest hosts this week to talk about all the things you need to think about and talk about and TOUCH about to get ready to do anything anal with a partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Threesomes are one of the top sexual fantasies... today we talk about what you should consider before having one, and what to expect for your first time. Related episodes, for more threesome content: Episode 78 (for when your partner wants one and you aren't sure), Episode 103 (all about "unicorns"), and Episode 143 (Threesomes 101, all about best practices for threesomes)! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices