Episode 102: The 4 Most Toxic Quotes In Private School Leadership
The Private School Leader Podcast
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I love motivational and inspirational quotes.
My favorite quote is from Maya Angelou: “People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. People will never forget how you made them feel.”
Words have the power to inspire and motivate us. Unfortunately, words can also discourage us and make us feel hopeless. Some words are toxic. On today’s episode of the Private School Leader Podcast, we are going to discuss The 4 Most Toxic Quotes In Private School Leadership.
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Mark Minkus
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TRANSCRIPT
Welcome to the private school Leader podcast, where private school leaders learn how to thrive and not just survive as they serve and lead their schools. I strongly believe that it is possible to have a long and happy and fulfilling career as a private school leader. And my passion is to help you figure out exactly how to do just that right here on the private school leader podcast. And I'm your host, Mark Menkes. • • So if you've been listening to the podcast for any length of time, • • you probably already know this about me, but I love motivational quotes. I love inspirational quotes, and I've actually talked about some of them, um, right here on the podcast. • • A, um, couple years ago, I did a podcast episode about Nelson Mandela as head of school, • and I think that was summer of 2023. Anyways, um, my favorite quote from Nelson Mandela said, • as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. Just love that quote so much. And • • way back in episode one, • • • I had a section in that episode called live the quote. And the quote that I was referring to was Maya Angelou when she says, people will forget what you said. People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. And I just love that quote so much. And just one more. And that is from Gandhi, and he said, you must be the change you wish to see in the world. • • And so these quotes inspire us. They motivate us. We see quotes on Instagram, • • and there are a lot of quotes that really can help us and maybe even change our way of looking at things and change our life in a positive way. • • But there are also a lot of quotes out there that do the exact opposite. They discourage us. They make us feel hopeless. They make us feel worthless, and that life is pointless and feel overwhelmed. • • And there are a lot of toxic quotes floating around out there, and some of them happen in our schools. And so, on today's episode of the private school Leader podcast, we are going to discuss • the four most toxic quotes in private school leadership. • •
What problem can I help you solve today? So, let me ask that again
So, before we get into today's topic, I want to ask you a question. • • • What problem • can I help you solve today? • • • So, let me ask that again. What problem can I help you solve today? And so • • what kind of problems are you dealing with right now? Feeling overwhelmed. • • School, um, • is constantly invading your home life. • • Um, what about your days are ruled by the tyranny of the urgent? • • Um, do you have relentless parents at your school? • • • • Remember, we're talking about problems that I can help you solve. Maybe you're not sure how to take your leadership and career to the next level. Maybe your problem is imposter syndrome, or maybe the problem is feeling guilty that your family gets what's left of you at the end of the day and it doesn't feel like enough. • • • Well, I can help you solve your problem. I want to work with you and help you solve your biggest problem. • • And I wanted to let you know that I have three coaching spots open right now, • and I would love to work with you one on one, and you can check out more about [email protected]. coaching and just think about what is the biggest problem, what's the biggest pain point for you right now? • • And I can help you solve that problem. • • Coaching is all about transformation, and it's all about solving problems. And so check it out. Learn more