The Self-Hype Podcast

It’s time for the quarterly Q&A! In this episode, Eli opens the mailbag to answer the wild, messy, and deeply relatable questions submitted by the Selfhype community. He breaks down exactly why men use "gray language" to keep you in a situationship, the real reason an avoidant jumps right into a new relationship (and why it’s not a reflection of your worth), and why your ex blocking you everywhere is actually a sign of his own fragile ego and hurt feelings. Eli hands you the exact "fun, flirty filter" script to text a guy who is dragging his feet on a second date, and explains why agreeing to be a side piece makes you a "public park" instead of a protected prize. You’ll learn how to stop defining your self-worth by another woman, why you need to switch gyms immediately if your ex is there, and how to stop asking "did I do something wrong?" when an avoidant runs away from repair. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Eli uses the latest season of Love is Blind as a masterclass in modern dating psychology and attachment styles. He breaks down the painful phenomenon of men on “autopilot”—guys who stick around and coast through a relationship simply because they don't want to be the bad guy, leaving you anxious and begging for their attention. From analyzing why some women double down when a man pulls away, to unpacking why a stable, consistent partner often feels "boring" to a dysregulated nervous system, this episode is a reality check. Eli also dives into the importance of holding your ground on non-negotiables (like having kids) instead of settling just to keep the relationship alive. Whether you watch the show or not, this is your guide to spotting red flags, understanding male behavior, and choosing secure attachment over toxic cycles. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Is your attachment style standing in your way? Our guest this week, published author, licensed therapist and attachment coach Jessica Da Silva breaks down the science of why we love the way we do. We’re talking childhood wounds, fear of failure, and how to tell if you’re actually ready for intimacy or just performing. Stop running from the "scary monster" of vulnerability and learn the tools to sit, regulate, and repair. You aren't stuck with the hand you were dealt—it’s time to rewire your nervous system for the love you deserve. We unpack attachment and so much more! Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If you’ve ever said “He’s avoidant, but our connection is different,” this episode is your intervention. Eli walks you through the real post-breakup cycle of an avoidant man—from love bombing and intensity, to shutdown and defensiveness, to the late-night “Hey stranger” text that has you questioning everything. Using his own past as an avoidant, he explains why him watching your stories, texting you, or wanting to “try again” is usually about his fear, ego, and loneliness—not some epic, healed version of him suddenly waking up. Then he hands the mic back to you: What did this relationship expose about your attachment style, your boundaries, your inner child, and your fear of being alone? You’ll leave with a checklist of what actually needs to change for a reunion to be healthy (on both sides), how to create a “third option” that isn’t just yes or no, and how to turn this breakup from a waiting room into your personal bootcamp for building a secure relationship with yourself. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Tiffany Yu didn't just survive a car accident at nine that killed her father and left her with a paralyzed arm—she built one of the most impactful disability advocacy platforms in the world. In this raw conversation, she takes us through the process of not only loving herself but turning it into action and advocacy. Tiffany shares how she went from a nine-year-old to the founder of Diversability, a global movement born from her own exclusion. She explains why disability needs to be more than just known but integrated in society as whole. Her book the Anti-Ableist Manifesto, explains just that. If you’ve ever felt like you had to "fix" yourself to be worthy of taking up space, this episode is your permission slip to take even more space, unapologetically. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This episode is for the girl in the oversized sweater, scrolling couple photos, lowkey raging at Walgreens heart displays, and wondering why this day hurts so much. Eli walks you through how to survive Valentine’s Day when you’re single — not with fake “I don’t care” energy, but with honest, messy, human feelings that actually lead to healing. He gives you permission to be sad, angry, or triggered, while also challenging you to take real-world actions that ground your nervous system and make you feel in control of your day again. From buying your own damn chocolates to taking yourself out, to creating emotional “anchors” you’ll remember years from now, this is your no-BS guide to getting through the day and quietly proving to yourself: “I still got me, even now.” Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

On this episode of The Self Hype Podcast, Eli sits down with Gina Moreno, a coach helping high-achieving women — especially Latinas — navigate ambition, self-care, and relationships. Gina shares her journey from tech prodigy and TED Talk speaker to discovering her true purpose: coaching women to break generational patterns and embrace their full potential. They dive into her early successes, the quarter-life crisis that shifted her path, and how she turned her own healing and growth into a mission to empower others. Gina opens up about balancing family expectations, cultural pressures, and personal ambition, and Eli unpacks the lessons for listeners seeking to align their achievements with purpose. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This week we're talking rebounds — why they're not “moving on,” why they’re actually the loudest, clearest red flag your ex could ever wave, and why you should be doing a happy dance when you find out he already jumped to the next one. This episode breaks down the mental & emotional game men play when they can’t sit with their feelings, why rebounding is just external validation on steroids, and how it’s literally PROOF that you dodged a walking trauma bond. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Sam became a double hand amputee overnight — and nothing about his life was the same afterward. In this deeply honest episode, Sam shares what it’s like to lose not just your hands, but your sense of normalcy, confidence, and control. We explore the emotional weight of trauma, from mourning the life you had to facing a world that suddenly feels inaccessible and unfamiliar. Sam speaks candidly about relearning daily routines, confronting anxiety and self-doubt, and redefining masculinity, independence, and self-worth. He reflects on how community, vulnerability, and storytelling helped pull him out of isolation and reminded him that he wasn’t alone in his experience. This episode is a reminder that healing isn’t linear, resilience isn’t glamorous, and strength often shows up quietly. It’s a powerful conversation about rebuilding identity, honoring grief, and choosing to keep going even when the path forward is unclear. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Eli doesn’t just talk about “dating app tips.” He pulls the curtain back on the whole system — because these apps are designed to keep you swiping, not to help you find a partner. In this episode, you’ll hear how men move on the apps (spoiler: it’s not deep analysis, it’s survival mode), why men get fewer matches, why women end up “CIA-agent screening” everything, and how both sides start treating humans like dopamine notifications. Eli also calls out the most common profile mistakes that sabotage you: confusing group photos, artsy mystery angles, one-line prompts with no substance, aggressive wounded bios, and IG handles that scream “I’m here for followers.” You’ll leave knowing what men notice, what they assume, and how to build a profile that filters out the unserious ones before you waste a single mascara application. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Eli breaks format and goes straight from the heart — reflecting on the fears he faced this year, the wounds that still sting, and what it really looks like to keep going when life isn’t cute. Because healing isn’t a movie. Sometimes it’s tears, shutdown, and still showing up anyway. This episode is built like a personal wellness coaching session. Eli gives you a step-by-step “think day” framework to close out the year: write down your five fears, trace them to the first time you felt them, figure out what they’re protecting, and turn that into real action for 2026. Then he adds a second tool: asking your people what makes you unique — and what you need to hear going into the new year. If you’re done chasing goals to feel “enough,” this is how you start building from self-worth instead. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this episode, Eli and Meg Reynolds break down why modern dating feels harder than ever — and why so many people stay stuck in relationships that drain them. Meg introduces the idea of the “ambition gap,” explains why emotional availability matters more than money, and shares how she learned to walk away sooner instead of negotiating her needs. They talk low-effort dating, inconsistent communication, why “he’s just busy” is usually a red flag, and how boundaries aren’t ultimatums — they’re clarity. Honest, validating, and unfiltered, this conversation is for anyone tired of blaming themselves for wanting consistency, growth, and real emotional connection. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If the holidays make you feel like the only single person in a sea of matching pajama sets and forehead kisses, this episode will feel like a warm hug. Eli yaps, rants, and gets real about what it means to feel lonely during the “happiest time of the year” — even when you’re in a relationship. He breaks down how comparison steals your joy, why every emotion that surfaces right now is a teacher, and how to treat this season like a lesson in self-love instead of a reminder of what you don’t have. You’ll learn how to set boundaries with messy family members, honor your capacity, lean into gratitude, and make this your season — not your ex’s, not society’s, not Instagram’s. If you’ve ever felt behind, broken, or “too much,” this episode is the reminder that your story has always been yours. And this time of year? It’s for you. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

What happens when the life you built collapses overnight? Sahara Rose joins Eli for a profound conversation about feminine healing, spiritual awakening, and reclaiming your identity after betrayal. She shares how one devastating confession shattered her marriage—and how it initiated her into a deeper version of herself she didn’t even know existed. Sahara breaks down the truth about spiritual healing (hint: it’s messy, ugly, and absolutely necessary), why women stay in relationships that starve their souls, and how to stop living on breadcrumbs of love. They dive into sacred sexuality, the porn-driven crisis in masculinity, and how partners can create deeper emotional and spiritual intimacy. This episode is a powerful reminder that heartbreak isn’t the end—it’s the portal into your most aligned, awakened self. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If you’re exhausted by ghosting, low-effort conversations, and another “promising” match that fizzles out, this episode is your deep breath. Eli breaks down what dating burnout actually does to your nervous system, why you don’t have to be a “super dater” 24/7, and how to see your love life in seasons instead of a constant grind. He walks you through taking a real break (yes, deleting the apps), negotiating with your anxiety, and honoring your emotional capacity without giving up on love. This is about playing the long game, not sprinting into the wrong relationship out of fear. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship that looked great on paper but felt terrible in your body, this one’s for you. Eli shares a recent experience witnessing an ICE raid in Chicago — and connects it to why so many of us normalize anxiety in our love lives. He dives into anxious attachment, “cool girl” behavior, and the kind of partners who leave you scared to speak up. Together, you’ll unpack what emotional safety actually looks like, how to stop dating like you’re trying not to get in trouble with a parent, and how to see if someone has the capacity to hold your feelings. This episode is your invitation to stop performing, start telling the truth, and only invest in love that feels like a safe home, not a constant threat. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice